Twice-Exceptional Newsletter November/December, 2017 for Parents, Teachers, and Professionals
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TM Twice-Exceptional Newsletter November/December, 2017 For parents, teachers, and professionals. Issue 85 Helping twice-exceptional children reach their potential. 2e Our focus for this issue — Relationships in the lives of 2e children The Importance of Good Relation- A good relationship with even one caring teacher can Page literally change a student’s life. We shouldn’t rely on 3 ships between Student, Teacher chance and hope that such a relationship will develop Quote Devon MacEachron, Ph.D. spontaneously, but rather can set the stage and take proactive steps to try to help it to happen. “When you raise a child like this, you’re Roadmap for a Successful Parent/ What I observe is that if parents and educators agree Page affected for life.” on a goal with specific action items, the chance for 6 Teacher Relationship success increases dramatically. This formula, goal —Sally Reis Julie Skolnick, M.A., J.D. followed by action items, helps focus the conversa- (See page 20) tion and temper emotions that, if left unchecked, may interfere with meaningful progress in the parent/ educator relationship. Getting 2e Kids Past the Wall and From the time these bright kids begin learning lan- Page guage, and continuing throughout their early school- 10 Back on the Path to Success ing, they’re likely to hear comments like “You’re so Scott Lutostanski smart....” [It’s] not difficult to imagine the type of expec- tations they might develop for themselves. Then they “hit the wall....” Also Inside From the Publishers .................................................................................................................................................................................................. 2 ! Book Review: To Be Gifted and Learning Disabled, 3rd Ed. .................................................................................................................................11 Conference Coverage: NAGC 2017.........................................................................................................................................................................14 News from the 2e Center for Research and Professional Development .............................................................................................................19 Dear Dr. Sylvia: Some Highly Gifted Children Are Obsessive ...............................................................................................................................23 Bob Seney on Books: The Incredible Magic of Being ...........................................................................................................................................24 News .........................................................................................................................................................................................................................26 Events .......................................................................................................................................................................................................................27 2e From the Publishers Welcome! Welcome to our last issue of 2017. The topic this time is relationships. As many of our readers probably 2e: Twice-Exceptional Newsletter is a publication about twice-exception- al children, children who are gifted and who have learning difficulties that know, our 2e kids thrive when they have strong bonds at school — relationship is everything. Speaking from per- go by many names, including learning disabilities, learning disorders, sonal experience, we were in for a good school year if our boys had a good relationship with their teachers and a and just plain learning differences. Our goal is to promote a holistic view bad school year if they didn’t. of the 2e child — not just the high IQ, or the quirkiness, or the disabilities, but the child as a whole person. Comments and suggestions are always In this issue our authors look at different aspects of the role that relationship plays for 2e students, their welcome by phone, fax, or e-mail. teachers, and their families. Psychologist Devon MacEachron focuses on building a strong bond between student 2e: Twice-Exceptional Newsletter is published bi-monthly in January, and teacher. Consultant Julie Skolnick offers strategies for building a successful parent/educator relationship; March, May, July, September, and November. The cost for a one-year and educator and counselor Scott Lutostanski stresses the need to shift the focus from fixing our 2e kids to electronic subscription is $35. Contact us for group and institutional rates. Send changes of address to [email protected] or by mail to Glen building supportive and collaborative relationships with them. Ellyn Media, PO Box 11, Winfield, IL 60190. As always, you’ll find our regular columns and features in this issue as well as a review of a new edition of Linda C. Neumann, Editor; J. Mark Bade, Business Manager. Phone: a classic book in the 2e field:To Be Gifted and Learning Disabled. Also in this issue is the start of our coverage 630.984.5507; Fax: 630.344.1332. Web: www.2eNewsletter.com. E-mail: of two events that took place this fall: the biennial symposium of the 2e Center for Research and Professional [email protected]. Development entitled Vision and Leadership in 2e Education, and the 2017 annual convention of the National Editorial Advisory Board: Susan Assouline, Ed.S., Ph.D.; Susan Baum, Ph.D.; Kim Busi, M.D.; Paul Beljan, Psy.D.; Dan Peters, Ph.D.; Linda Kre- Association for Gifted Children (NAGC). Coverage will continue on our website and in the January issue. ger Silverman, Ph.D. Members Emerita: Kathi Kearney, M.A. Ed; Deirdre As the year draws to a close, we wish you a happy holiday season and the best of wishes for a happy and Lovecky, Ph.D.; Joan Franklin Smutny, M.A.; Marlo Payne Thurman, M.S.; healthy new year. Thank you for subscribing! Meredith Warshaw, M.S.S., M.A. — Linda C. Neumann and J. Mark Bade The contents of 2e Newsletter are not intended to constitute medical or clinical advice, which should be obtained from a licensed practitioner. December, 2017 The use of information from 2e Newsletter for commercial purposes is prohibited without consent in writing from Glen El- lyn Media. Copyright © 2017 by Glen Ellyn Media, unless otherwise noted. The yellow and red 2e logo on blue is a trademark of Glen Ellyn Media. 2e Newsletter • November/December 2017 2 www.2eNewsletter.com 2e Featured Topic The Importance of Good Relationships between Student, Teacher By Devon MacEachron, Ph.D. teacher who doesn’t. Strong student/teacher relation- your classroom is very shy and appears engaged, but ships have been shown to increase student motivation, never raises his hand to answer questions, you might One of the most deeply inspirational relationships grades, social outcomes, and emotional well-being assess his level of understanding of a concept in a is that of a devoted teacher and a willing student. at every stage in the student’s development, from one-on-one conversation at the end of class. Almost everyone has had a favorite teacher and, unfor- early elementary school through college and graduate Try to spend at least some time individually with the tunately, most of us have also had those we liked far school. student. Doing so is important, not just to get to know less. My 2e daughter adored the teacher who, noting A good relationship with even one caring teacher the student, but also to establish and maintain trust her skill at public speaking and love of reading, invited can literally change a student’s life. We shouldn’t rely and respect. Things that could embarrass the child her to give a speech introducing a favorite author at a on chance and hope that such a relationship will de- should always be discussed in private rather than in reading conference. My 2e son appreciated the teach- velop spontaneously, but rather can set the stage and front of the class. One teacher I know met privately er who talked with him as an equal, shared his own take proactive steps to try to help it to happen. with a student who had ADHD to brainstorm how to abundant enthusiasm for the subject, and made him There are three key players in the dynamic: help her be less impulsive in class. They decided on a feel they were peers in learning. Both children had oth- teacher, student, and parent(s). All can influence the “secret signal” the teacher would subtly employ when er teachers who found their inattentiveness frustrating, development of a positive bond between student and appropriate. their constant questions to be off-topic, and their poor teacher. spelling and handwriting to be migraine-inducing. Un- Show that you care. Demonstrating concern and fortunately my children remember them as well. What Teachers Can Do interest is one of the most powerful ways to build a What causes us to harbor such powerful senti- Here are steps teachers can take to help develop a positive relationship. In most cases, teachers do care, ments of respect and affection (or lasting dislike)? The positive relationship with their 2e students. but sometimes they fail to find ways to effectively answer is simple. It’s the quality of the student-teacher communicate this message. Ways to demonstrate Share some personal information. Talk about your caring include: relationship. own background (including academic and even social While positive student/teacher relationships are ● Show an interest in the student’s personal life. challenges you may have