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Books for special situations Every memory Making every day count Books for special situations If a child or young person has a special Some helpful advice person in their life - someone who is The important thing with all of these poorly or who has died - books can be a books is to use them as a way of really useful tool to safely explore their encouraging the child or young person feelings. They can also help the adults in to have a conversation about how their life understand what emotions they they are feeling. This should be in might be experiencing. their own time and when they are ready, it may not be straight away or the first time the book is read. This particular list includes books that deal with pre and post bereavement in They should be read with an adult they different circumstances and cover various know and trust who they can rely on age groups. We have found them to be to answer their questions honestly. very useful with supporting children and The adult should allow the reader to young people at Havens Hospices. show their emotions if they need to, they may need your support afterwards. There are lots of books available, aimed at various ages, which deal with specific It is important for the adult to be deaths in the life of a child or young prepared to read the books again person (such as parents, grandparents or particularly with young children. pets). The adult should make it clear that The library is an excellent place to find everyone can struggle to understand both kinds of books. They will usually what happens when someone close to them is poorly or has died, and that have a section titled 'Special Situations' or talking about feelings can be difficult. something similar and can advise you further. The adult must be prepared to talk about their own feelings as well. This To find your local library visit is a two way process which requires www.gov.uk/local-library-services and openness. enter your postcode. Title: Muddles, Puddles and Recommended reading Sunshine - Your activity book to help when someone has died Some of the books have been written Author: Diana Crossley specifically to explore feelings during Description: This is an invaluable book pre and post bereavement, and may which can be adapted for a wide variety of ages, both pre and post bereavement. contain activities to aid conversations. It suggests a series of activities and These books have been marked with a exercises and offers an outlet for the many difficult feelings a child has when butterfly. someone dies. ISBN: 978-1903458969 Others, such as 'Charlotte's Web' explore Title: Charlotte's Web these themes within the story. These Author: E.B. White stories concentrate mainly on feelings Description: The story so it is really important to give the child of how a little girl who or young person plenty of time to ask with the help of a friendly spider, saved questions and comment on their her pig Wilbur from the emotions. These books have been usual fate of nice fat little pigs. It has a marked with a star. bittersweet ending as the spider reaches the end of her life. This is a Title: Waterbugs and Dragonfiles - touching tale of life, death, friendship and Explaining death to your children love. Author: Doris Stickney ISBN: 978-0141354828 Description: This tells the story of the Waterbug who turns into a Dragonfly. He is unable to Title: The Lonely Tree return and tell his friends what Author: Nicholas Halliday happens. It is a beautiful story and one we have used at Little Description: This story follows the first Havens for many years. Its year in the life of a lone evergreen in the simplicity appeals to all ages, heart of the ancient oak woodland of the and children and young people New Forest. It is a useful book to explore seem able to relate to it well. life and death with children and young people with the gentle reassurance that ISBN: 978-0829816242 saying goodbye is a natural part of life. ISBN: 978-0953945962 Title: Death (What's Happening?) Author: Karen Bryant-Mole Title: What Do We Think About Death? Description: This book gives examples of the Author: Karen Bryant-Mole kind of questions that children and young Description: This book examines life and death people may ask when someone close to them and explores how to deal with the feelings a dies, and seeks to give answers which may help. child or young person may get when someone close to them dies. ISBN: 978-0750213790 ISBN: 978-0750232180 Title: The Secret C - Straight Talking Title: Always and Forever About Cancer Author: Alan Durant Author: Julie Stokes Description: Fox dies and the rest of his family are absolutely distraught. How will Description: This book is aimed at Mole, Otter and Hare go on without their 7-11 year olds and talks about beloved friend? But, months later, Squirrel what happens when someone has reminds them all of how funny fox used to cancer, how the tumours are be. This story is suited to younger children formed, different types of and is a lovely way of learning about treatments and how they affect remembering someone who has died. people. It gives the message this it important for a family to talk and ISBN: 978-0552567657 most importantly that it is still okay to have fun when someone in your life has as illness such as cancer. Title: The Huge Bag of Worries Author: Virginia Ironside ISBN: 978-0955953927 Description: This story is Title: Sad Book wonderful for young children who may have feelings of Author: Michael Rosen anxiety or be worried about Description: Recommended for teenagers and someone or something in adults. Illustrated by Quentin Blake, this story their life. was written by the author following the death of his 19 year old son. It acknowledges that feeling ISBN: 978-0340903179 sad after someone you love dies is okay and that complicated feelings are normal. The story has a The following two titles are part of the glimmer of hope. Miffy series, which often deal with stories ISBN: 978-1406317848 around feelings. These are ideal for young children. Title: Are You Sad, Little Bear? Author: Rachel Rivett Title: Dear Grandma Bunny Description: In this lovely book, Grandma Bear Author: Dick Bruna dies and Little Bear is feeling sad. The story is suited to very young children in times of Description: Miffy's beloved Grandma bereavement or change, gently exploring their Bunny dies. This book is a gentle way of feelings and learning how to say goodbye. sharing a child's feelings when someone they love has died. ISBN: 978–0745964300 ISBN: 978-1405219013 Title: The Heart and the Bottle Title: Miffy is Crying Author: Oliver Jeffers Author: Dick Bruna Description: This is a moving and uplifting story Description: Miffy's is very sad because about a little girl who puts her heart in a safe she's lost her favourite teddy bear. She place after somebody closes to her dies. This searches everywhere and even asks all book deals with the themes of life, love and her family. She wants to know if she will death but with a lightness of touch and shows be able to find it again. This story gently that there is always hope. explores feelings associated with loss and change, and showing emotion. ISBN: 978-0007182343 ISBN: 978-1471123306 The following titles are available through Title: Badger's Parting Gifts Winston's Wish, a charity for bereaved children. Author: Susan Varley Find their online shop at Description: Badger knows that he will soon die www.winstons-wish.myshopify.com, your local and he gradually tries to prepare his friends and family. They are still very sad when he does die library may also have copies. but they remember all the things Badger taught them. This book is recommended for children Title: Milly's Bug Nut aged 7+ and may help a child or young person Author: Jill Janney learn about remembering someone who has died. Description: Milly knows ISBN: 978-1849395144 that when people die they can't come back, but it doesn't stop her from Title: Vicky Angel wishing. The author wrote Author: Jacqueline Wilson this book for her children after their Father died. It Description: An excellent read for is the story of a family older girls. This story is about finding their way exploring the complex emotions a through bereavement person can experience when and of Milly who finds an someone close to them dies. It is unexpected answer to her also about how important it is to heart's desire. find a safe and meaningful way of keeping a connection with ISBN: 978-0953912346 someone after they have died. ISBN: 978-0440867807 Title: Beyond the Rough Rock - Supporting a child who has been Title: Is Daddy coming back in a minute? bereaved through suicide Description: This booklet offers practical Author: Elke Thompson advice for families in the immediate days Description: This book explains death to very and weeks when suicide has been the young children in an honest, yet gentle and age- cause of death. It is aimed at giving appropriate way. Unfortunately dying is part of parents and professionals the confidence living, and this book helps children to feel less to involve children in discussions about alone, and adults to find words to explain the the nature of death by suicide. seemingly incomprehensible. ISBN: 978-0953912377 ISBN: 978-1785921063 Title: Hope Beyond the Headlines - Title: What happened to Daddy’s body? Supporting a child bereaved Author: Elke Thompson through murder or manslaughter Description: “What Happened to Daddy’s Body?” Description: This book offers practical aims to help adults see that, while we cannot advice for families in the immediate days, protect our children from everything, we can – weeks and months following a murder.