April 2016 - Adar II/Nisan 5776 Congregation Torat El Community Seder Friday, April 22Nd - 6:30Pm

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Congregation Torat El ~ Jersey Shore Jewish Center April 2016 - Adar II/Nisan 5776 Congregation Torat El Community Seder Friday, April 22nd - 6:30pm

Menu Includes: Appetizers: Gefilte Fish, Chopped Liver

Main Dishes: Roast Chicken, Brisket Vegetarian/Gluten Free Entrée available upon advanced request

Side Dishes: Apple Kugel, Matzoh Stuffing, Roasted Potatoes, Vegetable Medley

Dessert: Cake & Macaroons, Fruit Platters

Adults: $55 Children 5-13: $25 Children 4 and under: no charge Each table will be provided with its own Seder Plate, Matzah, Charoses

Tables may be reserved for parties of 8 or more.

Reservations may be made through the temple office or by visiting seder2016.torat-el.org

Pre-Paid reservations must be received at the temple office no later than April 15th. Due to the amount of planning and preparation, please understand that this deadline cannot be extended.

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Congregation Torat El Contact Information

Torat El Professional Staff Committee Contact Info Senior Rabbi Agudath Achim Cemetery - Steve Scheer 732-245-7603 Aaron Schonbrun Beth El Cemetery - Alan & Sonny Winters 732-222-2510 Assistant Rabbi Chesed Chair - Alyce Isaacson 732-870-1492 Sara Metz Contribution Cards - Beverle Richelson 732-493-1595 Executive Director Pam Cardullo Education Chair - Sherrie Robinson 732-870-3253 Dir. Of Ritual Engagement Finance Chair - Michael Breslow 732-493-4065 Ben Laskowitz Hazak - Steve Fineberg 732-229-9562 Bookkeeper/Admin. Joanne Bass Membership Chair - Suzanne Michel 732-695-0258 Administrative Asst. Technology - Howard Lang [email protected] Lisa Arnold

Youth Advisor Jane-Rachel Schonbrun Other Contact Info

Temple President - Larry Shapiro 732-531-4410

Torat El Executive Board Sisterhood President - Carri Silverberg 732-245-8939 Men’s Club President - Neil Warar 732-299-9287 President Larry Shapiro JNF Tree Donations - Leah Zimmerman 732-229-8623 First V.P. Steve Fineberg V.P. Warren Goode Youth Group Advisor - Jane-Rachel Schonbrun [email protected] V.P. Linda Pickelny Facility Rental - Pam Cardullo 732-531-4410 V.P. Laurie Gross Kiddush Information - Pam Cardullo 732-531-4410 V.P. Neil Weitzenkorn Bulletin - Pam Cardullo 732-531-4410 V.P. Michelle Winters Gift Cards - Joanne Bass 732-531-4410 Treasurer Michael Breslow Donations - Lisa Arnold 732-531-4410 Secretary Alan Morris Sisterhood Pres. Carri Silverberg Men’s Club Pres. Neil Warar Past President Rep. Alan Winters

Congregation Torat El Main Office 732-531-4410

Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun Board of Trustees [email protected] ext.13

Dawn Barofsky Susan Berkowitz Rabbi Sara Metz [email protected] ext.16 Galit Binns Maddy Cohen Pam Cardullo, Exec. Director Marjorie Cotler Mindy Estin [email protected] ext.10 Harvey Jacob Sheryl Kaplan Ben Laskowitz, Ritual Engagement Randi Kervick Howard Lang [email protected] ext.18 Suzanne Michel Staci Nussbaum Joanne Bass, Bookkeeper Beverle Richelson Michele Robins [email protected] ext.11 Lisa Arnold, Administrative Asst. Sherrie Robinson Marc Schnabolk [email protected] ext.12 Dorothy Secol Judy Solomon Mark Steinberg Jason Stern Sara Turian Cynthia Walsh Sonny Winters facebook.com/CongregationToratEl

April Service Announcements Friday, April 1, 2016 Shabbat Service 6:30 pm Candles 7:03 pm YAHRZEITS: Genevieve Breslow, Sam Farber, Joseph Gurman, Irving Marlieb, Leigh Moshel, Sidney Vineburg, Fanny Weitzenkorn

Saturday, April 2, 2016 Parsha: Shemini 11:1-47 Haftarah: Ezekiel 36:16-38 Shabbat Morning Service ~ 9:00 am Learn & Burn ~ 9:00 am

Friday, April 8, 2016 Shabbat Service 8:00 pm Candles 7:10 pm Oneg Shabbat is sponsored by proud parents Cara & Jason Malek YAHRZEITS: Morris Barr, Louis Becker, Abraham Fisher, Cecile Glasser, Sol Grabelle, Abraham Hoffman, Abraham Kaufman, Bella Kaufman, Andred Knifel, Simon Kreisler, Freda Krongold, Wilma Lieberman, Phyllis Marx, Isidore Opatosky, Tsilia Pirogovsky, Rebecca Rediker, Abraham Silver, Herman Silverstein, Allan Slotkin, Stanford Slovin, Harriette Solowey, Joseph Valenti, Esther Warshauer, Murray Weiss, Benjamin Wilk

Saturday, April 9, 2016 Parsha: Tazria 13:29-59 Haftarah: Ezekiel 45:16-46:18 Shabbat Morning Service ~ 9:00 am Bar Mitzvah: Ari Malek Kiddush Luncheon is sponsored by proud parents Cara & Jason Malek

Friday, April 15, 2016 Shabbat Service 6:30 pm Candles 7:17 pm Oneg Shabbat is sponsored by proud parents Cynthia & Steven Walsh YAHRZEITS: Donna Allinson, Sylvia Anapol, Frank Balkin, Frieda Blufstein, Sophie Boff, Celia Brand, Annette Dampf, Sabina Edelsberg, Rubin Gerechoff, Ruth Goldenberg, Bernard Hirsh, Michael Jacob, Moshe Koreen, Evelyn Kramer, Louis Lefton, Dorothy Markowitz, Eve Messner, Florence Morris, Faigy Ostroff, Louis Prager, Faye Slotoroff, Robert Slovin,

Rita Small

Saturday, April 16, 2016 Parsha: Metsora 14:33-15:33 Haftarah: Malachi 3:4-24 Shabbat Morning Service ~ 9:00 am Bat Mitzvah: Madelyn Walsh Kiddush Luncheon is sponsored by proud grandmother Judy Burgis

Friday, April 22, 2016 Community Seder 6:30 pm Candles 7:25 pm YAHRZEITS: Milton Bazer, Istvan Benjamin, Henry Block, Frank Eliscu, Manfred Fight, Sidney Fineberg, Irving Fishbein, Max Fisher, Josephine Hopkins, Celia Kobb, Paul Kramer, David Maltzman, Fanny Marx, David Maurer, Beverly Propper, Miriam Rauch, Philip Rose, Clara Rubin, Edwin Rubin, Julia Ruskin, Arnold Schreiber, Paul Selikowitz, Lillian Trauben,

Harry Tretsky, Nathan Warm

Saturday, April 23, 2016 Parsha: Bo 12:21-51 Haftarah: 2 Kings 23:1-9, 21-25 Pesach/Shabbat Morning Service ~ 9:00 am

Friday, April 29, 2016 Pesach Service 9:00am Pesach/Shabbat Service 6:30 pm Candles 7:32 pm YAHRZEITS: Ellen Baker, Edward Barnett, Victor Belicove, Rae Breslow, Louis Brodie, Selma Cohen, Hyman Fishbain, William Furie, Steven Gold, Abe Goldberg, Donald Horowitz, Noreen Hunt, Sylvia Israel, Paula Kronengold, Waldmar Krongold, Blanche Lewis, Stella Meyers, Isabel Pincus, Chaye Przytyk, Itzyack Przytyk, Joseph Robinson, Abraham Rose, Hannah Rosing, Sidney Rubenstein, Roger Schoch, Beatrice Schreiber, Alice Schultz, Charles Schultzer, Robert Weinstein, Philip Wiser, Betty Zuckerman, Lou Zuckerman

Saturday, April 30, 2016 Parsha: Re’eh 14:22-16:17 Haftarah: Isaiah 10:32-12:6 Pesach/Shabbat Morning Service/Yizkor ~ 9:00 am

Weekday Mornings Weekday Evenings Monday-Thursday: 7:00pm Sunday: 8:30am Service Monday-Friday: 8:00am Shabbat Evening Services 1st, 3rd, 4th Friday ~ 6:30pm Shabbat Morning: 9:00am Schedule 2nd Friday ~ 8:00pm 3

The Book of Shemot (Names) We are a few weeks away from celebrating the Festival of Passover, the story of our Exodus from Egypt. Interestingly, the Hebrew name for the Book of Exodus, in which our story is found, is called Shemot, meaning "names." It is called this because it opens by sharing the names of the children of Israel and their household who came to Egypt with Jacob, thereby setting the stage for the story of the Exodus. But I think that there is more to this notion of the Exodus from Egypt being couched in a language of "names" than first meets the eye -- particularly when we consider that these very names were already mentioned a few chapters earlier, as the Book of Genesis comes to a close. By repeating this list and starting the Book of Exodus with Shemot , names, the Torah is trying to get us to focus on the importance of knowing who we are, where we come from, and what we are connected to. The message is that one cannot truly be free and one cannot have a complete understanding of what it means to be a part of the Jewish people, unless he/she understands his name, who he/she is, and where he/she comes from.

In other words, from the very beginnings of our existence as a people, our names have been a critical part of our identity. Indeed holding onto our Hebrew names is so important that our rabbis taught that it was one of the reasons that our ancestors merited being freed in the first place (Leviticus Rabbah 32:5).

But here is the question. How many of you actually know your full Hebrew name -- including your parents’ Hebrew names? How many of you know who you were named for, why you were named for these individuals? How many of you understand both the literal meaning of your name, as well as the meaning behind your name? How many of you know this name that was signed on your Bar/Bat mitzvah certificate, is written in your wedding ketubah, and is used when you are called to the Torah?

The other day I was driving with my youngest son in the car and listening to a new CD that we had received in the mail from PJ Library. The CD has one song written by Rick Recht that is all about our Hebrew names, how they were chosen, and how in many cases they represent the values of those who are no longer with us.

I've got all these people in me; A great responsibility; If they could only see me today they'd be proud of me in so many ways; I feel so lucky, I can SAY- that's my name

Someday I'll have kids and my kids will have kids and my grandkids will have more kids, maybe two or three, someday I'll be remembered by a little boy or girl who will be very proud to be named after me....

But as I was singing along to my youngest son and listening to the lyrics, I couldn't help but think about all of the people who routinely come to me with questions about their Hebrew names. They often don't know their Hebrew name and will ask me questions like: " Rabbi, what's Hebrew for Maurice ?" By the way, your Hebrew name is often the same, or an adaptation, of a deceased love one's Hebrew name, and unless you were given a name because of the meaning of a Hebrew word (ie. Hannah, meaning "grace"), Hebrew and English names are not often direct corollaries of one another (ie. there is no direct Hebrew for Maurice). I often find myself in situations where I have to make up a name for an individual, or their parents on the spot -- adapting a workable name for someone prior to a funeral, or when an individual comes up for an aliyah to the Torah and does not know their Hebrew name. But the truth is that I am saddened every time this happens. Because something has been lost. A piece of history, a connection to one's family, the hopes and dreams that went along with that name which someone chose for them -- has now disappeared. Why? Because these names were simply not written down, or not shared and discussed often enough.

While the name that we make for ourselves in life is critically important, the name that was passed down to us from our heritage is equally important. Each of our names is rich and filled with history, meaning, and potential. Each of our names contains the key to discovering who we are, where we come from, and where we are headed in life.

So this Passover, as we gather around our tables in celebration of the Exodus from Egypt, let us remember that our journey began with a list of "names." Let us remember that the Book of Exodus itself is couched in the language of Shemot , and let us strive to hold onto our own individual family histories, and exodus towards unprecedented freedom living as Jews in 21st century America. This year, I invite you to take a moment when you are sitting around your Seder to share your Hebrew names with one another as well as who you were named after. If you don't know your names -- take the opportunity that you have with family members gathered around the Seder table to do some research. Perhaps everyone around the table could consider asking an additional set of four questions this year: 1 . Do I know my Hebrew name? 2. Do I know for whom I was named? 3. What do I know about that person? 4 . Why did my parents choose that particular name? And then, write it down to ensure that your children and grandchildren will know your name, just as our ancestors knew the Shemot of those who came before them when they were enslaved in Egypt.

Have a hag kasher v'Sameach , a joyous and meaningful Passover experience.

2015-2016 Rabbi Schonbrun’s Course Offerings

Study Through Story Wednesday Lunch ’n Learn (Jewish Ethics 101) Eli Wiesel once wrote that "God created man because We are exploring Rabbi Joseph Telushkin’s "Code of He loves stories." In Judaism it seems that there is a Jewish Ethics" series. Discussions center around a story for every occasion in life. From secular stories, wide range of topics from judgment of self and to religious stories, cultural stories to national stories, others, civility and good manners, forgiveness, anger, or even stories that we have adapted from other humiliation, the laws of fair speech, and proper versus traditions - the power of Jewish storytelling speaks to improper criticism. Come and join us for this interactive, our heart and soul in a uniquely profound way. Come informal, and engaging experience. Please bring a and join Rabbi Schonbrun as he shares some of his friend! favorite Jewish stories and we explore their lessons Wednesdays: 12:00-1:00pm and practical applications together. As we approach the Festival Of Passover we will also look at the way in which storytelling can play a central role in our Caregiver Support Group Seder experience. No previous knowledge required. Share, Learn and Support One Another Bring a friend, and perhaps a story or two! RSVP to the temple office if you will be attending. The Caregiver Support Group provides a supportive and educational environment to caregivers taking care of Wednesdays: 7:30-8:30pm - April 6, 13, 20, 27 parents, spouses and family members in a safe and non-judgemental environment. The group provides comfort to members by creating the opportunity to Weekly Bereavement Support Group at CTE, share common experiences and learn coping strategies.

Mondays - 2:00-3:00pm Cindy Hyman, LCSW once again facilitates this on-going A Space to Provide Support and Comfort monthly support group. Following the Loss of A Loved One The Caregiver Support Group meets on the 3rd Monday of For additional information please contact: each month at 7:30pm. Next meeting is April 18th. Rabbi Deborah Miller, BCC - Group Facilitator [email protected] This program, which is held at Congregation Torat El, is open to the community and has been made possible This group has been made possible by a generous grant from by a grant from the Jewish Federation in the Heart of the Jewish Federation in the Heart of New Jersey New Jersey.

Friday, May 6th 5:30 - 6:30pm Come join as we welcome in Shabbat together with a program filled with movement, story and song.

This program is geared for children 6 and under but of course older siblings are welcome! Bring your kids in their pajamas and enjoy this fun program followed by a kid-friendly dinner.

This program is open to the community! No charge! Bring a friend!

For planning purposes RSVPs would be appreciated. Please call the temple office at 732-531-4410.

We look forward to seeing you! Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun and Rabbi Sara Metz

FROM THE D ESK OF L AWRENCE S HAPIRO

Last month I highlighted the sustainability commitment letters that went out to all members in the last two weeks and reminded everyone to respond so we could be as accurate as possible this year in our budget process. To that end, your Board thought it was a good idea to remind everyone of what it takes to keep the Temple’s doors open throughout the year. Our yearly operating budget is $910,000 (rounded). Of that, approximately 50% of revenue is raised from your sustainability commitments. This percentage is not unusual for congregations throughout the country. The balance of our operating revenue derives from fundraising, the Yom Kippur appeal, and other donation opportunities. (Contact the office or check out the High Holiday booklet for a list of those opportunities.) Notably, we have had a structural deficit for years. Over the last few years, we have been open and candid about that deficit, instead of hiding it by inflating fundraising or other revenue numbers. This year, the deficit was projected to be $87,000. While we have made strides to close this gap via reinvigorated fundraising and a renewed focus on membership growth, a deficit remains, albeit a reduced one, and will continue to exist year over year. In fact, as in past years, we will be drawing on our line of credit to carry us from March through July when next fiscal year’s commitments start to come in. In August, as we have in past years, we will pay the line of credit back. As a measure of the success of our move to a sustainability model from a dues paying model, we have started our draw on the line of credit about four weeks later than last year. As to expenses, we continue to run a lean and efficient operation, having reduced expenses significantly over the past few years. We will continue to closely monitor costs, reducing them wherever and whenever possible. Notwithstanding the positive steps we have made in cutting expenses and generating revenue, unforeseen situations arise and we have a 40-year-old building to upkeep and maintain. In the coming months, the Board will be weighing and considering needs. For example, the exterior façade of the building is in significant need of attention, as we continue to have water leaks in the Main Sanctuary area. The estimated cost to replace the façade and address the leaks could be as much as $200,000. We are also weighing a refurbishment of the social hall which could be a potential source of additional revenue to the Temple. We anticipate having estimates for that in the next month or so. There are other repairs/upgrades which, although not as pressing, are being considered and prioritized. A comprehensive campaign to raise funds for the building and strengthen our standing endowment is being planned in the not-too-distant future. As you can see, there is much to be done and in an effort to continue to be open and transparent, we want to keep you all informed on where we are and where we are going, particularly in terms of our financial and fiscal standing. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact the office or me. Thank you.

Yasher Koach to our B’nai Mitzvah

My name is Ari Malek. I live in Wayside with my My name is Madelyn Sarah Walsh. I am in 7th grade mom and dad, brother Noah, sister Alana, and at Ocean Township our dog, Bo. I am in 7th grade at Ranney Intermediate School. I love School. My favorite activities include playing to dance, play lacrosse, travel and hang out with my baseball, basketball, soccer, tennis and spending friends. My Bat Mitzvah is April 16, 2016. For my time with my friends and family. For my mitzvah Bat Mitzvah project, I chose to volunteer for an project, I visited one of our elderly congregants, organization called Hand in Hand. Hand in Hand offering some companionship and conversation. extends a helping hand to special needs children I enjoyed her company very much and learned and their families. I offer friendship and joy to the that reaching out and showing care for others children I work with, and peace of mind to their is important and makes a difference. I am very parents. Together with the kids, I participate in many excited for my upcoming Bar Mitzvah on different activities each week. Over the past few months, I have developed a special bond with some April 9 th . I hope to see some of you there! of the children. This is something that I love to do, and I feel that I am getting more out of the experience than the kids I am working with. As I become a Jewish adult, I would like to do my best to give more of myself than receive. I am very excited for the big day and I can’t wait to see you there! 6

Our sincere thanks to the following members who made membership commitments at or above our Sustaining Giving Level for the 2015-2016 fiscal year!

Michael and Fern Aaron Martin and Joyce Luria Rita Abrams Richard Marlieb Michael and Lisa Absatz Stuart and Robin Meyer Daniel and Carol Amrany Gary and Suzanne Michel Jonathan and Dawn Barofsky Steve Nelson Lois Barrett Sandy Paskin Seth and Brooke Bass Sondra Rachman Steven and Susan Berkowitz Dan and Bonnie Reiss Michael and Ellen Breslow Howard and Beverle Richelson Arnold Chernin Andrew and Michele Robins Steven and Marcy Cohen Zeke Rose Stanley and Marjorie Cotler Kenneth and Deborah Rubin Marcy Gottlieb-Dodds Russell and Deborah Scheer Jeff Donner Josh and Lori Schor Dorothy Dweck Steven and Ilene Schwaber Rob and Kim Einhorn Barry Shapiro and Alison Block Mark and Melanie Engel Harvey and Jay-Ann Shooman David and Mindy Estin Zel and Pam Steinberg Steven and Vicki Fineberg Marvin and Sharon Talansky Bruce and Joy Forman Matthew and Jacqueline Tobin Gary and Laurie Gross Larry and Penny Turtel Howard and Lisa Guss Art and Jodi Vasen Gary and Sheryl Kaplan Charlotte Vineburg Bernie and Renee Karasic Sam Warm Randi Kervick Neil and Marcia Weitzenkorn Jerry and Loretta Kessel Lewis and Nancy Wetstein Thelma Krivins Alan and Sonny Winters Howard Lang Gary and Harriet Wiser Albert Levitt Leonard and Vivian Zimmerman

In addition, we gratefully thank those donors who asked to remain anonymous.

OUR S YNAGOGUE F AMILIES The Torat Family extends condolences to: Robin Stern on the loss of her father Stanley Spiegel Jason Stern on the loss of his grandfather Stanley Spiegel Lindsay Walter on the loss of her grandfather Stanley Spiegel William Grill on the loss of his mother Sonya Grill

The Torat El Family wishes Mazel Tov to: Marcia Sacks on the birth of her granddaughter Alexandra Rachel Gayle & Reza Ardakanian on the marriage of their son Matt to Jocelyn Tracey & Marc Rediker on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter Matisse Fran Rediker on the Bat Mitzvah of her granddaughter Matisse Shabbat Learn ‘n Burn A spiritual experience to restore your mind, body and soul Saturday, April 2nd

Come and join us as we celebrate Shabbat in a variety of ways at our monthly "Spirit of Shabbat" Program. Join us for our main service from 9am- 11:30am. Or participate in our "Learn ‘n Burn" program starting at 9am with a study session followed by a refreshing yoga/meditation class run by Phyllis Jacobs at 10am. Everyone is invited to gather together for our kiddush oneg/luncheon following the programs as we celebrate Shabbat as one community.

RITUAL E NGAGEMENT

Yasher Koach to Kevin Bauer for being added to the Congregation Torat El Master Readers Plaque in recognition of chanting your 24 th Torah reading!

Yasher Kochech to Sheila Morris for being presented with a Tikkun in recognition of your 12 th Torah reading!

Yasher Koach to Myron Samuel for chanting Haftarah so beautifully in honor of the anniversary of your Bar Mitzvah!

If you are interested in chanting your Bar/Bat Mitzvah Haftarah, or if you are interested in learning to become a CTE Leader/Reader, please contact Ben Laskowitz at [email protected], cell # 732-861-7450.

During the month of February 2016 , the following individuals performed the Mitzvah of reading Torah, chanting the Haftarah, and/or leading Shacharit, Musaf and the Torah Service:

Emma Barofsky Mitch Grayson Bonnie Reiss Brian Bauer Jonathan Horowitz Marcia Sacks Kevin Bauer Harvey Jacob Myron Samuel Ari Binns Ben Laskowitz Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun Julia Comer Alan Morris Joel Schulman Mady Einhorn Sheila Morris Neil Weitzenkorn Michael Gordon

SISTERHOOD CHAI L ITES RAFFLE UPDATE The lucky Raffle winner in March was Toby Sukinik. Congratulations to Toby! You too could have a chance to be a winner. Just join Sisterhood’s Min Pincow Memorial Raffle, and try your luck. Tickets are $10 per drawing, As there are seven remaining drawings, the total price will be $70. To participate, call Phyllis Schwarz at 732-988-0928, and she will help you get started. GOOD LUCK!

A program called ‘Support the Girls’ is raising awareness of a need to provide ‘gently’ used bras and new feminine hygiene products to MATZAH homeless women or women in shelters. DONATIONS Feminine hygiene products are expensive and necessary. And this isn’t just a one-time issue: NEEDED every month, women need various feminine hygiene products to cope with health and FOR cleanliness issues. The Sisterhood will be providing a discreet drop-off in the office for COLLEGE your ‘gently used’ or new bras and feminine PACKAGES! hygiene products. Sisterhood will distribute the donations to local shelters.

For more information about our program, please Drop off donations to the temple contact either Toby at [email protected] or office by April 7th. Susan at [email protected]. Thank you!

HAZAK H APPENINGS

Hazak Events Coming This Spring:

April 10th - 9:30am - $45 per person Congregation Kahila Kedosha Janina Tour & Kosher Greek Lunch at the Temple and Lower East Side Walking Tour. Transportation Provided Limited to the first 40 pre-paid reservations

May 1st - $56 per person Musical Theatre Trip “Pump Boys and Dinettes” Paper Mill Playhouse

Lox, Stock & Deli Dinner

Transportation Provided

Kids Matzah Bakery Passover Dates Have you ever wondered how to Remember all those holes get in the Matzah? Wednesday, April 20th Well come join us we unravel Sale of Chametz Due the mysteries’ of Matzah!! Friday, April 22nd - 8:00am Fast of the Firstborn Friday, April 22nd - 6:30pm Congregation Torat El Community Seder Religious School Presents: Saturday, April 23rd - 9:00am “Matzah Baking” Shabbat/Pesach Service Sunday, April 24th - 9:00am Pesach Service When: Wednesday, April 13th Thursday, April 28th - 7:00pm

Pesach Service Where: Congregation Torat El Kitchen Friday, April 29th - 9:00am

Pesach Service Religious School begins at 4:15 pm Friday, April 29th - 6:30pm Program begins at 4:45 pm Program begins at 4:45 pm Shabbat/Pesach Service Saturday, April 30th - 9:00am We will also do a Passover craft project Shabbat/Pesach/Yizkor Service

Sale of Chametz Siyyum Bechorim Calling All First Born (Men and Women) During the week of Pesach, it is forbidden for any Jew Friday, April 22nd at 8:00am to own chametz. To avoid the unnecessary financial hardship that could result from requiring Jews to According to Jewish tradition, the first born son of dispose of all items that are chametz, it is tradition to a mother or father is required to fast on the day sell items of chametz to non-Jews for the week of before Passover as an expression of thanks for Pesach. If you would like to sell your chametz to the deliverance of the first born Israelites who ensure that you abide by the Jewish law of not owning were spared from the Tenth plague. However, any chametz during the week of Pesach, please fill out individuals who are obligated to fast are the form below and return it to the Temple on or before exempt from fasting if they have the opportunity to end of day Wednesday, April 20, 2016. participate in a seudat mitzvah, a festive meal that follows the performance of certain mitzvoth. Dear Rabbi Schonbrun, Therefore, it has become customary for synagogues, on the day before Passover, to make I/we ______(name) would like a siyyum , a public completion unit of study, which to appoint you as my/our agent to sell all items of is followed by a seudat mitzvah , thus exempting chametz that will be in my/our possession at: the first born participants from their obligation to ______. fast. The siyyum will be preceded by the morning minyan and followed by a feast with lots of delicious chametz. Study and feast are held in This sale will be effective at 10:30am on Thursday, memory of Esther and Ed Deitelbaum and are April 21, 2016. sponsored by their family. All are welcome to join ______signature us even if you are not a first born.

Wednesday, May 4th ~ 7:00pm

Join us for an inspiring service followed by a program featuring Guest Speaker Larry Roth author of “The Nazi Account”

This program is co-sponsored by Men’s Club and Sisterhood

For planning purposes please contact the temple office if you will be joining us. 732-531-4410

Larry Roth earned a degree in Journalism from the University of South Carolina in 1978. He returned to New York where he worked briefly as a writer for various trade newspapers and magazines. He later changed his career and become a partner in a global public relations company for nearly thirty years. “The Nazi Account” is Mr. Roth’s first novel. It is currently in the permanent library at Yad Vashem in Jerusalem and can be purchased at the Holocaust Museum in Washington, DC, the National Museum of American Jewish History in Philadelphia, in two other Jewish Museums in New York City and of course on Amazon.com. Mr. Roth won a third place prize for Amazon’s Breakthrough Novelists in 2014.

Mr. Roth lives in Manalapan. He has three daughters and a white dog that still struggles with house training.

“The Nazi Account” is historical fiction and is based on the true incident of the German government’s hiring Carl Byoir & Associates, the largest public relations agency in New York between 1933 and 1934.

The novel is about the moral struggle of one person at the agency who must decide whether to keep his job and feed his family or quit and join his neighbors on the soup line during the world’s worst Depression. Mr. Roth will touch on how deep the roots of anti-Semitism were in the United States during this time. He will also speak to how powerful PR agencies have become since the 1930’s.

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Congregation Torat El General Fund Paul Morris Liturgical Music Fund Speedy Recovery to: In Honor of: Pamela Segner, Mona Segner, David Segner, The 90 th birthday of Milton Gottlieb – brother of Karen Segner, Brittany Segner, Marvin Segner, Sheila Morris by Sheila Morris, Alan & Meryl Thelma Scheff, Phyllis Barach, Bernie Wright, Morris & Family Jamie Segner, Mark Taylor, Charlise-Jane Segner, Ruth Schiff’s 103 rd birthday by Sheila Morris Rosalind Segner, Florence Hirsch, Ronelle Maher, The birth of Marcia Sacks’s granddaughter Irv Kullback, Shirley Kullback, Bert Pickover Alexandra Rachel by Sheila Morris by Sam Segner Schlisserman Memorial Fund In Memory of: In Honor of: Rose Katz by Sam Segner The marriage of Gayle & Reza Ardakanian’s son Les Gerber by Sam Segner Matt to Jocelyn by Carri & Bruce Silverberg Bill Tobias by Sam Segner Alvin E. Shulman by Sheila & Barry Margulis Siddur In Honor of: Rabbi Schonbrun’s Discretionary Fund Dr. Howard Guss by Dr. Alan Stern In Honor of: Purim wishes to Rabbi Schonbrun and Family by Contribution Cards Sam Segner To Robin Stern in memory of her father Stanley Spiegel from Beverle & Howard Richelson In Memory of: To Sarah Nodell with wishes for a speedy recovery Fanny Rybak by Zelda & Neil Becourtney from Beverle & Howard Richelson

Rabbi Metz’s Discretionary Fund Temple Grams In Honor of: To Eva & Howard Wiener, hope you’re both feeling Rabbi Metz’s happy news by Joan & Warren better from Sandy & Ronnie Rosen Goode To Mindy Estin with wishes for a speedy recovery from Sandy & Ronnie Rosen Library Fund To Diane Fischel with wishes for a speedy recovery In Memory of: from Pam & Allen Hirsh Barbara L. Segner – wife of Sam Segner by Sam Segner NOMINATING C OMMITTEE Kiddush Fund In Honor of: Steve & Marcy Cohen’s wedding anniversary by Steve & Marcy Cohen The birth of Marcia Sacks’s granddaughter Alexandra Nominations are open for seats on Rachel by Eva & Howard Wiener, Madeline & the temple Board of Trustees. Joel Schulman

Speedy Recovery to: If you are interested in serving on Adam J. Hirsch – grandson of Charlotte Ginsburg by Charlotte Ginsburg the board, please contact Mark Lichtman by Vicki Raab & Steven Fineberg Andrew Robins at [email protected] In Memory of: Fred Hollander – cousin of Sandy Epstein By March 31, 2016 by Judy & Alan Sherman

Yahrzeits

HAROLD ARM by Ellie Arm BENJAMIN MARON by Bill & Linda Reinman & Family DAVID ASKIN by Charlotte Vineburg KATE PORETZKY by Rhoda Poretzky & Family BERTHA BARR by Lois Barrett LILLIAN REINSTEIN by Gerald & Muriel Taub BEATRICE BELICOVE by Vera Gitten FISHEL REUVEN by Sarah Bercovicz ESTHER BROWN by Janet Brown ROSE RING by Alan & Patricia Blume RITA COMER by Marc, Lori, Brad & Julia Comer EVELYN ROKAW by Leonard Rokaw JACOB DARROW by Adelyn Darrow LYNDA ROSANOFF by Olga Rosanoff IDA DORFMAN by Sandy Lehrer GERTRUDE ROSEN by Sandy & Ronnie Rosen, their SAMUEL ELLTON by Cindy & Lewis Fisher & Family children & grandchildren DAVID EPSTEIN by Warren & Sandy Epstein CYPORA SAFIER by Eva & Howard Wiener ROBERT FISHER by Cindy & Lewis Fisher & Family BARNETT SCHIFF by Dr. & Mrs. Matthew Schiff SYLVIA FISHER by Cindy & Lewis Fisher & Family LUCILLE SHAPIRO by Alison Block & Barry Shapiro LILLIAN FOX by Barri & Mark Haber & Family SAUL SIMHA by Rebecca S. Cohen & Family LOUIS FUNDLER by Leona Fundler LOUIS SOBEL by Harriet Colby LENA GELFMAN by Margo, Arnold & Austin Gelfman DINA BERCOVICZ STAUBER by Israel Bercovicz PAULINE GOODMAN by Claire Knifel Cohan IRA VINEBURG by Charlotte Vineburg CYNTHIA GRUBER by Candy & Michael Friedman MILLY WEITZENKORN by Neil & Marcia ROSE HOFFMAN by Sam Hoffman Weitzenkorn & Family MONROE JAVERBAUM by Steven & Marcy Cohen DAVID WIENER by Eva & Howard Wiener MAE KIRCHNER by Noel & Gloria Kirchner LEO WILK by Ilene & Steven Schwaber HENRY KIRK by Toby & Martin Sukinink JENNIE ZIMMERMAN by Leonard Zimmerman

Perhaps they are not stars in the sky but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy

WE’RE HERE FOR YOU ... When my Mom passed away last April, Rabbi Schonbrun suggested attending daily minyan to say Kaddish and explained that it is customary to say Kaddish daily for 11 months for a parent, then yearly on her yahrzeit and Yizkor days. My Mom and I were exceptionally close and I was having a tough time grieving, so I decided to come to morning minyan with a goal of at least 5 days a week. The first day, I was late and I couldn’t figure out which page we were on. It was overwhelming, so I didn’t know if I would return. However Rabbi Schonbrun said to stick with it and it would become easier. I am so glad I did! I now can follow along the short service in the small sanctuary because the leaders remind everyone which page we are on. It has helped me deal with my mom’s death because every morning there has been time to devote to her memory. I am now a “regular” with a group of amazing, warm, friendly, fellow CTE members. Not everyone comes every day, and ALL attendees are welcome. I am writing this to encourage everyone to give minyan a try, morning or evening. Even if you just come once in a while to at least help your fellow congregants have a minyan (10 count) so they can say Kaddish. Just maybe, like me, you will find a peaceful spot in your day or evening and some extra meaning in your life. —Marian Warshauer CTE Minyan Needs Your Help

Our minyanaires are a small group of dedicated individuals who attend Minyan services to be there for all of us. NOW is OUR turn to show we care! Please mark your calendar to be sure you attend one of the minyan services this month. Thank you!

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April 2016

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Candle Lighting Shabbat Service 7:03pm 9:00am

Shabbat Service & Learn & Burn Dinner 6:30pm 9:00am

No Shabbat School

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Mah Jongg Board of Trustees Lunch & Learn Sisterhood Board Candle Lighting Bar Mitzvah of Tournament Mtg 7:30pm 12:00pm Mtg 7:30pm 7:10pm Ari Malek 9:00am 9:00am Adult Ed 7:30pm Shabbat Service Sponsored Kiddush

8:00pm Lunch

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Hazak Trip to NYC Ritual Mtg 7:30pm Lunch & Learn Candle Lighting Bat Mitzvah of

12:00pm 7:17pm Madelyn Walsh

9:00am Kids Matzah Bakery Shabbat Service 4:45pm 6:30pm Sponsored Kiddush Lunch Adult Ed 7:30pm

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Caregivers Support Executive Board Sale of Chametz Fast of Firstborn Shabbat Pesach Group 7:30pm Mtg 7:00pm due 8:00am Service 9:00am

Men’s Club Mtg Lunch & Learn Candle Lighting No Shabbat School 7:30pm Cancelled 7:25pm

Religious School Temple Office

Chocolate Seder Closes at Noon

Adult Ed 7:30pm Community Seder

6:30pm

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Pesach Service Education Mtg Lunch & Learn Pesach Service Temple Office Shabbat Pesach 9:00am 7:30pm 12:00pm 7:00pm Closed Yizkor Service 9:00am No Religious Pesach Service School 9:00am

Candle Lighting 7:32pm