MASSACHUS ETTS 27 Tevet 5769 Vol. XI - Issue II www.jvhri.org Januar 23, 2009 Plans moving ahead for R.I. Did Israel Holocaust win the war Memorial against Requests for design, Hamas? proposals to be sent out shortly ½ewofwar

Bv RICHARD ASINOF' may determine rasino[@jfri.org Israels next prime PROVIDENCE - Plans minister for a Rhode Island Holo­ caust M emorial are now BY LESLIE SussER moving ahead, according }TA Staff Writer to Herb Stern, chair of JERUSALEM OTA) the Jewish Federation of - With a cease-fire in Rhode Island's Holocaust place, Israelis are asking l'vlemorial Committee. whether the 22-day war JTA Photo JlA Photo/ BPH Image! MORE THAN 2 M ILLION people Stern, immediate past ISRAELI TR00 :> 5 withdrawing from the Gaza Strip on Jan . 18, agajnst Hamas in Gaza came to Washington, D.C., to president ofJFRI, says that in advt h:.e o{ P1 esk ent Obama's inauguration. achieved its aims. witness the inaugural. the 11-member volunteer The government argues committee has met nivice in that the overwhelming vie- Israel activists: New tactics in PR battle recent months, and requests for Bv BEN HARRIS A •o world,Jews around the globe 'Kvelling' for design proposals will be sent NEWS ANALYSIS J OSHUA SPIRO also are utilizing innovative Obama out shortly. These proposals }TA Staff Writers methods - and particularly will be evaluated during the tory in the field will advance new technological tools - to NEWYORKOTA)- As Inauguration had next three months, Stern said. what was Operation Cast explain what the Jewish state Israel takes to the Internet in A lawsuit attempting to Lead's primary goal: bring­ is facing as it acts to protect its several Jewish search of innovative ways to block plans by the Federa­ ing a long period of quiet southern flank from rocket fire. make its case about Gaza ro the tion to move ahead with the to civilians in southern StandWithUs, a Los Ange­ moments memorial had been recently Israel, freeing them from les-based pro-Israel group, has BY RON KAMPEAS AND ERIC Editor's Note: Voice & djsmissed, with prejudice, the tyranny of cross-border established a round-the-clock F INGERHUT H erald columnists Alan Krin­ so ir cannot be brought rocker attacks from Gaza. Internet task force - in cooper­ }TA Staff Writers sky Oan. 7) and Alan Zuck­ again, according to Stern. Jerusalem hoped to achieve ation with the I nterdisciplinary erman Oan. 19) each wrote WASHINGTON OTA) - It The suit, which had been its goal of quiet for southern Center in Herzliya, Israel - to pro-Israel op-eds which ran was a week dedicated primar­ brought by survivor and monitor Web sites and provide See WAR, Page 19 in 1he Pro·videnceJ ournal. ily to marking the election of fervent Holocaust Memorial See PR , Page 11 the first African-American See MEMORIAL, Page 21 See OBAMA, Page 7 Interfaith Power and Light promotes green future RI interfaith effort seeks to Bingham opened her talk by point­ This year's confer- ing out that today's children are ence was entitled "Faith light the way to change aware of the problems of our world Lights Our Way... toward in a way that is unprecedented. a sustainable future." BY JuuA McCANN She told a vignette from her Exhibitors included: the Special to 1he Voice & H erald experience at a recent holiday pag­ Apeiron Institute, the Audu­ eant, where children were asked bon Society, which offered T THE 2009 RI Interfaith to say individual prayers aloud. tips for making a ra inwater Power and Light Confer­ One of the children prayed for a smart garden; summer camps; energy Aence on Jan. 8, keynote president and another prayed for the companies, including National peaker Rev. Canon Sally economy. When she was an 8-year-old, Grid, People's Power & Light, Bingham presaged the inaugural address Bingham continued, she and her friends and RISE Engineering; and of P resident Barack Obama, calling were unaware of society's problems. preservation and conservation­ climate change a multi-generational Today, because media inundate ists. One group, Lights Out problem, and urging people of all ages today's youth, there is no choice but Green In, requests pledges to work together to solve it as part to be aware of the world's struggles. from individuals and companies of a vision of community service. The crowd in attendance was mostly to turn their lights off daily Bingham is president and founder Baby Boomers, although the crowd was between 11 a.m. and 1 p.m. of the national branch oflnterfaith sprinkled with high-school students Following Bingham's address Power and Light, with offices in San from La Salle Academy in Providence there were a variety of work­ Francisco. The national organjza­ (where the event was held), who volun­ shops. Topics ranged from "This Photos by Julia M ccann tion has 28 regional chapters with HOWARD 'CHAIM' BROWN, the director of Rhode teered to help run the night's events. See GREEN, Page 10 4,000 participating congregations. Island Interfaith Power and Light. r

PAGE 2 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 ------S.-iilt1~ - ALISON IN ISRAEL A long lost 'hello' from the front lines of Beersheva Alison Stern Perez I will catch you up on what is \,Ve attempted to digest the boom, we gracefully slipped t hat Beersheva could be going on in my li fe, and why I news with as mucl1 matter-of­ out of the wedding hall and struck by a rocket, l don't returns to the pages of haven't written for so painfully factness as we could muster, gunned the gas pedal fo r home. think I ever could have imag­ long, and you will know The next day, I re ceived ined that Jerusalem would be The Voice & Herald everything you ever wanted at least seven worried the "sa fe haven" oflsrael. to know in very short order. phone cal Is from friends It's as if we are all the unwit­ HAVE SPENT the last But fo r now, I will stick all around the cou ntry, ting players in a giant, nation­ couple of months planning to the current issues, and asking how I was and wide game of musica l chairs. I my trium phant return attempt to give you a offering to host Mikhael During the second intifada, to 7he Voice & Herald. glimpse of what we are and me if we should fee l Jerusalemites left their homes I have plotted out the series dealing with over here the need for a temporary in droves, moving entirely or of"catch-up" articles I woul d on the" front Iine s." respite from the rocket fire. at least taking breaks from the write, and then the topics I Boy, is that a weird thing Ir was so bizarre to be situation by visiting frie nds and wanted to cover after that. to say: "Beersheva, on the getting these phone calls family in the periphery, sucl1 as Of course, it took longer frontlines." The past 10 from some of the very sa me M odi'in and Beit Shemesh . than I had hoped, and my days have been filled with friends who received the D uring the second Guif W ar, frequent bouts of shame and phrases that l don't think l very sa me phone call from Tel Aviv was most concerned disgust with myself that it has could ever have fathomed me just over rwo yea rs ago about becoming a target, and taken me more than a year and would come out of my during the Second Leba­ the popu lation there del iberated a half to re-emerge were the mouth or into my ears. non \,Var, when they we re about whether to take temporary source of a number of setbacks I guess the first was las t under rocket fire up north. leave, and if so, where to go. and procrastination streaks. Tuesday evening, when my And, I th ink my favorite D uring the fa teful disen­ And then, fa te stepped ne ighbor and good fr iend, Al iso n Stern Perez was an assurance made gagement from Gush Kati f, an in and made it clea r, on no Avivit, called and told us but after about 10 minutes of by a fr iend who lives in entire population oflsraelis was uncertain terms, that I was that a rocket had fa llen in Bee r­ picturing our dogs at home the ciry center in Jerusalem, a uprooted and moved inward to get my butt back into the sheva. Mikhael and I were at his alone, pa nicked and probably location that is most well-known to the heart of the country, column-writing game. cousin's wedding for its relentless only to be left to languish in So here I am, in my less-than­ near Ashdod , bombardment by their makeshift trailers and triumphant re-emergence. and the irony "The past 10 days have been filled with suicide bombers cardboard houses (with many I know how many of you are - that we had , . throughout the of them now, again, fi nd- conce rned with the current seriously consid­ phrases that I don t think I could ever second intifada: ing themselves under fi re). events in Israel, and how many ered not going have fathomed would come out of my "l fyou wantto Since then, the people of of you are aware of my proxim­ to the wedding . get away from Sderot have suffered the most, ity to them , so I felt it would (a nd in fact, that mouth or.!nto my ears." rhe danger, you being under constant Q assam be unconscionable to allow my it h ad almost 1 are welcome rocket fire fro m the very same procrastination to get the better been cancelled) to cmn e stay locations frorn whl.ch we so losing control of their bladders of me at this particular time. because of its proxim iry to the with us in Jerusalem." honorably d isengaged. M any and bowels in response to the of these residents have begged H ave no fear - I promise that missile fire - hit us as hard as THINGS J N EVER FATHOMED 1 11 sound of a ciry-wide siren fol­ after the ' siniation cal.ins down, the new realiry in Beersheva did. Jusr as I never fathomed lowed by a powerful (and close) See ALISON , Page 18

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Bv NANCY KIRSCH [email protected] PROVIDENCE - The Mothers Circle Shabbat dinner on Friday, Jan. 9 was - and wasn't - your typical Shabbat dinner. As with most Shabbat dinners, the nearly 30 participants lit the candles, sang the blessings for the wine and the cha/lab, and had a surfeit of delicious food . MOTHERS CIRCLE PARTICIPANTS and BJE staff prepare challah for the Mothers Circle Shabbat dinner. From left, BJ E's Nicole Katzman This Shabbat dinner, like many (standing), and Mothers Circle participants Rachael Elmaleh, Lisa Photos by Nancy Kirsch KATZMAN, others, included three generations Denny and Darryle Steinberg. FROM LEFT: NICOLE Rachael Elmaleh, Lisa Denny, Dar­ of one family, while the other ryle Steinberg and Terri Hasseler with her newborn son, Joshua participating families comprised Abrams, prepare challah dough for baking. parents and their young children. - the men began, but did not band, Ken Abrams, of Crans­ So, how was this Shabbat end, the evening as strangers to ton, were joined by Ken's sons, Grandparents to the Burka dinner different? Held in the one another. As people picked Dylan, 14, and Jacob, 12, and that, of all the holidays, only children, Bev and Bili Koteff Jewish Federation of Rhode up their sleepy, yet over-excited, their newborn son, Joshua Shabbat comes each week. Island's board room, it was children and packed away some Abrams, who was willingly expressed delight in the oppor­ Emmi, said Francois, says the tunity to share in their son­ catered by Daniel's Kosher leftovers, at Haspel's urging, hugs passed around from mother to prayers, sings the songs, eats in-law's Jewish traditions. the cha/lab .. . she loves all ofit. Catering, and Temple Beth-El's and handshakes were the norm. mother for some "cuddle time." When their daughter, Lisa "I'm so grateful for the pro­ Rabbi Sarah Mack led everyone Several of the families involved "Jewish identity is impor­ Denny, married Steve Burka, gram and for the opportunity to in the prayers, including prayers in Mothers Circle graciously took tant to Ken, and we knew we "our family expanded," she said. get involved," said Rachael. "It's for children and parents, and time away from their food - and wanted to raise the baby as "From my point of view (as such an inclusive and safe setting explained them all. their children - to talk about Jewish," said Terri. It's some- a grandma), I'm and we can ask questions without The idea of children blessing their experiences. delighted to share in feeling embarrassed or self-con­ their parents elicited giggles of When David ------Sheer was travel- our grandchildren's scious. Kit has done such a great joy from five-year-old Jodd Sheer, "It's such an inclusive and safe setting. traditions." Their job of connecting all of us." the elder son of Ang and David ing in Thailand, We can ask questions without feeling Unitarian Univer­ When she was asked what Sheer of Providence. And, of he met Ang: "The embarrassed or self-consc·1ous." salist church holds will happen next year (when her course, with The Mothers Circle Thai people are Passover seders, so Mothers Circle group has ended), focus on non-Jewish women so beautiful and it's been quite com­ Rachael said, wistfully, "Can I raising Jewish children, it was no gentle; Thailand Rachael Elmaleh fortable to share the sign up for another year?" She surprise that all the dads and kids is called the land different holidays. "I also talked of a Jewish friend present were Jewish, while the of 1,000 smiles." thing that Joshua will share haven't done any Jewish cooking whose husband is not Jewish; moms were not. Ang explained what The with his brothers, she added. yet, but I enjoy Steve's mother's they long for a Fathers Circle The little ones were enter­ Mothers Circle has offered Dylan and Jacob were, by all Jewish cooking," Bev added. akin to what The Mothers Circle tained, after eating, by Rhode her: "I didn't really understand accounts, delighted to welcome Providence residents Franco is offers these fortunate women. Island's two Israeli emissar- the holidays. For Hanukkah their new half-brother into the and Rachael Elmaleh came with 1he Mothers Circle is supported ies, Zohar Bromberg and Ziv this year, I made latkes and family. Jacob always wanted a their young daughters, Emmi and by a grant from 1he Helene and Assor, with books and songs. we lit candles." It's been good little brother, explained Dylan. Fleuriana. With dual French and Bertram Bernhardt Foundation Even better, the cha/lab gracing to meet other people in the "I have older step-broth­ U.S. citizenship for Francois and and is a program ofthe Bureau of each table had been made· by the same situation, too, she said. ers (from his mother's remar­ the girls, they are learning Eng­ Jewish Education ofRhode Island women a day earlier, under the Asked what he loves about riage) who are role models for lish, French and, even, Hebrew. and the Jewish Federation ofRhode tutelage of Nicole Katzman at the being Jewish, Jodd, who is in pre­ me," said Dylan, "and I'm so Emmi, who attends the JCC Island. For more ieformation, Bureau ofJewish Education, and K at the Jewish Community Day happy to be able to be a role pre-school, gets a strong ground­ contact Kit Haspel at khaspel@ then baked by Marilyn Katz. School, said: "Keeping the Jewish model for my little brother." ing in Judaism. With Shabbat bjeri.org or 331-0956, ext. 184. Though the women all holidays, apples and honey, sing­ Dylan, who became bdr ;,,;;:;,_ as her favorite holiday, it was no knew each other - from their ing Jewish songs, PJ Library." vah last year, is active in USY, wonder that she beamed witli bimonthly Mothers Circle ses­ His favorite Jewish food? Latkes. and Jacob will become bar pleasure when she was reminded sions, facilitated by Kit Haspel Terri Hasseler and her hus- mitzvah later this spring.

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PAGE 4 Jewish Voice& Herald January 23, 2009~------'-•hH~it•l~-- BE1WEEN WORK AND HOME FROM THE ExEcUTIVE EDITOR A family ritual worth every minute Florida vacations become around special birthdays and anniver­ frought with stress and tension as A return to truth saries or Jewish holidays . As my par­ we all live for several days under one ents grew older, they spent more time BY RICHARD AslNOF a time when we're roof, having not done so as adults. [ in Florida. Eventually, they relocated [email protected] While our individual rhythms and i all together there full time. And while my parents interests have an air of familiarity "Now the ChiefExecutive enters; OING TO FLORIDA has kept hoping it would happen, none of (after all , we did grow up in the same ~ the press conftrence begim: become our family's annual their kids married and, thus, grandkids house, didn't we?), the years have calci­ First the President lies about the date G ritual. As many Jewish were not part of the picture they had fied us in some ways that seem ironic at the Appalachian Mountains rose. families of a certain era, perhaps imagined. Eventually, I broke times with each playi ng a role shaped .. . and the Attorney General lies my family is flung acro ss the country the mold and married and produced yea rs ago in another time and place. I about the time the sun sets." in indiscriminate patterns of resettle­ the muc h anticipated grandchildren. I guess it's why, when my fa mily is in ment. Ir's a diaspora of our own making, Fas t-forward two decades and we are close quarters, I find myself wondering OET ROBERT BLY wrote adding extra burdens to the effort to engaged in the complicated dance of someti mes how I will get through another Pthese lines in the 1960s maintain fa mily ties. - long distance, intergenerational rela­ day. Everyo ne wants something different about President Lyndon In the 1970s as my tionship building. Across the miles and to eat. As one sibling want to play tennis, Johnson and the Vietnam War; brothers and I headed with the aid of modern technology, another would rather sit home and read I heard him reprise these lines off to coUege, we books; one doesn't pick clothes at a 1987 reading, relating them chose our loca- "Across the miles and with the aid up off the fl oor and the other to President Ronald Reagan and tions based on our plays on the computer too long. Attorney General Ed Meese. individual inter­ of modern technology, we weave a Yet, headed fo r the airport, I And, after listening to the ests. Perhaps the thi nk of all the th.ings I fo rgot to last news conference staged by web of family that might not be any Barbara assumption was say and the activities we didn't get outgoing President George W. that we'd aU end one's dreamed of version of ideal." to do together and - most of all Bush, it seemed as if Bly's words G.Fields up back in New - when will we get together again? still rang hauntingly true. York but somehow As I return to work back in "Americans like to be lied to," that never quite happened. While we all we weave a web of fam ily that might Rhode Island , I am always stumped Bly said cynically, in an interview cycled through our fa mily home on Long not be any one's dreamed-of version of when someone as ks how I enjoyed after the 1987 reading. "We are Island, we all settled in diffe rent cities. ideal, but it's what works fo r us. Ever my vacation. W as that a vacation? A still living in a Doris Day movie in One brother continued his peri patetic sin ce my children were born 10 yea rs change of scenery~ Time away? which everything we do works out." ex istence foc used on places with blue ago, my parents and I have made the While I enjoy the wa rm weather, However, our world has now skies and warm temperatu res. I chose effort to see each other every three or the lack of schedule, and the chance to been transformed, dramatically the academ ic and culrural environ­ four months. And, since my fath er's hang out, do I enj oy the cacophony of and forcefully, with the inaugura­ ments of Eas t Coast cities drawn to the death fou r years ago, these visits have too much fa mily in too small a space? tion of President Barack Obama. urban life and the political banter that taken on an even greater signifi cance. Well, I guess I have to admit; I love The leading roles have changed makes East Coast living what it is. My, During these visits - with two it, too. As we grow older, our rou­ All across America, there was oldest brother was the only one who uncles who don't have kids and as tines and visits wiU change, but fo r jubilation. As I watched the seemed to stick with the New York scene the only grandchildren - my kids now, it's wh at we've got and, thus, it's ceremonies in an impromptu - that is, until he relocated to Florida. are showered with love and attention worth taking full advantage ofit. viewing room, a dozen preschool­ Family get-togethers increasingly that most kids could never imagine. Barbara G. Fields can be ers at Jewish Community Center became less frequent and events centered Yet these visits to Florida are reached at bjields@cox. net. stood up and applauded as the new president take the oath of office; a mother hugged her Letters to the Editor young son. It was indeed a special moment to be an American. Great Ramah story A call to fight poverty "To those who cling to power REAT STORY in Yhe Voice & MAGINE THE DOMINANT first day of the 2009 legislative session. through corruption and deceit GHerald ("Camp Ramah: one big Isound of the shofar echoing through Imagine a rabbi, a priest, a minister, an and the silencing of dissent, know Jewish community," Yhe Voice & Herald, the state house rotunda, to ·call people imam, a swami and a leader of the Ba'hia that you are on the wrong side Dec. 26) about the marvelous Marwil to assembly for an Interfaith Prayer community standing together in their of history," President Obama marriage! Vigil to fight poverty with faith on the said in his inaugural address. See CALL, Page 6 The list of untruths told by the Barbara Schoenfeld Bush administration is enormous Providence - -intentional lies, bald-faced deceptions and carefully parsed ·Bridal vendor earns raves distortions. There were the lies about torture at Abu Ghraib, the SEVERAL MONTHS AGO, I secret renditions, the !fistorted started looking for outfits for my rationale for invading Iraq, the son's upcoming bar mitzvah. As a death of Pat Tillman, political former resident of New York City before hirings and firings at the Justice moving to Rhode Island, I thought I Department, denials about the might have to go to New York to find threat of global warming and the something both stylish and modest, as inept federal response to New I am an Orthodox Jewish woman. Orleans after the hurricane. I was pleasantly surprised when I It's not just that such lies were entered Bridal and Gift in South Attle­ told; laws may have been know­ boro, Mass. They had a reasonable selec­ ingly flaunted and broken. Is tion of elegant and modest long dresses. I Congress willing to prosecute all actually bought two outfits - one to wear the perjurers who lied under oath? at the synagogue and one for the recep­ This is not about politics; it tion. They carry good quality and reason­ is about telling the truth, aboµt ably priced merchandise, and the service is valuing honesty. As Jews, we are outstanding. I highly recommend anyone · all too familiar historically with looking for an outfit for a special simcha SARA HALPER OF PROVIDENCE sent The Voice & Herald this cartoon, which the way that lies are told about us, to go see Linda at Bridal and Gift. she had received from a friend in London, England. "It honestly illustrates the current situation between Harnas and Israel. There is so much anti-Israel feel­ and facts are twisted, from Harnan Regina Schild ing in America today - let's set the record straight." The cartoon, drawn by See HONESTY, Page 6 Providence Gary Varvel of the The Indianapolis Star, is reprinted with permission. ,....-=::: ·- -·--:c..:-= ====-~=- - ~ --

- •l ~I~ It•U.. Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 5 FROM THE OLD OLIVETTI A 'two-state solution' is no solution for Israel History shows that a natural frontiers other than bad doctor. Poor Goldstein, arated by India, its enemy; the the new 1939 Poland. The plan the unnatural security fence alone in hell with 500 Ahmeds. area that became Bangladesh presupposes people of good will nation divided is a separating the West Bank Well, it serves him right. was untenable. It declared its on both sides. Who amongst from Israel to prevent dissatis­ Gaza as part of this proposed independence and is untenable you trusts Hamas or Hezbollah lesser entity fied jihadists or other fanatics Palestinian state, separated still. Look to Poland which, not to try for a one-state Arab HAVE FRIENDS (yes, from crossing it and blowing by Israel from the West Bank following the Great W ar, solution? Seeing no hands, we'll even I). Many, probably up (insert here the name of by about 25 miles, means that separated the bulk of Germany proceed. lhe only historical I most, of these friends a civilian meeting,plfu:e - a Palestine would surround Israel in the west from East Prussia to model I can think of where a believe that the best way bus, a sidewall

IT SEEMS To ME Shalom! Salaam! Processing the pain of Gaza An answer to the State oflsrael had the right said, they could well have made Jews during the Holocaust. carefully to these words from the - indeed, the obligation - to common cause with our long­ This is the very same Susanne Gospel ofLuke : "How can you say Israels accusers defend its citizens from the esca­ ing to end the strife in Gaza. H oder who wrote in a Provi­ to your neighbor, 'let me take lating barrage of Hamas rockets, Unfortunately, there are dence Journal op-ed column way out the speck in your eye,' when OM WHERE I was there was also a felt need to those in our Rhode Island back on July 6, 2003: "Many you yourself do not see the log in eated on the bima in acknowledge the suffering of community and, even more believe Israel's actions amount to your own eye? You hypocrite!" Rhe sanctuary of Temple innocent civilians in G aza. unfortunately, there are many gradual ethnic cleansing . .. Four The lessons arising out of the manu-El on Sunday Our collective prayers were millions throughout the world million refugees are asked to war in Gaza will not come easily, evening, Jan. 4, there appeared motivated both by our profound who are using the crisis in Gaza accept the fact that any person if at all. My own sad assess­ to be at least 200 individuals sit­ sadness at the loss of so much as one more opportunity to in the world with a Jewish ment of this painful situation is ting in the pews. We had gath­ blood and grandparent that at best the Israeli incursion ered together for "A Community by our ------may settle into Gaza may, perhaps, buy Service for equally "Had they joined us in the sanctuary and in Israel some time. Perhaps, as some Israel Solidar­ profound -while the have soberly suggested, war is ity," organized hope for a witnessed what was being said and - perhaps refugees diplomacy "by other means." on short notice ceasefi~e even more importantly - what was being whose Nevertheless, I find it impos­ byJFRI's that would not homes these sible to believe that there can Community result in said, they could well have made common cause Israelis ever be a military solution to Relations a just and with our longing to end the strife in Gaza~" occupy the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Council in a lasting cannot Ultimately, only diplomacy can response to the peace. ------return." bring a just and a lasting peace. crisis in Gaza. As Accord­ I hope that President Obama RabbiJim What struck the service for Israel solidar­ de-legitimize Israel, one more ing to all too many, then, Israel will take the Israel-Palestine Rosenberg me throughout ity was proceeding inside, excuse to call for the destruc­ is guilty of genocide, of ethnic conflict off the back burner, the hour-long about 35 individuals out- tion of the Jewish state. cleansing, of being today's where President Bush has per­ program of side in the cold on Morris For example, shortly after embodiment of Nazism. I mitted it to simmer for the past prayer, brief speeches, selected Avenue were demonstrating Israel began its bombing of will admit that Israel is not a eight years, and in his first days readings, and song was the for peace and against war. Gaza in response to Hamas' perfect state, nor is any Israeli of office send a top-level envoy tone - a tone of quiet reflec­ Upon leaving the building indiscriminate rocketing of a perfect individual. Never­ to help broker an agreement that tion, of resolute serenity. at the conclusion of the pro­ Israeli citizens, a group iden­ theless, compared to other will at last give the region what I sensed an unspoken, gram, I heard them singing, tifying itself as The Justice nation states, particularly in it wants and it needs: peace. but almost palpable, effort "We Shall Overcome." Several First Foundation paid for an comparison with the other In the words of the con­ to hold our surging feel- policemen stood between "us" ad, which appeared in - of all nation states in her very tough cluding song at our com­ ings in check in the face of and "them"; in all honesty, the places - the Lifebeat section of neighborhood, Israel has every munity service for Israel the immense human tragedy demonstrators did not appear to The Providence Journal, accusing reason to hold her head high. solidarity: Shalom! Salaam! unfolding 6,000 miles away. be looking for a confrontation. Israel of"Genocide in Gaza." To Israel's accusers, to all There was not a hint of As a matter of fact, had they In an op-ed piece in The those who would distort the Rabbi James B. Ros~nberg war-mongering, no hint of joined us in the sanctuary and ProvidencejournalonJan. 8, complex reality in and around can be reached at rabbiemeri­ "My Isra!!l, Right or Wrong." witnessed what was being said Susanne Hoder compared Gaza with a witch's brew of tus@templehabo'nim.org ,,. r, •• -•' - ~ - - -.l • - \..,,. ,. ..,. 1 - ---1.. --- .....,,...... ,..,....,"' ;mnnr- Israel's actions in Gaza to truth, half-truth, and slander- PAGE 6 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 ______. -•1~1~it•1~-- NOT ALONE Financial wealth no guarantee of personal happiness, success thus wealthy, and many folks org/asp). (AishDas is a unique obvious answer is the person move. The Torah way of life Life's journey must with an abundance of money word-construction in Deuteron­ on the 10th rung is higher. But is one of growth and move­ hold meaning and are miserable and thus poor. omy and combines Aish, fire (of perhaps it is a trick question ment, and Shammai refused Indeed, the accumulation of faith), with Das, the law. Rabbi and the higher person is on the to teach it to the proselyte so challenge money and possessions can Berger suggests we understand lower rung? The actual answer long as he insisted on staying develop into an ever-growing one's "lot" not as one's present is that it depends - it depends in one place and not growing. hunger impossible to satiate. condition, as the s um of one's N THE FOURTH upon which direction the two Taken together, these three However, there remains a possessions and situations, but chapter of Pirkei Avot, people are moving. A person insights all present a similar problem with this formulation. rather as one's path in life. Ithe great compendium of on the fourth rung climbing up message about the value of If I ought to be happy with my It's the journey that's impor­ Jewish ethical teachings is higher than a person on the growth, of traveling a path in lot, then what motivation is tant. One is wealthy ifhe or she 10th rung on the way down. opening up the Mishnah, Ben life. There is thus no contradic­ there to change it? If we should Zoma asks, "Who is wealthy?" is happy with his or her path, I recently read a striking inter­ tion between being happy with be happy regardless of what we In the current storm of a his or her journey in life, if the pretation of a famous anecdote one's portion and seeking to have or what our lives, financial crisis, perhaps this is from the Talmud. A improve one's situation at the communities, and worlds a question worth posing. potential convert comes same time. I know this lesson are like, then we ought "Poverty is finding oneself on Ben Zoma to Shammai, one of the is valuable to me. I think it never to seek to change famously an unfulfilling journey, one great rabbinic figures, and may be of some value not only anything. Indeed, we answers that asks him to teach him on an individual level, but also might suppose we should lacking in meaning, or finding all of the Torah while he the wealthy on an institutional level, as we maintain happiness and individual is oneself not moving at all." stands on one foot. Sham­ try to steer our synagogues, inertia even in abusive sit­ the person mai pushes him away. schools, and communities on uations. Yet it is evident to The individual next goes happy with paths of fulfillment, happiness, us that there is so much to to Hillel, who agrees to and financial security. And one's portion person is growing and accom­ change, whether improving our convert him, telling him, "What fin ally, as the Obama admin­ in life. The plishing, is fulfilling some sense character or advancing in one's is hateful to you, to your fellow istration takes the helm of answer makes of mission. Poverty, in this sense, Alan career or fi ghting again st injus­ man do not do this. This is the government this week, into the a certain sense, is finding oneself on an unful­ tice or becoming a better parent entire Torah, all ofit; and the economic tempest, I have high Krinsky yet I have filling journey, one lacking in or getting out of an abusive rela­ rest, it is commentary." The sur­ hopes and high expectations long found meaning, or finding oneself not tionship. H appiness with one's face reading is to fau lt Shammai that the path our nation now it problematic. moving at all , stuck in one place. portion would appea r to encour­ fo r not having the patience to takes wi ll be one that makes We usually conceive of wealth This understanding aligns age indifference or laziness. encourage the potential convert, us wealthy in many ways. as financial riches. When we with a couple of other thoughts I recently came across an but I came acro ss a new take on Freelance writer Alan Krinsky think about it, however, Ben from Jewish tradition. Rabbi answer that resolves this prob­ this recently. Shammai was not works in healthcare quality Zoma's answer is sensible, Berger also recalls the question lem. Rabbi Micha Berger, rejecting the questioner because improvement. He can be reached even obvious: material wealth asked by the Hasidic Kotzker a fo under of a group called of the demand to summarize a at [email protected]. does not equate with happi­ Rebbe: who is higher, a person AishDas (www.aishdas.org), rich tradition, but rather saying ness. Many financially poor on the 10th rung of a ladder or explored the issue on his blog, that to stand on one foot is to people are quite happy and the person on the fourth? The Aspaqlaria (www.aishdas. stay rooted in one place, not to

JERUSALEM: more than a city with routine municipal issues From Page 4 The Jordanians got the holy Gaza. The offer was rejected. that might work. Read about University in Bristol. He can places until Israel conquered The second intifada erupted. it in my next colu mn. be reached [email protected]. Jar city is JERUSALEM, for God's sake! When the United it in 1967. In the 2000 near- A hopeless situation? W ell, peace agreement brokered by maybe, but I have a solution j osh Stein is a professor of Nations partitioned Palestine, President Clinton, Ehud· Barak history at R oger Williams Jerusalem was designated an offered Palestinians control over international city. When the British withdrew, the Jorda­ East Jerusalem, including most of the Old City and "Religious nians tried to grab it; the Jews Letter to the Editor fought to keep the road to it Sovereignty" over the Temple Mount, and the West Bank and INTERFAITH: community brings message to Statehouse open, and the city was divided. From Page 4 vigil to more than 300 people having a special service assembled on the rotunda steps! with our elected officials clerical attire to issue As an advocate for social in attendance with a full HONESTY: Courage to stand up prayers for our elected justice for our community for house of congregational for the truth officials to use compas­ many years, these memories are support to call for an end sionate and wisdom some of my most powerful. to poverty in our state. From Page 4 risk falling out of favor? in creating programs :' The Rhode Island Interfaith As I gazed among the to Hitler to Hamas. And, President Obama promises and a budget that does Coalition's mission is to fight crowd during the vigil and America a new, optimistic we know the importance of not cut services for poverty with faith. The coali­ saw many of our Jewish lead­ idealism. But as the Rev. standing up and fighting back those most in need. tion believes that by working ers in attendance, I began to Martin Luther King, Jr., said against such distortions. Imagine being sur­ with our local, state and nation­ imagine and see our Jewish so well, all change begins on The question is: How rounded by more than 20 ally elected officials and with community; our synagogues the inside. As we celebrate should we, as Jews, respond clergy of various faiths the people of Rhode Island, we and various organizations when someone - a business King's birthday and the who read the names of can achieve our goal of cutting join the fight to combat inauguration of the nation's · owner, a college president, a virtually all of the Rhode poverty in half in 10 years. poverty so that "there shall first African-American community leader - shakes Island elected officials As I stood with leaders of the be no needy among you." our hand, looks us in the president, we need to look including legislators, our faith community, I thought of After the vigil, I realized to ourselves to be honest in eye, makes an agreement, state officials, congressio­ our next step in fighting pov­ that the prayers spoken from our own dealings, and to and is not telling the truth? nal officials and mayors. erty: to ask all our houses of the heart were not just a call have the courage and convic­ Do we blow the whistle? Imagine how honored worship to invite their locally for our elected officials in tion to stand up for what we Or do we ignore the trans­ and humbled I felt as I elected officials to a service to Rhode Island to fight poverty believe in. To quote the Rev. gression, look the other made the opening remarks pray for them to govern with with faith, but a call for all of Joseph Lowery, "Let all who way and_pretend it never at the Rhode Island Inter­ wisdom and compassion. us to fi ght poverty with faith. do justice and love mercy happened, so as not to faith Coalition's prayer I dreamed of synagogues, say, amen, and say, amen." Maxine Richman offend the powerful or like the one to which I belong, Barrington ..

..Uriit•1~~ ~ ------Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 7 OBAMA: A time to do a little 'kvelling' From Page 1 "Not just that we elected events, the headliner being ing Obama's "absolute passion the Anti-Defamation League's Barack Obama, but that their the bash attended by Axel- fo r human decency," while president in U.S. history, but Washington counsel, counted son will be 20 feet from the rod Monday night. The event, calling the new president "a the ongoing ceremonies were seven of ):us former summer Oval Office, and have a chief a reception at the Capital friend to the Jewish people." punctuated by several Jewish interns in the crowd (includ­ of staff named Rahm Emau­ Hilton in downtown D.C., was Wiesel has high expectations moments, wrinkles and parties. ing a JTA correspondent). nel," Axelrod said to cheers. sponsored by nine organiza­ for the new commander in chie( Barack Obama's supporters One ofObama's pitchmen to Obama has surrounded himself tions - the National Jewish He said he was "convinced" said it was a historic week for the Jewish community during the with several key Jewish advis- Democratic Council, the that Obama "will bring an end all Americans, and especially campaign was Tony Lake, the ers, but no rabbis were tapped to United Jewish Communities, Jewish ones, to take pride in. to the tragedy in Darfur" and Clinton administration national give prayers at the inauguration, the American Jewish Com­ The sentiment was captured utilize "his energy and passion" secu rity advi~er who, in recent as Obama followed in the path mittee, the Conference of by David Axelrod, a newly to bring about "peace in the years, had converted to Judaism. of several of his recent predeces- Presidents of M ajor American appointed White House senior Middle East." The Nobe] laureate Lake's 'Jew by choice for Obama" sors in turning adviser and President Obama's added that Obama's stump speech was a poignant way to Protestant longtime strategic guru, during election makes him fo r an old foreign policy hand clergymen. But an appearance at the Jewish "My father and grandparents weren't think that his son to make the pro-Israel case for a three rabbis - one Community Inaugural Recep­ and daughter will greenhorn senator from Illinois. Reform (David just looking for a place of safety, they one day be "celebrat­ tion held the night before Lake all but disappeared Saperstein), one ing the first Jewish Tuesday's midday inauguration. were looking for a place of prom­ after the campaign. He made a Conservative president of the U.S." Axelrod, who until recently reappearance Monday night, not Oerome Epstein), ise and opportunity. America was Actress Debra has been shy about talking about at Washington's main Jewish one Orthodox Winger, who his Jewishness, told the crowd that beacon." event, but at the Arab American (Haskel Look- of 800 that he was there "to campaigned for Institute dinner eight blocks stein) - were slated Obama in Virginia do a little kvel!ing," and then David Axelrod away. Institute president Jim to offer prayers this fall, kept her spoke movingly about feeling Zogby warmly praised Lake's at a Wednesday remarks very brief, a rush of gratification when he Jewish Organizations, AIPAC, insights as a foreign policy heavy service, a move that left some saying she hoped "all our saw Jews voting for Obama in NCSJ: Advocates on Behalf of at a time when American Jews observers impressed with the prayers are answered." overwhelming numbers. Axel­ Jews in Russia, Ukraine, the and Arabs routinely worked Obama team's attention to the A short speech was a wise together to try and make the rod also reached back into his . Baltic States & Eurasia, and the nuances ofJewi sh communal life. decision because the excite­ own family story to illustrate the Jewish federations of New York, Oslo peace process work. But the inaugural was not with­ ment in the room meant many "promise" of Obama's election. Chicago and Washington. Israel, the Palestinians, the out Jewish flourishes: During his partygoers wanted to chat more Recalling how his father and It was not an official inaugural Irish - they all got the Bono invocation, Pastor Rick Warren than listen to speeches. U.S. shout-out at the inaugura- grandparents fled Bessarabia event, but organizers said that recited (in English) the opening Sen. Frank Lautenberg (D-N.J.) tion festivities on Monday. after their home was blown prominent Obama supporters declaration of the Sh'ema prayer. twice had to ask the crowd to Martin Luther King's dream, up in the pogroms, Axelrod encouraged Jewish communal . In addition, one of California's quiet down during his remarks, Bono declared from the Lin­ said they "weren't just look- leaders to follow the lead of other two Jewish senators - Demo­ and it took a very loud demand coln Memorial where King ing for a place of safety, they ethnic groups by privately spon­ crat Dianne Feinstein - served by someone in the crowd to first described it, was "not just were looking for a place of soring such a gathering. as the emcee and ltzhak Perl­ "You were a1J shareholders," fi nilly achieve silence for Wiesel an American dream - also an promise and opportunity." man took part in an ensemble - as well as for Axelrod. Irish dream, a European dream, "They were drawn to America Axelrod said, and "you're going performance shortly before The hall was filled with rabbis, African dream, Israeli dream - America was that beacon," to be our partners as we move the swearing-in ceremony. Jewish leaders and virtually and also" - dramatic pause - "a he said, and the inaugura­ forward and try to fulfill the The lead-up to the inaugura­ all of"officialJewish W ash­ Palestinian dream!" tion "would have been a great commitments we have made." tion was packed with Jewish ington." Michael Lieberman, affirmation of that" idea. Elie Wiesel also spoke, prais-

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PAGE 8 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 ■ ~=I •l =litd it•H ■ A change for the better I I Revitalized outreach the Jewish community with The Shalom it , a goody bag and a VISlt, and Committee is l and engagement Shalom Rhode Island, which not only work­ welcomes newcomers to the ing to provide programs greater Rhode Island area, programming Shalom Playgroup is designed opportunities Bv DEBORAH FINEBLUM RAUB to welcome and •involve new- to families, Special to The Voice & Herald comers and young families but is also HIS FALL, a group of into Jewish communal life. developing a "There is a new excitement "concierge" :, T Jewish kids and their moms came together around the "Shalom" programs service model for the first time at a farm in and the proof is the enthusi­ to connect Seekonk to harvest carrots, pick asm of the participants," said Jewish Rhode pumpkins, enjoy a hayride and Wendy Joering, director of out­ Islanders to the get to know each other. And, reach and engagement at JFRI. programs and since money was collected for a What's new and different, Joer- services they ~ Jewish Family ing says, is what want, whether I Service pro­ "We all benefit when goes on behind it's advice on I the scenes. where to buy I gram designed (I to help feed people feel welcome "JFRI has a great bar/bat ! local needy and included." called for ~ore Mitzvah gift i families, the collaborat,on or the options i' day's fun also and partner­ for Jewish came with a Wendy Joeri ng ships in the educational message of community, programs in tzedakah and with a special East Bay. tikkun olam emphasis on All of the - the centuries-old Jewish Jewish engagement," Joer­ "Shalom" pro­ values of sharing with those ing explains. "Behind the grams provide in need and repairing the scenes, agencies and syna­ opportunities world - and represented a gogues are sharing informa­ for individuals modern way of evoking agri­ tion and partnering to reach and families to cultural laws during Sukkot. out to engage more people." connect with This special day was made Who benefits? "That's easy," each other and possible by Shalom Playgroup, Joering volunteers with a smile, build their Photo courtesy of Shalom Playgroup, JFRI one of the Jewish Federa- "we all benefit when people own commu­ MARISA GARBER and her daughter Tessa attended a Shalom Playgroup at .Four tion of Rhode Island's QFRI) feel welcome and included." nity. lo addi­ Town Farm in Seekonk, Mass. late in 2008. programs that reach out to The network of"Shalom" tion, they also children, explains that she got pass it along to my kids." programs is largely a volunteer provide a key entry point for involved with Shalom Play­ Next up for youngfamilies: ,1 young families in the area. Along with Shalom Baby, effort of the Shalom Com­ those looking to get more group because, "I want my A Shabbat dinner on Jan. 30, which welcomes newborns to mittee, co-chaired by Karyn involved in Jewish life. Hill, children to have a Jewish iden­ co-sponsored by Shalom Play­ Hill and Amanda Isenberg. the mother of three young tity and want them exposed to group, along with The Network, other Jewish people in cultural JFRI's Young Leadership Divi­ events and for the holidays." sion, the/CC, Mothers Circle Community Shabbat Dinner She adds that, "I've and Pf Library. To reserve felt very welcomed and your place, contact Wendy at for Young Families included, and I'm glad to 421-4111, ext. 169, or e-mail have the opportunity to her at: [email protected]. with Ziv Assor and Zohar Bromberg, greater Rhode Island's Israeli Young Emissaries

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wjoeri [email protected] Photo courtesy of BJE/RI TU B'SHEVAT TRAINING On Jan. 12, 20 educators, representing seven area schools, t=... participated in an interactive workshop on the teaching of •l This e11ent Is ro--sponscft!d by Shalom Rhode 15111:n.d 1111.d Ellk4f Ill Tu B'Shvat, focusing on the Jewish calendar, observance of T11e Netwod:: The~ l.eadienNp OW!sibn of the .t>ewl!.'h Tu b'Shevat, preserving the Earth and the blessing of the Federation of Rtiode Island, ~ Chde and PJ Library, www.JFRl.orJ sun. Hadas Sommers, educational services consultant, pre• pl'08nllR'IS of the °"1reaiu of .tewlsh £ducation of R.tlOde Island, sented the workshop at the Bureau of Jewish Education Ii 8ff1d the Jewtsh Community Cenliet' of Rhode l!ilimd ot" Rhode Island. ■ a~ t] =iiEi it•l ~ ■ Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 9 Strategic planning and community visioning Q&A with ]FRI month, we feature a conversation economic situation developed. programs meet critical com- later this spring, the task fo rce with M s. Feinberg in which she The new vision and strategy munity priorities, could see an will make recommendations fo r President Doris addresses some ofth e most common were approved las t June, after a increase in their funding. In a service provision structure that questions about Federation's current lengthy planni ng process. But short, though, all agencies are will maximize resources and Feinberg strategic planning and community the current state of the economy embarking on this transition help the communjty to realize v isioning process. She will address is accelerating our work, and it together as we match identi- the vision of the Consolidated Editor's Note: Each month, more questions in.future columns. means worki ng collaboratively fi ed priorities with spending. Plan. Their aim is to transfo rm Doris Feinberg, the president of and effectively is more important The Community D evelop- the community structure to theJ ewish Federation ofRh ode Why is the community going than ever. We must think ca re- ment Committee, tas ked with most efficiently, effectively and Island, uses this space to inform through this process now? Is it fu lly about where every dollar determining which programs collaborati vely assess, anticipate you about what is happening with because of the economic crisis? goes, to make sure we get as will meet identified priorities, and respond to the needs of the the Federation, the programs it These plans have been under­ much value fo r the community will makes its recommendations Jewish community. In the end, supports, and the community. 7his way since before the current as possible when we spend its to the J FRJ Board in the spring, we expect to have an innova­ money. Because funds wi ll be and with their approval, we will ti ve constituent-centric program very tight this yea r, we will have begin the process of allocating and service model designed to to make some difficu lt deci- funds for the next fi scal yea r. improve quality and impact. It's an opportunity to give sions to make sure that the most essential services are preserved. Who is involved, and how How will the Jewish com­ back to the community are decisions being made? munity look (or be different) What is the new fund­ We are blessed to have the when the process is complete? BvCLAIREM. ROCHE tions to the Jewish com­ ing and allocation system talents of sma rt, capable people We will be a much more [email protected] munity. The answer to all I keep hearing about? who are devoted to this commu­ vibrant community. We will those questions is: Hineni. BEGAN THINKING Even before the economic ni ty. The restructuring process be bold and creative. We will Here I am in the most about what "Hineni, crisis, community leaders real­ is being led by two groups: be able to put our resources practical sense. As a profes­ here I am," means to ized we had to make better use The Commu njty D evelop­ into the kinds of exciting and I sional, it's in my own interest me last summer when of our resources. That's why we ment Committee (CDC), is led needed programs and services and that of my colleagues I was asked to assist the will, fo r the first time, be start­ by Richard Licht. Through a that embrace and enhance that both the Bureau, a ben­ Jewish Federation of Rhode ing to fund specifi c programs, series of sub-committees, the Jewish life. Our community eficiary of the JFRI Annual Island OFR1) in prepar- not agencies. The Consolidated CDC is looking at every aspect will appeal to young Jewish Community Campaign, and ing the materials for the Plan fo r the Jewish Community of communal life, speaking with adults; they will want to stay the Federation succeed in 2009 Annual Community has already identified com­ consumers and providers to in the community and build a their fund-raising efforts. On Campaign. Today, I'm still munity priorities, and we will ascertain the relative importance Jewish life here. In my vision a much more personal level, reflecting on this single seek to eliminate duplication of each program in the Jewish of the future, the Rhode Island however, I know what gets Hebrew word. in services. We are undergoing life of Rhode Island. Thei r Jewish community will be accomplished So, here I am, a thorough review process to fact-fi nding will determine each a national model fo r a deep, because of the enriching and full Jewish li fe a person who ensure that essential programs program's priority fo r funding. Hineni contributions where everyone - youngsters to is not a Jew, will continue to have sup- There is also a task force, made to the chaired by past Federation seniors - all feel supported and about to mark port to carry out their work. Federation. president Mark Fei nstein, which embraced and where Jewish life 12 years of We will not be funding ., I've seen agencies nor will history or is examining the Jewish com­ is an anchor for all that we do. working in the the impact of munity's cu rrent organ izational greater Rhode trad ition determine what we the programs structure. When its work is done Island Jewish fund. Some agencies, if their and services community. the Federation In February Here I am. supports, on New model for PJ Library members 1997, I began the ground here in Rhode a part-time administrative Bv N ICOLE KATZMAN Island, in Poland, and in position at the Bureau of [email protected] Israel. I have witnessed the Jewish E ducation of Rhode transformation ofJ ewish INCE ITS INCEPTION Island (BJE/RI), where I teenagers as they claim their Sa few years ago, The PJ thought I might remain Jewish identity in ways they Library- a project of the fo r a couple of years. never imagined. I have seen H arold G rinspoon Foundation But, despite the fact that our Israeli Young Emissaries - has grown by leaps and bounds. I am not Jewish, other make Israel a three-dimen­ Nationally 40,000 children in opportunities at the Bureau sional place for members of more than 100 communities have been offered to me: to the Jewish community, and receive PJ Library books and serve as an edu~ator working bring it into existence for benefit from local programs. with the teens at the Harry students in Rhode Island In Rhode Island, 810 children Elkin Midrasha Community public schools. I've also witc in 650 families are currently High School; to work as nessed the tears of gratitude enrolled in The PJ Library, the mentor and coordinator A RECENT EVENT at Barrington Books, which has partnered with and relief in the eyes of a few with more than 100 opportuni­ of the Israeli Young Emis­ PJ Library. members of the Jewish com­ ties to participate in PJ Library saries for three years; to story times and. programs munity when they discovered the free books and music each are readingJewish stories participate in and now lead at schools, synagogues and that they would, in fact, have child receives each year from the to Jewish chlldren, building the New England Region organizations throughout the enough to eat with the help of PJ Library is more than $100. stronger families and deepen­ of the March of the Living; greater Rhode Island region. the JFRI Annual Campaign. ing Jewish identity. Here in and most recently, to work Now, with the support of the Renewal fees received by PJ How could I not give my Library prior to the announce­ -greater Rhode Island, this means directly with JFRI to sup­ Jewish Federation of Rhode support? That I am not Jewish ment ofGrinspoon's new model that the Jewish community is port the community vision. Island OFRJ), the Rhode I sland, does not enter into my con­ will be retained as donations to making a meaningful invest­ I've also been provided the Friends of PJ Library, and the sideration. I share the values the program. New contributions ment in our chlldren's future. opportunity to give back to Grinspoon Foundation, enroll­ that guide the Federation to PJ Library are welcome at any the community. I've been ment in PJ Library will be and this community, and so time to help support the program. For more information on the ·p; asked many times over the free of charge for six years. I declare: Hineni, here I am. 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The actual value of PAGE 10 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 COMMUNITY GREEN: Faith can light the way for environmental change It's Tax Time! ~·· From Page 1 can undertake to help to 'green' ronmental reform, as a forum . r old house of worship: Savings our world". for people to learn and uphold - ~.. 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Pro-Israel this way, is that I'm overwhelmed while the Israel Defense Forces On sites such as Facebook, on social networking Web sites, users are being encouraged to by requests to express my sup­ has established its own chan- "everyone has hundreds, some­ respond to online opinion polling change their profile pictures to port for Israel by joining every nel on the video-sharing site tinles 1,000 friends - Jewish, and try to alter the tenor of dis­ "I Love Israel" and don~their possible group on Facebook. I YouTube. The channel features non-Jewish, Israel supporter cussions in Internet chat rooms. "status update" to keep track get six to eight of them a day. aerial video shot from Israeli and non-Israel supporter," said The group also has launched a of the terrorist rockets land- "And it's not like the groups warplanes showing the destruc­ Dickson ofStandWithUs. "You Web site, HelpUsWin.org, that ing in southern Israel. Some are mobilizi ng towards anything. tion of suspected H amas targets. post up a video that, in less than provides Hnks to pubHc opin- 1,200 users are Hsted as "fans" It's just an expression - I'm for "Since the definition of war a minute, can portray what it's ion polls on the conflict, online of the rocket appHcation, which the war, I'm against the war. For has changed, the definition of like to Hve in Sderot right now. articles in need of response and automatically updates whenever me, joining a group is not neces­ public diplomacy has to change as "Suddenly you have a whole ideas to integrate pro-Israel sym­ a rocket lands in southern Israel. sarily a helpfuI show of support well," David Saranga, the media group of people that under­ bols with profiles on sites such as In Los Angeles, the Israeli for peace or against violence." and public affairs consul in New stands Israel's position and Facebook. It also features pictures Leadership Council , an Israeli­ The effort comes as Israel, con­ York, told 7he New York Times. why Israel needed to act." and videos that highHght Hamas' American community g roup, stantly at pains to explain itself ll1e quick organization of indoctrination of children and has lau nched a number of online to the world, has itself utilized dozens of rallies across the the humanity oflsraeH soldiers. initiatives to press Israel's case. "We're trying to dictate the Among them arc the W eb sites Net agenda as well as respond Live4Sderot.org, which raises Leaders invoke King's legacy, laud Obama to it," Michael Dickson, the money and awareness for the Bv NANCY K1Rsc1-1 Mayor Allan Fung - invoked agent for change. Change director of the StandWithUs citizens oflsrael's embattled nkirsch@jjri. org Barack Obama's name at least will begin with us." Then office in Israel, toldJTA. southern frontier, and Tzav8.org, as often as they did King's. came the second ovation. V EYNOTE SPEAKER Much of the online activ­ which encourages Israeli Ameri­ The predominantly African­ The speakers do not believe ~ ev. Dr. Carl Balark, ity related to the Israel-Hamas ca ns to register fo r notification of Ameri can audience frequently that the struggles for equal­ Jr., the pastor at Providence's battle in Gaza centers around pro-Israel events. The site's title is interspersed Balark's com­ ity are finished, even with the Ebenezer Baptist Church, Facebook, the hugely popular a reference to the order that calls ments with "'a mens" and "yes, election of Barack Obama, earned two standing ovations networking site that has seen a up Israeli reservists in wartime. brothers," a familiar rhythm though each celebrated this from the interfaith crowd of Even the larger, more estab­ to sermons in many Afri­ historic, life-changing event. some 400 individuals at the lished Jewish groups are trying to can-American churches. Speakers addressed the need 'Green Beanie' 26th annual Dr. Martin Luther influence the digital discussion. "Tomorrow, Barack O bama fo r unity in these challenging King, Jr., scholarship breakfast awards The Anti-Defamation League will enter the White H ouse, times. Referencing the politi­ on Jan. 19. Sponsored by The has launched an Israel defense a house built on the backs cal firestorm he's generated NEW YORK-The JTA Ministers Alliance of Rhode page on Facebook that has of slaves," Balark thundered. around the Medicaid waiver Island, the event was held at (a wire news service for attracted nearly 2,000 members. The old people, who sacri­ and the state's budget deficit Rhodes on the Pawtuxet. Jewish media) announces The ADL also has made posters ficed fo r their children and - of more than $330 million Balark and the other speak­ the first annual Green available for download in what grandchildren, can lay down - Governor Carcieri got a ers - including Rabbi Alan Beanie Awards, a it hopes will spark a "viral media in peace tomorrow, he con­ polite laugh when he said, "I Flam (who read briefly from competition to find the campaign" on Israel's behalf. tinued. That earned Balark need some love. I need some Amos), Gov. D onald Carcieri, most innovative green "I think it's certainly pos- his first standing ovation. money, too, if anyone has any." Deborah Smith (who works initiatives at Jewish orga­ sible to influence younger Jews "Barack Obama is not Event proceeds were for G ov. Carcieri), Rep. Pat­ nizations and synagogues using social media. I think that's the Messiah," Balark cau­ awarded to 25 students for rick Kennedy, and Cranston around the globe. a correct instinct," said Esther tioned, "but he is God's academic scholarships. Submissions can be made online until Friday, Jan. 23, at jta. org/greenbeanie. Provide Beauti/uf ;be.sign :Jlv,t WoJ.s a few paragraphs on the initiative, and also include, if you wish, links to photos or video. Contest judges are: Nigel Savage and Bar­ bara Lerman-Golomb from Hazon, Nina Beth Cardin from the Coali­ tion for the Environ­ ment and Jewish Life, and Adam Berman from the Isabella Freedman Jewish Retreat Center. The top 10 initiatives will be featured in Eco Jews: Traditions and Trends in Jewish Environmen­ Patricia M. Herron talism, a special section Faye L. Silverman onJTA.org beginning Feb. 1 in celebration of Silverman McGovern Staffing Tu B'Shevat. 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This is not women from that era, as well as trade the Christmas tree for your mother's fe minism. examples of writing. These pas­ women in Vienna at the menorah, Rose bridges Rose lavishes attention sages allow the reader to "hear" turn of19th century time to make history relevant on individual cases which the voices of women which to those concerned with illuminate the opportunities otherwise might be forgotten. Jewish identity and gender. and obstacles newly-eman­ This book's pre-war fo cus MARCY BRINK-DANAN She begins by describing cipated Jewish women faced aLlows us to vividly picture the Special to The Voice & Herald Jewish girls' efforts to fit iri academia, in poli ti cs , as social setting which preceded in among Catholic peers. doctors, psychoa nalysts, the tragedy of the Holocaust: ENMY By separating Jewish girls philanthropists and artists. a ri ch landscape of emancipa­ ddler, Ari, out during religion classes, One memorable fi gure, tion anc\ civic participation W ked if the teachers reminded them Toni Stopler, took up her against which to better mea­ Christmas of their difference, despite studies just as women began sure what was lost. Likewise, man" was coming to our the fact that the assimilated entering the university. In Rose's historical account holds house, I felt obliged to pupils had little knowledge her memoirs, however, she up a mirror against which teach him about difference. ofJewish tradition. recalls receiving a letter from to measure our difference as I immediately deployed They thus became aware her professor indicating that women and Jews today. an arsenal of our Jewish of difference as a penalty she need not attend "sensi­ In what ways are Provi­ .family memories - baking rather than as a pleasure . tive" lectures on rape and dence's Jewish women like . challah for Shabbat, lighting IfJewish boys encountered other violent crimes. Her Adelheid Popp, whose fac­ Hanukkah candles, reading anti-Semitism in Viennese Portrait of Toni Stapler, 1924, discouragement, and the fact tory work made her a cham­ PJ Library books - to deflect schools, their sisters experi­ from Alison Rose's book, Jewish that women were not accepted pion of the working poor? his Christmas envy. In another enced a doubled identity crisis: Women in Fin de Siecle Vienna to the faculty of law until after Are we sympathetic to conversation, Ari casually should they be Austrians, or tion of confirmation ceremonies the 1920s, led her to give up Viennese women who felt exclaimed (to my horror),"Girls Jews? Mothers, or workers? for Jewish girls, we learn how hopes of becoming a lawyer. themselves to be "Jews, but in . are pretty; boys are smart!" Based on two decades of divided opinions on this ritual A chapter on literature and the first place Austrians?" c.' How do I teach Ari about library and archival research in mirrored conflicting ideals for culture focu ses on represen­ Or do we gravitate toward difference while respecting Austria, Israel and the United women: should their beauty be tations ofJewish women in others who argued that · :others' traditions? How do I States, Rose, an adjunct assis­ paraded in the temple? Should the arts scene as well as their youth needed Zionism to . explain feminism to a three­ tant professor of history at URI, they know the "Shema ?" Should contributions to it. Western re-kindle Jewish life? >-_year-old? As a mother of two argues that much of what we they be called to the Torah? Jewish women were portrayed Finally, have the glass ceil­ · boys, as an anthropologist and know about women reflects, in Rose distinguishes between as "ideological, intellectual and ings that stifled our Jewish ; a professor ofJudaic Studies, I fact, men's notions of the ideal the platitudes ofJ ewish elites materialistic;" their Eastern · mothers been lifted or do we, • · am obsessed with difference. Jewish woman. By surveying and the attitudes of the commu­ counterparts as "exotic, dark like so many Jewish Vien­ It comforts me to learn, rabbinic thought of the period as nity. If, in 1931, a rabbi sug­ and Oriental." Rose shows how nese women, still experience through a reading of Alison well as Zionist literature, Rose gested that girls be called to the artists of the period used Jewish our difference as limiting? Rose'sjewish Women in documents Jewish leaders' views Torah, he also proposed building women to symbolize change Fin de Siecle Vienna, that on the"woman question." a "covered staircase from the and tradition to debate the Marcy Brink-Danan can be similar anxieties plagued Focusing on the introduc- women's gallery directly to the values of a society in transition. reached at [email protected] women a century ago.

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PAGE 14 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 BOOK PAGE Yehuda Amichai: Through the lens of heartbreak Love story revealed a movie, this is the moment when the present would dissolve ofwoman who broke and the epic past would surge back to life. Israeli poet's heart In 1947, Yehuda Pfeuffer, as he was still known, fell in love Bv ADAM Kmsc1-1 with Ruth Z. when they were Special to 1he Voice & Herald fellow students at a teacher's training college in Jerusalem. NEW YO RK (NEXTBOOK) It was the period when Jews, - When H oll ywood scouts Arabs, and British occupiers look for new books to turn were fighting an undeclared into screenplays, they probably civil war, and the future of don't spend much time with the Jewish Palestine was still an catalog of Brandeis University open question. In this con­ Press. But underneath the schol­ text, for Pfeuffer to "change a rly surface of Yehuda Amichai: the name of his fo refathers" 1J,e Making ofI srael's National to the "proud" Am ichai - "my Poet, by Nili Scharf Gold, li es a nation lives" - was a defiant blockbuster just waiting for the act of Zionist patriotism. right director to come along. YEHUDA AMICHAI, left and right, is considered Israel's greatest poet. His collection of poetry, center, covers more than four decades of his verses. According to Ruth, it was ] magine a cross between also a kind of betrothal; the Possession and Exodus - a story couple chose the nam e together, of love and literary detective speaker to begin," she writes in cmfew 011 the city a11d closed heart. l n subsequent meetings, "looking for a H ebrew name work set against the backdrop her introduction, "when sud­ Us far a sweet coupling i11 the Gold writes, Ruth "unveiled that would melodically comple­ of Israel 's W ar of I ndepen­ denly he touched my arm and room , a story that had been hidden ment both 'Yehuda' and 'Ruth.'" dence, complete with hi dden said, almost in a whisper, 'D o Guarded by well-armed sol­ fo r half a century" - the love Bt·• the name would not be love letters, tragic parrings, and you see, three rows in front of diers. story Amichai alluded to in his shared, after all. At the end of heroic battles. That the hero of us, near the aisle, a woman sits? For jive shillings I changed the bitter poem , which is also, Gold August 1947, Ruth left Pal­ the story is Yehuda Amichai, Her name is Ruth Z. D o you name ofmy forefathers argues, the secret history of his estine for America, where she Israel's g reatest poet and one of remember the poem about the Ofthe D iaspora into a proud origins as a poet. fell in love with another man the major writers of the 20th one who 'ran away to America'? Hebrew name matching hers. What's more, Ruth showed and got married. Before the century, is just the icing on the I wrote it about her." 1hat {woman} ran off to Gold the kind of treasure that final rupture, however, the ca ke. That poem is "'H istory's America, got married to every scholar dreams about: a lovers corresponded for eight The story opens in 1997, Wings Beating, They Used to A dealer in spices, cinnamon, cache of some 100 letters writ­ months; and if the parting when Gold, a professor of Say"' (as translated by Benjam in cardamom, ten by the poet in 1947-8, in was a torment for Arnichai the modern H ebrew li terature at and Barbara H arshav in Yehuda And left me behind w ith my the most dramatic months of man, it was also a kind of boon the University of Pennsylva­ Amichai: A Life of Poetry, new name and the war. Israel's history, which had never to Amichai the poet. It gave nia, accompanies Amichai to a him a devoted audience for his 1948-1994): Amichai died in 2000, but been seen by another soul. lecture in New York. "W e sat 1hose w ere days ofgr eat love No wonder that "when Ruth thoughts about the Hebrew Ian- in a back row at the end of a two years later, Gold happened and great destiny, to be introduced to Ruth Z., the opened the box, my heart crowded hall and waited fo r the See AMICHAI, Page 18 1he fa reign power imposed a woman who broke the poet's skipped a beat": ifit really were

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Asael , played by Jamie predominantly in English, with [email protected] Like M oses in the ' •) Bell , the only ones passably-good Eastern Euro­ wilderness, Tuvia had - for nmate enough to pean accents, though some­ MAGI NE depending on to deal with k!vetchers, have beautiful women strangers - and sheer perse­ ' c-~ "'-'- 1 _~-. ·· i_- 'imes they lapsed into Polish; uprisers and incom­ , ~. . ~ \.'- >-( t fi as their forest wives? I verance - to survive against inthose cases, English subtitles petents. With one all odds. During World Why did some Jews Wei\ provided. Once or twice a exception, he tolerated War II, that is precisely how only take their por­ H ebr"¥ prayer was offered; while no dissent, even kill­ ~' . tion of food and others, hundreds of Jews, of all ages and . ·I /- Ji.- ~--'·'• ·-., lJ"f that seer..ed ap propriate, t!1e ing a fellow Jew who I many of whom went abilities, did when they joined -;, --~ - i, cl1aracters ,1se of both English openly challenged his out to forage for food, up with the Bielski brothers in DANIEL CRAIG, portraying Tuvia Bielsk i, leads and Polish ''ls disconcerting. leadership position. believed they deserved a partisan group, who fought Jewish survivors in Defiance. The bucolic n rests, seen in The biblical allusions an extra portion? fall , winter and Syring, were the German Army to keep this retaliation against a captu red were sometimes heavy-handed, Some of the situations achingly beautifi.d;~en as rag-tag community together in German soldier, while ot!1ers sometimes less so: the conflicts seemed implausible at best: t!iey sheltered the livh\g and the fo rests of Eastern Europe. we re repulsed and horrified. between Tuvia and his younger Just how could Tuvia and Zus dead - Jews and Germaqs. This hard-to-believe, but The movie failed to fully brother, Zus, played by Liev Sch­ walk through a Jewish ghetto, That so many of the Jews trne, story is retold in the develop many of the charac- re iber, played out in several ways, patrolled by German soldiers, survived - fo r more than tw, fil m, "Defiance;' directed by and were reminiscent of the and rescue dozens of Jews, years - in the fo rest is remark­ Edward Zwick, and based on brotherly battles of Cain and without being accosted able. According to film notes, the book, Defiance: the Bielski Abel, and Jacob and Esau. "Like Moses in the or detained, Just why did t!1ey eventually built a school Partisans, by Nechama Tee. Other biblical allusions are a seemingly anti-Semitic The film's retell ing of this wilderness, Tuvia had and a hospital in the fo rest. clearly used. When the ever­ woman allow Jews to hide People died, men and women amazing story - that these Jews growing group must traverse to deal with kvetchers, on her property, especially fe ll in love, and babies were born, survived, in the face of German a body of water to escape the after suffering a hor- people fought and reconciled - a soldiers, Russian soldiers' anti­ uprisers and incompetents." oncoming German Army, rific event at the hands trne com,mmity. Film notes also Semitism, hunger and near-star­ one cl1aracter talks about of Gennan soldiers, revealed that the descendants vation, typhus, bitter cold and Moses parting the Red Sea And, there's the music, of these original Jews number internal conflict - is well-mean­ ters, nor did it give more than and v,hy can't that happen here, itself a discordant note. Where in the tens of thousands. ing, but ultimately, flawed. superficial attention to the It's no secret to those who was that orcl1estra hiding in the The best films draw viewers By avenging the killing of conflicts among the Jews - a far know the Bielski brothe rs' story fo rests of Eastern Europe? In into the action - so that there's no their parents, the Bielski brothers more interesting subject than that violence was the norm, "The Sound of Music," a dif­ sense of watching or observing. become known throughout the seeing violence upon violence though some members of this ferent iteration of W orl d W ar Sadly, given how powerful and ghettos and villages of Eastern perpetrated by the Jews on self-formed community eagerly II, orcl1estral music accom­ positive this story ultimately is, Europe. As a result, more and the Germans and, to a lesser participated in a violent act of panied Julie Andrews on her the film didn't accomplish that.

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Need more information about these events ~ me on my life's journey, and I will tell you the truth of ~cration or how to get involved in The, Wtmm:s Alliancc,? ~ Thursday, March 26 who I really am; the good and the not so good." Rhod, 10:00am Presented by Leonore Sones. Island Contact Beth A. Dindas, Director of Women 's Philanthropy Temple Sinai 401.421.4111 x174 or [email protected] No fee. RSVP by March 23rd www.JFRl.org 30 Hagen Avenue 401 .421 .4111 x163 or [email protected] Cranston SENIORS ·Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 17 As WE GROW OLDER Our Jewish family past, present and future The importance of for some selfish actions may be harmful to those now valued as much as educa­ were the norm. they l~ve .~o much. The tion of sons. Not in MY day! passing down family Our parents, siblings word no seems to It is now assumed by all Jewish and their extended have been deleted from parents that it is their responsi­ values, heritage families were our closest the parental language. bility to come up with four years' friends, unless some On the whole, tuition, even if it is more than disagreement resulted Boomers are caring EN IWAS they paid for the family home. in a feud that closed offspring who do what­ owing up, there Today's Jewish fanuly celebrates down the relationship ever they can to assure the same happy occasions as a fairly Stan­ that W: (a frequent occurrence). comfort and safety fo r were celebrated in my pater- ard structure Parents, universally, their failing parents. to the average Jewish fa mily. nal home, but, differently. had the same dream: They, much more It did not vary that much from The celebration of my they dreamt that life then their parents, brother's bar mitzvah took most non-Jewish families. The would be easier and involve themselves in place at home, with all rela­ family consisted family today. Due to medical more rewarding for their dul­ all aspects of the lives of their tives present. (No outsiders). of parents, advances, there are more living dren than it had been for them. kids. Sports, music, arts, crafts My mother cooked, baked children, and grandparents. And being a Most parents thought their or whatever interests children or roasted every morsel of anywhere from great-grandparent is no longer children were very smart develop become part of the lives appetizers, main courses and one to four a novelty. The generation that (geniuses, actually) and most of of the entire family. Siblings desserts. No paper dishes. No grandparents, has been so grossly referred them were wrong. Many parents become spectators. Fathers and open bar. No disc jockey. The and this was deprived themselves of mothers become trainers soda was kept cool by a large amplified by pleasures to entertain or and carpoolers. Pride grows, hunk of ice in the bathtub. he an extension Terna educate their children. as does sibling rivalry. cousins all took home "doggie of aunts, "Most parents thought their And the children were Today's families have differ­ bags" of the home-made Gouse uncles, cousins, the same t.hen as they are children were very smart ing values and, while some (strictly kosher, of course) and unre­ now. Some appreciated value tradi tions, others seem gefilte fish and chopped liver. lated individuals who were (geniuses, actually) and most the sacrifices and others to ignore them. Materialism I will not try to project the so much part of the family took them for granted. of them were wrong." seems to have increased next generation version of the scene that everyone forgot Now, we are begin- importance and values have Jewish family. It will be differ­ that they had no blood ties. ning the year 2009. I feel certainly changed. ent, but I hope it will sensibly There was love and favoritism comfortable sounding authori­ to as the "Boomers" is mostly Then, the day arrives when adopt the best of their lineage (not always disguised). Respect tative because I have been the more prosperous, more edu­ todays loving parents realize and continue to be caring and for parents or any older relative child, the mother, and the cated, and more obese than that their children will go to decent. The model displayed was mandatory. If you were grandmother. When you have we were, and strangely, more college one day. Though many in the home is primary, but lucky and your parents not lived for nearly nine decades, frustrated and more ambitious. of them had that luxury because heritage and fanuly values that overburdened, thete was fun people are not likely to contra­ They are less philanthropic they or their parents (or both} we pass on will assist their and joy. Birthdays and Jewish dict you, because who wants than their parents were and often saved for that day that would children the rest of their lives. holidays were treated as the to offend such an old lady. less tolerant than their elders. assure them a place in the sun, most important days of the year; In raising their children, they they have a different perspective Tema Gouse can be reached food, presents, games, and at THE JEWISH FAMILY TODAY have taken children to a level of So, let's look at the Jewish for their sons and daughters. at [email protected]. least one child getting punished indulgence and dependency that Yes, education of daughters is

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PAGE 18 Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 BOOK PAGE AMICHAI: Israeli poet's lost love revealed From Page 14 famous hymn to the civilian language. "Amichai's relationship you turn me generation oflsraelis hoped. In guage, Israeli nationhood, and virtues: with Ruth Z.," she writes, "was Into your bank of love like the biographical if not in critical the nature of poetry - the very Samson, his strength in his long only one of a number of sig­ banks in Switzerland terms, Gold's book is revelatory themes that would shape his black hair, nificant facets of his life that he Where assets are preserved even and will certainly change the writing for the rest of his life. My hair they sheared offwhen chose to camouflage in his verse." after their owners are dead? way we read and think about they made me a hero And the most important experi­ The letters, which Gold For Gold, finding German "Israel's national poet." Perforce, and taught me to ence Amichai chose to "camou­ extensively paraphrases but does traces in Amichai's Hebrew Adam Kirsch is the author charge ahead. flage," Gold argues at length in not quote at length, also reveal poetry has profound political o[Benjamin Disraeli, a new I want to die in my own bed. the book's first section, was his Amichai's genuine heroism at a implications. It proves that biography in Nextbook'sjewish I saw you could live andfurnish childhood in Germany. moment of national danger. By Israeli culture cannot be as Encounters series. Reprintedfrom with grace It is no secret, of course, that day, he was a beloved elemen­ completely severed from its Nextbook.org, a new read on Even a lion's maw, ifyou've got from his birth in 1924 until his tary school teacher in Haifa; by Diasporic roots as the first Jewish culture. night, he was a soldier, patrol­ no other place. family fled Germany in 1936, ling the divided city. In Novem­ I don't even mind to die alone, to Amichai was known as Ludwig ber 1947, he was on board a bus be dead, Pfeuffer, or that German was his that was sprayed with gunfire; But I want to die native language. Through close the man in the seat in front in my own bed. readings of his poems and drafts, of him was howeve r, Gold shows that killed. (The IP rr; ··.. ~. _, ,,_ passengers "Ruth showed Gold the kind of treasure that German, and v\• believed that the landscape 'I,~ ,, the gunmen every scholar dreams about: a cache of some and people of were Brit- 100 letters written by the poet in 1947-8, in Wurzburg, .. ih ish soldiers, played a more taking the most dramatic months of Israel's history, significant role revenge for which had never been seen by another soul." in his Hebrew • I attacks by the verse than he Haganah.) In usually admit­ ted. the following If the years of his affair with months, the initially apoliti­ Indeed, Gold even found Ruth were so important to him, German drafts of some Hebrew cal poet was prompted by such however, why did Amichai never incidents to identify more and poems, as well as injunctions or write openly about her' Why did reminders the poet addressed more with the national cause. he even tell interviewers that it When the U.N. voted to create to himself in his first language. was his experience of combat in Above all, Amichai was haunted a Jewish state, he wrote Ruth the Negev in 1948 that first made what Gold describes as "an by the unbearably tragic story of him want to be a poet, when it is "Little Ruth" Hanover, his best exuberant and palpable depic­ clear from the Ruth correspon­ a tion of the collective intoxica­ friend from childhood, who lost dence that he was writing poetry a leg in an accident and was later tion on the streets of Haifa." long before the War oflndepen­ Yet as Gold emphasizes, killed in the Holocaust. Not until dence? very late in his life did Amichai Amichai's Zionism was tem­ Here the biographical elements pered, from the very beginning, write openly about her in verse, of Gold's book merge into her in the poem "Little Ruth:" with the mistrust of heroism and intriguing but debatable critical war that is so distinctive in his thesis. Amichai's main tech­ And what happened to the poetry. Already in the letters of nique as a writer, Gold argues, unused years ofyour lift? 1947-8, it is possible to recog­ was "camouflage": the deliberate ._, Are they stillpacked away in nize the poet of"I Want to Die concealing of autobiographical Photo by Nancy Kirsch in My Own Bed," Amichai's pretty bundles, traumas under abstract poetic Were they added to my lift? Did R.I. INTERFAITH COALITION PRAYER VIGIL MAXINE RICHMAN AND MARTY COOPER confer during the Rhode Island Interfaith Coalition prayer vigil held on Jan. 6 in the rotunda of the Rhode Island Statehouse. The event ALISON: My less than triumphant re-emergence drew a diverse and colorful crowd of more than 300 indi­ From Page 2 , perceived as safety - under line, "The South Under Fue," viduals; and Rabbi Alan Flam, Rabbi Peter Stein and Maxine the government for assistance fire. It is as if we are all mice shoots in from the side. Rich.man were among the speakers. in order to move their fami­ in a cage, running back and The radio channel dedi­ lies away from the trauma, forth and in every which way, cated to the southern part but have been denied. trying to figure out where the of the country uses the same They have no money to "right place" to be is, with no title, which is said in a man's If you're not eating move, and there are no buyers one realizing that in real- deep, almost soothing, voice on the horizon who are inter­ ity, there is no such thing. - "HaDaroooomm... Tacbaaat CASERTA's you're ested in purchasing a house on The three natio11al news Esssshbhhh." I remember the frontlines. Then, of course, channels, all of which have that it took about six monl;hs there was the mass exodus of been covering the daily after the Second Lebanon not eating pizza! residents of the north during developments incessantly, War for the government the Second Lebanon War all have their own clever to finally admit that a war 11 in the summer of 2006, as names for our current situa­ had in fact taken place; s1- OFF children were transported en tion. Channel 2 calls it "The throughout the war itself' masse to camps and programs War with Hamas," while it was referred to only as "a - anything to get them out Channel 1 refers politely to campaign." I keep wonder­ of the line office of upwards "The Fighting in Gaza." ing what this latest "incident" of 300 Katyushas per day I think Channel 10 is my will be called in six months. · - and their parents followed, favorite - every time the news scrounging for a place to stay, comes back after a commer­ To read the longer, complete anywhere south of Haifa. cial break, the screen is filled version ofthis column, please And now, here we are, with with a fast-paced montage of go to our web site, JVHRl.org, A Rhode Island Tradition for over 50 years the population of southern pictures of burning buildings under "Topics and Columns. Parking available Israel - perhaps the last bas­ and ~ssam rocket impact TAKE OUT 272-3618 or 621-3618 or 621-9190 craters, as the catchy head- tion of whatever we could have JV ,_

IS RAEL ------~ wish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 19 -- WAR: With cease-fire in place, the battle now rages over outcomes From Page 1 in the Middle East as a whole. ffAMAs'Dll.EMMA see further showdowns between States on arms smuggling. A Israel by destroying as much This sends a two-fold mes­ The war also leaves Hamas Israel and Hamas. Such confron­ secret appendix talks about ofHamas' military infrastruc­ sage: To the radical lran-Syria­ facing a huge dilemma: whether tations inRame Egyptian public close intelligence cooperation on ture as possible, preventing it Hezbollah-Hamas axis, it warns to spend the meager resources it opinion and strengthen domestic Iranian maritime movements. from being replaced and creat­ not to take Israel lightly; to the has on acquiring new weapons, Islamic opposition led by the The memorandum also specifi­ ing a new deterrent equation moderate, pro-Western Egypt­ how to smuggle them into Gaza, Egyptian branch of the Muslim cally gives Israel the go-ahead to make Hamas think twice Jordan-Saudi Arabia camp, the if it decides to buy them, and Brotherhood, of which Hamas is to attack smuggling tunnels before again provoking Israel. message is to be bolder in con­ whether to risk another massive an ideological offshoot and ally. along the border if all other Judged by these standards, fronting extremist rejectionists. Israeli retaliation ifit uses them. Until now, the Egyptians have efforts to stop the flow of arms the war seems to have been Critics on the right, however, "I don't think they will do failed to stop local Bedouins from Egypt into Gaza fail. an outstanding success. say the government did not go it again soon, and if they and others from conducting Egypt, which hosted six Euro­ The Israel Defense Forces far enough. They maintain that do they will be hit hard lucrative arms trades through pean leaders, has emergecj as the achieved both strategic and by stopping the fighting too again," Israeli Foreign Min- the Sinai Desert and in tunnels main regional victor in the crisis. tactical surprise. Hamas did soon, the government let slip ister Tzipi Livni said. under the Egypt-Gaza border. It brokered the new Hamas-lsrael not expect anything like the by a golden As they approached Gaza, cease-fire, it is taking on a major ferocity of the Israeli onslaught; opportunity ------the Bedouins, role against arms smuggling and it was caught on the first day to topple "The outcome of the·war is also having a who were paid it is pressing Hamas and the unprepared for war, and it was the Hamas enormous sums more moderate Fatah organiza­ surprised again later when the regime. major impact on the Israeli election, which is by H amas, often tion, which runs the Palestinian army was able to jam remote Right- three weeks away. Whichever side is able to would bribe Authority, to establish a national control devices meant to detonate wingers are Egyptian border unity government to rebuild scores of booby-trapped buildings skeptical, too, dominate the narrative of the war's outcome guards to let Gaza and talk peace with Israel. on advancing Israeli soldiers. about whether likely will determine who becomes Israel's them through. Whether Gaza is rebuilt During the fighting, the Egypt and The Ameri­ with Western, Arab or Ira­ military said that more than other mem­ next prim~ minister." cans and the nian money, by Fatah or by 500 militiamen were killed bers of the Germans have Hamas, could be crucial in and the vast majority of Hamas international offered Egypt shaping the political orienta­ The Israeli government is also weapons' stores and rocket community will be able to keep state-of-the art equipment to tion of its beleaguered people. confident that a string of new manufacturing workshops their commitments to prevent the detect smuggling tunnels and Not surprisingly, the outcome agreements with Egypt, the were destroyed - including rearmament of Hamas in Gaza. pick up would-be smugglers. The of the war is also having a major Europeans and the United States dozens of medium-range Grad Meanwhile, critics on the left United States and some of the impact on the Israeli election, on blocking arms traffic into rockets supplied by Iran. say the fighting went on too long, European countries - notably which is three weeks away. Gaza will prove effective. Israeli military intelligence says that its relatively modest goals Britain, F ranee, Germany and During the war Defense Min­ Officials say there is a new seri­ the IDF's performance in the could have been achieved much Italy - want to cut off the arms ister Ehud Barak, the archi- ousness to do so by Egypt, which war, its firepower, relatively low earlier and that the large number even before they reach Egypt. tect of the war and leader of has both regional and domestic human losses, accurate intelli­ of Palestinian civilian casualties, They are offering to patrol the Israel's Labor Party, saw his poll reasons for wanting to keep gence, and pinpoint coordination deplorable in and of itself, will high seas to intercept any poten­ numbers rise at the expense of Hamas weak. The Egyptians between air, ground and naval hurt Israel's international stand­ tial arms shipments from Iran right-wing opposition leader have no desire to see the long forces has gone a long way toward ing and breed a new generation to Egypt or directly to Gaza. In Benjamin Netanyahu ofLikud. arm of their bitter regional foe, restoring Israeli deterrence - not of Palestinian fanatics unwilling Washington last week, Livni That delivered gains to Livni, Iran, being strengthened on their only with regard to Hamas, but to make peace on any terms. signed a new memorandum of who has been running a close doorstep, nor do they want to understanding with the United second behind Netanyahu. 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Warren and West Warw ick OF N IEW IEN GLAN D, U C Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 23 Regional Hadassah president to speak on the environment and green issues Bv RHODE ISLAND CHAPTER career as a teacher in public OFHADASSAH and religious schools, and as Special to 1he Voice & Herald a synagogue and community leader. Her interests extend to "The Environment - Being teaching Holocaust Studies. Responsible to our Planet" is The "Experience Hadas- Ellen Masters' theme of her sah" series acquaints mem- talk at the open board meeting bers and the general public of the Rhode Island Chapter BROWN with the dynamic innovations ofHadassah at 10:30 a.m. being made by the American on Feb. 8, in the community W omen's Zionist Organization Continuing Studies room at Tamarisk Assisted of America in carrying out its Living in Warwick. The public mission, which includes caring A Commitment to Liberal Education is invited to this free event. fo r our environment. H adassah's President of the W estern New operations and facilities are all England Region ofHadassah, in the process of"going green." Ellen Masters is a member of Spring Classes Begin February 2, 2009 a three-generation H adassah Tamarisk A ssisted Living family, and has led many facets is at 3 Shalom D rive in of H adassah's work, includ- Course Offerings include: Warw ick. For information and Photo courtesy of R.I. Cha pter of Hadassa h ing membership, fundraising, directions, call the chapter office education, and youth aliyah. ELLEN MASTERS, regional Language Writing Humanities Sciences at 463-3636, or email rhode­ I I I She has had a decades-long Hadassah president, will speak [email protected]. on Feb. 8. For a full course listing and on line registration visit: D'VARTORAH www. brown .ed u/ con tin u i ngstud i es · Personal autonomy allows us to create powerful relationships with God and mankind , PARASHAT VA-ERA I against free will is death. the Torah?" 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PAGE 24 Jewish'Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 ------~■ •1 =Jii ■MiJi:f ■ Obituaries Albert L. Bensusan, 88 were married for 60 years. Beth-El in Providence for many Born on Jan. 2, 1927 in New He was the brother of the late Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., he was years. She became the Director of Brunswick, N.J. to the late L. Harry, Isadore and Samuel Landes; WARWICK - Albert Bensusan a son of the late Joseph and Eva Religious Education at Temple Beth James Kwasha and lrme (Kaufman) uncle of Jerald Landes of Florida, of Brentwood Nursing Home, (Kaminsky) Feinstein. He was Elohim of Wellesley and then joined Kwasha, he was formerly the Steven Landes of Connecticut died Jan. 11, at the Home. He the owner of the former Sunbury the staff of the Bureau of Jewish owner of Eagle Cornice Company and Neil Landes of Warwick; and was the husband of the late Dress Company in West Warwick. Education of Greater Boston, where in Cranston. He resided in Cranston great-uncle of two great-nephews. Clare (Simon) Bensusan. Born in He was a World War II she served until her retirement until 1989 when he and Beverly Brookline, Mass., a son of the late ~ Contributions in his memory in 1988 as a consultant to the Nathan and Ida (Brooks) Bensu­ ~ Army veteran, serving moved to Palm Beach Gardens. may be made to Home and in the South Pacific, lay and professional leadership He also leaves his daughter, Hospice Care of R.I., 169 George san, he had lived in Warwick for and a member of Temple Emanu­ of congregational schools. In Kathy Hamilton and her husband, St., Pawtucket, R.I. 02860. six years, previously residing in EI and the Jewish War Veterans. retirement, she was an active Joseph L. Hamilton. His daughter East Greenwich and Cranston. Jason Z. Levine, 87 Father of Ava Lindberg and her member of Temple Israel of Boston. He was an engineer with Brier Karen Jacober and her husband Jeff husband, Mark, of Standish, Maine; She leaves her children, Carol Jacober, predeceased him, as did SINGER ISLAND, Fla. - Jason Mfg. for many years before becom­ and Peri Coken and her husband, and David Mersky of Newton, his grandson Eric Jacober, and his Levine died Dec. 26 in Florida. He ing the owner of Bugbee & Niles Lee, of Pawtucket. Brother of Mass., and Ruth and Norman sister Carol Sugarman. He leaves is survived by his wife Rosalind Co., Inc. in Providence for six years, Jerome Feinstein of East Green­ Spack of Brookline, Mass.; eight his grandchildren, Megan Hamilton, (Levitt) Levine, his children, Dr. until his retirement in 1986. He wich, Benton Feinstein of Vir­ grandchildren, Adam Mersky and David Jacober, Kristen O'Neill and Mark Levine (Lisa), Dr. Richard was a graduate of Massachusetts ginia Beach, Va., Rosalie Busgang Abigail Harmon of Needham, Mass., her husband Dr. Michael J. O'Neill, Levine (Susan), and Diane Yermack Institute of Technol­ of Pa., and Harris Feinstein of Rebecca and Arthur Sneider of and Michael Jacober. He also leaves (Larry), and six grandchildren. He • ogy and a World War Warwick. Grandfather of Joshua, Brookline, Mass., Rachel and Craig his sister Lenore Beranbaum and also leaves his brother, George II Army Air Corps Hannah, Daniel and Amber. Woda of Providence, and Jonathan several nieces and a nephew. Levine, and his sister, Doris Fisher. veteran, serving in India. Contributions may be made to Spack and Hagar Berlin of San A 1951 graduate of the Univer­ Born in Woonsocket, a son He was a founding member of Alliance for Better Long Term Care, Francisco, Calif. She also leaves sev­ sity of Rhode Island, a member of the late Robert Levine and Temple Sinai, a member of the 422 Post Rd., Warwick, R.I. 02888. en great-grandchildren, Moriah and of the Phi Kappa Phi Society and Rebecca (Eisenberg) Levine, he East Greenwich Yacht Club, a Big Isabel Mersky, William, Zachary and Alpha Epsilon Pi Fraternity. lived there for 60 years. He had Brother and an active participant in Anne S. Furman, 88 Annabelle Sneider, and Jordan and He was a World War served as a president of Con­ the Brown Learning Community. CRANSTON - Anne S. Furman, Elias Woda: her brother and sister­ II Army veteran, serving gregation B'nai Israel in Woon­ He was the father of Rick Ben­ ~ of Mason Ave., died Jan. 5, at in-law, Reevan and Natalie Levine as a first lieutenant. He socket and worked with many susan and his wife, Ellen, of Bristol, ~ Philip Hulitar Inpatient Center, and her sister, Florence Abramson. was a member of Temple other charitable organizations. and Leslie Paine and her husband, Providence. She was the wife Beth-El, Toure Fraternal, B'nai Brith He was president of Roberts, Herbert Holman, of Oakland, Calif. Janet Kessler, 50 of the late George Furman. and the Anti-Defamation League . Inc., a chain of children's cloth­ Brother of the late Howard Bensu­ Born in Poland, a daughter of SEEKONK, Mass. - Janet Lynn He was a past president of Ledge­ ing shops in Rhode Island, and a san and Sally Sherman Baker, and the late Jacob and Hilda (Fineman) (Ziff) Kessler, of Seekonk and mont Country Club in Seekonk. president of the Youth Fashion grandfather of Carli, Ari and Zach. Shapiro, she had lived in Cranston formerly of West Roxbury, Mass. and Eastpoint Country Club Guild in New York. He retired in Fpmily and friends are invited for 54 years. She was active with Mass., died on Jan. 1. She was in Palm Beach Gardens, Fla. 1981 and started a new career to celebrate his life at a memorial the Cranston Senior Center. the wife of Barry Kessler and the Contributions may be made as a computer consultant. gathering on Jan. 31, at 12:30 p.m. She was the mother of Dr. former wife of Mark Perkins. to the charity of your choice. Contributions in his memory in Warren. Please RSVP for exact Ronald Furman of Cranston The daughter of Maurice and may be sent to MAZON, 1990 location to Leslie Paine at 510- and Sheryl Stein of Vienna, Va.; Elaine (Kabatznick) Ziff, she was Jacob Landes, 89 South Bundy Drive Los Angeles, 469-4616, e-mail to Leslie_jo@ and the sister of the late Harold the mother of Bryan and Steven WARWICK - Jacob Landes, Calif. 90025 or The Sky Train, 41 comcast.net, or call Shalom Shapiro and Rebecca Garbatsky. Perkins. She leaves her sister, Susan of West Shore Health Center, Madison Ave., New York, N.Y. 10010 Memorial Chapel at 463-7771. She also leaves six grandchildren. Boig, and companion, Joseph DiSci- died Jan. 12 at the Center. He Rose Plitt Contributions in his memory may Contributions may be made - ullo. She also leaves her best friend, was the husband of the late be made to your favorite char- to your favorite charity. Donna Bradbury. She was a teacher Louvan (Pitcher) Landes. SARASOTA, Fla. - Rose Plitt died ity or to Big Brothers of R.I. on Jan. 6. She was the mother Esther Karten, 87 in the Seekonk, Mass. schools and Born in Providence, a son of the Theodore "Teddy" a Mary Kay beauty consultant. late Nathan and Rebecca (Bilgrier) of Arthur and Miriam, and sister Feinstein, 85 BROOKLINE, Mass. - Esther Contributions may be made to Landes, he had lived in Warwick for of Arlene and Jane. She was Karten, a Jewish educator, died American Cancer Society, 20 Speen many years. A graduate of Brown the grandmother of Hugh, Seth, WARWICK - Theodore "Teddy" Jan. 11. Born in Winthrop, Mass., St., Framingham, Mass. 01701 . University, he was a personnel Jessica and Robin, and great­ Feinstein, of 311 Hardig Rd., she and her late husband, Israel, supervisor for Narragansett Electric grandmother of Elianna Mia. C-105, died Jan. 3 at Eleanor were among the founders of the Owen Bruce Kwasha, 82 for 28 years. He was a World Donations in her memory may be Slater Hospital. He was the Cranston Jewish Center and was made to Alzheimer's Association of PALM BEACH GARDENS, Fla. War II Army veteran, husband of Marilyn (Pusar) the first teacher in its Hebrew R.I. or Home & Hospice Care of R.I. - Owen Kwasha died on Jan. • serving in Europe. Feinstein of Warwick. They School. She taught at Temple 11 at Palm Beach Gardens. He He was a member was the husband of Beverly of the former Con­ (Strauss) Kwasha for 57 years. gregation Sons of Abraham. The Only Local Family-Owned Continuing our century-old tradition Jewish Funeral Home of service to the Jewish community. in Rhode Island Locally operated to meet your personal needs with compassion and sensitivity UGARMAN~ S ! MEMORIAL §_f =S INAI. CHAPE.L :..: 458 Hope Street, Providence, RI (401) 331-8094 • 1-800-447-1267 1100 New London Avenue Fax: (401) 331-9379 Cranston, RI 02920 Tel.: 463-777 I Ira Jay Fleisher, Funeral Director Toll-free: l-877-463-7771 Jill E. Sugarman, Funeral Director -A Certified by the ~l R.I. BoardofRabbis Member of the Jewish Funeral Directors of America Certified by the Rhode Island Board of Rabbis "~g.T!!ll Prr-Need Programs Availabk Call for a free preneed planning guide. Wheelchair Accessibk * PAGE 24 Jewish-Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 ------:::-::--::------■ •):jijlf-1;Ji4 ■ Obituaries Albert L. Bensusan, 88 were married for 60 years. Beth-El in Providence for many Born on Jan. 2, 1927 in New He was the brother of the late Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., he was years. She became the Director of Brunswick, N.J. to the late L. Harry, Isadore and Samuel Landes; WARWICK - Albert Bensusan a son of the late Joseph and Eva Religious Education at Temple Beth James Kwasha and lrme (Kaufman) uncle of Jerald Landes of Florida, of Brentwood Nursing Home, (Kaminsky) Feinstein. He was Elohim of Wellesley and then joined Kwasha, he was formerly the Steven Landes of Connecticut died Jan. 11, at the Home. He the owner of the former Sunbury the staff of the Bureau of Jewish owner of Eagle Cornice Company and Neil Landes of Warwick; and was the husband of the late Dress Company in West Warwick. Education of Greater Boston, where in Cranston. He resided in Cranston great-uncle of two great-nephews. Clare (Simon) Bensusan. Born in He was a World War II she served until her retirement until 1989 when he and Beverly Contributions in his memory Brookline, Mass., a son of the late ~ Army veteran, serving in 1988 as a consultant to the moved to Palm Beach Gardens. may be made to Home and Nathan and Ida (Brooks) Bensu­ ~ in the South Pacific, lay and professional leadership He also leaves his daughter, Hospice Care of R.I., 169 George san, he had lived in Warwick for and a member of Temple Emanu­ of congregational schools. In Kathy Hamilton and her husband, St., Pawtucket, R.I. 02860. six years, previously residing in EI and the Jewish War Veterans. retirement, she was an active Joseph L. Hamilton. His daughter East Greenwich and Cranston. Jason Z. Levine, 87 Father of Ava Lindberg and her member of Temple Israel of Boston. Karen Jacober and her husband Jeff He was an engineer with Brier husband, Mark, of Standish, Maine; She leaves her children, Carol Jacober, predeceased him, as did SINGER ISLAND, Fla. - Jason Mfg. for many years before becom­ and Peri Coken and her husband, and David Mersky of Newton, his grandson Eric Jacober, and his Levine died Dec. 26 in Florida. He ing the owner of Bugbee & Niles Lee, of Pawtucket. Brother of Mass., and Ruth and Norman sister Carol Sugarman. He leaves is survived by his wife Rosalind Co., Inc. in Providence for six years, Jerome Feinstein of East Green­ Spack of Brookline, Mass.; eight his grandchildren, Megan Hamilton, ( Levitt) Levine, his children, Dr. until his retirement in 1986. He wich, Benton Feinstein of Vir­ grandchildren, Adam Mersky and David Jacober, Kristen O'Neill and Mark Levine (Lisa) , Dr. Richard was a graduate of Massachusetts ginia Beach, Va., Rosalie Busgang Abigail Harmon of Needham, Mass., her husband Dr. Michael J. O'Neill, Levine (Susan), and Diane Yermack Institute of Technol­ of Pa., and Harris Feinstein of Rebecca and Arthur Sneider of and Michael Jacober. He also leaves (Larry), and six grandchildren. He • ogy and a World War Warwick. Grandfather of Joshua, Brookline, Mass., Rachel and Craig his sister Lenore Beranbaum and also leaves his brother, George II Army Air Corps Hannah, Daniel and Amber. Woda of Providence, and Jonathan several nieces and a nephew. Levine, and his sister, Doris Fisher. veteran, serving in India. Contributions may be made to Spack and Hagar Berlin of San A 1951 graduate of the Univer­ Born in Woonsocket, a son He was a founding member of Alliance for Better Long Term Care, Francisco, Calif. She also leaves sev­ sity of Rhode Island, a member of the late Robert Levine and Temple Sinai, a member of the 422 Post Rd., Warwick, R.I. 02888. en great-grandchildren, Moriah and of the Phi Kappa Phi Society and Rebecca (Eisenberg) Levine, he East Greenwich Yacht Club, a Big Isabel Mersky, William, Zachary and Alpha Epsilon Pi Fraternity. lived there for 60 years. He had Brother and an active participant in Anne S. Furman, 88 Annabelle Sneider, and Jordan and He was a World War served as a president of Con­ the Brown Learning Community. CRANSTON - Anne S. Furman, Elias Woda; her brother and sister­ II Army veteran, serving gregation B'nai Israel in Woon­ He was the father of Rick Ben­ ~ of Mason Ave., died Jan. 5, at in-law, Reevan and Natalie Levine ~ as a first lieutenant. He socket and worked with many susan and his wife, Ellen, of Bristol, Philip Hulitar Inpatient Center, and her sister, Florence Abramson. was a member of Temple other charitable organizations. and Leslie Paine and her husband, Providence. She was the wife Beth-El, Touro Fraternal, B'nai Brith He was president of Roberts, Herbert Holman, of Oakland, Calif. Janet Kessler, 50 of the late George Furman. and the Anti-Defamation League. Inc., a chain of children's cloth­ Brother of the late Howard Bensu­ Born in Poland, a daughter of SEEKONK, Mass. - Janet Lynn He was a pa st president of Ledge­ ing shops in Rhode Island, and a san and Sally Sherman Baker, and the late Jacob and Hilda (Fineman) (Ziff) Kessler, of Seekonk and mont Country Club in Seekonk, president of the Youth Fashion grandfather of Carli, Ari and Zach. Shapiro, she had lived in Cranston formerly of West Roxbury, Mass. and Eastpoi nt Country Club Guild in New York. He retired in Family and friends are invited for 54 years. She was active with Mass., died on Jan. 1. She was in Palm Beach Gardens, Fla. 1981 and started a new career to celebrate his life at a memorial the Cranston Senior Center. the wife of Barry Kessler and the Contributions may be made as a computer consultant. gathering on Jan. 31, at 12:30 p.m. She was the mother of Dr. former wife of Mark Perkins. to the charity of your choice. Contributions in his memory in Warren. Please RSVP for exact Ronald Furman of Cranston The daughter of Maurice and may be sent to MAZON, 1990 location to Leslie Paine at Sl0- and Sheryl Stein of Vienna, Va.; Elaine (Kabatznick) Ziff, she was Jacob Landes, 89 South Bundy Drive Los Angeles, 469-4616, e-mail to Leslie_jo@ and the sister of the late Harold the mother of Bryan and Steven WARWICK - Jacob Landes, Calif. 90025 or The Sky Train, 41 comcast.net, or call Shalom Shapiro and Rebecca Garbatsky. Perkins. She leaves her sister, Susan of West Shore Health Center, Madison Ave., New York, N.Y. 10010 Memorial Chapel at 463-7771. She also leaves six grandchildren. Boig, and companion, Joseph DiSci- died Jan . 12 at the Center. He Rose Plitt Contributions in his memory may Contributions may be made - ullo. She also leaves her best friend, was the husband of the late be made to your favorite char- to your favorite charity. Donna Bradbury. She was a teacher Louvan (Pitcher) Landes. SARASOTA, Fla. - Rose Plitt died ity or to Big Brothers of R.I. on Jan. 6. She was the mother Esther Karten, 87 in the Seekonk, Mass. schools and Born in Providence, a son of the Theodore "Teddy" a Mary Kay beauty consultant. late Nathan and Rebecca (Bilgrier) of Arthur and Miriam, and sister of Arlene and Jane. She was Feinstein, 85 BROOKLINE, Mass. - Esther Contributions may be made to Landes, he had lived in Warwick for Karten, a Jewish educator, died American Cancer Society, 20 Speen many years. A graduate of Brown the grandmother of Hugh, Seth, WARWICK - Theodore "Teddy" Jan. 11. Born in Winthrop, Mass., St., Framingham, Mass. 01701. University, he was a personnel Jessica and Robin, and great­ Feinstein, of 311 Hardig Rd., she and her late husband, Israel, supervisor for Narragansett Electric grandmother of Elianna Mia . C-105, died Jan. 3 at Eleanor were among the founders of the Owen Bruce Kwasha, 82 for 28 years. He was a World Donations in her memory may be Slater Hospital. He was the made to Alzheimer's Association of Cranston Jewish Center and was PALM BEACH GARDENS, Fla. War II Army veteran, husband of Marilyn (Pusar) the first teacher in its Hebrew R.I. or Home & Hospice Care of R.I. - Owen Kwasha died on Jan. • serving in Europe. Feinstein of Warwick. They School. She taught at Temple 11 at Palm Beach Gardens. He He was a member was the husband of Beverly of the former Con­ (Strauss) Kwasha for 57 years. gregation Sons of Abraham. The Only Local Family-Owned Continuing our century-old tradition Jewish Funeral Home of service to the Jewish community. in Rhode Island Locally operated to meet your personal needs with compassion and sensitivity UGARMAN~ S.'NAI MEMORIAL~ l l CHAPEL !!!:.~ · 458 Hope Street, Providence, RI (401) 331-8094 • 1-800-447-1267 1100 New London Avenue Cranston, RI 02920 Fax: (401) 331-9379 Tel.: 463-7771 Ira Jay Fleisher, Funeral Director Toll-free: 1-877-463-7771 Jill E. Sugarman, Funeral Director * Certified by the ~) R.I. Board pfRabbis Meinber of the Jewish Funeral Directors of America Certified by the Rhode Island Board of Rabbis Pr,-Need Programs Available Call for a free preneed planning guide. Wheelchair Accessible * * CALENDAR Jewish Voice & Herald January 23, 2009 PAGE 25 Jewish Community Calendar From Page 13 Circle of Consolation Group provides support for those Thursday mourning loss of loved ones. January29 WHEN : 7:30 p.m . WHERE: Temple Torat Yisrael, Concert 330 Park Ave., Cranston Afro-Semitic Experience MORE INFO: 785 -1800 WHERE: URl's Fine Arts Center Con ce rt Hall PJ Library Event Hosted as part of the JCDS Book WHEN: 7:30 p.m. Club COST: $3 students, $10 others WHEN: 3:30 -4:30 p.m. MORE INFO: 874-2740 WHERE: Jewish Community Day School , 85 Taft Ave., Provi­ Friday dence MORE INFO: 751 -2470 January30 Community Shabbat Dinner for young families Friday Co- spon so red by Shalom Pl ay­ February6 group, along with Th e Network, JFRl's Young Lea dership Division, Lunch and Learn the JCC, Mothers Circle and PJ Discussion by URI Ph arma cy Library. Outreach program on drug inter­ action. WHEN: 5:45 p.m. WHEN : 11 :15 a.m., speaker, fol­ WHERE: JCCRI , in the Socia l lowed by lun ch at noon Hall , 401 Elm grove Av e., Provi ­ dence WHERE: JCCRI , 401 Elmgrove Av e., Providence COST: $25 per fa mily MORE INFO: 861-8800 MORE INFO: 421 -4 111 , ext. 169, or e-mail [email protected] Silver Sneakers Exercise Sunday Class February 8 Work out and work up an appetite for Lunch and Learn, which fol­ Being Responsible To Our lows at noon. Planet Ellen K. Ma sters, pre sident of th e WHERE: JCCRI, 401 Elmgrove We ste rn New England chapter of Ave., Providen ce Hada ssah, will speak. WHEN: 11 a.m. WHEN: 10:30 a.m. MORE INFO: 861-8800, ext. 108 Photo by Branco Ga ka WHERE: Tamarisk Assisted "FIDDLER ON THE ROOF," starring Topol as Tevye, is coming to the Providence Performing Arts Center Living, 3 Shalom Drive, from Feb. 10 to 15. Call 421-ARTS for information, tickets. Sunday Warwick MORE INFO: 463-3636 Februaryt 330 Park Ave., Cranston Wednesday February5 A Capella Concert MORE INFO: 785- 1800 Amy Dison , Christina Crowder, February4 . ;,. Community Players Michael Goldberg and Magevet, JEFFREY B. PINE, PC Jewish and Christian Under­ from Yale University. Monday Attorneys at Liw standing ,-\.:hr 1•:-.1 ...·"' · · r -~ ·6 WHEN : 2 p.m. February2 Rabbi Jack Bemporad will speak " ~ WHERE: JCCRI, 401 Elmgrove Biggest Loser Challenge about the challenges facing bet­ ..p-- , , .~ ,:. rf Ave ., Providence Eight-week competition begin s at ter understanding. MORE INFO: 861 -8800 JCCRI. Includes fitne ss assess­ WHEN:7p.m. ment, nutrition counseling, weekly ~~)(,_ COST: $5 members, $8 non-mem- WHERE: Feinstein Academic fitness challenges and prizes. n~. bers Center, Providence College, WHERE: JCCRI, 401 Elmgrove Room 400 ; ~ Blood Drive Ave., Providence MORE INFO: 865-2274 Opportunity to observe the BD mitzvah of saving a life MORE INFO: 861 -8800, ext. 149. ~t~t. MouSt-~i1;1r WHEN: 8:30 a.m. - 12:30 p.m. COST: Fee will be charged ~ ·:r ·;?1 j:' ,";:i .;,- ~,i: t;_ _T _.., ~ Thursday Criminal lleffllse WHERE: Temple To rat Yisrael, Personal lnjlly/5erious Auidents !;-~~: '.,\ '-._~~ :·':: l~ '.'':''J,,:, Cm and lusinfflUtigaeion Cotporatel~ The Jewish Community setts. The deadline for Please send all potential ,1.~ .\ .. , 1: , Calendar in The Voice calendar events is two items to voiceherald@ sl: , '., ·,;c:-:.:'.:; Attorneys JEFFREY B. PINE & Herald lists events weeks before the actual jfri.org, with the sub- H ARR IS K. 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H owever, it was only later the groom at the same tinle the Jewish Orthodox confines on u1 the planning process or even duru1g the wed­ that I had recently discovered. that I began to folly under­ du1g ceremony itself I managed to attain some of stand what was uwolved u1 Perhaps what upset me the the things that I really wanted, those three little words. most was the whole ketuba busi­ and managed to make peace Although I had never been ness. Mikhael was required to with some of the things rhat I the type of woman who spent sign this document outlining couldn't have - but what was her childhood years dream­ all of the rights, responsibili­ most meaningfol is that in the ing about her wedding day, ties, and obligations that he was process, Mikhael and I managed I began to realize what was to honor throughout our mar­ to create a wedding that reflected unportant to me only after I ried life together - and what exactly who we both are sepa­ saw it being stripped away. was my job? To receive it. rately, who we are together, and As we began tl1e arduous My '80s-'90s feminist upbring­ who we want to be u1 our lives u1 process of finding a rabbi to ing was gasping in its death the funire.' It was a tal l order - no perform the ceremony, I slowly rattle. Where was the equal- wonder I wasn't able to concen­ discovered the laundry list of"no­ ity, the shared partnership, trate on much else for a while! no's," "no way's," and "that just the "we're in this together?" I'm sorry aga in fo r my isn't done!" in a traditional Jewish The farther on u1 our plan­ absence. It won't happen agau1. O rthodox wedding ceremony. ning process, the more I began Just to provide a couple to receive an image of the Jewish N ext issue, Part Two: "How to of the highlights: Orthodox bride as beu1g a passive negotiate w ith an Orthodox rabbi. " 1.) the bride and groom and certainly unequal partner are not allowed to toucl1 each in the ceremony as a whole. Alison Stem Perez (fim11e1j, other until after the ceremony And so, I began to fight - for Golub) w as born and grew up is officially completed; my rights as a woman, for my in Seattle, Washington and is a 2.) only men are allowed rights as a bride, and for my g raduate efBr ow11 University. You to give the blessings duru1g rights as a soon-to-be wife. can e-mail her nt A lison_ Golub@ the ceremony, and I wanted to infuse our wed­ hotmail.com, and read more about 3 .) the groom gives a ru1g du1g ceremony with as much her adventures 0 11 her website at to the bride. but the bride is o·pnf1Pr PrnE1lin, a nrl ,:,,n--, J;,-,., .. ;,,,.,_ BRIDA ,______. ewish Voice & Herald December 12, 2008 PAGE 31 'The-way we were' e.

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ABOVE, WARTIME DIDN'T STOP WEDDINGS. On Feb. 8, 1942, brothers married their fiancees in a double wedding. Frances Borod wed Maurice Cohen, and Claire Cohen wed Gerald Cohen, at the Mayfair Inn in Smithfield.

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Good for me, not so ready to go, except for the berg acted as the bride, Sophia emonies commenced by Rev. good for those brides who'd makeup application, which a Surdut was the bridegroom, BY NANCY KIRSCH Mr. Rosenberg chanting a few put down deposits and friend had volunteered to do [email protected] Max Tarnapol as the best man, verses in Hebrew. He then couldn't get their dresses, for me. Someone else handed and Mrs. Jack Goldenberg the made an address in German to just weeks after I picked up me the bottle of foundation OCK marriages, maid of honor. .. luncheon was the bridal pair, of some fifteen my dress. That wonderfully and, unbeknownst to me, where women served by the hostess and Miss minutes' duration .... Dr. J.M. accommodating and fun the lid was loose. Well, I M dressed up as Raskin received many gifts." Gouldsburgh of Providence woman had, allegedly, taken took the bottle by its lid and, grooms and men Weddings may have been made a touching address of deposits, shut the store thanks to some unexpect­ dressed as brides, all for pre-wed­ bigger in earlier decades, as well. about half an hour in English." down, and disappeared, edly fast reflexes, jumped out ding entertainment? Yes, indeed, The article continued, quoting The article continued, relaying according to an article of the way and avoided the according to the editors of Gouldsburgh's advice: in 1he Providence Journal splash ofliquid foundation. the Rhode Island Jewish "The honeymoon would that appeared around the Historical Association's "Fully 1,000 persons gathered not last forever and time of my wedding. My stories won't be yours; Rhode Island Jewish Historical forebearance would be And, others may everyone has their own to Notes, Vol. 10, No. 2, Nov. in the Jewish Synagogue on necessary, with a firm share. The Voice & Herald remember a Jewish 1988, mock marriages were a Howell Street ... to witness the resolve to be faithful and photographer who did would love to hear, for a future frequent source of entertain­ true to each other. .. with something similar, but with issue, about your wedding day ment in the Catskill resorts. wedding of Harry Beck and marriage, the mask (of disasters or near-misses. Did pictures and the negatives. • ... the man would dress up as Miss Elizabeth Temkin ... " courtship) removed and He had photographed our someone's great uncle drink a a woman ... the woman would each discovers that the wedding, but later decided bit too much and pass out? Did dress up as a man ... it was a other has frailties .. ." to keep the payments he the car break down on the way hilarious thing. It was a farci- from an unnamed newspaper Even then, simchas such received and the negatives to the synagogue? Or the wed­ cal version of the traditional wed­ article from May 10, 1909: "Fully as weddings sometimes required of the pictures he'd taken. ding cake didn't get delivered? ding ceremony.. . performed so 1,000 persons gathered in the friends or relatives to travel: "One After reading that he was Send us your stories - whether regularly that it became a ritual." Jewish Synagogue on Howell of the bride's uncles who was sentenced to the Adult funny, poignant or bitter­ While this pre-wedding Street ... to witness the wedding of present, Mr. Samuel Jacobs ... Correctional Institute, I sweet, so we can share them entertainment may not be Harry Beck and Miss Elizabeth though 86 years of age, made a never read another word with our readers. Send stories revived, we thought readers Temkin, a well-known young journey of over 3,000 miles to about him. To add insult to: [email protected] with of 1he Voice & Herald might couple of the city, both members attend the wedding. 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(The wed­ less, with price ranges from $50 ity of their own choosing to Mary Madeline Project which ties and hats are also included. ding gown designer Demetri­ to $599. Some of the gowns receive 20 percent of the sale transforms the dresses into Some of the outfits which have ous saw the show and followed are lovingly made into beauti­ price; another percentage goes to tenderly sewn burial outfits for gone to Rhode Island hospitals up with a personal donation ful "wedding" quilts by skilled support the foundation's work. stillborn or recently deceased were faci litated by a network of of truckloads of gowns.) seamstresses who volunteer their A spokeswoman for the infants and toddlers. photographers who volunteer Proceeds from the sale of time (more are needed if you are fo undation said they have Carlin Kammerer of Omaha, through the Now I Lay Me donated gowns go towards received many donations from Neb., began the project after D own to Sleep organization, fulfilling final wishes for women handy with a needle). The quilts M assachusetts, Rhode Island her newborn granddaughter which photographs the babies as (and men) who have been di ag­ are on display on the nationwide tours, and are ava ilable for sale. and New England. O ne donor died nine years ago. "We had to a remembrance fo r their parents. nosed with Stage 4 breast cancer. The website gives directions couple featured on I D o's buy a burial outfit for Maddie Kammerer said one Rhode Many of the wishes granted have on where and how to donate website is Alex Volin and Sheila (M ary Madeline)," she sa id in Island photographer is in the gone towards the purchase of a and ship the dress. Adams Allen, who expressed their a telephone interview this week process of setting up a sewing camcorder or computer to record from her home. "It network fo r the donated final messages to family mem­ offers this tip: Roll it up and ship it in was so hard to go gowns in Rhode Island bers; or funding family reunions the smallest and "Brides Against Breast Cancer has into the newborn prisons, which Kammerer or a final trip to say goodbye section - such a will visit in the summer. to loved ones living afar. lightest package received 50,000 wedding gown possible. It doesn't happy place - on "The parents are so grateful Tammy Adams, the spokes­ need to be cleaned donations since it began 12 years ago." such a sad mission." and so moved when they receive woman for the organization, or preserved before The Mary the outfits," Kammerer said. said currently much needed Madeline Project are small- and large-sized shipping. She asks donors, if possible, to contrib­ "desire to combine tradition grew out of her grief. "You can't M ary Korr can be reached gowns, from O to 6 or sized ute $40 for cleaning, with the with their personal values." go into a store and buy a burial at [email protected]. 14 and above. Manufacturers value of the gown, the monetary The couple met in synagogue outfit - some for those as young and designers donate medium donation (not required) and the and planned a traditional Jewish as 15 weeks," she said. "Last size gowns, and the organiza­ shipping all tax deductible. wedding with a modern, and weekend we got a call from a tion has an ample supply. The website also offers other feminist, approach. "It looked young woman in California Websites: It is currently accepting suggestions for philanthropic like a Jewish ceremony in a lot who had read about us. 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FOOD ______Jewish Voice & Herald December 12, 2008 PAGE 41 BRIDAL: celebrations demand delicious delectables Starting at the first bowl, dredge the chicken in flour on both sides and shake off excess flour. Coat chicken in eggs and allow extra to drip off. Coat in {fill bread crumb mixture, pressing the coating into the chicken. In a large skillet over medium heat, heat the oil. MITZVAHS • H □ LID AYS • CORPORATE EVENTS • WEDDINGS When it is hot, add the chicken. Squeeze the lemon LOCALLY HARVESTED over the pan, so that the juice f" □□ D AND DRINK squirts onto the cutlets. Cook 5 to 6 minutes per side, until golden and cooked through. OPEN FUR DINNER EVERY DAY, LUNCH SERVED MONDAY - SATURDAY A"ioli Method:

In a small bowl, mix the HAVE YOUR PRIVATE EVENT IN DUR SPEAKEASY, RI lemon zest, juice, garlic, M □ NTHLY's 200B sugar and salt. Whisk in the mayonnaise and oLve oil. Serve the chicken with afoL sauce on the side. Serves 6. CHOCOLATE BERRY TART Ingredients: 3 cups pecan halves 2/3 cup light brown sugar 1/2 teaspoon ground cinna- 1/2 cup seedless red raspberry, removable bottoms. Set aside. mon blueberry or strawberry preserves Place the pecans on a baking 6 tablespoons unsalted Method: sheet Lned with parchment margarine or butter, melted paper. Toast the pecans for 10 10 ounces semi-sweet or Preheat oven to 325 degrees. minutes, until fragrant. Check to bittersweet chocolate Cut out a 10-inch circle of make sure they are not burning Co 2 cups heavy or whip­ parchment paper and place and shake the pan occasionally. ping cream it in a 10-inch tart pan with Remove peca ns from oven and Catering by Tevya 2 pints raspberries, blueber­ removable bottom or into 8 - put them in food processor. Add A Division of Larry Levines Kosher Meats & Deli ries or sliced strawberries (4-inch) min-tart pans with the brown sugar and cinnamon and process the mixture until finely ground. Add the melted RELAX AND ENJOY margarine or butter and pro­ cess until moist clumps form . YOUR OWN PARTY Press the dough into the bottom and sides of the prepared MUNCHING • LUNCHING • DINING pan or pans. You may need to We do it all. .. let the dough cool for a few minutes until it can be touched. providing you with full service catering. · Bake until the crust is golden For information, please call Todd Levine brown and firm to the touch, about 25 to 30 minutes. Remove (978) 535-6449 from oven and cool completely. Chop the chocolate into small pieces. Place in a medium bowl. Bring the cream to a simmer in a medium heavy saucepan over low heat. Pour the hot This symbol of your love should OJ cream into the chocolate and be as unique as the two of you. 0 gently stir until smooth. Pour < mixture into crust and chill until Work with an artist to create cc set, about one hour. This can be your desires. OJ made up to two days in advance. m Before serving, arrange the -; berries of your choice over tamar kern~ < metolsm1th/ 1eweler the top of the tart in overlap­ 0 4 01 .6 19 .2265 0 ping concentric circles. 160 spring st newport ri 02840 Place the jam into a small 3 heavy saucepan over low heat until melted. Brush melted jam over the berries. Serves 10. All recipes and images are.from We're read cover to cover! Kosher By Design Entertains, by Susie Fishbein, copyright 2005, Mesorah Publications.

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j PAGE 42 Jewish Voice & Herald December 12, 2008 ------:hJ1•1¥1- - Rabbinical sermons and broken toys inspire local mosaicist Nature and maps are plates from different states - they hearken common themes back to a charm- ing time and place." BY NANCY KIRSCH Many of her mosa- [email protected] ics reflect her love of RO KEN BITS of dis­ maps and geography, so the state souvenir . . ~- ~ ca rded toys, hotel keys and Rabbi Alvan Kau n­ plates and those lost . ~: .~ B ~ \ fer 's sermons have all hotel keys fit perfectly served to inspire Jess Regelson, a in those mosaics. GOLDEN GATE i Her artistic inter­ mosa icist fo r more than a decade. "I take what's broken and est may have been , S~BDIOS -j make it beautiful," she said. spiked as a young girl , Although she doesn't ca ll herself when her mother, an an environmentalist, Regelson antiques dealer, took -~~~din_g· --~~ t .. 1yutzvahj her to museums and recycles items into her mosaic Photo by Sophie Blum exposed her to differ­ ./& :Speer t Florals murals, furniture or pieces of art MOSAICIST JES S REGELSO N that many people might discard ent artists, Regelson explai ned . "When whole is a poignant and powerful without a second thought. experience. "In my work within . After several years worki ng l got older, the colors of mosa- 3 ics and the idea of usi ng broken the Temple Emanu-El commu­ 111 New York City in theater, nity, I was touched and moved , ~ Regelson and her husband, Doug materials captivated me," she said. Regelson, who learned her mosa- by how much people work to heal I :~4 1-~::;· :-'· Blum, relocated to Rhode Island the world through tikkun olum." I in 1990, when he accepted a posi­ AU communities are broken I tion as a professor of international and imperfect, Regelson said, I relations at Providence College. "I was touched by how I and different people reflect that When they came here, they much people at Temple differently. "Making art from • had a son, Joseph, then three­ • Emanu-EI work to heal broken things is my small way of I years-old. (Their daughter, trying to make the world better," I Sophie, is now 17.) She knew the world through she said. I she needed to reinvent herself I Given her abiding affection but wasn't sure in what direc-' tikkun olum." I The Imperial Room at Rhodes Place for Temple Emanu-El and its I tion. "If someone had told me (in former rabbi, Alvan Kaunfer, it's ► , is a beautiful banquet facility, 1990) that I'd be living a life as a little wonder that she jumped at I visual artist, I would never have ics skills from other people and Centrally located in the Historic books, explained: "The art school the opportunity to create some believed it - but I feel incredibly art work to illustrate a book of Edgewood section of Cranston. fortunate to do what I do." I attended was the Providence Public Library." his sermons, which was a parting Her creative energies were gift from the congregation to In-house catering • complimentary planning redirected from theater and Regelson's creative magic extends to working with students. the recently retired rabbi. "He'd services• ample free parking, toward creating mosaics, almost For 11 years, the fifth-grade stu­ given a very moving Yorn Kippur Fully climate controlled and handicapped accessible by chance. "I became a mosaic sermon on_ blessings, and how artist because I could not throw dents at Dr. Martin Luther King, facility • accommodating maximum of 200 guests Jr. Elementary School on Prov­ difficult it is to be vulnerable away some dishes I had broken, enough to give and receive bless­ which I had received from my idence's East Side have learned how to create mosaic murals. ings, so I made a shadow box grandmothers, Gussie and that illustrates those concepts," Anna," she said . Plates from "From soup to nuts," she said, One Rhodes Place "the fifth graders learn how to she said. "For example, the heart other sources play a role in her wrapped in wire symbolizes that Cranston, Rhode Island 02905 art work, as well. "I use souvenir cut and place the tiles, participate in the design, e".erything." These difficulty. I also wanted to create "' 401~67-7102 yearly initiativ,es also involve the something that represents a kindergarte,ystudents, though in window into the passage of time 4011~383-9413"1'tx._ a very limited way. The murals' and generations - from grand­ , , ·''"'· ..-.,, themes, which tie into the parents to children to grandchil­ www.riihriherS!~~ ,­ students' learning, include: "A dren." Garden Through My Window" Broken by global warming '' -,~>~'f~i,:::':s:;<_,, n (to reflect the school's recent and pollution, nature is another establishment of a community inspiration for Regelson's mosa­ garden on school property), "You ics, some of which depict birds are Here" (a geography lesson and the ocean. "I used to berate tJ5aper :Jl'oon :fnvitation.Y incorporating Regelson's love of myself when I wasn't constantly maps), and "Harriet Tubman." To working," confessed Regelson, "until I realized that looking at tine stationer_y & uni9ue gitts date, 18 murals grace the walls of the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. nature, leafing through art books, School and other area schools. and just reflecting are important parts of the (creative) process." invitations ·~avors guest addressing Even death and loss inspire Regelson to contribute. "When "Anything broken has beauty personal service private studio my father died, seven years ago, to me;' she said. "Broken I felt so cared for by the Temple things might find their place mon - fri IO a m-5,}0 pm wed 10am - 7pm sat I Oam-1-pm Emanu-El community. I wanted in a piece of my art work, r call for evening appointments to give back in some way," she so I'm always scanning the said. "I got very involved with sidewalk for something." the synagogue after that. My free R egelson's work is sold in her 4 01 -94)-1 12) Photo by Jes s Regelson time now is spent at Emanu-El Pawtucket studio and Kreatelier, at THE ART WORK Regel son cre­ 804 Hope Stteet, Providence. M ore ated for Rabbi Alva n Ka unfer's or making mosaics." Regelson explained that working with information about Regelson. www. www.papcm1oonstationcr~.com retirement celebration. L_,._ \.~- .. i.:~~- +-..-. O"Y'0 ,. \, 0 .,\., .,, .....,.. indiJ(omoonmosaics. BRIDAL ------~Jewish Voice & Herald December 12, 2008 PAGE 43 SALONS: They're not your mother's beauty parlors

From Page 38 page questionnaire. If she and before and after pictures show doing something different?" her collaborating board-certi­ measurable and ~ometimes, Several days later, while my fin­ fied dermatologist, Dr. Louis remarkable, improvements. gernails and toenails look great, Colavecchio (who is on site When I left Sea Mist, I felt as my hair-styling skills need some several times a week), see no ifl' d made a new friend - Scobie work - I can't replicate what problems, procedures can occur. is down-to-earth, funny and Aidile so skillfully accomplished I was surprised to learn that clearly wants people to ben- with a brush and hair dryer. even brides in their 20s are efit from her treatments. I also getting Botox treatments. "A vowed to try to reduce my love SEA M IST SKIN lot of brides, bridal parties and affair with diet soda, chocolate REJUVENATION C ENTER mothers of brides come for and sun. And, if Colavecchio Two days later, I drove to Botox so they will have a more sees no problem with my medi­ South Kingstown to meet youthful look in the wedding cal history, I'm due for a treat­ with Ellen Scobie, Sea Mist photos," she said. The best time? ment. Time will tell if I get the Skin Rejuvenation Center A month before the wedding same positive reaction that I did owner and a registered nurse. - the procedure will open up with the Aidile's pampering. DISCREET AND CONFIDENTIAL the eye area to make you look Like a therapist's office, the more youthful, she said. Aidile's Day Spa is at 53 Water­ Center is tucked away on the P LASTIC SURGERY DECLINING, man Avenue in East Providence. second floor of a building in a Contact them at 434-3665 or 80TOX AND OTHER new complex, The Village at www.aidiles.com. Sea Mist Skin TREATMENTS GROWING South Commons. For those Rejuvenation Center is at 36 S. who are privacy-prone, there is Scobie, who one door to enter and another prefers a natural to exit. And, like a therapist, and refreshed Scobie gets to know you, in a ELLEN SCOBIE of the Sea Mist Skin Rejuvenation Center with a Ther­ look, said that non-confrontational and sooth­ mage machine. The treatment delivers deep heat into the skin to plastic surgery rejuvenate existing collagen and stimulate new collagen growth. ing way, and your issues - diet, is becoming less popular and health, stress, exposure to sun improve is between Scobie, the restore facial volume), laser and pollutants, genetic back­ these far less mirror and me, so readers can hair removal and more, and arc invasive treat­ ground, and more - before any speculate, if they're interested. approved by the Food and Drug procedures are done. During my ments are on the When I told her I'd had a Administration. The Center, rise. Expect the consult, I confessed my "skin facial two days earlier, as she which is also licensed by the sins;' although the results of price of Botox examined my skin under a R.I. Department of Health, to drop later in one sin - extensive sun exposure magnifying light, she said, is the only "medi-spa" (a spa - are clearly evident to the naked 2009, she said, "Whoever did your facial offering cosmetic treatments as it finally has eye. And the others? "Sugar did a great job - your skin that require injections, such as is just bad, for your skin, your some competi­ is so clean." Though I have those described) in Rhode Island tion. Scobie, internal organs, your overall good skin, she said, sun and that is non-doctor owned, she who has been Photos by Nancy Kirsch health," she said. "When clients age have left their marks. said. The benefits can range get off sugar, we see a dramatic working in or THE LOUNGE AREA of Sea Mist Skin The Center offers long-last· from a few months to nearly a Rejuvenation Center. difference in their skin." As bad running medi­ ing cosmetic enhancements year, depending on the proce­ spas for some as sugar is, she said, it's not as County Commons Way, Suite C-5, and improvements with Botox dure and the client's lifestyle. 10 years, said that the Center bad as my diet cola addiction. South Kingstown. Contact them at (an injection of, let's face it, a Clients can't walk into the is only a few months old and 782-2400 or www. SeaMistReju­ MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL toxin to reduce forehead lines), Center and get treatments, is eager for more business. venation.com. Services and treat­ "Look in the mirror," she Juvederm (an injectable gel other than massages, makeup Her clients include both ments were provided by each salon told me. "Tell me what you see that smoothes wrinkles), and or facials, on their first visit. men and women, and run at no cost to The Voice & Herald and what you want to improve." Radiesse (a dermal filler to Rather, they consult with Scobie the age gamut - from their or Nancy Kirsch. What I saw and what I want to reduce wrinkles and lines and and fill out an extensive two 20s to octogenarians. The High-Rise Luxury Living Now Available in Providence

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A moderate foods with a focus on weddings Catering; some of their signature It's all about YOU! wedding at the hotel with 125 and bar and bat mitzvah celebra­ dishes include a Chilean sea bass Let YEARS of experience guests would cost about $12,000. tions. "Our food is innovative and with dried figs and apri cots and a benefit YOU ! A LITTLE FOOD, A LITI1.E when people taste our food, the vegetarian entree of apple curried phones start to ring off the hook," stuffed acorn squash. The com­ Senior Real Estate Specialist MUSIC •• • AND MORE said Sandy Ross. Asked about pany also offers wedding cakes. Exceptional Market Knowledge Multi-million Dollar Producer High Spirits has many good budget weddings, she added: wines that only cost about MORE THAN JUSf DRESSES SlO a bottle. Wine is defi- "We are working with a bride on With an inventory that a tight budget and we're offering ll#\~i!:1f:~1-·r,,_RF.IIDOOL\L BROWGE . .. • nitely less expensive than hard includes 1,000 bridal gowns, .fy11, . . . . . her a pasta bar with three differ­ liquor," owner Dick Razza 600 to 700 motl1er-of-the-bride said. "Come in, look around, ent toppings, a lasagna bar and or cocktail dresses, dresses fo r a salad bar for per person." and pick something you like $25 bridesmaids and flower girls, in your price range." Cases Some of their signature dishes, jewelry, shoes and veils, little she said, include a tri-colored tor­ or partial cases of unopened boys' tuxedos (and the ability to tellini with vodka sauce, a couple bottles of red wine, he said, may take measurements fo r men's tux­ , be returned after the event. of different lox appetizers and, edos to outsource those rentals) Bar/Bat-Mitzvahs not but potato puff appe­ Tri State DJs owner, Chris knishes, Bridal and Gift offers something tizers. Local H ero makes every­ Murphy, said, "Whenever I see fo r everyone, explained store thing fresh to order, she said. Weddings a bride who's not happy, who's owner, Linda Gaudette. "With not smiling enough, I think she In addition to catering wedding so many dresses in inventory, Social Events missed the point. Once you've receptions, Local Hero Catering when we have sample sales can also cater a prenuptial dinner, hired everyone, let them do (which happen throughout the a brunch the next day, etc. And, their job and eiijoy,yo~{ day." year), women are buying dresses realizing that today's brides Although tie's Iris!l, he said, that haven't been tried on again - and often their mothers - are he's dpf.le enough ; : wish _we~- ._ and again," said Gaudette. busy with careers, Local Hero dings to know about the hora With dresses selling, at fuJJ Catering is part of a network of and other traditional customs. price, for $400 to $4,000, wedding vendors; it can bring Murphy's advice about DJ selec­ there's selection at every price a group of vendors together so tion: Talk to banquet managers point; the average price point the bride can interview prospec­ and bartenders at traditional is between $800 and Sl,500. tive vendors in one fell swoop. wedding venues - they see DJs The sample sales will list dresses come and go and know whether Certified glatt kosher by the at up to 50 percent off. Vaad of Massachusetts, NRM wedding parties and guests are The store has been in business Catering has both meat and happy or not. If brides can't long enough - 20 years - for dairy facilities, said owner Neil decide, he added, go with your Gaudette to have sold first com­ Morris. "There's a 'wow' factor "gut". And, as with any relation­ munion and prom dresses to girls when people walk in and see 1;f.atter6' ship, clear communication is key who return, years later, for their Wilen, Quality; food displayed on our floating - the list of" do not play" songs wedding dresses. Sounding a cau­ glass buffet stations," said Morris, fuYaurVUU1N, is as important as the "do play" tionary note about women who've "and choosing less expensive list. 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