St. Thomas More Catholic Parish Newsletter August 2016 more INFORMED

The Third Way our role as Christians

So, Mass is Boring a challenge for Sunday Mass

Teacup Kids observations and solutions

STM Day 2016 celebrating 45 years

Be Careful of the Blessings Bags Time & Talent Fair Imposter a gift for Jesus in distressing join us Saturday & Sunday, watch for non-catholic churches disguise August 6 & 7 info content

St. Thomas More Catholic Parish 8035 South Quebec Street Centennial, CO 80112 303.770.1155 www.stthomasmore.org editor: Carly McGillick contributing editors: Therese Beaudette Deacon Bob Cropp 26 27 Kitty Kolody Barb Monark Jerry Nix 3 Summer Reflections 16 Meet the Thang Family

By Msgr. Thomas Fryar By Bunnie Busch photographers: Bob Bartlett 4 Welcome, Father Ivan Deb DesMarteau 17 ChoirChimes Chorum By Carly McGillick Dave Rich By Fran Roselli 5 Progress in Proposed director of communications: 18 Living Catholic Health Irene Lindemer Project By Irene Lindemer Care By Louis A. Brown Jr. pastor: Msgr. Thomas Fryar 6 The Third Way By Dcn. Bob Cropp 19 Footprints parochial vicars: By Valerie Haas Rev. Greg Lesher Rev. Rohan Miranda, O.C.D. 8 So, Mass is Boring 20 Teacup Kids By Rev. Tom Dillon Rev. Ivan Monteiro, O.C.D. By Sid Rundle deacons: 10 A Challenge for Mass Deacon George Brown 21 Come Join the Fun at Deacon Bob Cropp PDO Deacon Tim Kenny 11 Be Careful of the By Heather Griffin Deacon Alan Rastrelli, M.D. Imposter Deacon Gary Rogge By Jo Holt Deacon Steve Stemper 22 2015–2016 Peacemaker 12 What is RCIA? Awards By Brett Manero MORE 23 STM Student Ushers INFORMED 13 Naked, Homeless & Published by the St. Thomas More Office Ignorant 24 Blessings Bags of Communications six times a year. By Brett Manero By Sue Lythgoe Its mission is three-fold: to proclaim the Gospel, to build up community by keeping them informed, and to call the 15 A Doctor of Prayer 25 New Youth Minister community to worship and service. By Maryanne Carter By Greg Johnson Copyright 2016 – St. Thomas More Parish 16 Stewardship of Time & 26 Fortnight for Freedom Talent deadline 27 Celebrating 45 Years August 1 for the October 2016 issue and October 1 for the December 2016 issue. Articles may be edited for clarity & space.

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Summer Reflections a remarkable faith family

I thought in this month’s edition of More Informed I would to the undertaking. Then, once we ascertain the funds we share some summer reflections and musings. First of all, will be able to raise, the actual extent of the work we will it has been a quite warm summer so far, with us even undertake can be fully determined. We hope to not only breaking the 100 degree barrier. One Sunday we had replace the kitchen, remodel and fix up the Padre, McCallin the air conditioning units go out in the church space and I and II, the youth area and St. Peregrine Hall (meeting the temperature that day reached 102. You would have rooms under the Padre), but also to put in a long-needed thought the world was coming to an end in the opinion of elevator to allow access to the bottom floor by all and some. enable an expanded use of the space. If there are enough funds pledged, we will look at the possibility of working on It gave me pause to remember back to my youth growing repaving the parking lots too. up in hot, extremely humid Iowa and our parish (as well as most) did not have air conditioning. Instead we had large The scope of this project is significant in that it touches fans that were placed in the front of the church facing on the areas that are most often used outside of Mass the pews, one on each side, that were roughly the size by the community. It will enable us to offer good spaces of a passenger plane engine with fan blades close to 3–4 for meetings, receptions and various activities with the feet across. They put out a large amount of moving air, lighting, media, electronic and systems standards that are which was a wonderful relief. One of the consequences most efficient and beneficial. It is our chance to put an was people actually came early to get a seat up front in exclamation point on the blessings that are the buildings the church, directly in the path of the fan’s airflow. The that began this parish community and continue the down side was the sound they put out was also roughly heritage handed us by the many who have gone before in equivalent to the noise of an airplane engine at full speed. establishing this remarkable faith family. I urge you to be They were only turned off during the homily so no one praying as to how you can best participate in the campaign would miss a word of the wisdom imparted that day. We and welcome those who come in the name of the parish to all prayed for short homilies! Powerful memories, but ask for your support. They are fellow parishioners, sharing also strong reminders that even when we didn’t have the their love for the parish and its people. conveniences of what is considered the norm today, life went on and we thought it was okay. ... continue the On a similar note, as the weather heats up, it is again heritage handed us noticeable that many dress down for Mass, sometimes by the many who wearing what we would not wear to a fine restaurant or play. I was in Israel earlier this year where there are still have gone before strong dress codes for the pilgrims and locals going into in establishing this churches and other holy sites. Many of our folks here on a given Sunday would not be able to enter based upon how remarkable faith family. they come to Mass. I would ask all to make sure we dress up for the Lord’s Supper and respect proper standards of modesty and decorum, if not for yourself, at least for your Finally, the elections are still a few months away, but the brothers and sisters. Thanks. candidates and issues are certainly ever present. One very troubling issue that is manifesting itself again this year is We are entering upon the initiation of the Renewing Our the effort, through ballot initiatives, to promote physician Heritage campaign and restoration project. The rest of this assisted suicide. This has been countered and defeated at year will provide us a time to make financial commitments our state legislature over the past two years, and now they

August 2016 3 are trying an end run by putting it on the ballot. The idea month on August 15, the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin. goes directly counter to our moral and religious beliefs. Due to it falling on a Monday, the obligation to attend All life, from conception to natural death, is precious to Mass is lifted. That said, it is still a Holy Day and if you can, the Lord and should be protected from any such threats please try to attend Mass, take special time in your prayer or dangers. Please do not sign any petitions supporting and reading to remember this great event, and perhaps this, don’t allow conversations you hear in its support to pray the rosary with the Glorious Mysteries, which recall go unchallenged, and encourage others to vote against it this wonderful event. May the blessed intercession of in all its forms. There are states that have passed this in our Mother Mary keep you safe this summer and always the past, and we have examples of how it has encouraged desirous to draw near to her son, Jesus our Lord. insurance providers and medical personnel to limit access to proper medical attention and promote one taking The following Monday, August 22, we begin a new school one’s life as a more cost-efficient way of addressing a year here at St. Thomas More. There are over 550 students health concern. The handicapped community and the who will be on campus daily for the coming nine months. elderly are both rightly concerned about the potential for Keep them and their families in your prayers that this will negative and coercive forces placed upon them to not be be a faith-filled, grace-driven year of learning and wisdom. considered a burden on society, family and others. And be mindful of them when driving, especially at the start and the end of school days. u One of the Church’s regular Holy Days is celebrated this

Welcome, Father Ivan!

By Carly McGillick Information Coordinator

Our new parochial vicar, Fr. Ivan Monteiro, O.C.D., joined the St. Thomas More parish family in June, excited to serve our community faithfully and joyfully.

Father Ivan was born in India, growing up there in a family of eight children – four boys and four girls. He recalls enjoying daily family prayer at home. His parents were strong in their faith, providing excellent role models for him. Another important inspiration in his vocation to the priesthood is his older sister, who has been a religious nun for more than 25 years. Also, his older brother is a Jesuit priest. He and his brother were ordained together!

Although his siblings are all currently living in different places in India, Father Ivan opted for the Tanzanian mission after attending seminary in India. He has been studying Photography by Dave Rich theology and working in Tanzania for the past 18 ½ years, including formation and serving as a parochial vicar at Jesus. In this, he invites every parishioner to add to your three parishes and a pastor at two parishes. schedule one hour per week of Eucharistic adoration, perhaps spending an hour in adoration during a time when Before his current assignment at St. Thomas More, Father you are already here for Confession or Mass. “That way, we Ivan was here for about a month during Lent in 2014 and feel the real presence of Jesus in the Eucharist,” he said. then for five days in February 2016. So, he said he already “felt at home” at STM when he began his new assignment “I am really taken up by the spirit of the people at in June 2016. “I’m very grateful that I have the chance to St. Thomas More,” Father Ivan added. He is very happy to be here,” he said. see a lot of people attending Mass every day and on the weekends as well as in the various ministries and programs Father Ivan is guided by the desire to bring the Gospel of that “enrich the parish through growth in faith,” he noted. Christ to all people through preaching and other activities, accompanying each of us on our spiritual journey with “I feel something special about this parish,” he said. u 4 More Informed Progress in Proposed Project an update on the planning study

By Irene Lindemer have contractors review the plans and provide us with a Director of Communications & Stewardship preliminary cost for the renovation.

We thank the 760+ parishioners who recently took Brian Hake, Senior Campaign Manager from the Steier the time to participate in the planning study survey to Group, will work with us in organizing the campaign, which determine the feasibility of completing our parish master will include providing communication for the project and plan, the proposed Renewing Our Heritage renovation helping us organize volunteers to help with the campaign. project. According to the Steier Group, who conducted Volunteer activities will include phone-a-thon volunteers, the survey for us, there is definitely positive support for events committee members, administrative support and moving forward with the proposed renovation. other volunteer roles.

The Renewing Our Heritage renovation will accomplish A project of this magnitude will involve many people, both the updating of the oldest building on our parish campus. parishioners and outside assistance. The opportunity to This will include necessary electrical and waterline be part of a parish renovation project that will benefit improvements, the addition of an elevator for better several generations does not come often. It will be an access to St. Peregrine Hall under the Padre, update the honor to volunteer to help update the original building kitchen equipment along with a face lift for the Padre to be consistent with the rest of our campus, knowing restaurant, Youth Center and McCallin Hall I & II. that our efforts will continue the legacy started in 1971 with the original parishioners. Having been involved with Our pastor Monsignor Tom, business manager Dick Rapp past STM building projects as a long-time parishioner, I and architect Bruce Larson (LarsonIncitti architect firm) know the hard work it takes, but I also know the joy that met with the Parish Finance Review Committee (PFRC) being a volunteer and financial supporter brings when the on Wednesday, June 22. Monsignor Tom presented the project is completed. Investing in the future of our parish, proposed renovation to the committee. Approval to our church, through our time, talent and treasure is like proceed with the next phase of the project has been given. dropping a pebble into the water: though the pebble is gone, the numerous ripples circle on and on, spreading far Both representatives from the Steier Group and beyond. LarsonIncitti Architects will work on the next steps in preparation for this project. As we continue preparation for this exciting renovation, we will provide information with parishioner mailings, notices Architects Bruce Larson and Pete Incitti will create in the bulletin and on the website and through email. schematic drawings for the renovation, providing elevations to help us visualize the renovation results. If you would like to help with the project, please contact Completion of these drawings will then allow us to Irene Lindemer at 303.221.9181 or ireneL@stthomasmore. org. 

Youth Center St. Peregrine Hall August 2016 5 The Third Way our role as Christians

By Deacon Bob Cropp only the belief in God that motivates us to fully respect our neighbor. Right at the outset, this isn’t about party politics. It is about morality The influential atheist philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche and the role of Christians in a correctly stated, “Without God there is no morality. Right pluralistic society. This article is is what the powerful say it is.” not about right or left. It is about a third way. This third way is a way of St. Thomas Aquinas, a great Catholic philosopher, said, “All making common sense judgments should have some share in government. Of the kinds of based on reason and moral government, the best form of constitution is a mixture: of principles. We call this forming a monarchy, in that one person is at the head; of aristocracy, right conscience. in that many rule as especially qualified; and of democracy, in that the rulers can be chosen by the people and from The family is the basis of all social them.” Sounds like Thomas Jefferson! organization, and the human person is the end and purpose of all social organization. Here’s something from the Second Vatican Council: “Christians must be conscious of their specific and proper Recently, the family has been under attack with dreadful role in the political community and be an example by their consequences. We’ve seen a growing divorce rate (now sense of responsibility and dedication to the common being offset by an increase in co-habitation), a vast good. They should recognize the legitimacy of different increase in children born out of wedlock, a horrifying points of view about worldly affairs and show respect increase in the number of abortions, an increasing number for their fellow citizens who defend their opinions by of violent sexual crimes and murders and a terrible legitimate means.” decrease in the respect for human sexuality and life itself. From Pope John Paul II: “There is a tendency to claim Belief in God has been replaced by a belief in and reliance that agnosticism (denial of a personal God) and skeptical on the power and wisdom of the state to grant and enforce relativism (denial of absolute truth) correspond to rights. Human rights do not derive from the state; they democratic forms of political life. Yet, if there is no come from God: “We hold these truths to be self-evident; ultimate truth, a democracy easily turns into open or thinly that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by disguised totalitarianism.” their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

This third way is a way of making common sense judgments based on reason and moral principles.

The love we have for ourselves is the measure of how we should love others. Jesus teaches us that we must love our neighbor as ourselves. We must always seek justice in love.

Where injustices exist in society, it is the responsibility of Christians to work peacefully for change. There should be no injustice to anyone based on race, gender, religion, ethnicity, sexual orientation or any other standard. It is Bigstock photo 58864016 6 More Informed ELECTION 2016: what’s at stake? an evening on voting your conscience

Monday, August 15 7:00–8:30pm Election Prayer for Life (Excerpts) McCallin Hall O God, we acknowledge you St. Thomas More’s Respect today as Lord, Life Ministry cordially invites Not only of individuals, you to join us for an evening but of nations and governments... on the issues and the need for all Catholics and Christians to We thank you for the opportunity vote in November. that this election year puts before us to exercise our solemn duty not only to vote, Debbie Chaves, the Executive but to influence countless others to vote, Director of Colorado Family and to vote correctly… Action/CFA Foundation, will give a dynamic presentation on Amendment 69, the Assisted Suicide Initiatives and – Father Frank Pavone, the duty to vote. Light refreshments will be served. Priests for Life

And closer to home from Archbishop Charles Chaput: of a concrete act he has done or is going to do. The Church “For democracy to thrive, citizens need to act in accord has always taught that we must follow the dictates of with their beliefs; anything less empties public life of our conscience as long as it is correctly formed. Catholics its moral character. Thus, the duty of each citizen is to should be familiar with the formation of conscience choose a course in every public issue guided by his or through the experience of examining our conscience her conscience. This is a serious matter. For Catholics, before going to confession. conscience is never merely a matter of personal preference or opinion. Nor can conscience be formed in a vacuum. A well-formed conscience directs a person to do good and avoid evil. The education of the conscience is a lifelong task. God has placed knowledge of right and wrong in For Catholics, our hearts, but that knowledge is damaged by constant exposure to error. If we let our consciousness be informed conscience is never by the media, movies, TV sitcoms, comic books, novels, merely a matter of politicians and so on, we will find ourselves making some very bad decisions: “garbage in – garbage out.” In fact, this personal preference or is what forms most “opinions.” opinion. On the other hand, it is our responsibility as Christians and citizens to know the teaching of Jesus Christ, to learn Conscience is shaped by our understanding of the truth. all sides of an issue, to listen to the advice of competent It should always be formed in the truth of Jesus Christ, people and always seek the truth. which, as Scripture reminds us, is embodied in the teaching of the Church. (1 Timothy 3:15) For Catholics, There are many sources available to you to form a right a ‘right conscience’ can never be formed outside the conscience. Homilies at Mass, the Denver Catholic guidance of their Catholic faith.” newspaper, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, classes and speakers sponsored by the parish (e.g., see box above) It should go without saying that, in a democracy, voting is and the archdiocese, and responsible, orthodox Catholic the minimum responsibility of a Christian; not voting is not books and magazines are all sources of information that an option. Unfortunately, this sometimes means voting for will help you make sound productive decisions. the better of two poor choices. Don’t worry that you may only be hearing one side of the So, what is a right conscience? Conscience is a judgment issue, the Catholic side. You may not realize it, but you’ve of reason whereby a person recognizes the moral quality been swamped with all the other sides all your life. u

August 2016 7 So, Mass is Boring why do some people say Mass is boring?

By Rev. Tom Dillon a little less boring, then maybe I would actually like going to Mass.” “If only we changed the music to something Why is it that some people say that Mass is boring? Is the more contemporary, then it wouldn’t be so droll.” “If only Mass boring? I’m sure everyone reading this definitely has we had more sacred music, then it would lead us to an an opinion on that question. This question seems to plague experience of the holiness of God.” “If only we got a new parents in particular when trying to get their teenage more vibrant priest, he could enliven up this parish.” “If children to attend Mass with them. only we had a more serious and experienced priest, then we could get into some real-life homilies.” I use these Often the response by many parents is, “I don’t care if examples because these are some of the most common you think it’s boring; you’re going to Mass anyway.” This complaints about the Mass, but the list of complaints and answer is usually more effective with younger children but solutions is almost infinite. hardly every satisfies a pubescent teenager. In many cases with teenagers a parent just decides that it is too much So where is the problem and where is the solution to this trouble to try to get their teenager to Mass, and so they problem? Is the Mass boring? If it is, then how do we fix it? go without them. “The music is so boring,” parents might Is it wrong to ask this question? Should we just go to Mass hear. “The priest just drones on and on.” “The readings are and accept that it is boring? Is it that we are not supposed ancient and are talking about shepherds and kings; we live to like Mass; we are just supposed to go regardless of what in the modern world of businesspeople and presidents.” If it does for us? this is the case, then it is no wonder that it is difficult to get young people excited about going to Mass. Let me say one thing here before continuing: this is not a bad question to be asking! It is an excellent question and But this is not just a problem that teenagers and children you should not feel guilty for asking it. If we are asking this struggle with. question, then we are realizing that there is something wrong. We have been told that we go to Mass to How often do we say to ourselves, “I really don’t want experience the love of Christ. We want to experience the to go to Mass today; Father never says anything that I love of Christ in our lives. But when we don’t experience understand.” Or maybe it is, “Well, the football game is anything but boredom at Mass, we know that we are missing something. This realization that we are bored is in fact the first step of many whereby God is calling us When we don't into deeper relationship with Him. If we are bored, then it must be because we want more than what we are getting. experience We get bored of things that are repetitive and stale. We anything but want things that are fresh, vibrant and alive. This is not a bad thing. The Mass is not meant to be dry, repetitive and boredom at Mass, boring; it is meant be alive, life-giving and powerful. We become bored with something when we stop growing; we know that we are when we have exhausted something, we grow tired of missing something. it and move on to something new. Rarely do you read a suspense novel twice or see a horror movie twice; the mystery and excitement often wears off after the first or at 1:05pm, and Mass gets over at 1:30pm, so maybe I’ll second time. But a romance movie or a good biography is just leave right after communion. Heck what does it really sometimes worth seeing or reading several times because matter if I just miss Mass every once in while?” How often you often notice things that you didn’t before and you are do we grudgingly go to Mass just because we don’t want to pleasantly delighted. But once you have exhausted them, feel guilty for missing it? Have you ever done this? I know you move on to new things. This is the natural order of I have. How often have we attended Mass and just felt things. like we just didn’t get anything out of it? “What a waste of time,” we might be secretly thinking, although we might The Natural Order never verbalize it. Let me use an example. A child who is learning to do The answer that we might have for this dilemma could math does not continue with addition and subtraction be, “Well, if the Mass was just a little more engaging and when he has already mastered it; the child moves on to 8 More Informed multiplication and long division. Otherwise he becomes The Adulthood of our Faith bored and starts to disrupt the class. We all want to learn new things, discover new things and experience new So what is the solution? If we are going to Mass thinking things. Therefore the child’s boredom can be a sign for his that we know what the Mass is all about and we just have teacher to give him something new to learn. In this way to go because we are supposed to, then, to use an old the boredom can be seen as being a neutral state of mind. phrase, we have “missed the boat.” Just like the child who It is what the child does with the boredom that makes his gave up on math because he had mastered addition and actions good or bad. If he chooses to continue learning subtraction, we have in a very real sense given up on Mass. math and moves on to multiplication and division when he grows bored with addition and subtraction, then his The Mass is meant to be a time whereby we grow in our boredom has spurred him on to learning new things that relationship with God. When we go to Mass as children, will make him a smarter person. But if he abandons math we think that going to Mass is about listening to the altogether because he believes that he has learned all readings and the homily and then receiving communion. there is to know and he then starts to disrupt the class, This idea of Mass is often carried into our adulthood, and if then his boredom did not serve him well. It was not the we are honest about it, we grow bored of Mass. But this is boredom that was bad but what he chose to do with his a child’s understanding of the Mass. Being bored is neutral; boredom that made his actions productive or disruptive. being bored is about not receiving what we want. We want something new when we are bored. When we enter into This can be applied to our going to Mass as well. Small the adulthood of our faith, we realize that going to Mass children (and adults occasionally) are often delightful to is not just about sitting passively listening to the readings and gospel and then receiving communion. When we enter into a true adult faith, we realize that going to Mass ...going to Mass is is about engaging with God Himself. It is about growing in about engaging relationship with God Himself. with God Himself. It Any real relationship requires both parties to be active. This is true in our relationship with God as well as with one is about growing in another. A real relationship is not about what “I” can get. A relationship with God Himself. real relationship is about what “I” give, confident that I will receive. Mass (as a fundamental part of our relationship with God) likewise is not about what “I” can get. Mass is observe when they enter into a beautiful and magnificent about what “I” give, confident that I will receive. cathedral. They are often found to be in awe of the beauty and majestic grandeur of the art and architecture. Children If you find yourself saying, “I don’t like the priest;” “I don’t when they are small often ask quaint and charming like the music;” I don’t feel like I am getting anything out questions, even during Mass. “Daddy, why does Jesus look of Mass;” “I don’t want to miss the football game,” then I so sad on the cross?” “Mommy why is the priest wearing challenge you to reevaluate what you believe the purpose that long dress (alb)?” “Why is there smoke coming out of the Mass is. If you are saying and believing any of these of that gold chain thingy (incense)?” It is when they have things, then you are missing what the Mass is about. I am learned all about what their eyes, ears, nose and other not immune to this and I daresay neither is anyone reading senses can tell them that they then grow bored with Mass. this. The same can be said of us adults. When we have heard most of the Bible stories, know most of the responses, Going to Mass is about growing in relationship with God. know when we sit and when we stand, have heard most This relationship with God should never be dependent of Father’s homilies and know most of the hymns and upon the priest, music, liturgical style or even personal songs that are sung that we become bored. If we are raised feelings. These things can stimulate and encourage our Catholic, then this period of time might even come when relationship with God, but if you stop going to Mass we are still adolescents. We know what Mass is all about, because of a change in one of these things, then you are and we become bored with it. probably more attached to that preference over God who reveals Himself at Mass. In order for our relationship with We then usually fall into one of two mind-sets. We go to God to be authentic, we have to give something back to Mass because it is the right thing to do, or we stop going to God in spite of our personal preferences. Mass. Oftentimes parents are bewildered by their college age children who went to Mass their entire lives but as An Authentic Relationship with God soon as they moved out stopped going to Church within a few weeks. It really is not surprising when you think about The first thing that we can give to Him is our time and it. They most likely attended church growing up because it presence. So actually going to Mass and sitting through it was expected of them, not because it meant a great deal is the first necessary step. It is not the only step; this is a to them. Or you might have a not-so-compliant teenager child’s first step. who outright refuses to go to boring old church anymore. August 2016 9 The next step is engaging in the Mass. Listen actively to for us to bring us salvation. Jesus Christ, the Son of God, the readings, trying to understand how this reading is pours out His life for us on the cross. This event is what we speaking to you today. Listen actively to the homily, trying witness at each and every Mass we attend when the priest to see how its message affects you personally. Participate consecrates the bread and wine into the Body and Blood with the responses, actually thinking about what each of Our Lord. He provides us with the life-giving bread in the of the responses mean. (Many of them are responses of Eucharist. It is through the power of the Eucharist that we gratitude to God for His many gifts to us. How often are are able to go out and live the Gospel if we so choose. We we grateful?) When receiving communion, actually think are assured that Christ will reciprocate tenfold all that we about and reflect on what we are receiving. This is the give of ourselves at Mass. This maturation of faith is not beginning of our steps into adulthood. just for adults. Young people are often capable of attaining this maturity of faith. That is why we have saints who were The final step is actually trying to live out the Mass in our only twelve and thirteen years old when they died. daily lives. Do we proclaim the word we hear at Mass in our personal lives? Have we separated our faith from It is only when we grow into this faith that we will truly our daily life? Do we give of ourselves freely to others, experience the awesome life-giving power that is present especially our families? This is the message that receiving in each and every Mass. It is a power that is not capable the Eucharist tells us: to die to ourselves so that others of being boring, because it is always new. We can learn may live. This final step is maturing in our adult faith. something new about God and ourselves at each and every Mass we go to if we truly listen. God, through the Mass, is You might be asking, “Well, that is a lot for me to do on my constantly calling us deeper and deeper into relationship part. What about the receiving part? I thought you said with Him. In this relationship, He reveals His own heart there was give and take.” What is it that we want from to us and the love of that heart for us. He also reveals the God? How much more can God give us? He communicates very own desire of our own heart, the desires that the to us in the scriptures how we are to have true happiness. initial boredom was pointing to: a desire for something He has given us our very lives. All that we have is a that never fades away which is life-giving. Our desire is complete gift from Him. If we truly search for it, God is for God; and it is only through the Mass that God reveals constantly revealing His love for us throughout each and Himself perfectly to us on earth in the Sacrament of the every day of our life. The problem is that we are constantly Eucharist. u focused on what we don’t have instead of grateful for what Reprinted with permission from St. Paul Catholic Church, we do have. The Father allowed His Son to die on the cross Pensacola, Florida. A Challenge for Mass Matthew Kelly’s final session of his “Living Every Day with Passion & Purpose” event touched on a common opinion that Mass is boring. Whether it is the music, the homily or simply the routine of Mass, many have allowed the notion that Mass is boring to obscure the true essence of Mass. He challenged each of us to come to Mass with an open heart and open mind with the expectation that God will speak with us. Awaken the hunger to grow closer to God.

A simple challenge given to the audience was for us to come to Mass with a request to God to “show me one way in this Mass that I can become a better version of myself this week.” Then, we must listen: listen to the music, the readings, the gospel, the homily, the prayers of the Mass. Hear what word or phrase touches your heart. Once this comes to you, spend the rest of the Mass praying about how you can respond to this, how to live this one thing in the upcoming week.

This begins what could be a very moving, compelling spiritual tool. Mr. Kelly suggested bringing a pen and notebook (Mass Journal) with us and jot the word or phrase down; then, use the journal for reflection throughout the week. He even offers a free Mass Journal on his website! This could become an inspiring lifelong habit that will enrich our experience at Mass and bring us ever closer to God. For a free Mass Journal (shipping and handling not included), go to www.dynamiccatholic. com and click on “free resources.”

Matthew Kelly’s inspiring presentation of “Living Every Day with Passion & Purpose” was attended by 800+ at St. Thomas More parish on Saturday, June 11.

10 More Informed Be Careful of the Imposter distinguishing non-catholic churches

By Jo Holt Catholic churches when in fact they do not represent the Director of Marriage & Family Life teachings of our Roman Catholic faith.

Upon his return from the Holy Land in May, Monsignor Through the years, our office has spoken to a few couples Tom shared with us his wonderful experiences. Among his and families that found themselves in this situation. They travels to many religious sites, he had an opportunity to attended local churches in Aurora that they thought were see and visit many businesses, one of which was a coffee Catholic. The Mass looked the same, the priest wore the shop called “Stars and Bucks” – a knock off of the famous same vestments, they received the Eucharist and all the Starbucks we know in the United States. elements appeared to be there. But, if they would have asked a few questions or dug deeper, they quickly would A patron visiting Stars and Bucks can expect to receive a have discovered the falsehood these places represent. variety of coffee beverages, but will it be the same quality or service? Will all the employees wear green aprons? Upon my research, I was able to identify over 10 local Would the interior of the café resemble Starbucks in churches that claim to be Catholic but do not represent our furniture, products and design? faith. These churches are located in Aurora, Northglenn, Fort Collins and Englewood. Sometimes we have to look beyond the surface to discover the real imposter. The most recent one is located in Southlands and is titled “Divine Mercy Catholic Church.” On the surface, anyone Imposters exist everywhere. From street corner purse would assume it to be a new Catholic Church within the vendors to knock-off perfumes, customers are responsible Archdiocese of Denver, but upon further investigation it for educating themselves about the services and products is a part of the Communion of the International Catholic they desire so they can easily recognize the pretenders. Community, which includes four churches in the area.

As Catholics, it is important for you to also recognize those According to them, they were part of the original Catholic who misrepresent the faithful by identifying themselves as Church at the time of Christ, but after the Reformation they remained the same, while the Roman Catholic Church (our Church) modified to its current structure and belief system. (Of course, this is not an accurate explanation of the history of our Roman Catholic Church, which through apostolic succession traces the continuous, uninterrupted chain from the Apostles to today through successive popes and bishops.)

On the website for “Divine Mercy Catholic Church,” they identify their core beliefs, which include some key differences with our faith. For instance, they are not bound by some of the canons and are independent of the pope’s jurisdiction. They believe priests and bishops are permitted to marry, and the issue of contraception is a decision between the couple and God – not the Church.

None of these hold true for our Catholic faith.

So, we ask you as individuals, parents and families to do your part when visiting another church. Educate yourselves on our faith and the differences that exist between ourselves and others.

Finally, share your knowledge with those around you so we can all grow in understanding and discernment.  Bigstock photo 72082408 August 2016 11 What is RCIA? a journey moving closer to God

By Brett Manero

RCIA, the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults, is the ancient process through which souls come into full communion with the Catholic Church.

Every person is a soul created by God and returning to God. Each person is in a different place in their journey home to God. Some are in the Church, and very many are outside the Church. Some are baptized Catholic but have not yet received the fullness of Christian growth in Photography by Dave Rich Confirmation and the Eucharist. Very many are baptized Christians from other denominations – Episcopal, After this Rite comes the Period of Catechumenate, when Methodist, Baptist, etc. – and need to enter into the candidates and catechumens think more deeply about fullness of that blessed communion of the Roman Catholic what God is saying to them, how the faith is changing tradition. In RCIA, there are both candidates (those them, and preparing themselves to be baptized and/or already baptized) and catechumens (those who are not yet confirmed. They are brought more intimately into the baptized). Both seek to receive the fullness of Catholicism, Church, developing a special relationship with the People whether they’ve known Jesus for many years or are just of God. After this comes the Rite of Election, when the coming to know Him. candidates and catechumens from around Denver gather at the cathedral with the bishop to publicly express At STM, we have a solid core team that helps with teaching their readiness to join the Church, and their names are RCIA and guiding candidates and catechumens toward recorded. They are now known as the Elect and prepare Easter. RCIA is a process, a journey, a walk: just like all for the sacraments. During the final days of Lent, we enter of our lives are a process and a journey that takes time, into the Period of Purification and Enlightenment, when patience and trust. Before starting the process, many they make a deeper preparation for the sacraments. people already have some knowledge of Jesus Christ. Many The baptized attend Confession, and we enter into the are already baptized Catholics, and many are baptized in Easter Triduum. Finally, we enter into the Easter Vigil, other Christian traditions, while some are not baptized when baptisms and confirmations take place (for already- at all. Most people seem to enter because of a spouse or baptized Catholics, this will take place on another Sunday other loved one who has shared Jesus with them. Others after Easter), and candidates and catechumens are finally were raised in the Catholic faith only to stop practicing it at home in the Catholic Church. But RCIA is not quite somewhere along the way. But with everyone, there is a finished yet: the final period is Mystagogy, when we common theme: the mysterious Triune God knocks on the meet for class for another few weeks. As Catholics in full door of each and every one’s heart, asking them to come communion, these souls now truly begin the rest of their home to the Church. It’s really a beautiful and moving lives and the rest of their journeys home to God. phenomenon to see: people who want a deeper and meaningful relationship with God through His Church. While I may lead RCIA at STM, it’s really all of us Catholics who lead it. By being true Catholics – true Christians on fire The initial step is called Evangelization and for Jesus Christ – we inspire others to enter into our family. Precatechumenate, which can last longer for some than If all of us act as Catholics truly ought to act with love, others. It’s a time of searching and asking questions. humility, patience, kindness, goodness and the gentleness I encourage people to ask as many questions about that marks a Christian, then many, many more will enter Catholicism as they want: in fact, the Church encourages RCIA and come to the fullness of Christian faith. people to ask questions, because the Church has so much to offer from her ancient treasury. During the first few RCIA classes will begin in September. They will be held on months of RCIA, we discuss the basic elements of the faith: Sunday mornings in St. Francis Hall after the 8:30am Mass. the Trinity, prayer, Scripture and what the Church really is. From September through April, we study the Catholic faith Then comes the Rite of Acceptance, when catechumens through lectures, videos and small group discussion. (For and candidates state their desire to enter into the fullness class details or questions, contact brettm@stthomasmore. of the faith in the presence of the parish community. org or 303.221.9244.) Let us join together in praying for those who will enter into the Church this coming year.  12 More Informed Naked, Homeless & Ignorant living our faith through works of mercy

By Brett Manero real fruits of this work of mercy. Martin had become a Coordinator of Evangelization & Young Adult catechumen (one who is preparing to be baptized) and was Ministry becoming more interested in Christianity. One evening, while riding towards Amiens, Gaul (modern-day France) As part of our parish celebration of the Extraordinary on a winter evening, he noticed a poor shivering man by Jubilee Year of Mercy, during each month we focus on the gates. He was shocked that no one stopped to help the one or two particular corporal or spiritual work(s) of poor soul, so he used his sword to cut his own cloak in half, mercy. Each month, you are invited to try to find different giving the poor man the other half. opportunities to perform the work(s) of mercy! Shortly thereafter, Martin had a dream: he saw Jesus surrounded by angels, wrapped in the cloak that he had During the Month of August given the poor man. He immediately went to be baptized. This was a fulfillment of Jesus’ words: “Truly, I say to you, To Clothe the Naked as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.” (Matthew 25:40) When we give a homeless To clothe the naked may seem like an obvious act of person something to keep warm, we really are serving charity, but it is so needed even in Colorado and all of Christ Himself. America. In the Denver area alone, there are more than 10,000 homeless folks. Yes, 10,000! It’s amazing to see How can we practice this work of mercy? Simple. We can how much they appreciate a new coat, a blanket or gloves, donate our used and excess clothing and extra blankets to especially during the harsh winter months. When one has shelters, charities or to homeless folks whom we meet on so little, one comes to truly appreciate a simple gift of a the street. Christ in the City, a Catholic missionary group coat or other clothing. that serves the homeless of downtown Denver, can take your extra clothing and give them to the homeless. There is a wonderful story about St. Martin of Tours, a Roman soldier during the fourth century AD, who saw the Also, we can give thanks – for simple things like a warm bed and blanket on a cold winter night – and a prayer offered for those who don’t have as much.

To Harbor the Harborless

During the past year, there has been much debate in Europe and our own country about welcoming refugees escaping persecution, particularly from the Middle East and North Africa. In welcoming refugees, our country can save lives and be an example of a truly Christian civilization for the world to see.

It can also have evangelical results as well. In European countries, numerous refugees from the Middle East are converting to Christianity from Islam because of the love, friendship and welcoming attitude that their new countries in Europe have shown them. They have seen the beauty of Christianity shown to them through Christians who have welcomed them into their new homes. There is nothing more powerful for evangelization than an authentic Christian life.

There are also smaller, more personal ways to practice this work of mercy. Allowing a friend or a relative to stay with us for a period of time as they find employment and Bigstock photo 49758161 a place to live – or simply for a few days while they are August 2016 13 traveling – is a very effective way to live out this work of Pope Benedict XVI famously (and very bravely) said that mercy. we live in a dictatorship of relativism in our present day. By relativism, we mean that people live according to whatever We can also welcome others to our church for events, “truth” or definition of morality that they choose. In meals and of course the Mass and the other sacraments. In the dictatorship of relativism, our culture has become a my experience in evangelization, I’ve seen that there are so modern-day version of Pontius Pilate, who mocked Our many souls who are looking for a safe harbor in life – the Lord with his cynical question, “Quid veritas est?” (“What lonely, embittered, depressed – and God calls upon us to is truth?”) We have forgotten that there is objective Truth, help them find the safe harbor of the Church. which the Judeo-Christian tradition has handed down to us throughout the ages. As always, the works of mercy have a deeper, evangelical element to them. When we welcome people into the God is real, and with Him comes the Revelation and Church, we help them to find that safe harbor that all of the moral guidelines which He has given us for our own humanity is searching for. welfare and happiness.

St. Augustine famously said, “Our hearts are restless until If you see someone driving the wrong way down a one- they find their rest in You.” Let’s work in the coming year to way street, your responsibility is, to the best of your ability, bring souls to the safe harbor of the Catholic faith. to try to warn them of the wrong direction and great danger facing them. If you know that someone has the wrong directions to a destination, you ought to give them During the Month of September the proper directions.

To Instruct the Ignorant Whenever we are aware that another is lacking in some knowledge about something that will help them, it is our To instruct the ignorant is one of the spiritual works of duty to tell them about it. This is instructing the ignorant. mercy. Whereas the corporal works correspond to our immediate bodily needs, the spiritual works correspond to Far from being judgmental of others, we are aiding them our spiritual needs – or what leads us to salvation. by gently and lovingly bringing them to the truth and bringing the truth to them. This is another work of mercy that might not be so popular in modern Western culture. Like admonishing sinners, we If we see a loved one who is living an unhealthy and may think of instructing the ignorant as being “judgey,” dangerous lifestyle, we would be sinning by not telling or as imposing our views upon others. “But wait, this is them about the dangers of their lifestyle. America!” we might think, and so we shouldn’t correct others. “Your truth is not my truth” is a common saying in God calls all people to knowledge – knowledge of Him, our modern culture. His Revelation and His love. He also calls us to knowledge of His moral teachings, the teachings given to us through the Church. The more we grow in knowledge and wisdom, the more responsible we are to share that knowledge with others.

Far from imposing our views and beliefs on others, we give it to them with loving concern for their own welfare and salvation. This is to instruct the ignorant, and in doing so, we just might be leading a soul to heaven. u

YEAR of MERCY series

Join us for enlightening discussions on practical ways to live out the jubilee year through corporal & spiritual works of mercy! The next two months’ sessions will be held on Wednesdays, August 24 and September 28 at 10:00am in McCallin Hall. See you then! Bigstock photo 120051308 14 More Informed A Doctor of Prayer st. alphonsus maria de liguori

By Maryanne Carter The heart of his teaching was Jesus as an infant in the crib, Director of Pastoral Care Jesus crucified and Jesus alive with love in the Eucharist. To this he added Mary, Mother of the Redeemer. St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori was born in 1696 near Naples, Italy. He was awarded doctorates of civil and canon Alphonsus believed each person is called to love God law at the age of 16 and at the age of 20 became a lawyer. out of a sense of gratitude for all God has done for them This work did not satisfy the deepest desires of his heart, through Jesus Christ. and he left the legal profession at the age of 20 to become a priest. Alphonsus was ordained in 1726. Alphonsus became a Doctor of the Church in 1871 and was given the title “Doctor of Prayer” by the Catholic Church. Christ’s claim on the heart of Alphonsus was absolute and He wrote, “our whole salvation depends on prayer … For if irresistible. As a young priest he worked himself to the you pray, your salvation will be secure.” u point of exhaustion caring for the poor as he journeyed the country preaching.

In 1732, Alphonsus realized he needed to live among the Prayer to Obtain Final Perseverance poor and dedicated himself to their service. Others joined him, and the Congregation of the Most Holy Redeemer, Eternal Father, I humbly adore and thank Thee for known as the Redemptorists, began. having created me and for having redeemed me by means of Jesus Christ. As a gifted musician, composer, artist and teacher, Alphonsus was able to reach the ordinary people with I thank Thee for having made me a Christian by giving limited education as well as the theologians of his time. me the true faith and by adopting me for Thy child in holy Baptism.

I thank Thee for having given me time for repentance after my many sins and for having, as I hope, pardoned all my offenses against Thee.

O Infinite Goodness! I thank Thee also for having preserved me from falling again as often as I should have done if Thou hadst not held me up and saved me.

But my enemies do not cease to fight against me, nor will they until death, that they may again have me for their slave. If Thou dost not keep and help me continually by Thine assistance, I shall be wretched enough to lose Thy grace anew.

I therefore pray Thee, for the love of Jesus Christ, to grant me holy perseverance until death. Thy Son Jesus has promised that Thou wilt grant us whatever we ask for in His name.

By the merits then of Jesus Christ, I beg of Thee for myself and for all those who are in Thy grace, the grace of never more being separated from Thy love, but that we may always love Thee in this life and in the next.

Mary, Mother of God, pray to Jesus for me.

– St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori

August 2016 15 Stewardship of Time & Talent ministry fair & guide book offer opportunities

Inspired by this Jubilee Year of Mercy, prayerfully consider Following each weekend Mass, all are invited to the the opportunities of our various ministries to use your time annual fair, held in McCallin Hall I & II. Enjoy pizza after and talent to serve others! the Saturday evening Masses as well as the 12:30pm and 5:30pm Sunday Masses. Breakfast burritos will be served at Whether you are already involved in many ministries or the Sunday morning Masses. Discover how we can use our are looking for ways to start getting involved, you are talents to serve God while visiting with fellow parishioners invited to take part in the Stewardship of Time & Talent and exploring the variety of STM ministries. Already commitment weekend on Saturday & Sunday, August 6 & involved? Come and show your support for your ministries! 7. An important part of the weekend is the completion of a Time & Talent form, available at every Mass. This provides For information and inspiration, be sure to check out the an opportunity to inquire about new ministries to join as 2016–2017 STM Guide Book. The new Guide Book was well as for current active members to tell the parish office mailed to all registered parishioners in July. Enjoy using this which ministries you are involved in for accurate record handy reference booklet to explore our various ministries keeping. That is why it is very important for all parishioners and programs. We look forward to seeing you at the fair to complete a form. and thank you for your involvement in our parish!  Meet the Thang Family By Bunnie Busch Andrew is a pastor with First Presbyterian Church and Myanmar Christian Church. He also has other part-time The STM Habitat Helpers Committee is pleased to employment, and his wife Cing works full-time too. They introduce our family for this year’s Habitat for Humanity are highly motivated to provide decent, affordable housing project. Andrew Thang and Cing Mang are a married for their family – a “forever” home. couple from Burma/Myanmar. They have three children: one daughter (age 12) and two sons (ages 8 and 5). Construction will begin in September 2016, and the home They are currently five people living in a 771 square foot will be at 2664 S. Decatur Street in Denver. We are very apartment. The space is very cramped, and the three kids excited for this year’s project, our twelfth home built by share one bedroom. the Habitat Helpers coalition of area churches. We are again helping to provide a “hand-up, not a hand-out” to The family came to the US after the Burmese military a hard-working Christian family striving to be all that God government kicked them out of their home and country intends for them. because Andrew was evangelizing for Christ. Our STM Habitat mission has been successful these twelve years due to the enthusiastic support of our congregation, our priests and our administrators. Without God’s inspiration, the financial commitment of the parish and the on-the-ground hammer swinging of our volunteers, we would not have been able to provide permanent, affordable, decent homes to 18 adults and 34 children (including the Thang family). Also, a small portion of our monies are tithed to Habitat for Humanity International each year to build homes overseas.

We are very grateful to the entire STM community, Monsignor Tom and the many volunteers for continuing to support our mission. 

To sign up, visit www.habitathelpers.denver.volunteerhub.com (look for days labeled for STM). Contact Jay Busch at jrbbusch@ gmail.com for questions. Watch the bulletin for updates! 16 More Informed ChoirChimes Chorum new musical ministry for children in 4th–8th grade

By Fran Roselli choirchimes being used sporadically at the church and at the school. I inquired as to whether St. Thomas More What’s new? Listen and you can hear the sounds of bells would be interested in forming a children’s choir playing being played. Well, not yet, but coming this fall, St. Thomas the choirchimes. And the rest, as they say, is history. More is going to begin a new ensemble called ChoirChimes Chorum. So who can join, when will they practice, when will they play? We are currently looking for students in grades 4–8 What is a choirchime, you might ask? The choirchime is to be part of this group. They will practice on Monday long, gray and made of metal. It has a clapper on the top, afternoons at 4:30pm and play at various Masses and when it connects with the metal, it makes a beautiful, approximately once a month. This group will start in harmonious sound. The sound it makes is very similar to a September and end in May. At this time, there are only hand bell, but its appearance is quite different. 12 openings. No musical background is required to play choirchimes, but it is helpful. The new group will be directed by Fran Roselli (me – the author of this article). I recently moved here from the Do you have more questions? Great – come to the Time suburbs of Philadelphia, where I was the music teacher & Talent Ministry Fair on August 6 & 7 and look for – or at St. Andrew Catholic School. I was also very active rather, listen for – the choirchimes. They will be out on in my former parish of St. Andrew. I was a cantor, a display for all to see and perhaps play. You can meet me, member of the adult choir, chamber choir and directed a Fran Roselli, and sign up at the ministry fair. If you just contemporary adult ensemble. But for the last 18 years, can’t wait (or if you are unable to join us at the fair), you I was the director of the ChoirChimes Choir. This group can email [email protected] and I will answer your played at various Masses, performed at musical festivals questions and provide you with all you need to know. and played at nursing homes. We are so excited to be starting this new group, and we When I moved here to Colorado, I immediately got hope you will enjoy the wonderful sound it will add to the involved in the music ministry at St. Thomas More and liturgy when the choir is ringing at Mass. u came to find out that there was a three octave set of

Photo submitted by Fran Roselli of her previous ChoirChimes group at St. Andrew Catholic Parish in Philadelphia, Penn.

August 2016 17 Living Catholic Health Care cmf curo ministry

By Louis A. Brown Jr. CMF CURO works together with Samaritan Ministries Director, CMF CURO, a Living Catholic Health International (“Samaritan Ministries”), a Christian health Care Ministry sharing ministry that consists of over 60,000 households and 200,000 individuals nationwide. In this period of the New Evangelization, the Holy Spirit is asking the Church to proclaim the Gospel in Following the example of early Christian communities, every intersection of the culture. Advancing the New these households are sharing their medical needs, Evangelization in the culture of health care is a vital member-to-member and family-to-family. CMF CURO mission for the Catholic community in the United States. members who enroll in health sharing are also members of Samaritan Ministries and share their medical costs with One of the most important ways for Catholics to witness Samaritan Ministries’ 60,000 households. to the Gospel in health care and provide for their health care needs is to join the Catholic health care ministry CMF CMF CURO members who participate in health sharing are CURO (CMF = Christ Medicus Foundation; curo in Latin exempt from the individual mandate of the federal health means to care for, cure, heal and watch over). care reform law (the Affordable Care Act). As a Christ- centered community, every month members of Samaritan CMF CURO provides an affordable Catholic health care Ministries share approximately $15 million in medical alternative to medical insurance. CMF CURO is not costs. insurance. Rather, it is a ministry in which Christians directly care for each other’s medical needs. Members of CMF CURO pay a monthly share payment directly to another member of the ministry who has a Members of CMF CURO share their medical costs with medical care need. Members are encouraged to send a Christians across the country, join a new national Catholic prayer note communicating their prayers for the member health care community and contribute to building a in need. Members share their medical needs according to greater culture of life, consistent with Catholic teaching. Samaritan Ministries’ sharing guidelines that articulate the needs that are shared by the members of the ministry and The CMF CURO ministry was announced in October 2014 the medical needs that are not shared. While members at the National Press Club and at the Catholic Information share a wide breadth and depth of medical needs, Center in Washington, D.C. The ministry is provided under generally pre-existing medical needs, dental needs and the umbrella of the Catholic 501(c)(3) Christ Medicus vision needs are not shared. Foundation, dedicated to advancing the Gospel of Life in health care. His Eminence Cardinal Raymond Burke, patron When a member has a medical need consistent with the of the Order of Malta, and His Excellency Bishop Earl sharing guidelines, members directly receive checks from Boyea, Bishop of the Diocese of Lansing, Michigan, are the other Christian households across the country that pay for episcopal advisers to the CMF CURO ministry. medical needs.

CMF CURO members are a living witness of the Gospel and to the Church’s teaching of subsidiarity that calls us to love one another, take care of one another and walk with one another as the mystical body of Christ in community. This complete trust in God is at the heart of the New Evangelization and is the spiritual core of CMF CURO.

As a fellow member of the Denver Catholic Community, I encourage you to consider whether the Holy Spirit is calling you to this Catholic ministry with members who are affordably caring for each other’s medical needs, praying for each other and witnessing to the Gospel in health care.

For more information, please see the CMF CURO website at www.cmfcuro.com or call 800.840.7471.  Bigstock photo 827224 18 More Informed Footprints a new program for single pregnant women

By Valerie Haas

“When you saw only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.” – Footprints in the Sand by Mary Stevenson

According to a 2015 survey conducted by Care Net, a nonprofit organization that supports more than 1,100 pregnancy centers across North America, over 40% of women who have had an abortion were regularly attending church when they ended their pregnancy. Responses from over 1,000 surveys indicated that 76% of those post-abortive women stated the church had no influence on their decision, mainly because most (65%) of them felt church members judge single, pregnant women.

Allow that last statistic to sink in a bit… 65% of single, pregnant, church-attending women who chose abortion over seeking help from us did so because they feel we are too judgmental. Whether a false perception or bitter reality, that statistic should inspire us to do some serious self-reflection on how our words and actions are being perceived by a Photo courtesy of Valerie Haas young woman in dire need of our support rather than our gossip and judgment. Footprints will consist of an eight-week program Being pro-life, we are right to care about the birth of the designed to assist and support a young woman as she baby, but we must also care for the life of the mother discerns the choice of parenting versus adoption. The in an obvious and measurable way. Places like Planned discernment process will include a series of reflections Parenthood survive because many women in crisis do not from ENDOW created specifically for Footprints, group feel comfortable reaching out to people in the church for discussion, time for prayer and sacraments, journaling, help or guidance. The one place they should find true mercy personal testimonies from other women who faced an is the last place they look. Yet, research indicates that many unexpected pregnancy, and possible spiritual counsel. women would never have aborted their child had they found The women will also learn about the many resources at least one person who offered gentle, loving guidance. This available to them through the parish itself as well as offers a tremendous opportunity for the church. through Catholic Charities.

The good news is that this opportunity has been recognized It is our hope that through the outreach and support by St. Thomas More! A new program called “Footprints” has of St. Thomas More parishioners – the Body of Christ – been created to carry young women through the journey of scared and pregnant women will no longer feel the need an unexpected pregnancy. to walk the journey of an unexpected pregnancy alone. May they feel their burdens lifted in a very real way as The mission of Footprints is to support the pro-life they are carried by their fellow sisters and brothers in movement by answering the call of Pope Francis “to heal Christ. wounds” and position “the church as a field hospital after battle” for every single woman facing an unexpected All recurring sessions will be held at St. Thomas More pregnancy. and will begin September 8, 2016. For more information, call or text 844-8-FORHOPE (844-836-7467) or email The purpose of the ministry is to provide spiritual, emotional [email protected]. All inquiries will be received and physical support in a safe, nonjudgmental way so that with unconditional love and will be kept confidential. the church becomes the first place a single pregnant woman seeks help rather than the last. The goal will be to save the Survey source: mommy and baby, and to ultimately inspire a passionate www.bpnews.net/45893/abortion-womens-views-of- relationship with Jesus Christ. church-focus-of-study  August 2016 19 Teacup Kids a weeniefication problem

From the Principal’s Desk: Whether or not you have children of your own – and whether or not they are still in school, if you do – A university professor recently please read this letter, penned by the principal of wrote an article about an alarming Cresthill Middle School. I’ve worked with high school trend that college faculty (and youth at this parish for over 14 years, and I live the high school/middle school faculty daily truth of his words with our young people. I love as well!) are seeing across the our kids. I want them to thrive – to be solidly grounded country – a noticeable fragility in God’s love for them and to transform the world among today’s students. Kids are around them as a result. I want to empower them emotionally and psychologically on that path. I pray that you feel the same. But we more delicate than ever before. need to know the things of which Mr. Rundle speaks, College professors have taken to because I see it in our young people, and it’s constantly calling this generation of students affirmed by the studies I read. “teacup kids” – they look beautiful on the outside, but they are liable to chip and break with even the slightest Pope St. John Paul the Great consistently stated that bumping. the youth are not the future of the Church – they are the Church of today. As members of that Church, we A growing body of evidence is revealing to us that young all have a responsibility to guard and guide her way Americans today are less sturdy and more fragile in forward on earth. We dismiss our young people with comparison with young Americans from two decades ago. a “they’ll grow out of it” attitude at our own peril and When a peer says something snarky or rude to our kids, theirs. Let us work together to “fill up what is lacking in so many of them fall hopelessly to pieces and struggle to the afflictions of Christ on behalf of his body, which is recover. I can’t tell you how many Cresthill kids believe the church” (see Colossians 1:24). they have been a “victim of bullying” because somebody said or texted an unkind message, a tasteless tease, a – Sue Lythgoe criticism or ridicule. I’m not at all saying we should look the High School Youth Minister other way with vicious insults and stinging sarcasm – I’m personally clamping down on it. But kids used to be better equipped to deal with the mean and immature remarks of bit of discomfort or challenge. Something inside seems to their peers. be missing or grossly underdeveloped: some inner grit that we took for granted in raising kids a generation or two ago.

And I believe there is something WE can do about it! I I see kids believe we MUST do something: alter our current cultural direction with regards to how we (it takes a village) are wither and raising our youth. The root cause of this debilitating psychologically fragility in our children is the loss of moral compass that can only be provided by the adults in society. Our kids are melt down nearly drawing water from the wrong well, and it isn’t capable of quenching their thirst. To put it another way, our kids every day... are suffering because the toxic popular culture they are marinating in has not taught them that the opinion of loving, worthy adults who care about them deeply and And when a grade or score indicates their natural brilliance unconditionally matters more than the opinions of their to be less “awesome” than they’d prefer to believe, kids same-age peer group. are more likely now to sulk and then blame the teacher. I see kids wither and psychologically melt down nearly every Our children are defining themselves by the standards of day in the front office as a result of being corrected by an behavior and character they teach to one another (bad adult – usually for disrespectful or inappropriate behaviors. idea) via the likes of Instagram, Snapchat and Ask.fm, and Our kids are indignant with us when we don’t treat them no longer by the wise guidance of the people in their lives like capable young adults, yet I see them deteriorate into who have lived a few years and learned a few things. We, puddles of goo the moment they experience the slightest the tribal elders, are no longer doing our job well enough 20 More Informed in providing wise counsel with strong boundaries. Or, We are parents and school partners, not our teens’ lawyers perhaps our kids are better equipped to tune us out, and or lobbyists. Our kids have now come to expect their too often we’ve abdicated holding our kids accountable. parents to show up (at the “send” of a text) and bail them The result of all of this is kids adrift in a sea of adolescent out of trouble at school. You might think I’m exaggerating. confusion blown about by broken and misguided values. A quite sincere parent sat across my desk and requested that I order the custodian to repaint the inside of our office We have a weeniefication problem! (Yes, I did just make detention rooms something softer and more pleasing that word up...) because they were too stark white and emotionally uncomfortable for her child (hence our very unimaginative Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not saying the problem is name “the white rooms”). Weekly I hear parents lament that we’ve raised our kids to be weenies (that actually that they can’t get their kids to put their mobile devices understates my concern and misses the bigger point.) down even at the dinner table. Why is this a choice or a I’m saying WE – society’s adults – have become weenies request? Are we bullied by our own children? ourselves in carrying out our most important job responsibility: enculturating our kids into the values and Weeniefication (us) + Victimitis (ours) = Fragile Children. norms of healthy society. It’s not just my opinion, it’s math!

Kids need adult guides and role models to look up to – I’m talking to all of us adults: parents, teachers, they need to genuinely care about what we think of their administrators, neighbors, shop owners, relatives. Adult decisions, and our opinion of their choices must matter authority has to regain a central place in the lives of our to them. We’ve become weeniefied in our tolerance of a children again and become responsible for instilling in our teen culture of disrespect; and we need to step it up and children what it means to be a responsible man or woman, actively teach our children and hold them accountable to a gentleman or a lady, and right from wrong. Are we up for higher standards of character, honesty, decency, civility the task? If not, we can expect many more generations of and conscientious living. And experts are telling us our shattered teacups. cultural abdication of adult authority is hurting our kids greatly! They need STRONG and authoritative (not In Solidarity and Love, authoritarian, not tyrant) adults in their lives who love Sid Rundle them unconditionally and fiercely. Principal of Cresthill Middle School Come Join the Fun at PDO faith & friendship for children 18 months to 3 years old

By Heather Griffin

Give your child an opportunity to build skills and prepare for preschool while learning to love God!

The Parent’s Day Out program is for children who will be 18 months & walking to three years old by October 1. The program offers a loving, faith-based environment for your little ones to learn and grow with friends.

Through a philosophy of “Learn through Play,” your children will strengthen their skills and prepare for preschool while gaining independence and building their social, emotional, fine motor, gross motor and language skills. The program provides age-appropriate activities within a Catholic environment.

For more information, visit www.stthomasmore.org/ catechesis/childrens-programs/parents-day-out or contact Heather Griffin at 303.770.0531 x6 or pdo@stthomasmore. org. Registration is open now! August 2016 21 stm catholic school

The Lion’s Roar

2015–2016 Peacemaker Awards

Every trimester, a student from each classroom is identified attempting to solve problems on their own but seeking the as a Peacemaker. Peacemakers show and model a deep help of an adult when necessary. respect for the teachings of Jesus. They exemplify the “Golden Rule” by being compassionate, patient, kind, A Peacemaker is a responsible citizen. They are considerate thoughtful, considerate, respectful and helpful with other and respectful of the rights and property of others, children and adults. They include everyone in activities and practicing appropriate school behavior in the classroom, are “encouragers,” never giving “put-downs.” lunchroom and playground. They can be counted on to assist others without being asked. Additionally, theysolve These students are collaborative workers who volunteer problems in appropriate ways, demonstrate a positive to serve, contribute to group activities in a positive way, attitude and resist negative peer pressure. consider the ideas of others and are willing to accept responsibility. When involved in conflict situations, Each year, an eighth grade girl and boy are recognized as they work toward a peaceful solution or compromise, Peacemakers of the Year. For this honor in 2015–2016, we congratulate Josh Frank and Katie Liedtke. u

Trimester 1 Trimester 2 Trimester 3 Madeleine Yeignst 8 Julija Eddy 8 Olivia Wiley 8 Gabriella Pira 8 Ben Jackson 8 Emma Roy 8 John Dennen 8 Jack Fete 8 Katherine Berrian 8 Andrew Jackson 7 Tali Fox 7 Molly McCarthy 7 Jacob (Jake) Hefner 7 Jordan Pettyjohn 7 Meghan O’Neal 7 Alexandra Odland 7 Samantha Guerrero 7 Jacob Kesselman 7 Patrick Dobranowski 6 Margaret Christensen 6 Janina Eddy 6 Patrick Weyrauch 6 Emily Collins 6 Clara Valkoun 6 Quinn Gallagher 6 Alicia Nelson 6 Grace Froehlke 6 Lucas Lemire 5 Tess Finan 5 Mary Madison Robesky 5 Ben Javier 5 Renee Sobania 5 Sophia Meyer 5 Adam Berg 5 Alex Herrera 5 Lorin Hoague 5 Jack Landahl 4 Sterling Howarth 4 Alexis (Lexie) Meyer 4 Charlotte Hass 4 Kate Thompson 4 Giulia Pira 4 John Fischer 4 Katherine DeWolfe 4 Veronica Walsh 4 Spencer Buege 3 Vaughn Filby 3 Alexandria Lancaster 3 Vivian Leege 3 Ryon Schmidt 3 Paisley Krahn 3 Kathleen Dennen 3 Claire Frontz 3 Ryann Francavilla 3 Ava Reese Uhrig 2 Kirsten Buhay 2 Kathleen Junker 2 Mary Beacom 2 Evan Hostetler 2 Maeve Winter 2 Michael Cancila 2 Rose Gabel 2 Christopher Buechel 2 Charlotte Krager 1 Ben Wilkerson 1 Hailey Fete 1 Alina Bates 1 Charlie Gerd 1 Olivia Landahl 1 Susanna Young K Kaelen Schmidt K Jillian Laessig K Liliana Jotte K Tyler Greis K Delaney Shea K

22 More Informed STM Student Ushers are Here to Help

One of STM Catholic School’s traditions is attending Mass as a school on Fridays. The school liturgies are always beautiful and draw a large congregation.

With our STM student ushers to help you at our school Masses, be assured that one of them will greet you and find a place for you to sit.

These ushers were selected for this ministry by their teachers and given approval by their parents. You will see them on duty at every school Mass throughout the year.

Ushering is a ministry that requires special skills and training. The students are prepared by Mr. Benny Martinez. It is a great honor to be selected and a great experience to have an active role at church.

The student ushers for this school year are:

Front row: Jacob Schavemaker, Sarah Finnerty and Samantha Guerrero Second row: Ryan McCarthy and Emma Zarlengo Back row: Blake Pavlik, Andrea Hawbaker and Samantha Stevens u

Children’s Charity “… Tell them to do good, to be rich in good works, to be Christ in the City, Father Woody’s Haven of Hope, Make-a- generous, ready to share …” – 1 Timothy 6:18 Wish Foundation, Mercy Housing, Little Sisters of the Poor and numerous other organizations. The Children’s Charity has been set up to help educate the children and youth at St. Thomas More Parish about the The students really enjoy the touching thank-you notes gifts of stewardship. When recognizing that all of our gifts that the classes truly belong to God, we can help the children and youth receive in see the entire process of stewardship through time, talent appreciation of and treasure. Every Sunday, we see many young children their donation. walk up to the altar to give an offering in the basket that The donors are one of our priests is holding during the offertory. The inspired that children who use the children’s stained glass window the children envelopes give the donations that go towards Children’s care and Charity fund. Each Faith and Academic Formation branch are praying receives a budget for the year for the Children’s Charity. for these organizations. In the various classrooms, the children and youth are Stewardship encouraged to learn about different service organizations is a lifelong that might need financial assistance. Requests are then process that we made by the children and youth to offer their treasures to can offer to our the organizations. All of our STM Catholic School classes children and give a donation to the Discalced Carmelites to go towards youth. u educating the schoolchildren in Tanzania. Some of the many organizations that received donations this year are Photo: Guest speaker Larry Smith, CEO of Catholic Charities, Gabby Krause Foundation, Catholic Charities, Lighthouse and STM Catholic middle school students discussed the Women’s Center, the Julia Greeley Home, Judi’s House, mission and services provided by Catholic Charities. August 2016 23 middle school & high school youth

The Spark

The idea of Blessings Bags popped up on the internet a while back – you prep a Ziploc bag of helpful items and Blessings Bags keep it in your car, ready to hand out. In June we did a Breakaway night on service, ending the evening by By Sue Lythgoe making our own Blessings Bags. We all had a variety of High School Youth Minister items from which to choose for our bags: not only snacks (non-perishable things that won’t melt or squish easily), The young man who stands on the corner of Hampden but toothbrush and toothpaste, floss, deodorant, hand and I-25 is named Jayce. He has the overly browned look sanitizer, sunscreen, comb, lip balm, gum, safety razor, of those who live outside without protection from the lotion and a variety of other travel-sized items that can be sun or the wind. I’ve never asked his age, but he doesn’t found at the dollar store. look much older than 20, if that. We usually only have a minute or two to chitchat before the light turns green, but In addition, we all wrote a short note of encouragement Jayce always has a friendly smile for me and seems like a and prayer to include with our bags. Perhaps most really sweet guy. I always pray for him as I drive away, and importantly, we prayed over our bags, asking God to bless I wonder: what is he doing out there? What has happened and guide the people who will eventually receive them. in his life that he’s standing on a corner holding a sign for help, instead of in a home with a family? I just give Jayce a It’s almost exciting to drive down the road with one of snack (I try to keep Clif bars in my car in case I pass friends these in your car, knowing that should you meet Jesus in in need while driving) and once I actually remembered to distressing disguise, you’re prepared to give something pack a sandwich and a bottle of water for him, but I don’t designed to be a blessing. always know where on the road I’ll be from day to day, and I’m often not prepared. I’m sure most people don’t even The following week, several of the high school youth look at Jayce as they drive by; I want him to know he’s not reported that they had already given out their first invisible, nor is he forgotten. Blessings Bag to someone and that the people seemed really grateful to receive them. Of course, the goal of such Blessed Teresa of Calcutta always referred to the destitute a project is that it’s ongoing – once you hand out the bag people with whom she worked as “Jesus in His distressing in your car, you make a new one. disguise of the poor.” What do we do when we see Jesus on the side of the road, holding a sign and asking for help? For various reasons, most of us haven’t served at a soup kitchen lately. But every one of us likely passed at least one person holding a sign within the last week. God gives us a ready opportunity to reach out to a brother or sister in need, and if we’re prepared, we can truly make the most of these opportunities.

The last few times I’ve exited the highway at Hampden, I haven’t seen Jayce. I pray for him anyway – that he’s no longer living on the streets and has a job and a good place to live. I’m sure that’s our prayer, as a Church, for every person who has nowhere to go. But in the meantime, Jesus calls us to be a blessing to the poor, for whom He has a special love. How will we live out that calling in our lives Photography by Sue Lythgoe today? u 24 More Informed Get to Know Our New Youth Minister

St. Thomas More Youth Ministry recently welcomed Yifat Who is your Shahrabani as the new middle school youth minister. favorite saint Following is an interview with Yifat by her co-youth and why? minister, Greg Johnson. My favorite Where are you from and where did you grow up? saint is St. Where did you attend high school and college? Thérèse of When did you graduate and what was your Lisieux. She major? acknowledges her smallness I am originally from Israel, but I have moved around and brokenness, various American states and areas of the world prior to and she uses having settled in Aurora, Colorado for the past eleven her humanity years. I attended Grandview High School. I graduated as drive to trust with a Bachelor’s in Psychology with a minor in Religious in God in ways Studies from the Metropolitan State University of Denver. that I admire. I am currently a student in the online graduate program at She views the Colorado Christian University for a Master’s in Counseling. simplicity of God’s love Why did you decide to do youth ministry? while also acknowledging Ever since having gone through RCIA, I wanted to live in it – and all service to people inside and outside the Church, and I else, for that matter – as miraculous. One of my favorite wanted to share the Catholic Christian faith with every qualities about St. Thérèse is how active and present she person I could. Shortly after entering the Church in Easter is in people’s lives. Her desire to spend her eternity in 2012, I got involved in various volunteer activities, such as Heaven doing good on Earth is something to which I, too, RCIA, Youth Ministry, Sacrament Prep, choir and more. My aspire. passion revealed itself more and more as a calling every day, and God led me into pursuing youth ministry full-time. What is your favorite Disney movie and character? What has been your favorite part of working at STM so far? My favorite Disney movie is Hercules, and my favorite Disney character is Dr. Doofenshmirtz. Being exposed to a community that holds a commitment to remaining rooted in God and a desire to share Christ How many siblings do you have? with others. I have two younger brothers. Who in your life has been your biggest role model and example in the Catholic faith? If you could give the middle and high school youth of this generation advice on staying active My mentor. He holds me accountable and faithful to in our Catholic faith, what would you tell them? remaining informed and practicing of the Catholic faith and the scriptures, and encourages me to address them in Never be afraid to ask questions about God, but also never creative and innovative ways. Above that, he demonstrates allow other people’s belief or unbelief to determine your the love of Christ through his guidance and advocacy, as own. We always have something new to learn about God, well as his courage and consideration for others. and this is a gift rather than a downfall. Don’t be afraid to be transparent and honest with God, because we do NOT I hear your co-worker (Greg Johnson) is pretty serve a God of shame. Give Him everything you’ve got: the fun to work with. What is your favorite part about good, the bad, the ugly and the unknown. working with him? Also remember that comparison is the thief of joy, and no Greg has a very big heart and contagious spirit of joy. His one else can play your part in this world. You are worth love for STM, the ministry and the people whom he serves every minute of the journey to discovering your special is apparent and genuine. purpose. u

August 2016 25 Fortnight for Freedom freedom forged on the cross

On Independence Day this year, hundreds of STM parishioners gathered for a special 9:00am Mass to celebrate our religious freedom on our beloved country’s 240th birthday.

Military, police, firefighters, service personnel and scouts wore their uniforms to be recognized. Red, white & blue clothing also abounded.

A moving video was shown before Mass with quotes from our Founding Fathers, highlighting the strong Christian roots of the Constitution of our country.

Members of the Knights of Columbus Fourth Degree lead the procession after Mass for the flag-raising ceremony. Ret. General of the Air Force Sal Villano spoke, and Father Rohan closed the ceremony with a prayer.

Praying together, singing patriotic songs and enjoying refreshments and fellowship provided a great way to begin celebrating the Fourth of July.  Photography by Dave Rich Faith Direct

Have you ever been on your way to Mass and realized you either direct debit from your checking/savings account forgot your checkbook, or perhaps suddenly wondered, or through your credit/debit card once a month on your “Where did I put my envelopes?!” Faith Direct has the choice of either the 4th or 15th of every month. solution to this common problem! Now you can apply the convenience of direct debit to your Faith Direct is a new, exciting way for you to support our parish offerings in much the same way as you may already parish offertory through eGiving. This convenient program use it to make your mortgage, car or tuition payments. enables parishioners to make your contributions through Faith Direct offers optional, personalized cards to replace your envelopes for the collection basket for those who like to place something concrete in the basket.

There is no charge to parishioners for enrolling in Faith Direct. In fact, every family signing up with Faith Direct means one less package of envelopes to print and mail out – and that will mean savings for St. Thomas More, which we can use to further expand our ministries throughout our community. As a parish, we can all “go green” by eliminating the many wasteful envelopes that go unused.

For more information or to enroll securely online, please visit our website at www.stthomasmore.org/welcome- online-giving. Thank you for your financial and prayerful Bigstock photo 129997034 support of our parish! u 26 More Informed STM Day: Celebrating 45 Years celebration, awards & festivities

This year, we celebrate 45 years since our parish began, During the Mass, Monsignor Tom presented ten embarking on a beautiful Christ-centered journey that parishioners with the Pastor’s Award. These outstanding continues today. ten were chosen for their generous stewardship of time & talent and service to our parish. One of the rich traditions at STM is celebrating our patron saint’s feast day with festivities that include Mass, Pastor’s Following Mass, everyone gathered in McCallin Hall and on Awards and a family barbecue. This year, the STM Day the front patio to enjoy a summer barbecue on a pleasant celebration began at the 5:30pm Mass on Saturday, June evening filled with lively music and fun fellowship. u 18. The clergy were vested in red to honor the martyrdom of St. Thomas More, our parish’s patron saint.

Photography by Gary Olmsted Front row: Caroline Peltes, Aline Cervantes, Andrea Hawbaker, Emma Sobnosky and Ann Benson. Back row: Deb DesMarteau, Danette Johnson, Monsignor Tom, Dave Rich and Tom & Judi Piccone.

We recognize, congratulate and thank the ten parishioners ŠŠ Andrea Hawbaker, Liturgy who received the 2016 Pastor’s Award for outstanding ŠŠ Danette Johnson, Faith & Academic Formation: Office stewardship and service. of Catechesis ŠŠ Caroline Peltes, Faith & Academic Formation: Parish ŠŠ Ann Benson, Faith & Academic Formation: Office of School Catechesis ŠŠ Tom & Judi Piccone, Faith & Academic Formation: Youth ŠŠ Aline Cervantes, Faith & Academic Formation: Youth ŠŠ Dave Rich, Communications & Stewardship ŠŠ Deb DesMarteau, Pastoral Care ŠŠ Emma Sobnosky, Liturgy August 2016 27 The freedom forged on the Cross is the freedom that inspired our Constitution. a way of life “God who gave us life gave us liberty. And can the liberties of a nation be thought secure when we have removed their basis?” – Thomas Jefferson

“This nation was founded not by religionists, but by Christians; not on “For democracy religion, but the to thrive, citizens Gospel of Jesus need to act in Christ.” accord with their – Patrick Henry beliefs...” – Archbishop Charles Chaput

Let us pray for our nation and vote this November.

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