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Camp Chemistry concocts a petri dish of open, positive, progressive lifestyles; a pleasureable potion of lectures, workshops, and events that encourages a paradigm shift in modern relationships and human sexuality serving our mission of Illuminated Eroticism. Our experiments will take place in two uniquely different locations: The Chemistry Lab, located poolside on the second floor, is a sensual playground and party space. Chemistry Lab-yrinth – a lush secluded event space located at Camp Chemistry, near the Ramblewood Labyrinth south of cabins M-R. 4-5pm | Smooching 101 with CJ, in a way that is ultimately stultifying for Chemistry Schedule Sly & the Smoochdome Crew most people. Sexless marriages, affairs, For pairs who want some fresh practice, or and the high divorce rate all reflect the those looking for more kissy techniques, unsustainability of monogamy as it is IN THE CHEMISTRY LAB-YRINTH: this vintage Smoochdome experience is for commonly understood and practiced. you! Please come with a partner. This is a The Tantric model of relating offers an Friday Paramahansa Satyananda Saraswati. The lips-on experience – gawkers will be asked alternative to the monogamous model, to leave. 10-11pm | BDSM on a Budget practices are very similar, but Ananda Nidra although modern practitioners can with Benjamin Jones focuses specifically on pleasure. Lie back come closest to the spirit of authentic Whips, chains, leather, steel, vinyl, rubber. and enjoy! Sunday Tantra in the context of a long-term BDSM is often focused on stuff. Stuff relationship. These perspectives may 11am-12pm | Ananda Nidra (“blissful costs money and a lot of these things are 12-2pm – Avoiding “Poly-Agony” | seem paradoxical at first, but it is possible General Polyamory & Open Relationship sleep”) w/ Mark A. Michaels and expensive. Join us to learn a few tips and Discussion with Rosie & Alan Patricia Johnson to reject conventional monogamy while tricks to make your own toys to play with and This facilitated open discussion will be See Saturday’s description of Ananda Nidra deepening your connection to your partner. discover BDSM that doesn’t break the bank. valuable to anyone currently practicing, or This need not involve interacting sexually 12-2pm | Jealousy in Open considering any form of open relationship, with others, although it can. From the 11pm-12am | Tips For Tops 102 (and Monogamous) Relationships Tantric perspective, relationships, and including Polyamorists, Swingers & BDSM within the Poly & Swinger with Johnny Holes especially sexual relationships, should be Practitioners. All dating configurations, Communities with Rosie and Alan Building on last year’s popular PEX collaborations, and sexual exploration, orientations, gender identifications, Jealousy, is often called “The Green Eyed workshop, TFT102 will review the basics – a of whatever kind, is a joint undertaking, stripes & colors are welcome to share their Monster”...but what causes jealousy and discussion about the relationship of top based on each partner’s desire to facilitate questions, experiences & perspectives how can we manage or master this negative and bottom, including the responsibility the other’s growth. In this workshop, with each other. Possible subjects include: emotion? What lessons does our jealousy of the top to please the bottom and him/ we’ll examine these ideas in depth and communication & boundaries, different have to teach us & how can we grow from herself, including safety words, reading the provide you with practical tools for staying styles of open relationships, choosing it? What are the common types of jealousy bottom, role playing, how to use toys and connected as you explore. implements, sensation play and technique. to date with your partner or separately, in open relationships? What do they have We will then speak about bondage and its sexual orientation & polyamory, resolving in common? What should we do when 10-11pm | Manual Pleasure manners and guidelines including: how to conflict, poly etiquette, helping partners feeling these emotions? How can we gain with Om Rupani lead into bondage, how to use restraints feel “safe”, how much to disclose to your power over them & learn from it? What Hand-to-genital stimulation much of and skills of floggers, crops and other items, partner(s), managing jealousy, STIs & should you do if your partner is jealous? the time gets passed through quickly how to set up your home for bondage in a “safer” sex, integration (family or tribal How is envy different than jealousy in open by most of us on our way to supposedly discrete, yet functional manner. We’ll also style of polyamory) versus non-integration, relationships & how can it be managed, bigger and better things. In this class we cover some basic rope work. disclosure, “coming out” of the poly closet, relatively easily? What is Compersion? How are going to slow down and mosey a bit at poly-saturation, and avoiding “poly-agony.” can we cultivate it? this stage of erotic encounter and explore This lecture/discussion will be valuable to the possibilities. Our hands are the most Saturday 2-4pm | Tantric Erogenous Zones with anyone currently practicing, or considering Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson dexterous organs we possess. The amount 11am-12pm | Ananda Nidra any form of open relationship, especially In Tantric sexual practice, it is important of sensation and pleasure that we can learn (“Blissful Sleep”) with Mark A. Michaels Polyamorists & Swingers. It will be to create in our lover with our hands is and Patricia Johnson to prolong the excitement phase. The relevant to monogamous folks too. All virtually limitless. Ananda Nidra (“Blissful Sleep”) is an Tantric and Ayurvedic traditions have long dating configurations, orientations, gender One crucial aspect required to go more adaptation of a traditional Tantric practice recognized specific zones of the body that identifications, stripes & colors are welcome deeply into this format is to separate the developed by Mark A. Michaels (Swami are particularly responsive to stimulation, to share their questions, experiences & role of giver and receiver. In this particular Umeshanand Saraswati) and Patricia and some schools of Tantra (particularly in perspectives. class, the receivers will be women. The Johnson (Devi Veenanand). It is an South India) have developed a systematic givers can be men or women. Come with a effortless guided meditation that relies approach to the stimulation of these zones 2-4pm | Pair-Bonded Alternatives to partner. on pleasurable images and sensations in order to produce high states of arousal. Traditional Monogamy with Mark A. This system was introduced to the West Michaels (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) to induce feelings of relaxation and and Patricia Johnson (Devi Veenanand) by Dr. John Mumford in 1976 and is still refreshment coupled with a profound sense Conventional monogamy, as it exists little known. In this workshop, we will of satisfaction. Ananda Nidra is derived in twenty-first century America, is introduce you to to these zones and the from Yoga Nidra (yogic sleep) which was incompatible with the Tantric approach to basic principles for working with them first brought to the west in the 1960’s by sexuality, since it artificially limits desire systematically. Chemistry Schedule bios Johnny Holes has worked in the sex retail world for over 15 years. He has apprenticed IN THE CHEMISTRY LAB (upstairs poolside): as a bondage fabricator and ran his own gear business. He is seasoned in leading BDSM workshops and is also a performs in acting, comedy, absurd clowning, and hosting variety shows. Friday Saturday Benjamin Jones is also known as DJ Been Jammin’ and has been with Chemistry since 2-3am | Bound States with Om Rupani 2-4am | The Porno Jim Show featuring the very start in 2006. This is the first time he’s breaking out of his DJ role, using his skills in This is not a beginning rope class, but cabaret cuties Nicole Possin & Sweet wood working and sculpture to teach how to create BDSM toys. Ben is a little nervous, but SugaBeet & her Dirty Jazz Band rather the beginning of the discussion on hopes you come and enjoy his workshop. what to with a lover once you have them The Porno Jim Show returns to PEX with Mark A. Michaels Patricia Johnson all roped and bound. Why tie someone up? a hilarious revue of modern pornography! (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) and (Devi What becomes available through bondage? Expect special guests and many mind- Veenanand) are a devoted married couple, teaching Tantra together since 1999.They are the What mental states, physical states, sensual blowing videos, plus Porno Jim’s witty authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality (Llewellyn, 2006, winner of the USA Book News possibilities open up once a person is analysis of what all this porn is doing to us National Best Books 2007 Award in Health: Sexuality) and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment: bound? What journeys open up that are here in the 21st century. Not to be missed! The Key to Enriching Your Sexual Life (Llewellyn 2008, winner of the USA Book News Award in Health: Sexuality, Indie Excellence Awards finalist in New Age Non-Fiction, and ForeWord otherwise less accessible? What might 4-10am | Sunrise Super Set with DJs you discover about yourself on this ride, BenJammin, Friar Tuck & Orion. Magazine Books of the Year Award finalist in the Body, Mind and Spirit category). Michaels whether you are the one wearing the rope Celebrate the rosy fingertips of dawn with and Johnson wrote and appeared in two instructional DVDs produced by the Alexander or the one weaving it? We will explore these this dynamic trio of New York DJs. Institute: Tantric Sexual Massage for Lovers and Advanced Tantric Sex Techniques. Michaels possibilities through discussion as well as and Johnson are senior students of Tantric pioneer Dr. Jonn Mumford (Swami Anandakapila some playful rides and exercises. Saraswati) who has named them his lineage holders for the Americas and Europe.
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