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Cover  10 Ignore The White Noise Meet Stacey Rourke, mother, wife, author, and publisher. She was born and raised in Michigan, and now lives in, what she describes as, the adorably quaint little town of Flushing. She is a woman who has forged a career out of pursuing her passion and encouraging others to do the same.

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Letters from the Publisher & Editor 3 15 Goodnight, Smartphone Powering down before bed for a good night’s rest Calendar of Events 8 16 Life After Discovering Life After the Fall Shades of Faith 12 17 Womens History Dinner Recap The Gift I Never Knew I Needed Ask Shuntai 12 20 Life, Love, Laughter Creating Balance: Pot Pie or Deadline Books, Bytes & Beyond 13 22 Divalution Hello People! Your Priorities Are Askew! Mind Body & Soul 14 She is Me 24 Live to Believe Have an Attitude of Gratitude Simply Living 18 Finding Beauty in Unexpected Places 25 Aging with Vitality, Grace and Confidence Memorial Day - 26 Barbecue and Friends, a recipe for a fun day! 28 Fresh Off the Farm Peas of Mind Recipes Right-On Spinach Roll Ups 29 Lady Lemonade 30 A Hero in Disguise Stroke Hero Don’t Tell My Wife I Wrote This 34 Electronic Anti-Tether 31 Travel Building 50 32 Business She Means Business Building A Future With Family Michigan Fence Company, INC WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com

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Meet Stacey Rourke, mother, wife, Seriously, I love it, plain and simple. What author, and publisher. She was born and better reason is there to pursue any dream?” raised in Michigan, and now lives in, what Currently, Stacey has nine novels out, she describes as, the adorably quaint little with a tenth in the vigorous editing process town of Flushing. She is a woman who has as we speak. She is also the founder and forged a career out of pursuing her passion co-owner of Anchor Group Publishing, a and encouraging others to do the same. medium-sized press in Flushing, with 40+ If you would like to learn authors signed to the label and well over more about Stacey Rourke one hundred books in the catalog. and her books: contact her “I never take myself too Her writing career began when her debut at www.staceyrourke.com, novel, The Conduit, became a semi-finalist in Facebook at www.facebook. seriously. I love to laugh the Amazon Breakthrough Novel Contest. com/staceyrourkeauthor, and and have found life is a Riding that wave, she pushed on. Twitter and Instagram @ In 2012, Stacey won the RONE Award rourkewrites. heck of a lot more fun if you for Best Young Adult Fantasy for her can roll your eyes at yourself follow-up book, Embrace, “Gryphon Series” book 2, and was voted the Young Adult and from time to time.” Teen Reader Author of the Year. “That was  “As an author, I make a career out of a great year. I spent the majority of it giddy.” talking to the imaginary people that live In 2013 Turning Pages Magazine awarded in my head!! I love to write. It allows me Sacrifice, “Gryphon Series” book 3, Best to get my crazy out just enough that I can Teen Read of the Year as well as Best Young function as a normal member of society. Adult Book of the Year. In 2015 Crane, WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com

10 “Legends Saga” book 1, won the Readers Favorite silver medal in the fantasy category. “While I’ve ventured into other genres and have found success in them, I would say dark fantasy mixed with snarky humor is my wheelhouse and where I am most comfortable writing.” Yet Stacey’s path was not entirely a bed of roses. After dealing with ‘more rejections than she could count’ and a ‘heartless con-artist’, she swore she would not let her dreams die. She did her research, relied on her business background and asked a few friends to join her on a new venture called … Anchor Group Publishing. “How did Anchor Group become the success that it is? Because my friends trusted me; and I have spent every day since making sure I earn it.” She still struggles to tune out the naysayers. “I doubt myself, second guess my abilities, and say stupid things in public I instantly wish I could take back.” Yet Stacey is a fountain of inspiration. She knows there will always be those who claim we’re chasing a pipe-dream or we don’t have the talent, or offer a million other negative comments that make us doubt ourselves. Still she encourages us to ignore the white noise of those trying to put us down. “Challenge yourself, grow in your talent and see where that epic ride takes you!” The turning point came for Stacey after she finished her Young Adult series and challenged herself to delve into other genres: the more dark and twisted fantasy in the “Legends Saga” and the light-hearted romantic comedy in Adapted for Film. That is when she stopped feeling like a ‘one- hit wonder’ and started reveling in the knowledge that she had acquired enough skill to rise to the tests and trials before her. Her big goal right now is to host her first ever book event here in Michigan.

“My passion for the written word has Volume 7 Issue 3 • WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN inspired me to orchestrate the Once Upon a Book Author Signing in Frankenmuth on August 12th and 13th of this year. This celebration of the magical adventures found at the turn of every page has seventy authors signed on, spanning every genre imaginable! There will be something for every book lover at this event! Tickets are on sale now, and can be purchased at www. onceuponabookauthorsigning.com.” Everyone reading this article is invited to come out and join in the fun!

11 Shades of Faith  Q & A 

The A s k S h u n ta i Dear Shuntai, I have a 17-year-old daughter and a 15-year-old son. My relationship with my children seems to be changing. My kids are distant. It seems like we are always arguing about something around the house. I am newly divorced and my work schedule is a little hectic. I would like to improve I Never Knew my communication with my kids. Can you help Gift me? I Needed Dear Hectic Mom, As our children become teenagers it can be a struggle as they attempt to gain their I have two daughter-in-laws and they are very different. independence. The distance may be the result The first, Kristin, is very quiet around me. She’s one of those of them being teenagers or them dealing with women whose IQ is off the charts and whose understanding of the the break-up of your marriage. It is important world is broad. She loves libraries and books; shopping and her that parent’s set healthy boundaries for their mom; swapping kids clothes with other parents in the area and teenagers and sometimes they may not like it. traveling. She is practical, beautiful, natural, sensible and amazing. However, it is our duty as parents to have some My son adores her and her family is her pride. She is amazing. control over our household. Here are some In the early days, I think she thought I was eccentric. tips that will help you improve communication The other daughter-in-law, Nicole, is a nutcase. But I say that with your teenagers and help you deal with the in the nicest of ways. She can be loud, precocious, sensitive, and conflict in your household: wild. She is sexy, inappropriate at times, and “larger than life.” The love she has for her family is all encompassing and her husband, my Do establish an environment where your child son, relies on her for most everything. Her children cling to her for feels comfortable talking and sharing with you. happiness and love. She, too, is amazing. Do create boundaries. Children need to understand what behaviors or actions are From the beginning, I think she thought I was too conservative. unacceptable. It’s so odd that these two women, married to my grown boys, can Do follow through on the consequences for be so different and can see me so differently. And yet, as far apart as unacceptable behavior. Be firm but fair. they are in every way – they appear to be perfect, not only for their Do model good behavior. Parent’s need to be husbands, but for me. Though one is a classic extrovert and scoffs at aware of the type of conversations and pictures conservative dress and the other is always appropriate and genteel, I they are posting on social media. can’t possible choose one over the other. Don’t get too emotional when reprimanding Life has brought me so many gifts. Children, grandchildren and unacceptable behavior. parents. I expected all of these and worked hard to make sure they came my way. What I didn’t expect was to love two young women, May you find peace and balance in your an American and Canadian, so deeply. They have enriched my life household in ways they can never know and I love them because they are good Love your life or live trying and loving and the gift I never knew I needed. Shuntai Beaugard Clinical Therapist And I am blessed. Re-Connect My Life Counseling Helen Hicks Office: 810.515.1931 Website: www.re-connectmylife.com

 Shuntai Beaugard, Your Forgiveness &  Helen Hicks is an award-winning administrator Personal Transformation Expert and motivational speaker living in the Detroit area. P. (810) 515.1931 You can reach her at [email protected]. Email: [email protected] Visit my website: www.re-connectmylife.com WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com

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Elevate App 35+ training activities for the skills you need the most. We already feel our brain swelling with new intelligence from playing this app! “I’m not trying to look like a girl Lumosity Designed by neuroscientists, this app in a magazine.” creates a personalized training program to This comment was meant to put me in my place, as if hearing it help you improve your weak point, whether would suddenly cause me to realize how absurd and vain it was to that’s memory, attention, or multitasking. exercise and eat healthy. Get your sweatbands on! I laughed and told her to have a great day. I didn’t have to try to convince her of anything- she knows. We all know. Pretending it is all a highly superficial and selfish waste of time- because she has better things to do and is not caught up in looking like a model- excuses her to sabotage herself. It welcomes a steady diet of migraines, indigestion and lack of energy that all taste like heaven as later she reaches for mockery antacids when the distasteful burps of regret start to rise. Because, deep down, she knows. She knows that underneath all the sneering about bitches eating salad and memes about fat thighs isn’t a valiant effort to rage against societal expectations of women- It’s a heavy, pressing fear that even her best efforts won’t be good enough. That SHE’S not good enough. You see, she knows no one looks like the girl in the magazine, not even the girl herself. She knows it is not the horror of achieving perfection that is holding her back. What is so absolutely terrifying is that in her pursuit to be simply average, she can fail. She knows all about that fear and the false bravado she could wear to hide it. She also knows she doesn’t have to believe those paralyzing lies anymore. She knows she is stronger than those fears, so she grins and pulls on her sports bra and laces her shoes anyway. She acknowledges that cheeseburgers and cocktails are amazing, but that they will just have to wait until she says it’s time, because potato chips don’t get to dictate her life anymore. I know, because she is me.

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Checking email or flipping through channels instead of Checking email or flipping through channels nearly 90 The National Sleep Foundation reports This body functions on a 24-hour internal clock. Your your body clock. Staring at Light and darkness affect Studies show that staring at bright screens within In the long run, problems sleeping at night can impact sleeping? Playing video games or browsing social media sleeping? Playing video games or browsing ZZZs, you in bed? If you want to catch some quality should put down that smartphone. electronic device percent of adults sleep with at least one staring at a screen after 9 in their bedroom. However, a turning you into p.m. can zap your body of energy, rest, consider get a good night’s To zombie the next day. into bed. all electronics before climbing shutting off Sleep Your Affect How Electronics clock is influenced by your physical environment and daily schedule. Using electronic devices around bedtime your affect your body clock and negatively can throw off quality of sleep. the blue glow of electronic devices – computers, tablets, televisions, gaming systems and/or smartphones – before still bedtime can trick your body into thinking it’s messages to the brain The artificial light sends daytime. reset This, in turn, can to wake up and activates the body. your body clock, delaying your normal sleep cycle. four hours of bedtime reduces melatonin, a hormone time to sleep. that makes you naturally tired when it’s This can cause difficulty when trying to fall asleep, poor quality of sleep or sleep disorders, such as insomnia.

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LifeAfter the Fall

I remember growing up on this nursery know that I can do it. I can pick the pieces riddle which has related to my life many up, I can put them all together, I can pull times and I’m sure that this riddle relates myself up and feel proud, I can do better, to your life and will encourage you to pick be stronger, smarter, try harder and feel yourself up after a great fall. happy”. Now just like Humpty Dumpty “Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall and had a if you have falling you can get up and be great fall, all the king’s horses, all the king’s inspired to put your life back together again men couldn’t put Humpty Dumpty back with joy, peace, love and hope. How do I together again.” know? Because I was Humpty Dumpty’s Sister, I had a great fall and after battling What happens when you fall? When you with issues of rejection, shame and traveling discover there is no king’s horses and king’s down unexpected journeys of living a life of men in your life to put you back together a public success and a private failure behind again after the fall of broken relationships, closed doors, I decided to unmask my pain unfinished dreams and financial difficulties and let go of my fears, failures and flaws that come at unexpected times and disrupt that was holding me back from becoming your life. Do you remain broken or do you the woman that God himself had created Hello, I’m Tarnesa Martin, your try to put yourself together again. Like me to be. My faith was ignited and after Faith Strategist and I have been “Humpty Dumpty” most of us have had to this great fall, I decided that faith would inspired to write articles that experience this riddle in our life and later become more than a topic, it would become empower women to go forward learn how to get up and put the pieces of a lifestyle. Examine yourself and don’t be in their life and share stories our life back together again. Later on after afraid to pick yourself up because you too, of success, survival, resilience the riddle, I discovered additional lyrics like Humpty Dumpty & I, can discover and redemption. Each article is referencing Humpty Dumpty saying, “even there’s Life After The Fall. designed to ignite a lifestyle of though the horses and men couldn’t do it, I faith that conquers and confronts the disease of stagnation. Faith is  Min. Tarnesa Martin , Writer, Motivational Speaker & Life on Purpose Coach is Not A Topic, It’s a Lifestyle…… the founder of Women of Radical Praise & Life On Purpose – “Finding Yourself ” Life coaching, Self- Development & Empowerment services, which focus on connecting, supporting and strengthening women through life challenges that impact them personally, professionally, physically and spiritually. WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com Contact info: Phone 810-624-1613 Email: [email protected] 16 Volume 7 Issue 3 • WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN 17 Anisha Nagpal Mrs. SamiraMrs. Rao Mrs. Deria Brown Mrs. Leah Bailey Debra Collins From March 26th, 2016 From March 26th, Second Annual Second The purposerecognize of this is to localevent courage and of character, Celebrating women women for their achievements without regard for their achievements without regard women linguistic, ethnic, whether national, to divisions, or political in unity with aims cultural economic, day. Sponsored of U.N. extraordinary the honors and often commitment, Against social unrecognized tenacity of women. women and oftenrestraints, legal convention a legacy that expands the frontiers created have They of possibility to come. of generations and courage their character, demonstrated have institution educators, as mothers, commitment political and community labor, business, builders, relief leaders, religious workers, doctors, leaders, and CEO’s. lawyers and Their lives inspire their work girls and women to achieve their full potential and encourage boys and men to respect diversity and depth of women’s experience. Sahouri Mrs. Mona T. Mona T. Mrs. Empowering Women and Girls Women Empowering Amélie M’Baye Master of Ceremony

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Manira Galanter Celebrating Women of Character, Courage, and Commitment Courage, and Women of Character, Celebrating Dr. Beverly Dr. Simply Living  Finding Beauty in Unexpected Places I am sitting in the to herself. Startled, parents look up from surgical waiting room their distractions to see where the noise is at Mott Children’s coming from. When they do, they see it – Hospital in Ann Arbor. her beautiful, gap-toothed smile. She looks My teenage son, Jordan, as if she’s in a most delightful place. People is having a procedure smile back. – one he’s had many And then something miraculous happens, times before. and the mood of the space lightens. As I never get used to Megan continues to squawk, screech and this waiting place. Like smile, the group adjusts so that hers is not the parents around me, the only noise in the room. They talk to one I worry about worst another in louder voices. They rustle around case scenarios and mull in their seats and shuffle through their over the what-ifs. The purses. prayer, “Dear God, Someone laughs, and the tension loosens. please let him be okay,” Someone else sneezes, and when Megan plays in a continuous echoes “Achoo!” we giggle along with her. loop in my heart. Without saying a word, she has brought Although there joy and light into a dark and difficult space. are about two dozen Although she is dependent on others for parents in this space, virtually every need, she has given us a gift. it’s quieter than church No doubt, Megan is extended mostly pity on Sunday morning. by strangers, but there is so much going on We are all in the same behind that smile, so many mysteries we can boat, but we don’t never understand. What, I wonder, does she interact or meet one know about the world that she will never be another’s eyes. We don’t ask questions, and able to tell us? we try hard not to eavesdrop on each other’s My prayer’s continuous loop widens to “There’s beauty whispered conversations. We give each other include Megan and her family, and I feel everywhere. There the privacy needed to worry, think and pray. only love and empathy for them. As I pray On edge, we listen for our names to be for their strength, my mind wanders to are amazing called. We know the drill. Frederick Buechner’s words, “Here is the As we wait, we stare into space or search world. Beautiful and terrible things will things happening for distraction. Some pretend to read happen. Don’t be afraid.” outdated magazines. Most thumb through I pray that for them. I pray that for all of everywhere, you just their phones and meaningless feeds. us. And then Megan enters the room. “We’re ready for you, Megan,” a nurse have to be able to I know her name because she is a regular calls out, as she helps to steer her into the here and the nurses use it affectionately. She surgical unit. “You’re like royalty around open your eyes and must be a teenager, although it’s difficult here, aren’t you?” to determine her exact age because of Yes, I think to myself. Yes she is. witness it. Some her physical challenges. She wears pink days, that’s harder sweatpants and is able to fold her legs into her wheelchair like a very small child.  Clearly, she is limber, although she cannot Eileen Button is the author than others.” of The Waiting Place: Learning ~Sarah McLachlan walk and probably never has. Megan’s head rolls about, her eyes darting to Appreciate Life’s Little Delays. She can be reached at to and fro. Intermittently, she shrieks a [email protected]. WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com loud, bird-like sound, drawing attention 18 Volume 7 Issue 3 • WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN 19

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2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 1. 1. I reflected on my career, realizing that all that realizing the business of on my career, I reflected ungrateful for what I had out of balance, I was existing way ones that the cause the are we learn from the most The lessons is a method of Here all of the time. all are, As busy as we preparation, the classes, and the workshops had only had focused and the workshops the classes, preparation, the world how world. I affectedon the on how affected me not to make manipulate to gain, for was how thread The common strong building of focusing on instead certain that I always won, contacts of “Farm” I was cultivating a at home; relationships of outside I was searching make me money. someday that would I learned, inside. hiding myself when all for of them were answers the best thing I could do for that to my career was turnfate, of by in my community! involved get If and spiritually lacked vacant! substance. All those lectures of tagged pie, a ninth piece of been a fourth had only there circle, self on nurturing, been lessons should have There “spiritual”. a balanced life to live on how care and fulfillment…a section and competition that included without greed, gratitude…one If only… judgment. most important. what is way, the hard learned, I’ve So, most pain. to be truly that in order satisfied apparent, It has become personally be content and satiated professionally must one spiritually. maintain a sense of equilibriumjuggling that I hope will help you without of them will Maybe work some daily disarray. within your experiencing the pain. Live to Believe  Have an Attitude Gratitude Photo by high_resolution Can you remember the last time you said “thank you” before you stepped out of bed?  of Each day is a gift and you should begin it with a smile. Let your morning set the tone for your day and make a positive affirmation that success and favor will chase you down. Today is the perfect opportunity to complete what you did not finish yesterday. You only have today, therefore, make it a day you will never forget. Can you imagine if everyone started being grateful for what they had instead of being discouraged by what they didn’t have? Being grateful is a Choice. Life is not always fair, however, the way we react during the storm, will shape and mold us to form our true character. It’s very easy to be joyful when everything is going our way but when were faced with adversity do we remain strong and resilient? It has been estimated, we have anywhere from 25,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day and 80% of them are negative. If your mind is predominantly negative, image how much negative energy you are omitting. In order to change the channel to “positive” and have a grateful attitude, here are some helpful motivational quotes I have created to keep you centered, balanced and focused. 1. Be Bold and Design a life you desire 8. Life is a series of magical miracles 2. There is always a reason to smile 9. There are opportunities ready to be 3. When you eliminate the flaws, there is discovered behind every failure beauty in everything 10. Supersize your dreams. Let your 4. Take pride in your successes and see passion fuel your inspiration. yourself as a Winner! 11. When you feel like giving up stay 5. If you want to Be Great you must focused on why you started believe you Are Great. 12. You don’t fail unless you quit 6. Have no regrets. Ignite your passion 13. Be Confident and quite the voice of and Light your fire doubt 7. Keep your eyes forward. It’s no longer 14. Release Stress and Fear to focus on serves you to look in the rear view what makes you feel good mirror 15. To be an effective rainmaker, you must It has been estimated, follow the clouds we have anywhere Keeping an attitude of gratitude is a practice we should exercise on a daily basis. Having from 25,000 to 50,000 the right perspective about our blessings will enrich our lives, foster our growth and allow us to be more mindful. It is amazing when you exhibit an act of kindness it shifts your thoughts a day and 80% emotions, creates a feeling of gratitude and ultimately makes your heart shine! of them are negative. Are you ready to change the way you think? You make thousands of choices each day, make the right choice by being grateful today! ” Gratitude is the Open Door to Abundance” ~ Cheri Schultz

 Cheri Schultz is a 1:1 Life Coach and the author of Inspirational Quotes For Challenging Times. She lives in Michigan with her husband.  She dedicates herself to eating healthy, yoga, meditation and helping others develop a positive spirit by staying optimistic. You can reach her at

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Pea, Feta and Mint Salad • ½ lb fresh peas (snow, snap or shelled) • 1 medium onion, diced • 1 tablespoon olive oil • 2 oz feta cheese Dressing • 1 tablespoon honey • 2 tablespoons olive oil • sea salt and pepper to taste • 1 oz pistachio, shelled, coarsely chopped • ½ cup mint leaves • 2 teaspoons Dijon mustard Photo by mickyso • 1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar

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When Stefan Reisch was asked to model for the American Stroke Association’s Stroke Hero campaign, his first thought was that they were asking the wrong guy. “I’m not a hero,” he said. “But luckily I know some people who are.”

5 THINGS EVERY STROKE HERO SHOULD KNOW Someone in the U.S. has a stroke every 40 seconds, but stroke is largely preventable and treatable. You don’t need superpowers to be a Stroke Hero, you just need to know the risk factors and warning signs. EVEN SUPERHEROES ARE IN DANGER. Stroke risk increases with age, but young adults, children, and even babies in the womb can suffer strokes. If one of your parents had an ischemic stroke before 65, you are at 3x the risk of suffering one yourself. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE IS The Accident Awake the entire time, Stefan clearly STROKE’S PUBLIC ENEMY #1. The 911 call came in as a single- remembers what the medical team Three out of four people who suffer first vehicle traffic accident; a suspected said – and how they said it –after they strokes have high blood pressure. 140/90 is drunk driver. The EMT approached the pulled out the offending clot. “We’ve too high. Lowering your systolic number driver and asked if he had been drinking got movement!” by 10 or your diastolic number by 5 can cut or doing drugs. Then he asked him to A Hero in Disguise your risk of stroke death in half. smile. Stefan clearly remembers what Stefan isn’t a traditional “hero” but the EMT said to him next. “I think that’s the point of the American Stroke ANYONE CAN HAVE A STROKE, you’re having a stroke, buddy, we’re Association’s campaign: You don’t need BUT SOME ARE AT INCREASED going to get you some help.” superpowers to be a Stroke Hero, you RISK. Help for a Severe Stroke just need to know the signs of stroke Blacks have nearly twice the risk for a First responders took Stefan directly and what to do. After all, stroke is first-ever stroke as whites. to a comprehensive stroke center where largely treatable. STROKE IS LARGELY TREATABLE. he was quickly evaluated and diagnosed “People can learn from my stroke Clot-busting drugs and medical devices with a massive clot in a large artery in story that someone having a massive have made stroke largely treatable, but his brain, affecting his entire left side. stroke doesn’t have to die or be every second counts. The faster you are Staff administered a clot-busting paralyzed. There are advances in treated, the more likely you are to recover drug and determined it wasn’t going technology that can save someone’s life, without permanent disability. to be enough. Fortunately, Stefan was like mine,” he said. FRIENDS USUALLY SAVE FRIENDS in the right place at the right time. He Unless they read the fine print, people FROM STROKE. was a candidate for a procedure where a will assume Stefan is just a model who Learn to recognize the warning signs of specialist threads a catheter from groin had the right look for the gig. Like a stroke - F.A.S.T. - Face Drooping, Arm to brain and removes the clot with a real superhero, only an observant few Weakness, Speech Difficulty, Time to call stent retriever. will know there is more than meets the eye for the man with super speed. WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com 911. 30 Volume 7 Issue 3 • WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN 31 810.694.2326 536 Perry Rd. • Suite 6 Grand Blanc, MI 48439 [email protected] Women2Women Michigan Women2Women what life has to offer You! what life has to offer Please submit resumes only to that is both fulfilling and fun? Magazine Sales Team Today!! Magazine Sales Team Join Women2Women Michigan Join Women2Women Excellent Commissions! And earn yourself the inspiration of And earn yourself the inspiration putting extra money in your pocket? putting extra money in your Are you looking for the empowerment of Are you looking A flexible schedule and a work environment flexible A Photo courtesy of Photo Group The Minervini

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Alexandria Nolan is a misplaced Michigander Alexandria Michigander is a misplaced Nolan Building 50 Building Spires rise eerily out of a deep, dense wood. As the car creeps As the car creeps dense wood. Spires rise eerily of a deep, out Traverse located in Commons, Traverse Building 50 and Grand is somehow one As lovely of the building is, as the renovation and been renovated of the outbuildings not yet Many have Traverse Grand Although I write of a feeling of despair, currently jungle urban in the wilds of living the Houston She is a published and twowith her husband pets. spoiled various online and print and contributornovelist to Greetings from including a lifestyle blog, publications, found she can be reading When not writing, Nolandia. traveling. or reading about or traveling,  Travel closer and closer to the institution and its outbuildings, a strange a strange closer and closer and its outbuildings, the institution to seem to crawl stealthily and sadness of foreboding sense of dread, an asylum CityTraverse Hospital, State The former everyone. over serve no longer may its original for a variety of mental illnesses, still. of its past lingers but the shadow purpose, farmer’s a lively fillednow is destination, shop and restaurant City, and art wine bars deck the halls that used to bakeries, markets, and treatment drug rooms store house nurses and and patients, the hallways airy whitewashed Its walls bright, and are facilities. Speciality delicacies soap shops and Michigan made and cheerful. rub that sells couture shoulders with hip coffeestore shops and a for dogs. of the than just the age It is more constantly of the past. reminded it is also in a feeling that sticksclose from bricks you, surrounding gets one It is not unlike the impression enter. you the moment the stately canal houses standing Antwerp, when walking through modern tucked dwelling with a more every between so proudly, because those of the past and the present, It is the collision often. modern houses only exist because falling of bombs of the tragedy and historyThis same sadness well in and is alive WWII. in Building 50. crumbling and seemingly forgotten They stand, yet. painted over the memorieswho called of the souls haunted by the property, on echo with long porches The eerie front caged-in the asylum home. chairs rocking and forgotten and the sighs of those who had gone forgotten themselves. many been left there, I think because alwaysCommons seems to pull me back again. such it has undergone and that it is such a beautiful old edifice, A new and beginning for a battered change— is inspiring. us to lay that invites A new start for the future, place. depressing and begin again. the despair of the past to rest, She Means Business  Building A Future With Family

You may have heard of Michigan Fence helping people pick out great products. Company, but what many people do not Michigan Fence Company still maintains know is that this company is owned and to be a family oriented business. Debby MICHIGAN FENCE run by a woman. Thirteen years ago, Debby Harris works with nearly her entire family. Harris and her sister asked their dad and She accomplishes great service and delivers COMPANY, INC. - uncle if they could buy the family business reliable Michigan and USA made products Debby Harris from them. They took over the business with the help of her husband Brian, her with the help of their husbands and when daughter Danielle, her nephew and several Debby’s sister moved away to Colorado, she cousins. This business is truly rooted with a kept the family business going strong. deep foundation in love and support. Growing up, Debby Harris was always They care about the products they supply involved in the fence business. Her dad and strive to carry products that are of the and uncle started the company in 1964 and highest quality. Debby helps her customers it required a lot of hard work and family get exactly what they want by educating participation. The fence business is a year- them on her products and finding the round, all weather commitment. After high perfect fit. Her goal is that the products she school, she had designs to go in another sells “last until her client moves and needs a direction with her career so she went into new fence.” the banking industry. Although she is often met with surprise In 1997, her dad asked if she could come when people find out she is the owner, help out with the accounting at Michigan everyone is quickly put at ease by her Fence. She agreed with a conditional “just knowledge of her product and her non- for 3 months” vow. She never left. She threatening approach with her customers. WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com found that there was great satisfaction in She wants what is best for her clients and 32 the positive feedback she receives from and running smoothly. She says he works her clients and the knowledge that she just as hard, if not harder. They are a very has given them a great product that will supportive team. Debby holds everyone last them for years to come. This concept that works for Michigan Fence in high of making the customer feel confident regard to why they remain a successful and happy over their choices with their business. She believes everyone plays a purchase was ingrained in Debby through key role for the company and that “no one the founders of the company, her mom, person or job is more important than any dad, uncle and aunt. other.” Team effort is clearly what defines When Debby isn’t in the office, she is this company as a combined step ahead in off taking care of her horses, golfing and the right direction. holding “golf cart parties” with her friends You can find out more information and family. Since the business never stops, about Michigan Fence Company, Inc. it is crucial to put fun in where you can at www.MichiganFence.com or call and Debby finds ways to do it. 810.235.4581 As she continues to work towards *Do you know a female business owner keeping her business excelling, she is also that is making it happen? Submit your striving to connect with more businesses recommendations to info@w2wmichigan. in the area. Networking is a great way to com today! Please put “She Means see how businesses can help each other Business” in the subject title. always takes the time to really listen to reach their goals and collaborate on them. It is often that a client might community projects. Helping each other Susan Lamphier is an Editor think they know what they want but, is such an important element in business. for Women2Women Michigan after sitting with Debby, they find they Debby thoroughly appreciates all that her Magazine will get what they truly need. She loves husband does to help keep the business up

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Michigan School for the Deaf 33 Don’t Tell My Wife I Wrote This  Electronic Anti-Tether

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The modern female resents the old convenient, the cell phone has several sub- notion that a wife is to be submissive to headings of aggravation: her husband, or that she should “obey” his Text messages. You know, those wishes. It’s had quite an impact on the little devils that must be responded to traditional wedding vows the brides and immediately? And texting, since it is not grooms exchange on that ever-so-sacred actually live, eliminates the inconvenience of day, when the two are joined as one. I think limiting conversations to our waking hours. most vows have come down to “I promise No, your phone can ring or vibrate at any not to kill you in your sleep.” hour, waking you and your spouse to the Yes, obedience and submissiveness are urgent matter at hand. things of the past. The modern female is Weather alerts. Because you must know independent, reliant on no one. Master of that it’s going to snow before morning. No her own destiny. longer do you have to wait until you wake And then came Fitbit. before finding out that school is canceled. Honestly, if ever a race of people have The actual phone. Yes, some people been so completely controlled, I’m not sure still use this feature. But, unlike the old when and where they existed. And it’s not –timey days when you were allowed, even just Fitbit. I submit (pun intended) for your expected, to ignore a phone call if you were consideration: in a meeting, talking to a living human, or Farmville, which requires the servant to taking my &%$! order at the drive–thru Since 2010, Fitbit administer electronic watering, feeding, and window, you now must answer the phone has sold almost yes, even breeding every hour. Otherwise, regardless of the circumstances. crops will die, bovine will escape, and your Oh, and let’s not forget Fitbit. The 17 million devices ovaries will shut down. electronic anti-tether. Tired at the end of Facebook, the one-stop replacement the day? Tough cookies. You’ve got six- worldwide, and has for socializing, news, restaurant critiques, thousand more steps to complete. Hop over 9 million active gossip, and attacks on your character should to it! In fact, you must not only meet the you vote different than any one of your prerequisite 10,000 steps every day, you users. The company three-thousand friends. If you try to ignore must never take another step without your is amongst the Facebook, a little red number pops up in tracking device, which comes with a variety the corner of your phone icon. The number of attractive handcuffs. leading companies in embedded within will grow, taunting, daring I must say, it’s a good thing a woman is you to ignore it longer. No, the servant must no longer expected to be obedient to her the wearable market. not resist. The servant will obey. husband. How would she possibly have the According to http://www.statista. Smart phones, which, apparently, take time? What with all those other objects to com/topics/2595/fitbit/ precedence over any live conversation, TV which she must vow her loyalty. show, driving, or sexual encounter. The Time to stop reading. You’ve got some cell phone not only begs your attention, walking to do. it demands it. To make your life even less

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