Henri J.M. Nouwen's Contribution to the Contemporary Spirituality Of
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FROM PROFESSIONAL FUNCTIONING TO PERSONAL CONFESSION Henri J.M. Nouwen’s contribution to the contemporary spirituality of pastoral care Dissertation zur Erlangung der Doktorwürde der Theologischen Fakultät der Bayerischen Julius-Maximilian-Universität Würzburg vorgelegt von P. Jose Thomas Karickal msfs Aus Paravanthuruth, Kerala, Indien am 20.10.06 Referent: Professor Dr. Rolf Zerfaß Co-referent: Professor Dr. Erich Garhammer Wintersemester 2006/2007 ACKNOWLEDGEMENT A quick flash back into my past opens me to the realization that life is a journey in the true sense of the word. A phase in this journey took me to Germany with the view of a doctoral study in Theology. I had to finalise the area of the specialization after coming here and after analysing the situation and the possibilities. The plan of God and the providence of God in my life is somehow hidden or veiled but a true blessing in retrospect. I am grateful to my parents, brothers and sisters for the first phase of my enriching and unforgettable life and their continued love and support. My gratitude goes to my Congregation and all the members with whom I had to do, especially Fr. Mani Panthalany, the then provincial of the Visakhapatnam province to which I belong for the possibility of these studies and the encouragement given to me. My special esteem and gratitude goes to Professor Rolf Zerfass as well who without hesitation took me as his ‘Doctorand’ and guided and helped me from the selection of the topic to the completion of this project. His popularity and busy schedule did not mar a friendly relationship and a fatherly care. With his help the research was a real dive into the academic depths and a hard search for the scientific quality of the work. His patience and great interest in the work gave me the necessary strength in spite of the hindrances and jerks I experienced on the way. The most part of my studies I was staying in the Kollege St. Benedikt. I thank the Benedictines for the hospitality and community. My study was possible only with the scholarship of Church in Need in Germany, a partial financial help from the Henri Nouwen Society in Holland and for the last phase of my studies a scholarship of the diocese, Würzburg, Germany. I oblige a word of thanks to my parishioners in Saal, Wülfershausen and Eichenhausen for their understanding and support, especially to Mrs. Marion Metzler for the correction of the language. Many are close to my heart. Their spirit has also flown into this work, but one person I would like to thank very specially, Mrs. Cornelia Wilhelm, who stood by my side through ups and downs and inspired me with her critical and constructive questions and ideas. Above all I thank God who protected and led me through my life and made me to grow and mature in my spiritual life to which this work and the heavenly spirit of Nouwen has contributed a lot. Würzburg, Oktober 2006 P. Jose T. Karickal, msfs Table of Contents Acknowledgement Table of Contents General introduction ……………………………………………………….. 1 The Motivation for this research……………………………………………… 1 The aim of this research-work ……………………………………………….. 2 The method of the analysis……………………………………………………… 4 Material ………………………………………………………………… 6 The building up of the structure of the Dissertation…………………………… 6 Chapter 1 : Biography and Bibliography Introduction 1.1. Biography …………………………………………………………….. 7 1.1.1. Childhood to Ordination …………………………………………. 8 1.1.2. Further Studies ……………………………………………………. 11 1.1.3. Teaching Career …………………………………………………... 12 1.1.4. The Final Station- Daybreak …………………………………….. 20 1.2. Early influences which shaped Nouwen’s thinking …………………… 24 1.2.1. Anton Boisen (1876 – 1965) …………………………………….. 24 1.2.2. Seward Hiltner ………………………………………………… 25 1.3. A Sketch of Henri’s Person …………………………………………….. 26 1.3.1. Faithfulness to and continued search for his vocation ……………. 26 1.3.2. Nouwen, a restless Seeker ………………………………………….. 29 1.3.3. A wounded Prophet ………………………………………………… 30 1.3.4. Nouwen’s struggles with his Sexuality …………………………… 33 1.3.5. A generous and demanding Friend ………………………………… 34 1.3.6. Ups and downs ……………………………………………………. 36 1.3.7. An ardent Writer ……………………………………………………. 37 1.3.8. The Priest – Psychologist…………………………………………… 39 1.3.9. A social Critic ……………………………………………………… 41 1.3.10. An intensive and sensible Preacher ………………………………… 42 1.3.11. Growing in Maturity ……………………………………………….. 43 1.4. A summary of the Bibliography ……………………………………… 46 1.4.1. Lectures and conferences ……………………………………… 47 1.4.2. Journals and Diaries …………………………………………… 47 1.4.3. Meditations and prayers ……………………………………….. 47 1.4.4. Dedications ……………………………………………………. 47 1.5. Spreading the legacy of Nouwen ………………………………………… 47 Chapter 2 : The Academic Phase (1969 – 1981) Introduction 2.1. Intimacy: Essays in Pastoraltheology ……………………………… 49 2.1.1. The Problem ……………………………………………………. 50 2.1.2. From magic to faith …………………………………………….. 50 2.1.3. Intimacy and sexuality …………………………………………….. 50 2.1.3.1. The taking form of love ……………………………….. 51 2.1.3.2. The forgiving form of love ……………………………. 51 2.1.3.3. The possibility of love ……………………………….. 51 2.1.4. Intimacy and prayer ……………………………………………….. 52 2.1.5. Intimacy and community …………………………………………. 52 2.1.6. Intimacy and ministry …………………………………………….. 53 2.1.6.1 Time …………………………………………………….. 53 2.1.6.2. Place …………………………………………………….. 53 2.1.6.3. Person ………………………………………………… 54 2.1.6.4. Professional identity …………………………………… 54 2.1.7. Training for the ministry ……………………………………….. 54 2.1.7.1. Efficiency and skill …………………………………… 54 2.1.7.1.1. Climate ……………………………………. 54 2.1.7.1.2. Word ……………………………………… 55 2.1.7.1.3. Home ……………………………………… 55 2.1.7.2. Training …………………………………………… 55 2.1.8. The spirituality of the minister …………………………………… 55 2.1.8.1. Silence ……………………………………………….. 56 2.1.8.2. Friendship ……………………………………………. 56 2.1.8.3. Insight ………………………………………………. 56 Observations ………….………………………………………………… 56 2.2. With open Hands (1971 – in Dutch) …………………………………… 58 2.2.1. Our clenched fists ……………………………………………… 58 2.2.2. Prayer and silence ……………………………………………… 58 2.2.3. Prayer and acceptance …………………………………………… 59 2.2.4. Prayer and hope ………………………………………………… 59 2.2.5. Prayer an compassion ……………………………………….. 59 2.2.6. Prayer an prophetic criticism …………………………………… 60 Observations ……………………………………………………………. 60 2.3. The Pastoral Spectrum in Creative Ministry (1971)……………………… 63 2.3.1. Teaching: Beyond the transference of knowledge ………………. 64 2.3.1.1. Teaching as a violent process …………………………… 65 2.3.1.1.1. Competitive ……………………………… 65 2.3.1.1.2. Unilateral ………………………………… 65 2.3.1.1.3. Alienating ………………………………… 65 2.3.1.2. Teaching as a redemptive process ……………………….. 65 2.3.1.2.1. Evocative …………………………………. 65 2.3.1.2.2. Bilateral ………………………………….. 66 2.3.1.2.3. Actualizing ………………………………. 66 2.3.1.3. The resistance to learning ………………………………. 66 2.3.1.3.1. A wrong supposition ………………………. 66 2.3.1.3.2. False pressure …………………………… 66 2.3.1.3.3. Horror of self-encounter ……………….. 66 2.3.2. Preaching: Beyond the retelling of the story ……………………….. 67 2.3.2.1. The problem of the message …………………………….. 67 2.3.2.1.1. Redundancy of the message ……………….. 67 2.3.2.1.2. Fear of the truth ………………………… 67 2.3.2.2. The problem of the messenger ………………………….. 67 2.3.2.2.1. Assumption of non-existent feelings ……… 68 2.3.2.2.2. Preoccupation with a theological point if view 68 2.3.2.3. The preacher who can lead to insight ……………………. 68 2.3.2.3.1. The capacity for dialogue …………………. 68 2.3.2.3.2. Availability ……………………………….. 68 2.3.3. Individual pastoral care: Beyond the skilful response ……………… 69 2.3.3.1. Spirituality and pastoral identity ………………………… 69 2.3.3.1.1. Self-affirmation …………………………. 69 2.3.3.1.2. Self-denial …………………………….. 69 2.3.3.2. Spirituality and pastoral relationship ……………………. 69 2.3.3.2.1. Contract …………………………………… 70 2.3.3.2.2. Covenant …………………………………… 70 2.3.3.3. Spirituality and pastoral approach ………………………. 70 2.3.3.3.1. Role-definition …………………………… 70 2.3.3.3.2. Contemplation ……………………………. 70 2.3.4. Organising: Beyond the manipulation of structures ……………… 71 2.3.4.1. The pitfalls of the organiser …………………………….. 71 2.3.4.1.1. The danger of concretism ………………… 71 2.3.4.1.2. The danger of power ……………………. 71 2.3.4.1.3. The danger of pride ……………………… 72 2.3.4.2. Christian agent of social change ………………………… 72 2.3.4.2.1. The perspective of hope …………………… 72 2.3.4.2.2. Creative receptivity ………………………. 72 2.3.4.2.3. Shared responsibility ……………………… 73 2.3.5. Celebrating: Beyond the protective ritual. ………………………. 73 2.3.5.1. How do we celebrate life …………………………….. 74 2.3.5.1.1. Affirming ……………………………….. 74 2.3.5.1.2. Remembering …………………………… 74 2.3.5.1.3. Expecting ………………………………. 75 2.3.5.2. What kind of a person make celebration possible ………. 75 2.3.5.2.1. Obedience to the voice of nature …………. 75 2.3.5.2.2. Obedience to the voice of other people …… 75 2.3.5.2.3. Obedience to the voice of God ……………… 76 2.3.6. An evaluation of the book Creative Ministry …………………… 76 Observations …………………………………………………………….. 77 2.4. The Wounded healer……………………………………………………….. 80 2.4.1. Ministry in a dislocated world ………………………………. 80 2.4.2. Ministry to the rootless generation ……………………………… 81 2.4.3. The minister as tomorrow’s leader ……………………………… 81 2.4.3.1. The leader as spiritual guide …………………………… 81 2.4.3.2. The compassionate leader …………………………….. 81 2.4.3.3. The minister as contemplative critic ………………. 82 2.4.4. Ministry to a hopeless man ……………………………………… 83 2.4.5. How to lead to tomorrow ………………………………………. 83 2.4.5.1. Personal presence ………………………………….. 83 2.4.5.2. Waiting in life ………………………………………. 84 2.4.5.3. Waiting in death ……………………………………. 84 2.4.6. Principles of Christian leadership ………………………………. 84 2.4.6.1. Personal concern …………………………………….. 84 2.4.6.2. Faith in the value and meaning of life ………………….