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as my throat was sore…in a bad way. At least our techni- By Rob Diaz-Marino, MSc. cal problems were resolved from yesterday and we were able to set up our laptop to capture the video as we broadcasted The ARGRA weekend was a bit of a disaster for us, it to the beer tent again. Everything was going well, and but by no fault of ARGRA’s. From what we saw, ev- there were only three events left when the big disaster of the erything went smoothly and attendance was strong, weekend struck. particularly for the dance on Saturday. The weather My picnic table perch had its back against a rustic was beautiful, if not a little too hot – many people wooden wall, with the grilling area for the concession stands got sunburned despite applying sunscreen. Unfor- on the other side. I had been hearing some squealing and tunately, with fuel costs so high, we didn’t see as laughter from behind me throughout the day, but didn’t clue many regulars from the US, but it seemed to make in what was happening until I heard a clatter at the fence room for other new faces. behind me, followed by the sound of water splashing to the ground. I quickly turned around to check our equipment Our friend Don was along with us for the weekend to help to fi nd that it had all been doused in the water that came out with transportation and other tasks while Steve and I through between the uneven horizontal boards. I leaped to were out covering the rodeo. He was hoping for a holiday the wall to yell over the top at the people on the other side, but with all the stuff we needed to ask of him, I’m not sure if and saw that a girl in a turquoise shirt was closest and just it turned out exactly that way. He did a great job of looking in the process of walking away. I had to yell twice to get her after us through thick and thin, and in the end I hope he got attention as she was still laughing, completely oblivious. a few quiet moments to enjoy himself. I quickly went to work drying everything off with my T- We had a camper on the grounds again, as we needed a shirt, praying the water hadn’t had a chance to soak in yet. home base with electricity in order to accomplish this year’s For a moment I thought everything was okay because the goals. We did something special as an experiment – some- laptop display was still on, but as soon as I tried pressing thing that we may be able to build on in future years. We a button I realized it was frozen on that frame. Nothing as had a big-screen projector located in the beer tent, showing dramatic as sparks or blue smoke, but it was a sign that the a presentation of live footage we were fi lming from the arena. water had defi nitely gotten in deep enough to cause a short During dead-time we would fl ip over to a slideshow presen- circuit. I quickly unplugged all the equipment to prevent tation with photographs and video clips from previous years, further damage, and phoned Steve to let him know what with current sponsor logos. happened…more like I barked at him to get over and check the equipment immediately. Our intention was to record the live footage as we were broadcasting it, but due to some technical diffi culties, we By now I was already in some kind of anger-autopilot that were unable to do so on Saturday. Steve and Don had I didn’t even know I had in me. The main goal in my mind to pop into town to try and resolve the issue, leaving me was to fi nd the girl in the turquoise shirt and get some form videotaping and photographing from my little perch atop of identifi cation so that I could report her to the manage- a picnic table beside the bleachers. Despite the fact that ment of Symon’s Valley. I marched around to the front of I was shaded by a lawn umbrella, I still felt myself getting the concession stands and easily located her, though she cooked by the heat, as I guzzled water to remain hydrated. I was trying to look inconspicuous. I proceeded to demand escaped getting a sunburn – unlike Steve whose sunglasses her name, and wouldn’t take no for an answer. When she left him looking like an inverse raccoon – but perhaps a mild tried to deny that it was her fault, I demanded that she tell case of heat stroke left me vulnerable enough to catch a cold me which of her co-workers was responsible, reminding her that day. that I had specifi cally seen her on the other side of the wall after the water was thrown. Some of her fellow employees By the evening I was feeling totally wiped out, yet there I came to her defense, not understanding why this angry guy was taking photos of the evening drag show in the basement was after her, so I gave an explanation of what had hap- of Driftwood Hall, while Steve made the rounds at the dance pened. They gave me the number of the manager and I upstairs. We were both amazed at how busy things were phoned it on the spot, realizing my hands were trembling – the drag show was so packed that I had to sit on the fl oor badly as I tried to dial the numbers. All I got was voicemail, to get photos. Meanwhile, the dance fl oor and surrounding and so I returned to trying to get the girl’s name. areas were bustling, and even the courtyard was a challenge to get through with the amount of people out enjoying the cool evening air. The next day was round two for the rodeo competitors. I joke that this is a before-and-after challenge, to see how well they can compete with their hangovers from Saturday night. As for me, I had defi nitely come down with something

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 5 By that time Steve came running up, and soon to follow, our camp site to relax and take in the ARGRA experience. an ARGRA offi cial with the manager of Symon’s Valley in June 2008 tow. As soon as I explained to the manager what had hap- pened, and my goal was accomplished, my anger turned off June felt like a relay course for Steve and I. like a switch. Steve left me to continue taking photographs of the last few rodeo events while he dealt with the after- Things started off with the Lesbian Dance Party at the maths. Marquee Room – I decided to check this venue out for the fi rst time since the dance was listed as a Pride sanctioned As I photographed, I contemplated what had just hap- event. It’s a really nice space with a dance fl oor and some pened and felt both a little scared, surprised, and perhaps DJs I would later see at the Pride Dance. A pretty big crowd even a little impressed with myself. All things considered it for a Wednesday night! was probably one of the most controlled fl ip-outs to be wit- nessed in the gay community. My mind may have been on Thursday was the Fake Mustache show at The Soda. I a single track but I never once swore, threw an insult, had a always seem to forget to talk about it in my publisher’s col- tantrum, or said something that I would regret afterward. If umn, even though I’ve meant to - only because it’s so early my “Mr. Hyde” is just direct, loud, and bossy, then I’m pretty in the month that it gets lost in the shuffl e in my brain. happy. Still, by raising my voice I had no doubt caused a The Drag King troupe has come leaps and bounds over the scene, and probably shocked a few people who thought a past few years, and like previous months they had some friendly, mild mannered person like me was incapable of pretty phenomenal performances. But after one performer sounding so pissed off. On the other hand, Steve has seen played an emotional serenade to her girlfriend, she dropped me angry more times than anyone, and he later commented a bombshell and asked her hand in marriage. The whole that he wasn’t worried about me at all. I was surprised to crowd gasped and cheered, not a dry eye in the house. hear from him that anger makes me go from my usual shy Friday was the Mr. Priape Wear competition at the Calgary and passive self to someone who takes charge of a situation Eagle, followed the next day by the Military ball. Both days and deals with it swiftly. So hey, I learned something new saw Calgary’s 2nd largest gay bar with lineups out front, about myself. and this happened a third time for Pride the day after! In Nonetheless, my main fault in the myopia of the moment the middle of it all was AFQOL’s summer fundraiser entitled was trying to place the blame on the girl in the turquoise “Artistes Del Fuego” (Spanish for “Artists of Fire”) at the shirt when really I couldn’t be sure if she was on the throw- Backlot. It was a BBQ, silent auction, and show (featur- ing or receiving end of the water. She was just a kid in ing Justine Tyme) where once again they had a stage with her mid-teens, and had no idea how to deal with an angry performances, videotaped and broadcast live through the person barking at her other than to evade. Regardless televisions so everyone could see. of whether she was responsible or not, I knew the whole The days prior to Calgary’s Pride Parade were plagued incident hadn’t been intentional, and it’s a rather horrible by consistent rain, and we later learned that it had inter- feeling when a little innocent fun gets you into big trouble. I fered with the construction of a number of fl oats that sadly can identify - my early childhood in a nutshell. couldn’t be ready for the Parade. It was spitting lightly as Anyway, to make a long story short, the Symon’s Valley Steve and I made our way out on the morning of the 8th, but computer technician verifi ed that the laptop was indeed miraculously only minutes before the parade started, the damaged from the water to the point where it was unus- rain stopped! able, and a representative of Symon’s Valley kindly agreed Unfortunately it was a fairly short procession due in to reimburse us for the damages. When I later bumped part to the missing fl oats, but the spectator turnout was into one of the employees that I recognized from the conces- still pretty strong. Olympic plaza was bustling, though the sion stands, I decided of my own accord to apologize for my overcast weather wasn’t conducive to the same amount of behavior so that they could pass it along to the girl I had frolicking in the wading pool as last year. I’m told that some blamed. I would have apologized to her myself except I was neo-Nazi protestors came to picket the street festival, but told she had gone home – I hope because her shift was over, were shooed away by police before they could do much. Part not because I had upset her that much. Even if my reac- way through the afternoon it decided to start pouring with tion was understandable, or even justifi ed, it was still an rain which dissipated the crowds. unpleasant stain on the weekend that I didn’t want to leave behind. As usual, Steve and I made our way around to photograph the after parties at all of the gay bars, with one exception Unfortunately, with that machine out of commission and (more on that later). MPs in particular had all sorts of color- so much of our time eaten up dealing with the situation, we ful decorations, and Toni Vere and other live bands played were unable to provide the other services we had promised in the beer tent out back. At the end of the day, Steve and for the ARGRA weekend. As we had done the previous year, I met up again and took a little time of our own to party. we had planned to put together a slide show for the awards It was a good day – I haven’t let myself loose like that in a ceremony, and as well a presentation for the dance with pic- while. tures and video clips from the past two days. For Steve, it was a diffi cult lesson in letting go - we had struggled so hard The next Friday, Steve and I set out for Edmonton to- to try and make everything work perfectly, and in the end gether to arrive in time to photograph the Edmonton Pride our hands were tied almost completely. Word had gotten Awards, the Kate Reid show at Prism, and the Manhunt around quick, as it always does, and there was a lot of sym- Party at New City later that night. Saturday was just in- pathy from people who approached us afterward. ARGRA sane, with the Pride Parade in the early afternoon, ending off was also very understanding, knowing that things some- in the street festival at Sir Winston Churchill Square. The times happen that are outside of anyone’s control. Perhaps numbers were just incredible – the beer gardens with a ca- the forces that be just wanted us to have a quiet evening at pacity of 750 people still had a chocker-block crowd around Continued on Page 36 6 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 7 Photos from ARGRA Rodeo Weekend

Photos by GayCalgary Staff

8 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Prairie Fire Warm-up Party at MPs - Calgary

Wet Jockey Contest at the Calgary Eagle

Survivor Afterparty at MPs - Calgary

Last Stand Party at the Calgary Eagle

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 9 The Bitches are Back!! Justine Tyme and Terri Stevens Return Home After 13 Years

By Jason Clevett Interview Calgary is not a likely birthplace for a drag “icon”, but perhaps the better way to describe Justine Tyme Auntie depending on how you look at it) and they don’t know their Uncle. So I weighed the pros and cons. The moving and Terri Stevens is “trend-setter”. Before leaving outweighed the staying. I had reached the top of what I did in Calgary 13 years ago – Tyme to Vancouver and Ste- Vancouver quite early on and I didn’t feel there was anymore vens to Toronto - both had established themselves of a challenge there. So it was time for a change. Whenever as premier female impersonators in Calgary. Now, you get up to do your work, you want to be able to say ‘I love having earned fame across Canada, the two have re- this job and can’t wait.’ I had said that for 12 years and then it turned into not wanting to do it anymore. It was a matter of turned home; the timing of their return eerily close, quitting while I was on top. “ but completely coincidental. Both performers credit their foremothers in establishing a “It was the job at Zsa Zsa’s Supper Club. It was an oppor- drag community in the city, and shared the history of their tunity I couldn’t pass up,” said Stevens, who hosts a show early days. every Sunday night at 8pm at the club featuring a blend of live act, lip-synching and celebrity impersonations. “I have been “I was in my fi rst year at the dramatic arts department at in Ontario for over 13 years, I am a Sagittarius and we are MRC and the second years were having a Halloween party,” always looking for change. It was a chance to move home and recalled Justine. “You want to make an impression as a fi rst be home.” year, so I wanted to do something that would blow them away. I got Chris Collins to do me up the very fi rst time and I went On the other hand, Justine (or Todd, as a boy) returned to to the party, and nobody knew who I was. I was the last one Calgary in order to make a career change. that they couldn’t fi gure it out, they did so by eliminating “I was under the impression that The Odyssey in its current everybody. People thought I was just crashing the party. That state was ending. I had been doing the same thing for thirteen right there made me think I could do it and be good at it. The years and wanted to fi nish my education. I want to make a fi rst show I did was with Betty Crocker and Danielle Dubois, career and teach drama to kids. My drama teachers were my at Patsy’s. I then worked at Dicks, before it was Detour. Sandy coolest teachers. I want to be the teacher that I remember be- St. Peters saw me and suggested some characters. Then the ing taught by. The cost of doing so out there was unreal and court saw me and felt I was new and fresh and asked if I the opportunity was available to come home and live with my would be interested in being Princess to David and Natalie. I Dad and concentrate on my school,” he said, adding that he did most of the hosting of the shows as princess and gained had other personal reasons as well. a huge amount of popularity from being so good. I became Empress the next year, and after that started doing shows “I have a brother who has children so I am an Uncle (or professionally – I used those two years to build my craft. So university was put on hold because I was performing and a hot commodity at the time.” Terri Stevens also credits the late Sandy St. Peters as a ma- jor infl uence, as well as her own drama background. “Sandy was a very dear friend. She was what I would consider a drag Mom, her and Flo Del Rocko. When I started drag, I thought I was the shit but I was put in my place sev- eral times by the older generation, I learned that I had a big mouth and how to shut it. Now I look at some of these kids and they have no idea what they are doing, they don’t have a clue,” she said. “I started doing [impressions] a little before drag, in school during theatre. I started doing drag and im- personations 28 years ago in Vancouver and Victoria. When I started I just did it, and would hear voices and try and imitate them and have come a long way since then.” Both Tyme and Stevens are recognizable not only from their stage performances, but their many TV and fi lm appearances. ”I’ve done movies, television, commercials; I have pretty much done it all. I was on extra in 54, Prisoner of Love, and Execution of Justice. I’ve done MuchMusic commercials, spent three years on Queer as Folk and fi ve on SoGay TV,” Stevens said, marveling in the number of famous people that

10 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 her career has lead her to. “I have met tons of famous people. “In some I Go-Go Danced for Cher’s concerts. I met Joan Rivers in ways there is a person, while in drag impersonating her, and she said I looked different way of amazing and that she loved my outfi t.” thinking, but that is in part “Most people know my appearance in the movie Connie and of media and Carla the most,” says Tyme. “I did 13 days on that set and what happens would sometimes play three different queens in a day. I did in the world. numerous episodes of The L Word and an episode of Godivas, When I broke and was on the fi lm Double Jeopardy with Tommy Lee Jones in it was the and Ashley Judd as well as a lot of background work,” he era of Cher and adds, stating that the Hollywood opportunity may not come to Madonna, Liza just anybody. and Bette and “Canada and Alberta have such a great reputation for fi lms. Barbara. Now When you put down your skills, whether it’s a drag performer that they have or an illusionist, when they need someone in that category stepped into the they call you. The list of people who get those calls is quite a background and small list across Canada. There are a lot of Queens, but not a become legends, lot that can do TV and fi lm work and have the resume to back the new queens it up.” have the MTV generation to Tyme and Stevens’ performances recapture the lost art of look at, the Miley drag. They bring real life icons to the stage like Cher, Bette Cyrus, Lindsay Midler, and Barbara Streisand, just to name a few. Compar- Lohan, Hill- ing it to the current trend of so-called “Tranny-Drag” is like ary Duff, which comparing night and day. although have a certain look, all sort of blends together, and I “There is not as much of the traditional feel of imperson- fi nd that happens in drag too. I don’t mind Tranny Drag, I just ators around anymore,” stated Stevens. “There used to be a want to see something good. Just be true to yourself, do what lot thirteen years ago. Now you have Justine, Devon Mills, a you want to do and if Tranny is the way you want to go, go few others and myself. I am fi nding a lot of them are pulling for it. But know that every time you do it you should improve Tranny-Drag, they just want to look pretty and real and go up on yourself. I still, after 20 years, improve on myself, which is on stage and perform. I am not knocking the performances, something I feel is a challenge that keeps it fresh and fun.” some of them are absolutely fabulous but that is the turn that Stevens was quick to point out that in her opinion the craft female impersonation has taken these days. In gay society, we is not fading away, but evolving. have been watching drag queens for sixty years. Some people don’t have to get dressed up like Cher to walk into a bar to “It is still there, it just stays at one level. There are different perform. I take my craft to many more levels. Sandy St. Peters levels – Tranny Drag, Cross-Dressers, Impersonators are all helped me learn to understand the shape of my face and how different levels of entertainment in the drag industry. [Tradi- to apply the makeup to it in order to make myself appear tional drag] just is not as popular as it was 15 – 20 years ago. different without having to have cosmetic surgery like a lot of The rapport for Drag Queens, Impersonators and entertain- other transgendered entertainers have been doing. Craig Rus- ers period in the gay scene, they have been seen so often that sel even taught me that if you’ve got the face, and you can dis- people don’t care anymore. Dealing with the straight com- tort it and change shape to make your face look like somebody munity, which is what I do mostly now, it is a different crowd else, work it. That is what I do.” every night and they are way more appreciative of it. I still have a fan base of people in the city that know I am one of “I get frustrated with some of the new girls because they the top performers in Canada. The ones that sort of know me think they are all that because they can put on a wig and a would be the ones that cat-call, and the ones that don’t know pair of pantyhose and lip-synch one number so they are this me would just walk on by.” big celebrity,” says Tyme. “I was always taught to respect where we came from. When I fi rst stepped up as Empress 13, Although they have each been away for over a decade, both Stephanie St. Asia was the 7th Empress. She said to me, ‘If artists have come home on occasion for guest performances it wasn’t for me you wouldn’t be Empress 13’ and I thought and special events. Both are ecstatic to be home, and say that that was awfully lofty isn’t it? But she continued to say ‘If it although Calgary has grown and changed – some old haunts wasn’t for Flo, I wouldn’t be, and if it wasn’t for Veronica, Flo gone, some new hangouts sprung up, and a lot of new faces wouldn’t be. You always remember your past because your emerged - things remain the same. past is what brought you here, what you will always remem- “I am older now, so it has changed quite a lot,” said Stevens. ber, and will always support you’ and I have never forgot “A lot of my peers, the people I hung around and partied that. I think a lot of the new girls don’t realize that you have with have changed and don’t go out anymore. That is life, as to pay your dues, you can’t just be up there for one month you get older you just don’t party as much anymore. Com- and be a headliner. There is a lot of free stuff before you earn ing back, there are plenty of new faces, but I always tried to a paycheque, there is a lot of backup work you do before you keep in touch with Calgary by coming out and performing and become a lead. If you take every step at a time you will make it keeping tabs on the local gay scene through my friends. In to the top safe and sound. If you start jumping steps, some- some aspects it has changed a lot, in others no.” times you are going to slip and fall right back down those stairs.” “Coming back, it feels like the old days, I am running into people that I haven’t seen in ten years and it is like nothing Tyme also credits current society with some of the changes has changed,” added Tyme. “Same with Edmonton, everything in drag performance. has changed but nothing has changed at the same time.”

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 11 International Mr. Priape Wear Photos of Regional Winners and International Winner

By GayCalgary Staff Fashion Priape held their Calgary installment of the International Mr. Priape Wear competition near the beginning of June. Crowds of people packed into the Calgary Eagle to witness the event, now in its second year. Competitors were judged on how well they modeled Priape clothing, as well as their stage presence and ability to talk on the microphone. Our regional winner was Ron Yakymyshyn, who went on to compete at the International fi nals in Montreal, but unfortunately did not place in the top three. The 2008 International Mr. Priape Wear winner is Tym Roders out of Vancouver. Nevertheless, Ron is still #1 in our books, and appears on our cover this month. 3 winners plus contest organizer Michael Ain

Tym Roders (Vancouver) Dan Osach (New York) Rodrigo Ceja (Mexico)

International Mr. Priape Wear Mr. Priape Wear Calgary Tym Roders (Vancouver) Ron Yakymyshyn (Calgary)

Miss Butterfly presents the Candidates on SKY Terrace Alan Memmo (New Jersey) Jon Henderson (Toronto) 12 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 All Photos Credited to Alexandre Bélendez gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 13 Out of Town Great Urban Inns on a Budget

by Andrew Collins Travel Hotel rates have doubled and even tripled in a number of U.S. and Canadian cities over the past 15 shared and private baths, and several rooms have fi replaces. years. It can be awfully challenging to fi nd a decent In general, you can often expect to save money by staying yet affordable place to stay in a number of popu- at a gay-exclusive property versus one that draws a main- lar urban gay destinations. There is, however, one stream crowd and can therefore market to a far larger pool excellent way to save money while also enjoying a of potential travelers. In Montreal, for instance, Lindsey’s Bed and Breakfast ranks among the most beautifully more personal experience than you’re likely to at a furnished women’s inns in Canada, and yet rates range large hotel: book a room at a gay-friendly bed-and- from just $75 to $95 Canadian, which includes a superb, breakfast inn. creatively prepared hot breakfast. The guy-oriented La Conciergerie is another Montreal favorite - it’s just a short In many world-class cities, standard rooms at big hotels walk from gay nightlife and has well-maintained, antiques- - especially those that cater to business travelers - easily fi lled rooms and a private hot tub. Here you’ll pay about $99 command $250 or more per night. In these destinations (i.e., to $119 Canadian for a double with a shared bath and just New York City, Boston, San Francisco, Chicago), it’s fair to $159 for a suite with private bath. call a stylish inn with rates under $150 a bargain. Consider a charming, upscale property like Boston’s gay-owned Clar- Another good reason to choose a smaller inn over a large endon Square Inn, a sophisticated retreat whose rooms have hotel is location - in quite a few cities it’s diffi cult to fi nd big CD players, phones with automated voice mail, high-quality hotels that are close to gay neighborhoods. In Houston, you bath amenities, and in some cases a working fi replace. Rates can easily walk to the lesbian and gay bars in Montrose from here start at $139, which may not sound super low - but for the attractive and friendly Lovett Inn ($90 and up) - whereas comparable accommodations in one of Boston’s top hotels from just about any full-scale hotel in the city, you’ll need you’d easily shell out $250 or even $350 per night. a car to reach the neighborhood. The City Inns group in Chicago has three small, recently renovated, gay-popular If you’re truly looking to spend as little money as possible, boutique properties all within an easy walk of the fabulous staying at a bed-and-breakfast in which some or all of the nightlife in the city’s Boystown section, an area with few rooms share baths can save you a big bundle of cash. You’ll hotels. Rates at these three properties - the City Suites, the rarely fi nd a better bargain than Washington, D.C.’s Bed Majestic, and the Willows - start around $109 and include and Breakfast at the William-Lewis House, which comprises free Wi-Fi. Factor in all the money you save on cabs from a pair of neighboring late 1800s town houses replete with downtown hotels, and this is a pretty nice deal. Oriental rugs, period-style wallpapers, and fi ne antiques. There’s also a lush and secluded deck and yard out back The same goes for one of Manhattan’s favorite gay/lesbian with a hot tub. Rates are a generous $69 to $159 nightly lodging options, the Chelsea Pines Inn, which occupies a - the only catch is that all rooms share baths (but they’re classic 1850s town house right in the heart of the city’s gay extremely clean and attractive bathrooms at that). epicenter. Rooms with semiprivate bath (sink and shower are in your room but the toilet is shared with several other You’ll fi nd a similarly great deal at the gay-owned Willows rooms on same fl oor) start at $140, while private baths Inn, a 1903 Edwardian house that’s steps from the trendy begin at $175 (but the Pines frequently offers specials with restaurants and gay bars in San Francisco’s Castro neigh- even lower rates). This is truly a steal by New York City borhood. For as little as $95 nightly, you can book one of the standards. And in Seattle, you’ll not fi nd a more ideally lo- warmly furnished rooms with Wi-Fi, TVs and VCRs, small cated property than the Gaslight Inn ($88 and up), a lovingly refrigerators, private sinks, top-of-the-line bath amenities, tended turn-of-the-century house in the ultra-hip Capitol and kimono robes. Rates also include a pleasant Continen- Hill neighborhood. There’s a large heated pool outside, along tal breakfast (fresh fruit, yogurt, fresh-baked treats, and with space for sunning. such). Just keep in mind that the 12 guest rooms share eight bathrooms. Considering the inn’s loyal clientele, plenty Of course, price aside, a perfectly good reason to consider of gay and lesbian travelers out there don’t mind the slight a smaller inn or bed-and-breakfast is that, at least in some inconvenience. cities, these smaller properties offer the most charm. This is defi nitely the case in Tucson, Arizona, where most of the In fact, if you’re willing to go the shared-bath route, you city’s inns occupy historic adobe or Craftsman-style houses. can fi nd some outstanding deals, among them Boston’s The gay-owned Catalina Park Inn is set in a 1927 Neoclas- cheerfully decorated Oasis Guesthouse ($79 and up), which sical Revival inn that blends Californian and Southwestern draws a mostly male clientele but also some women and styles to create a sophisticated but unpretentious ambience. straights. It’s well situated, a short walk from the hip South With rates beginning at $136 in high season and just $106 End. Another good bet is the MacMaster House ($105 and in the spring and fall (it’s closed in the summer), the Cata- up), on Portland, Oregon’s swank King’s Hill; it has both lina makes for an ideal retreat.

14 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 fi nd accommodations this beautiful at any big hotel in New Orleans, no matter what you’re willing to pay. Andrew Collins is the author of Fodor’s Gay Guide to the USA and eight additional travel guides. The Little Black Book

Bed and Breakfast at the William-Lewis House (Washington, DC, 202-462-7574 or 800-465- 7574, www.wlewishous.com). Bon Maison Guest House (New Orleans, LA, 504-561-8498, www.bonmaison.com). Capitol Hill Mansion (Denver, CO, 303-839-5221 or 800-839-9329, www.capitolhillmansion. com). Catalina Park Inn (Tucson, AZ, 520-792-4541 or 800-792-4885, www.catalinaparkinn.com). Chelsea Pines Inn (New York, NY, 212- 929-1023 or 888-546-2700, www.chelseapinesinn.com). City Suites (Chicago, IL, 773-404-3400 or 800-248-9108, www.cityinns.com/ citysuites). Clarendon Square Inn (Boston, MA, 617-536-2229, www. clarendonsquare.com). 1896 O’Malley House (New Orleans, LA, 504- 488-5896 or 866-226-1896, www.1896omalleyhouse.com). Gaslight Inn (Atlanta, GA, 404-875-1001, www.gaslightinn.com). Gaslight Inn (Seattle, WA, 206-325-3654, www.gaslight-inn.com). La Conciergerie (Montreal, Quebec, 514-289-9297, www.laconciergerie.ca). Lindsey’s Bed and Breakfast for Women (Montreal, Quebec, 514-843-4869 or 888-655-8655, www.lindseys.ca). Lovett Inn (Houston, TX, 713-522- 5224 or 800-779-5224, www.lovettinn.com). Majestic Hotel (Chicago, IL, 773-404-3499 or 800-727-5108, www.cityinns.com/majestic). MacMaster House (Portland, OR, 503-223-7362 or 800-774-9523, www.macmaster.com). Oasis Guesthouse (Boston, MA, 617-267-2262 or 800-230-0105, www.oasisgh.com). Willows Hotel (Chicago, IL, 773- 528-8400 or 800-787-3108, www.cityinns.com/willows). Willows Inn (San Francisco, CA, 415-431-4770 or 800-431-0277, www.willowssf. com).

In the emerging Mid-City section of New Orleans, the 1896 O’Malley House B&B offers some of the most luxurious rooms in town, but at extremely reasonable prices. (Photo by Andrew Collins)

Atlanta’s Gaslight Inn (no relation to the same-named Se- attle property), with rates beginning at $115, is one of that city’s most stylish lodging options. The gay-owned, Crafts- man-style B&B in the cosmopolitan Virginia-Highland neigh- borhood exudes romance, with its plush canopy beds and, in some cases, whirlpool tubs and wood-burning fi replaces. Not far from Denver’s leafy Cheesman Park, the Capitol Hill Mansion (from $114) is a stately Queen Anne Victorian on an attractive residential street. Owners Jay Hadley and Carl Schmidt serve a lavish full breakfast each morning as well as refreshments and snacks in the afternoon; guests enjoy such pleasing amenities as free Wi-Fi and fresh fl owers in every room, and gas fi replaces, whirlpool tubs, and private balconies in the top units. New Orleans is perhaps the best example of a city that’s simply ideal if you love staying in smaller, historic proper- ties. Right in the heart of the French Quarter, a stone’s throw from the city’s hottest gay bars, you can fi nd rooms beginning at just $95 at the Bon Maison Guest House, an 1830s red-stucco town house that feels completely cloistered once you get past the entrance and sneak a peak of the delightful courtyard. And over in the city’s up-and-coming Mid-City neighborhood - close to City Park and a number of great restaurants - you can snag a room for as little as $99 in summer and $135 during busy times at the impeccably restored 1896 O’Malley House. Rooms at this gay-owned inn are spacious and fi lled with stunning antiques. You won’t

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16 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Priape Calgary 16 http://www.aidscalgary.org Rainbow Riders Bowling League - Let’s 10 Pin in either strong wind or rain. The fees are $3 for 1322 - 17 Ave SW • (403) 215-1800 Bowlerama, 2916 5 Avenue NE, Wednesday’s at Apollo members and $5 for non members . Pop and 14th Annual AIDS Walk for Life Calgary - Sunday, http://www.priape.com 6:30pm. Season is from September to April. League water is $1 each. September 21st, 2008. Clothing and accessories. Adult toys, leather wear, fees are $15.00 per Night. Shoe rental is $2.00 Yoga - Have you always wondered about yoga? movies and magazines. Gifts. Apollo Calgary Friends in Sports Outdoor Pursuits - In attempting to meet our What really is down-dog? Do you think touching Rev. Nadene Rogers http://www.apollocalgary.com members requests for diverse sporting activities we your feet with your legs straight is just humanly (403) 247-0602 Apollo Friends In Sports is a volunteer-operated, have formed the Apollo Outdoor Pursuits League! impossible? For the second year, Ki Essentials is http://www.weddingsmyway.com non-profit organization serving primarily members If it’s done outdoors we do it! (and occasionally offering an exclusive yoga class to Apollo members Marriage Commissioner of the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgendered we venture indoors too). This summer we will be and friends. This class comprises of weekly 90- hiking, biking, rock climbing, rafting and a whole minute sessions that focus on basic poses and Rick Grenier, Invis Mortgage Solutions communities but open to members of all bunch more. If you’re interested in any of these proper alignment, and are conducted in a fun and (403) 862-1162 communities. We currently have more than 400 or something else completely, get in touch with supportive environment. This is a multi-level yet [email protected] members and are growing fast! The primary focus us. Tired of playing alone outdoors? Well this is beginner friendly class. No previous experience Marriage Commissioner of Apollo is to provide our membership with well organized and fun sporting events and other a GREAT opportunity to participate in events you is required. Registration fee: $126.00 (for all Reymark activities to allow them to participate and interact in enjoy doing with other interested members of the sessions plus two free passes to Ki Essentials), Able Craftsman, Your home renovation specialist a positive social framework. community. To be added to the distribution list for Apollo membership is required. Mat rental: $1.00, (403) 478-2411 • [email protected] regular updates please email outdoorpursuits@ Dates: 10 weeks, starting April 14, 2008, Time: Absolutely Smashing Badminton - no information apollocalgary.com. 7:45 - 9:15 pm. Please note no classes Victoria R. Cobalt 45 for this month. Day. Drop-ins for this class are offered on a first- 735 12th Avenue SW • (403) 228-7822 Golf - Contact [email protected], Or by come-first-serve basis. Space is limited so please Hair & Aesthetics Curling - The 17th season of Apollo Curling will phone 276-8094 check ahead of time. Cost for drop-in is $15 for begin in October 2007, with the same general Apollo members. Sol Sourced Weddings format as last year. Games are at the North Hill Lawn Bowling - For more information, please (403) 270-9480 contact Chris or Phil at lawnbowling@ Curling Club (1201 - 2 Street N.W.) with two draws ARGRA – Alberta Rockies Gay Rodeo http://www.solsourcedweddings.com apollocalgary.com. on Saturdays: 2:20 p.m. and 4:30 p.m. and at Association Wedding Commissioner the Inglewood Golf and Curling Club, Saturdays at Apollo Slow Pitch - takes place from Friday, May 9, Hotline: (403) 541-8140 12:30 p.m. 2008 until the end of August at the West Hillhurst http://www.argra.org Apollo Volleyball - Sunday Intermediate/ Community Centre (18th Street and 5th Avenue Community Groups and Competitive at the YWCA, 320 – 5th Avenue SE, NW, East Field), from 7:00 - 9:00 pm. Dance - September 27, 2008 from 4:30pm – 7:00pm. Friday Recreational Apollo Tennis - Thursday evenings from 7 pm to 9 Artists for the Quality of Life Organizations at Langevin School, 107 – 6th Street NE, from pm at West Hillhurst Racquet Centre from May 17th (403) 890-1261 7:00pm - 9:00pm. Email [email protected] to September 13th. The address is 1940 6 Ave NW. http://www.afqol.com Aids Calgary 2 to confirmation dates. It is weather dependent, therefore we won’t play 110, 1603 10th Avenue SW • (403) 508-2500

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 17 Calgary Frontrunners Running Club to meet new people - no business affiliation is environment in which diversity is embraced in their has three floors, 2 for dancing, 1 for … chatting! When: 9 am on Saturdays, necessary. schools and community. Saturday, Sept 27 - Garden Party. Featuring body Where: Update! Coffee Junkies -795 1 Avenue SW - Heading Out Fake Mustache painted flag dancers and art work by Lisa Heinricks (no longer meeting at Eau Claire Y) Peer group for men who are looking for an Calgary’s ONLY Drag King Show and Peig Abbott. Where: Southern Alberta Pioneers What: Walkers and Runners between 5 km – 15 alternative social activity to the bar. Activities vary Soda Lounge: 211 - 12th Ave S.W. Memorial Building. 3625 - 4th Street S.W. This km from sub 5 min/km pace to 10 min/km pace. and are fun and entertaining. The group meets (403) 923-3953 is an awesome log building with green grass lawn Who: All are welcome - Typically about 15-20 men the 2nd and 4th Friday of every month from 7 pm http://www.miscyouth.com overlooking the river valley. Stunning! When: 2 and women depending on the weather conditions to 9 pm. [email protected] PM – Midnight Tickets: $20 advance, $30 at Contact: E-mail [email protected] or A benefit show for the Miscellaneous Youth Network, door. This is a women only event Party Pak: www. call Tim at (403) 660-6125 - Illusions Calgary Fake Mustache is guaranteed to please! Come see girlsgroove.ca $50.00 gets you two tickets and one Social group for Calgary and area transgender our boys strut their stuff at Soda, the first Thursday GirlsGroove tee or tank! Save $10 in advance or Calgary Gay Fathers community members (cross dressers, transvestites, of every month. $5 cover. $2 cover under 18. $30 if at the door. I have signed contracts for these [email protected] drag kings and queens). Illusions provides a safe, Advance tickets available at Barbies Shop. venues so we are good to go! http://www.geocities.com/calgaryfathers discrete and welcoming atmosphere, in which Peer support group for gay, bisexual and transgendered people can meet others of like mind. All Ages show starts at 7:30. 18+ show starts GLASS, Gay & Lesbian Association of Students questioning fathers. Meeting twice a month Illusions offers discretion, acceptance, compassion at 10:15. and Staff and a safe place to express your gender. Cross- 279R Student Union Club Spaces Gay Prairie Alumni Calgary Men’s Chorus dressing is the purpose of the group, but is not University of Calgary http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gayprairiealumni/ http://www.calgarymenschorus.org mandatory. http://www.ucalgary.ca/~glass This group is for all gay/lesbian/transgendered (403) 220-6394 Rehearsals are held from 7:00 p.m. to 9:30 p.m. - Inside Out alumni of Prairie Bible Institute and/or Prairie at the Old Y Centre for Community Organizations, Peer-facilitated youth group for GLBTQ ages 15-25. High School in Three Hills, Alberta. It’s purpose HIV Peer Support Group located at 223 12 Avenue SW. The group aims to let youth know they are not is twofold: First, social -- to renew old friendships (403) 230-5832 Calgary Sexual Health Centre alone, and to connect them with their peers. Every and make new ones. Second -- to talk about [email protected] Monday, 7 pm to 9pm at GLCSA. It is a funky and our common experiences as gay people at a 304, 301 14th Street NW ISCCA – Imperial Sovereign Court of the safe environment with a variety of resources and fundamentalist school. Any other questions, please (403) 283-5580 Chinook Arch activities. feel free to ask. http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca http://www.iscca.ca Calgary Sexual Health Centre is a pro-choice - New Directions Gay Readers Book Club July 19 Rodeo ‘Rap’Up Show...a Dragstravaganza organization that believes all people have the right Drop in peer-support group to provide support and Interested in poetry, prose & literature? Want to of Dastardly Damsels, Debauchery and Debris; but and ability to make their own choices regarding resources for individuals who identify as transsexual meet like-minded gay men? Then come to our Don’t forget your Dates! MoneyPennies 1710-10ave their sexual and reproductive health. Calgary or inter-sexed. 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Girlsgroove 10ave SW 5:30 Calgary Outlink Formerly know as GLCSA - SHEQ Soulful Healing Ego Quest http://www.girlsgroove.ca Saturday Shooters at Texas Lounge 308b 17 ave - Gay And Lesbian Community Services A workshop for women that want to be themselves SW 8:00 Association 1 Hey GirlsGroove gals, unfortunately the venue in a supportive, safe environment. It is a chance Sunday BBQ at the Eagle 424 8ave SE 5:30 we had planned to use for the July 12th party is #4, 1230A 17th Avenue SW to grow and share their experiences related to now unable to provide the space. Naturally it is a (403) 234-8973 women’s sexuality. Runs for a ten week period on challenge to find space during Stampede so we’ve All monies raised go to Charity: Agape Manor, http://www.calgaryoutlink.com Thursdays at 7pm. Call Trudy or Krista at 585- had to reevaluate the kind of event we can present. Beswick House, HIV Peer Support, Artists for Quality Peer Support and Crisis Line - Front-line help service 7437. To participate, please call the exclusive We would really love to get the girls together. So, of Life, Children’s Wish Foundation for GLBT individuals and their family and friends, or SHEQ line at 585-7437 (you may leave a voice let’s meet at Vicious Circle for a cool and crazy chick anyone questioning their sexuality. message for Trudy or Krista) or leave your name Knox United Church night instead! I have a section reserved especially and a contact time/number with the Gay & Lesbian 506 - 4th Street S.W. • (403) 269-8382 Library - A great selection of resource books, fiction, for us- come ready to drink a few martinis, or play Community Services Association at 234-8973. http://www.knoxunited.ab.ca/ non-fiction, videos and everything in between, all a game of pool. Full beverage and food menu is with a queer perspective. - Womynspace available. 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Ladies Different Strokes the mature minded and “Plus 40” gay, lesbian, Meetings at GLCSA Tuesdays 7:00pm to 9:00pm – slide into your whites – it’s time to get your http://www.differentstrokescalgary.org bisexual, and transgendered individuals seeking to summer groove on! Where: Artists of the World Art - Calgary Networking Club Swim Club. meet with others at age-appropriate activities within Gallery, 514 11 ave SW. When: 8:30 PM. Tickets: Calgary Networking Club (CNC) is back.... after a Check website for current schedule apositive, safe, non-threatening and nurturing $20 advance, $30 at door. Multiple purchases in 5 year hiatus, CNC is meeting again in Calgary on environment. Don’t Buy In Project one transaction via www.girlsgroove.ca . Print out the first Thursday of every month. The networking http://www.dontbuyin.ca your receipt as your ticket please. This is a women meetings are open to all individuals who would This Calgary Police Service Initiative aims to only event. 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Held on the second Wednesday of Restaurants 10524 101st St • (780) 990-0038 Website: http://www.rainbowcommunitychurch.ca Calgary Eagle Inc. 4 every month 5:30 – 7:30 pm http://www.prismbar.ca E-mail: [email protected] 424a - 8 Ave SE • (403) 263-5847 http://www.calgaryeagle.com gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 19 Edmonton STD 4 Imperial Sovereign Court of the Wild Rose - Trans Education/Support Group admirers who come from diverse backgrounds but 11111 Jasper Ave http://www.gayedmonton.org Support and education for all transsexual, have common social interests. We meet on the transgendered, intersexed, two-spirited and second Sunday of most months at the Unitarian Saturday, July 5, 2008 - Mr. & Mz. Gay Edmonton Edmonton Vocal Minority questioning individuals meets 1st and 3rd Sundays Church of Edmonton (10804 - 119th Street) at Pageant at Boots, 10242 106th Street http://www.evmchoir.com of each month, 2-4 pm at the Pride Centre 2:30 pm for a social period, a short business Phone: 780-479-2038 Saturday, July 12, 2008 - Investitures at Boots, of Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) meeting and then either a guest speaker, discussion Free To Be volleyball 10242 106th Street. Protocol will begin at 7:00 PM 488-3234 panel, or a potluck supper. Special interest groups with the festivities due to begin at 8:00 PM. meet for other social activities throughout the Amiskiwcy Academy, 101 Airport Rd. (near the - Sunday Night Mens Discussion Group downtown airport) Every Wednesday and Thursday month. In July and August we have a BBQ or picnic Edmonton Illusions Social Club Mens social and discussion group meets every night, 8pm-10pm. Wednesday night recreational in lieu of a meeting and in December it’s replaced The Edmonton Illusions Social Club meets the Sunday @ 7 pm at the Pride Centre of Edmonton level: All players and skill levels welcome. Contact with a Christmas party. EPT is affiliated with Prime second Thursday of each month at Boots Bar&Grill, 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: 488-3234, Contact: Rob Marc for more information: padremark@hotmail. Timers World Wide. If you would like to know more 10242-106St, Edmonton. For info go to http:// Wells - [email protected] com, Tel: (780) 445-0365. Thursday night about our group, email [email protected], groups.yahoo.com/group/edmonton_illusions/ or intermediate level: Coaching and drills provided. - Youth Understanding Youth visit http://www.primetimersww.org/edmonton/, or call 780-387-3343. Contact Alex for more information: flipside@telus. Youth support and social group meets every attend a monthly meeting. Living Positive through Positive Living Society Saturday from 7 to 9 pm at the Pride Centre of net, Tel: (780) 424-9984. (Please note that there - Suit Up and Show Up Group of Alberta 2 Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) 488- is limited space on the intermediate night) Big Book Study of Alcoholics Anonymous (780) 488-5768 3234 Contact: [email protected] (www.members. Saturdays at 12 noon. At Pride Centre HIV Network Of Edmonton Society 3 Providing confidential one-on-one peer support for shaw.ca/yuy ) 11456 Jasper Ave infected or affected individuals…. Internet support - Sick and tired of being sick and tired? - Womonspace http://www.hivedmonton.com Escape Cocaine Northern Chaps (780) 482-1794. Thursdays 7-8pm @ the Pride Centre. 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Or if you’re new to town and didn’t coffee houses; family events; games nights; golf Open Tuesday to Friday 3:00pm-7:00pm and attend events have the chance to join us – this is your chance tournaments; and more. Memberships available, Saturday 2:00pm-7:00pm Located at the Pride to join one of the most easy ways to show your Pride Centre of Edmonton 1 which also includes confidential bi-monthly Centre of Edmonton 9540 - 111 Avenue Contact support, help out a great cause, meet new friends, 95A St. and 111 Ave. • (780) 488-3234 Newsletters. [email protected] or 488- and do something healthy for yourself! It’s a 3234 for more info.” 5km walk around the heart of downtown, and - Bears Movie Night Carol Cattell Golf Classic 2008, July 18-22, 2008. everyone is welcome – even pets! Find out how Bears club of Edmonton meets the last Sunday of Golf Tournament July 19 - Join us for a weekend of - Men’s HIV Support Group you can participate, or even volunteer! 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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 21 Movie Review “I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry” & “When Boys Fly”

By Jerome Voltero Review | Movie I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry I’ve been itching to see this movie for quite some time, not ber of gay issues to a mainstream audience and that is not an just because of its obvious delve into gay territory but because easy thing to pull off gracefully. it stars Kevin James – in my opinion one of TV’s most adorable bears. When Boys Fly This documentary follows 4 gay men as they attend the Kevin James plays the part of Larry, a widowed fi reman who 2000 Miami White Party, giving a brutally honest portrayal struggles to balance work and taking care of his two kids. His of the drug culture and its after-effects. Tone Desario is a fi refi ghting partner Chuck (Adam Sandler) is the complete 21 year old struggling with drug addictions and alcoholism; opposite, enjoying the single life and seducing the ladies with Brandon Delcampo is a 23 year old who classifi es himself as a surprising profi ciency. The two men are the pride of their fi re circuit party virgin – he has never attended such an event, and station, and many of their peers owe their lives to these men. is wary of the negative infl uences at such events; Todd Nash, 35, and his 19-year-old boyfriend Jon have been part of the With his busy life and dealing with the death of his wife, party scene for over a decade, but stay away from party drugs Larry missed his window of opportunity to update his life after both had a near-death experience. insurance so that his children are listed as the benefi ciaries. He is told there are only two circumstances under which this The fi lmmakers maintain an impressively neutral stance, can be changed: death and marriage. Unfortunately Larry showing a matter-of-fact portrayal of the party scene with- has been unable to move on, and has no female prospects in out introducing their own spin in any particular direction. his life. But after saving Chuck’s life in a near-fatal building Throughout this fi lm, a number of people are interviewed, collapse, and nearly getting killed himself, Larry soon gets an outside our core group of four guys. Some share their horror idea how his friend can repay him. stories about drug usage gone bad, and the friends they have lost. One man found his roommate dead after passing out Larry assures Chuck that the domestic partnership will only in the shower and suffocating. Others talk about their party be on paper, long enough for him to update his life insur- drugs as a way of life – something ordinary, that they have no ance policy. They make a quick trip to the registry to sign intention of giving up. One 35-year-old seems almost proud of the documents, and then return to their subsequent lives the fact that he has been taking ecstasy for over a decade, and as usual. But a few days later, a spot-checking bureaucrat can no longer get a high from a regular dose. He still does it, comes around sniffi ng for fraud, and Larry has to tighten but regrets how much he has to pay to get a decent high. Chuck’s leash as both their asses are now on the line. Tone is a bundle of energy and is described by his friends The two go to great lengths to maintain their appearance as as the life of the party, but he has promised himself and his a gay couple in front of the inspectors and their female lawyer roommate that he will not do drugs this time. He is worried (who Chuck secretly has the hots for), but after Chuck takes that he still hasn’t fi gured out what to do with himself in col- a stand against an anti-gay picketer, their “secret” gets out to lege, and acknowledges that his life is in a shambles. He rides everyone. to Miami in the same car with Brandon, but Tone ditches him Naturally things are awkward at work, and the two experi- as soon as he can once they arrive. ence some discrimination from people that once looked up Brandon has always been a loner but he is determined to to them. However the mysterious Duncan (Ving Rhames), face his fears this weekend. Being on his own in the gay vil- shrouded in rumors regarding his transfer from another lage is enough to put him out of his comfort zone. He bumps precinct, is inspired by his colleagues Chuck and Larry and into a group that invites him along with them to buy clothes in decides to come out of the closet to them. preparation for the party later that night – Brandon is clearly For me, the highlight of this movie was the shower scene not aware of how seriously many people take these events. where we not only get to see Kevin James in nothing but a Meanwhile Todd and Jon are enjoying the bliss of their towel, but also the muscular Ving Rhames puts on a hilarious relationship and setting their limits for the night. Todd has a musical number as he showers and picks up the soap that his history of cheating on his past boyfriends, and Jon has only terrifi ed colleagues have dropped. Nice ass! agreed to go to the party on the condition that he will be the Aside from that, I found the movie to be a bit disappoint- most important thing to Todd that night. ing. It seemed like it teetered on the verge of a comedy and a The party gets started and at fi rst everyone seems to be drama, and yet it really wasn’t that funny, and all the poten- having a great deal of fun. All too quickly, Brandon is offered tial sad and heart-warming moments were completely under- drugs quite forcibly. He comments on the peer pressure and played. It remained well within the straight comfort zone - its feelings of jealousy and exclusion that come when everyone portrayal of the gay community was a little stereotypical, but around you is taking the drugs. But he refuses, and in the then again, the reaction from the main characters to those end has no problems fi tting in, appearing to have just as stereotypes was accepting. The ending was unlikely, and the much fun as everyone else around him. But Tone is only put- moral of the story was a bit unclear, but it presented a num- Continued on Page 44 22 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 If There Are Boundaries… Is It Still Free Speech?

By Stephen Lock Politics Free speech is a diffi cult thing and fraught with challenges, even though it is central to our concept predictably, displeased with the decision to dismiss the case and are of the opinion that the dismissal by the Commission of democracy. was the result of “inappropriate political pressure.” As a civil libertarian I support the concept of free speech. Maclean’s, on the other hand, views the dismissal as exon- Yet, there have been times when I have read or heard some- eration and said in a statement that the CHRC’s decision is thing I fi nd offensive or upsetting and my immediate thought “in keeping with our long-standing position that the article in is “there ought to be a law…”. Of course, there are laws that question...was a worthy piece of commentary on important geo- frame the parameters of free speech in Canada, but even those political issues [and was] entirely within the bounds of normal do not satisfy everyone all the time. journalistic practice.” Maclean’s magazine, and columnists Mark Steyn and It should be noted that the burden of proof and the criteria Barbara Amiel, recently had a complaint lodged against them for proving or disproving hate against an identifi able group is with the Canadian Human Rights Commission by Mohammed different under human rights legislation than it is under the Elmasry, national president of the Canadian Islamic Congress Criminal Code of Canada; within human rights legislation, (CIC). This went along with similar complaints to the British the criteria is less stringent than it is under Sections 318 and Columbia Human Rights Commission (a decision is forthcom- 319 of the Criminal Code (which respectively legislate against ing there) and another complaint fi led with the Ontario Human genocide and “wilfully promoting hatred against an identifi - Rights Commission, which was rejected on “jurisdictional able group.” The Sections came under scrutiny a few years grounds.” ago when there was a move, eventually successful, to include The complaint centered around an article Steyn had written for Maclean’s entitled The Future Belongs to Islam which was, in turn, an excerpt from his best-selling book, America Alone. In this excerpt, Steyn quoted several imams, some of whom ap- parently are positioned on the more radical end of Islam, about the aims of some branches of Islam regarding their goals in Western countries. Some of the comments attributed to the imam’s were dis- turbing and very likely cast Islam, as a faith and a way of life, in a negative light. Elmasry perceived the article as Islamopho- bic, took offence, blamed Steyn for the views and Maclean’s for publishing views he believed would likely expose Muslims to hatred or contempt. The case received considerable media attention along with several commentaries in both editorials and letters to the edi- tor of various newspapers across Canada, that human rights tribunals and indeed the whole process of fi ling human rights complaints was stacked in favour of the complainant, and against those accused of infractions, amounting to little more than a quasi-judicial “kangaroo court.” Some of the commen- tary even stated human rights commissions have too much au- thority, have overstepped their bounds, and are undemocratic. Certainly when provincial human rights commissions were fi rst introduced, their mandate was to act as mediators and, in some cases even rule on issues of discrimination in areas such as housing, employment, and access to public services. Few will argue that several years later, human rights commissions have moved beyond this initial mandate into other areas of real or perceived discrimination. Whether this is a good or bad thing, I will leave up to the individual reader.... The Canadian Human Rights Commission has now dis- missed the complaint against Maclean’s, Steyn, and Amiel, with no comment. Elmasry and the other who fi led the original complaint are,

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 23 “sexual orientation” as a protected characteristic). Essentially, Egale and on Egale’s Internet discussion lists. There were it is just easier for a complainant to go the human rights com- those who roundly criticized Egale Canada, and me as it’s offi - mission route than it is to try and seek justice in the courts. cial regional representative, for coming down on the side of free speech. It was widely perceived as not supporting Lund in his Also, within the human rights commission sphere, there is complaint and of taking a weak stance on “hate-mongering.” little if any fi nancial cost to the complainant, unlike pursuing criminal charges through the courts and hiring lawyers. This In a related case, the Supreme Court of Canada recently has been one of the criticisms of human rights legislation. unanimously ruled Rafe Mair, a controversial Vancouver There is a perception that the defendant is at a disadvantage, “shock jock” radio host, is not liable for defamatory state- both fi nancially and by way of reputation. The defendant has ments he made regarding the views of well-known conservative to hire lawyers to defend him or herself against the accusations commentator Kari Simpson. The comments were regarding and the burden of proof is more on the defendant to show he or Simpson’s views on homosexuality, which he compared to the she is innocent of the charges, whereas in the judicial system Nazis and the Klu Klux Klan. the burden of proof is slanted towards proving guilt, not prov- ing innocence. It is a signifi cant difference. The decision is widely viewed as expanding Canada’s free- dom of speech laws. Then, of course, there is the all-too-human reaction of, if an individual is accused of being a racist/hatemonger/ho- As one lawyer, Mark Bantey and expert in media law with mophobe/Islamophobe/Anti-Semite etc. then obviously there Montreal’s Gowlings law fi rm, stated: has to be some truth to that. In reality, of course, such is not “[This] fi nally, fi nally puts to rest this lingering notion that necessarily the case - just because you think someone is a comment or opinion has to be fair or reasonable...It gives homophobe or a racist doesn’t make that person so - but that constitutional protection to all opinions, no matter how outra- has little to do with normal human perceptions. geous, so long as they are based on facts.” If one is unfairly accused of such views, the stain is already And that is the rub. There are many views, opinions, and applied and one can never totally get rid of it. There will al- comments out there that make me distinctly uncomfortable, ways be suspicion. Such is human nature. especially by those opposed to homosexuality and homosexu- One of the concerns about what some see as human als (and therefore, opposed to me). Some views outright offend rights commissions with too much authority and not enough me, which is a deeper emotion than just being uncomfortable restraint, is what is known as The Chill Factor. People will be with something. I will always have that initial visceral reaction afraid to speak out on what they believe, for fear they will be to such comments where I just want the individual or organiza- dragged before a human rights tribunal. I am not one hundred tion to shut up and go away. At the same time I recognize that percent convinced of that argument, although I can certainly in a free and democratic society it is important - even crucial understand where it springs from. - that as few limits on speech be in place as possible, otherwise speech is not free. Should one be free to write or broadcast some of the most disturbing, outright atrocious, emotionally damaging tripe that Of course, I would argue, this has to be balanced in such a we so often see or hear regarding homosexuals and homosexu- way as to ensure truly damaging and inciting comment is not ality, for instance? allowed to go unchallenged or without consequences. On one level I would argue, as I did as a representative of If someone writes, broadcasts, or declares in a speech or Egale Canada during the Stephen Boisson case a couple of sermon that all homosexuals should be subjected to “righteous years ago, that noxious opinions need to be out there for all to killing” because God/Scripture commands it (or Jews, Mus- see. And, as Egale’s then-Director of Advocacy, Laurie Arron lims, people of colour, the disabled, or what-have-you), should was quoted as saying, “be exposed to the full, cleansing light of that be protected as ”free speech?” Under Section 318 it cer- day.” tainly would not, and quite likely not under 319 either. It can be argued that the way to combat the crap Boissoin The Supreme Court ruling stipulates that, no matter how wrote in his letter to the Red Deer Advocate is to counter it outrageous the speech/opinion may appear, it is protected if it with sound and reasonable argument. In effect, dismantle it true and factual. and expose it for the ravings of a certain element of society that Previously, a defense in such cases was whether it could it is. be shown that the defendant held an “honest belief” in the Yet, on another level, upon reading the contents of the let- message found to be defamatory. This, of course, opened ter, my level of personal outrage spiraled so high, my initial those espousing some pretty off-the-wall opinions to claim they reaction - my emotional reaction -was to want to shut the guy “sincerely believed” their claims. The Supreme Court’s ruling the hell up and just make him, and his noxious views, go away. has stated that requirement is not needed, suggesting it was Again, I’d say a natural human reaction. far too subjective. They suggest a more objective test would be if anyone in society could come to the same conclusion, given His comments, as obnoxious and ignorant as they were in the same facts (presumably without the infl uence of that indi- the opinion of many within the GLBTQ communities (as well vidual) – only then is “fair comment” is established. as amongst those, like Darren Lund who fi led the original com- plaint against Boisson), did not meet the criteria of a criminal That seems reasonable to me. offence as outlined in Section 319. Hence, a human rights complaint was fi led, which Boissoin is now appealing through the courts. That case, as with all such cases, engendered consider- able and often fractious debate within and outside the affected communities (both GLBTQ as well as the right-wing Christian community of which Boissoin is a member). Certainly it engen- dered lively discussion, shall we say, at the board level within

24 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Q Scopes “Let off steam, Cancer!”

By Jack Fertig Lifestyle | Astrology A Mars-Saturn conjunction in Virgo makes everyone bitchier; hard aspects from the Sun and Eris don’t SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21): It’s a little help! Rein in your inner critic, thank others for sharing, too easy to come off as overly critical. Remember and let it pass! those sayings about throwing stones, whether fi rst or from a glass house. Focus your acuity on yourself and on any im- provements you’d like to make!

ARIES (March 20 - April 19): Anything felt as a threat to your turf, family, or community may SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 20): Try- raise your ire beyond reason, or at least beyond strategic good ing to have fun may seem more trouble than it’s sense. You may be wildly overreacting to unintended slights. worth. Perhaps you’re being too competitive. You need to excel Offer people a chance to explain before launching the missiles. in your work and some creative endeavors, but relax! The best fun is more about fun than about being best.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20): Everyone is being a bit touchy. It will take more than the usual ef- CAPRICORN (December 21 - January 19): Hav- fort not to react. Your own reactions and resentments will sur- ing to be right about everything is only part of face with embarrassing ease. Give your frustrations a creative the stress you’re having at home, but it’s the fi rst part you outlet, which will abate the problem, but only some. need to work on. Try to listen humbly to others, and to accept their point of view without necessarily understanding it.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20): You may be at odds with your usual allies and friends. Confl icts AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18): Meaner, between ideals and traditions appear to be at the heart of the harder, and kinkier might juice up your sex life, problem. The answer is more likely found in your heart than but is it really what you need? The answer is in your own in any doctrine or history. heart, not in the fetish ads. If you do get kinky, be especially careful! Accidents are just begging to happen. CANCER (June 21 - July 22): This birthday may have you feeling old and overly aware of life’s PISCES (February 19 - March 19): Efforts to play annoyances. Give yourself an opportunity to rant and let off with your partner may fall fl at. Is your baby being steam about your frustrations with career and authority fi g- clear about his or her needs? Are you really paying attention? ures. Just be very careful where you do that! The real problem may be more about a difference in values and priorities than in playing well together. LEO (July 23 - August 22): Commitment to certain values is important. It’s also possible to Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since take your own beliefs too seriously. You’re tempted to argue 1977, is based in San Francisco. He can be with others, but the challenge you really want is with yourself. reached for consultations at 415-864-8302, Questioning a teacher can be helpful. Remember that you are through his website at http://www.starjack.com the pupil!

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22): It seems you are “supposed” to fi t somewhere in your GLBT community, but you don’t. Being an individual and queer even among queers is fi ne, even if it gets you some fl ack. Still, mak- ing some compromises to fi t in might be worth considering.

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22): Careers should be fulfi lling, and relationships should al- leviate stress - that’s the basic idea. A retreat from both seems tempting, but there is no escape. You need to work on the is- sues with your partner, who can then help you with the work problems.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 25 Adult Film Review POV, Con, Sweaty, Daddy

By Jerome Voltero Review | Adult Male “P.O.V.” by Titan Media, Courtesy of Priape beefy bodyguards (Carlo Cox and Trojan Rock) that he Starring: Darius Falke, just can’t resist. Before he Frank Philipp*, Braxton knows it, they’re back at his Bond, Dillon Buck*, Lud- apartment and he’s down on dvid Candt, Vin Costes, his knees sucking off both Geoffrey Paine, Francois of these burly men. If you’re Sagat*. into hairy, muscular guys, this scene will knock your The acronym “POV” is “sock” off! short for “Point of View”, in this case alluding to the The three guys hang out gimmick of this porno – a for a while afterward, and free-roaming video cam- Torrez is shown a special era, manned by the actors website that his new buddies themselves, that captures are involved with – a male amateur footage on top of prostitution ring for “hard what is being fi lmed profes- tops” to fi nd tricks. Torrez sionally. Spread across 2 goes on to show the site to CDs, this porno contains over 4 hours of steamy footage. his boyfriend, Rocco Banks, who is not happy over the prospect but can’t shake the fact Braxton Bond is on his way up to join a buddy for a that the couple needs the money. They receive their fi rst weekend in the mountains, and comes across a farmer who offer fairly soon, two grand that they can’t refuse, and soon is having a yard sale. Bond pays just $20 for an old video they are out servicing some seedy looking convict that is out camera with night-vision, and gets a tripod thrown in as to screw them, and not in a good way. well – what a deal!! The camera comes with batteries and a tape…but no power cord to recharge it. Those batteries With a crazy bitch like Unity on the loose, who looks like must be heavy-freakin-duty! something right out of the Matrix (and yet she carries a purse?), one has to wonder if these boys are going to lose Bond fi nds a secluded place to examine the camera more than just their dignity trying to get out of this mess. and fi nds that there is already something recorded to the tape. When he plays it back, he witnesses a steamy 3-way between Frank Philipp, Geoffrey Paine, and Vin Costes, in a dark tool-shed dungeon. This gives new meaning to voyeur- “Hot and Sweaty” ism, and Bond certainly doesn’t look away! Be forewarned by AlphaMale Media, that this scene is a little kinky, involving bondage, lots of Courtesy of Adult Depot watersports, and some heavy duty sounding - which can be Starring: Trojan Rock*, a bit alarming if it’s your fi rst time seeing it (incidentally, Ross Hurston, Axel Ryder*, if this excites you, I am pretty sure I’ve seen the identical Ben Mason, Fernando sounding kit for sale at Priape). The three guys shoot their Nielson*, Buck Monroe*, loads and move on for some further playtime in the sling. Jaxson Phillipe, Thiery This gives Bond some very naughty ideas, as he goes on to Lamasse, Rod Piston. play out his fantasies, and capture them on his trusty new Manual labour in the camera. summer heat can cause horny men’s minds to wan- der. As Thiery Lamasse “Out On the Con” by AlphaMale Media, Courtesy of and Rod Piston are clean- Priape ing windows on adjacent corners of a building, they Starring: Rocky Torrez*, Carlo Cox*, Trojan Rock*, Rocco start to make lewd gestures Banks, Marco Di Lucca, Aitor Crash*, Mario Delazarius, toward one another, and Ross Hurston, Unity (special guest star). the bulges grow in their Rocky Torrez is being set up. A good deed returning a for- jogging pants. Finally they duck inside and close the blinds gotten purse to a “foxy” lady (Unity) lures him past some big to act out their dirty thoughts. The owner of the condo

26 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 may have spotless windows, but now they need to get their carpets cleaned! In the next scene we get to see the hottie from the cover, Fernando Nielson. He’s the beefy guy with a 5 o’clock shad- ow - looks cute, but a little dense. He and Ben Mason are processing deliveries in a warehouse, but the heat is getting oppressive for the two men in their blue uniforms. Nielson is the fi rst to undo his garb, showing off a big beautiful tattoo on his arm, and a really nice ass! Mason is soon to follow, and the two unanimously stop for a cock-fee break. But by far, my favorite is the third scene in the kitchen, with Trojan Rock, Axel Ryder, and Ross Hurston. Two out of three guys from my hot list ain’t bad. Ryder decides to play a little joke, leaving his pants off underneath his apron to see how long it takes his co-workers to notice. And they certainly do! Waiter, there’s a pube in my soup…and this cream sauce is far too salty!

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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 27 Deep Inside Hollywood New Projects For Keira Knightley and Johnny Depp

By Romeo San Vicente Celebrity | Gossip My Fair Knightley It’s only a matter of time before everything old becomes new Factory) - is in the works. No word on other cast members or again. If you live long enough, a remake of your favorite fi lm start dates, or even which part Depp will play, but it stands to is inevitable...provided your favorite fi lm isn’t Can’t Stop the reason that the man who spent the entirety of Sweeney Todd Music. Now it’s legendary gay director George Cukor’s turn. singing while he slashed throats would naturally choose to His Oscar-winning 1964 fi lm version of the hit stage musical sink his teeth into the part of the show’s main vampire, Barn- My Fair Lady, a movie that helped solidify Audrey Hepburn’s abas Collins, right? own legend status, is being remounted. And Eliza Doolittle, the street urchin-turned-fancy-lady by the misogynistic Henry Desperate Housewives with Handguns Higgins, is to be played by none other than Atonement star For queer audiences whose TV tastes lean towards the more and cultural thin-mint Keira Knightley. Producers Cameron brutal charms of The Sopranos than to, say, shows about Mackintosh and Duncan Kenworthy (Notting Hill, Four Wed- catty, conniving women in upscale neighborhoods, here comes dings and a Funeral) are wish-listing Daniel Day Lewis to Suburban Shootout. Based on the British series, the dark com- take on the role made famous by Rex Harrison, but nothing’s edy concerns a woman who leaves the city for a peaceful life in settled yet beyond Knightley’s current singing lessons. Time to the suburbs, only to discover that she’s caught in the middle cue the intro to “Wouldn’t It Be Loverly?” of rival gang war between murderous factions of homicidal, stay-at-home moms. If that doesn’t sound amazing already, the casting clinches it: hilarious and underrated character actor Judy Greer - the sole funny, wise-cracking presence in 27 Dresses- will take the lead. Best of all, it’s coming to HBO, the place where grown-ups go for shows that are too cool (and violent) for the networks. Noel Coward: A Vintage James Bond The late Noel Coward did it all: he was a playwright, a poet, a novelist, a composer, a director, and an actor (his turn as “The Witch of Capri” in the unhinged Liz Taylor/Richard Burton “art fi lm” Boom remains one of cinema’s oddest moments). He was also, as it turns out, a World War II spy whose effete, overtly gay behavior was the perfect cover. In other words, his life is a movie waiting to happen. Enter Tina Brown, former editor-in-chief of Vanity Fair and The New Yorker, who plans to turn Coward’s wartime adventures into a fi lm. This counts as the earliest of early pre-production, so there are no casting details yet, but it’ll take some- one with a George Clooney level of suavity to bring this legendary sophisticate to life. Romeo San Vicente does it all, too, and well. Depp and Burton Cast Dark Shadows He can be reached care of this publication. Back in the 1960s, when everything was cooler, a strange little soap opera called Dark Shadows made daytime TV safe for stories about vampires, warlocks, and the undead. That it existed at all is something along the lines of a network televi- sion miracle, and the show’s cult following has remained fer- vent over the ensuing decades. Now, thanks to the nothing-is- ever-weird-enough team of Johnny Depp and Tim Burton, that fan base’s creepiest wishes are about to be granted. A Dark Shadows fi lm - to be penned by gay screenwriter and frequent Burton collaborator John August (Charlie and the Chocolate

28 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Whole Lesbian Sex Back to Basics: Fisting

By Felice Newman Lesbian | Sexuality It’s back-to-school time, so let’s get down to basics. While you might not expect to fi nd fi sting in the Les- her vagina. The bones of your hand also may be pressing pain- fully against her pelvic bones. Back off to three fi ngers or even bian Sex 101 curriculum, what could be more basic two. Add more lube. You might try to enter her from a different than putting your fi ngers in your partner’s vagina? Or angle. Let her take the lead. Vaginal fi sting is not supposed to in this case, your whole hand. hurt. Contrary to its name, in fi sting the balled-up hand isn’t And that goes double for anal fi sting. Lesbians do fi st anally, forced past the vaginal (or anal) opening. Rather, it is slowly by the way. It’s a myth that only gay men engage in the sport and gently inserted, and once inside, curled into a ball - hence of handballing - though if you Google “anal fi sting,” you’ll have the term “fi sting.” to dig through the resulting 931,000 hits to fi nd any useful in- formation for us. The fi rst time my entire hand vanished inside Those who love fi sting speak of the primal connection of a woman’s butt, I think I was more shocked than she was. She having one’s entire hand inside the body of another human was a total exhibitionist and demo’d her newfound skill at the being. For emotional intimacy, nothing surpasses fi sting, they local women’s leather group the following week say. You can feel every ripple and pulsation of your partner’s arousal. Deep inside her body, it feels as if you have the core of Felice Newman is a founding publisher of Cleis Press and the author of her sexual power literally in the palm of your hand. “The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us.” Visit her at www.cleispress.com. Her book is available in Calgary at A Little More For women who crave deep penetration, fi sting satisfi es Interesting. that need to be completely fi lled. You can ride every subtle movement of your partner’s hand into an ocean of sensation. You can completely surrender to the overwhelming intensity of being inexorably penetrated. You can have mind-blowing orgasms. Here are some basic fi sting pointers: Fisting is about desire and trust - you have to want to open fully to your partner. The receptive partner is in control - even if you are in a BDSM scene, the “bottom” communicates how much, how fast, how intensely those fi ngers - and fi nally that hand - can enter. Snap on a latex glove (which will protect you from STDs) and coat your entire hand with a thick, water-based lube - front and back, up to the wrist. Keep that lube bottle handy; you’ll want to add more as you go. (And if you don’t use a glove, trim your nails!) Start slow - two fi ngers, then three. Work your way up to four fi ngers and then tuck your thumb into the palm of your hand. Try to make your hand as skinny as possible, folding your hand into the shape of a duck’s bill. Enter her up to the widest part of the hand, with your palm facing the front wall of her vagina and your knuckles facing her tailbone. At this point, move only by millimeters. Talk to your partner - ask her what feels good and what doesn’t. Maintain eye contact. Breathe with her. Connect with her in any way that works for the two of you. Some women like the circular pressure of a scooping mo- tion on the fully stretched vaginal opening. You may be able to rotate your way inside of her. Or you may be able to push straight in; you’ll feel a “pop,” and your hand will disappear. What if it hurts? Most likely, if you are about to sink your entire hand into your partner, the pain comes from your knuckles pushing against the ring of muscles at the opening of

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 29 Western Canadian Pride Campout “Leave Your Week Behind”

By Dallas Barnes Community | Events This August long weekend, pack together your camping equipment and head to the Watipi Lodge, cess story was when a guest commented on how welcomed and cared for she felt at this event – and the word “gay” or near Blackfalds, AB, for the “largest and fastest “lesbian” never even came up. growing gay campout in the west”. This three day event will keep you coming back every year for more! The only rule for the Western Canadian Pride Campout is to “leave your week behind”, and we could all use a bit of that. The Campout begins on Friday, August 1st and runs until Monday, August 4th, so mark your calendars. Tickets for the WCPC are available at www.wcpc.ca. If you pay online via Paypal, remember to bring your receipt. This is One of WCPC’s hosts, Leon Thompson, states that the basic a pet-friendly event, but make sure you keep them on a leash mandate of this event is “to provide you with the best gay and are prepared to clean up after them. campout possible, and to reward you for your courage in walk- ing the journey that you have all chosen to take.” WCPC is open to all who are gay or gay friendly, and any straight family Western Canadian Pride Campout or friends that support them. 1-877-429-9272 www.wcpc.ca Traditionally, the WCPC utilizes a theme to frame its week- Tickets: Early-Bird - $100, Gate - $120 end, and this year it is “Freedom”. Undoubtably you will have many opportunities to express this freedom through an array of hilarious competitions, dances, and a few other surprises. In fact, one of the many highlights from past campouts have been the outlandish competitions. Attendees are broken down into tribes consisting of 6 to 8 participants - sometimes com- posed of friends, or soon-to-be friends. After choosing a name for your tribe (with face paint provided) each team will dress the part. There is no need for extreme physical strength or even aptitude in sports - in fact “your best tools will be a good sense of fair play and the ability to laugh at your friends.” Each event winner is awarded points, and the winning team is the one with the most points at the end. It pays to make your best effort to win, as prizes consist of $300 for best decorated campsite, $200 for best team costume, and $100 for most outlandish costume! Having fun is a requirement; anyone found not having fun will be arrested. Even the slightest hint of a pout will be found by the Social Police. Not to worry, your punishment is only to wear an incredibly tacky jail shirt, and to be carted off to a ‘rowdy’ campsite. While imprisoned, you will endure countless friendly people offering you their beer. Furthermore, you will be subjected to bad jokes and endless tales of WCPC’s past. The only way to escape is to make the jailors your friends…but that doesn’t sound like too much of a challenge! WCPC host, Sparky, promises to keep the traditions of past events alive while still amazing you with some great surprises. Not giving too much away, Sparky ensures us that there will be “dances, sports, entertainment, a beef or salmon barbeque, twoonie brunches, awards, love for some of you, romance for others, and whole lot of Fun! Fun! Fun!” For Leon, the freedom to be oneself is most important dur- ing this weekend. He believes that for many in the community, the mantra “we’re here we’re queer, we’re over it” sums it up. In other words, despite the fact that we’re gay, we also have our own unique personalities, and attendees should not fear just being themselves at this event. For him, a major suc-

30 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 This One Time at Gay Camp… Manitoba’s Camp Aurora

By Jeffrey Vallis Community | Spotlight “Why did I ever agree to come here?” This was my last thought before my mother dropped me off at was able to meet a variety of people and learned so much that I had never known before. Each one of us is an honest, friendly, Camp Aurora for a four-day journey of self-discovery. wonderful person, each with our own amazing stories, and to- What I thought would be the last few days of my pre- gether, we make a community I can now be proud of and hold cious summer wasted, turned out to be the best four in high regard. days of my life. I’m still confused as to how or why a Camp Aurora 2007 was truly a life altering experience, and I group of 30 youth, most of whom had never met, be- plan to experience it all over again this year. My application for came so close in such a short period of time. It could the 2008 season is already signed, sealed and delivered. Now, be that we ate, played and slept together, and spent the countdown begins until I hear clanging pots for the 8am 72 consecutive hours in each other’s company. But wakeup call of “you are my sunshine, my only sunshine,” at Camp Aurora 2008. there were a few more important factors that made this a life-changing experience. Camp Aurora is an adult-facilitated and peer-run summer Camp Aurora camp for LGBTT and allied youth. The Winnipeg, Manitoba August 25th to 29th, 2008 based camp, modeled after Edmonton’s Camp fYyrefl y, had its Manitoba, Canada fi rst successful run this summer. Throughout camp, our self- http://www.rainbowresourcecentre.org/CampAurora.htm decorated “warm fuzzy” (mail) boxes served as an icebreaker, a way to say what was on your mind and get to know each other. We could send each other positive feedback, kind words, even notes of secret admiration. It became the Facebook of Camp Aurora, and was the breeding ground for some of my most trea- sured friendships. An equally important activity was the “Post-secrets” project. Inspired by the popular Frank Warren books of the same title, campers could craft postcards of their secrets, to be posted throughout the lodge. It became a game in itself trying to hunt for newest secrets, some of which were amusing while others were very serious. That everyone was comfortable enough to post these secrets, even if they were anonymous, said a lot about the amount of trust and support we had for one another. The various workshops were also an invaluable part of the camp experience. Whether it was getting in touch with your “in- ner” belly dancer, artist, or wall climber, there was plenty to do and learn. Some of the workshops were intense and emotional, and others just for fun, but they were all very enlightening and all helped me get in touch with parts of myself I had never known before. Camp redefi ned who I am as both a person and gay youth. More importantly, it redefi ned my outlook on “gays.” It’s true that there is discrimination within our own community, and I was no exception. Before camp, I had observed a lifestyle of sex, drugs and techno, fi lled with plenty of gossip and drama in the “bar scene.” But at camp, without these crutches/infl uences, I

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 31 32 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Ranch Rendezvous Good Food, Good People, Beautiful Location

By Dallas Barnes Community | Events Jim Saville, owner of Spring Valley Guest Ranch, is excited to extend an invitation to couples, singles, until you reach the main gate on the left. men, women, pets and children to join him at his The weekend package will set you back only $150.00 per ranch for the August long weekend. Situated in a person, and there will be a cash bar each evening during quiet, wooded valley, 20 minutes from Cypress Hills the dances, happening after the entertainers. To register for Provincial Park, the Spring Valley Guest Ranch will this event, visit the website and click on the rainbow icon, or call (306) 295-4124. Pre-registration is mandatory for food provide the perfect backdrop to get together with old preparation reasons, and payment is due upon arrival. friends, meet new ones, and to simply enjoy your weekend. The Ranch Rendezvous at Spring Valley Guest Ranch is an event that shouldn’t be missed. Summer only lasts two This long-weekend extravaganza begins on Friday, August months, and this is a perfect way to make the most of your 1st with registration commencing at 5pm in the saloon. time. Guests are free to arrive any time after noon to set up their tents or RVs. It is encouraged that guests arrive as early as they can, as spots are on a fi rst-come, fi rst-serve basis. Ranch Rendezvous Make sure to help yourself to a complimentary chili-on-a- Spring Valley Guest Ranch bun while registration is happening. www.springvalleyguestranch.com (306) 295-4124 The remainder of the weekend is fi lled with entertainment, great food, and a chance to enjoy the beautiful prairie sur- roundings. On Saturday night, sit down and enjoy come- dian, magician, and juggler, Brad Saville – a Calgarian - as he makes you laugh and possibly brings you up on stage with him. To follow are the hilarious Dance Heads which will make you a singing and dancing star! By superimpos- ing your head on a professional dancer’s body you can sing along to your favourite song, then take it home on a VHS copy. Regina native Jeff Straker will be entertaining the crowd on Sunday night. Celebrating the release of his CD, Songs From Highway 15, this pianist, singer, and songwriter will remind you of a cross between Elton John and Rufus Wain- wright. He is a phenomenal artist, and Ranch Rendezvous couldn’t be more pleased to have him play. Good food is also an integral part of the Ranch Rendez- vous experience. Calgary favourites, MP Catering (Lorrie and Michele Murphy, formerly of Money Pennies) will be making sure all the guests are well fed. On both Saturday and Sunday, there will be three buffet–style meals, and a brunch on Monday. While you eat, the talented John Robertson will entertain you with his renditions of classics such as “An English Country Garden” or the theme from the “Friendly Giant” on his six foot concert harp. If all of this isn’t enough to keep you busy, perhaps a dip in the hot tub on a cool night will cap your day. Jim also encourages guests to bring kites, all depending on the wind conditions of course. Not to mention, a great way to fi ll your Sunday is with a day walk to the spring (about 1 1/2 miles) for a picnic lunch. To get to Spring Valley Guest Ranch follow the #21 High- way south until you reach Davis Creek Road (about 42 km). Once there, turn left on the gravel road for about 14 km,

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 33 34 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 An interview with Aaron Pritchett Canadian Country Star on Touring, Music, and the Gay Rodeo

By Jason Clevett Interview Vancouver’s Aaron Pritchett recently awed the crowd at the ARGRA rodeo at Symon’s Valley Pritchett took his time to make sure the album Ranch with his high energy and highly enter- was right, a process that taining performance. Just prior to the event, we took nearly a year. caught up with Pritchett on a rare day off. “This one was longer “I am pretty excited about being at the rodeo. The last than past records. We re- time we played there was about four years ago. It is a corded 16 songs to start, unique event but we had a lot of fun last time, the crowd and were going to choose was awesome and knew all of the songs. It really felt like 12 out of the 16. When a big concert to me, it wasn’t a heck of a lot different than we sat back and listened what we normally do, other than the fact that everybody to it, we didn’t have ten in the crowd was gay or lesbian, and there to take part in songs maybe eight or a really cool event. It wasn’t different from any other show nine and needed more. really other than that. I just enjoy going out and playing, it Mitch [Merrett, his writ- doesn’t matter who it is.” ing and business partner] went back to writing, and Pritchett was quick to add he had no qualms with play- fi nished writing six more ing a gay event and hasn’t heard any negative response songs and found the two that we really needed. We started from fans or those in the industry. last September so it will be a full year by the time the “I don’t think people make judgments. Other artists and album comes out. I am extremely proud of it and glad that acts have taken part in it like Emerson Drive and Doc we took that long.” Walker. Nobody has judged them or said you have to be In the meantime Pritchett has continued to tour his gay to be part of the rodeo. They are looking for entertain- 2006 release Big Wheel, a tour that not only frequently ment. I am not afraid of telling people I am playing a gay brings him through Alberta, but to smaller towns like rodeo by any means; I fi nd it kind of unique.” Wetaskiwin, Tisdale Saskatchewan, and Winkler Mani- If you missed out on the show, you can catch him again toba. Not places an artist who has had his kind of success July 13th at Nashville North on the Stampede Grounds. normally frequents. Pritchett speaks very highly of the opportunities that come “When I fi rst got into the industry they told me I would with playing the Greatest Outdoor Show on Earth. play all these small places and then move on to the major “There is a massive amount of people, about 5000 cities and that is the way your career will go. I never be- – 6000 people in that Nashville North tent from all over lieved in that. It is such a tough sell in Canada for any art- the place. You get to play to them and they come up and ist whether country or rock, and I fi gured the only way to say hi after,” he said. “The fi rst big year I played there reach those fans that can’t get out to the major markets is was about four years ago and we were opening for Doc to go to these little towns. We play these tiny places but we Walker. We went on stage for a full hour and I sweat like still get 2000 – 3000 people out to these shows. My theory I had never sweat before and left a pool for Chris to stand is if you go to these towns they will come out because they in. The crowd was just amazing and sang along to all the are excited you are going above and beyond to come see songs and I wasn’t expecting that. It was a highlight of my them. Most people can’t make a two and a half hour drive Stampede memories.” to go to the major markets so we go to them.” Pritchett is one of the hardest working men in Canadian Another unique opportunity arose in May of 2007 when country music, having released three albums since 2002 Pritchett was approached by the CBC to do a concert with with his fourth one to come out September 9th. It is an the Edmonton Symphony Orchestra. He joined the ranks album he says he is very proud of. of artists like Metallica, The Tea Party, Jann Arden and many others in adding orchestration to his live show. ”It is a step up from the last couple albums, that is for sure. This one has ten co-writes that I have my name on, “At fi rst I didn’t think they were serious. I was extremely which I am really proud of. I am getting feedback from excited about doing it because of the fact that we had Nashville writers and publishers that are really excited some new music and were trying to work it into the show about what I am doing. It has Let’s Get Rowdy but the rest and a couple of the songs really needed orchestration, is a lot more mature than I have done in the past.” and we actually got that. I didn’t hesitate for a second, I

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 35 was more than interested to hear what my songs sounded Letter from the Publisher - From Page 6 like with a full string arrangement and it turned out just incredible.” the fence and on the stone steps to watch the drag perfor- mances on the main stage. At a few junctures it looked like Conductor Claude LaPalme took nine of Pritchett’s songs it might rain, but in the end we were spared the downpour and created the arrangements, and the fi nal product, of last year. which can be streamed through a link on his website - is amazing to listen to. What impressed us was that despite some of the bar poli- tics in Edmonton, Buddy’s and Boots, whether intentionally “It is tough to get a good live sound from so many in- or not, did a drag queen swap – the queens from the Buddy’s struments being mixed and arranged properly so I thought show performed as guests at Boots, and the queens from the it was just amazing. I am a country singer so having all Boots show performed as guests at Buddy’s. those strings behind me was a really strange sound but I The next weekend Steve was up in Edmonton again, while loved it. Some of the songs turned out absolutely stun- I stayed behind in Calgary – both of us covering the Pride ning.” Dances in each respective city. Calgary’s dance at the Chi- Aaron Pritchett has achieved recognition for the quality nese Cultural Centre began a little slow, but gradually built of his live shows, something he takes pride in. The music up to a packed house and was still holding strong when I industry has changed a lot since he fi rst broke into it, and left after 1am. I did not have the guts to continue on to the nowadays it is the strength of the live show that supports after hours after party at the Warehouse. Steve reported artists. that the dance in Edmonton was in a unique format – live Mardi-Gras music. “Music is a little more cookie cutter. CD sales aren’t what they used to be so they are trying to fi nd the artist So how did Calgary and Edmonton Prides compare? Steve that will sell the live show more than the incredible singer and I fi gure that Edmonton’s Parade and Street Festival was with great writing ability. Country will take a lot of song- better attended than ours, but Calgary’s dance did a better job of bringing out and keeping the crowds. So it’s anyone’s writers from Nashville and put them with an artist that guess who is further ahead this year. can half-decently sing. It is sad because you are taking away the types like Patsy Cline and Johnny Cash who June Photographs could translate a song into poetry. Nowadays it is all about the mighty dollar, more so than it was before. Not to say We have A LOT of photographs to publish this month, so we’ve needed to do something a little different to accommo- that I am a heck of a lot different but I look to entertain date them. We’ve broken off a couple of events to have their more than worry about CD sales. I have never been one to own separate pages away from their regular photo sections. think that the fame was going to make myself feel better as a person for the rest of my life. It is more about being able I mentioned earlier that during Pride, we covered the to entertain people and make them smile, there doesn’t after parties at all the Calgary gay bars except for one, and seem to be a lot of that these days.” I probably don’t even have to say its name for people to know which one I mean. Now, the people that were there Pritchett believes that things are coming around full for Pride weren’t any less deserving of celebrating Pride, or circle, back to an era where live concerts are an artist’s even any less important to be included in this magazine, mainstay. expressing what it is to be out and proud. The sad fact is “When you think back to the 70’s and early 80’s it was that the venue itself made the one-sided decision back in about the show, Kiss and bands like that really put on a February of this year that GayCalgary photographers are show. You wanted to sell albums but it was more about no longer welcome on premises, but it hasn’t been brought entertaining the people. In the late 80’s and 90’s it was up until now because there hasn’t been the need to get into very cookie-cutter pop sound and everyone was selling it. But in fact, according to the sign at their front door, no photography is allowed in this establishment whatsoever CD’s left right and centre and it wasn’t about the shows. (but don’t tell those people with photos proudly displayed on I think it is coming back around. The real split is going to Facebook). be people who can entertain as opposed to people that are worried about making money on album sales.” As hard as GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine strives to highlight the entire GLBT+ community in our two cities, At 36 years old, Pritchett is very mature for the music there is little we can do when a bar owner goes out of their industry, something he says keeps him humble. way to ensure their staff, customers, and drag performers ”If I had succeeded to where I am at right now in my are excluded. I can’t speak to exactly what they thought twenties I would have a lot more of a challenge with my this would accomplish…perhaps they want to make it look ego. I don’t believe I have an ego now about what I have like we are boycotting them, and not the other way around? accomplished so far, I am just excited to be in the indus- But the main fl aw with this plan is that they don’t truly have try. It is nice to know people are accepting of someone in power over anything but their venue, and by presuming to their 30’s being a country star, it makes me feel good. I’m own the people that support them - their staff, customers, just thankful that I am where I’m at now.” and performers – those people seemed more determined, this month especially, to make a clear statement of their free will by asking us to photograph them at other venues. Aaron Pritchett in Concert Erecting a wall makes a prison as readily it does a for- July 13th, Nashville North tress, and I’m sorry but people cannot thrive if they feel Calgary Stampede they’re being held captive. So this silly, self-imposed “iron www.aaronpritchett.com curtain” is an obstacle that most self-respecting people

36 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 simply don’t have time for. The community has to move Edmonton Police Commissioner told us that he had read the forward, because there is no other direction to go – so if you article. By that time we’d all but forgotten about it, so as decide not to be a part of it, don’t be surprised when people soon as we got back to home base we looked it up and read get used to life without you. it. Though it brought up some really good points (I loved his description of the “Maxim Test”), it still missed the point of July 2008 a few of Steve’s stories, and failed to mention all of the good We’ve gotten over the hump in the yearly cycle, as gay experiences that Steve had told him about, that indicated community activity goes. From here things slow down to Calgary was changing for the better. I mean, nobody’s a low point in August, and then pick up again in time for perfect, but we defi nitely got the impression that the author Christmas. As this magazine’s content is so closely linked had wanted to slant it in the direction of saying that Calgary with what goes on each month in the GLBT scene, it’s only was still very much intolerant. natural that we change our size with this ebb and fl ow. Last Okay fi ne, so writer bias is sometimes unavoidable, and month we had an amazing 88 page issue, and ran through mistakes happen (the Herald once published that a research our magazine reserves alarmingly fast – of course this is student in my computer lab at the University was the inven- June, traditionally our busiest month, and that size of mag- tor of the Sony AIBO, one of those artifi cially intelligent robot azine can’t be sustained without the draw from the many dogs…now that’s a pretty big mistake). major events that happen this time of year. Being thinner does have its advantages though, as we don’t have to pay so The entertaining part was reading the letters to the edi- much when sending copies of the magazine by Canada Post! tor, in response to the article. Person #1 criticized Steve for complaining at all that Calgary was a red neck city, and The Calgary Stampede and Edmonton’s Capital Ex are the person #2 basically proved Steve’s supposed argument. See- main attractions for this month, but check out our online ing these two completely opposite viewpoints, both of whom Events Calendar for more information about special events, complained so vehemently about things that weren’t actually as well as your usual weekly and monthly ones: www. the case (according to #2, we force our distribution points to gaycalgary.com/events carry and display gay pornography against their will, and he Steve Goes Mainstream won’t stand for it), we were amused to see that reader bias is just as much a factor in the mainstream media as it is in It’s an occupational hazard when you run a gay media our own publication. It’s like an inkblot test: no matter how outlet that the mainstream media will come to you when carefully you word things, a careless reader will only pick up they are curious about the gay community’s views on issues what they expect to see. And especially when it makes them that they become aware of. In the past, Stephen Lock has angry, they may not go back for a closer look prior to acting put himself out there to comment on such issues, and we out. have forwarded newspapers and TV stations to him for com- ment. In turn, we have dealt with numerous angry phone The Chelsea Boys are Back! calls, E-mails and letters, all saying something along the We haven’t seen the car- lines of “who put him in charge?” Our response – “Give us toon strip in a while, so out your name and number, and next time we’re contacted for of curiosity we contacted comment, we’ll forward them to you.” Aha, all of a sudden the makers of the Chelsea not so brave. Boys to fi nd out what was Understandably Stephen grew tired of this thankless re- going on. They informed sponsibility, and lately Steve and I seem to be among the few us that they have stopped suckers available to say anything at all from a gay perspec- making new comics, and tive. Last month we were contacted by both the Calgary that no publications for Sun and the Calgary Herald regarding the recently released the Alberta market were statistic that Calgary has the highest number of reported interested in starting to hate crimes in Canada. run the series again from the beginning. Apparently I muddled through the best I could with the Calgary they have produced enough Herald, making certain that it was clear that my views were comic strips to last 13 informed by my own personal experience, and not those of years, if only one is pub- the gay community as a whole. I ended up saying I thought lished per month. That means that Calgary and Edmonton Calgary was getting better, in essence agreeing with the as- have only seen the last 5 years of the cartoon, give or take. sertion that this trend is a result of better reporting prac- tices, and that maybe Calgary isn’t as “red neck” as it once It was an opportunity that we just couldn’t pass up. The was. This is ironic considering what ensued. Chelsea Boys are back, and now we get to see how it all started! Steve decided to take the interview with the Calgary Sun, who had left a voicemail message for us to get back to them. We want to hear what YOU have to say about the topics in this By the time he phoned, it was already too late for the article, article, and any other articles in our magazine. Visit the chat forums but nonetheless Steve got to chatting with the reporter about at www.gaycalgary.com and write your heart out! Or write us a letter some of his personal experiences growing up in Calgary, to the publisher by E-mailing [email protected], and we may good and bad. At the end of the conversation, the reporter publish or respond to it in the magazine! asked Steve if he could write an article about what he had just said, and Steve agreed with a couple of parameters on what information was sensitive and not on the record. We were up in Edmonton at the Mayor’s Brunch when the

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 37 Mind your Manners

By Kevin Alderson, Ph.D., R. Psych. Queer Quest I was often disappointed when I fi rst came out by Friday.” my own behaviour and that of others regarding how to show interest in another guy. That challenge, 2. Looking for Love – Don’t waste your time with those who however, was nothing compared to what to do when are not looking for the same you are not interested. Is it true that queer people thing as you. Seek out others are more afraid of interpersonal rejection compared who are also looking to estab- to heterosexuals? I don’t know the answer to this, lish a long-term relationship. but I was amazed at how dishonest or disrespect- Petrow and Steele recommend that you both agree to holding ful we (including myself here) can become when we off on having sex. If you feel want to disengage from someone without intention- more than just lust, you will ally hurting their feelings. enjoy the sex more and you will send the message that what the Although this is just one example, it speaks to two skills two of you are building is more that are important to develop: assertiveness (standing up for than just sexual compatibility. your rights) and etiquette (“rules governing socially acceptable behaviour” [1]). Etiquette is what most of us refer to as hav- Hold off the fi rst time you want to say, “I love you.” You ing good manners. I decided to write this column about gay want to ensure you mean it before you say it. What if you are etiquette, despite the few references I could fi nd regarding the asked, “Do you love me” and it seems too early? The authors topic. recommend you say something like, “I like you a lot, but I am not ready to call it love yet. Do you understand?” In fact, I could not fi nd a single psychological journal article on the subject and only found two books through an ama- 3. Dealing with Offensive and/or Homophobic Comments zon.com search. I have not seen the newer book [2] so I will – An offensive or homophobic comment is made – what do you use the book called, The essential book of gay manners and do? Petrow and Steele recommend confronting the bigot or etiquette (1995) by authors Petrow and Steele as my single homophobe “head-on,” either publicly or privately, or by talk- reference.[3] Although one can certainly argue against some ing to their boss if in a work situation. If a gay joke is made in of their suggested practices (as I do), I suggest that the intent your presence (or any joke putting down women, Jews, or any of etiquette is to be socially appropriate, polite, honest, and other minority group), let the person know you don’t fi nd it fair. With that it mind, these “rules” are not appropriate in all funny, tell them the joke is based on stereotypes, and that it is circumstances. offensive to all people. Then take your leave. 1. Dating Protocol – Petrow and Steele recommend that you Although I think their advice is sound, are there times when give at least three days notice when setting up a date. On a you have to temper your expression of distaste a little? At an fi rst date, schedule it for a weekday instead of a Friday or intimate dinner party, for example, direct confrontation may Saturday. The expectations are lower and it is easier for either come across as attacking and as a real mood killer. It might person to end the date early (that doesn’t mean either of you also preclude future invitations (which may or may not be are a schmuck – it just acknowledges that fi rst dates are often without consequence to you). stressful for one or both persons). They recommend you keep expectations low and that you not rush things. When you are 4. Dealing with Egotists and Know-It-Alls – So you’re at a ready to make a move, ask fi rst: “May I kiss you?” or “May I party and someone has an ego that just doesn’t stop. What hold you?” Easier than having the guy purse his lips so hard do you do? Changing the subject won’t work because the together that you get a powerful signal to “BACK OFF!” (this egotist will fi nd ways to get back centre stage. Petrow and happened to me once). Steele suggest you either (a) tell a very long story or (b) get away as quickly as you can. Know-it-alls will always win in a If you are meeting somewhere, how long should you wait? discussion (at least they think they have) so best advice is to Petrow and Steele recommend 20 minutes. If you haven’t let them correct you, smile, graciously thank them, and say heard from them, feel free to leave – you have given them goodbye. ample time to arrive. If they arrive after 20 minutes, they are the ones being rude. 5. Displays of Public Affection – Are we entitled to show public affection the same as straights? Petrow and Steele say the rules Another rule is to not make a date unless you intend to go are the same, so it’s okay to hold hands, gaze into each others through with it. If you have a good reason to break the date, eyes, and engage in light kissing. I am convinced that is the way let them know your reason. If not, but you still want to break it ought to be, but are we there yet? It depends on where you the date, do what Petrow and Steele recommend: Be honest live. Perhaps I am jaded and paranoid, but a light kiss in rural and say something like, “I’m sorry, Mike, but I don’t think it’s Alberta may be followed by a hard punch to those same pretty going to work out for us. I’ve decided to cancel our plan for lips from an onlooker! Safety fi rst, etiquette second (my rule).

38 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 6. Dealing with Unaccepting Family – Families vary in their response to one’s coming out. Petrow and Steele recommend that if your family is not accepting, create your own extend- ed family and your own traditions. If you can’t live at home, stay with a friend, sibling, or relative. My advice is don’t come out to your family while you are under their authority (while a minor or otherwise needing their care) if you believe they will have a harsh and rejecting reaction to your disclosure. Disclosing who you are can wait until you are independent. 7. Dealing with Unwanted Advances – Petrow and Steele advocate being honest, and that does go a long way. If some- one you are not interested in asks you out or makes a sexual advance, simply say “no thanks” and carry on with the conver- sation. I remember running into a guy a few weeks following a date and he asked, “Why haven’t you called me?” I was caught off guard but I did manage to utter, “I’m sorry but I am not interested in you that way.” That seemed to satisfy him and he left me alone after that. You could also say something like, “I am not romantically interested in you,” or “I am not attracted to you.” We have all had that experience before and the honest approach is better than making up lame excuses. 8. Behaviour in Bath Houses and Sex Clubs – Petrow and Steele do not believe you ought to talk when making an ad- vance in a bathhouse or sex club. Introductions are unnec- essary. Instead, approach the guy you’re interested in and touch him. Likewise, if a guy touches you, move away if you are not interested. If he persists, grasp his hand and fi rmly move it away. If others try to join you and you don’t want that, move their hands away too. Sounds so simple – and it works. 9. Invitations to a Commitment Ceremony (including same- sex marriage) – Should you invite everyone in your family, even if some members are homophobic? Petrow and Steele say “no” – only invite those who can really honour the commit- ment you are making. Makes perfect sense really. The last thing you need at such a special moment are others who are secretly sabotaging your deepest commitments. Especially if are new in your queer identity, you might want to purchase either or both of the books listed below in the reference section. It is not easy to be socially appropriate, polite, honest, and fair at the same time, while also ensuring that your own rights are protected (being assertive). It is worth learning proper etiquette, however, as it will earn you respect from those who know you well and from those who don’t. You will also be demonstrating the familiar Golden Rule (treat oth- ers the way you want to be treated). A little respect goes a long way in life. Dr. Alderson is an associate professor of counselling psychology at the University of Calgary who specializes in gay and lesbian studies. He also maintains a private practice. He can be contacted by confidential email at [email protected], or by confidential voice mail at 605-5234.

References: 1) Defi nition retrieved June 22, 2008 from wordnet.princeton.edu/ perl/webwn 2) Curzon, D. (2007). The big book of in-your-face gay etiquette. San Francisco: IGNA. 3) Petrow, S., & Steele, N. (1995). The essential book of gay manners and etiquette. New York: HarperCollins.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 39 Fair’s Fair The Calgary Stampede and Edmonton’s Capital Ex

By Jason Clevett Community | Events In the 1973 fi lm adaptation of the classic book Charlotte’s Web, a very wise Goose told Templeton the rat, “A fair is a veritable smorgasbord.” These words ring true today, as The Calgary Stampede and Edmonton Capital Ex are a smorgasbord of lights, sounds, smells, foods, and things to do. Edmonton’s fair actually outdates Calgary’s, fi rst being held in October 1879 by the Edmonton Agricultural Society on the original Fort Edmonton site. It was the fi rst event of its kind ever held in what was then the North West Territories, and showcased locally produced livestock, grain, vegetables and handiwork. In 1904 it moved to its current location south of Rexall Place, and became one of the biggest fairs in Canada. In 1962 it was named Klondike Days, and people would dress try acts like Aaron Pritchett, Aaron Lines, Beverly Mahood, up in period costumes for the parade. In 2006, the name was Emerson Drive and Sugarland. Capital Ex offers concerts changed to Capital Ex, and last year 772,692 attended. nightly with Ed Fest from artists such as Collective Soul, Jully The Calgary Exhibition was fi rst held in 1886, soon after Black, The Sam Roberts Band and Our Lady Peace frontman the arrival of the Canadian Pacifi c Railway to the city. The Raine Maida. Catch the stars of the future at the Northern Calgary Stampede, then a separate event, was inaugurated in Star Talent Search in Edmonton or the Stampede Talent 1912 by Guy Weadick, an American trick roper, and fi nanced Search in the Archie Boyce Pavillion. by the Big Four: Pat Burns, George Lane, A.J. MacLean, and Both the Stampede and Capital Ex are an important part A.E. Cross. Weadick wanted to put on a world-class rodeo of the community, and giving back to it. Both events feature event and Wild West show that would bring the best cowboys non-profi t groups with lottery tickets available. You could win from across the continent. The fi rst Stampede was the richest a house while supporting a great cause! rodeo competition in North America with prize money totalling $20,000. It drew more than 100,000 spectators. In 1923, the Of course, food is a huge part of the fair experience. This Stampede was combined with the Calgary Exhibition and the year keep an eye out for deep fried Oreos and Coca-cola bat- event has taken place every year since. In 2006, close to 1.3 ter. Or stick with traditions like BBQ Beef on a Bun, Corn million people walked through the gates. Dogs, mini donuts, lemonade and root beer. Of course, both events are a chance to party, and in Cal- Don’t eat too much however if you plan on hitting the mid- gary, throw on a cowboy hat and boots. Entertainment is a way. No carnival is complete without rides and games, and the huge part, attracting international music acts both to the bright lights of the North American Midway Entertainment to grounds themselves and local clubs. This year the Calgary lure you in. Try your best to win your sweetheart a $1 stuffed Stampede welcomes The Judds, James Taylor and Kid Rock to animal by spending $30 on a game… it’s the thought that the Saddledome. The Coke Stage will features acts like Finger counts! The “Double Shock”, “Fireball”, and of course the “Big Eleven, Hedley, Natasha Beddingfi eld, State of Shock and Wheel” are waiting for you to buckle yourself in and scream if many others. The ever popular Nashville North will offer coun- you want to go faster! Don’t forget there is a ton to see on the grounds, from agri- cultural exhibits to marching bands, kids activities, and lots of shopping! It isn’t July without a visit to either of these events that put their respective cities on the map, drawing tourists from around the world. Whether with a group of friends or your family, make plans to get out and, most importantly, have fun!

The Calgary Stampede July 3rd – 13th, 2008 www.calgarystampede.com

Capital Ex July 17th – 26th, 2008 http://www.capitalex.ca

40 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Fundraising Photos Artistes Del Fuego at the Backlot - Calgary Photos by GayCalgary Staff Fake Mustache Show at The Soda - Calgary

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 41 Retro Karaoke Party at Texas Lounge - Calgary Mayor’s Brunch benefitting Camp fYrefly - Edmonton

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42 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Finger 11 Paralyzing the Calgary Stampede

By Jason Clevett Interview July 8th marks the fi fth time that Burlington, Ontario’s Finger 11 has played Calgary since the Extensive touring has been a key to success for many Cana- dian bands. The Stampede show is a short visit “home” before release of their album You vs. Us vs. Them in 2007. heading back to the US. Finger 11 is has seen success south The quintet plays the Coca-Cola stage at the Calgary of the border, along with other Canadians like Theory of a Stampede in a concert, free with gate admission. Deadman, Billy Talent, Three Days Grace, and Sum 41. Often, the bands will team up for tours. “We keep coming back because we keep having an amazing time [in Calgary],” guitarist James Black told GayCalgary and “It defi nitely does bring a touch of home whenever we run Edmonton Magazine. “And because of that, they keep asking into fellow Canadians on the road. Recently it has been a us back. I suppose at a certain point it will, or has, become fairly consistent occurrence. We Canadians are defi nitely tradition. It’s not summer unless we go to the Stampede.” spreading our musical blanket far and wide and it’s always a great reminder of how well things are going for us all. These “There are a lot of great reasons to play there. It’s in guys are all from where we’re from, some of these guys live Canada, so we know that we’re back on home soil at least for right near my house and here we are meeting in the backstage a while in the summer. The Stampede itself is already busting of a huge festival in god knows what sweaty southern state, with energy because the whole city is into it. So when you thousands of miles from home, and all of us have gotten there throw a rock concert into the mix, it just elevates it all. Don’t playing music which is pretty amazing.” tell my wife, but I love the girls in hats, summer dresses and cowboy boots. Usually we play in dank clubs on the outskirts The extensive touring can take its toll on many relation- of town, right next to the glue factory. The Stampede is like ships. Black is married, but says being apart is par for the playing in the middle of an amusement park, way more fun all course. day and night. The biggest reason is the crowd. It’s always big and loud and full of love.” ”For me this question always reminds me of the end of Kill Bill 2, when Bill’s talking about Superman and Clark Kent. Black, alongside Scott Anderson, Rick Jackett, Sean An- He’s talking about how most super heroes are mild mannered derson and Rich Beddoe, have racked up numerous awards men who dress up in a costume to play their super hero alter- based on their smash #1 hit Paralyzer. Accolades include hav- ego but Superman is the reverse. He is Superman and his ing the most downloaded single by a Canadian artist, multiple costume is the mild mannered reporter. platinum certifi cations, and numerous awards and nomina- tions, including Rock Album of the Year at the 2008 Junos. When I’m on the road I feel like I’m in my proper skin. When I’m home I feel quite aimless and am, most times, at a “The whole Juno weekend was great. Got to see a lot of loss of what to do with myself. I’m wired to be a rock n roll, friends. Got to win a trophy. There’s a certain novelty to rid- touring musician. It is hard on our relationships but, in my ing around in limos and getting dressed up for that is fun for case, we’ve been together so long that it feels normal for us to me. There were great parties and I got to meet Lanny Mac- be apart for awhile, then reunited. Our relationship was born Donald’s moustache.” in that dynamic so it knows how to survive. The road life is not for everyone but it’s for me.” Finger 11’s show stopping performance during the Juno telecast of Paralyzer, featuring the Mount Royal College Youth In the June issue of GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine, Orchestra, added a new dimension to the song. In the past Dallas Green discussed how not playing ‘the hit’ can have an artists like Metallica, The Tea Party, and Jann Arden have impact on fans. I asked James if he ever sees himself growing teamed up with orchestras - it’s an idea Black says interests tired of playing Paralyzer night after night. him. “Paralyzer is one of the most fun songs that I’ve ever played, “I have considered that. It was something I’ve always wanted I can’t see myself getting tired of playing it ever, so we’re safe to do since hearing Sgt. Pepper when I was 8 years old, then on that one. We have had songs in the past like Drag You again later with Zeppelin Cashmere. It was really a dream Down and Slow Chemical that become popular but we don’t come true to be able to hear it all together. The guy who did play them. For us it really comes down to the greater good of the string arrangement had worked with Rick James in the the live show. If doing these two songs means more wear and past, so we knew right away that the ’disco / funky’ sound we tear on Scott’s voice, that means less touring, less shows per were looking to get from the strings was going to be there. I’d week. Time off while on the road, for me, is poison. So we love to work with Peter again on some of our other songs,” said decide to keep these songs out of the set.” Black, admitting a full-scale tour would be a daunting effort. “I think touring with such a large group would be a challenge “There is defi nitely a portion of fans that are disappointed but it would defi nitely be something for the fans to see. I sup- about a song or two they didn’t hear but we’re really only con- pose we can’t rule it out entirely as a possibility but it would cerned with how they feel about the songs they did hear. If it’s defi nitely be the most ambitious tour we’ve ever attempted. not going to sound as great as it should every night, there’s no Who knows, we’ll see.” point to play it. So we go with our gut and take our lumps if

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 43 some people don’t like it. We’ve never been good at trying to Movie Review - From Page 22 satisfy other people - it’s hard enough to get the fi ve of us to ting on a happy façade as his habits start to pull at him. Soon agree on something, we’d never get anything done if we threw he goes in search of his rave buddy, someone who Tone knows a couple thousand more opinions in the mix.” and trusts, who makes the unanimous decision both will Much like its culture, the LGBT community embraces music dose up on GHP and go about their partying. Todd eventually far beyond the believed stereotypes. While it may surprise wanders away from Jon, and is soon caught sneaking off with some that a rock band like Finger 11 has a gay fanbase, it another guy. Jon is inconsolable and breaks up with Todd certainly exists. later that night. “I suppose I’ve never really thought about it. I assumed As the party goes on into the wee hours of the morning, we there are gay people in the crowd as there are gay people ev- start to see the not-so-pretty face of party drugs: those who erywhere else. To me it doesn’t make a difference. You could become overly aggressive in trying to hook up, those who are be into donkeys for all I care, it’s music. It’s about reacting to disoriented from having far too much, and those who are sounds and feeling pictures in your head. I defi nitely think taken away by an ambulance before the night is over. sexuality is a huge part of Rock and Roll but your preference I highly recommend this fi lm, to our younger generation doesn’t matter. It’s all about the urges, buzzes and feelings especially. It attempts to peel away the parasitic drug scene that get conjured up by the words and melody. What’s always from the underbelly of the party scene – two things so inter- been great about music is that to two people who are on op- twined that they are often treated as synonymous – so that we posite ends of the spectrum, a song can be common ground. can examine them separately. It shows how the party scene They may be nothing alike but they both agree that this song still has value for those who need to fi nd recreation, while ex- is great, and feels good. That’s powerful.” posing the risks and destructive nature of the drug scene and its effect on the lives of those mired within it. Finger 11 Movie rental courtesy of Zip.ca. Online DVD rentals carrying a huge July 8th – Calgary Stampede selection of GLBT themed DVD’s as well as standard brand new releases, www.fi nger11.com TV shows, classics and more. No Late Fees, No Due Dates, and 57,000 Titles. http://www.zip.ca You vs. Us vs. Them in stores now.

44 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Thea Gill Queer as Folk Star Talks About Mulligans Movie

By Jason Clevett Interview Thea Gill (pronounced Tay-uh) is best known for her role as Lindsay Peterson for fi ve seasons of she plays Diana Childs Queer as Folk. This accomplished Canadian actress “They are very different is much more than just that role, as those who at- styles of show. Queer As Folk tended the Western Canadian premiere of the fi lm was a very profound political and social show that reached Mulligans, at Fairy Tales last month, can attest. a lot of people. Dante’s Cove is Gill plays Stacey Davidson, whose husband Nathan (Dan more fun, it’s a guilty pleasure, Payne) has an affair with their son’s college friend Chase a more superfi cial fantastical (Charlie David). The fi lm focuses on family, and Gill’s portray- dark fantasy. It is vampy and al of the bewildered wife is genuine and powerful. The initial colourful with lots of interest- buzz for the show had people lining up down the block at the ing and culty characters that Plaza Theatre in Kensington. are over the top.” “It really is pretty cool to see people lining up. This is the Gill recently relocated from fi rst time I have seen that. When I was doing Queer as Folk Vancouver to Los Angeles, but there were lots of lines for DVD signings and such but I have the Canadian born actress will always have a soft spot for never been in a feature fi lm where there is a line up around Canada, where QAF and Mulligans were shot. the corner of a movie theatre,” she told GayCalgary and Ed- “A lot of my work has generated from Canada. Now that monton Magazine during an interview prior to the screening. I live in LA I am getting offered roles from other countries. I This was the fi rst time she had seen the fi lm, and she ad- will be in the movie Butterfl y Butterfl y with Peter Page (Em- mitted she felt nervous. Afterwards in a Q&A session with the mett from QAF) shooting in New Orleans in August. He is a audience, she told David (who wrote and co-produced the fi lm) gay character and I am playing his wife. I have been receiving how proud she was of the fi nal product, and rightfully so. She more international opportunities. But I have been lucky to had nothing but positive words for David, who also co-stars have received the work and projects that I have.” with her on the series Dante’s Cove. While those roles may take her to more mainstream shows “I love Charlie. He is a great mystical soul, extremely intel- that are (gasp) more heterosexually based, Gill will never for- ligent and focused and knows exactly what he wants, which get how the LGBT community supported her through Queer as is something I have struggled with. I am always a little more Folk and beyond. ambiguous about what I want and how I feel. He knows how “I just hope I can continue to be a good performer and that to do it, is very determined and ambitious.” my work reaches and touches people. I’ll make some mistakes Mulligans marks the fi rst queer project where Gill has por- along the way but I am trying my best to be real and as honest trayed a heterosexual. Married to theatre director Brian Rich- as I can be with the projects I have chosen to do.” mond, she is proud of her work in queer media, and doesn’t www.theagill.com let concerns about being typecast into lesbian roles deter her. www.mulligansthemovie.com “I don’t really think of it as being typecast, because I am an actress and you go were the work is and the roles are offered. Obviously it seems like my career and life has been lead in a certain direction. I haven’t ignored or denied that - I have ac- cepted that. I have taken it on as a way to explore the reason and avenue of my life, and my perceptions are to be examined. When you are lead down a certain road you can either stop or go down, and I have chosen to go down the road. There is obviously a reason why I have been lead down this road - the subject matter of Gay and Lesbian rights, from a gay perspec- tive and a straight perspective, being a straight person.” Gill spoke fondly of her QAF experience. ”We didn’t know it would last as long as it would. We were prepared for it to be highly criticized, and expected a lot of hate and aggression, and we did have a lot of that. But we were also obviously groundbreaking and loved.” It was an entirely different show from Dante’s Cove, where

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 45 Music Review GayDays, Cyndi Lauper, George Michaels, and Mariah Carey

By Rob Diaz-Marino Review | Music “Party Groove: Gay Days Vol. 5” by DJ Randy Bettis His disc for living contains his For the fi fth consecutive year, Cen- upbeat tracks, including classics like taur Music has produced the Offi cial “Wake Me Up”, “Faith”, “Freedom!” CD for the internationally acclaimed and “Outside”. Some hit songs week of celebration known as Gay Days remind us of the high-points in his – a gay and lesbian vacation experience career, while others poke fun at the comprised of multiple events in and low-points. On the fl ip side, his disc around Orlando’s greatest theme parks, for loving contains his more tender nightclubs and attractions. This album and romantic numbers such as is the perfect fun-fi lled, feel good summer mix. “Careless Whisper”, “Father Figure”, “Ready to Go” is a very promising start – unfortunately it’s “Praying for Time”, and “Don’t Let too darn short! Other tracks include remixes of familiar songs the Sun Go Down on Me”. such as Paula Abdul and Rand Jackson’s “Dance Like There’s For me it was an education in itself, hearing so many familiar No Tomorrow”, and Ari Gold’s newest single “Where the Mu- songs that I didn’t realize were attributed to George Michael. sic Takes You”. Also present are remakes of classic radio hits Even more interesting was the opportunity to listen to lyrics like “Bleeding Love”, “Hot Stuff”, “Ride on Time”, “Could you be written prior to Mr. Michael’s step out of the closet, and hear ev- Loved” and “Broken Wings”, as well as the infectious new hit erything from subtle hints to the blatantly obvious. I’m shocked “Live Your Life”. and impressed at his bravery and honesty, writing songs that This high-energy continuous mix is a must-have from the talk openly about his then-identity as bisexual. These were the centaur collection, so pick it up at Priape or purchase it online songs I didn’t hear when I was growing up, probably for that at www.centaurmusic.com. very reason. “Bring Ya To The Brink” by Cyndi Lauper You can’t help but feel a deep respect for George Michael, an Cyndi Lauper burst onto the world amazing songwriter, vocalist, and person, as you look back on stage as the quintessential girl who these classics. wants to have fun. After more than 20 “E=MC2” by Mariah Carey sterling years and global record sales Now I’m going to say that I am not in excess of 25 million, she has proven exactly a fan of the R&B genre, so that she has the heart and soul to my review of this CD will be skewed. keep her legion of fans compelled by The characteristic sluggish tempos, her every creative move. laid-back styling, melancholy moods “This is an album that can be ex- and occasional rap interludes are my perienced in two completely different main peeves, but I’ve still managed ways…a dance album on that you can move to and enjoy on a to fi nd a few favorites among the surface level. But if you want more than that, there’s a lot to other songs I have no desire to listen discover inside the lyrics. There are times when these songs get to again. pretty deep.” The album starts off with “Migrate”, a very odd track that Virtually every piece is a collaboration with a different artist, immediately got on my nerves, but soon evolved into something composer, or producer, and subsequently each track conveys a I found quite fascinating. Carey lays down a screechy counter- different style and atmosphere. The album starts off with her point with her own voice, which gets distorted, chopped up and more modern style songs, “High and Mighty” and my personal played throughout the rest of the piece as she continues to sing favorite “Into the Nightlife”. I also really liked the chorus of the lead. The clicks, synths and voices that join later give the “Echo”, however the rest of the song wasn’t quite as appealing. song a mesmerizing complexity, and in the end I had to give it “Rocking Chair” was just plain weird. points for that. “Set Your Heart” sounds like something right out of a 1970s Otherwise I particularly enjoyed the more upbeat “I’m that disco, complete with strings and trumpets. Likewise, “Grab a Chick”, and the catchy “I’ll Be Lovin’ U Long Time”. I believe Hold” and “Rain on Me” sound like something out of the 1980s. “For the Record” appealed to me above the other numbers be- You might fi nd them a bit cheesy if you’re not into retro, but cause of the warmth from the strings and wobbling synth. “Love nonetheless I found them pretty catchy. Story” and “Bye Bye” were more sentimental songs and won my heart over a little, even if I may not hang onto them as favorites. “Twenty-Five” by George Michael This retrospective album provides a compilation of George So in my opinion this latest Mariah album is a little dull, Michael’s greatest hits, and was launched in conjunction with but if you’re a fan of the artist or the genre, then who am I to 25 Live, his fi rst North American tour in 17 years. The album is discourage you? divided into two discs: one for living, and one for loving.

46 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 New Light Shines in Prism

By Allison Brodowski Business | Spotlight Prism, Edmonton’s only lesbian bar, has gone through a lot of positive changes in the last month. sociation (ERBA), and holding responsibilities organizing GLBT sports and recreation for Team Edmonton, Deborah New owners Tracy Smith and Deborah Chymyshyn wears many hats in the community. Both women work with have put their best efforts forward to take the estab- Womonspace, a non-profi t social and recreational society in lishment in an even more inclusive and community Edmonton. These partnerships are starting to bring a hand- oriented direction. ful of Edmonton queer organizations together, as they fi nd ways of bringing mutually benefi cial events to the bar June 1st was the takeover date, and the change became apparent immediately as Prism hosted and catered the ISC- In the past Prism had been the source for drag kings such WR’s Victory Brunch, to rave reviews from those in atten- as Alberta Beef, Friday night DJ’s, as well as Free Pool and dance. They closed the bar down quickly thereafter for the Karaoke on Wednesdays. These favorites will be returning beginnings of a renovation project. Though they reopened with a number of other new forms of entertainment. “We again on June 6th, they will likely continue renovations after want to keep the bar running and make it more successful the summer months. than it’s ever been, by increasing advertising and bringing in more live entertainment,” says Tracy. While the bar retained its basic layout, a new hardwood dance fl oor was installed with an expanded DJ booth, and Indeed, the Live Entertainment started a week after the a new coat of paint on the walls. ”The bathrooms have been grand re-opening, with an in-house performance by Smith re-vamped and we added a lot of new lighting for the dance on Sunday and Canada’s own Kate Reid, followed the next fl oor,” Tracy told us. ”After the summer we’re planning on week by Barley Wik, a grass renovating the kitchen and acquiring some new equipment roots all girl band from Sas- so we can re-vamp the menu.” katchewan. Meanwhile, the area surrounding the bar is also under There are several spe- a great deal of redevelopment. The city has plans to erect cial events being planned fi ve high-rises and two sky scrapers, including an Epcor for the summer, beginning tower directly across the street. The site is also part of the with theme nights such as proposed LRT expansion. Mexican Fiesta, and Pole Dancing. ”Pole B Dancing “This area will look awfully different in two or three years. is coming in and they also We can’t wait,” Tracy comments. Her partner Deborah adds, run salsa dancing lessons, ”We want to make this a safe place for everybody.” In fact, which we may offer with the according to them, the Edmonton City Police have increased Mexican Fiesta Night.” patrols and are cracking down on crime in the neighbor- hood. Early august promises to bring the laughs with a One of their largest concerns is regarding a common trait Fringe pre-show from an up in the smaller prairie queer communities – that of internal and coming New York come- division. Divisive factors such as cliques, bar politics, and dian. Then, on August 23rd, even geographic distance, have created diffi culties for both Smith on Sunday returns to Calgary and Edmonton to fi nd unity. Our cities often look rock the house. enviously to Toronto, Montréal, and Vancouver, that have larger GLBT populations and more visible and unifi ed queer So take the time this sum- communities. mer to see what’s shaking at Prism. Bust a move on the But the new owners of Prism believe one of the key ele- new dance fl oor, sample from ments in creating a stronger community is willingness of the wonderful kitchen, relax groups and businesses to offer services and events that ap- with some buddies…and pick peal to the community as a whole. Tracy and Deborah hop- up a team Edmonton hoodie ing to cultivate this kind of holistic participation, starting at while you’re at it! home in Prism. Prism Bar & Grill ”The goal is to turn it around a bit, and create a support- 10524 101st Street, ive network consisting of a diverse part of the community Edmonton working together,” says Tracy. (780) 990-0038 Sitting on both the Edmonton Rainbow Business As-

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 47 k.d. lang, Theory of a Deadman, Virgin Festival

By Jason Clevett Review | Concert k.d. lang – June 8th at Jack Singer Concert Hall. have. Aside from that, Theory of a Deadman demonstrated why they are one of Canada’s top rock acts. I have to confess that I Virgin Music Festival – June 21st & 22nd at Fort Calgary was not a k.d. lang afi cio- nado. I respected her as an When Calgary was originally announced as a site for V-Fest, artist, humanitarian, and the anticipation was palpable among Calgary music fans. activist and could see her However, when the line-up was announced, that anticipa- appeal, but aside from a tion turned to disappointment; it consisted mainly of Cana- few songs I wasn’t a huge dian bands that have all toured Calgary in the past year, and fan of her music. That all people griped they would probably come again this summer changed when I joined the sold-out crowd at the Jack Singer anyway. Concert Hall to see lang do what she does best. It didn’t seem to matter, as over the course of two days As a performer she is absolutely incredible! Casually stroll- 35,000 people headed to Fort Calgary to take in bands like ing on stage, barefoot, to start the show with Upstream from Three Days Grace, Matt Good, The Flaming Lips, The Tragi- her current album Watershed. She held the crowd captive cally Hip and the newly re-united Stone Temple Pilots. The throughout the 90 minute show; they laughed at her polite weather was absolutely perfect – in the 20’s each day, which Canadians joke, when she danced around goofi ly for Miss meant that whether you liked guys or girls, there were lots of Chatelaine and, when she told one of her band members she incredibly good looking people wearing not a lot of clothing. had “chop envy”. “I’d look damn handsome in those,” she Aside from them, there was plenty to see and do: various eco- said, “but I might resemble Fat Elvis too much.” friendly vendors, lots of food, and not to mention two stages The audience leapt to their feet during her cover of Leonard featuring 30 bands throughout the course of the day. Cohen’s Hallelujah, the fi rst of four much deserved standing The choice of headliners were very unique in some ways, ovations. They say k.d lang came home that night, and what a and yet very similar in others. The Stone Temple Pilots are homecoming. Count me now as one of the converted. 90’s rock icons, despite the highly publicized substance issues of lead singer Scott Weiland. The Tragically Hip are Canadian Theory of a Deadman – June icons who have played Calgary probably hundreds of times in 12th at MacEwan Hall their career, and keep people coming back. While musically they are quite different, what makes each Canadian rock seems to band fun to watch is how captivating their lead singers are. be taking off, with bands Weiland plays the bad boy rock start to a tee, beginning in a like Finger Eleven, Three suit and eventually stripping down out of his shirt and whirl- Days Grace, Sum 41 and ing around on and off stage. At one point he ran to the sound many others that are not and light house at the back of the crowd, suddenly giving only having success at those in the back a front row seat. The Hip’s Gord Downie, home, but internationally. who earlier performed with both The Constantines and City & Theory of a Deadman can add their names to that list, but Colour, probably broke a half a dozen mic stands while riding that success has kept them away from Canada. Touring in them like horses, spinning them around, and using them like support of their Scars & Souveniers album, they kicked off the a javelin. Both bands have so many hits that the entire closing show with three previous hits: Invisible Man, Hating Hollywood sets were giant sing-alongs. and Nothing Could Come Between Us. Lead singer Tyler Con- Other highlights of the weekend included sets by Three nolly, guitarist Dave Brenner and bassist Dean Back had the Days Grace, Stars, City & Colour, Matthew Good, The New enthusiastic crowd in the palm of their hands. Pornographers, Corb Lund, and the X.929 Exposure winners. The show was a solid mix of singles and songs from the Saturday night also featured a trippy set by The Flaming Lips new album, ending with their fi rst two singles Bad Girlfriend that included Tele-tubbies, a giant plastic hamster ball, and a and So Happy. While the act had everything you look for in a naked women. I can’t really explain it in a way that would do rock show – great energy, giant sing-alongs, and a set full of it justice. recognizable songs - there was one major fl aw: it ended at 70 The rock festival concept has gone through various phases minutes. For a band with three albums out, this was really throughout history, but Calgary proved that it knows how to disappointing. rock. Not since Edgefest in 1999 has Calgary hosted a festival With concert tickets getting more and more expensive, I the likes V-fest. Without a doubt, it will be back, so don’t think bands need to give their fans their money’s worth. Had listen to the bickering about the lineup – just go, and have the show been an extra 20 minutes, they absolutely would yourself a truly amazing experience.

48 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 49 Queer Eye - Calgary Community Events this Month Mr. Priape Wear Competition at the Calgary Eagle

Photos by GayCalgary Staff Calgary Men’s Chorus, Strength to Dream Concert

Lesbian Dance / Soul OUTing at the Marquee Room - Calgary

50 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Kokanee Girls at MPs - Calgary

Military Ball at the Calgary Eagle

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 51 Calgary Pride Parade and Street Festival

52 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Pride Afterparties at Backlot, Calgary Eagle, MPs, and Texas Lounge

Calgary Pride Dance

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 53 54 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Queer Eye - Edmonton Community Events this Month

Photos by GayCalgary Staff Kate Reid Concert at Prism Prism Grand Re-Opening

Edmonton Vocal Minority - ManWomanThing Concert

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 55 Edmonton Pride Awards and Flag Raising

Pride Drag Show at Boots - Edmonton Pride Drag Show at Buddys - Edmonton

56 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 ManHunt 7 Sexy Sins Dance at New City - Edmonton Pink Party at Buddys - Edmonton

Womonspace Dance - Edmonton

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 57 Edmonton Pride Parade and Street Festival

Edmonton Pride Dance

58 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #57, July 2008 Edmonton Pride Youth Dance

Team Edmonton - Come Out and Play

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