Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans Power and Control Wheel

EROSEXI HET SM

V IOLENCE AL SE IC XU YS USING A PH L COERCION & USING p g u A in THREATS INTIMIDATION sh I p in H p g B la making and/or carrying out threats making you afraid by O s O to do something to harm you ● using looks, gestures, actions ● sh M H ir threatening to leave or commit smashing things ● abusing pets ● o a v O P h suicide ● driving recklessly ● i USING displaying weapons using USING n P g ● g S to frighten you threaten- looks, actions, gestures n i EMOTIONAL H l ECONOMIC ● N l ing to "out" you threat- to reinforce homophobic, h u ABUSE i O A p ABUSE ening others who are biphobic or transphobic t t ● ● i B preventing you from getting important to you putting you down making n R control g g ● stalking you feel bad about yourself ● call- I T or keeping a job making you n A i ● ● ask for money ● interfering with ing you names playing mind games k

o ● making you feel guilty ● humiliating you A work or education using your credit h B I ● c cards without permission ● not working questioning if you are a "real" lesbian, "real"

I B and requiring you to provide support man, "real" woman, "real"femme,"real" butch,

P ● keeping your name off joint assets etc.● reinforcing internalized homophobia, O POWER biphobia or transphobia H

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P USING PRIVILEGE USING ISOLATION B

I CONTROL

treating you like a servant ● making controlling what you do, who you see or talk I

B ● A

all the big decisions being the one to to ● limiting your outside activities using

define each partner's roles or duties ●

g jealousy to control you making you

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in the relationship using privilege T I ● a account for your whereabouts saying n

DENYING, i b R

or ability to "pass" to discredit p B b no one will believe you, especially

USING MINIMIZING, p i you, put you in danger, i A

n not if you are lesbian, gay, r

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CHILDREN & BLAMING N

bisexual, or trans

resources, or use the ● ● s S

p making you feel guilty making light of the abuse not letting you go

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n about the children saying it didn't happen anywhere alone r e

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h ● using children to relay shifting responsibility for abusive g

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g messages threatening to take behavior saying it is your fault, you t O s

● deserved it accusing you of "mutual i B

the children threatening to tell w

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abuse" saying women can't

ic your ex-spouse or authorities A

in that you are lesbian, gay, abuse women/ men can't abuse g g in men ● saying it's just it P bisexual or trans so b H they will take the "fighting," not Y S A L ICA children abuse XU L SE V IOLE N CE

HETEROSEXISM

Developed by Roe & Jagodinsky Adapted from the Power & Control and Equity Wheels developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project ● 206 West Fourth Street ● Duluth, Minnesota 55806 ● 218/722-4134 TEXAS COUNCIL ON FAMILY VIOLENCE

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