1 Pretty T Girls June 2013 The Magazine for the most beautiful girls in the world

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Editorial By: Barbara Jean 4 Lip Color: Gloss, Stain, Lipstick, Balm & More 5 How to Apply Eye Makeup Based On Your Eye Shape 8 Makeup Trends That Still Haven’t Died 10 Rhonda’s Ramblings 11 Transgendered In Romania Part 2 12 The Exploits of Barbara Marie 14 Tasi’s Musings 16 Scientist Discover Transsexual Gene 21 Humor 23 Angels in the Centerfold 24 TG Tips by Mellissa 25 My Anime-Zing Adventure by: Mellissa Lynn 30 The Adventures of Judy Sometimes 34 The Ramblings of a Married T-Girl 35 Tasi’s Fashion News 38 Do High Heels Put 100 Times More Stress On Your Feet 41 You Can Judge 90% of People by Their Shoes 43 Banning Boob Sweat 45 What to Wear for Any Occasion 47 Lucille Sorella 53 The Gossip Fence 54 Shop Till You Drop 67 Calendar 74

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GLB T An Editorial by: Barbara Jean

On one of my board there was a question about a rumor of the T separating from the GLB. Well this rumor has been actually going on for many years. For years it been felt that the gay/ lesbian community was saying “let us get our rights and then we will come back for yours.”

There have been many hard feeling of the gay/lesbian community by the transgender community especially after the debacle by HRC where Joe Solomonese at the Southern Conference had said that HRC would not support any ENDA that did not include gender, but then right after saying that Rep. Barney Frank introduced a version of ENDA that did not include gender and HRC supported the idea of a ENDA that did not include us. Just as the wounds of this were beginning to heal at the SCOTUS hearings on same sex marriage in March of this year an HRC staffer told a transgender person to take their transgender flag out of camera view. They claimed that Marriage was not a transgender issue

HELLO HRC!!!! Marriage not a transgender issue… Perhaps they should study the case of Christy Littleton, J. Noel Garner, and Nikki Araguz, all post op transsexuals who after having the surgery married men who later died and were denied widow benefits when family of the deceased made light of the fact that they were originally male. Courts in all three cases have said that since chromosomes have not changed they were still male and that their marriage never happened since the state did not recognize same sex marriage. Most recently Thomas Beatty, the “Pregnant Man” was denied a divorce from his wife with the court saying that he was not a man since he still had female reproductive organs.

While many of the civil rights issue of the GLB are the same for the transgender, yes we do have issue that are different from the GLB. Issue like bathrooms, locker room and showers, name change issues, medical issues, issues of housing in homeless shelters and jails, and even more so for us, employment issues.

Employment, for the GLB it was simply a matter of don’t ask, don’t tell, but unlike the GLB we are visible, our closet is far different than theirs.

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, they are all sexual orientations. Transgender on the other hand has more to do with identity. We the transgender may be heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual or even asexual. Civil right is an issue that we all share the need for. I think we the transgender have suffered more from things like discrimination and hate crimes than the gay/lesbian community. 5

Which is the bigger community, the GLB or the T? I recall one survey where it was said that about 30% of the population was heterosexual, 55% was bisexual 10% was homosexual and 5% was asexual. I think if we look at the transgender community we would find the percentages to be very close to that of the general population. When it comes to visibility though, the GLB is a far larger community than we are. This is due to the fact that so many of who are part of the transgender community are deep in the closet. Discrimination has made them fearful to come out.

While we do have our own organizations such as NTAC, we do not have the dollars to hire lobbiest to the sense that the GLB community has. As a result we cannot influence state and federal legislatures as well as the GLB can.

Should the T separate from the GLB? Can we separate from them? I think in both cases the answer is NO!

No matter if we are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or even straight allies, we should never forget the words of Martin Nemoiler “In Nazi Germany they first came for the communist and I did not speak out. I was not a communist. Then they came for the Jews and I said nothing. I was not a Jew. They came for the trade unionist and I said nothing, I was not a trade unionist. They then came for the Catholics, but I remained silent for I was a protestant. Then they came for me, but there was no one left to speak out.” Nothing can be accomplished by being divisive, clearly there is more strength in unity.

Vice President Joe Biden has said that the transgender is the civil rights issue of our times. Next month we will find out if the gay/lesbian community has won or lost their big issue. The question comes if they win will they be there for us or will they again throw us under the bus.

Lip Color: Gloss, Stain, Lipstick, Balm, and More By Lisa Fields WebMD Feature

If you've been loyal to the same lipstick brand and color for the past decade or more, you may not realize that there are many new and different products to color and brighten your lips. You can wear any of the many lip color products separately or layered together to update your look. "There are no rules of right or wrong to lip color," says Clarissa Luna, a New York-based celebrity makeup artist. "Whatever you feel comfortable with is what you should use."

Before you think about lip color, though, consider lip health. Remember to protect this sensitive skin from the sun, because the lips can develop skin cancer, says Ellen Marmur, MD, associate professor of dermatology at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York. Look for lip color products that contain at least SPF 15 or use a lip-friendly sunscreen product.

"Make it part of your morning routine, before your lipstick," Marmur says. When shopping for lip color products, don't test samples on your lips that others have used. 6 "You don't want to get herpes or staph infections," Marmur says. "I would put it on your hand, not your lips, unless they open something fresh for you."

Read on to learn about the different categories of lip color products available today:

Lip Gloss

When you hear the words "lip gloss," you may envision 13-year-olds applying bubble gum-colored gloss on the bus ride to school, but there are a wide variety of colors to appeal to everyone, not just adolescents. "They cater to different needs and age groups," says Jeanne San Diego, a freelance makeup artist based in Southern California. "There are so many different kinds: full color, sheer, glitter, SPF protection. Some are more sheer and some give you a more natural look, like a hint of color." Good for... people with dry skin, because lip gloss tends to be moisturizing. Avoid if... you're seeking long-lasting color, since gloss comes off quicker than lipstick. It can also be messy, because it stays moist the entire time you wear it.

Lip Balm

Lip balms have moved beyond the basic and into the cosmetics industry. Tinted balms offer a hint of color with sheer to medium coverage and a satin finish, plus moisture. "They often have SPF, which is great, plus vitamin E and shea butter, which soften the lips," Luna says. "It's a see-through color, not a full-color commitment, so you don't have to worry about looking in the mirror and making it perfect." Good for... people whose lips are dry or tend to chap. Avoid if... you seek bold, deep, dark coverage.

Lip Stains

If you want all-day color with no upkeep, consider lip stains. These liquid-based products are painted onto the lips. Once they dry, they last 8 to 12 hours. The matte stain is so enduring, in fact, you'll need to remove it with makeup remover at the end of your day. "You have to be careful and get a perfect application," says David Maderich, a New York-based celebrity makeup artist. "Once it's dried, it's not coming off." Lip stains can be very drying, so it's best to apply a moisturizing balm first. Stains can also draw attention to chapped lips or wrinkles around the mouth. Good for... people who want all-day color and those who don't like the feel of lipstick. Avoid if... your lips are dry or tend to chap.

Lipstick

Historically, lipstick was very matte with full color. (Picture Marilyn Monroe's signature red lips.) There are many more options now. "Today, there's gloss, glaze, luster and satin finish, as well as matte, and any cosmetics line 7 would carry 30 to 40 colors in all finishes," Luna says. Remember to reapply lipstick frequently, because it wears off after you eat or drink. Good for... adding full color to the lips in a variety of colors and finishes. Avoid if... you want long-lasting color.

Long-wear Lipstick

A newer type of lipstick is thick, opaque, long-lasting lipstick for women who want to apply color in the morning and have it last all day. Like long-lasting lip stains, long-wear lipsticks are sold in liquid form. You paint them onto your lips, where they stay in place for 8 to 12 hours after drying. You take them off with makeup remover. But that's where the similarities end. "A tint or a stain is more like a sheer color and doesn't have any coverage," Maderich says. "Super-wear lipstick has a lot of coverage." Long-wear lipsticks can feel dry, so they're usually sold with a moisturizing clear lip gloss, to be worn as a top coat. "It feels better and gives lips a little shine," Maderich says. Good for... people who want all-day color. Avoid if... your lips are dry or tend to chap.

Lip Liner

Many people who wear lip liner apply pencil to the outline of their lips to help their lipstick stay in place. The matte liner acts as a barrier, preventing creamier lipstick from migrating onto the skin surrounding the mouth. Some people color in their lips entirely with liner before applying lipstick, because lipstick comes off after eating and drinking but lip liner doesn't – they don't want to be seen with bare lips surrounded by bold lip liner. "Coloring in the lips gives you a longer-lasting look," San Diego says. "Top it with a little clear lip gloss to give it a long-lasting lipstick look, because it tends to be on the drier side." For a seamless look, match your lip liner color to your lipstick. Good for... outlining the lips before applying lipstick to define the lips and create a barrier to contain lipstick. Avoid if... you aren't planning to wear a significant amount of lip color, such as sheer lip balm.

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HOW TO APPLY EYE MAKEUP BASED ON YOUR EYE SHAPE

by Adina Zilberman

Like clothing, shoes and red lipstick, applying eye makeup shouldn't come with one-size-fits-all expectations. That's because beyond eye color and skin tone, eye shape also plays a huge role in defining what kind of shadow and liner look best on you. Whether you have almond, round or hooded eyes, these are the tips and tricks you need to know in order to get the prettiest peepers possible.

Almond Eyes

Most eyes are shaped like the ellipsoidal almond nut. To accentuate this eye shape, the trick is to use darker shadows to contour the crease and add depth. Begin by applying a soft shimmery beige, like Make Up For Ever Eye Shadow in Metallic Light Beige 125, from the lash line to the brow bone. Then sweep a matte chocolate brown, like Lancôme Color Design Eye Shadow in Fashion Label, into the crease using a windshield-wiper motion. Blend thoroughly and apply matte black liner (try Lancôme Artliner) that's slightly flicked out at the end to exaggerate your naturally extended shape.

Hooded Eyes

Hooded eyes have a monolid appearance, meaning they don't have a discernible eye fold or crease. With this eye shape, we are again aiming to create an illusion of depth. Makeup artist Nick Barose recommends that those with hooded eyes opt for flattening matte shadow, as shimmer may result in a puffy look. “With a medium shadow brush, apply a deeper-toned matte shadow where the crease would be, making sure you blend away any harsh lines,” he says. Try 9 Urban Decay Eye Shadow in Secret Service to create a soft, believable look. Finish by smudging some of the same shadow along the lower lash line and topping it all off with mascara to open up the eye and make it look larger.

Round Eyes

The round eye has a circular shape and is typically large in size. To soften it and create a more exotic appearance, Barose recommends using a liner. "Play down the roundness by only lining the upper lash lines and extending the tails out to add length,” he says. Try: L’Oréal Extra- Intense Liquid Pencil Eyeliner in Black, which doesn't run or smudge.

Small Eyes

The trick to making petite eyes look larger is not to "make defined lines because it will accentuate the eye’s small size," Barose says. "Lines made on the eye should be slightly blurred.” Barose recommends lining around the eyes with a kohl pencil, like YSL Dessin Du Regard Crayon Yeux Haute Tenue, focusing more on the outer corners. Then smudge it with a Q-tip for a softer effect.

Large Eyes

Use deeper matte shades to tone down a sizable stare, since sparkly ones can catch light and open up the eye, says Barose. First draw a thick line on the top lid with a black pencil, like Giorgio Armani Smooth Silk Eye Pencil in 4-black. Then use a pencil-shaped brush to smudge it into the lash line and over the lid. Use the same liner on the lower inner rims, connecting the top and bottom line on the inner and outer corners to close up large eyes even more.

Droopy Eyes

Whether the result of aging or genetics, there are ways to perk up sagging eyelids with the proper placement of your makeup. Begin by applying a light shade of shadow on the inner corner of the lids. Next lift the eyes by sweeping a brown shadow in the creases (try Maybelline ExpertWear Eyeshadow Single in Nutmeg). Then apply a sweep of black liquid liner on the upper lids while "slightly lifting the line at the tails," Barose says. By applying a light hue to the inner corners, deepening the creases and flicking up the liner at the ends, you are instantly creating the illusion of more lifted, more awake eyes. 10

MAKEUP TRENDS THAT STILL HAVEN’T DIED. WHY? WHY? WHY?

by Karina Giglio

Breaking up is hard to do, even when the relationship is just plain ugly. Case in point: Bad makeup trends that are the beauty equivalent of drunk-dialing—women keep going back to them in moments of weakness, while everyone around them is left wondering “what is she thinking?”

Talon nails

It’s all fun and games until someone loses an eye, which is well within the realm of possibilities when you’re sporting Freddie Kreuger-esque fingernails. “Your nails should be sexy and functional, not a scary safety hazard,” says DC-based makeup artist FeliceSkye. Wake up from the nightmare once and for all, and clip those things.

Overplucked eyebrows

“Overplucked brows are one of the worst things you can do to your face,” says FeliceSkye. “Are you sad, surprised, villainous, or having issues with your thyroid?” Seriously, back away from the tweezers. Even Pam Anderson did.

Bronzer overdose

When you’re applying bronzer, the goal should be to look as though you have a sun-kissed glow, not like you're the newest cast member on Jersey Shore. To avoid looking Snookified, pick a bronzer that’s one to two shades darker than your natural skin tone, and know when to say when.

Pastel eye shadow

Leave the spackled-on pink, violet, and baby blues for the Easter Bunny, and if you must go pastel, adjust your application technique. “These colors actually look fresh and modern when 11 they’re used one at a time and applied as a soft, sheer wash of color below the crease ,” explains FeliceSkye.

Frosty lipstick

We’re not sure what the most appealing thing about this look is: the fact that it makes your teeth look yellow, or your lips look corpse-like and crusty. The bottom line: Lips should look luscious and dewey, not dead. Opt for subtle shimmer and a lively pop of gloss instead.

Rhonda’s Ramblings Busted

I am in St. Pete and decided to meet a TG friend at the Metropolitan Community church. I was running late and drove a bit faster than I should have. (My GPS had me thinking I was in a 40 mph zone but the officer informed me it actually was 35; I was going 48.)

Unfortunately for me, I had forgotten to transfer my driver's license and registration from wallet to purse... first time in my life driving without a license, and wouldn't you know I'd get caught, en fem no less?? In my best fem voice I pleaeded for leniency. The officer took a good half hour before returning to my car. I envisioned the dilemma he must have had. Without ID, in a rental car I did not own, and presenting as a woman, I could have been anyone, and if he checked me out under my male name, (which I gave, but my first name could be either sex) he would have seen a male's picture, which looks nothing like Rhonda.

As I waited for what seemed an eternity, I was rather sure I'd be arrested for grand auto theft. At the very least I figured he'd have me remove wig or other items to prove I was the person pictured. It was all I could do not to pee in my panties imagining the dire outcomes possible. But none of that happened. I eventually got off with 2 warnings: no license, and speeding. I could not believe my fortune; as a male I have NEVER failed to get a ticket when stopped! Possibly he was influenced by the fact I pointed out to him that my GPS clearly showed a 40 mph speed limit, and I doubt I would have been stopped if going less than 10 mph over. Maybe he just felt that I made his day and was returning the favor. But still, I can't believe my good fortune, considering the trouble he could have caused me. What a great opportunity he had for pulling me into the station to brag about his catch of the day!

I eventually got to the church and enjoyed what was left of the service. It was packed with about 500 attendees. Like all MCCs it was warmly welcoming. Unlike most it is well endowed, in more ways than one; this area has a high mortality rate, and churches benefit. The service and surroundings definitely showed the benefits of what can be done by a church not financially impaired. It is definitely worth a visit if anyone gets over this way! 12 Transgendered In Romania Part 2 By: Diane Catalina

I think before continuing my story it will be helpful to explain a little bit the Romanian historical and political context even if this wasn't my intention, but I think it will help understand the story.

I'll continue keeping titles here so maybe at some moment in time Barbara Jean will really want to extract some relevant information from this story and post in the PTG magazine.

Romanian historical and political context

After the World War II and until 1990 Romania was a communist country under Russian control. Romania was ruled by a bunch of uneducated people (less than 4 classes of education or completely analphabet) who promoted brutal force and ignorance over culture and intelligence and skills. it was an easy way for a small bunch of people to maintain control over a whole nation.

Now you know that ignorance and brutality go very well together with racism and homophobia and all the rest. Therefore during that period homosexuality was punished with imprisonment and therefore it was non-existent. There was absolutely no trace of any visible behavior and nobody even pronounced the word. it simply didn't exist. I don't remember when I heard the word for the first time but it might have been after the revolution. Not to speak about transsexuals, this is a word I found from the internet.

In 1990 a strange revolution changed the dictatorial communist regime into a splendid democracy. Well I wish it was so easy but obviously the 50 years of ignorance and fear and hunger left deep traces in the people's minds. The old dictatorial structures were still very powerful and took control over the country once again using the new democratic instruments they had to work with. The results continued to be catastrophic and the ignorance of the citizens grew even deeper.

However the European Union decided they needed to integrate Romania into the Union since it is a big country and it represents a very good market for them to sell their products. There was only one problem: Romanians didn't have any money to buy those products and they also didn't have any idea how to gain this money after 50 years of communism when somebody else decided what everybody was doing and what was supposed to eat and when to eat.

This wasn't a problem, the European Union decided they lend us money so that we can buy their products and then we will pay them back. Not a word about how we could make the money. Romanians started frenetically buying all the things they missed during the 50 years of communism. A very few of us started working and learning and building carriers. The others just asked for social help and borrowed money and bought things. Therefore the situation got worse in spite of new cars and new TV sets and new furniture and mobile phones and all the 13 rest. And the education system collapsed completely.

Now of course, as members of the European Union we had to agree with a lot of rules, including the rules against homophobia and sexuality discrimination.

But people's minds do not change just because someone asks them to change. Of course we don't have anymore punishments for sexual deviations, of course we are not allowed to make public declarations against minorities of any kind because we are now civilized people.

Public persons try to obey the rules but then at some moment they stop and say: "the hell with this political correctness imposed on us. We know homosexuals are sick persons and we don't want them among us and near our children". And almost everybody agrees, following the 50 years pattern.

And then it becomes clear to them that homosexuality and all the deviations were brought in Romania by western imperialists and Americans after 1990 since before this date, as I men- tioned before, there was not a trace of this. And of course this cannot be related to the fact that at the time it was punished with imprisonment. No, this is because Romanians always had strong and straight ancestors with no kind of deviations and with powerful religious beliefs. Deviations must come from decadent western cultures.

So this is the context I currently have to deal with. Although officially we did some progress toward tolerance, people are still strongly influenced by the past. Currently there is only one TV presenter who openly declared himself as homosexual and at the beginning I thought he was just faking, so unbelievable it was even to me for someone to openly declare it.

There is also an organisation for homosexuals rights and their members are permanently harassed and attacked. But there is no transsexuals organization of any kind, even on internet. I never saw a TS or cross-dresser on the streets, ever. This would really be dangerous. I know of only one Romanian TS working as a prostitute in Germany. She came back to Romania, participated in a TV show where presenters were ridiculing her (although she was looking very feminine after many operations in Germany) and then that night she was attacked on her way home by some hooligans and she ended in hospital.

Therefore I never ever went out en femme, assault would not be a possibility but a certainty unless I could somehow fully pass as a woman, and unfortunately I do not.

I do travel a lot and I saw transsexuals in Amsterdam, in Milan - Italy, in San Francisco, Las Vegas and Los Angeles. However I never tried going out en femme even during my travels to these wonderful towns. At the moment anyway I do not have anymore cross-dressing desires, but instead the need to be a woman grows and grows. It must be the effect of hormones.

Now please don't get me wrong, there are wonderful and brilliant and tolerant people in Romania as well, and there are ignorant and intolerant people in any other country including US, the only difference is the percentage of nice people in the whole population. And unfortunately in Romania the percentage of decent people is terribly low. 14 Even if I am one of the best IT specialists in Romania and also well known around the world, even if I am a good colleague and a good neighbor and a good father and husband, no matter how respected I am today, if I would come out as transsexual, all of this would disappear in that very second and I would become a sick freak at once. People would suddenly move away from me to avoid getting infected by this disease, not thinking even one second that I was the exact same freak yesterday, and the day before, and every single day of my entire damn life.

This slowly kills me since I have this terrible feeling that I will not be able to keep all of this inside me for long. And I currently cannot see any solution and I terribly fear that my whole world will collapse and I am quite sure I couldn't survive this. Therefore I was following your stories and the ones from another group TsDoItYourself trying to understand where all of this could lead, knowing of course that your cultural environment is not similar to mine. And I envy yours, at least it gives a chance of a compromise solution, my environment is merciless.

But about all of these, maybe in the next episode if you can still bear it.

Hugs, Diana Catalina.

The Exploits of Barbara Marie A FOLLOW UP TO MY MILITARY BALL

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Barbara Marie Davidson

After attending the 50th Anniversary of the Military Officers association in Savannah, GA I was headed back to Savannah for another “Ball”. This one was the 211th anniversary of the Savannah Volunteer Guards of which I have been a member of for about 25 years To be a member of this group, one has to have been in the National Guard and or retired from active service or honorably discharged. (I was 6 years National Guard and 20 years active duty retiring in 1989.) The menu was steak, a quite large crab cake, salad, as well as Tea or coffee or water. Of course there was the usual “open Bar” Since I had just worn the blue and white dress the week before, I decided that it was time to break out the Tangerine colored dress. I did not have to have help in getting into or out of it and it fit me perfectly. Received many compliments on this one as well. Both f these dresses were fun to wear.

A week after this adventure to Savannah, I was again on my back down to Savannah on Friday evening as I was headed to the Air National Guard Training base for an annual “Pig Picking”. The Savannah Association of the Flying National Guardsmen has put the event in the past for years. Again I was a member of this group in the mid to late sixties as an Aeromedic and was on flying status for 4 ½ years before going in the Navy. When I went into the Navy, I went from an E-5 to an O-1 and 20 years later, retired as an 0-4 20 15 years later in 1989 n They roaster 3 pigs that I know ofas by the time I got to the food table , the 3rd pig was being put out. There was also an open bar so every one including yours truly was enjoying the evening. I was dressed casually in caprice and a v-neck top with a light sweater and sandals. There were only about 6 or 8 ladies there including yours truly. There was coleslaw, rolls and banana pudding to go with the pig. I was home by 1045..

Saturday after noon, I left the nail shop at 1540 to go home, freshen up my makeup and change clothes as I decided on a black cocktail dress with off black stockings and black heels. When I got to my car, I found that my window wipers had been vandalized and one on them was shoved into the other one and I had to physically separate the blades. Since it was beginning to rain, I went to Advance Auto Parts, played the innocent “female” and got two new blades installed on the spot by a very nice young employee, for $25.00. Then I went home changed clothes and was off to Savannah for the 227th anniversary of the Chatham artillery which started with an open bar cocktail hour that also included several punch bowls of the Chatham Artillery punch, that is 4 parts alcohol and 1 part water cut with a case of champagne. Dinner was prime rib; bake potato, green beans, a salad, choice of beverages and individual cream cheese tarts. I won the door prize for my table, which was the centerpiece on the table. However, I gave it to one of the couples sitting at the table. There was another couple at our table and as I was talking with the young lady, who was from Statesboro where I live now, it got to be a small world in a hurry. I knew her mom as I worked with her when I first came to Statesboro. Her mom is now director the Hospice group here in the area now.

Of note, The Chatham Artillery punch is very similar to Fish House punch or the Charleston Light Infantry Punch. The recipe is listed below.

Artillery Punch 1 ½ gal red wine 1 ½ gal tea ½ gal rum 1 Qt gin 1 Qt Brandy 1 Qt Bourbon or Rye whisky ½ pt Benedictine 2 ½ lb brown sugar Juice from 1 ½ oranges Juice from 1 ½ lemons 1 Large bottle of Cherries, 1 case champagne 12 qts ginger ale

Combine all of the above except the last two in a large pot and cover. Let sit 48 hours or longer and bottle. Cut ½ gallon of mix with a bottle of champagne. Stretch it with a bottle of ginger ale. Watch out for the cherries. Recipe as written makes approximately 5 gallons before adding the champagne or ginger ale.

My great grandfather was in the wholesale - retail liquor business during the War between the States in Savannah. He was also a captain in the Chatham artillery. He use to provide the “SPIRITS” for the punch. Neither my grandfather nor my father were eligible for the Chatham. I was A medic in the National Guard unit that was flying the Chatham colors at the time. I have been a member of the Chatham for over 30 years now

On another note, The professor at Georgia Southern who teaches psychology invited the “group” to come back for another class last month. She actually teaches Human Sexuality 16 and Psychology of Gender. This time there were four of us, as one of the wives came down from Atlanta to give a wife’s point of view on her husbands cross dressing. She is actually the Vice President of the group and her husband was the Secretary. On Monday night last, I went to a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) picnic for Georgia Southern students. While I was there, I met one of the Professors that teaches sociology and her family. She mentioned that she might like to have us come give a class to her students as well. She said she would be back in touch. It is all about Outreach.

Since next week is mothers day, I want to wish all of your spouses or significant others a very happy Mothers Day. Be kind to them, Love them and remember who the most importand woman is in your life.. Mine passed away in 2006 after 39 yeas of marriage.

Tasi’s Musings, June, 2013

Greetings from Merida. What is one of the first things that you think of when you think of Mexico….Why, Tequila, of course. This drink made from the blue agave plant grown in the area surrounding the city of Tequila, 40 miles northwest of Guadalahara, and in the highlands of Jalisco state, is without a doubt the drink of choice in Mexico and around the world.

What is interesting is that modernization has not come to the production of this all important plant. Planting, tending, and harvesting the agave plant remains a manual effort, largely unchanged by modern farm ma- chinery and relying on centuries-old know-how. The men who harvest it, the jimadores [xima'ðoɾes], have intimate knowledge of how the plants should be cultivated, passed down from generation to generation. Tequila is normally drinken straight without lime and salt and sometimes with Sangria. And for those that have heard about the tequila worm, it’s a myth and a marketing gimmick. A lot more details are here.

Now I think you should know that there are other rather innovative uses for tequila including: Synthetic bauble – when 80-proof tequila blanco was combined with a silicon or stainless steel substrate, it resulted in the formation of diamond films Alternative energy source - gassing up our cars with tequila. Scientists identified agave, as a potential biofuel source

Cold remedy -. In the 1930s, doctors in Mexico recommended the following concoction to fight off a cold:

.5 ounce of tequila blanco .5 ounce of agave nectar (to eliminate bacteria and soothe sore throats) 17 .5 ounce of fresh lime juice (for Vitamin C)

Weight-loss supplement - Agave has long been promoted for its ability to help dissolve fats and lower cholesterol. The bad news? These properties get a bit diluted when the plant is distilled into alcohol. Even more so when its whipped into a sugary margarita.

Sleep aid - Relaxation is one of the positive side effects of tequila drinking; a small amount before bedtime can help you fall asleep faster and sleep more soundly.

Colon cleanser - Researchers at Mexico's University of Guadalajara have identified the blue agave as a potentially helpful source for delivering drugs to the colon in order to treat colitis, IBS, Crohn's disease, and even cancer and lastly

Diabetes preventative - In 2010, experiments conducted at Mexico's Polytechnic Institute of Guanajuato revealed that the agave plant (which is high in fructans, a fructose polymer) could stimulate the GLP-1 hormone, aiding in increased insulin production.

TEQUILA

In the News

Billionaire Sir Richard Branson does Drag. Richard Branson, founder and chairman of the Virgin Group and real life Scrooge McDuck, lost a bet to fellow wacky billionaire, Tony Fernandes and the result is Lindsay Lohan in 10 years if she doesn’t take care of herself. The question of the day was why shave the legs and not the beard.

Groundbreaking LGBT research angers religious conservatives. The EU’s Agency for Fundamental Rights presented the results of two years’ research into the discrimination and violence experienced by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in the EU and Croatia. The LGBT survey received over 93,000 validated responses from LGBT people through a secured questionnaire. The data was processed and analysed by Gallup Europe. Conservative religious groups such as the US-based Catholic Family & Human Rights Institute were critical of the survey,

Transgender rights are not about men wanting to go into women’s restrooms. This is not something you will often see, a New York State Assemblyman sticking up for the rights of the transgender community. Watch the video.

Speech style influences perception of gender. New research discovers a person’s style of speech determines whether a listener perceives the speaker to be male or female. The new 18 finding suggests that gender perception is influenced by more than just the pitch of his or her voice. According to University of Colorado - Boulder researchers who studied transgender people transitioning from female to male, the way people pronounce their “s” sounds and the amount of resonance they use when speaking contributes to the perception of gender

'Man hands' bad news for beauty business. Something we don’t think much about but it sometimes effects our image and can be an insidious form of discrimination.

Center on Halsted appoints new transgender community liaison. Center on Halsted, a massive LGBT community resource facility on Chicago’s North Side, announced it has hired a new community liaison to lead expansion of the organization’s programming and outreach specific to the transgender community and its allies. Jess Scott, a former restaurant owner who currently teaches middle school writing at Chicago Public Schools, said she has agreed to fill the volunteer position and will begin work in an official capacity at the Center this week. Scott identifies as a transgender woman and has no particular preference for gender pronouns, but often uses “she” and “her” for clarity

Sadie, 11-Year-Old Transgender Girl, Writes Essay In Response To Obama's Inauguration Speech. While many in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community were thrilled with the mentions, an 11-year-old transgender girl named Sadie wondered why the President didn't directly address trans people, too. This story is pretty special.

Books and Movies

35 Years as the Unofficial Photographer of Transgender Life. This is the story of Mariette Pathy Allen’s 35-year journey documenting the transgender community. In 1990, Allen published her first book, Transformations: Crossdressers and Those Who Love Them, a collection of images and interviews of what was then a taboo topic. Allen didn’t necessarily see the book as one that belonged to her, but she said she saw herself as a conduit for people who were aching to have their stories told, many of whom passed around copies, signing them as if it were a yearbook.

“It did a huge amount of good for the people themselves, and I’m still getting thanked years later,” Allen said. “It saved marriages; it was the book they showed their children or parents; it was their way of accessing their coming out. It may have helped people stay in this world. … It was very moving to me

Is Jenna Talackova the new (transgendered) Mary Tyler Moore? You may remember that Jenna Talackova was a Miss World beauty contestant who got into a dispute with Donald Trump (and won). She’s now leading to a new kind of fame. 19 Modeled after the Mary Tyler Moore show decades earlier, Talackova’s,her hometown of Vancouver is being thrown over for a fresh start in Toronto – the boyfriend of three years exited the scene about six months ago – and it’s all going to be documented in a recently announced new E! Canada reality-TV series. Tentatively titled Brave New Girl, its planned eight half-hour episodes are set to air in early September.

She's my girl. A mother tells why her nine year-old child, who was born a boy, should have the right to live as a girl.

Golden Divas – Transvestites in Mexico This video popped up on my Google alerts and I kept it because it’s the first classy video I’ve seen of crossdressers her in Mexico. I don’t know where it was filmed but more than likely in Mexico City.

Fashion and Beauty

Fashionista – I apologize for inventing it. In 1993, an unsuspecting Gia Carangi biographer made up a word to collectively refer to the many tiny factions within the 1970s fashion industry. Today, it's everywhere. The amusing story of where the word, “Fashionista” came from.

Style Tip for Thicker Necks – Guys often have thick necks. You can create a slimming effect with long-length necklaces and those with graduated multi-strands. Don't wear chokers and scarves tied at the neck; they just draw attention to your thicker neck. You can also achieve a slimming effect by wearing NO necklace at all (keep your neckline open) and wear long dangle earrings instead.

Trendy Plus Size Fashion: Maxi Dresses. Maxi dresses are a wardrobe staple for the spring/summer months and with summer here, its time your started to invest in a gorgeous new maxi dress. This is an absolutely lovely collection.

Some quick tips (from RedBook)

Go low-key with the shoes. Flip-flops, flat sandals, and low-heeled platforms in earth-tone are best. Fancy it up. Maxidresses look awesome with a little layering. Add a denim jacket and a belt for extra style points, 3 essential undergarments. A convertible bra works with every style, and a tank can keep a skimpy dress from feeling too bare. Full coverage underwear (unlike a thong) prevents the weirdly common maxidress wedgie. If you have a curvy figure (wearing a c cup or larger ladies) cap sleeves beautifully cover bra straps. 20 " Essentials for Any Women's Wardrobe & Style Over Age 40”. This lady knows what she’s talking about. Her “Ask Aleigha” episodes on YouTube are some of the most popular on You Tube and her advice is usually spot on

See Ya, Bikinis! One-piece Swimsuits Poised for a Takeover. Dieting and exercising are perhaps the most popular New Years Resolutions, but don't worry if you've indulged on a few too many holiday treats this year. Swimsuits are already trickling onto retail shelves and the spotlight is on one-piece swimwear, not bikinis. Yes, that extra inch to pinch around your tummy can potentially remain hidden all year now.

Plus size women's clothing tips - How to stretch your wardrobe. While this is largely a Ulla popken commercial, there are some good tips in here. Learn how to stretch your wardrobe and put together outfits using these mix and match ideas.

Black & White Vs. Color. This is fantastic! But nothing to do with fashion. Just amazing to watch. Click on the link below. A multitude of pictures, first in black and white, then in color. What a colorful world we live in and take for granted every day. Black and white is dramatic, but color ...wow! Click here: Colors Courtesy of Helen’s Hideaway. Just Something Special

21 To all the sailors here, you’ll want to watch the ORACLE TEAM USA. Hear from the crew what it's like to fly their AC72 "17" on foils, sometimes at speeds of over 40 knots, and experience the sensational acceleration from onboard.

Humor Jordan Wieleba - The Benefits of Womanhood. Comedian Jordan Wieleba talks about the advantages of becoming a woman. Filmed live at Wit's End Comedy Club (Westminster, CO) on 10-20-12

How Sam came to own Sofia the First. Listen to this exchange between a Dad defending his son’s choice of a movie and the surprise ending. We need more Dads like this

So until next month

Hugs……Tasi

Scientists discover 'transsexual gene' that makes men feel like women By Daily Mail Reporter

Transsexual men who 'feel' female are likely to have an unusual version of a gene that affects the male sex hormone testosterone, a study has shown.

The discovery was made by scientists who examined DNA from 112 male-to-female transsexuals.

Israeli singer Dana International: Recent research shows that transsexuals like Dana are likely to have an unusual version of a gene that affects the hormone testosterone

In many cases there was a longer version of a gene known to modify the action of testosterone.

The alteration may 'under-masculinise' the brain during its development in the womb, the researchers believe.

Study leader Dr Vincent Harley, from Prince Henry's Institute in Clayton, Australia, said:'There is a social stigma that transsexualism is simply a lifestyle choice; however, our findings support a biological basis of how gender identity develops.

'As with all genetic association studies it will be important to replicate these findings in other 22 populations.'

The findings are published in the journal Biological Psychiatry.

Professor Andrew Sinclair, from the University of Melbourne, said: 'This research suggests that extra long copies of the Androgen Receptor gene potentially affect testosterone function in the brains of male-to-female transsexuals.

'These defective copies of the AR gene could severely reduce normal testosterone levels, resulting in a more female-like brain. Consequently, male-to-female transsexuals might be expected to have a more feminised brain and are therefore likely to display a female gender identity.

'This supports the notion that transsexualism has a biological (genetic) basis rather than being due to psychosocial factors in early childhood.

'However, this finding does not explain all male-to-female transsexuals suggesting that multiple genetic factors are involved.' 23 Humor 24 Angels In the Centerfold

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Mellissalynn’s Tips & Tricks

It’s summertime! Heat and sun and sandals and flip-flops and capris and shorts and mini-dresses – always a lot of fun!

What do you all have planned for this month? Barbecues and swimming parties, maybe even a camping trip or a boat outing? Well, whatever you have planned, I hope you get to have it happen, and if you get to have it happen while you’re en femme, so much the better! Oh, and we’ll expect to see pic- tures…!

As you all may or may not know, last month I attended Anime-Zing 2013, a Japanese anime and manga convention in Davenport, Iowa. I have a separate article written telling you all about that, but now, let me just say that I had an absolute blast!

If you have a summer story to share, or you’ve attended a convention in the last month, please, tell me about it! I love hearing stories. E-mail me at [email protected]. I always reply, so send me those letters and stories!

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Whether they break, split, have ridges or have been subjected to acrylics, weak nails are not a pretty sight. It's difficult to keep polish on nails that flake or break easily, but there is hope. One major cause of weak nails is wetting nails. Frequent hand-washers often complain about having weak nails, as do those who are exposed to detergents or other harsh chemicals. Hormone fluctuations can cause them as well. Many pregnant women enjoy stronger, longer nails and hair during their pregnancy, only to lose all that strength and growth after the baby is born.

Conversely, low estrogen during menopause can cause nails to weaken (not really something TGs have to be concerned about, but we do have some GGS reading these columns.) Your doctor can determine if a hormonal problem is to blame. In the meantime, avoid acrylic nails, which weaken the nails underneath when they're removed. Wear gloves when you do house- work to protect hands and nails from cleaning agents. Apply moisturizing cuticle cream or a hand and nail lotion formula to hands after washing and after showers. Olive oil and vitamin E gel are effective, too.

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Carrie, a girl I met on another TG Yahoo board, asked me recently why she can’t seem to get 26 the full look on her lashes that the models get on TV. Well, hun, the truth is, the models on TV have pro makeup artists who have the best tools to achieve those kinds of looks. For girls like us, this is a trick you can try. When you’re applying your mascara, tilt your head back a bit. You’ll expose the root of the lash a little more that way and get a fuller coat applied. This also creates an illusion of fullness.

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All right ladies, here we are in Mellissa’s Germ-phobic Corner once again. Today, though, I’m going to discuss what you should do after you’ve gotten the blemish. NEVER POP IT! All that does is tear up the surrounding skin and cause the offending area to take longer to heal. Instead, crush a regular aspiring and rub the powder on the area. The salicylic acid in the aspiring will help absorb some of the gunk causing the blemish, Clean the area with isopropyl (rubbing) alcohol as soon as possible. You should see your swelling drop quickly.

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With the return of the summer sun and heat comes the return of increased UV rays. We all need to watch ourselves, ladies, so that we don’t get overcooked! A lot of foundations and moisturizers are including sunscreen and sunblock in their formulations now. Look for ones with an SPF of at least an 8. Skin cancer is one of the largest growing killers in the world, and for those of us who don’t think about it when we dress, we’re even more exposed than the GGs who have dealt with this thought their whole lives. Protect yourselves, girls!

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Ladies, I’ve been learning a few new tricks in my esthetics class, as well as relearning some things I already knew. Here’s a tip I can pass on to you all. When applying your concealer or shadow, you should always use a brush, and always stroke upwards.. Not only does this protect your makeup from getting germs and bacteria inside (you all knew that), but the upward strokes will help to cover wrinkles. The upward stroking will pull against gravity and open the wrinkles up, allowing the makeup to get into the wrinkles and do its job more effectively.

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While I’m on the subject of crow’s feet, there’s a new cause of them coming up fast. It’s that neat little screen on your phone that you just might be using to read this article! Squinting to read texts and e-mails, especially when you’re outside, is becoming a real epidemic in the beauty world. Consider getting prescription sunglasses if you need corrected vision wear, and wear sunglasses outside whenever you can.

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We had a young lady (when I say young lady, I mean a high school girl) come into the school recently for a cut and color. While she was with us, she asked about perfume and how to pick one. This brought the idea to my mind that this would be a good tip to write on. 27

There are some general guidelines you can employ to narrow your search a bit. What kind of scent do you like? Are you into lighter, softer fragrances, or maybe stronger, more powerful scents? Try these ideas when you’re looking for your personal favorite: Light – lily of the valley or peony

Soft and powdery – iris or violet

Fruits – sweet tropical flowers like frangipani or orchids

Powerful – gardenia, jasmine, or tuberose

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UPDATE: This article originally ran in the September 2008 issue of PTG magazine, back when Rachel was the editor. I've reposted it once or twice since then, but now that I'm in school, I've revised and updated it a bit. Additionally, I have to credit Barbara Jean and Sabrina with some good information as well.

OK, I know, there are those of us who aren't able to use natural hair. Until I retired fromt he Navy, I was in the same situation (I started to say the same boat, but as it was the Navy that forced me to have to wear a wig, I thought the pun was a little too bad...!) So. Here are a few tips for the care and treatment of wigs.

To start with, a disclaimer. When I say synthetic-hair wigs, I'm still talking about ones that you buy in a wig store. I'm not referring to the throwaway types you buy for Halloween! Those type of wigs are really not made to be worked with very much at all. Do so at your own peril!

Let's start out with the best way I know to clean a wig, synthetic or human-hair. Begin by GENTLY brushing out the wig. I can't stress the gentle enough; remember that this hair isn't growing back! And, as I recall from the last time I bought a wig, they aren't cheap to replace at all.

After you've brushed your wig out to your satisfaction, turn it inside out. The oils that we naturally carry on our scalp and natural hair will build up inside the cap of the wig; it won't take long for that to become rather evident. Not only is this bad for the wig, but you can get bacteria in your scalp or on your skin. And we all know how I feel about bacteria!

Fill your sink or a bucket with lukewarm water and add a small amount of wig shampoo or mild over the counter shampoo (Woolite or a gentle dish detergent will also work) for 5-10 minutes. You can add a tablespoon of baking soda to the water if you've used hairspray or need to eliminate any odors the wig may have accumulated. When you wash the wig, don't rub the strands hard; this will pull them loose. Just swish the wig gently through the soapy water and let the water do the work.

Rinse the wig out liberally with plenty of cool water. Don't try wringing it out or squeezing the 28 water out of the wig, dunk it in and out several times until all you see coming out is clear water. Empty your sink or clean your bucket, then fill it with cool water and add about a tablespoon of conditioner. Let the wig sit in this solution for a good five minutes or so, then, without wring- ing it out or squeezing it, rinse it again with cool/cold water until it runs clear.

All right! Now your wig is clean. Don't try to dry it with heat! Turn it right side out and place it on a wig head or any kind of stand that will allow air to go through the wig and cap. Don't place the wig directly in sunlight or try to blow dry it. The adhesives that hold the strands onto the caps are rather fragile while wet and you can destroy your wig. If you are very gentle, you can set rollers or permanent rods in place while the wig is wet. It's best to let it air-dry in a well -lit, open area; however, a tip I just found on the Internet while researching this topic adds that if you have a sit-down hair dryer (the kind you would sit under), you can place your wig under it for 40-50 minutes on low heat to help rollers set.

When your wig is completely dry, simply style it as you like and voila! You're ready for a night out on the town. Remember when styling, don't use a blow-dryer, a curling iron, a flat iron, etc. Synthetic wigs will catch fire and the strands will melt, and I'm sure that isn't the look you're after. If your wig is spiral-curled or you're wearing dreadlocks in your wig, don't brush or comb it in any way; just let it dry naturally. If your wig gets frizzy, try a sheen spray or wig spray to calm the frizziness and then comb it out. If this doesn't work, wash it again and apply setting lotion to get the frizziness out. If your wig gets tangled, use any detangling or sheen spray to care for it. Another styling trick you can try is to straighten your wig hair with the use of a clothing steamer. This is done by placing the wig on a wig stand and using the clothing steamer while combing the hair down GENTLY, using a comb, not a brush.

Human hair wigs can take heat products such as a curling iron or flat iron, but again, be sparing. I'm not going to talk about how to use a curling iron or flat iron in this tip, as that's an entire topic in itself, but I will remind you that human hair can burn and fry off if your temperature goes above 380 degrees Fahrenheit. Additionally, too much heat will loosen the glue holding the hair to the cap.

There are specialized styling products made just for synthetic wigs. Again, cheap one-time-use wigs shouldn't be messed with like this, as they aren't designed for it. Generally, though, you can use regular product on a decent synthetic wig, as long as you use it sparingly and clean your wig regularly. Human hair wigs, of course, can take any product.

A caution: don't try cutting your wigs yourself! We had a big conversation on this subject at the convention I recently attended, in the cross-play panel (cross-play = costume play as the opposite gender). Inevitably, you'll end up cutting too deeply and having a piece of the wig cap showing, or worse, cut through the wig cap itself. Many salons will style wigs very inexpensively, and will give you a much better look.

The last note is in regards to storing your wig. You should use a hair net or a plastic bag to keep your wig in. If at all possible, you should have a Styrofoam wig head, or some sort of wig stand. If you have to travel, you should find a wig box to carry your styled wig in until you're ready to wear it. I've seen these boxes selling cheaply on eBay before. 29 @@@@@@@@@@@

Niki, one of our girls over at thetgwoman Yahoo group, sent me the following e-mail recently: “I have short eyelashes now, and when I try to use the paste on extenders I invariably almost poke my eyes out . That little eye lash curler for the one I use without the extender just about does zilch for me. I think I have to invent something or just take it as is and hope for the best look with makeup on the lids as the alternative.”

Well, Niki, I’ll be honest and tell you and everyone else that I’m just learning how to do the eyelashes myself. I received a great reply from Marci, and also talked with my esthetics instructor, to give you as good an answer as I could.

For strip lashes (we aren’t going to discuss individual lashes in this article, but maybe in the future), start by placing the lash, without glue, just above your natural lashes to see how they look. It’s entirely possible that you may need to trim them to fit. Be careful in doing so, as it’s not difficult to ruin them and have to start all over again with a new pair.

After checking for size on both eyes, use a pointed pair of tweezers to hold the strip and run a very light bead of lash adhesive across the base of the strip. Gently, without dropping the strip or poking yourself in the eye, place the strip just above your natural lashes, as close to the base of your natural lashes as possible without getting into the lashes themselves. Use the tweezers to smooth the strip across the lash line. Give the adhesive a few seconds to dry (don’t blink!). After the first strip is dry and attached to your satisfaction, repeat with the second strip.

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The last tip of the month comes from Danni, one of the newest members at thetgwoman. This is a tip I actually have known about, but never really thought to share as a makeup tip. Well, that’s being rectified right now; take it away, Danni!

“As the new girl, I thought it would be fun to post something so here is a tip that might be helpful ladies. I have pierced ears and have found a unique way to hide this fact at times when I am forced to be him (Ugh!) Even my wife (who I am not out with) has not discovered my se- cret!

Purchase a bottle of a product called Nu-Skin. Walgreen's and CVS have their own brand. Place a drop of Nu-skin on each hole and then after it has dried hit it with a dab of concealer and then blot the concealer. Presto! Everything is hidden!”

When I was in the Navy, guys who had pierced ears (before it was legal) had a different way to do this. We'd take some finer-test fishing line and run it through the hole, cauterize one end of the line so that there was a tiny amount on the end, just enough that it wouldn't pull through the hole. We'd let it cool and then pull that end flush to the lobe in the front, then put a small knot in the back to keep it on. A light dab of foundation and it was nearly invisible!

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All right, I can’t hold out any longer! I’m off to grab some fun in the sun, girls. I’ll write you some more tips and tricks next month, in the July heat.

I hope you all have a great June, and remember what I said about the sunscreen. Just remember, tan lines are sexy; sunburns are not!

OH! I almost forgot my quarterly plug regarding your makeup. Remember to check your war paints, ladies, and make sure that nothing has gone off. Bubbles in the lipstick are a great indicator that your makeup might be needing some TLC of its own.

If you have a barbecue story to share, or maybe you had an amazing shopping experience while out and about in a cute sundress and sandals, or you want to be like Niki and Marci and Sabrina and BJ and Danni and see your name in print in my column, share a tip or trick or a question with us! The address is still mlat- [email protected] ; I’d love to gab with you about your month. Talk to you all in July!

My Anime-Zing Adventures! By Mellissalynn

Well, ladies, as you all may or may not know, recently I attended the Anime-Zing 2013 Japanese animation, a.k.a. anime, convention in Davenport, Iowa. It was an utter blast! I took my oldest son and my daughter with me. We left for Davenport Thursday afternoon around 3pm and arrived that evening around 7pm. Thursday evening was spent in last-minute costuming work in preparation for Friday morning, opening day.

Friday morning opened cold, wet, and gloomy. So of course it was the day I was planning to wear a spaghetti-strap sundress for the day as my costume! Well, that didn't happen; it was just too cold! So instead I attended that day as the Random Passerby (a.k.a. no costume at all, just one of my favorite dresses). I didn’t get any pictures of me in this dress at the convention, but here’s an older shot. 31 That evening was the Formal Ball, though, and I didn't give a damn about the cold. I wore one of the most amazing and gorgeous dresses it's ever been my pleasure to wear! It's black with silver glitter rings all around, coming from Dress Barn, that I found at a thrift store for a whole $4. It fits like a dream, and best of all, I can go braless with it, a first for me. I looked gorgeous, even though the downpour eradi- cated the curls I'd put in my hair (stupid rain!). The ballroom dancing classes started at 7:45, and were a lot of fun. We were learning the box step and the foxtrot, and I, naturally, was a follow (the girl's part). As usual, there were more girls than guys present, but there were more than enough that I danced with several of the guys. I was in heaven! Best of all, I was treated just as any of the other women there, including having my hand and cheeks kissed several times. It was quite interesting when one dance partner decided to check out my derriere during the dance as well! LOL

Saturday was Supergirl day! This would be Supergirl mark IV; my sister-in-law and I completely rebuilt the costume from scratch. The only pieces left from the store-bought costumes now are the S-shields from Mark I & II, one of which is on the front and the other on the cape. I got plenty of pictures taken and had a great day.

The highlight of that day wasn't mine, though, but my daughter's. She got up at the Masquerade (the costume contest), in front of nearly 500 people in the auditorium, and sang a complete song, a capella...in Japanese! She'd been practicing for weeks, was utterly terrified, but absolutely nailed it. I was so proud I thought my heart would burst! She won second place, but only because the guys who took first (for the anime-aware among you, they performed an awe -inspiring skit from Lupin III) were completely unbeat- able in their performance.

32 My niece also entered the contest as Jack Frost from the movie Rise of the Guardians. When you see this picture, ladies, I want you all to remember that my niece is a G-cup, but managed to hide it extremely well without binding herself down. If she can take her huge chest and hide it that amazingly, we should all be able present ourselves so incredibly!

After the Masquerade, my niece and I left the convention for awhile to hang out with my older niece, who had to work and couldn't attend. We went back around 11pm to attend one last panel for the evening...well, it was actually a game, not a panel. The game is called Cards Against Humanity. Girls, this is the most evil, dirty, vulgar game I've ever played. I LOVED IT! It's basically Apples to Apples...but with an absolutely filthy-minded twist. We had three celebrity guest judges deciding the winners, but that really wasn't so much important as the general fun we had. During the game, as usual with geeks and nerds around the world, random trivia broke out, and, as the CUI girls can tell you, I was the absolute mistress of said trivia!

One of the celebrity judges had the unmitigated gall to try to catch me on a Beatles question. A BEATLES question...! I gave him the thrill of thinking he'd stumped me for about five seconds before I gave him what my niece said was the sweetest and most evil smile she's ever seen on my face and answered it. At that point, the entire room (about thirty-five people) literally stood up and bowed down to me, and I was declared the Trivia Queen of the convention. I was pre- sented the Golden Dum-Dum as my scepter of power (it was a butterscotch-flavored Dum-Dum sucker!) I of course delivered a grateful curtsy as I accepted (which wasn't easy to do in the miniskirt I was wearing!)

And then there was Sunday. My last costume was rather slapped together at the last minute, but ended up being the most popular one I wore the entire weekend. Everyone here is nerdy enough that I shouldn't even need to tell you what it is after you see the picture, but for the record, I went as a Star Trek Starfleet officer. I've had this long red T-shirt that's long enough to be a short dress on me for several years; some of you may have seen me wear it previously. I used a black belt to hold some props (a toy gun that looks nothing like a phaser, but worked well enough, and an old broken flip phone that works quite well as a communicator), and found an actual Star Trek IDIC symbol from some old toys at a thrift store. I used my Kindle as a tricorder and even downloaded some sound effects from the Internet. My black boots completed the outfit. My sister-in-law and I teased my hair up into a cute beehive style, shellacked it into place, and I was off for the day. 33 This costume was the hit of the day! I got tons of pictures taken of me, and, during the crossplay panel (crossplay = cross-dressed costume play or cosplay), received a job offer to work with the convention staff, traveling around to other cons with them and doing hair and nails and fantasy makeup and stuff. I was absolutely stunned!

The other big fun of the last day was the makeup discussion and demonstration panel I co-hosted. I had my airbrush kit with me and did a LOT of demo work! I did three girls up in full bridal looks, a ton of fantasy eye looks, and even more airbrush tattoos and stencils. I got tipped $20! It was unbelievable, and one of the best days at a convention I've ever had.

Sadly, I can't legally start the job offer I was given until after I have my cosmetology license, but that doesn't mean I can't practice in the meantime. This is just another example of what we, as women, can do when we set our minds and hearts to it. Just remember that when things get tough, ladies. We can do ANYTHING we want, if we believe in ourselves.

If things go the way I think, we'll be attending another convention in January in Peoria. I hope so, I'm really looking forward to doing it! 34 The Adventures of Judy Sometimes By: Judy Danials

An adventurous day

Yesterday was somewhat of a GDO (girls day out) for several of my wife and I's girlfriends. Our original plan was to participate in the Beer Olympics at Specks, but the organizers decided to cancel it because there weren't enough teams entered to make it work. So, what are a group of thirsty girls to do with themselves with such news ? PUBCRAWL, lol.

We formulated a plan and ended up meeting at a place called the Work Zone, a heavily male dominated, blue collar bar just down from Specks. As you would imagine we attracted quite a bit of attention when our group of nine ladies walked in. Our server even made the comment how refreshing it was to see some women finally come in. Our stay lasted a little longer than planned as a few of the girls wanted to grab a bite to eat. Four of us decided to pair up and play some pool and we were quickly challenged by a couple guys named Doug and Billy. After defeating our lady friends Kim and I took on the rascally pair and easily took them down with only one turn each at the table. Of course they challenged us again as they felt we just got "lucky". Ha ha, wrong again, little did they know I spent 20 years playing pool league and Kim is a real "Shark" in a skirt.

As planned, we moved on after about an hour and ended up at Specks where Michelle was bartending. Michelle is a friend from high school and is always a hoot to be around and today was no exception. Since the olympics were cancel she introduced us to a game called Butt Poker, whats that you ask ? Participants throw a doller in the pot, stick a quarter in the crack of your ass and try to drop it into a shot glass on the floor. Each person takes a turn and if any gets it in they win the pot, if not you throw in another doller until someone finally does. I learned one thing that day, jeans would have been a much better selection of attire than a corduroy skirt, lol.

Next on our list was the Elks Club, a seedy looking place on the north end of town by our sewage plant...and yes, it stinks up there to high heaven. Getting inside was no treat either, upon entering I felt like I had just walked into a retirement home, (no offense to you older gals here) with a bunch of old guys playing cards. Needless to say our visit was short and we were on our way.

As we traveled back south our next stop was Slammers, a bar attached to a bowling alley. We walked into a packed house as they were having a pool tournament. We did find a good size table at the far end of the bar and settled in for another cocktail. Once again the server was pleasantly surprised to see such a large group of ladies out on an adventure and asked us what the ocassion was. We explained our situation and she wished she could join us instead of schelping drinks all day. 35

After a quick one someone come up with the idea of going to a place called the Bomb Shelter, a rather nice bar in the basement of the Northern, Fargo's one and only strip bar. Yes you heard that right, lol. As stated this was going to be one adventurous day. A few of the girls have frequented this place before and said if you order a shot you get to spin the wheel and win a prize, of course the prizes are bar related including many items with either name of the bar on them. One item in particular caught my eye as we were spinning the wheel, it said PORN on it. Of course one of the gals won this prize and was presented with her very own CD of porn, lol.

OK, here's where the adventure really took a twist, we ended going upstairs to watch the strippers ! Now, I've been to a few strip bars in my day and in fact have been to this particular one dressed a few years back, which is a whole different story.

The cool part is that ladies get in FREE, including me. We took up refuge just to the right of the stage and began watching the gals dance on stage one by one. Of course a couple of the more adventerous friends even went up and tipped. Our group today consisted of a couple lesbians and a couple bi ladies so I'll let your imagination fill in the rest of our evening, lol.

Judy (the innocent one) sometimes

THE RAMBLINGS OF A MARRIED TGIRL Part 4- So I came out to my wife, what next? By: Stephanie Rene

I came out to the wife on January 2, 2013 as detailed in Part 1 and am submitting these monthly writings to share how our relationship is progressing.

April and early May was an interesting period in our relationship. I found my wife taking a more active role in the life of Stephanie. She was going out with me more frequently and taking an interest in helping with clothing, jewelry and wig shopping.

Then we had a big setback. We have a 9 year old daughter that I have no interest in letting know about Stephanie at this time. My wife began making a greater effort in finding ways for me to dress at home before going out by making arrangements for our daughter to be gone either over night or elsewhere for a few hours. Her efforts to accommodate me started to cause her undo stress which led to an interesting argument. This happened on April 28th, just two weeks prior to my annual tgirl vacation to Vegas with the Wildside girls.

During the height of the discussion, she stated that “she wished I had never come out to her and could have handled me having an affair with someone better than learning I was 36 transgendered.” She demonstrated several emotions during this discussion, including frustration, anger and sadness. This was a tough statement given the progress we had made the past 4 months, however, not totally unexpected in my opinion.

I took the initiative to reassure her as to my feelings and love for both her and our daughter. I also told her to stop trying so hard to accommodate me as I always have options as to where I can get “dressed” before going out and “undressed” before coming home. I reminded her that she was always welcome to join me anytime I went out, regardless of the time of day or night, but that it was not a requirement. All her involvement was by her choice with my support.

This seemed to diffuse the situation a little. A couple days later, I sat down with her to review our conversation. I also reminded her of the fact that I would be leaving May 7th for 5 days in Las Vegas for my annual tgirl vacation. This would mark my 5th year of attending Wildside and I did not want any problems at home while I was gone or when I returned. We talked at length about the trip and I also reminded her that she had been invited to come with me for as many days as she wanted. Since she had not accepted, I had arranged for a roommate to defer some of the cost. I was also carpooling with a transsexual friend who she knew very well.

The trip to Las Vegas came and went without any problems. It was an amazing time for me as I was in girl mode the entire time, including the travel to and from Las Vegas. I find this to be one of the most fulfilling weeks of my life each year.

Here is a photo of me touring Hoover Dam on the way to Las Vegas:

A photo of me at Wildside, coming up the stairs into the VIP area at Piranha Night Club on Friday night:

37 A final photo of me eating at Bonnie Springs Ranch after touring Red Rock Canyon on Saturday afternoon (it was 4 pm and I was having breakfast! Giggle):

I communicated with my wife on a daily basis and returned home on Sunday, May 13th to a calm household. She seems to have handled it well, but I sense a bit of stress Coming up at the end of May is my birthday. I’ll be 57 on May 31st which happens to be on the night of our monthly Arizona Tgirls “Girls Night Out” dinner. The girls have gotten wind that it is my birthday and are planning to do something after dinner. I’ve already taken the initiative to inform my wife and invite her to join me for the evening.

So, as you can see, the past month was filled with some emotional ups and downs. Regardless of the problems, I have to report that the past 5 months since coming out to my wife have included more good than bad times. So, while I am writing this article, I’m cautiously optimistic about the future, but on the lookout for some back lash over my trip to Vegas. My thoughts and prayers are with those who continue to suppress or hide their femininity. It can become a very heavy weight to carry. I will continue to write about my journey and welcome any and all inquiries.

If you ever feel the need to talk or ask questions, email me at: [email protected]. I’m also on Facebook as Stephanie Rene and the organizer of the Arizona Tgirls group on meetup.com. We have over 280 members now. Please let me know if you ever find yourself visiting Arizona.

Have fun out there, but be safe! Hugs, Stephanie Rene 38 All That Glitters Is Good — The Statement Necklace

Tasi Zuriack Reprinted from TG Forum

Being a crossdresser and wearing statement jewelry goes together like cheese and wine or maybe the Lone Ranger and Tonto. Most of us are rather large or tall and wearing statement jewelry sets off our larger frames and creates striking beauty or as one fashion writer said, “that’s in your face gorgeous.” Without glamorous accessories, an otherwise classic outfit would have a ho-hum daywear appeal, but as you will learn, layers of chunky chains and flashes of shimmer elevate your look to another level.

As most of you know, I’m a fan of the classic, basic look, except when I go Bohemian J, and then I work to achieve an unexpected look through the use of startling accents. But it’s been a learning process for me, too. Several years ago a friend gave me a beautiful turquoise layered necklace ($9 from Avon) which I wore with a turquoise outfit. Not a wrong choice but it could have been better. Yes , we should coordinate, but contrast creates a better look.

The best way to revamp an outfit is through flair, meaning accessories. It’s a no-brainer to layer-on glittery costume jewelry which you get in hugh quantities on the Internet, at your local flea market or in the fashion jewelry section of clothing stores or department stores at an average price of around $20-$30. You can create any number of cute outfits. Did I say cute? How about striking. And a statement necklace is a best choice, particularly when you want to keep your look simple and sleek. Let the necklace make the statement, and then compliment it with a bold lip. For sure you will turn heads for an admiring look.

Sharon Haver at Focusonstyle.com gives us these style tips on how to have fun with statement jewelry:  More is more with this trend, but it works because each piece adds up to a collective, with similar motifs repeated. 39

 Look for pieces that while opulent and OTT (Over-the-Top), are most importantly age-appropriate — no plastics, no brights hues, think gems! Big ones!  While you pile away with abandon, remember to pair your jewels with minimal finds, classic silhouettes, and refined finishes. Think about adding glamour to even the plainest of black tee’s, instantly . . .  Quirky pieces are fun and suggest a lust for life, and luckily, you can place them anywhere this time around. Think about boosting a simple top with a well- placed, oversized brooch. If you don’t have anything large, wear a collection of related small pieces to create big impact.

See what you think of these looks:

Lauren Conrad and Andrea Zanetich also suggest that you should:

Keep it collared. Update your oxford by buttoning your blouse all the way up. Then layer your look-at-me necklace under the collar so it is just peeking out from underneath the collar. 40

 Or use with an open neckline like a v-neck which is flattering to many body types.  Got great boobs? Drape your necklace so it falls just above (but not into) the crease, to draw attention to them in a non-skanky way.  Follow the lines of your top to place further emphasis on your statement necklace.  Keep light, bright colors close to your face as it will make your complexion look brighter, and you’ll look more awake. Don’t be afraid to pair bright colors with other bright colors to make your outfit pop.  Make Your Own Necklace. If you have a bunch of old brooches lying around, pin them together onto a short chain to create your own statement necklace. Minimize Distractions. Let your necklace shine by avoiding earrings all together (unless they are very subtle posts). Also, gaudy rings and excessive arm flair should be kept to a minimum. When I wear a bold necklace, I avoid extra jewelry all together. If anything, I will wear a few simple, thin band rings.

And a show-stopping necklace draws attention to your gorgeous face, so it’s is especially great if you want to distract from a little too much belly.

Now I know the trend this year is to push away from black and wear the bright colors but statement jewelry needs a simple, neutral background to achieve its best look. A simple solid top, whether blouse or top, compliments, not distracts from the jewelry. If you prefer a print top, just pair it with a necklace that is a little less busy.

As celebrity stylist Mary Alice Stephenson said: “Wear sequins in the sun, your heart on your sleeve, and remember everything looks better with a smile, Spanx, and a statement necklace!” 41 Do high heels put 100 times more stress on your feet?

Dear Cecil: When I worked in the corporate world I had to wear mid- or high- heeled shoes. But now that I've changed jobs I get to wear flats, and in retrospect I don't know how I ever put up with the discomfort of wearing heels every day. Several women I've asked said they'd read that high heels put 100 times more stress on your feet than flat soles. I know they hurt, but it’s hard to believe it’s that much of a difference. What’s the Straight Dope?  Debi, Kansas City

Cecil replies: On the scale of weird things women have done to themselves in the name of beauty, high heels surely come in well below foot binding, rib-crushing corsets, and bathing in crocodile excrement. (I found that last one on the Internet, so you know it’s gotta be legit.) I also acknowledge the scientific fact that high heels display the female form to advantage. That said, I thank the gods I’m male, because no way you’re getting me to wear those thumbscrews for the feet.

Before we get into the biomechanical specifics, let’s stipulate that, from a health standpoint, virtually everyone admits high heels are a scourge. I quote from an article in a law journal: “By one recent estimate, seventy-five percent of the problems eventuating in the more than 600,000 bunionectomies, hammer toe repairs, neuroma excisions, and bunionette corrections performed annually in the United States ‘either result from or are greatly aggravated by the use of high-fashion footwear.’”

And now to the lab. Any wearer of high-heeled shoes knows the root cause of the 42 discomfort is, in addition to (and compounded by) the unnaturally pointed shape of the typical shoe’s toe, the shift of weight to the front part of the foot. To quantify this, I turned to my assistants Una and Fierra. They obtained two identical scales and rigged up a system whereby they could balance with the front of their feet on one scale and the rear on the other. The ladies then raided their closets, found 33 pairs of shoes with heel rises ranging from a quarter inch to four inches, and put them to the test.

As expected, the higher the heel, the more weight was shifted onto the ball of the foot. When barefoot, an average of 68 percent of body weight rested on the heels. Athletic shoes shifted even more weight onto the heels — in the case of fencing shoes, an average of 77 percent.

But with a 2.75-inch lift the average weight on the heels had been reduced to 52 percent. With a four-inch lift only 30 percent of the weight was on the heels.

What we didn’t expect was the wide range in weight shift among different styles of shoes having the same heel height. For a three-inch heel, the share of weight on the heel ranged from 36 percent to 51 percent. Both women noted that shoes that kept more weight back on the heel were more comfortable. Of the shoes with significant heel lift, the least unpleasant typically had one or more of the following characteristics: (a) a relatively wide toe; (b) laces or a strap across the top of the foot, as opposed to the ankle, which prevented the foot from sliding forward in the shoe; or (c) uppers that enclosed the ankles entirely (these were boots, obviously), which likewise provided support preventing the foot from sliding forward.

The two women also noticed one significant difference between them, namely that Una generally tended to put more weight on the front of her foot than Fierra. Wearing the same style of shoe, with a four-inch heel, Una had 78 percent of her weight on the front end versus Fierra’s 68 percent — no doubt why Una’s feet hurt more in heels. 43 However, none of this backed up the assertion that high heels cause 100 times the stress of flats. Surely, we thought, we need to add motion to the equation. The pertinent equation here, of course, was force equals mass times acceleration, which on the face of it offered the potential to greatly multiply the shoe-wearer’s agony. The Straight Dope Bedroom of Science lacked the equipment to measure this, so it was back to the journals.

Alas, we were disappointed. The best we could find was a study comparing peak and total pressures on the plantar surface of ten women’s feet while walking in low- and high-heeled shoes, using special insoles containing 99 sensors scanned at 10,000 times per second. Result: high heels on average increased peak pressure by about 32 percent and total pressure over time by about 48 percent. From this we deduce that the 100-times-the-stress claim is hype. Never mind. The high-heel-wearer’s senses, to say nothing of all those needless bunionectomies, provide ample evidence of the consequences of slavery to fashion. We’ve known this for literally centuries, during which time countless other barbarous practices have been abandoned. Yet women still wear heels, and look hot when they do. — Cecil Adams

You can judge 90 percent of people’s personalities by their shoes, researchers say By Eric Pfeiffer

Researchers at the University of Kansas say that people can accurately judge 90 percent of a stranger's personality simply by looking at the person's shoes.

"Shoes convey a thin but useful slice of information about their wearers," the authors wrote in the new study published in the Journal of Research in Personality. "Shoes serve a 44 practical purpose, and also serve as nonverbal cues with symbolic messages. People tend to pay attention to the shoes they and others wear."

Medical Daily notes that the number of detailed personality traits detected in the study include a person's general age, their gender, income, political affiliation, and other personality traits, including someone's emotional stability.

Lead researcher Omri Gillath said the judgments were based on the style, cost, color and condition of someone's shoes. In the study, 63 University of Kansas students looked at pictures showing 208 different pairs of shoes worn by the study's participants. Volunteers in the study were photographed in their most commonly worn shoes, and then filled out a personality questionnaire.

So, what do your shoes say about your personality?

Some of the results were expected: People with higher incomes most commonly wore expensive shoes, and flashier footwear was typically worn by extroverts.

However, some of the more specific results are intriguing. For example, "practical and functional" shoes were generally worn by more "agreeable" people, while ankle boots were more closely aligned with "aggressive" personalities.

The strangest of all may be that those who wore "uncomfortable looking" shoes tend to have "calm" personalities.

"Shoes have great variety of styles, brands, looks, and functions. Because of this variety, shoes can carry individual difference information, but do they? We suggest that the answer is yes," the study authors wrote.

And if you have several pairs of new shoes or take exceptional care of them, you may suffer from "attachment anxiety," spending an inordinate amount of time worrying about what other people think of your appearance.

There was even a political calculation in the mix with more liberal types wearing "shabbier and less expensive" shoes.

The researchers noted that some people will choose shoe styles to mask their actual personality traits, but researchers noted that volunteers were also likely to be unaware that their footwear choices were revealing deep insights into their personalities. 45 Banning Boob Sweat Angela Gardner (Reprinted from TG Forum)

For many crossdressers the feminine illusion is enhanced when we have enough natural tissue in our breast region that we can pushed up to create cleavage. (Nothing will take a man’s attention away from any masculine traits evident in your face faster than a deep decolletage.) Having the “girls” peek out of our dress is also good for our sense of femininity. Even the illusion of breasts is validating.

Sadly, while the pushup process works fairly well in cold weather, once the summer heat and humidity arrive our dreaded foe — breast sweat — pours out of our pores. Breast sweat makes it hard to keep things pushed up since it undermines our engineering by making our skin slippery — and without friction to hold things where they are supposed to be gravity takes over and cleavage sags.

I learned of this horrible phenomenon when I went out for the first time on a hot, humid day. The breasts that had looked so good peeking out of my sundress in my air conditioned boudoir deflated faster than a tire going over a spike strip. My confidence disappeared and I spent too much time concentrating on adjusting my chest to have any fun. What a buzz kill.

So what to do about it?

The ways I have dealt with breast sweat in the past are somewhat time consuming and require several steps. First the breast area has to be washed and dried. Then a sealer has to be applied. This is a compound that coats the skin so the adhesive doesn’t irritate it. Tens Clean-Cote or Brava Skin Barrier are the most often used. These are products that protect skin when adhesive is used to attach prosthetics or ostomy appliances.

After the skin has been coated you can apply medical adhesive to the breast and to your breastform. Attach the forms so they hang on your body as breasts would do without the support of a bra. Then put on your pushup bra and your chest is ready for the public.

As I said, that process is time consuming and the adhesive needs to be removed with a special remover. You also have to experiment to get the correct placement of your 46 breast forms so the result you want, attractive cleavage, is all that is showing. You don’t want breastform to be visible. (Nothing is more annoying than getting them glued on and then finding out they’re in the wrong position.)

If you’re going to be dressing for several days in a row, as you might for a vacation en femme or a conference, then gluing your breasts on is a good idea. Having them ready to go means you will spend less time in the morning preparing your chest. If you get the skin sealer and adhesive on correctly you can bath and sleep with your chest feminized for the duration.

Recently I have begun casting about for simpler solutions to the breast sweat problem. I have found a couple that may work for us but so far I haven’t given them a trial.

Fortunately for crossdressers women suffer from boob sweat, too. Some of the prod- ucts that are marketed to them don’t work for us since they are made to go with real breasts. The Girlease bra liner won’t work for us since the absorptive surface would go on the outside of our breastform, which doesn’t sweat.

Something that might work is the BraMates absorbent bra liner. These individual pads can be places between your chest and the breastform. They are chemical free and all-natural. They are made to be slip resistant and act as a moisture barrier. They’re available online from BraMates. They are made for women so they are meant to stop sweat problems under the breasts. CDs using them will probably need to experiment with placement.

Now the fun stuff. A product named Fresh Breasts. It’s a breast anti-perspirant and once again it’s all-natural and scent free. If it works the $14.99 a bottle price point will not be bad.

The company, So Fresh, So Dry, also makes a product for men called Fresh Balls. As the name implies it is a perspiration stopper for your genitals. Applying Fresh Balls before you tuck might possibly be a good idea. The male groin area does sweat more than a woman’s and if the perspiration can be curbed your comfort level will rise. 47 I’ve discussed stopping boob sweat while you use silicone enhancers and breastforms. The bounce is better with those but you can use some of the foam, clothe covered forms that will tend to stay in the right place more than the slick surface of a silicone form. Putting your forms into clothe covers will also help keep them from moving on a sweaty chest. Linda Jensen has mentioned using a series of folded paper towels between her forms and her body. She ducks into the restroom and changes them whenever they get too damp. Whatever you decide on to keep your breasts dry and your cleavage high we hope you stay cool this summer and look hot. Feel free to add your remedy for boob sweat to the comments.

How to Dress for Any Occasion By Ingela Ratledge

A guide to the modern do’s and don’ts of proper attire.

The Occasion: A Wedding

Old etiquette: Don’t wear white or black or red.

New etiquette: Black and red are perfectly fine, but white is still the ultimate wedding no-no.

What to wear: Let the invitation, the season, and the hour be your guides. (If you’re at a loss and you’re close to the bride, ask her what’s right; otherwise, consult the maid of honor or the bride’s mother.)

"For day weddings, which tend to be more casual, steer clear of anything heavily beaded or sequined," says Lauren A. Rothman, founder of Style Auteur, a fashion- consulting firm based in Washington, D.C. Instead, opt for a knee-length dress in a material like cotton; in warmer weather or regions, strapless styles and open-toed shoes get the nod of approval. "Simple hats" also earn a thumbs-up, says Amy Lindquist, head of Lindquist Fashion & Image Consulting, in Minneapolis. If the ceremony is in the afternoon and the reception in the evening and the invitation doesn’t specify dress, assume the event is semiformal, which calls for a cocktail dress or an evening suit in a color that won’t upstage the bride. “Pale pink is OK―hot pink is not,” says Lindquist. 48 Black tie once meant floor-length gowns. Now, at all but the grandest affairs, dresses as short as knee-length are acceptable, provided they have a semiformal or formal cut and fabric; silk or a silk blend, for instance, would be appropriate. As for wearing a strapless or sleeveless dress in a house of worship, some have strict rules about covering up; check the protocol beforehand or bring a wrap.

Should you be invited to the rehearsal dinner, “they vary greatly in formality, so note where it’s being held,” says Lizzie Post, an etiquette authority, an author, and a spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute. In general, “cocktail-party rules apply,” Joseph Williamson, a fashion stylist in New York City. “Save your better outfit for the big day, but wear something dressy to the dinner. A dress and a jacket or a cardigan with some sparkle would be nice. But keep it understated.” Remember―there’s only one shining star at matrimonial shindigs, and it’s not you.

The Occasion: A Cocktail Party Old etiquette: No surprise here―a cocktail dress.

New etiquette: Cocktail dresses are always in style, but you have other options.

What to wear: These days, a cocktail party can be anything from a swanky society affair―cue that glittery knee -length number from the “special occasions” department―to a low-key group of friends gathered around a platter of crudités. But for the most part, “cocktail parties are dressy- casual, so you can’t go wrong if you wear a top with some special details and a skirt or tailored pants, plus heels or fancy flats,” says Williamson. “Avoid fabrics that are too casual, like chino, jersey, and denim.”

A fitted cashmere or fine-gauge merino-wool top with a knee-length satin skirt, heels, earrings, and an armful of stacked bangles is just right, he says. Sue Fox, an etiquette authority based in Paso Robles, California, and the author of Etiquette for Dummies ($22, amazon.com), also suggests a pantsuit, provided it doesn’t look too corporate. (Under the jacket, wear a silky camisole or some other feminine top with an evening vibe.) Keep in mind that different cities have their own dress codes, says Rothman: “Cocktail attire in Miami is just as dressy and chic as in New York, regardless of the weather differences, while in San Diego it’s interpreted a bit more casually, because the city is relaxed.” 49 The Occasion: A Dinner Party Old etiquette: A little black dress and heels.

New etiquette: Gauge your outfit by the party.

What to wear: Given the number of variables (what time of year is it? who are your hosts? is it a special occasion?), there’s no one right answer, which can make things a bit tricky. If you underdress, you risk offending your dinner companions. Overdress by a mile and “you can make your host feel inadequate, insecure, or uncomfortable,” etiquette authority Sue Fox points out. The solution: “Ask the host for advice,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. It’s the best way to find out if you’re in for a denim-welcome get- together or a more buttoned-up, skirt-and-blouse affair. Still worried about hitting the mark? "Stash dangly earrings or a pretty scarf in your bag to dress up an outfit if need be," advises etiquette authority Lizzie Post. The Occasion: A Business Dinner or a Company Party Old etiquette: Your nine-to-five wear puts in some overtime.

New etiquette: Keep things professional (you’re still working) but in line with the event.

What to wear: When you’re dressing for a work function, the culture of your office should prevail. “If it’s a conserva- tive environment, dress conservatively for events, too,” says fashion stylist Joseph Williamson. But no matter how relaxed your office environment or the occasion (that means you, company picnic!), never wear anything provocative. “A too- revealing outfit can prevent you from being taken seriously when it comes to job promotions,” warns Fox. And, yes, that includes the “sexy cat” costume you’ve been eyeing for the annual Halloween bash.

For business dinners, office wear is appropriate (provided your workplace isn’t overly casual): trousers with a refined sweater or a blouse and blazer. If you’re going to a work party straight from the office, try a sheath or a wrap dress in a dark shade, or “wear a suit and bring along a feminine blouse and evening- appropriate shoes, like in a metallic shade,” suggests Leah Ingram, an etiquette au- thority and the founder of giftsandetiquette.com, based in New Hope, Pennsylvania. “Or you could simply swap your jewelry for something a little bolder―a chunky 50 necklace instead of pearls.” As for that company picnic, choose knee-length shorts and a short-sleeve top, or a sundress with sandals―nothing ripped, frayed, or strapless. The Occasion: A Job Interview Old etiquette: A conservative dark suit. End of story.

New etiquette: You can’t go wrong with a suit, but in many fields it’s not the only (or best) choice.

What to wear: At large, traditional companies, suits are still the standard. “There aren’t appropriate alternatives to a suit, and wearing one tells me you are seriously interested in the position,” says legal recruiter Kim Mains, manager of legal recruiting for Cozen O’Connor, a law firm based in Philadelphia. However, in many creative or artistic fields―design, media, retail, technology―it can be a plus to step outside of the box: Try a sheath dress with a wide belt and a cardigan, or a pencil skirt with a blouse and a cropped jacket. “When I’m hiring, I like to see an outfit that tells me the candidate has a personal sense of style,” says Paul Howalt, creative director and owner of Tactix Creative, a branding firm in Mesa, Arizona.

That said, no matter how casual the environment, don’t assume that it’s cool to wear jeans to an interview. “Don’t dress as if the job is yours,” cautions Peri Hansen, a senior client partner at Korn/Ferry International, an executive-search firm in Los Angeles. When in doubt, she says, “call the interviewer’s assistant or the HR executive and ask what’s appropriate. It shows interest and respect.” In all cases, your clothing should be impeccably clean, ironed, and tailored. Under no circumstances should it be skimpy, plunging, or tight. The Occasion: A Baptism, a Bar Mitzvah, or Some Other Religious Cere- mony Old etiquette: Trot out the Sunday finery. Florals welcome, hats and gloves pre- ferred!

New etiquette: Honor the occasion in attire that is tasteful, not stuffy.

What to wear: For starters, “choose an outfit that’s appropriate in a religious facility―not too low-cut or clingy,” says etiquette authority Lizzie Post. (If you’ve never been to a particular house of worship, it’s a good idea to double-check its conventions.) Just as important is steering clear of anything overly serious when you’re celebrating a happy milestone in a child’s life. For a baptism, “wear a little bit of color, like a bright suit or a pretty daytime dress,” says Post. The dress code for a Bar Mitzvah or a Bat Mitzvah can be determined by the party held afterward. “If the party 51 immediately follows the service, you’ll wear the same thing to both, so put on a cocktail dress, but make sure to cover up with a jacket or a shawl at the temple,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. “If there’s a break before the reception, you may want to change.” A feminine suit works well for the service; wear something dressier to the party. The Occasion: A Funeral or a Wake Old etiquette: If you’re in mourning, you’re in black.

New etiquette: Your outfit doesn’t have to be black; it does have to be respectful.

What to wear: What’s most important is to convey the somberness of the event, which can be accomplished with toned-down clothing in “dark neutrals, like navy, brown, and forest green,” says etiquette expert Leah Ingram. (Pantsuits and lightweight wool dresses are a safe bet.) Dark and discreet patterns are also fine, as are quiet and classic accessories, like pearls and stud earrings. “This is not the time for your orange-and-yellow Indonesian necklace,” says Rothman. Adds Post, “You shouldn’t be wearing anything festive or fun, unless you’ve been told otherwise.” If you suspect something might be pushing the envelope, skip it. The Occasion: A Night at the Theater, the Ballet, or the Opera Old etiquette: All about puttin’ on the ritz.

New etiquette: You’ve got a pretty wide berth. Still, spiff it up!

What to wear: Once upon a time, these evenings out were considered a license to dress to the nines. Nowadays, though, you’re more likely to spot jeans and an I Heart NY T-shirt at a Broadway show than formal wear. But just because you can be casual doesn’t mean you should be. “You paid a fair amount for a nice evening out, so why drop the ball when it comes to your outfit?” says wardrobe consultant Amy Lindquist. On opening night, “go for broke and dress as you would for any black-tie occasion. Otherwise, dress as for a cocktail party: a sophisticated suit or a tailored shirt, trousers, and heels,” advises fashion stylist Joseph Williamson. But recognize regional differences. “In Burlington, Vermont, we would not show up to the ballet in an evening gown. But plenty of people in New York City do,” says Post. “Know your town and what’s expected.” And if ultimately you feel that you absolutely prefer to be in jeans, choose a pair in a dark wash with no holes or distressing. 52 The Occasion: A Good First Impression (a First Date, Meeting the In-Laws, School Functions) Old etiquette: A conservative twinset and a skirt to show how ladylike you are.

New etiquette: Dress true to your personality―but this isn’t the time to take risks.

What to wear: First and foremost, you should feel like you. "Select an outfit that makes you feel great about yourself," says fashion stylist Joseph Williamson. “If there’s a particular color you look really good in or a pair of pants you’ve gotten a lot of compliments on, start with that.” The cautionary note: As the old saying goes, you never get a second chance to make a first impression, so avoid potential eyebrow-raisers. “Don’t wear anything too tight or short, and don’t try too many trends at once,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. “For a first date, pick an outfit that’s colorful and feminine and leaves something to the imagination, like a wrap dress.”

An easy but proper ensemble for a school event would be a sheath with a cashmere wrap or trousers and a jacket. When meeting the in-laws, look to your partner for cues about how formal (or not) his family is. (Why deny yourself a cheat sheet?) “Definitely find out their expectations and how they like to dress,” says etiquette authority Lizzie Post. “My boyfriend’s parents were perfectly happy to meet me in jeans and a tee, but others might be more traditional.” The Occasion: A Party That Calls for “Festive Attire” Old etiquette: What old etiquette? Hosts only recently began confounding their guests with the f-word.

New etiquette: Get dolled up; have fun with it.

What to wear: “‘Festive’ means wearing playful cocktail at- tire,” explains etiquette authority Sue Fox. “There are lots of options, from slinky tops with dressy slacks to a dress in a bold color or print.” Or start with a little black dress and dial it up with a fancy clutch and something glittery, like a cocktail ring or chandelier earrings. You might consider whether there’s a theme at play and “if you can incorporate that into your attire,” says Post. Don’t overdo it, though. For a Cinco de Mayo bash, you could opt for a peasant top and large hoop earrings, but hold the line there; you don’t want to cross into costume territory. And when a holiday invitation calls for festive attire, don’t feel pressured into wearing anything that’s red or green―or that features reindeer. 53 The Top 10 Secrets For Passing Or Blending In As A Woman

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Cuba government holds anti-homophobia parade

Hundreds of people danced the conga through the streets of Havana to the beats of drums and trumpets in a government-sponsored march against homophobia. The dance on Saturday was led by President Raul Castro's daughter, Mariela, who is the head of the National Sexual Education Center and a leading campaigner for gay rights in the country.

People danced La Rampa through the crowded city, chanting "Homophobia no! Socialism yes!" as they made their way through Havana for more than an hour.

Mariela Castro said she is optimistic that the communist nation will eventually legalise gay marriage. "What is most complicated is the time it takes to overcome prejudices," she said. "We must change consciousness."

Castro's National Center of Sexual Education has campaigned to turn around Cuban attitudes about gays over the past seven years.

Gov’t Spending $152,500 to Study Voice Therapy for Transgenders

The federal government is spending $152,000 to study “voice therapy” for transgenders, saying it is incumbent to being “accepted as one's preferred gender.”

“This study will illuminate the capabilities of the human larynx and inform the relationship between voice production and perception,” states a National Institutes of Health (NIH) grant, awarded to George Washington University. “The long term goal of this research is to inform and provide new directions for Transgender (TG) voice care, thereby improving the lives of TG people who feel their voice is a great obstacle to living as their preferred gender.”

“Incomplete gender presentation can negatively impact the TG individual's job opportunities, relationships, and social acceptance,” the study explains. “Results of this project will advance an aspect of gender transition vital to being accepted as one's preferred gender and living a successful, healthy life.”

The project will compare male-to-female transgender voices with men and women voices, judged by 100 listeners to “judge the gender” of the speech samples. Those male-to-female 55 transgenders who pass as a female voice will be placed in a separate group and then compared to those who still sound like men.

The study hopes to influence voice therapy methods for transgenders by its project end date in August 2014.

Transgender beauty nabs reality show

Gender-bending beauty queen Jenna Talackova - who tackled Donald Trump to compete in the Miss Universe Canada pageant - has landed her own reality show.

Bell Media said Talackova will star in her own 30-minute reality show on E! highlighting her move from Vancouver to Toronto in pursuit of a career - and a fresh start. While the planned program is still in the working-title phase - Brave New Girl - E! and Talackova couldn't be more thrilled.

"Brave New Girl presents E!'s pop culture-hungry audience the opportunity to enter the wildly entertaining world of reality television, all from a uniquely Canadian perspective," said Catherine MacLeod, Vice-President of Specialty Channels at Bell Media.

Producer Carrie Mudd added: "Jenna's glamorous life, unique voice and pop culture relevance is a perfect fit for E!'s fabulous brand of entertainment. We're thrilled to be working with such a strong broadcast partner."

Bridal shop refuses to let transgender shopper try on gowns

A Saskatoon woman who identifies herself as transgender says a bridal shop in the city refused to let her try on dresses as she planned her wedding. Rohit Singh says she was looking at outfits in Jenny's Bridal Boutique but when she asked to try one on, she was refused.

Singh said she plans to file a formal complaint about her treatment with the Saskatchewan Human Rights Commission. "Discrimination," Singh said of the experience. "I'm damn sure it's discrimination."

The shop owner thought Singh was a man and felt other people in the store were uncomfortable with Singh trying on dresses. "She said, sorry we don't allow men to wear dresses here," Singh recalled. "I said I'm not a man, I'm transgender."

Singh says she has started the process for a sex change.

When contacted Thursday by CBC News, the bridal shop owner, who declined to provide her surname, said she stands by her decision.

Idaho drops surgery requirement to change sex on driver's license

SALMON, Idaho (Reuters) - Idaho officials on Tuesday dropped a requirement that transgender 56 residents show proof of surgery to alter sex designation on their driver's licenses, bringing the state in line with policies in most other parts of the country.

The change, which comes after a complaint by the American Civil Liberties Union of Idaho, requires a court order or sworn statement from a doctor for those seeking to revise their gender on Idaho driver's licenses. It repeals a 2011 rule that required proof of surgical gender reassign- ment before licenses could be modified.

Transportation Department spokesman Jeff Stratten said the agency's review showed many other U.S. states require only a court order or doctor's note and not proof of surgical reassignment to adjust gender designations on driver's licenses. "We have not created a new class of license. We've just aligned ourselves with most motor vehicle divisions across the country," he said.

Transgender discrimination costs New York millions

Discrimination against transgender people is costing New York millions, according to a new report. The study, released by the UCLA’s Williams Institute, says that housing and employment discrimination cost the state millions of dollars as people lean on public assistance instead.

According to the study, workplace discrimination could cost the state about $7 million each year. The report estimates about 58,000 New Yorkers are transgender and said 59 percent are covered under local anti-discrimination statutes. But that leaves about 23,800 people unprotected, according to the study.

The group said that people report losing their jobs because of bias, which means not only lost wages but losing health insurance coverage and housing instability. This results in higher public assistance and housing program spending, the study argued.

In the report, 19 percent of New Yorkers in the study said they were denied a home or apartment because of anti-transgender bias. The report also argued transgender people would contribute taxes if they were not fired for being transgender.

Official forms in Brighton and Hove to include the title 'Mx' for city’s trans-community

A council is to include the title 'Mx' on its official forms to be more accommodating to the trans -community. Campaigners say that 'Mx', short for 'Mixter', is a gender neutral alternative to Mr, Mrs, Ms and Miss.

Brighton and Hove city council's trans-equality panel previously pointed out that the gender part of forms allows people to say if they are male, female or other. It said the lack of options in the title field does not provide for people who do not identify as male or female.

Other recommendations include ensuring all councillors and police staff undertake trans awareness training and introducing gender neutral toilets and changing rooms, suggested by the 57 council's trans-equality scrutiny panel.

Sex Change Didn't 'Magically Dissolve' Marriage

(CN) - A Michigan woman suffering from dementia was properly granted a divorce from her husband who had surgically become a woman, a state appeals court ruled.

Devon Pearl Burnett got married in 1984 and lived with her husband until 2005. Two years earlier, Burnett's husband had undergone gender reassignment surgery to become a woman. While their mother was 79 and suffering from dementia, her children, Joseph Buxbaum and Beryl Ellen Niles, filed for divorce.

Bobbie Eliza Burnett, as the spouse is named in the court record, initially tried to challenge the authority of guardians and conservators to sue for divorce on behalf of an incapacitated ward. When that failed, she argued that the court did not have jurisdiction since the marriage had been illegal under Michigan law, which recognizes marriage as the union between one man and one woman.

Granting a divorce would be an implicit recognition of marriage between individuals of the same gender, she argued. The Washtenaw Circuit Court shot this argument down, however, finding that the parties entered into a valid marriage contract, not a same-sex marriage contract.

"We likewise reject defendant's argument that his alleged post-operative status somehow magically dissolved what was otherwise a valid marriage," Murray wrote. "Once validly entered into, one spouse's actions cannot unilaterally result in the legal dissolution of the marriage without court involvement," he added.

Devon Pearl Burnett died while the appeal was pending.

New Zealand Marriage Equality Law Clear on Trans and Intersex People

New Zealand passed same-sex marriage into law which will take effect on August 19, 2013. It does not just provide that same-sex couples may marry, Section 5 of the act amended the interpretation section of the Marriage Act 1955 to read: “marriage means the un- ion of two people, regardless of their sex, sexual orientation, or gender identity” (emphasis added).

This definition is significant as it allows the marriage of any two people, without the need for either person to define themselves as either the same or different sex as their partner, or to be legally recognized as either male or female.

No. 10: Rhode Island Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage

Rhode Island became the 10th U.S. state to embrace marriage equality, following a procedural vote in the House of Representatives and independent governor Lincoln Chafee's signature on the Marriage Equality Act today. 58 Chafee had a message for LGBT Rhode Islanders in a speech on the steps of the State Capitol in Providence, where he signed the bill: "At long last, you are free to marry the person you love."

The state Senate approved the bill April 24 by a vote of 26-12. Marriage equality could take effect by August 1, reports AP

Rhode Island was the last state in New England to establish marriage equality and the 10th state in the nation, in addition to Washington, D.C., to extend marriage rights to same-sex couples.

Delaware becomes 11th state allowing same-sex marriage after state Senate vote

DOVER, Del. — A divided state Senate voted Tuesday to make Delaware the 11th state in the nation to allow same-sex marriage, after hearing hours of passionate testimony from supporters and opponents. Less than an hour after the Senate’s 12-9 vote, Democratic Gov. Jack Markell signed the measure into law. “I do not intend to make any of you wait one moment longer,” a smiling Markell told about 200 jubilant supporters who erupted in cheers and applause following the Senate vote.

While it doesn’t give same-sex couples any more rights or benefits under Delaware law than those they have in civil unions, supporters argued same-sex couples deserve the dignity and respect of married couples. They also noted that if the U.S. Supreme Court strikes down the Defense of Marriage Act, which bars married gay couples from receiving federal benefits, civil unions would not provide protections or tax benefits under federal law to same-sex couples in Delaware.

Under the bill, no new civil unions will be performed in Delaware after July 1, and existing civil unions will be converted to marriages over the next year. The legislation also states that same-sex unions established in other states will be treated the same as marriages under Delaware law.

The bill does not force clerics to perform same-sex marriages that conflict with their religious beliefs. But under an existing Delaware law banning discrimination based on sexual orientation, business owners who refuse to provide marriage-related services to same-sex couples for reasons of conscience could be subject to discrimination claims.

Philadelphia First To Incentivize Companies To Offer Benefits To LGBT Workers

Philadelphia Mayor Michael Nutter signed an ordinance expanding rights for LGBT people in the city. Nutter said he hoped the measure would help Philadelphia become “the most LGBT- friendly” city in the world.

Among its provisions is a first-in-the-nation tax credit to companies that extend health care coverage to the domestic partners of LGBT workers and their children. Officials said that the legislation also encourages businesses to provide transgender-specific health benefits through tax credits. 59 The law also adds additional protections for transgender people, including adding gender identity to the city's anti-discrimination law and offering transgender-inclusive healthcare to city workers.

Pennsylvania currently does not recognize the relationships of gay and lesbian couples with either marriage or civil unions.

Transgender community fears inadequate health care

When it comes to health care, transgender people are less likely to get adequate care and insurance coverage than those identifying with the gender they are born with, sources said.

“This community has various health disparities,”. “The transgender is very reluctant to want to go to the doctor. What I hear is that they often have to explain what it means to be transgender,” she said. Larson said the biggest issue transgender people face is the fear of receiving inappropriate care. “We rely on our community health partners, and we have a long way to go. They are not aware of their unique needs,” Larson said.

A Report of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey, published in 2011 by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, revealed that 28 percent of survey respondents postponed medical care due to discrimination. Fifty percent reported having to teach their medical providers about transgender care.

Not only do transgender people worry about the quality of healthcare they receive, they also have concerns about how to pay for it. The same survey found that 86 percent of transgender survey respondents postponed healthcare because they lacked insurance.

Most private insurers do not offer health care coverage for transgender people either. “I attempted to get health insurance through the open market and I was denied. So, I got insurance through the state.” Kling said. “In its provisions, it explicitly excludes costs for gender specific procedures.”

When it comes to transgender health, Kling said she realizes there is still a learning curve for healthcare providers. “I not expecting them to be an expert, I am expecting them to be respectful of names and pronouns,” she said.

Women's shelter in Washington D.C. will now welcome transgender women after court order

Transgender women in Washington D.C. can now utilize the facilities in the John L. Young Shelter for Women. D.C. superior court judge Geoffrey Alprin issued an order which requires the city-funded shelter to stop denying transgender women access to the facility, after Lakiesha Washington was denied entry for being Trans. On April 3rd, Lakiesha was refused entry into the shelter by an employee who allegedly told her “We don’t do transgenders here, you have to leave.”

60 Since the filing of the lawsuit the John L. Young shelter will be providing staff with sensitivity training and updating the bathroom and shower facilities to better accommodate all shelter clients. Earline Budd, an official with Transgender Health Empowerment will be providing staff with the sensitivity training. Providing such training for employees will help ensure that cases like Washington's don’t continue to happen.

A large part of the problem is the fact that the widespread and crushing discrimination often faced by transgender people - and in particular, trans women of color - is still all but ignored in the media. This story, from Washington DC's WJLA, just as an example, talks about the ruling, talks about the lawsuit, and talks about the discrimination faced by Lakeisha at the shelter, but doesn't dig any deeper. The mainstream media almost always fails to explore why women like Lakeisha frequently end up on the street.

Outlets like WJLA could easily have informed audiences that according to a landmark 2011 study, transgender people are four times more likely to live in extreme poverty than the general population, experience double the country's rate of unemployment, with around half having experienced harassment at the workplace. Outlets covering this story could have explained how Lakeisha's story of being turned away at a shelter isn't uncommon either, and that 55% of transgender women who have sought help from a shelter said they had been turned away.

But all of this information often doesn't make its way into the mainstream media, so people like that employee who told Lakeisha "we don't do transgenders here" would have maybe thought twice about sending her back onto the street.

Vancouver looks at ways to make transgendered community feel safer

A lack of safe and comfortable facilities for Vancouver’s transgendered and gender-variant communities at city parks has prompted one park board commissioner to call for change.

“On a number of occasions, for example, we’ve had people that say, ‘I’ve gone into a washroom even though I don’t physically appear to be that gender and I’ve been harassed or confronted by people and been unwelcome,’” said Loke. “And similar experiences within change rooms.”

Drew Dennis, a member of Vancouver’s LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered and Queer) Civic Advisory Committee, knows from personal experience that the “T” in “LGBTQ” is often overlooked. “Like a lot of other Vancouverites when summer comes I can’t wait for the pools to open,” Dennis said. “If you don’t fit into what a society norm might define as ‘male’ or ‘female’ of course that can be challenging and – at times – unsafe, to be in those types of spaces.”

“That’s part of my own experience but definitely something that we hear is a very common experience for people that are transgendered.”

Brown stressed that, despite a need for more public education on specific transgendered and gender-variant issues, people in those communities have been a key element in the struggle for 61 equal rights within the LGBTQ community.

Transwomen often face 'transmisogyny' transgender rights activist says

NORTHAMPTON – Writer and transgender rights activist Julia Serano told a Smith College audience Thursday night that transwomen often face “transmisogyny.”

“A lot of times the transphobia we face is full of misogyny,” Serano said. A transwoman, she made her remarks during a presentation titled “On Gender Entitlement and Perception” in Wright Hall. The event was sponsored by Transcending Gender, an advocacy group for transgender students at Smith, and attended by about 50 people.

As an example, Serano said that feminine boys are seen as more disturbing to adults than are masculine girls. She went on to characterize women’s colleges as being more welcoming of females transitioning to being men with transmen being seen as more serious under transmisogyny. Serano's book "Whipping Girl" is often used in college and graduate-level classes.

Washington: A Gender-Neutral State

Washington governor Jay Inslee signed a bill that will change all the state's statutes, dating back to 1854, to gender-neutral descriptions.

Terms like "Firemen" have also already been changed to "firefighters," but the new law will go further, adjusting words like "ombudsmen" to "ombuds," and "watchmen" to "security guards." Half of the 50 states are moving to removing gender descriptions from their laws, and Florida and Minnesota have completed the process. making sexual identity discrimination illegal shot down

Baton Rouge, La (NBC33) — The LGBT community took another hit in their fight for equality at the State Capitol today. A bill would have made it illegal to discriminate against a state employee based on their sexual identity. It didn't make it past a House committee, but this isn't the first time they've tried – and failed - to pass this bill.

Those against the proposed law say it flies in face of many people's values; they went on to say that the LGBT community is already protected by law, so why make another law.

Several people came testifying in support of the bill, while only two spoke for the opposition. Although the bill failed again in a House committee, lawmakers want to bring it up again next session.

‘First ever’ C of E service to affirm transsexual

A man’s sex change has been affirmed in a Church of England service, said to be the first of its kind. The transsexual man who is known as Susan Musgrove, 60, underwent 62 surgery last year and has now been publicly blessed as a woman at St Andrew’s Church in Northumberland.

The curate of his Church designed an affirmation liturgy for the service after they got the go-ahead from the Bishop of Newcastle.

Susan Musgrove has been married three times, and has two children and two grandchildren who all attended the service.

Susan Musgrove said: “I’d needed the stone and wood and ceremony of an Anglican church, particularly my local church, to make my transition feel real”.

He also said: “As far as I could see, no transgender person had ever formally affirmed their faith before in the Church of England.”

Mariela Castro reportedly receives visa to attend gay conference

The U.S. government has granted a visa to the daughter of Cuban President Raúl Castro that will allow her to attend a gay rights conference in Philadelphia, CNN reported. Equality Forum said last week the State Department had denied Mariela Castro’s request to attend its annual event on May 4, where she had been scheduled to participate in a panel and receive an award for her efforts to advance LGBT rights in Cuba. CNN cited an unnamed official who said the agency reconsidered her case and “the restriction on her visa has been lifted, which will allow her to travel” to the event.

Mariela Castro, executive director of the Cuban National Center for Sex Education (CENESEX,) has spearheaded a number of campaigns over the last decade to curb the spread of HIV/AIDS on the island and promote acceptance of LGBT people. She successfully lobbied the Cuban government to begin offering free sex-reassignment surgery under the country’s national health care system in 2010. Mariela Castro, whose uncle is former Cuban President Fidel Castro, has also spoken out in support of marriage rights for gays and lesbians in Cuba.

Minnesota governor signs same-sex marriage bill

Minnesota Gov. Mark Dayton on Tuesday signed a bill that made his state the 12th to extend marriage rights to same-sex couples.

Dayton signed HF 1054 into law a day after the state Senate approved it by a 37-30 vote margin. Minnesota voters last November rejected a proposed constitutional amendment that would have defined marriage as between a man and a woman.

Minnesota’s same-sex marriage law will take effect on Aug. 1.

63 San Diego LGBT Community Center launches ‘Project TRANS’

SAN DIEGO – The San Diego LGBT Community Center has announced the launch of Project TRANS, its Transgender Services Program. Project TRANS (Transgender Referrals, Assistance, Networking and Services) will serve as an umbrella for the various services The Center has previously offered specifically to the transgender community, including discussion groups, behavioral health services, HIV prevention services, youth services and more.

In addition, the program will also focus on advocacy, referrals, outreach, cultural sensitivity trainings, social activities and events, workshops and networking with community agencies. Through a partnership with the Transgender Law Center, Project TRANS will also provide assistance with legal documents for those who need to change their name and gender marker on their driver’s license or other forms of identification, often a daunting task for transgender individuals.

“The Center has offered discussion groups and behavioral health counseling for a long time, but it is time to branch out to address some of the more specific and emerging needs of the community by having a designated program and program staff dedicated specifically to working on the issues that are really affecting the transgender and gender queer community right now,” Maddocks said.

“I’m hoping we can help build and strengthen the community, and make clear that the transgender and gender queer community are safe, welcomed and celebrated at The Center.”

For more information about Project TRANS and a schedule of the various discussion groups, please visit The Center’s Web site at thecentersd.org or contact Maddocks at 619-692-2077, ext. 109 or via e-mail at [email protected]

Trans people forced to be sterilized across Europe

Council of Europe tells 29 member countries coerced sterilization of transgender people is a major human rights abuse, urges action

Twenty-nine countries in Europe are insisting transgender people are sterilized before their true gender is recognized in law. That represents a major abuse of human rights and must stop, says a new report from the Council of Europe.

In many European countries, sterilization or sex reassignment surgery or both are a requirement for the country to legally recognize a transgender person in his or her new gender. While gender reassignment surgery may incidentally cause someone to become sterile, some countries also insist on sterilization.

While some people want full gender reassignment surgery, others recognize the operations are complicated and can be traumatic and either don’t want to complete that process or are not capable of doing so. But by insisting on full sterilization before you can be legally registered 64 with your true, new gender identity the rules at present deny people the right to decide what they do with their own bodies.

This creates day-to-day problems for people who are living in their true, new gender but haven’t been sterilized so don’t have the legal paperwork to back up their identity, says Köhler. He told GSN: ‘This has an immense impact on them. Any time they have to use an identity card that does not reflect their gender identity, it can create problems.

Transgender Day of Celebration Comes to Boston For the 1st Time, Honors Life

The Metropolitan Community Church of Boston is hosting Boston’s first Transgender Day of Celebration, a day complementary to Transgender Day of Remembrance that publicly celebrates transgender lives. “Transgender Day of Celebration is an opportunity for trans people and all who love them to come together and celebrate,” said Rev. Jamez Terry, pastoral leader of MCC Boston. “We celebrate our own trans lives, and we celebrate the trans people whose lives have touched ours.”

This event differs from Trans Day of Remembrance, as it does not focus only on violence and mourning, Terry added. Trans Day of Celebration brings the community together for a different purpose — celebrating lives. “We are alive, vibrant and interesting people. The LGBTQI community and our allies, and especially the general public, need to hear the truth about our lives and see us as who we are,” said Power. “It is so important to counter stereotypes about us — the awful stigma of mental illness, victimhood and otherness that is put upon us. By celebrating our lives, we reject oppression and discrimination.”

TDOC was held May 19th at MCC Boston and will include a Trans Family Picnic, interfaith service, and a multi-genre performance

Nevada Assembly passes transgender hate crimes bill

CARSON CITY, Nev. — Nevada lawmakers made a strong statement Tuesday, passing a bill that says crimes motivated by hatred of transgender people will not be tolerated in the Silver State.

The Assembly passed the measure on a 30-11 vote with only Republicans opposed. The bill already cleared the Senate and now heads to Republican Gov. Brian Sandoval.

Sandoval spokeswoman Mary-Sarah Kinner told The Associated Press Tuesday that the governor supports the legislation.

The bill, SB139, would add “gender identity or expression” to the list of motivations deemed to be hate crimes under state law. Supporters outlined in graphic detail several instances of the 65 violent nature of crimes motivated by hate, saying the added protection would help deter more violent crimes.

Perpetrators of hate crimes are subject to both the penalties for the actual crime committed and additional penalties because of the hateful motivation. Some opponents disagreed with the concept of unequal punishment.

Parents sue S C hospital over child’s gender assignment surgery

COLUMBIA, S.C. — A couple filed a lawsuit Tuesday against the state of South Carolina for what they say was an unnecessary sexual assignment surgery performed on a toddler they later adopted.

Lawyers for Pam and Mark Crawford said Tuesday they were suing the Department of Social Services for having irreversible surgery performed on a 16-month-old child they eventually adopted and raised as a girl. The child was born in 2004 with both male and female genitalia and placed in state custody after the termination of parental rights, according court papers. At the age of 16 months, doctors removed the child’s male genitalia, leaving the toddler with female parts, according to court papers.

“The doctors knew that sex assignment surgeries on infants … poses a significant risk of imposing a gender that is ultimately rejected by the patient,” attorneys claim in the suit. Instead, the lawyers argue, the optional surgery should ha ve been delayed until the child was older and self-identified as male or female.

At the time of adoption, the Crawfords said they knew their child was born with ambiguous genitalia and raised the child as a girl starting in 2006. But about a year ago, the Crawfords say their now-8-year-old child told them he wanted to be raised as a boy. They supported the de- cision, allowing him to cut his hair short and wear boys’ clothes.

The state lawsuit accuses the Medical University of South Carolina – where the surgery was performed – and Greenville Hospital – where the child was born – of negligence medical malpractice for not getting the patient’s informed consent before surgery and failing to warn of potential problems resulting from it.

“These doctors wanted to play God,” said Alesdair Ittelson, an attorney with the Southern Poverty Law Center, which helped bring the lawsuit. About one in every 2,000 children is born “intersex,” or with ambiguous genitalia, according to Anne Tamar-Mattis, an attorney with Advocates for Informed Choice, a group that supports intersex children. 66

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