LOCAL M:\\ SBRiLi S Leibovitz AIDS photos to show at Eastman AIDS Rodiester and Geoige Eastman Iiouse are coming together to present "A Gathering of Hope" at Eastman House fiom Nov. 22 throu^ Jan. 15. The exhibit will feature portraits by photographer Annie Leibovitz wWich were originally produced as a campaign for the San Francisco AIDS Foundation, as a tribute to people with HIV livong lives of hope, detcnnination, and courage. The campaign's theme, "Be Herc for thc Cure," was designed to uige people who arc HIV positive to take the nec ON THE CAMPAIGN TRAIL. Karett essary' steps to stay healthy. "People Btetrstem tneets the press otAlbany^s Cify I -iving with HJV: Portraits by Annie HaU afier beittp ettdorsed by AUtam i jc\ho\ity^' combines portraits of indi- Comptroller Ncmcy Burtott attd Mayor viduiiis with their [XTsonal pliilosophies JerryJenftm&. They were ioinedby other jof jiving witli IIFV, written in tlieir own locidojKciaBmdtedmgJ^ba handwriting. An opening reception for KetthStlohn, the firstopetd y stxy this exclusive East Coast exhibition is AfHam-Arnericart elected omcmlirt the lx:ing planned in recognition of Worid nation. Photo by Teri Currte/ AIDS Day, Dec. 1. Conmumications Sertnces. In Rochester, World AIDS D^ will be mariccd ly a "Hcdd Back the N^t" candldi^t walk irom the Eastman House to the liberty Pde, at 8 p.m. Burstein ready to make history in Attorney Free transportarion will be available from the Liberty Pcdc to die Eastman General race; GOP niakes lesbianism an isj House. A reception will be held tfierc for the Leibovitz exhibit; $10 is the By Teri Cume shodd not be an admitted lesbian.'' He rican American section of soutfieastem sv^gested donation. Sexual orientation wasn't the issue at went on to say that Vacco was foolish Queens. As a Democrat in the Republi- Also featured in the Eastman House an Albany fundraising break&st held on not to make Burstein's lesbianism an is can-contrdled Senate, Burstein h^ied exhibttt win be pages fiom a scrapbook National Coming Out Day (Oct 11) fiDT sue. Durii^ his press conference, Vacco negotiate major legislation on domestic created by or in honor of a person living Karen Butstdn, the Democratic/Liberal maintained that Molinari was a good vidence, which has been a continuing witfi HTV or AIDS within our com nominee for State Attorney General. fiiend, but that he cannot contrd the ac concem of hers. She also led the ^^t munity. The local pages are being cre Unless, of course, you wanted it to be. tions ofhis si^porters. Interestingly, to preserve Medicaid fimding of abor ated in conjunction with AIDS Roch A oofifee-scented living room fikd witfi Vacco was stanc£r^ ti^ next to Mdi- tions for poor women. ester, which is hokling woricshops with a diadeiir^mix c£Iesbian,g^and stxa^it nari when he ttvmc fis comments. In 1978, she was £f3pointed a member an art therapist and a facilitator fiom people greeted Burstein, who arrived a While Vacco maintains tfiat Burstein's of the Scate Publk: Service Cotntntssion; Writers and Books in order to devdop bit kte, not at aD flustered by the rickety sexual orientation is not an issue, he in 1980 she was named chairperson of materials for this local portion ofthe Cessna airplane ride fiom New Yodc Qty openly diss^ljrees with her support of do thc Stace Consumer Protection Board; exhibit. or tfie subsequent delays fiom the aitjxirt mestic partnershp t^ts and the teoent ki 1983 she became pftsklent <^the New Following the cxhitMtion at Eastman '*Sorry, everyone," Burstein said as she extension of health insurance benefits Yoric State Civil Service Commission, House, a set ofthe posters from the shook ^ch arid every hand Cirdir^ the to domestic partners of state workers. and in 1987, tficn-N.Y.C Mayor Ed Annie Leibovitz exhibit will remain in break&st table, Burstein joktr^ asked Kodi named her the city's firstan d only the Rochester area. AIDS Rochester has the crowd of cariy morning risers, "Are Support for dvil tights Auditor General received a gtant from Eastman Kodak all of you waiting for me to say some Burstein equates the stn:^g^ for dvil In 1990, Mayor David Dinkins ap Conpany to purdiase the posters and diing?" r^ts in the 196Qs to the lesbian and ggy pointed Binsoein as a judge on die Btodc- accompanying audio and visual mate Qeariy, they were. rigjKts movement of today. lyn Family Court, where she served rials, Tiiese materials will be utilized by Burstein ^x)ke about thc most recent *There is a stigma attadied to beii^ AIDS Rodiester as a tool few their com statewide pdl by Quinn^jac CoDege in 'die wrof^ color,"' she sakL "Also, beti^ Burstein continued on p3 munity outreach and educational needs. Comiectkajt, whidi showed her witfi a g^ is stigmatized" Ahhou^ radal dif For more informarion on the display 15 percent lead over her opponent. Re ferences are more physically apparent, TABLH or or how to create a f>age for the scrap- publican Dennis Vacco. she noted,'*the soul-destioyir^ effects book, contact Larry Zeiber at 442-2220. Burstein also made it dear that her les (of stigma) are the same. But you can't (:(>NT}:NT< bianism should not be a campap cen take a person's sod away if tfiey fed Hallwalls hosts Ways in terpiece. * To most strai^t people, it's no good about themselves." b^ deal," she sakL'l^Qople shodd be ask- Burstein enjoys the sifjport of a broaci- Being Gay Festival ir^ me if 1 am a good lawyer. Ihey shodd based constituency. She has been en Buflalo's HaDwaUs Conten^xHaiy Arts be asking me about thdr own dvil ri^ts. dorsed by the Enptte State Pride Agenda Center wiH ^x)nsor their annual Ways in Of course, the &ct that I am a lesUan wiB as weH as many local leslnan and g^ po Beif^Gay Festival this month, featuring come xxp. It's a positive tfiing for the litical otg^nizatkx^ Burstein is confident E)>4QE TV, Lea DeLaria, E)orothy Allison, community." tfae statewide lesluan and g^y dvil t^^ Holly Hifjhes aixl many films, exhibits Within hours of her statement, how bin will pass. If dected, she pledges to and performances. ever, Burstein's sexual orientation was the persuade otherwise resistant members Betfi Trinwroo, producer of Dyke TV, issue. Befoce Bucstdn's arrival at Aban/s of the Republkan-oormoBed Seruie, the will sf>eak and screen segments ofthe City HaH for her noontime press confer tfouse in whkii she served in the eady 1970s, to re-dunk tfieirpoatiDn s cn the show at 7i30 pjti cn Nov. 4, at HaBwaBsy ence, Vacco held one on tfie steps of the Photo ley EHeii Maha%. See pp. 11,15 2495 Main St, Suite 425, Buffib. The Capitol. Reporters hungrily awaited issue. presentation will be free. Vacco*s response to a Columbus Day Acareerof advocacy Wiiter Dorothy Allison wiH sqppear on statement by Staten Island Borough Afier working as a Icg^ services lawyer, I^m FcsUvaL*^**— *jp. 11 Nov. M at7pjn.,oo-prcsentcdbyJust President Guy MolinarL Burstein was dorted to die State Senale BOOK w^yicwB ***»»», »>—.p* 12 Buffalo Literary Center. Admission NfckKtiafi, a Vacco simorter as weO as in 1972 She represented tfic wcaltfiy, P-AC fiifiidcaMef**—•••——^••••«p» 15 N.Y.C caiTfxi^ diair for Repubiksai inostty white Hve TowmcfLongislatvi HaUwaUs condnued onp. 3 gubernatorial candkiate Geotge Pataki, ak>i^ witfi a much poorer, mostiy Af had said, 'The next Attorney General 2 The Empty Cioset November 1994
November 1994 Tbe Empty Chset 3 EDITORIAL Protecting the children (from Jesse Helms and Co.) LOCAL & STATE NEWS By Susan Jordan ofa neo-fesdst pditical agenda are to be of sexual crimes against duldren (male commanding *T>on't have se3c" The im- Burstein continued from p. 1 Marquee at die Tralf, 100 Theater Place. Tickets are $13 in advance and $15 at Itis ironk: that Jesse Hdms is tryingto aDowed to readi the impressionahJe ears diiklren as weD as female.) When hetero pdication is that kids \^^ disobey the no- until last spring when she stepped down die door, and can be purchased at the remove counseUng for gay smdents, of youth. sexual males have solved their own sex commandment deserpe to contract to run for Attorney GeneraL PAC recommendations HIV/AIDS counsding, etc fixxn our Can any rational person realty imagne problems of child abuse, harassment, HIV. Marquee box oflb£ (852^522) or fiom nation's sdiools. Lonk: because the cry of that heterosexual kids, upon hearing the rape, battering staDdng and serial wcanan- Something similar is implied by the First woman in 20years TlckctmasCer, The following candidates have received the PACs full recom the hcxnophobic bigots has always been Big News that queers are human beings kiffiri^ rnaj^DC then th^ wiD have a rnoral R^t's stand against reprodiKtive choke. If dected, Burstein will be the first Hd^ Hi^« wfflperfomi *Ot Notes" mendation (unless otherwise noted). The potential candidates **pTotect the chikiren" (from the stq^pos- and not demons, wiD immcdktdy rush rig^t to point a finger at die minority Women and ^s who break the patri woman dected to statewide executive on Nov. 12 at 7 and 9:30 pjn. at die were rated either recommended or recommended with reser ecfly omnipresent queer child mdestots.) off to a gay bar or a bathhouse or a Les of gays who commit sexual crimes. archal rdes by having sex outside office in 20 yeats, and the fitst open Ics- Erie County Central Library-Lafayette vation. Itis aery heard all too easily by fearful bian Aven^rs meeting and get "re- ^^t now, in the woiid as we know it, male centrd—\i*io ay to contrd thdr btffli ever dected to statewkk ofiBce. She Square. Adrnission is $12 general, $10 Legend: D = Democrat; R = Republican; i = incumbent parents. cniited^' C^ diat giy and lesbian kids wiD it is heterosexual men like Jesse Helms own bodies and Kves—^afametodiein intends to put die resources of the At students/sciuors, $6 members. Note: In races where the PAC found neither candidate accept But what Hdms and the haters reaDy "choose" to become wdl-adjusted het who pose the greatest threat to the youth back-alley abortions. Qeariy, disobedi torney General's office to woric fitting For information about the many other able it chose to make no recommendation. want to protect children fiom is knov<4- erosexuals once they are told how ter of America. If Hdms does not get hk way ent women and young giris have no for ths r^hts of peofrfe with AIDS, for events, cdl KbDwaDs at (716)835-7362, edge, information and the ability to think rible and evil their natural feelings are? with the educatic»i biD, he has threatened "ri^t to life/' increased fianding CO oornbat breast can or Margaret Smith, event director, at for themsdves. And they are going to As anygay person knows, ^ys cannot a filibuster \rfiidi would delay or kfll fas- It keeps coming back to control Limit cer and enhance AIDS research, and for (710) 884-5984. The Festival is co-spon '*protect" kids from those things if tum heterosexual kids into queers any sage ofa measure critical to our nation's infc«marion and you can contrd peofJe tot^^ hate crimes le;islation and the sored by AIDS Community Services, they have to disrupt the entire school more than strai^t peofJe can tum gay sdiools and the children they are trying to throu^ fear, ^orance and si^ierstitioa passage of lesbian and gay civil tights bdls. EAGLES (die Bufl&to g?x>up for dder MARIO CUOMO (D)(0 • Governor system. and lesbian Idds into heterosexuals. Sure, educate. The implication is, it's better to The bigots of Congress, the Catholic She also plans to expand the Attorney g^ys and lesldans), and Gay and Leshian Youth Services. KAREN BURSTEIN (D) Attorney General If Helms has his way, thc educarion addts can do a lot of harm by confusing have no schools at aU than schools which Church, the fundament^st Protestant General's rde in combatingdomcstic vio funding bill now before Congress will kkls and trying to bi^wash them one tty to be feir on theissue of homosexuality. churches, the Monroe County adminis lence, by coordinating the efforts of po CARL McCALL (D)(i) Comptroller den)' federal funding to any schools tfiat way or the other — but that seems to Objective scientific information is trarion and legislature, et al, are not inter lice, the courts, and govemment agendes. Seneca County AIDS AoxMxling to the Center for American DANIELP. MOYNIHAN (D)(i)...... U.S. Senate g?ve counseling for lesbian and gay stu be more ofa heterosexual speciality, OUT ifit contradicts the Ri^it^s stereo ested in protecting anythir^ but thdr own Taslc Force to hold dents; that offer HTV/AIDS counseling as in Christian "cure" programs. types. The implication is that kids who power over others. And those who reject Women and Potties atRu^gprs Univer LOUISE SLAUGHTER (D)(i) 28tfi in an cffecriv^c wa>', or that provide even Since lesbian women and gay men art "choose'' to be gay desenre to hate them that power and that control must be sity, New York ranks 31 outofSOstates fomm on w^ork issues neutral infomiarion about gay and les human beings, we are subject to aD the selves and commit sdcide. made to get what diey "deserve." in die percentage of women dected to Congressional District bian people, much less information from bad that is in human nature, as weD as to HIV/AIDS counseling is OUT ifit the state l^slature. Women hold ody Employers as well as employees are us about our own lives. Only the stcrco- all the gpod But it is hetcrosexuai males gives specific information on how to 39 of the 211 seats in the State Senate often eoncemed when an indivkiuai who WILLIAMXX>NG(D)_^thCongiessional District t\pcs of pn.'judicc and thc disinformation who commit the overwhelming majority avoid being infected — other than simply and Assembly. is HIV positive or has AIDS is hired or is MARYELLEN JONES (D)(i) 55th State Burstdn is qdck to remiiid voters not already woiiing at their place of employ to vote for her just because she is a ment Those cctficemS aixl questions wfll Senate District LETTERS woman, or just because she is lesbian, be addressed at a r^;k)nal oonference to but because she is qualified for the job. be hdd at the Watedoo Hdklay Inn on RICHARD DOLLINGER (D)(i) 54th State Criticism wfll have to be aimed at my as the ody God-given truth- They wiD be rather have a united lesbian, g^y, bisexual However, \xMe can^aigning in Ithaca Dec. 2. Draw moral Une ideas, not at a behavior that goes unex hq^py to lake away our individual ri^ts, and transgerxlered community than the recent^, she was rcpcatedy asked xrfie ther Thc conference, Ax^iich wfll take place Senate District pressed And ideas are sddom more dan one by one by one. against assimilationists blessings of Pat Robertson and Jerry she si^ports lesbian and g^ r^cs. * Yes, from 9 a-m. to 3:30 p.m., is sponsored gerous than the efforts to silence them. SUSANJOHN (D)(i) 131st State Assembly Falwell. We need to re-examine the sdf-righ- I am a lesbian," she said. In response, ly die Seneca County AIDS Task Force, To the Editon Only through debate can we have any Paul Scheib teousness and even hatred found in our one spikey-haired resident called out, Dr. Joseph Madiey, Corporate Medical District ] wonder what communit)^ thc activ- hope of reconciling our views. General vety own community if we ever hope to "That's a plus in this county!" Director for Cocriif^ IncorpocaGcxlj wfll isrs will next try to segregate from the Re-examine prejudices attacks wfll only make me more resolute. end die hatred out there. Why do some JOSEPH MORELLE (D)(i) 132nd State At a press conference in Rochester be the keynote speaker. Jan Gleason, a larger lesbian and gay community un Certainly a dvilized society has rdes. ofus feel threatened by the fringe, the der thc guise of achieving cixiJ rights. against the "fringe'* on Oct. 21, Burstein said that the is weUness consdtant from Coming In Assembly District But occasionafly some of these rdes are ones who pdled the rest ofus out in a corporated medical dq^artment, wiD of Jiist year the drag queens and the Radi To the Editor: sue of her sexual idenrity "has actually arbitrary and enforced sdectivdy. Why demonstration of defiance 25 years ago? fer specific information on workplace cal Faeries werc tdd that tficy were not Td like to respond to the counter-argu probably galvanized support" [DAVID GANTT (D)(i) 133rd State Assembly { do some state laws differ by genckr on age Today it's OK to attack the "pedc^Jifles policy guidelines and wui oe avaUaoic respectable enou^ to be in the Pride ment by Rkhard Og^iibene, Jr. regarding She said that making an issue ot of consent^ And why does the enforce and perverts," as if those labds describe throqajiout thc day to answer qtiestioris. District Parade. Eariier this )'ear bisexuals wen? inteigenerarional intimacy {En^ty Ch^^ candidates* race, ethnic origin, religion ment almost universaDy "protect'' males rather than destroy. The only apprc^Triate Confererras wcM-kshops wiD offer in told that they diluted the goal of civil 10/94). or sexual orientation is unacceptable. JOSEPH ROBACH (D)(i) 134th State fiom "sodom/' but aDow teenage girls to judgment is based on the context of an fotmation on alcohd/substanoe abuse rights by their fence swinging. Now it is 1 wish he had given it more thought "We have to make it unacceptable in find themselves pregnant with no one individual case, aD dse is indiscriminate and HIV, social issues in the workplace, pcc^e who have putJk: sex. Who's next? But he probably hasn't had to grapple the state of New York because we Assembly District (with reservation) interested or able to go after an often bias. l^^lities and confidentiaUty, and taDdng The leather community? People who with this issue as long as I have. I have can't afford to waste one person." dder male? A male at least 50 percent re- I take the responsibflity of dtizenship to kids about HTV. Anyone interested JAMES ALESI JR. (R)(i)....135th State Assembly practice S/M? How fer arc these political quesrioned and reasoned over and over To those \xto worry that Burstdn, if sf>onsible for a newbom child that so fdly, and wiD obey even laws that moraDy m learning more about these issues \s extremists going to go? whedier my desires are moraDy valid, and dected, m^t become de-sensitized co District (with reservation) dety will likely have to look after. I must question openl}'. These ate the laws invited to attend. The cost of $35 per Wliy don't thc political activists make a StiU have a long way to go reconciling my lesdan and g^y issues, she pom ts co her Don't yell hooray too loudly, Mr. that crush and incarcerate my brothers person indudes conference materials list of sexual acts that they will aDow us to values with that ofa distrustfd sodety. time in the State Senace. *lt's coo lafis to Ogpibene, when sleazfly-dressed under for the love that crossed your small- and lunch. Due to limited seating, pre- parricipate in, so we can all assimilate become one of the boys. But the boys to the gay community within the past series curated by Laura U. Marks which But let's get one thing dear. I do hdd cover oops cruise the parks and entrap of^ minded 'line." ReqxMisibflity wfll always registration is required by Nov. 18. like they want us to? ^ht become one of me." year, went to Bill Pritchard and Susan will indude several gay-themed films. the "absolute hi^est standards for per fenders in victirdess crimes. Josqjh Av remain with the inciivkiuaL People once To reedve pre-registration tnaterials Mr. Ognibene asks for ACT-UP to Silverstein at a dinner at the Bachelor The movies to air this month are sonal behavior'' on this issue. I have to. enue decays as drugs, poverty, arxl racism lived by standards of their community and for more information, please write to march against peo[^ who have sex in the HaUwaUs continued from p. 1 Forum on Oct. 2. six experimental films on sexuality which It's more than the physicaldangpr of in- perpetuate violence; meanwhile our law and fainily; legal statutes were not as the Seneca County AIDS Task Force, parks. However, as a member of ACT- Bill Pritchard, soon to step down as Maries has caBed "Nasty films by ruce carceratioa I wiD not cross the line until I enforcement budget squeezes patrol important as staying on the good side will be $8 general, %1 for students and 33 State St., Seneca Falls, N.Y, 13148; UP, I can testify that we used to pass exit head of the Rochester Lesbian and pec^k." They are"Ronnie," by Curt Mc can do so evenly. TTiat wodd be in the time. Let's get our prioriries straight of vfc^at some ofus call Karma. seniors, and $6 for member of HaDwaUs or contacr Jill Gonzalez, Geneva Of condoms in Holland Park so that pcofAe Gay Political Caucus, was the leader Dowell, "Elegant Spanking" by Maria li^t of day where I codd hdd a younger You s^ *ihe silent majority has to start I'm tired ofthe ignorance of people orJBLC. fice of AIDS Rochester, Inc., at (315) were having safe sex. We didn't give lover's hand; when a courageous teen ofthe ^Jit to get dcMnestic partnershp Beatty and Rosemary Dclain, "Why I to speak out against the intdlectuaDy hd- vt*io refuse to diflferantiate the tovers fiom Comedian and dues/jazz siiiger Lea 781 -6303; or Tina Burger at The Counol legislation passed by Qty Coundl. Sfopf>ed Going to Foreign Films," by them a moral lecture. ager can publidy demonstrate his affec fcw, narcissistic arguments of the park per the pccdatois. Open your eyes. Loveis DeLaria will perform with her three- on Alcoholism & other Chemical De- Silverstein was one of two attomeys Steve Rdnke, *Toc Scoree" bv \fing-Yuen I am part ofthe majority you ask to tions, defiant of those who teD him who verts and the pedc^Mes." Nice diatribe, cac^ sctaigdien, and nAdd the sdf-hood piece band on Nov. 5 at 8 p.m. at the pendendes ofthe Finger Lakes, (315) who represented the Gay ADiance of S. IVfe, and"Sac BaD," by ET Bab>'Maniac stand lp, Mr. Ognibene, but it is agfiinst he cannot love. It wodd break no laws, but be carefd. The term "silent majority^' of die bdoved PtedatDCs use, weaken and 568-6896. die Genesee VaUey in its successfd The films wfll be screened on Nov. 19 you for trying to draw the lines of mo so I guess it codd be called social dis is the catch-phrase ofthe radical ri^t, violate. It is not age, gender, race, or sdt against thc Qty ofRochestcr for at8pjTxatFytarmd,274N.Goodman St rality wittun our community. I wodd obedience. Axto prcxnote their rq>pessive viewpoints oocncation — those are onhr rdes in LETTERS continued Vinnie-Vidd awatds go non-profit tax exemption. in Vfllage G^te Square. Admission is 'I"hc hmpry (loxrl is publi&hcd 11 umes A year (I'^cccmbcr nor dfjcs It print adverbsin^ that states that the person die human drama — it's how each of $5 (53 students.) ;ind.)uniMn comhinitJ) b) tht- l;mpi> Closet Fivss for the pictured in (he aJ is for sale, or that you will "get** that to Pcitchatd, Silverstein Pyramid series to show Ciav Alli'ifKc of thc tii'ni-siri- \'iik-\, Int. Approximately 4S(t(> us play the part we have been g^vcn. See thc Dec.-Jan. issue ofthe Empty particular person if you paironi/c thc estabbshmtnt adver- The Vinnie and Vidri Cups, given copies of each is.suL' dK distiihuicit dunn^ thc first wc-ck ofthe bsed. The Einpty Closet Tlus, only, is meant for jvu%mcnt Gfefljf for the two screening in December. month., some hy in;ul m JL plain -icdcd envelope. 'I'he puhliCJ- .•\tlverti!»ements that arc explicitly r.ieist, sexist* a^cisl or anniaally to the man and woman who gay films in Nov., Dec. tionof thenjmcof photi>^jphof jnv pL-rsonornr^^^tni/udon homophobic u ill Ix- refused; advertisements from or^^ani/a- Thomas Stcedle For more informarion, call Pyramid, in articles i» not un iniiic.iti4>n of the sexLul or uffecbnnal Uons that are sexist, racist, a^ei^t or anb-gay will also be \i:\v ^ OUK s 1 A ri's oi i)i:s r (x \^ \i:\\ SIVMM u have made the greatest contributions Pyramid Arts Center will host a film orientation of thji perstwi or thi- memlKT,'; of that or^ani/a- refuseii. 461-2222. Don. I'he opmions of columnisls, C(.litonal wntcrs and other rf>r publication, submit IK-US items, letters, stones, po- contnbubn^ unters are their own and do not necessarily etr), ads, ph
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4 Tbe Empty Closet November 1994 NEWSFRONTS ing on the legislation in die Australian message to those who would try to pre nents refused to take part. condemned by die Varican. Senate and House of Representatives. serve their'spedal ri^t^ to discnminate TTie NGLTF has asked for federal in NEWSFRONTS Two smaDer parties, the Democrats and **The main opposirion (to gay dvil —- our rights cannot be voted away." tervention in die murder case, question rigJits) ccanes fiiom die Cathcdk: Church, that neither ILGA, its members nor their Had we known diat VSG was a pedo Education Aa will go back to both the Greens, say that die bfll does not go -Associated Press; Human Rights ing die abflity of local authorities to inves whose thousand year tradidon in Po U.N. suspends ILGA subsidiaries "promotes, condones or phile group, we would have expelled chambers fi>r finalapptova L Gay activists &r erxx^h, aild have iritroduoed arnend- Campaign Fund; Narional Gray and tigate the murder. land has maintained a vision of homo seeks the legsdization of pedophilia.'* them injune." antic^xim further opposition fiom con ments which would ban anti-gay dis for pedophile group Lesbian Task Force TTie Dqiartment of Justice saki on sexuals as sick and depraved people," Lastjune, when ILGA expelled Openly gay Rep. Barney Frank (D- servatives. Sen. Jesse Helms (R-NQ, criminarion. TTie United Nations suspended the In Oct 20 ti^ they cannot intervene in die Madetko said. >JAMBLA and two other pedophile Nbss) issued a statement saykig that he qxxisor of die oi^inal anti-gsy lar^tjs^ The Tasmanian sodomy laws would Robbery or hate crime? ternational Lesbian and Gay Association Laurd case, since the 1964 Civil R^its Cxikm^li3aaex:yTheWad!tit^DnBhdt g^xxips, ILGA offidals saki they were un had conveyed tt>th e US. ambassador to has threatened to filibuster the education not be repealed by the overcicfe, so Tas (ILGA) on Sqx. 16, less than ftxir months Act does not protect g^ys and lesbians. aware of any other such grotf>s amor^ the UJ>4^ and also to the White House, tull, tying vp the $10 biEkxi mtended fi^r manian gay acrivists wUl launch a chal- gay men killed in Miss. after the international g^ grotf) had voted -Sheila Walsh, The Washing&n Blade their more than 150 member organiza "my very grave disq:pointment with the tfae nation's puhlic schools, and possibty ler^ to die sodomy laws in Australia's to es^ Thc North Arnerican Man-Boy Two gay men wete mundeted on Oct Two lesbians raped in tions. i^paflirig insendtivity they have shown to Idlling the entire bill. Hdms' version High Court. 7 near thdr hometown of Laurd, Miss., Love AssodaticMi ^AMBLA) and two would have afi^:ted dassroom teadiif^ Poland oppresses gays, Julie Dor^ director of ILGA's US. <^ gay and lesbian ri^ts in this instance... 'Av3&vQn¥kxt\x:tiyTheWad3i^onBktde in what may have been a gay-related possible hate crime other pedophifc groups. The expulsicffi sddck: prevention oounseling and HIV/ erations, said that an offidal from the the admkiistcation has made a mockery killing. gay group report says Two Canton, Ohio lesbians who came after the U.S. government told AIDS education programs, barring even U.S. Nfission to the U.N. told ILGA of its own professed desire tt>sn^>or t the Colorado court rules Josej^ Shoemacke and Robert Walters live together were bound, beaten and U.N. officials that at least one group neutral references to homosexuality. TTie feD of Communist dkrtatorshp in members two weeks ago that die U.S. leg^tiniate i^ts of lesbtaris arid g^ rnen." left a poduck dinner to buy cigarettes. raped on Aug. 25 in what police be advocating pedophilia still remains on -Kristina Campbdl, The Washingfon against Amendment 2 Poland has not ended represskwi in tiiat govemment had been aferted to the pres -Lou Chibbaro, Jr., The WaM^m Blade Thdr bodies were found the next mom lieve was an anti-lesbian attack. ILGA's membership roles. Bktde; Human R^ts Campaign Fimd The Cdorado Sipreme Court rukd CMI countty, at least not against gays, accord ence of more pedophile groups by an ing by raflroad tracks just north of LaurcL Police had no suspects as of Oct ILGA's suspension also came two Oct. 11 that the state's anri-gay rigJits ing to a report released by a gay civil anonymous letter fiixed to die Misskm, Anti-gay language out Both had been shot at dose range in the 11. Sgt. Les Baroni of the Canton Po weeks beforc an Oct. 1 deadline set by Australia to override measure is unconsritutional, because it rights group on Oct 4. which carried a telephone fax number head; Walters had his shorts removed lice Department said that things the Congress fi^rPresiden t Clinton to certify prevents gays and lesbians fiiom "ha\irig The report, issued by the umbrella with a Bosttm area code. Dorf said that of education bill; will gp Tasmanian sodomy laiv and pockets emptied. attacker said lead police to consider whether any U.N. agency "promotes, an effective voice in govemment afl&irs." group Lambda, gives examples of anti she and other ILGA members believe ^fa^v^n McLendon, 17, of Laurel, was the attack a hate crime. condones, or seeks the legali2:ation of back to House, Senate Australian exposition parties wiD not The court ruled six to one that Amerxl- gay discrimination in education, employ that the fax was sent out of spite by arrested on Oct. 13 in connection with One ofthe anri-gay remarks was, pedophilia." The Congressbnal mandate A House-Senate conference commit oppose a federal taD overddit^Tasmania's ment 2, sponsored in 1992 by anti-gay ment, and widiin femilies, and includes NAMBLA, which mails press releases the murder. Police said they bdieve the "Fm sick of all the lesbians moving was passed last January at the request of tee removed anti-^y wording fiiom an anti-gay sodomy laws. groups to ban aD present and future state several cases of anti-gay assaults and from its Boston office. motive was robbety, and they have re into the southwest end of Canton." Sen. Jc^sse Hdrns (Jl-NQ. It caUs fbr the education bfll on Sept 22 which would Tasmanian gay activist Rodney Qtxime laws against anti-gay discrimination, de harassment Bfll Andriette ofNAMBLA denied that fused to talk with gay media. Darice Clark, The Washington Blade withholding of $118.8 million in U.S. have denied federal fimding to schools was quoted by thc Assodated Press as nies gays equal protection under the Ryszard Madetko, chairperson of his group sent die anonymous letter, but funding fbr the U.N. if any gtoups sn> which presented homosexuality in an ac sayings "For the fitst time, a pece of 1^^- U.S. Constitution. However, some gay activists believe Lambda, was himsdf reported^ thrown Canadian bookstore he did acknowledge that NAMBLA has porting pedophilia are found to be part cepting or neutral light. Instead, new larion aimed at supporting the ri^ts of The state is expected to appeal. that the men were targeted because they out ofa Krakow hotel where he was sent the U.S. Mission to the UN. press of U.N. agencies. language by gay rights supporters Rep. homosexual people has the support of "Today's decision from Colorado were ^y. Hatred against gay and lesbian staying, after discussing hcMTiosexuality challenges Customs releases asserting that "many" ILGA both parries." people in the area has been evident in the Thc U J^.'s EconcHnic and Social Coun Jolene Unsoeld (D-Wash) and Steve sends a dear signal across the nation that on a talk show. The Litde Sisters Book ^id Art Empo members stpport NAMBLA's positions. harassment of Camp Sister %)itit, a les dl ^COSOQ suspended ILGA fiom Gunderson (R-VC^s) was adopted. In April, the United Nations Human anti-gay baDot measures are not only cosdy "I was told to leave my room in 24 rium filed a lawsuit on Oct 11 to diaDenge Julie Dorf said that ILGA considers bian fdninist retreat in Ovett, Mss., near its status as a consultative roster member, The Unsodd-Gunderson version says . RigJits Commission had ruled that Tas and divisive, but against fijndamcntal hours, with no reasons gven," Madetko die rigjit of Canadian customs officials the U.S. Mission's action "outrageous," Laurel. which enabled it to be consulted on mat that schools "cannot direcdy promote mania's sodomy laws, whidi ban private American ^^lues," said Tim McFedy, ex tcdd UPL'T caD such action hidden dis to sdze imported books on grounds of because they did not g^e ILGA enoi^ VkJent harassment ofthe Camp Sister obscenity. ters relating to thc oppression of gays and or encourage sexual acrivity, whether sexual activity between consenting adult ecutive director of the Human Rights crimination, which our sodety so often time to take action to expd VSG or other Spirit women led to a request fiom the lesbians around die woikL Victor Mar- homosexual or heterosexual." men, violate the riglit to privacy under Campaign Fund. uses ag^iinst people with a homosexual Reuter Press Servke reported diat die such groups. She said that ILGA did not National Lesbian and Gay Task Force rero, die US. representative to ECOSOC, Althou^ some conservatives tried to Artide 17 ofthe International Covenant Peri Jude Radedc, executive director of orientarion," materials seized induded a biography of know VSG was a pedophfle groiqi until (NGLTF) for the Department of Justice said that he soL^t ILGA's expulsbn be remove the word "ditectiy," their efifort on Civfl and Polirical Rights. On Sqit 21, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Most PcJes are Roman CathcJic, and Nod Coward and the correspondance of US. Mission ofiSdals 6xod them an En- to intervene. TTie FBI has investigated a cause the US. has discovered another so- was defeated in a roll call and the the biD was introduced to ensure that pri said, 'Today's court ruling is a high point since the end of Communist repression, 19th centuty poecs Byron and Shdley. ^h translation ofa German publication bomb threat made to the residents, bi«: caDed pedophfle group among ILGA's Unsodd-Gunderson version passed by vate sexual conduct shall "not be sub in the risingtid e of legal victories aginst a the Church has begun its own campaign TTie VatKxxiver bookstore daims that the in which VSG calls for abolition of all mediation by the Community Rdations membership — the VSG group of voice vote. The approved version ofthe ject., to any arbitraty intereference with barrage of anti-gay attacks fix)m the Reli of repression against reproductive chok:e, seizures discriminate against gays. laws banning sex between adults and mi Service failed when the Camp's oppo Munich, Cicrmany. bfll restores control over curricula and privacy^' within the meanu^ of the UJN. gious Rigjit Thb dedsion sends a dear gay rights and other issues and people -CcJleen Marzec, The Washitigott Biade. nors. "We have a smaD staffand a tigjit Covenant Marrero urged ECOSOC to invite programs to local sdiool districts, and no bu^et," Dorf sakl 'We don't have aD longer targets ^y and lesbian students. The cpposition D"beral and National IIJG A to re-apply when it can "convinc- the resources ofthe \JS. govemment ingiy assure members" (pi^CC>SOC) The full Elementary and Secondary Parties liave agreed to abstain fiiom vot- ^lU4f "^iau^iTry ELCOME BACK PART
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6. Conrinue the investigation into So I started reading and I think one began when women who had partici by the authorities so often to restrict All women are at risk: WAVE woinen the unsolved murders of 19 women in turning point for me was when Laura pated in Take Back the Night marches women's firecdom of movement, ratiier Rochester. Davis was here a coujJe of years ago. and Intemationai Women's Day started than limiting the movements of men? 7. Encouts^ medki to rqxirt crimes She's the audior of The Gntn^ to Heal talking on the phone, and at some MP: That's why, when you're doing raise awareness about violence of violence against women with sensi (about recovery firom incest.) One point in the conversation one woman political analysis ofany issue, the first tivity and accuracy, and in a way that re statement she made was that if we just would say, "These unsolved murders question to ask is, who benefits? By Susan Jordan in thdr lives, and what women do to flects the fi?ecpency of thdr occurrance. treat the victims and send them back — what's happening here?" EC: How do heterosexual men In 1984, d^ first Rochester feminist fed safer. 8. Increase funding and acpand out into the wodd» we*re just feeding So we all gpt togetfier in Barbara benefit from violence against women? group to address issues of violence A Sept 19 press conference drew Monroe County's Prevenrive Services, die machine. We need to take polirical Moore's living room and decided to LS: Women don't talk back, don't against women disbanded. Rochester media attenrion, as WAVE presented to hdp child sexual abuse victims and acrion. form a group to keep the pubiic aware get their way, are restricted in their Women Against Violence Against their survey results and recommenda- other children fedng foster care place LS: If you want to go reaDy fer back, ofthe murders and to address some of movements. Women (RWAVAW), founded ki 1977, rions. Over half of the women who ment due to violence in die family. I'd have to say riiat I started thinking the systemic causes that set rhe stage MP: There's less comperirion for was a dtrecr actkm gnxp whidi worked completed the questionnaire said diat 9. Make self defense classes for girls about violence against women in die fi^r minimizing diis as a problem. Rather men if women are afraid to go out to to make the connections between rq?e, diey fear for their lives, 33 percent mandatory in secondary education. late 70s, when Nancy Rosin and odier than just saying, "This is terrible, but work, take night jobs, etc. battering, and woman-killing, and die were abused as children, aknost half 10. Amend the City- of Rochester's RWAVAW women gave the grovp's you expect it to happen," and public LS: Women are ried domesrically to attitudes toward women expressed in had been victimized as adults and a Policy and Program Recomendarions slide show on how advertising relates attention would die down and it would the house, and are more likdy to be male-created pornography, advertising large percentage do not fed comfort be business as usual. of die Task Force on Violence to in to pornography. This was at a Judicial there, caring for kids and parents and WAVE ntetnbers take part in a Labor Dtty Parade in 1993. and art. able going for a walk at ni^t in their dude women. ProcKS Cornitiission brown bag kttidi, One difference from business as husband. He makes more money and own neighborhoods. In 1994, a decade later, male vidence is The Empty Chset recendy spoke and I went It was a startling discus usual was that WAVE was supportive has more say in decision making. sdousness-raising groups for men about WAVE and help answer quesrions. WAVE made the following recom still the main cause that sends women with two members of WAVE, sion and a marvellous presentarion. to rdativ^es and fiiends of women who MP: Even the "nice guys" are rape. There are a lot of things men They had helped to distribute our sur and giris to hospital emergency rooms. mendadons: Marsha Peone and Lucinda Sangree. I'd already started to read about thc were killed; for instance holding a benefitting from this—they don't have could do, but widi a few exceptions, vey. 1. Pro-active enfc»rcement ofthe re- candlelight vigil. The media then be to hit their women. The women know Women Against a Violent Environment EC: How did the two of you per issues. I dedded polirical action is the they're not doing them. AlP: rd like to see our recommen oently-passod mandatoty arrest pcJkty. gan to portray these women as people they could be worse ofif than being mar (WAVE) was formed two years ago, sonally become awarc that all women way to go to address physical assaults, EC: What was the response to your dations get more press coverage. And 2. County fionding of $45,000 per with families and fives, I have to give ried to a man who is sloppy, or has when the Arthur Shawcross kfllings of are at risk, and start to see violence and degradation of women in die me press conference, and what tangible I will ask Van White ifhe can print year for the Court Advocacy for Bat die media credit for that, and I hope control issues or whatever. They could women were going on. The group's against women as more than a series dia. You can't just put bandaids on results are you hoping for? Can you and release our report the same way tered Women Program. WAVE contributed to that be married to a batterer. And men first goal was to increase public aware of "isolated inddents?" people who have been raped. really imagine Bob King increasing the 1992 report was released by die 3. Uniform implementation ofthe . The group Parents of Murdered don't confix)nt their brothers about ness and concem about the murders MP: As I started to heal from in Somehow the whole connection funding for battered women? Do you Mayor's office — the 1W2 reporr on new state law effective injune requir Children, led by Audrey Smith and violence. (^f 14 local women, who were often cest, it began to be apparent to me with the use of pom was something think school districts will really make violenc&which didn*t include violence ing law enforcement officers to serve others, was a major factor, more than dismissed as prostitutes and drug ad that this was not just a personal prob that bodiered me and I kept turning it EC: The heterosexual men's move sdf-defense dasses for girls mandatoty? against women. We also hope to meet Orders of Protection. WAVE, in changing media and public dicts who "got what they deserved." lem, rd been a feminist since the 70s over in my mind. To me it's a central ment seems to be about making men LS: An enormous amount of media with the Ciannett editorial board. 4. Obtain local domestic violence opinion. The/ve reaBy been out there, In thc last two years, WAVE's con when I began to read all the books piece of die problem that sodety is fed good, and it doesn't address men's showed up at the press conference, and a LS: Wliat we do next will be to de representatives' input when police of arid WAVE has tried to be supportive. cerns have expanded to encompass the that were beitig published then, and just getring ready to address because oppression of women or male vicJence lot of public figures. cide which recommendations to ad ficers, investigators and courtroom I^ig picmre of global violence against somehow it just started to dick. more and more women are going to There's a tendency, even among against women. MP: Police Chief Robert Warshaw, dress first, and how to do it. >X'A\Ti's personnel receive sensitivity training iind oppression of women, in addirion A lot of women do heal their per insist A serious discourse is going on families of murder victims, to sec the LS: The men's movement disr^ards 7\ssistant Chief Bob Duff}', Van VCTiite first goal was to draw atention to the for domestic violence and sexual as to dealing with the continuing local mur sonal traumas and think everything's among women now — Catherine violence as random. We in WAVE do women. from the Mayor's office. New York murders of women. The second goal sault vicrims. ders of women. The group recently pro fine. But for me it was a process of Maddnnon and anti-pom women versus not see die killing of women as random I'm tired of men asking "what am / State Rep. ?vlar\^ Ellen Jones... is to encourage thc teaching of self de 5. Uniform enforcement ofthe duced a survey, conducted by two mem- asking myself why women and chil anti-censorship women. There's a lot violence. It's part ofa continued, well- supposed to do abour it?" I've given a LS: Practically evcrv^one who was fense courses for women and girls. Fair Treatment Standards Act that al i')crs who are professors of social work dren are at risk, and why is it ignored of creative thot^it, and I hcpe it makes organized, consciouS'Or-unconscious lot of men lists of things to do, but they invited came. WcVe done fundraising to make self lows a victim of sexual assault an ad lit Sl'N\' Brockpon:, of 781 Rochester and minimized, and why are women an impact. opprcssion of women. don't do them. like interrupting jokes MP: Phyllis Kom from Aitcmatives defense classes accessible to more area women, in order to assess thc vio- vocate of their choice during criminal led to think it's our fault Which brings me to WAVE, which EC: Why do you think women are degrading to women; if they use pom, for Battered Women, Cathy Cantrell iencc rhar ordinan'women experience justice proceedings. seen as responsible for violent attacks stop using it, educate themselves and from Rape Crisis were there. on us? WTiy is the solution proposed talk to friends who use it; start con- LS: Thc\' werc there to support WAVE continued on p. 9
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EC: When I think what atritudes :^, ^^p were like 15 years ago when feminists Women will have to start seing systemic violence " •• -• •" '^'**t»*s-i?sei-w, Mandatoty self defense in tiie schods "^P* ' fe^^i^^^R were first raising die issues of rape, 'Vaa,,: ., is very sensible, like when the Red Cross decided that everyone shouki battering, sexual harassment etc., it's against us as oppression ~ and mat^ men wiU be •^5"^ i^Hp™| leam to swim so they wouldn't drown. encouraging that there's so much dis open to seeing that too. Many men aren't In the same way, the main reason cussion of these things today. ? P! g women go to emeigency rooms is male MP: But there are still more animal comfortable with racism, homophobia, etc., and 'T violence, so self defense classes would shdters than battered women's shdtets. iM ^^dHfli-'^ BBL— II J^^B» * when they start down that path they start seeing • -«»M«^«iW^-- • s ..,L„^^.;. .msa^ teach young gids how to tesist violence, EC: What will have to change if maim^^ . '""--^v ^-'^ '• HP^^'^T^ and would ako help mem lealize, "It's violence against women is to stop be things and making analysis too. not OK to hit me," which is very, ing part of mainstream culture? How -^- VERY important. will men have to chatige and how will EC: Why has violence against women women have to change.'* 1 been invisible and excluded from dis LS: Women will have to start seeing that WAVE is a mixed group of het perceived as lesbian, sometimes sim 250 Aberdeen Street cussion ofthe issue of'Violence" — systemic violence against us as oppres erosexual women and lesbian women. ply because we are female. I know 76 Dorothy Avenue as it was excluded from the Rochester sion — and many men will be open to How does that work.^ Many straight many lesbians who were victims of in Attention fii'st time home buyers! Location, location. Walk to Situated at the prestigious comer of Aberdeen Street and Mayor's 1992 report on "The Will To seeing that too. Many men aren't com feminists are taunted as lesbians in an cest and abuse. Kodak Park, shopping, with bus at comer. 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One major tactic as a class won't change but individuals diey don't care; tiiey've worked throi^h Any women interested in taking self of all oppressors is to make the op will. that long, long ago, defense classes should call the YXX'CA pressed invisible, and to make actions But we're not depending on them. EC: We liaven't talked about lesbian and get on the mailing list New classes against them invisible—acrions meant We're going ahead — raising money domestic violence, but that might be will be set up in the winter or spring. to keep the oppressed in their place. for shelters, getting women economi an issue for an all-lesbian group to You can get women in a mindset that cally independent. work on within the community. 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John Greysotfsfilm'Zjsxo'^^skxssx, was Tte Rochester Women's C>>nimunity Atmm on Aedosn^n^tfdxHin Festival crowds to see national, Chorus opened Thursday evenit^s show The film deals ttith "Patient Zero, "the air local films and videos ing, ki whkh local history was e3qA>red steward Gaetan Dt^is, tvho tuasstfposuOy tbe by A Gangof Lesbiaris in AitvrMwair^ fast to brit^lheHTVio NorthAnnrica. Greyson By James H, Mercel Leslnan Place. The life and times of the sentAefoBonirtgpoemioberaadatAescmnit^ by Tte Seconcl Annual Rochester Lesbian weH-loved Rochester wcanen's bar and Antta StrattonjCoprodstcerofZj£xol?2tJatss)o^ mmmm m « « « <^Bt> '^Bt' '^t^ ''^B^ and Gaj'Rbn and Video Fesm^ beg^n its proprietor Lou Vaccareila were re The **Akdef' r^erredtois afamonstaxadoTmst on Oct 7, at the little Theater. For e^t lated by former patrons. It was gready uijonmaHodmsierian, astdtt^hose dioramas at list life - Cisti Riei witl Mg Tiirs days, we were given the all-too-tare c^ .A.- enjoyed by a mosdy lesbian audience. tbe Mstsatm ^NtdumlHis/oryfasdna^Ae '-••^.^ November 18-28. 1994 '""StSiiO portunity to see films and videos by, (or, The vkkotape was one of several re jonrigfohn Greyson, in^mir^dx "HaEofConta- Call Now! and about us. gional tapes and films at tte festival, the gon** in the film, RIO fantasji fir EritiE Eseapists Our histories, tragedies, and fentasies results of die 'Thkd CxDast CaH forWoric, " were played out in 61ms sudi as Otte No- \\Wch recjuested submissions fixwn fikn A Poem for Queer with Jaines Deao Vicatiias ;5iw L5iwferG*s( which cletailed die work arxi video makers within a 2(X)-mile ra of fundamentalist ministries which at dius of die Grcat Lakes and St Lawrence Rochester November 19-26, 1994 (includes air from Miami) ''•" SlSiO tempt to "convert" bisexuals, gay men Seaway. Another kxal tape v^iiich was es By John Gteyson Call Now! andlesbians to heterosexuality;t//? Osanl pecially enjoyed was Joan Bcxxino's The dAmm^y French writerJeanGenet^s only Mild Ones, about the Women's Motor Howdy folks, Fm awful ^um Mtyre photos ott p IJ. Photo by CHRISIMAS AND NEW YEARS OOOOOOOO film which expk)res erotidsm in the con cycle Festival. fines of prison li^ L£sbianApen^ Eat Tomiss this screening and the fun EOettAiah^ On Saturday evening, the Rochester Fm Too, by Su Friedrich andJane t Baus, of having "Zero" unreel in this no IF III Uluuu (All prices are based on double occupatKv) Gay Men's Cterus, .fllaiA; mdZemPa- which tdls the story ofthe lesbian direct the town of Kodacdour bliss Thanks for the Festival December 19-26, 1994 (Call now for airfare) , tience closed the festival, to a sold out ^riH $8Sli action group; Out Stories of Lesbian attd By S.F. Christmas Holiday Sailing on the intinialc SeaSpirit, San Juan/San Juan - house, at die Dtyden Theater. 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She enjoyed tte advantage ofbeing history oiic^AdtJocak, tte national g^y REVIEWS American gay man's life in an honest, Gay and lesbian a journalist livirg in New York City during news magazine. Thompson details the with a cofiskkrable portion o( In Another provocative thoi^ hig^ ofrirucMialEd Nor are Picano's obsetvarions of indi- unapologetic manner. American histories this time period Ste was able to cover, magazine's humble teginnings as a Three anthologies take Part ofthe Forest, where editors Alberto essay. Important gay writers such as vktial oKiiibets m tte gpoi4> always in Wtet is perteps most curioxis about firsdiand, the AIDS epidemk:, as wdl as mimeogr^cd newsletter primted in tte Manguel and Craig Stephenson have Dennis Coc^5er and Andrc Gide are dis- sjroii witfi wkier publk: perccpticMis. At Mordden's essay is that he traces tte de By Paul Scheib te part ofthe city's large activist com basement of ABC Television's head a look at gay male diosen several stories written^by hetero rnissed as guk-ddden Catholks obsessed one pomt Pkatio wthes "aB of us in tte vdopment of the gay/aws/in America as My American History: Leslnan and Gay munity. Her commitment to women's quarters in Los Angdes to toda/s glossy sexual women and mea Tte sefections widi writing about nccro-homocrotic VkJct Qirill have an edge over (Gcoigp a veWde fi^r und^starKling gay ijW/fc^ Life in the Reagan/Bush Years by Sarah issues led her to take an active part in print format. literature in America Whimxjrc) in sheer oaft and oon^jlexity" tete showcase tcptesentatksns of g^ men longings. Mangud also asserts diat gay Depite die probJems sum^Kling hK kv Schdmaa New Yoric Routlec^ Press, brif^;ing women with HIV/AIDS into Tte histoty of die magazine becomes However, tte Whitmore excerpts a»e By Tony Tjciizzi in 20di-centuiy fictkMi. Whether aidi rep literature **has rK> fentastic stoties" since trocbcticMi, Mordden has an eye fbr firie 1994.345 pp., paper, $15.95. tte publk eye so ttet more researdi and the story because the reader sees ttet not only well crafted and meaningful, InAjwiherPart (ftheFonsa An Anthology resentations are aliped with current it is rooted in thc act of subverting the writmg. Wat/es is indisputably an out Iniil^y4i9si^raa397Z^ Sarah Schubnati, a treatments became availabk to women. k wasn't until 1975 ttet ^^AAmate but accessible and hig^y rdevant to a of Gay Short Fiction Alberto Manguel trends and needs of tte gay community comnxxifJace and tte brigus^ of op standing collection diat reflects a geo radical Jewish feminist and lesbian, re Schuknan opposed the opinions of b^an to cover stories outside ofthe wide readership. In his introduction to and Craig Stephenson, eds. New York: is ofien kss irrqxjrtant dian how g^ men pression. Does this mean that fentasy graphical distribution exterKlit^ beyorxl examines some ofthe artides and ess^ many in diegEy andleslrian community LA. area. Nferty important people were I^tKO Edian Mordden feds diat Wbit- Crown Trade, 1994. Paper, $20. are perceived through tte eyes ofg y and writers are unatJe to accon^Jish sudi a giy gtettos mto rural America. Many of she wrote for a variety of feminist and when die National Endowment fen-tte not allowed to appear in the magazine more's accomplishnients st^d as die The Vioki Qmll Reader. The Ertter^nce straight writers. Cleariy, Manguei and subversion? What does Manguel have the stories illustrate the opposition te ^y publicariotis, induding Womanews, Arts (NEA) rescinded tte grants of fejur from 1975 to 1985 if their views dif most relevant and enduring of all the of Cay Writing Af ter StottermlL David Stephenson define gay fiction in terms to say ateut the vast amount of gay sf tween homosexual and heterosexual live^ off our hacks, New York Natiue, and Gqy g^y and lesbian artists. While pec^jle in fered from those of David Gocxlstein, Vkilet Quill audiors, a groni of literary Bergman, ed. New York: St. Martin's ofits subject matter, not as an expres arxi fentasy written in the last 30 years? others examine conflicts within g^y sub Community News, during the 1980s and tte community werc outr^ed, Schulman then owner and publisher of the^4- men who rqjresent wtet Mordden sees Prcss, 1994. Qodi, $24.95. sion unique to gay authors. With tte exoq>ticn of Edmund White, cultures. Wtetever die case, all tte stories eariy 1990s. Widi each recollection, ste pointed out that this was comtnon prac cate. Intemationai issues werc not fol as the first wave of gay male writers, no writer fi^m The Violet Quill gay in Waives depict g^y men who don't just adds a very msig^tfiai commentaty, giv tice fc>rart s fundir^ Ste wrote how mi lowed until 1S>91. The issues ofthe Weaves: An Aftlhohgy ofNe w Gay Fic Overall, the selection is quite literary, Mordden constructs his essay on tte as writef's groiqj of tte early 1980s is reprc hs^^ien to te gay. Rather, they insist on ing the reader an update on the issue nority artists are pitted against one an women's ccnnmunity and tte people of tion. Ethan Mordden, ed. New York: with stories fix>mE . M. Forster, Christo sumption that gay fiction since Stone semed in In Another Part of the ForesL teing understood as gay because, to a discussed in the arride. odier for a small percentage of die money color community were not reported Vintage, 1994. Paper, $12. pher Isherwood, and James Baldwin waU tes emerged in three identifiable David Bergman's The VwkQdIIReader considerable degree, their orientation Her book begins within the women's avaibHe, instead of being given the same until 1S>9Z To the magazine's credit, it 1994 sees thc ndbise of three gay male alongside more surprising inclusions by wave^ moreover, each of these waves is showcases the works of such prominent defines U'ho diey are and how diey live movement and more specifically widiin chance as their white male counterparts. has handled the HIV/AIDS crisis vety writing anthologies that surprisingly, and Ray Bradbury, Emest Hemingway and said to teve brought gay ficrion doser figures as Andrew Holleran, Rotert Of all die anthdogies. The VwktQuill tte reproductive dioice movement. Ste Schulman's experience as a grassroots well, giving its readers much useful thankfully, do not bear repetition; in feet, William FauJkner. The emphasis is on to die actual g^y ejqjeiience m America. each volume can te tcad as a response British and American writing however, Ferro, Geotge Whitmore, and Felice -flaaaferlends itself least to an omnibus few- tells ofthe increased influence ofthe direa actk»n activist, and tte experience material to help protect and educate and/or reaction to the othcr two. The authors fi-om New Zeaknd, Australia, Picano. What makes this anthcJpgy so im Whether his theoretical fiamework is mat, since the majority ofthe material Rig^t atid how k comdded with tte dec of several women like her, is put to good themselves. criticaJ introductions to each collection, and Canada arc induded as welL XX^ile pressive is its indusion ofa considetaUe entitdy accurate or not; Motddan's com has been excerpted from larger works. tion of Ronald Reagan. Her commen use m tte Lesbian Avengers' Handbook, Long Road lo Freedom includes a moreover, establish a dialogue where tte die collection also boasts an intemationai amount of previousfy ui^3uUisted writ- ments about the purposes and aims of However, as a collection ttet wiB enaUe taries show ttet tte Rdigbus R^t was whidi fewms the concluding chapters of monthly year in review for the first 25 ideas expressed in each essay present scope, only a small percentage ofthe irigs. In additkxi to sdectioris fix>m all tte each wave arc kisi^tfuL It is therefcttc readers access taa wide range of fiction usirg die same tactics then as they arc cur tte bcx>L It is a terrific tocJ fcjr women to years ofthe mag^izine, as well as a yeariy an alternative theoretical fi-amework works were written by non-Eng^sh- b^t works of these writers prx>r to, dur- unfortunate ttet Mordden undioly dis and prose by these important authors, rent^ emf^oyirig on the queer movement use in organizing eflfectively, as seen by commentary by some ofour most in for understanding the development of ^xakii^ authors. Mar^jud and Stqrfien- mg, arid after the Violet Qidlworksteps, misses most ofthe members ofthe the book should prove valuable. In Schulman makes it very clear ttet lesbi the rise in Lesbian Avenger chapters fluential figures, such as Urvashi Vaid, contemporary gay fiction. son do manage to indude works ttet have Bergman has induded corresporKknce Videt Qtall as pretentious writers morc Aru^^erPartcfdxForeslvci^t teve fered ans werc not always wdcotned within die across the country. Torie Osbome, and Martin Duberman. interested in creating "art" instead of In a recent issue of Torso, writer and not already been over-antiiologjzed D. between Ferro and Hcdleran, a letter by better as an antiic4cgy of exdusivdy gay feminist and reproductive ctekre move Schulman's personal views sometimes Many ofthe magazine's celebrity in communicating gay experience. publisher Felice Picano offered some H. LawreiKe's '^Rt^Dcrt and Gerald" and White abcxit his parridpatk>n m and ob male writing however, its inclusions are ments, because the issues of importance color her writings so ttet ste isn't always terviews and popular culture articles striking views regarding gay literature. Evgeny Popov's *The Reservoir*' arc ex servation of tte Stonewall riots, and se To illustrate this point, Mordden of often important and stunning. In its em- to lesbians werc seen as diluting tte mes as objective as a jcjurnaiist should be; how teve been reprinted in the book too. l^canc) insisted that *Svhilc gay men and tremely vahiible pieces precisely because lections from Picano's joumai r^;arding ten unfairiy manipulates his examples, ptesis on contemporary gay America, sage of equal rigJits fe>r women or finee ever, it is a flaw diat one can overiook. Ifyou like the Adt^ocale, you will en leshians seem completely capable of writ they are so difficult to find elsewhere. his impressions of the Violet Quill. for instance, dtirig tte '^European Pres Wattes is the most widd}-^ accessiHe col dom of choice. She tdls of her own pain- LongRoad lo Freedom: Tix Advocate His- joy reading IjongRoadlo Fwsdom, How ing alx:)Ut thc lives, even the innermost The intttxlucrions to each story fijnc- Picano's journals in particular provide tige" of Edmund White's Nocturnes for lection ofthe three. fiil expulsion from liie Committee for kity (fthe Gay and Leslxan Movement ^&£A ever, I found tiie subtide misleading. emotional and sexual feelings of straight tion as more than mere biographical an interesting disjunction between in the King (fNtpks as kidicative of White's All of these anthologies attest to the Abortion Rights and Against Sterili2a- by Mark Thompson. New York; St. It should have been 'The History of men and women, I've yer to come across blurbs on the authors, as they provide a temal and external pjcrceptions ofthe disr^ard for the average gay American fact ttet gay ficrion has become an insri tion Abuse (CARASA) tecause of her Martin's Press, 1994.420 pp., dodl, $40. the Advocate." a smiii^lir writer who can write convinc- wealth of gay histories pertaining to the group's achievements, Picano shows a experience. However, Mordden con tution unto itsdf, worthy on its merits, sexuality. Lot^RoadioFreedom\&, unfortunatdy, ir^J\aIx)ut a ga\'person's life,.. 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For lo (716)884-5984. The Nov. 1 FRIDAY 11 13, Hdiday Inn Ger^see Plaza, Battered Women's shdter. 230 pm, Friends Meeting Presbyterian Church, 4 Second Tuesdays, 7:30 pm., cation call Ralph, 271-7649. SATURDAY 120 E. Main St. 546-6400. GAGVFofum. "ftydtiatry's House, 41 Westminster Rd Mdes St First and third Mon Lutheran Church of Concord, Gs^ Alcohcmcs Anotiymous Gay/Lesbian Al-Anon event is a Keening Circle with DotodiyAOison. Hallwalls Hyatt R^ency, 125 E. Main days, 7:30-9 pm, 271-6513. 485 Holmes Rd, Greece. 787- Holly Hughes in "Clit Reqx)nse to Homosexuality," LastSunday. 2340156. Qc«ed meeting. St Luke's/St First Unitarian Church, 220 S. David Buder, a ritual/perfor Ways In Being Gay Festival, SL 5:30 pm, cash bar; 6:30 women's basl^tt^all 1577. Winton Rd 7 pm. Notes." 7 and 9:30 pm, Erie witiiBiUKeDey. 7pm,GAGV I>ignity-Integriiy Simon Cyrene Church 17 S. mance at 7:30 pm; free. 2495 Main SL, Buffelo. 7 pm. $8 pm dinner; 8 pm perfor Community Center, 179 At 5 pm evety Sunday, St Luke V Monday ni^ts, 7-9 prn. Down COAP Fitzhi^ St 8:30 pm. 232-6720. Rochester Rams bar night County Central Library I^- town L'nited Presbyterian General meeting, last Tuesdays, WEDNESDAY 2 ($7 stucfents/seniors, $6 mem mance by Cicely Tyson. $75 lanric Ave. 244-8640. St Simon Cyrene Church, 17 S. Gs^ and Lesbian Educatots Third Saturday. 8 pm-2 am, bers.) fayette Square. $12 ($10 sm- ($50 dinner/performance; Rtzhu^St Every thitd Sun Church, 121 N. Fitzhu^ St 7-8 7pm, Gav Alliance Community of Ger^see Valley ^GALE) Bachdor ForurrL 470 Univer COAP card night. 7 pm. THURSDAY DEC. 1 half court, 8-9 fiJl court Call Center, 179 Atknric Ave. Call Treaty Day. Join Haudeno dents/seniors, $8 members). $25 patron reception, 9 pm.) day, potluck dinner after Mass. Fourth Thursdays, 730 pm. sity Ave. 271-6930. CaU Russ, 473-6407. Worid AIDS Day."Hold 328-9758. Ramona, 244-1640. Russ, 473-6407. Chnega coffeehouse saunee (Iroquois) people in cd Part of HaUwaUs Ways In Be CaU Pam Wehle, 232-7353. For location call 244-8640, leave THURSDAY 3 Back tiie Ni^t" canddi^waUc Open Anns Metropcditan Corpus Christi Gay/Lesbian BassicalKr TteUemakets message. First ^turday^ Sept-June. 8-11 ebrating tiie200t h anniversaiy of ing Gay Festival. Ministry Concert/marching^ band re Lynn Lavner. C^omedian/ Squaie danoe. ^xxisored by fir«n Eastman House to Libert>/ Community Chuff^ ACT-tJP/Rochester pm. GAGV Community Cen die 1794 PickeringTrcaty. 230 SUNDAY 13 Fourth Mondays, 7:30 pm, Cor- hearsals every Tue^y, 7 pm., cer, 179 Atlandc Ave. Cafi Sandy singer, 8 pm, Towc^ Fine Arts, Opoi AmB MCC 8-lft30pm, Pole, 8 pm. Sponsored by HPA, 875 E. Main St (Prince St en First and third Thursdays, 7:30 pm parade fdbwod by cer COAP. Stained ^ass. 6 pm. Westminster Presbyterian trance of Auditorium Center.) mis Christi Rectory, 80 PrirKe St Rochester Qty Sdiool Hlz mu prn^ Grace Presbyterian 235-9336. SUNYBnDcIqx»rt. $1.395-5269. RATFA Free tran^xxtation Open to alL 325-2424. sic department, 999 Soudi Ave. emony at Treaty Rock in front of Call Tom, 475-4896. Church, 330 WeUington Ave. 10-30 am. 271-8478. Church, 221 Maltby, offLydl Sexual Con^Hikives Anor^- FRIDAY 4 fromLiberty Pde. 442-2220. Rochester Bisexual Bereavement stqsport the ccwrthouse in Canandaigua. 24di Annual Mr/Miss Gay $5 indiMJes refreshments. near Mt Read, mous Poor Siqjer Man. A nev^^ ffey Exnpty Cioset mailing Women's Networit Second and fourth Mondays, 4- WEDNESDAY Noon. Write SCA, PO Box En^ty Bo\^4s benefit sale. Rochester Pageant 7:30 pm, 530 pn, AIDS Rochester, 1350 Rochester Fteedom Singets by Brad Fraser, Thcatrcloft, Frottage. Six "nasty films party. Bulk mailing and dis> Meeting and pothidc si^^^er. Rochester Womerfs Com Mixed chorus. Rdiearsals/pm. 18458, Rochester NY 14618. 545 lilmwood 7\vc., Buffalo., Hosted by Genesee Pottery at Harro East. $10 advance; $15 by ruce people," curated by 6:30 pm, second Sunday. Gay University Ave. Free. 442-2220. munity ChcMus LBac Rainbow ABiance for triburion of Dec/Jan. issue. 7 Rochester Historkal Bovd- Downtown United Prcsbyte 8 pm. Runs Fridays and Sat ViKage Gate Square, 274 N. at door. Tickets available at Laura Marks. 8 pm. Pyramid Alliance Community Colter, 179 Rdiearsals, every Wednesday, rian Church, 121N. Fitzhi:^ St theDeaf pm, upstairs at Gay Alliance Atlantic Ave. Caffl 436-7409. iiiffSodety urdays through Nov. 19. Pre Goodman St Reception 8-11 ClubMarcella, Tara. Arts Ccnt3er, 274 Goodman MCC Ch^jl, 8975 R Z^lain St. Metcy ^nritual CQfT4>anlon Second Saturdays, 7 pm. Gay Community Center, 179 At Gay Men's Alcoholics 7:15 pm Mondays, Qover 6:30-830^. 473-7365. Pn^iram AHiance, 179 Aoanric Ave sented by BufiEaJo United Art pm, featuring stofyt3eBer Almeta TUESDAY 15 SL, ViUage Gate Square. $5, lantic Ave. 244-9030. Lanes, 2750 Monroe Ave. 251- G^ ADtsffice of the Genesee Evening of reflecrion for those Write PO Box 20093, Roches ists. $14 ($12 seniors, $10 sm Whitis. Sale continues Nov. 12- Empty Closet deadline. $3 students. 2175. FRIDAY DEC. 2 St Luke's/St Simon Cyrene Vafl^ board c^ditectors impacted bv HIV/AIDS. 7-9 ter NY 14618. dents.) Call 1-832-7320. 13; to benefit Genesee VaUey Artides, classified ads, letters MONDAY 21 Churdi, 17 S. Fit2huA St 830 Meedng. second Wednesdays, 7 For Wonien Onfy Cosfifee- Seneca County AIDS pm. Call 671-6070 or 473-6893. Dyke TV. I^rescntarions and Food Bank. to editor, non-camera-readv Ennpty Qoset deadline. pm, 232-6720. TUESDAY wn, 179Adanac Ave. 244-8640. Women's baskedlsall house TadcFocGc regionai oonfer Gsry Akohcdics Anonynious Last Saturdays, 9pm, Sice of sdections from die New York- AIDS Mastery wodcshc^, ads. 244-9030. Photographs, camera-ready G^jLesbiarx, Bisexual and Rochester Gs^ Men's Choms Thursday niriit, 7-9 pari. Down ence. HIV/AIDS in tiieWoric - Friends Associaiion Downtown United Ptesbycaian 7pni, Unitarian Church, 220 Cown Uniced Prcsbyterian Life Cafe, 742 South Ave. 461- produced lesbian TV show. Nov. 11-13, The AIDS Center, COAP dart night. 8 pm, ads (ad space must be re place. For information caU JiU (GLBFA) Churdi, 121 N. Fitzhueh St AXTintonRd Qiutdi, 121 N. Fitzhugh St 7-8 9058. 7:30 pm, free. HaUwalls, 2495 Strong Memorial Hospital. CaU Tom, 475-4896. Positive^ Sober served by this date fbr the Gonzalez, (315)781-6303 or U. ofRodiester. Sundays, 6:30 7-930 pm. 423^50. lialf court, 8-9 fun comt CaH Ctossdressets Netwoik Main St., Buffalo. Helen Wood HaU, 255 Crit WEDNESDAY 16 pm, Morey 524 275-9379. SexuaTCompulsives Anon. AA group, dosed meetines. Ramona, 244-1640. Suj^xjrt/sodal grot^ for Dec./]an. issue.) 244-9030. Tina Burger, (315) 568-9869. SATURDAY 5 tenden Blvd.$100 (some sdicJ- Dyke TV. Selections from TUESDAY 22 RoOKster Rangers For those desiring^ thdr own Aire Rochester, 1350 USver- crossdressers, transgendered SATURDAY DEC. 3 monthfy business meeting first personal sexual sobriety. 730-9 sityAve. Evety Wednesday, peorib Second Fridays, fouirth Lea DeLaria, 8 pm. Mar arships avaihUe). Call 275-3310. the N.Y.C. lesbian-produced People Living with HIV. FRIDAY Chamdcah. N^imoddxatEs Sund^^ 4 pm, Badidor Rwum, pm. Write SCA, PO Box noontolran. Satmdays. 251-2132 quee at thc Tralf, 100 Theater SATURDAY 12 TV show, presented by The Porttaits by Annie Leibovitz. FingerLakes Gs^-Lesbian tiiejcwidi Feast ofL^tswiri i a 670 Univereity Ave. 251-2122 18458, Rochester NY 14618. Bisexual G£^ LeaMan Unkm Sociai Gtoup Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Place, Buffalo. Tickets $13 in COAP at Mama Tac- Word Is Out 730 pn, GAGV ExhiHtion runs througji Jan. Youtfa Gfoi^ Gay Alcoholics Anofwmous Motiroe Cornrnuriity Colfcge. People in die Heahh Sciences party at a private home. CaU First Fridays and thiid Tuesdays. advance, $15 at door. Tickets cone*s. 7 pm. CaU James, Community Center, 179 At 15,1995. Geotge Eastman Ages 14-21. First and thitd Sun- 8 pm, Genesee Hospital, 244 Every Wednesday at noon. Sixth Saturtkys. Dinner/meet- 461-3386. Can Qt 5)536-7753 and ask for ir^. Can Stev^ 271-8719. available atTkketmastcr; Mar 352-1031. lantic Ave.. House, North GaUery. d^ 2-5 pm. Gay Alliance, 179 Alexander St Room 6-313,292-2000. Sam Edwards, or wrice PO Box Aflmric Ave. 251-9604. FinS* The Lesbian Cormecdbn 941, Geneva NY 14456.. Fconmmnets Professional sodalgtxp, second First Wednesdays, 7 pm. Fineer Ctossdtessers Networic Runs/walks Genesee Valley Tuesdays, 530-7:20 pm, cash Inakes area. (716)289-3197. Support/social g?T>up for Paric, 930 am. 554-5338. Gay AUiance of the Genesee Valley CLUB MAHARA Confidential Membeiship Registiation Fonn 10 - 12 S Washington St. The Gay Alliance Community Center Forum Presents.. Name Presents Frottage-~Montage--Bricolage Address a fHm series about sex, travel, and postmodernism at Pyramid Arts Center City State Zip HAPPY HOUR PA R K F» U A O Psychiatry's Response Home phone Business phone FRIDAYS 5-7 BELD & BREAKF'AST Frottage Saturday, November 19 8 p.m. Type of Membership (please check one) New • Renewal • Nasty Qlms by nice people. Ronnie by Curt McDowell • Elegant To Homosexuality GL.EN G. UEHUEIN Spanking by Maria Beatty and Fk>8ernary Delain Q Individual $25 armually Q Student $20 armually HOT & COLD Why 1 Stopped Qoing to Foreign Hime by Steve <^f^ • Household $40 annually QI contribute through the United Reinke- Toe Scoree by Ming: Y uen S. Ma* Sax >> Mjr BiU KsH«y,CSW.CAC wHi giw an informativ* and APPETIZERS 1 1 32 PARK AVENUE BaU by ET Baby Maniac. •ngagbig prasentation on how tha paychlatric Q Contributing $50 armually Way RocHESTCR, MEW YORK DRINK SPECIALS profasaion haa daalt with homoaaxuality • Patron $100 armually • Business $75 armually ovar ttw past half eantury. • Benefactor $250 armually • Organization $50 armually Montage Thursday. December 6 6 p.m. Q Lifetime $500 @ Monday, Noveinber 28 at 7 PM 7ie.256.33a» Valentine's Day by Mike Hoolboom. From the maker of • Enclosed is a check payable to "GAGV" or "The Alliance." Send FAX 716.256.2693 Frank's Cock, a love story about AIDS and war. A at the GAGV Community Center to GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave., Rochester NY 14607-1255 lesbian couple's life is interrupted when Babz leams she is 179 Atlantic Avenue • Please charge my • VISA or • MASTERCARD account HIV+. With Drowning In Ftantee by Garin6 Toroestan. BriCOlage Thursday. 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RSRMEMRER OF THE PRIVATE PARTIES WELCCAIE DIM To Tbe BeMtHui IMiisic OV OnsakM & Jmxz PiMist Dcbb Van Wyk. UNITRRIRN UNIUERSRIIST RSSOCIRTION, 16 Gardiner Park. Rochester, NY 14607 262-2089 ^5^ COVENRNn TO OFF IRM RNO PROMOTE Open Ibes. - Sat. 10-4 Starling in Octobs". every Tuaadeg Cvoiing From TNE INHERENT UfORTN ONO OIONITV ee 7pin. unti lOpml OF EHERV PERSON. i^,'. ,.-*«>MFWMPHfl«***(*-. 1 Mmmtx^n ^»MI»K.— Novembet 1994 Tbe Empty Close/ 19 18 TAr E«^/y C/oj*/ November 1994 COLUMNISTS Weekends my modier and I went CO see that I wodd succeed in keeping hap TTiis year, more of the board was in in the community and sometimes throi^ Italian. Boy, Irish, tou^vgty. Most of tis had the best color schemes: copper and there?), carpeted offices, ako ofFKmits, Roy Rogers movies or MGM musicals. piness. volved than last year. I must say that I had an organization that is si4?portive ofour wide window seats with worn velvet were Protestant; tfie cfistinctions within gteen, silver and Uack) and m^ m do My modier toved Danny Kaye. I loved Over the years I've thought about Mr. litde idea ofthe amount of efifort that is efforts. This new fund wodd put the GROWING LP cushions and a hugp kitchen with im that rd^]k)n wete important I was Luth sit-ups and jumping jacks, and cooked Judy Garland. We both liked Gene Carbone. I ached to tell him I had not entailed in produdr^ an event of this mag Alliance in a fixmt line position to offer mense pots arxl kett^ hang^ above a eran. Ihat was dififerent (and, I thoi^t, hots cfags fi^r lundL The next summer Kelly. I told Dominick Carbone yes. complained about him, thou^ 1 am sure nitude. My hat is off to the co-producers, assistanoe to those in emergency situations. BY stove the length and widtfi ofmy bed. better) tfian Bq>tist becatise the Bs^rist thc man counsdor was Mr. Carbone. Ftiday n^t Mr. Catbone came to die he believed something I sakl or dki tr^- ccttTimittee chairs and members and all If you can partidpate, and are willing TTie peofJe who worked at die Nursery duirdi we passed was smaH and i^, and Mr. Carbone was a sdiodteadier. We ERIC BELLMANN house in his car. We went to see a west- gered events. I wantsed him to know I had the volunteers who worked so hard to to, please send any donations to the were surrogate parents, adults AXAIO set our diuidi had waDs inskle hand-pointed caBed him by his first name, Dominki- em with Gregory Peck. I didn't like it always liked him. From the vantage pdnt see the total event come off so smoothly. GAGV and mark them for die EMER rules, inflicted pur^ishments, offered en with folk designs. Of Catholks, we said Qeady, he was Italian; probably, he was He bought us pqxora I don't remem of today, I suspect he saw a londy Jdd Can't wait to see what you are going to GENCY FUND. I assure you that these Mfa Carbone couragement One wonderful, batty rx>tfur^ convcrsatjons witfi them were CadioHc. Certainly, he was the man I ber that we talked much. and wanted to be kind. He had no rea do next year! funds will not be used for any purpose wonian*s nrxxk of si^jervision was to pby lunacy: no meat on Friday, Novenas, had been waiting fbr. Tlie kids next ckxM" had a mother and a Monday moming I sat idly in the large son to conskler the mean-spirited fierce CAN YOU LEND A HELPING other than the Emergency Fund. diow tunes so fiercely on an i^)ri^t fri- Hail Marys—the same as Voodoo. What The previous sdult males in my life had father. Kids in Sunday school had two dining rcx>m at die Nursery; I was wait that was my mother. Or dkl he have fed HAND! ano as to stun her charges into a hypnotic we had in common was our status as been tfie sdiod princqial, of whMn I was POUCIES BEING DEBATED parents. I was aware, in our neighbor ing for Dominick to pass through. He ings for me, and was my peculiar patent stupor. children of single parents. afiaki the sdxxJ gym teadier,'v;rfio was A few mondis ago, the board was asked In the past coiq:Jc of months two is hood, of spinsters and unmarried men. A walked into the room, and as he passed insrincrively trying to protect her son.'' to help out a young gay man who had sues have been getting a good deal of We loved her playing and b(^ged fijr From time to time some of us wodd thkk-bodied, ted-feoed and fcjud, and the blind lady, "Miss Anna," lived across me I codd see his eyes narrow arid that No one will ever know. been expdied fiom his home after com publidty within the E/^^ Chsel as wcD more, and as a reward she allowed us to be corralled for a photograph with a ditttch minister, \^^ was creepy, always from our backyard, and next door was his fece was pale, and he said, "You two- ing out to his parents. While diis is not a as in the community and also through sing along to "Now Is the Hour" and ootple of men wearir^ odd hats, maroon smiling. I didn't trust him. Mr. Carbcttie "Mr, Vincent," who spent hours work bit chisler." I dkin't know what the words rare occurrence, it is the first time since I Mdtkom. One issue is si^ipon: and non- "Beautiful Dreamer." If no one was pay fiiTinels with tassds. The picture wodd was dififerent He was younger. Hewxtfe FROM THE ing in his garden. **Miss Anna" and **Mr. meant I had no earthly idea what a "two- have been on the Alliance board that we svq^port for tbe efforts of die man-boy ing attenrion, we raced throi^ hallways, show up in the newspaper a few days white t-shirts, and cuds ofUack hair poked Vincent" were part of large extended bit chisler" was! 1 sat stunned. He walked BOARD have been asked to contribute to an indi otg^nizatioris. The NatKHial Gay and Les fJayinghide and seek in rKx>ks arxl cran later. One time the film star Rhonda out at die neck Today when I reflect back families. In the '50s, a single mom was out the door. I never saw him again. vidual on an emergency basis. This par bian Task Force, as v/dl as othcr national nies, large dosets and a^boards. Lots of Heming visited Rodiester on a publidty on tfiis point in my 1&, I can't imagine not as common as today. I was the only The detective work was retroactive. ticular issue seems ro have rcsoK'ed itself, organizations hav^e passed resolutions times we were left to cdor with crayotis, tour and donated a doll to the Nurs that I actually tittered spedfic details BY LLOYD GRAY one in the neighborhood with just one Years later I tdd my sister about die inci but it did indeed point out the fea that condemning the efforts directed at and I can remember being praised for ery. Again a photographer appeared. about Mr. Carbone as sexual Nonethe parent. dent She told me oui- mother had been the Alliance doesn't have a process in mainstreaming man-bo\' relarionships. staying inside the printed books' lines Everyone wanted to be in the picture less, I quickly grew obsessed with him; SECOND ANNUAL FILM Since there was no one at home at enraged by Mr. Carbone's attentions place to he^ in such circumstances, nor The othcr issue is the use ofthe parks and fillingi n colots wirfi even strokes aO with die beautifid movie star. Bonnie was wiririing his approval becarrie pacarnount FESTIVAL noon and because my mother worked to mc and had gone to thc director of indeed any fiands ear-marked for this for sexual activities and some rcfxirted in the same direcrion. There was alarge, picked, no doubt because of her beau He was my first crush. Again die volunteers, board and staff past the end ofthe school day, I went to the Nursery to complain. purpose. harassment of ga^'s using the parks. It paved asphalt playground, arxl in good tifd kx^ goklen braids. We wete rotten Mr, Carbone took me to a baseball of the /Mliance have come together to a day care program housed in a large At the time, I knew I had lost some At this month's board meeting, a wodd be easier to tr\' to ignore die flap weadier wc played there, sliding head to Bonnie for the rest of that week. ^me. I can't remember how it was ar bring another successfd gay and lesbian rambling building on Exchange Street thing that was important to me. 1 did not proposal was made to institute an cTncr- over these issues, but as wc gain morc first down an old metal slide, hanging up The sdiool year ended injune, but my ranged or why. I didn't understand the event to thc Rochester aiex For me, and near the old main Police Starion. The know what the reasons were. I believed it gcnc)' fund to he^ ga}^ and lesbians in acceptance in thc general community' side down on a jun^e gjm and soaring niother worked all year. There were about game and wouldn't ask questions; it I'm sure for all the odiers, it was heart childrcn, ages scattered fix)m five to 12, was my fedt 1 never spc^ke ofmy fed emetgenc\' drcumstances, VCe will con and participate more fdly in thc larger on ancient, creaking swings. 15 children with no place to be, and so seemed somewhat boring. I liked the warming to sec the amount of support walked to the nearest public elementary ings with anyone. Years later I bc^an to commi,init)', we arc being asked ques the Nursery devised a summer camp. bleachers. I liked not playing in die ne^i- that this event can muster, not orily in the tinue to discuss thc procedure, but we school, Nathaniel Rochester School We chiklren were fiiends who never piece together the jigsaw puzzle pieces tions about these issues, among others. The wild piano player and a newly hired borhood for the evening. We stood in gay communit^^ but also in the non-gay wodd like to ask for donations fiDm thc Number Three, which was nowhere saw one another outside day care. Sand/s of jealousy and deceit I grew to hate my comniunity that wodd be car-marked /\s an otganization, wc get invited to near thc neighborhood where 1 lived. father had died in the war. Most ofus man wodd go with the kids, along with line for hot dogs. I was hs^y being with mother — not for this incident alone. communit)'. For those who may not be bats and balls and hampers of food, to a Dominick I'd study him out ofthe cor aware, there is no sexual orientarion re for diis purpose only. The board wodd partidpate in communit}' alfeirs and thc I went to thc Rochester Children's didn't talk about the parent—always the It was but one in a succession. local park To our delist, the most e:^- ner ofmy eye. 1 lik^ looking at his neck quirement for anyone interested in par adrninistcr the fund if the communit}' name ofthe GAGV is included in dis- Nursery' my entire dementary school lifc. father—who was absent There was an The incident was, an indicator of things ditious form of transportation was taxL and the stubble on his chin when he skip ticipating. And indeed, there were many is willing and able to finance it. cussk)ns about dty matters. As a respon Thc btiilding was tnag^cab it had the fed Italian girl, Geraldine D'Amico, and an to follow. The inevitability of loss. The Eadi moming we Ic^ed gear and fbod ped shaving for a day, and his hands. non-gays as volunteers and in the au We hear stories often about how a par sible member of die community, we need ing ofa mansion. There werc rooms one Irish boy, a rx^-headod rougjineck, Roger. failure of hope. The sense of loss and into car trunks and piled inside three cabs diences at the Litde Theatre and at thc ticular gay man or lesbian was helped be to wresde with thc toi^i issues that fece was never permitted to visit on the hi^- Of course, we were /\merican, but ethnic In August, at the end of camp, Mr. longing that accompanies it opened the and headed to Durand Eastman Park. Dryden. Thanks to one and all for the cause someone else was willing to step us, and I bdieve come to be pro-active in est floor (reached by a wide curving stair heritage, the differences that restricted Carbone asked me if I wantjod to go to door to deep tondiness and hunger diat The first summer our counsdor was a hard woric, enthusiasm and er^oyment forward to help. Sometimes, it was stating our positions. case with dc^antly carved spindles.) Of familiarity in my neighborhood, seemed the movies. I loved going to the movies. plagued me unending. N ever again did beefy man named Hany, \x^io tau^t us you brought ro us all. throu^i the ADiance, sometimes dirot^ I bring this up, knowir^ thar therc arc course wc snuck upstairs, ciify to find a an essentiaipart ofhow we came to Sometimes we went from the Nursery I expect with any degree of conviction how to make boondog^e lanyards (I one ofthe gay/lesbian organizarions strong feelings about both issues — fully fiomished apartment (who Uved terms virith one another. Catholic, girl. to cartoon shows downtown at Loews. INSIGHT ASTROLOGY FRUSTRATED ABOUT YOUR CAREER? CANT EVEN THINK STRAIGHT? Intuitive Counseling for emotionaUspiritual and physical tvell being. DON'T PANIC! Flower essence remedies Join what Entrepreneur Magazine calls the hottest business phenomenon ofthe *90*s. 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I also have strong feelingsabou t ofthe Genesee Valley has had difficdty there is an entire morality around' ^being both issues. The board is going to dis adequately serving Deaf and hard of hear SELF safe or unsafe." Unprotected sex and de- portance when we're talking about fed die fess, sdf-destructive depressxm, in lnhexhcxk,PermattentParttters:BtdUng ercises tfiat you can try. Although they cuss these tcpics and hopefdiy come to a ing gays, lesbians and bisexuals, a groi^? sites forunprotecte d sex have become BY THOMAS FRONCZAK, itigs around intimacy, sexuSty, homo jured sdf-estEcm, gdh, gtk5^ anxiety, arxl G^Reladtrndt^ that Last,^cXty^Qexzcxi may seem corny at first, often the results consensus for the Alliance position. If that comprises a si2able portion ofour taboo to talk about Due to die moral is ASCW,CAC phobia, I^IV, unprocectBd sex, and death intimacy issues, father than just give a indudes a chapter entitled, "In Praise of tryit^ them can be qdte wonderful you wodd like to ha ve your voke heard, community. This has b^n in part due to sues and the unaddressed complex When we are split off or isolated from simple bdiavior modificatkin message. If of Our Parmers." Fbr exsuTipfe she suggests:'"Write a^ and haven't akcady, pkiee talk to a board a lack of resoiirces and, adniittedly, at psychdbgical issues and fedings around Unsafe sex in 1994? our fedings, we are isolated from our we do not address these issues, we simply In this chapter she discusses the im for your partner filing the worid what member or call me and let me know. times, ignorance. But fortunately this ur^jtotected sex, many g^y men ate bdng Let's fece it, the g^y ccMTununity knows selves artd therefote from rdatk>ns^ps play into die denial of diem, no diflfer- portance of n^;uiatiy affirmit^ our part she/he bw to offer as partner/kwcr/ I have seen comments on Mdticom situarion is changing. k^ in the doset r^rdir^ ut^MOtected a lot about AIDS. Lesbians and ^y men I with others. Widi g^ men I see thete is a endy dian die men we arc trying to he^. ners througji compliments and praise. companion. Emphasize what you par that say the Alliance is afraid to discuss In the past several months a number sex. were the pioneers in eariy education of commcHialityof cj^jerience ofkxidincss, We can no longer aflfotd to ^lore the Dr. Berzon writes: "Howneg^^ent we ticulariy value, ^)preciate, cherish, re- the tough issues. Believe me, they are of programs have become newly acces As I have said before, that which we our community. And while many know isolation from others, and a httgttg for complex individual feelings that play a can be ki wtdihokb^ praise ftom those qiect and er^c^. Tty to say some things wrong. sible to the Deaf and hard of hearing. resist WUL PERSIST. HIV has diai^ a lot about safer sex, many often find that intimacy. Itis my bdief that to fed wodd tofe in human sexuality. You are a sexual we love. We know how good it feels you've never said before." 9ie also si^- The GaySource Info-line has a woridr^ our lives. We will never be die same ^er GAGV BOARD PARTICIPA ifs hard to pracrice it 100 percent ofthe be so painfd for so many men diat diey bebig whedier you are HIV posirive or \i*ien we are tdd that we kx)k nke or we gests that old staple of romance, the TTY and the Peer Facilitators staffing this epidemic. Posirive men's lives are TION time. jnot only deny their feelings, but those unir&cted You have a reqionsibiHty for dkl a good job or we are just so ador mushy love poem. the line were recendy trained by Eddie charged widi die awareness of serostatus, The elecrion for board members is not Unprotected sex is in feet commor^Jace lof others, who codd reawaken their your sexual sdf and and diat of odios. able. If it feds good to us, \t must fed When Tom and I had only been to Swayze of die Deaf community (thanks, the antjqpation of illness and ofteri the until next spring. You may want to con among gay men, and unless it can be lown painfd feelings. Hence, we have HIV has taugjit us all to be creative in good to them. So why dxi't we give our gether a fewmonth s I was feefing senti Eddie) on TTY usage. alteration of values and beliefs- Negative sider being on the ballot or "encour talked about rather than merely prohib ien relating on superficial levels with our expressions ofour sexual sdves in parmers this gift of praise more often? mental and mushy one evenir^. I made men kad lives diat ejqjress die fear diat aging" someone in your cirde or orga Both the women's and men's fell ses ited, there will be no of^xirtunity for ex- ich other and dying of londiness. ways that are in cdebration and owner Do we forget that they need iti^' lp a litde *1xx>k" enrided, "I toveTo m sions of Breakir^ the Ice, a st^^iort grtxp somehow they may be infected in the nization to be on the ballot. However, ainiriatk>n of the virxfa^mg fe^r^ that Witii HIV/AIDS, feelir^ of grief, ship, rather than sdf-destmctive. My The answer to this question is prob Knieger Because-." The book was a list for individuals newly coming out, and the future. The issues diat arise as a resdt of diere are vacancks now on the board and fJay into it, and dierefore no op^xirtunity ssion, anxietyjguilt, shame and fear hope is diat gay men dcMi't continue to aUy yes. It's easy to focus on the negjitive of reasons with a litde drawing foreac h November Community Center Forum HIV are complex and higjily-chatged we do appoint new members for titlere to make helpfiJ changes. In a 1992 study, : a natural response to sudi continued deny and sippress their fedings in sudi a even if it's in the form of looking con- one.It was such a hit that periodically entided "Coming Out A lifelong Pro emotionally. Safer sex education alone mainder ofthe board >'ear (until May 95). about one-third of gay men self-reported and mdtpfe kiss. The problem is way that we no Icffiger know ourselves. structivefy at problem areas we'd Kke to over the years I've written "sequeb." I cess" had interpreters for the Deaf and will not address these issues. We are always on the look-out for the pracrice of unprotected anal sex. IOT these fedings, but the destructive When we are in rdation with oursdves, work on. But keq> in mind that one of find that die longer we're tc^ether, the hard of hearing participants. And the It is neoessary to understand how the people willing to ^e of themsdves for (And what we know about self-repxjrt " ofdenykig and si^spressing these only then can we fbrm rdationshps with the most inportant things we can do for more I have to say. And the benefit of GAGVs Film and Video Festival was devek^sment of gay men plays into this; thc community. The time involved de and questionir^ issues of sexuality sv^ JS. It is also common that die fed- others that are intimate, loving, and eadi other is to nurture and affirm one producing somethir^ tangitde is diat it completely accessible dianks to the hard namdy, throi^ si^^itcssion of fedings, pends on the individual — it can be a lot gests that the numbers may be even , evoked rdating to HIV/AIDS tt%- mutually safer sexually. another. This is one of die biggest re can be enjoyed ag^ and i^ain—espe work ofthe dirce indKiduals v^o com violations to sdf-esteern, and anxiety. or mtxlerate. Ifyou wodd be interested, higher.) odier devdofHuental fedings of loss, linvik readers to send in letters about difft- wards we can reap from our parmer- dally during low tinKS when a litde'W' prised the accessibility committee. TTiis Men in general and gay men specifically please give us a call. Ifyou wodd like The community is af^^ropriatdy con ion, sdf-hate, homophobia, anxi culty maintaining se^ersexpratiices (frqttes- ships. No one has more potential to is needed. more information, also caD. The rewards was the firstga y and lesbian festival in the fused about condom use with oral sex have leamed to split off feelings from ety, etc. Hons about neg>tiating strfer sex practices, to affect the way our parmers fed about As lesbkm/^ people we gpt so mudi for being part of thc Alliance Board arc country tiiat was completdy accessibfe to and about swallowing semen f *Won't their consdous experience. To "fed" as a Defidcs in sdf-esteem are more com he addressed in Jurther columtts (you need not themselves than us. negative feedback that maintaining good generous — talk to any board member. thc Deaf community. stomach acid kill the virus?" '"The Ca young ^y man would have been costly. ings men than the pc^xilation at indttdejottr name). So take a few minutes to reflect on sdf esteem is difficdt Let's make our Ifyou don't know anyone on the board, nadian govemment says it's ol^y to have To show any sensitivity or vulnerability The Gay Alliance looks forward to con irge, and this is, as you can imagine, Thomas Fronc^k, ACSW, CAC, is a your partner's qualities. What do you love partnerships a source of affirmarion. call us and the peer facilitators can put unprotected oral sex, so why does the as a j^xing boy was to be called "sissy," tinuing to provide services and programs om painfd consequences of treatment NYS licensed social worker in the fields of about her/him? What makes him/her vou in touch. CDC recommend condom iise?") The "feggpt," or "queer." "Act like a man." that are accessible to Deaf and hard of le receives growing vp in a world that addiction medicine, recovery, sextiality con predous to yod* What does she/he do practice of safer sex is simple finm a cog "Boys don't cry." And the first time hearing individuals. Increased revenue Iocs not always siqport an emerging gay cems, and Hn^ infection. He can be con wdP What does he/she give you that no IN YOUR STARS nitive perspective fTJse a condom every some man on TV cat^t your atKnrion, generated by membership fees and die ' ' f. There are few trie modds, mdtifde tacted through his private practice with Spruce one else can? Youll find that taking a CENTER NEWS time'^, but what is missed by most cur you dared not g^sp as your brother did nevrfy formed Montoe County Associa mons, and often a withdrawal from Assodates at 272-7210. few minutes to ponder these quesrions rent educational efforts is that the issues over Farrah Fawcett. BY LAURIE TWIUGHT tion for Hearing Impaired People, a pro xrs, and hence lack of opportunities will make you rediscover the special neat which drive unsafe sexual behaviors are BY TANYA SMOLINSKY gram ofthe Health Associarion which All these messagesplay into a strong for devdopment of social slolls. Anxiety IN RELATION qualitks that first attracted you to your mosdy conscious or unconscious fed provides reasonably priced interpreter DONT FEEL rde for many men relation to all the above is also preva- SHIP parmer. But youTl also recognize how November horoscope services, will make this possible. ings and thoughts complex in nature. Serving Deaf gays growing up. When was it ever okay to it With this anxiety can come impd- time has deepened your fedings bej^ond ARIES: March 21 - April 20 In the HIV/AIDS era, safer sex has feel your feelings? This is of huge im- jve unsafe sexual behaviors. 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Children may have more ganizing- Bring in the new year by let can still enjoy your newfound drde of COMING or dioughts ran throi^ my mind. I AIDS DIRECTORY ». r may regret it Otherwise you are in your sig?iificance now than ever before. The ting go of the old. Qeaning house will fiiends and stimulating new ideas. AGI even drove home at 120 miles per Frte testin^or HIV exposure is available from New York State Depart (Ament—thc fiist lane. December be- fijflmoonandedipseonNov. ITleave help dear your mind for future expan Travel may pique youf interest toward hour so that I codd let Mike in on ment of Health: call Rochester Area Regional Hotline at (716)423-8081, or ^ns to cod down a bit with the fbcus on you espedally charged with emorions sion in '95. the end of d^ year. Perhaps you codd the "good news." His mind thought BY MICHAEL BAXTER, AGE 1-800-962-5063 for pay phones or calls outside Rochester. Deaf or hearing career by mid-month. Setde on a goal and deepen your expressive nature. SCX>RPIO: Octot>er 22 - NovenK organize a reunion of fiierids or femify. gleefdly sinister thoughts also. impaired people shodd call (716)423-8120 (TDD.) Statewide information for the foture. Make plans for thc year Show your feelings. ber 22 AQUARIUS: Januaty 20 - Febru 17 I continued the process of coming can be obtained by calling 1-800-541-AIDS. Other organizations which pro ahead With enoi^ direction your goals LEO: July 23 - August 22 Those bom after Nov. 11 are expe aty 18 out at work. It pwogressed similarly vide i\IDS-reiated services are as foUows: can become reality in '95. Mars, rfie feisty planet of assertiveness, riencing a great opening. It's as if your Work continues to oflfer diallenges as to my coming out in school, Queerman's lesson y\IDSRochester, Inc,^ 1350 Universit}'Ave., provides education, referrals TAURUS: April 21 - May 20 blazes throt^ your sign until DeclZ ver^r sod is expanctog r^t now. Any well as growth opportunities. You are Thc only person at work thar 1 It's surprising what we icam about to appropnare service agencies, client and familv sen'ices, advocacv' for Rdationsh^ get more intense as thc For the qdet type of Leo (or cowardly thing you start presendy codd be ex ej^jandingg^eatiy in your personal power hadn\ told that I was gay was Mark. ourselves in such a short rime. In thc people facing f II\'-linked discrimination, and orher services, including finan- M progresses. Either they are deepening lion), you are now charged up and ready tremely favorable to your future. You because ofyour work. Others see you I figured, what the hell, iVIcDonalds months after my coming our, 1 prided ciiii assistance aiid a public education speaker bureau. (716)442-2220 X'/TI^D and hdping you grow, or they are ready to take acrion. Go afier vAut you want are in die last phase ofa 12-year cyde with greater respect as you are able to has a n(Mi-discrimination policv, so I myself on having no prejudice. 1 had ''business line) or ri6)442-22()0 WTDD (liotJine;. for the compost heap. So before it gets by putting your enetgy into motioa For of growth. Whatever you do now has work in a more commanding mode. shoddn't hide ir from Mark, f Ic been indoctrinated in Radical I'acne too smelly in your kitchen, recyde or some this means making a list of goals, a great affect on you in years to come. Communications are your key to co would he rhe one getting in trouble Udp}Hol\obIe mih AIDS, hn\ (I IRV) RC). Br^x 1543 Rochesrer \^' cdture. 1 was exposed to l>eathcr Men commit You will know which way to go. then taking steps in a consdous direc Be watchfd for opportunities, or c*^- operation with others. Be carefiii in No for heing a bigof. I wouldn't get in 146t )3-l 343 is a non-profit, volunteer organizatirm. f IPA raises and disrnb- at pride parades. 1 met glamorous Ifyou choose to work it out, you may tion. For others this means listening to ate them. Take advantage now, as you vember of over-asserting yoursdf, as trouble for being mvself utes funds ro support prot^ams that provide ser\^ices to people living with transvestites and crossdressers. In consider outside hdp, which could make your instincts. Just don'tget carried away will have to wait 12 more years for this others may mistakenly see you as arro So 1 told him. 1 was talking about HI\' and AIDS. lainding is provided to agencies located in the counties of short, I was exposed to thc many facets a difference. Wise counsel aids you in in late November. aspect to reappear. gant Be ready to be open for changes rooming with Mike k)ud enough for Monroe, ( )nrano, Schuvler, Seneca, Livingston, C^.hernung, Steuben, W avne ot our cdture thar our mothers and fa sorting out agreements. Taurians bom VIRGO: August 23 - September 22 and shifb in die coining year. You may him to hear. Then a friend asked me and ^ ates. Hodine (716)98^^1853. SAGGITARIUS: Novembet 23 - thers warned us about. 1 found out that near thc Gemini cusp will especially be Your communicarion slolls have see exacdy how flexible you really are. how long Mike and I had been to Ctdy .Mlimice of tbe Cienesee \ 'alley peer facilitators can provide referrals to December 21 my mother and father were wrong. blessed this season. sharpenedgreatfy in the pastyear. This Your f^yfd sprit is b fdl swing. So PISC3ES: February 19 - March 20 gether. Kly reply was "Oh, Mike and physicians and scrx-ice agencies. Person on duty Sunday/Tridav 6:3n-9:3(' So I was running through life at high GEMINI: May 21 -June 20 ptxxDcss continues until 1995. Then you dal gatherings prove pleasurable as you Travel continues to be favorable for I have been c&ti^tg for seven p.m. Message machine other times. (716)244"H64<). speed, making surc that there was no Curiosity gets the best of you. Whimsi will be ready to express not only your are at your witriest now. You have an in most Pisceans. This season welcomes months." ///I ySTD Coordination Project of Monroe Count)', run through Monroe injustice being done to our cdture. I cal inquiries codd lead you into stqiping thoi^ts but your fedings mote deariy. ner sense that something good is about you widi opportunities of exploring new 1 imagined him saying, "\'ou stu Count}- Department of J Icalth, provides informarion, educarion and train was a sort of Superman for the queers. where you don't bdong. The first hdf of Keep writing and working on darity. to happen. Perfiaps your dreams are people, places or ideas. Let the shy side of pid faggot," or better yet, "You ing, and maintains a resource librar\. Sue CoweU, (716)274-6114 (W/TrY). I was Queerman! (Insert superhero November you may be especially prone You have a lot of experienoe to offer the telling you or just a feeling you have. you melt away. You expand and c^ien as dumb Butt Pirate!" I saw Mark's Communit)'Health Netji'ork, Inc {C7/\). 758 South Ave. HIV testing; music.) to verbal slips. Try to thmk before you worid. Seek thc love and appredarion of You have been engaged in some very you allow yoursdf to interact more with mouth begin to move as he replied, medical, experimental and pentamidine treatments; John XX^ashbum lJbrar\'; That's when I ran into my own speak This way you won't surprise your those dosest to you in December. Sep- deep emotional deansing which has youf envimnment Show your stiengdx "My mom is a lesbian." support groups; social work and case management services. Emphasis on prejudice. I think most ofus are guilty sdf dther. May-bom Geminis find them tembcr-bom Virgos need to socialize. prepared you for the year ahead, filled You m^ need to assert yoursdf widi a My self-righteous Queerman pow early intervention for all aspects ofHIV and AIDS. (716)244-9(XX). ofthis one: The Punk Teenager. You sdves seeking a new direction. You wiB Have a party and take pride in all your with many wonderfd things. You will nei^bor or loved one. Don't let frus- ers of Anti-Discrimination vanished. RochesterArea Task Force on .-UDS (R/\7TA) is a coUection of agencies pro know the type Tm talking about. The tum to happier pursdts by Dec 9 when accomplishments of the past year, get a taste of this as eariy as Dec 9, lasting trarions stop you on your path in De 1 stuttered and sputtered for a few viding a mdriplicity of resources and services to the upstate New York com sides of his head arc shaved. He wears Jupiter favors your sign. The year UBRA: Septeniber 23 - October 22 wdl into 1995. cember. The year ahead will fire vp your seconds before 1 codd manage to munity. Their offices arc located through thc FingerLakes Health Systems satanic music group t-shirts. He basi Age/fC}', which also provides medical literature and newspaper cUppings, as ahead is fdl of fortdtous openings. Take die time now to make decisions CIAPRICORN: Decembet 22 - goals, opening up die worid for you. ask him to repeat himsdf. cally looks like The Bigot And he well as demographic and starisrical data for use in developing health carc ser CANCaER: June 21 - July 22 about future finances. Your stars are in a Januaty 19 Ljutrie Twilight MA is a full time astro- He informed me that all his friends ^works with me! vices. KeUi McMahon, (716)461-3520. Your creanve juices are at a peak this good position for investing, ifyou dare. Your sodal mood continues, thou^ it hgcal counselor in the Bttffab and R/)chester at school knew about his mom and At least I had some allies to assist my Greater RochesterAIDS Interfaith Netipork (GRAIN) provides la}^ and pro fall. This energy codd be s^lied to art or Even starring a small retirement savings slows down by the end of the year. The area. For infiormation on consultations orgft he really didn't "give a shit" what batde for justice. My manager at fessional care through healing and memorial services; training of friendly romanric adventures, whenever your fo now codd prove to be worthwhile. You year ahead is one of intemaUy dissemi certificates cotitactherat 383-2199 or out sexuality I was. I was so da2ed I McDonalds pegged him as The Bigot visitors for visiting homes, hospitals, hospices and prisons; uxiarm^non cus lies. You exude love, which sur- are in the last part ofa fevorable money nating your prior new experiences. 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Fitzhugh Sl. iacross from City Hall) 32S-4(K)0 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY Since- >979 the Dowoiow^ Urvteti Presbyleriftn Chunh ha«> been (>art oi «i Special orcters welcome iuti«>iul ncUvork of Pf<:sbyU.'uiM Churches wi-komin^ bboxuil, tebun and: ^m^^oacl gay people ir.lo lull partic^pMtoo A: d Moce tight Church, wt- helicvc \\A\ 713 Momoe Ave. 461-2540 WHITE SPRUCE such persons «dd instghl lo our f^iith community, snd wv value this new il-* BOOKSTORE kimintlion. Join us wiih your lijthi!" GeMMft C6-op 11-6 M-F •^ Thomas Fronczak ACSW. CAC second floor A560C(ATE5 (Our booka are also sold at 633 MONROE AVE 272*7210 GCNNI CMq^M^ Stoce open 1 block west ctf Oxford Sq. Sat ic Sun*) 473-8110 1 11 .-.—-^j .•.-•fl,}'" JV«. -"V • 24 Tbe Bmpty Chset Noveinber 1994 November 1994 The Empty Closet 25 GAY GROUPS Church invites everyone to a dosi-do All members are wdoome to atisend aB and 30s sharing similar interests. Speaking of die hdidsy concert we are well attended. a Time," by Canadian composer Connie delight when we host a gay and lesbian board meetings. (r \Ci\ (i roups Bassically Ttdbjemakers It brings the Rochester area's young in need of vdunteers to he^ out as ush In October, Nayim went to die mov Kaldor, and'Walk, Sister Walk," com ers, backstage crew, and the Uke. Or ies! The fiirst major IstaeU film about SQUARE DANCE! For all events, please call your reserva posed by Nan Thompson, the accom BASSically Treble Makers Concert/ aduh ^y ccwnmunity together ftjr a vari Dignity-Integrity Rochester wodd you Hke to ^spear on tdeviskm? homosexuaUty and MD%Amav^ng Thafs ri^t; grab your partner, bow to tions in to Sandy at 235-9336 until fur panist for 'Woman to Woman," a 60- Mardiing Baild has b^un our concert ety of acriviries, such as picnics, hikes, 17S.Fitzht^St season rehearsals. We need peoj^ to man the phones on Oaw; came to Rochester as part of the yourcx>mer—whatever it takes to have ther notice. Hope to see many of you voice feminist chorus from southem coflfee n^ts, dinners, and dieme parties. Rochester, NY 14614 Rehearsals are held every Tuesday the night of Dec 4,>x^ien we hc^ widi Gay and Lesbian Film Festival. die most a% fimyou'v e had in months. in the near future! Ontario Province. RWCC recendy re We provide a means fbr new pec^Je to Tlie square dance will be on Nov. 19 evening from 7 to 8:45 p.m. at Roch the WXXI TV membership drive. In November, Nayim will be a co- turned from Canada during v^Wch tneet arid have fun in an irifbrmal social Out and About P-FLAG (Parents And Fiiends Of ester City School Number 12 (Music Leave a message on the Chorusline at sponsor of the Jewish Book Festival at fixxn 8 untill 030 pjn., and win be tatted they performed in a joint concert with setring. "Gay Blades," a roUerblading sub- Lesbians ArKi Gays) Department) at 999 South Ave. across 423-0650, and well get back to you. the Jewish Community Center. N&had by a professional caller. 'Woman to Woman." Join us at our next meeting, at 7 pm. The location for this dance will be gtoi^ of Out and About, will meet for Sherry Irvine from Highland Hospital. Lookitig ahead even further, we shaD Lemer, the editor of Tikkun Mc^a^ne RWCC continues to grow in "leaps on Nov. 29, at the Gay AUiance Com Westminster Presbyterian Churdi at 330 ice skating on the first and third Sundays 150 Bent Oak Trail On Ckx 7-9, BASSially Treble Makers be taking in new singers again in eariy and a leading proponent of gay inclu and bounds." Their goal is to have 30 munity Center, 179 Adaiitic Ave. Ako, Wcflir^pMi Ave. at die cotrier of Arnett of November at 1 psn. in Genesee Val Fairport, NY 14450 participated in the fall conference for January. Ifyou have ahvays wanted to sion within the Jewish community, wiH women on stage for their Dec. 10 and check out some ofour events Usted in Hvd This churdh recenrfy adopted More ley Park. Admission is $3.50 plus skate Lesbian and Gay Bands of America and sing with us, here's the chance to join be speaking at the JCC on Nov. 13. 11 performances with the Rochester the Empty Closet calendar, or caU the U^t status. The cost ft>r thc dance will rental. For more information, call Jeff LRAD (Lilac Rainbow Alliance For the National Stonewall Pride Coordi with Bob Griffith and the others who On Dec. 3, Nayim win hdd its dg^di at27M017. Gay Men's Choms, "Swell the Halle GAGV at 244-8640. be $5 and will indude li^t refreshments. TheDeaf nators Conference, held in Ft Lauder joined in September. Not only is it a annual Chanuk^ party at a private lujahs," at die Downtown United Pres November also marics the be^nning Join Out and About on Nov. 11, as we PO Box 20093 dale, Fla. At the time, wc petitioned for Men's Chorus chance to make beautifd musk but also home. This is always one of the best byterian Church. They are looking for ofthe last month of Rev. Cathy Elliott's carpool to SUNY Brockport for an Rochester, NY 14602 IXJBA membership and were accepted With oxir brief appearance at the dos to meet lots of nice people. At least we attended Nayim events! CaD 461-3386 sopranos and altos. No audition or music sabbaticaL The 10:30 aju. worship will be evening concert featuring the Rodiester unanimously. Wc also performed a con ing night ofthe lesbian and Gay Film think so! Again, for infomiation, call or write P.O. Box 18053, Rochester reading skills are necessary to join, just continuing with a special music service Gay Men's Chorus. If interested, call Bar Association For Human Rights cert at thc Broward Count)' Performing Festival on Oct. 15, the Rochester Gay 423-0650. N.Y. 14618 for more informarion a desire to spend a few hours a week on Nov. 6; a visit fom our dynamic Dis Beth at 244-7159. OfW.N.Y. /Vts Center in l^t. 1 auderdale, along with Men's Chorus began our faU scries of about Nayim. with 20-pIus women "making bcauti Gay/lesbian Mormons tria Coordinator Rev. Sheila Rawls on "Games Ni^t''win be Nov. 12at Beth fiil music." 96 Mt. Vemon Ave members t>f 20 othcr bands fix)m across presentations. and Sue's house. Bring your Scrabble or A group for social support is form Lambda Radio Club Nov. 13; a return visit from Joe Simard, Ifyou would like to join them, they Rochester, N^ 14620-2156 our countrv*. Next up is a fdl concert as part ofthe Twister and a bag of munchies for our ing in Rochester for those who are or Lambda Amateur Radio Qub: Finger Northeast District Lay Advocate on rdiearse on Wednesday evenings at the We are alwa^-s kx>king for new talent Arts Festival at the State University of own qxxial nigjit of g^ygimes. The party were Mormons. We wdcome all those Lakes Chapter wiU hold its next meet Nov. 20; and to end the sabbatical and chapel ofthe Metropolitan Commu Nayim to join our organizarion. Besides sup New York at Brockport on Nov. 11 at 8 starts at 7:30 pxti. — call 244-7159 for interested to come to our first gathering ing on Nov. 18. begin the season of Advent, our own nity Church located in the Auditorium POBox 18053 porting our own local lesbian, gay, bi p.m. Tlie place is the Tower Fine Arts directions. on Nov. 12. The group consists of gays, lesbians BaA Crabtree. Rev. Elliott will be in at Theater building on the comer of Prince Rochester, NY 14618-0053 sexual, and transgender communities Theatre on Holley St, and ample parking Nov. 17 will feature contra-dancing, ThisgroiqD has ties to die narional gay and bisexuals who share a common tendance on that Sunday, too, to mark St. and East Main St. (Parking is in the with band music, we arc now part ofa is available. The program—partiy old which is a combination of old-feshioned and lesbian Mormons grotp, Affirma interest in radio communicarions, and the oflSdai end of her diree mcxiih sab lot opposite the Red Cross building.) Lambda Amateur Radio Club worid otganization and have thc oppor- ies, pardy new numbers — wiQ have folk dancing and square dancing. To rion. While rdigious issues are wdcome, offers an outreach program to help batical. Please join us! Or call 473-7365, and leave a message. Finger Lakes Ch^ter amin- to parricipate in the next Gay some hoUday music, some Broadway, sign up, call Terr>^ at 654-7797. this group has no ties to the church, nor people to obtain their amateur radio 80 Campfire Rd. Ciames and Cdtural Festival in Am some gay pride, and four numbers star Omega Out and About is a social gcovp serv Word Is Out is it offidaUy sanctioned. license. Ham radio is an exdting hobby; Omega, the group fbr dder gays and N.Henrietta, NY 14467 sterdam. ring the fabdous Rochettes, our inimi ing the gay and lesbian community of Tie Word is Oud^ Rochester's only les All inquiries will be kept confidentiaL there is something for everyone, be it lesbians, is happy to announce that we Our community band is made up of table dance contingent. Ifyou missed Rochester. For further information, bian and ^y public access TV show, is Please phone Rob at 232-3149 or Trey at computers, packet radio or space shutde will be meeting at our^y and lesbian Lambda Network At Kodak all different levels of expertise and skills. their "Masochism Tango" at thejune write to: Out and About, c/o GAGV, looking to expand its prc^ramming, but 248-5001. communications, to name just a few. community-owned biil^ig, the GAGV PO Box 14067 Ifyou want to have fdi and support our conccTt, herc is your opportunity to filli p 179 Atlantic Ave., Rochester, N.Y. 14607. we need your help. Anyone interested in Our local group was founded in Feb. Community Center, 179 Atiantic Ave., Rochester, NY 14614 c( )mmunit\' we aitr the gnxip for you. For that unfortunate gap in your cdtural ex- sponsoring L>yk£ T\^\n Rochester is in Nayim 1990 and thc narional dub was founded for our coffeehouses, executive board more information please call thc Ga)' /\1- pcricncc. Women's Chonis vited to a preview screening ofthis lesbian- Nayim, Rochester's group for lesbian in 1975. meetings and educaticMi meetir^ fit>m Hdping People With Aids, Inc. liance at 244-8640, or just show up for The fall wiU culminate in our annual The Rochester Women's Commu produced show from N.Y.C on Nov. 16 and ^y Jews and thdr fiiends, cdebrated now on. Box 1543 rehearsal on Tuesda)' evening, we wel holiday concert, "Swell the Halldujahs," Please caU Jim at 359-3337 for de nity Chorus opened the show on Oct. at 730 pjn., at die GAGV Community the Hi^ Holy Days in September. Board meetings will be held one hour Rochester, NY 14603-1543 come illl. Dec. 10 at 8 p.m. and Dec. 11 at 4 p.m. at tails about our Nov. 18 meeting. 13 at the Rochester Lesbian and Gay Center, 179 Adantic Ave. Nayim had a Tashlich sendee on thc before the coffediouses on the first Sat the Downtown United Presb)terian Film Festival at die Dryden Theater If you cannot attend die screening, COAP Jewish New Year (Rosh Hashanah) and Open Arms MCC urday of evay month. (Board meetings GALE (G^ And Lesb^ Educators) Church, 121 N. Fitzhugh St. Reserve with two songs to set the mood. but would still like to lend your sup (.ome Our and V\a\ (CO.A.R) is a a breakfast after the Day of Atonement By Terry Keister at 7 pjm., coffee house hegns at 8 p.m.) 2167 WestfaU Rd. the dates and watch next month for The choms performed 'There Comes port, call Paul at 473-9948.' Rochestet, NY 14618 group ot gays and lesbians in their 20s details. (\'om Kippur). Both events were very C3pen Arms Metnt^Jitan Communit)- Third Presbyterian Church Gay/Lesbian Svqsport Group acceptance • family of origin work • communication patterns • body 4AfcigsSt Lyn Pezzulo Ms. Ed. Huther-Doyle Rochester, NY 14607 bgether we will create an Counselor for all Team Rochester T environment that promotes emotional concerns • Assessments * Referrals ^Intervention •Codependency •A^varencss c/o GAGV •Xrcatnacnt Oroups * 'Sisnificant Other" Oroups 179 Atiantic Ave. healing, provides support for exploring Individual and couple therapy Rochester, NY 14607 325-5too -, Bast Avenue 671-3591 - Empire Boulevard your personal journey and empowers Sliding Scale 594-5142 Rochester Bi Women's Network you to make self-respecting choices. Specialized services for those with HIV illness c/o GAGV licensed aloohol/substance abuse clinics .. medicaid & private insuran<:<> COME OUT. 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