TBO August 2021 Vine

August 2021 23 Av - 23 Elul 5781

THE VINE

Dog Days (and cats)of

Summer

The Newsletter of TEMPLE BETH OR BRICK, NJ 2

Temple Beth Or The Vine Temple Beth Or (Hebrew for “House of Light”) Temple Beth Or is an egalitarian inclusive Conservative congregation, modern yet reverent to the Jewish tradition. The congregation is made up of singles, couples and families. We welcome all members of our community, including interfaith families, and feel that a congregation should be a friendly welcoming place and the anchor of a caring community. It reaches out to its members relating to their needs and interests and to the larger Jewish and general community as well. Temple Beth Or is affiliated with the United Syna- gogue of Conservative Judaism.

Rabbi Robert Rubin SPIRITUAL LEADERS Rabbi Emeritus Dr. Robert E. Fierstien SERVICES: In-Person or on Zoom

Monday-Thursday @ 7:00 PM Friday @ 7:15 PM We look forward to seeing you! Saturday @ 9:30 AM (beginning with Shocheyn Ad, Preliminary Services on Watch your email or contact the office for the your own) and after Shabbat with Zoom Access. Havdalah If you have difficulty going online, TBO Services on Zoom-Join us contact Rabbi Rubin. 15 minutes before the service and schmooze together.

Temple Beth Or Email: [email protected] MAILING ADDRESS PO Box 789 Website: www.TempleBethOrBrick.org Brick, NJ 08723 Facebook: Phone: 732-458-4700 www.facebook.com/TempleBethOrBrickNJ Fax: 732-458-7781 In case of an emergency Office Hours Contact Rabbi Rubin Monday - Friday call 610-639-5341 or 732-840-1092 9:00 am - 1:00 pm Rabbi Rubin’s Email: Call before you come. [email protected] Secretary: Cindy

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President Sandi Silber 732-262-3010 [email protected]

1st Vice President Jeff Fink 732-673-5356 [email protected]

2nd Vice President Abe Karron 914-960-9213 [email protected]

3rd Vice President Mona Sternbach 732-840-2098 [email protected]

Financial Secretary Rachel Zycband 732-581-4809 [email protected]

Recording Secretary Dr. Sharon Monter 732-255-2913 [email protected]

Treasurer Dr. Spencer Hoffman 732-547-4510 [email protected]

2020-2022 2021-2023 Directors Deanna Burke Sara Askin 2 Year Terms Naomi Monter Lenny Erlanger Harriet Riss Larry Kalb Melanie Rogacki Marlene Vogel

Temple Beth Or The Vine Inside this Issue President’s Message Page 5 Rabbi’s Message Page 6 Sisterhood Page 7 Men’s Club, Youth Group, Jewish Page 8 Learning Upcoming News & Events Page 9 & 10 Birthday List Page 11 Yahrtzeit Donations Pages 12 & 13 Misheberach Prayer Form & Mitzvah Page 14 & 15 Group High Holiday Services Page 16 Jewish Heritage Museum Presents Fliers Pages 17 & 18 Selichot Service and Program Page 19 LTCO Flier Page 20 ShopRite Gift Cards Flier Page 21 Ways to Give Page 22 Life Cycle Events Page 23 Puzzle Pages 24 & 26

Have a Safe and Happy Summer!

All Submissions for The Vine are due by the 15th of the prior month. All Submissions are subject for review. NO thisEXCEPTIONS Issue

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A MESSAGE FROM THE PRESIDENT

By Sandi Silber

As we approach the High Holidays, the Ritual Committee is working hard to put together the schedule and rules for the High Holidays. We are going to share a safe and meaningful service for our congregation. Cantor Haimowitz will be leading the cantorial part of the service alongside Rabbi Rubin. Look for the information in the mail. I hope we can enjoy the services as a congregation.

The Strategic Planning Committee is visiting proposed sites and we hope to have positive information as soon as possible.

The Men's Club and Sisterhood have provided programs to keep our congregation going. We have had services for Shabbat as well as Shavuot. Temple Beth Or is a functioning Temple.

The office is open every day from 9AM until 1PM. Our phone messaging system is monitored every day. If you need to reach us call the office.

Stay safe and read the information we send out.

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A MESSAGE FROM OUR RABBI

By Rabbi Robert Rubin

It is Time to Reflect

Rosh Hashanah is coming. The month of Elul comes before it. Even this month of Elul is a time for “cheshbon hanefesh” (an accounting of the soul) – a time to reflect on where we are and how we got here.

This self-reflection applies to us as individuals and to us as a community.

As individuals, we consider what we have done well in the past year and what we have not done so well. What can we improve in ourselves? In what areas do we need to pay more attention? What good things can we strengthen? What bad things can we fix? As individuals, we think about how we can move positively into the future.

As communities, we also consider what we have done well in the past year and what we have not done so well. This applies to our larger national American and world-wide human societies. This also applies to our local Temple Beth Or community.

This past year has been a difficult one – for many individuals and for our congregation. There have been changes in routine and in our daily patterns of life. There has been uncertainty to what we face next – as individuals and as a congregation.

The month of Elul guides us to look at our reality and find our way to move forward as the end of Elul leads immediately into Rosh Hashanah and the new year ahead.

The shofar is sounded throughout Elul (other than on Shabbat and erev Rosh Hashanah) to call us to action, to wake us up to our situation and push us to make things better.

May we come together – as individuals and as a community – to accept the challenge and rise to the occasion, and help one another to not only face our future but to shape it for the better.

Temple Beth Or The Vine “Help one another is part of the religion of our sisterhood” SISTERHOOD NEWS AND EVENTS Louisa May Alcott President: Marlene Vogel

August 31 at 7:30 pm Paid Up Membership Meeting. Will be held at St. Thomas Lutheran Church

Just a Reminder: If you haven’t paid your dues for the 2021/2022 year, please send in your check made out to TBO Sisterhood for $25 before/by the Paid Up Membership Meeting (8/31/2021). Any suggestions for meeting topics or guest speakers, please contact Marlene or TBO Office.

GOLDEN BOOKS SISTERHOOD/TEMPLE CATERING CHAI CHAIR FUND Send someone special a card for any Sponsor an Oneg Shabbat, Kiddush The Chai chair Fund has occasion. Call the office Luncheon, or Private Event! been established to replace 732-458-4700 or All Bookings must be made through those chairs that are in dis- email: Sisterhood/Temple Catering. repair and to purchase [email protected]. Please call Temple Beth Or’s office: additional ones. The cost is $3.00 per card, including 732-458-4700 Checks are payable to: postage, or purchase a package of six Temple Beth Or, Sisterhood cards for $18.00. FLOWER FUND Attn: Ann Metnick Please make checks out to: In the amount of Temple Beth Or, Sisterhood Contributions are being accepted for the $18.00 per chair. Attn: Golden Book. on going flower fund. A card will be sent

“In Honor of”, “In Celebration of”, “In Memory of”, or Just Because. A certificate of notification SHOPRITE GIFT Contact Temple Beth Or’s office will be sent upon request. CERTIFICATES

Buy supermarket gift cards from Name: Sisterhood Temple Beth Or and earn 5% on your purchase for the Temple. Number of Chairs: ShopRite Gift Cards are available in

denominations of $25, $50, and Amount Enclosed $: $100. The cards are used as a debit

card when you do your shopping. It In Honor of: is a convenient way to pay for your shopping while helping Temple Beth Or. In Memory of: Please Call: Rachel Zycband @ 732-581-4809

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August 1, 2021 - BlueClaws Game @ 1:05 pm.

August 15, 2021 - Men’s Club Meeting

September 19, 2021 – Men’s Club Meeting

Join Men’s Club 2021

UPCOMING YOUTH EVENTS Programming is open to ALL USYers and Kadimaniks - Even the graduating seniors are invited to join in!

August 8, 2021- Hagalil Ice Cream Social Call TBO’s office for more details Details to be announced.

August 25, 26, & 27( Wed., Thurs. & Fri.) Hagalil Encampment 2021 Hagalil will be running three days of back-to-back programming in-person! Details to be announced.

Adult Jewish Learning Classes

We invite you to join our Zoom Adult Jewish Learning classes even if you have not participated before. We are open to your ideas for future classes. Contact Rabbi Rubin at 732-840-1092 (home) or 610-639-5341 (cell) or Mona Sternbach at 732-840-2098 (home) with your input.

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TEMPLE BETH OR’S NEWS & EVENTS

Sunday, August 1, 2021 - BlueClaws Game @ 1:05 pm sponsored by the Men’s Club.

August 9-20, 2021: On June 1, Sisterhood honored Ruth Fierstien for her 18 year leadership of Sisterhood's Book Discussion Group. A copy of the Album of Appreciation, containing the thank you tributes, will be available in the TBO’s office for two weeks (August 9 – 20, 2021) during office hours. If you would like to view the album, please call Cindy at 732-458-4700 to reserve a time.

August 8, 2021 @ 2 PM The Jewish Heritage Museum of Monmouth County presents Jewish Representation in the Classroom, by Dylan Black, in person or via Zoom. Admission is free (donations are always welcome). Flier on page 17.

The Jewish Heritage Museum of Monmouth County presents a Virtual Summer Film Festival with the two following films: See flier on page 18. August 11-13, 2021: Here We Are August 25-27, 2021: Thou Shalt Not Hate

YIZKOR BOOK OF REMEMBRANCE for the new year – letters went out – respond NOW.

IN PERSON SHABBAT SERVICES - (along with Zoom) being held in the gym of St. Thomas Lutheran Church. The church has stated that unvaccinated persons must wear a mask while those who have been vaccinated can go with or without a mask. If you need a Siddur of Chumash, let us know.

VOLUNTEERS NEEDED - for Friday night Oneg Shabbat & Saturday Kiddush. Volunteers needed to purchase food, set up and clean up. Contact Rachel at [email protected] or 732-581-4809 for more info.

VOLUNTEERS NEEDED - The Office of Long Term Care Ombudsman is seeking volunteers to advocate on behalf of nursing home residents. See flier on page 20.

HELP SUPPORT PEOPLE THROUGH THE FOOD PANTRY at St. Thomas Lutheran Church (where our TBO office is located). The church continues to go above and beyond in kindness and generosity towards our congregation in helping us continue to move forward at this difficult time. Buy a ShopRite gift card ($25, $50 or $100) and donate it to the food pantry. Order by calling Rachel Zycband (732-581-4809) and specify that it is to be given to the food pantry. Buying our ShopRite gift cards also benefits TBO.

DONATIONS OF NON-PERISHABLE FOOD for the Food Pantry – Bring food directly to a food pantry, such as the one at St. Thomas Lu- theran Church, 135 Salmon Street, Brick, 732-477-5533.

AVAILABLE – The Jewish Journal (August and July issues), Shabbat/ Holiday Prayer Books, Weekday Prayer Books, Chumashim, Yizkor Books of Remembrance. Available in the TBO Office or contact Rabbi Rubin (cell: 610-639-5341).

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You are invited

The Jewish Federation of Ocean County and the BlueClaws want to show their appreciation to Israel, the community, and their partners.

Join them for a special night at the BlueClaws!

Tuesday, August 17th Games starts at 7:05 pm.

Special offer to Donors: a special package of the game with tickets in a VIP Suite and some great Kosher Stadium food.

Kosher Food Truck on the Concourse

If you want a ticket to the game, they have arranged for community partners to use code OCJF2021 for $12 tickets. Discount code good through 8/13.

See the Jewish Federation website for information: www.jewishoceancounty.org/blueclaws

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August Birthdays

1 Melanie Rogacki

2 Perry Zycband

4 Oscar Brown

6 Carole Wassner

11 Shyrlee Hurwitz Wish them a ! 15 Marlene Snedaker

Happy Birthday 18 Miriam Leisman Rubin 23 Myra Klein

26 Hank Rogacki

Send them 29 Rachel Zycband a Card 31 Robert Ostrove or

Golden Book

The above information is from the Temple Beth Or Calendar and also from information submitted individually. If you would like to have your birthday listed in the Vine, please email or call with the month and day of your birthday to the TBO Office.

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YAHRTZEIT DONATIONS

The human soul is a light from God. May it be Your will that the soul of our loved ones enjoy eternal life, along with the souls of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, and Leah, and the rest of the righteous that are in Gan Eden. Amen.

IN LOVING MEMORY OF:

Teresa Ricci Beloved mother of Connie Zirin Harry Seidman Beloved father of Roberta Warshaw Anna Lazarus Beloved mother of Mildred Zitt Emanuel Morgan Beloved brother-in-law of Diane Morgan Ben Morgan Beloved father-in-law of Diane Morgan Minnie Tanenblatt Beloved mother of Deanna Burke Theodore Burke Beloved father of Jay Burke Dr. Melvyn Jay Ravitz Beloved brother of Larry Ravitz Harold Warheit Beloved uncle of Larry Ravitz Herman Zwisohn Beloved husband of Mary Zwisohn Marjorie Lubowsky Beloved mother of Sue Bernstein Marsha Bernstein Beloved mother of Jeff Bernstein John Lubowsky Beloved father of Sue Bernstein Morris Sherman Beloved grandfather of Ruth Sherman Ress Max Erlanger Beloved father of Lenny Erlanger Hannah Krilow Beloved mother of Phyllis Rudnick Bessie Goldfarb Beloved grandmother of Adrienne & Marlene Vogel Charles Brindell Beloved uncle of Adrienne & Marlene Vogel

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YAHRTZEIT DONATIONS

IN LOVING MEMORY OF:

Rebecca Ravitz Beloved grandmother of Larry Ravitz Regina Salama Beloved mother of Edna Ravitz Eileen Levin Beloved sister of Flo Schneider Edith Schwartz Beloved sister of Mildred Zitt Dawn Rubin Beloved mother of Rabbi Robert Rubin

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MISHEBERACH PRAYER MISHEBERACH PRAYER REQUEST When someone near and dear to us is ill, a spiritual uplift can be very meaningful. This is done in Jewish tradition by Date:______reciting a “Misheberach” prayer on the days we take out the Torah. Person Receiving Prayer:______

______If you would like a Misheberach said and are not able to attend the service, please call Temple Beth Or’s office or Hebrew Name:______email us at [email protected]

Mother’s Hebrew Name:______We need the person’s ______Hebrew name and the Reason:______mother’s Hebrew name, ______so that a prayer will be done for you. From:______

THE MITZVAH GROUP

Temple Beth Or’s Mitzvah Group Temple Beth Or You can email Mona Sternbach at reaches out to all members. If you Attention: The Mitzvah Group [email protected]. know of someone who needs or PO Box 789 would like a phone call, hospital, Brick, New Jersey 08723 Let us join together in turning our nursing or rehab center visit, good intentions into good deeds. please let us know. If time is of the essence, please Kindly complete the form below phone the information to either: Thank you, and mail it to the synagogue. Rabbi Rubin at 610-639-5341, or to B' Shalom Mona Sternbach at 848-333-3596. Mona Sternbach Chairperson

COMPLETE THIS FORM FOR REQUEST— PLEASE PRINT

Name of person wanting contact: ______Phone: ______Address: ______Town:______

Please circle type of contact wanted: Phone Call In Home Visit Hospital Visit Name of Hospital: ______Town: ______Nursing & Rehab Center Visit Name of Center and Town:______

Your name, if different than above: ______

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Holiday Greetings from The Mitzvah Group

As we start the New Year, we wish everyone well. At the same time, we want to thank the people who have given their talents and time to keep us together, as a congregation, moving forward into the future.

L’Shanah Tovah 5782

Shalom The Mitzvah Group

Temple Beth Or The Vine Temple Beth Or High Holiday Services 2021 / 5782 Schedule and Page Numbers in the Rabbi Morris Silverman Machzor (1998 Printing) (starting times are set, ending times are approximate)

Monday, September 6 afternoon – Erev Rosh Hashanah (Minchah) – on your own – pages x-xiv, 22

Monday, September 6, 7:15-8:00 PM – Rosh Hashanah First Night (Maariv) – pages 1-25

Tuesday, September 7 – on your own – Rosh Hashanah First Day Preliminary Morning Service (Birkhot Hashachar, Pesukei D’zimra) – pages 26-59

Tuesday, September 7, 9:30 AM – 12:30 PM – Rosh Hashanah First Day Morning (Shacharit, Musaf, with the Blowing of the Shofar) – pages 60-178

Tuesday, September 7, 6:45-8:00 PM – Rosh Hashanah First Day Afternoon (Minchah)/Second Night (Maariv) – pages 179-189, 201-203 / 1-25

Wednesday, September 8 – on your own – Rosh Hashanah Second Day Preliminary Morning Service (Birkhot Hashachar, Pesukei D’zimra) – pages 26-59

Wednesday, September 8, 9:30 AM – 12:30 PM – Rosh Hashanah Second Day (Shacharit, Musaf, with the Blowing of the Shofar) – pages 60-178

Wednesday, September 8, 6:45-7:15 PM – Rosh Hashanah Second Day (Minchah)

Wednesday, September 15 – on your own – Erev Yom Kippur Afternoon (Minchah) – pages 191-203

Wednesday, September 15, 6:30-8:15 PM – Yom Kippur Evening (Kol Nidre, Maariv) – pages 204- 254, 24

Thursday, September 16 – on your own – Yom Kippur Preliminary Morning Service (Birkhot Hashachar, Pesukei D’zimra) – pages 26-59

Thursday, September 16, 9:30 AM – 1:30 PM – Yom Kippur Morning (Shacharit, Musaf, with the Yizkor Memorial Service) – pages 255-403

Thursday, September 16, 5:45-8:15 PM (Final Shofar at 7:50 PM) – Yom Kippur Afternoon/Evening (Minchah, Neilah, Shofar, Maariv, Havdalah) – pages 408-499, 24

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Temple Beth Or The Vine Begin the New Year season . . . Prepare ourselves spiritually

Join the larger Jewish community for an in-person

Selichot Service and Program Cosponsored by Beth Am Shalom of Lakewood Congregation Ahavat Olam of Howell Congregation B’nai Israel of Toms River Temple Beth Or of Brick

Saturday, August 28, 8:45 PM at Congregation B’nai Israel, 1488 Old Freehold Road, Toms River

Reception and Havdalah Socialize over light refreshments and mark the separation of Shabbat from the coming week

Special Program at 9:15 PM To be announced

Selichot Service at 9:45 PM (until approximately 10:45 PM) with the participation of our rabbis and hazzanim/ cantors

Online access will also be provided. Watch your email for access information.

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VOLUNTEERS NEEDED

The Office of the Long Term Care Ombudsman is seeking volunteers to advocate on behalf of nursing home residents.

Requirements include 32 hours of training, a one year commitment & visiting the sites 4 hours a week.

For more information check out the website www.nj.gov/ltco

or contact Sharon Cadalzo 609-433-7888

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Purchase your ShopRite Gift Cards at Temple Beth Or !!

Cards are available in $25, $50 or $100. 5% of gift cards purchased goes to Temple Beth Or at no extra cost to you.

Call Temple Beth Or’s office at 732-458-4700 or email us at [email protected]

Please give us 24 hours notice so we can have them ready for you to pick up, or we can also mail them to you if you are unable to get here to pick them up.

Please Assist our fundraising efforts. Support Temple Beth Or!

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Ways To Give

Celebrate a Simcha, commemorate a loss, mark a special occasion, or offer a get well.

Strengthen our synagogue by contributing to the General Fund or any of the specific funds indicated below. You can send your check to the Synagogue office specifying the fund you would like to support. A beautiful card will be sent from TBO informing the honorees of the gift you have made in their honor or in memory of a loved one.

General Fund Discretionary Oneg Sponsorship $100. & up Kiddish Sponsorship $450. & up Lifetime Pew Seat $500. Sim Shalom Prayer Book $36.00 High Holiday Prayer Book $25.00 Rabbi Discretionary Fund Discretionary Aliyah Fund Discretionary Misheberach Fund Discretionary Sisterhood Fund Golden Books $3.00/each Flower Fund Discretionary Chai Chair Fund $18.00 Plaques Memorial Plaques $350.00/member $450.00/non-member Memorial Board (includes 2 plaques): Inquire about cost Wall of Life Plaques 1” x 3” $100.00 2” x 3” $300.00 3” x 3” $750.00 2” x 6” $1000.00

You may send or bring a check to the synagogue office. Tributes cannot be officially acknowledged until payment is received. Please contact the office for information regarding Legacy Gifts and opportunities to make larger contributions.

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LIFE CYCLE EVENTS Temple Beth Or is here for you to share your happy occasions, as well as any sad difficult moments, with others and with our community. We appreciate the following donations to help keep Temple Beth Or open and functioning. For the “member” rates, the person or the person’s parent/guardian must be a member of TBO or by an extension of reciprocity, of another congregation. Payment is to be made payable to Temple Beth Or. The arrangements for all of these ceremonies and dates must be approved by the Rabbi and TBO.

BAR/BAT MITZVAH FEE Includes the option of choosing honorees at the service. TBO Members - $875.00 There is no additional charge for the lessons with the Rabbi. If the event is held as part of the Saturday morning Shabbat service, it is expected that the Saturday Kiddush and the Friday night Oneg Shabbat receptions will be sponsored in honor of the occasion (included in the above fee).

AUFRUF TORAH ALIYAH Includes the option of choosing honorees at the service. TBO Members - $100.00 Non-Members - $150.00 If the event is held as part of the Saturday morning Shabbat service, it is expected that the Kiddush following the service will be sponsored in honor of the occasion.

WEDDING does not include a Chuppah. The Rabbi does not have to be the officiant. TBO Members - $200.00 Non-members - $300.00

BABY NAMING TORAH ALIYAH Includes the option of choosing honorees at the service TBO Members - $100.00 Non-members - $150.00 If the event is held as part of the Saturday morning Shabbat service, it is expected that the Kiddush following the service will be sponsored in honor of the occasion.

FUNERAL (use of Sanctuary) The Rabbi does not have to be the officiant. TBO Members - No Charge For a Kaddish relative of a TBO Member (parent, spouse, sibling, child) - No Charge For a Non-member - $550.00 (to be billed to the funeral director) Following the funeral, if appropriate, a surviving relative is to be offered a one year courtesy membership or a $550 credit to a higher priced membership with the welcome invitation to come here to attend services and to say Kaddish.

KADDISH RECITATION A TBO member or a Kaddish relative of a TBO member who dies is to be remembered and automatically placed on the 11- month Mourner’s List which is read at the time of the recitation of the Mourner’s Kaddish at the end of Shabbat services on Friday nights and Saturday mornings. There is no required donation for this. A request may be made to add a non-member to the Mourner’s List and have them remembered and included at the time of the recitation of the Mourner’s Kaddish at the end of Shabbat services on Friday nights and Saturday mornings. A $300.00 donation is requested for this.

Temple Beth Or The Vine PUZZLE!

Complete each saying. Then place the word from those blanks in the correct order to complete Proverbs 23:4.

1. When the going gets tough, the tough ______going. 2. People who live in glass houses should ______throw stones. 3. If the shoes fits, ______it. 4. If I were a ______man. 5. Good things come ______those who wait. 6. When in Rome, ______as the Romans do. 7. Don’t wear ______your welcome. 8. If you want something done right, do it ______. ************************************************************* Write the unscrambled proverb here:

______Proverb 23:4

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Answers for this month’s Puzzle

Do not wear yourself out to get rich. Proverbs 23:4