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Use your this BFF bookletaMAZE! to help middle school girls Journey Adult Guide with prevent bullying and lead with friendship. A bully- prevention experience based on the Girl Scout leadership curriculum aMAZE! WHAT’S INSIDE p 4 Welcome to Volunteers p 5 How to Use This Booklet p 6–9 BFF Essentials: Support tools for s topics and how to include Girl Scout processes p 10 You May Be Wondering… p 12 Session 1: First Impressions in the Maze p 14 Session 2: Navigating Friendships p 16 Session 3: Cliques and Conflicts p 18 Session 4: Caution: Bullies Straight Ahead p 20 Session 5: Let Peace Begin with You p 22 Session 6: Improving Relationships in the World p 24 Session 7: Toward Peace: Take Action! p 26 Session 8: Pass It Forward BFF (Be a Friend First) elcome to BFF (Be a Friend First), which is designed to work with the aMAZE! Journey, Girl Scouts’ highly acclaimed leadership curriculum. The aMAZE! Journey gives Wmiddle school girls valuable skills and tools for figuring out relationships. BFF takes girls a step deeper. How? By focusing on the confidence and skills they need to prevent all-too-prevalent bully behavior. Middle school is a time of transition and adjustment for girls, and also a time when bully behavior peaks. Girls tell us that they want to feel safe and protected, and want to help others feel the same. How can we get them there? By showing them how to build meaningful relationships and resolve conflicts peacefully and constructively. And by empowering them to educate others and create more peace…in their schools, communities, and who knows where else? We’ve drawn on our many years of girl expertise, best practices, and research—all delivered right here in BFF and through our aMAZE! Journey. Healthy relationships are the solution to bully prevention. BFF inspires girls to lead one another—with friendship! Before You Begin Read your aMAZE! Adult Guide (begin on page 30) to see how things are laid out and what activities to BFF make sense for you. Do the same with your BFF aMAZE! booklet to see how they match up and to help you plan. Of course, you don’t have to follow the guide (Be a Friend First) or booklet word for word—once you get a topic started, listen for where girls want to take it! Dear Volunteers, Congratulations! Because of you— and a network of volunteers like you across the country—middle school girls (in Girl Scouting, we call them Cadettes) are about to learn how to deal with bully prevention and make a difference in the world. Bully behavior tends to peak in middle school, making these years the most important time to promote positive social and leadership skills. The good news? It can be done! 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