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Attorney who fought sodomy laws before Supreme Court to speak, at Nov* 7 GAGV event By Susan Jordan Area business leaders wil! gather on Nov. 7 when the Gay AHiance of the Genesee Valley hosts Its third annual Ekisiness Education Forum •21.. and Connnnunity Leadership Lun­ cheon in the Grand Ballroom ofthe Hyatt ftegency Hotel, 125 E. Main Sf. The keynote speaker is Jennifer Middleton of Lambda Lc^l, one of the attorneys who argued lasr June's sodomy law case before the Su- preiTje Court- The Airtance will present awards to two local companies and one individual, and wtM-iNSCOgmie sev­ eral media organizations. Executive Director Chuck Bcwen said* "As in past years. the awards saMsfc vis^n^ C<^ courage and leadership iir^'^/^'"^" community and the greatair iPUsdRp^-^- '^* ester connmunity. New ,^^ .yoAC Creating a Culture of Value and state and applied for tlie benefits ference, "Diversity is a real and are more corporate sponsdkt than Res|j^;in the Workplace," wiH be usually provided to heterosexual important value at Xerox, and a ever before, our new Co^f^a^eous led ^ Chuck Bowen, starting at partners. WIHtam jac«^ues of the fundamental aspect of our cu!- Leadership awards^ and & BuH^ess t0rl5tf.Tn. Element K management team will ture." Education Forum in theUti^lfiiiitg.. T^r bancheon itself will start at accept the award. Raul Brew will be given the Com­ Recent changes in tl>e lojETE^^nd- -:^ fMX^^I^ run until 8:30 p.m. Jenni- Xerox will receive the Business munity Leadership Award, recog­ scape wiU sigjnf^vcandy li *^" •"%Jll^lftton, Senior Legal Coun- Leadership Award, given to recog­ nizing an indivkiual v^ho has made panies and organiiatkMis. si^fCKJ^^^^bcSa Legal, the New York nize a company that has made a significant contribution to ad­ rum and Luncheon wilf fpcuTtm - significant strides toward provid­ vancing Igbt equality in the Roch­ issues cnctcal to und^rsfiin^ing the X^3c^a»bd organization that fought for tiie^Jpreme Court decision of ing a fair and equitable v«^oH^>lace ester community. new legislation and suppo^^tiii|f^j^ for its Igbt employees and has pro­ Brew has worked at Koclak for employees in the workplace." last June; ovetxuming sodomy laws in the U,S^ will speaic vided leadership on behaif of the over 23 years, and is a member of The Education R>rum will con­ Element K wsM receive the new Igbt community at large. Lambda Kodak board. He has spo­ sist of two workshops. The first. Courageous Leadership Award, James A. Rrestone. President. ken at two Out tk Equal confer­ "The Business WoHd After presented for a bold, confident ac­ Corporate Operations Group, will ences on his experiences bris^ging SONDA." well be presented by Ross tion by a company on behalf of lgbt accept the award. Firestone is lgbt av^reness through informal L«vB. Director of Public Policy and people. Element K is being recog­ Corporate Champksn ofthe Xerox discussion in a fectory setting. Education for the Empire State Pride nized fbr its support of former gay empksyee group GALAXe (Gay Brew has also helped to bring the A^erKJa. It wyee Jeanne Newiand. who and Lesbian Employees at Xerox) Gay Alliance and Donna Red Wing after registration and a continental was denied when she and her part­ Pride at Work, He commented at to Kodak to provide diversity train- bnsaM^as: Tbe second workshop. ner Natasha Doty moved out of the GALAXe 2003 Diversity Con­ Luncheon cofitinue«fi on p. 3

C^jttninuiiily responds with support; a long road still ahead \ By Susan Jocdati ahead - we just need the support to received last summer, but we f)»eA support from the communHy* as Last momh'x front page artkte, (ay- ^et throng this difRaift time. v^l as from state government, for if^ out both the blight prospects "I'm sifting fwe to 10 letters a day to new and renewing mem­ our youth and their threatened ahead for the Ga)" AUiance and fhe \ ••'% bers," Bowen continued. "The com­ programming." lininciai problems curnmdy threat- \ Chuck Bovven noted, "the com­ ento^ the ^qpmisatioA. Has broufHt munity heaurd us and contributions munity shouki know that the Gay a s«roc^9^sf»ortiwe responsefrom are up;, but we still don't have the Department of Heahh (DoH) fund* Alliance Boardls IdOpercsntoom- many ««•«»«•>•"«'*•'S^ ***'•"****' ihf for the youth program. We*re mtttad ta our strt^Oife. Not only comfnoed it's galf|f throi^ the has each of fiham |]M(B>4 ssjpfKMrt fmooMS. Thiy ha¥Mi*t said fio and ¥i4th fundraiiiln^ biR ^^hfve onde s^ Tm wwiw>hMlm need increatted maniber- tions, and some hatiM either sv)*tfM>diirvoh'enientby

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U.C' A2 nor ^3:^*^^?: Luncheon continued from p. I LETTERS TQ THE CD8TOR: ^We reserye ing to workers. Th« opinions of columnists, tditorial ¥«it- the right to edit for space and darlty. We erx ami othttr contrfbtiting writers are vtnlii print afK>r>ymGus iecters if the name Sponsors ofthe event include Eastman Kodak their own and do not necessarUy reflect and phone number are provided to the Co. (platinum); Tim Tompkins/Star Bar (Gold); the colk»ctive attitude of the Gay Alliance Editon confidentiality wilt be respected. Bausch & Lomb. HSBC Holdings PLC, Xerox Perspectives of the Genesee Valley or the Empty Closec Submissions are due by the i Sth of the Corporation, and West, a Thomson Business We WiB print letters at the editor's discre­ month acThe Empty Cloeet, l79Atbn. tion and on a space available basis.We wiil tic Ave. Rochester NTT 14607-1255; email (Silver); David C. Quick, Financial Planner. viewpoints that matter not print personal attacks on individuals. emptycloset@s»yaiHanc*.or;g Excellus BC/BS. Preferred Care (Bronze) and ?iiA.?^ AIDS Rochester, RIT and Lacy Katzen Ryen and Mittleman, LLP (Pride). LOCAL AND STVVTE NEWS Innocent Paetec offers same What's in a name? Ellen Yacknin. City Court judge, spoke on An Empty Closet Edironal by Susan Jordan sex couple benefits Oct. I! at the Gay Alliance rally. he Bob Ix)nsberty controversy is over a month old now, and thi? editorial is not really By Susan Jordan about Tx>nsbeny. It is about the many letters in the Democrat C"*" Chronicle from Paetec Communications, Inc., is nov/ offenng TLonsbetrv supporters, who, Uke Lonsberr}' himself, were in heavy denial that he, or U\ Chuck B*)\\t4^, iv: same sex partner benefits for its employees thev, might be racist. And it's about how the oppressor refuses to listen to the oppressed. with open enrollment. 1973 \X hcnever a white person denies racism — as when a homophobe denies feeling hatred — a Executive Vice President Dick Ottalagana' touch wtii his feminine side—tnetrosexuality red light goes on in my mind. My first quesdon for Lonsberry (ifhe hadn't been censoring hat's in a name? That which we told the Empty Qoset, "In Paetec's mission n. questions) would have been, ifyou wanted to call Mayor Johnson an idiot, as you claimed, why call a rose by any other name statement, we say we want to be the most would smell as sweet. \ like to fancy myself as a "dandyish" man, not just call him an idiot? Why use ugly racist innuendos that insult every African American in W employee-oriented and the most customer- E Names. .\s human 'ocings, we arc ra>ight to and we are all a little narcissistic. I love living in 2003 M<-irr >c Count)' (andever>'where ^^^^^ ^^^^^ ..,^^,^^^^ ^..^^ cvisrs 'IT,,. oriented communications company in the Q pur a name - or label -on c^•erythlng. N;"imes the cirv ',v,-\i}i the urban li<^esr-,-!e. Fm told that in »« tacuc siicriccs and censors those country. In order to do that, we need to arc an important part ofour language if we are order to qualify, you must like ro ear out every \nd miv second question on the receiving end of the dis­ recognize the diverse nature ofour employee 1^i xo be able to identify our surroundini^. night. That fits me too - Ms. Tulip and I can be v,r --"h.Agatlcl'C ;!•; VtT.i 'biCrC "- fo f.lvM,l!;r " \\\ \l\ loi-rl-i vv'.th HlV ^xc wic :.is .'! --(scicfv. w^ \\ TT,iri;>n ships, have cerT.ain mutu??! financial arrange­ Tony Lee speaks or*. Coming Out Day. released w^hen biased police procedure was proved. Duval's 1973 defense attorney .Vuytin l'\,jv.crs savs. rncan^ >c\. ;\r/d ni(>io' fcmminc su.ii.. • ; A h\- not? Don't vou rhink We're not encouraged to sell- ments and so on. asked jurcis if they "wouid have any prejudice because the defendant is a homosexual Fin srill n(n sure w'nat il means even though But - and here's where it ali fell apart - v(i\i •. .'ric of color know racistr. cnticii'e. or admit to mistakes. "We do an employee survey twice a year," and transvestite". Duval was aiso accused in the mugging death. Two teenaged youth, Fm prettv sure T can't find mine either. can only be a metrosexual ifyou are a srraighr GAGV Coming Out V '-:'..n thev see it? Only our enemies ;irc guilty. Ottalagana said. "We take the responses very who Duval had allegedly toid that a trick had been struck that night, were held for six j Now our movement, in irs atrcmpr ro be man. \X ben gavs tell a straight person that that C}ir\'sros, a Native .'\merican (Men(.»minee) seriously. Over the past few years, there have Day rally draws months "in virtual isolation" in the Monroe County jail as material witnesses. Prosecut- ! :ilFinc!us!vr, has aJopreii i'.irnosr :i do/cn f Ince again, societv has left me out. B-.' defin­ : '---• ^f-i has sai(i f>rdone something homopho- lesbian poet and lontjtime activist, made sotiK been repeated requests to provide same sex ing attorney P.aymond E. Cornelius of the DA's office told the jury, "I will candidly say j n.imcs !o identtj\ ourse!'. cs. Fcsl^ian, (;as', ing a trcndv, new, bip, urban :i;n.i tun iifesryle ;is media attention .. .-X'-- loo often the straight person urgenth.- interesting comments in an interview in ihc employee coverage. Our thinking was, oppo­ thai: (the two youth) are also homosexuals and transvestites." Bisexual. Transgender, Intersex, (^uesrion- straight, gfivs and lesbiat'is "need nor applv". •'. !:K ~ ,invhf)mophol-)ic feelings. 1 always want Sept. /Oct. issue ot off our baik.< {i^v.^ ot the very site sex coupies have the right to marry, but The Gay Alliance's Coming Out Day rally and The Empty Closet commented. "Such an outrage cannot be tolerated. How can police ing, Queer, ere. Once again Igbt persons sec the door slammed : ii" to them, excuse me, but isn't ir oppres- few places v^-here vou can tlnd uncensored same sex couples do not. We felt it was time press conference on Oct. I I was covered by expect witnesses to come forward if they are to be jailed for half a year, having ^; L TO tc!! a member of an f>ppressed group radical feminist/women's libcrationist vt)ices). But 1 recentiy learned of a new name, which shut on us, even though ir is us that they are to do this. four locai TV channels: WHEC, WOKR, committed no crime? What gives the DA the right to delve into the sexual orientation trving to mimic in an arrempt to be chic and WUHF and RNews. This coverage sent the \ 'A.V. I!H \ "re erazv to accuse v(>u of oppressing In the interview, Chnstos talked about how is becoming a parr of our socictv's never- "It's the right thing to do," he said. of private citizens, and to make public pronouncements about it?" Over two decades '1 •I'll- Don t vou think we queers know ho- women's srudies programs and rape crisis shel- endmgarremprrodefincjtself, ".Nferroscxua]". accepred. message that being gay is OK to thousands of later, improper behavior by police was revealed — too late to save Duval and Tyson from Finances contintued frorri p. ) ;M' 'phobia when wc see it? rers, once grassroors institutions created by 1 thought it meant semfcone who enjoys a As .Americans, we will never be equal unri! closeted Igbt people in the greater Rochester years in prison. IHiit no. The denial reflex is alwavs there; the grassroots women, are now closed to evcr\' quickie on the Mctu) - or subway. Bur being wc lose rhe labels rhat try st.- hard to creare Luncheon, or offered to organize a major area, as well as the heterosexual community. NOVEMBER 2003: The Gay Aiiiance will host its third annua! Leadership Luncheon . >i ''t-^n protest "Bur Fm innocent!". (>ne woman worker who does not have a Masters from the South. I sometimes finti v\\\ naivete divisiveness in our socier\', A>: long as lgbt fundraising event. "We deeply appreciate their Openly gay politicans Tim Mains and Bill and Business Education Forum on Nov. 7 atthe Hyatt Regency. Morning workshops on ••(. V 'o the /)c:~C actuallv accused the people Degree (masters... how ironic). She also noted gers me m rroubSe anc? so j decided to explore vouth anti adults are lal:)clcd as "different", generosity/' Bowen said. Pritchard (both of City Council) and Harry the gay rights advances of '2003, and how they relate to the workplace, wsU be facilitated Bronson (\vho ran for state senate last ye^r) ft' I. luitd bv 1 x)nsberr\' of being motivated by that .st>nie vtomen don'r want ro Jf>ok at the rhis neu' term a litrie further. hetcro.sexisrn and the boundaries ro equaiin ir The Gay AJliance is also awaiting funding by Ross Lev; of th€i Empirf^ StntG Pride Agenda and CJAGV Executive Director C^huck attended, as did City Courxjudge Ellen Yacknin. 'it w !• h fo "censora conservarnc ".oicc". My problem or their own role in h. (MJ-'J.roh.sek.shoo.ui) «. A dandyish nar- defines will continue to structure our society by from N.Y.S. Assembly Majority Leader Sheldon Bowen. Featured speaker at the luncheon will be Jennifer Midd/etcin of Utmbda Legal, Speakers also included Jeanne Galnsburg, a i' !M.i! leacnon was, if this kind of nasriness is Chr\'stos said, "1 couldn't get a job in a cissisr in love with not only himself, but aiso class. Silver, and from Sen. Joe Robach's member one of the attorneys who successfully argued the sodomy case before the Supreme heterosexual ally who has joined rhe Inclusive A v.ii V onservative voices are saving, whv women's studies department to save my life. his urban lifestvle; a straight man who is in item monies. The latter funding would be Court. The Alliance will present awards to community businesses and individuals. Nov. Culture Project, and Tony Lee, a member of '. 'u'ni .inv decent person uant to listen to And Fm one ofthe people who started women's targeted for tbe Aiiiance s new Anti-Domes­ 18 is GAGV Night at rhe touring musical Hairspray. A Broadway-themed reception with the Youth Group, as weil as Chuck Bowen, cast members ar the Strong-Todd mansion on East Ave. will follow the performance. T'... n-s- Hut of course, despite all their whining, studies— The whole issue of wanting to be tic Violence program. Support is especially GAGV Executive Director. Bassically :'.'• ^ >T conservative voices that are censored innocent is one of the most dangerous rhings needed for gay men who are experiencing beauty. Remove the mask of mistaken you can put away the lonesome shadow. Treblemakers Band provided music. i'l ihi> societv. SXTien v;as the last time vou thar are done to women. '^X'e're trained to want abuse, since there is currently no area shelter identity. The lies, betrayal, hurt, and frus­ Show your strength through your struggle. iu .irti a socialist or iesbian feminist or Native Below. Tony Lee's speech in its entirety: to be innocent. And it means we don'r engage for men. tration. Breathe, breathe, breathe the life of accep­ .\ii:!enean voice in the mainstream media — t)n our critical minds And rhe need ro be inno- ARI/Seniors continued from p. I Ail comes with being a strong chosen tance through the cells of your awakened \\ 11 .\ .\1, for instance? Hver wonder why those STEP OUT, STEP UP AND STAND cenr profoundly affecrs someone's ability to munity". leader. Step out. Step up. and STAND. body. V' )lcc^ don'r r.aise ratings, while hate-talk does? Tuesday, Nov. 4 is Electton Fear kept me alone. Society's views kept me look at racism, to look at rheir lives, ro change In a social and medica! climate that is still not Never regret what you've been through, STEP OUT. STEP UP. and STAND. The fuss reminds me ofthe disclaimer sign alone. My family kept me alone. how they treat other people." always accepting of non-traditional families what you're going through, and how it is t"ifried bv the anti-gay protestor at Pride — "1 Beaten and left to die, refused to be hired, All of us could benefit by engaging our and partnenngs. considerations about who you have been chosen. ti' >v.'\ liarc hfjrnos, I hart; sin". Well, ifyou call misunderstood in families, talked about in our critical minds, gcrring our f )f deniai, and rakini; makes health decisions for us, when and how, So sing like that once caged bird and fly :i iH)mosexua! a "homo,' vou arc using rhe face, said we are the cause of destruction, and responsibiliry for our words and acrions. No Day- to a higher self-understanding. Out among i.init'uagc of hate. If you work to deny gays become particularly imporrant for glbt sentenced to damnation in the afterlife. bodv is "innocent'' — nf)t women, not queers, you, there are those- who love you, who ciual ci\il rights, you may be doing it from, a people... especially as we age. Come closer to what I am saying to you. Dig nor people of ct>!or, not gt)vernments, and not understand and who have wiped tears ^ ip.c crc!\ spiritual perspecrive, but to rhe per­ ARI and the Rainbow Seniors say, "Join us in deeper to discover an understanding. You've white male heterosexual conservatives, .\u(.\ if from the same rejection. son u ho is denied a home, a job, marriage, welcoming Pat Bomba from Excellus (for­ been chosen. We've been chosen. I've been whire people wanr to be found innocent of Put av^y thie coat of fear, turn the r!ii)d custody, or rheir basic hum.an identity, it merly Blue Cross/Blue Shield), who will give a chosen. Put away the fear, the lonesome feel­ racism, there's just one way to do rhat: main­ channel on society's view, and love your :^iirc teels like hate. And, in fact^ it is hate. Get OUT and vote! presentation focused on what considerations ing, and the need to hide. Show what is to taining permanent vigilance about what we say should come into play when making important family by standing as a voice of who you Its convenient for bigots to deny that they and do — and who we listen to with respect. come of us, leaders that are to come OUT decisions such as these, and steps to imple­ are. Can I define you? Can they define you? irc racist (or sexist, homophobic, etc.), and to from among them. Stand and reveal your ment them." 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Several protestors are coordinating local logistics and press with Bod* make up fbr the indignities I suffered from Dr. government employees from anti-discrimi­ However, the leaders appeared to agree churches about "the battle to preserve mar­ intersexed people whose surgery as chil­ ies Uke Ours fbr th^ CCMC action," said Guess and other hospital administrators, it's nation, it is still l^gal in 36 states for non­ that some parts ofthe church will shun the riage". dren resulted In assignment to the wrong Liesegang. "The demonstration at CCMC in­ comforting to know that by standing up for government employers to discriminate on New Hampshire diocese, and possibly the -Joe Crea, The Washmgton Btode gender. cluded lesbians, i^aiys, bisexuals and transgender what's right, I have made it easier for other the basis of sexual orientation. The ACLU entire Episcopal church, which has be­ Their efforts paid off. Not only did Dr. representatives from the Connecticut commu* people facing anti-gay discrimination in the has launched a web<4>ased public education come more accepting of gay relationships. European Union Rink cancel his appearance, CCMC has nity. This action was a truly inclusive demon­ workplace.'* campaign, www.adu.org/getequal http:// They called on Rowan Williams. Arch­ also invited Bodies Uke Ours to present a stration of solidarity and support fbr our inter­ Davis worked in the Radiology Department www.aclu.org/getequal, to encourage the nations may recognize bishop of Canterbury, to create a commis­ program on the perspective of adult survi­ sex sisters and brothers. It is especially heart­ at the hospital near Spokane fbr about two lgbt community to work fbr equality. The sion to study the problems and report same sex civil unions vors of early childhood surgery intended to ening that thb action carrot just wec^ks after our years. Dr. Charles Guess, the chief radiologist, website includes a number of tools designed NAriONALAND iNTERNATlONAL NEWS within a year. assign an infant to one gender or tite other. Governor induded bisexual, transgender and harassed her routinely. Guess constantly re­ to protect igbt employees in the workplace, Ministers within the European Union are dis­ Robinson's consecration is scheduled Following the demonstration. Driver said. intersex in his Procbmatton for Pride Day here ferred to Davis as a **fucking dyke" and **fucking ranging from a one-click action alert urging Anti-gay-marriage cussing adopting rules which would recognize for Nov. 2. He has said he will not with­ Catholic church pulls "This was a great opportunity fbr intersex in Connecticut." faggot," and told another doctor. "I don't think Congress to support the ENDA, the federal same sex civil unions, according to The Guard­ draw, but the Episcopal church's presiding amendment is held activists to come together with our aiiies Bodies Uke Ours is a non-profit educational that fucking faggot should be doing vaginal anti-gay discrimination bill, to instructions out of credit union ian. bishop. Frank Griswold, hinted that he across a broad spectrum to publicly and organization dedicated to the elimination ofthe exams, and I'm not working with her." on how to encourage private employers to The Netheriands has offered marital rights might ask Robinson to step down. up in committee visibly voice our collective outrage at what shame and sc^crecy associated with atypical When Davis complained. Guess told hospi­ adopt non-discrimination poiicies. that backs gay rights to same sex couples for two years; Belgium -The Associated Press The constitutional amendment intended to is occurring In hospitals around the coun­ genitalia and the elimination of eariy genital tal administrators that he didn't "agree with -ACLU I The Roman Catholic Church has ordered abo recognizes same sex marriages. Same sex ban same sex marriage by defining It as "be­ try five.times 1^ day to non-consenting surgery unless medically necessary. The or;^- Mary Jo Davis' lesbian lifestyle." Rather than i parishes in Vancouver, British Columbia to civil unions are legal in Denmark, France and Intersex activists tween a man and a woman" is being heid up in children." nization seeks to raise awareness of intersex discipline Guess, the hospital punished Davis, Lesbian activist heads I cease doing business with VanCity Credit Germany, but more conservative European committee, according to House Minority Whip protest gender Jerimarie Uesegang. Chair of the Na­ issues resulting from societal and medical reducing her wo?*k hours to three-quarters Union, because the credit union supports Union member nations, like Italy and Greece, international group Steny Hoyer's statement to the Christian tional Transgender Advocacy (NTAC) misperceptions. There is a broad overfap of time so Guess wouldn't have to work with her. gay rights. still regard such marriages as taboo. Paula Ettelbrick, former legislative counsel Broadcasting Network's 700 Club in early revision in Conn. Activism Committee, supported Driver's social and legal issues faced by intersexed Finally, Davis was fired. Archbishop Adam Exner said that VanCity, Under the new proposed rules, same sex for the Empire State Pride Agenda, has been October. A small band of Intersex activists rallied In demonstration efforts. At the same time, people and tnnssexuais. "By standing up to the bigotry of Dr. Guess which has branches throughout British Co­ married couples from the Netfi<>riaRds and named head of the Internationa! Gay and On the same broadcasts Senate Majority front ofthe Connecticut Children's Medical she also worked to promote a transgender- -NTAC and Pullman Memorial Hospital, Ms. Davis has lumbia, backs "an objectionable cause". He Belgium would be able to keep their rights Lesbian Human Rights Commission Leader Bill Frist (R-Tenn) said that if the Center (CCMC) in Hartford, Conn, on j Inciusive governor's Proclamation for Pride made going to work every day much easier for said that the financial institution's pro-gay intact In other E.U, nations. Such couples would (IGLHRC), a U.S.-based non-profit group Massachusetts or New Jersey courts legalize Sept 26 to protest a gender revision surgi- I Day in Connecticut According to Liesegang, Lesbian wins suit for lesbian and gay government employees." said advertising campaigns and sponsorships be able to obtain permanent residence in any which works for Igbt rights worldwide. same sex marriage, this would provide enough ca! procedure scheduled fbr an unidentified | this made her deal with the question of why Ken Choe, staff attorney with the ACLU's show pubiic support for "agendas which are E.U. state after living there for five years. Ettelbrick feels that despite the recent i momentum to get the amendment moving infant Intersex was included as part of our harassment, firing at Lesbian & Gay Rights Project "Because of her. worrisome and harmful to the church and "This is an important step," said Kees victories here and In Canada, much work ! again. The "Total Urogenital Sinus Surgical Pro- \ j transgender communiry. It Is now clear that government employers can society". Waaldjik, a senior law lecturer at Leiden Uni­ Washington hospital remains to be done. She cites the global Winnie Stachelberg, poiiticai director for cedure" was to be^ observed by participants The answer, she says, is simple. The be held accountable for anti-gay dtschmina- ; He indicated that a recent ad from versity and an expert in gay and lesbian rights bacl

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Uus& &r ^m sfaff to provide safe schools for Igbt students, GSA presidents and also student body presi­ through education of teachers and admimstra- dents at colleges.** tors and support for Gay Straight v\Uiances Powell noted that the big event for GLSEN (GSAs). GliJEN has trainings comixig up this each year is the Day of Silence in April; mem­ We're celebrating our month and is seeking new members. bers of the CTAGV Youth Ciroup have been ITie group sponsored SchoGh Out: the Ufe of very active in organizing for this event in past a Gay High School in Texas, a Youth Project film years. TVie local chapter is already starting to in last month's ImageOut festival. They wete plan for this year's event, during which stu­ I With markdowns throughout also a sponsoring growp for the Cominunity dents keep siience all day in memory of those Halloween Party on Oct. 25. voices lost through anti-gay violence and ha­ Keith Powell said, "WeVe looking for gen­ tred The event culminates with "breaking the the store During November eral members rv.> get involved, especially f ;n rht silence'*. training front. Wc help to tram teachers and "We just had the nationai GI^EN confer­ educators, and we also work with students in ence in Washington, D.C.," Pc^well said, "and Keith Powell Is a GLSEN board member. Save 20% on all Azenta incense products GSAs." 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He works build stronger C^SAs and help educate the second, giving them tools to change the envi­ like the fight for the Dignity for Ali Students for Kodak, a sponsor of national GLSEN. schools in our community. Tlie Summit would ronment, in terms of ending homophobic bias Act (currendy before the N.Y.S. legislature). "I^ambda Kodak decided tliis year to show hopefully be held in this area. It's something and making school safe." We want people to be engaged and put their local and corporate support for GLSEN," he Greeting Cards • T*Shirts Toys for Big GiHs and Big Boys we'd really like to do. Tt would be powerful." Keith Powell said th^it Gl.Sl'.N is meaning support behind helping vouth." said. 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MMUWOIESTaSTARXOM Casper, Wyo. to Matthew Shepard, the gay ^XT^en the placement e^f the Ten Command­ SPEO/ti-S ALL WEEK LONG college student brutally murdered five years CALL FOR INFORUAnON NFO \m - H5«HSTAR FRKBEE ments monument in XX'yoming was challenged, HORS D'OEUVRES ago near Laramie, is a ver\' sad example of a the Court said that anvone wouid be free to ATM 870 Universitu Avenue * RochestBC liV 14607 * leOSl 271-8030 pcrtv and, in my opinion, verv ignorant person. erect any other monument as well. 1 applaud Tnere are two main issues involved in this, die erection ofthe Ten Commantlments monu­ however. Sen. Clinton blasts Bush policies ment but 1 understand why the Court's ruling DID YOy KNOW I he hrst is the intolerable point that a per­ has ro afknx all oth<^r monuments. Wi ALSO lAAKE... at Pride Agenda dinner Oct. 10 son who purports to be a man of God would One ofthe first and most fam.ous examples promote hatred and bigotry. The other is that V0hlcl0 t&ifming of a similar issue was when the Na/is wanted At the Empire State Pride Agenda dinner in public accommodation, and told the Pride J monument to hatred would be placed on Window Leit&fing to march in the N'iHatre of Skokie, Illinois in N.Y.C. on Oct. 10, Senator Miliary Rodham Agenda he looked forward to continuing the p.ihlic propert)-. 1977. The thought of Nazis marching through fuH Coior Graphics Clinton blasted the Bush Administration and "work together for another three-and-a- Phelps is clearly NOT a man of Crod. ITie a prcdominanriv |ewish area, c(\ntairTingmanv IrupHic^ SoiuU^ Bann&rs the Republican leadership for the direction in haif years." '-. ^ru! ^rW'AXjD (What Would jesus Do) bracc- r^ijnai who had surx'ived Nayi dcarli ciin^p^ (.during profe Interior Of^ce Signs which it is tr-king America, likening it to a rcli- Schumer TaSks afcout Fighting Right- !, '< acrualh- can provide a pretty good guide The VCVC'II, is about as distasteful as things can get. Architeciurai/ back ofthe clock to a time when "they didn t Wing judiciaJ Nominations ]'!H for those who wish to live a Christian It is in poor taste, mean-spirited and ct?-ry. Sandbiasfed Signs have to deal with wom.en or gays or anybody After greeting the crowd. Senator Charies iifc^tTlc. So in this t\'pe of circumstance, in However, to have denied the Nazis the right to Let Us Help Dimensionai Leit&rs else . Schumer focused »nost of his comment.s on deciding how to respond to the tragic death of march would have infringed on their right of Construcflon/Sito Signs Both of New York's Democratic U.S. Sena­ effor-ts to prevent the Bush Administration M.uthew Shepard, \XTiat Wouid Jesus Do? Your Business free speech. I agree that their right to free Magrmtics tors and, in a surprise appearance at rhe from "loading up the judici.iry with right- 1 liave no question that jesus would weep speech ought to be stitlcd, hut if we start dinner, Republican Governor George Pataki, wingers who want to turn the clock back to for the familv. He would attempt to console Stand OUT from stifling anyone's right to free speech, where showed up to tout their records of support the 1890s." in characterizing the forces at­ ilnm and show them love and support. Wt)uld does it stop? Our "politically correct" world the Crowd. on gay Issues. tempting to roll back time^ he referred to iiC ai;rcc with Matthew Shepard's lifestyle? It now is leaning more toward trving to prevent LOO Raising almost $650,000 for the statewide them as "the hard right, the mean people" d( >es not matter one whit, because Jesus showed anyone's feelings from V>eing hurt, but that will organization's nonpartisan gay civil rights and said, 'They have this sort of littie patina 'tr.u compassion and iove arc never tilings to come at a price of curtailing free speech. advocacy work, the evening was built around of philosophy but underneath it al! is meart • !u cirned or deserved, rather, thev are things Porn magnate and distributor Larn I'lrnr is Roehesler. NY 14623 , " " -.:••. ^['^•:..:.Sax:.6tS^2?24-252 honoring former board co-chair Jeff Soref ness, selfishness and narrow-mindedness." one •^liould give freely and uath joy. Jesus' a lot like Fred Phelps in some ways. Yes, it felt for his local and national leadership in the Schumer vowed to frustrate their efforts. MT,^ were alwavs clear that we have all gooel to compare Phelps and V*"l\t"it and I am political and social fight of the gay community saying, "We are standing in their way. We ' nned and fallen short ofthe Cilorv r4 Ciod. sure t}tAi c<^>n^pariS(^t•[ vvouici p]cAsc Phelps. for e^ual rights: it turned out to be thst and are a log in their path.' And vve wili ii"K>t le-t ir W (u.ild A niurdcrcr he more A sinner th.in A a Stj//, Fi\'nf once said thar as long as people iike much more AS New York's top three state­ happen!" l:,ir- li uould nor matter anv more than it Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton. him were free to publish offen.sive things, it wide elected officials all paid tribute to Soref s Clinton Says Anti-Gay Marriage "iitiers It someone can jump fi\c teer and meant rhat regular folks would be free ro do leadership and accomplishments and used Annendnnent Wili be used to Distract '^f in^ec )ne else can jump 1 .S feet, u hen botli are what rliev wanted. 1 think of people like I'lynt the opportunity to speak about ethers issues America from ReaJ Problems ;r' inur to jump the Grand C^anyon. So if Phelps and the Nazis as a warning line. A.s long as thev they knew would resonate with the 1200 !n a speech lasting just over 20 minutes and 1. ;,i;ms to be a preacher, 1 would assunie he are free to act crazy, behave in poor taste or people crowded into the midtown Manhat­ interrupted by frequent applause. Sen. ^ h- 'uld have some passing knowledge of jesus just be crazy, I know 1 am free to do things So tan Sheraton ballroom. Clinton made her most extensive comments .IIK) His teachings, but Phelps' actions cer- even rhough 1 do not agree with Phelps anv Pataki Makes Unscheduled Appciar- to date on the anti-gay marriage amend­ t.unlv show the opposite. Phelps should be more than 1 could agree with the Nazis, I can ance ment. Clinton predicted the amendment v^ill iNliamed of himself. accept that freedom means everyone is free, Governor Pataki's remarks had a decid­ be at the "center ofthe Presidential election .\t rhe same time, 1 would be remiss if I did not just those who agree with me. Animas Traders edly New York State-based focus. He thanked next year" and will be used by people "who nor niention the seeming batde between reli- There are many options for the park. Thev the Pride Agenda for supporting him last year try to drive wedges between Americans." fiu )n and gays. Just as it is patendy improper for She noted that the push for the amendment can move the Ten Commandments, privatize in his successful race for Governor and told .ir.y religious person to promote hatred and Latin American Arts &r Crafts represents the first time an attempt is being the park, or take many other steps The less the audience "There's more to do" In New hiuotrv, I would hope that those who are gav made to amend the Constitution to specifi­ publicity this matter receives, rhe less likely it York State. Receiving warm applause, Pataki uill not let the small-minded and petty "reli cally deny rights to any group of individuals, is that Phelps Vrnll have the money to erect the noted the important achievement of passing uious leaders" sour them on religion. The old Clinton also repeated the Schumer charge statue. Other people are also free to jeer at him • Chimeneas tbe Sexual Orientation Non-Discrimination .ning that one bad apple spoils the whole that the Bush Administration and its sup­ while it is being constructed. Defacing a public Act (SONDA), a bill which he supported and liunch is seldom as true as it is in religious • Bird Baths (I porters want to roll back the clock on the monument or vandalism is always a possibil­ ./• signed Into law last December that made matters. I know many gay individuals who nation's sociai progress to a time more thar* ity, but is certainly discouraged. Perhaps the New York State the 13* state to ban anti-gay Duflfy PaJmer, co-chalr ofthe Pride Agenda Board; Chuck Bowen, executive director ofthe na\ e been preached to or preached at about most fitting thing to do is erect a monument • Flowerpots ^-^y Gay Aiiiance; Alan Van Capelie, executive director of the Pride Agenda, and riark Siwiec, / discrimination in employnrMsnt, housing, and ESPA continued on p. II things the speaker did not even anderstand. next to the proposed one that is of Phelps, • Furniture x„.. Rochester Democratic Party activist, at the Sheraton on Oct. i 0. Below: Sen. CUnton and The negative reaction many gays have to reli- viath a suitably crude dedication. The answer is Greg Kerr present a Community Service Avt^ard to l>oard member Jeff Soref in fneco£niti<»n ^on IS understandable,but it is still wrong. Just not to complain about the freedom, but to use of hif sbc y«ars as ESPA co-chalr. and his leadership in the fight fbr equal rights. as all gay individuals would not want to be • Carved garden rock the same freedom to take appiopriate action •-n, '•,y,.;' 0^»Cr*'f3^«»*«'<*-*^^ judged by a single misguided individual who against people with pinheaded, bigoted ideas. r • Talavera Dinnerware Otir'Ntukkitt'ifcicia^A |MH^'«»ia^ gives gays a bad name, so ail religious people In closing, I would just like to repeat my should not be judged by the misguided fools. hope that religious people would really begin • Glassware The issue of the monument itself is a more to think more about VC^JD. Keep love and complex and difficult one. I^t me be clear that compassion as your guide and you will know • Mirrors noodteta I completely disagree in every aspect with the the answer to WWJD. 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In August dreds {and investigating thousands more) for SA7WDAY RKeW A PR« DRMK By Robert Osborn, Toronto 2001, Glad Day Books was charged with vio­ crimes of importing, possessing or accessing ">X'hen it comes to illicit materials, it's harder to be a homo than a pothead these days" - at least lation of the Ontario Theatres \ct for selling "child" pornography. No wonder the cops f%iic3t-iir in the experience of Jacqueline Dumas. The o>*'ner of the small Orlando Books in Edmonton, the adult video Descent without submitting it supported decriminalizing nuurijuana posses­ Alberta, Dumas has seen Canada Customs relax about marijuana reads - only to crack down on to the Board for review. The Court didn't rule sion — they don't have time to deal with it k^.v and lesbian lit. on the constitutionality ofthe review process anymore given the vast numbers of easier PIAYBOYZ Back in the 1970s, Dumas owned Asperi Books, aiso in PLdmonton. "All the books stopped (since it wasn't used) and found Glad Day arrests just around die comer! then were marijuana growing books," she says of deabng with border guards censoring her guilr)\ Facing a fine of up to $100,000 (in And fiiU circle: in 1997 a teacher named HOT MEUa DRAG KIMG SHOlAl! shipments. "Now it seems to be what they think of as 'gay pomo,' and we have no trouble getting addition to S50,0<.)0 spent on die trial), the , Narcissc Kuneman was convicted and jailed marijuana books in." store appealed. Stay tuned. Courts have ruled for possessing a copy of Haiinon's articie "Men While her border problems have been minimal in the past year and a half, Dumas has had to that Film Board decisions don't affect whether loving boys loving men" — now officially mUBOTY POLE WAY STARRIAIG CLiniT TAURUS, LL KOOLAY deal with ignorant officials over what is obscene. "It's so arbitrary'," she says. "leather gets something is obscene or not — but obviously child pornography. (Since its original publica­ stopped the most. But sometimes it's ndiculous things like comic books. Some tides, American they can have tVie same effect. tion the article has been reprinted, antholo­ biMtOOiSTaSTARIOM distnbutors won't even ship to us - mosdy gay male S and M tides." On June 26, 2003 the Art of Loving erotic gized and was required reading in Prof. UFO UN§ - (5«HSTAR (from an article in ATTM.'by Denise Balkissoon - Feb. 8, 2001) art store in Vancouver premiered a theatrical Harmon's journalism class at Ryerson Univcr- SHOWTII^ISS AT 8 4- 10 ( cnsorship has always been a problem, not just for the queer communitv-. It is a fact ot performance including a scene with two ac­ sity). In June 2003 the Ontario Court of Ap­ civilization that: tors engaged in oral sex (not simulated). No peal Ol dercd a retrial Stay tuned.. lence and bloodshed around, it does seetTi rh:it Per.'^eciiiO'. Readrn af- invited in ask. qtieslinrn, (1) rulers, governments and religions are most comfortable when people respect their rules and tified before the fact, a spokesman fot the A warning: don't bring kiddy pom across an awful lot of time, effort and money has gone inqutTv aboHt infor*riation sources, andsu^esi topics for principles - so tiiey work haid to discourage critical thinking, and Vancouver Police Department said the pro­ the border into Canada — stretching your into defending the basic right of people to do further articles. W'rite c/o Empty Closet or email: (2) people are a littie xenophobic and get upset when exposed to ideas outside their own narrow duction would not be investigated, charged or imagination beyond all reason as to what the what they want so long as it doesn't harm emptycln iime-.^enutive, and some ' rdinan,' citizens take action to suppress the foreign influence, in Kzv Bradbur\"s ]950 classic some internal discussion, the Department Liter Norhmg to do with pornography, but otili :t ir !?n"r nc'thing when people ;ire i;ii!ed for 'liiail.': muy have ch.-!nf.i''d. PtTmi'ci.jnn /> hrri'H •:jrantfd l-ahrvnheit 451, the State designated firemen to seize and burn ail books, .since they were the warned that the performance would consu sensitive issue: how to raise the awareness o( privatelv being themselves. to rirjynm thi.^ niaienal tor non-profn purfn m. t^rrn'idra repositories of such unsettling ideas (451 degrees is apparendy die temperattire requited to burn tute an offence even without tbe complaint. children to the possibility of sainc-gender (This is the fifth article in the series "A Canadian the name, author, and copyHiiht are noted. hooks). In the end, the cops didn't even show up fot couples, n particular, once the schools all Public burning of books is not in fashion right now; most countries that publicly espouse the the perfomiance. But the whole issue seems finally deal with die divorce/separation issue, «Access Ramps « Wid«rffilng Doorways «> concepts of "freedom" and "democracy" have found more subtie ways of suppressing reli­ witiiout any kind of resolution. Stay tuned; the how do we make young children comfortable giously- or politically-incorrect materials. They turn the authors mto non-persons and seize prc>moters plan to take the performance na­ with rw/o moms or i-^.^o dads? ^ LovtfsHng CablnMi & Coyinters<> Shower SlalUt® offending materials, or at least prevent their transport. Mere possession may also be a crime. tion-wide. In 1997 B.C. schoolteacher James Cham ® Bathtub & ToiM Grab Bars « Any Rsfnodsing Hsscls<» Sexual morality has been a prime topic for censorship forever, it seems, and the organized The Internet, of course, messes the censor­ berlain tried to introduce three books into his bottJr of wine with purchase of two dinner entree.; religions are hanging on for dear life. There seems to be no way to write down what is "correct" ship picture nicely. Canada Customs doesn't kindergarten and Grade 1 clzsscn:.Asha'sMums, or "moral" behaviour (or pictures or literature) when sex is concerned. Whereas other moral Belinda's Bouquet, and One Dad, Two Dads, Brown have the manpower to seize materials mdi- Free Estimsles TAsues restricting freedom have some logical basis in keeping society stable and safe ("Don't yell viduallv ordered from abroad (e.g. Daris, Blue Dads. The sch(X?l board banned the GimmtMd TLC. 58&-303*»2392 fire' m a crowded theatre" restricts free speech), people keep insisting thar even quite pnvate Amazon.com), nor can ir prevent viewing books, citing parents' religious objections and ';mmunir\' standards" that cncouniee evcrvl>odv To xr\ to enforce rhcir own mor.>.!irv on others. hosted Cvbernet l^xpo in j une, ^yrhennt: .idulr which ic:K:]-i rhiit honiosexuality is :icccprable. ' ;ai-i:id;i is no exception to all oftbc ar>ovv-. ()ver the vears, irs government has become less of cnicrtainmcnr website pit >ni* >f(- rv ir< >m ,ir< >und TTisli for>A-ard five years and SL-^-tiii')H>n Hours BAR Sf RESTAURANT .. ibcocracy rhan rhe I ..S.. NO rTjor.iJ:f\ i;m s arc hecom/nu .) bif more rational and Clanad.i is the world for insinicrions -way. People are subjecr to arrest and imprisonment for possessing piemium Califomis Wines, The Ontario I'ilm Board (see abovei was cerns. DI H! And finMliv, in June 2(H)3. the Mertot Of Cbardoiinay P( .rnographic pictures. Authors are arrested for wnung 'dirn' books and illustrating them with fonned a century ago "to protect womc-n and Surrey Sclu-ol Board decided the ho(,ks in One coupon per t3l)le diriv" sketches. No separate billing w/offet. children from harmful influences," Thar phi- que-.stion lacked lirerarv nierit, but went ahead Valid untHS/31/03. phone 271.4910 | 704 Umversity Ave. .\s with most irrational legislation, the courts sctm to be the instrument of choice for change. lc>sophv seems stjli to prevail in both legisla to itpprove vwo other.s: W'lw'f it: a tamily by As an aside, this author is not a porn freak. There may be legitimate boundaries to portravais tion and enforcement of censorship '^X'ait 'tilJ V^<.hcx\'SV\x\Q\\^x\(\.-\B(. alamilyAbbabetBook WEAR- (.f nudit\', sexuahrv-, violence or degradatij>n, individual exploitation. It's just rhat most of the vou hear who is A child, rhough. bv Bobbie Combs. suppression seems unguided bv humanistic reason. Tt) a lot of people, a picture of two men A classic case in gay porn is the articie ".Men NUDITY p;\ssionately kissing is pornographic. And, for all its merits as a humanistic societ\% it is in this area loving boys loving men", third in a senes on I can still remember the excitement aiound » rhar Canada has most abjectly failed.) youth sexuality by Gerald Hannon, printed by southern 1 ^ike Ontario when Toronto's C1T\'- FVFR ADULT "PORNOGRAPFTV" The Body Politic in December 1977. l"Tie pub­ IV began broadcasting its "blue movies" sc­ As noted in the lead to this article, gay bookstores have long been the victims of over zealous lisher, Pink Triangle Press, was charged u-ith ries in the early '70s. Rochester pointed its ( ustorns officers. Entire shipments of imported hooks and magazines have been seized and held obscenity, their offices raided, subscriber lists antennas north. More recently CirV'-TV has for long periods, witii storeowners facing possible fines or criminal charges - and certain loss of of "deviants" seized. In dismissing the case, launched "Naked News" (in which women v.iles money. leading the court batties against this practice are Glad Day Books fforonto) and the Court found that while the anicic "dis­ read the news, sports and weather while taking l.ittk Sisters Bookstore (Vancouver). cusses pedophilia and pedophilic acts and off all their clothes) and "Barely Cooking" In 1982, Customs officials anested Thomas l.uscher at the border and seized a magazine that perscms, it is ncjt... pornography." Judge (ditto with food) as weU as the PrideVision Naughty S^ Niee contained sexually explicit scenes involving a man and a woman. In 1985, the Federal Court of Sydney Harris went funher, flatiy stating, channel. .\ppeal dismissed the charges, ruling that provisions allowing agents to seize "immoral and "One's sexual behaviour and orientation is In Canada, a cop cannot lay a public nudity 0$9 Monroe Ave indecent material" were unconstitutionally vague. However definitive it sounds, this apparendy not acquired from what one reads or sees. charge without the written authorization di vxas onlv the opening volley in a prolonged battle over border-censorship. Homosexuality and pedophilia are not conta­ the attorney general of the province. Very few ()n Jan. 26,2001, the Supreme Court of Canada sided with Littie Sisters Bookstore in a seizure gious and one's sexua! behaviour is deter­ offenses need such authorization; treason is case arid stated "sexually-explicit or provocative videos and stories created for private use are mined by one's genetic endowment and envi­ another. Nudity is a threat to the State, There exempt, including sexuai activity berween ct>nsenting persons above age 14. Exempt also arc ronment. .. these being the same factors fhat were a few arrests for nudity in the 2002 Pride ENERGY - WISE arnstic and socially beneficent works". They ordered Canada Customs to stop discriminating dciermine one's non-sexual behaviour..." parade but the Crown deckled not to pros­ Heating • Cooling • Plumbing against lesbian and gay bookstores. However, six months later. Customs seized yet another You'd think that would settie the whole ecute; there was no such repression in 2003 i(ist*ni MoiHOe Cowily Wostwn Momos Co4infy shipment of gay books destmed fot Little Sisters. In this new case, the BC Superior Court has kiddy porn issue once and for all. Not. 3espite a large contingent of totally nude men sided with the bookstore, allowing them to file an injunction for protection against border In 1993 the federal government legislated a in the parade. Hanlan's Point beach in Toronto 223-6800 =__^^ 436-6800 police. Stay mned. new, and vastly broader definition of child harbour is officially designated "clodiing op­ www. E8>«r9yWis*Cofp.cofn Fallowing the Supreme Court decision, Canada C:ustoms adopted new guidelines, lisnng 10 pornography. Essentially the new Criminai tional". #»- categories of obscenity. This should prf>vide much amusement in courtrooms for years to come All ^our favorite Code defined children as people under the age The official law (Criminal Code secrion 174) The neu'guidelines may be viewed at . of 18, and made illegal any visual material defines nudit/ as "being so clad as to offend Even when Customs doesn't get involved, there are hassles. In October 2002, American showing a "child" engaging in sexual activity against public decency or order." What does author Robert Meyer personally sold copies of his book Outlaw Repnsentation: Censorship and Alt»^ Ihin^ft at a or showing a sexual organ or anal region of a this mean? The Courts, also confused, have Homosexuality in Twentieth Centttry American Art during a talk at the University of Totonto, after his "child", or writing about having sex with a ruled that most non-sexual and non-harassing publisher (Oxford University Press) refused to distribute the txx>k in Canada because it might "child*'. In January 2001, the Supreme Court nudity — streaking, for example — is legal in j&M • yW'^ i'^: -violate obscenity laws. (It contained some Roben Mapplethorpe photos.) of Canada upheld the law — with narrow Canada. • Meeting • Water Heaters '^-s^ The Periodical Marketers of Canada have an obscenity advisory panel fot magazine wholesaJ- exceptions — but in December 2002 the None ofthe above is supposed to encourage • Ar Conditioning • Ductwork ers. Early .his year, they advised Disticor, the Canadian distributor of the lesbian mapaineO, ^^^^^, ^ ^^^ ^^ people to remove their clothes a» sotm as they • Bolters • CXict Cleaning 0.r/W*..,.ha„hreepho.osin.hcFebruary/March.ssue*ereobscene.and.hedistr,bu.orhad *^^ ^^ ^^^^^ is no disdncrion between cross the border. The bws arc relattvciy un­ • 24 Houre Ennergency Service • Gas Fireploces ,. affix stickers over the offending pictures or destroy all the magazines. ImentationaUy kn«wn ^^^ J_^ ^^ ^^^^^ ^^^^^^^^ ^^ tested and enforcement is sttU tip to individu­ 5?9 Mow We offer free irvhome estimates for instoMations. photographer Fakir Musar was especally surprised, smce h,s much more exphc, S&M photo ,^.th.o^ydc(lr,scMno,omchodycJte^ als with their own hang-ups. CM «fid At* fer Tim McGJfMtls *Pimiknaaalumdudtd. ff^ertCapYtifmtiDi«M¥eotBr. anthology .S)>ir„ ^ /•/«* is widely available at Canadian bookstores. ^^^ ^^^^ pornography is that it was in The In conclusion, and considering all the vio- >\i\\- A l^iock w C>»^1 o-W:':

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'4 better approach is to sort out what's "yours, tal deduction: ness, Van Capelle also noted that there are mine, and ours" and plan accordingly so nei­ Your surviving spouse must be entit led to ail Permits family members and other present several important pieces of lgbt legislation James Del Favero •^a>.^m ther your spouse nor your children are unin­ trust income, payable annually or more fre­ owners to continue in their business roles after coming up for consideration and that candi­ 211 Culver Road tentionally disinherited. Think carefully and quentiy, for life. your disability, retirement or death. date endorsements reflected their active Rochester. NY 14607 objectively about potential conflicts, fumre Nci person can have a power to appoint ti"u«i Allows a fair market price f>vr the busi.ncss to support on these issues. Jennifer L. Gravitz, Esq. need?, and human namre. TTie following strat­ £ property ti> anvone other tlian your spcvase be agreed vipcin today, These include: the Dignity in All Schools egies may help in your planning. Quality legml «erdce« provided wilh while your spouse is alive. Provides a pl'.m to '('MT^A the purchase, and Act and Equal B^sneftts Bill in New York City, preliminaries Your executor (or personal representative) Lets you plan your estate and taxes ahead of and bills that have failed before but are old juishioiied care in th« privacy of your home or office Most estate plans have two goals: (1) to spell must elect to treat the trust as QTIP property. rime. coming up again in Suffolk that provide do­ out who should receive assets and (2) to reduce Your spouse's estate may have to pay federal life insurance is a popular way to provide mestic partner health benefiT.s for county B«7hk^Se4Us); f%<«il Edfane Pto:e y<>ur family's future rinar.'Cial hC) r The second goal is more difficult to achieve. your federal credit. The credit will oftsei some security. Erie County Legislature yOUR BODY MASSAGE Reducing or minimizing estate taxes — which or all (if the tax on these assets, depending on /^avtdC . Qun'k, C\ • 1 /.i- u' re'j^i.;teredrfpresetUative 5^ District jilSMonacdli (Oper) Seat) (D, in 2(»(»3 will run from 41 percent to 49 percent the amount vou leave to vour children. (ifid tnvi'stnient advisor repnsf/itjtive fn/../nco/fi / /- WfP) .It the tederal level — uathout cheating anv The second part of vour estate i?' placet! ii* a nauciaOAdwiors Corp., 200 Alend/an (u-nfre .Suite Ithaca Common Countctl l.m^.ily members usually calls for more sophis- trust that qualifies for the maritiil dedactu >n lit .' 50 RoJitster, \) " 146 IS 'j/pn'ri^ tnsuraiKc thnu^Q^h 2'^'^ Ward Michelle berry (Open Sect) ncated srrategies. These planning strategies available,), such as a (^TIP trust, ^'our estate IJncohj ijffi//ates and othn' fine vo^tpanns. Phis (D, WFP) (>tTen rely on trust arrangements tf > make opti­ pavs no tederal tax on this transfer because of irforfMatiov. should not he constmed as iej^i^l or ta:^: Roch€!Ster City Council ma! use ofthe federal credit and rhe unlimited the marital deductu/n. When vour spt)use sub- advice. \ ou may want to consult a lax advisor regard­ At Large William Pritchard (Incum­ marital deduction. The credit lets vou pass a sequenth- dies, the assets thar remain VL'JII be ing^ this informatiofi as it relates to your personal bent) (D) CL train amf)unr ot assets to anvone \ou choose, included in his or her gross estate. However, circumstances. East District Lois Gitss (incumbent) (D) tree of estate and gift tax. This amt)unt — the "•o'o\-(^'il\i.M^^^ your spouse's credir mav be available to shelter NW District Robert Stevenson (Incum­ credit equivalent - is Sl million in 2()(t3. all or part of those assets from tax. (Airrentlv GRGBLF names bent) (D. /, WFP) 1 nder the Ecf)ni)mic (.irowtPi and T ax Re this credi» is available ; »nl\ tosame ';e,\ couples lut Reconciliation .\cr of 20()1, liic estate tax who ha\e been legalh married in the I'nited Kosel as board chair (redit equivalent is scheduled t( > mcrcase gradu- States, but usinu a QTIP trust can be a viable David Kose! has beers named the new chair­ lii,. reaching $3,5 million m 2(Mi9. '[ he esrare business opens planning method to control v(,here assets \\te person for the Greater Rochester Gay and ;.!\ !s repealed in 2010. bur returns in 201 1, ^h.Uin'OO-h. iOh:Oiy left at the second death. Lesbian Business Forum 2003-2004 Board. in ARTWalk \\\\\\ a credit equivalent of $1 million. L'nllke jOtlO)\f:\\ii- Life Insurance Trusts Tim Stallman cf GRGLBF said, "Based on n,c estate tax credit equivalent, the gift tax The GAGV has a new neighbor, "(jroovy An irrevocable life insurance trust is another discussion, there v^'as a feeling that we needed credit equivalent is not scheduled to increase Stuff* - a store that opened Sept 14 at 169 srraregv vou might use to pass v/ealth to select other perspectives on our board, and new Liho\ e Sl million. Atlantic Ave. familv members. With a life insurance trust, ideas and thought, and a good way to do that \\ uh the m.arital deduction (currentlv un- It's a one-of-a-kind shop. Karen Robby, yvy At your death, vour trustee collects the insur could bring together our community, and death. So, it you iea\e your entire estate out­ Stuff specializes in hQUSii^iim^9SfBi»^i*^ a ance proceeds and cither manages rhem for someone who would have drive to represent right to your survi\ ing spouse, no tederal es­ blender to a couch, but also carries some your children or other trust beneficiaries or our service board with great skills (organiza­ tate tax will be due < m v( >ur estate at your death. interesting pieces of ctoching, knick-knacks -«.. distributes them as yf>u have directed in your tion, follow up, people, communication, etc.)." By doing so, though, \(^u relinquish any ct>n- and atl kinds of odds and ends. One of the iOl OT/I T trust agreement. 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As soon aslt'«l(iM.K»ww|^ will be removed from your federal estate for James Yost LM.T. trust, the assets are held in trust for the use of for New York City Council seats, twemy- a call. Currendy Qrticftf Scwff Is op^Mon- estate-tax purpr>scs. Many people use the an­ vour spr)usc, but pass to whomever you have two for county legislature seats in the lar^ day aod Tuesday, I I:1«>-*pjn.. end Wednes­ nual exclusion to give assets that are appreciat chosen when your spouse dies — your chil­ oudying suburban counties of Nassau. Suf­ day ~ Saturday from 6 - 9:30 p.m. ing in value. Then, both the current value of dren, for example. As long as the trust meets folk and Westchester and the remainder

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Cireatcr RrxiKestcr Rqxiftofy Companies (GRRC) and Tilt Rochester (Jiiidren's Nursery/ (RCN) art prfj^ to present the ncvival t>f one of Rtichcster's mt>st dicTished pcrixirmarires. Oil Nt >v. 20anf 121, at the histofic Ck:mr>an Houst% -st^^A^-y^^K.^i '^^f'it:^ VitJd Gasarett will repme ber moviing pottrsyA as J®"^*!t^^^{? r-%:--i;*1^;;^f: one of AmeaKza's mtrst popular yet enigmaric {xx,ts — Emit)' DiddnsofL JVfichad Ijasser, theatrc critic for the Demxna d^' tj&fwab^ lavcd abtxit bodi the perfoimrifliKie aiKi th^ pit^durtkxiofthe lheBelkaf4mbcnt'x^ici\ttW2& first perfotmcd in Januaty of 1990 at llx; Cobblestone Arts Centei: "To watch \*kki Cassi«a!t as Emily Diddnsonm 7Z«rA4fc^iwfe«/is to watch alifetalce foim and flower to a pcrfe>miance EMcly matched in tntuitrsn and acuity. Under Michael H, Arve's fluid tferecoon, Casajrtt draws us inn:> Emily's pattor — z'. aiid her heart" GRRC says. ate lio«ored to be aide to •t^^<|-^^Goyfe iKnxiunt this productk« as a benefe for Rotiiestef's pftaraer cady-cducadoBi center. AH proceeds •w3^ Parkieigh (after 11/15/03) or Pride Connec­ Miss Gay Rochester imo C^^^fl^@^;jc5:?^if cnaltie RCN to condnue their exen^jJasy services to tion (after 11/22/03), $30 at the door. A por­ Be1-w^0n 10:-lt the Ruchester comrmmity/' For over 146 yeats, tion ofthe proceeds will be donated to a local pageant is Nov* 9 RCK hps pfovkied vited fxkicanoiia} services lio c^^ charity. This event is open to the public. Get serious, girls. The 33rd Aiifiual Miss Gay ':>^^IX> f*^rV« Thrw; mervkea tr>ckitle todiflciC pre* 'T>etails will be forthcoming," organissers Rochester pagtraiit is scheduled for Nov. 9 at seiidBliftilscliuol^^attet IJraweiaaiPafC'kindeiigar' say, "but plea.<$e put the date on your calendar." Harro Hast Ballrtx^nni, 4(X) Andrews St. t£n andfuB day KtndeigMten, surnmerosn^idndan For niore information, please call (585)234- This year's show features Rondreita's 20di irxiusioo piogtam foe chtlditn whh devdofw^ 4388. Year Tribute; Aggy Dune a$ MC; Ambrosia Qf disahdtdes — aH in a fiimfly centered, nafionaily Salad, Heather Skye's 10th Year, Naiomy Kane, acc» Raptors tryouts set Ginger Snap, Miss Understood (Miss Roches­ Oenctalacbnisebo: $1.5; studoit tickets: S12 and ter 2003), and many more female imperson­ flO for^!D»4» of fiveo t mcwe. Please cal Rocfaesier for Nov. 1,2» 8 and 9 Raptors team 2003. ators. CMdrenV Nutseiy at (585) 473-2858 or GRRC at Rochester Raptors organizers say, '*Want to The requirements to tiy out are that you Doors open at 6 p.m., and showtime is 7 (585) 624-8360 to make resorvadons or «» o«der piay women's professional football? Here's your must be 18 or older, with a copy of a valid ID p.m. Tickets are $i 5 in advance and f2() at the /[ B^f f. T v^^^^f g^oup dcicets. oj^xjutunity." and individual health insurance. No experi­ door, aiid are available at Tara, Muthers, Nasty The Raptors, a incmixir of the NWFA (Na- ence is necessary. The Raptors coaches will D's, Angelo Designs and Marcella's Buffalo. Dec« 6 Holiday Gayla ttCMia) Women's Footi>all Association), will For ticket and table informarion, call Wayne .r-v -i f'c;.>''-'^. i'^ V w put each athlete through a rigorous workout, is open to puMic balds tryouts on Nov. 1,2,8 and 9 at Rochester involving basic footbaU drills, speed drills, at (585)263-7727. $|)Om Gecdts, 1460 E. Henrietta Rd, ftom 9 passing, puntif^ receiving, etc. Athletes are r The 2003 HoBdsty GayU tpifl be hcW on Satufday, Fun with Zoe Lewis 23 LibertK P ^JiL to 1 pjn. asked to wear comfortable athletic attire, t- Dec 6, at the Rochester Museum and Sdencc There is a $35 re$;;btratH>n fee at the time of shirt, shorts, and sneakers, and to bring a By Sherrili Fulghum Center, ftom 7 p jn. to mklnigbt. tryouL Only cash, inot»sy oidcrs or personal towel and water. Zoe Lewis is an entertainer in the truest sense This event wiil be sponsored by the Lambda checks made out to "Rochester Raptors" will ofthe word. Zoe sees her job as a musician not Network at Kodak, GLOBAdL at Bausch «c be accepted. as a job, but a means to see the wotki. Lomb, and OutWest at Thomson Group. Ad­ Zoe coffttlnued on naxt pa^e vance tickets are $25 and can be purchased at

•••^Mmi^-MSi* • perform in Toronto. The club was an upscale Chip 'n' Dale affair and Liza had the distinc­ Zoe continued from previous page tion of being the first ever female imperson­ "I love feeling free to take off and travel," Hich-energy Brltisti singer/songwriter ator at the club. She has also performed in said Zoe. She is having the time of her life Zoe Lewis performed with Roxane West Palm Beach, Florida. making music. Zoe likes to get people involved Lawton at Calvary St. Andrews Church In 1987, Liza was crowned Miss Gay Roch­ on Sept. 27. Photos by Sherrili Fulghum. with her music. "You gcjtta have fun," said Zoe. ester after being first runner-up for four years. She likes to put on a show and give everyone a IJza recalls winning the tide over a "hornione good time. "It's important not to take oneself queerr". She says that a gocnd performance too seriously," says Zoe. She follows a line from SINGLES can beat a hormone queen. one of her songs and lives "like I die today." Unlike many performers, IJza prefers to Zoe's music is fun. Zoe's clever, quirky songs get ready at home. VCTiile getting ready at are about everyday things. "Its important to home may be more relaxing, it can also bring write about what you know, your surround­ about other complications. liza remembers ings," said Zoe, like her home in Provincetown DATING being stranded in Syracuse one njght after a k or her family. Many of Zoe's songs have a water Oot show. The only way home was in a Grey­ theme to them. She was born on one side ofthe hound bus. Liza took the 'ous home in drag Adantic Ocean, near Brighton. England, and wearing a red dress. now lives on the other side in Massachusetts. Her most embarrassing moment was the 'I can't not be by the water, " says Zoe. For night one of her eyelashes fell off, and when Zoe the water represents freedom. Armed with ning come to mind. I'm quite an admirer of fellow performer Maya Douglas glued Liza's her V^ictrola and 78s, Zoe loves to go down to Peyton Manning; not only is he gotxl looking, Music man Bob eyelash back on, she also glued Liza's eye the beach in Proxancetown ro dance, listen, and but when asked what he planned to do after Dietch enjoys shut, Liza performed an entire number with dream. One of her most prized possessions is a signing a tnulti-million dollar contract with rhe one eye glued shut. "S of Marilyn Monroe singing "Diamonds Arc Itidianapolis Colts, his answer was. "Start earn­ piano bar's All about Liza In 1994, Liza retired from doing regular :\ CiirFs Best Friend". ing it*'. If oniv he was single And gav! stage shows. Although she is no longer seen \'- a child, Zoe cnuid sranci on thr shore and It seemed like the Bills were doing really well; intimacy By Sherrili Fulghum on a regular basis, Liza performs when she is ^LL Irance if the weather was just right France \ \ they would be in something called the red 7one She is known simply by one name - Liza. Liza's asked; she states that she can be seen "in - tlie ht>me of childhood herojacqucs Cousteau. ir**^' going in for a touchdown, then, instead of alter ego, Wavne Esposito, was born and raised in divorce court". liza wiU be performing at an /'te remembers wanting ro be the next getting a touchdown, evcr\'thing woukl stop Rochester. He \s the youngest of seven children. AIDS benefit this month, because "it's im­ < <^ustcau. Instead, she wrote a song about it, and another guy who wasn't involved in the \X'aync — who cunendv works at Angeio's portant". rut tr.iv'cls the world searching fbr musical game would come tn from the sidelines and Design - has been a hairstylist for 20 vears. Liza says that many ofthe younger queens !*t ^surcs and having the time of her life doing kick ?f>mething called a field goal. It seemed ro Wayne says that iiis favorite task is coloring hair. are nor familiar with Liza because the queens me rhev would want a touchdown which Wayne first saw Liza Minnelli perform when of today are loyal to one particular bar. When /.oc keeps a journal, in which she records her Donna Rose, awarded seven points instead of rhe field goal he was eight years old. He fell madly in love. Since IJza performed on a regular basis, the per- experiences and observations. It is from these which only yielded three points. I won't even that time he has studied every part of Liza the fonners were independent and would per­ ',(uirnais that her songs come to life. A concept transsexual author^ get into the yellow flags rhat were thrown on performer. Wayne believes that in order to be a form at al! ofthe bars. Liza credits HoU^^wood becomes a song. Every song has a story. Music the ground; only to say that it stopped everv­ to sign booics here character you must study the character. with the latest upsurge of interest in drag ;ind lyrics are written together as one. thing and usually backed team up 10 feet, or IJza first appeared at age 16, when she snuck queens. Zoe l^wis has fun on stage axid she wants her on Nov. 22 yards as they like to call it. into a local bar and competed in a Halloween ball. In over 20 years as a performer, Liza has audience to have fun as well. On Sept. 27 at It was fun to watch when a touchdown Donna Rose, formerly a Rochester resident, She won. Liza became a regular on stage when she perfected her art. So much so that she has CaJvary St. Andrews, a mosdy-female crowd happened. The crowd cheered and the guys will do a book-signing at Pittsford Barnes and turned 18. even been mistaken for the genuine article. had plenty of fun. While working with a college film crew on a playing were happy. Tlie Bills had become my Bob Dietch Noble on Nov. 22, from 7 to 9 p.m., to pro­ In the early days of Liza's career, performers Pigskin fun: hovf team and they were almost always winning. I mote her new book, W^rapftedin BUic: a Journey of were known as female impersonators — the term night shoot, a group of women stopped to say had to figure out the rules — there must be By SherriU Fulghum Discovery. dra>!, «mj<. en cumc later — and pcrtorniine on j^iairc hello to 1 .iza and welcome her to Rochester. some logic to it. My friend Scott knew every- was -.151 art f<,>rni. \\ was t ntevtairimc m. I .•••.a at-u^ I learned to love In the days of old, piano players earned Rose, a post- op MTF ttanssexual, has writ­ thanked the women. tVtin^ aV>out footbaU and after 'jvatching a few- her fcllov/ pert'ormers paved the wav for the life ten about her iifc^ her transition, and her Her art is a performer is not the only thinij pro foot,bal\ games with him I began to catch on. theif music in a folder or case. Today some that present dav drag queens enjo\. perspective from borh sides oftbc gender line. Liza has perfected. She can also solve that I began to watch more and more games, modern musicians use a laptop computer, Li/a and Marcella were the firsr female imper- By Greg Keefe During her visit to Rochester, she will also be endless prf)filem of waitint^ tn line for rhe started to read the sports page and turned to a especially when they know the tunes to over sonarors rn be paid h\ har ou'ners. ,\ performer's i always say, "I don't know how it happened". a guest on the Brother Weasc Morning (Circus resrroom Li^^a sa\s that the words "(^uten channel called ESPN. All of this was very 500 songs! lari^tsf ineofTit cnnK"-: from tips. lAy.:i savs thar 1 he truth is, it happened so innocently and (Nov. 21). eorta pee" uiil ciear a line e\ en time. alarming to my gay friends; had diey lost me to Bob Dietch has become a human jukebox ho\\ utll a tjiieen performs will also dererminc graduaUy over many seasons that tlie same Rose is an active speaker, writer and advo­ (J^ucens, like rhe bars in Rochcsrer, conic this unfamiliar world of sports. Would I be and karaoke machine. Bob can be found at WMmBmm hov\ much tip monc\- she can make. Ljxa recalls thing cf>uld happen to any upstanding gav boy. cate for understanding for die transgender Tara's Lounge four or five rimes a month rhat she made S.^Od in tips frorn a single number, and go, but liza goes on. In the early '90s I worked part-rime in a downing 12-packs of beer next? Where was the conimunity, and has been chosen ro appear as musical theater-loving guy they had all grown playing at the piano bai. He enjoys the com­ How would you like to have 6, 8, or even 10 dales in 'i love beins.' "n stage. I'm a ham," she sa; s. \ ;dco store. It was a great job for me, watching a featured atithor at the Texas Book Festival to love? fortable feeling of the piano bar, and com­ Liza was the firsr queen from Rochester to and tjiking about movies and getring paid for Nov. 8-9, along v/ith audiors such as former less than two hours? Enjoy b-minute dates with singles— That's what 1 love about bemg gay. There are pares playing on a distanr stage separated itl always worked the Sunday shift and I'd put First Lady Barbara Bush. pre-selected in your prefeired age range! Meet new people— no rules about what you are suppose to like, from the audience to playing in a vacuum. a movie in that I enjoyed and saw many times. Rose will be featured in a documentary, one might be the romantic partner of your dreams! how you are suppose to act. 1 can feel at home He has a lot of fun when piano bar patrons 1 r\mg to watch something new would be "The Sex Change Capital ofthe World," to be watching Bemadettc Peters sing Everything's join in and sing. Dietch's laptop contains upsetting ifl had a customer to wait on. Stealing aired on the Learning Channel on Nov. 4, She Coming Up Roses^ or cheer to Drew's latest 47 the words to every song he knows, so pa­ Home was one of my favorites and I could get will also speak at the Human Rights Campaign Satttiday/ Novemiier 22 yard touchdown pass ro Erie Moulds. I don't trons can sing along if they like, intf) the movie at any p>oint. I'd watched it headquarters in Washington, D.C. on Nov. understand why more gay guys aren't into foor- Dietch began playing tbe piano at age at hundreds of times and this .Sunday would be 20, to mark the Transgender Day of Remem­ ball. Watching a bunch of men get ali sweaty four. He has been playing at Tara's for over no different. brance. ArtlsanWorks • 365 Blossom Rd. together, and not a woman in sight, ITiat's fun. 20 years. Dietch - a Rochester native - is Sundays were a big return day and it seemed F-or more information, see her website at I know that there are gay players; Esera glad he lives in Rochester. He has shared his thar customer after customer would ask me v^-ww-donnarose.com. Doors open at 6:30PM • Dating starts at 8.00PM Tuaolo came out of the closel just this year. talents as a piano player, arranger, and mu­ •A hy I didn't have the game on. Not only did I There are coundess rumors abour other cur­ sic director with numeri)us community and Cash bar & light hors' d*oeuvres not know what the "game" was, but i wouldn't Hairspray continued from previous rent players, i think ir's time that we invaded theatre p»roductions in the area. One of Bob's have been able to find it on the television to page FREE Valet Parking provided football; started a gay booster club for the Bills. most recent assignments was as the musical save my Hfe. $50/person - pre-registration by Charter a bus and go up together to tail gate and director iorjohnnj Roma Presents the .Storiettes. for The Advocate. Vilanch has played bit parts in k turned out the game is football, and there movies and T\^ shows; he was a dress designer enjoy a game. Bob enjoyed working with the small cast November 1 Sth required is a locai team called the Buffalo Bills. I decided in Mahogany and a decapitated head in IcePtmtes. Football has been enjoyable for me. It's al­ and compared it to being in a family. t hat I would leave the game on the TV when He has performed in drag (with his beard), ways exciting when your team wins. Almost Dietch plays music as a part of his "real SPECIAL BONUS! there werepeople in the store for their viewing most recendy an an ABC special, "Tlie Disco like you have a vested financial interest in it, as job," being the accompani.st at Irondequoit pleasure. I thought my problems were solved; Ball". Tour the ArtlsanWorks for FREE from 6:30-8:00PM much as the players and owners do. It can be High School and introducing a whole new no more questions about the game. Boy was I Vilanch told the Baltimore Sun, "They carried the mic). Anna on lead guitar, Michele with sad too. I will always remember that feeling generation to his music Above: Cookies includes Rosanna (who rocks wrong! "What's the score?" **Who's winning?" mc out at the end of 'Dancing Queen* on a on drums. after the Bills lost the first Super Bowl. The Music is also a hobby. The Frcdonia gradu­ rhythm guitar, Anoush on bass lines, and Amy "Did you see the play I just heard on the radio throne with four Nubian slaves, and I was in wide right field goal tniss. How I knew it was ate uses his degree as a Sound Recording driving here?" NO, NO, NO, I took this job to full drag makeup with a crown and it had a little outside the kicker's range before he kicked it, Technician and creates MIDI productions. wvvw SarneSexSingles^^^ Cookin' with the watch movies, not football. disco ball that twirled. If there was ever a kind Wilde-Wooff Society hosts but still hoped it would go though to win the Dietch has fun getting email from all over I'm a nice guy. I could at least watch for the of a gay Rose Parade, I was the Santa Clausj Cookies Downtown open mic for queer writers game. the world after someone has discovered one score and tell them who's ahead, I thou^t. float." Nov. 18 at Writers & Books It's also a riot to be the gay guy who knows of his productions on the internet. rnl/ 583.25^: I 9b0 f'vi 2()7 rn r('rn>h'>: Cookies Downtown is an all-female rock band Most of the rime it's up in the comer of the Vilanch commenced on his Edna w^' The Wilde-Woolf Society, Rochester's lgbt With over 500 songs in his repertoire, hailing from Brooklyn, N.Y. The group will per­ -•-'•* ;<, more about the game, players, and statistics writers* support group, will meet at Writers screen anyway. This is when it began to hap­ Dietch plays s wide variety of music, from garet Thatcher still has that look." His int form on Nov. 8 at The Bug Jar, 219 Monroe Ave. than the straight guys do. The reverse oi Queer & Books on Nov. 18 at 7 p.m. Bring original pen. standards to disco. "Anything can be inter­ tadon of Edna is jE^i3rsically similar to The band will appear with the Downbeat 5, Eye For The Strmgjit Guy. presented by work in any genre to read, or just come and Some of these guys are really cute and they esting in its own rig^t for a while/' said Fiersteui's, but widi dliiferences as well; die. The Quitters and the Blowtops. The show starts wear form fitting white pants. TTicy have sleeve­ Ill never be able to play the game. I don't called his version "a softer, cuddUer listen. The event is ftee. have enough money to buy a team. But I could Dietch when talking about various musical at 10 p.m. Admission is $6/$8 and you must be 18 less uniforms which show off their muscular genres. Vilanch said that Fierstein gave him or over to attend. The group is led by Pat Schwartz, writer/ be the best towel boy Buffalo ever had. Oh 1 bet Rochester teacher and 2002 ImageArt poetry finalist, arms. Quarterbacks fit the bill for mc. Maybe Music is Bob Dietch's job and life. He has and support before rehearsals began, The Cookies produce "high energy rock 'n ir's because they run the show or they get the that job is taken. Next Sunday, turn on the very, very kind. He said, 'I know you're j and writer/RGMC member Dennis television, go on, give it a try, it won't kill you. a good time playing the piano. He wants to roll". They recendy finished their EP, wilh favor­ most screen time. In recent years a few quar­ have fun and share the music with his audi­ blossom in the musical theatre. You ites like "Punk Bitch" and "Bang! Bang!" Rosenbaum. I promise. your way to mothcihood.**' terbacks could have been on the cover of GQ. ences. David Carr, Drew Bledsoe and Peyton Man­ •.t.....L.'**.\k.'.»,*•, .; ; •••«•«»*«•-'«^- . .-3>ai

and a rhythm looking. that exists in its owri right. Three comnnunity poets win the night. But ifyou really love me, here's my I wonder about life and Growing Up number. Call me tomorrow and we'll have Lunchbreak I know I can see her but awards from ImageArt coffee. so I sit what if I touched her? by Eric Bellmann E-mail Tray Robinson at: ImageArt/Poetry 2003 accepted 23 poets for a because it's there, on a painted wood bench Would she disappear? misadventuresinboyland@botmail. com Sept. 20 reading and inclusion in its inaugural because it's there unfoldiiig wax paper Would she melt like sugar in tea edition of (in) Verse^ a poetry journal. and I start to wonder enclosing my falafel if I spoke to her? Cuts and abrasions Among these, three poets in particular re­ and I cross my legs Coluintiiste what his arms will feel like, Would she disintegrate ceived additional recognition for outstanding what ft will feel hke to do in a loose dykeUke way I dig going to die dieatre in New York. I work. ImageArt is a program of ImageOut, all those things foretold on my lunchbreak. if I wasn't prefer weird venues and cutting edge off-off- Let's Talk Rochester's Gay and I.£sbian Film and Video on glimmering computer screens on my Itinchbrcak? ^Broadway stuff But even when I opt for a Festival. Its purpose is to celebrate local lgbt in the darkest hours of the night. There Ixxjking for a way to escape? siighdy more mainstream event, as I have this talent, pro\dde a professional forum for the We are puffing, oversized chimneys on the she sits evening, I remain astonished by what people work of artists and poets, and educate the dredlocked and drumming, By Julie West Urtle plastic casde The ticking of my watch wear to the theater. public through art. from which the curly slide protrudes die womyn probes me like an uncomfortable vibrator Even saying it that way, "to the theater," I've been needing. ImageOut awarded the ImageArt poets with growing down at the most inappropriate titne, sounds old-fashioned. Times have changed. Moments of courage monetary prizes, each being accompanied by a to the primitive, the instinctual, so I tighten my tie People wear anything. Even tonight at this year-long membership to Writers & Books. We take the ladder down Lunchbreak cuz I'm on my lunchbreak dance recital there arc men in tank tops with Riddle me this. Batman: "When is a family First prize: Dan Schubmehl "Swing Set and to the ground but it still feels and I watch her. and it's almost too late grand, sinewy arms — they could be hanging not a family?" C^igarettes" ($250); second prize: Mel like I am plunging, plummeting outside a bar. And people lugging bags as if Answer VCTien the United States says so. Kozakiewicz, "My Lunchbreak and the down that slide. She sits alone they were on their way home from the market. And on Sept. 18 it said so. Dredlocked Drummer" ($150); diird prize: across the way Lots of people look like they fell out of bed, to be sitting on a painted wood bench Keviji Bourassa and Joe Varnell, Canada's T< >ny Ix-uzzi, "Emmanuel" ($ 100). Toward the woods on a painted park bench rolled across the floor and accrued their out­ in a park with a falafel It only hurts tbe wallet. This tooth must be the midst of some hot foreplay It's those type first legally married gay couple, were denied The three TmageArt/Poetry jurors — Tho­ our trails of wave-like smoke like mine fits. It's very casua' lately, a nev,' cool. that 1 never meant to cat .^nv-way. dealt with before mv trip. of moments that make me think, "Hmmm... entry to the U.S. as they attempted to board a mas Warfield, Erin \X'ard, and Jonathan Everitt rise to greet intrepid insect surters. with her legs spread Yet now and then you see a Grand Dame, a My imagination, it strays. The specialist I visit — I have so many now, Did I just invite a psychopath into my bed? Oh plane at Toronto's Pearson International Air­ had the job of reviewing each submission We flick our dying cigarette butts and a drum instead very upper East Side dinosaur, well turned out. I walk away a regular family-style dentist, a periodontist weU, at least he's cute." port. and selecting poets for this year's reading this in the lively green moisture of of a falafel Tonight one sits across the aisle from rne. She dreaming about the day (bad gums), a endodontist, (the root canal Don't get me wrong. I love dirty talk. Custom officials explained to Bourassa, an p;ist summer. During deliberation, the identity the soccer field, kicking them and a song instead is a woman of a certain age, as they say, which when a dredlocked dmmmer guy) — tells me: "I can't do anything for you. In fact, when renting pom, I stay away from advocate for same-sex marriage, and VameU, a : 'f c:ich poet was concealed in the interest of toward the sandy goalie box and stamping of a dream. means you can't tell how old she is, but cer­ IS more than a fantasv The tooth has got to go." the films with foreign "actors" because I want banking manager, that the U.S. does not recog­ ir^Ti^ urtaiitv, and the jun-determined the final- out tainly more than fifty Very beige. Perfect hair. and the lunchbreak time cl'ick cannot "NXliat do you mean?" I, like so many ma­ to understand what they're saving to each other. nize same-sex marriages, lliey had two op­ • ' >r the awards presentauon. l^heir deci- their angr\- red assault on dewy grass. I'm on rTiv iurichlircak Perfect make up. Tot) perfect indenture ms-. ri mng folk, believe medicine and doctors can Those crazy L'kraimans onlv grunt and groan. tions: fill out separate forms indicating their .V- ucrt' affirmed following the reading. I touch his face, next to an elm tree. I'm weanng a starched shirt She's been completely rebuilt. Sfimctimes fix everything. Weil, it can be fixed but not by And a pomo is tbe one type of film where I do status as singles, or cancel their tiip and stay Dan Schubmehl, H, also received a gay The sharp jaw line and prickle of and a suit jacket, you See a person and wonder if they have bad 1 dream abour a way him, but by yet another specialist, an oral not want to be reading any damn subtides. I home. \MLiih award of a journal and Borders gift unsoft cheeks fires neurons in but I loosened rny tie work done. A popular guessing game. No to keep capitalism at bay surgeon. He tells me by way of explanation can't concentrate on the action if I'm reading "When we realized we weren't going to be ;-nificate from ImageyVrt founder Aimee K. foreign sectors of my brain. cuz I'm on my lunchbreak question here. Her face is unlincd, her skin the captions. allowed into die country, v/e had to make a real 00:]< .. w IK) began this tradition in 2002 for anv so that I could enjoy my day diat most likely a lifetime or two ago 1 must Mv hands are delighted bv the lack and I'm rrvino; to relax taut. There are two giveawavs. Her equally hard decision," Bourassa said (as reported by • ' (lutln 18 vears old or vounger who enters and watch rhe drummer play. have suffered a fail, taken a thump to the chin, Dirty^ talk can really get me off. But there are of moisturizing cream and concealer. but the womyn with the drum well-dressed companion is creaky, slow-mov­ Jan Prout of the Totonto Associated Press '! L ir w< )rk into this adult competition, and has So that I could maybe stay. or some such mishap, and today's drama is the those of us who are triple X poets under the It is tactile, it is kinesthetic: and the dredlocks ing, old looking. 1 don't rhink he's her father. Bureau). Digiuty won the day, as the couple 'ht It ,)r> or poetr\- accepted into the ImageArt So that 1 ct>uld anticipate final reckoning. Medical jargon is by design sheets, and then there are the ones who should hands and muscle and is making me anxious. And the rest of her. She, too^ is slow-moving, headed home. i.N!iil--;t or reading. a conversation with that drummer neutral and rarely conveys the complexity of just bite the pillow and let others do the talking. leathery male skin. stepping hesitandy to her seat like someone Ironically, the two were on their way to a but I'm f>n my lunchbreak w'nat is to ft>Ilow. And since 1 believe we learn best from the The poetry journal, (in) I Wse, is currentlv for His bone strucmre surrounds mc Her hands bear the diTini afraid of losing balance, someone perhaps who The remedy for an abrasion of a tooth is an mistakes of others, here are some acmal lines human rights conference in Georgia, where .lie for S5 through the ImageOut Film Festi- and makes me the fragile internal bile that her leg^ hold. and it only lasts an hour. has had a fall or twrj already implant. The dead tooth will be replaced by a I've been told in bed. Please take notes to avoid Coretta Scort King, widow of Martin Luther >,.! office in V^iJiage Gare. For rnf>re informa­ of a clumsy, rugged exoskeleton. She ck>ses her eyes and DAMN. The thing is, if she looks in the mirror she false tooth that will be, gasp, attached to a these disastrous phrases. Kingjr., was to speak. tion, \isit www.imageout.org, call ImageOut We are pressed together, through our jeans, tilts back her head, I'm on my lunchbreak looks perfect. But life is not a mirror, it is a screw that is driven into the bone. But not 1. "Spank me harder Daddy!" Many in the gay community will rant and :' 0)^^\ 2"''l-2640, or send an email to not rolling and tumbling on the forest floor, exposing her neck and 1 have to walk awav. crowd, and in this crowd, this section f.c>ne prafi. First of ai\, Fm n^^body>^ dacidy, and he was c)n\\ pressvnjj,, pressing, freeing the rhythm Dy\MN. hattan, her i?iC<: looks fake, nnask hke, This pnor to t\ic puWinj; v>ul \v.ur svagc, \ wv>u\d To elucidate all the aspects of rhe inevitable older than me. So shouldn't he be playing the I nka Ciullois the 2003 winner of ImageArt's and at last tasting, tasting I'm i)n my lunchbreak suggest there is another way to view this. that pounds revelation is both a relief — let's not think daddy role? \ udience Choice Award. She received the most and 1 need to vi/alk awav. would be cruel. Suffice it to say I am now in the and it tastes and tastes like my soul about going there — the face lift, and disheart­ 2. 'l want to shoot your jizz all over me!" Simply put, before societal or individual \ ()t rkshop gallery, where rhe art exhibit was on Emmanuel my experience wil! form its characrer. 1 sift Pounding, ever/one else who sits in yt>ur row or stands on your load," bur "itxz" makes me nauseous. thaf act is accompanied by tremendous indi displav from Sept. 19 to Oct. 11. Erika re­ By Tony l^u'zv:J sideways into meditation. ifVXith rwo viaJs mble. But you've Courage, as exemplified by Rosa Parks, an .\n Supply. The artists receiving special recog- from luring germs.) Lying tlat after a massive African-Amencan woman from the deeply between all my fives and cuz I'm on my lunchbreak manner. I'here was a new procedure 1 had got to sell it if you want me to believe it. If I'm niti^m and cash prizes from ImageOut at the my sevens that is six digits dose of Novt)cain, I strive to think of nice segregated South of 1955 in Montgomery, and it's only an hour long. heard abour, a kind of liposuction for the neck. willing to swing off a ceiling lamp for you, then opening ImageArt reception were Lawrence away from empty scrawling letters, Emmanuel places, a beach somewhere. There were care Alabama. In that year Parks refused to stand so Comparatively cheap, too, twenty-five hun­ you've got to hit mc with more than a lame "oh Brose, Saundra Ehman and Liz Dodds. (Their scrolling a whole swindler's free dav? before and better days surely lie a white man could have her bus seat, TTie I watch her sing. dred bucks. Out patient, minimal convales­ baby," award winning art was featured in the October alphabet, spelling out his bom name. For years he was the left side of our bed, ahead. decision fueled the civil rights movement. "Our I watch her body ring. cence and eventually a new jaw line. Twenty-five 4. "Be careful when you cum, I just put on EC..} But maybe I could be number 20 there first each night and face down in the Afterwards i am giddy. It's the drugs of mistreatment was just not right, and I was tired bandied dollars is like buNing lawn furniture, clean sheets." in his litde black book, sheets, course, i contemplate ali the things I want to of it," Parks wrote in her 1994 Book, Quiet Swing Set and Cigarettes I see the air move no big whoop, llie real deal — invasive surgery listen you Martha Stewart reject, sex is messy. an obstacle I climbed to reach my space do: another trip to New York, a week in New Strength. have my own litde pen-and-ink zero and I begin to lose — costs four times rhat amount, and the results By Dan Schubmehl Mexico, a shf)pping spree. Get used to it. Or 111 aim for tbe teddy bear on next to my name, my name against the wall. Once in, 1 faced fhe soft are immediate. I bought in. Courage, like that shown by the lgbt com­ First Place Poem, ImageArt 2003 control of my whole The procedur.'t of course was not painful. the nightstand across the room. And don't I told him my name. moon waxing over us and understood that But when I read the pre-op and post-op info munity following a police raid on the Stone­ fantasy of life. The medicatic^n is powerful. It's the recoven', think I can't hit it ham here. "poor" meant "mattress with a brodier." that arrived in the mail, i freaked. "Drape wall Inn, on June 28, 1969. Outrage and pro 1 arn waiting for a dull gray Toyota A coordinated apathy. which one df.>es alone in private, at home, with 5. "Bite me harder Tony!" everything -- car seat, bedding — in plastic", tests led to action. Byjuly 24 the Gay libera­ above my boyhood haven of pebbles only T\' for companionship, which is a trial. Excuse me! My name is Troy. That's T-R-O- My Lunchbreak and the I got my job Sometimes v/hen he mumbled in his sleep "Drainage is a sign of recovery" You know tion Front was formed, and its demands in­ and sand, softly shaking to the beat The sritcbes irritate my mouth. I'm nauseous. Y! I would have preferred being called "bitch" cluded an end to police harassment, job pro­ and I got my suit. I listened carefijJiy, and then rose up to wnte what that means? It means you bleed a lor. I of the squeaky, rust-tlecked chain Dredlocked Drummer Even with this procedure there is drainage. over someone else's name. tection ior gay employees and the repeal of I got my cell phone down ever)' word. Bur often he just turned bought out. I remember reading that a face Uft, which suspends my kid-size, black rubber By Mel Ko^akieudrx Blood in the stomach causes upset. I read the 6. "You make my toes curl!" sodomy laws. and 1 got cable tv. and turned, his body resdess where it lay, no matter what they teil you, is really like chariot. Second Place Poem, ImageArt 2003 instructions. Ice packs, 20 minutes on 20 min­ I personally think feet are the ugliest part of Courage, to find a better life, as demon I live alone the fever of his skin against my skin, though 1 hitting the windshield at 70 miles per hour. It's a man I wait for. utes off Drink cola to setde the stomach. I am the human body And the last thing I want to strated by Bill Wilson, an alcoholic who once with nice fiimiture, stayed still to keep from rolling into him. The next step \\\ the process of dealing with Alone - without my fingers clutching Lunchbieak very obedient. Alone, 1 realize there is no swift think about while I go down on a guy is his feet. said he had found "the elixir of life" when he but at this precise moment all this crap is to start looking at photographs the plush-brown iridescence of a from my corporate american position resolution, no quick cure. 7. "Oh yeah!" took his first drink. After yezrs of„drinking, I can be quite sure There wete mornings when, on waking, \ of Maggie Smith and saying to yourself^ yeah short-haired teddy bear. and 1 walk And that's the way things are. Living, after Please see "oh baby." during which he lost everything dear to him, he that womjm will would she's cool Vanessa Redgrave, too. Odd how It is the zero at the end of 20 slowly a certain point, is all about maintenance. t.^t's 8. "Woofl" said — no more. He overcame his addiction and eventually find him nested, a bird beneath my arm the aging tole models arc women. All the old that makes me feel 10 again. around the park not fuss too much about things money can fix. Yes, someone actually barked while making founded the 12-step program known as Alco­ kill me. Of course I pushed away: I'd learned and men have had work done, too much work. I But he promised that he doesn't look it; through people Soon enough, soon enough, there will be out with me. I had to bite my lip to stop from loved read somewhere that Jack Lcmmon had to holics Anonymous. so, I am waiting for a dull gray Toyota. with their dogs something else. laughing. And then I had to bite his lip to stop Tlje journey of Bourassa and Vamell may I watch her sing the taste of girls, wore aftershave to cover hide out for a year while they kept redoing his It comes with smoke filled windows; frisbees and Emmk ELBCyUJ^RTT him from **woofing." well become one of those defining moments andshe controls me. sweat, swigged beer fitom paper bags, a hint eyes so they'd match. And when you watch the the inexplicably arousing, headachy scent lovers on blankets. 9. 'Teli me how big I am." of courage. The moment that raised our thresh­ I get lost in her song of hair on chin, all sinew, swagger, brag. procedures on TV, which seems to be all the of sensual secondhand cigarette smoke I'm looking for distraction. I hke telling how big his member is, but I old of awareness and sparked righteous indig­ wishing I could hear her voice. rime, you can't help but notice dsey draw on Misadventures in his brown hair, his faindy whisker-shad­ don't like to be ordered to do so. it puts nation that may become the catalyst for change. I watch and I dream you widi the fattest marking pens. Wouldn't a owed face, Lunchbreak in Boyland unnecessary pressure on me and makes me Hopefully, a day will come when we turn to that she is singing to me But one day he became a tt»d»^ sprawl fine-line bic conriibute more precision? his five-ninety nine solid yellow, single pocket suid I wander forget what I was just doing. I've got a routine. one another and say, "Do you remember back and then I wonder of moonli^t, gk>wiag sheet Creepers All this ruminating and information gather­ GAP T-shirt. as usual Don't make mc skip any parts or I'll just have in, what was it... 2003, that those guys weren't lost in her song inked their leaves upon hi^ back, then swayc d ing is just part -of processing. I eventually By Troy Robinson Somewhere betu'cen that zero looking for her. to start all over from the beginning. allowed into the country because they were if I even in gende wind across his cheek. TTie morion setdcd back and concluded diings were OK as and his mere casual acknowledgment of me, A womyn 10. "Hove you." gay?," and shake our heads, and wonder how exist at all teased a dark dance on his marble curves diey are. Then, just befote getting ready for Pillow Talk I don't feel Uke a boy anymore; I have not yet met Fve known you for a total of six hours (three that could ever have happened. or if she does. Crossing over, I never thought to swerve. anodier New York foray, I suffered diat awfiil I want one of his cigarettes, or even seen "I want to tie you up and fuck you like a on the dance floor and three in the bed). There kind of toodiachc which signals diat an ab­ And that will be a very good day. because he has them, outside of a dream. I'm rabbit," he growled into my ear. Whoal!! is no way in hell you love me. Now you've taken Until next month, the lights are out... I wonder if she is anything scess is imminent. An abscess means a toot because 14 is so old. constandy I can't believe this is what one of my recent a wonderful fling and soiled it with a creepy but a vehicle canal. Not die worst diing in die worid. Den­ stalker line. Pardon mc as I run screaming into for a song tistry has evolved. Tools and drugs are better. one-night stands said to me while we were in •'•^^^^W^^Hpfc^JisiilP. \ •• «siif^:<«^'?*''" ^

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There is gay life here, but it is invisible." these web sites: www.genitalhcrpes.com, HEALTHYI talking about gay life in a context free from thoroughness of testing procedures. Hear Me skin contact when the virus is active. It is most who make up the majority ofthe world's Mus­ Even at die Internet cafes, Anar is cautious. "I www.niaid.nih,gov/factshects/stdherp.htm, Erik Ubey is the Gay Heakb Coordinator at controversy and rancor, without combative Therapist visits should taper off also as we often spread when sores are present, but can Out lim population. aiways look fot a computer in the comer so no andwww.cdc.gov/nchstp/dstd/Fact_Sheets/ AIDS Rb^hsster, Im. and ctm be reached at 442- debate over ethics or partisanship. It could become better adjusted to our new roles. also be spread when there are no sores. Active But the religious differences between Sliiite one can see my screen." facts_Genital_Herpes.htm. Or visit Planned 222G or by email at [email protected]. An provide a painless, non-threatetiing way to It can be difficult to even stay employed By Mubarak means that you are experiencing, or are just Azerbaijan and Iran couldn't be starker. Sure, "We have no sense of a gay community," Parenthood of the Rochester/Syracuse archive of his pretnous articles, as well as other gay dissetninate information, familiarity, and tol­ once we begin, or complete, our transition- about to experience, an episode. Prior to an Dahir there are pockets of conservative Muslims he says, "because we have no place we can feel Region's web site (www.pprsr.org), call our heaitb information, can be found at erance to society at large. Many of the people who employ us caimot outbreak of Herpes, most people notice an throughout the country, but overall, .A.zerbaijan, free to be ourselves." toU-£ree number at l-866-6(X)-6886, or e-mail wtvw.mdsrochester.org/gayheidth. The fact remains that lgbt people have tolerate such a radical affront as our challeng­ itching or tingling sensation. Ifyou are asymp- Gays in Azerbaijan struggle and particularly its capital ciry, Baku, is re­ us at vaginadialogues(gpprsr.org. always existed throughout history. The con­ ing the dichotomy of male/female life roles, tomauc, it will be hard to know when or if the with tradition, not religion markably secular. Tliere are plenty of mosques, temporary verbage to explain today's phenom­ which to them are dictated at birth by what virus is present on the surface of your skin. The and despite hearing the Muslim call for prayer Talii to us. Turn to us. Conundrunns ena may be different than yesteryear, but the equipment we have showing between our legs. Despite his unwavering smile, the young chance that Herpes can be spread when no five times a day, in the short time I spend here Queer & concept of homosexuality is timeless. In some In order to even attempt a successful effort man in my Hyatt Park hotel room appears to symptoms are obvious is very small. I do not see a single woman who covers her By Ove historic cultures, people led secret lives, tor­ to transition across gender/sex roles, wc need be a litde nervous. He is 30 years old, but looks One ofthe most important steps you can take hair with a scarf Alcohol, forbidden by the Planned Parenthood* Healthy Overmyer mented by the notion of pubUcly being labeled unbending intent to succeed and diat unbend­ much vounger. At about 5'-8" and 140 pounds, P of the R(5chester/Syracuse Region Inc. to protect your partner from contracting Her­ religion, is plentiful and vvadely consumed. homosexual. Others were accepted as part of ing intent is manifested in the nonstop efforts rhis unemployed economist is slender, with pes is to tell her that you have Hctpe*; By fefeiog Azerbaijan's secular nature is largely an influ­ By Erik Libey the natural order of things. In some cultures, to change. large dark eyes and jet black hair, trademarks of open and honest, you avoid the game plavinw Gay history and lost legends ence of nearly seven decades of Soviet rule. being gay was even revered. ^Tiat we do to become female is to mimic a rhe handsome features of Azeri men. His En­ The VaginaDialogues that goes along -wnth not inlotstiki^ Votirparf*- s< Still, Azeri s never completely adopted Soviet Pop Goes the Weasel*' We have been deprived of a part of our role model we choose. We leam about this role glish is surprisingly good, considering he ner. It will also allow her to Jeatn about Herpes Gay life anywhere in the United States is not thinking, and though the country is secular, it culmral heritage, which has been written model by observation of many real life women, learned it primarily by listening to Western — both from the perspective of protecting a box of chocolates, especially in Oklahoma. is still conservative. By Alison Ayres, Planned A newly out gay man recentiy sent me an through the eyes of a dominant segment of and often this role model is a collage of many tnusic. (Tina Turner is his favorite.) herself, as wcU as discovering what yo>ar expe­ You know... where the wind comes sweepin' But Anar, as well as Zaur, another gay Azeri Parenthood of the Rochester/ email through oar gay health website to in­ down the plain. A leading national publication society. Western history, in particular, is shaped people. Sometimes, and even most ofthe time, W'c are in Baku, the capital of Azerbaijan, a riences with tine virus has been. You and she can man I meet on my trip, both insist that religion quire about a recent experience he'd had. ranked states according to their record on gay by the sense that sexrjalit}- should be repressed. the person we were before is the smallest ! I ntra! Asian country that is a former Soviet Syracuse Region communicate about v^hat risks you arc and arc is far less a factor for gays here than social In his email he rccounred a siory of having rights, and Oklahoma finished dead last Not Homosexuality has been viewed as a sin or a component of that collage. This concept is republic. Anar has agreed to meet and speak not wiilmg to take together. Not only will rhis customs and traditions. gone home with a guy he met at a local gay one locality in the state has passed an ordi­ sickness, perversion ifyou wdl. I'm convinced often hard to accept, because we want to retain with mc about what it is like to be gay here, but Herpes...What You Don't help you protect your partner, it may also help "Oh no, I am sure it is not about religion," hauunt. Once there, his new acquaintance went nance of any kind tiiat bans discrinoination that omissions were made from history books oiw former identity as a man, somehow. (ink in the privacy of my hotel, which caters to Know Can Hurt You you develop a stronger and more open relation­ says Zaur, laughing at the suggestion. "It's to the refrigerator to retrieve a botde of "video based on sexual orientation. in the name of "decency" and "morality". I I-^dies, this is not possible. You, we, must \\ cstcrncrs. Out in public, he say^s, he might ship. about fear of shame, not fear of God." The tall, Did you know that every one out of four head cleaner" (which he thought an odd place imagine it was a deliberate attempt, but some­ lose, for good, diis male identity. We must nor f-ie so free to speak, as many people now However, not all is lost in Tulsa. There are broad-shouldered 26-year-old with hairy arms women has come in contact with the Heq^es To prevent transmitting the \irus, covet rhe to keep such a cleaning solution in the first times I think it couJd have been innocentiy change radically or we will not really change at •1 V English. "And this is a nosy countr)^ some creative individuals raising funds to open speaks to me as we down spicy donner kebabs virus? Many individuals believe that thev wiil area char mtghr conic in conracr wirh rhe vims. place). He then proceeded to "sniff and snort" misinterpreted. Ne^'ctTheiess, mistakes vferc made. all, we will stil! be men. ^1 iricone would listen." the Center for lesbian and Cray Hisror\'. ITic just bought from a street vendor on Fountain never come in contact wilh the Herpes virus. You can use ? non-lubed condorn that you cut this "t>ottie several times wliile they were having As a result, we ^s a nation have been de­ Having a sex-change alone will not make us It IS far from the days when secret police director, Laura Belnit>nic. has raised over Square, a tremendous public area in the heart Smart women do not assume that it can't down the middle and spread open to cover your sex. Tliis entire scene left rhe man curious, prived of role models and the experiences of women, it is far more important to really and used to trail both Westerners and local citi­ $25,0('>0 from private donors. They have also of the city. On hot summer nights, when the happen to them. Herpes is an equal opportu­ partner's vagina, clitoris, anus, or v/hat have you mildly disturbed, but too embarrassed to show those who came before us. God knows how truly change your identity. zens, and Anar's hesitation does not stem started collecting documents, photographs, afternoon humidity fmaUy breaks and the fa­ nity virus that affects iesbians as well as their when you have oral sex. It is easier to spread his ignorance and ask his partner for details. troubled gay life can be. By not recording these Notice I didn't say, "I>ose the identity of who trom some holdover fear ofthe government. and books on gay bJstory, mostly donated by mously cool wind can be felt coming off the straight coimterparts. Herpes from the mouth to the genitals, rather I have to admit that after reading his descrip peoples' lives, we have lost their personal jour­ you are." Just lose your personal identification 1 oday, whatever you want to say, it is very librarians, archivists, and amateur historians nearby Caspian Sea, Baku's residents turn out Herpes is a life-changing infection from than the other way around. tion of the chain of events I had a chuckle to neys that helped shape the remarkable people ofbeing a man, and substitute a new and more tret," he says. What keeps him secluded in my from the region. bv the thousands to stroll the streets here, and which diere is no cure. It causes painful sores If the virus is present, you and your partner myself . but then it occurred to me that if ! they became. We have lost heroes. We have complete identity of yourself as a woman — hotel room — and what keeps rhe country's Believe it or not, even places Hke Oklahoma shop at stores open as late as 10 p.m. on the inside of the vuJva/vagina or anus may decide io take precautions, or you may hadn't known what that "video head cleaner" lost legends. Wc have lost the foundarion of that's what you really want, right? ua V and lesbian population firmly in their clos­ are really getting down right civilized. Twent>'- It's not surprising that such a great "people (genital herpes) or on the mouth (cold sores). avoid intimate contact when you believe the was, this entire situation might strike me as their lives, which the next generation cotJd Another difficulty is losing the love and er •< — are social attitudes toward homosexual- five years have passed since a few scholars watching" arena has cruisy areas, particularly The first blister on genitals or inside the va­ Herpes \'inis is present on the surface of your odd, too. TTie bottle, of course, contained build on. We have lost the possibilities of this respect of our family and friends. This occurs irv, not government penalties. organised tbe first ad hoc meeting of tbe some ofthe well shaded and poorly lit patches gina or anus appears four days to two weeks skin. Many people with partners succtssfuliy what we commonly call poppers. Poppers can generation to see a UmitJess future in a worid with family members who only have pro\i- In 2000, the pariiament here lifted a Soviet- 0:>mmittee on Ix-sbian and Gay History dur­ of parks that branch off the labyrinthine walk­ after infection. The sores may not appear protect themselves and their partners with safer be pretty common in some parts of our com­ with only iove and understanding. sionai love to offer, and if you don't toe the rra law thar criminalized anal intercourse be- ing the annual convention of the American ways. Other cruisy areas include the square in again for months or years and can be very sex techniques, and hopefully these steps will munity. .. but what kind of informarion do Many people still consider that alternate family party line, you could be up shit creek :\\c(.n men. previously punishable by up to Historical Association. Today the committee front ofthe majestic ballet, and a bathhouse far painful. Tbe blisters are painful and can come work for you. people reailv have about them and their use? sexualities are somewhat of a modern pbe- with them. That is where they will place you -1 •.xTi years in prison. l^sViianism and non- has over 2''0 members, cacV) declicating rheir outside the city center. back at different times. Women will experi­ Tlie bottom line: Atiyonc cngagiiig in an\ *True"^il>o/)/>«?« are a chemical substance called nonictia. "^X ht.?i v^<": circfully cxa.m-in».- ^lisTot-y', .•.'.\.\\ ^•.'--.'. \>e\'>j.'cca TTvetA •vj.^cTe a.\st> speciCtcaWv time to publish a book ever\' VLar to documcnV ence pain during urination or serious diffi­ r\pe (jf inrimatc female female contacr should we know tliis is not the truth. By advocating for Only family members who offer unconditional mentioned as crimes, and each could carr\' up Neither Zaur nor Anar, however, are fond amyl nitrate that is legal only with the prescrip­ gay life in America. Is it realistic to presume culty unnating. The virus can aiso be passed pracrice safe sex. This nicans rhe use of latex gay history, rhe only result could be individual love wiU tolerate your change and try to keep ! (' I lircc vears in jail. Though Azerbaijan gained of the cruisy areas. They are not dangerous, tion of a doctor (generally for heart patients). that society at large is ready for gay history in on to a newborn. Herpes can be passed on condoms, dental dams or vagij)al barriers ail the and collective growth, and a more humane relations normal vnth you. A friend who will do i"'- independence in 1991, following the col- and physicalvioience would be unusual, both Most of the poppers available on the market academic and al) social arenas of today's insri- through contact with a sore, for example this is a friend indeed! agree. (A gay American living in Baku con­ time. actually contain a related chemical such as taitions.'^ Maybe not, but the trend suggests socicr\'. Peace. 1 jpM. ()f the former Soviet I'nion, it took nearly People we may meet on the street, or in firms this, saying, "It's one ofthe safest places isobuu'l nitrate or butyl nitrate and arc sold in otheru'ise. i U.CKIC ro repeal the old laws, and their social situations, may make us uncomfortable I've ever lived. It's a lot safer than New York botdes !al>eled "video head clc;'.ner," "room "Gay history has developed ver* s'owjy," Jl iTiisc had less to do with any cultural accep- with the puzzled looks they give, or even out­ City!") deodonzer," or "leather cleaner." savs )ohn D'Emilio, fiirecror ofthe program :.i;:cc ot homosexuality than it did wath inter­ View right hostility. T'he latter is forrunately rare in But meeting someone at a cruisy spot is TTiese chemicals produce very strong va in tyender and '-^X omen Studies at the I'niver- national politics. this neck of the woods. Seems like around "undesirable," says Anar. There arc no gav pors that can be inhaled to prtxluce an almt>st .siry of Illinois at Chicago. TTitrty years ago, the .\t the lime, Azerbaijan had applied for Gay owned and operated (Love, diese parts people have more pressing matters bars, per se, but one night spot, called 1033 instantaneous "rush" thar lasts for one to f^vo course of study barely existed apart from stud niemhership to the Council of Europe, a po­ GREECE RIDGE CENTER, to itxend to than to worry over much about Club, draws a mixed crowd. minutes. TTiis sensation occurs because pop ies of homosexuality in Greece and Rome, and Ricki) litical and human rights organization. To gain ilES how others appear. Both Anar and Zaur prefer to go to one of 585-339-9957 pers cause muscles around blofjd vessels to the occasional biography speculating fjn the :jnrr\. rhe government undertook a series of Anyway, the closer we come to readily pass­ the dozens of Internet cafes that populate the www.ctsi tnagecreations. com relax making your heart speed up and pump pnvate life c^f some mincing waif or notable suty.rcsted reforms, including erasing anti-gay ing, the less of a problem this is. That is why it cit)', and talk to people online for 2000 manat order securely on line more blood. Because poppers also make the person. Scholars who did show interest in gay laws, f-urrently, there are no laws prohibiting takes special effort to always present in every (about 40 cents) per hour. Even in cyberspace, muscles around die anus and vagina generally studies had real problems finding accurate .homosexuality in Azerbaijan. li0'ylO0\i Thinking lilce a woman way as a woman and to mimic and assimilate all you have to be careful. There are no local gay relax, they are often used during sex. historical sources. That doesn't mean there aren't a lot of con- those clues true women give. So, ladies, re­ sites, and the two men have honed their cyber- Because poppers are relatively easy to ob­ '*Wc were trying to reconstruct something In order to fulfill a lifelong dream, a few :-^traints, says Anar. member what i said last month about observa­ The primar)' obstacle to coming out, he says, gaydar. Specializing | SMI/ Photo tain, commonly used, and have such short­ that, until the 1970s, was characterized by years ago I made a conscious and willful deci­ "You learn to hear code," when exchanging tion ofour role models, getting a due from real is rhar "wc will be laughed at, and that is not so 1^ Photo (Ci-k> Mouse Pads lived physical effects, there is 2 commonly held silence and invisibility," says Mr. D'Emilio. sion to begin thinking oi myself as a woman. messages online, says Anar. There are also women we admire and pacing attention to our i:oiid tor you here," lee Shirts ^W , f^^ ^^^^^^ misconception that they are completely safe to While some historians were discovering the With the thought came the deed. several dating sites that accept men-for-men hands and nails, hair, complexion, how we 1 can't help but wonder if religion plays an use. There arc, however, several health risks world of ambiguous sexual identity, others Tliis deed has cost me dearly, in terms of lost ads. 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Ifyou do swallow poppers call recovering the past, researchers have been has been that of my iGriend Barbara, my soulmate niv Shiite. The other is Iran, its neighbor im­ sometimes and somewhat by surgery to our Feeling Isolated? Depressed? Sexual, Relationship, Addiction Issues? 911 or Poison ControL making up for lost time. Recent tides have who I love deady. She had to leave, and while vocal cords, but it can also be changed by 1.) Poppers can also cause irritation or chronicled gay life in the Pacific Northwest, we StiU love each other, the companionship, .^utORiM/ AT. conscious effort and determination. rashes on the skin. the role of gay writers during the Harlem the adventure, the completeness ofour lives is I don't mean to use a falsetto, but somehow, 2,) Extcnsivitwc can damage the lining Renaissance, and the "pink scare" of the gone. McCarthy era. by our real need to talk differendy, wc contrive ofthe nose and lui^. 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Executive Director:Chuck Community Center Bowen phon^ (585)244.8640 Deputy &cecutive Director: Empty Cl«»set phone: Paul Berezney (585)244-9030 Empty Ck»set Editor: Susan GAGV/EC fmxi (585)244- Jordan 824^ Youth Services Director: GAGV E-^fUftii: Toby Greenfield Jnfe@gayaliiance-org Executive Assistant: Ctndi Empty Closet E-mail: Eveletgfi erTij>tycloset:@gSiyalliance.org Community Education/ QUICHE MASTERS: Above are tJie graduates of the Gay AiSlance s Qukhe Masters ^^^ GAGV Vt^ebsite: Outreach Coordinator: Todd ^iTfbr volunteers for t*^ Indmive Culture program (formerly ^l-f«'-»"^;^'^J^ www.gay5aJiiance.orj; Plank ^rS^ChucicBowen^lamieV^ltbeck,^^ Center hout how I*ve ako been busy getting my legs there is also a chance we'll have a Group to sec Chris Beckman. trom reach Director the C.Tav Alliance wiil relate to our under me sn my new position as presenter tt> talk about the ins ajnd fira/ U orid- Chu-^o, speak on ()a. 2(K aging popuiaruin. Tor instance, sc Comrmwiwtv Hd«catif»n flvitreach outs of y:iv -Aiioption. I'll be putting Wei \K'jL^ A w;tnw(*ii.: atid wonderful Rvirl Plank ts the f .ay Alliancip's Coordinator at the txay Alliance . on nn p<.'isonal coaching hat and speaker (and as the LOVN sav, a "hor new Community liducatum Out­ our youth," Tliere's enough activity at the CiAGV offenng rips on he m u > balance your hunk" r(X)!). And speaking ot the Real reach Director. Plank, who was hirrd Right now, I'odd is busy purang to keep me running 24/^'. I'm also fabulous gay Htc .'\nd lest you get Worid, on Oct. 19, staff from Thresh in Ocrober, ^^ew up in lavini^ston together the seci:;nd half of the gi>ing to schcKjl two nights ;i week too serious, we u ili .il'^o be offering old came to Youth Ciroup to do a County af»ci graduated from Avon CJAGV'S fall programming, espe­ (taking SIX credits this semester) and up sonicrhmg fun .ind frnolous to grear training/presentation called High SchL He is a PCX., or ccrtj cially "Gay l'," which is scheduled have been tacilitating a Coming ()ut keep vou in g<»ui humor while "Real World: HIV", and thev did z fied ProfcJi.sional Co active C:uach, ft>r Dt.f.- 6. "I'm working on provid­ workshfjp on Wednesday nights youVe busy transforming; vour hfe. fantastic job. We icamtci firsthand and has done pci,Tion:il coachmg tor ing a nice variety oi programs or which ci>ntinues into rhe first week For information (.itv ,.i\ I ..please what it IS like living vx ' i H i \ businesses and individuals, with cli­ courses," he said "I'd like to pro­ of November. call me at 244-8(.'^il • St r \ < -u Dec. 6! ents including gay men, lesbians, vide some creative, instructive and And, ifyou read my interview on transgendered people, and he says, fun offerings for our community f>n this page, you know that I fie w out to Youth Group "a few straight people thrown in m>w a wide range of su't>jccts, like inte­ Denver, Colo, at the end of October Update: and then". rior design, queer spirituality, fman- to attend a Gay & Gray conferent:e. Piank currendy attends Monroe cial planning, leg'al issues dealing I also have a partner who would like October was a Community CoUege, where he is with domestic partner benefits and some time and attention from me >s'orking for a Human Services Cer­ other family issues." and 1 need to get back to the gym busy month tificate. This is part of his work ten Bj Mann will hold her final work­ and... and-,. and.. .couldsomelxxiy By Toby Greenfield ward getting his MSW - Ma.stefs of shop on DP issues on Dec. 6. For tell me where the j>ausc button is on Greetings from Uuth Cxroup Social Work. informadon, call 244-8640. this life of mine? I need a time out! 1 Land... ItisdifBcL:li u luiitve that Todd Hves with his partner Paul coukl realty use some CENTERINGi it^s ziicadyNoveii-.brr! (. >c r.. ;ber flew Brew and thcit cat Princess (the run­ How about you? Is your life reel­ by, And it was dttinitcK a busy ning joke is that the household con­ ing fast and furious? Arc you feeling monthlWehadagrc il timt going to sists €>f two queens and a princess). tired, listless? E>o you poop (or pop) tlie ImageOut0ims. .in*.! u ere happy Paul works for Kodak and his work out at parties? (OK, wait a minute, to have the chance tw sptak about ia bringtxig Kodak, the Gay AJKancc I'm rcgressioginto my £xvorite I liUV the GAGV Youth C^voups before and trainer Domia Red Wing to- Lucy episode... can yoi2 say Vtta the film CifmJ^mrjun i )ct. 4. (Sec gisthcr i& the reason he wiH receive Meta Vegamin?) ChHs Beckman, photographed by a the rcviewby a Yotuli C >r(>up mem- tbe GAGV Community Leadership Coukl you use some help getting Y^uch Group member. Big Gay Award at the l^incheon on Nov. 7. ' . . ir,™«„ bet on the next pag ccnter-cd? Arc there areas of your f^ n O^T^P Okfeoberfest photo on next page. Todd is especiaUy interested in .'^ L . i_ _j.^^-.4 -«-4 Wewercvwryptoucir.t lonyi>ce, Ufe that have been neglected and / ^ u r ,„.,*, the needs and concerns of older wouWbenefitfiomsomeattentkHi? ^ ^^^ "^ ""^ ^ '^^' 'Til metnbers of tiu; lgbt community. "I Well,donotfear,tbeGAGVha.the ^^^ ^^T'^'^n)^!. Youth Groups find seniors to be really inspiring ,obLnfbryou,orshouklIsayar, '^^ST'i^t' T h^lh i Tfce Young Aduk GroMp(l8-23) people," be saki •'Wc talk about *c K. «*^ tp» -»;«"r-™ o» *^*«^ 11. His speech, which is hooKiphobia beti^ deeply embed­ Todd Plank mwRs Sundays, 12-1:30 p.m.. at d«e ded in our sodety. bat ageism is too. GAGV. 244-8640. "S^ 6. d- G., Affi«.:c will '^ «• *-«-«>'^ —R -'' Tit* GAGV Youth Group meets In ti*e g^ coromanky thetc*» such a Get Centered: bfouglbf seveot members of the be hosting a fiiU day (9 to 5) of oMry Sunday. 2-4 pm.. also at the crowd close to teats. Brilliant job, stigma attached to being okL People workshops and mini-courses on GAGV. 244-8640. enroll at ''Gay Tonyl You ooiitinioe to inspire us tend to segfi^ue themseives in the Monroe Community College's alt (Seepage A3 Ibc the speech and gay cnmmimity, based on age. I'd U;'onDec«6 Damon Campus, located on the ewfy Tuesday from 3-Spjn. at tfia covcfage of diejedly.) MOCHA Frolecc oAke. 25 Kketo8eeinofeagc4«««»»*«"**'^*^*' founh and fildi floors of the oki Much of iMt month was spent St^ Suite 1060.420-1400. at die GAGV, in additkm to having By Todd Flank Sifaley^sBittklif^ Tht tmnts bm$ ktm ptogramnm^ diiected specifically Tm StiU fediog out of bccadi fiom »Zwi. kslh^kmLma'mmrkkmkm ^«'0*«»8<»«ndptomotingourawe- the maiatfactt of events packed into atsenaoni.** at DoMnuwMt lAntoad Todd tpent to d*c Gay and Gray the finrt half of Oaiobct,^di«t widi Church. 121 HRoNi^Si. Confcfeace in Denver last month. IinageOut (I saw ove* a dooen ter­ ofd»i«.,»cta<»ngcb»«oninte- SMASHING «««! 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family, friends, co-workers, employ­ ers, and a myriad other people with Is Coming Out a whom we have significant relation­ BUFFALO REPORT ships. We have been inspired by the Cliche? courage ofthe nine members ofour By Todd msuak group, six men and three women, as Arc you an itmie or an outic? No they express their fears of loss and Survivor: three Buffalo silly, Fm not asking about what kind rejection and cautiously take the next of car you drive (that's spelled Audi), steps in their coming out process. queens v. The Donald nor am I referring to the configura­ A coupie of individuals, like me, tion of your belly button. What I'm are or have been married. Two oth­ By Susan Jordan attention-seeking queens," Kuhns ers are struggling to reconcile their asking is: "Arc You Out?" The media loved it — three gay pag­ said. desire to pursue a vocation tn the You know — do the people in eant organizers from Buffalo vcrstis He then had a conversation with ministry with the negative messages your world and sphere of influence The Donald. Last summer, Ben the chairman of tbe Miss Universe they received from their churches pageant. "I asked why the refusal, if know that you are Lesbian, Gay, Bi- Kuhns (l^uren Fox), Joey Marcella growing up, that being gay was a there's Miss Gay America and oth­ sexual, Transgendered, Intersexed, and Mimi I.a Rue challenged Donald gross, treasonous act deserving of ers. It ail has to do with Trurnp and and/or Queer? Fm imagining that Tnunp, owner ofthe Miss Universe rhe most severe punishment by God. his power and ego. He had stepped in some of you arc thinking that this pageant, over the use of the name I.et's face it: coming out is still a when the pageant was about to go kind of question is outdated, passe "Miss Gay Universe" for a risky proposition for most folks. All under and bought it; Trump LLP and and fast becoming irrelevant. After fimdraising drag show they hoped to the media's hype and piavfu) attcn- NBC are the co-owners of Miss Uni­ all, isn't cvcrybcxiy out ofthe closet produce. riori ro gay characters on T\' sitcoms verse. Tbe chairman said, 'Enjoy your in the 21st ccnturv? ITic resulting brouhaha was aired c;ir}not assuage rhe pain antl Ji-^conv \ 3 minutes of fame' — he was talking (-clcbritics arc out oi the closet: on the Howard Stern Show, with fort felt by a closeted schoolteacher down to me and that's ali 1 needed to 1 ltus article; it was in i^( veneres— Politicians, nationally Kuhns told the Bmpty Closet, "In >s gav. the July 21 issue. 'Trump takes on I^arnt'v Frank) and in*crn;:iti(ma|)v 2000, joe Marcella and Mimi La Rue I'-eC'i \^'^xh rhe r'ass;iL'r :>! "^^ ^\OA , dr^i.g i.-jueens' - it vvas the cover stc>ry. ^.l:\vnrs n< HcrliTT, (jcrrTianv ;!n;! and 1 decivlcci tlirrc shf>ulfj be ar> Vv:'nen u'e co!"iict7ipi;tte e<''V;!'i!j out "7"hcn orher ;^^edif^ picked up the r, T!*-, Iranccj, arc open about their additional pageant for the giris who on the job, we still have to li'.a! with stor\% includmg Hollywood Ai lj3t?e, t involved. "Hf>ward gay people ganv.nn^ top ratings. he had litrie living space at his house. Trump's lawyers (Donovan and professional relationships should The movie CJass Queers \A'as a great TTien her relationship wirh het fa­ Stern staited talking about us and I Haven't you beer ^' ' t^ingyour^^**^ So he decided to move ovir. He had Yee), ordering us to cease and de- pause and reflect tyn what it was like tnovie that I believe queer kids from ther just sort of ended: for a while he called them," Kuhns said. "So rhe ISy/^ on ihcSi^^mht t -\ ihmk that the got a job paying $400 a week. In si.sr. W'c did not kneiw abour rhe when we were still in the closet. all different walks of life should see stopped talking to her. Her grades order to keep the )ob, he had ro quit fr>ik)\\Tng morning 1 go f>n Howard Fab Five should t cti\dy run for previous historv^ of'Miss C^ay Uni­ Lauren Fox (Ben Kuhns) Chances are, vou had some pretry and partake of. The movie was about Rtarred \o crumble and her father schr>ol. so be did that v.Trh the inten­ Stern- 1 W.isn*r prcpaTec^ for tVic -^tii -«*i^ -goostkCisaiions tor bemg m tkM»ey Mia lfwr"-'\\ f-""i UtrtrA- viil- verse'. I found the n-amt: wiis .iviiil keep tood banks gtVinj. \^ pu,ttauj. office, rhis cf>un!r\ would once again banned her from synagtjgue. One tion of ge>ing hack, though in the p«idity or nastincss rhat was going to Trump Teeis tnai: people can^t tell thankfully, even better reasons for ferent walks of life, all of wh(jm shared able and so wc chose ir. All of a "We're not giving up," KuVins sAid, become America ihc Beautiful. And day, while talking to a scln>ol coun movie it did not show him getting an happen. Ifyou do rhis stuff you have coming out. one stru^le. sudden it was every two v/ecks, an­ "We just sit tight and wait to g< • inr; the difference bet^veen Miss Uni­ then there's Bay .l/r'.v /ioy(s) —gay selor, the counselor recommended apartment- Sources say he never did to be prepared for this sort of thing. As a comm.unir\', it's important They were queer and in the main­ other letter. So we said, let's call the battle - which means a whole lot < n and straight (ctiuld vou pick out the her for Tnangle, a school for ejueer return ro school. Stern, who is a close friend of Trump, that we continue to provnde resources stream school system. 7liough tlieir Patent and Trademark Office (in paperwork. They file an cxtensiot^ " verse and Miss Gay Universe. I say impostcrs?) — a rcaiirN show that kids who were not doing well in the Last there's Adam. was being an asshole. (At one point like this six-week coming out series, school district created a place for Washington D.C.) We had an attor­ htild us up for 30 days, and sn on. S(; put t^ie srraighr gu.-- sn rhe closet mainstream schoo! s>'srcrn and ^riic film didn t show much abtnit later in the show) he said, 'I think you they can — the queens have bigger to encourage, nurture, and support them, a safe haven called Tnangle, ney and things were moving pk.'.w as we're thinking by spring or sumn^er (rhey didn't like it either , W~ili and needed just a fresh tuart in order to Adam. He was a great ^;rudent and have father issues.' I said, 'We just the courageous folks who are taking where all tl-iree of these teen.s at one a mrtie. Lawyers are the worst — I we'll get: a solution. Now it goe< C>racf is about as mainstream .Kmcrica do better. The program i:^ for one had really grear famiiy support, lie buried my father, so 1 don't appreci­ hair, bigger shoes and bigger boobs. their next tentative steps toward point attended school, they still had know, I've dated many!*' before the Trial and Appeal Board as you can get. Suddc.:ni\. ^n ?J'(»3,1/'s year and ir holds a maximum of 19 went to Triangle for one year, then ate that remark.' claiming the full and rewarding lives problems. First was Adianna. Kuhns said that they left their and they're going through the basic .'UJ RfLUitfe to have t\\tten trademark status the September killing in Brooklyn. preserve, catalogue, display and dis­ For CfOd's sake, even tiic Supremes this gtxxi girl status she had to hold, log of every call 1 made every other Trump has many law firms that do to get better. That's about it for play. and Trump's attornej^ w*ere so fo­ N.Y.C. Police Dt tective Ray Ferrara seminate. (excluding scaly whatever his name BIG GAY OKTOBERFEST: in order for her father to keep his day to the Patent Office about Miss different things - Donovan and Yee Adianna. I pcrsf>nallv k)ved Class Queers 1K'- cused on us, they didn't know about described Cass a.-- .i h usder and drifter Tbe collection is currendy housed is) came out in support <>f gay ci\il Below: Erika Gullo, winner of good rapport with the community. Gay Universe... I called Trump's just does Mis.s L'niverse w^ork. No ' Next there was Richard. cause i could relate, as will anv other it. In June our application was ap­ who extorted mo!.(.. from men. at tbe home of Madeline Davis, Ar­ nghts by striking down rhe sodomx imageArt's Audience Choice award She in fact held it up for a while — attorneys and asked them, what's one's paj^ng us. Is this fair? It's not Richard came from a not-so gO(.>d queer kid who sees this movie. proved hy the Trademark Office; then Lt. fake Ulcv 'M of the Buffalo chives Director, and her partner laws as unconstitutional. It would bt for In Living Color", at the GAGV the problem? When you grow up in about what's right or wrong, it's about it goes tc* 'publication for opposi­ Police Departjnc. • told the Empty Wendy Smiley. Davis and fundraising easy to rhink that if anyone is stili party on Oct. 25 at Nasty D's. rhis industry and have met celebri* how much money and pOMvcr you tion*, and anyone who is opposed Closetth:xi there \v .is no; enough evi­ chair Paul DiNunzio said, "We have hiding in rhe closer, it's his or her ties like BiU and Hillary Ciinton, ce­ have. The funny thing is, I'rump was can challenge it. Miss Nude Universe dence to indict ( .is- m Buffalo, but done so much in western New York, own damn fault. Perhaps you're lebrity stams doesn't faze you any­ loving all the press — he said, *Miss actually got their stamp and serial that after the charet - .ieiunst him in from the Mattachine Societ}' of the thinkini? that there's just no need for more. I was very bold about calling Universe this year was tfie number ^Volunteers needed for number, and when 1 brtmght it up on New York are de.ii; u lih. he may be Niagara Frontier, which ran the fust keeping your sexual orientation and them. I had a rapport going with one one rating on the night it appeared.' Howard Stem, and Trump had never brought to Buffalo to stand trial for and longest-lived communit\'-sup or gender identity a secret in tlii^ of the attomeys and I started to 1 said, 'Of coarse, because of all the the Sweetheart Ball in heard about it - he was furious! the Bosinski killing poncd gay center in America, to the modern age. If, like me, you've been research it. You don't really need an publicity about this, people wanted "He said, ^'eil, I'U talk to my over .SO diverse organizations we have out for a while and are comfortable attorney at certain points because to see what Miss L'niverse was about.* "He apparend\ <.onksscd ro two February^ attorneys — they thank you for all the today. It's time to gather tip the trea­ with being lgbt, it might be tempting it's self-explanatory, and you just "It's like riding a bull at a bar -you New York detect! ts m llorida," overtime you've given them..' sures ofour wonderful past and pre­ to cast a critical eye on fhe closeted If you can help out, please call Paul ask questions. just stay on the bull for 30 seconds Ulcwski said "He. is being held in Trump's attomeys tried to blame tiie serve them so that future genera­ gay guy (or girl). "Paperwork came in, I'd look it and that's all you have to do." New York City nnd when they're Berezney at 244-8640 (ext. 14) or e-mail Patent Office, but that's when they tions can understand and build on Facilitating the Coming Out Work - over, and we'd follow up on it. Once Kuhns ended, "I love it — it ha,s through with him, rhr\ \J- ant tti talk got tourer (on us). Tmmp and his our accomplishments," shop for the past few weeks has [email protected] I spent two monrhs getting an appli­ taught me a lot about what our rights to him here. We rna\ liave rhe two corporation feel rhat people can't tell Trained volunteers work with the served as an important reminder to cation on track that our attorney had are as individuals.... It's all about detectives come up ht-'rc and testify the difference between Miss Gay Archives, and their ongoing projects me and my co-facilitator Toby not done. I thought once we had power — it's the David and Goliath befbrcagraxKi jury, \\ hic h c* >uld then Universe and Miss Universe. I say require supplies and equipment spe* Greenfield of how difficult and chal­ trademark approval, that would be story." indict him. It wili depend on a lot of they can - the queens have bigger cific to storage and preservation of lenging it can be to come out to that." Kuhns said that Trademark things whether he will ever stand hair, bigger shoes and bigger boobs," old documents, some of which are and Patent Office approval can still Man confesses trial here.** Trump*s lawyers filed for an ex­ fragile. As the archives grow, a larger be challenged by Trump's lawyers. "Somcinformamin in n-n. A. >. Post tension &om the Trademark Office. space will be needed. Meanwhile, the three had decided to kiliins in 2002 Kuhns said, *Thcir goal is for us to The Archives has been granted not to proceed with the pageant, A man who was sought fbr question- BuffiyoGLBT either tvm. out of money or get so fed not for profit status by the IRS, which choosing to wait for the Patent Of­ ing in the 2002 murder of a gay man up that we g^ up. Ninety percent of Arthives seeks means that contributions are tax de­ fice approval before proceeding, in Buffalo was arrested in Miami on people who've challenged in the past ductible. Checks may be made pay­ pardy because Trump could not sue Oct. 6 and charged widi a second local support have given up. You'd think this is able to The Buffalo GLBT Archives, SEASONS CHANGE them until they had actually made a killing in Brooklyn in September. A/or king? what people in the Office do, and if TheBuffidoGLBTArchive, founded and may be sent to the Archives at profit from use of the name. They Mickey Cass, 27. confessed to the they approve , that should be it, but in Septfamber 2XXXi^ is seeking sup­ P.O. Box 503, Kenmore NY 14217. So CAN YOU also wanted to avoid publicity. ''We July 2002 killing of Kevin Bosinski, (their ruling) has no binding force." port fbr maifuainance of materials For more information, call were getting calls from the National and to the murder this September of Kuhns said that he and Joey telatisgtot^JiJMbQr> nt rhe Buffalo Madeline Davis, Archives Director, Enquirer and other media, but de­ his roommate in Brooklyn, N.Y., as Oa, PAULA OECHELLY Marcella still want to stage the pag­ qneer comttiooiiy^ at (716)875-9809, or e-mail cided to hold off on publicity be­ wdl as to another killing in N.Y.C. eant someday to raise money to help The support could he financial, or Buffalo.GLBT.Archi\'cs@vetizcMiJiet. PSYCHCfTHER AP 1ST cause we didn*t want to be seen as Cass was captured by New York thing. Older glbts are alive and well vision is to become the premier or­ also Ukc to give a special green- on Saturday, Nov. 15 at 9 pm at The locations. More information can be and doing great things! thumbs up to Board Member Laurie Bachelor Forum, 670 University Ave found at Web Page: http:// lambda.kodak.com. More details on zations tbat |xtovide human services ganisation for senior glbts from the RSWNY continues to have group Southern Tier, Ithaca, Rochester, Ammering, who spearheaded this (Donations will also be taken at thedoh.dyndns.org/transgender/ Kodak's global diversity activities arc for older people, so that we can share social events and informational pro­ Buffalo, and all places in between. successful effort. Outlandish Gifts & Videos in Vil rtg/index. featured at www.kodak,c6m/go/di- services and programs and increase grams. Our monthly schedule will We plan to develop a terrific support The Chorus is still conducting a Iage Gate Square.) Yahoo Group posting page: http:/ versity. awareness about the special needs of older g^bts. soon be expanding to include a game system that will endure for the long search for a new Publicity Director. Once you've got that warm, fuzz> /groups, yahoo, corn/group/ Moving ahead: Wc recognize that "senior" en­ night and other events. Our Cheap run! Do you have the gift of gab? Would feeling you get from giving, that will r( 'chestertransgendergroup. compasses a significant range of ages Date program — lunch and a movie you like to be paid for it? We're put you in the mood for December's Meetings are the second Monday Rainbow Seniors and needs. Our chronologically on the third Thursday ofthe month Men's Chorus looking for an individual who can Bar Night. Join us for Lotig Johns ' •>i each month at Open Arms Metro- ofWestern N.Y. younger members may be interested — is off and running. Contact Where can you see a 14-foot Drag spread the good word about RGAIC Night, Saturday, Dec. 20. poiitan Community Church, 175 ALL ABOUT HAVING FUN in investing wisely and planning for Saundra Hhm.an at 473-4765 for Queen, a dancing Christmas Tree and help ensure that sold-our audi­ Come strip down to your umon Norris Dr. (near Cobbs Hill Park). retirement; some ofour older mem­ more information or a ride. And and a Toy Shop come alive while ences attend our productions, Ifyou suit for this popular Bar Night, just '^: ^'O p.m. to 9 p.m.; the third Mon- pates in monthly nude swims at a bers and their guest(s). This will be a By Sherlea Dony, Vice consider yourself a highly organized bers arc already retired and in need there's our monthly potiuck social, celebrating the holidays? Why, atThe five days before Christmas. Ho ho 'hiv of each month at the GAGV Meet People local athletic club, which are" open to pK>tluck event and a video will be person with a flair for writing and President of personal services or sonieone to which often feamres a guest speaker. Rochester Gay Men's Chorus holiday ho, indeed. f "rnmunity Center, 179 Atlantic H Check this section and all namrists. shown. Please call (585)234-4388 for marketing, piease call the Chorus RSWNY is agroup focusing on older talk to, or perhaps they simply Uke to Last month we had several guests concert this year, of course. In other news, thanks to GHIJ\ \vc., 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. tbe ong;oing calendar to Membership is open to men over location and details. Office at 423-0650 for more infor­ glbt people. Members range in age get together with others who share join us: Ann Young (GAGV Board Mark your calendars now for our for a terrific anniversary party on Hie group takes a different focus 21 years of age who have an interest Lambda members and their guests mation. Also, ifyou are interested in find the group that's from our 40s to our 70s and even SOs. similar interests. Our programs are President) and Todd Plank (GAGV Rochester City Music Hall Christmas Spec­ Oct. 4, You're a terrific buiKh of fm the last Saturday of each month, in sociai nudism. Most members ate invited to attend the 2003 Holi­ contributing your time and talents right for you! Ifyou arc We exist to provide personal services designed with this age range in mind. Community Education/Outreach tacular on Dec. 12 and 13, at 8 p.m. at guys we're proud to call brothers. trom 2 p.m. to 5 p.m. at the GAGV. come from the greater Rochester day Gayla on Saturday, Dec. 6, at the as well as workshops and social ac­ the Hochstein Music SchooL Based by serving as a Board Member, we're already in a gtoup, send RSWNY promotes posirive im­ Coordinator). We're excited about The Rochester Rams M.C. is For lots of details see: (Yahoo Group area, though Buffalo, Syracuse, Utica Rochester Museum & Science Cen­ tivities for our members. on the style of New York's Radio currently looking to fUl that position a monthly news update ages of growing older and the impor­ working more closely witii the Gay Rochester's foremost gay motorcycle posting page): and the southern tier axe also repre- ter from 7 p.m. to midnight. The City Music Hall holiday shows, this as well. to the Empt)^ Closet, Some of the more able-bodied of tance of our community, and we Alliance, and it was great to get to and leather club. Our home bai is the Http://groups.y ahoo.com/ .scnted. other sponsors of this holiday event our group can provide personal as- know Ann and Todd! Todd talked production wil! be the "talk of the Lastly, the Board of Ditectors Bachelor Forum, 670 University 179 Adantic Ave., advocate for the rights of older glbts gt (^)up/RTGgendergroup. P'or more information, call our are GLOB&L at Bausch & I.^mb sistancc, such as tranGportatiori, pick- about his personal interest in glbt town". would like to welcome to our staff Ave., where we hold Bar Nights on VC'eb Page: www.gcocitiescom/ Rochester 1 4607, by the in both the gay and non-gay commu­ n"!formaaon Line a.nd leave vour name and OutWest at Thomson Group, Tickets are $12 - $18 and available this fall Elier Rui^ as Producer and ing up prescription refills, or getting nities. Within our organization, gerontolog)', as well as IjfeSpan's the third .Saturday of each month. 5f> chestertransgendergroup/ 15th ofthe month. and how we may contact vou at 585- Advance tickets are $25 and can be through chorus members, the Cho­ Brad Slivinski as Graphic Designer. groceries for our less-abicd peers. RSWNY strives for substantial rep­ interest in working with aging glbts. Wc hold general meetiiigs (open RTGENDERGROUP-hmil, and e- 234-7641, or use our E-mail purchased at Parkieigh (after 11/ rus line (423-0650) and our retail We're thrilled to have both men con - Equally important, we ate ready and resentation of people 50 years of age (Lifespan is the clearinghouse for to the public) the Wednesday before rnail at [email protected]. addrcss:[email protected], 15/03) or Pride Connection (aftei oudets; Pride Connection, Outiand­ tribute their talents to RGMC and able to provide companionship and and older at)d an equitable balasice organizations on aging in the Roch­ Bar Nights at the Forum. The Saturday group is a pardy a ROMANS or write ROMANS, PO Box 02293, 11/22/03). lickets will be $30 at the ish. Parkieigh Pharmacy and, new look forward to a iong and creative telephone reassurance. We knc>wthat of men and women, abJed and dif­ ester area.) For more information, visit our social group that will appeal to all Rochester, NY 14692. door. A portion ofthe proceeds ^mH this year. The Creator's Hands. Or, life togetJier. Rochester Male NaturistS (RO- there are probably many senior glbts ferendy abled, representing diverse RS^OCTSlY's membership dues are website: http:// kinds of sex/gender variant pepple. be donated to a local charity/. Tins save now by ordering 2(X)3-2004 M VNS) is a social organization of in tlic commu.njty who isrcn't aware racial, ethnic, religious, and econ*vnr/t>rk at Hochstein School of Music. Lambda know you! gardens during our first annual Fall partners and allies), will find this a 1 f you have thougjht about social in the ImageArr/Galiery event for with any not-for-profu group, we We're putting off out usual sryle for Group offers three monthly activity Eastman Kodak Company. Upcom­ members and their guests wiL' be Fundraiser. The success ofthe event great opportunity to meet and make nudiry, but were apprehensive about In addition to providing personal her sculptJjire, and Ginny Dckin read are aiways looking for motivated a month and doing something for the opportunities for gender/sex variant ing Lambda events include a GI..BT able to purchase discounr rickets by has us already planning for next year. friends with others who are like and being nude the first time, there are contact/assistance, RSWNY pro- one of her poems at the ImagcArr/ people to assist with our various ac­ kids. people. Financial Planning workshop on callmg (585)234-4388. Huge thanks go tiiose "gardeners not so like you. This group offers several clothed events, suich as eat­ \'ides sen'ices to older glbts through Poetry event. In addition, wc co- tivities and services. Ifyou have some Heip us bring Christmas to really There are two facilitated support Monday^ Nov, 3, 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 For information about becoming with vision" who opened up their structured activities, news and views, ing out as a gfoup at resfsttraftis, social and life-enriching programs. sponsored the movie L/ly Festival 7i.t\ time and energy, we have a place for needy children. Bring an unwrapped group meetings every month for p.m. at AIDS Rochester, located at a Kodak I-ambda member or up­ creations to help raise funds for and lots of opportunity to socialize. gt>ing to concerts and movies, where We have social events, as well as the Dryden Theater, about two old* you! child's toy to the bar and we'll make people in various stages of gender 1350 UnivetRity Ave. 'ITiis will be coming acris^ties, picasc email us at RGMC: Bob Parsons, Dennis Foley Manv of our members have dual you can meet other members ofour discussions or workshops led by pro­ women w^ho fall in love. We also gratefully accept mon­ sure the kids get them in time to transition. It's a great opportunity to open to the public. [email protected] or by leaving a fessionals in die community who etary donations, which are tax de- and Terry Quaterct, Gary Keleher membership in other parts of the group in a clorhed environment RSWNY is also one of the c< make the holidays cheery. All dona­ talk, share, support and be supported A Lambda Networking evening is message on the I^ambda voice mail have information wc need and want ductibie. At tliis ttiTje memberships and John Mclntyre, Tom McGinnis, During the L^ !1 winter months we sponsors at the Halloween C<:»stum* tions will go directiy to ITie Roosevelt by others on the same journey. scheduled for Saturday, Nov. 8,6:30 at (585)-234-4388. Lambda's intranet to kntjw. We've also begun network­ are our only source of mcome. Our Ron Gigliotti, and Bob 1 larns. We'd Groups continued on next hold monthly dinner parties at mem- Party al ARI. So you see, gtowi Children's Center. Open your heart Chg>jOgingfa*'ititiraaieo€fetcd«tbc>^ p.m. n> \0 p.m. icr T..ambda mem­ site for Kodak employees :s ing witVii CJ>mmuniiy basfd f>rf,rani- .1.1. • * * r » »^ ^ ( < > 1 X- :iim^:. Spiritus Christi Church Third Presbyterian Church A Chrisr-ccHtercd Catholk Church reaching beyond the iii»tHution«i a More Light Church Elaine Elkins M.S. Geri Stanton church to be inclusive ol aH Counseling Services MS,E<1., MS-Ed, Liliirgics Thursday 7 00 p.m at Spmlus Chnsli Churdi where gtot persons are weteomed as Psychotherapist IVjatianaHy Cerdfifd Cuunack^t Saturday 5.00 p.m al Spmlus Chnsti Church partners in ministry Inditndual and relationship counseling: Certified Clinit^nd Mental Health Coun»ck>r Sundav 7:30 a m al Spintus Chnsti Church Sign Lan^age Skilled 9:30 a.m at Hochstcin. 5() H Plymoulh A\c .Sunday Worship 10:30 a.m. Accepting new members into,.. Rainbow Bridge Meetings: 3'^ Monday 7:()()-8 30 p m (Chiid care available, wheetehair accessible anxiety & depression Women's Deaf Gay mmtkmi^ St RoeHettcr NY 14450 » 325-HtlO looped for hearing impaired) loneliness & separation Bisexuality Men's IT resolving conflicts II ' 'rf/?ey will know we are Christisms by our love... jj Monday (1 st and 3rd) Group Group GLBT Support Group 7:30 p.m. communication skills sexual abuse recovery at East Ave and Meigs St drug & alcoholism lvhli\ i(iVi

Uturgy evety Sunday at 5:00 p.m. R, C. Liturgy ofthe Word - first, third, Btsd Gfth Sundays ofthe month. Open Arms Metropolitan Cominunity Church Barbara Oebes, M*5- Episcopal Mass - second and fourth Sundays ofthe month. Empowering People • Embracing the Journey • Touching the World bgeiher we xvill create an Social Hour foHowing Liturgy. environment that promotes dounselofy^Lesbian Church of St. Luke and St. Simon Cytene Sunday Morning Worship ,.11:00 A.M. T 17 South Kitzhugh Street (Cornet of Broad and S. Fitzhugh) Sunday Evening Worship 7:00 RM. healing, provides support for exploring (the church unth the pink Steele) your personal journey and empoxvers EL" COU rage ment D-1 Info^Linc: (585) 234-5092 Jim MuScahy, Interim Pastoral Leader (Recorded mformafion and voice mail) you to make self-respecting choices. Caring E-mail: [email protected] 175 Norris Drive Web Site: http://www.ggw.otg/DI-Rochc8ter/ Rochester, New York 14610 EmaU: ''m^m^;y^^^^<^o'^*'«^^*"»*^ Pastotal care is available. 585-271 -8478 ^JTK "VU- VAJ: A<'«.^ , MS. Ed. AU ate welcome regardless of wotship tradition, Nationally Certiiied R«pcct gender identity ot sextial otientation. Individual, Couples, Groups J^ Sign Language Proficient ] (716) 3«SNi23lMj ^-^^ I arU/Avenue ve claim our rightful (7 I ^) 2/1 -+^ 10 in the Church! and lgbt concerns. The Rpchester FrontRunners/ parior ofthe Third Chutch, Wc will be viewing We are also pleased to announce that the Empire Bears FrontWalkers is an official chapter of the In­ the "over-rf»e-top" comedy fm a CTmriiodeH Session (Governing Coundl) of Third Presby­ Winding down from a busy summer and eariy temadonal FrontRunners. An out-of-drag RuPaul assumes the difficult fail* the BEARS will take November easy. No role of Mike, a straight camp counselor (no terian Church has adopted an overture to the big trips or events arc plarmed; just hanging Bassically pun intendet^ for True Directions, a so-caUed national Presbyterian Church USA, which around Rochester with fnends. rehabilitation camp for gay people. Mike's job would remove any actual or perceived barriers to ordained service within the denomination The regular monthly meeting takes place Treblemakers is to help M^jan, a typical suburban teenager, for lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender per­ Nov. 5 at the GAGV at 7:30. There wiJl be a The band is in its FaU Season, which has in­ to overcome her infatuation with pom-poms, sons. We hope this overture will be approved poduck at the GAGV on Saturday, Nov 8 cluded working on our Big Band Season and cheerleading and cheerieaders, and leam how by many other gay-friendly Presbyterian con­ beginning at 6:30. The theme this month is HoUday Concert Season, and supporting the to be the "perfect" woman. The movie is rated gregations in the region, before it is considered A "Anything You're NOT Having for Thanks­ community with Pep Band Music. *C||»» by the Presbytery of Genesee VaUcy (five- TSilNQjDUu giving". I^t's see who tries out the wildest Members of BT in September attended the Join us again on Dec. 13, as we attend the county metro area) in January 2004, and then FIACE recipe. Later that night, the BEARS will host a International Conference of Bands in Minne- Rochester City Music Hall Christmas Speo by the nadonai church in June 2004. i x;ather/Levi night at the Forum. We'll Aho be apoUs, marching in the Duluth, MN/Superior tacular of the Rochester Gay Men's chorus, noNMJDaeomnoM collecting CANNED GOODS FOR ARI, as WI Pride Parade, as weU as doing a Shock and foUowed by a party at a member's home. An­ Thanks for the tremendous, gay-positive ef­ ^Hvsuc&tstm- we do each year at this time. Bring your cans Awe performance at the Minnesota State Fair. other home party is in the works for January. forts by so many in the Rochester community. fitti;r next Gay Bands o>f .\merica Banner. tures ('lash'". What is u about gay culture rhar www.thirdpresbytciriaii.org/'^morelight. or coti M«M«Ktfl^HaiP-*M year's officers, and consider joining the C J \GV. Other highligbrs included members of BT the mainstream church member finds offen­ tact Ralph Carter at rcarter2@rochester,rr.com, ITie Hmpire Bears v/ould bke to thar^k ()ur- sitting in with rhe Queer as Polka Band from sive or unsetding? What is it about church 271-7649. All events above are sponsored bv [ latidish, the Pnde Connection, and th(. I orum Chicago, and generally a great party weekend culture that gays and lesbians find offenf^ive or the Mcjrc light Committee of Tnird Presbvtc tor their donations that helped make ;• success with our fellow musicians from across the unwelcoming? Help us bridge the cultural iA\- rian Churcli, 4 Meigs St., Rochester, NY 14607. ^! 'he recent Mr. Empire Ecar/Dadpe to connTiuc • L:-^O\V ing, it was voted rhat henceforward LCTBA will (^h'.ick l^ov.cti, L'.xccurive OirecTor * »'"the ( ;f^v •MIS event and bnng more people to R. 'ch<-ng aucr •.•;o\cr;Vi ^ear<-. Update next \ear. ciation, to be more inclusive of our current some o( our own Third Church members. \XV>men of all different agt.'s ,\n<^ abilities art Last, the Empire Bears would like to en­ Canadian and Australian bands. On Sunday, Nov. 16, fn>m 9 t<^ 10 a.m., the welcome. This is a great w.ay to meet other The Youth Group courage everyone in Rochester to ^et their Back home, BT's Pep Band has been busy program vAW be, "Is Marriage a GcK>d ITiing?" women and have a fantastic time. Kids arc •irkets to the Rochester Gay Men's (Chorus performing for the I x)llypop Farm B ARKtober Hit hard the last 25 years by the .AIDS epi­ absolutely welcome we love 'em! Call Donna update is on page < hnstmas Concerts, Dec. 12 and 13 at the Fest, Nationai Coming Out Day Rally at the demic among family and fnends, more anci Kearney at -142 63*)') for more information. i^ichstein Music School. It's going to be a GAGV on Ocr. 11, and Making Strides for njore gay men and lesbians are openly living as one of this section. 'Tiri.:e concert this year, with sets and costumes Breast Cancer. Both musicians and flags have couples and parenting children Is marriage a PLAGAL ik'.ai make it a great Christmas pageant. 'N'ou been busy with these events, as well as rehears­ good thing that should be encouraged, or is it The existence ofthe Pri>-Iife yMliance of Gavs FurtherYouth won't want to miss the dancing bears, rhe toy als for our upcoming seasons. Rehearsals are patriarchal and passe? Where's the Presbyte­ and lx?sbians (Piw-VGAL) sheds both the ste s; )ldiers, antl everv (rnristmas song from every currentlv on Monday nights, 7 - 8:30 p.m. with rian Church LKSA, and Tliird Church in par­ reor/pe which the lesbian and gay commiinir, articles are on 43 or LP vou ever owned. the location moving due to changes in policy ticular, on this? Cc^me wrestle with these ques­ has of pro-lifers a.s weil as the stereotype which page 2. of using the City Schools and insurance. We tions with Rcxl Frohman, Associate Pastor for the straight community has of lesbian and g^y Butch Femme are currendv Uxi'king for a rehearsal space. Church in Society, aJong wirh local attornev Americans 7>ic voices of gav ar^d lesbian pro Currendy we are rehearsing for our Holiday Jennifer Grav.'itz, a.s well as memf>ers and friend.s lifers arc tesomony that gays and iesbians are Connection Concert Season as weU as a Big Wand Season of Third Church, in a panel discussion. indeed evervwherc. SaJutt- the rainbow flag - On Sunday, Nov. 23, trtium V u» lO auni., Ujc d»vers«yescwrs amowgfyenrcmnratmify. "i'tatttaa M, ( >ur Discussion Night, Nov. 7, will be on the our schedule or how to contact us, please see program wUI be ^Theolog)' and Gay CuJmre". certain! .'f>pic "Now VC'ho's the Turkey?". our web site www.btrochestcr.org or caU 507- Dr. H. DarreU Lance, with the Association of For more information, contact Pl^G AL as Come enlighten us with the REAL gobblers 3289. All area musicians are welcome, no audi­ Welcoming and Affirtning Baptist?, fonnerly a Box 33292, Washington, D.C 20033; voice m your Uves, and rell us your worst Thanksgiv­ tions, and no experience is needed for our flag professor at Colgate Rochester Divinity Sch.'X)!, (2U2) 223-6697; [email protected], ing holiday nightmares (especially those you're corps, just a desire to be fabulous. offers theological and bibUcal perspectives on wTvw.plagal.org or contact Donna M. Kearney rruly thankful are now over!) It's 7-9 p.m. at the the clash of cultures associated with the church at (58.5) 442-6399. GAGV, 179 Atiannc Ave., corner Elton/At­ Dignity Integrity lantic. Please bring a snack/non-alcohoUc bev­ Susan SanFilippo, C.S.W. erage to pass. Dignity Integrity Rochester is a faith commu­ Due to the Thanksgiving hoUday, our Social nity in the Roman CadioUc and Episcopal faith Event for November — Night at the Movies traditions. We meet every Sunday at 5 p.m. at Counfteling & Ps^rchotherapy — will be moved to Monday, Nov. 24, Meet Saints Luke and Simon Cyrene Church, 175 •Why can't life befairi outside the GAGV at 6:30 p.m. and we'U head Fitzhugh SL AU are welcome regardless of out to a 7 p.m. evening movie! worship tradition, gender identity, or sexual ' If I cbange, mil iny partner? For fiuther mfo., contact Kerry at 865- orientaaon. • What effect does my past have m me? 4t'>19, email DrcssyFemme^aol.com, or write Our Thanksgiving poduck this month wiU - What can I do about my futMtre^ P.O. Box 18734, Rochester, NY 14618. take place on Nov. 23, immediately following Indhriduai and couples therapy (siidiii^ fee scale) our service. FrontRunners/Walkers For more information about Dignity-Integ­ 500 Helendale Road, Suite 155, Rochestef N.Y. 14609 rity, please see our display ad in this issue of the i R(x;hester FrontRunncr^/FroniVC alkers invites Empty Closet, or phone 234-5092. Wc look you to join us on Nov. 15 for our second annual forward to seeing you at regular Sunday 5 p.m. Russow Consulting 1 urkey Trot Fim Walk/Run. service, or any ofour events. AU arc welcome. We will be meeting at 9:15 a.m. at the Big PaviUon in Genesee VaUey Park. After our Third Presbyterian TARA RUSSOW, Ph.D, walk/run in the cool autumn air, we wiU be CUNICAL PSYCHOLOGIST enjoying warm drinks and tasty snacks in the Thic^ have been hopping lately at third Pfcs- park. Last year's event was a huge success. So byterian Church of Rochester, \^ch meets at 120 Aflens Cr«ek Road bundle up and join the fun. Wc hope to see you the comer of East Ave, and Meigs St.! there! Fourteen of us thoroug^y enjoyed tfte docu­ Rochesten NY 14618 We are a group of men and women who mentary fUm of the Ufe of Bayard Rustin, (585) 442-4447 meet three times a week to run or walk, on Brother Outsider^ during October's ImageOut www.RussowConsulting.com Monday and Wednesday at 6 p.m., and Satur­ Fiim and Video FestivaL It is about time that UNBEATABLJE RENTAL SPECtALSI day at 9 a.m., at the George Eastman House one of our 20* century leaders of the dvU parking lot. On Saturday mornings we social­ digits movement for African-Americans fi­ MONDAY MGV«E MADNEBS: RENT 1 FILM. GET 1 FREE ise over coffee foUowing our three-mile walk nally receives acknowledgement. This is espe­ Reiki . Soma Pf TM TUeSQAYSAND THURSDAYS: RBnr2 HLMQ» Q£T 1 FREE FFatDE or fivc-tnile run. Other social events are sched­ cially sweet because our brother was African- uled throughout the year. We meet year-round Amencan and GAY! What a great film. Now, Energy Techniques P«xTx>tlng SUNDAY: RENT FOR 1 NIQHT. RETURN BY lOMM MONDAY. PAY ONLY $2.00 and welcome everyone rc^;ardless of your level the whole world knows more fiiUy how instm- of fimess. ^•^ 728 South Ave,. Rochester, NY mental this openly gay African-American was *t»*. Visit us on the web at http:// in organizing the historic 1963 March on Wash­ «3 NIQHT RENTM. ON ALL DVD AVH8 ONLY $aGO \^^^^ WW ondeconnection.net groups.msn.com/RochcsterNYFrontrxmncrs ington. Kudos to ImageOut for bringing this LATE RETURN FEE OF $2.00 PER DAY AFTER IflAM EACH DAY . We can he *( FItm due by 10AM on the third day. RenOil prtoes and late fte« are taxable) films to Rochester this year. ^ M4^ Noorv^PM, Sat iOA^4^9PM, Sun Noon-6PM reached at [email protected] On Friday, Nov. 14, from 7:30 - 9 p.m., aU West Henrteto. NY 14586 or leave a arc invited to join us for a pizza party in the Phone: 58&749.4306 message at (585) 546-4222.

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Meets every third Thursday Downtown United Presbyterian hnlic Ave. Tom Nt, 45*-3609. pm. Call for location. 234-444L George M., 663-7451. rreecc Ridge Center Drive. 227* in Area 67 conference room at the Nov. 18: Hairspray benefit for Qiurch, 121 N, Fitzhugli St. 325- American Bapdsts Concemed Gay Alliance of the Gene*wre Wilde-Woolf Society. LGBT )20. Optic Center. Voice mail 338-8977. GAGV with cast reception at 4000. Third Mondays, 7:30 pm. Webster Vattey board of directors ^TURDAY 22 Rochester Gay Men's Chorus Strong-Todd mansion. writers^ support group. Open mic. Patents and Friends House, 57 Ambrose St. 442-5486. Meeting, second Wednesdays, 7 Writers 6c Books, 740 University Donna Rose book signing, of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) HIV Posidve Gay Men Support pm, 179 Adantic Ave. 244-8640. Downtown Ufiited Presbyterian Church, 121 N. Fitzhugji St. 7-9^0 Ave., 7 pm. All welcome, includitig U Wrapped in Blue: a Journey ofDiscoveiy) 2:30 '5 pm. Last Sunday. CaU for group New Freedom New Happiness Empty Closet deadline. Amclcs, pm 423-0650. location: 234-0156. Every Monday, 5 pm, AIDS Roch­ AA Gay meeting classified ads, ad space reservation, listeners. Bring original work, any 17-9 pm, Barnes & Noble (Pittsford Free confidennal walk-in HIV Dignity-Integrity ester, 1350 University Ave. 442- 7 pm, Unirajian Church, 220 Winton genre, to read. Free. I Plaza). testing non camera-ready ads, letters to edi­ 5 pm, St. Luke*s/St. Simon Cyrene 2220x3051. Rd. Menandwomen. 1-A'ery Thursday night, 5-9 pm, tor. 244-9030. TUESDAY 19 Same Sex Singles Dating Event. Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh St. F>ery Green Party (political) Support Group for Parents AIDS Rochester, 1350 University FC>R TMiv NAi (i^i h:^M Pizza Party. Third Presbyterian Hairspray opening tiight. Fabu­ I Artisan Works, 565 Blossom Rd. Sunday. 234-5092. Second Mondays, 7 pm, GAGV Who Have L«st Children Ave. 442-2220. Church, comer of E^ast Ave, and lous Broadway musical. Benefii for Valet parking. Doors open 6:30 pm; Open Arms Metropolitan Community Center, 179 Adantic First, third VC ednesdays, 11 am- Bring canned goods for ARI food Community Church Ave. 234-6470. 12:30 pm, JTiird Presbyterian MOCFIA movie night Awards presentations. Hyart Re­ Meigs. Parlor, Film: But Fm a Cheer­ Gay Alliance of Genesee Valley. daring starts 8 pm. Pre-registration Second lliursdavs, 6:30 pm. MO- MONDAY 3 cupboard, get free raffle ticket. 175 Norris Drive, Cobbs Hill. 11 Bassicallv Treblemakers Band Church, 4 Meigs St. Sponsored by gency Rochester, 125 E. Main St. leader. For information, see Reception with cast at Strong-Todd required by Nov. 18. 3C50/person. CH.X Project^ 25 Franklin St., Suite I^ambda Kodak financial plan­ am. Contemporarv worship ser­ Rehearsals 4:30-6:30 pm, everv Genesee Reuion Home Care. Free. COAP Coming Glass trip, 9 am. 1060.420-1400. ning woricshop. 6:30-8:,30 pm, 244-8640. www.thirdpresbyterian.org/ mansion on East Ave. Benefit tick­ Cash bar, free hors d'oeuvres. vice, 7 pm. 271-8478. Monday. Call Tim, 242 0237.' 325-1880. Michael H., 271-6629. 'a-u'w.sa.nicscxsir,S:^!fsd:\tint!:cvcnr.cfim, Frontrunners/Frontwalkers FRIDAY AIDS Rochester, 1350 University Butch Femtne Connection Dis­ m o r e I i g b t : ets S150 for non-GAC.^V members, Gay Men's Alcoholics Anony­ Trans^f:nder Group SUNDAY 9 mous Seetstui M(vrid;us, ()pen Arms 6 pm run \\;irK; meet George Gay Men's AA meeting \ve. cussion Night. "Nov. NXTio s the rcan:erC«}rochesrer.n-.corr>, 271 - '^649. $1.^0 for members. To reserv'c ben­ S*-. Lukes/Sr. Simon Cyrene l^asrman House parking lot. 271- A.shurv Methtxiisr C'hurrh, 1050 Turkey?" Thanksgiving holiday 33^ annual Miss Gay Roches­ SATURDAY S5 efit tickets, call Paul Berezney, 244- SUNDAY 23 MCC;, 173 Norris Drive, 6:30-9 TUESDAY 4 Church, 17 S. Fur.hugh Sr. 8:30 pm. 2709. luist Ave. 7:30-8:30 pm. ter Pageant. Harro East Ballroom, 8640 ext. 14, or email Di.gnity Integrity Thanksgiving Election Day. Get OUT and vote! nightmares. 7-9 pm, GAGV O^m- Frontrunners/Frontwalkers. pm, 232-6720. Wcckiv. Rochester Frontrunners/ Empire Bears Women's Movie Night. 400 Andrews St. $1 5 in advance; $20 poiluck i'olloumg n pm service, Sr. COAP Little movie night. 6:30. rr.unity Center, 179 Adantic Ave. Turkey Trot Fun Walk/Run. Meet [email protected], Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Frontwalkers First Wednesdays, "':30 pm, Tnird Fridays, " pm. CJACJ\', 1"'9 at door. Tickets on sale at Tara, WEDNESDAY 19 i .ukc St. Si:non Cvmit.- Church, 121, and Friends Association Gy\GV Community Center, 179 \A antic Ave. 244-8C)4^!. (George M 663-7451. Bririg sriack,/beverage to share. 865- 9:15 am. Big PaviUon in Genesee Run/walk everv Mondav, ^ pm, Muthers, Nasty D's, v\ngdo Designs, (GLBFA) Adandc A\'j. SATURDAY 4610. Valley Park. rothfrRv@!hotmail.cotTn; Individuals with Disabilities S Fir/hu^h St. 2340092. cnccr Cieorgc l^^istni:u'i 1 h>usc WEDNESDAY 5 r. r»r Rot Hester. Sufi'.ia^'^, .S (.^m, Transgender Group R')chcster Rams bar ni^t CO.\P Auntie Mamt' Movie Marcellfi's Buffalr*. Fenrnting A^,^ Theolofjy and Gay Culturt; parktnitloT, 2~i 2''(i^> Open Arms MCC. Showing oi S46 4222. Education iKct in Western NY Hiird \X eel". '-d:i\s, ():30-9 pm, ' -Mfd Saturdav. S pni-2 .\u^. Bach Dune, Heather Skvt, Naiomy Ksiie, Mortv 4til. .:"',S 0,^-*/, i,.n-i:ii]: Tjiyinj>lc Tiitk Video Normal, 7 pm, instead of regu­ night, 7:30 pm. Jay, 746 6i''(-.-j. COAP November Wine Tout, '-i v)ne-day •>tTninar for special educa gib t;Hti;uhur:i.ec, rorhester.edu I'ourth Mun Sundays 12-1:.'"^,0 pm, CiAGV pm. Free. Sponsored by CTACJ\'. FRBDAY 7 '" am run/walk. Meet George source Network's 12"'' annual tion, call Wayne, 263-7727. seiors, social workers, school board Darrell Lance, 9- 10 am. C>>mmunirv Center, 179 Adannc Women's Spirit Drumming 7 pm. Spin Cafe (739 Park Ave.) Gay Alliance Leadership Lun­ pm. Dale S,, 385-0538. Ave. 244-864<'). Social for former Multicom-4 BBS i 'astman House parking lot. 461- Adoption and Foster Care Con­ When Cultures Clash. Adult Empire Bears. Brunch ar Mano's. 'Third Mondays, 7 pm, Cjiay Alh cheon and Business Forum. SUNDAY 16 members a.nd attcrneys. Strathallen GAGV Youth Group ance Ck>mmunity ("enter, 179 \x- members; other glbt cyber geeks 4 246. ference. 8 am- 5 pm. Bay Trmi Middle Fvducation Progtant, Tnird Presby ?:JM*;_ 1 pm. \X orkshops: "The Business World Step Up To PrideS Brunch. Pride flotel, 3.S0 F'ast Ave. Rcfnstratjon .'\ges 13 IH. I-\ery Sundav, 2-4 lantic Ave. Instruments provided. welcome, cver\- fourth VC'cdnesdav, Coalition for Lesbian Visibility School, Penfield. For Lnformavion or terian Church, comer of Meigs and Single Women's Potiuck. S pm, .^(.cond Saturdays. Fingerlakes After SONDA," led by Ross Levi of Buffalo Inc. fundraiser. Door?; open 8:30-9 am. For programming and pm, GACiV C>>mmunirv C!!enter, TUESDAY 8 pm. to register online, see •wu'w arni.org East Ave. 9-10 am. Featunng Chuck GACiV. Bring dish ro pass, tabic 1 79 Adanuc Ave, 244-8640. Adandc Five 0 area, poducks/scx-ials. CaU Becky Umpire State Pride Agenda: 8:30 am. noon, brunch 1 pm. Sphere Enter­ registration information, call Gray Area or Lisa Maynard, 585-586 9586. Bowen, Executive Director, GAGV. setting. Rainbow^ Amateur Radio Assoc. Ciay men 50 and over. Second Support/sociai group for bisexual Biv, (315)539-6271. ''Creating a r.ulture of Value and tainment Complex, 681 Main St., I^^rman, (715)833 39,59. MONDAY 24 Fi tiger Lakes chapter. Tuesdays, 6;,W-8:30 pm, GACi\' women. Firsr Wednesdays, 5;30-7 Empire Bears Empire Bears potiuck. "Any­ THURSDAY 13 THURSDAY 20 Respect in ihi- Workplace," led by Buffalo. $25 pre-sale, $.30 at door. Business meeting/lunch. Call Bob, Communirv Center, 179 Atiantic pm. For location, see hrtp:// Second Samrdays, Bachelor Fo­ thing You're NOT Having for COAP Dinner Night, 6:30. Mjke Triangle Talk Mnk IJbcy of Chuck Bowen, 10:15 am/ Luncheon For ticket information call 716-879- Empty Closet deadline. Camera- 442-7185. Ave. 461-0821. hf)me.rochester.rr.com/ ram. 470 University Ave. Bearline: Thanksgiving". Afterwards Bears O., 415-6833. ARJ will lead a discussion oi Melan­ 2U. 3.381. noon-1:30. Kcvnorc? Speaker Jenni­ 0999 or see pridebuffalo.org. t^eady ads, photographs. 244-9030. Food Not Bombs free food Orleans Rainbow Fellowship grayareagroup/ or call 461-1338; cholia and Moraitsm: Lis says on AIDS 2 pm, ever\' Sunday, Friends Meet­ Cross Dresser Support Group fer Middleton "f l.ambda Legal. host Leather/Levi Night at Forum. FRIDAY 14 SupiK>rt/social group, meers sec 330-9738. and Queer Polirics, hv Douglas Crimp. ing House,' 84 Scio Sr.. 234-0884. ond Tuesdays, 7 pm. For lor.aru)n Country line dancing First Samrdays, 6:30-10:30 pm, (Ifyousav; TheCiUTi'. ImageOut,you Rainbow Seniors call Dale, 589-9107, or e-ma;l F.very Wednesday ar Muthers. 7-10 (;.\(iV, 179 Atlantic .\vc. Inf(x '-^16)251-2132. '.vill be intc-vcsi.cd in this IxKjk.) 7 pm. Third Sundays. Potiuck ar ARI, DI Aubac 186@af >l.c< >m pm. Free lessons. Kevin, 325-6745. I 13.50 University Ave. 4 pm. Gay Fathers' Support Group Transgender Group Borders in Henrietta. Free. Co spon­ THURSDAY 7 Sing^ie Wonnen's Poduck First and rhird Tuesdays, ( 30 R:'''*' Presbyterians for Lesbian Last Saturdays, 2-5 pm. GAGV sored by the Gay Alliance. Fourth Sundays, 5 pm, GACiV, pm, GACiV C:ommumty Cciitei. and Gay Concerns C<^mmunitv Onter, r9 .Adanuc < Butch Ferrune Night at Mov­ Bring dish to pa.ss, table setting. 179 Atiiintic Ave. 6:,30 pm, first Thursday. For loca­ Ave. Premier Pet (Silting \ _S=5* -P^^ ies. Meet (mts.de GAGV, 170 At­ MONDAY MOCHA coffee chat tion call Ralph. 271-7649. 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Following the show, meet and mingle with star Bruce Vilanch and < members of the cast and crew of Hairspray who are invited to the GAGV's

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