Howdo Youtalk?

www.fridayweekly.com.np SUBSCRIBER COPY ISSUE 25 | RS. 20 July 15 -21, 2010 | cfiff9 #!– >fj0f %, @)^& ��AND MORE �� EVENTS & ENTERTAINMENT WEEKLY | EVERY THURSDAY 3 5 12 15 177 20 PAGE3 FEATURE HALFWAY PEOPLE TIME OFF CONSUME Just Asking Moksh Heels Discomfort In-Focus Galleria Cafe Going Satellite How did we look up info An eclectic hideout for Every woman loves her Fr!day talks with the talented We go undercover to let Fr!day takes a closer before the internet? We ask food, fun and social gather- heels but it might do more duo - Attila Manju and Binod you know what makes look at the DTH Satellite a few on what they have ings, Moksh provides re- harm to her than good. Katuwal, whose music ex- this restaurant hot and TV services soon to be Googled recently. lease from urban mayhem. Read on to find out more. presses pure passion. what probably does not. launched in Nepal. do you How talk?— Qumar T he radical differences in communication patterns of males and females have been a point Tof many debates, discussions and research studies. Personally, I have always been superbly intrigued by the subject. What is so fundamen- tally different between the sexes? Come with me as I dig deep into the fascinating world of the male and female psyche. turn to page 2 for more of it! ECS Media Health and L’Avventura The Lion King what’s on Beauty expo Winner of Special The much ac- This week, The Jury Prize at the claimed Broadway Hidden Treasures 1960 Cannes hit, ‘The Lion King’ brings you an Film Festival, re- comes to Kathman- expo dedicated visit the classics du! Promising to things to do to your wellbe- with Docskool’s live upto everyone’s ing. Be a part of this four day event and screening of this movie by Director expectations, don’t miss this adaptation by feel rejuvenated. page 8 Michelangelo Antonioni. page 8 Malpi International School. page 8 this week 14 July (Wednesday), 11:00 pm 16 July (Friday), 3: 30 pm 21 July (Wednesday), 5:00 pm 2 cover Issue 25 June 15 - 21, 2010 Fr!day My wife and I were present at “Beauty comes first to women It’s hard for them to get back prove the other wrong, rather a small gathering organized be it furnishing a room or shop- MEN ARE FROM on track. Also, it is supported than appreciating their differ- by one of my friends for his ping for garments. However, for MARS AND by the fact that their groups are ences and learning to be better daughter’s birthday. Later in me as a man, functionality is the WOMEN ARE usually smaller and more tightly partners. the evening the conversation base. When Seema appears in a knit. Men can have a disagree- took a turn to husbands and new attire either I don’t notice FROM VENUS ment, move on to another sub- Dealing with these the wives, when I pointed at my it or if I do notice it, my ques- WHEN IT COMES ject and smoothen differences differences? wife and said, “She is the talker tion to her would be how much TO COMMUNI- over a drink. They are usually Men are from Mars and Women in my family.” When I made this it cost and how useful it is go- in larger and more inclusive are from Venus when it comes remark, everybody burst into ing to be, rather than it’s aes- CATION, AND groups where everyone strives to communication, and dealing laughter leaving me puzzled. thetic value,” reveals Shekhar, DEALING to be the alpha-male. Also, men with these differences is easier Only then did I realize how who claims to be practical at WITH THESE prefer talking to listening as said than done. Communication much of a talker I had been dur- all times. Seema defends, saying listening makes them feel domi- pattern is a hugely entangled ing the evening. Funny. I then “Women more often look at the DIFFERENCES nated. area which is the by-product of explained that at home it is my broader picture; they take into IS EASIER SAID At meetings a woman may culture, family, education, per- wife who keeps the conversation account the aesthetics associat- THAN DONE. nod her head to simply show ception, mood, purposes and the going or else the entire home re- ed with anything, not just what that she is listening which a like. The start is to realize that mains silent. it is meant for. Efforts are made man would interpret as a sign the problem exists and is a re- In fact, it’s fun to look at com- to get the appreciation, but men forgot to thank her for the deli- of agreement. He then assumes sult of the differences. Usually, munication differences between hardly notice and acknowledge cious South Indian recipe (Male: that the woman would go along once the real problem has been men and women, and recently I them.” She also adds that men The job was done; I wanted to with his idea. He is surprised identified, the improvement have developed a lot of interest have selective deafness, “If I leave.). Before I left Maryada, when she later disagrees. This comes naturally. in the subject. While much has bring up some household issue, Seema did not forget to ask me confuses the woman. She doesn’t been said about women and men my hubby would not listen out how I liked the idly (Female: Ac- see why he thought she agreed My relationship status being from different planets in of pretence, but if it’s about knowledgement is important). with him since he had not asked The research for this article terms of differences in commu- cricket, then he responds. He her opinion. But, men only nod made me reflect on my communication patterns, the reality is is simply not a good listener,” Examples of Typical their heads when they agree. If nication pattern with my wife. that despite sharing many com- blames Seema. Differences in Male a woman is speaking and she The insights I got while writing and Female Styles of monalities, biological and psy- During the conversation at doesn’t see his head nod as he this article has improved com- Communication munications with her. Before chological differences between ‘Maryada’, their residence in Women are more likely to talk listens, she assumes he is prob- both sexes make interaction on a Sitapaila, Mr and Mrs Shekhar ably not listening. Confusing? I began to study and learn the to other women when they have psyche of these communication daily basis complicated. A major Golchha appeared very out- a problem or need to make a de- You bet! factor is that during childhood, spoken and uninfluenced by At every age, women face differences, I would experience cision. They believe in sharing these four traps: not calling her under all normal circumstances, each other’s presence. At times, and at times just want a sym- each other directly, their eyes girls and boys do not bother to the male domination and fe- properly anchored on each oth- often during my office time and pathetic ear without expecting asking her how she was doing, mingle much with each other, male grudging did come into solutions. On the contrary men ers’ faces. More importantly, thus developing unique behav- the scene, though. The issue they are rather “noisy” listeners offering advice on everything keep their problems to them- that she talked to me about, ioral and communication pat- of women being very grudgy, selves and don’t see the point in responding with lots of “umm,” terns as well as perceptions. sticking to one topic, though “uh-huh,” “yeah” which is inter- not praising her new hairdo or sharing personal issues, trying make-up or some other change This is further fuelled by the fact trivial, and stretching it further as far as possible to iron out a preted as being participatory, that at home or school, girls are and bringing up the same little whereas men at all ages sit an- in her, and not letting her speak solution by themselves. Hence, much. However, these days, I treated differently from boys. issue again is what males want when women come over to them gled from each other frequently to get rid of. “Men adjust and glancing around and with very deliberately make attempts to - I catch up with a Toastmaster to talk, a man would offer in- call her once or twice everyday get over with things, whereas stant solutions – something a little responses. This gives and a Socialite for women issues do not end women the impression that men only to ask how she is doing, lis- Mr Shekhar Golchha and Mrs woman might not be seeking, or ten to her and desist from offer- usually,” complains Shekhar. would sometimes ask her to find are not listening to them while Seema Golchha have been hap- This attack spurs Seema to say- men complain that women are ing advice, not try and miss an pily married for two and a half out a solution herself. opportunity to praise her on her ing, “Women are broad-minded, Women are more relation- too demanding. decades and are proud parents relationship-oriented and are Also notable difference lies in new look, and above all commu- of an open-minded 16-year-old ship oriented. They take inti- multi-taskers. I know what’s the fact that women enjoy talk- nicate with her whenever pos- son and an eloquent 11-year-old macy to be the fabric of rela- going on at home and with my ing on trivial (as perceived by sible.

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