TEMPLE SHALOM ~~ ----- Tamil,Wo""ilip, Lavillg Deed" ------s -- PUBLISHED BY TEMPLE SHALOM OF ABERDEEN, NJ Vol. XL NO.5 MA Y/JUNE 2002

Sarturday, May 4, 9:30am - 6pm Scholar in Residence

Sunday, May 5, 9 am Mitzvah Day

Thursday, May 16, 7:30 pm Confirmation

Friday, May 17, 8:15 pm Hebrew High School Graduation

Sunday, May 19,10:30 am Maccabiah Games

Sunday, June 9, 6:30 pm Congregational Meeting and Ice Cream Social Celebrate Shavuot and the month of Tuesday, May 21; June 18, July 16; August 20,8 pm Service of Peace, Healing May at and Comfort Temple Shalom

Shabbat Services at 8:15 pm First Friday of each month at 8pm Saturday Mornings at 10:30 am SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen

The Rabbi Writes us. It is our history and our destiny. It is our source of values, wisdom and purpose, our common vocab­ ulary, our narrative, our memory. Even in the midst Rabbi of our division among Jews, it is the Torah that has Laurence P. Malinger bound us together. Exactly how the Torah was creat­ ed, where and when it was committed to writing, is something we can only speculate about. Yet, we On Thursday, May 16th, know that we are to study its contents and vast num­ at 7:30 p.m., we will cele­ ber of interpretations to enrich our Jewish connec­ brate Shavuot with the tion. It is a mitzvah to study and is one that all of us Confirmation of sixteen should make the commitment to do in the days to students. Then on Friday, come. May 17th at 8:15 p.m., we The rabbis have taught us that the Torah can be will honor our eleven read on four levels, known by the acronym PaRDeS, high school seniors as meaning "orchard." The first level, peshat, is the lit­ they graduate from the Religious Education pro­ eral or contextual meaning of the text, what the gram. We are truly blessed that so many of our words mean on the st;.rface. The second level, remez, young adults and their families have supported con­ is the allegorical or philosophical meaning. The tinuous learning of Judaism. Our tradition focuses third, derash, is the homiletic or ethical meaning. on life-long learning in order to bless us with long And the fourth, sod, is the hidden or mystical mean­ life. ing. A Jew can spend a lifetime reading the same The festival of Shavuot commemorates the gift of texts over and over and still not plumb their deepest Tmah that was received at Mt. Sinai. In our tradi­ meaning. That is why we make the commitment to tion, we have learned that the Torah belongs to all of life-long learning. It is on Shavuot that we renew this commitment, just as the Israelites declared in the wilderness at Mt. TEMPLE SHALOM OF ABERDEEN Sinai, "We will do, and we willlisten./l According to MEMBER UNION OF AMERICAN HEBREW CONGREGATIONS Rabbi Nina Beth Cardin in her text, The Tapestry of RABBI LAURENCE P. MALINGER Jewish Time, listening means understanding. But as CANTOR JANICE M. GORDON a declaration of commitment - an oral signature, so Eli sa P. Bergenfeld, Director of Education to speak - isn't the phrase backward? Her father, a Laney Shapiro, Nursery School Director lawyer, taught her to never sign anything without 5 Ayrmont Lane Aberdeen, NJ 07747 (732) 566-2621 fax (732) 566-4185 e-mail: [email protected] http: //www.templeshalomnj.org

President Phil Rubin 671-2004 A Message From T raditionally, it would be ap­ Executive Vice President Sharon Steinhorn 946-2226 propriate for me to review the ac­ Vice President Michael Silverman 264-4123 Our President complishments of this past year, Vice President Susan Solow 446-0228 given that one year has passed Secretary Myrna Kluger . 566-7538 Phil Rubin since I was elected as your presi­ Treasurer Daniel Steinhorn 946-2226 dent. And, much has been accom- 566-2142 Past President Mike Hoffman plished! But, as I write this mes­ sage during Passover, events in Financial Secretary Marvin Cohen 972-8590 Israel weigh heavily on my mind. Brotherhood President Scott Goldstein 772-1557 Passover is a time of celebration, when we recall the Israelites Sisterhood President Debbie being freed from slavery in Egypt. It's a happy time, a time of Worthington 957-0754 family get togethers and the partaking of festival food. But, this Passover as family and friends were celebrating together in a ho­ Shalom Editor Joan Marotta 566-2050 tel in Natayna, disaster struck as a suicide bomber detonated Art Director Alan Leckner 739-2450 himself, killing 21 people and injuring over one hundred. Material submitted for publication must be received in the Temple office by Surrealistically, the Arab coalition offered "normalization" of re­ the 25th of the second preceeding month. lations" with Israel just a day later. Of course, conditions in­ Material received after that deadline will be printed in the following month. cluded return to the 1967 borders, a Palestinian state with East contilllled all page 3

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From lously survived. All of us took great pride in our The Desk of adult choir who beautifully sang songs of remem­ brance, two of which, "Birdsong" and "Before Too Cantor Long", are texts written during the war by prisoners Janice M. Gordon of Thereisenstadt Concentration Camp. Yom Ha'atzma'ut and Yom Yerushalayim provide unique opportunities for those of us who love Israel During this season rich and Israeli music. While much of the music being , in holidays both sad and played on the radio today in Israel is similar to happy, I find myself sing­ American pop music, there are many Israeli classics ing and listening to music that speak musically and textually to the specific that is not normally heard Israeli experience. I realize that it may be a daunting throughout the rest of the experience to select an Israeli CD without having a year. I speak specifically full knowledge of what may be inside the shrink of both the days set aside wrapped jewel case. Therefore, I would like to make to remember tragic moments in Jewish history, Yom a few recommendations of Israeli CDs which I think HaShoah and Yom HaZikaron as well as Yom many of you would enjoy. Recently, I circulated an Ha'atzma'ut, the joyous day celebrating the inde­ email containing Israeli web sites due to my concern pendence of the State of Israel in 1948, and Yom for Israel's loss of income from tourism and related Yerushalayim commemorating the re-unification of industries. One of those websites is www.israel­ Jerusalem in 1967. music.com. Please check it out and be sure to look Yom HaZikaron is set aside to remember all peo­ for the following CDs: ple who fought and died for the cause of Israel. Arik Einstein-Good Old Eretz Yisrael During Yom HaShoah, we remember the six million Chava Alberstein-Songs of my Beloved Country Jews who died at the hands of Nazis during World Nurit Hirsch-The Collection War II. If you had the opportunity to be with us at The Gevatron-SO Years of Singing Temple Beth Ahm as we observed this day of Naomi Shemer-Sings Her Own Works mourning together, you already know that our joint These CDs in particular contain classic Israeli service with our neighbors was a moving commem­ songs with which you may be familiar. They do not oration of the victims of Nazi Germany as well as an include the songs that are played on popular music uplifting tribute to the spirit of those who miracu- radio stations but rather, are songs of the pioneer days of Israel which reflect the rich history and

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Jerusalem as its capital, and right of return of the Palestinians. wards Israel to be flushed from the Arab and Palestinian psyches. Ironically, a lesser known provision was the removal of And that's if the invective were to cease immediately! On the Palestinians from Lebanon. Israel cannot accept many of the stip­ Israeli side, there has to be a full acceptance of a future Palestinian ulations, but it's a start. Or, is it? Unfortunately, the suicide state, but with borders defined to insure a secure Israel. The bombings continued unabated, and Israel invaded Ramallah and Israeli settlements on the West Bank will be a sticky negotiating Beth lehem. When will the bloodshed end? How can we get to point, but if there is a true desire for peace on all sides, this issue peace? can be worked out. I wish I were wise enough to have definitive answers to those So, today, as I write this, and peace seems unattainable, it's im­ questions. But, I believe that, in addition to an immediate stop in portant that we constantly keep the vision of an eventual peace in the suicide bombings, the first pre-condition for peace is for all our minds. "They shall beat their swords into plowshares, and the Arab states and the Palestinians to stop the steady stream of their spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword invective towards Israel. The constant teaching of hatred towards against nation, nor ever again shall they train for war." lsrael beginning in elementary schools and the glorification of Hopefully, that vision will become reality in our lifetime. In this martyrdom are root causes of much of the unrest. I was sickened time of tragedy, however, we need to support Israel as it defends to watch a videotape of a Palestinian mother wishing her son suc­ itself against a recurrence of the horrible bloodshed of Passover cess, as he was about to embark on a suicide mission to Israel. week. Jews value life, not glory in death! Unfortunately, at best, it may take one or two generations or more (if ever) for the hatred to-

3 SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen Learn About Shavuot

The name "Shavuot" means weeks; this name is de­ the Torah, we want to be prepared in order to be rived from the fact that Shavuot takes place after the worthy of such an extraordinary event. By foregoing seven week period of the Counting of the Orner. (The sleep for the sake of trying to perfect both our souls Orner is the period between Passover and Shavuot; it and our intellect in expectation of the giving of the says in the Torah that one should count, day by day, Torah, we reenact, and, indeed, attempt to improve this time period. At the end of the period, on Shavuot, upon the state in which our ancestors were in prior to the first fruits were brought to the Temple) Later, the receiving the Torah at Sinai. Rabbis also referred to Shavuot as Zman Matan Reading of the Book of Ruth: On the morning of Toratenu, the time of the giving of the Torah to Israel. Shavuot, we read the Book of Ruth, one of the "five The reason for this is that, according to the Rabbis' cal­ scrolls." The book is the story of Ruth, a Moabite who culation, it was on the sixth of Sivan (Shavuot) when chose to convert to Judaism, and was the great­ Israel received the Torah at Mount Sinai. grandmother of King David. There are many reasons Customs of Shavuot for this custom. One has to do with the main charac­ Decorating homes and synagogues with flowers, ter of the book, Ruth. Ruth was a convert, meaning shrubbery, and foliage (based on the idea of Shavuot she took upon herself the yoke of Jewish law. So too celebrating the first fruits). The Vi Ina Caon, a very on Shavuot, as we celebrate the giving of the Law, we important Lithuanian sage, banned this custom, for take upon ourselves anew the yoke of the Torah. he thought it was of pagan origin. Most communities, The eating of dairy foods: It is an almost universal however, follow this practice. The reasons for this custom to eat dairy foods on this festival, unlike oth­ tradition are varied. They all originate in the idea of er holidays when we traditionally partake of meat or Shavuot as an agricultural festival. At this time of poultry. Again, there are many different reasons giv­ first fruits, we desire to reconnect with the land, and en for this practice. One reason is that, since we have, to give thanks to Cod for the goods that the land in a sense, not yet received the Torah, we do not yet gives to us. In many cultures, harvest festivals have have the laws and regulations for kosher slaughter­ traditionally been the opportunity to stand back from ing. This being the case, we refrain from meat. one's work and reflect on human beings' dependence Another reason is that there is something "impure" on the land and environment. about eating meat--we must kill an animal, drain the Tikkun l'el Shavuot, literally, the fixing, or im­ blood, etc. On Shavuot, as we stress the idea of puri­ provement, of the night of Shavuot. This tradition ty, we avoid eating meat and instead eat milk. consists of staying up the whole of the night of Shavuot and studying Jewish texts. Traditionally, this study includes Torah, Talmud, and Kabbalah, al­ though any serious, intense study of Jewish texts is appropriate. The reason for this tradition is connect­ Rosh Chodesh Women's Group ed to the idea of Shavuot as the season of our receiv­ Study women and their issues from biblical to modern ing of the Torah. The tikkun, like the Passover Seder viewpoints. or the booths in which we live during Sukkot, is an­ Stimulating discussions - Refreshments (of course!) other example of judaism's desire to relive, as op­ Monday, May 13th and Wednesday, June 12 at 8 pm posed to simply commemorating events. Since the event we are "reliving" on Shavuot is the giving of

Learn with us ... Join us for our small and intimate Torah Study with Rabbi Malinger Bible Study Service of Peace, Comfort Saturday mornings at 9: 15 am (classes end June 29) Tuesday mornings at lOam and Healing (classes end June 18) May 21, June IB, July 16 and August 20, Bpm Classes res;ume in M'ul. September

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~.roth,rhoDd MITZVAH DAY is May 5th "';11 TEMPLE SHALOM This will be Temple Shalom's 5th Mitzvah Day - a day dedicated to reaching out to those in need in our com­ The 2nd Annual Greatest Bible munity. It is an opportunity to do tikkun olam, repair­ Stories- ing the world. It's a wonderful chance for us to do Almost Maccabiah Games Mitzvot, to join hands in hesed, loving kindness and give of our hearts - we truly make a difference. Mitzvah Day sign-in and cap and T-shirt distribution On Your Mark, are from 9:00 AM until 9:30 AM. A bagel buffet break­ Get Ready, fast will be available in the social hall at this time. At Go! 9:30 AM we will have a brief service in the sanctuary. By The games begin at 1 0:30am, 10:00 AM all participants will proceed to off-site activi­ Sunday May 19, 2002 ties in car pools. Lunch for volunteers will be served by Brotherhood and prepared by the Kitchen volunteers be­ ginning at 11:30 AM. Afternoon registration and lunch Cheer your children as they compete with skill, will continue until 1:30 PM. strength and chutzpa in these great biblical events: We will be collecting coins to be donated to Mazon: The Garden of Eden The Jewish Response to Hunger, Night lights, linens and Noah and the Great Flood batteries for the Ronald Mc Donald House, eyeglasses, Abraham and the Sacrifice of Isaac soaps, shampoos, combs, health and grooming aids, and Joseph and his Brothers pet supplies, towels and blankets for the Monmouth County SPCA. Moses Crossing the Red Sea We will actively be taking part in a trip to Great Moses and the Golden Calf Adventure with residents of an ARC group home, plant­ David and Goliath ing flowers, cleaning grounds at the SPCA, Cliffwood Jonah and the Great Fish Beach, Manna House and Temple Shalom's gardens. We Joshua and the Promised Land will visit and entertain residents at Madison and Bayshore Nursing Homes. We will make sandwiches for soup kitchens and bake cookies for the nursing home Brothers, sisters and even little kids are welcome residents. We will collect groceries at the Old Bridge and "Box lunch" will be available for $1. You will have a choice Holmdel A & P's for the Emanuel Cancer Fund and of Hamburger or hot dog, chips, Juice box and dessert. create art projects and gift baskets to send to the nursing homes and Ronald Mc Donald house. Join with us and experience how good a Mitzvah can feel. For further information contact Margo Wolfson at Great Opportunity Available 732-303-1754.

Work in the comfort of your home. No meetings to attend Congregational Meeting and Ice Cream Social Requires a few hours of your time 5 times a year. Sunday, June 9, 2002 6:30 PM Grammatical and spelling skills a plus. After serving as Editor of the Shalom for the past three This year, all eligible voting members, who attend our years, as well as for three years eons ago, it time to allow Annual Congregational Meeting will be treated to an ice someone else the opportunity to serve our congregation as cream social. The first 50 members who register that Editor. evening will also receive a FREE raffle ticket for our cov­ Our wonderful Art Director Alan Leckner will continue eted "High Holidays Parking Spot" raffle. to do the 'hard' part of graphically preparing the Shalom for the printer. If you think you might be interested, contact me at 732- 583-2050 or via email [email protected]. I will be Scholar in Residence May 4 • 9:30 AM - 6:00 PM happy to give you the details and to help you as you start out in this most worthwhile endeavor. Rabbi Leonard Kravitz, distinguished Professor at Joan Marotta Hebrew Union College, author, lecturer, accomplished scholar will lead us in a one day Shabbaton entitled "Enough Already - What's Wrong with Spirituality?" Please submit all Shalom articles directly to the editor, Advance registration is required. Contact the Temple via email: office for further information. [email protected] or fax: 732-583-2051.

5 SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen Tales of Talmud Torah Elisa P.Bergenfeld, RJE Director of Education

hen I was 16 years old, I was assembly in our religious school ten but they did not go to Israel W awarded a scholarship from to discuss the current situation in until I was 21 years old. Could it Temple Shalom to spend 6 Israel. It was important for me to be the fact that I am a child of a weeks in Israel with NFTY (North know what the students were feel­ Holocaust survivor? Yes, that American Federation of Temple ing and give them the opportunity could have been part of it but not Youth). Both of my brothers had to process their feelings and ask the only reason. So I have to as­ been to Israel previously with questions. When given the oppor­ sume that it came from my Jewish NFTY and hearing their stories tunity to ask questions, some chil­ education and experiences at re­ left me waiting with anxious an­ dren raised their hands, while oth­ ligious school. ticipation until the day that it ers seemed completely unaffected Unfortunately, this lack of con­ would be my turn to go. After at­ by the entire conversation. At this nection with Israel is a phenome­ tending religious school for al­ point, I did not know whether I non of most Reform congregations most 11 years, I was filled with the should be relieved that the chil­ today. In fact, two years ago, I at­ desire to travel to this magical dren were happy, living their in­ tended a conference in Israel with place and walk in the footsteps of nocent lives, disconnected and un­ the National Association of my Biblical ancestors. I had been aware of impact that the events in Temple Educators (NATE), dur­ studying Modern Hebrew with Israel could or should be having ing which this topic became the Mrs. Coleman in 8th and 9th on them, or if I should be con­ theme. We spent many days grap­ grade and I couldn't wait to test cerned. Then Rabbi Malinger pling with the issues and finally out some of my new vocabulary asked the essential question "Why came up some guidelines for our words. My dream had finally be­ should we as Jews living in the congregations to help rectify the come a reality. United States care about what is situation. In this document it I went to Israel that summer happening in Israel?" I thought states" The National Association and fell in love with the history this question would inspire many of Temple Educators seeks to en­ and the beauty of the country. I responses but once again, I was courage our congregations, day was lucky to be able to return the surprised to see very few hands schools and camps, and our rabbis following summer and that was raised. After a few children shared and educators, to forge an inextri­ when I fell in love with the spirit of some interesting responses, final­ cable connection to Israel - the the Israeli people. Since that sum­ ly, one child said, "because Israel state, the land and the people. At mer, I have returned to Israel al­ is our homeland". It seemed like this moment in our history, we most every summer and lived there such an easy question to me and recognize the inherent danger of for two years on separate occasions. yet it took so long to get to the an­ the growing distance between the As you can imagine, my heart is swer. Then we continued the dis­ Diaspora and Israel Jewish com­ aching because of the current cussion about how lucky we are to munities and the compelling need events in Israel. I watch the news have Israel as Our homeland. to draw these two communities everyday as I hear about another I went back to my office that af- . closer to one another. In order to suicide bombing and reminisce ternoon feeling troubled. I won­ create a feeling of Ahavat Yisrael about a time when I was walking dered why these children were (love for Israel), a mutually en­ over there or having coffee with not feeling the same kind of con­ riching relationship between our some friends at that restaurant. nection and love for Israel that I communities and the Jewish com­ Although I've spent more than did when I was a student. I sat munities in Israel, we must focus half of my life living in Aberdeen, down and tried to figure out from on conveying the realities of Israel New Jersey, I am more familiar with where my Zionist feelings stemmed. without losing the power of its the'streets in Jerusalem than here. Yes, my parents cared deeply for founding myths. This may be ac- During this week, we held an Israel and talked about Israel of- colltil'lueli 0 1'1 page 14

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BROTHERHOOD SISTERHOOD RITUAL Scott Goldstein, President Deborah A. Worthington. President Karen Winograd, Chairperson

March was a very busy month for I would like to take a moment to talk If you have been attending Shabbat eve­ Brotherhood with the Shabbat dinner, about Passover. I know that it is long past ning services lately, you may have been Brotherhood Service, new Temple door and I hope everyone had a wonderful ex­ noticing some changes. Perhaps you have dedication, Art Auction, Matzoh Brei perience. For me, Passover was particular­ heard a different melody to a part of the Breakf(lst and SC(lvenger Hunt. The fact ly special. [attended the annual Feminist liturgy or just a different way of proceed­ th(lt this all happened in a little over a Seder at Temple Shalom. This event is ing from one part of the service to an­ week is

Mixed Blessings Sisterhood Congratulates Challenges and Opportunities for Parents of Temple Shalom's Class of 2002 Interfaith Couples Confirmation Class and Hebrew High School Graduates Please join us on Sunday, May 19, 2002, at 7:00 pm when Vicky Farhi, UAHC Regional Outreach Director, will be Join us in congratulating our Hebrew High School lead us in a program entitled "Mixed Blessings - Graduates and the Confirmation Class by sending your Challenges and Opportunities for Parents of Interfaith best wishes and supporting the YES fund. Each student Couples". will receive a certificate that acknowledges their well She will help us discuss common concerns, approaches wishers. Proceeds are donated to the YES fund; Youth, to communication and grandparenting in an interfaith Education and Special Projects. Annual contributions are family. the means through which Women of Reform Judaism pro­ This event is free and open to members of the communi­ vides: scholarship assistance for rabbinic students at the ty. Invite your friends and neighbors to join us. This pro­ Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion, sup­ gram is sponsored by the Outreach Committee. For fur­ ports activities for high school age youth through the ther information, call Anne Fink at 732-946-3656. North American Federation of Temple Youth (NFTY) and college age students and contributes to special projects of religious education, social and humanitarian concern. The cost is one dollar per honoree. Just highlight or check Jewish Book Club the students you wish to honor and mail this form with your check payable to Temple Shalom Sisterhood to: Paula Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 7:30 p.m. Morgan at 4 Morris Drive, Old Bridge NJ 08857 by May 10.

The final Jewish Book Club discussion of this Temple year Confirmation Class Graduates will take place on Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 7:30 p.m. Lindsey AImerini Peter Asch Andrew Sackerman will lead the discussion of "The Michael Barugel Debra Eichenbaum ltu10cents Within," by Robert Daley. This book of fiction Jordan Berman Danielle Kanofsky takes place during World War II and teaches us a bit about Ryan Gregg Aaron Lear the lmdergrOlmd movements that were active in France dur­ Melissa Kahn Stephen Portilla ing the War. Please join us for an interesting discussion. Allyson Kanofsky Jared Rubinstein Benjamin Liss Jeffrey Simon Benjamin May Perri Sternbach VOLUNTEER APPRECIATION SHABBAT Samantha Mushnick Sydney Wagman FRIDAY, MAY 31, 2002 Ilyse Rosenblatt Allison Weiner Matthew Sperber Jessica Titus For the second year, Temple Shalom will dedicate a Jocelyn Titus Shabbat service in recognition of all those individuals who Laura Weitsen work for the benefit of Temple Shalom and for the commu­ Michael Young nity at large. In appreciation of the energy, talent and ded­ ication of the many in.dividuals who volunteer their time for the various committees and projects, Temple Shalom will honor all of its volunteers on Friday evening, May 31, The 2nd Annual Greatest Bible 2002, at 8:15 pm, during Shabbat services. Stories- Almost Maccabiah Games In addition, we would like to ask you, our congregants, to nominate someone you think is deserving of a On Your Mark, "Volunteer of the Year" award. Many of you know of Get Ready, someone, a 'veteran' or a relative newcomer, who works Go! tirelessly, going above and beyond, always willing to help. The games begin at 1 0:30am, Please write a brief letter of nomination for that special Sunday May 19, 2002 voltmteer and send it to the temple office by May 17. You can send an email [email protected]. If you have any questions, call Karen Winograd at 732-290-0698. As Albert Schweitzer said, "I do not know what your Babysitting will be available on Friday evenings (except for destiny will be, but one thing I know: The only ones the first Friday night of the month) in the Youth Lounge. among you who will be really happy are those who have Sitters will be there at 8:00 pm; however, if no children are sought and found how to serve." brought to babysitting by 8:45 pm, the sitters will inform an usher and will leave at that time.

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"Traditions for Transition· Jewish Tern Ie Bl)ard. And CommIttee Re Ways in Death and Mourning".

BOARD OF EDUCATION ADULT JEWISH GROWTH A seminar covering a comprehensive Sheila Rubin, Chairperson Barbara Kluger. Chairperson view of death and mourning practic­ es, according to Jewish tradition will "No one is ever lonely when doing a mitz­ With Spring in full swing we still have be held on May 5 at Temple Beth vah, for a mitzvah is where God and hu­ lots of activities that are presented by the Miriam, Elberon, NJ mans meet." Abraham Joshua Heschel. Adult Jewish Growth Committee to look from 9am - 12:30 pm. There will be an We encourage our students to contrib­ forward to at Temple Shalom. ute some of their own money, allowance, The four courses offered by the optional Service at 8:30 am. to the Keren Ami/Tzedakah fund each Monmouth County Kollel this Spring, The workshops, which will be led week. Keren Ami means, "fund of my two of which were offered for the first by Rabbis from our region, as well as people", and Tzedakah means "righteous­ time on Sunday afternoons at Temple hospice professionals and funeral di­ ness." We hope that our students will be­ Shalom, are wrapping up. I hope that rectors, are: gin to understand the importance of their many of you signed up for this opportuni­ • Death, Mourning and Outreach role in helping others both within the ty to attend quality adult Jewish educa- Issues in a Congregation and a Home Jewish community and in the secular . tional courses so close to home. • Making Sacred Decisions, community as well. Our 2002 Scholar-In-Residence pro­ Advanced Directives, Living Wills, Tzedakah along with gemilut chasa­ gram, featuring Lenny Kravitz, will take Hospice, dim, acts of loving-kindness are values place on Saturday, May 4, 2002 from 9:30 that we cherish and want to pass on to a.m. - 6 p.m. I hope you will enjoy the • Shiva, Mourning and Caring our children. The younger children keep new format of a one day Shabbaton. Our Congregational Communities their class contributions in a clear contain­ distinguished scholar is an interesting fel­ • How to Plan a Funeral er so that they can watch their tzedakah low. I look forward to seeing you there. Each person will have an opportuni­ money grew each week. This concrete, Mitzvah Day 2002 takes place the very ty to choose two of these workshops. visual reminder of their good deed helps next day, Sunday, May 5th. Pick one of The fee is $12 per person and will in­ them to understand how they together your favorite activities such as cooking, clude a light breakfast. This program, can help others. gardening, singing or working at an ani­ which is sponsored by the Regional All of th e child ren vote from a list of mal shelter and come join your friends at Outreach and Caring Community suggested charities and organizations and Temple to do some good works to help Committees of the UAHC New Jersey­ th e monies tha t have been collected are di­ others. I think you'll agree at the end of vided among their selections. Some of the your activity that doing something for West Hudson Valley Council is open gifted organizations are; Manna House, others in need really makes you feel better to the community. Habitat for Humanity, National Institute about yourself and the world. For details, for Jewish Hospice, Jewish Family and please refer to the Mitzvah Day brochure Children's Service, Jewish Braille Institute contained in last month's Mitt'n Drinen SISTERHOOD, CONTINUED from page II of America, S.P.CA., Mazon: A Jewish (copies are on the rack in the lobby). I joined Sisterhood because it seemed Response to Hunger, Simon Wiesen thaI Mitzvah Day T-shirts and hats will be like the right thing to do. I have been an Center, God's Love We Deliver, and available for sale. Lunch will be served active member of Sisterhood because I Rainforest Action Network. for volunteers. Together we can make a think it makes a difference. Every child in Close to $3,000 was collected and divid­ difference. the Nursery School who eats Challah sup­ ed among these organizations. You and The final Jewish Book Club presenta­ plied by Sisterhood or bakes Hamentaschen your ch ildren ca n feel the pride of mitz­ tion of the year will take place on with Sisterhood, takes away an explana­ vot. Mazel Tov. Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 7:30 p .m. tion of the holiday and the importance of Andrew Sackerman will lead the discus­ that holiday. When Sisterhood allocates sion of "The Innocents Within" by Robert funds for scholarships and for assistance BROTH ERHOOD, CONTINUED from page 8 Daley, a book of fiction, set during WWII. to the Religious School, we make a state­ improved Brotherhood's image through It explores the underground movements ment that we believe it is important to be advertisements, and provided the dedica­ in France during the War. Please join us a committed and active Jew. When tion, resources and support to generate for a fun discussion. Sisterhood sponsors programs that allow the funds for Brotherhood's philanthropy. Our Committee is planning its activities women to learn, we make a statement that To the incoming Executive board, I for next year. If you would like to have we believe women - Jewish women - are challenge you to continue improving our some input into our programming please important. programs, seek out the new, try exciting bring your energy and ideas to a 1 urge each of you to become a member ideas, add to our coffers and exceed our Committee meeting. The meetings are of Sisterhood. We are waiting to welcome present level of philanthropy. held at 7:30 p.m. on the second Thursday you. Come and join us in our commit­ One last reminder "Your membership of the month. I look forward to seeing ment to the betterment of Temple Shalom. helps us grow but your participation you there. Remember, without you we are one wom­ builds Brotherhood". an short. MITZVAH DAY Invite your friends and neighbors to join Sunday, May 5 you at Services and programs which are 9 am to •...•.. open to the community. Let them see our warm and caring congregation first-hand. Help us to grow.

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Nursery School News teachers communicate often. At Temple Shalom Laney Shapiro, Director Nursery School, parents are encouraged to speak with the faculty whenever they wish. I am thankful that the Most people mark the passage of time by tearing pag­ parents are so involved and take advantage of the facul­ es off their calendars or by adding another candle to the ty's accessibility. Together, we discuss and address any birthday cake. I am not clued in to the swift passage of a issues that come up. We share an invaluable partner­ year by such traditional methods; instead, I look to the ship. I hope you enjoy the following poem, which re­ second drawer of the file cabinet in my office. The first flects this sentiment: set of folders in that drawer contains September's cuiTic­ Two SCUlptors ulum and is followed by folders for the subsequent I dreamed I stood in a studio months. It is jammed packed and I open it at least half a and watched two sculptors there, dozen times a day. At the beginning of the school year, I The clay they used was a young child's mind only need to open the drawer a few inches to get the and they fashioned it with care. files I need. I laugh in disbelief that another year has One was a teacher; started. But now I need to drag the drawer out as far as The tools used were love, books and art. it can go (practically pushing me into the opposite wall - One, a parent who worked with a guiding hand which I'm sure you can imagine if you've ever been in and a gentle, loving heart. my office). This is how I know that another year has al­ Day after day the teacher toiled most passed. This time I shake my head in disbelief With touch that was deft and sure thinking to myself, ''Where did the year go? I can't be­ While the parent labored by her side lieve we are preparing for graduation and that I have set And polished and smoothed it o'er, the summer camp curriculum already." And when at last their task was done, This can be quite depressing until the children file They were proud of what they had wrought; past my office door, reminding me of the positive out­ For the things they had molded into the child comes of time's passage. As they peek their heads in and Could neither be sold or brought. wave to me, I think about how much they have grown And each agreed he would have failed cognitively and emotionally since the beginning of the If he had worked alone, school year. This is the result of the combined efforts For behind the teacher stood the school, and commitment of our faculty and the children's par­ And behind the parent, the home. ents. I am proud that we have created an atmosphere in which we all work together. When my children attend­ -Anonymous, adapted ed pre-school, there was no interaction between the fa­ culty and the parents. I was given the opportunity to On behalf of our faculty and nursery school commit­ speak to the teachers only once a year at conferences. tee, we wish you a safe, happy, and restful summer. However, education works best"when parents and

CUPPY BOOKS NOW ON SALE Register for Summer and September Nursery School The 2002 Clippy Book contains valuable coupons for local area businesses including: Shoprite, Staples, McDonalds, Dominos, etc. Clippy sells for JAR (Jews, Addiction and Recovery) $15.00, with coupons worth at least 50X that value. Support your Temple by buying a book today. Books are JAR is a Jewish Family and Children's Service (JF&CS) tast< available at the Temple office. force dedicated to educating Jews to the problem of addic­ tion and to supporting Jews and their loved ones who are ~-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'-'~ in recovery or in need of recovery. JAR hopes to achieve a ~ DO YOU KNOW ANY UNAFFILIATED JEWS? ~ community which is aware that being Jewish provides no ~ Tell them about Temple Shalom and its myriad of activities. I immunity from addiction and where any Jew in ~ And bring them to services with you. Who knows - ~ Monmouth County, who suffers from addiction, and their ~ they mi ght decide to join our congregation. I family members, will recognize that help and support is ~ New m embers are welcome. ~ available within a caring and compassionate Jewish com­ 'i'~"~~~~~~~~~~~~"~'~'~'~~~~'~~~~ munity.

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What can I do, now, to help the people of Israel?"

T hat is the question is on everyone's lips as we medical system, and Magen David Adorn and other watch the unfolding of events in the land of Israel. emergency response agencies are in dire need of so­ The continuing violence touches all of us, and, we phisticated equipment supplies and additional am­ feel an urgent need to find ways to r'espond, to reach bulances. out to our Israeli family, to help in this time of need. • Support for children and the elderly: We know Over the past few days we have been consulting with that children and the elderly are particularly vulnera­ the leaders of Israel's social service, medical, and re­ ble during this crisis and are in need of psychological lief agencies as well as the leadership of the Israeli counseling, assistance in getting food and other ne­ Reform Movement. We heard about the critical need cessities, and other social services. to help the families of those personally affected by the violence as well as the wider circle of Israelis As was the case in the September 11 Disaster Relief whose lives have been disrupted. We are therefore Fund, we will give a detailed report as to how the establishing the UAHC Israel Relief Fund to raise funds donated to the UAHC Israel Relief Fund are funds for the following purposes: distributed. • Relief for the victims and their families: Credit card donations may be made online at http:// Tragically, the number of people directly affected by uahc.orglisraelrelief or may be mailed to the suicide bombers and other terrorist attacks con­ UAH C Israel Relief Fund tinues to increase. We have identified a number of Attn: Development Department Israeli organizations that are providing assistance to 633 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10017 these families to which we will channel contribu­ Please note clearly that donations are for the Israel tions. Relief Fund. We pray that these days of violence soon • Emergency medical equipment and supplies: The give way to peace and relief for all who suffer. violence has put an enormous burden on Israel's

Holders Of Matured The Middletown Lions would like to thank Temple Shalom and Mrs. Sally Stat for their support and contribu­ State Of Israel Bonds tions to the Lion's Eye's Sight Program. As Israel struggles to maintain her strength and se­ curity, and continues to absorb immigrants, it is criti­ All donated eyeglasses will be repaired and distributed. cal that Israel receives our help. If you are holding The lenses will be graded and polished by computer for disbursement. Your participation in this valuable out­ bonds purchased in 1981 or during the first two reach program enables many more people to see correctly months of 1982, you may be able to reinvest those through the gift of eyeglasses. bonds. You will not need to contribute any extra money to reinvest. Please know that you have made a difference in sight By reinvesting your matured Israel bonds, you are impaired people's lives. giving the state of Israel use of much needed funds. By reinvesting your matured Israel bonds, you are maintaining the link to Israel while receiving com­ Temple Shalom Nursery School petitive returns on your investment. presents an For information on the reinvestment of matured Israel bonds, call the Israel Bond Office at 1-800-752- Art Show 5652. May 20 10:45 - 11:30 am featuring original art by our third graders and pre/k classes

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Temple Shalom Nursery School

INDOOR AND OUTDOOR PLAY CENTERS Visitors Welcome • Open to the Community Registration for Summer and September 2002' Mother & Father Special Art Participation Days & Music Programs Adult & Children's MOMMY & ME 211 's, 3's, 4's/Pre-K Free Lending 2 Computer 14 months - 30 months Kindergarten Enrichment Program Library BABY SITTING AVAILABLE FOR SIBLINGS Extended Day Available Holiday Field Trips Celebrations & Guest EXPERTS IN EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION Speakers • Learning Through Play • Warm & Caring Staff • State Certified Teachers • Beautiful Facilities • Flexible Programs • State Licenced • All faculty certified in Child C.P.R.

Rabbi Laurence Malinger Cantor Janice Gordon Laney Shapiro, Director

Temple Shalom Nursery School 5 Ayrmont Lane, Aberdeen, NJ 732.566-2621

Tot Shabbat Service begin at 7:00 PM

May 17th Jlme 14th

We happily accept donations of art supplies. If you are interested in sponsoring a Tot Shabbat Oneg, or if you would like more information on either program, please contact Monica Olschwang at 224-0686.

Chi ldren at our Nursery School playing with chicks they hatched.

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Introduction to Judaism Jewish Cultural Series A 16 - session course designed to give participants a basic understanding of Celebrating The Jewish Creative Spirit Jewish belief and practice will be of­ fered in the locations listed below. Beged Kefed, the renowned singing group, will offer an after­ The class is open to all: individuals who are considering conversion to noon of joyous rhythms and dynamic harmonies on Sunday, May Judaism, interfaith couples, Jews by 5th at 3:00 pm at Congregation B'nai Israel in Rumson. birth, and non-Jews who wish to ob­ tain a basic adult-level knowledge of This is the last program of the season, in what has proven to be a Judaism. The course will approach Jewish very diversified series that has been sponsored by Temple Beth tradition - faith, people, way of life - Miriam, Monmouth Reform Temple, Temple Shalom, Temple through a study of the holiday and Rodeph Torah, Temple Beth El, Temple Shaari Emeth, life cycles of Judaism. A basic read­ Congregation B'nai Israel, and supported in part through a grant ing know ledge of Hebrew will also be included. from the Jewish Federation of Greater Monmouth County. Classes will meet two times a week Tickets may be purchased at the door for $5.00. for 8 weeks from 7:45 PM to 9:45 PM. A single registration fee of $275, or $225 for UAHC congregation mem­ SUPPORT GROUPS bers, includes tuition and one set of for information call: books and materials for an individual or a couple. . Mike Hoffman, 566-2142 ...... Families of Alzheimer's Patients Summer 2002 Edison May 21-July 16 Sheila Rubin, 671-2004 ...... Parents Dealing with the lntefaith Tuesday & Thursday Dating & Marriage of their Teaneck May 21-July 16 Children ...... Living With Chronic IIInes Tuesday & Thursday Sharon & Dan Steinhorn, 946-2226 ...... Families of Gays and Lesbians This program is sponsored by the Outreach Program of the New Jersey­ West Hudson Valley Council of the UAHC. To enroil, or for further infor­ An Invitation to All Seniors mation contact Vicky Farhi at: 201- 722-9090 X2ID. WELCOME! As you read this Ad today think how much we would appre­ ciate you coming to our Senior'Club meeting. In tum, please remember your special gift of being a senior, bring along with your friends and neigh­ Interesting Jewish Web bors, and join us on the 2nd and 4th Monday afternoons from 11 am to 3 pm. Sites Temple Shalom has formed this nonsectarian SENIOR SOCIAL GROUP where • Union of American Hebrew we enjoy bagels and cream cheese, coffee, tea, and cake. We also have card Congregations - www.uahc.org games, board games, Mah Jong, and a lot of sociability with our peers. • The Jewish Parent Page - www.uahc.org/educate/parent Join us at our next meeting and see what it's all about. Try it, you'll like it. • Reform Judaism - www.rj.com Transportation is available • Interfaith Families - www.interfaithfamily.com Yearly dues are $5 and refreshments are $1. For further information, call • Jewish Alcoholics, Chemically Manny Strauss 732-566-6620 Dependent Persons and Significant Others - www.jacsweb.org • The Adult Centre for Liberal Jewish "Make the study of Torah the foundation of your life and let the rest be sec­ Learning - www.Kolel.org ondary." Maimonides • Jewish Music - www.ahavat­ israel. com / music "All my life I was raised among the Sages and I have found nothing better • Jewish Healing and Spirituality­ www.jewishhealing.com than silence; it is not the study (of Torah) but its practice that is the essence, and whoever talks excessively causes sin." Simon the son of Rabban Gamaliel

14 May/Jun 2002 • • CASINO NIGHT

Temple Shalom - Aberdeen, NJ Saturday, June 1, 2002 8pm-llpm (doors open at 7:30pm)

T S E H M A $25.00 per person L P Receive $75.00 in Chips L with Advance Reservations o E (advance reservations by MfS'( 10, 2002) M Roqleffe - f,lack Jack Cra~s - 6ih90 Tradmohal CaSthO RqlBS A~~jy NO CASH REDEMPTION Grscrl PrlZBS by .. Ch <.thCe Aqcitolt Adults Oh'~ P16~B

Snacks; Beveragt/14 Des$t!!l"f Sponsor a gaming fable for $100 • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • C8sihO tJi~t - IN 1, 2002 (advance reservations by May 10~ 2002) Mail tni~ ~t~ 1IIrt71 ljOlI ehec/;. ~a:flbl& to: 1ebl~le Shalom, 5 A!/ IOOhtLahe, Abet' 4e&h, I/J 07747 Nab~; Ncwbet of ncJ;ets; (lit $ 25.00 ea.r- $ ___ For nCt.at~ PtfCI)a~ed in Advahce: YOq, 1fcf;.et~ Illill be held ih ljOqr hallie at1he dod IIIm::JOII $ 75 in Chi~~ D Cheek this box to S ~OhS'd a GablihS Table for $ 100.00 CItId ;nClqde hoW H"q WCIt. t ~oqr S'~Ohsol'shi~ to a~~ear: ______• • 15 SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen

May 2002 / 19 Iyar - 20 Sivan 5762

SUN MON TUE WED THU FRI SHABBAT

1 2 3 :'4r~6'~ 4 Spm Sisterhood Spm Spm 9:30am-6pm Meeting Brotherhood Scholar-in- Board; Outreach Faculty II Residence Appreciation Shabbaton Shabbat

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5 6 7 8 9 10 :'6~6'~ 11 Mitzvah Day Spm Choir 10am Sisterhood Spm Rosh Spm Adult S:15pm ... Rehearsal Class Chodesh Jewish Growth Shabbat 10:30am Shabbat 7pmToSTY Evening II Morning Service Board Service at Temple 7:30pm P.A.C. Beth Ahm Meeting

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12 13 14 15 16 17 :'6~6~ 18 Mother's Day - 11am Shalom 10am Sisterhood Spm 7:3ORm " " '" No Religious Seniors Class Renaissance Con irmation Sh",U~~ 10 :30am School Spm Choir Spm Board of Group; Service S:15pm Shabbat Rehearsal Trustees Membership Morning Service; ShabbaEvening '" B'nai Mitzvah Service - Hebrew Jamie Lipman & High School Amanda ~Graduation h ~Benhamou \;:;, A ~ A ~ A~ / «l ~ A ;Oil '10:. A

19 20 21 22 23 24 :'6'~6! 25 , 9:30am Last Day Spm Choir 10am Sisterhood 7:30pm 7:45pm Board of S:15pm .. Sunday School Rehearsal Class Administration Ed Shabbat 10:30am Maccabiah Spm Service of SpmWays & Spm Facilities Evening II Shabbat Games Peace, Comfort & Means Service Morning Service; 2pm Kollel Healing B'nai Mitzvah Classes Mark Grinberg & 7pm Interfaith Cortney Panzarino Parents WOrksho~ ~ ~ A ~ A ~ ..J ~ A ~ A~ A

26 27 28 29 30 31 :'6~6'~ Memorial Day - 10am Sisterhood Spm Caring S:15pm " '9:15am Torah Temple Office Class Study Closed 7:30pm Youth II Comm.; Worship Initiative Volunteer S:30pm Ritual Appreciation Shabbat Service

.J,~ A ~ A~ ..J ~ .J~ A '" May 17 .. .. Temple Office Closed 10am Yizkor Service 7pm Tot Shabbat

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June 2002/ 21 Sivan - 30 Tammuz 5762

SUN MON TUE WED THU FRI SHABBAT

~O.30Shabbat m Service; B'nai Mitzvah Melissa Chirlin & Justin Wranco

2 3 4 5 6 7 2pm Kollel 8pm Choir 10am Sisterhood 8pm Sisterhood 6pm 8pm ~. ftt~ Classes Rehearsal Class Meeting Brotherhood Shabbat 10 : 30am~ 7:30pm PAC. Dinner Evening Shabbat Meeting 8pm Outreach Service Svce; B'not Mitzvah Diana Hartman & ~ A {:arty Freindlich A ~ A~ A~ A ~ Ali ~ .A

,'It. ',It. ~ ---_.. v·v· 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 10am 11am Shalom 10am Sisterhood 10:30am Nursery Last Day 7pmTot ... Congregational Seniors Class School Nursery School Shabbat II 10:30am Meeting & 8pm Choir 8pm Board of Graduation 8:15pm Choir Shabbat Brunch Rehearsal Trustees 8pm Rosh Appreciation Service; Bat Chodesh Shabbat Service Mitzvah Lori Reiter ~ J.iI'~ A~ A~ A ~ A ~ A~ ~

16 17 18 19 20 21 : f ~ Fathers Day 10am Sisterhood 8pm 7:15pm Nursery 8:15pm ... Class Renaissance; Comm Shabbat 1 0:30am 8pm Service of Membership 8pm Caring Evening II Shabbat Peace, Comfort & Service; Service; B'nai Healing Installation of Mitzvah Rachel Officers Hechtman & ~ndrew Dolinsky A ~ h 'll: A1~ AI ~ A~ ..J ~ AI 23 24 25 26 27 28 9am Super Board 7:30pm Youth 7:30pm Jewish 7:45pm Board of 8:15pm - Calendar Comm; Worship Book Club; Ed Shabbat ~30=~ Meeting Initiative Administration 8pm Facilities Evening Shabbat 8:30pm Ritual 8pm Ways & Service Service; Means Bat Mitzvah Sara Horowitz ~ Jjj,~ A~ A~ A ~ A A~ AI ~-." 30 June 1 .. .. 7pm Casino Night 9:15am Torah Study

17 SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen Temple Shalom Board of Trustees Stained Glass Window: A special gift to honor a Simcha or & Committee Chairpersons remember loved ones. Donation $5,000.00 Tree of Life: Honor special family occasions with an engraved leaf of the tree bearing the name of the person honored. Donation $150. Pews: Recognize a Simcha or Memorial with a plate affixed to President ...... Phil Rubin 671-2004 a pew. $300 for a double seat; $450 for a triple sea t. Executive Vice President ...... 5haron Steinhorn 946-2226 Friday Night Oneg Sponsorship: Celebrate a birthday, anni­ Vi ce President ...... M ichael Silverman 264-4123 ve.rsary, engager:'ent, marriage, Bar / Bat Mitzvah. Suggested Vi ce President ...... 5 usan Solow 446-0228 rrummum donation $50. Secretary ...... Myrna Kluger 566-7538 Memorial Plaque: The traditional way to memorialize those who have passed away. Names read from the pulpit on their Treasurer ...... Daniel Steinhorn 946-2226 yahrzeit each year. Pas t President ...... Mike Hoffman 566-2142 Tree for Israel Certificates: A gift with special significance, Fi nancial Secretary ...... Marvin Cohen 972-8590 help restoration of Israel's forests. $12.00 per tree. Brotherhood President ...... 5cott Goldstein 772-1557 Contact the Temple offi ce to make a donation to these fu nds. Sisterhood President ...... D ebbie Worthington 957-0754

Trustee ...... Ch eryl Auditor 495-6424 Trustee ...... Phil Devinsky 671-8633 'HISTORIC' ISRAELI COURT DECISION Trustee ...... _...... 5ari Hochberg 671-4840 JERUSALEM, Feb. 20- ARZAjWORLD Trustee ...... Betsy Kimmish 290-0604 Trustee ...... Eva n Ross 946-3689 UNION Trustee ...... Donn a Weiss 617-4566 The representative of North American Reform Jewry on Former Presidents ...... Rudy Bergenfeld 566-2010 Israel issues, today hailed the historic Israeli Supreme ...... Bob Brakman 264-3303 Court ruling that has ordered the State of Israel to recog­ ...... Pat Brakman 264-3303 nize as Jews all people who have undergone conversions, ...... 5idney Groffman 566-7340 including those administered by Reform and Conservative ...... N orman Katz 224-0763 rabbis ...... Larry Novick 946-7500 "This is an historic day. It marks the first time that the ...... Andy Sackerman 683-0827 government of Israel officially recognizes non-orthodox ...... Ann ette Weinstein 679-3113 conversions. Now, finally, Israeli citizens, living in Israel, who have undergone Reform conversions, will enjoy the Stand ing Commitees: same rights and standing as all other Israeli Jews," said Administration ...... Joan Marotta 566-2050 Rabbi Ammiel Hirsch, executive director of ARZA/ Ad ult Jewish Growth ...... Barbara Kluger 525-0382 WORLD UNION, North America. Board of Education ...... Sheila Rubin 671 -2004 ARZA/World Union and the Israel Religious Action Budget and Finance ...... Paul Robinson 264-2458 Center have led the fight legally and politically on this is­ Caring ...... 5am Shapanka 946-9180 sue for more than a decade. Facilities ...... Gary Enoch 957-0754 "We are delighted by this news," said Philip Meltzer, Membership ...... H oward Spitzer 536-3253 President of ARZA/ WORLD UNION, North America. N ursery School ...... Helene Langman 946-2307 " At such a difficult time in Israel, this is a paramount Publici ty ...... Bill Parness 290-0121 statement about worldwide Jewish unity. The Supreme Ritu al ...... Karen Winograd 290-0698 Court has affirmed that all of us - Reform, Conservative, Ways and Means ...... Larry Novick 946-7500 Orthodox and secular - are of the same peopie, no matter Yo uth ...... 5ue May 888-0983 how we got here," ...... Roslyn Eichenbaum 335-9133 Today's ruling will have a profound impact on hun­ dreds of thousands of Israelis. Sub Committees of Standing Committees "We do not seek - nor do we expect - the recognition of Ca tering the Orthodox establishment in Israel, but we trust and ex­ College ...... Gail Laonan 264-5889 pect that they will abide by this legal decision - the new Library ...... : ...... E llen & Myles Law of the Land. The last thing we need right now is a re­ ...... Brakman 679-6567 newed international struggle over 'Who is a Jew?'" Outreach ...... Ann Fink 946-3656 Hirsch said. Renaissance ...... Benita Satty- "This is a great day for Reform Judaism and a great day ...... Wiedmann 264-4496 for all Israel," Hirsch said . Seniors ...... Manny Strauss 566-6620 Webmaster ...... Cheryl Auditor 495-6424 May/Jun 2002

Your Temple, like most religious Youth Fund supports the Temple Youth Saul Sahner Library/Education institutions, depends on your gene­ programs. Endowment to provide financial support rosity to keep it financially healthy. for the library, including computer hard­ Myrna P. Back Fund to assist the ten needi­ ware and software, on-line services, Because even though your Temple is est Temple families every three months books and support materials; To encour­ managed on a fiscally conservative age & support research and scholarship basis, dues and fees don't fully cover Brakman/Petrera Memorial Mitzvah in all areas for Temple youth, members our expenses. Corps Fund to assist the children of and clergy. The Temple has many vehicles members of Temple Shalom in participat­ through which you can express your ing in the NFTY Urban Mitzvah Corps. Felicia Sawyer Youth Scholarship Fund generosity - in times of joy, in times to assist a child up to the age of thirteen, of sorrow, and just because you care. Esthelle Gordon Kallah Fund will give who is enrolled in the Temple Shalom scholarships to members of Temple Religious School, attend a UAHC camp. Shalom who wish to attend a UAHC Kallah for the first time. Scholar-in-Residence Fund to assist in These funds are for a variety of worthwhile securing appropriate scholars to partici­ pllrposes. TIley reqll.ire a $5.00 minimum Harvey Grappel Memorial Nursery pate in the annual Scholar-in-Residence dOJlatioll. COJltact the Temple office except School Fund to help support the Temple program at Temple Shalom. as Jloted. Shalom N ursery School. Arlene Schumer Bereavement Group Lee Gura Fund established to support an Rabbi's Discretionary Fund for use at Fund to establish a bereavement group at annual music or performing arts program Temple Shalom. Rilbbi 's discretion. for the Temple. Cantor's Discretionary Fund for use at Wallace H. Steinberg Family Education the Cilntor's discretion. Hoffman/Weinstein Family Fund to pro­ Endowment Fund to provide funds for vide Shabbat meals and/or other appro­ Family Education Programs Israeli Scholarship Fund helps priate items to bereaved families and to Confirmation Class members pay for those who are coping with serious illness. Donald Wallman Memorial Fund to UAHC-sponsored trip for a summer of provide loving care family assistance to stud y in Israel. Jennifer Pinhas Children's Caring Fund caregivers of seriously ill famiJy members to assist financially needy children in pur­ so that they may hire help to assist and/ Library Fund for new books ilnd support suit of Jewish experiences such as going or relieve them. for th e Temple Library. to Israel or helping to further their Jewish education. Mitzvah Fund, to support various areas Golden Book Fund, (min. donation is $5.) of need in Temple. maintained by Sisterhood for community Natalie Rubin Family Caring Fund helps projects, nursing home visits, gifts, etc. Music and Choir Fund for support need­ fund activities and support groups need­ Contact Paula Morgan: 679-7038 ed by Cantor ilnd Choir. ed by Temple families through the Caring Community. The Growing Fund, (min. donation is Prayer Book Fund maintains prayer $5.) established by Sisterhood to cele­ books. Book plates me inserted in bonks Alfred Sackerman Memorial Garden brate and honor occasions and accom­ in recognition of donations. $20 per book Fund supports maintenance and beautifi­ plishments of children and support Tot dOIl

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• RABBI'S DISCRETIONARY FUND RUTH QUEEN • ISRAELI SCHOLARSHIP FUND BEVERL Y AND SID GROFFMAN Yahrzeit, in memory of my grandfather, MIMl AND RUDY BERGENFELD Nita & George Beckman, in honor of your Samson Kassin Judy Roland, our prayers for a speedy new home - Mazel Tov RALPH LEVY recovery Rabbi Barry Greene & Family, in memory of In appreciation Barbara Wallerstein, a speedy & complete your dad, Lewis HARRIET AND ELY, lIZ AND FRANK, recovery ADELlNE SIEGEL GENESIA AND STEVE, SARA AND DAVID Gary Zemser, in memory of your mother, Helen Selinger, in memory of your The Family of Louis Menaker, in memory of Ruth Zemser Aunt Sildie Unga·r your dear father & grandfather Ed Miller, in memory of your father, FRANK RAMSON RONNIE AND RICHARD OPPENHEIM Jack Miller Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, The Schiff Family, may the memories of Connie Gordon, best wishes for continued Jam' Ramsnn Gregory at happier times fill your heart and speedy recovery LENI AND STUART BACHER soul. Our sincerest condolences. Charlotte Leigh, continued prayers for Tony NcCamp & Seth NeCamp, in memory of KATHLEEN ORENS your speedy recovery Jl'lTy NeCamp Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, Elisa Bergenfeld, good luck in your new home ED MILLER AND MAXINE POMERANTZ Charles Lyon Rebecca Holstein, in honor of your BOth R<1bbi L<1urence Malinger, in appreciation DIANE, JACK AND WES SZAFRAN birthday. Many more healthy ones RALPH LEVY Michael Kupperman, wishing you a full & Paul Zuckerman & Family, in loving memory In appreciation speedy recovery of our friend, Elaine HAROLD LAUTMAN Joe Silk, in memory of your wife, Libis SHARON AND DAN STEINHORN Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, GLORIA AND ROY BERNSTEIN ROIUlie & Richard Oppenheim, Mazel Tov on Louis Lautman AND FAMILY Chad's great accomplishments including his HEATHER AND PAUL LlCHTMAN Judy David & Robert Granovsky & Families, in engagement! AND FAMILY loving memory of Virginia Granovsky The Menaker Family, in memory of DOROTHY AND PHILIP WEISS • MITZVAH FUND Louis Menaker Yahrzeit, in memory of Estelle Miller JOAN AND JOHN MAROTTA THE MENAKER FAMILY Susan Solow & Larry Berkowitz, in honor of Helen Selinger & Sandi Edelstein, our condo­ Rilbbi Malinger, in appreciation - in memory of your marriage lences on the loss of your Aunt Sadie Ungar our filther, Louis Menaker JOAN ELLlOTT SALLY STAT EDlTH AND ROBERT PINCUS Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, Yahrzeit, in memory of Samuel Lowenthal C 1I1tor & Mrs. Lilwrence Ehrlich, in memory of Dr. Murray Franklin JUDY AND SID DAVID our cousin, Shirley Walk ROCHELLE AND HOWARD SPITZER Sylvia & Howard Cohen, in honor of your first Mr. & Mrs. Frank Szabo, in memory of our Gorman Family, in memory of grandchild, Madeline Jane cousin, Shirley Wolk Benjamin Debowsky HELEN AND WOLFE KAPNER SUSAN AND STEPHEN WATERS SHELL! AND STEVE ALTMAN Yahrzeit, in memory of Jack Goldberg Yahrzeit, in memory of Rhoda Waters Jordan Hirsch, praying for your speedy & RONNIE CHAPMAN Yahrzeit, in memory of Comad Waters complete recovery Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, Yi lhrzei t, in nlemmy of Anne Sroka LANEY, RON, JOHN AND Nettie Senner n013DIE AND BURT JA COWITZ DARCIE SHAPIRO SUSAN WEXLER Ri lbbi Malinger, th ank you for being there Davina & Joe Silk, in memory of your beloved Yahrzeit, in memory of my fath er, M r{s. FLORENCE PRAGER mother & wife Sidney Cohen AMY HECHT Dr. MilX Lvvi nson, iI speedy recovery LINDA ROSE Mrs. Jea n Riley ilnd Family, in memory of Steven Klein, in memory of your mother Yahrzeit, in memory of Rile Rose Rl've rand Norman Ril ey DOROTHY WEISS FRAN AND NAT ALTMAN SHEILA AND PHIL RUBIN Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, Yahrzeit, in memory of Ja cob Fox Rabbi Malinger, have a good trip to Isra el & Murray Miller STEVEN SUROWfTZ a Sil fe return JACK SZAFRAN Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, DEBRA PETSCHENIK Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, Dinah SUfOwitz Ya hrzeit, in memory of Vivian Petschenik Wolf Szafran DIANE, JACK AND WES SZAFRAN ZELDA 01 ER Beverly & Sidney GroHman, in honor of the Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, • CANTOR'S DISCRETIONARY FUND upcoming marriage of your son, Rabbi Mildred Lipset ED MILLER AND MAXINE POMERANTZ Laurence GroHman to Melissa Corn STUART BACHER Cantor Janice Gordon, in appreciation MILDRED LAUTMAN Y,lhrzei t, in memory of Samuel Bilcher JOAN AND HOWARD RICHMAN Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, ANDREA M. OLAH Eric Menaker, in memory of your father, Julius Berson Sharon Hedden, in memory of your father, Louis Menaker BEATRICE SALSTEIN Theodore Smukler ROCHELLE AND HOWARD SPITZER Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, Eva Cohen MILDRED COHEN Sharon & Dan Steinhorn, in honor of the birth LEAHFALK Mr. Ri chard Stoller, in memory of of your grandson Yahrzeit, in loving memory of my Ei lee n Stoller grandmother, Bessie Jaffe BETTE AND TED WILLNER PAUL SIL VERGOlD Yilhrzeit, in memory of Jack Porter Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, Nathan Silvergold

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ANNSTEIN Sheila Feigenbaum & Family, in memory of DR. SANFORD AND JUDITH GOLD Yahrzeit, in memory of my father, your mother - Miriam Mrs. Kitty Herman, in memory of your Abraham Goldfarb SHEILA AND PHIL RUBIN husband Peter, beloved father, grandfather & JOETTA AND STEVE SCHNEIDER Nancy Segelstein, in memory of your father, lovely man Yahrzeit, in memory of our parents Albert Attas JUDY AND SID DAVID LlNDAROSE GAlL CAMINSKY AND F AMIL Y Mr. & Mrs. Larry Lerner, in memory of Yilhrzeit, in memory of my husband, The Hyman Family, in memory of your Evelyn Kaplan Lawrence Rose mother & grandmother, Mrs. Hyman RITA AND ROBERT MILLER HARRIS DRUCKER BEN LISS Mr. Martin Warshauer & Family, in memory of Yahrzeit, in memory of Carl Drucker In honor of the Confirmation Class of 2002 Arline Warshauer Yahrzeit, in memory of Barney Shumer MARGO AND CHARLES WOLFSON BARBARA KLUGER AND BRUCE Yahrzeit, in memory of Ann Hoffman Meryl Cohen & Family, in honor of Scott's RUBINSTEIN Yahrzci t, in memory of T. Drucker Bar Mitzvah Debbie & Lomue Juli, in memory of Edie Juli SIDNEY DA VTD Sharon & Dan Steinhorn, in honor of SUSAN AND STEPHEN WATERS Ya hrzei t, in memory of my father, Zachary Adam Kay Neu, in memory of your father, Martin David RUTH AND DAVE BIRNBAUM Arthur Mooney DOROTHY A. WINSTON Anise Aikin, in honor of your recognition at COUSIN HERB AND JUDI Yn hrzeit, in memory of my husband, the Feminist Seder Sandy & Allan Grossfeld, in memory of Isaac Winston Julia Horowitz Ya hrzeit, in memory of my fa ther-in-law, • SCHOLAR-IN-RESIDENCE FUND Barbara & Elliot Gross, in memory of Samuel Winston BEV AND SID GROFFMAN Julia Horowitz J}EATR1CE AND WILUAM SALSTEIN Tammie Winkler, in memory of your mother MARGO AND CHARLES WOLFSON Yilhrzeit, in memory of my father, Madeline & Charlie Dreifus, in honor of Barbara & jim Stoner, in honor of Jonathan's David Cohen Joanna's engagement - Mazel Tov! engagement Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother, Eva Cohen The Dantowitz Family, in honor of the arrival JULIE ZUCKERMAN SHIRLEY AND SIDNEY BERGER of Daniel Jonathan! Mazel Tov! In memory of Elaine Zuckerman Yahrzeit, in memory of Leonard Meltzer Dr. Florence Springer, in memory of your Mrs. Orietta Schneider, in memory of husband, Gus Renko Tomicictomicic • MUSIC & CHOIR FUND MADELINE AND CHARLIE DREIFUS Bea Derris, in memory of Harold Derris JOAN AND JOHN MAROTTA Dr. & Mrs. Sidney Groffman, in honor of the JANET AND RON HYMAN AND FAMILY [lev & Sid Groffman, Mazel Tov on your 50th forthcoming marriage of their son, Laurence Mr. Sidney Hyman, in memory of Wedding Anniversary to Melissa Korn Blanche Hyman MARGO AND CHARLES WOLFSON JOAN AND NEWT ELLIOTT MARGO AND CHARLES WOLFSON Y,lhrzei t, in Illelllory of joseph Wolfson Cherna Wyttenbach & Family, in memory of Fred & Leona Siegel, in honor of Alan & Tara's I'hil Dl'vinskv, in memory of Toni Devinsky your beautiful mother engagement HELENE AND EARL SILVERMAN joan Goldberg & Family, in memory of your IDABRAKMAN Mr. I'aul Zuckerman & Family, in memory of beautiful mother Joseph Just and Family, in memory of your Elil inl' ZUCkt'rt11an Dr. Lloyd Fallowes & Family, our hearts & beloved wife, Jean Just Stephen Lt'vine, Happy 65th [lirthday prayers are with you at this time MR. AND MRS. TED LATMAN AND SHELL! AND STEVE ALTMAN Russ Fallowes & Family, with heartfelt FAMILY .Rudy Bergenfeld & Family, a' complete & sympathy on the loss of your mom Mrs. Edith Singer & Family, in memory of spt'l'd y recovery Edward Singer • TREES FOR ISRAEL YOUR FRIENDS AT MCDSS • PRAYER BOOK FUND SUSAN AND ALLAN JAKUBOWICZ Mrs. Jeanne Laffer & Family, in loving MARL[lORO DEMOCRATIC Mrs. Regina Cheshes, in memory of memory of your mother, Ella Becker ORGANIZATION Mr. Nathan Cheshes ALLEN BENDER Mr. & Mrs. Eric Ml'naker, in memory of your DR. AND MRS. WILLIAM ORLACCHIO Cliff Radisch, in memory of Joyce Radisch (ather, Louis Men"ker Dr. Kenneth Barton, in memory of your Rose Bendar, in memory of Frank Bendar MARLIJORO ZONING IJOARD OF mother, Natalie SU AND MICHAEL WOLIN ADJUSTMENT Mrs. Charnie Barton, in memory of your Ellen & Barry Miller, a speedy recovery for Mr. Erir Ml'nakl'r & Family, in memory of parents, Ruth & Sam Stein your mother, Ethel Cohen your fath er, Louis Menaker BEVERLY AND RON LUTZE AND SYL VIA SHELLI AND STEVE ALTMAN BARBARA AND ARNOLD KATINSKY DLUGATCH Michael McCurdy & Family, in memory of Mr. Paul Zuckerman & Ms. julie Zuckerman, Mrs. Elaine Weiss, in memory of your mother, your beloved father, John in memory of Elaine Zuckerman Martha Schneider GAlL AND BOB MEYER AND SANDRA Roy Bernstein, in memory of your AND BERNARD OTTERMAN • RELIGIOUS SCHOOL ENHANCEMENT mother, Rosalyn Barbara & Dr. Alan Plotner, in memory of your FUND: RONNIE AND ART CHAPMAN mother, Edith Levin DEBORAH AND ROBERT WEISSMAN Melvyn Ward & Family, in memory of your Mr. & Mrs. Andrew Levin, in memory of your mother, Edith Levin David Shulman & jennifer Gold, in honor of beloved mother & grandmother, yo ur upcoming wedding - Mazel Tov! Lillian Warshofsky

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• MYRNA BACK FUND BOBBIE AND BURT JACOWITZ CAROL AND STANLEY DERSHOWITZ LEN I BACHER Eli~a Bergenfeld, in honor of your new Sandy Nussenblatt & Family, in memory of Yahrzeit, in joving memory of my parents, apartment your father Rose & SeyJllour Lesser Susan Solow & Larry Berkowitz, in honor of joining the "Grandparents Club" • FELICIA SAWYER CAMPERSHIP FUND • BRAKMAN-PETRERA MITZVAH GAIL SCHESSER JOAN AND JOHN MAROTTA CORPS FUND Yahrzeit, in memory of my uncle, Ed Miller & Family, our sincere condolences JOAN AND JOHN MAROTTA Jolm Goldstein on the loss of your father, Jack Roy Bernstein & Family, our sincere condo­ LONA AND JERRY MIRCHIN lences un the loss of your mother, Roslyn Paul Zuckerman, in memory of • ARLENE SCHUMER BEREAVEMENT IDA BRAKMAN Elaine Zuckerman FUND Gladys Sololllon, Yahrzeit, in memory of your RONNIE ROTHLANDER SHERWIN SCHUMER brother, Hl'rmiln Solomon Yahrzeit, in memory of my mother Steve Pollack, in memory of Morris Pollack Mrs. Gertrude Mann, in memory of your Irene Friedland BETTE AND RICHARD MEYEROWICH Iwlol'ed sister, jean just • HOFFMAN-WEINSTEIN FAMILY FUND Mr. Hym

22 May/Jun 2002

TodahRabah from Gloria Gura

The 14th Annual Lee Gura concert of Remembrance, Gura Concert Sponsors Rosalyn Lefker Lydia Leimsider held on April 13, was a huge success. It was very grati­ Shelli and Steve Altman Rabbi Laurence and fying to see so many of our Temple family and the Paula and David Antebi Samantha Malinger Betta and Ted Auerbach Marilyn and Gerry Lubin community at large enjoying Ron Eliran, "Israel's Muriel and David Benjamin Joan and John Marotta Ambassador of Song". His combined sense of humor, Joan and Gilbert Benjamin Gloria Meyer Mimi and Rudy Bergenfeld Maureen McMahon and dynamic personality and energy contributed to the Elisa Bergenfeld Michael Hoffman beautiful give and take between Ron and the audience. Ellen Berman Barry Moskowitz and Deanna I am very proud of what we have accomplished over Gloria and Roy Bernstein Stephanie and Harvey Port Andrea and Ted Block Al Prelutsky the past 14 years. These concerts have been a celebra­ Linda Cannon Sherie and Jerrold Ratner tion not only of memory but also of life. A kaleidoscope Sandy and Arthur Cohen Lenore and Paul Robinson Edna Coleman Hy Rosenberg of Jewish music from original creative liturgical music Goldie Dancyger Doris and Stan Rothman to Sephardic, Klezmer, Israeli, Choral and more! Lee's Sherry and MiKe Danzig Sheila and Phil Rubin Libby Falcon Renee and Any Sackerman love of music, Judaism and liturgy has been kept alive Charlotte-Fishkind-Leigh Andrea and Marty Schlossberg through these concerts and the Cantorial scholarship, and Stanley Flaxman Arlene and Sonny Schwartz Diane Forman Shirley Schneider given in his name each year, at the Hebrew Union Marilyn and Sid Greenspan Judy, Sam and College, Jewish Institute of Religion. Beverly and Sid Groffman Cherrie Shapanka The joint efforts of so many people made this con­ Cantor Janice and Patti and Harold Sherman John Gordon Linda Silverberg cert a success. Thanks to all of you who were physi­ Daniel Gura and Susan Solow and cally present and those who were there in spirit. To Lauren Kaufman Larry Berkowitz Elise Gura Sharon and Dan Steinhorn my conunittee, who worked with dedication and GloriaGura Irene and Sigmund Tannen commitment, Shelli and Steve Altman, Linda Jan Gura, Alan Pickman, Arline and ffurt Trinkoff Sarah, Benjamin, and Max Joel Trinkoff Cannon, Edna Coleman, Al Prelutsky, Judy and Sam Sol Gura Rabbi Henry and Rickie Weiner Shapanka, and Margo and Charles Wolfson. I am Sally Herman Barbara Wallerstein Lottie Hirsch Mr. and Mrs. S. Wainberg passing the torch to all of you in the hope you will Pam and Joel Jevotovsky Annette and Bernie Weinstein carryon the tradition of the concerts. Naomi Jones Sandra Weiss Where would we be without our office staff, Sheila and Stuart Kotler Mr. and Mrs. Weiss Myrna Kluger Ellen and Marvin Winston Stephanie Pinck, Sheila Phillips and Ilene Lewis? Arlene and~arvey Lazar Thanks to Bill Parness and his staff for all our won­ derful publicity, to Joan Roum for spotlighting us in the Hometown Shopper, to Pal,ll & Carol Silvergold from the "Print Shoppe", Jack Koza our sound engi­ neer, Alan Perl and Mike from the "Ultimate Caterer", The Farm for the exquisite flowers and Sally Stat for her delicious home baked goodies! To all of my dear friends and Temple Shalom fami­ ly, I have a deep sense of gratitude and love. You have been my pillar and support for many years. My journey continues as I leave this community and move on in new directions in my life. Todah (thank you) for what you have meant to me. A personal note of thanks to the 'original' commit­ tee, who stood behind me for so many years. It was your tenacity and love that kept the energy flowing and the light aglow. The Auerbachs, Groffmans, Lazars, Levines, Trinkoffs, and Charlotte Fishkind Leigh. L'heet ra ot!

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Rabbi's's Message Cantor's Message IN HONOR OF MOTHER'S DAY COli till IIcdfro 11 I page 2 COlltinued from page 3 Mother's Words reading it firs t. How could the unique musical heritage of our PAUL REVERE'S MOTHER: "I don't care where you think you have to go, Israelites have ratified the most Jewish homeland. I hope that buy­ ing music from Israel will give young man, midnight is past your important contract ever offered curfew." them, committing them to God you a good feeling inside and that knows what, without first know­ listening to the music of Israel will MONA LISA'S MOTHER: "After all ing fully what is said? inspire within you the strong that money your father and I spent bond that we share with our coun­ on braces, that's the biggest smile As in all religious experiences, you can make?" understanding comes mostly try so far away. through doing. Just as we cannot COLUMBUS' MOTHER: "I don't know whether we like a food until Educator's Message care what you discovered, you still we taste it, so we cannot know a COlltinued from page 6 could have written even a few words so we wouldn't worry!" reJigious experience until we live complished through the teaching it. Just as we cannot appreciate an MICHELANGELO'S MOTHER: of history, Jewish texts, Hebrew emotion until we feel it, so we can­ "Can't you paint on walls like other language, traditions and customs. not appreciate the power of ritual children? Do you have any idea Israel provides a rich lens through how hard it is to get that stuff until we experience it. Until you which to view our essence as off the ceiling?" live the moment, there can be no Jewish people. It is also incumbent real understanding of it. And un­ ~APOLEON'S MOTHER: "All right, on us as NATE educators to con­ til we begin to understand it, we If yo~ a~en't hiding your report tinue to build this essential rela­ cannot ask the right questions or card mSIde your jacket, take your tionship with Israel in both good hand out of there and show me." appreciate the answers. So we times and bad". must commit ourselves to the I did not realize the gravity of ABRAHAM LINCOLN'S MOTHER: learning and the doing and the "Again with the stovepipe hat? Can't some of these statements until my living before we claim to under­ you just wear a baseball cap like the experience last week. It is now ob­ stand. other kids?" vious to me that we need to do According to Dr. Michael more within our own religious MARY'S MOTHER: 'Tm not upset Meyer, Reform Jews nowadays school setting, and in the congre­ that your lamb followed you to have the obligation to not only be school, but I would like to know how gation at large, to create the myth Jewishly educated Americans, but he got a better grade than you." of this wonderful and magical to be Jewishly educated Jews. place called the state of Israel ALBERT EINSTEIN'S MOTHER: Even though we are currently the starting with our youngest chil­ "But it's your senior picture. Can't most literate than ever before in dren. Then, after creating the love you at least do something about your history, we have become very illit­ hair? Styling gel, mousse, some­ and the excitement for our home­ erate in our Judaic knowledge. thing ... ?" land, we can deal with some of the Many of us are excited with the re­ more complicated realities, in the GEORGE WASHINGTON'S turn of traditional practices and later years. If we provide our stu­ MOTHER: "The next time I catch rituals, yet this resurgence in dents with the knowledge and the you throwing money across the Jewish identity is frightening Potomac, you can kiss your allow­ passion, and the reality of the sig­ some because they see others ance good-bye!" nificance of Israel, then we will in­ merely copying this behavior rath­ spiTe our students to dream of be­ JONAH'S MOTHER: "That's a nice er than being educated to their ori­ ing there. When this connection is story. Now tell me where you've gins, traditional meanings, or established, they will cry when REALLY been for the last three even renewed interpretations. It days." the land and her people are suffer­ is on this festival of Shavuot that ing, they will celebrate her victo­ we celebrate our connection to our THOMAS EDISON'S MOTHER: "Of ries and they will continue to al­ course I'm proud that you invented rich hetitage of Jewish education. ways support her, while working the electric light bulb. Now tum it May it be our pursuit as well. and praying to establish peace. off and get to bed!" Chag Sameach!

24 May/Jun 2002

World Zionist Election Results UAHC Summer Kallot

W e won - again! In another landslide, ARZA/WORLD K allah is a spiritual retreat filled with study, worship, UNION won 61 of the 145 delegates elected to the World and song. It is an opportunity to study texts with scholars Zionist Congress in June. Our win of 42% of the vote was from various fields and branches of Judaism and to pray almost double that of our nearest competitors, the and sing with fantastic cantors and rabbis. The theme for Conservative and Orthodox movements. 2002 is "Living with Bad Things: God, Jews, and Good and Evil." This is the fourteenth year of Kallah - I know be­ The results of the campaign demonstrate with clarity that cause I have fourteen T-shirts. the Reform movement's values are the most popular by far Every year I look forward to going to Kallah and experi­ within American Jewry. Also, we are better organized than encing the camaraderie of Reform Jews from allover the other Jewish movements. This combination - the values we United States as well as from different countries. It is such represent and the organizational capacity to articulate a wonderfully invigorating experience. 11 ve attended eve­ these values and create institutions that bring our values ry year but one and I never tire of going. The third year I alive - is the difference between just another good idea and became a bat mitzvah at the Kallah. I was asked to read a vibrant movement that influences events and impacts on TOl'ah and did not realize that the first time you read people's lives. Torah is considered a Bar IBat Mitzvah. After the very first KaIlah I asked Rabbi Larry Kushner, "How are you going You have given us a renewed mandate to continue to work to make it any better than this?" His answer was, "We1re for another five years for the creation of an Israel that re­ not going to make it better we1re going to make it differ­ flects the very best of Jewish hopes, aspirations and tradi­ ent." And so it has been different each and every year. For tion. With your continuing support, we can make our me it was very different the first year that I went to Santa shared vision a reality. Cruz and Bernie attended with me. He goes each year now and also canlt wait to attend the next one. ARZA/WORLD UNION Through the years a number of people from Temple Shalom have attended and come back with renewed spiri­ Following are the official results of the vote: tuality and new knowledge. It does not make any differ­ ence what level you are at, you will fit in. ARZA/WORLD UNION, North America 37,492 41.87% 61 If you want more information about why you should go MERCAZ USA (Conservative) 19,78722.10% 32 speak to Pat Brakman, Edna Coleman, Gloria Gura, Myrna Religious Zionist Movement (Orthodox) 17,95220.05% 29 and Sal Kluger, Sharon Steinhorn, Bernie Weinstein, or Meretz USA 3,5173.93% 6 Karen Winograd, We are all like the Eveready bunny we Zionist Organization of America 2,720 3.04% 5 just keep going and going. Herut USA 1,908 2.13'Yo 3 The Kallot will take place this year at: Labor Zionist Movement 1,881 2.10% 3 Franklin Pierce College, Rindge NH - June 26 to June 30 Zionist Coalition/Likud 1,0511.17% 2 UC, Santa Cruz, Santa Cruz, CA - July 17 to July 21 Confederation/Bnai Zion 1,023 1.14% 2 UC Colorado Springs, Colorado Springs, CO - July 31 to Baltimore District/ AZU 795 0.89% 1 August 4 Green Zionist Alliance 622 0.69% 1 I forgot to mention that Debbie Friedman will be at the New Invalid ballots 790 0.88% Hampshire Kallah!!! Total 89,538 100.00'1., 145 Annette Weinstein - 732-679-3113 or e-mail to [email protected] I'll be happy to answer any ques­ tions you may have or go to http://uahc.org/growth/ Scrip now available by kallah / #registration Credit Card (minimum purchase $200) MAZON (food in Hebrew) is a Jewish Response to Hunger. Donations are distributed to a broad spectrum of .... .and you can continue to nonprofit organizations working to prevent and alleviate hunger in the U.S. and abroad. American Jews are asked purchase scrip by check with no minimum purchase to support this effort by contributing 3% of the cost of life­ cycle celebrations such as weddings, birthdays, anniversar­ We sell Scrip for: ies, bar and bat mitzvahs and every joyous occasion. Shoprite, Foodtown, A & P and Pathmark Send donations to: MAZON: A Jewish Response to Hunger You have to buy food - 1990 South Bundy Drive, Suite 260 help the Temple earn a 5% rebate Los Angeles, CA 90025-5232 Call Temple at 732-566-2621

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00000000000000000000000000 0 0000000000 B'ruchim Habaim­ CON GRATULATIONS Welcome to our new members: ~~ Debra Eichenbaum on being elected o Sharon & Dan Steinhorn on the birth of May each one of us bless one another as the 2002-03 NFTY National Vice President their grandson Zachary Adam members of the Temple Shalom Family of Membership & Communication. Berenbaum, son of Beth & Dean ell Monica and David Gorin on the o Lila & Allen Spiegel on the birth of • Lottie Hirsch, Matawan engagement of their daughter Risa to their grandson Benjamin David, son of Scott Druckman Andrea & Peter Suskind o Ann and Charles Feldman on the birth of their granddaughter, Rachel Elizabeth, QUESTIONS & ANSWERS: A Guide daughter of Elissa & Michael Fiorito for Families Dealing with Illness 00000000000000000000000000 00000000000 and Mourning The purpose of this guide is to CONDOLENCES present information and help members be aware of our Jewish i;< Phi I Devinsky on the passing of his -* Ronald Hyman on the passing of his traditions on this subject matter. It stepmother Toni. mother Blanche can also be used as a reference for til Phil Devinsky on the passing of his t:;< Todd Terebush on the passing of his you in case others should inquire uncle Herman Devinsky mother Elizabeth i,x Roseann Devinsky on the passing of i,x Marvin Strauss on the passing of his about Jewish customs. This guide her Aunt Lillian aunt Lina Wind mueller was produced by the efforts of the i,x Eric Menaker on the passing of his t;t Barbara Engel on the passing of her Outreach and Ritual committees, father, Louis Menaker mother Dorothy Marcus to assist our members in answer­ i;. Nancy Segelstein on the passing of her t;t Curtis Blodgett on the passing of his father Albert Attas father Russell ing their questions. Copies are 1:;< Sharon Hedden on the passing of her t;J. Joe and Davina Silk on the passing of available in the Temple office. fa ther, Theodore Smukler their wife and mother, Libis t:;< Gail Schesser on the passing of her aunt, Beatrice Berman " If you see your neighbor ensnared by some t emptation, do not judge harshly Did Your Shalom Arrive on Time? until you have faced the same tempt a- Please let us know if this issue of your Shalom arrived late. In an effort to re­ t ion and mastered it. " Ovadiah ben duce mailing expense, we have sent most of the mailing via bulk mail. If you experienced any problems please notify the office (732-566-2621), tell them the Abraham Bartinoro, (Italy-15th cent ury) ; town you live in and the date you received your Shalom. premier commentator on t he Mishn ah, qu oted in Pirke Avot Temple Shalom's e-store Before you shop online, go to templeshalomnj.org. and click the button for e-store. Synagogue Match: If a merchant you use is there, and you purchase from the temple site, Temple Moving to a new city? Help yourselves, Shalom will receive a percentage of the sale. It will not increase your costs in friends or relatives be welcomed upon ar­ any way. rival by a nearby Reform congregation. Go to www.synagoguematch.org. If you do not have internet access contact the CAN'T DRIVE A T NIGHT? Our Rennaissance Group Temple office with your information and NEED A RIDE TO TEMPLE?? is seeking new members who are they will do it for you. JUST CALL 566-2375 interested in taking part in stimulat­ ing activities that are designed to That's all there is to it! No fuss, no bother, NO CHARGE!! meet the changing social needs and lifestyles of members whose chil­ TEMPLE SHALOM We have set up an arrangement with dren are out of school or on their PATSY'S CAR SERVICE OF MATAWAN. own. online A taxi will bring you to services and take Drop in on the 3rd Wednesday of you home. No money changes hands. the month at Bpm or call Benita Visit our \web page Temple Shalom will pay the taxi fare and Sa tty-Wiedmann at 264-4496 for d river's tip. We want you here at Temple further information. where the action is! DON'T STAY HOME www.templeshalomnj.org ALONE & KVETCH!

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Shabbat Blessings Parasha HaShavuah - Torah Portions of the Week: 5-6.02 Candle Lighting 5/3- Iyar21: Behar/Bechukotai; Lev. 25:1-27:34; Ba-ruch a-ta Adonai, Eh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech Haftarah-Jeremiah 16:19-17:14 ha-o-lam, a-sher ki-d'sha-nu b'mitz-vo-tav v'tzi­ 5/10- Iyar28: Bernidbar: Num. 1:1-4:20; Haftarah-Hosea 2:1-22 or I Samuel 20:18-42 va-nu l'had-lik ner shel Shabbat. 5/17- Sivan 6: Naso: Num. 4:21-5:31; Haftarah- Judges 13:2-12 Wine/Grape Juice 5/24- 13 Sivan: Naso: Num.6:1-7:89; Haftarah-Judges 13:13-24 Ba-ruch a-ta Adonai, Eh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech 5/31- Sivan20: Beha'alotecha: Num. 8:1-12:16; Haftarah­ Zechariah 2:14-4:7 ha-o-lam, b~ - rei p'ree ha-ga-fen. 617- Sivan 27: Shelach-Lecha: Num. 13:1-15:41; Haftarah-Joseph 2:1-24 Challah &'14- Tamuz 4: Korach: Num. 16:1-18:32; Haftarah-I Samuel Ba-ruch a-ta Adonai, Eh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech 11:14-12:22 6121- Tamuz 11: Chukat/Balak: Num. 19:1-25:9; Haftarah­ ha-o-lam, ha-mo-tzi leh-chem min ha-a-retz. Micah 5:6-6:8 6128- Tamuz 18: Pinchas: Num. 25-10-30:1; Haftarah-Jeremiah 1:1-2:3

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29 SHALOM The Newsletter of Temple Shalom of Aberdeen The ADLER FAMILY DENTAL ERIC S. ADLER, D.M.D. MICHAEL C. ADlER, D.R.D. PRINT 0liOPPE

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