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ELAINE COHEN social programs ranging from casual bis- SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR tro dining under a tent to black tie galas. Event planners can arrange bookings for he fairytale setting conjures images weddings, pre-nuptials, buffets, cocktail plucked from the pages of parties as well as fundraisers and com- T fiction. Just visit 1800 Lakeshore pany retreats year round, excluding a Dr. in Dorval to capture traces of a gen- three-week January winter break. teel era. The stately 19th-century stone Romance prevailed during September at manor nestled amid lush floral greenery the Forest and Stream with 11 re- and overlooking Lac St. Louis is the home ceptions. The Marriott In-Terminal Hotel of The Forest and Stream Club. offers special discounts for out-of-town- Founded in 1884, the private social club ers attending weddings booked at the membership embraced entrepreneurs Forest and Stream Club. that developed Canada’s major commer- Moreover, the gorgeous grounds and cial, financial and transportation net- shores of Lac St. Louis served as an in- works. Their penchant for fine dining, im- credible backdrop for a recent bat mitzvah peccable service, sterling silverware and celebration. Guided by club personnel, china still permeates the atmosphere, but the enterprising hosts staged a veritable the nature of the club has changed. Today’s circus embellished with a tent, a magician membership is a microcosm of greater and a clown. Montreal’s multicultural society of con- The club’s well appointed rooms are genial ladies and gentlemen. Non-mem- named after founding members. The Al- bers are welcome to request bookings lan, Angus, Forget, Holt, Molson, Strath- for weddings and special functions. cona, and Van Horne rooms are available General manager Shirley McLeod leads for functions. The mesmerizing panoram- the way with more than 15 years of ad- ic waterfront view in the main dining room ministrative experience in private social is elevated with the charm of an adjoining clubs. McLeod is well informed on Jewish living room and other salons where party customs and ceremonies through her pri- guests can gather for cocktails or dancing. or position at a private golf club. The club is equipped with audio-visual fa- “We’re growing our membership and cilities for presentations, business meet- seeking new members, and we have a ings and social gatherings. good number of young professionals,” Other options include private rooms said McLeod. with dining and meeting provisions for Executive chef Eric Hamel, along with two to 20. The elegant décor features fire- his dedicated team, excels in presenting places and a collection of outstanding delectable international gourmet fare for Canadian and European art. The club is every occasion. He is pleased to meet with minutes away from Pierre Elliott Trudeau party hosts to personalize menus. The International Airport and within 30 min- club carries an extensive selection of fine utes from downtown Montreal. Parking on wines. Food and beverage manager Eric the premises is free. n Paquet is a principal member of the team. The facilities are open to members six For information, call 514-631-7101 or days a week and the club’s calendar lists visit www.forestandstream.ca THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M november 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B3

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Celebrating treasured memories of their

ANITA SZABADI-GOTTESMAN SPECIAL TO THE CJN

herry Milstein always took great care when setting her Shabbat and Sholiday tables. She used the pret- tiest cake platters, her heirloom crystal salt and pepper shakers and crisply ironed tablecloths. Whether just for her immedi- ate or a collection of relatives and friends, Sherry made everyone feel wel- come around her table. Passing away suddenly at the young age of 52, her daughters Judi and Randi, 22 and 20 at the time, were determined to keep her traditions and most importantly her memory alive. Photos of Sherry By all accounts Sherry was a very spe- Milstein, her cial woman. Growing up in Glace Bay, treasured violin, N.S., she came to Montreal on her own at and pictures of the the young age of 19 to meet a Jewish hus- granddaughters band and start her family. Armed with she never met, are determination and her prized violin, she displayed in her began building her new life. An accom- daughter’s home. plished violinist, Sherry turned down an opportunity to play with the Montreal Symphony Orchestra to pursue her goal of starting a family. Edelman entitled Motherless Daughters. followers, started several support groups at Randi’s home. The sisters prepared Sherry’s violin now sits proudly in a The author had also experienced the loss and celebrated their mother’s lives at an- many of their mother’s dessert shadow box frame in a designated alcove of her mother in her college years and nual Mother’s Day luncheons. treats, including her legendary lemon of Randi’s home as a tribute to her late found, much like Judi and Randi, that For the 20th anniversary of the book squares, using Sherry’s favourite stained mother’s for music. Indeed walk- as motherless daughters they were sup- launch, a luncheon was planned prompt- and dog-eared recipe books. They pains- ing around both Randi and Judi’s homes posed to simply pick themselves up, and ing Randi and Judi to attend. They shared takingly set the dining room table using there are photos and other mementoes of move forward with their lives. “We had countless stories about their late , all of their mother’s china and accessories their late mother everywhere. “We were no time to mourn,” says Judi, as the girls finding and strength with virtu- and welcomed a group of about 20 women determined to keep our mothers mem- had to pick up the pieces for their al . “The experience was at once who had lost their mothers at varying ages. ory alive not only for ourselves but for my who needed their care both physically and interesting and extremely emotional,” says What may have been a sad encounter was daughters as well,” says Randi. emotionally. “I was just expected to move Randi. quite the opposite as the women shared Indeed, Randi’s two daughters, Saman- forward and not look back.” The sisters discovered that their feelings stories and laughter, and honoured the tha and Holly, now young adults, have truly Edelman traces her own journey after and emotions were validated. “The various memories of their late mothers. gotten to know their late grandmother her mother’s death along, with many other lectures and luncheon experience showed Randi and Judi hope to make the lunch- through all the pictures and stories told by stories of young girls having to pick them- us that what we had been experiencing eon an annual event. The date, featuring a their mother and aunt over the years. selves up and carry on. Randi came to rely was normal,” says Judi, “We all felt the special guest speaker has been set close to Healing from their mother’s sudden more and more on the welcoming words same way.” Mother’s Day of next year. ■ death remains a continuous process. Sev- of the book re-reading chapters often and Impacted by their experience, they eral years ago Randi, an avid reader, came finding validation for her feelings. planned and celebrated a Montreal lunch- Contact Judi and Randi at www.mother- across a book by American author Hope Edelman, based in California, and her eon this past year just before Mother’s Day [email protected] THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M november 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B5

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Zest for life keeps couple young: Pearl and Phil Goldberg

ELAINE COHEN permit time to pursue hobbies. Therefore, SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR he welcomed retirement and the oppor- tunity to explore innovative pastimes. orn in 1929, Pearl (née Litner) and Between lessons from Rita Briansky at Phil Goldberg wed in 1948, and Cummings Centre and painting sessions B celebrated their 67th anniversary at Century Village in Florida, Phil’s bent on Sept. 19. for art bloomed. Not one to be outdone, Blessed with four married children, 10 Pearl pursued Japanese Bunka and intri- grandchildren and eight great-grandchil- cate variations of 3-D art. dren, Pearl and Phil take pride in their In 2003, the couple sold their home and family. While others lamented the August bought a condo. The artwork adorning heat, Pearl was whipping up kosher deli- the walls is proof of their prowess. Each of cacies for the High Holidays. Every Rosh them had art exhibits at the city’s library. Hashanah, 30 people savour her special- Downsizing to a condo meant giving ties at three holiday meals. up his home art studio. Since other sen- Pearl, an only child, was doted on by her iors faced similar dilemmas, Phil asked . “My mother was well educated the Cote St. Luc Senior Men’s Club if art and said she didn’t go to school to stay Pearl and Phil Goldberg GOLDBERG FAMILY PHOTO space was available. Fellow members home, so she hired a maid for me, and agreed and Phil conducts art classes twice worked as a comptroller.” where the couple met. “I found Pearl at- erations living together,” said Pearl, allud- a week. “I’ve been so busy teaching others Her father was in the scrap metal busi- tractive and poised,” said Phil. ing to her observant . The that I haven’t had time to paint myself,” ness. Pearl remembers the fun they had stroll- couple and their baby relocated in 1951. he quips, noting it’s gratifying to witness Phil, along with two older brothers, grew ing from Bernard Street to the heart of Pearl and Phil rented premises twice be- everyone’s progress. up in Granby, Que., where his parents downtown. fore buying a home in 1958. Between 1950 Pearl and Phil also take advantage of operated a second-hand clothing store. A graduate of Strathcona Academy, and 1962, they were blessed with four chil- time together joining friends for bridge. After high school, he moved to Montreal Pearl was barely 19, and Phil was only six dren – Marlene, Sheila, Irwin and Frances. Queried on their secret for harmonious and lodged with a Jewish family. “I was months her senior, when they got mar- The family attended Congregation Beth longevity, Pearl replied, “Show- eager to meet Jewish people,” he says. ried at the Adath Israel Synagogue. After Zion. ing respect for one another.” In the mid-40s, city dwellers cooled off the honeymoon, they moved in with her Phil always appreciated beautiful art Pearl and Phil Goldberg celebrated their on weekends at public beaches, and that’s parents. “At one time, we were four gen- work but running a clothing store didn’t anniversary on Sept. 19. n France B PRONUPTIA Since 1967 oN SALE

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ANITA SZABADI-GOTTESMAN SPECIAL TO THE CJN

ractice makes perfect for the bride and groom as they prepare for their P wedding day. Many couples choose to plan a rehearsal several days before the wedding, relying on a competent wedding planner to guide the wedding party down the aisle for a first run-through, “I always recommend having a wedding rehearsal, as the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding,” says Stephanie Fagen, owner of Montreal- based Wild Cherry Events. “Making sure everyone knows what they are doing and where they are going is crucial to the fluidity and success of a wedding ceremony.” The timing of the rehearsal can be a bit tricky as not all members of the wedding party may be available, considering out- An experienced wedding planner will take charge of the rehearsal, calming the pre-wedding jitters of the bride and groom. of-towners not yet arrived or locals with ANITA SZABADI-GOTTESMAN PHOTO work or other commitments. Best to plan for a day or two before the friend by focusing the bridal party on the aged walkways or stonework that could wedding, to keep the order of the day task at hand. Experienced and at arms interfere with the procession. fresh in all participant’s minds. length, the planner will easily direct Take the time to plan out the procession An added benefit of a rehearsal is creat- everyone into place to ascend down the with the wedding planner before arriving ing an opportunity for the entire wedding I always recommend aisle. at the rehearsal. The couple sets the tone party, friends and family alike, to get to having a wedding The rehearsal is also the time to take to ensure wedding party members know know each other a little better before the a close look at the positioning of the and take their roles seriously. wedding day. rehearsal chupah, lectern, microphones, chairs The planner will set the pace for each But the overwhelming reason to hold a for wedding party members who won’t person’s turn down the aisle. She will full rehearsal is to allay the nerves of the be standing during the ceremony, place- point out markers or landmarks on the couple, most often the bride, who will ment of floral arrangements and more. floor or on the aisle to avoid any bunch- see the ceremony come together before “Even though many people have done it ing up of the group or anyone forgetting the big day. The rehearsal should be a before, the wedding day is a crazy, hectic where to stand or sit. Any and all ques- relaxed exercise sure to boost the con- and exciting day and it is easy to forget tions will be fielded to the planner. The fidence of the bride and groom as their these kinds of details,” says Fagen. exercise also confirms to the wedding wedding approaches. “Something as simple as knowing what party that the planner is in charge and While the couple can organize the re- side to stand on, and remembering to that no one moves ahead without a nod hearsal taking on the leadership role on keep your bouquet at the [right level] can from her. their own, an outside wedding planner easily be overlooked.” “There are no real downsides to having or one supplied by the venue serves as a Rehearsals for outdoor weddings allow a wedding rehearsal,” says Fagen. “Better neutral guide. She or he can more easi- the couple and planner to look for over- to be prepared than to be scrambling at ly handle a disgruntled relative or tardy grown trees and flowers and any dam- the last minute.” n THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M NOVEMBER 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B9

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CINDY DAVIS large endeavour. “We decided to expand this show to include more than just wed- hen Stephanie Fagen brought dings,” says Lehrer. “There are so many her mother to a wedding trade celebrations and life-cycle events in the W show last year, her mother was Jewish community like bar and bat mitz- astounded by how many vendors were vahs, brit milahs, hennas, and so much present and how many options there are more, that people need help in planning. in the Montreal party-planning industry. Why limit this show to only weddings?” Fagen told her that because many The Events Show will take place on people in the Jewish community tend to Thursday, Nov. 12 from 5 to 9 p.m. at Con- use the same vendors for most of their gregation Shaar Hashomayim in West- events, it doesn’t give smaller vendors the mount. Guests will enjoy an elegant and opportunity to break into the scene, and intimate trade show with free tastings by the community doesn’t get a chance to see kosher caterers, complimentary cocktails all the options out there. The idea for The and swag bags with lots of goodies to help Stephanie Fagen Events Show was born. them plan their events. and Angela Lehrer “These things work by word of mouth – Vendors present will include both well once a vendor has a chance to do well in established and lesser-known photog- directly with the animators and ask ques- a large role in the planning process – of the community then their business can raphers, videographers, venues, caterers, tions and get information for what they course grandparents are welcome! The take off,” says Fagen, one of the co-cre- bar services, DJs, hair and makeup artists, want for their own event.” bottom line is that a simchah should be a ators of The Events Show. florists, invitations and printed materi- Whether you’re planning a private func- happy time, and The Events Show is there “Other communities in Montreal have al experts, jewelry specialists and more. tion, like a wedding or bar/bat mitzvah, to help to make sure it will be.” n their own boutique wedding shows, so There will also be a live bar mitzvah “ex- or even a fundraiser or corporate event, it I thought this would be a great way to perience” complete with music, anima- can be a daunting experience if you don’t Tickets are $20 for adults and $13 for chil- showcase some incredible vendors to tors and a kosher candy bar. know your options. dren and are available at www.theevents- the Jewish community – and have a great “We want to come, and for kids “I have clients who live out of town, who show.com or by calling 514-983-4978. Part party at the same time!” to feel comfortable and have a good time have family members and friends col- of the proceeds will go to Gemach Naomi Fagen, a party planner herself and while their parents can calmly collect the lecting all the information for them. This Gittel, a charity that collects and dis- owner of Wild Cherry Events, teamed up information that they need,” says Lehrer. is a great place for them,” says Fagen. tributes wedding dresses for local Jewish with Angela Lehrer to co-produce this “It also gives kids a chance to interact “We also know that grandparents play brides in need. M THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS B10 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] NOVEMBER 5, 2015

How sweet it is – eye catching desserts please palates

ELAINE COHEN tion of refined sugar. Author Joanne Chang SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR majored in mathematics at Harvard Uni- versity but opted to forge her niche as an hen a couple becomes engaged, author, magazine contributor, pastry chef family and friends are eager to and co-owner of epicurean bakeries in W entertain them. Bridal showers, Massachusetts. brunches, luncheons, teas and dinner Chang clearly states her profession is not parties are among the popular gatherings. medicine, therefore, Baking with Less Sug- Dessert is always in order and stunning ar isn’t meant as a manual for people with cakes and exquisite epicurean items make diabetes or related conditions. Chang used an impression. honey, maple syrup, molasses, fresh fruit The challenge lies in turning out pic- and juices to attain desired sweetness. turesque desserts that taste scrumptious. Anyone who is looking for a useful gift for While some dessert aficionados overlook newlyweds can be assured that Baking with calories, others shun refined sugar or pre- Less Sugar will set them off on a health- fer less per recipe. ier path, yet satisfy their yen for sweets. Icebox Cakes by Jean Sagendorph and PHOTOGRAPHS COURTESY OF RAINCOAST BOOKS. Furthermore, fledgling and culinary ex- Jessie Sheehan and Baking with Less Sugar perts will discover helpful hints. Joseph De by Joanne Chang differ in focus but both every glossy page. Authors Sagendorph Cake, Black Forest, Key Lime Pie, Chai- Leo’s photographs are breathtaking. books are chock-full of luscious desserts. and Sheehan go for rich, creamy fillings. Ginger Cake, Raspberry Ganache and The majority of luscious recipes in the Distributed by Raincoast Books in Canada, They devote separate sections to prepar- White Chocolate Orange Cake. first chapter contain one-half a cup of sug- these hard-covered books are beautifully ing layers, fillings and toppings that enable The easiest recipe in the book is a prov- ar or less with a few exceptions containing illustrated and every detail of each reci- bakers to achieve excellent results. Among en favourite. The “old school” recipe yields two-thirds of a cup. A gathering of well- pe is explained. Furthermore, the authors the components are wafers, puddings and nine to 12 servings and is composed of honed home bakers were quick to com- offer tips, which novices and experienced fruit. Although ingredients differ according homemade or store bought chocolate waf- pliment the blueberry bran muffins and bakers will appreciate. to recipe, the method is similar. ers, vanilla whipped cream and chocolate vanilla pecan coffee cake. Of course, these Icebox Cakes lives up to its theme – reci- Decorating ideas add to the beauty of shavings for decorating. are just two of more than 60 entries. Chap- pes for the coolest cakes in town – and Tara each presentation. A few of the many Baking with Less Sugar is geared to in- ter 2 is devoted to chocolate lovers and one Donne’s vibrant photographs embellish choices are Chocolate-Grand Marnier dividuals interested in curbing consump- enticing pie is a truffle chocolate cream. ■ THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M november 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B11

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Choosing bridal gown involves more than meets the eye

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Vintage wedding ensembles indicate fashion trends of yesteryear.

ELAINE COHEN order the gown six to eight months ahead SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR of the wedding. Accessories, such as veil, headpiece, jewellery, shoes, hose, petti- bride wears her wedding gown coats, undergarments, hairdo and make- once, whereas her other apparel up are all built around the gown. A gets plenty of use. Nevertheless, Several decisions come into play long long after other garments are cast away, before the ordering stage. What time photographs of the bridal gown remain in of the year will the wedding take place? circulation. Therefore, brides tend to de- Where is the venue? Is it an intimate, in- vote a lot of time and effort into making formal family wedding or a lavish, formal the right choice. with numerous guests? Online and print publications feature Subsequently, it’s time to focus on the exquisite photographs of fairy tale wed- gown. The gown has to flatter the bride’s dings, and portray brides bedecked in figure and suit her taste. Brides may find gorgeous gowns and accessories. Brides a sample designer label priced far below often print or clip out these illustrations the going rate. Rachel Edelman recalls her and seek replicas for the big day. Some- college roommate’s success 30 years ago times, they luck out but invariably it’s but is quick to point out her own negative a long shot. Regardless of outcome, the experience three years later. exercise is worthwhile because perusing “My roommate’s sample designer gown magazines and newspaper supplements was stunning and since I wore a size 8, I prep the bride on shops, prices, styling, also managed to obtain a classy sample,” sizes and trends. Edelman said. “But by the time I had my When weddings are scheduled a year sample altered and cleaned it had lost its after the engagement, the timing is ideal lustre. for purchasing a gown. To ensure delivery, many bridal consultants believe it’s best to CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M NOVEMBER 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B13

Choosing bridal gown involves more than meets the eye

This was after I had already paid and brought it home from New York. Luckily,

my late mother came to the rescue and    treated me to a new gown.” Retired bridal department store consult- The bride needs to ant, Trina Wiseman, tells brides to bring focus on fit and what’s their mother or a trusted or friend to shop but avoid having several friends flattering telling you which bridal gown they like best. “The bride needs to focus on fit and what’s flattering, not be overwhelmed brides because of the elongated cut. The with different views.” high waist-seam starts below the bustline. Savvy bridal gown consumers take the The trumpet silhouette hugs the body and following components into consideration flares out above the knee. The sheath is a when trying on gowns: straight-shaped, slim gown that skims the Is the overall size and shape becoming? body and falls straight to the floor. What are some of the variations? A-line Bodice, neckline, sleeves, hemline, petti- complements most figures. As the name coat/crinoline, train, veil, shoes and other implies, the skirt is shaped like an A. The accessories merit attention. Gloves have cut catches the smallest part of the waist taken a back seat since the ’50s but remain and balances out shoulders and hips. an option for brides favouring vintage en- Ball gowns include a tight bodice, sembles. dropped waist and a full skirt. The mer- It is customary for Jewish brides wearing maid style also resembles its name with a strapless or sleeveless gowns to cover their seam above the knee that flares out at the shoulders and arms with a bolero, shrug, bottom. Peplum is styled with a mini over- cape or wrap during an observant wed- skirt that flares out at the waist and cov- ding ceremony. Veils and headpieces are ers the hips. Empire complements petite also in order. n

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It’s the marriage that counts

ELLA BURAKOWSKI COHEN a gift from my sister. Sarah went to the Open Window Bakery ust a few more days and all the plans on Bathurst Street and the Double Dip for the big wedding day will come was now my wedding cake. She made J together. 120 people, food, music, tuna and egg salad sandwiches and that all the rentals for the perfect wedding became the food we served at my home under the stars in my backyard. Even the after the wedding. weather was co-operating. We called only close friends and im- My aunt and uncle came all the way from mediate family, and the ceremony did in- Israel. Even though my Uncle Lipman was deed take place on Oct. 2, 1983 at Shaarei not in the best of health, it was important Tefillah Congregation with Rabbi Stern for him to be at his niece’s wedding. Lip- officiating. The chazzan hummed a mor- man and my father were the only members ose tune as my sister walked me down the of their family who survived the Holocaust aisle, both of us fighting back tears. ellen ad_ellenand although ad.qxd 10/10/2013 they lived 8:13 thousands PM Page of 1 miles Marshall, Sarah and I went down to the apart, their bond was strong. hospital to spend the rest of the day with Rabbi [Moshe] Stern insisted I go to the Ella Burakowski and Marshall Cohen, 1983 my dad, and none of us changed out of our mikvah, not something I had planned to wedding clothes. When we walked into his ellen ad_ellen ad.qxd 10/10/2013 8:13 PM Page 1 do, so my Aunt Sonia, my sister Sarah and English!” I said, but I couldn’t hear any- said to me in Yiddish. room, he was sitting up, tubes removed, a I all made an evening of it. It was a very thing anyway. My head was spinning and “Okay, Abba,” I said, trying not to upset big smile on his face and tears streaming foreign ritual for me, but somehow I felt a my dad was dying. him. down his cheeks, at the sight of me in my little purer when it was over, maybe even Sarah, Marshall and I spent days at the But then Rabbi Stern spoke, and said in wedding dress. He came home a week later. a little more worthy of such a special occa- hospital and when we weren’t there, we our religion you don’t cancel a simchah. If I only knew then what I know today, sion when I was committing myself to the were cancelling all the wedding plans. We He explained that I do not have to have the I would not have fought marrying this man whoellen had ad_ellen been such ad.qxd a huge 10/10/2013 part of 8:13 my PMonly Page had 1 a few days left. Every elaborate event I had planned, but that the incredible man who stood strong by my life since I was 15 years old. had to be called and I had to relive it over wedding should indeed take place. side that day and who continues to walk We met just a year after my mom died, and over. Most of the services I had booked My head was reeling, and I thought beside me through all of life’s journeys. It Marshall’s mother had a massive stroke were gracious and returned our deposits. these two had lost their minds. In a mil- was never about the wedding, it’s all about around the same time I went through my A couple of days before the wedding was lion years I was not having a wedding. But the marriage and all about family. trauma. We were both pretty broken teen- supposed to happen, I went to see my dad alas, Marshall and I relented for the sake Sometimes I watch young people mak- agers when we met. in the intensive care unit. Rabbi Stern was of my dad. Neither of us wanted to upset ing elaborate productions when they plan Fast forward 12 years and we were about standing beside his bed. He was hooked him any further. their weddings, with every detail in place, to get married. Then it happened. The up to tubes and monitors and the room So the wedding was back on. Not the every flower accounted for and every bow phone rang, my father was downtown at was filled with those awful beeping nois- wedding we had planned, but none-the- perfectly tied. If something goes wrong, Simpsons with his brother Lipmanellen ad_ellen andad.qxd 10/10/2013es. I looked 8:13 PM Pageat him 1 lying there, pale and less a wedding. Marshall had cancelled his it’s like the world has come to an end. I he took ill. They rushed him to Mount weak. He heard me say hi to the rabbi and tuxedo, and all the food, the photographer, think to myself, if they will put that same Sinai Hospital, where they told us he had opened his eyes. videographer, tent, music, all cancelled. I effort into their marriage, they will be as a myocardial infarction. “English, speak “You’re not cancelling your wedding,” he still had my wedding dress because it was happy as we are. n

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SPONSORED CONTENT Centre Mont-Royal offers elegant facilities for weddings

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Finding a new life and in another city

ELLEN LECHTER GREEN admits at first she had to adjust to living in someone else’s already established space. hen Noah White’s grandfather “All the furniture belongs to Noah and al- asked him to move to Chicago though there’s a huge walk-in closet in the Wto help run the family furniture bedroom, the room is small. There’s not business, at first he was undecided. “Even even room for me to have my own end- though my mother is American, I’ve lived table,” she says. “I haven’t changed much in Canada my entire life,” he says, now age to his bachelor pad style except for a few 26. “I grew up in Edmonton but moved to small things. For instance, I replaced the Ontario for school. I had just graduated hand towels in the bathroom and I bought The couple’s living room in Chicago with my business degree and was trying to new placemats for the kitchen. I’ll prob- find steady work. I couldn’t imagine leaving ably also get around to buying a few throw the summer and then we plan on mov- have stayed here a while.” my friends and family and moving again.” pillows for the couch.” ing,” Kerri adds. “Hopefully, we’ll stay in The couple also have a destination wed- White was finding the cost of living high Kerri says she wants to replace Noah’s the city so we won’t need a car. Traffic in ding to plan; they recently set the date for in Toronto and was considering moving bedding with something more feminine Chicago is insane.” mid-January in the U.S. Virgin Islands. “I back to Edmonton when he received his although that isn’t her main priority right Kerri previously lived in an apartment know I’ll be really pregnant by then but it grandfather’s offer. “I finally figured, why now since the couple found they’re going with three roommates so having only will be our last week of relaxation before not,” he says. “Chicago is a great city and I to have a baby this spring. Luckily, there’s one person to share with has been a plus. the baby arrives,” she says. “First the wed- knew it from years of visiting my family. So a spare bedroom in the apartment that “Imagine sharing a tiny bathroom with ding, then the baby, then apartment hunt- I found an apartment in the Wicker Park will serve as a nursery, until the couple women who have even more stuff than I ing. It’s going to be a crazy new year.” area and started the next phase of my life.” finds a bigger place to live. “I love this do! It’s been a pleasure taking over Noah’s Noah looks wistfully around the rooms Noah discovered that the furniture busi- apartment and the area. It’s close to work bathroom,” she laughs. “And it’s actual- that have been his home since leaving ness as well as his adopted city was a good and downtown and I haven’t needed a ly a really nice bathroom with granite Canada three years ago. “I’m not going to fit for him. Three years later, he’s still in the car to get around,” says Noah. “However, countertops. The whole apartment was lie, I’ll be sorry to leave this place,” he ad- same apartment except now his fiancée it’s also a three-story walk-up which isn’t renovated a few years ago. The kitchen mits. “But if I’ve learned anything it’s that Kerri lives there too. Kerri, 25, who works ideal with a baby.” is small but the appliances are stainless change can be good. No, actually, change in sales, moved in a few months ago and “We’ll stay here until the lease is up in steel. If it wasn’t for the baby we would can be great.” n

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Books to please child attendants in wedding procession

ELAINE COHEN Her storyline is enhanced by illustrator some artwork and rhyming text. The blue Educators and writers will appreci- SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR Mark Siegel. The expressions on the char- whale is the largest animal on earth, he ex- ate Aston’s descriptive text. She has car- acters’ faces and the colourful artwork plains, and embellishes his findings with ried out a lot of research and transmits arents appreciate sturdy, pictur- captivate a young reader’s imagination. a colourful chart. He points out the term it clearly. While some of the animals and esque storybooks that captivate and Messner’s 10-step guide to reading a jelly fish is incorrect because “jellies” lack their nesting habits will be familiar to P inspire budding readers. Whether story is instructive and entertaining. She bones and a skeleton. Readers will find readers,in many habitats, there are bound it’s a birthday party, a holiday celebration encourages readers to cuddle up with the out if anemones are classified as animals to be surprises. or a thank you token for a flower girl in book and share the contents with bud- or plants and why. By conclusion, readers Aston drives home the point that a the wedding procession, books serve as dies of any age. It may be a , sibling won’t flounder when quizzed on verte- noisy nest indicates an active nursery but appropriate gifts. or a family pet. She advises the fledgling brates, invertebrates, endoskeletons and silence signals its inhabitants have out- The following books are distributed by reader to sound out words, use pictures as exoskeletons. grown and vacated the premises. Children Raincoast Books in Canada. These recent clues and anticipate what comes next. The learn that these creatures had to acquire publications have a lot to offer pre-school- book has a joyful conclusion and reminds A Nest is Noisy skills and fend for themselves, whether it ers as well as students in primary grades. everyone to begin reading anew. Author, Dianna Hutts meant learning how to swim, fly or crawl Furthermore, parents will discover fascin- Aston, and illustra- away. ating facts related to animal and plant life. Sea Bones tor, Sylvia Long, form Aston refers to an astounding array of In each instance, vibrant illustrations and American auth- a talented duo in animals. Honeybees, fox squirrels, cac- descriptive text bring these stories to life. or/illustrator, Bob this picture book for tus wrens, ruby-throated hummingbirds, Barner, netted a children. However, American alligators, blue jays, army ants, How to Read a Story: delectable catch adults will be pleas- orangutans, lampreys, African gray tree Award-winning Amer- with his recent pic- antly surprised how frogs, platypus, elf owls and cactus wrens ican author/educator, ture book Sea Bones. much they pick up are just a few of her fascinating subjects. Kate Messner, presents The book may be from Aston’s incredible stash of informa- After reading A Nest is Noisy, hikers trek- a cool concept in How geared to children tion. A Nest is Noisy is laced with enchant- king through diverse habitats will take to Read a Story. The in kindergarten to Grade 3 but students in ing illustrations. A sampling of Long’s pleasure in being able to spot nests or rec- picture book is ideal for higher grades as well as educators will find exemplary artwork includes flamboyant ognize some of the creatures. n four-to-eight-year olds. it a handy teaching tool. flamingoes building nests in muddy wat- Messner motivates youngsters to embrace Without drowning readers in a sea of ers, and adorable prairie dogs peeking out Photos courtesy of Raincoast Books in reading by creating a comfortable milieu. information, he hooks them with awe- of their protective burrow. Canada M THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS B18 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] NOVEMBER 5, 2015

Digital age gadgets make waves in the kitchen

ELAINE COHEN the gift package. SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR A Canadian company has introduced an innovative device for wine lovers. Wine adgets never fail to draw attention aficionados take pride in making sure and digital age inventors have their favourite brands are chilled at the G introduced a slew of reasonably proper temperature. The Ravi wine chill- priced tools to save time and effort in er makes it possible. Hosts need only affix the kitchen. One need only stroll through the wine chiller to the bottle top and when commercial kitchenware departments to it is poured into the glass, the temperature be hooked on some of these nifty items. will be ideal. Then when it comes time to shop for Spotting Quirky’s Egg Minder online, bridal showers and housewarming gifts, proves how handy little reminders can it will be easy to make innovative choices, make a big difference. After all, it’s easy rather than wandering around town at the for today’s busy career couples immersed last minute to see what’s available. in business duties and child-care commit- Here is a sampling of some useful items ments to forget to replenish food supplies. that will put a little spark into mundane With guests expected within a few hours, tasks. hosts don’t want to be in the middle of a In the old days, bubbie didn’t record recipe and discover they have run out of how she prepared paper-thin pastry for eggs. The digital egg minder clues-in con- sweet-filled strudel. If you asked for her sumers. In-tray LED lights indicate which recipe, she would probably reply, “a bissel eggs are oldest and should be used first. of this and a bissel of that.” Subsequent An app also lets the user know when to re- generations relied on written directions. plenish egg supply. Competing for counter space, loose reci- Although there is no shortage of meat pe cards often landed in garbage peelings, thermometers on the market, these de- and book pages ended up etched with vices are de rigueur to ensure the beef or food stains. Now that millennials have ar- poultry is rare, medium or well done. For rived on the scene, their tablets come into health safety, it’s essential to see nothing play. The kitchen cabinet mount, made by ends up undercooked. Digital thermom- Belkin, conserves counter space and pre- eters with LED readings do the trick. vents stains. The user’s tablet is placed on For those who want to venture into the kitchen cabinet mount and an adjust- higher priced digital units, portable roast- able clamp is built in the gizmo so that the er ovens and food warming units serve tablet is secured on it for easy viewing. as valued supplementary appliances for Automatic stainless steel grinders are newlyweds to use at home or away. The great little gadgets. Consumers who want portable roasters enable cooks to experi- to splurge can add a few packs of gour- ment with diverse preparation methods, met peppercorns and sea salts to the mix. such as bake, slow cook, roast or steam. Anyone fed up with shaking their wrist to In addition, it’s possible to please but extract but a few grains will appreciate the spend a modest amount. Consider a man- battery-powered grinders. With a gentle dolin cutter that shapes fruits and vege- click, hosts and guests can season a salad tables in different circular sizes. Other or side dish. Make sure to check in case choices include knife sharpeners and the grinders don’t come with batteries. If cheese-slicers among other innovative so, pick up 4-AA-sized batteries to perfect gadgets on the market. n THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M NOVEMBER 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B19

SPONSORED CONTENT Canada’s oldest established synagogue still thrives

Lawee Hall is a popular reception venue. PHOTO COURTESY OF THE SPANISH AND PORTUGUESE SYNAGOGUE

ELAINE COHEN monogrammed cutlery, fine china and SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR stemware. For a modest fee, the syna- gogue provides full co-ordination servi- he Spanish and Portuguese Syna- ces, complemented with support. gogue epitomizes Montreal’s rich The magnificent Mashaal sanctuary TJewish heritage. Canada’s oldest es- seats 520 and is enhanced with Jerusa- tablished synagogue dates back to 1768. lem stone and an extraordinary back Traces of the congregation’s roots are re- wall, which surrounds the Ark and can be vealed in the Iny Chapel, which houses illuminated in colourful hues. The syna- a treasured ark originally located in the gogue’s prayer hall, the Mashaal Sanctu- building on St. James Street. The synagogue ary, was redesigned with an elongated has relocated twice since and is currently aisle. situated at 4894 St. Kevin Avenue. Among event venues is the 4,660-square- This Sephardi congregation has con- foot Lawee Hall that includes a stage, a bar tinuously updated its facilities, services inside and outside the hall, and seating for and programs in keeping with tradition- 500 or 390 with dinner and dancing. The al Judaism to meet 21st-century needs. A quarters sparkle with a new chandelier. significant number of young families have The Aintabi Hall occupies 2,820-square- increased the flourishing membership feet and lends itself to receptions seating to over 800. They recognize the value of 80 to 200 guests. A stage and inside bar educational, spiritual and social resour- add to the allure of the venue. The Iny ces available for children and adults. Brit Chapel also serves as an intimate venue milahs, baby namings, bar/bat mitzvahs, for religious services. pre-nuptials, Shabbat dinners, religious The Chevra Shaas Hall is a choice spot services and programs contribute to the for bridal showers and engagement par- congregants’ quality of life. Daily services ties of up to 120 people. The room was are held mornings and evenings with a recently refurbished and fashioned with class in the beit hamidrash weekday mor- new curtains and lighting. The Battat Hall nings. An active women’s learning group is an inviting setting for conferences and plans timely programs. meetings for 90 and buffets for 70. Brides A young couple’s journey through mar- appreciate the comfortable furnishings in riage begins with their wedding. The syna- the synagogue’s bridal room. gogue offers brides and grooms a free one- Among members of the Spanish and year membership. Whether the couple Portuguese’s highly respected clergy are plan an intimate ceremony and a modest Rabbi Schachar Orenstein, Rabbi Eman- reception or a lavish celebration, they will uel White, Rabbi/Cantor Yehuda Abittan be pleased with the choice of venues. and Rabbi Emeritus Howard S. Joseph. “We offer a variety of all-inclusive Rabbi White is a spiritual leader in the packages from various Montreal kosher Chevra Shaas Congregation, also part of caterers designed to ensure events run the synagogue. n smoothly and flawlessly,” said a spokes- person on the event planning team. All For information, phone 514-737-3695 and wedding packages include table linens, visit the website at www.thespanish.org M THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS B20 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] NOVEMBER 5, 2015

Travel bug leads to nuptials

GILLIAN HESS other four-hour bus ride from Incheon SPECIAL TO THE CJN airport to Gwangju, a city 250 miles south of Seoul where I was heading back to get restless when I sense compla- teach. Just like last year I imagined the cency. I was 21 years old and it took a tedious bus ride to be full of Korean na- I seven-week European trip to help me tionals and me, being the solo foreigner, genuinely understand how much more which meant a bus ride of more playlists there was to experience outside of the on repeat. world I knew. I thought then, I had cured As I was dragging my luggage to the this itchy feeling to leave but found myself bus, I felt a light tap on my shoulder that constantly searching for reasons to trav- prompted me to remove my headphones el. Without this itch prior to graduating and see who required my attention. At the university, I wouldn’t have met the man I other end of the friendly tap was a tall, married four months ago. masculine, slim, young Brit, who kindly After a 15-hour flight I was dreading an- offered to place my suitcases in the bot-

Celebrate your special day at Shaare Zion Congregation tom storage compartment of the bus. As we were the only two non-Koreans about to board, we decided to sit together and chat about what brought us to the South. Four hours of conversation felt like four minutes of getting to know each other and We both seemed to be we had only just touched on our univer- in the same stage of sity years in both England and Canada before the bus pulled up to the terminal. our lives We soon came to realize how much we actually had in common. We were both raised in non-traditional Jewish house- holds, had bar/bat mitzvahs, admitted made for a visual explosion of beauty and our love for forbidden, un-kosher foods remoteness. Selfishly, it felt like we had and were passionate about travelling. We the world to ourselves. both seemed be in the same stage of our On our last day Adam planned a short lives – single, holding university degrees sunset hike up a mountain just behind Gorgeous sanctuary with no real, tangible plan. our hotel. We’re both not big trekkers but I had dated Jewish guys in the past but thought the view would be too wonderful Amazing clergy team thought the last place on Earth I’d find a to pass up. After about 90 minutes, we ar- Two beautiful social halls Jewish would be South Korea. rived at the top of the foothill as the sky So did my parents who were probably a turned lovely shades of pastels. Just as I Centrally located bit more worried about it than I was. gently collapsed on the peak trying to ab- Strictly Kosher (mk) It was March 2, 2011 when I met my fu- sorb this breathtaking view, the sight in ture , and together we enjoyed a front of me became even more unbeliev- Rabbi Lionel Moses, Cantor Adam Stotland, Reverend Asher Tannenbaum, Exec. Dir. David Moscovitch year of travelling Korea, visiting Taiwan for able. Adam was kneeling down, holding Musical Director Shimon Radu and the Shaare Zion Choir, full professional staff New Year’s and experiencing a new set of out a glistening diamond ring, shining as norms and culture as a couple. bright as the setting sun. Life, at that mo- After our year was up we decided to ment, was beautiful. move to England so Adam could complete When you decide to move away, turn- his teaching qualification while I found a ing life into a journey filled with uncer- job at an international IT company. As a tainty then it’s the unexpected which en- Canadian, I was granted a two-year work- ables you to learn, adapt and grow. Lots ing visa, and we made the best out of the of people have told me how brave I am – time we had on this small, overpopulated that they too would move abroad if they Contact David Moscovitch 514.481.7727 x 227 island. weren’t so scared. Of course I was scared, In October 2013 we decided to travel to but I now know that courage makes up [email protected] Iceland for one week. It was winter, I was only about 15 per cent of life-changing www.shaarezion.org missing the snow and Adam was craving decisions. The other 85 per cent is simply an adventure. We rented a car in Reykja- about wanting it with all your heart. In my vik and drove up the east coast, passing case it was my fear of complacency, the massive waterfalls, frozen lagoons and sure knowledge in my head that there was spotting about five vehicles in five hours. more to this world than my small circle The breathtaking landscape, snow- that drove me forward. I’m so glad I fol- capped volcanos and bubbling geysers lowed both my heart and my head. n THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS M NOVEMBER 5, 2015 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] B21

Millennials meet in various ways

ELAINE COHEN Despite praising the advances in digital SUPPLEMENTS CO-ORDINATOR technology and social media, she cautions prudence before tapping into insecure nternet and digital technology have areas. While many people are serious provided additional modes of about meeting their future , others Ifor singles, but traditional means still seek a string of casual dates or one-night prevail. No doubt, Sholom Aleichem’s stands. model of Yenta the Matchmaker has Schipper favours a more personal ap- been rebranded, but don’t discount the proach. After people call her, she meets modern matchmaker’s worth. Similarly, them at a public place, studies their per- networking through school, synagogue, sona and discovers the type of person they volunteer activities, family and friends want to meet. Subsequently, she matches continues to reap results. two people and liaises a meeting at a pub- As Rabbi Shlomo Yuffee explains on lic place. She phones them to check how Chabad.org, there is a lot to gain from a it worked out. Each party’s consent is ne- perceptive matchmaker who studies and cessary before initiating further communi- understands an individual’s personality, cation. family background, and makes the ar- Sometimes they have complaints that rangements. It beats random meetings, he can be resolved, she explains. In one in- says. stance, two young professionals were Jaclyn (nee Kenigsberg) Schipper, a lo- eager to meet again but the man had to be cal matchmaker, believes patience and prompted not to let several days elapse be- prudence pay off when seeking your fore phoning as promised. bashert. “It took me 10 years to find Mr. “I think it’s important to be proactive Right and I also learned through the ex- and meet face to face, rather than judging perience of my mother,” she says. “My people by online photos,” she says, point- father died when I was young but my ing to local community events and whole- mother found happiness again 5 ½ years some social activities that are well organ- later. She met my fabulous stepfather at a ized and open to the public. Jewish singles event. At the time, he was a Besides the Jewish Singles and a host of divorcee with four children.” other popular online sites, concepts such Members of the family made sacrifices as Cheryl Besner’s creation Solo in the City Fine watches and jewels since 1946 and it worked. Although his children resid- serve as viable routes. Besner promotes net- ed with their mother in New York City, they working through her interactive website. came to visit often and everyone got along. Other recent self-help books and online His family was shomer Shabbat and so my commentaries on the subject are Not your mother became observant.” Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating Schipper was 29, when she met educa- by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider; au- tor David Schipper 11 years ago at a syna- thor Alix Strauss’ Have I Got a Guy For You gogue event. The couple and Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic’s The wed a few years later, and now have two Tinder Effect: Psychology and Dating in children, ages 6 ½ and 2 ½. Jaclyn holds the Technosexual Era. A professor of busi- a bachelor’s degree in psychology and has ness psychology at University College always enjoyed interacting with the com- London, Chamorro-Premuzic states dat- Advertiser: Lou Goldberg Jeweller Publication: Canadian Jewish News Edition: montreal - wedding march 2015 munity. She gained a keen perspective on ing has become sexualized by technology. spousal loss while working in an oncology Nevertheless, he points out, that although unit. She also encounters friends her age the prevalence of dating apps helps make 514.935.4612 • 1-866-935-4612 seeking mates. dating more efficient, it doesn’t necessar- 1215, avenue Greene, Westmount, H3Z 2A4 • lougoldberg.com “Today, people get caught up with work ily lead to successful long-term relation- and a lot of time is spent online,” she says. ships. n M THE CANADIAN JEWISH NEWS B22 [ WEDDINGS ETC... ] NOVEMBER 5, 2015

Give the gift brides want

NEWS CANADA straight from cooking to presentation, all in one dish. etting ready to say “I do?” Of all A high-performance blender is a must- the tasks in preparation for your have. Choose one that can help with every G big day, one of the most excit- meal of the day, such as the Vitamix S55. ing is creating your wedding registry. It’s With a smaller footprint than convention- a chance to choose everything for your al blenders, this powerful machine offers home. Be sure to add items in a wide price the convenience of four pre-programmed range so guests can decide how much they settings and two containers, including want to spend, while getting something a blend-and-go beverage cup. Use it to you and your new spouse really want. make breakfast smoothies, salad dressing Dream big – take this opportunity to ask for lunch, soup for dinner, and dips and for premium gifts as well. drinks for entertaining. Pots and pans are a registry staple, but A grill can help set the scene for backyard don’t forget specialty cookware and bake- gatherings. Decide if you prefer gas, which ware, such as a roasting pan, rectangular offers easy operation and clean-up, or baker or covered baking dish. Choosing charcoal, which many barbecue connois- oven-to-table pieces makes it easy to go seurs say provides a more intense, grilled

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