The Day of Yourchasunah

The Day of YourChasunah

. Schedule, Honors, Checklists and Contacts ,

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. Wedding Schedule ,

�� Mikvah for Chosson �� Chosson’s Tish �� Shkiah �� Speeches

�� Pictures: Kallah �� Mincha/Maariv �� Yichud �� Second Dance

�� Pictures: Chosson �� Tenaim �� Pictures �� Dessert �� Pre-Reception �� Kesuba �� First Course �� Mezinka Family Pictures

�� Kabalas Panim �� Badeken �� First Dance �� Bentching

�� hors D’oeuvres �� Chuppah �� Main Course �� Sheva Brachos

National Numbers: Zmanim Hotline: 718-331-8463 Directory Assistance for Traffic, Weather, Airports,T ransportation, EZ Pass and More (available in MD, VA, WV, NY, NJ & CA): 511 USA Emergency Assistance Directory for Hatzalah, Shomrim & Chaverim, and Pre-Shabbos Emergency Travel Assistance: 718-705-5000

The Chesed Fund Limited is dedicated in memory of Mordechai & Rebecca Kapiloffvwwg , Dr. Bernard Kapiloffvwwg and Rabbi Norman & Louise Gerstenfeld vwwg

Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 2 The Day of Your CHASUNAH . Important Wedding Contacts: , Names, Numbers & Emails

Name Number Email Name Number Email

Chosson ______Preparer of Kesuba______

Chosson’s Father ______Preparer of Tenaim______Chosson’s Mother ______Chuppah Vendor / Assembly ______Chosson’s Family ______

Kallah ______Wedding Planner ______

Kallah’s Father______Wedding Coordinator______

Kallah’s Mother______Shomer ______Kallah’s Family______Shomeres ______Shadchan______

Hall ______Witnesses for License______

Hall Manager______Witnesses for Kesuba______

Photographer______Chosson’s Teacher ______Videographer______Kallah’s Teacher______Band ______

Singer______Hair Dresser______

MC ______Makeup Artist ______

Caterer______Errand Helpers ______Hotel ______Babysitter(s)______Hotel Contact______

Bus Coordinator______Coat Check Co./Person______

Florist______Bus Company______

Security Guard______Valet/Parking Staff______

Chairs/Mechitza______Person picking up out-of-town guests______Mesader Kiddushin ______

Limo Driver______Kesuba Coordinator______

The Chesed Fund Limited is dedicated in memory of Mordechai & Rebecca Kapiloffvwwg , Dr. Bernard Kapiloffvwwg and Rabbi Norman & Louise Gerstenfeld vwwg Person Collecting Gifts/Possession Other______of Keys for Safe Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 3 The Day of Your CHASUNAH . Before The Wedding , o Make sure that the Eidim or Kallah to reach veil from back room is at the hall o Hire babysitters of Kallah’s head for Chosson to (witnesses) are NOT related to o Give photo/video staff the time, o Make sure there is gas in the car the Chosson and Kallah or to finish putting over Kallah’s face location, and what combinations o Chosson should check when the each other after Bedekin of people are to be photographed o latest Minyan for Shacharis is the o Determine with the Mesader Check spelling of names for o If wedding will be streamed Kesuba and have the Mesader morning after the Chasunah Kiddushin if he wants the online, make sure that people are kiddushin review and approve the o Designate someone to answer Chuppah to be before Shkiah aware of the website and test the text prior to the Chasunah (sunset) or just the Badeken and system in advance calls from out-of-town friends and who will escort the Chosson and o Appoint a Shomer/Shomeres relatives who couldn’t attend the o Hire coat room staff and get Kallah down the aisle Chasunah o Arrange breakfast for Chosson and hangers and number tags o Determine if the Chuppah will be Kallah for the day after the wedding o Make sure people with food o Find out if fire is allowed in hall under the sky or inside, ceremony. o allergies or handicaps are Designate someone to stand at for wedding shtick If there is a ceiling hatch above the Chuppah to direct the people accommodated o Find out if Rabbi allows use of the Chuppah, make sure that it is in the procession where to sit o Save parking spaces for elderly/ microphone for Brachos under opened before the ceremony o Appoint a Shomer/Shomeres for Chashuvim o the Chuppah Have the person singing Mi Von the day of the Chasunah o Have direction signs to Chuppah, Siach and Boruch HaBah under o If the wedding is out of the o Confirm appointments/locations easel with schedule of events/ the Chuppah arrange with the country, make sure everyone has for all vendors: hair, makeup, nails, explanations of Jewish Chasuna band which tunes he will sing and passports and visas etc. Make sure makeup artist uses terms, Chosson’s tish, Badeken to what tempo o Confirm with florist where waterproof mascara and eyeliner, etc. o Have someone stand by the etc. the flowers should go after the o Message board/guest book for Chuppah to receive the lit candles o Confirm music selections with wedding (i.e., house, hospital) guests and markers from the hands of the parents, band for dancing and breaks, and o Arrange for ushers to escort and to set them aside names of Chosson and Kallah to guests to their seats o Confirm limo and hotel reservation and get directions o Make sure Yichud room gift is introduce them at first dance o Arrange powder baskets for the placed in the Yichud room before o Check weather conditions to women’s bathrooms o Inform the caterer/florist how Chasuna determine indoor/outdoor o For safety and security reasons, many chairs to set up by the o Write in Kibbudim for the Chuppah/rain gear, if needed decorate only the inside of the Badeken and if there is a platform, Chuppah, Bentching and Sheva o Save a copy of that day’s local Chosson/Kallah’s car and make make sure there is a way to get Brachos and discuss which side newspaper, Shul bulletin, etc., as a sure no decorations are put on up and down gets which Kibbudim keepsake the car that obstruct visibility or o Make sure wine under the o Arrange for mother of Chosson o Find out where the changing safe driving Chuppah is Mevushal Items to Bring to the Hall o Bring this checklist o List of combinations of people o Bentchers o Car keys o Place cards to be photographed, in case o Cell phones, chargers, camera, o House/apartment keys photographer forgets it o Seating charts video camera (remember to bring o Clothing to change into after (order by name and table) o Crown & broom if last child to home too!) wedding be wed o Pharmacy items/medications/first o Toys to occupy kids in wedding o Money for the Badchan after each aid kit o Snacks for early out-of-town party dance guests o Siddurim for Mincha/Maariv o Arches and shtick o Bring wedding program o Earplugs for guests (place in o List of music for band o Checkbook/cash for vendors o Bring poems/Grammen central location for easy access) o Yarmulkas, doilies o Tzedakah o Fancy and regular Kesuba Toiletries/Supplies/Accessories to Bring to Chasuna o Needle and thread, extra buttons o Deodorant/perfume/cologne o Mirror o Tylenol or Advil o Small scissors o Powder room Basket for o Chapstick o Batteries o First aid kit/bandaids Ladies room o Hand cream o Sheitel box o Stain/bleach stick o Undergarments o Baby wipes o Bobby pins/clips for Chosson’s o Bobby pins and safety pins o Makeup remover o Tissues, Q-tips Yarmulka for dancing o Hair iron/blow dryer o Toothbrush and toothpaste o Tape o Corkscrew to open the bottle of wine under the o Brush/comb/hair spray o Ladies room basket o Nail clipper, nail file Chuppah Preparations for the Chuppah o Tenaim (2 copies) o List of people to Daven for o Marriage license/marriage o Portable microphone for Tish o Handkerchief/tissues o Ceramic plate to be broken & certificate (2 copies) Room Prenuptial agreement (if o Make sure there is enough chairs napkin (plus a back-up hammer o Bag for Kallah’s jewelry before applicable) by the Badeken or brick to break it) Chuppah, to be handed to a friend o Bouquets and lapel flowers

Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 4 The Day of Your CHASUNAH Items to Bring to the Chuppah o Wedding ring/pillow for ring o Candles, holders, and matches/ o Designate someone to give out o List of wedding procession bearer lighter for parents mints or candies o Large umbrella for inclement o Kesuba and pens (plus an extra o White wine or white grape juice o Flashlight to read Kesuba weather copy) (mevushal), corkscrew (if needed) o Kittel, Tallis o Siddur or card o Thin glass in handkerchief for o Flower petals and baskets for o Besomim o Kiddush cups (2) breaking flower girls o Program Booklet/Tefilos/Tehillim o List of Kibuddim given to o Have someone meet girls by the for guests and appoint someone coordinator end, seat them and collect their to distribute them/place on chairs o Small table for under Chuppah baskets Things to Remember For the Chosson For the Kallah

o Mikvah o Mikvah o Siddur with Viduy for Yom Kippur o Siddur with Viduy for Yom Kippur o Chosson fasts, davens Mincha with Viduy o Kallah fasts, davens Mincha with Viduy o Gift for Kallah, if applicable o Gift for Chosson, if applicable o Purchase and bring sefer, “Yom HaChuppah L’Chosson” to Chasuna o Tehillim and Tefillos for Kallah and names to Daven for o Shoes and socks o Wedding dress, veil, stockings, shoes, crinoline, foundation o Hat o Jewelry, watch o Tzitzis o Shaitel, Shaitel box, tichel/Snood and ponytail holder to put hair up o Tuxedo/suspenders/bow tie o Overnight bag, toiletries and camera o Dancing shoes and/or sneakers, if applicable o Makeup, makeup remover, perfume o Extra suit, shirt and tie o Dancing shoes and/or sneakers, if applicable o Overnight bag, shaver, toiletries, phone and charger and camera o Spare pair of glasses/contacts/lens solution o Spare pair of glasses/contacts/lens solution o Purse with cash, credit cards o EZ Pass if traveling out of town, car/car keys/house keys/combination o Car and house keys, if applicable o Cuff links, watch o Medications, if applicable o Wallet with cash, credit cards o Coat, raincoat (if seasonal) o Phone and charger/ phone number of Rabbi o Use the ladies room before getting into wedding dress o Medications, if applicable o Blow dryer, iron, bobby pins, hair spray o Review Harei At Mikudeshes; remember to say it before putting on the ring o on the Kallah’s finger, be careful when stomping on the glass Make sure Kallah knows: Circle counter-clockwise around Chosson; which direction to face for Chuppah; o Kittel, overcoat, if applicable Chosson will place ring on her right index finger o Chosson’s Tallis for under Chuppah, if applicable o Arrange to have relative from Chosson’s side send in o Pack Tefillin/Siddur/Tallis/Sefarim important relatives, one at a time for Kallah to dance with Toiletries/Supplies/Accessories to Bring to Chasuna o Directions to where they are staying overnight, and confirmation during first dance of reservation and/or payment o Phone and charger/phone number of Rabbi o Sheva Brachos clothes o Sheva Brachos clothes . Wedding Day , Pre-Tish o Reserve seats at the Tish for o Verify that those with Kibuddim o Remind Kallah’s father, Designate that person to collect grandparents, Rabbonim, etc. or their backups are present grandfathers, etc. to give her wedding checks and cash gifts in the front o Be sure you know who has the Brachos during Badeken and place in safe. Designate o Confirm there will be food and plate to be broken and designate o Be careful the flowers don’t stain another person to collect gifts drink that the Chosson and Kallah person to collect and distribute Kallah’s dress because they were and place in the Yichud Room. like in the Yichud room broken plate pieces wet/just taken out of their water Designate person to take home the monetary gifts and wedding o Test the microphone o Secure valuables left in all rooms o Find out if hall has safe deposit presents. Make sure keys for the box and that keys/combination is o Verify that those with Kibuddim o Designate someone to hold cell safe are given back to hall after given to the right person or their backups are present phone for day Chasuna Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 5 The Day of Your CHASUNAH Before the Chuppah Wedding Honors o Reserve seats at the Chuppah for o Verify that all Rabbi(s), Mesader o Make sure any “Im Eshkachech” o Make sure that everyone who is grandparents, honorees, those Kiddushin, approved witnesses singers are near the Chuppah, speaking or giving a Bracha under with Kibbudim and those who and Chuppah Coordinator are that their microphone is working, the Chuppah is up front and ready require special accommodations present and accessible before the and that they know how to turn o Remove jewelry, untie all knots, o Be sure you know who has the ceremony it on shoelaces, neck tie and bow Kesuba, ring, glass, etc. o Test the microphone(s), and make o Verify that the Rabbi(s) and the (if applicable) o Verify that those with Kibuddim sure that it is turned on as the Mesader Kiddushin approved the o Make sure Yarmulkas are or their backups are present ceremony begins witnesses accessible for guests o Yom Kippur Bracha from parents o Designate person to put glass o Determine which way all parties under Chosson’s foot while not should be facing under the blocking photo/video Chuppah During the Chuppah o Remind guests to TURN OFF o Remind couple to turn around for o Designate someone to keep o Kallah should have access to cell phones, refrain from speaking photographer to take shot with count of how many times the Kesuba – she can leave it with during Chuppah, to be seated so crowd Kallah circles the Chosson someone/safety deposit box as not to block the view of others o Collect candles in glass holders (counter-clockwise) but needs to have some way of o Ask mother of Chosson to stand upon Chuppah arrival o Pillow for ring bearer; basket and accessing it on the left, and mother of the o Have someone help the Chosson petals for flower girl(s) o Wedding ring Kallah on the right when circling into his Kittel (if applicable) o Remind Kallah to have the ring o Help older/disabled people up placed on her right index finger steps and then when comfortable, move it to her left ring finger After Chuppah/Yichud o Remind Chosson and Kallah to o Ensure that someone helps o If dinner music is to be played o Broken glass, candles and kiss/greet grandparents on way elderly relatives and guests to during band break, remind the any other items left after the down from Chuppah their seats by the meal band to set it up Chuppah ceremony o Arrange for someone to hold the o Make sure Yichud Room Shomrim o Check that music sound level o Kallah puts on Shaitel if that’s the elevators if necessary check the room before the is appropriate Minhag o Collect and keep broken glass (if Chosson and Kallah arrive o Remind family where and when o Other ______applicable) o Collect and return jewelry to to go for pictures o Make sure someone reliable has Kallah o Arrange for someone to the kesuba and ensures that it is o Knock on Yichud Room door the Kittel, Kiddush cups, Siddur/ given to the Chosson and Kallah when Halachic time is satisfied Bentchers, Tehillim Booklets before they leave o Redo/fix Kallah’s makeup . Tasks , Family and Guests Needs: o Directions to and from hall from o Directions to local eateries o Directions to local Shuls, and their hosts’ homes or hotels o Local map/GPS Minyan times o Phone numbers of those they can call for other local information . After Simchah , o Determine how to pour cups of o Gratuities to appropriate o USB o Take from the hall: Glass from wine for bentching people o EZ Pass for the car under the Chuppah, plate, flowers for Sheva Brachos, any valuables, o Remember to pay and thank o Arrange for leftovers to be o Arrange for food to be i.e. Kiddush cups, Keepsakes, Shadchan packed up and given to those packed up for Chosson pictures, signs people gave you, o Arrange for someone to take in need and Kallah, as well as directions and phone numbers to home wedding dress, gifts, lost o Make sure Kallah knows for breakfast local Shuls and Bentchers and found items where her Kesuba is o Take home Liquor, if brought

Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 6 The Day of Your CHASUNAH Wedding Honors

. Tenaim , Name Title & Position

Reading the Tenaim______

Eidei Tenaim (2)______

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Eidei Kesuba (2)______

______. Chuppah , Name Title & Position

Misader Kiddushin/Rabbi______

Announcer/Introducer ______

Chuppah Pole Holders (4, if needed)______

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Chosson’s Procession______

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Chosson’s Baruch Haba/Mi Adir Singer(s)______

ut and use this list during the wedding the during list this use and c ut Coordinator: ______

. Tasks , Flower Girls______Kallah’s Procession Brucha Habaa/Mi Von Siach______

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Eidei Kiddushin (2)______. After Simchah , ______Name Title & Position

Reading of Kesuba ______

Speaker______

______הגפן Sheva Bracha #1 Hagafen

______*שהכל ברא Shehakol Bara #2

Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 7 The Day of Your CHASUNAH Wedding Honors

______יוצר האדם Yotzer Ha’adam #3

______אשר יצר Asher Yatzar #4

______שוש תשיש Sos Tasis #5

______שמח תשמח Sameach Tesamach #6

______אשר ברא Asher Bara #7

Optional, depending on Minhag:

______אם אשכחך (Im Eshkachech Singer(s #8

______שיר המעלות (Shir Hama’alos (if applicable #9

. Post Chuppah ,

Eidei Yichud (2)______

. Meal/Bentching ,

Hamotzi______

Family Speeches______

Lead Bentching (Same Person as Bracha 7)______

Toast ______

Sheva Brachos Coordinator (Passes cup to those honored)______

______שהכל ברא Bracha #1: Shehakol Bara

:wedding the during list this use and c ut Coordinator ______יוצר האדם Bracha #2: Yotzer Ha’adam

______אשר יצר Bracha #3: Asher Yatzar

______שוש תשיש Bracha #4: Sos Tasis

______שמח תשמח Bracha #5: Sameach Tesamach

______אשר ברא Bracha #6: Asher Bara

______(Same Person as Bentching) הגפן Bracha #7: Borei Pri Hagafen Be sure to thank the parents, in-laws, grandparents, relatives, out of town/country guests, Rabbis, schools, Roshei Yeshiva, close friends, vendors, wedding coordinator, Shadchan, Mesader Kidushin, etc. for being an important part of the Simcha! . Thank You ,

*Some (mainly in Israel) have the Minhag to have the first honoree recite the first 2 Brachos, Hagafen and Shehakol Bara. Chesed Fund/Project Ezra Presents: 8 The Day of Your CHASUNAH