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Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting | Psychology Today 25.05.12 09:27 Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting | Psychology Today 25.05.12 09:27 It takes a personal relationship with a supervisor to supersede bad habits or biases at work. Steve M. Cohen, Ed.D., C.M.C Home Find a Therapist Topic Streams Get Help Magazine Tests Psych Basics Experts Co-Parenting After Divorce Next Post Rising to the challenge. Co-Parenting and High Conflict by Edward Kruk, Ph.D. Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting What the Latest Research is Saying about the Best Interests of Children Subscribe to Co-Parenting After Divorce Published on April 16, 2012 by Edward Kruk, Ph.D. in Co-Parenting After Divorce Subscribe via RSS I have long maintained that a more child-focused approach to resolving parenting disputes after separation and divorce is needed to reduce harm to children and ensure their well-being. Usually, when Edward Kruk, Ph.D., is Associate Professor of Social Work at the parents cannot agree on parenting matters, they take their case to a judge for a resolution. The court University of British Columbia, then applies a "best interests of the child" standard in its decision-making in regard to kids’ future living specializing in child and family policy. arrangements. The problem is, however, that this standard is extremely vague and indeterminate, more... based on projective speculation about which parent might in future be the “better” parent, and thus subject to judicial bias and error. Judges not trained in child development and family dynamics are given unfettered discretion, and this results in unpredictable outcomes based on idiosyncratic biases and subjective value judgments. Related Articles Are Computer Games Our current system of resolving child custody disputes rarely considers Making Children either children’s needs from children’s own perspective, or current Stupid? research on child custody outcomes. What is needed is a new standard, a Kids Here and Now "Dad, Mom, MUST "best interests of the child from the perspective of the child" standard, and You Drink That Wine an approach to child custody determination that is built on a strong to Feel Good?" foundation of empirical research. Mirror Mirror on the Wall: Who’s the Best Mom of Them All? Stop Forcing My Daughter To Eat! My recent article in the American Journal of Family Therapy, "Arguments for an Equal Parental Responsibility Presumption in Contested Child Custody," outlines sixteen distinct arguments in support of a shared Co-Parenting After Divorce parental responsibility presumption in contested child custody, which are Recent Posts Find a Therapist presented from a child-focused perspective, with clinical and empirical Search for a mental evidence in support of each argument contrasted to the conflicting The Vital Importance of Paternal health professional evidence. The shared parental responsibility alternative addresses the Presence in Children’s Lives near you. problems associated with judicial bias and error. The sixteen arguments City or Zip are as follows: Separating Former Marital Disputes from Ongoing Parenting Responsibilities 1. Shared parenting preserves children’s relationships with both parents What the Latest Research is Saying about the Best Interests of Children More of Co-Parenting After Divorce blog 2. Shared parenting preserves parents’ relationships with their children Find Local: Most Popular Acupuncturists Chiropractors Most Read Most Emailed Massage Therapists 3. Shared parenting decreases parental conflict and prevents family Dentists violence 1 How We Are Judged by Our Voice and more! in Dating and the Workplace by Leonard Mlodinow City or Zip 4. Shared parenting reflects children’s preferences and views about their 2 Authentic and Eudaimonic http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201204/sixteen-arguments-in-support-shared-parenting Side 1 av 3 Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting | Psychology Today 25.05.12 09:27 needs and best interests by Karen Wright 3 Dreams: Night School by Jay Dixit 5. Shared parenting reflects parents’ preferences and views about their 4 The High Art of Handling Problem children’s needs and best interests People by Hara Estroff Marano 5 Doing More Time in School: A 6. Shared parenting reflects child caregiving arrangements before divorce Cruel Non-Solution to Our Educational Problems by Peter Gray 7. Shared parenting enhances the quality of parent-child relationships Your Emotional Type 8. Shared parenting decreases parental focus on “mathematizing time” and Michael A. Jawer and Marc S. Micozzi, M.D., Ph.D. reduces litigation Identifies the connections between emotional type and chronic ailments to help determine the therapies that will work best for you. Read more 9. Shared parenting provides an incentive for inter-parental negotiation, mediation and the development of parenting plans Anxiety Free A comprehensive formula with herbs and nutrients clinically proven to increase feelings of well-being. Read more 10. 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A rebuttable legal presumption of shared parenting responsibility is empirically supported Many of these findings run counter to now-outdated research and prevailing practice wisdom in the field of divorce. However, there is an emergent consensus within the divorce research community that in the great majority of contested cases of child custody, where family violence is not a factor, children's needs and interests are best served by preserving meaningful relationships with both of their parents. Children need and want both parents in their lives, beyond the constraints of "visitation" relationships and "primary caregiver" arrangements. Shared parenting is a viable and desirable alternative in this regard, and “in the best interests of the child from the perspective of the child.” http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201204/sixteen-arguments-in-support-shared-parenting Side 2 av 3 Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting | Psychology Today 25.05.12 09:27 StumbleUpon1 Like 100 Tweet 17 Subscribe to Psychology Today now and get a free issue! 4 Reader comments join the discussion here! Tags: biases, child development, current research, current system, empirical evidence, empirical research, family dynamics, parental responsibility, parenting children, presumption, recent article, separation and divorce, strong foundation, value judgments Follow Psychology Today: Twitter FaceBook About/Contact Therapy Directory Index Privacy Policy Healthprofs Index © Copyright 1991-2012 © Copyright 2002-2012 Sussex Directories, Inc. 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