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The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page i Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head? 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page ii Also by Brett Kahr D. W. Winnicott: A Biographical Portrait (1996) Forensic Psychotherapy and Psychopathology: Winnicottian Perspectives (2001) Exhibitionism (2001) The Legacy of Winnicott: Essays on Infant and Child Mental Health (2002) 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page iii Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head? The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies BRETT KAHR A MEMBER OF THE PERSEUS BOOKS GROUP NEW YORK 0465037674-Kahr.qxd:Layout 1 11/3/08 4:59 PM Page iv Copyright © 2007, 2008 by Brett Kahr Hardcover first published in 2008 by Basic Books, A Member of the Perseus Books Group Paperback first published in 2009 by Basic Books All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. For infor- mation, address Basic Books, 387 Park Avenue South, New York, NY 10016-8810. Books published by Basic Books are available at special discounts for bulk pur- chases in the United States by corporations, institutions, and other organizations. For more information, please contact the Special Markets Department at the Perseus Books Group, 2300 Chestnut Street, Suite 200, Philadelphia, PA 19103, or call (800) 810-4145, ext. 5000, or e-mail [email protected]. Designed by Timm Bryson Set in 10.5 point Sabon The Library of Congress has catalogued the hardcover as follows: Kahr, Brett. Who’s been sleeping in your head? : the secret world of sexual fantasies / Brett Kahr. p. cm. Rev. ed. of: Sex and the psyche. Includes index. ISBN 978-0-465-03766-7 (alk. paper) 1. Sex (Psychology). 2. Sexual fantasies. I. Kahr, Brett. Sex and the psyche. II. Title. BF692.K27 2008 155.3'1—dc22 2007042050 Paperback: ISBN 978-0-465-03767-4 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page v Dedicated to Kim “Half a prayer, half a song” —nulli secundus. 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page vi What a man’s mind is, that is what he is. —SAMUEL PEPYS * I guess we all like to know other people’s secrets so that we can live with our own. —JONATHAN AMES, WAKE UP, SIR! 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page vii Contents A Note on Caution and Confidentiality xi Introduction On the Couch at 7:00 A.M. 1 PART ONE THE SECRET CINEMA IN OUR MINDS 1 Why We Make Love with the Lights Out 15 2 The Science of Psychological Fingerprints 25 3 The Intra-Marital Affair Staging Our Private Theater 69 PART TWO A CORNUCOPIA OF FANTASIES 4 Fantasy 101 Tales of Ordinary Explicitness 111 5 Group Formations Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes 123 6 Cheating When the Intra-Marital Meets the Extramarital 134 vii 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page viii viii Contents 7 I’m Ready for My Close-Up Fantasies of Celebrities 143 8 Is Your Wife a Lesbian? Is Your Husband Homosexual? Is Your Gay Lover Really Straight? 164 9 On Genital Exhibitionism 186 10 The Erotic Smorgasbord Fetishism, Transvestism, Homeovestism, and Other Forms of Object-Love 194 11 Humiliation and the Infliction of Shame 201 12 Incest Do We Really Fancy Our Family? 222 13 Can I Be Arrested for My Fantasies? Extreme Sexual Violence 242 14 Teenagers and Children 253 15 Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice 260 PART THREE THE ORIGINS OF SEXUAL FANTASY 16 The Underbelly of the Normal Fantasy Erotic Freedom or Sublimated Sadism? 269 17 “They’ve Scraped Out My Soul” Struggling with Shame and Humiliation 289 18 Case History Paris and the Ginger Pubic Hair 312 19 The Traumatic Roots of Sexual Fantasy 330 20 The Fourteen Functions of Sexual Fantasy 356 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page ix Contents ix 21 The Mysterious Boxing Gloves, Or, Can Fantasies Be Trauma-Free? 378 PART FOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES AND THE OUTSIDE WORLD 22 Do Fantasies Ruin Relationships? 399 23 Normality and Perversion in the Bedroom and the Boardroom 417 24 Sanctum Sanctorum, Or, Probing the Unprobable 430 Appendix: The Sexual Fantasy Research Questionnaire 453 Acknowledgments 477 Announcement: The Sexual Fantasy Research Project 484 Index 485 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page x This page intentionally left blank 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page xi A Note on Caution and Confidentiality He that cannot bear with other people’s passions, Cannot govern his own. —Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanack This book contains a great deal of extremely sexually explicit mate- rial—literally hundreds and hundreds of sexual fantasies. Some of the intimate fantasies reproduced in these pages may shock you; some may disgust you; some may leave you cold and anesthetized; some may in- voke a feeling of pity, contempt, or superiority; but some, if not many, of the fantasies may produce titillation or arousal. These fantasies derive from the inner recesses of the minds of nor- mal, ordinary British and American adults—men and women, aged eighteen to ninety-plus years old, randomly selected from every British county and every American state, from every social group, from every religious background, and from virtually every profession imaginable, ranging from doctors to dairymen, from bankers to businesswomen, from clerks to clerics, from the overworked to the unemployed. Al- though a very small proportion of the anonymous respondents in this study will have sought the services of mental health professionals in an outpatient setting from time to time, none suffers from an incapacitat- ing psychotic illness; therefore, these fantasies cannot be readily dis- missed as the rantings of the emotionally unwell. Every single one of the men and women whose fantasies appear in this book leads a rea- sonably healthy life. None of the participants resides in either a prison xi 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page xii xii A Note on Caution and Confidentiality or a psychiatric institution. All of the authors of these fantasies live, at liberty, in the community. None of these fantasies has ever appeared before in print. These original creations of the British and American mind have remained safely confined inside the heads of the participants in my large-scale re- search study up until now. In fact, hitherto, approximately 95 percent of the subjects had never revealed their sexual fantasies to another liv- ing soul, even to their long-term partners—marital or otherwise—or to their closest friends. Some of the participants in this research project submitted their fan- tasies in writing, while others spoke their fantasies into a mini-disc recording machine; these different methods of data collection account, in large measure, for the wide range of stylistic differences in the fan- tasies themselves. All of the fantasies appear in their original form; al- though, in the case of those women and men who submitted their fantasies in writing, I have corrected some spelling errors that might have detracted from the experience of reading; and likewise, I have from time to time inserted some judiciously placed commas and semi- colons, merely to facilitate the flow of the sentences. Otherwise, I have endeavored to preserve precisely the language used by the authors themselves. One notable change has been made to all the texts: I have altered the names and geographical locations of the contributors in the interests of confidentiality. The extremely frank and forthright sexual fantasies in this book appear with the express written permission of the British and American men and women who generated them. Each of the thousands and thousands of research participants signed an agreement, prepared by one or more specialist lawyers, which would allow me to publish their fantasies, providing that I did not reveal any biographical infor- mation that could readily or reasonably identify them. For instance, I would not be permitted to write: “This fantasy appears courtesy of Mrs. Jane Doe, a fifty-one-year-old accountant and mother of two who lives at 850 Broadway, Topeka, Kansas.” In a great many cases, I never knew the real names of the authors in the first place, particularly of those women and men who responded to a detailed, computer-administered questionnaire that guaranteed anonymity. As for those adults whom I interviewed face-to-face, many of these research participants may well have told me their real names when we first met, and in these instances, I have certainly altered their identities. I remain honor-bound to pre- 0465037667-Kahr 11/28/07 9:06 AM Page xiii A Note on Caution and Confidentiality xiii serve the confidentiality of those who shared their most intimate thoughts as part of a psychological research project, not only for rea- sons of clinical confidentiality, but also because at this time, we still treat sexual fantasies—especially private masturbatory fantasies—as a relatively taboo subject in our cultural discourse. Some of the partici- pants in my interview study may have elected to introduce themselves pseudonymously, giving a false name. As a Registered Psychotherapist practicing in Great Britain, I have spent many years in full-time clinical practice, and during this time, I have worked with a large number of individuals who have entrusted their most private stories to me. Patients or clients undergoing psy- chotherapy both demand and deserve complete confidentiality when they seek therapeutic assistance so that they can reveal the full extent of their often troubling histories without fear of reprisal or public ex- posure.
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