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fashion issue BRAISED CABBAGE AND APPLE • 8 oz. red cabbage • 1 apple, sliced • apple cider vinegar • lemon pepper • 1-2 packets or 6-8 drops Stevia In small saucepan, add cabbage and apple with enough water to allow to braise. Add vinegar, lemon pepper and Stevia to sweeten. Fold cabbage over repeatedly to cook evenly.

BECKY LOST 16 LBS “I have been unable to lose my belly fat I have acquired since turning 40, 9 years ago. I had changed my diet and started crossfit 3 times a week 3 years ago but nothing worked. My belly fat is now gone where I feel more comfortable. Working out is easier with 16 less pounds to lug around. I had also developed plantar fasciitis last November and it is now gone and I no longer have to take medication for it.”

MICHELLE LOST 17 LBS “I’ve noticed smaller body measurements and my clothes are now fitting me better. I am drinking more water and I no longer have bloating or gas. I feel better! The staff was very helpful when I had any questions or concerns.”

MELISSA LOST 18 LBS “I feel great! Plus the weight loss has put me back in normal size clothes. Everyone who sees me has had good comments about my appearance. I can’t wait to ass cardio back into my routine because of how great I feel. The staff has been great. They are super helpful and always positive. I would recommend MaxLife to anyone who feels old and crummy!”

2 www.herlifemagazine.com BRAISED CABBAGE AND APPLE • 8 oz. red cabbage • 1 apple, sliced • apple cider vinegar • lemon pepper • 1-2 packets or 6-8 drops Stevia In small saucepan, add cabbage and apple with enough water to allow to braise. Add vinegar, lemon pepper and Stevia to sweeten. Fold cabbage over repeatedly to cook evenly.

BECKY LOST 16 LBS “I have been unable to lose my belly fat I have acquired since turning 40, 9 years ago. I had changed my diet and started crossfit 3 times a week 3 years ago but nothing worked. My belly fat is now gone where I feel more comfortable. Working out is easier with 16 less pounds to lug around. I had also developed plantar fasciitis last November and it is now gone and I no longer have to take medication for it.”

MICHELLE LOST 17 LBS “I’ve noticed smaller body measurements and my clothes are now fitting me better. I am drinking more water and I no longer have bloating or gas. I feel better! The staff was very helpful when I had any questions or concerns.”

MELISSA LOST 18 LBS “I feel great! Plus the weight loss has put me back in normal size clothes. Everyone who sees me has had good comments about my appearance. I can’t wait to ass cardio back into my routine because of how great I feel. The staff has been great. They are super helpful and always positive. I would recommend MaxLife to anyone who feels old and crummy!”

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10 WELCOME / Note from the Publisher

14 FASHION BLOG / Be Prepared for Fashion Emergencies!

16 HIGHLIGHT / Household Toxins: Determining Your Body Burden

18 SCENE & BE SEEN / Supporting Kids Foundation Hearts of Gold

20 HIGHLIGHT / HighPointe Financial Group: Commitment to Clients and Community

24 HIGHLIGHT / KC Bridal Group: Resources to Plan the Perfect Wedding!

28 HEALTH / Stress Less with Tech this Season!

30 SPOTLIGHT / Dr. Levi Young: Practicing the Art of Cosmetic Surgery

32 SILVER LININGS / Great Gift Ideas for Seniors

34 BEAUTY / Hairstyles for the Holidays

INSPIRATIONS 42 36 ASK THE EXPERT / Always Look Your Best: Tips from a Wardrobe Stylist

38 SPOTLIGHT / Clothes Mentor: Save Time, Money and the Environment! Mikalah Morris: “You and your wardrobe will be knotted for life.” 46 WEATHERING LIFE’S LITTLE MOMENTS / Fashion Radar A degree from the Art Institute of San Francisco, a stint at Bloomingdales and the influence of her female forbears set 48 MOTHER’S PERSPECTIVE / Avoiding Conflict at the Holiday Table Mikalah Morris on the path to Knots & Pearls, where she helps clients create a cohesive look for their wardrobes, 50 CULINARY / Blood Sugar Control During the Whirlwind of Holiday Traditions homes and souls. Simplicity, courage and listening with intent are the hallmarks of her style. 52 CRAVINGS / Bo Lings: Authentic Food, Unmatched Ambiance

58 RECIPES / Gingerbread Scones and Brie and Jam Phyllo Bites

60 WINE / Toasting the Holidays!

62 BOOK REVIEW / Same Beach, Next Year by Dorothea Benton Frank

64 TRENDSETTER / Crews Jewelry

72 GREEN LIVING / It’s Easy to be Green if You Know These Simple Secrets

74 FINE THINGS / Lavish Holiday Dinners

76 WORKING WOMEN / Building a Working Wardrobe

78 FINANCE / Nine Tips to Help with Your Holiday Budget

80 58 80 HOME / Guarding Against Holiday Hazards

82 REAL ESTATE / Marketing Real Estate in 3D

84 PETS / The Top Five Pet Charities

86 TRAVEL / Today’s Timeshare Outlook

88 JUST SAYIN’ / Jenny Matthews

90 TIE THE KNOT / Seema Amin and Deval Patel

92 HELPING HANDS / Clothed in Confidence: Foundation4 Domestic Violence Prevention

94 IN THE CITY / Calendar of Events

82 96 HOROSCOPE / November Horoscope

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY AMBER J DEERY

Own It!

o you ever get dressed and ask yourself tone for the day. often than not, but I got sick of coming home if what you are wearing is out of style or What does mindset have to do with fash- and having to hang up that pile of clothes. I Ddated? I do! I often question if I paired ion and getting dressed every day? Everything! know that what just walked down the runway the right pieces together or if something looks Fashion and trends are always changing, and is not going to look like that on me. I try to right or good. I have a Pinterest board that I they definitely are not one size fits all. I like wear my clothes and not let them wear me. I go to with a lot of looks pulled together from to find a few new trendy pieces each season try not to look at myself in the mirror for too my closet, thanks to Abby Wood, but it does that I really like and incorporate them into long and analyze what I’m wearing and how not account for what I wear every single day of my wardrobe. Who doesn’t like to wear some- I look. The longer I do, the more my mindset the week, let alone a month or more. The days thing new that you feel good in? It creates the shifts, which isn’t good for me or anyone who when I’m on my own, I may or may not look mindset of feeling put together and a sense of has to work with me that day either! fashion forward or put together, but I have power that carries throughout the day. I know Look in the mirror, stand tall, feel good learned the truth of fashion. It all boils down when I have time to actually “get ready” in the in your own clothes and others can sense it. It to your mindset. morning, I am more productive and achieve a isn’t about how much you shop or how much Most of us, if not all of us, find ourselves lot more because I feel better about myself. My you spend. It’s about setting your mind to consumed with the hustle and bustle of our mindset has paved the way for the day. wear your fashion and owning it. everyday lives. Let’s face it; there will never be I am very honest in that I don’t always more than 24 hours in a day. How do I know have time to wash my hair, style it, put on Cherish it, this? I’ve tried to add hours over and over and makeup, and pick out clothes that I like before it hasn’t worked, so I’m giving up and accept- I’m out the door each morning. In truth, we’ve ing that the days won’t ever get any longer. all left our house with a pile of clothes left However, one thing I can control is my mind- behind in our closet because we couldn’t find TAMMY CRYSTAL McDONALD set; how I perceive myself and feel sets the something to wear. That used to be me more

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PUBLISHER Tammy McDonald

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OFFICE MANAGER Patsy Crystal

ART DIRECTOR Elana Bell

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CONTRIBUTING AUTHORS Bellyfull.net, Melody Bussey, Ann E. Butenas, Lisa Taranto Butler, Meg Dieter, Wlaa Elashkar, Stephanie Fox, Marilyn Isaminger, Melissa Haines Lavin, Erin Little, Joelle Malinowski RD, CDN, CDE, Jenny Matthews, Cindy McDermott, Erin Jones McIntosh, Linda R. Price, Tina V. Savas, Catie Watson, Abby Wood

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Bellyfull.net, Sander Cha, Amber J. Deery, Allyson Imhoff, Mojica Photography, Sara Pritchett, Lauren Frisch Pusateri, Colleen Ring, Clayton White

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Be Prepared for Fashion Emergencies!

WRITTEN BY ABBY WOOD

he holidays are right around the corner Deodorant-Removing Sponges Static Guard and you know what that means; it’s I first discovered these sponges back There isn’t anything worse than that holiday party season! If your life is in my lingerie department days. Nordstrom pesky static in the winter. With the midi anything like mine, this can be the busiest carried a pink sponge that made all deodor- length dress trending this season, don’t be Ttime of the year with events and get- ant smudges magically disappear. I will never caught with the lining of your dress clinging to togethers. Sometimes I am running from one forget the day my co-worker showed it to me. your tights! Carry a small travel-size version place to the next to celebrate, which doesn’t My mind was blown. I haven’t left the house of static guard with you at all times. You can leave a lot of time to get ready or freshen up without one since. Every girl needs these. The find it in the mini travel toiletries area of your my look. After getting caught in the car a few next time you are caught with white deodorant local Target. times with wardrobe mishaps, I decided to marks on your beautiful black lace top, you are build my own fashion emergency kit. Follow going to thank me! Petals, Low Beams or Pasties along to learn how to build your own! Whatever cheeky word you find, they all

Abby Wood is a wardrobe stylist and style blogger in Kansas City, and her education in design plus retail experience make her an expert in fit, fabric, style and trends. Her professional experience in fashion began with an apprenticeship with a bridal designer, shifted to creating and showing her own line, moving up to management and training at a retail level and now professional styling as an independent consultant. Abby loves to help individuals develop and evolve their own sense of style. facebook.com/abbywoodwear / @abbywoodwear / abbywoodwear.com

14 www.herlifemagazine.com mean the same thing: nipple covers. Some- times you just need a little bit more “cover- age” and these are the answer. They come in many different shapes, sizes and material. Some are reusable and some are disposable after one use.

Shout Wipes and Tide To-Go Pen Nobody is perfect and spills do happen. If you are like me and wearing something white, it’s inevitable that you will spill on yourself. These wipes and handy-dandy pen could save you a lot of embarrassment and a forever stain on your favorite top!

Mini Sewing Kit Seems easy enough, but you would be surprised at how many times I have had to sew up a hem, sew on a button or re-attach a hook and eye for a friend at a party. I mean, maybe the reason I am always fixing things is because they know I have a sewing kit too. Either way, it’s an easy way to fix something the right way instead of MacGyvering your dress with what- ever small hair accessory you can find only to be fixing and re-fixing it for the entire night.

Fashion Tape This tape can prevent an oops or a slip from a non-modest garment, can quickly fix the hem of a pant or dress that has fallen, or my personal favorite, can be placed on your bra strap and attached to your sleeveless gar- ment to prevent bra straps from showing! La- dies, nobody needs to see your bra straps.

Wrinkle Release Spray My biggest pet peeve is wrinkles! More and more I am seeing people wearing clothing that looks both new and also like it was just pulled out of the hamper at the same time. If you want to look somewhat polished, please take the time to steam or press your clothing before wearing it in public. If it is something that wrinkles easily, make sure you have a bottle of wrinkle release spray to at least relax the wrinkles.

Lint Roller My second pet peeve is when people wear clothing with lint or pet hair all over. Take a second and “roll” your look. It could make the difference between your look being a 2 and a 10! ■

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HOUSEHOLD TOXINS Determining Your Body Burden

re you aware that each American is has 700 toxins in their home that are nega- that is bad, but the simple fact is that fat is exposed to over 70,000 different tox- tively impacting their health. an important part of our body. Cholesterol, Ains per day? An important term to understand when a fat, is the backbone of almost every hor- If you’re not, let me inform you that talking about toxins is body burden, which is mone in the human body, and without it we we in fact are, and the true alarming issue is defined as the amount of toxins that accumu- wouldn’t be able to survive. Fat is also a pro- that we don’t have a comprehensive list of late in the human body. It is nearly impossi- tectant; it protects us from toxins by deposit- these toxins from the industries that produce ble for healthcare specialists to calculate body ing more fat in response to more exposure. So, them. This information and statistics were burden since there is not a comprehensive list the more toxins you have inside your body the taken from the infographic, Man: The Chemi- to use as a resource, but through bio-commu- more fat you need to protect you from their cal Ape, which details the exposure of humans nication technology we can assess exposure. harmful effects. to harmful toxins in North America. It is easy At MaxLife Weight Loss and Body Bal- This month, MaxLife is offering a FREE to read and provides numerous shocking fac- ancing, we have developed a Household Toxin Household Toxin Scan to anyone who sched- toids about our level of toxin exposure and Scan that will generate a report showing the ules a 30-minute Health Coaching Ses- how these substances can alter normal bodily top 10 toxins in your home that could be af- sion for $30. Call now to find out how we functions. One of the most impactful factoids fecting your physiology. can help you re-balance your body and lose is that the average person in the United States Most people think of fat as an ugly thing weight rapidly. ■ SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION

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16 www.herlifemagazine.com www.herlifemagazine.com 17 HERLIFE scene & be seen AFTER Supporting Kids Foundation Hearts of Gold Supporting Kids Foundation ninth annual Hearts of Gold event was held September 19 at Grand Street Cafe, Country Club Plaza. More than 300 guests gathered to raise funds for Kansas City-area families battling childhood cancer. Tom and Carman Duvall served as honorary chairs and Courtney Anderson shared a touching story about her daughter’s cancer treatments and how Supporting Kids Foundation was there to help. To date, Supporting Kids Foundation has given more than $1.5 million in assistance to Kansas City families. The organization is grateful to donors, sponsors, volunteers and attendees for an incredible night of hope and generosity! ■

photography by Allyson Imhoff and Sara Pritchett

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Quinn Plastic Surgery Center Open House On September 26, Dr. John Michael Quinn and his staff at Quinn Plastic Surgery Center and Medical Day Spa opened their doors for a Fall Open House complete with Costa Vida catering, some sweet treats and beverages. Guests mingled with each other and the staff and learned more about the different procedures offered at Quinn Medical Day Spa. Each person who walked through the doors was entered into a raffle for one of many offers such as a complimentary cycle of CoolScuplting® or various skincare products. For more information on the procedures at Quinn Medical Day Spa, call 913-663-5483. ■

photography by SANDER CHA

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HIGHPOINTE FINANCIAL GROUP COMMITMENT TO CLIENTS AND COMMUNITY

ince 1986, HighPointe Financial Group’s team of dedicated professionals has been Ssecuring financial futures for clients across the country. From deciding on a young family’s savings plans for future generations to fortifying a successful retirement, our team develops a precise plan for each client. HighPointe Financial Group believes that in order to build long-lasting relationships with our clients, we also have to serve the lo- cal communities in which they live and work. Our representatives donate their time and money to various Kansas City organizations including KC Pet Project, New Hope Food Pan- lenge. In 2019, we sponsored the KCCC Kick- cial security. We honor our commitments and try, Harvesters, Veterans Community Project off Event. Through our partnership with the hold ourselves and each other accountable. and many more. HighPointe Financial Group KCCC, our team was able to connect with other Every day we support the best in each oth- is proud to be a MassMutual firm. MassMutu- organizations and compete in various com- er and encourage professional development al understands commitment to community petitions to raise awareness and support the for everyone. and established the MassMutual Foundation, Special Olympics KC Metro. We are so grateful for our clients and which matches donations of advisors who The working environment at HighPointe community. 2020 is on track to be an exciting qualify up to $2,000. Financial Group is characterized by teamwork, year for our firm and we can’t wait! ■ For the last two years, our team has par- trust and cooperation. Our team works togeth- ticipated in the Kansas City Corporate Chal- er to serve our clients and assist with finan- SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION

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20 www.herlifemagazine.com www.herlifemagazine.com 21 HERLIFE scene & be seen AFTER Jorjy Jorjy, a new concept by Pam DiCapo, officially opened its doors with a tiki party on September 28. Mai tai’s and pupu’s served by Pam’s husband, Jack, added to the festive atmosphere and were enjoyed by all. Jorjy has a Palm Beach oasis-like vibe that everyone is loving, including wallpaper, fabric, art and lighting to complement the furnishings. Design and styling services are available by DiCapo, along with gifts for everyone from you and your dog to your man. Jorjy is located in the Brookside Shops at 320 W. 63rd, Kansas City, Missouri; follow @shopjorjy. ■

photography by SANDER CHA

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KC BRIDAL GROUP RESOURCES TO PLAN THE PERFECT WEDDING!

our wedding day is one of the best days ning Workbook is available on the website of special treatment, we have a VIP ticket of your life! You will want to cherish at KCBridalGroup.com. option. Our Diamond VIP ticket includes ac- Ythe memories of saying “I do” to your KC Bridal Group’s website is an easy-to- cess to the VIP room and lots of free swag! best friend. Understandably, it is a day that use resource for any engaged couple. There You can find out more about our next event you will want to be perfect! There are so many are weekly giveaways and contests where you at KCBridalExpo.com. ■ things to plan and so many vendors to book. can win fun prizes and swag. It has inspira- Where do you even start? KC Bridal Group tion photos to help you plan, a listing of local offers a variety of tools to help you plan your bridal events including tastings, trunk shows perfect day. These include a Wedding Planning and expos, special offers and coupons from Workbook, a resource website and a yearly local vendors, the latest in wedding news sto- Bridal Expo. ries, an online store where you can purchase The KC Bridal Group Wedding Planning fun wedding T-shirts and other gear, and, of Workbook is designed to get you started. It course, a directory of wedding vendors in your walks you through everything you need to area. You can even submit your wedding-re- consider when planning your wedding, from lated questions to our blog. You can visit it at budgeting and planning your guest list to de- KCBridalGroup.com ciding who will be in what roles in your wed- The KC Bridal Expo hosted by the KC ding party. It includes tips for what to ask or Bridal Group is a yearly event held at the KCI consider for all of the types of vendors you Expo center. The next Expo is July 19, 2020. may want to use and room for you to com- You can meet hundreds of wedding vendors, pare their services and pricing. There is even sample food from local caterers, get in- a special offer section with deals from local spired with our wedding fashion show, and vendors and a directory of vendors to help play our Scavenger Hunt game to win great you start calling! This book is updated every prize packages. We pride ourselves on pro- six months so you can be assured the infor- viding groom-friendly activities. After all, it mation is up to date. The Wedding Plan- is his big day too! For those that want a bit SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION 24 www.herlifemagazine.com www.herlifemagazine.com 25 HERLIFE scene & be seen AFTER The Hemp Haus Anniversary Celebration The Hemp Haus celebrated their one-year anniversary October 9 with a ribbon cutting ceremony with a reception at their store located at 1708 W. 39th Street in Kansas City. Guests included the Shawnee Chamber of Commerce members and the Greater Kansas City Chamber of Commerce members along with friends and family. thehemphaus.com | (816) 200-2902 ■

photography by Clayton White

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Stress Less with Tech this Season!

Oh, you can just smell it in the air–gingerbread, pine, figgy pudding (whatever that is) and STRESS. That’s right. The holidays are fast approaching, and what should be the most wonderful time of the year is often laden with anxiety and worries. Stress over finding the right present, hosting all the hoopla and arriving with just the right white elephant gift for your yearly lady’s gift exchange might call for some extra help. WRITTEN BY LISA TARANTO BUTLER

elieve it or not, some personal tech prod- Merry Meditation when we watch people in videos doing incred- ucts offer 24/7 stress monitoring, and We busy little elves can now meditate ibly simple, quiet, calming tasks such as fold- Bthat’s not all. Yuletide users can down- with brain-sensing wearable headsets such ing towels, brushing hair or flipping through load calming apps, relaxation timers and even as Muse™ that give live feedback while guid- magazines. You may even hear someone’s soft sensory videos to help with holiday insomnia. ing the user through meditations. It may look voice whispering affirmative messages such as All you need to do is turn to your wrist, phone funny, since it’s a plastic headband that fits “You are loved” or background noises of rain or laptop to reap the relaxation rewards. on the wearer’s forehead, but reviewers say it or light scratching. In many people, ASMR can works. The sensors on the band monitor heart trigger a feeling of relaxation before bedtime– Wearable Wonders rate and body movement and report brain data think dancing sugar plums–that can help you The number of wearable fitness prod- after each session. overcome holiday insomnia. ucts that measure physical and psychological health, emotional awareness and sleep qual- Online Games Online Fitness ity has increased dramatically in the last few When you’ve heard enough of Uncle Ed’s You’re not going to read a stress-less ar- years. Until recently, this technology concen- childhood stories, ditch the Christmas bingo ticle and not hear about exercise! That’s be- trated results on algorithms based on static and play online games instead. Whether it’s cause it helps. Studies show that getting your population-based information. Now, more playing a quiet game of Words with Friends sweat on reduces stress hormones, stimulates and more watches, bracelets and bands are or a rowdy round of Fortnite, the competition the production of endorphins, which improves using mini sensors, integrated processing and can be relaxing and an easy way to banish the focus, and enhances overall cognitive func- even artificial intelligence! blahs. Gamers can even find specific games for tion. This can be helpful when added anxiety For instance, FitBits, Apple Watches and stress management, so play away! has depleted your energy, perhaps when you other wearable gadgets offer breathing exer- need to make four dozen cookies, three teach- cise features to help relieve stress. The tech- ASMR er’s gifts, two class games and a partridge in a nology can track when you’re stressed so you Ever felt mesmerized by a simple sound pear tree for a third-grade party. can learn to anticipate the negative stuff. Once or video? ASMR, or autonomous sensory me- Online fitness classes, face-timing train- you start the breathing exercises loaded on ridian response, has taken YouTube and social ers and exercise apps are all efficient ways to your device, you feel more balanced and ready media by storm! ASMR is a feeling of euphoric be healthy and unwind on your own schedule. to start addressing those holiday cards. tingling and relaxation that can come over us Some popular online programs include Swork-

28 www.herlifemagazine.com it, Aaptive, ClassPass and FitBod, but to find your perfect fit, do your homework first and then ask Santa for your favorite workout app.

Home Helpers Yep, stress can be abundant in our homes over the holidays, but what about when we’re traveling? These days, innovative smart-home devices such as security cameras, safety monitors, smart thermostats and garage door openers make leaving home easier. The extra security and notifications to your smart device can ease your mind and make holiday travel a little jollier.

Take Advantage of the Tech If trying one of these techy tension lifters for the holidays sounds promising, choose just one to start. Why create more anxiety by trying to juggle a sleigh-load of devices and apps at the same time? Experts also recommend researching and checking reviews before spending all of your stocking money on any glittery gadget. As a good friend once said about the holidays, “Sometimes you just need to relax and accept the crazy,” and she is right to an extent. But if you don’t want to go down without a good fight, then consider the benefits of using stress relief technology that is probably right in front of you anyway. You may find ways to reduce the tension from the tinsel and continue enjoying the merriment into the next year. ■

Sources: healthcompare.com, sleep.org, adaa.org and ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.

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Dr. Levi Young Practicing the Art of Cosmetic Surgery

WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING

r. Levi Young at Advanced Cosmetic ed the use of those extremities. Many small life-changing way.” Surgery in Overland Park, Kansas, has children could not use their hands due to Here in the Kansas City area, Dr. Young Denjoyed superb recognition for his im- scar contractions. specializes in a wide range of cosmetic pro- pressive cosmetic surgery expertise. In addi- cedures from breast augmentation, abdom- tion, he’s been commissioned to produce gor- Compassionate Hands inoplasty and mommy makeovers to breast geous original artwork for local clients. But now “The most significant cases were a young lifts, rhinoplasty, facelifts and eyelift surgery. he has added surgical volunteer to his already girl whose burns to her face had disfigured As a member of the American Society of Plas- impressive resume. her left eye, mouth and neck. She could not tic Surgeons, Dr. Young has been recognized Dr. Young recently returned from a trip to close that one eye or fully move her neck due with the Ten Best Client Satisfaction Award for Africa as part of his backing for the Medical to her injuries,” noted Dr. Young. “A similar the years 2015 through 2019 from the Amer- Missions Foundation. While he’s supported case in an adult woman who had seized and ican Institution of Plastic Surgeons. He has the nonprofit for several years through dona- fallen face-first into a fire (and) had open been voted one of the top three Plastic Sur- tions and silent auction artwork, this was his burns to her scalp down to the skull as well geons in the greater Kansas City area by Pitch first medical mission trip. During his week in as eyelid scarring, which prevented the eye Weekly the Best of KC, selected Top Doctor for the country of Uganda, he and the other vol- from closing. In both cases, I was able to Patient Reviews, honored as a Top Doctor in unteers performed more than two dozen sur- close the wounds, release the eyelids and Overland Park. In addition, he has been rec- geries, most of them on children. The teams place skin grafts, restoring the eyelid clo- ognized by the acclaimed website RealSelf repaired and restored function to contracted sure and dramatically improving the disfig- for his outstanding contributions to its com- neck scars, eyelids scarred open and multi- urement. There was such a fulfillment to be munity. Dr. Young is one of only 500 doctors ple arm and leg contractures that prevent- able to serve these wonderful people in such a across the nation to receive this prestigious

30 www.herlifemagazine.com My artistic nature lends me the ability to analyze each patient and develop the best plan for the desired outcome,” he noted. “It’s an incredible asset in the operating room, enabling me to see and create the best aesthetic results.”

Dr. Young’s amazing cosmetic surgery results are driven in part by his impressive artistic ability. He’s been commissioned by clients to create one-of-a-kind artwork, in- cluding an Einstein portrait for a KC-met- ro business owner. He shares it’s exciting to have his artistic creations displayed in a local company.

Vision and Art award. RealSelf is the leading online commu- It’s this incredible artistic ability that nity helping people make confident choices in strengthens and enhances Dr. Young’s sur- cosmetic procedures. gical abilities on the operating table. His creative eye enables patients to achieve bet- Sole Focus ter results. “My artistic nature lends me the Dr. Young is a lifelong Kansas City resi- ability to analyze each patient and develop the dent, who obtained his medical education in best plan for the desired outcome,” he not- this community. He holds a Board Certifica- ed. “It’s an incredible asset in the operating tion in Plastic Surgery. “I am the only doctor room, enabling me to see and create the best that’s my age in a Kansas City-metro private aesthetic results.” practice doing 100 percent cosmetic surgery, Dr. Young is truly a unique cosmetic sur- which means no reconstructive surgery,” Dr. geon for patients in this community and those Young remarked. “I have a higher volume of across the world. He brings nationally recog- cosmetic surgery on a more consistent basis. nized talent for surgical care, a highly skilled I do 150 breast augmentations every year and artistic eye and an amazing sense of caring for that gives me an incredible advantage. Because others to his craft. ■ I do them more often, I’m able to achieve more consistent and excellent results. It’s a solid Visit advancedcosmeticsurgerykc.com, the office at foundation of experience and knowledge to 14340 Metcalf Avenue, Overland Park, Kansas, or share with my patients.” call 913-299-5100.

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Great Gift Ideas for Seniors

Whenever my late grandmother was on the receiving end of a gift-giving event, her stock answer was “If I can’t eat it, I don’t want it.” That always made me chuckle. When I was younger, I thought it was odd someone would request food for a gift. Now that I’m older, I completely relate to that sentiment, notably since I’m not interested in receiving a gift that will likely collect dust on a shelf. WRITTEN BY ANN E. BUTENAS

’d much rather enjoy an experience, tempt enjoy. Shutterfly, Snapfish and other services Other ideas include certificates for ride services my taste buds with interesting foods, or make this process easy and economical. such as SilverRide. With its door-through- Ilearn something new. I’m in the process Does your loved one enjoy music? Con- door assisted ride service, your friend or loved of downsizing my belongings, not upsizing sider making a collection of his or her fa- one can enjoy an outing to a favorite museum, them, and in the coming few decades, the gifts vorite songs from days gone by. You can the library or a movie. A companion will take I hope to receive, if any at all, lean toward the purchase a simple portable boombox on- them to and from the location and accompany practical, anything infused with chocolate or line that will still play cassette tapes and them throughout the activity. something that requires the use of a passport. CDs. You can even simplify the controls by Let’s face it. Most older people don’t want putting bright stickers on the “play” and Make Life Easier more stuff. They would much rather receive “stop” buttons. This is especially helpful Practical is always better when it comes gifts that make their lives safer, easier and for someone with dementia. to gifts for seniors. An electric toothbrush healthier. If you’re searching for an amazing will make brushing easier as well as improve gift for an older adult in your life, these gift The Experience of a Lifetime dental health plus reduce the strain on hands, ideas are thoughtful, helpful, and some may Many older adults would likely say they wrists and arms. For those struggling with ar- actually improve the quality of life for your prefer experiences more than material gifts. thritis, an electric jar opener is a great idea. friend or loved one. This makes gift certificates the ideal present. If sitting for prolonged periods of time is un- Get one for a favorite restaurant. This can be comfortable, the gift of a memory foam seat Keepsake Gifts from the Heart enjoyed as a wonderful meal from you. Alter- cushion will help alleviate the pain and reduce A custom-made photo album can show- natively, if you live in the area, you could make the risk of pressure sores. case photos and memories from past events a date out of it, doubling the fun! and experiences, giving your loved one an op- Other gift certificate ideas include mas- Help with Staying on the Move portunity to reminisce. You can make the book sages, pedicures, manicures or hair styling For some older adults, getting in and fun to read by adding simple text or images to services. Some spas offer geriatric massage. out of the car can be a challenge. An auto bar

32 www.herlifemagazine.com standing aid is a simple tool that helps seniors get in and out of a car with confidence and ease. Local stores that carry independent living aids designed for ease and continued mobility are a great resource. For older adults who need rides to appointments, errands or for visiting family and friends, an Uber or Lyft gift card is the perfect gift.

Staying Connected Through Technology Seniors can enjoy the convenience of email, even if they don’t own or use a computer. For just $14 per month, the Celery two- way email system allows seniors to keep in touch with family and friends through email without a computer. The Amazon Echo Dot, third generation, is a great hands-free, voice-controlled device that can be used to play music, give the weather, report the news, tell a few jokes, check the sports scores, read audiobooks and even an- swer questions. If better speakers are needed, upgrade to the sec- ond-generation Amazon Echo, which also comes in many colors and finishes. The GrandPad tablet is the perfect tablet for seniors who want to video chat but may be intimidated by the complexity of other handheld devices. The simplicity of this tablet easily allows older adults to interact with family and friends all over the world. However, perhaps the best gift we can give to our senior friends and loved ones is the gift of our time. Schedule a lunch date; go out for ice cream; spend time just chatting, reminiscing and laughing. You can’t put a price tag on such a gift! ■

Sources: heavy.com, dailycaring.com, silverride.com, stander.com and mycelery.com.

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Hairstyles for the Holidays

It’s holiday party season, and obviously you want to look and feel your best when you head out for the night. Once you’ve found the perfect dress and matching shoes, what’s left? How to wear your hair, of course. Should you go elegant and demure or make a big statement? Leave it natural or try something new? WRITTEN BY ERIN JONES MCINTOSH

y taking some preliminary steps to pre- poo and conditioner are not one-size-fits- shampoo on the day of. pare your hair, you will enjoy better all products. If you need volume, use a volu- A heat protectant spray or cream is im- Bmanageability and a more lasting hold mizing formula. If you have dry hair, choose portant if you plan to use a flat iron or blow for your special-occasion style. “Before” a moisturizing version. In general, shampoos dryer. If you’re curling your hair, you can use products will also help protect your hair that highlight natural ingredients are best. a light hold spray before you start to help the from damage if you will be using a hot tool. Many women don’t need to wash their hair curls last longer. every day, and often dirty hair can be easier This may sound like common sense, Prep Work to style, so you may want to shampoo a day but most importantly, know your hair type. First, choose the right shampoo. Sham- or two before the big event and opt for a dry Choose a special-occasion style that works

34 www.herlifemagazine.com not only for your outfit but also for your hair. and a fresh trim. Split ends can’t hide when guide you to the best technique for your hair Not all types of hair will be able to achieve you’re taking the straight route. If you want and personal style. any type of styling. to play with this look, try a half-up style or a sophisticated low ponytail. The Updo Short Hair High volume is also trending, so if your There’s nothing quite like a well-exe- You may think your short cut can’t be hair is curly or thick, don’t be afraid to wear cuted updo, especially if your event is a for- dressed up, but that’s not the case; adult the hair you’re in! Go big, because a bold mal one. Buns, loose and wavy, are a popu- hair accessories are in. With a tasteful, cre- statement look that embraces your natural lar look for 2019. For understated elegance, ative embellishment you can elevate your volume will be as fun as you are. Just don’t a low, messy bun with a few loose wisps to look and have fun at the same time. Barrettes forget the maximum-hold hairspray to avoid frame your face is a timeless classic, favored and headbands will add a festive pop of color late-night drooping. by Royal celeb Meghan Markle and thereby or bling to your holiday outfit and give your placing it firmly in the trending category. short style a little something extra. Creative Color A chic messy topknot is another Blunt bobs are also trending this year You just need to look around to see that high-fashion trend, if imperfectly perfect is and can be party-ready with minimal fuss, creative coloring is a hot look right now. the look you’re going for. It looks simultane- since they offer the versatility of wearing Shades of lavender and grey are en vogue, ously effortless and finished, and doesn’t re- the tousled bed-head look or a sleeker, su- but these can be time-consuming and pric- quire a lot of product or special styling tools. per-straight effect. Bobs are flattering for ey to achieve. If that’s not in the budget, Regardless of the trends, most experts a variety of face shapes, because the length don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to add encourage women to embrace their natural and angle of the cut can be adjusted to high- a splash of color to your look without the hair textures. But if your natural look just light your best features or detract from commitment and upkeep. isn’t doing it for you, hair extensions may problem areas. How do you know if you should incor- be just the ticket, especially if you are go- porate this fun and edgy look into your own ing for a super-long or super-big look. It’s Long Hair personal style? That’s easy. Do you feel like a special occasion, right? It might just be Beach waves were fun, but su- it? If yes, then do it. Women of all ages are worth the splurge. ■ per-straight, glossy hair is the 2019 look for trying out bright color accents, bold high- long hair. A quality straightening tool is the lights and other coloring techniques. Many Sources: harpersbazaar.com, byrdie.com and key to this style, as well as a shine serum salons now employ color specialists who can realsimple.com.

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Always Look Your Best: Tips from a Wardrobe Stylist

WRITTEN BY WLAA ELASHKAR

Q How can someone develop their own personal style? Q When should you look into hiring a professional stylist? A When developing your own personal style there are quite a few A Hiring a personal stylist should be no different than looking for contributing factors to take into consideration, such as figure a new physician or new personal trainer at the gym. Typically, and body type, proper fits, accentuating your best features, best color hiring a stylist is increasingly effective during life transitions such as combinations for your skin tone, and your daily work and personal life going from college to the workforce or starting your own business, gain routines. From there begin filtering every time item in your closet to or loss of weight, or simply reevaluation and understanding of ward- determine if it fits within your style. Pieces should not only coincide robe and style. Professional stylists are more than just putting together with your style, but should be properly fitted and versatile enough to outfits or going shopping. Look for an expert that vibes well with you work within your lifestyle. and has all of the experience and knowledge to be able to help you look and feel your best! ■

His love for fashion and making every individual look their best for any occasion are what have kept stylist Wlaa Elashkar motivated as a fashion consultant for over ten years. Wlaa has developed into a creative, professional fashion stylist with vast experience in showcasing a variety of fashion-forward and mainstream looks for designers, sales personnel, boutique owners and fashion consumers. With a broad skill set in the fashion industry and a multitude of clients and designer relationships, Wlaa is able to provide every client an exclusive and personal experience that takes them to the next level of style. Wlaa Style exhibits the skill and sophistication proving that everyone can be styled; the better you look, the better you feel, the better you do!

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Save Time, Money and the Environment!

WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING

illions of Americans will head for tropical getaways over the next several months, leaving the cold behind for warm, sandy beaches. But no matter the time of year, MClothes Mentor carries the right outfits and accessories for a winter vacation that will leave you with extra mon- ey for those little umbrella drinks.

38 www.herlifemagazine.com MENTOR “We keep all seasons in the store all the time. If you’re looking for shorts, tank tops or sleeveless dresses, we have them in stock,” revealed Phyllis Lord, owner of the Overland Park, Kansas, Clothes Mentor. “You’ll save money or you can buy more clothes. Normally, people buy more clothes because they know the value they’re receiv- ing by shopping at Clothes Mentor.”

Dual-Purpose Shopping Clothes Mentor, with two locations serving the KC metro, is a women’s resale store focused on clothing in sizes 0-24, petites, plus sizes and maternity. It’s your one-stop shopping experience, designed to save money and time. The shops buy and resell better brand-name and gently used items that are in style and in good condition. Business and casual, smart and stylish apparel, shoes, purses and accessories are stocked in easy- to-access and clearly organized segments to make your shopping experience superb. “Clothes Mentor allows all income lev- els to enjoy better brands of women’s cloth- ing by making it affordable,” shared Lee Gardner, owner of the Lee’s Summit, Mis- souri, Clothes Mentor. “Most importantly for me, the main core value of this business is about repurposing and recycling to keep things out of the landfill. Bottom line, you During November and can sell clothing you don’t wear to make December, Clothes Mentor money, but you’re also keeping it out of offers a special deal on gift the landfill.” cards to make your shopping experience even sweeter. “Buy Bonus Time a $25 card and you can get a During November and December, $5 card to keep or give away. Clothes Mentor offers a special deal on gift For a $50-dollar card, you get cards to make your shopping experience $10 free.” even sweeter. “Buy a $25 card and you get a $5 card to keep or give away. For a $50-dol- lar card, you get $10 free. We don’t give these extra gift cards at any other time during the year,” noted Phyllis. “There’s also our loy- alty program in which you spend a dollar and get a point. On Sundays, it’s double points. Two hundred and fifty points mean you’ll receive a coupon for 20 percent off your next purchase.” “It’s $5 for every $25 in gift cards, and

www.herlifemagazine.com 39 it’s not capped, although the bonus cards weight and don’t know what to wear,” are good after the first of the year,” noted remarked Phyllis. “Our personal shop- Lee. “In addition, Clothes Mentor offers pers will help them find the clothes that a 10 percent savings for senior citizens fit their needs. This service is absolutely 65 and up on Wednesdays. At the Lee’s free for our customers.” Summit store, we have a program to cel- “People are surprised by how enjoy- ebrate the working woman. Simply show able the personal shopper experience can a work ID or business card and you get 15 be, and the process is so simple,” stated percent off on Thursdays. Also, we have a Lee. “After filling out the online form, kiosk where customers can check in and an appointment is made, and when cus- win a coupon or gift card. We feature a tomers arrive, the personal shoppers will global reward program called Club CM, have suggested outfits pulled together and each store has its own store-level for them.” VIP program.” Because the inventory can change at Adding to those savings is your abil- moment’s notice, Clothes Mentor loca- ity to make money by selling clothes and accessories you no longer tions rely on social media tools to alert customers to new items or wear. Clothes Mentor will pay you cash on the spot or give you store specials. “We post photos or videos of items we get in the store, and credit for gently used, designer brands and other high-end fashions. people come in immediately to buy them,” noted Lee. “It’s the thrill The company’s cutting-edge computer system generates the price of the hunt for our shoppers who watch their Clothes Mentor Face- to be paid. Details can vary so contact the store for specifics. book page. If they’re popular items, they’re gone that day.” Whether you’re packing your bags for a tropical vacation or Value Added: Personal Shoppers stuffing stockings with gift cards, Clothes Mentor is the place to shop Phyllis and Lee are quick to share the success of their personal and save on women’s clothing. The remarkable collection of clothing, shoppers. These fashion-savvy stylists are focused on meeting the shoes, jewelry and handbags offers something for nearly everyone. You’ll needs of customers by assisting with style and fashion choices, busi- be smiling at the savings and the fact you’re helping the environment. ■ ness or casual. “Customers love our personal shoppers. The online questionnaire tells us about their body type and the type of clothes Visit clothesmentor.com and click on the location nearest to you. Follow on they want: business, casual or special occasion. Maybe they’ve lost Facebook and sign up for the VIP Texting service.

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MikalahMorris “You and your wardrobe will be knotted for life.”

WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT | PHOTOGRAPHY BY AMBER J DEERY HAIR AND MAKEUP BY MIKAYLA CRANE OF WHITE CARPET FASHION WARDROBE PROVIDED BY STANDARD STYLE LEAWOOD STYLING BY MIKALAH MORRIS OF KNOTS & PEARLS CO.

ikalah Morris’s story over the last few years reads like the hero- ine from your favorite Hallmark movie: struggling to overcome dreadful obstacles that befall her, yet each time climbing back on her feet, no matter the odds stacked against her. While the 30-year old Kansas City, Missouri, resident wasn’t fighting a horrificM villain conspiring against her with evil plots, plenty of problems nearly consumed her. In less than four years, Mikalah married, moved across the country, got a job, was divorced and then fired from her job. On the bright side, she did meet the love of her life, Austin, and quickly landed a new job. One short year later, she was fired again. Finally, all of the negativ- ity caught up with her.

The Plunge “Being fired a second time forced a hard look in the mirror and encour- aged some enlightening conversations. Life has this way of nudging you on the right path. Styling is where my life started, and it was the plan all along. I tried to rely on the security of a corporate job, which didn’t pan out well. I realized I had to control of my own life; really, we’re the only ones that can set our souls on fire. No one else can do that for us.” recalled Mikalah. “The winning pep talk was from Austin. After the shock wore off and tears subsid- ed, he reminded me, ‘We all get a few Hail Marys in life to throw; let’s throw one for your styling business and see how it plays.’ I guess you could say I’m mid-Hail Mary and so far it looks pretty good.” And that is how the fairy tale of Knots & Pearls begins, a styling com- pany with the goal to make people fall in love with their lives through the clothes they wear and the homes they create. Inspired by the “pearls” of wisdom passed on by remarkable women, Mikalah is focused on creating a life that’s as functional as it is beautiful.

42 www.herlifemagazine.com Fate is real and when you’re on the right path, life has a way of conspiring to help. Use the setbacks in life as motivation to propel you forward,” she shared. “Our personal style is an extension of who we are and comes to life in the world that we surround ourselves with: our homes, our wardrobes, our offices. That world should be an accurate reflection of your soul and what makes you happy. When we switch our focus to surrounding ourselves with things that matter instead of just ‘stuff,’ we start to live lighter, more Mikalah fulfilling lives.”

www.herlifemagazine.com 43 town girl from Peculiar, Missouri, decided she remarked. “My mother taught me that to embark on a huge adventure by attending courage will never lead you astray. My mom the Art Institute of San Francisco to receive is the center of my world and reminds me of a bachelor of science degree in fashion mar- my value and strength every day. I won’t be keting and management. “It must have been dealt anything more than I can handle. This my wanderlust spirit, and there was some- new season of life has taught me a lot. When thing about San Francisco; the east coast it comes to inspiration, I listen to others wasn’t speaking to me. San Francisco had with the intent to truly listen, not respond. a vibe that intrigued me, and it was packed It’s a tiny tweak in how I approach con- with culture,” she commented. “It was a versations and discussions, but you make a wild ride, but I loved it. The school was more small change and the floodgates open.” project-driven and fast-paced, and I thrived Not only does Mikalah focus on cloth- in that creative environment.” ing, but she also consults on the environ- A few years later Mikalah came back ment in the home. Knots & Pearls has be- to Kansas City and settled in the Brookside come a one-stop-shop in creating a cohesive area. With Knots & Pearls, she works directly look for the major segments of a client’s life. with clients to restyle their wardrobes, get- “After helping clients with their wardrobes, ting the most out of their garments. In fact, they would ask me if I did homes. The rea- she claims, “you and your wardrobe will be son clients asked that is because you develop knotted for life.” such a personal relationship. It’s an intimacy “I don’t know about you, but my ward- with your clients as you help them with oth- robe and I have a love/hate relationship and er facets of their life,” she said. “Developing sometimes I feel like it just doesn’t get me. a close relationship with anyone takes time When I work with my styling clients, both and effort, and they wanted to continue that wardrobe and interior, every item should be effort with me for their homes.” an accurate reflection of who they are, how “Knots & Pearls is a culmination of a they feel and what they love,” she stated. The Fulfillment lifetime of creative pursuits, and the women “Function is the core of everything I focus As an entrepreneur, Mikalah offers this who inspire me the most. Although Knots & on and I teach my clients this. I don’t want advice for others dreaming of starting their Pearls is the most irresponsible and anxi- them to need me every time they shop. Take own businesses. “I say that you should bet ety-producing thing I’ve ever done, nothing this and run with it. Sometimes, women will on you. No one in this entire world will be- has ever felt more right. It’s riddled with so get overwhelmed when shopping the racks. lieve in your dreams more than you. There’s much passion it gives me butterflies the mo- I suggest going to boutiques that have more never a perfect opportunity to have some- ment I wake up. It requires me to bare my of a curated selection, clothes that you’ll thing fall in your lap. Sometimes you have soul daily, which is absolutely terrifying. It really love.” to strip away your security, financially take pushes me to learn new things and put my- a risk and dive in headfirst,” she advised. self out in the world in the most vulnera- The Process “Being an entrepreneur is absolutely terri- ble way possible,” revealed Mikalah. “It’s While shopping can certainly be a part fying; you’re vulnerable every day, but the the result of all the ass-kicking I took, and of the process, Mikalah is very focused on fulfillment makes all the fear worth it. Many the times I’ve nailed it. But better yet, it’s a the pieces a woman already owns. “For me, people take a leap at the top of their game, product of my choosing courage over com- it’s all about decluttering and reassessing. but the perfect storm of failures encouraged fort and betting on me, and most important- I’ve had clients purge everything and start me to leap at the bottom of mine.” ly, to be able to look myself in the eye and from scratch. I’ve had clients hire me for a Mikalah understands that many facets know that I believed enough in myself to bet few hours to spruce up what they already are woven together as she composes her own on me.” own with their existing belongings,” she Hallmark movie. While many pages of script noted. “At the end of our time together, I are yet to be written, she relishes what the The Foundation want you to feel like your style is reflected in next challenge will bring. “Fate is real and Mikalah has been growing the concept everything that surrounds you.” when you’re on the right path, life has a way for Knots & Pearls for over seven years as Knots & Pearls takes its moniker from of conspiring to help. Use the setbacks in life she honed her styling talents at boutiques the life that Mikalah has enjoyed over the as motivation to propel you forward,” she around the country and a big-name de- years. Her strong maternal influence goes shared. “Our personal style is an extension partment store. “I was a personal shopper back generations; the name is a product of of who we are and comes to life in the world at Bloomingdales in San Francisco through the women who inspired her the most. “I’ve that we surround ourselves with: our homes, college and fell in love with the overall been swimming in inspiration since deciding our wardrobes, our offices. That world transformation process,” she shared. “Just to go out on my own. My great-grandmother, should be an accurate reflection of your soul like every other millennial, I always dreamed in her long strand of knotted pearls, taught and what makes you happy. When we switch of setting off to do my own thing, and styl- me the power of simplicity. My grandma our focus to surrounding ourselves with ing was always the end goal.” taught me no matter the size of your home things that matter instead of just ‘stuff,’ we At the untested age of 18, this small- or your wallet, your home can beautiful,” start to live lighter, more fulfilling lives.” ■

44 www.herlifemagazine.com I say that you should bet on you. No one in this entire world will believe in your dreams more than you. There’s never a perfect opportunity to have something fall in your lap. Sometimes you have to strip away your security, financially take a risk and dive in headfirst,” she advised. “Being an entrepreneur is absolutely terrifying; you’re vulnerable every day, but the fulfillment makes all the fear worth it. Many people take a leap at the top of their game, but the perfect storm of failures encouraged me to leap at the bottom of mine.”

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FashionWRITTEN BY ERIN LITTLERadar

I I have this problem. Some might call it a blessing; some might call it a curse.

can’t buy new clothing that’s full price. If I don’t feel like I am who I am, for both good and bad. getting a good deal, it never ends up in my cart online shopping If I think of the last five clothing purchases for my kids, I can’t or at a brick and mortar store. quite say the same thing. I am sure I snagged some of the items for Okay, okay, so this isn’t really a problem. It’s just my way of a deal, but my kids’ purchases just don’t go through the same filters Ilife, I will be the first one to admit. Unless they sell it at Target next mine do. I might be alone as a mom on this, but I kinda doubt it. to the milk aisle, it’s usually not on my radar to wear. I know I should splurge more on myself; it just rarely hap- It’s my job to dress up for work and I enjoy the hunt of dress pens. Is it the challenge of finding the deal? Is it because my parents shopping for cute and unique clothing. If I think back to the last five raised me to work hard for every dollar that I make and not waste? I clothing purchases I’ve made, they are all for work. Some might be am not sure. It’s probably a little bit of both. surprised to hear this, but they were all less than $25. Yep, that’s I do take pride in what I wear each morning on KCTV5 NEWS; right; $25! I told you if it’s not a deal I don’t buy it. I would never the next time you see me on TV I hope that you like my morning consider a work or personal clothing purchase for full price. It’s just fashion. Regardless, you will know for sure I got it for a good deal! ■

Meteorologist Erin Little starts your day off with a smile and the forecast each morning on KCTV5 News This Morning. With over a decade of experience forecasting the weather in Kansas City, she understands it’s not all about the weather, but how it will impact our busy lives. Erin is thrilled to be raising her three young children in her hometown of Lee’s Summit. You can find her Monday through Friday, 4:30 a. m. to 7:00 a.m. on KCTV5 News. Connect with Erin: Facebook, Twitter and Instagram @erinkctv5.

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Avoiding Conflict at the Holiday Table

Holidays are joyous times when shared with family and friends. This year you would like for the holidays to bring peace, love and joy. Well, good luck with that. Families have their own dynamic and if this year is like the last few, stormy weather is ahead for many families. Now is the time to examine these conflicts, at least in your own mind, and take steps to avoid World War III. WRITTEN BY LINDA R. PRICE

he holidays bring increased stress for dinner for my father’s side of the family on time for therapy. So, what can you do in the many families. Travel, gift-giving and the Saturday before Thanksgiving. We met in meantime, i.e., this holiday season? Textra cooking create tension among the fellowship hall of our church, everyone There are several things you can do. Re- many family members and couples. The ten- brought food, and there were plenty of tables alize that there are limits to what you accept sion can cause heated arguments between and space for all of the extended family. Those and stick by them. If this relative is always different family members. Teens and their who could, came, and those who couldn’t late, state that dinner is at 7:30 p.m. and stick grandparents may not see eye-to-eye on missed all the fun. On the actual holidays, ev- to it. Start the meal on time. many issues, spouses argue over which side of eryone was free to celebrate with their nuclear Another path you can take is to honor the the family to visit, and in-laws may opine on family as they wished. old adage: Never discuss politics or religion in the faults of their child’s spouse. Sometimes, it is just one person who polite company. Get everyone to agree before Deciding which side of the family to visit causes all the problems. This person is con- the holidays that these topics are simply too causes conflict in many families. If possible, flictive, irrational, explosive, opinionated, has divisive in your family to bring up at a fam- simply see one side of the family in Novem- violent mood swings, plays the victim and ily dinner. Then, if the conversation does get ber and the other side in December. For years, collects grievances. This person needs profes- out of control, especially if alcohol or weapons a paternal aunt organized a big Thanksgiving sional help, but the family holidays are not the are involved, have a plan to deal with poten-

48 www.herlifemagazine.com tial physical conflict. That might even involve as a particularly sad time since the holidays respected. Look for ways to help your teen calling the police. trigger old memories and the way things cope during the crowded-house days. Re- One sure-fire way to lessen tension and were done in their previous family life. In- mind the teen that she will have to share stress is to avoid rehashing past grievances. stead of ignoring the problem, encourage with the cousins and maybe even be kicked Stick to the matter at hand and refuse to be everyone to come up with new rituals and out of her room to accommodate other fam- drawn into a prolonged battle over things that traditions to be enjoyed together. Are there ily members. Make it sound like an adven- happened years ago. must-see movies that one side of the family ture, not a punishment. Often, when we’re involved in a fami- can share with the other? Maybe the oth- Finally, take care of yourself. Set aside ly argument, we forget all of our education er side of the family has a special tradition some time and energy for yourself and don’t about better behavior and fall into patterns of such as dressing in warm socks and pajamas. try to do it all. Have other family members our childhood experiences. Stay calm and say Maybe you could go for a drive to see the bring in a special food for big meals, forget something such as, “Yes, and now give me a Christmas lights before dressing in pajamas about cleaning until after everyone is gone, solution to this problem. What do you suggest and watching the movie together. Look for use disposable dishes as much as possible, and we do?” Your relative may be nonplussed and ways to create new traditions. enjoy the company of your relatives. A little struggle for a comeback, giving everyone a As you look for ways to integrate all chaos is normal and part of the fun. It will all chance to cool off. By encouraging and model- family members, don’t forget that everyone be over all too soon. ■ ing a positive attitude you are setting the stage needs some private space, especially teens. for a new dynamic in the family. Some teens are more sensitive than others Sources: natcom.org, verywellmind.com, Blended families may view the holidays and conflict can occur if their needs are not psychologytoday.com and time.com.

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Blood Sugar Control During the Whirlwind of Holiday Traditions

All of us can attest to struggles with adhering to diet and fitness goals during the holiday season. Those tempting savory and sweet foods just need to be sampled. Let’s also not forget about Grandma’s stuffing! Who could resist? WRITTEN BY JOELLE MALINOWSKI RD, CDN, CDE

iabetics have an even tougher time with the wonderful flavors of the holiday season! Is the party at a house? Offer to bring a this control. Even with treatments and healthy dish along that complements the meal. Dmedications, overindulgence may push Holiday-Proof Your Plan! Eat slowly. It takes at least 20 minutes for diabetic people over the edge in a life-threat- At family gatherings, you may not always your brain to realize you’re full! ening way. Often, people with diabetes feel re- have a say in what foods are prepared. Your Avoid or limit alcohol. If you do have an stricted in what they can eat on a daily basis, best course of action is meeting those chal- alcoholic drink, have it with food. Alcohol can but these feelings intensify during the holiday lenges with a set plan. lower blood sugar and interact with many dia- season when festivities come up and those Eat close to your usual times to keep your betes medications. rich, sweet and savory foods are everywhere. blood sugar steady. If your meal is served later Decide ahead of time what and how much The good news is that partaking in festivi- than normal, eat a small snack at your usu- you will eat and how you will handle social ties is NOT out of the question. In recognition of al mealtime. Don’t skip meals to save up for a pressure; practice saying “No thank you” or National Diabetes Awareness this month, here feast. It will be harder to keep your blood sug- “I’m too full.” are easy hacks that that can help with blood ar in control, and you’ll be really hungry and Search for healthier versions of recipes. glucose control while allowing you to enjoy all more likely to overeat. Most traditional holiday recipes can be made

50 www.herlifemagazine.com healthier with simple substitutions. For example, instead of rice or If You Are on Insulin mashed potatoes, substitute cauliflower; use Greek yogurt instead of If you are insulin-dependent, you just need a solid game plan and high-fat sour cream. you’ll be able to get through the festivities without wreaking havoc on Plan to stay on top of your blood sugar. Check it more often during your diabetes management. Try this easy-to-follow plan for success. the holidays, and if you take medicine, ask your doctor if the amount Know your carb ratios, which is how much insulin to take per needs to be adjusted. grams of carbs. If you don’t know this ratio yet, speak with your phy- sician or diabetes educator. Keep Moving! • Know what you are eating. Bring a carb-counting cheat sheet. Don’t take a holiday from physical activity. Being active is your • Work out in the morning. secret weapon for better blood glucose control. A regular exercise pro- • Test and keep track of active insulin so you don’t overdose. gram can improve blood sugars, decrease the risk of heart disease, and If you slip up on your holiday game plan, just get right back to help you lose weight. It can also help make up for eating more than healthy eating with your next meal. Despite the rush of the season and usual and reduce stress during this most stressful time of year. tempting goodies around every corner, it is possible to enjoy the holi- Although many holiday traditions revolve around meal time, con- days. Just make a plan, try to stay on track, and have fun! ■ sider new traditions that add more physical activity. Perhaps play a game of tag or hide and seek outside. You can go on a family walk after Sources: cdc.gov, diabetes.org and diabeteseducator.org. your meal. If you have limited time during the holiday season, try doing two 15-minute workouts or three 10-minute stints.

Fitting in Sweets Let the Plate Be Your Guide An easy strategy for portion control is to think of your plate being cut Holidays and other special occasions can be tough when it comes into three sections. to desserts. Most sweets have a lot of calories and carbohydrate in a • Protein, such as meat, chicken, fish, cheese or tofu, should take up small portion. one-fourth of your plate. If you plan to have desserts, cut back on other carbs such as po- • Carbohydrates, which are bread, rice, pasta and starchy vegetables such as potatoes and corn, should occupy another one-fourth of your tatoes and bread during the meal. Share one portion of a dessert with plate. someone else and scrape off any high-calorie whipped-cream topping • Non-starchy vegetables, such as salads, broccoli, green beans, carrots or extra frosting. and cauliflower, should fill the remaining half of your plate. Remember, make mindful choices when preparing your plate.

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Bo Lings Authentic Food, Unmatched Ambiance

WRITTEN BY MEG DIETER | PHOTOGRAPHY BY AMBER J DEERY

trolling through the Country Club Plaza evening. Bo Lings evokes a modern vibe with from scratch, resulting in delicious, healthy around dinner time is a little overwhelming customary details, perfect for a date night or and fresh dishes. The first Bo Lings location, Sbut oh-so exciting. With so many options, family dinners. As you’re directed towards at 91st and Metcalf, blossomed beyond Rich- you’re sure to satisfy your hunger and appetite your table, you’ll pass a glass wall that allows ard and Theresa’s imaginations. Devoted cus- for adventure; that is, if you can choose. On customers to watch chefs artfully prepare tomers fell in love with the authentic dishes the corner of 47th and Jefferson Street, Bo their noodles and dumplings. A host will greet and created a demand for six more locations Lings is marked with big, bright red letters you and service is as prompt as it is friendly. across the metropolitan area! Theresa credits that welcome customers inside. Rest assured The ambiance is exceptionally fun. their success to consistent hard work. “Our that when selecting this restaurant, you’ll be Among red and gold tables, a sea of happi- philosophy hasn’t changed,” she said. “We served the highest quality Chinese cuisine in ly dining customers and attentive staff, you have put all of our time, energy and passion an upbeat, fine dining atmosphere. Bo Lings can feel the history of this successful fam- into our business for the past 38 years!” is not your typical Chinese takeout, it’s an ily-owned restaurant. It all started back in For Richard and Theresa, serving Kan- exciting cultural experience! 1981, when owners Richard (Bo, his Chinese sas City has always been the top priority. The As you walk into the venue, feast your name) and Theresa (Ling) set out on a journey original Plaza location spent 25 years in the eyes on the vibrant, traditional décor, with to serve quality Chinese food using the fresh- Board of Trade building and moved to their paper lanterns, romantic lighting and a high- est and finest ingredients possible. The hus- current venue in 2011. “It’s been a whole new tech bar that changes color throughout the band-and-wife duo sought out items made adventure,” Theresa said. “We can really feel

52 www.herlifemagazine.com the Plaza atmosphere since we are closer to the excitement and bustle of the shops. We’ve been serving three generations of Kansas City diners and have loved seeing people we knew as kids now bringing their grandchildren into our restaurants.” With such a high regard for the food, I couldn’t wait to dive into the lengthy menu. Theresa ensures that a lot of thought went into curating the available options. “We put together a variety of the most popular Chinese dishes for the restaurant menu and The Steamed Vegetable Dumplings, handmade for optimal taste, feature we’re always bringing new ideas back, espe- fresh cabbage, spinach, mushrooms and noodles with a hint of ginger. cially after traveling to China.” I lost count The Pork Dumplings and Shrimp and Pork Chive Dumplings, frequently of the many soups, appetizers and vegetable described as “exceptional,” are two fan favorites that are guaranteed to plates offered; there’s something for every kick start your appetite. diner’s preference. The Steamed Vegetable

www.herlifemagazine.com 53 typical takeout restaurant. “We pride ourselves on the freshness of our ingredients and guests are always happily surprised to see our staff prepping fresh produce every day. We strive to maintain excellent food and service.” As if swinging by on a weekday wasn’t special enough, Bo Lings offers catering options for many different types of events such as of- fice luncheons, holiday parties, weddings and small or large gather- ings. “We have a catering menu that diners can choose from or we can create custom menus according to individual tastes, needs and bud- gets,” Theresa said. Gorgeous private dining rooms can be closed off or opened up to accommodate guests. The lazy Susan-style tables and TV/ audio visual capabilities guarantee a family dining feel. The catering menus feature unique options such as the iconic Im- perial Shrimp. It’s as tasty as it is beautiful, presented with care. Juicy, perfectly cooked jumbo shrimp are wrapped in noodles and served with the chef’s mixed veggie salad. Another favorite is the Sichuan Dan Dan Dumplings, handmade for optimal taste, feature fresh cabbage, spin- Noodles, your choice of pork, tofu and shrimp well-seasoned with a ach, mushrooms and noodles with a hint of ginger. The Pork Dump- dash of heat. lings and Shrimp and Pork Chive Dumplings, frequently described as An authentic menu, unparalleled dining experience, fresh ingredi- “exceptional,” are two fan favorites that are guaranteed to kick start ents and attentive service are just a few of the many reasons to choose your appetite. Bo Lings. Experience the dedication of past generations with tastes in- The huge variety of traditional Chinese dishes, including daily Dim spired by the homeland, served right here in Kansas City. ■ Sum specials and, on the weekends, a Hong-Kong style pushcart ser- vice with more than 50 items, clearly differentiates Bo Lings from your Visit bolings.com for menu previews and all locations across the KC metro.

Cravings writer Meg Dieter is a Kansas City transplant from Cleveland, Ohio. She’s a wife, dog mom, foodie and social media coordinator. Meg spends her weekends at Arrowhead Stadium, River Market and local animal shelters. Her life motto: count the memories, not the calories.

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celebrating fine food & drink

12030 Blue Valley Pkwy / Overland Park, KS 66213 913.808.5688 / tabardsalehouse.com A family restaurant and bar features a from-scratch kitchen serving “world cuisine.” Menu includes Korean wings, tacos, crawfish and andouille pasta, Chicken Marsala, unique sandwiches, burgers and much more. Children’s menu available. Bar boasts 80+ varities of beer with 24 on tap complemented by a full bar featuring select wines & spirits. Happy Hour seven days a week with Saturday and Sunday Brunch. Private dining and catering available.

1713 Summit Street / Kansas City, MO 816.471.2616 / chezellekc.com Chez Elle Creperie and Coffeehouse is a welcoming cafe serving fresh crepes, robust coffees and friendly smiles. We start with only the freshest, hand selected fruits, vegetables, meats, cheeses and our made from scratch batters. You can see and enjoy your meal as we create our crepes right in front of you! One of Kansas City’s best patios and locally-owned!

401 Westport Rd / Kansas City, MO 816.256.4649 / TikiCatKC.com A “secret oasis” located inside HopCat, TikiCat is a relaxed, island-inspired hideaway for tropical cocktails amid tiki décor and colorful artwork. Named ‘World’s Best Tiki Bar’, TikiCat crafts each cocktail with fresh juices, good booze and its own ‘aloha spirit’, seven days a week. Show your reservation confirmation at HopCat upstairs and receive 15% off your total food bill at HopCat – perfect for dinner or snacks before or after your visit at TikiCat.

4810 Roanoke Parkway / KANSAS CITY, MO 64112 816.561.7136 / JJSRESTAURANTKC.COM JJ’s is a fine dining tradition, with a contemporary American menu featuring locally sourced produce and meats, house-cut steaks, fresh seafood, and the best thin crust pizza and pork chop in the city. The world class wine list has earned multiple honors from Wine Spectator magazine, and Zagat rates JJ’s as one of Kansas City’s best restaurants. All the more reason to make JJ’s part of your Country Club Plaza dining experience.

Story. / 3931 W 69th Terrace / Prairie Village, KS 913.236.9955 / storykc.com Chef Carl Thorne-Thomsen’s seasonal creative American cuisine is paired with an award-winning wine list with over 500 selections at Story. Dine on the patio, in the dining room or at the bar. Story features monthly wine dinners, a fried chicken special on Wednesdays, a $10 entree on Sundays and taco nights. Visit storykc.com for upcoming events. Gift cards are available for purchase at storykc. com. Now booking private events at Story. Email [email protected] for more information.

100 E 7th St. / Kansas City, MO 816.474.8333 / thehomesteadercafe.com The Homesteader Cafe is the go-to gathering place for those living, working or visiting downtown Kansas City. Our restaurant is an extension of our home and beliefs, that family, neighbors and friends should have a laid-back place to gather and relax around good food and drinks sourced locally. Join us for brunch 6 days a week and dinner 5 nights a week.

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Gingerbread Scones

Ingredients 2 cups all-purpose flour ½ cup golden raisins 1 tablespoon baking powder ¾ cup half and half 3 tablespoons granulated sugar For the Glaze: ½ teaspoon salt 2 cups powdered sugar 3 teaspoons gingerbread spice ¼ cup half and half 6 tablespoons chilled unsalted ½ tablespoon molasses butter, cut into small cubes

Directions Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Line a baking sheet with parch- ment paper. In a large mixing bowl, combine flour, baking pow- der, sugar, salt and gingerbread spice. Add butter and cut in with a pastry blender until mixture resembles crumbs. Toss in the rai- sins. Add half and half and fold together gently until the mixture just begins to come together and form a soft dough. Turn dough out onto a floured surface and pat into a 1-inch thick circle. With a sharp knife, cut into 6 wedges. Place scones on prepared baking sheet and bake 15-16 minutes or until cooked through and gold- en. Remove from oven and cool for about 10 minutes. Make glaze by whisking together powdered sugar, half and half and molas- ses until smooth. Dunk the tops of the scones into the glaze until coated. Place on a plate and allow the glaze to drip down the sides. Makes: 6 / Prep time: 20 min. / Cook time: 15 min. ■

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Brie and Jam Phyllo Bites

Ingredients 1 package (1.9 ounce) mini phyllo shells 3 tablespoons fig jam 3 slices brie cheese, cut into ½-inch cubes 2 tablespoons finely chopped walnuts 2 tablespoons pomegranate seeds Orange zest

Directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Place the mini phyllo shells on top of a parchment-lined baking sheet. Fill each phyllo shell with 1/2 teaspoon jam, piece of brie and a few walnut pieces. Bake in the oven for 10-11 minutes until the cheese is bubbly. Remove from the oven; top with some pomegranate seeds and orange zest. Serve right away and enjoy! Makes: 15 / Prep time: 15 min. / Cook time: 10 min. ■

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Toasting the Holidays!

Champagne sets the occasion right from the pop! Even an ordinary Tuesday can be made a bit better just sharing a bottle of bubbly and inviting the effervescence to entertain and delight you. Whether you choose a glass of champagne, prosecco, cava or sparkling wine, it’s easy to taste and choose your favorite bottle of bubbles no matter where they are produced. WRITTEN BY MELISSA HAINES LAVIN

or me, the first sip is filled with antici- orange blossom and a constant bloom of the by trapped carbon dioxide gas that becomes pation. Appreciation for sparkling wine tiniest bubbles was seemingly endless. From those tiny fine bubbles, about 56 million per Fcame much later for me than many of my that moment I associate champagne with bottle. Known as méthode champenoise, this peers. That tart, super-dry or sometimes syr- great ambiance, friendship and happiness. expensive per-bottle method was created in up-sweet flavor was often preceded by a fizz 1693 by Dom Pérignon, who created the first that literally tickled my upper lip. What was all Champagne sparkling wine in Champagne. the fuss about? And then my bubbly found me. True Champagne comes from the region A Ruinart Blanc de Blanc French champagne of Champagne, France, where all champagnes Prosecco was served at an oyster and fondue gathering are a blend of sometimes 30 still, or non-spar- It was Italy’s answer to Champagne in with live classical jazz on the beach. It was kling, wines. The contents of each bottle have 1868; Carpene Malvoti produced prosecco’s my epiphany! The delicate aroma of honeyed experienced a secondary fermentation fueled sparkling wine in the tank versus the bottle,

60 www.herlifemagazine.com creating a more economical option to champagne. Now it’s produced all over the world. Bubbles are pleasant and less intense.

Cava Spain created a sparkling wine in the 1700s, but didn’t see huge success until the mid-1800s when the region of Champagne, France, experienced severe plague of phylloxera that caused destruction of vital rootstock. Produced similarly by single bottle fermentation, cava must be made only in defined areas of Spain using specific grapes including char- donnay, pinot noir, garnacha and monastrell.

American Sparkling Wine and Champagne In 1891, France staked their worldwide claim on méthode champ- enoise, creating the only place where Champagne could be produced. The U.S. agreed to the concept in the 1919 Treaty of Versailles but the Senate did not actually ratify the treaty, leaving a loophole that allowed producers to use the phrase California Champagne. Prohibition began in 1919 and wiped out most of the legitimate wine market in America. Even though Prohibition ended in 1933, it took another 40 years for the American wine industry to regain successful footing. Over time, many American wineries perfected their processes and labeled their wine as méthode tranditionalle. Sparkling wine makes a great gift by the bottle or by the experi- ence. If you’re looking for something unique this holiday season, why not explore sparkling wines in a setting where tasting and learning is an immersive experience? Schramsberg, Krug, Gloria Ferrer and Domaine Carneros invite their guests to walk the vineyards, absorb the terroir and taste the unique sense of style and place in each glass of champagne.

Splitting Bubbles With the availability of sparkling wines in 187.5ml splits and 375ml half-bottles, it’s easy to enjoy one or two glasses without opening a standard 750ml bottle. The smaller sizes are also great for gift giving or adding to a gift basket of goodies. If you need to cap a standard bottle, the sparkling wine stoppers on the market do a great job of sealing your bubbles fairly tightly, even overnight. Keep sparkling wines chilled within reach for easy pairing with near- ly any menu from appetizers to dessert and for any gathering, party or last-minute gift. Bubbles can be enjoyed day or night Remember that bot- tles of sparkling wine are made with thicker glass to contain the CO2 so they take longer to chill to the perfect temperature of about 50 degrees. Is Champagne better than sparkling wine? Your palate is the judge. In 1880, Mr. Schram, California proprietor of Schramsberg Wines, served his Anderson Valley sparkling wines to an early wine tour- ist, Robert Louis Stevenson, who stated, “Wine is bottled poetry.” I couldn’t agree more! ■

Sources: vinepair.com, karenmacneil.com, winefolly.com and en.wikipedia.org.

How to Choose? The wine label can be tricky for all sparkling wines. Here are some help- ful terms that nearly every producer uses. Extra Brut: Extremely dry non-sweet sparkling wine with 0 - .6 percent sugar Brut: Very dry, not sweet with less than 1.5 percent residual sugar Extra Dry: Considered “even” and off dry but not sweet, containing 1.2-2% sugar Sec: Not dry, lightly sweet on the tongue, 1.7 - 3.5 percent sugar Demi-Sec: Officially sweet with nearly 5 percent sugar Doux: The sweetest, like nectar, with 5 percent sugar or more

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SAME BEACH, NEXT YEAR by Dorothea Benton Frank

In Same Beach, Next Year, bestselling author Dorothea Benton Frank delivers a hard-to-put-down family drama set in South Carolina’s Lowcountry, where two families start a tradition of spending their summer vacations together at their beachside condos on the Isle of Palms, one of Charleston’s barrier islands. Against the backdrop of seashore and sunshine, we see them weather life’s ups and downs. WRITTEN BY CATIE WATSON

or Eliza and Adam Stanley and Eve and As the years roll by, the friendships be- and Adam blame for thwarting their teenage Carl Landers and their respective chil- tween the two couples become more complex love, is a Southern belle with an acid tongue. Fdren, the Wild Dunes complex becomes and Benton’s skill as a storyteller is show- She meets her match in Clarabeth, another a second home they look forward to vis- cased in the plot’s twists and turns. Much belle with her own plantation who’s won the iting each year. Adam and Eve share a se- of the story is told by Eliza, a consummate heart of Adam’s dad, Ted. This is how Frank cret—a high school romance they’ve kept homemaker and loving wife and mother. She describes Clarabeth: “She was towering over hidden from their spouses. The vacation is dedicates her life to her husband and twin a grinning Ted, wearing a black mink coat to their chance to relive the fantasy about what sons, putting aside a cherished dream to re- the ground, high heels that could produce might have been. Each is happily married, turn to the Greek village where her deceased altitude sickness, and enough makeup to yet each dreams about the life they could mother was born. She believes Adam when scare the hell out of Estee Lauder… ‘Merry have had together. Adam is captivated by he tells her such a trip would be too diffi- Christmas, y’all!’ she said in a smoky voice Eve’s blonde beauty, with looks so differ- cult and expensive, even as his construction that suggested a lifetime of dedication to ent from his Greek wife’s. In his eyes, Eve business thrives. tobacco products.” is the temptress who remains out of reach An interesting cast of characters shares Although many of the book’s second- while he’s stuck with the comfortable and the story with the Stanley and Landers fam- ary characters are fully depicted and play competent Eliza. ilies. Eve’s mother Cookie, the person she important roles in the story, the younger

62 www.herlifemagazine.com generation is somewhat ignored. Eliza and Adam’s twin sons, Max and Luke, and Eve and Carl’s daughter, Daphne, are described in the early part of the story, but they fade far into the background over the years only to return at the end. Perhaps this is because the real focus is on the old romance that threatens to destroy both the Stanley and Landers families. Many summers have come and gone be- fore Eliza and Carl realize what’s been go- ing on with their spouses all along. Although Adam and Eve haven’t done much more than moon at each other during summer vacations, they have been communicating throughout the year. Things reach a crisis when they both end up at their beach condos one day during the off season. The meeting is a coincidence, but their actions put both marriages in jeopardy. Eliza and Carl ar- en’t exactly innocent. Even though they’ve enjoyed a nice little flirtation for almost 20 years, they both feel that Adam and Eve have crossed a line. Parts of the story are told by Adam, giving some insight into how his fantasies about Eve have kept him living in the past. He’s a guy who doesn’t spend too much time worrying about the feelings of the people around him until it’s almost too late. As Eliza wonders whether she should forgive Adam, she begins to discover long-buried secrets about herself. The pos- sible death of her marriage is a kind of re- birth for her. The trip to Greece is taken and she finds an entire community of friends and relatives who remember her mother and welcome her with open arms. While she’s gone, Adam has a chance to imagine what married life would be like with Eve, who has none of Eliza’s homemaking skills. The two couples seem headed for di- vorce until unexpected events bring every- one together. Suddenly things are put into perspective and the path forward becomes clear. This is where the story goes deeper and more satisfying. Besides family drama, Frank serves up plenty of escapism with descriptions of beautiful and exotic locations. Many deli- cious meals are consumed, especially when Eliza escapes to her Greek island. With plenty of drama, sassy dialogue and a travelogue of Greece, Same Beach, Next Year is a fun sum- mer read and entertaining in any season. The book has an average rating of 4 of 5 stars on Goodreads after more than 10,000 ratings. ■

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It’s Easy to be Green if You Know These Simple Secrets

Climate crises are not new. In the 1930s, the Dustbowl was caused in part by misguided farming practices on the Great Plains. Thirty years later, the use and misuse of pesticides, chronicled in Rachael Carson’s book, Silent Spring, had become an ecological disaster. WRITTEN BY STEPHANIE FOX

y the end of the 1960s, industrial pol- support a newborn ecological movement. Now, lights in your house and using candles. How- lution was so bad that Cleveland’s in the 21st century, people are discovering that ever, the National Resources Defense Council BCuyahoga River, filled with deposits of the remedy to environmental problems can be estimates that appliances that are sitting idle sewage and industrial waste, caught fire. The found, in part, by individual actions. waste a quarter of household energy. But, you public reaction to this disaster helped start a Living a “green life” doesn’t need to be can save 10 percent of your home energy use national movement resulting in the creation complicated. Everyone can be an environmen- and save money. of the Environmental Protection Agency. The tal superhero. What can you do? Toasters and coffeemakers are a start, but next year, on April 22, 1970, the first Earth Day you can also unplug large appliances such as signaled the beginning of a cultural movement Cut Down On Energy Usage washers and dryers, televisions and computers when 20 million Americans attended events to This doesn’t mean turning off all the when they aren’t being used. Just plug these

72 www.herlifemagazine.com into a power strip, turning them off with one flip of a switch. When you invest in a new appliance, look for the Energy Star la- bel, an EPA designation making it easy for people to identify efficient appliances. Some may initially cost more, but in the long run, they can help cut significant amounts from energy bills and help minimized greenhouse gas emissions. Adjusting heating and air conditioning temperatures can also save a lot of energy and money. Thermostat fine-tuning by just a few degrees can help a lot. Don’t heat or cool areas that aren’t being used or when no one is home. You can also adjust your water heater’s tem- perature setting a few degrees without even noticing.

Remember to Reduce, Reuse and Recycle We may be living at the beginning of the end of what is called the throw-away culture. People are getting serious about cutting down on disposables by bringing their own cups to coffee shops and reusable bags to supermarkets and avoiding throwaway packaging. These are small efforts, but it’s a good start. For items that can’t be reused, there’s recycling. Recycling is an important way to help keep items out of landfills. Across the country, municipal and commercial recycling programs have been wildly suc- cessful in gathering acceptable items to turn back into usable products. Programs can differ greatly from city to city, so check with your recy- cler to learn the rules in your area. Recycling has been in the news because China has announced it will no longer accept some items from the U.S., at least for now, forc- ing many programs to send about 20 percent of items to landfills or burners. But in many places, recycling programs continue to be popular and successful.

You Are What You (Don’t) Eat Americans waste a lot of food. Nationally, more than 30 percent of food is wasted, according to some estimates. If food waste were a country, it would emit more greenhouse gases than any country except for China and the U.S.A. In the United States, much of that food waste happens in the home. What can you do? Just because a product has passed a “sell by” or “use by” date does not mean it is unhealthy or even bad tasting. Exceptions are baby formula and some dairy products. So, don’t throw away good food. Leftovers can be used as well. Leftover baked chicken makes a great chicken salad. Leftover beef stew can become a gourmet soup when you add some caramelized onions, beans or lentils, some cooked pasta, broth and a splash of red wine or sherry. You can also help by choosing food products that use less ener- gy to grow or ready for market. Choose grass-fed beef, pasture-raised poultry (no antibiotics, less energy needed and less methane from cow burps), organic produce and locally grown foods when possible. If you can, grow some of your own; even a few pots of peppers or herbs can help. Farmers’ markets and some grocery stores have begun to sell “ugly” fruits and vegetables. They are as delicious as the picture-per- fect fruits. Don’t turn down or toss away a lumpy-looking apple or a melon with a small bruise. Make green a habit. You don’t have to save the world on your own, but small actions, a little here and a little there, can make all the difference. ■

Sources: missouribotanicalgarden.org, olioex.com, sierraclub.org and sustain.ucla.edu.

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Lavish Holiday Dinners

When it comes to the holidays, there’s no better time of year to forgo the conservatism and bask in the extravagance that the season provides. While typical holiday dinners might include Aunt Connie’s corn casserole or cousin Ken’s crinkle cookies, this year, why not go a little over the top and celebrate with excess? WRITTEN BY LISA TARANTO BUTLER

hrowing a holiday party filled with key, and pre-planning can’t start too early. as early as possible to earn your dinner party a fabulous food, delightful drinks and Will you have a theme? Will you decorate in special spot on the calendar. Follow up with a Tmore-than-remarkable sparkle will a certain color or style? Is your dinner party formal invitation at least a month before the ac- leave your guests feeling honored and you bejeweled with bling, comfortably rustic or tual date to get the best return on your R.S.V.P. feeling like an extraordinary holiday hostess. fashionably formal? Choosing a theme right away will make for easier decisions later in Invitations The Perfect Plan the planning process. Which brings us to those party summons When it comes to serving up an un- During the holidays, evenings fill up fast, requests, the R.S.V.P. forgettable and sumptuous soirée, planning is especially weekends, so send a save-the-date R.S.V.P. stands for “répondez, s’il vous

74 www.herlifemagazine.com plaît,” a French phase that means “please re- folks are happy to have healthy dishes from as they create their own merry-making cock- ply.” These days, printed invitations for din- which to choose, and they will remember your tails at an open bar stocked with the basics such ner parties are certainly not the norm, but if thoughtfulness in the New Year to come. as wine, liquor, soda, juices and sparkling wa- luxury is what you are looking for, an email ter. And, of course, consider your guests’ safety or Facebook invite just won’t do. A simple but Décor and offer sober drives home or availability of traditional mailed invite is classic, charming While the food takes center stage at a Uber, Lyft or taxicabs at your door. and just waiting for an affirmative reply. Try lavish dinner party, decorations should also be working with a printer for a special version or divine, and going all out is required. Stick to A Lasting Impression make your own through various online pro- your original theme and decorate each room Party favors or small gifts are a great grams. Use quality card stock and handwrite similarly throughout. At holiday time, it is way to add to the festivity of your lavish din- the envelopes or employ a calligrapher, as this easy to embellish each room with a festive ner party. There’s no need to break the bank will only add anticipation to the evening. approach while staying within the color and with overpriced gifts, but a simple parting theme of the party. But be bold! Red and green present may be just the thing that makes the Menu seem a bit ho-hum, but Tiffany blue and silver night memorable long into the New Year. Use Probably the most important part of your are merry and bright. monogrammed ornaments or candles by each fabulous festivities is the food that will be The true centerpiece of the evening is guest’s plate or place small gifts in a basket served. Choose a menu early, making sure it the dining room, and when your guests fi- near the front door so you can say goodbye suits the season while keeping the palates of nally sit down, they should feel transformed with a gift and end the party on a high note. your guests in mind. Regular ham and turkey by holiday spirit. Use only your best dinner- There’s no need to hire a party planner won’t cut it for an extraordinary dinner, so try ware and stemware, and make sure every- for an exquisite and memorable holiday din- Cornish hens, sumptuous seafood or a hearty thing is sparkling. ner. Free your imagination and let yourself go meat. Keep your vegetarian friends happy with overboard in bling and flair. Go online to Pin- a few meatless choices and make sure to dish Drinks terest and other party planning sites for ideas up something you have served before. Have an When it all comes down to it, drinks can and inspiration. Just remember, the holiday easy fall-back food already prepared in case make or break a holiday party. Plan some season is a time for overdoing it. Use your re- something goes wrong with the main course. pre-dinner cocktails before the meal is served. sources and the sky is the limit. ■ Just because it’s the holiday season You could even create a special cocktail or doesn’t mean everything has to be heavy. Most mocktail that fits the theme. Guests can mingle Sources: etiquettescholar.com and freshome.com.

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Building a Working Wardrobe

Have you ever considered the amount of time you spend each day picking out an outfit for work? It could be more than you think. Respondents to a 2018 Nordstrom’s survey reporting spending an average of 8 hours per week in their closet looking for something to wear. WRITTEN BY CATIE WATSON

or many of us, the problem is com- jeans, gray T-shirts and hoodies. All of these robe from essential pieces that allow you to pounded by having too many pieces of people have built an identity around their put together an outfit without experiencing Fclothing to choose from. If you’d like professional achievements and don’t have to “wardrobe panic.” For Kastan, these piec- to streamline the task of getting ready for dress to impress. es begin with dark denim pants that can be work, fashion experts recommend building a We don’t all have jobs where we’re the paired with a cashmere sweater, silk blouse pared-down working wardrobe. boss and can do as we please. That’s anoth- and striped shirt. Choosing neutral and co- When you build a small but essential er good reason for putting together a basic ordinating colors will allow you to com- working wardrobe, you’re creating a kind working wardrobe that’s appropriate in all bine each piece with the other pieces. Add a of uniform for your professional brand. This your workplace settings. Begin by assess- leather jacket and tailored blazer and a black uniform will help you skip the process of de- ing company culture. Is there a formal dress dress. Essential accessories include sleek ciding what to wear each day. Limiting your code, or an informal code enforced by peer flats, beige pumps and a structured leather choices to a small set of basic items will free pressure? If managers at your company all bag. It’s easy to see how these items can be your mind to think about other things as you dress more formally and you aspire to be a mixed and matched for different looks, es- get ready for work. manager, then you definitely should consid- pecially if you add a pair of black slacks or Some of the world’s most productive er putting together a polished professional leggings and a skirt. people have a severely limited wardrobe. wardrobe. You may favor more colorful or Fast Company magazine suggests a Steve Jobs always appeared in a variation of sporty choices on the weekends, but your similar list of must-have pieces for work- black turtle neck and jeans, while fashion de- working wardrobe can be more functional ing women’s wardrobes. Instead of a purse, signers such as Vera Wang and Michael Kors than fun. the magazine recommends a backpack that limit their fashion choices to black pants and Coabi Kastan is head of styling for carries everything you may need throughout black shirts. Then there’s tech mogul Mark Trunk Club, Nordstrom’s online personal the day, including your laptop or walking Zuckerberg, who for years appeared in only stylist service. He suggests building a ward- shoes. Look for backpacks that convert into

76 www.herlifemagazine.com a smaller purse or clutch for after-work events. If you’re going to wear leggings or yoga pants at work, buy the type that has a zipper and can pass for pants when worn to the office, but are still comfort- able enough for a workout or run. The question of shoes for a basic work wardrobe all depends on where you work, your personal style and what’s most comfortable. Low pumps are more practical than stilettos and flats are more practical still. In more casual work environments, a pair of fancy sneakers could be the most versatile choice. Men have been wearing sneakers at work for years, so it’s finally time for women to tie on a pair for the office and still feel professional. Whether it’s the perfect little black dress or a pair of jeans that fit just right, identify a work outfit that makes you feel self-assured and confident. This should be your go-to outfit for interviews, im- portant meetings and days when you want to feel like you’re at the top of your game, even if you’re not. Another aspect that Kastan of Trunk Club emphasizes is clear- ing out your closet. Taking advantage of a basic working wardrobe is much more difficult if you have to dig through a cluttered clos- et to find it. Most of us have clothing that we don’t wear but are holding on to for sentimental reasons or because we think we’ll wear it at some point in the future. The Nordstrom’s survey found that up to one third of clothing in the average closet hasn’t been worn for more than a year. Perhaps simplifying and organizing your existing wardrobe should be the first step when building your working wardrobe. ■

Sources: trunkclub.com, fastcompany.com and nbcnews.com.

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Nine Tips to Help with Your Holiday Budget

Experts advise the best way to survive the holidays with your expenses under control and your sanity intact is to make a budget and stick to it. If you can do this one thing, your holidays will be less stressful and your finances shouldn’t take a big hit in the coming year with huge credit card debts to be paid off. WRITTEN BY LINDA R. PRICE

he first tip is to decide how much you finances with a critical eye and a steely heart. a minimum payment over the year. A better can spend realistically. The National Take the long view and don’t overdo it. Don’t system is to pay with cash only. Put the bud- TRetail Federation estimated that the forget the old adage: it’s the thought that geted amount in an envelope and when it’s average American would spent $885 on gifts counts. The credit card trap is guaranteed to gone, it’s gone. in 2018. The figures have been steadily rising cost you hundreds of dollars extra unless you Second, make a list of everyone for since the 2008 recession. It’s easy to reach pay it off at the end of each month. It’s so whom you plan to buy a holiday gift. Every- this figure and more unless you look at your easy to let this bill slide and wind up paying one means children, parents, other relatives,

78 www.herlifemagazine.com Secret Santas, teachers, mailman, pets and a couple of extras for for free babysitting, could endear you to your sister. those you may have forgotten. Then add in wrapping paper, ribbons, Seventh, if you have to travel a long distance to visit some of seasonal holiday cards, shipping costs, travel expenses, extra food your relatives, calculate the travel expense. You may need to reduce and drink, holiday clothing and decorations. All of these items should the size of your gifts. Remember, visiting with relatives you rarely see be added into your holiday budget to make it accurate. should be the goal and not the expensive gifts. The third tip is to follow store sales and online sales carefully. Eighth, meet with your family and bring their expectations into Studies have shown that Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales ar- line. One year, my granddaughter, who was six years old at the time, en’t much less expensive than regular holiday sales. Keep up with asked for an iPhone, a computer and a new car. Needless to say, we all prices and shop deals every day. Don’t forget, many stores have enjoyed her display of innocence, and she received toys more age-ap- price-matching policies. Use your smartphone to comparison shop propriate. It’s a good idea to remind children that outrageous gifts before checking out. Pick up coupons and watch for free shipping won’t be possible for whatever reason. Most kids accept reasonable codes. If you are using a credit card, make it pay you by using your explanations if you take the time to explain the situation to them. If rewards card. budgets are tight, discuss exchanging names with other family mem- Fourth, don’t keep putting shopping off until the last minute. bers or even gifts for children only. Even if you have an unlimited Procrastination is not your friend. It’s the best way to overspend and budget, these practices can truly reduce holiday stress. stress out. Not only will you overspend, you will begin to resent the Finally, to take charge of your holiday spending for the coming whole process and become the family Scrooge. year, beginning in January, decide how much you want to spend on Fifth, consider making gifts. Many people, especially those who gifts. Prices are fresh in your mind, and you can make a quick calcu- don’t have access to homemade goodies, are delighted to receive cookies and other specialty items during the holidays. You can also lation of how much you spent this year and divide this by 12. Save this make a coupon book to help a relative or neighbor who can physically amount every month and you will be well on your way to a smooth no longer handle big chores. If you are a needlework expert, you are holiday season for next year. Some banks will do this for you, auto- ahead of the game if you share your work with others and these will matically deducting said amount and depositing the money into your be treasured gifts. savings account. By establishing a holiday savings program, you are The sixth way to cut down on spending is to give personalized demonstrating that you are a financially savvy elf. Happy holidays! ■ gifts to each recipient. Try to find gifts that are tailored to the hob- bies or secret wishes of the recipient, likely something they probably Sources: aba.com, bettermoneyhabits.bankofamerica.com, creditcards.com, wouldn’t buy themselves. A pair of tickets to a concert, with a coupon investopedia.com, moneytips.com and thebalance.com.

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Guarding Against Holiday Hazards

The holiday season is a time for sharing and celebrating, but it’s also one of the most hazardous seasons of the year. While we hate to sound like doom and gloom at what’s supposed to be a happy time, a little bit of forethought and prevention can help you avoid season-spoiling mishaps in and around the house. WRITTEN BY CATIE WATSON

alls on wet or icy outdoor stairs and walk- Decorate Safely spotter holding the ladder if possible. ways are one of the most common holi- The Consumer Products Safety Commis- Fday injuries. We’re often rushing around sion reports that between 12,000 and 15,000 Unwrap with Care at this time of year or trying to carry in an people visit a hospital emergency room each year If you’ve ever struggled to open plastic armload of purchases. Make sure your en- due to accidents that occurred while decorating clamshell packaging that seems impervious trances are brightly lit and free of debris. Add for the holidays. When hanging holiday lights, to sharp objects, then you’ll understand why a slip-resistant tread to each step and don’t avoid electrical accidents by not overcrowding opening gifts is a top holiday hazard. Have sharp forget to salt the steps when there is snow, outlets. Prevent falling accidents by making sure scissors on hand and avoid using knives and hail or freezing rain. that ladders are placed on level surfaces, with a other kitchen utensils. Unwrapping is half the

80 www.herlifemagazine.com fun of getting a gift, so encourage family members to take their time and open gifts carefully.

Avoid Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen Everyone may want to pitch in and help prepare that big holiday feast, but the scene can become chaotic. The National Fire Protection Association reports that unattended cooking is the number one cause of kitchen fires, with the risk peaking on Thanksgiving Day. It’s a good idea to have one person in charge of the stove and oven while food is being prepared. That person should stay in the room at all times or appoint a stand-in. Another fire prevention tip is to keep counter clutter to a mini- mum, with flammable items such as paper towels and plastic wrap stored away from the stove.

Don’t Overindulge The holidays are all about indulging ourselves with rich food, alcohol and sweets. The key to a healthy holiday season is avoiding overindul- gence. Too many fatty and sugary foods and too much alcohol or caf- feine can lead to a medical emergency, especially for those with diabetes or heart conditions. Increased indulgence in alcohol is also the cause of a rise in fatal auto accidents during the holidays. Stay sober during holiday celebrations that require driving or be sure to appoint a designated driver.

Beware of Exploding Turkeys Besides feeling too full after eating a turkey feast, you could actually be injured by a holiday turkey. Some families have embraced a new tra- dition of deep frying their turkey. This practice can result in a frying bird that is wet or partially frozen catching on fire or exploding. The open vat of hot oil used for frying also presents the risk of serious burns. Besides accidents from turkey frying, emergency rooms also see an increase in foot and leg injuries caused by dropping a hot turkey when it’s being taken out of the oven. There’s also a holiday spike in visits for finger and hand lacerations attributed to turkey carving, often by someone with little ex- perience or practice. Safety experts recommend exercising caution during all aspects of turkey cooking and carving. A turkey, roast or ham that you save as a holiday leftover can make you sick if it’s not prepared and stored properly. Disinfect kitchen coun- tertops before and after cooking with meat. Keep warm dishes warm and cold dishes cold if you don’t plan to serve them right away. Turkey and other leftovers should be refrigerated within two hours of serving in glass or plastic containers.

The Risks of Indoor Fires Besides the increased holiday risk of kitchen fires, there is a great- er chance of fire in other areas of the home during the holidays. Flick- ering candlelight is a holiday tradition for many, but it’s also the cause of many fires, along with fireplaces, discarded holiday wrapping paper and dehydrated Christmas trees. Make sure your smoke detectors are working and have fresh batteries before the holidays begin so you’re prepared for the worst.

Don’t Forget Prescriptions Refills Doctors are busy during the holiday season due to seasonal illnesses and usually have shorter holiday hours. If you have a critical prescription, make sure you aren’t at risk of needed a refill when your doctor’s office or pharmacy is closed. If you’re hosting out-of-town relatives who take medication, remind them to bring enough for their entire visit. ■

Sources: consumerreports.org, nsc.org, bobvila.com and thisoldhouse.com.

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Marketing Real Estate in 3D

If you are in the market to buy real estate, you will be bombarded by the digital age. Gone are the days when you looked in the real estate classifieds in your local newspaper or relied solely on your agent to find a property. WRITTEN BY TINA V. SAVAS

ure, real estate agencies and Realtors still It’s not as easy or inexpensive as you Plus, Realtors and those who choose to send out direct mailers touting their ex- may think, especially because each property sell by owner must find a way to stand out Spertise and recent sales, but as the shift listing requires an agent to reach the right in a very crowded field. Even posting pro- from paper to digital becomes more preva- audience. In other words, a well-researched fessional photographs seems old-fashioned lent, it is apparent that online marketing will list of prospects is of utmost importance to these days, along with videos. take over completely one day. every Realtor. To set themselves apart in the online

82 www.herlifemagazine.com superstore of inventory, sellers have turned the data to put into the model. If an operator entire listing in the 3D model for this very to something called 3D modeling. 3D models is familiar with the process, the whole thing reason, perhaps only modeling the first floor showcase properties by engaging the viewer’s should not take more than a few hours. Re- or choosing to show the kitchen and living five senses. Typically, when we are surfing the ports have come in that promise it’s even eas- room only. That way, the prospect must still internet, we are only using two of our senses. ier than shooting still photographs or videos. depend on the agent. We can see and hear content. But 3D modeling As this new system has evolved, the Still others say this defeats the purpose is akin to virtual reality, giving the viewer a price is decreasing. Some experts believe this of 3D modeling, since consumers and buyers physical interaction with the content. method of research on the internet will be- are savvy and want more access. If informa- Cameras are used to capture the space of come par for the course one day soon. When tion is withheld, they fear buyers simply go a property so the viewer can do a walkthrough users become familiar with it, they will begin on to the next listing on their screen. without actually being inside the property. demanding it from sellers. In addition to 3D modeling of the in- Space-age-like cameras provide an eerily re- Real estate agents say that 3D model- side of a property is the ability to model the alistic and impressive tool for sellers, and it’s ing helps to both win more clients and pre- exterior using a drone. In a similar manner, fast becoming the hottest trend in real estate qualify buyers. They say it narrows the buy- drone photos and videos are processed on a marketing today. ers to more serious navigators, saving them software platform to create a 3D model of the You may be thinking it’s difficult to precious time. property from above. Flyovers give yet anoth- use the camera, but it’s quite simple. Set up It stands to reason that if a 3D model is er professional tool to sellers. is easy. You just put the camera on a tripod almost like physically being inside the prop- As the internet continues to evolve, and flip it on. But you have to purchase the erty, then agents could save all the time spent both sellers and buyers will continue to ben- software to work with a mobile laptop or iPod on endless tours for prospects who just want efit from new ideas. They will learn to sift and upload the scans produced by the cam- to look. through unnecessary data, even when surf- era to the software you bought. The system On the other hand, providing too much ing on the biggest real estate websites today is smart, too. If you move the camera too information to a prospect could reduce the such as Zillow and Trulia. Those companies much, it knows it and prompts you to repeat ability of an agent to sell a property. If a pros- understand that real estate marketing is a the scan! pect is touring a listing with an agent, the tough business and requires a multi-pronged Scanning a property with such a cam- agent can highlight the best points and use digital approach. ■ era involves placing it in different spots. The their sales techniques to close the sale. Some camera then rotates in each spot and captures users say they purposefully do not show the Sources: inman.com, placester.com and pix4d.com.

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The Top Five Pet Charities

Our pets rely on us for everything from food and shelter to affection. You can help support companion animals by donating to a charity that’s dedicated to their unique needs. To make sure your dollars have the biggest impact, send your donation to an organization that spends the majority of its funding on programs that help animals. WRITTEN BY CATIE WATSON

here are hundreds of national and part of its mission to promote the safety and has found homes for more than 6 million international non-profits dedicated welfare of animals while strengthening the pets through adoption events in its Petco Tto rights and needs of pets. Here are bond between people and animals. retail stores. Spay and neuter programs to five of the top animal charity organizations help reduce the feral animal population are that are highly recommended by Charity PetSmart Charities also supported the foundation. It has invest- Watch, Charity Navigator and other watch- The founders of PetSmart stores, Jim ed $250 million in organizations that most dog groups. All have been in operation for and Janice Dougherty, made a commitment impact the lives and welfare of companion decades and have already made sizable con- to never sell dogs, cats, puppies or kittens animals, including investment in scientif- tributions to pet welfare. in their stores. They went one step fur- ic research into cancer in dogs and training ther in their commitment to help pets by programs for service animals. American Humane launching PetSmart Charities as a stand- Founded in 1877, American Humane’s alone non-profit in 1994. The organization Best Friends Animal Society motto is “First to Serve.” You may also be combats pet homelessness by sponsoring pet This nonprofit has battled against kill familiar with another one of its mottos, the adoptions as well as spaying and neutering shelters since the 1980s, when about 17 mil- phrase “No Animals Were Harmed” that ap- clinics. Since its inception, the organiza- lion dogs and cats were euthanized each year pears at the end of films and TV shows in tion has granted more than $413 million to because they had no homes. That number which animals are part of the action. Amer- other charities that feed and shelter pets. In is down to about 1.5 million in 2018, thanks ican Humane has been the monitoring orga- 2018, the charity topped more than 8 mil- in large part the efforts of Best Friends. nization for the use of animals in Hollywood lion pet adoptions made possible through Through its Best Friends Network, the or- productions since 1940. The organization its programs. If you donate to PetSmart ganization has worked to increase the num- also sponsors the Red Star Rescue Relief, a Charities, you can feel secure knowing that ber of people who adopt shelter pets. It has group that provides animal rescue services more than 90 percent of its annual budget also implemented spay/neuter programs and in response to national disasters and acts of is spent on pet programs rather than on trap-neuter-return programs for feral ani- terrorism and war. American Humane has organizational overhead. mals. Best Friends operates an animal sanc- served as an animal first responder in ev- tuary in Angel Canyon, Utah, that’s a tempo- ery major national disaster, including Pearl Petco Foundation rary home for nearly 1,600 animals waiting Harbor, 9/11 and Hurricane Sandy. The orga- Founded in 1999 to improve the wel- for a lifetime home. The organization says nization supports several other programs as fare of pets, this independent non-profit its work will continue until they save every

84 www.herlifemagazine.com shelter animal from an early death, which they hope to do by 2025.

Your Local Shelter You can perhaps have the biggest impact on pets in your com- munity by donating or volunteering with your local shelter. The U.S. government doesn’t track the number of animal shelters and refuges in the country, but the American Humane estimates that there are at least 13,500 brick-and-mortar shelters, animal sanc- tuaries and rescue groups. You can help by adopting a pet as well as volunteering your time and donating money, food, blankets or toys. You’ll have the benefit of seeing the direct impact of your contribution, which isn’t usually possible when you donate to a large national organization. Besides these five top pet charities, there are many others wor- thy of honorable mention. If you’re concerned about the treatment of animals in medical labs and slaughterhouses, the Animal Welfare Institute, based in Washington, D.C., works to reduce animal cru- elty. Friends of Animals is a Connecticut-based organization that focuses on controlling animal breeding. More than 2.5 million ani- mals have been neutered by the charity since 1957. The Performing Animal Welfare Society works to protect circus elephants and oth- er performing animals in their workplaces and provide then with a peaceful sanctuary for retirement. ■

Sources: americanhumane.org, charitywatch.org, charitynavigator.org, petsmartcharities.org, bestfriends.org and petcofoundation.org.

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Today’s Timeshare Outlook

The timeshare business doesn’t enjoy a favorable reputation. Tainted by overly aggressive salespersons and buyers not fully understanding the product they’ve purchased, timeshare companies regularly show up on lists of industries drawing consumer complaints. As a result, it’s negatively impacted their status with vacationers. In addition, many folks forgo the ongoing costs of timeshare properties as the popularity of home-sharing blossoms. WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT

t has less to do with the sharing econ- the aging baby boomer market. But no one is years. As the timeshare concept has evolved, omy and more to do with changing de- giving up on them as they remain a $10 billion many companies have moved to a process giv- “Imographics,” stated Christopher Hen- retail player in this industry, with ownership ing owners “points,” allowing the ability to ry, a member of the International Society of in more than 10 million U.S. households. How- exchange them for resorts across the nation Hospitality Consultants. “While the model is ever, timeshare companies understand they or the world, thereby increasing flexibility to still popular with baby boomers, the concept must offer more diverse opportunities to at- meet the changing needs of customers. struggles to sell with millennials. who prefer tract new owners and upsell current ones. “Points-based timeshares are the most to spend their money on unique and authen- Timeshares can be broken into four ba- flexible. You can change location or unit size tic experiences while not being tied down to sic groups. In a Fixed Week, owners purchase as well as the time of your vacation,” noted commitments. Timeshares provide the exact the right of staying in a property located at Sara Strock, a long-time timeshare owner and opposite of this mindset.” popular vacation destinations such as Florida, owner advocate. “However, you compete with Home sharing is fairly new to the vaca- Hawaii and more for a set week each year. In other owners for prime locations and times.” tion industry, but that hasn’t hindered the as- Floating agreements, owners have the ability Other disadvantages of possessing a tronomic growth of Airbnb, valued by Forbes to bank their property for another location or timeshare include ongoing expenses. Not only in 2018 at $38 billion with five million daily take their week at another time. In Right-to- are owners on the hook for the initial cost of listings. Timeshares have been conventional Use, the buyer leases the property for a set obtaining their points or property week, many vacation stops for generations, appealing to amount of time for a determined number of also get caught in mortgages with steep inter-

86 www.herlifemagazine.com est rates. However, some can switch to per- sonal loans while others have the price cov- ered with cash. Probably the biggest headache for owners is that maintenance expenses are ongoing while you have the timeshare. Usu- ally, the fees are based on a percentage of the value of the property you own. Industry sourc- es report the average cost at $660 per year, but that amount can go up, and you have no control over its growth. If you’re thinking timeshares are a solid investment, think again. Normally, they de- crease in value. You don’t own property; you simply own the right to stay in that proper- ty. In fact, some owners wind up giving away their timeshare to get out from paying the maintenance fees. But their loss is great news for buyers who can find bargains on timeshare resale websites. “If you’re a planner and can plan va- cations a year in advance, a points-system purchased resale can cut your vacation costs in half. In addition, you get a condo, instead of a hotel room, that has a kitchen so you can reduce costs by eating in,” noted Sara. “A lot of resorts can be very high end. However, a lot are not. Timesharing is not for everyone. Last-minute travelers and those looking for high-end accommodations and services won’t really enjoy timesharing or get the value out of it.” Many timeshare owners embrace the ability of planning vacations at award-win- ning getaways or accommodations and not worrying about the actual costs of paying for a five-star resort. Also, you might enjoy gift- ing your friends or family your timeshare or donating it to a nonprofit. Some use them for family gatherings. But if you’re contemplating a purchase, don’t make your decision based on impulse. Do your homework; this is a purchase that will be with you for the rest of your life. “Research, research, research,” stated Sara. “Use the internet, sources like Facebook groups, TUG2.com and others to determine if a timeshare is right for you. Then, consider resale first if you’re interested.” Many owners point to the fact a time- share forces a family or couple to actually plan a vacation and take it. Whether you’re looking to try a home-sharing option or buying into the timeshare industry, the important thing to remember is to actually take your vacation, something many hard-working Americans forget to do. ■

Sources: travelandleisure.com, usatoday.com and tripadvisor.com.

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JUST SAYIN’

WRITTEN BY MIX 93.3 PERSONALITY JENNY MATTHEWS PHOTOGRAPHY BY LAUREN FRISCH PUSATERI

Do you ever look back at old photos and seriously question your fashion choices?! Times you were really feelin’ yourself and the outfit you had on, only to look back years later and wonder what in the world you were thinking?

y neighbors were posing for home- also need to wear functional attire! I’d person- Mama to get down on the floor and play. I coming pictures recently and it ally like to thank the inventor of leggings and need to be comfortable. So, it’s a lot of jeans, M prompted me to take a look back at give a big high five to whoever came up with sneakers and sweatshirts. It’s a lot of athlei- some of my own from the ’90s. I’m not sure athleisure wear. sure wear. But I feel like I’ve found a way to what was more frightening, my perm and very I have a job where I could show up in just keep it casual, comfy, functional and cute. high, hair-sprayed bangs or the blue velvet about anything and not a soul would care. But The section of my closet with the sassy dress I wore with black tights and casual flats. it’s funny; even wearing sweats and hats gets girls’ night out or date night outfits has got- Let’s just say, it wasn’t my best look! old. Sometimes I need to wear “real clothes” Styles change and I’ve always tried to just to remind myself that I’m still human! I ten smaller. That’s for sure. But my heart has keep up with the trends. But after having kids, have really embraced the lifestyle I live, the never felt more full. I’m doing what I love and it got a little trickier. I want to look cute, but I job I have and the kids (and dogs) that need wearing what makes sense. ■

Jenny Matthews is the host of Mix 93.3’s ‘Jenny Matthews Show’, 10am -3pm, Monday - Friday. Check out Jenny’s podcast ‘Real Life with Jenny Matthews,’ follow along with her blog and connect at www.jennymatthewsonair.com.

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Tied the Knot July 28, 2018

Seema Amin

Deval& Patel

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Sweet Dreams Cake Company eema Amin, 31, graduated from Shawnee chapter ‘The Unbreakable Vow.’ Inside was a ring Mission Northwest and the University of box; at that point Deval proposed. I was then sur- Venue Kansas with a degree in psychology and a prised by my brother, who had flown in from KC, Boulevard Brewing Company, minorS in business. She then attended InterAmerican and all my friends and we spent the evening danc- Embassy Suites Olathe University of Puerto Rico School of Optometry and ing on a rooftop in NYC.” is now a practicing optometrist in New York City. The blissful couple tied the knot July 28, 2018. Videography Deval Patel, 30, graduated from Middlesex Seema and Deval had a welcome dinner the evening Bryan Engel County Academy then went on to University of before at Boulevard Brewing Company catered by the Sciences in Philadelphia and is now a practic- Chuys, during which friends and family came to- jeweler ing pharmacist at Jersey City Medical Center in the Leharr Collection Emergency Department. gether for an evening filled with music and min- “Like many New Yorkers, Deval and I met on- gling. “Our wedding day started early,” Seema says. Stationery line and for our first date we went to a jazz club,” We had first-look pictures that were outside, just Kayla Heckman Seema smiles. “Deval asked me if I wanted to go to the two of us. During the wedding we had pistachio a concert. I thought he was asking me on a second ice cream from Baskin Robbins passed around; who Henna date when he meant that night. “We met a couple doesn’t want ice cream at 10 am!? After our tradi- Jayna Pate of his friends at an underground pop-up show and tional Hindu ceremony, we went to Taco Bell, one of saw Cole Ramstad and the Chinatown All Stars, who our favorites, and did a photo shoot there. We then are an incredible jazz/funk band. Needless to say, it changed out of our wedding outfits and into our re- was our last first date ever.” ception outfits for more pictures. That was followed For the proposal, Deval had a friend invite the by cocktail hour and a reception that never seemed couple to a “gala” in Central Park. “The morning to end. It was truly a magical day.” of the gala, he told me that there happened to be a Seema and Deval spent three weeks honey- Harry Potter-themed geocache also happening that weekend in Central Park,” she relates. “We arrived mooning in South Africa and Zambia, where they at the park where Deval led me up a hill where there went hiking, whiskey tasting, wine tasting, ate was a pile of red roses, and on top of the roses was incredible food, took a helicopter tour of Victoria Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince. When I opened Falls, and watched elephants cross the Zambezi the book, he had cut out the book to reveal the River from the hotel pool. ■

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Clothed in Confidence Foundation4 Domestic Violence Prevention

as her soul shattered when he told the model takes the runway, a short video that her no one would love her as much depicts the essence of their abuse plays. When Was he did? Was it the time he kicked the model takes the platform and begins her her in the thigh, leaving a perfect foot-sized or his walk, there isn’t a dry eye in the audi- and foot-shaped bruise? Or was it the moment ence and the standing ovation, cheering and she realized she had been there for 18 years encouraging words give the survivor a sense of and if she didn’t leave soon, she might not live confidence s/he had long forgotten. to see another birthday? Leslie wasn’t sure, “The first year we held the fashion show, but after years of counseling and soul seeking, we started to understand the power of telling she narrowed it all down to one phrase: lack of the stories,” said co-founder Tracey Passan- self-confidence. tino. “The quality of their videos was embar- In early 2012, nearly nine years after she rassing as they were shot on an iPad with bad left her abuser, Leslie and her sister decided lighting and poor sound. Yet the audience un- to start a non-profit that would eventually be derstood that each survivor needed to know renamed Foundation4 Domestic Violence Pre- that their worth as a person was not compro- vention, or F4DVP. The organization’s purpose mised by what they experienced.” goal is for the materials to be used in such a would be, and still is, to educate. A surprising A 2019 survivor model explained, “I was way that a foundation of self-worth is estab- outcome of their primary fundraiser has been honored to participate in Clothed in Confi- lished during early elementary school. Val- to create space for healing through fashion. dence. My prayer is that others are inspired ues identification occurs in mid-elementary Clothed in Confidence: Hats & Heels is to get free as well. Sharing my story made me school and learning to set boundaries against going into its fourth year in 2020. The fashion feel free from the shame that controlled me values is taught in sixth through eighth grades. show features 24 models wearing the latest for 20+ years!” Concept testing has been partially completed spring trends including hats and heels. The Funds raised from Clothed in Confidence: and plans to conduct a fourth-grade pilot test guys get a break on the heels! Hats & Heels are being used to develop an in spring 2020 are being finalized. What’s incredibly unique to Clothed in education model for elementary and middle Clothed in Confidence: Hats & Heels Confidence is not the styles that are modeled schools. F4DVP envisions the model as one that will be held in April 2020. For details about but the stories that are shared. Every fourth students barely notice and teachers can easily modeling or supporting the event, visit model is a domestic violence survivor. Before plug into existing lesson plans. The ultimate Foundation4DVP.org. ■

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City. His resonant voice is a signature of Kansas Nov. 29th - Dec. 1st City’s swingin’ jazz and blues sound. Swedish Potted Potter critic Kaber Liden called him “the unbelievable THE FOLLY THEATER combination of Mel Torme, Jon Hendricks and The critically acclaimed comedic rendition of NOVEMBER Al Jarreau.” Basse adds a unique twist to his all seven Harry Potter books in 70 minutes, phrasing that makes him more than the sum Potted Potter will have you flying off your of his influences. For information, please check seat (or broomstick) with laughter. Called corbintheatre.org. “gloriously goofy” by The New York Times, it’s Nov. 9th the perfect show for muggles, witches and Wine and Swine at the KC Winery wizards of all ages. Tickets are available thru 13875 GARDNER ROAD, OLATHE, KANSAS Nov. 22nd - 23rd ticketmaster.com Enjoy a fun evening with friends, fine local Lake Quivira Holiday Bazaar wines from KC Winery such as Prairie Rose, 1:00PM – 8:00PM, FRIDAY; shiraz, Vidal Blanc and chardonnay, hard cider 9:00AM – 4:00PM, SATURDAY Nov. 30th and wine slushies as well as non-alcoholic THE CLUBHOUSE AT LAKE QUIVIRA, Luminary Walk beverages plus Jack Stack’s award-winning 100 CRESCENT BOULEVARD OVERLAND PARK ARBORETUM & BOTANICAL GARDENS barbecue, “olymPIG” games and line dancing Holiday shopping is at its best at Lake Quivira’s The Arboretum transforms with miles of can- lessons. Proceeds benefit JCYM’s philanthropies festively decorated 1930 stone clubhouse, with dles, holiday lights live musical entertainment, and Scholarship Fund. Details at jcym.net. 50 local vendors featuring boutique home Santa Claus in the Depot, horse-drawn wagon décor, jewelry, gifts, pet items, clothing, rides, hot cider around a campfire and mystical accessories and more! Excitement include a Gnome and Fairy Villages. Nov. 10th community bake sale, raffle, wine pull and Gobbler Grind Half Marathon holiday entertainment Friday evening. Follow CORPORATE WOODS on facebook.com/lakequiviraholidaybazaar. A semi-flat, easy route makes Gobbler Grind a great fall race. This race features three dis- Save the tances, 5K, 10K and Half Marathon to fit within Nov. 23rd date! your training schedule and get you ready for Northern Lights Holiday Lighting the feast of all feasts – Thanksgiving! Ceremony ZONA ROSA TOWN SQUARE Dec. 13th - 15th Kick off the holiday season with a special light- Biggest Sale Ever! Nov. 14th - 17th ing ceremony to spotlight the 50-foot Christ- KCI EXPO CENTER Holiday Boutique mas tree in Town Square. Enjoy performances It’s great holiday shopping at the OVERLAND PARK CONVENTION CENTER by local Kansas City bands, emcees and more, Biggest Sale Ever, which includes Deck the halls with one-of-a-kind shopping including the official arrival of the holiday women’s fashion, health products, finds. Visitors have fours days only to shop Santa Claus! local artisans, home décor, children hundreds of booths and find the latest trends toys, pet zone, and specialty gifts in apparel, décor, jewelry, seasonal gifts, gour- with big savings! Over 300 vendors met foods and more! Girls’ Night Out is Friday Nov. 23rd will offer a variety of discounts night, with music, drinks, fantastic door prizes Winterfest at Worlds of Fun on their products. Consumers will and late night, exclusive access to some of the Thousands of sparkling lights transform the have the opportunity to get new chicest boutiques in the area. park with an inviting glow that warms the products and have a great time with heart and lifts the spirit. Festive live shows, family and friends. More info is at meet iconic holiday characters, join holiday biggestsaleeverusa.com. Nov. 14th – Nov. 24th activities like ice skating and cookie decorating. Victor/Victoria This holiday event takes place on select nights ARTS ASYLUM, 9TH & HARRISON in November and December. Check dates at Dec. 14th The Barn Players present this witty, tuneful worldsoffun.com. Wine Oh! comic romp that amusingly examines questions 1:00PM - 5:00PM AND 6:00 PM - 10:00PM of gender, identity and love. Tickets available KCI EXPO CENTER AMBASSADOR BALL- at thebarnplayers.org. Nov. 28th ROOM Country Club Plaza 90th Anniversary It’s the wine festival of the year! 5:00PM, PRE-SHOW BEGINS Come sip, taste and purchase the Nov. 15th Notable Kansas City native Heidi Gardner will most popular wines and shop David Basse and His Trio serve as the honored guest to flip the switch on ’til you drop at the Biggest Sale 7:00PM, THE CORBIN THEATER this year’s plaza lights. Pre-show includes per- Ever! For more information, visit 15 N. WATER STREET, LIBERTY, MISSOURI formances and giveaways from the Main Stage wineohkc.com. David Basse is a tireless and prolific one-man followed by the flip of the switch, fireworks promotional machine for the sound of Kansas and a post-ceremony concert by The Elders.

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STAR JOURNEYS

This is the time to be grateful for the things that have gone right for you this year and for the support systems that you have, whether that is family, friends or significant others. Either way, all signs are going to benefit from spending time with family, as this will also bolster and fortify the career and health sectors. Take the time to let those you love know how you feel about them this month. This is not the time to make quick decisions. WRITTEN BY MELODY BUSSEY

Capricorn (DEC. 22-JAN. 19) Taurus (APR. 20-MAY 20) Virgo (AUG. 23-SEPT. 22) Creating your destiny will come as a breeze to you Being career minded will soon become fruitful as With most of your personal planets moving East this month as your house of self becomes powerful. the 8th comes and goes. It is safe to focus more on to West, the need for social power is at an all-time Mistakes and misgivings will only be a temporary your career than family for now; don’t completely high. Good things will come from good friends, so snag this month as you push forward. Take this time lose yourself in work, though, as this will hurt your don’t be afraid to lean on anyone during this time. to mold your life and take care to think everything family. You will flourish with a little help. With the planets through. below the horizon line, focus needs to be directed toward family and home, not career.

Aquarius (JAN. 20-FEB. 18) Gemini (MAY 21-JUNE 20) Libra (SEPT. 23-OCT. 22) As your house of career is above the horizon, it is a Take this month slowly; ease into your usual routines This month is all about forward movement. Most good time to find the strength to push forward into and do not rush head first into anything. Health is deli- of your planets are moving forward, as should you. your career. Career-minded decisions are fruitful cate and feeble this month, as most of your planets align This is a time to seize the day and move confidently this month and financial problems seem to fade in stressful patterns. This month will test you and get- toward your goals. Like last month, family should for the time being. Love is a big issue, as many old ting through it in one piece will be a personal victory. be your main focus, since the planets will be sitting wounds may flare up, so weather the storm to find below the horizon. Do not forget to make compro- calm seas. mises on the battlefield of love.

Pisces (FEB. 19-MAR. 20) Cancer (JUNE 21-JULY 23) Scorpio (OCT. 23-NOV. 21) Your most prominent house this month will be your As the month progresses, it’s important for you to With the dawn of the new month, financial strains career house as your planets shift to make it a house understand that two heads are better than one. This will seem to vanish and release their hold on you. of power. There will come a great success in your means it is better to have help. Family and emotional Your health is good and no matter what you do, love career as you gain forward momentum. During this issues will take precedence over career this month. will be following you. The fourth house of home month it is advised to find that perfect balance be- November will be fast and plentiful for you. and family is full and powerful again; this means tween life and work, or issues will certainly arise. you should focus on family and they will help you prosper.

Aries (MAR. 21-APR. 19) Leo (JUL. 24-AUG. 2) Sagittarius (NOV. 22-DEC. 21) Saturn has moved into your house of family for the Planetary power rests solely in your western sector. The planets are on the move again, as is your state long term, which means family matters will affect This is a sign to be cautious and take choices slow- of mind. This month starts the feel-good attitude you harder and deeper than before, nor will you ly. Do not start or make hasty changes to yourself or you will adopt, instead of the heavily career-orient- be able to let go. Career is high this month, which diet; research more. With your house of self empty, ed mind frame. Take advantage of the this feeling will clash with your house of love, work or family. you need to take this time to put others’ needs before and base decisions off what feels good to you, as you Finding that perfect equilibrium will be tough but your own. On the other end, your house of love and will do two things you love: feel good and succeed. rewarding. social activities is very full.

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