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ner” for a very long time. He took some time to reply: “Occasion- to be a strategic success, mainly for Rus- Liberman: We In an interview with Al-Monitor, Liber- ally, it works in the interest of the mat- sian President Vladimir Putin but also man addressed the U.S.-Russia-Israel stra- ter. This particular rapprochement be- for U.S. President Barack Obama, who Welcomed the tegic triad against the backdrop of the Al- tween Washington and Moscow helps to threatened to use force but ultimately Monitor Conference that took place last resolve tough issues while using relative- achieved his goal. Agreement As for the Iranian issue, Israel spear- In an exclusive interview with Al-Monitor, Israeli heads a raucous and vocal opposition. with Syria “Coordination between the two powers Foreign Minister Avigdor Liberman discusses has become more dominant,” says Liber-  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 US-Russian cooperation in the Middle East, man. “What is important is that this coordination helps both countries to reach man’s absence—exemplifi ed great pa- Iran and Syria, and U.S. -Israeli ties. practical solutions, while playing down tience. the fact that they do not see eye to eye Both sides suffered quite a bit dur- on all issues.” He sharpens the point: “In ing that period. Liberman fought tooth week in Washington and is dedicated to ly easy ways. This is the case with Syria. Syria, for example, the Americans and and nail for his political life, consoling this topic. Regrettably, sometimes this is not always the Russians do not hold the same opin- himself with the prestigious position of “What’s clear,” says the Israeli foreign so, as in the Iranian case.” ion of Syrian President Bashar al-Assad chairman of the Knesset’s Foreign Affairs minister, “is that right now the level of It’s no secret that Israel welcomed the and his fate. However, putting this dis- and Defense Committee. He missed the coordination between Russia and the agreement championed by the Russians pute aside, they focused on resolving the powerful position that he had managed United States is increasing on Syrian and for dismantling Syria’s chemical weap- issue of the chemical weapons. And it to use for leverage, profoundly and sig- Iranian issues alike.” ons. This is an agreement which is being nifi cantly changing his image through- I asked him if it is good for Israel. implemented these days and is perceived  CONTINUED ON P. 12 out diplomatic parlors across the globe. On the other hand, the Foreign Minis- try was losing its relevance. Through sa- lami slicing, many of its purviews and functions were stripped away. Netanya- hu was not really interested in what was going on there, and Elkin—who had taken offi ce only 10 months earlier—was unable to preserve the little that was left, demonstrating poor performance. Liberman’s return to the Foreign Min- istry on November 12 heralded the reunion between two lovers who had been separated by brute force. Liberman was moved to see that even the pen he had left behind on his desk remained un- touched. Senior ministry offi cials who have high regard for him, his manage- ment skills and his ability to exercise power received him with open arms, expressing hope that he would reinstate the ministry’s former glory, purviews, infl uence and relevance. On December 2, Liberman traveled with Netanyahu for a work visit to Rome. From there, he took off for Washington, where he spent last week meeting with senior administration offi cials, including U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry. From Washington he will dash to Moscow, a trip that is no coincidence. Liberman gin- gerly straddles these two capitals. Mentally and emotionally, Liberman’s heart belongs to Moscow. Soviet-born, he spent his formative years in Kishinev during the days of the Soviet Union, before immigrating to Israel at age 20. He thinks, plans, counts and dreams in Rus- sian. Yet, he has learned to appreciate the United States. In many ways, what happened to him is what happened back in the day to former Prime Minister Ar- iel Sharon who was regarded a pariah in Washington in the wake of the First Leb- anon War (1982), almost like Fidel Cas- tro after the Bay of Pigs Invasion. When he became prime minister, Sharon nego- tiated himself to the right of President George W. Bush, becoming the staunch- est supporter of the United States and its global infl uence. He forged a strategic alliance with the White House and was ad- equately rewarded in return. Liberman is not there yet, but he knows on which side the bread is but- tered. He is also trying to set up, with modest success, a personal strategic channel for engaging in a dialogue with the U.S. administration after having been considered by Washington a “non-part-

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will be to issue a get on a case by case ba- Beit Din to Alleviate Agony of Agunot sis. Time limits for the resolution of cases will be established and no money beyond By Maxine Dovere Then recalcitrant husbands discovered bis, and Israeli politicos. The biggest chal- established fees will ever be paid. “Total “get-mail.” It was nothing like “you’ve got lenge, the panelists said then, and Krauss transparency within the protection of pri- ew York—The International Agunah mail.” Get-mail is when a woman needs said now, is acceptance from the haredim vacy… is a core principle,” assured Green- NBeit Din, under the supervision of a divorce because she lives under intol- and the offi ce of the Israeli Chief Rabbin- berg. The court will consider “pre-existing Rabbi Simcha Krauss, will begin function- erable circumstances, especially in cases ate. He hopes the haredim will see that defi cits including studies of violence and ing in February. The announcement was involving domestic violence and verbal the Modern Orthodox have offered a so- abuse.” made by Blu Greenberg, President of the abuse, and her husband holds her and her lution that could be emulated by them. It is anticipated that the Internation- Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance (JOFA), family over a barrel, because he has the The Israeli Rabbinate approval is impor- al Beit Din will be a teaching mechanism, at the organization’s bi-annual conference power to withhold the get for money, cus- tant if the Beit Din is to carry weight in and will act as a model for all batei din. held last Sunday at John Jay College. The tody and whatever terms he decides will the Israeli court system. As he told Jewish “Its goal is to free agunot and ultimately Beit Din will refer to and consult with ex- give him what he wants. Even then, there media, “No one wants agunot.” self-destruct,” said Greenberg. perts, generally leaving decisions about fi - is no guarantee he will grant the get. The Prior to undertaking the leadership of The new Beit Din will be empowered nancial and custody matters in the hands Agudath Israel is against even pre-nups the International Beit Din, Krauss sought to fi nd solutions. Rabbi Adam Mintz, one of secular courts. The Beit Din will have because “They set the wrong tone at the the counsel of scholar Rabbi She’ar of the rabbis on the Beit Din, told the one ultimate goal: to free agunot (chained start of a marriage.” And yet it is the agu- Yashuv Cohen, president of Haifa’s rab- story of how, in 1928, Rabbi Yosef Eliya- women) from the bondage of a non-func- nah issue more than any other in Ortho- binic courts and former chief rabbi of hu Henkin recognized that halakhic so- tioning marriage. More than 1,000 wom- dox Judaism that confronts, head on, the Haifa, and other rabbinical authorities. lutions alone were not enough to solve en attended the conference. notion that halakha is based on ethics Noted rabbis and legal experts have given the agunah situation in America. But Or- For the fi rst time since Rabbi Emanuel and human rights. Only last month, rab- their support and their name to the for- thodox support was missing, especially Rackman’s attempt to set up a Bet Din to bis, who were ostensibly on the side of mation of the International Beit Din. Rab- when the Conservative Movement issued free agunot in the 1990s—one shut down freeing agunot, were busted by the FBI bi Zalman Nechemia Goldberg, an early its decrees regarding the matter. Mintz by opposition from mainstream Ortho- for all kinds of unsavory reasons, not the supporter of pre-nups, is a much respect- then told the story of Rabbi Akiva and doxy—and after centuries of frustration least of which was infl icting torture on re- ed rosh yeshiva, posek and chief justice the Roman authorities discussing agunot, and inaction affecting one of the most calcitrant husbands. of the rabbinical high court in Jerusalem. wherein agunot were likened to the poor, complex of human relationships, the Even with the prenuptial “agunah-pre- A third prominent Israeli rosh yeshiva is and like the poor, they must be supported methods of dissolving marriage are being vention” agreements that are signed by also giving his support but asked to re- and assisted. seriously challenged from within the To- many Modern Orthodox and some yeshi- main nameless at this time. “We must be the community of sup- rah community. vishe couples, more than 50% of Ortho- The International Beit Din was incor- port for the new Beit Din… is our job, in For a thousand years, limited rab- dox women in Israel have reported that porated in the United States. Six to ten the spirit of Rabbi Akiva, to protect this binic remedies to end a failed marriage their husbands have warned their wives dayanim (judges), none of them women, new Beit Din from detractors and see it have been available. Annulment could that they would suffer from loss of home, will sit on the panel. Already chosen are established as an accepted norm in the be granted based on several conditions, sustenance and children if they wanted Rabbi Yosef Blau, longtime mashgiach ru- Jewish community…Backing down is an among them invalid money transfer (the a get—not to mention how they would chani (spiritual advisor) at Yeshiva Uni- approach in insecurity. If we have the self ring) or lack of full disclosure by bride clean out her parents… In haredi commu- versity and Rabbi Joseph Polak, who was confi dence, if we have a community that or groom. Would the marriage have tak- nities in Israel that number is even high- Hillel director at Boston University and is fi rmly committed, we will move for- en place if the woman or man had prior er. chairs the halakha committee of the Bos- ward.” knowledge of pertinent information? Di- Much of the status of the get situation ton Beit Din. In addition, colleagues in Simply put, the goal of the Interna- vorce “because I want to…” was far more in the international Orthodox world was the mental health professions will work tional Beit Din is to free agunot. “We will,” diffi cult and required the cooperation of discussed last June at a special JOFA Con- with court. While women will not be day- stated Blu Greenberg, “line up the politi- both parties: the husband had to give the ference in New York, featuring agunah anot, they will act as advocates. get, the wife had to accept/reject it. activists, legal and Torah scholars, rab- The prime objective of the Beit Din  CONTINUED ON P. 28 NEWS BRIEFS

Begin Says He Never Got 2005, they returned just 3% to survivors, yours, and theirs—-and the world’s,” Bu- administration have fi ercely lashed out Approval from Bedouins heirs and assigns. Merav Michaeli, a Labor ber and Hazaz wrote, according to doc- against the army-backed government that Jerusalem— YNet news reported Ben- MK and Holocaust hero Reszo Kasztner’s uments released by the Israel State Ar- replaced the Muslim Brotherhood-linked ny Begin, who designed what is now granddaughter, let Hashava have it. “In chives, Israel Hayom reported. government of former Egyptian President called the Praver-Begin Plan to relocate light of the large amount of funds current- Mohammed Morsi, 48 percent of Turks Bedouins, wrote a letter to Doron Almog, ly held by the company… there is cause to Report: Iran Building rated Ankara’s approach unsuccessful vs. who is charge of implementing the Praver- signifi cantly increase the amount of aid New Nuclear Site 29.8 percent who rated it successful. Begin Bedouin resettlement plan. In it he that the survivors receive, while preserv- According to a report from Reuters, said that claims that he got the Bedouins ing their rights and dignity.” She noted the dissident National Council of Resist- Kerry Marathon on Peace Talks to agree to the plan are false. The letter was that the company’s liquid assets could be ance of Iran (NCRI), said they have infor- (AFP)—U.S. Secretary of State John given to the Knesset’s Interior Committee directed to Holocaust survivors without mation about a secret underground nu- Kerry met Netanyahu for the third time last Monday. According to Ynet, the letter affecting Hashava’s operations. If passed, clear site inside a complex of tunnels in 24 hours last Friday for talks regard- said, “In wake of our last conversation, in the bill would also have some 80% of the beneath mountains northeast of Tehran. ing Israel’s security. The U.S. is “inching” which you told me what Coalition Chair- funds directly transferred to survivors’ “The site consists of four tunnels and has closer to Israel’s position on issues reman Yariv Levin said regarding the legis- bank accounts, thus reducing administra- been constructed by a group of engineer- garding the region’s security. Kerry met lation of the new bill regulating Bedouin tive costs of transferring the funds. ing and construction companies associat- twice with Netanyahu last Thursday for settlement in the Negev, I wish to reiter- ed with the engineering arms of the Min- more than six hours to talk about securi- ate that in contradiction of what has been Israel Lobbied Against Death istry of Defense and the IRGC,” NCRI said. ty and met with Abbas for three hours in claimed during recent weeks, I never told Penalty for Mandela Ramallah. Abbas rejected every offer set a soul that the Bedouins agreed with my (JNS.org) Newly declassifi ed docu- Turkey’s Self-Image Under Siege forth by the Americans, claiming the U.S. plan. The reason is simple: I didn’t say it ments reveal that the Israeli Foreign (TIP)--Turkish fi gures are scrambling would allow Israelis to continue to live because I couldn’t say it, I never presented Ministry in 1964, under the leadership of to halt a slide in Ankara’s regional stature in the region. Chief negotiator Saeb Er- them with the plan.” future prime minister Golda Meir, con- and in the domestic position of its rul- akat told AFP the situation was “still very vinced Jewish philosopher Martin Buber ing Justice and Development Party (AKP) diffi cult and matters are complicated.” A Kasztner’s Granddaughter and Israeli author Haim Hazaz to send a government, amid new polls showing de- senior PA source was more direct, saying Champions Survivors letter asking the South African apartheid clines in how people inside and outside Kerry’s security proposals “were very bad Jerusalem—Hashava, also known as government not to seek the death pen- Turkey view the country and the AKP. ideas which we cannot accept.” Maariv The Company for Location and Restitu- alty against Nelson Mandela and other Hurriyet Daily News reported that the per- reported that Israeli officials are pleased tion of Holocaust Victims’ Assets, was African National Congress (ANC) mem- centage of Turks who feel that AKP’s for- with Kerry’s security proposals. One put on notice by a unanimous vote in bers in their trial.”... From the land of Is- eign policy is “successful” has dropped 11 of their sources said Washington “had the Knesset that cut funds to them and rael, we ask you to assert your faith in points since 2011, to 26.7 when measured moved considerably in the direction of doubles the monthly stipend for survi- the nobility of man, whatever the color last month. Asked more specifi cally about Israel’s demands” and had “accepted Isra- vors. Hashava has 66,000 assets worth of his skin. And if you ‘do unto others’ in the AKP’s policy toward Egypt—Prime el’s position on a long-term presence in $580 mil, half in liquid assets. Yet since accordance with this faith, the future is Minister Recept Tayyip Erdogan and his the Jordan Valley.”

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Liberman: We tile playground where the two pow- and then Moscow. Russia is a factor to be sian and U.S. interests, but to our mind it ers are also jostling for more clout: “The reckoned with in the region, whereas the does not coincide with Israel’s interests Welcomed the Ukraine,” he says, “is another exam- United States is our greatest friend and and position.” ple. The Russians were able to throw a strategic asset,” he says. Liberman would not elaborate be- Agreement wrench into a deal that had already been Liberman got into hot water on the day yond that. However, if you now listen clinched between the Ukraine and the he resumed the position of foreign minis- closely to Netanyahu, he keeps reiterat- with Syria European Union with the backing of the ter. He was thought to have criticized U.S. ing—almost on a daily basis—that Israel United States. At this very moment, we’re policy when he said at a reception in his will not allow Iran to acquire nuclear ca-  CONTINUED FROM P. 9 seeing the battle, which has turned into honor that Israel needed to “fi nd other al- pability, and if it has to do the work on its an internal Ukrainian struggle and a do- lies, too.” In the days that followed, he ex- own, so be it. worked.” mestic political crisis.” plained what he had meant. It seems that In recent days, Netanyahu has come It’s not that Liberman thinks that we Liberman has no clue as to how the he did not want to jab the Americans; under scathing criticism from differ- can rest on our laurels and that from dispute in the Ukraine will unfold in light quite the contrary. He was aiming at Israe- ent directions. Former Prime Minister now on the two powers will work in har- of the mass demonstrations against the lis or perhaps even at Netanyahu. Ehud Olmert stated on Dec.ember 1 that mony. “Clearly, the competition between rapprochement vis-à-vis Russia that is “The United States has many prob- Netanyahu was causing strategic damage the United States and Russia continues. advocated by the incumbent president, lems, both domestic and global. Isra- to the alliance with the United States, There’s no doubt about that. We’re talk- and in favor of further rapprochement el is not its only child. We must not act declaring, in fact, war on Washington. ing about two powers that need to pre- vis-à-vis the West. Yet, without knowing as if we are the be-all and end-all, as if And who will come to our rescue, Olmert serve their strategic interests. We can see the outcome, he encourages “this spe- the Americans need only to take us into asked sarcastically. Putin? What will we this competition most prominently in cial dance of continuing the competition consideration,” he explains. In Liberma- do without Obama? On December 2, he Egypt nowadays,” Liberman adds. “The over powerful positions and clout, while nese, it sounds an all-clear siren and also was joined by Finance Minister Yair Lapid visit of the Russian foreign minister and cooperating in areas where this is need- a broad hint at Netanyahu’s alarmist ap- who told CNBC, albeit more tactfully, that defense minister to Cairo clearly demon- ed and can be effective. This is the effec- proach that keeps spewing left, right and problems in the family should be solved strates that. In light of the crisis between tive and dominant modus operandi in to- center umbrage and doomsday prophe- within the family and not in public. Cairo and Washington, the Russians day’s global politics,” he says. “We need cies and his own sense of being offend- Netanyahu was unperturbed by this want to renew their infl uence in Egypt to be pleased that Putin and Obama have ed, regarding the interim agreement be- criticism, continuing with his routine. and take advantage of the vacuum that found the formula to maintain this dance tween the world powers and Iran. He compared today’s situation to that was created there. This is how the world without having it escalate into strategic According to Liberman, he is trying of the leaders of American Jewry during operates, and the same holds true in di- crises. They have had the good sense of to pacify, bring calm and put things in World War II who, instead of raising hell plomacy. We should take it in stride,” the cooperating in many spheres where such proportion instead of panicking. “We to save Europe’s Jews, appealed to Presi- Israeli foreign minister opines. “What is cooperation is called for, while continu- welcomed the agreement with Syria,” dent Franklin Roosevelt in hushed back- important is that Russia and the United ally testing each other, fi nding mutual he states, “because it was a good one. In room talks. States know how to continue the histori- weaknesses or vulnerabilities and contin- the setting of this agreement, the Syr- And what about Liberman? He is cal and traditional competition between uing the competition. This is like the mar- ians are giving up all their infrastruc- somewhere in the middle between the them, but at the same time espouse pro- ket forces in the economic sphere. That’s tures, all their chemical weapons and sparring sides. On the one hand, he, too, ductive cooperation. These two things the kind of reality we need to adapt to.” all their future production capabilities believes that the Geneva deal is a bad can coexist. It’s only natural for the Rus- I asked Liberman where Israel is situ- of such weapons. The agreement is very one. On the other hand, he is a practical sians to want to have a bigger foothold ated in this powerful equation and what clear and concrete, dismantling Syria of man. He is better at doing things than and have more infl uence wherever it is it needs to do in light of its long-standing its chemical capabilities. Period. Unfor- talking about them. He would rather tell possible, particularly in places where the alliance with the United States on the one tunately, the agreement with Iran does the Americans what is on his mind inside United States is growing weaker and its hand and the mounting Russian infl uence not contain these elements. Iran main- the room. At least for now. infl uence is waning. On the other hand, in the region, especially in connection tains its capabilities. It gives up very little Read more: http://www.al-mon- there are crises that can be effectively re- with Syria and Iran, on the other hand. of what it has achieved, preserving its ca- itor.com/pulse/originals/2013/12/ solved only through cooperation, and we “We’re trying to adapt to the circum- pability to break out toward its fi rst nu- avigdor-liberman-interview-isra- need to be happy that Putin and Obama stances while upholding our own strate- clear bomb within a matter of months. el-us-russia-relations-iran.html?utm_ are able to do this as well.” gic interests. This is precisely the reason It’s possible that this agreement was source=&utm_medium=email&utm_ Liberman refers to another vola- why I’m heading now to Washington achieved through a conjuncture of Rus- campaign=8667#ixzz2mifQU5Wd First Major Confab on Disability and Inclusion

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By Ben Birnbaum and then justice. Israel in those years was engaged in out suicide bombers. (Before Livni’s entreaties, Bush (With permission from The Washington Post) all-out war with Hamas and other Palestinian terrorist had said that it would be “very diffi cult to develop con- groups—a war whose high civilian casualties frequent- fi dence between the Palestinians and Israel with a wall PART 2 ly left the government having to explain itself to the in- snaking through the West Bank.”) Later, Abrams recalls, BY THE time Yitzhak Rabin and Yasir Arafat had their ternational community. Even as a junior minister, Livni she persuaded Bush to come out foursquare against the famous handshake on the White House lawn in 1993, Liv- became one of the country’s most effective diplomats. “right of return” for Palestinian refugees—a position en- ni had begun to move toward the center. She remained, The Israeli Army detonates a bomb destroying the shrined in Bush’s famous letter of assurances to Sharon to be sure, skeptical of her liberal Tel Aviv friends’ rever- home of Palestinian militant Mahmoud Salah in 2002. that Israel still cites today. Abrams says the view of Livni ies about a “new Middle East.” And, working as a high- “I think, frankly, the fact that she was a woman who as soft in some Israeli quarters doesn’t comport with his powered attorney at the time, she thought the Oslo ac- was taking these hardline positions helped Sharon with experience. “She could be quite tough,” he says. cords to be poorly constructed. But she had also come Condi and the president,” says Elliott Abrams, a senior Israel’s initial response to the Second Intifada had to believe that Israel could not forever rule over a hos- Bush offi cial and the author of Tested by Zion: The Bush been a lurch to the right. But as the country began to tile population, particularly a fast-expanding one that, Administration and the Israeli-Palestinian Confl ict. Ac- gain the upper hand against terrorism, Sharon and oth- combined with Israel’s own Arab minority, threatened cording to Abrams, Livni almost singlehandedly con- er right-wingers in the government started to come to one day make Jews a minority in Israeli-held territory vinced Bush, Rice, and other senior U.S. offi cials to sup- and put the country on the same moral plane as apart- port the controversial barrier Israel was building to keep  CONTINUED ON P. 16 heid South Africa. “I was caught in between,” Liv- ni recalled. “My voice was not heard.” At the helm of Likud after the 1999 elections, Sharon took Livni under his wing. Livni said she decided to enter politics on Yom Kippur 1995, a few weeks before Rabin was assassinated by a right-wing extremist. After getting the OK from her husband and her two young children, she called her mother, Sara, to share the news (her father had passed away fi ve years earlier). “Her fi rst answer was, ‘What about your children?’” Livni recalled. “But when I said my husband supports me on this, she said OK. She used to cook chicken soup for my children because ğ4)*/ſ .#$1ſ$"#ſ#**'ſ!*-ſ$-'.ſ$)1$/ .ſ4*0ſ/*ſ%*$)ſ0.ſ!*-ſ*0- she said they were starving because I decided to go into politics.” Livni narrowly missed getting into the Knesset in the 1996 elections, but shortly thereafter she received a call from Avigdor Lieber- man—Israel’s recently deposed foreign minister, ))0'ſ4ſ*!ſ/0 4ſ who at the time was new Prime Minister Benja- $)ſ/# ſ $ -'ſ-/.ſ) ſ$ ) . min Netanyahu’s chief of staff—about an interesting opportunity. Netanyahu was planning to privatize several government-owned entities and ) . 4Đſ ( -ſýĀĐſýûüþſI ýýſ 1 /ſĀĂĂÿ was looking for someone to oversee the program üûđûûſ ſĦſüđûûſ as general manager of the Government Compa- nies Authority. Livni accepted the job. I asked her if Netanyahu became a mentor to ſ đ her during that period. She replied that her interaction with the boss was confi ned largely to the two of them posing together for “photos of $ſ-ďſ+#-$(ſ )-!*" ' the big check.” “I’m not a person of mentors. The E. Billi Ivry University Professor of Jewish History, Literature and Law, Yeshiva University only mentor I can speak of as such is Jabotin- sky, who died in 1940,” she says. “I’m still quot- # ſ0-+-$.$)"ſ )/ '' /0'$.(ſ*!ſ $ 1'ſ.#& )5$ſ ing his views.” (Livni argues that Jabotinsky, who is widely associated with the most right-wing 2-4ſ) ſ$/.ſ '$"$*0.ſ) ſ*$ /'ſ**/. strain of Zionism, in fact held liberal views on minority rights and other issues, and was “different from the way he is being perceived.”) $/#ſ $/$*)'ſ' /0- .ſ4ſ( ( -.ſ*!ſ*0-ſ $./$)"0$.# ſ!0'/4Đſ$)'0 $)"đ In the 1999 elections, Livni fi nally won a place — in the Knesset, but Netanyahu lost the premier- -.ďſ(-ſ++ 'ſ 3$./ )/$'ſ ô /$*).ſ$)ſ/# ſ* /-4ſ*!ſ/)ſ# ship to Labor’s Ehud Barak, who had campaigned $ſ*))4ſ .. -ſ— .ſ0-ſ*-/ſ#$(ſſĜ $1$)"ĝſ*0( )/Ěſſ++'4$)"ſ*)./$/0/$*)'ſ "'ſ# *-4ſ/*ſ 2$.#ſ 2 on ending the confl ict with the Palestinians. Ne- tanyahu was replaced at Likud’s helm by Ariel -.ďſ)$ ſ*' -" — .ſ#& .+ - ſ)/$Ħ ($/$Ěſİ) Đſ !ſ*Đſ#4ſ*ſ ſ ſ$(Ěı Sharon, a hardline former general who promptly took Livni under his wing. Condoleezza Rice, -.ďſ #ſ -5*" — )*&#ſ Ħğ-ſ'ſ$ſ-&*đſ)ſ )/ - $.$+'$)-4ſ++-*#ſ/*ſ 2$.#ſ 0/$*) at the time a foreign-policy adviser to then–governor George W. Bush, recalls visiting Israel that -.ďſ 'ſ +0./$) — ) -./) $)"ſ * -)ſ)/$Ħ ($/$.(ſ) ſ$/.ſ$'$/4ſ/*ſ0-)ſ-$ ) ſ$)/*ſ* year and meeting Livni for the fi rst time. “It was a very hot day, and we were on the third fl oor of .ďſ()/#ſ 0- — ..$)$ſ */# -.đſſ $/ --4ſ)'4.$.ſ*!ſ/# ſ**&ſ*!ſ0/# this building,” Rice remembers. “Sharon, as he of- — ten did, pulled out all his maps to show us Isra- -.ďſ-$ ''ſ*. )0( +/*).Đſ0.ſ) ſ*.*).Đſ#ſ 4Ęſ-/$' ſ#4.$.ſ!*-ſ1 -4*) el’s security dilemma. 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By Ben Cohen/ the moment the world learned ity regime in Pretoria, but they dox leftist. In his autobiography, JNS.org that Mandela had been released rolled their eyes in irritation he discusses how he was strong- after serving 27 years in a South at the suggestion that the So- ly infl uenced by the Atlantic n the com- African jail. viet KGB, the East German Sta- Charter of 1941, a mission state- Iing days, I certainly remember where si and the Romanian Securitate ment shaped by the visions of there will be I was on February 11, 1990, when were just as bad, if not worse. Churchill and FDR for a post-war much refl ection on the life and Mandela fi nally exited prison. Indeed, I couldn’t help thinking order in which freedom would legacy of Nelson Mandela, fol- Along with thousands of others, that they regarded Mandela’s re- reign, fear and want would be lowing the former South Afri- I stood at the gates of the South lease as welcome relief from the banished, and self-government can president’s passing on Dec. African Embassy in London, an gloom that set in when com- would emerge as a core princi- 5. And in the coming weeks, imposing edifi ce on the eastern munism unraveled around the ple. Elsewhere in the book, he we can anticipate a febrile ex- side of Trafalgar Square. During same time. takes care to distinguish the Af- change over his true views on Is- my late teens, I’d become a reg- Which brings me to the rican nationalism he subscribed Nelson Mandela in 2008. Credit: rael and the Middle East. ular attendee at rallies and pro- question of Mandela’s political to from the communist beliefs South Africa The Good News We shouldn’t underestimate tests outside the embassy de- legacy. There will be no shortage that prevailed among those he the signifi cance of such a demanding Mandela’s release. I of platitudes on the left about worked with—and his under- ditions of the time, the ANC’s bate. Mandela has entered the can still hear the joyous roar of Mandela’s nonetheless heartfelt standing of nationalism bears main allies alongside the Sovi- pantheon of 20th-century fi g- the crowd gathered around me, commitment to racial tolerance, a close resemblance to the na- ets were Arab and third-world ures that exercised the most ex- as we celebrated the fact that painstaking negotiation and civ- tional movements that surfaced dictators like Ahmed Ben Bel- traordinary infl uence over glob- Mandela was no longer a pris- il disobedience in the face of in- in Europe at the end of the 19th la in Algeria and Gamal Abdel al events, touching the lives of oner of the apartheid regime. justice. Equally, many on the century, including Zionism. Nasser in Egypt. The confusion ordinary mortals in the process. Before this account gets over- right will accurately recall that This latter point is important is further stirred by the enthusi- In the 1940s, many Britons ly saccharine, I should add that Mandela’s African National Con- because there is a widespread asm of some of Mandela’s com- could tell you exactly where not every opponent of apart- gress (ANC) was closely aligned misapprehension that Mande- rades, like Archbishop Desmond they were when Churchill deliv- heid was a consistent advocate with the Soviet Union and with la was an opponent of Zionism Tutu, to share the South African ered his famous “Blood, Sweat of democracy elsewhere in the a host of thoroughly unpleasant and Israel. In part, that’s because franchise on the word “apart- and Tears” speech to the House world. Many of the protestors terrorist organizations, like the a mischievous letter linking Is- heid” with the Palestinians. of Commons; in the 1960s, it around me were, frankly, die- PLO, who dressed themselves rael with apartheid, purportedly But those activists who want was hard to fi nd an American hard Stalinists. And while they up as “liberation movements.” written by Mandela, went viral to make the Palestinian cause who couldn’t remember his or accurately perceived the mon- As a recipient of both the So- on the Internet (in fact, the real the 21st century equivalent of her precise location when the strosity that was apartheid, they viet Order of Lenin and the author was a Palestinian activ- the movement that opposed news of Kennedy’s assassina- were only too happy to excuse American Presidential Medal of ist named Arjan el Fassed, who South African apartheid in the tion came through; and in the the brutal crimes of the Sovi- Freedom, it might be said that later claimed that his fabrica- 20th century will—assuming 1990s, it seemed, at least to me, et Union and its satellite states. Mandela embodied this contra- tion nevertheless refl ected Man- they conform to basic stand- that absolutely everyone could They had copious words of con- diction. dela’s true feelings.) Yet it’s also recall what they were doing at demnation for the white minor- Still, Mandela was no ortho- true that, in the Cold War con-  CONTINUED ON P. 16

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ert nonetheless led Kadima to victory, with Saeb and Tzipi—they were tough be not keep it afterwards, and then I can Tzipi Livni: Livni was promoted to foreign minister, negotiations, but they were negotiations send them to hell,” Sheetrit says. “But she where she quickly became a favorite of in good faith,” says Rice. “I thought every- didn’t want to do so.” The Believer the international community. (When she one was doing their best.” The move cost Livni the prime min- was replaced by the brash hardliner Avig- Today, Livni is critical of the way Olm- istership, but earned her respect across  CONTINUED FROM P. 13 dor Lieberman in 2009, French President ert handled the talks. the political spectrum. Dani Dayan, a Nicolas Sarkozy was reported to have In Israel, meanwhile, Livni had built longtime settler leader who knew Livni around to Livni’s view that Israel had no begged Netanyahu to bring her back.) a reputation for honesty. Most Israelis from her days in the Beitar youth move- choice but to separate from the Palestin- And when peace talks with the Palestini- saw her as the rare politician who would ment, calls her a “mensch.” During last ians, even if it meant giving up land. Sha- ans resumed at the end of 2007, Livni was stand up for her principles even at the ex- year’s Kadima primary fi ght, which Livni ron endorsed the two-state solution and named chief negotiator. The death of Ara- pense of her political career. Meir Shee- would go on to lose, Dayan says he sent in 2005 unilaterally withdrew all settlers fat in 2004, whom Livni and most Israe- trit, one of the lawmakers in Livni’s new her a text message. “I told her, ‘Tzipi, I and soldiers from Gaza. The pullout split lis believed was not serious about end- party, suggests that at times Livni was don’t know if it’s good for us, for my ide- the Likud between moderate ministers ing the confl ict, had convinced her that too idealistic for her own good. He notes ology, if you win that primary, and may- like Livni and more hardline elements peace was possible. Arafat’s replacement, that in 2008, following Olmert’s resigna- be it’s bad, but I think it’s good for Israeli like Netanyahu. Eventually, Sharon, fac- Mahmoud Abbas (or Abu Mazen, as he’s tion, Livni could have avoided elections political hygiene.’” ing a leadership challenge from Netanya- commonly known), had been the lead- and become prime minister had she ac- Of course, being respected and suc- hu, bolted Likud and started a new cen- ing Palestinian voice for peace with Isra- cepted the ultra-Orthodox Shas Party’s ceeding in the dog-eat-dog world of the trist party, Kadima (Forward), taking with el and now seemed intent on striking a demand that Jerusalem be taken off the Knesset are two different things. “She him Livni and other Likud moderates, as deal. As the negotiations began, Livni be- table for peace discussions. has very good character,” says Sheetrit. well as some centrist Labor members. came friendly with Saeb Erekat and oth- “If I were in her shoes, no doubt in my “But in Israeli politics, good character Sharon had a stroke months before er Palestinian offi cials. “The interactions mind that, to be prime minister, I would doesn’t always help.” the election, but when his deputy Olm- that I saw—and I was in a lot of them pay anything and say anything and may- TO BE CONTINUED

Palmach during Israel’s War of Independ- der hostile non-Jewish rulers. The noto- Sadly, none of that will stop today’s Nelson Mandela ence. He relates the anecdote that the rious Group Areas Act, which restricted advocates of the Boycott, Divestment only airline willing to fl y his friend, Wal- black residency rights, brings to mind and Sanctions movement from falsely and Zionism ter Sisulu, to Europe without a passport the enforced separation of Jews into the claiming Nelson Mandela as one of their was Israel’s own El Al. And the ultimate “Pale of Settlement” by the Russian Em- own. But the truth is subtler than that.  CONTINUED FROM P. 14 smoking gun—the equation of Israel’s de- press Catherine in 1791. Many of the oth- Mandela’s complicated legacy doesn’t re- mocracy with apartheid—doesn’t exist. er apartheid regulations, like the ban on ally belong to any political stream—and ards of honesty—fi nd it very diffi cult to Mandela once wrote that Jews, in sexual relationships between whites and that is one more reason to admire him. invoke Mandela as support. Mandela’s his experience, were far more sensitive blacks, carried echoes of the Nazi Nurem- memoirs are full of positive references about race because of their own histo- burg Laws of 1935. Mandela’s diagno- B en Cohen is the Shillman Analyst for JNS.or g. His to Jews and even Israel. He recalls that he ry. Now, it is absolutely true that there sis was that Africans should be the sov- writings on Jewish aff airs and Middle East ern poli- learned about guerilla warfare not from are parallels between the oppression ereigns of their own destiny. Similarly, tics have been published in C ommentary, the New Fidel Castro, but from Arthur Goldreich, suffered by South African blacks under the founders of Zionism wanted nothing York P ost, Ha ’aretz, Jewish Ideas Daily and man y a South African Jew who fought with the racist white rulers, and Jews living unless for the Jews. other publications.

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Hadassah Hospital Facing the group is battling, or their backers, as Kashrut supervisors. “This is with- the Foundation for Ethnic Understand- Financial Collapse such as Saudi Arabia or Lebanese Sun- out doubt a historic breakthrough and ing, in speaking out on knockout game The Forward reports that Hadassah ni militants - could have had reason to achievement,” Emunah Chairwoman Li- violence and the targeting of Jews. Sharp- Medical Center in Jerusalem is on the want him dead.” For their part Hezbollah ora Minke said following the announce- ton, Simmons, and Morial have each brink of fi nancial collapse. The hospital leaders blamed Israel, threatening “all the ment. recorded messages of solidarity with the is facing a $300 million defi cit, includ- consequences for this heinous crime.” Jewish community and are encouraging ing $80 million accrued in the last year, The Christian Science Monitor report- New Study on Israeli-Americans people to join them through social media according to the newspaper. Efforts by ed Hezbollah has been openly preparing New York—17% of the children of Is- by spreading the following message: End Hadassah, the Women’s Zionist Organ- for war with the Jewish state, setting up raeli Jews who have lived in the Unit- the #knockoutgame #sayNO2KOjoin the ization of America, to save the medical camps across southern Lebanon “which ed States for over a decade have married @FFEUny to end the violence +bigotry. center have resulted in a break with the include fi ring ranges, assault courses and non-Jews. The number is higher than Knockout #gameover and a link to each hospital leadership in Israel. The organ- urban warfare sites.” The group was de- their parents’ generation, which has an video. ization has not been able to increase its scribed as “training thousands of new re- intermarriage rate of 8%, according to a funding for daily operations of the hospi- cruits to the organization.” Hezbollah has new study released today by the Israeli- Peres OK with Same-Sex Marriage tal, and cash-fl ow problems caused hos- seen its decades-old brand as an anti-Is- American Council (IAC). The overall in- Peres told YNetNews that “Same-sex pital employees to receive only a partial rael ‘resistance’ organization shattered termarriage rate of American Jews is at marriage as a civil right that should not salary in November. Last year, during the by its participation in the Syrian confl ict, 58%. Among those in both groups who be taken away…Even a person who is a Hadassah organization’s 100th anniver- and analysts are increasingly concerned attend synagogue (around half of the Is- homosexual is a human being, and he sary celebrations, the group dedicated a that it might seek to provoke a confl ict raeli-American community surveyed) has rights. We have no power to take state-of-the-art hospital tower fully fund- with Jerusalem in order to halt a precip- about 44% go to Orthodox synagogues. away (their) rights. We cannot take away ed by the organization through a nation- itous slide in its domestic and regional But among others that attend non-Ortho- someone’s rights because they are dif- al campaign. The tower is not yet fully stature. dox synagogues, 24% of those who have ferent. We cannot take away their right operational, however, requiring another lived here less than ten years attend Con- to breathe, right to eat or right to start a $45 million to reach that level. American Begin Prize Awarded servative synagogues and 22% attend Re- family. We must allow everyone to live representatives of the organization com- to NGO Monitor form congregations. For those who have as is natural to them.” The Israeli parlia- prise 51 percent of the hospital board and (Israel Hayom/Exclusive to JNS.org)— lived in the U.S. over ten years and attend ment is in the early stages of taking up can control its decisions. The Menachem Begin Heritage Center a synagogue, 33% go to Conservative syn- a civil partnership bill. Same-sex couples awarded NGO Monitor the Begin Prize agogues and 17% attend Reform; 53% of in Israel do not have the right to marry, Salafis Arming Themselves for “the organization’s efforts expos- those polled in both groups responded although recent polls show the majority Al-Monitor reports that Israel, the Pal- ing the political agenda and ideological that they do not send any of their chil- of citizens support the right. estinian Authority and Hamas are all con- bias of humanitarian organizations that dren to Jewish day schools or preschools. cerned about the changes underway in use the discourse of human rights to dis- 29% of those who have been here for less Israel Wins Prize for the West Bank Salafi st movement, which credit Israel and to undermine its posi- than ten years do so for all their children; Closing Gender Gap is transforming itself from a welfare tion among the nations of the world.” as do 32% percent of those who have The Women in Parliament Global Fo- movement into an armed terrorist organ- The award was also given to Abraham lived in the U.S. for over a decade. rum gave an award for narrowing the ization that is actively planning attacks. Foxman for his work as Anti-Defamation gender gap to Israel at the European Par- Three Salafi st terrorists from the Hebron League director and to iconic Israeli ac- Bloomberg Will Give liament in Brussels. Daphne Barak-Erez, region were killed Nov. 26 by Israeli coun- tor Chaim Topol for founding and run- Genesis Prize for Israeli- 48, of Israeli Supreme Court accepted the terterrorism forces in the village of Yatta ning the Jordan River Village camp for Palestinian Economic Ties award. The ceremony took place in the after plotting to launch a major attack in kids suffering from serious illnesses New York—At a Chanukah party at presence of 500 female lawmakers, gov- Israel. Overnight, the Salafi sts of the West the Museum of Jewish Heritage-Living ernment offi cials and scientists from Bank became known as a terrorist organ- French Say Arafat Was Memorial to the Holocaust, NYC Mayor over 100 countries. “The Israeli legal sys- ization. It has a few thousand supporters, Not Poisoned Michael Bloomberg announced he will tem is the arena in which the promise of most of them in the Hebron region, who (JNS.org)—French scientists have said use the proceeds from the fi rst Genesis gender equality is materializing,” Barak- view the establishment of an Islamic ca- that former Palestinian leader Yasser Prize, known as the Jewish Nobel Prize, Erez said during her address. This was liphate as a supreme value. Animosity be- Arafat did not die from radioactive po- to “promote commerce between the peo- “the result of legislation regarding gender tween the Salafi sts and Hamas is intense, lonium poisoning, as was suggested by ple in Palestine and the people in Israel,” equality in various areas of life as well as both in the West Bank and in Gaza. The a recent Swiss report. While the offi - the Forward reported. He repeated what through judicial precedents,” she added. Salafi sts dream of establishing an Islam- cial cause of Arafat’s 2004 death was a he said before: He doesn’t know why ic caliphate without any borders, headed stroke, Swiss forensic experts claimed they gave it to him, but in May, when Berlin Zoo Seeks Pre- by an emir who inherits the role of the last month that samples they had tested he gets it, he will give it away. Bloomb- War Jewish Members Prophet Muhammad and restores the from Arafat’s body indicated polonium erg was chosen from among more than AFP reports that more than 70 years Golden Age of Islam. The current emir of poisoning, though not defi nitively. Ara- 200 nominees worldwide because of his after the Berlin Zoo forced Jewish share- the Salafi sts is Ata Abu Rashta, a native fat’s widow, Suha Arafat, said in a state- “track record of outstanding public ser- holders out of its ranks, a Berlin histo- of Hebron, whose current place of resi- ment from Paris, “You can imagine how vice and his role as one of the world’s rian is combing through thousands of dence is kept secret. much I am shaken by the contradictions greatest philanthropists,” according to names to identify members made to sell between the fi ndings of the best experts the prize committee. The Genesis Prize their shares back to the zoo at a loss un- Whodunit Surrounds Murder in Europe in this domain,” according to Foundation was established last year by der the Third Reich, and has begun track- of Hezbollah Honcho Reuters. the Genesis Philanthropy Group, a con- ing down their descendants ahead of (TIP)—The New York Times outlined sortium of philanthropist-businessmen publishing her fi ndings. “Jews were very the range of motives for, and the poten- Women Mashgichot are OK from the former Soviet Union, the Of- important for the zoo,” said historian tial cascade effects of, the overnight as- (JNS.org)—Israel’s Chief Rabbinate fi ce of the Prime Minister, and the Jew- Monika Schmidt, who estimates up to a sassination of Haj Hassan Hilu Laqis, a will allow women to become Kashrut su- ish Agency. quarter of the zoo’s 4,000 shareholders top Hezbollah fi gure who the outlet not- pervisors for the fi rst time in the wake of in the 1930s were Jewish. They did not ed was “variously described as running a petition fi led by the Emuhah women’s KO the Knockout Game receive dividends, but their families en- the group’s sophisticated telecommuni- rights group to the High Court of Justice. Reverend Al Sharpton, President of joyed free entry and the prestige of sup- cations network and working to procure Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi David Lau has de- the National Action Network, and Marc porting an important social institution. strategic weapons.” The Times empha- cided to remove stipulations from the H. Morial, President and CEO of the Na- In 1938, Jewish shareholders were forced sized both that Laqis’s death was a “sig- guidelines preventing women from ap- tional Urban League, have joined forces to sell their shares back to the zoo for less nifi cant loss” for the Iran-backed terror plying for the job. Emunah, which has with hip-hop legend Russell Simmons than their value, according to Schmidt. group, and that “any of the group’s prima- advocated for this change for two years, and Jewish leader Rabbi Marc Schneier, The zoo re-sold the stocks to Aryanize the ry enemies - Israel, the Syrian insurgents created a course to train women to work Chairman and President, respectively, of institution. Going to the SuperBowl? Leave the Limo Behind…Your Car, too. Jonathan Tisch, co-chairman of the won’t even be able to walk through buses that run from nine locations until the game is over. No drop offs NY/NJ Super Bowl Host Committee, the parking lot to get to the entrance. around Manhattan and New Jersey at the front door, not even if you are says that if you want to get to the Met Trains and buses from Secaucus Junc- are $51 round trip. Typical train fare: mega-rich. The parking passes will go Life Stadium for the Superbowl, leave tion and other locations will be the $10.50. 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Local Birthright Five of the Taglit Fellows are from ies at the University of Pennsylvania. She the cost of living.” Bergen County. They are: Jessica Boren- attended the Mackay School and both Rebecca is in graduate school at Cor- Excel Alumni stein of Teaneck, Alec Goldberg from En- Tenafl y Middle School and High School. nell, working on her Master’s in Health glewood, who is a senior at Columbia Kim worked in the Assurance Depart- Administration. She plans to start her ca- Spend Shabbos University majoring in philosophy, Kim ment at Ernst &Young (EY) in Tel Aviv. reer in healthcare consulting next year. Gordon of Tenafl y, Rebecca Haft of Fair She told JLBC, “I was the only Ameri- She told JLBC, “I worked for Tnuva [the in the City Lawn, and Daniel Stolar of Fair Lawn. can on my team and on the entire fl oor largest Israeli dairy] in the summer of Jessica attends Cornell University, of about 50 people. After introducing 2011, during the Cottage Cheese Boy-  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 where she is a senior majoring in histo- myself to all of these people on my fi rst cotts in Israel that targeted the fi rm. It ry. Next year she will be joining Ernst day, I knew that the experience would was a fascinating experience to see how and students have joined participants & Young in their consulting practice in be challenging. I learned about EY Israel, the people of Israel fought for change in on these tours. This winter season more NYC. She attended Moriah and Frisch its importance internationally, about the their society and how Tnuva respond- than 17,000 participants will attend its and interned for Israel Corp.’s Business Israeli economy, and about Israeli work ed to these issues. Overall, I learned a free, 10-day educational tours of Israel, Development and Strategies Group. “Be- culture in general. Furthermore, the hi- lot about the Israeli economy as well as the largest number since the non-profi t ing an intern in a country with no intern erarchical structure of EY allowed me to some key principles of market research was founded in 2000. culture was one of my most valuable ex- establish relationships with many differ- and business development.” JLBC was invited to attend a recent Ex- periences. They treat you as if you are a ent mentors. By the end of my intern- Daniel attends the Stephen M. Ross cel Reunion program. It included talks by regular employee there and set high ex- ship, I built a genuine base of contacts.” School of Business at the University of Howard Lutnick, CEO of Cantor Fitzger- pectations. From day one, they assigned Kim went on to say “The biggest dif- Michigan, where he is a junior major- ald, and Bruce Ratner, Executive Chair- me challenging and diffi cult projects ference between my two Taglit summers ing in Business Administration with em- man of Forest City Ratner Companies. and expected me to be my own boss. It was the type of things I was exposed to. phasis in fi nance and accounting. In Fair They each spoke about how their com- forced me to learn how to work in an in- During my fi rst summer in the tradition- Lawn, he attended the Milnes School, mitments to Jewish values have guided dependent, unstructured, and cultural- al program, I was awed by the histori- Thomas Jefferson Middle School, and their lives and careers. Lutnick was tested ly different environment; to be a mature cal signifi cance of just about everything Fair Lawn High School. by the devastation of 9/11 when many of and independent thinker. I saw and I began to get a taste for the Daniel’s experience, echoing that of his employees were killed in the World “The best part of the program is the country’s rich political history at sites his peers, believes that his Taglit experi- Trade Center. Mr. Ratner turned his expe- fact that they set you up with mentors in like Rabin Square. …Talk of the Cottage ence has changed his life. For his intern- rience as an administrator in New York your company. They ensure that there is Cheese War and Tent Protests was buzz- ship, Daniel worked for a venture lending City government toward providing for somebody in your workplace invested in ing all around my own daily experiences. fi rm called Viola Credit. “My connection the housing and economic development your professional growth. I met with my These were the things I heard about from to Israel was completely changed…I had needs of the city, subsequently establish- mentor, the director of my group, every- co-workers and other Israelis. I was awed no real tangible connection to Israel being one of the most successful real estate day and gave a presentation to my CEO. by the economic and socio-economic fac- fore I went there. After spending time development fi rms in the nation. [Israel Corp] is one of the most lucrative tors that affect daily Israeli life. Walking there this summer, I truly consider it a Following this program, the Fellows companies in Israel. That couldn’t have around the center or the city each morn- place I love, and will make every effort visited the Museum of Jewish Heritage/ been possible in a company of similar ca- ing, like a regular Tel Avivian, allowed to go back...My connection to the Jew- Living Memorial to the Holocaust, fol- liber in America. There, everything is hor- me to think about things like how much ish community had waned since my bar lowed by additional tours over the week- izontal.” money Israel spends on its defense, how mitzvah, and waned even more after I end to signifi cant sites, such as the World Kim is also a senior and is studying long some of its brightest people stay en- Trade Center memorial. Systems Engineering and Hispanic Stud- listed, diversity in the work place, and  CONTINUED ON P. 22

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Halachah, Nishmat created an Ameri- leadership combined with deep com- Yoetzet, as is Manhattan; Philadephia al- Yoatz ot Halacha can counterpart which would meet the mitment to halakha and tradition. The ready has a third in place. People move; rigorous standards and expectations of communal interest in Yoatzot was rein- some make aliyah. Unless we have part- Serve Hundreds their Israeli program. The fi rst Ameri- forced by strong rabbinic support from ners not just to hire a local Yoetzet, but can-educated graduating class of Yoatzot [Rinat’s] Rabbi Adler, along with Rabbi to continue training Yoatzot, we may not in BC Halacha last fall included fi ve graduates: Goldin and Rabbi Helfgot. Ma’ayanot— be able to meet the growing needs of the Dena Block, Nechama Price, Lisa Septi- which generously donated space for our community.”  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 mus, Tova Warburg Sinensky and Avital U.S. Yoetzet Fellowship Program—cre- The great need is evidenced by the Weissman. Block and Price hail from Ber- ates a great inter-generational dynamic overwhelming response from the wom- primarily at Teaneck’s Congregation Ri- gen County. where Yoatzot serve as role models for en of Bergen County. There was a tre- nat Yisrael, also serving Netiovot Shalom Professor Nechama Price, Instruc- students’ religious aspirations. And [En- mendous turnout at a Yoetzet panel this and Englewood’s Ahavath Torah and Kes- tor in Bible and Judaic Studies at Yeshi- glewood resident] Dr. Natie Fox, partner past July, which attracted over 300 peo- her Synagogues, with periodic visits to a va University’s Stern College for Wom- in a renowned high-risk pregnancy prac- ple. Since then, Samuels has answered consortium of synagogues in L.A. as well. en, has been teaching advanced courses tice, continues to donate his time and ex- over 200 halakhic questions from wom- “I felt really blessed to always have in Jewish Family Law for ten years and pertise in lectures to our Yoatzot Fellows en from every shul in Bergen County. The had a few phone calls a day from women was always interested in delving into le- about cutting-edge medical issues so they fact that women from every shul avail in need of halakhic guidance,” said Sam- gal sources. Nishmat’s Teaneck program can better understand women’s queries themselves of these services attests to uels. “But at this point I’m getting four to gave her the opportunity she dreamed of and how halakha properly applies to sce- their value. fi ve big questions a day. The reaction has and would not have otherwise had. “This narios made possible by advancing medi- Nechama Price is deeply excited by been strong and is on the increase. The outlet was really important to me, and cal knowledge and technology.” the chance to serve the community in most universal expression is one of utter what I got from the program was truly “There is always a challenge for a such a profound way. “Before I became relief at having a regular person, especial- incredible,” said Price. “All my courses at community to create a budget for a new qualifi ed, I was limited to college-age ly a woman, as a resource.” Stern evolved because the program add- professional communal role, no mat- women and kallahs,” said Price. Now I Samuels noted that there has been a ed a tremendous amount to my knowl- ter how great the need it serves,” Mat- can support women of all ages.” sharp overall increase in inquiries from edge. I felt much more qualifi ed to an- kowsky added. “American Friends of Ni- Bergen county Yoetzet Shoshana Sam- women in the Bergen County communi- swer complex questions.” shmat co-sponsored the Bergen Yoetzet uels shares her enthusiasm. “Women of ties about ritual questions in Jewish law “The Jewish community in Bergen in previous years, and we’re hopeful Bergen County are energized by this out- and related areas such as gynecology, ob- County provides a natural environment that local sources of support will take let, with many coming over to me saying stetrics, fertility, lactation, psychology, for Yoatzot to fl ourish,” said Dave Mat- root and expand. At the same time, Ni- things like ‘We needed this ten years ago,’ sexuality, family dynamics and genetics, kowsky, Executive Director of Ameri- shmat is always turning to the commu- and ‘I’m so happy you exist.’ It’s deeply all subjects in which Yoatzot are trained. can Friends of Nishmat [full disclosure: nities that value and benefi t from Yoat- gratifying and I’m honored to follow in Due to high demand in communi- Dave is the writer’s husband]. “There is zot to help us educate the next class, and Yoetzet Shana Goldberg’s footsteps. I ties across the U.S. for more Yoatzot genuine openness to women’s Torah the next. Bergen is enjoying its second look forward to the future of Yoatzot.” Reuth to Celebrate 75 Years of Excellence and Caring el Aviv, Israel—Reuth (www.reuth.org), of Reuth board and co-chair of the dinner. ganization that leads the way in everything respected non-profi t healthcare and social TIsrael’s leading elder care, rehabilitation “I have been involved with Reuth for over it does, and is well known for its profession- welfare organizations. Guided by a com- and social welfare organization, recently 15 years, and I take every opportunity to alism in the service of the elderly, low-in- mitment to professional excellence and the announced that it will mark its 75th anniver- spread the word about the unparalleled come seniors and Holocaust survivors. We preservation of human dignity, the organi- sary with a gala celebration at the New York work done by Reuth in Israel. By provid- stand beside them to let them know that zation has become the nation’s leader in the Palace in Manhattan on Monday, Decem- ing the best quality care, Reuth ensures the there is one safe place where they can grow fi elds of elder care, rehabilitation, and treat- ber 16. The diamond anniversary event will highest possible quality of life for our resi- old with dignity,” added Merav Mandel- ment of the chronically ill. From humble recognize the generous and longtime sup- dents and patients.” baum, Chair of Reuth’s Board of Directors. beginnings as a provider of social and hous- port of renowned Israeli singer-songwriter Reuth was founded by a group of wom- “At the Medical Center, our staff knows ing assistance to Holocaust survivors in Tel David Broza and the tireless efforts of Mar- en who sought to assist the large popula- each and every patient by name and displays Aviv, Reuth has grown into a multi-discipli- leen Litt, Chair of the American Friends of tion of Holocaust survivors settling in Tel extraordinary sensitivity and compassion. nary umbrella organization that provides a Reuth’s Young Leadership Division. Aviv. The organization’s original offerings They are aware that a warm, caring attitude comprehensive range of medical, rehabilita- The gala evening, which will direct- included a soup kitchen, social center and is essential for the healing and rehabilitative and community services for all sectors ly benefi t the Reuth Medical Center in Tel subsidized housing. Now, 75 years later, Re- tion process; they understand that alongside of Israeli society, with a focus on children, Aviv, will also include remarks by the Con- uth has grown into a multi-disciplinary um- the urgent need for physical treatment, emo- wounded soldiers, victims of terror, senior sul General of Israel Ambassador, Ido Aha- brella organization that provides a compre- tional care is of the utmost importance.” citizens, and the indigent. roni, and the presentation of the Ameri- hensive range of medical, rehabilitative and Organized by American Friends of Re- The Reuth Medical Center, the largest re- can Friends of Reuth Lifetime Achievement community services, including long-term uth, the gala dinner in New York is a con- habilitation and chronic care facility in Tel Award to Merav Mandelbaum, Chair of Re- housing, day centers for the elderly, and re- tinuation of the 75th anniversary festivities Aviv, provides long- and short-term rehabil- uth’s Board of Directors. sources like the Reuth Eshel call center and that began in Israel on November 25, when itation services and a host of quality of life Broza, a long-time Reuth supporter, has Caring Family website, unparalleled guid- Reuth hosted an evening of song and cel- therapies to inpatients and outpatients of performed in two benefi t concerts for the ance and information resources for family ebration at the Israel Opera House in Tel all ages. The 350-bed hospital boasts 13 de- organization and dedicated a music therapy members and caregivers of the elderly. Aviv featuring top Israeli performers Koby partments and an unmatched rehabilitation room in honor of his parents at the Reuth The Reuth Medical Center, the largest re- Afl alo, Shiri Maimon and Rami Kleinstein. success rate, with more than 2,000 patients Medical Center. habilitation and chronic care facility in Tel The sold out performance also included a returning home every year. The Reuth Med- “It is no wonder that Mr. Broza is so tak- Aviv, provides a host of innovative medical, surprise performance by celebrated Israe- ical Center, an affi liate of the Sackler School en with Reuth. We are not just celebrat- rehabilitative and nursing care treatments li recording artist Oren Barzilay, a Reuth of Medicine, is nationally recognized for its ing 75 years of service, but more than sev- to inpatient and outpatient of all ages, in- Medical Center success story who was re- innovative and holistic approach to patient en decades of excellence and growth,” said cluding one of Israel’s top treatment centers habilitated in 2008 following a battle with care, pioneering new technologies, systems Jill Kaufman, Senior Project Manager at Ap- for individuals with eating disorders. Guillain-Barré syndrome. and treatments to heal the whole patient— ple, Inc., a member of the American Friends “I feel proud to stand at the head of an or- Reuth is one of Israel’s oldest and most mind, body and soul.

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20 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS SSDS Commemorates Newtown Tragedy Through a Jewish Lens

early one year to the day of the trag- ple in the Sixth Century BCE. on Dec. 14, to show their commitment to Nic shooting in Newtown, Conn. that “The fast day enables us to recall a the idea of service to each other. cost 20 children and six educators their dark period in our Jewish history that Similarly, in the aftermath of New- lives, Solomon Schechter Day School of impacted the freedom and safety of town, Schechter’s 6th Grade Middle School Bergen County was again awash in a sea our ancestors,” said Rabbi Fred Elias, students mobilized to bring refuah ( heal- of green and white. Schechter’s school rabbi. “Today’s coming) and hizuk (strength) to the families Students stood in solidarity dur- memoration also gives our students a of the Sandy Hook Elementary School ing morning tefi lah wearing the school tangible way to connect the idea that just Community, actions that caught the at- colors of the now leveled Sandy Hook as the Jewish people persevered through tention of New York-area television and Elementary School, just as they did in De- their connection to peoplehood, com- print media. cember, 2012. Then, just like today, SSDS munity, and common ideals of peace— Students organized the collection students planned the school-wide effort wearing green and white and performing of tzedakah (charity) to purchase teddy via Facebook. acts of chesed—we demonstrate our de- dents launched their own series of com- bears for the residents of Newtown; or- This time, however, they explored sire for healing and peace.” munity-service projects. These include ganized a letter-writing campaign to their understanding of this modern-day Students prepared a series of poems, “Caring for the Community”, “Caring for members of the Sandy Hook commu- calamity through the lens of their own readings and tefi lot that were shared dur- Children,” and “Promoting Safety,” Stu- nity; SSDS twins wrote personal letters Jewish history. The one-year anniversa- ing morning tefi lah. dents will run food and toy drives, con- to Arielle Pozner, twin sister of Noah ry of the Newtown tragedy coincides Learning that residents of Newtown, tinue visits to the elderly at the Jewish Pozner, z”l; and also joined schools across with Asara B’Tevet (10th of Tevet), a fast Conn. decided against a public commem- Home at Rockleigh, and create advocacy the United States in sending snowfl akes day commemorating the Babylonians’ oration to mark the fi rst anniversary of campaigns for child safety. It has been to adorn the new school students of break-through of the walls of Jerusalem the shooting, opting instead to launch reported that Newtown also asked its res- Sandy Hook Elementary School will at- on their way to destroying the First Tem- a “Year of Service,” SSDS faculty and stu- idents to put a candle in their windows tend when it opens in 2016.

background. 2Gs Learn Via Expressive Art Most of us were American born and most of our parents By Susan Horn Greif er, who is a speech and language pathol- were from Poland. There was, ogist, who wanted to support women however, one woman who was iverdale, NY—I am Second Genera- whose parents were survivors. The wom- born in Poland after the war Rtion (2G), a daughter of Holocaust sur- en posted stories about their parents, and immigrated to the States in vivors living in Englewood, and I am a where they were from, and the common- the 1960s. Once we were done fi rm believer in the notion that the ex- alities between them. What we thought meeting and greeting, I led the pressive arts allow our subconscious was weird about our parents compared women through guided image- thoughts and emotions become more to our American classmates seems nor- ry to bring them back to being perceptible, permitting thoughts and mal to the group members. When ques- 5-year-olds. They were to draw feelings to come to the surface. Expres- tions about mental health came up, not a picture of their families doing sive art helps us become aware of our just our parents’ health, but ours, I joined something, also known as Re- deep-rooted anxieties and depression; it in the discussion. gressive Kinetic Family Drawing. Creat- and discuss issues we would not dare to helps to discuss it, learn coping skills and We realize that our parents had suf- ing the drawings put them in an active talk about before. Most interesting to me eventually heal. I fi nd that expressive arts fered from PTSD, but do we 2Gs suffer meditative state. was that some of the women contacted helps people who suffer from Post Trau- from Intergenerational PTSD? While One person applied heavy pressure to me more than 24 hours later to let me matic Stress Disorder, anxieties, depres- the question pushed many participants one of her family members…she was an- know they were still thinking about their sion, social skills, behavior disorders, eat- to post, I felt it was too easy to post our gry with her. One drew herself dressed drawings and the memories they evoked. ing disorders, loss of loved one, learning feelings from behind a computer screen. in a shower under the watchful eye of One woman said, “I’ve thought about disabilities, and all other sorts of mental I decided to offer the women on FB a her mother…she needed privacy. Anoth- my drawing and it raised many emotions and physical disorders. free expressive arts workshop, where the er drew a picture of her father and didn’t (mostly not great) regarding my child- Though I normally work with indi- women would actually meet in person, realize she left one foot out…he had limp. hood.” Another woman wrote, “It was viduals, I believe group workshops allow draw their memories and discuss them Another forgot to draw herself into the great…I still remember what I drew [sic]… the participants to express themselves with each other. family portrait…did she feel insignifi cant and think ‘why I did choose this moment in a non-judgmental forum. As a daugh- Seven women in the NYC tri-state or excluded? These questions popped of my childhood and not others?’” And ter of Holocaust survivors, I feel that be- from our FB page gathered at a member’s up and the group helped each other dig yet another woman wrote, “I am a visual longing to a group improves morale and home in Riverdale; Fran and her dog, deeper into the stories the drawings person and the drawing confi rmed to me makes participants feel that they are not Lulu, were gracious hostesses who pro- were telling. The images they had created that family is of the utmost importance alone. vided us with a delicious kosher meal… aroused feelings and emotions that were to me…” Recently I joined a Facebook page and made sure we wouldn’t go hungry. never acknowledged before. What were some of the things the called Daughters of Holocaust Survivors, The participants gathered around the ta- By discussing each others’ drawings, a closed group started by 2G Evelyn Lern- ble and took turns sharing their family we were able to open up, laugh, relate  CONTINUED ON P. 22 PESACH RENTAL Central Yerushalayim Mesilat Yesharim 17 New 3BR Apt., 130 meters Full Service Networking, POS systems, Nr Shuk, Shuls, BenYehuda, Geula & Web Development Let's Talk about I.T.! WiFi, New Appliances & Furniture PAYPAL & ALL MAJOR CREDIT CARDS ACCEPTED 347-776-1918 LQIR#JDUEFJFRP 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 21 LOCAL NEWS Bris Avrohom: A Light Unto the Nations

air Lawn—This past Chanu- Fkah, Bris Avrohom placed 65 menorahs in public forums throughout the State of New Jersey. Included were many in Bergen County. At One Bergen County Plaza, in Hackensack, all county employees were invited to attend the menorah lighting ceremony. Hundreds of people showed up for the event. The George Washington Bridge, the Lincoln Tunnel and Newark Airport, as well as the Goethals Bridge, Bayonne Bridge and Outerbridge Cross- ing, all invited Bris Avrohom

to light a large public enjoyed “Chanukah in Choc- was established to help the Rus- menorah at their New olate Heaven” as they played sian Jewish immigrants who Jersey entrances. Ac- games, went on rides and re- were settling in the metropoli- cording to Port Author- ceived gifts for the holiday. Rab- tan area. Dedicated to bringing ity estimates, 18 mil- bi Mendel and Elke Zaltzman assistance and Yiddishkeit to lion passengers saw distributed dollar bills and toys thousands of diverse families the light of a Bris Avro- to each child in attendance. through education, program- hom menorah during Many Bergen County politi- ming, counselling and daily ser- the eight days of Cha- cians also welcomed Bris Avro- vices, its goal is to help every nukah. hom into their ofﬁ ces. Sheriff Jew discover his heritage and One of the high- Michael Saudino and State Sen- grow to maturity within his lights of Bris Avrohom’s ator Bob Gordon held menorah Jewish community. Over the Bergen County Chanu- lightings in their ofﬁ ces. Tra- years, it has expanded its staff kah activities was the ditional Chanukah doughnuts and activities, with branches carnival held at Bris Av- were served, as well. located in Jersey City, Hillside, rohom of Fair Lawn. Founded by the Lubavitch- Fair Lawn, Brooklyn and Zhito- Hundreds of children er Rebbe in 1979, Bris Avrohom mir, Ukraine.

special being part of the Jewish Culture from the other Excel classes. Birthright gram in Israel. The major component is Local Birthright is, and how great of a community it is to Excel has become a network of young, an internship with a prominent, multi- be in. The Jewish community gave me a motivated Jewish students and profes- national Israeli company and includes Excel Alumni life-changing experience, and I have been sionals with a common internship expe- touring Israel; meeting Israeli leaders in getting more involved on campus as a re- rience. I feel grateful to be a part of this business, technology, politics, and phi- Spend Shabbos sult.” community.” lanthropy, and meeting with talented Is- Kim reviewed what she thought were The main lesson she took from the raeli peers. in the City the best parts of the recent weekend con- speakers was “There are many ways to There is also an annual retreat and ference. “Birthright Excel always brings give back to the community and we can other events throughout the year for the  CONTINUED FROM P. 19 in prominent and inspiring speakers to start right away.” Fellows. Applications for this summer’s share their experiences with us. …I also Each year 36 Birthright students are program will be accepted until Feb. 2, started attending college. Going through enjoyed mingling with other Excel par- chosen from a highly competitive pool 2014. Visit www.BirthrightIsrael.com for Birthright Excel made me realize how ticipants, since I had not met students of applicants for a ten-week summer pro- more details.

2Gs Learn Via too much about others.” who ‘get it’ was huge, and Susan’s work sensory memories make us who we are. In the end, there was lots of positive got us to deal with ‘it’ constructively.” It Images teach us about the world around Expressive Art feedback. “I thought the workshop was was quite an experience for all of us. us even if words are not used, but now we amazing. To begin with it gives you a I am one of those who believe that 2Gs can use expressive art to make ourselves  CONTINUED FROM P. 21 sense of knowing you are not alone.” “It suffer Intergenerational PTSD. If we learn heard…even in our own souls. felt great. I had people like me to relate about the world around us from our par- women learned about themselves? to—feelings of sympathy, empathy, love, ents, we also learn how to cope from our Susan Greif of Art Mends Hearts lives in Englewood “Family was important,” “My childhood camaraderie, family.” “It really was won- parents; we learn survival skills from our and helps women and children fi nd emotional relief was a huge mess,” “I was hiding informa- derful. I have NEVER seen anyone explain parents. This learning process begins in through the pr ocess of cr eating art. She off ers pri- tion from my family,” “I’m not so crazy,” the idea of art therapy as succinctly as Su- the womb; we sense our mother’s voice, vate sessions, workshops and presentations. Contact “I’m not alone,” “commonalities,” I care san did. ..being in a room with people preference for food, and anxieties. These her at [email protected].

Upcoming Young Israel of Fort Lee Event First Time Homebuyers Seminar - Dec. 18 Fort Lee—The Young Israel of Fort Lee invites the Bergen community to Spend an evening at The presentation will · Explore the legal side come to Saturday Night at the Movies, on December 17 where they will pre- Dougies on Wednesday help the fi rst time home- of purchasing a home to en- sent the Soni Gold Memorial Film Festival sponsored by Aviva and Sol Graf. December 18, at 7:00 pm buyer in this process which sure a smooth transaction The evenings’ feature fi lm is Space Shuttle Columbia: Mission of Hope, learning about the issues re- culminates in the largest in- · Learn about the buying which tells the story of the late Israeli astronaut Ilan Ramon. The movie lating to your fi rst home pur- vestment decision for most process, educate yourself on starts at 7:30, and following the presentation, pizza will be served. Then chase. The presentation will individuals. You will learn the market and meet local on the 24th, there’s a special scrumptious Chinese Buffet to be followed by be provided by David Siegel, the following: agents to work with. the hilarious comedy The Yankles. $20 per person; for reservations, call the HLO for Citibank, Marc · How to evaluate mort- Space is limited so please offi ce at 201-592-1518 (leave a message) or, email YIFLdinnermovie@gmail. Stein, Broker Owner Links gage options with tips in- reserve in advance by con- com. Young Israel is located at 1610 Parker Avenue, Fort Lee, NJ 07024 Residential and Judah Fuld tended to help the fi nancing tacting David Siegel at david. a local Real Estate Attorney. process [email protected]

22 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS Temimah Guzman: A Gifted and Giving Fashionista

By Jessica Katz

aramus—Bat mitzvah projects are all Pthe buzz these days. With our schools’ collective emphasis on mitzvah projects, chesed hours, giving to the less fortunate and needy, it seems like everyone wants to join the growing trend of chesed. The Guzman family of Teaneck—with their 11-year-old daughter Temima at the helm—saw a need and have, for the last six months, dedicated their lives to making a difference. In May of 2013, Temima Guzman, a 6th grade student at RYNJ, chose to attend an Areyvut evening Mitzvah Fair at Yeshivat Noam. While there, she and her them a brand new look and style. Once taken to the drop-off site, the was able to distribute over $4,000,000 mom, Gila, had an opportunity to meet a Given her passion and talent for fash- clothing is brought to Yad Leah’s facility worth of clothing with a budget of under variety of organizations serving the Jew- ion, Temima found it particular painful in Passaic for packing and shipping to Is- $75,000. ish community. That’s where I fi rst met to learn that other Jewish girls her age do rael. Once the clothing arrives in Israel, On behalf of Yad Leah and the thou- Temima in my capacity as the director of not have the same opportunity to enjoy it is distributed through Yad Leah’s large sands of families we help in Israel, we Yad Leah, a North Jersey-based organiza- clothes the way she does. More signifi - network of over 30 gemachim where it offer Temima and the Guzman family a tion that collects new and gently used cantly, she learned that there are Jewish is sold at a nominal fee. Yad Leah thus hearty mazel tov on Temima’s bat mitz- clothing and ships that clothing to var- kids living in poverty in Israel who don’t preserves individuals’ sense of pride and vah and on all her accomplishments. ious communities throughout Israel. I have clothes that fi t them properly or dignity by providing a store-like envi- We wish her many years of continued regularly enjoy the privilege of meeting are even warm enough for the cold sea- ronment where people can shop for af- strength, ability, passion and creativity to dozens of volunteers from all streams of son ahead. So on that evening in May at fordable clothing that meet their fami- help the Jewish community. Jewish life, and Temima struck me as a the chesed fair in Yeshivat Noam, Temima lies’ needs. Anyone interested in sponsoring Tem- mature pre-bat mitzvah-aged girl, obvi- turned to her Mom and said, “We need to Yad Leah currently collects a broad ima’s initiative to help ensure that the ously interested in the work we do—pro- do something.” range of clothing for children, teens and clothes she worked so hard to collect viding clothing to adults, girls and boys Starting that very week, Temima and adults including all basic necessities: reach the families who need it most is in- that they otherwise would not be able to Gila began emailing and talking to their coats, Shabbos and yom tov clothing and vited to visit www.YadLeah.org/donate. afford. friends and neighbors to tell them how simcha gowns. Yad Leah works almost Please indicate that you are sponsoring In our later conversations, Temi- important it is to give their extra cloth- exclusively on a volunteer basis, leverag- Temima’s collection. For further questions ma and her mother explained that this ing to Yad Leah. Each week, Temima sorts ing every donated dollar to provide $60 or inquiries, contact Jessica Katz at Jessi- struck a particular chord. As a typical through all the clothing that has been worth of clothing. Last year, Yad Leah [email protected] or call at 973 955 0861. young lady growing up in Bergen Coun- dropped on her door step for quality and ty, Temima and her friends love to shop. then for style. She wants to make sure She loves fashion and she loves clothes. that each piece of clothing she donates In fact, Temima, from the age of three, to Yad Leah is a nice piece that she knows started designing doll clothes. She has someone else will enjoy. She also wants since moved on to Barbie and American to make sure that it is all separated by size Girl doll clothes and meticulously main- and gender to do her part in helping Yad tains a portfolio displaying all her de- Leah organize the clothing in an effective signs. In her spare time, she crafts orig- way. Temima then weighs that week’s do- inal clothing accessories for her sisters nations, pack them up, and brings them and friends. By using extra material and to the Yad Leah Teaneck drop-off site. To items she fi nds lying around the house, date, Temima has successfully collected, she designs head bands and jewelry and sorted and donated over 500 pounds of jazzes up regular shirts and outfi ts to give excellent quality clothing.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 23 LOCAL NEWS Palisades Park and Its Secular Santa

By Jeanette Friedman Xmas tree on the wall of the children’s li- County Freeholders. The Free- brary. holders would not consider the alisades Park can be considered one Once she saw it last December, Katz complaint because Palisades Pof those abandoned Jewish commu- discovered that it had been on the wall Park owns the library building nities in Bergen County. The post-WWII for four years. “I was really upset because and so they sent the matter back residents outgrew their synagogue build- I’d never seen a permanent Santa Claus to the state senator’s offi ce. The ing and built a larger synagogue in Leo- and Xmas tree on a library wall and I felt senator’s offi ce sent it to the Bor- nia. Today, that building is a Korean they were trying to infl uence the chil- ough Administrator of Palisades church and only a handful of Jews are dren’s beliefs,” said Katz. “The library di- Park, who said the mural stays. left in the area, yet they still care passion- rector, Susan Kumar, responded to my The library does not consid- ately about their community. Robin Katz complaint by telling me that ‘the only er these symbols Christian. They is one such person. Katz volunteers for people who have complained are peo- cite the 1983 Supreme Court rul- One Family Fund in Teaneck. ple who don’t have children.’ I wish I had ing in Lynch V. Donnelly which “As someone in a tiny Jewish commu- taped those words because later at a li- considers Xmas Trees and San- nity in Bergen, it makes it diffi cult to be brary board meeting, she denied that she ta Claus secular. But Katz was in- taken seriously when an issue touching said it.” formed in both board meetings upon Judaism is raised in my town,” said At Kumar’s insistence, Katz attended she attended that a menorah is Katz, whose grandparents opened a 5 & two library board meetings and taped “religious and therefore forbid- 10 on Broad Avenue, the main drag in Pal- one wherein Ms. Kumar said that she den.” isades Park, back in the early ’50s. They feels that the Santa mural ‘inspires chil- Katz visited the library on lived in the town, which was primarily dren.’ When Katz asked how the mural Chanukah. Of course she did not Italian, and employed local people until inspires Jewish and Muslim children, see a menorah. She has asked the store was sold to a Korean family in Katz reports that Kumar refused to an- Susan Kumar to change the library’s mis- Said Katz, “The Supreme Court fi c- 1997. Katz, raised in Teaneck and Engle- swer. Kumar and the library board insist sion statement, which she feels is hypo- tion—that St. Nicholas is secular—led to wood, inherited her grandparents’ house. that Santa and the tree are secular sym- critical. The library’s mission statement, this. If one public library can paint a per- Today, Broad Avenue is “Little Korea” bols and have nothing to do with Christ- posted on their BCCLS site, reads, “We manent St. Nicholas on a wall because he and Palisades Park houses the largest Ko- mas and Christianity, citing the U.S. Su- aim to inform, educate, and enrich our ‘inspires children,’ which library or pub- rean community in the United States. preme Court decision that they are community through inclusion of our di- lic building is next? Every Jewish person A long-established Catholic church and secular symbols. versities and commonalities.” Katz has in Bergen County needs to see this mural parochial school are around the corner Katz sought support from two local asked Kumar to remove the phrase “in- in Palisades Park.” of the public library, and the library has rabbis, who gave advice, but didn’t want clusion of our diversities” because they People can contact the library direc- gone out of its way to accommodate that to get involved. She wrote to the Library exclude the Jewish people. tor at [email protected] or via their web community both inside and outside its Association, but they could offer no prac- Kumar, in an email to Katz, says that page, www.http://palisadespark.bccls. building, including, years ago, allowing tical help. Her state senator does not deal she refuses to comment anymore. Ku- org. Those interested in contacting Katz a staff member, Steven Cavallo, to paint with libraries, but the assistant offered mar has refused to answer any of JLBC’s can do so by emailing santamural@aol. a permanent mural of Santa Claus and a to forward her complaint to the Bergen calls or e-mails. com

24 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS Teaneck Jewish Center Reclaims Its Roots as a Full-Service Community Hub

By Elizabeth Kratz cise when they are committed to showing up. “There will also be a dance stu- eaneck—In the 1930s, the phrase “Jew- dio, barre classes, a TRX room, a rigorous Tish Center” meant something other workout room, Aquacize, yoga, boot than just a part of a shul’s name. It called camp for both adults and children, in ad- to mind a recreational, social, spiritu- dition to our basketball program,” said al and educational space for Jews of all Zierler. ages to get together, not just to daven and Many of the sports and wellness class- learn, but also to socialize and exercise. es are currently on an “a la carte” or fee Jewish Centers developed all around the for service model, and one can now pur- country at the time largely because non- chase a family pool pass for $250 a year. Jewish society didn’t fully accept Jews, so The Center, while maintaining a busy Jews therefore needed to build their own schedule of daily Orthodox minyanim, institutions for the large infl ux of immi- also hosts a Scouts program, a pre-school grants and fi rst-generation Americans that will continue to be run by Shalom who needed safe spaces to spend time. Yeladim, and various other classes, as During the following generations, as well as incubating Yeshiva Heichal Ha- Jews began to be more accepted in Amer- torah, a boys’ high school. JCT also con- ica, the Jewish Center concept began to The Jewish Center of Teaneck is renovating to include modern fi tness facilities for its orthodox tinues to rent out rooms for simchas. At wane as observant Jews began to affi l- clientele. least 1,000-1,500 people are in the build- iate with shuls within an eruv and closing each week, but there is room for up er to their homes. At the same time, Jews eral affi liations over its 80-year history, gender sensitive, with single sex hours to 2,500, Zierler said. There is ample park- also began to commonly use municipal, it settled on a Modern Orthodox identi- for both swimming and exercising,” con- ing available in lots and on the street out- private or corporate facilities for exercise ty, with a mechitza returning to its main tinued Zierler. “Issues of gender sensitivi- side. and team sports, as they became more ac- sanctuary two and-a-half years ago. Ac- ty have been taken into consideration as While classes are already up and run- climated and accepted in suburban com- cording to Rabbi Zierler, “The mechit- the space is repurposed.” ning, the new space will be ready for its munities. Jewish Centers then started to zah was ‘introduced’ and ‘initiated’ into JCT will also be functional and au cou- grand re-opening in January. “The best be repurposed either as shuls or non-de- the main Sanctuary, replacing its former rant in terms of its offerings, and while thing is that we are offering a service to nominational community centers, but family/mixed pews arrangement, mak- some of the JCT programs have previous- the community, and we don’t have to often not both. ing the Jewish Center’s synagogue entity ly been managed by contractors, the fi t- compete with other shuls in order to do The Jewish Center of Teaneck (JCT) fully Orthodox.” ness services will now managed entire- this,” said Zierler. “We’re simply reclaim- was one such institution that was built Now, through board retreats and a dy- ly by JCT staff. JCT has built up a staff of ing our original purpose.” in 1933 to house a wide variety of Jewish namic rabbi who has experience work- personal trainers, because studies have For more information, visit http:// events, complete with an indoor swim- ing in Jewish communal service (Zierl- shown that people do better with exer- www.jcot.org. ming pool, exercise rooms and team er was previously an associate executive sports courts. “However, in the 1960s director at the Cleveland JCC), the JCT is and 70s, shuls locally were overwhelmed renovating and working to reclaim its with lifecycle events, and the JCT, with original purpose as an exercise and well- 60,000 square feet of usable space, ness center for the community. switched to a more synagogue and sim- “There is a need for this kind of thing cha focus and put health and wellness on in this community.” Zierler said. “There the back burner,” said Rabbi Lawrence Zi- is a need to provide health and wellness erler, JCT’s rabbi since 2006. services around the need for recreational By the 1990s, however, the commu- and social opportunities, for all ages; for nity in Teaneck became replete with children, their parents, and for seniors. It synagogues, so JCT was forced to go makes good fi nancial sense for us and it’s through another period of transition as good for the community.” it searched for an identity and a place “We are different from most [health in the community landscape. After sev- and wellness facilities] in that we will be Moriah Students Raise Funds For Three WunderWagons he Moriah School in Englewood will Tbe donating three WunderWagons to the pediatric oncology fl oor in Hack- ensack Hospital after a successful goods and services fundraiser run by the student council. Teachers throughout the school offered up gifts or treats for auctions and, through students bids, $2,400 was raised. The auction raised three times the hoped for amount as, originally, the aim was to provide a colorful, ani- mal shaped wagon to Chana Poupko, the daughter of the assistant Rabbi at Ahavat Torah in Englewood. The fundraiser was based on ticket “Our students really rose to the occa- purchases- every $1 ticket would give sion, participating wholeheartedly and a student the chance to win sports jer- most generously in this incredibly im- seys, special lunches, class movies, portant cause,” a school representative unique toys and more. The enthusi- said. “We could not be more proud of asm wasn’t just for prizes; it was also for our students for the effort they dedicat- Chana who is both a friend and neight- ed to this most worthy fundraiser.” bor to many of the students.

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heart, as one of her classmates’ siblings time to work the machines. They set up Goldie Goldberg: had passed away and another friend had “teams” of three adult women with three been diagnosed with cancer. It had be- girls who would each tackle a quilt. The A Heart of Gold come the obvious bat mitzvah choice, large party room was set up with twelve except, this time, on a much larger scale. stations, each supplied with a sewing ma-  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 With both of her parents’ full support, chine, a seamstress, iron and large board Goldie started from ground up. onto which each person could tack on ed project to children undergoing chem- “We wrote a script that she would use their fabric and see how it was progress- otherapy. In fact, as she checked out the to speak to the customer service depart- ing in the larger context of her group’s various booths, the idea percolating in ments of large fabric and quilting compa- quilt. They also prepared a zip-lock bag her head, she approached the Chai Life- nies, asking them if they would donate for each guest that held the individual line booth, an organization that supports products for her mitzvah project,” ex- pieces she would need to make her part children with cancer, asking the woman plained Rahel. of the quilt. manning it what she thought. They were surprised and inspired by “When you walked into the room,” “She loved the idea right away,” Goldie on a quilt for the little friend so she could the responses. Almost all of the eight said Leslie Morrison, a friend, “and saw said on a recent Sunday at home in Passa- have it while undergoing chemotherapy. companies Goldie called—like Moda what she had to do, from cutting all the ic with her mom, Rahel, at her side. As the years passed, Goldie became a rapt and Hobbs—were more than happy to fabric to getting the manpower, it was That was last year. Fast forward to this audience for her mom’s quilting hob- donate fabric, fi lling—or batting, as it overwhelming.” past summer, when her mom and her by, slowly learning the craft—and even is called in quilting parlance—and oth- Morrison, whose 10-year-old son Dan- dad, Scott, started planning Goldie’s bat becoming a quilting contest winner— er equipment. But it was when the man- iel—also a Noam student—was diag- mitzvah. Instead of focusing on dresses, all the while, observing her little friend agement of companies called back them- nosed with lymphoma this past summer, menu, or color scheme, Goldie chose to getting better. When Goldie’s childhood selves, inspired by the “do good” bat added that it was beautiful to see a young invest herself in her mitzvah. friend was fi nally declared cancer-free, it mitzvah, and recalled their own bnai girl who is so compassionate. The Goldbergs would need a lot of seemed like a good idea to bring togeth- mitzvah on the phone with Goldie, that “I know how meaningful it is to re- supplies to make 12 quilts, corresponding er the two things Goldie loved: quilts and the Goldbergs realized they were onto ceive. It carries you through the diffi cult to the age of celebration. The goal was to her healthy friend. something. road you’re walking,” Morrison said. have all the girls and women invited to So for Goldie’s 8th birthday, she gath- “The fact that she called herself, she After two hours of 35 girls and 50 the simcha to actually make the quilts at ered her friends, along with her newly- was so cute and so polite, how could you adults quilting, the Goldbergs had 12 the party—a bit of a gargantuan task for healthy one, and had them all work on not (donate)?” said Daryl Cohen, brand quilts still in their raw form. Rahel need- women and girls who had never quilted a quilt. When it was fi nished, she offered manager at Andover Fabrics. Cohen ed to fi nish the piecing in order to get before, especially since crafting a quilt Chai Lifeline the quilt as a donation, and said that what pushed her to donate 50 them to the long arm quilter within a can take an expert quilter many weeks to the organization said it had someone in pounds of fabric was the fact that Goldie few days so that the quilts could be do- complete one. mind to give it to. was willing to forgo the usual party and nated to Chai Lifeline on time for the But, in truth, Goldie had already had a Little did Goldie know that she had al- do something for other children. fi rst day of Chanukah. “dress rehearsal” for this mitzvah project. ready planted the seeds for her bat mitz- Another vice president was so in- On the Tuesday before Chanukah, Ra- As a young child, when she was 4, vah. spired by their contribution to this girl’s hel brought the quilts to Yeshivat Noam, Goldie’s friend was diagnosed with can- Three years later, with her bat mitz- bat mitzvah, that they posted a picture where all the girls who had participated cer. At that time, Rahel had taken on vah approaching, quilting for kids with of her on their Facebook page and men- in the bat mitzvah got to sign the back la- quilting as a hobby and quickly worked cancer has only become closer to Goldie’s tioned her mitzvah in their industry-re- bel, which is how quilts are remembered lated blogs. for posterity. Goldie’s quilt labels read, “I was surprised by how they thought “This quilt was made especially for you it was such a big deal,” Goldie recalled, at Goldie Goldberg’s bat mitzvah, Novem- still not fully comprehending what an ber 10, 2013.” impact she was having, but enjoying the “Everyone was so excited to see that excitement nonetheless. the quilt had actually come togeth- The generosity landed the Goldbergs er,” Goldie recalls of the morning her over 200 pounds of fabric to work with, bat mitzvah was celebrated at Yeshivat along with free batting and free rotary Noam. cutters. Alissa Horn, the Chai Lifeline case In order for her bat mitzvah day to manager who had come to pick up the run effi ciently, mom and daughter chose quilts from Goldie’s bat mitzvah celebra- simple designs that would be easy for be- tion, said that when she got back to her ginners to follow. “That alone took over offi ce, she announced to the NY-NJ case 50 hours,” Rahel said, playing down the managers that she had “these really spe- effort, adding that a number of expert cial gifts and that they would need to give quilters from New Jersey and New York the quilts to someone who’d really appre- helped her peruse the Internet, design ciate it.” Horn explained that the quilts magazines, and many books, once they are not on loan and that each child who heard about the project. received a quilt keeps it as their own gift. Guests at the simcha would need to Chai Lifeline has never gotten a hand- sew the little pieces of fabric to create crafted gift of this kind on such a large a pattern, like a series of trees or fl ow- scale, and the organization sees Goldie’s ers, called “piecing,” and then sew those gift as a one-time only event. designs onto larger pieces of fabric that “Goldie is a professional quilter. You’re would create the top and bottom layers not going to fi nd that many kids doing of the quilt. Like a sandwich, the bat- this, devoting this kind of work and tal- ting rests between the top and bottom ent,” Horn said. layers. Additionally, what makes quilt- Who are some of the quilt recipients? ing different from an average blanket Goldie will never know. But that’s not is the way it is sewn together. It isn’t the point, mom Rahel said. “Even though simply sewn at the edges, to bring the Goldie and the girls won’t ever know or three layers together, but rather it is see the children who will be wrapped in sewn all over the top and bottom lay- these quilts while undergoing chemo, ers in a design, say of butterfl ies or clo- she is satisfi ed in knowing that they will ver leaves. For this stage of the craft— have this beautiful thing.” called long arm quilting and requiring And to underscore the point, only certain equipment—Rahel decided to now, during this interview, Goldie notic- outsource to an expert, at a hefty $800 es that she didn’t sign the quilt labels. In for the 12 quilts. turn, the cancer patients will not know For the big day, both mom and dad that she worked on each quilt. galvanized friends and even strangers “Oh well,” she said, still beaming over to donate sewing machines and their her accomplishment.

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nglewood—To honor the 18th yahrzeit ipatetic civil liberties lawyer” and “Is- MJE, the organization which spon- Eof his mother, Ruth, former Engle- rael’s single most visible defender.” He sored the event, is a cutting edge pro- wood mayor Michael Wildes sponsored a has published more than 1,000 articles gram for young Jewish professionals in lecture by Harvard Professor, Israel advo- in magazines, newspapers, journals and their 20’s and 30’s, with little or no back- cate, author and attorney Alan Dershow- blogs including The New York Times Mag- ground in Judaism who are interested in itz for the Manhattan Jewish Experience azine, The Washington Post, The Wall connecting more to each other, to their (MJE). MJE is a non-profi t organization Street Journal, The Harvard Law Review, community and to Judaism. MJE is a founded by Rabbi Mark N. Wildes, Mi- the Yale Law Journal, and Ha’aretz. Ad- place where young men and women can chael’s brother, in 1998. ditionally, Professor Dershowitz is the explore Jewish life and meet new peo- More than 500 guests attended the author of 30 fi ction and non-fi ction ple in a wide range of inclusive, engaging event, including luminaries Rabbi Nor- works with a worldwide audience, in- and innovative programs for thousands Former Englewood Mayor Michael Wildes man Lamm, Rabbi David Bleich and ac- cluding The New York Times #1 bestseller of young Jewish professionals, including (middle) fl anked by Actress Kelly Rutherford tress Kelley Rutherford, Chutzpah, The Vanishing American Jew parties, an annual ski trip, classes, begin- (on left Star of “Gossip Girl”) and Professor Professor Alan M. Dershowitz is a and The Case for Israel 1 &2. Nobel Lau- ner prayer services, marching in the Isra- Alan Dershowiz (right). Brooklyn native and a graduate of Yale reate Elie Wiesel has said of Dershowitz: el day parade, Friday night dinners and Law School, who joined the Harvard Law “If there had been a few people like Alan much, much more. MJE was founded in One can hear the Professor’s address School faculty at age 25 after clerking for Dershowitz during the 1930s and 1940s, memory of Ruth B. Wildes, z’’l, For more at: http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lec- Justice Arthur Goldberg. Dershowitz has the history of European Jewry might information about MJE, visit: http:// ture.cfm/801005/Guest_Speaker_MJE/ been called both “the nation’s most per- have been different.” www.jewishexperience.org The_Vanishing_Jew Herring, Schnapps & Tzedekah: A Mechaye of a Melave Malke!

By Aliza Chasan has been biannual since 2009. Three Ne- “We decided that even though the tivot Shalom members, Jonathan Shore, event is a fundraiser for our shul, we de- eaneck—Herring, the classic Kiddu- Noah Rothblatt and Barry Herzog, decid- cided to do something not just for our Tsh dish, is being celebrated on motzei ed to try it out after reading about a her- own neck of the woods, but also for our Shabbat of December 14th at the Bergen ring festival in a New Yorker article. The general community,” Shore said, noting County Herring Festival. The festival, response the fi rst year—95 attendees, a that the previous two events were fund- hosted by Netivot Shalom at 811 Palisade number which has since grown to read raisers for the local Mikvahs and to help Ave. from 8:30-11:00 p.m., will showcase a 115—blew them away. with Yeshiva tuition affordability. wide variety of herring, vodka and single Tickets are $50 if purchased before For more information, email her- malt scotch. Dec.10 and $60 if purchased afterwards. [email protected]. To make a reser- To go with the wide variety of her- Ten percent of all profi ts will be donated vation, send a check in to Noah Rothblatt ring, there will be samplings of smoked The “Old School” Table at the last Herring to the Teaneck Volunteer Ambulance Corp. at 206 Cedar Lane, Apt. 4D in Teaneck, NJ. salmon, roe, bread, olives, potatoes, beets Festival. and hard boiled eggs—a shtetl menu prepared in traditional Finlandian style. ing perfect for afi cionados and newcom- Grand and Essex, Ma’adan and a surprise ers alike.” third vendor are all participating in the This will be the third Herring Festi- event, which is being hailed as “an even- val hosted at Netivot Shalom; the event Tweets Allow For Pol ice Patrol Virtual Ride-Along By Aliza Chasan

ver wonder what the average night is Elike for local police offi cers? The Ber- genfi eld PD aimed to answer that question for locals on December 6 by tweet- ing throughout an offi cer’s patrol. Police BRIS@MOCHA Chief Michael T. Carr and Captain Cathy Madalone joined Offi cer Kyle Witty as Welcome Your New Prince his offi cial tweeters. School and Cooper Pond before heading With a Royal Entrance At The day after, the department post- over to Dunkin’ Donuts to meet local pa- ed a blog about the virtual ride-along re- trons, many of whom were following the stating their goal as informing the public department tweets. MOCHABLEU by allowing them to see, through photos, From the meet and greet, the three of- and read, through tweets, “what an offi c- fi cers headed to Matthew’s Diner where Packages starting at $22pp er has to face, be aware of, investigate, Louis Newkirk, a missing Englewood res- and make decisions on, sometimes in a ident, was spotted. As the night contin- split second, all in real-time.” ued, a suspicious vehicle was examined At 4:00 pm, offi cers gathered to re- and another was towed for an expired ceive pertinent information and the registration. night’s sector assignments. A half hour “Police offi cers have an impact on later, all three offi cers set out for the lives of citizens on a daily basis,” Chief night and released information about a Carr said in his day- after post. “In some planned meet and greet for anyone inter- instances it may not be the best time of ested at a donut shop. “Let the jokes be- someone’s life, but we want the public to gin,” they tweeted. remember that offi cers also have a hu- Before the meet, Offi cer Witty pulled man side too. By using the technological CERTAIN RESTRICTIONS APPLY a driver over to speak with him about tools of communication that are avail- BOOK YOUR SON'S BRIS@MOCHABLEU proper driving protocol. The driver able to us, we can hopefully show that EMAIL US FOR DETAILS: [email protected] was released without any ticket. Wit- side of a police offi cer and strengthen ty checked Bergenfi eld streets, Franklin the relationship with the public.”

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 27 EDITORIAL Supporting Our Neighbors. And Ourselves. he annual Project Ezrah dinner is tak- Since 2001, Project Ezrah has grown Think of the challenges Bergen fam- Ting place this Motzei Shabbos at Ket- far beyond acting as an employment ilies face with a cost of living going er Torah in Teaneck. If you live in Bergen agency. They help people get out of debt; through the roof. Even if you make be- County and are a member of a shul, you teach them manage their fi nances, offer tween $150-$200K a year, with four kids received your invitations, viewed emails tuition assistance, and even dress their in yeshiva, you can hardly pay the bills. about the dinner, heard from your local clients for success. The work they do has There are widows and divorcees with rabbi about it, and perhaps received calls touched so many families that the num- children in the neighborhood who can and emails from friends and neighbors bers are truly astounding—and steadi- barely keep it together. Project Ezrah exhorting you to attend or support this ly rising, as there have been more mort- helps them all, and now it’s time to help unique organization. The JLBC is joining gage defaults in our community in the Project Ezrah. Why not step up to the that chorus and asking you to make your last four years than in the last 40 years plate—the dinner plate—this Motzei last minute reservations and go. And if combined. Shabbos? Make that reservation, send in you can’t, please send them a donation… We may not know who Project Ezrah your check and help us honor an organ- as much as you can afford. helps, and they aim to keep it that way. ization that makes a difference where it Project Ezrah’s original mission is still They are very discreet and shun public- counts. Right here at home, in our neigh- going strong—fi nding jobs for people in ity. But we all know neighbors who are borhoods. our community, in meaningful numbers. in trouble, and when they are in trouble, We also must sadly offer our condo- They help people help themselves. Their we are all in trouble. Project Ezrah helps lences to the family of Ted Mirkhani of clients are counseled, get resume advice, many of those people, and when they do, Teaneck. His untimely passing is a loss retraining if needed, and are coached eve- they knit our diverse and varied commu- for our community, as he was an enthu- ry step of the way. They also learn to net- nity into one. If we are only for ourselves, siastic supporter, past dinner honoree, work and may even fi nd new careers that who are we? And if we don’t help Project and close friend of Project Ezrah. May his offer better opportunity and promise. Ezrah now, when will we help them? memory be a blessing! LETTER TO THE EDITOR

To the Editor: with Adolf Hitler, Churchill was reviled and the enrichment of uranium still con- How ironic that last week’s front by politicians and much of the press in tinues. Iran’s nuclear program is still in- page article entitled, ‘The Iran Deal: On Great Britain as a war monger. He might tact. The Iranians remain on the brink the Record and Analysis’ begins with a have believed in talking, but certainly of critical breakout capacity. After years quote by the late British PM Winston not in forging deals that are very danger- of crippling sanctions, the Iranians came Churchill endorsing the notion of ne- ous. back again to the table and they walked gotiations with adversaries in which he Prime Minister Netanyahu’s stat- away with what they wanted: diminish- stated, “To Jaw- Jaw is always better than ed objections were not, to quote a Reu- ing sanctions and the continuity of their to War-War.” Following his declared re- ter’s News citation from the story, a “pul- nuclear program. Western leaders led by jection of the 1938 Munich pact forged pit sermon.” The conference at Geneva President Obama have shown a lack of by then British PM Neville Chamberlain has ended and the centrifuges still churn purpose and fortitude. The conclusion of the article cites the recent rise of the Israeli stock market following the agreement as an indicator of Israeli public support for the Gene- va interim deal. However, investor sen- timent and public opinion are far different. Netanyahu’s popularity has actually surged following his stand against the agreement. Certainly, the people of Israel their own borders, support other mur- would not want to face a massive barrage derous dictatorships and supply jihad- of missiles by Iranian backed Hezbollah ists like Hezbollah and Hamas. As long in Lebanon as a result of preemptive mil- as they are permitted to keep their long itary action, but the Israeli people are tak- sought after nuclear program they are a ing into account the consequences of a threat to global stability. nuclear armed Iran. At this crucial juncture, let us not de- The ideologically driven Iranian lead- lude ourselves. ers issue existential threats against other Larry Domnitch nations, persecute the innocent within Bergenfield, NJ

Beit Din to shared issue.” Noting that “for the ﬁ rst time women are now part of the halakh- Alleviate Agony ic and Torah community,” she said, “ we have strength we never had before…. of Agunot If there is one community between the United States and Israel [that cares  CONTINUED FROM P. 10 about the plight of agunot], there will be strength to accept the (Beit Din’s) de- cal ducks to assure support. We need to cisions.” get the support of the community.” Rab- Rabbi Asher Lopatin, another par- bi Krauss, she said, has been vetting pro- ticipating rabbi, and the Rosh Yeshiva spective dayanim to assess their charac- of Chovevi Torah in Riverdale said, “In ter, integrity, commitment and latitude some ways the problem of agunah is of interpretation. The Beit Din “will re- unifying us,” said the scholar. “As long as spond to the needs,” she assured. “De- we have recognized poskim, the Beit Din lays will not be tolerated.” is something people all over the Ortho- “We are at a critical moment in the dox world will see.” He predicted “peo- history of Torah Judaism …On the agu- ple will be ﬂ ooding to this Beit Din. The nah issue we have an opportunity to problem is universal, one shared by the basically strengthen the (American and Israeli) community because this is a  CONTINUED ON P. 45

28 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM DIVREI TORAH Vayechi: Brevity (Bereishit: 49: 19-21)

By Larry Stiefel walked him to the door. “No, not really,” Rebecca said. “Good,” Rabbi Jacobs said. “And Jonathan and Rebecca stood back to “Thanks for coming in,” Rabbi Jacobs in those six words, Yakov gives his hey had been wait- let the Reinholds leave and waited until said, as he shook Jonathan’s hand and son a beautiful blessing that his chil- Ting outside the the rabbi was ready for them. gave Rebecca a friendly nod. He had a dren will be great soldiers and leaders. classroom for over 20 “Who’s next?” Rabbi Jacobs called out nice, warm grip. How about Asher’s bracha? How many minutes. They could from his desk. Just before the Feins made it to the words?” see the parents that Rebecca led the way in, and Jonathan door of the classroom—three seconds Jonathan counted. “Six.” were huddled with followed. before they could have escaped without “And in those brief words he bless- Rabbi Jacobs by his desk, deep in conver- “Hi, Rabbi. We’re the Feins,” Jonathan Jonathan putting his foot in his mouth— es him with the abundance that will sation. But each parent-teacher confer- said. Jonathan turned around to Rabbi Jacobs. feed kings. And how about Naftali? How ence was only allotted 10 minutes on the “Yes?” Rabbi Jacobs said expectantly. “Rabbi, can I ask you a question?” many words?” clock, and these people—who were they, “We’re Naftali’s parents,” Rebecca added. “Honey, let’s go now,” Rebecca said. “Six as well,” Jonathan said. the Reinholds?—had gone well over “Why yes, of course you are,” the rab- “Sure, sure, anything.” “And he blesses him as a swift deer their time slot. bi said. “I should have realized it as soon “Why is it that the last couple was in who delivers beautiful thoughts. Now, “Should I say something?” Jonathan as I looked at you. Your son looks exact- here for, like, half an hour, and we’re giv- Reuven’s bracha, is it longer or shorter?” asked his wife, not taking his eyes off the ly like you,” he said to Jonathan. “Please, en about one minute of your time? Is our Jonathan fl ipped back two pages in group inside the classroom. take a seat.” son less important than theirs?” the chumash. “It’s considerably longer.” “No,” Rebecca said. They sat in the small classroom chairs “Oy,” Rebecaa muttered under her “Yes, but it isn’t necessarily as kind, is “Can I knock on the door, at least?” that were set up next to the rabbi’s desk, breath. it?” “No.” and Rabbi Jacobs took a few moments to Rabbi Jacobs smiled. “You know, Mr. “No, not really.” “Is there anything…?” look through his marking book and con- Fein, in this week’s parsha, Yakov gives “And Shimon and Levi, faired even “Good things come to those who sult his notes. each of his son’s a bracha, a blessing.” worse with their longer blessing.” wait, Jon. Be patient.” “There’s really not much to say. Nafta- “Yes, I’m familiar with Vayechi,” Jona- “True,” Jonathan agreed. Jonathan looked at his watch and li is an excellent student and has a great than said. “It’s kind of the same way with par- sighed. “We’re going to be late for our slot head for Torah. He’s doing well in class, “Good! So can you tell me, how many ent-teacher conferences,” Rabbi Jacobs with Morah Rachel.” and it’s a joy to be his teacher.” words are in Gad’s bracha from his fa- said. “You should hope for a nice, brief “So be it,” Rebecca said, stoically. Jonathan and Rebecca kept nodding ther?” meeting. Know what I mean?” The woman was a rock. It was one of at Rabbi Jacobs, waiting for him to go on. “Um, I’m familiar with the parsha, but “Yes, I see your point,” Jonathan said. the things he loved most about his wife. Rabbi Jacobs sat in his chair and I’m not that familiar with it, rabbi.” “Thank you, rabbi.” Finally, the Reinholds stood. Mrs. Re- stared calmly at the Feins. “Wait, I’ll get you a chumash.” And the “Don’t mention it.” inhnold dabbed a tissue to her eyes. Mr. “And?” rabbi opened the chumash to the appro- Larry Stiefel is a pediatrician at Tenafl y Reinhold shook Rabbi Jacobs’ hand, and “That’s really all I have to say,” the rab- priate page and handed it to Jonathan. Pediatrics and the author of the parsha the rabbi put his arm around him and bi said. “Do you have any questions?” “It’s six words,” Jonathan said. story blog themaggidofbergenfi eld.com POLITICAL PONDERINGS The Hebrew Humanitarians

By N. Aaron Troodler, Esq. of Typhoon Haiyan, which absolutely to get a glimpse of some of the good that there to answer the call for help. And it is devastated the Philippines and result- emanates from the State of Israel. time that the world fi nally takes notice here is no denying the ed in a great loss of life as well as exten- When the Israeli team fi nally left of Israel’s benevolence and acknowledg- Tfact that press cover- sive property and infrastructure damage, the Philippines, it had provided medical es its altruistic acts. age of Israel by media I watched a wonderful segment on the treatment to nearly 3,000 patients and While the United Nations never pass- outlets around the world NBC Nightly News. had helped repair a number of damaged es up an opportunity to issue baseless is often less than fl attering. Indeed, Is- Dr. Nancy Snyderman, the Chief Med- buildings, including schools. condemnations of Israel, the Israeli gov- rael is routinely maligned in the media ical Editor for NBC News, provided a re- In fact, since its founding in 1948, the ernment never misses a chance to lend a and vilifi ed by those who are theoretical- port from the ravaged nation. What was State of Israel has provided humanitarian helping hand to some of those very same ly tasked with providing the public with especially interesting to me was that the aid to more than 140 countries: Following countries that have denounced her. impartial reporting of the news. focus of her report was Israel. Following a powerful earthquake in Turkey in 2011, Unfortunately, Israel’s public rela- As a result of this adverse exposure in the massive storm in the Philippines, the Israel sent a team to construct temporary tions problems will not disappear over- the press, Israel’s reputation on the world Israeli government did what it always structures that were needed in order to night. Those wishing to denigrate the stage is inevitably tarnished. Although it does in the wake of a natural disaster— assist those who were displaced and in- Jewish State will continue to do so. As is undeserved and unwarranted, once it sent help. jured. In 2010, an Israeli team traveled such, Israel will keep on employing com- the negative coverage about Israel hits In her report, Dr. Snyderman spoke to Haiti to provide aid in the aftermath munications strategies intended to coun- the newspapers, the damage is done. about how she was in awe of the medical of a powerful earthquake that decimat- ter the partiality in the press. But one of From a public relations perspec- professionals and other personnel from ed the small nation. The Israelis set up the best ways that Israel can defl ect the tive, the Israeli government has its work the Israeli Defense Forces who came to a temporary hospital and treated count- daggers that are being thrown at her is cut out for itself. It is engaged in a con- the Philippines. She discussed in glowing less Haitians who desperately required to keep doing what she has been doing stant struggle to counter the disparaging terms how well the Israelis assisted those medical attention. Israel sent four tons for so many years, namely, helping peo- news stories with positive and informa- in need by delivering emergency medical of medical aid to the Democratic Repub- ple and nations in need. By being the tive pieces about all that Israel has to of- care in exceedingly poor conditions. She lic of the Congo in 2008 to assist the refu- humanitarians that Israelis have proven fer and all that it has accomplished. Mis- noted that the Israeli team chose to set gees there who were suffering greatly. Af- themselves to be, they can demonstrate statements in the media are promptly up their sophisticated medical operation ter Hurricane Katrina struck New Orleans to the world that they are not the villains rebutted by Israel, and biased coverage in Bogo, a small village that had been hit in 2005, Israel sent a delegation equipped that their antagonists make them out to of the Jewish State is generally brought extremely hard by the storm, yet was off with 80 tons of food and supplies to help be. to light. the beaten path and therefore was not all those who were affected by the storm. Yet, for all of the negativity that Israel necessarily getting as much aid as some In addition, Israel provided emergen- N. Aaron Troodler is an attorney and a principal of has been forced to endure in the media, of the other areas. cy relief aid to Sri Lanka after the 2005 Paul Revere Public Relations, a public r elations and there is one issue that has traditionally This report on NBC was overwhelm- tsunami, to Indonesia after the 2004 tsu- political c onsulting fi rm. Visit him on the Web a t generated positive press for the Jewish ingly positive, and Dr. Snyderman spoke nami, and to India after the 2001 earth- TroodlersTake.blogspot.com, w ww.PaulReverePR. State, and rightfully so. about the Israelis in an almost reveren- quake. And the list goes on and on. com, or www.JewishWorldPR.com. You can also fol- Several weeks ago, in the aftermath tial manner. The story enabled the world When tragedy strikes, Israel is always low him on Twitter: @troodler

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By Rabbi Dani Staum their day off, and it’s chilly. Why are they when asked why we did not accomplish he was very happy that he fell asleep. He out there? Obviously it’s because they more during our lives, we will say that explained, “When I get up to heaven and ot far from our love the game and are excited by the op- we were too overburdened and emo- they ask me why I sometimes lacked pas- Nhome is a lush and portunity to play. I make my way up to tionally maxed out. The celestial courts, sion and energy for learning Torah and beautiful golf course. shul on Shabbos Kodesh morning wonder- however, will ask us how we had energy davening, I will be able to respond that Every Shabbos morning if I feel the same way about davening. and strength to do other things that we it’s not because I lacked value for those ing as I make my way In this country the day after Thanks- wanted to do. I sometimes wonder if the things. You see I also fell asleep during a to shul it is still rel- giving has become sanctioned as a holy “Black Fridayers” and the “early Saturday playoff game!” atively early for most of the world on day, now known as Black Friday. People morning golfers” are going to get us into We can accomplish far more than we a weekend morning. Aside for an occa- literally stand on line all night in order trouble in the heavenly courts. ‘You see give ourselves credit for…if we put our sional early jogger, the roads are virtual- to save a few bucks and fi ght for a few they did it because they wanted it badly minds to it. ly empty. That is until I arrive at the golf good deals. I asked one such friend why enough.’ Hmmmm! course. Even now, as the weather is rap- and how he maintained his sanity all Recently, a friend related to me that Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat idly getting colder, as long as it’s not too night long. He shrugged and smiled, “We that he and a friend named Mark were New Hempstead, and the Guidance Counselor/Reb- cold and raining, there will be fi gures on brought stuff to keep busy; it was an ex- high school teammates on a Young Isra- be at Yeshiva Bais Hachinuch & Ashar in Monsey, NY. the golf course, standing in their wind- perience.” el basketball team. Once during a semi- In addition he is a Division Head at Camp Dora Gold- breakers, swinging their golf clubs. Chazal say that in the World of Truth fi nal playoff game, Mark fell asleep on ing for bo ys during the summer . He is the author Truthfully, those golfers make me feel we are judged based on our own actions the bench during halftime. When my of Stam Torah and can be r eached at stamtorah@ somewhat uneasy. It’s Saturday morning, and the actions of those around us. If friend woke him up, Mark told him that gmail.com. His website is www.stamtorah.info. ME’ACHOREI HAPARGOD

It may sound like a serious disorder. Mayor-elect, a U.S. Senator and the New This the Season! If you are a big-time community activist, York State Assembly Speaker all address you have JODS overload. If you can’t stand the audience. They also watched some By Robert Katz traditions—for those of us in the tradition- sitting through the season, you defi nite- highly professional and really good vid- al Jewish world, we have another kind of ly have ADD-JODS. If you can’t get enough eos. They loved it. To them, it was a won- hile it’s “The Sea- season. And it’s upon us in a big way. of this season and you keep going back to derful form of entertainment. Wson” for most of Welcome to Jewish Organization Din- every dinner for every kind of smorg food, And for us, so used to so many of these the world to eat tur- ner Season (JODS, for short). you probably have OCD-JODS. events, we like them as well—otherwise key dinners, to watch It might not be as sexy sounding as Cha- But here’s the punch line: After more we would have revolted years ago and put football games ad nau- nukah or Christmas, but it’s certainly easier than 25 years in the fi eld, I can unequivo- a stop to them. If nothing else, when the seam, to shop ‘til you to spell. And there is no other ethnic group cally say that we LIKE it. chimes sound and the lights dim signal- drop, to decorate the house, to spread holi- that I know of that owns the unique and Ever since Madison Square Garden was ing the end of the Smorg, a People’s Re- day cheer—all nice, warm and sentimental storied traditions of JODS. fi lled in the early 1940s to raise funds for volt does not ensue. Hundreds respect- the Jews of Palestine (the United Palestine fully move into the Grand Ballroom for a Appeal), we have been congregating in program that awaits them. Some organ- small and large numbers, at the Waldorf or izations try to pull off “virtual Dinners,” at the Roosevelt Hotel, to raise money for where no attendance is required. Or, they causes that are either dear to us or are dear try to get you to pay so that you DON’T to our friends being honored. And for all have to come to a Dinner. But these are the moaning and groaning, straining and few and far between, and shortsighted. complaining, and humming and hawing When we gather in a large reception that goes on, at the end of the day, we are area for cocktails, we schmooze with old The People of the Dinner. and new friends; we show each other pic- We like getting dressed up in our fan- tures of children and grandchildren; we cy clothes. We LOVE a good smorgasbord. talk sports and share old school stories. We compare and contrast caterer presen- And we eat like crazy. So, not only is JODS tations over our Shabbos tables. And, as a necessary part of our life, but I would much as we can’t stand programs that are strongly aver that at the end of the day, we too long or not entertaining, the truth is actually enjoy it. that most every Dinner has some take- When “they” write the defi nitive histo- away moment where we all say to our- ry book of the Jews of America in the 20th selves, “that was pretty nice.” When a Din- and 21st centuries, there will be a chap- ner provides several “wow moments,” ter on the unique phenomenon known that’s a huge plus. as JODS, a season which takes place in No- At my favorite organization’s recent vember and December of every year; a sea- gala, attended by over 1,200 people at son where a good time was had by most, the Marriott Marquis, I found it fascinat- really good food was served, and precious ing that the people who were totally en- monies were raised for important char- thralled with the evening’s proceedings ities—a pretty impressive way to spend were the non-Jewish friends in attend- “The Season,” indeed. ance. For them, it’s a night out akin to a So this time of year, let’s raise a toast to Broadway show. They get to hear some Jewish Organization Dinner Season. Hap- good speeches and yes some bad, but in py JODS to one and all. And to all, a good my case they got to hear a Governor, a night. See something happening near your home? Know of an event coming up in your community? Tweet it to: @jlinkbc

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By Dr. Wallace Greene Observation #4: Day schools cannot will become chairmen and chairwom- ty Relations Council of UJA a decade ago. expect federation support as an entitle- en. It would not take a huge fortune of They debated it for 18 months and in the aramus—I have ment. They should be required to demon- money, only an investment in time, in or- end did not vote to propose it to the UJA Plived in Bergen strate in concrete, measurable ways why der for UJA to refl ect the needs of the day leadership. Had the committee had repre- County for 42 years they deserve community support. It’s an school community—if they were willing sentation from the day school communi- and I have been active opportunity to educate those not familiar to enter the fray and play by the rules. I’ve ty, the outcome would have been differ- in my synagogue, com- with day schools. Years ago the Allocations done it and it works. ent. munity affairs, UJA Committee visited several day schools, Observation #6: Millions of tzedakah Proposal #4: The Talmud teaches that and several day schools. One of my earli- came away with a newfound respect and dollars are raised every year in this com- self-preservation is a primary directive. The est jobs was in 1961 as the fi rst youth di- funding grew. This should continue. munity, only a fraction of which goes to needy of your own community take prec- rector of the nascent B’nai Yeshurun in a Observation #5: UJA is not “the other” local day schools. edence over others. In this community we small house on West Englewood Avenue. nor the Dark Side. It is a democratic organ- Proposal #1: Schools are not profi t generously support myriads of institutions I have observed this community for a ization run by those who show up and are centers, but some costs can be contained. all over the world. What if we declared a long time. I have been a day school prin- voluntary moratorium for two years on ex- cipal, executive director, and, for over a ternal institutions and all that money were decade, I was the Director of Jewish Ed- It would not take a huge fortune of money, funneled into local Jewish day schools? Fail- ucational Services for the Jewish Fed- only an investment in time, in order for UJA to ing that, what if those who support human- eration of Northern New Jersey. I have reflect the needs of the day school community— itarian institutions, museums, their alma watched this community grow and fl our- mater, the opera, public radio and televi- ish from two day schools to 14. Sadly, I if they were willing to enter the fray and play sion, etc. could be encouraged to support am now seeing my community strug- by the rules. I’ve done it and it works. only local day schools for a year or two? gling with the rising costs of a day school What if we did both? We are in a crisis and education when remedies are available. we need bold steps to deal with it. This in- I would like to make several obser- involved. If members of the day school The largest salaries go to non-teaching ad- volves major donors speaking to other ma- vations, and then I will offer some solu- community would shed their parochial- ministrative personnel. Schools can get by jor donors. We need to make the case to tions which are viable if the community ism and participate, then the priority set- with fewer administrators. I have always those who do not yet fully appreciate the leadership has the testicular fortitude to ting would be different. You have to be advocated paying teachers the higher sala- value of a day school education as well as to follow through. in it to win it. Getting funded is a game, ries because they make education happen. those who do. Observation #1: Schools are not prof- and every game has rules. The rule here is Many teachers could perform administra- Proposal #5: A while ago, George it centers. Tuition covers about 75% of ac- he who shows up calls the shots. Grant- tive tasks in addition to their teaching re- Hanus of Chicago proposed that everyone tual costs. ed one has to work one’s way up the hier- sponsibilities. Check the rosters and add should give 5% of their net worth to any Observation #2: Parents making archy to be a decision maker, and in eve- up the salaries in almost every day school. day school of their choice, either in their $200K with several children struggle to ry democracy there are compromises and Proposal #2: Teaneck is known for its will or while they are still alive. This sug- pay tuition. decisions with which we may fundamen- dining establishments which always seem gestion did not catch on, but it’s worth Observation #3: UJA cannot make tui- tally disagree. However there will come to do a bustling business despite the econ- considering. tion affordable even if they had the money. a time when lowly committee members omy. I propose a luxury tax of 1% on all Proposal #6: Doing good by doing well. meals at all restaurants in our communi- Investments today do not yield much for ty. It’s a small amount which patrons will the small investor. However if investors not feel. I will leave the method of collec- pool their resources—as some groups al- tion to the accountants, the RCBC and ready do—and the investments are quite the computer mavens. It will provide a substantial, then the yields will also be steady stream of funding into a commu- higher than what an individual can earn. nal Jewish educational fund. When Israe- We have many successful and savvy in- li restaurants started charging extra for the vestment professionals in our communi- guards at the door, no one objected. This, ty who might forego their commission or Children - Teens - - Families too, should not be an inconvenience. It part of it if investors would agree to split was proposed to the RCBC and rejected; it their earnings with the day schools. This was proposed to the community in a Jew- was fl oated a number of years ago but did ish Press article, and sent to the OU which not get off the ground because some in- never dignifi ed it with a response. We vestors did not want to combine philan- ADHD - Depression - Anxiety have the power to make it happen and it thropy with business. But isn’t that what can be a model for others to emulate. “Im drives charitable giving? One earns so one Grief - Relationship Issues - OCD tirzu.” can give. It warrants a second look. Proposal #3: Tuition tax credits—not I am sure that there will be many nay- Parenting – Social Skills – Anger vouchers—for individuals and businesses sayers and objections to my ruminations. have generated millions of dollars for day I am used to that. Much of what I have ac- Psychoeducational Testing schools (and other private and parochial complished has been over the objections schools) in a dozen states. Furthermore, of others. It is time for the real leaders of 201 – 357 -2825 the Supreme Court has ruled that it does our community to rise up and take action. not constitute a church/state issue. Put If the rabbis cannot or will not advocate simply, we establish the Northern NJ Day more strenuously, then others will have School Alliance (NNJDSA) for the purpose to do it. I have done my best, but now it Dr. Kroll has a wide range of experiences and expertise, of providing scholarship assistance to is time for the next generation to take the area day schools. Other school groups can reins and make sure that every child in and has a practical down-to-earth style that is geared form other organizations to assist other our community who desires a Jewish day schools. Together with the Archdioceses, school education can get it. toward solving problems. the various UJA federations in New Jersey have a lot of clout in Trenton. We lobby Dr. Wallace Greene is a distinguished Jewish ed- for passage of a bill allowing up to $500 ucator who has made his mark in local , state, na- of our NJ tax obligation to go to a school tional and in ternational educational circles. He has NEW OFFICE tuition organization (NNJDSA). Gov. Chris- taught in NY/NJ universities, was the principal of the tie supports this initiative. Cutting to the Joseph Kushner Hebrew Academy, founded the Si- 285 West End Avenue 100 State Street. Suite 2D chase, when the bill gets passed, any- nai Schools, lobbied Trenton with the Ar chdiocese New York, NY 10023 Teaneck, NJ 07666 one, not just parents, can contribute. This to pass the law allowing special services to be pro- has a cumulative effect, and best of all it vided by the local school districts, has published and (646) 494 – 5094 (201) 357 - 2825 doesn’t come out of anyone’s pocket. The lectured widely, and is the r ecipient of man y pres- details, mechanics, and arguments can be tigious awards and grants. He is currently the Man- explained elsewhere, but this plan works. aging D irector of The A dolph S chreiber Hebr ew www.evankroll.com It was presented to the Jewish Communi- Academy of Rockland (ASHAR).

32 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM OP-ED “Jewish Success”—And the “Knockout” Game

By Aliza Davidovit all my days have I seen a Hasidic Jew fea- Jews, not because the Jews controlled the holds—43% of whom are poor. Ah, those tured on a Times Square billboard as an economy, but because the Jews were es- enviable icons of success. n times where the icon for success. sentially the middle class. And when a so- The blame here, I feel, for the vio- Icohesive vision of And so I question, where then is the ciety destroys its middle class, it destroys lence infl icted on Jews by Black youths, the American Dream backlash against these aforementioned itself. should fall directly on the shoulders seems to be dissolving individuals, never mind by the fi st, God And yes, some Jews have been very of some African American communi- into an American enti- forbid, but by the word? The blogo- successful despite history’s merciless ef- ty leaders who perpetuate a culture tlement-nightmare— sphere does not seem to be howling with fort to keep them down. But it is far of self-victimization. They themselves which will certainly drown us from sea the cry of injustice against these amazing from true that every Jew is successful. have risen to the top and while bask- to shining sea—we may need to remind individuals who worked hard and be- And even if they were, therefore what? ing in their success and lives of luxu- the “give-me, give-me” denizens of this came successful. They are allowed to be Do they need to make an apology? Per- ry and fame, continue to sermonize to country what that vision was all about. successful, but Jews aren’t? haps when Oprah, Warren Buffet, Bill their own people how America is keep- The defi nition of the American Dream, She also states that the black commu- Gates, Donald Trump, Carlos Slim Helu, ing them down. And who is the perpet- seemingly remote, thank God can still nity fears the growth of the Jewish pop- Prince Alwaleed Bin Talal Alsaud, Russell ual scapegoat? The Jew. I’d urge these easily be found for now on Wikipedia: ulation and that it would be pushed out Simmons, the Kennedys, President Oba- leaders, if they truly do love their people “The American Dream is a national ethos by its Jewish landlords. Are Jews the only ma and millions of other successful indi- more than they love building their own of the United States, a set of ideals in landlords in New York? When do they viduals apologize for making a success of fame on the pyre of their people’s inse- which freedom includes the opportuni- have time for that? I thought they were themselves, fi nancially or otherwise, we curities, to stop the victimization man- ty for prosperity and success, and an up- too busy with global domination and can revisit the inherently anti-Semitic tra and instead focus on pep talks. Tell ward social mobility achieved through taking over the media—other hate-fi lled singling out of “Jewish success.” these youths that they too are part of the hard work.” canards. Can you imagine if such ideas That being said, please LET facts get American dream. They can be anything Espousing liberty, justice and the pur- were said by a Jewish Council person? in the way. Although New York houses they want to be if their leaders would suit of happiness for all, the American What an outcry there would be through- some of the richest Jews in the country, just stop talking down to them. Instead Dream—ever sanctifi ed by the abolish- out the land. I can just see the headlines it is also a fact that nearly one in fi ve Jew- of inciting them to “knockout” others, ment of slavery, the civil rights move- now: “Jews fear blacks are having chil- ish households in New York’s eight coun- inspire them to knock themselves out in ment, the Civil Rights Act, the unmitigat- dren and taking over the neighborhood.” ties—the Bronx, Brooklyn, Manhattan, whole-hearted efforts to be the best that ed success of Black athletes, celebrities, Al Sharpton would have a year’s work Queens, Staten Island, Nassau, Suffolk, they can be. These leaders, in full disclo- businessmen, the two-time election of a eviscerating the denizens of “Hymie and Westchester—is poor, with incomes sure, may want to share that Jews stood black president—is an equal opportunity Town.” under the federal poverty guideline. An at the forefront of the civil rights move- dream; that is, unless you are a Jew! So let’s stop pretending here. To even additional one in ten is “near poor.” Thus, ment and that the Freedom Riders were This past week in New York, Coun- posture that a Hasidic Jew has become 565,000 people living in Jewish house- disproportionately Jews. cilwoman-elect Laurie Cumbo, an Afri- the poster child of success whom blacks holds in New York are affected by pover- Councilwoman, as a persecuted na- can American, said the growing “knock- should fear is really a poorly disguised ef- ty—more people than live in any other tion ourselves who wholeheartedly out trend” perpetrated by black youths fort to hide the fact that the knock-out Jewish community in the United States. joined you on the bus, I’d appreciate, on against Jews is because “the accomplish- victims were attacked not because they By far the highest rate of poverty among behalf of my people, if you now wouldn’t ments of the Jewish community triggers were successful Jews, but merely because Orthodox Jews is found in Hasidic house- throw us under it! feelings of resentment, and a sense that they were Jews. Period! The adjective be- Jewish success is not also their success.” comes the noun and the target: Jew! Did Such a statement instigates a multi- the attackers ask their “successful” vic- plicity of reactions when they fall upon tims to see their fi nancial reports fi rst Jewish sensibilities, such as my own. But, before they viciously attacked them? Or for the moment, let me put down my perhaps it was more logically the identi- Jewish pen and pick up my editorial one. fying garb that singles out a potential vic- It seems that in her sentence where- tim as a Jew and that was enough? in the councilwoman uses the word The statement of the Councilwoman, “success”—a lovely alliterative noun in who is newly elected and yet to take of- and of itself—she also slips in a mod- fi ce in January, is reminiscent of danger- ifi er, an adjective. It’s not just any suc- ous anti-Semitic stereotypes which have cess that is instigative, it is “Jewish” suc- led to the spilling of much Jewish blood cess. Now, I have on countless occasions throughout history. And here is a dose looked upon many a billboard in Man- of historic retribution, what the Europe- hattan that has featured veritable icons ans and other anti-Semites who expelled of American success, such as Puff Dad- and destroyed the Jews failed to realize dy, worth approximately $580 million; was that in case after case, when they de- Oprah Winfrey worth $2.9 billion; Jay-Z, stroyed their Jewish communities, they worth $475 million; Al Roker, worth $30 were destroying themselves economical- million, just to name a few. But never in ly—not because of a conspiracy of the Rabbi Sam Frankel

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By Esther Kook ering and rolling their eyes, fi guring it the heat back, several boxes unpacked maintenance men came up to repair was all talk and no action. They includ- and invitations for Shabbat meals, the leaky faucets, backed up tubs and refrig- o what made ed: ceilings too low, high taxes, too much pangs of buyer’s remorse eased some- erators. Nevertheless, there are defi nite “Syou move repair work, sloping backyards, far from what. joys of home ownership—that is when now?” This was the shuls, on and on. It’s taken awhile to adapt to certain the home behaves, utilities are working, question du jour We actually came close to signing a things like the wildlife who reside in my and the power stays on. It’s nice to have when my family and contract for a home in New Rochelle, but backyard as they hop, scamper, munch extra space for family and friends to stay I moved to Teaneck then redirected our search to Teaneck and play tag on my deck. The rogue over on Shabbat. On Sukkot, we don’t six years ago. People were curious be- for several reasons. Some friends who gangs of squirrels unnerved me at fi rst; have to shlep food to a Sukkah in the cause we weren’t at that typical stage in had already done the “big move” over the I’d never seen so many in one place hang- back of our building, all we have to do is life when most people buy homes for bridge spoke highly about the variety in ing precariously from tiny tree branches step outside to the deck. I can also sing growing families. Having spent a long shuls, abundant shopping, schools and high up. Over the years, I’ve learned the loudly in the kitchen while I’m cooking time living in Riverdale, we felt like com- last but not least, the restaurants. It was squirrels are tenacious fellows and rarely knowing that my next door neighbor fortable big fi sh in a medium sized pond also ten minutes from work! give you grief by falling onto your prop- won’t hear me, and I won’t hear them ei- withstanding the temptation to defect It came as quite a shock when we fi - erty. But some of them are downright ther! to suburbia like many of our friends. For nally bought the house. One of my River- spooky when they boldly peer into my After six years, we’re still like grow- the previous ten years, we had rented a dale friends snapped, “Stop it,” she said. window while I’m drinking my morning ing guppies in this huge thriving pond, spacious three bedroom apartment, and “You know you’re not going anywhere.” coffee. In suburbia, you can even spot a which often feels overwhelming. What then the rent skyrocketed. It was time to But as the saying goes, timing is every- turkey or two crossing the street like we I’ve come to appreciate about this com- own something again and build some eq- thing and it seemed like the right time. did while driving on Sussex Road a few munity is the diversity of people and the uity. After living in a few apartments, the The house felt like home and in need days before Thanksgiving (true story). ever-present opportunity to meet peo- decision was to buy a house, but prices of some tender loving care, including a Now, when we have these sightings, I’ve ple and make new friends. Just recently, were exorbitant in Riverdale because of new roof. The layout reminded us of our gotten to the point of thinking “Oh, how we had Shabbat dinner with some new the proximity to Manhattan. apartment, minus Julio and the other 24- quaint, so Norman Rockwell.” friends who recently moved from Mon- What began as looking around grad- hour doormen who greeted me in the I’m even used to getting back into sey. At that meal, I met another interest- ually became a winding road of house lobby each day. the car to buy the milk that I’d forgot- ing person who promised to show me hunting, and the primary Sunday focus. After the moving men left that fi rst ten while at the store just fi ve minutes how to cook Moroccan food. I learned about boilers, hot water heaters night, we felt an unrelenting breeze. Fi- ago. That second car is certainly a neces- And there are shiurim and classes ga- and different house styles—all of which nally realizing the heat wasn’t working, sity for the errands we used to do while lore! Just within the span of a few weeks, never fazed me as an apartment dweller. we packed our stuff and went to our fam- walking around in Riverdale. I attended a few different and inspiring Along the way, a long list of real estate ily in Englewood for the night. On the In the winter, I still wax nostalgic classes. There’s always something inter- brokers knew the minute details of our drive over, the fi rst sharp pangs of buy- when it snows and miss “the guys” who esting happening here. lives, and we perused real estate specifi - er’s remorse hit hard. Maybe this was all shoveled and scraped the ice; I didn’t cations like menus in a restaurant. All the a huge mistake? Why did we have to rock even own a shovel back in the day. And Esther Kook is a Teaneck resident. She’s a teacher excuses for not buying had friends snick- the boat? Over the next few days, with all it took was a phone call, and the and a freelance writer. My Story of Care in the Heart of Jerusalem

By Rabbi Mark Golub, President, Shalom TV the event, I was wheeled out of the op- pitals on the east coast of the Unit- erating room and my wife was told I was ed States. A hospital should fi rst and hile visiting Israel this past June, I totally fi ne. foremost be judged by the quality of Wexperienced sudden cardiac arrest. I was subsequently treated by other the physicians who are responsible Fortunately for me, I was with some- physicians on the cardiac fl oor and the for the primary treatment of an ad- one who knew CPR and they immediate- decision was made to implant a defi bril- mitted patient. But a hospital is also ly called for a defi brillator and an ambu- lator/pacemaker. The implant was done judged by the quality of the support lance. Although I was closer to another by Dr. Michael Ilan a week later. staff, the nurses and attending physi- medical center at the time, the decision After a few days in the hospital and a cians; and fi nally, by the facilities of was made to take me to Shaare Zedek checkup with Dr. Ilan, my wife and I fl ew the hospital. Medical Center because of their superb back to New York. I was greatly pleased with the heart center. I cannot say enough positive things overall care which I received from Once at Shaare Zedek, I was wheeled about the care I received at Shaare Zedek every member of the Shaare Zedek immediately into an operating room Medical Center. Unfortunately, I have medical staff and I was especially im- ans who were there, caring for their own where Dr. Yaron Almagor was waiting had a number of serious medical con- pressed with the assistance given to family members and one of the loveli- with his medical team. Dr. Almagor found ditions over the years which have given me in the cardiac administrative offi ce est of all the nurses to care for me was a a blocked artery behind my heart and in- me a unique perspective on the quality where Sherri Aharoni was an absolute male Arab nurse. serted two stents. Within two hours of of care available at some of the best hos- godsend—all the more so because I was In a very real sense, Shaare Zedek an English-speaking American Jew with- Medical Center is living the Zionist out any family members to help interact dream: A Jewish hospital in which any- Bess Berger Nutrition Consulting with the doctors, nurses and administra- one and everyone—Jew, Arab, anyone— tive staff. is welcome to dwell side by side. Bess Berger, RD, CDN Moreover, because I was in the hos- I should also mention that I had the pital for eight days, during which time I wonderful opportunity to meet with the Registered Dietitian was fairly mobile, I had the chance to ex- general director of Shaare Zedek, Dr. Jona- Counseling on general nutrition and medically related nutrition therapy perience the larger context of the hospi- than Halevy. We spoke about the philoso- tal and the way in which Shaare Zedek phy of the hospital, its particular strengths cares for the entire Israeli community— and the plans for the hospital’s future. Arab and Jew alike. While there is so I promised Prof. Halevy that I would much talk within the American Jewish produce some wonderful television for community of the tension and friction the hospital for repeated telecast on Sha- between Israeli Jew and Israeli Arab, and lom TV and I will be working on that pro- between Israeli and Palestinian, it was duction in the near future. Everyone in a revelation to see how Jews and Arabs the American Jewish community should Located in Teaneck, right off Cedar Lane co-exist side-by-side in the hospital and know about Jerusalem’s Shaare Zedek (201) 837-0546 how the hospital made no distinction Medical Center and everyone associated [email protected] between the way Jews and Arabs were with the hospital should take enormous received and treated. I made a number pride in the contribution it makes to Is- Major insurances accepted 3-visit and 5-visit Packages Available of beautiful friendships with Palestini- rael society.

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hobbies are. What kind of food they like. one person who was raised in an environ- does this work? How can this couple stay Heat How many kids they want to have (the ment where it is okay to leave every light married? number is always higher when you are on in the house. It is okay to put the heat We are supposed to teach our chil- By Banji Latkin Ganchrow dating for some reason.) You talk about on when there is a little chill in the air. dren ﬁ nancial responsibility, which dreams for the future, your future togeth- It is okay to turn the air conditioning on isn’t always easy to do when they have am not sure who in- er, blah, blah, blah. It is all sooo romantic. when you are feeling a tad warm. Then, friends that have no monetary bounda- Ivented marriage. You You go out to lovely dinners and shows. you have the other person who shuts eve- ries. So your home becomes the micro- take two people from Money is no object. You want to have ry light off in the house, even if it is dark cosm for the real world (or the world you two different families, two sodas with dinner, “of course sh- out. The heat only goes on when there is may think is real.) If you leave the room, two different backgrounds, two differ- moopie, whatever you want.” You want to a winter storm watch on the news and turn off the light. If you think you are go- ent ways of being raised and, somehow, park in a garage right next to the theater the children’s teeth are chattering. The air ing to trip when you turn off the light, they fall in love and vow to spend the rest so you don’t have to walk 20 blocks, “Any- conditioning only goes on when there is have a ﬂ ashlight handy. If you are a lit- of their lives together. When you are dat- thing for you, my precious.” actual steam rising from the carpet and tle chilly on a cold winter’s day, put on a ing this person, you spend lots of time to- And then you get married. And you are you can take a shower just standing in coat. Yes, you are inside your house, just gether to get to know them. What their living in the same house. Now, you have the hallway and taking in the mist. How  CONTINUED ON P. 38 CAREER

What’s in a Name? Trust me. Emails received from strange done so, ask the interviewers to introduce names or nicknames will not exactly con- themselves and their titles. Quickly and vey professionalism or show that you are discreetly, jot the names down as they ap- By Elly D. Lasson, Ph.D. as ethnically unusual ones. (In the Jewish a serious candidate for most job titles out pear in front of you. That way, you will be community, we have plenty of those.) In there. In addition to having a neutral ad- able to begin one or more of your answers hat’s in a name? written or digital correspondence, make dress, make sure that both your fi rst and with the questioner’s name. WThe short answer sure that you spell fi rst and last names last name shows up in the “From” for mes- (7) Don’t nick the name: After you have is—everything. Peo- correctly. As we know, seeing our names sages you send to others so no one has to been around someone for a period of time, ple (literally) take their misspelled is equally annoying. Make sure guess who you are. it might be acceptable to ascribe that per- names personally. Each that you use correct job titles and formal (4) Name changers: The most common son with a nickname. The name might be a of us is given a name by titles like Dr., Mr. or Ms. Finally, note that reason for changing a name is marital sta- shortened or other acceptable variation of parents at a young age and really has no say there are (shortened versions of) names tus. Marriage and divorce happen. Notify one’s formal name (e.g., Jerry for Gerald) or in the matter. It is what it is, and we live with like Chris, Pat, and Sam which could be ei- colleagues and offi cial governmental enti- one which is more easily pronounced name it. Of course, it is possible to pick up a nick- ther male or female. As such, knowing the ties of any changes in your name. On the than an ethnically complicated name. Don’t name sometime between birth and adult- gender of the other party will better in- other hand, allow for a reasonable “grace assume. Ask the recipient whether he/she is hood. Hopefully, either a formal or informal form your pronoun choices. period” of an acceptable window for errors okay with your using a name that is differ- name is not one which was bestowed upon (2) First time caller...or even second: before you get ticked off. Be careful when ent from the offi cial one. Certainly, if the us contrary to what would have been our It is good form that unless the other par- addressing others. No woman who has other party uses it as the preferred name, better judgment. ty is already totally familiar to you, that gone through a nasty divorce wants to be that is okay. It goes without saying that as- Our name triggers an internal psycho- you open the conversation by stating your reminded of her “ex.” signing a nickname to someone that is dis- logical mechanism which grabs our atten- name. If you need to ask for someone else (5) Resume: Unless you have legally paraging, off-color, or otherwise harassing tion when we hear it. This happens either at that number, clearly include that per- changed your name, the name that you is off-limits. Such names should be avoid- when we are communicating one-on-one son’s name (and department) in your re- have on your resume should ideally be the ed in front of the person or behind his/her or being called in a crowded mall. When quest. Never jump into the call with your offi cial name that appears on your birth back. we are in conversation with someone, us- “ask” before introducing yourself. Don’t certifi cate. If you do get hired, and have an So, names are important in our coming the other person’s name facilitates fo- expect “Caller ID” to do that work for you. unoffi cial name that is different from your munication, be it professional or everyday cus, connection and engagement. The same thing holds true when leaving offi cial identity, this might create prob- life. We hope that other people get our There are several contexts in which a voicemail message. Similarly, all emails lems with employment paperwork. Name names right when using the spoken and someone’s name is going to be relevant should open with the person’s name at changers should especially pay attention written word. So we should all try to do within a job search or professional life. the top of the message. No “Hi,” “Wazzup,” to this. Also, inasmuch as your LinkedIn the same for others. Here, I explore seven such applications. “Hey,” or “Vuhs-tutzach?”—just simply the profi le is really a digital resume, the same (1) Pay attention to pronunciations, intended recipient’s name. I would go so thing applies there. Elly D. Lasson, Ph.D. is a c ommentator on issues spelling, titles and gender: Not everyone far to recommend beginning most “re- (6) Interviews and seating charts: Hear- related to careers, employment and job sear ch. He has a simple name, especially in the melt- ply to” emails with the person’s name and ing our names pronounced correctly is im- leads a nonprofi t organization, Joblink of Maryland, ing pot of today’s workforce. You might ending with your name. (It might not hurt portant to us. So, when in a job interview, which supports the employment objectives of mem- need to verify with the person as to wheth- to do this in texts too!) Doing this takes no consider the following tip. Beginning at bers of the Jewish community. [He has appeared reer you are properly pronouncing his/her more than a second longer, but it signifi - least one answer to an interviewer’s ques- cently on the Nachum Segal Network and other gen- name or not. There is nothing that irks cantly enhances the tone of your message. tion with his/her name will help you “con- eral media outlets. He studied in Yeshivas Ner Yisrael us more than hearing our name botched. (3) Your Email Name: Job seekers of- nect.” Very often you will be interviewed (B.T.L.) and earned his B.A. in Psychology from UMBC So be sensitive to that when speaking to ten will stick with an email address pre- by a panel of multiple people. Before the as well as his M.A. and Ph.D . degrees in O rganiza- others. This applies to basic names as well viously used exclusively for personal use. interview starts, if they have not already tional Psychology from Wayne State University.]

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By Michael Berenbaum tized, beautifying language of that time as event, 900 students and faculty, towns- structions were followed by most, but not Kristallnacht, when they set afl ame thou- people and offi cials gathered in a restored all, fi re departments—there were rare in- travel for my work; sands of synagogues throughout Germa- downtown theater to remember the past stances in which chiefs would not let II travel often—my ny and Austria, destroying some 7,000 and reinforce the sense of Commons—an their town burn. Survivors spoke of their wife and children Jewish businesses, killing 91 Jews, arrest- important New England term—making experiences as young children seeing sa- might say too often. ing 30,000 Jewish men age 16-60 and ship- room in that common space for a diversi- cred space afl ame and also understanding Just before Chanukah, ping them off to newly expanded con- ty of people and opinion, a mosaic of peo- that in such a world, nothing was sacred. I was in Latvia, Lith- centration camps. It was anything but ple who enrich even the rural New Hamp- I was invited to keynote the event, and uania, Russia, Canada, New Hampshire, beautiful. shire landscape. spoke of many of the things I spoke of at Washington, D.C. and then back home. I was invited to Keene University in The fi re chief spoke of the mission of the Henderson gathering of child survi- A hectic schedule is of little interest, but New Hampshire for a series of programs his department—so antithetical to the in- vors and descendants that were reported what I experienced might be. convened over four days to commemo- structions sent out to German fi re offi cials recently in JLBC. November marked the 75th anniver- rate these pogroms by stressing the im- those November days: “Do not put out the I was also invited to Kaliningrad, Russia sary of the Third Reich’s pogroms of 1938, portance and the fragility of the com- fi res at the synagogue, unless they threat- still commonly referred to in the sani- mon space we share. At its culminating en the Aryan buildings nearby.” Those in-  CONTINUED ON P. 48 Building the Third Temple: Making it Real

By Tzvi Silver the utensils of the Temple, such as the complacency. We’ve become so used to Menora, Shulchan, Mizbeach, and even a mourning that we fi nd it diffi cult to stop erusalem—As the Jewish calendar pass- model of the Aron Habrit. At fi rst, many, even though we now have a chance to re- Jes Chanukah and continues into the especially those from Ultra-Orthodox build. Tevet shouldn’t be focused on sad- month of Tevet, an unusual transforma- communities, hesitated to embrace Me- ness, and if we focus our efforts on the tion unfolds. Less than two weeks ago, chon Hamikdash’s projects. However, as rebuilding of the Holy Temple then next Jews worldwide were celebrating a hol- time has gone on, people have warmed year, with God’s help, we will go from iday of victory and unity, of rebuilding up to this idea of reconstruction, to the the holiday of Chanukah to the holiday and returning. Yet on the tenth day of Te- extent that Mechon’s Menora is now on of Asara B’Tevet.” vet, these same individuals are in mourn- permanent display in the Kikar Hameno- “Even as we mourn the siege of Jeru- MH2- Mechon Hamikdash’s Chanuka candle ing. ra (Square of the Menora) viewing area salem and the start of the fi rst expulsion, lighting ceremony, “Dry Run: Lighting the Over two millennia ago, Asara b’Tevet overlooking the Kotel and Har Habayit. we can’t forget that the end the exile is Temple Menora,” in the Old City of Jerusalem was the beginning of the end of the fi rst Israeli politicians and dignitaries have near, and the fi nal redemption is almost Temple, when Nebuchadnezzar, king of also taken to visiting the Temple Insti- upon us. Mechon Hamikdash reminds us Visit Mechon Hamikdash’s English Babylon, began his siege on Jerusalem tute to show their support. of the all-important lesson: “if you build website http://www.templeinstitute.org/ ending with the ultimate destruction of In addition to research and devel- it, he will come.” and check out their facebook page. the holy structure and exile of the Jews opment in recreating the Temple arti- from Israel. Even now, about 2600 years facts, Mechon Hamikdash is dedicated to later, as the city that Nebuchadnezzar be- spreading awareness of the Bet Hamik- sieged has since been rebuilt and mod- dash, the political situations surround- ernized, we still fast on this tragic day. ing the Temple Mount and the future of To help those who have diffi culty recon- the Jewish people. Rabbi Richman, schol- post the simcha, ciling the confl icting feelings of destruc- ar and veteran of the Temple Institute tion and reconstruction, JLBC visited Me- for over 25 years, heads a team of Eng- chon Hamikdash (The Temple Institute), lish-speakers that go on speaking tours from the simcha!! a unique organization whose sole pur- throughout the United States and Isra- pose is to rebuild what has been twice el’s Anglo communities, presenting in destroyed—one piece at a time. schools and synagogues. Mechon Hamikdash is rebuilding the They also have an extensive website Bet Hamikdash in the belief that “if you featuring different resources on the his- build it, he (the Messiah) will come,” an tory and future of Jerusalem and Israel, THE idea backed by no less than 30 different several video series hosted on YouTube positive commandments in Leviticus, and many different book series. Rab- and most commentators on the Torah bi Richman told JLBC that he is in the OnlySimchas and the Talmud. process of fi lming several short videos The Institute was founded by Rabbi on the halakha issues surrounding their iPhone app Yisrael Ariel in 1987 in the Jewish quarter projects and working on an English lan- IS FINALLY HERE. of Jerusalem’s Old City. Rabbi Ariel was guage book about rebuilding a Holy Tem- among the fi rst soldiers to reach the Tem- ple. Both projects have been generously ple Mount when it was liberated by Gen- funded by a donor in East Brunswick, NJ. Post photos instantly eral Motta Gur on June 7, 1967. He is now Rabbi Richman gave the JLBC his ob- from a celebration considered to be a foremost expert on servations about Asarah B’Tevet: using your everything related to the Bet Hamikdash, “Chanukah, which we just celebrated, and opened the Mechon in the hope of is the only holiday on the Jewish calen- mobile device. realizing the dream of building the Third dar to bridge between two months. There Temple. is an idea that the monthly calendar is fo- Rabbi Chaim Richman, the director of cused around its beginning, and it is no Mechon Hamikdash’s International De- coincidence that the month where we partment, explained Rabbi Ariel’s mis- mourn the beginning of the end starts sion: “In Exodus 25:8 G-d commands the with a bright beginning. In theory Tevet Jewish People ‘And you shall make me should be a happy month—the proph- a temple and I will dwell in it.’ This is a et Zecharia teaches that in the times of positive commandment… amongst tens the fi nal redemption, Asara B’Tevet will GO TO of other action-oriented mitzvot (com- be a day of mourning that will become www.onlysimchas.com/app mandments) in the section. What does a day of celebration. Eventually, the de- this mean exactly? That we should be as struction of the First Temple will be com- FOR THE FREE DOWNLOAD. actively involved in the construction of memorated as a stepping stone for some- (DROID APP COMING SOON...) the Holy Temple as possible.” thing bigger; the Third Temple. The Institute strives to rebuild all of “But, what’s stopping us? A pattern of

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truth is I really don’t have an- ways comes home, right? So ly, no. These are teenagers, and Speaking of Kids ything to say to these parents when you see him, tell him to I see them for 40 minutes a day. that they haven’t heard over and come to class.” But if a kid does I don’t have time to go from By Mordechai Schmutter ority until at least Rosh Hasha- over for the past 11 years. Yet eve- well even without listening, the desk to desk making smiley fac- na. PTA is three months into the ry single one of them comes, whole system falls apart. “Why es on everyone’s work and notic- seriously dread Parent-Teacher year, and parents don’t take very because they love shepping na- are you even here?” I want to ing who didn’t fi nish. I mark a Iconferences. And I say this as a kindly to, “I’m sorry, but your chas. They don’t care if you say ask them. stack of papers, usually in some teacher (I teach high school Eng- son looks just like Fishman.” things again, and they don’t “My parents kick me out of kind of waiting room, I fi ll in lish at a local mesifta.) As a par- I almost had this problem care if, as a writer, you don’t feel the house in the mornings.” the grades, and I go, “Oh, I guess ent, I really don’t mind them so my fi rst year teaching. I was right telling them things they’ve And then, when those par- that guy didn’t hand it in.” much. I want to know how my dropped into the job a week af- already heard—which is why ents come to conferences in a Or they say, “My son says he kids are doing, and my kids sure ter Sukkos, and had three grades you’re horrible at coming up good mood because their kid doesn’t like doing work.” And aren’t telling me. of 30 kids each—all the 10th grad- with small talk in the fi rst place. got 90s, there’s no way I want I say, “No one likes doing the A lot of parents hate confer- ers looked alike; everyone in 11th The second type of kid is the to volunteer to wreck it with work. Even people who work ences. You have to schlep out, grade had a brother in ninth, and one who doesn’t care, doesn’t the “Your son isn’t applying him- don’t like doing work. I don’t wait in line, talk to a teacher, I had to learn everyone’s names behave, and doesn’t do well. I self, but he’s still unfortunate- like marking the work either. then wait in line again, talk to with enough time to also pay at- don’t really know what to tell ly getting good marks” speech. But I’m making them write. It’s another teacher, and so on. And tention to how they were doing those parents to their faces. I’m Thankfully, in six years of teach- a writing class. I’m not making the conversations aren’t very in time for conferences, which frankly surprised their kid even ing, I’ve never had a single one them dig holes.” productive because you’ve long were before Chanukah. At that told them about conferences. of those parents show up. Some parents don’t like con- since trained yourself to tune point I had two hours to speak “He didn’t. He said it was vis- But I do get other parents ferences because they think out when teachers are talking, to 60 sets of parents (again, be- iting day, and that I should bring that are hard to talk to. For ex- the teacher is judging them the and all you can think about, as cause everyone in 11th grade had food.” ample, I get the parents who are whole time: “Your kid doesn’t the teacher drones on and on a brother in 9th). The third type of kid is the there for their oldest child, and care about class, so you must about your child, is that, as far as But what I’ve learned since one who cares and listens, but all of their other kids are in fi rst not care.” you can tell, this teacher is like a then, is that I don’t really have to for some reason, doesn’t do well, grade, where conferences are But I’ll let you in on a se- year older than him. give 90 distinct speeches. It’s not and I have to give the “Your son more about fi guring out how cret: We’re not judging you. We But parent-teacher confer- like the other parents are hover- has a lot of potential,” speech, to gently guide the kid back on don’t have time. We’re just try- ences defi nitely stress me out. ing near me and going, “Wait. which is generally also what I track using candy. And the par- ing to survive the night and not And for someone like me who He used those same words to say to the parents of the second ents don’t realize that some- say anything we’re going to re- isn’t great at making small talk, describe OUR son.” As a teacher, type of kid. But honestly, I say it where between fi rst grade and gret. And if you took the time to doing this with 40 sets of peo- you really only have to give four even if it’s true. So if you’re a par- eleventh grade, the responsibil- come in, you’re obviously one of ple I don’t know in a ROW is basic speeches, because there ent, it’s kind of hard to tell. ity kind of shifts from the teach- those parents who care. It’s not exhausting. I have one thing in are four basic kinds of kids, as And then there’s the fourth er to the student. Like they’ll like you HAVE to come to con- common with these people, and far as 40-minute English classes type of kid: the one who doesn’t say, “Why did my son get a zero ferences. It’s not like we’re going that is their son. So I guess that’s are concerned. The parents just care, doesn’t behave, and some- on this assignment?” And I’ll say, to take points off if you don’t what I have to talk about: How want to know which one their how still does well. Those kids “He never handed it in.” (I give show up, or call the kid’s grand- their son is doing. son is. Then they’ll ask more are the worst. And I don’t say this the kids extra time to hand it in, parents. “Which one’s your son specifi c questions, and you can to be petty. Grades are a system. but if they don’t give it to me by “Hello? Your son didn’t show again?” answer them until they either The way it’s supposed to work the time I mark report cards, I up to conferences.” No, I’m just kidding. I’ve nev- stump you or wander away to is that if your kid doesn’t listen have to give them a zero.) “Well, did you ASK him to er asked that. If I don’t know, give the next set of parents a in class, he does badly, you get And the parents will say, show up to conferences?” I keep it to myself and hope I chance to pounce on you. his report card, see that he’s do- “Well, did you ASK him to hand After six years, I’ve fi nally re- make it through the conversa- The fi rst type of kid is the ing badly, and then you come in it in?” alized that the parents I don’t re- tion. one who cares about class and and we talk about what we can I don’t know how to answer ally want to talk to, for the most Actually, the truth is that I behaves and does well, and you do to inspire the kid from both that. It’s not like he was hold- part, don’t show up. No one who commit the fi rst few days of basically have to come up with ends. That way I can say things ing it over his head and going, doesn’t care shows up—unless the year to memorizing the fi ve solid minutes worth of ad- like, “Look, your son doesn’t al- “No! I’m not going to hand it they’re looking for a night out kids’ names. That’s my top pri- jectives for the word good. The ways come to class. But he al- in!” I didn’t ask him specifi cal- without the kids. That’s just sad.

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my feet up, excited to make some progress in with your new guinea pig! A board game! Go The Bad Playdate the latest book I am reading. outside on the swings?” But it is a mere three minutes before I be- “I want to play ‘store,’ and Ayala only By Sarah Abenaim a strong emotional connection. The children gin to see blurred fi gures hovering just be- wants to play jump rope,” my daughter says, are too young to discern this difference and, yond the pages of my book. I lift my eyes and I see Ayala standing solemnly to the side, e have all been as parents, we are too optimistic to squash and glance at the girls, expectantly. “We don’t clutching the rope. She doesn’t look like she Wthere: The friend their enthusiasm. And so, “Ayala” comes over know what to do....” is about to change her mind. Neither does whom your child begs on Shabbat afternoon. My worst words. If it were my child alone my child. There is no room for compromise. to have over. The friend “Can we have a snack?” Ayala asks, as professing her boredom, I’d shrug my shoul- “Who wants to play dodgeball with me?” who also likes dried soon as she walks in, wearing her matching ders and point to the toy closet. I’d open my I announce, throwing my book back onto fruit! The friend who pink pencil skirt (Ayala is a made up name/ arms and invite the child to relax with me. I’d the couch. Only Ayala wants to, and I am also has the same pink pencil skirt! She went person and in no way mimics anyone real... welcome the boredom, as psychologists say, joined by some of my other kids and their to Hershey Park too last summer! And so we so there is no need to guess if this is your kid as an opportunity for endless creativity. Bore- friends outside. I am hopeful that my daugh- acquiesce. What could be wrong with a Shab- who I am writing about here). The girls go dom is good! But when there is a less enthu- ter will join in, will be lured by the laughter bat afternoon playdate? The child is called through an entire box of dried mango, as per siastic child, who is not in the mood for any and nascent excitement of the game, and I and plans are made. their request, reminisce about Hershey Park, creative play, it is more of a challenge. grab some balls from the closet and head to But this friendship is shallow. It is rooted then run upstairs to my daughter’s room. For “Barbies? American Girl Dolls? Littlest Pet the yard. in a shared excitement over “things” and not a brief moment, I sit on the couch and put Shop?” I offer. They shake their heads. “Play My daughter, the hostess, is actively engaged in a game of pretend-to-look-like-a- corpse on the couch. So authentic are her ב“ד moves that her arms fl op down when I try to lift her up to join us. She stares glumly at the wall, and so I head on outside with the others, feigning my enthusiasm when I’d rather be reading. Israel’s Premier The dodge ball ends up being a little fun. 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Hungarian Cabbage melt the margarine. Add the cabbage, on- Soup With Apples ions and grated apple and cook for 10 A soup like no other for these chilly minutes, mixing frequently. Add the gar- days! Our own Chef Avram Wiseman lic, sugar, caraway and paprika and con- shares one of his comfort classics. This tinue to cook. Add the chicken stock and unusual combination will be a pleasant bring to a boil. Simmer for 30 minutes. surprise to your palate creating a sweet Season with salt and white pep- and spicy cabbage and apple soup that per. Add vinegar and sour salt, then the will surely warm you from head to toe. cooked noodles. Boil and serve very hot. May be garnished with a dollop of Pareve Ingredients: sour cream. • 3 oz. clarifi ed margarine - See more at: http://www.kosherculi- • 1 medium head cabbage, fi nely shred- naryarts.com/hungarian-cabbage-soup- ded with-apples#sthash.0EA6Wn4I.dpuf • 1 large onion, peeled and thinly sliced Recipe Link: http://tinyurl.com/CKCA- • 2 apples peeled cored, grated 12-7-13-OPEN information about CKCA visit www.ko- es/The-Center-for-Kosher-Culinary- • 10 cups chicken stock The Center for Kosher Culinary Arts sherculinararts.com or contact by phone Arts/6525962286 • 6 cloves garlic, minced (CKCA) of Brooklyn, New York, is the at 718.758.1339 or by email at info@ko- BLOG at http://kosherculinaryarts. • 3 tbsp. brown sugar worldwide destination for those seek- sherculinaryarts.com Follow CKCA on blogspot.com/ And TWITTER at @KO- • 1 cup fi ne noodles, cooked ing culinary education in an uncompro- FACEBOOK at SHERCULINARY • 1/2 tsp. caraway seed mised kosher environment. For more https://www.facebook.com/pag- • 1-2 tbsp. Hungarian sweet paprika • 1 tbsp. white vinegar • 1/4 tsp. sour salt • Salt and pepper to taste • (optional) Pareve sour cream for garnish Procedure: In a large heavy bottomed sauce-pot Choux Farci Julia: Vegetarian Stuff ed Cabbage Two Ways By Lisa Reitman Dobi

tuffed cabbage is one of my favorite Scomfort foods. I love those plump, neat packages of green cabbage stuffed with meat and rice, cooked in a sweet and tangy sauce. So the idea of adapt- ing this dish for the vegetarian palate was less daunting technically than it was psychologically. How would it fare? Would the comfort food factor be qualiﬁ ed? Would it be so similar to the dish of my childhood that the missing meat wouldn’t be an issue? My solution was to create a very different stuffed cabbage dish with a paprika and sour cream sauce made with a rich vegetable stock. The result was delicious, hearty and satisfying. The Savoy cabbage packets stuffed with rice and portabella mushrooms cooked in a paprika sauce and topped ʓʅɸɗȿɰȵHFʤLʝɚԷʧLWʋʛʖQɡ with additional sour cream and fresh dill received excellent reviews from my vegetarian guest. In fact, Julia loved OʋUȰɏYʋʢȲHʤɨԷʠɠԩʑʖɚEʋUɡ it. And so, Choux Farci Julia was born. The next day, I craved the piquant, honeyed red sauce of my childhood ɪɸɗ\ʝʦɠȱHɪOʃɓIȹRɍȸȭHGɡ and made a second batch cooked in a tomato-based potage, spiked with car- amelized onions, cider vinegar, sugar, soy sauce and honey. I was more than pleased with the results: on a cold, rainy day, those familiar sweet and sour cabbage rolls hit the spot, even sans meat. This week’s recipe is Choux Farci  CONTINUED ON P. 42

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By Gail Hochman toppings for your chicken. I have used pretzels, which were crushed. The chick- Chicken… how many en was fabulous. I have used peanut but- of us serve this dish on ter and then rolled the chicken in pota- Friday night? Probably toe fl akes or crumbs. If you love peanut thousands of you. butter, this is the way to go!!! We oftentimes prepare the same old If I am low on traditional bread chicken dishes but yet, some of us hesi- crumbs, I will mix together whatever I tate to to try something new. Well, don’t have around; i.e., wheat germ crumbs, be chicken to try new chicken!!! matza meal, cornfl ake crumbs, any When making breaded chicken, I of- parve cereal. Especially before Pesach, ten dip the cleaned and skinned chick- this is the time to use it all up. I have en in BBQ sauce and then roll in crumbs. also dipped the chicken into coconut This gives the chicken a zest and is so defl akes. This is awesome, especially on licious. I spray the pan, and bake. I fi nd cutlets with all my chicken to be served on Fri- It is very rare that I buy a precooked day night, it is best to prep it on Wednes- chicken, but if I do, I will pour on some day or Thursday, and try to bake as close duck sauce to assure that when I warm it to Shabbos as possible. Then I am as- up, it will keep in the moisture. No one sured it will not be dried out. likes dried-out chicken. When cleaning chickens, I use a very To save on cholesterol intake, I use an good pair of scissors made for cutting egg substitute to dip the chicken in be- chickens (keep your eyes out for them fore putting on the crumbs. I also like and buy them when on sale) and paper to use up all the smidgens of salad dress- towels. I use the paper towels to pull ing that are on my refrigerator door. So, I Most of the time, I just put it into a ed soy sauce, threw on some scallions off the skin. My new tip, however, uses take out all the bottles, dump all of them plastic bag made for freezing and collect and topped it with snowpeas. I then a washcloth; the grip is so good and the into a bowl and use this concoction for until I have a good amount. Then, de- served this on a bed of rice. I called it skin comes right off!!!! I use the scissors my pre-breading mixture!!! This uses pending on my mood, I sometimes use Chinese Chicken. Boy, was it a hit!!! Use to make smaller pieces. Of course, fi rst up all the bottles that take up so much this for eggroll fi llings, salad fi llings. Last your imagination; don’t be afraid. I clean the chickens while they soak in space. week, I had soup chicken which I knew boiling water. When I have leftover chicken or soup my family would turn up their noses to. I Gail Hochman is a resident of Bergen County NJ. She You may want to try different crumb chicken, I do many things with this. defrosted it, shredded it into pieces, add- has been blessed with many grandchildren.

5-6 cups vegetable stock. Osem can one or two tablespoons of olive oil. Sau- when the onions start to wilt, add the Choux Farci add a fantastic fl avor. Take care with té the onions and, as they soften, add shallots. After the onions and shallots salt since many commercial vegetable the shallots. When the shallots have sof- soften and begin to caramelize, add the Julia: Vegetarian stocks have a high salt content. tened, add the butter, then the garlic and butter and the garlic. Add a few turns 1 T chopped garlic a couple of turns of fresh black or mixed of black pepper. Reduce the heat just a Stuff ed Cabbage ½ C celery, finely chopped pepper. Sauté for just a minute, taking bit and add some of the fl our alternate- 1 ½ C chopped onions care not to let the garlic brown. Transfer ly with some hot stock to create a thick, Two Ways ½ C finely chopped shallots the sautéed mixture to the mixing bowl. pasty sauce. Add the paprika. Keep stir- 4 T fl our Add the dash of nutmeg and cayenne, ring as you add the stock. Add the tea-  CONTINUED FROM P. 41 2 T butter about half a teaspoon teaspoon of sea spoon of sugar. Taste and adjust the sea- 3 T sweet Hungarian paprika salt, and blend. Return the skillet to the soning, adding salt, truffl e salt and a dash Julia with two sauce options: one redo- 1 tsp. sugar heat and add one or two tablespoons of cayenne if desired. Pour the sauce lent with paprika, rich with sour cream Salt to taste (will depend on the vege- of olive oil. Sauté the mushrooms un- over the cabbage rolls. Cover the pot. and decidedly Hungarian, and the other, table stock salt content) til just about a quarter cup of their liq- Bake in a preheated 350-degree oven for unambiguously and humbly Proustian. Dash cayenne uid remains in the pan. Add the butter about 1½ hours. Place the Dutch oven The sauce recipes will suffi ce for 22 sub- ½ C sour cream or crème fraiche or a and a couple of turns of fresh pepper. back on the stove. Carefully place the stantial stuffed cabbage rolls. combination Sauté for half a minute more and trans- cabbage rolls in a deep serving platter, What You Need: Additional sour cream or crème frai- fer the contents to the bowl containing bowl or casserole suitable for the table. Large nonstick sauté pan with high che for serving the rice mixture. Blend well. Add salt to Cover with foil to keep the rolls warm. sides, or a nonstick pot suitable to hold Fresh dill to garnish taste. You can add truffl e salt if you want Over a very low fl ame, stir half a cup of eight cups Sweet and Tangy Sauce to enhance the earthy, mushroom fl a- sour cream into the sauce in the Dutch Large mixing bowl 5 C tomato puree vor. When the mixture is cool, add the oven. Taste to adjust salt, pepper, cay- Pot to hold stock if making Sauce Ju- ½ C cider vinegar eggs. Start with three, and add a fourth enne and/or truffl e salt. You can also add lia ¼ C soy sauce if the mixture needs more binding agent a tablespoon of truffl e oil to the sauce. Large Dutch oven or similar heavy, 3 T honey to hold a shape. Pour the sauce over the rolls and garnish lidded pot that goes from the stove to Dash cayenne, optional Coat the bottom of the Dutch oven with chopped dill. Serve with additional the oven 3 T sugar (1/4 C if you prefer a sweet- with about half an inch of sauce. Spread sour cream on the side. I served the dish Olive oil er sauce) the sliced, cooked cabbage hearts on the with Sriracha and found it gave a tasty 1 large head of Savoy cabbage ¼ C ketchup bottom of the pot. Stuff the cabbage kick to the rolls. 5 cups of cooked rice 3 large onions cut into 1/8 to ¼ thick leaves by placing a mound of rice and Sweet and Tangy Sauce 4 cups chopped onion rings mushroom mixture about an inch from Heat a non-stick pot, or a nonstick 20 ounces chopped Portobello mush- Water to thin sauce if necessary the thicker stem end of the leaf, folding sauté pan with high sides, and add one rooms Chopped fresh dill to garnish the stem end over, then the side leaves or two tablespoons of olive oil. Sauté 2 T chopped garlic (about 3 large What To Do: in and rolling the rest of the way to cre- the sliced onions until they are soft and cloves) Freeze the Savoy cabbage, then thaw, ate a neat package. Place each stuffed starting to caramelize. Add the tomato 1 shallot, fi nely chopped (about 2 T) divide into leaves and steam the leaves cabbage leaf seam-side down on top of puree, soy sauce, cider vinegar, sugar and 3-4 eggs to bind the stuffi ng until tender. Freezing and thawing the sliced cabbage hearts in the Dutch honey. Cook over medium heat for sev- 1 T salt, adjusted to taste (I used a makes the leaves easier to separate and oven. The fi nished packets will be cov- eral minutes, then taste to adjust sweet- combination of truffl e salt and sea salt) the separated leaves cook more quickly ered with the sauce of your choice. ness (sugar or honey) and tang (vinegar) 2 T butter and more consistently than boiling the Sauce Julia and add salt to taste. If the sauce is too Fresh ground black pepper, several whole head of cabbage. Slice and steam Heat the vegetable stock in a pot and thick, add some water. Pour the sauce turns (1/2 – 1 tsp.) the innermost heart comprised of leaves have a ladle ready. Heat the non-stick over the cabbage rolls. Cover and bake Dash nutmeg that are too small and/or too tight to di- pot, or the nonstick sauté pan with high as directed with Sauce Julia. Serve gar- Dash cayenne vide and roll. sides, and add one or two tablespoons nished with chopped dill. Sauce Julia (Paprika and Sour Cream) Heat the non-stick skillet and add of olive oil. Sauté the onions fi rst, and Enjoy your Choux Farci both ways!

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By Chavie Hagler successful ideas that appeared at my par- lifl ower and feta. In a small dish, whisk • 1 container prepared guacamole ty this year: fl our, salt, pepper and baking powder un- • Shredded cheddar cheese ver the course of til evenly combined. Sprinkle over cau- Warm the soy crumbles in a frying Othe year, I host Cauliflower-Feta Fritters lifl ower batter and stir just until com- pan, add the taco seasoning and ¼ cup various get-togethers with Yogurt, Pomegranate bined. water and stir. To assemble the tacos, with different themes and number of (adapted from smittenkitchen.com) Preheat oil in a frying pan. When it is lay the SCOOPS out carefully on a plat- guests. The largest of these is my annu- PARTY NOTES: I made these in ad- hot, scoop a two tablespoon-size mound ter. Place a spoonful of taco mix in each al Channukah Open House, when about vance and froze them. Before the party, of the batter and drop it into the pan, scoop, topped with a bit of guacamole 150 friends drop in to spend time togeth- I lay them out on a cookie sheet and re- then fl atten it slightly with your spoon and a sprinkling of cheese. Of course, you er and enjoy some yummy food and re- heated them in a 400° oven for about 7 or spatula. Repeat with additional batter, can add whatever toppings you would laxed socializing. Although my friends minutes. leaving a couple inches between each. enjoy, such as salsa or sour cream. are impressed at my ability to host such • 2 bags frozen caulifl ower Once brown underneath, about 2 to 3 a large crowd, it is actually not so hard, • 1 large egg minutes, fl ip each fritter and cook on the MOZARELLA SKEWERS and in fact, I do most of the work in one • 1 garlic clove, minced other side until equally golden, about an- PARTY NOTES: These can be pre- week preceding the party. • 3 ounces crumbled feta (about 1/2 cup) other 1 to 2 minutes. pared and plattered in the morning and I have developed some rules about • 1/2 cup all-purpose fl our Transfer briefl y to paper towels to kept covered in the fridge until the par- the food that is served at these parties: • 1/8 teaspoon red pepper fl akes drain. Once all fritters are cooked, mix ty. They will taste better from extra time 1) It has to be fi nger foods, since there • 3/4 teaspoon table salt or more to taste yogurt with cumin, salt and pepper. marinating! is no room in my house for all those peo- • 1/2 teaspoon baking powder Spread fritters on serving platter. Dol- • fresh mozzarella ple and tables and chairs. • olive oil for frying lop each with yogurt and sprinkle with • basil leaves 2) It has to be varied, since I want • To serve pomegranate arils. • grape tomatoes there to be something that appeals to • 3/4 cup yogurt • 2 Tablespoons balsamic vinegar everyone. • handful pomegranate arils BITE SIZED TACOS • ¼ cup olive oil 3) It has to be easy to set out and plat- Cook caulifl ower in simmering salt- (Adapted from mybakingadiction. • ½ teaspoon kosher salt ter, since I generally do not have any help ed water, uncovered, until tender, about com) • small s kewers for these parties. 5 to 6 minutes, until fi rm but tender. Us- PARTY NOTES: The taco meat can be Cut mozzarella into small chunks. 4) It has to be things that I have not ing a slotted spoon, transfer to a bowl prepared the day before the party. Assem- Combine balsamic vinegar, olive oil and served at previous parties, since I want to of ice water to stop cooking. Drain well. bling the tacos is a great job for kids who salt, and pour over the mozzarella. Let give my guests something to talk about! In the bottom of a large bowl, whisk to- want to help! the mixture sit for about half an hour. In fact, I spend a signifi cant amount of gether egg and garlic. Add caulifl ower fl o- • 1 package soy crumbles (fake chopped Then, simply assemble the skewers, slid- party prep time just skimming cook- rets and mash with a potato masher until meat) ing on a piece of mozzarella, a basil leaf, books and surfi ng cooking blogs for new they’re crushed into pea-size. Sprinkle in • 1 envelope taco seasoning and a grape tomato. ideas. Following are some of the more feta and stir to combine egg mixture, cau- • 1 bag Tostistos SCOOPS

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By Chemmie Sokolic a small vacation once you’ve dropped X You can also watch or listen to lectures fort zone and try something new. inches around your hips or waist. Work (check out www.thegreatcourses.com). APPRECIATE: Finally, although win- ’m going to let you in on hard and play hard. PLAY: On the other hand, if you fan- ter is coming, start thinking about the Ia little secret, one that FRIENDSHIP: Some people prefer cy something a little less “cerebral,” with spring now. Get out more. Try bike rid- you might fi nd surpris- social interaction when they exercise the advent of Hulu.com and Netfl ix, as ing, hiking, running, sports, or even surf- ing given the fact that I’m and some people prefer solitude. If ex- well as “old school” DVDs, you can put ing; the list goes on and on. Aside from a personal trainer: I don’t ercising with friends will spur you and on your favorite show or a good mov- the exercise, the fresh air is healthy for like exercising. In fact, I’d much rather keep you on track, there are many ways ie and lose yourself for a while. If you you too. Take time to “smell the ros- curl up on the couch with a good book nowadays to fi nd an exercise partner or don’t fi nish the movie or have more epi- es” and appreciate this amazing world and a hot cup of tea. So how do I fi nd group and keep each other motivated, sodes to watch, there’s the added incen- Hashem has created for us. the will to get up at 4:30 every morning both on- and off-line. Working out with tive to exercise again and fi nish what Most importantly, remember, you’re to work out? How do I make exercising friends, or engaging in another physical you were watching. exercising to be healthy; do it for your- fun and enjoyable, something for which pursuit or sport with your peers, is of- VARIETY: Mix up your workout rou- self. Turn off your cell phone, ask your I want to get out of bed? Here are eight ten enjoyable and enthusing. Each en- tines. Don’t repeat a workout so often spouse to look after the kids (or get up ideas to that will hopefully inspire you, courages the other; each inspires the that it gets stale. Try different exercises. half an hour earlier before they wake and keep you moving during these short other. Switch around your exercise order. Your up), and treat yourself to some “alone cold days: MUSIC: Put a few playlists together, options are only limited by your creativ- time.” You deserve it. GOALS: Set small, medium, and making sure the tempo is fast enough, ity and imagination. When you’re done, take an addition- long term attainable goals for yourself. and enjoy exercising to your favorite EXPERIENCE: Try different car- al few minutes to care for your body If you’re unsure what goals are realis- songs. Let the rhythm move you. When dio options. There’s more to life than and purify your soul’s wondrous instru- tic and which are a little “overzealous,” you think you can’t go on any more, the treadmill. Try rowing, cycling, stair ment; no shower feels as good as the do some research, or simply drop me a your body willing to give up, just push climbing, or the elliptical. Try interval one that is earned. line. Rejoice in your successes, and re- yourself to the end of the next song. training, yoga, Zumba, Pilates, kickbox- ward yourself when you reach a goal (al- LEARN: Be twice as productive. Exer- ing, hip hop classes (I did this one my- Chemmie Sokolic is an A CSM-certifi ed Personal though preferably NOT with food). Buy cise while listening to a shiur. Better yet, self last year, it was great), or sports you Trainer, and owner of Frum & Fit LLC. Chemmie can yourself something nice after losing X set yourself a goal of completing a set can play inside, such as basketball or be r eached a t chemmie .sokolic@frumandfi t.com. lbs. Take a day off after exercising con- of shiurim or even daf yomi, and nourish 5-a-side soccer. Sign up for a “bootcamp” Visit w ww.FrumandFit.com or w ww.Facebook. sistently over a set period of time; go on your neshamah as you exercise your guf. training session. Get out of your com- com/FrumandFit for more information. HEALTH AND FITNESS Falls – Am I At Risk?

By Renee Fishweicher sitioned. The vestibular system consists check for visual and of sensitive organs in the ear that tells neurological impair- ith the icy win- the brain about the movement and posi- ments may be rec- Wter months upon tion of your head. A disruption in any of ommended as well. us, now is the time to these systems can lead to a balance im- Education about address the risk fac- pairment. As we age these systems tend home safety/falls pre- tors of falls affect- to become compromised, resulting in a vention is an inte- ing us and our loved greater risk for falls. gral part of the phys- ones. The topic of falls affects us all. It There are many factors that can ical therapy sessions. can happen to you, a family member, make one at risk for a fall. Some therapists will neighbor or friend. Statistically, about • History of previous falls. conduct a home vis- 33% of people over the age of 65, and • Age—the older, the greater the risk. it to assess the safe- 50% of those over the age of 80, will sus- • Leg muscle weakness. ty of the home envi- tain a fall at least once this year. Many • Diffi culty with balance. ronment and make falls result in injuries, including hip frac- • Gait impairments. recommendations. tures. Falls can lead to devastating con- • Vision problems (cataracts, macular Some examples in- sequences. Every hour someone has a degeneration, wearing bifocals). clude installation of death associated with a fall. • Medical conditions, such as Parkin- lighting to prevent The long term effects of a fall are: son’s disease, stroke and diabetes with falls in the dark; grab fear of another fall, impaired mobility, neuropathies. bars in the bathroom; decline in function, dependence on oth- • Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. positions, for example, while you move handrails for stairs and in hallways, and ers and a sequence of injuries. • Depression. from lying fl at to a sitting position; as- removal of loose wires, throw rugs and Many falls are due to balance impair- • Taking more than four medications sessment of any nervous system disor- clutter. For those who are at a high risk ments. Good balance is a result of correct at the same time, or psychoactive med- ders, such as stroke or Parkinson’s dis- for falls, hipsters (hip protectors) are of- feedback from your visual, somatosen- ications (such as sedatives and anti-de- ease, assessment of muscle strength ten recommended. These are special sory and vestibular systems working pressants). and fl exibility of both lower extremi- shorts /briefs worn under clothing that together within your body along with • Using a cane or other assistive de- ties including your ankles; special tests are padded in the hip area and have proper use of this information from vice for walking. to assess your balance, such as standing been shown to decrease the incidence the brain and the correct response from • Home hazards (throw rugs, pets and on one leg unsupported (don’t try this of hip fractures due to a fall. For those your muscles. Your vision relays impor- clutter). alone); as well as tests to measure how who are confused, unsteady, requiring tant information to your brain about • Low blood pressure. quickly it takes you to rise from a chair; assistance with mobility, there are spe- your environment, such as where your • Dizziness, vertigo. how quickly and steadily you walk, and cial battery operated alarm devices that body is in space. For example, if you • Inappropriate footwear. whether you are able to perform more can be attached to the bed and/or chair stand without support and close your A physical therapist can be helpful than one task at the same time, such as to alert the caregiver when the person eyes, your body begins to sway because by initially conducting a brief screen- talking while walking. is attempting to stand up alone. Strate- your visual system is compromised. This ing of your risk for a fall. If the screen- After reviewing the results of the gies for safe mobility during the winter explains why those with vision impair- ing confi rms a risk for falls, the therapist assessment, your physical therapist months to avoid slipping on icy patches ments are at greater risk for falls, espe- will then perform a thorough evalua- will design an exercise program to im- are reinforced as well. cially in the dark. The somatosensory tion including a review of your medical prove your gait, balance, strength and system provides special sensors in your history; a review of your medications; coordination. If necessary, your ther- For further information you can contact Renee Fish- body which are sensitive to touch, pres- a simple vision test; an assessment of apist will recommend an appropriate weicher PT DPT MS at: elitecare@optonline. net. Re- sure, vibration and stretch in your skin, your feet and footwear; measurement assistive device for safe ambulation. nee is the o wner and director of Elite Care Physical muscles, tendons and joints, which let of your vital signs; heart rate and blood Referrals to other medical profession- Therapy Rehab. P.C., an outpa tient physical thera- your brain know how your body is po- pressure monitoring while you change als to review your medications and to py facility.

44 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM NEW IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD Charter of Whose Rights? By Mordechai gear is second nature to most. and Nina Glick Suddenly, all of this is being deemed inappropriate by this bill which will be t is hard to believe voted on in several months. Most fright- Ithat in the short ening, is that although there are many period of time since who are outwardly opposed to this pro- we moved to New Jersey from Montre- posal there have been signifi cant dem- al so much has changed in Quebec. The onstrations and approval coming from distance in driving is about six hours— many different elements of the commu- it is a one hour fl ight, but the distance nity. in democracy and freedom is becoming A good friend, who is an allergist on more and more mind boggling each day. staff at the Montreal Children’s Hospi- The current government in power tal and always wears his kippah, was in the Province of Quebec recently in- moved by the letter recently written by troduced a proposal to sponsor a Char- the Chair of the Pediatrics Department ter of Rights. What exactly does this at the McGill Faculty of Medicine and bill propose? It requires that absolutely the Pediatrician-in-Chief at the Montre- no form of ethnic or religious symbol- al Children’s Hospital and MGill Univer- ism be shown by anyone working in a sity Hospital Center. Dr. Michael Shevell public place. For instance, a Sikh would said he could not stay silent any longer not be allowed to wear a turban, a Mos- and wrote as follows: “The charter goes lem would not be allowed to wear a Hi- against what we stand for. Members of jab and a Jewish person would not be my department come from all walks allowed to wear a kippah—some have of life, all ethnic groups, all religions, even questioned the right of wearing a and it’s deplorable to hear that some of Magen Dovid around the neck. them would have their rights to express It has taken many years for Jewish themselves limited.” men to feel comfortable enough to Dr. Shevell invited MUHC employ- wear kippot in their work places. The ees to come to work on a pre-deter- generation of our fathers had diffi cul- mined day wearing one of the religious ty wearing a kippah in court or in their symbols that the charter would ban. accounting offi ces—they were suffer- We have learned to take nothing for ing from the history of their fathers granted; we are only 353.8 miles away who were oppressed in many cases from such craziness. for being Jewish. Finally, men today And we are learning to appreciate are able to walk proudly asserting who and be especially grateful for the free- they are. doms that are bestowed upon us in In Montreal there is a well known the United States. I doubt that many of teaching hospital associated with us take the time to think about it. We McGill University called the Jewish should. It is a tremendous blessing. General Hospital. It was established in 1934. The primary reason for its raison About the Glicks - Rabbi Mordechai Glick enjoyed a d’etre was to give young Jewish medical long career in the rabbinate and academia – serv- students a place to do their residencies, ing as the rabbi of a number of shuls in the Mon- MORTGAGES as they were being shunned by other treal ar ea and t eaching psy chology full-time a t hospitals because of their religious affi l- Champlain College. Nina Glick led Yachad in Mon- iation. Today, the hospital, as is the case treal for over 10 years and was closely involved in 7\YJOHZLZHUK9LMPUHUJLZPUHSSZ[H[LZ of many of the hospitals in Montreal, the Special Needs C ommunity. The Glicks ha ve *VTWL[P[P]LYH[LZ including the ones in the French sec- three children in the NYC area daughters and sons- tor, have doctors working from all eth- in law living in the Teaneck, Bergenfi eld area to- 8\PJR[\YU[PTLZ nic communities and kippot along with gether with nine grandchildren. They have partic- -/(HUKMVYLPNUUH[PVUHSSVHUZ other outwardly noticeable religious ipated frequently in the OU Marriage Retreat 0U]LZ[TLU[WYVWLY[`SVHUZ :[H[LKPUJVTLSVHUZH]HPSHISLMVYZLSMLTWSV`LKIVYYV^LYZ Beit Din to dent of the Religious Zionists of America. >L^VYRJSVZLS`^P[OSVJHSYLHS[VYZHUKH[[VYUL`Z In 2005, he made aliyah and now teaches 3H[LUPNO[HUK^LLRLUKHWWVPU[TLU[ZH]HPSHISL Alleviate Agony at Yeshevat Eretz Hazi in Jerusalem. He told the Jewish Week, “I am not of Agunot a revolutionary, and I understand that For More Information Please Contact halakha [Jewish law] moves slowly, but | NMLS #64801 CONTINUED FROM P. 28 Ari M. Nat  it’s been too slow. It’s time.” In the mean- :LUPVY3VHU6MÄJLY time, the Rabbincal Council of America entire community.” Executive Director, Rabbi Mark Dratch, P: 201.808.7150 The International Beit Din is not af- told them that doesn’t know enough C: 201.403.4011 fi liated with any political party or organ- about the new Beit Din’s approach to con- F: 201.808.7250 ization. It does hope to have its decisions demn or support—though he admits that E. [email protected] received by Israel’s Minister of the Interi- some of the rabbis involved do have cred- or. Although it anticipates experiencing ibility. The RCA wants to see the game Cross River Bank a shortfall of funds, Greenberg said “we plan before they decide, one way or an- 885 Teaneck Road will seek contributions: it will be the re- other. Teaneck, NJ 07666 sponsibility of the community….Every- One thing is certain. This Beit Din, ac- www.CrossRiverBank.com body wants to end this problem.” Secur- cording to reactions of other RCA rabbis ing money, predicted Greenberg “will be when they hears the names of the rab- the easiest fundraising I’ve ever done.” bis involved, and who prefer to remain Rabbi Simcha Krauss is the thirteenth off the record, say it is defi nitely “prob- generation of fourteen generation of rab- lematical,” and cannot be dismissed. One bis. He was a pulpit rabbi at several Young was pessimistic enough to tell the JLBC, Israel congregations, taught at Yeshiva “Someone will get to She’ar Yashuv Cohen University in New York, and was presi- and he will back off.”

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By Daniel Perez lessons of Gaza and not compromise Is- rael’s security any further. Lt. Col Ralph ew York—The ballroom of the Mar- Peters said that if he were ever elected Nriott Marquis in Times Square was president of the United States, his fi rst packed last week as more than 1,000 peo- act would be to offi cially recognize Jeru- ple came out to support the town of Bet salem as Israel’s capital—something no El, located in the shtachim. Roughly 1300 U.S. president has ever done. families strong, Bet El is home to the Isra- Lt. Col. Peters spoke of Bet El in terms el Defense Forces Preparatory Academy, of the “moral high ground.” He character- which grooms socio-economically-disad- ized it, and other Israeli settlements, as vantaged youth for success in the army outposts of “our civilization.” Responding and beyond. Other Bet El institutions in- to the perception by those on the politi- clude an internationally-renowned ye- cal left that Peters and those sharing his shiva and Arutz Sheva (Channel 7), Is- views are bigoted, he stated “I come be- rael’s leading Religious Zionist news fore you as a person fi lled with prejudice. outlet. One of its founders, Sylvia Freyer I am prejudiced in favor of civilization, I of Englewood, received the group’s Aish- am prejudiced in favor of the rule of law, et Chayil Award. in favor of justice, in favor of the equitable Among the guests were Jewish lead- treatment of women, in favor of science ers in a variety of fi elds and author and and progress and education, and there- foreign affairs expert Lt. Col. Ralph Peters fore I am prejudiced in favor of Israel.” (U.S. Army, ret.). Serving as the evening’s Dr. Joseph Frager, an American activist master of ceremonies was New York City Celebrating at Bet El Dinner with over 1,000 participants, at NY Marriott Marquis (L-R) Sylvia for Judea and Samaria, described the An- Assemblyman Michael Simanowitz (D- Freyer, Aishet Chayil Awardee; Talya Danon, wife of Deputy Defense Minister Danny Danon; nual Bet El Gala as the “premiere event” Queens). Also making an appearance was Honorary chairman Eugen Gluck; Dr. Joseph Frager, Associate Dinner Chairperson/Past for American supporters of the Jew- Likud MK Danny Danon, deputy minis- Honoree; and Dr. Paul Brody, Dinner Committee. ish communities of Judea and Samaria. ter of defense. Photo Credit: Eli Blachman - [email protected] He expressed profound admiration for Elchanan and Aliza Romanoff were those who have dedicated themselves recipients of the Young Leadership Kerry, specifi cally Kerry’s assertion that of Israel’s readiness and noted the vari- to the cause. “Eugene Gluck is just phe- Award; Joshua and Rachel Goldsmith re- he will have successfully brought the Is- ous instruments of defense at the Jewish nomenal,” said Frager in an interview, ceived the Shomer Bet El Award and Dr. raeli-Palestinian confl ict to a “conclu- state’s disposal. The Israeli Air Force, the “and of course Sylvia Freyer, who helped David and Barbara Bortniker received the sion” by sometime next year. He also Iron Dome missile defense system and, start Arutz Sheva. And what Arutz Sheva Shomer Yisrael Award. drew attention to the recent lifting of “above all, we have Hakadosh Baruch Hu has done to change the world for the bet- Danon and Peters shared their for- sanctions against Iran, which allow the [lit. “The Holy One, Blessed be He”] pro- ter- it’s all emanating from Bet El. We all eign affairs expertise vis-à-vis the threats rogue state to continue their pursuit of tecting us.” have to do our share by supporting Bet posed to Israel by Palestinian terrorist nuclear weapons with impunity. Despite Bet El benefactor Eugene Gluck, a Hol- El … and I think American Jews need to groups and the Iranian regime. In par- all this, said Danon, “we are prepared.” ocaust survivor and leading wristwatch do more. Now is not the time to hide; it’s ticular, MK Danon expressed his con- Danon referenced recent joint military importer and manufacturer, hoped that the time to come out of the woodwork cern over U.S. Secretary of State John exercises with the U.S. as an example the Israeli government would learn the and help.”

window of a few weeks, he partnered school teachers who teach the Holocaust touched on Jewish memories. A third of Keene, with the Japanese consul Chiune Sugi- there, and how similar they are to the is- the trip was on a country road through a hara and stamped passports as quickly as sues raised by American teachers. How two-country national park, with the Baltic Kaliningrad and they could with the phrase, “Travel Visa do you personalize the history so that Sea on one side and a magnifi cent forest not need for Curacao,” also known as the the abstract recitation of times, dates and in the waning hours of its fall colors on Riga: Confronting non-visa, visa. With that, and a substan- events become real for the students? Rus- the other. As a student of the Holocaust, tial amount of money, Jews were able to sian teachers, like their American counter- I wondered—How many Jews could hide Memory get real transit visas to travel via the So- parts, have no problem making this histo- in these hundred miles of woods? viet Union to Odessa and from there to ry relevant to their student’s lives, as the A ferry linked me to the mainland, and  CONTINUED FROM P. 37 Kobe, Japan. If they did not have prop- students can relate to the Holocaust to then a sojourn through the countryside of er papers for further travel, they were their own contemporary situation. The Lithuania. Signs were pointing to Vilnius for another conference commemorating shipped to Shanghai—Japanese-held sensitive teacher however, must ensure (Vilna) in one direction and Kaunas (Kov- the pogroms of 1938. Kaliningrad, formerly territory in China. Shanghai in the late the connections are authentic and deep, no) in another. Would that I had had the Konigsberg, was once a German city on the 1930s had become a haven for German not trivial and imagined. The Konigsberg time—I was ready to explore Jewish histo- Baltic coast. Ethnic Germans were expelled Jews. Among those rescued were stu- synagogue is being rebuilt on the site of ry in these two famous cities. in 1946. This year it was the site of an annu- dents of the Lithuanian Mir and Telz ye- its ruins in the city’s historic downtown, I arrived in Riga on Independence al conference on the Holocaust organized shivos, who were transferred to Shang- near the Main Cathedral. Its entrance will Day. Thousands of people were walking by Ilya Altman, the imaginative head of the hai for the war years. Though Japan was be modeled on the original façade. A Rus- the streets, and a light show illuminated Moscow-based Russian Holocaust Center; allied with Germany, it did not partake sian Jew has given EU 7 million to the pro- the darkness. In the morning I toured the each year, the conference takes place in a in the Final Solution to the Jewish prob- ject. ghetto where Sigi Ziering, whose Center Russian city with a direct experience of the lem, and the Shanghai ghetto became Because I am writing the foreword to for the Study of the Holocaust and Eth- Holocaust and commemorates signifi cant home to some 30,000 Jews. a book on German synagogues and their ics I direct, was interned with his moth- anniversaries of the events that took place The Russian scholars, however, were place within the city landscape, and beer and brother—sent from Germany to in his country. less interested in the end results of Sugi- cause I never write a foreword to a book Riga—and where his name appears on a Doctoral students and young profes- hara’s valiant efforts, and more in his re- unless I have read it in its entirety, I had in list of survivors. sors read papers on the repressed history gional role. A Finnish professor spoke of my computer the Konigsberg synagogue’s A local rabbi is seeking to tell the ghet- of their town, including the synagogues, newly declassifi ed documents that iden- original architectural drawings as well as to story in historic buildings on its actual and the Jewish community before the tify Sugihara as a Japanese spy masquer- pictures combed from archives through- site. He is developing the site slowly, with war. Konigsberg was also the home for ading as a diplomat. His task in Konigs- out the world. Was it a coincidence or great determination and drive. As a Jew a time of Chiune Sugihara, the Japanese berg—to track Soviet ships on the Baltic. fate? The architects were as startled as I travelling in Eastern Europe, I see what diplomat, later stationed in Kovno, who Scholars speculated—though I will was by what I was able to give to them. is there, but I also see what is no longer gave Jews visas to Shanghai in the last not—as to why he was freed by the So- I also had to be in Latvia for some meet- there. I am haunted by the Presence of Ab- days of an independent Lithuania. viet Union, which had imprisoned him ings, and, because air connections would sence and the Absence of Presence. The well-known story bears repeat- and another famous diplomat rescuer, have involved a nine-hour layover in Mos- As a scholar teaching about these sites, ing. As Lithuania was being overtak- Raoul Wallenberg, while Wallenberg was cow, I decided to drive between Kalinin- it is a privilege to share the story of what en by Germany, the Dutch Consul, Jan allowed to die in Soviet custody. grad and Riga—traversing Russia, Lith- once was and is no longer, most especial- Zwartendyk, discovered that Curacao Most impressive, for me, was listen- uania and Latvia. The distance was not ly to the younger generation, who are so did not require a visa for entry; in a tiny ing to concerns of Russian secondary great, some 250 miles, but the landscape very anxious to learn.

48 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM CHANUKAH NEWS & EVENTS

growing cycle of poverty in Israel affects 8K+ IDF Soldiers Receive Chanukah many soldiers. We appreciate the soldiers who decide to serve the State of Is- Gift Cards from Fellowship and FIDF rael and keep us all safe despite the economic diffi culties they are experiencing srael—The International Fellowship of at home. Our goal in sponsoring the ‘Fel- I Christians and Jews (The Fellowship) lowship Gift Cards’ is to enable them to and Friends of the Israel Defense Forces fulfi ll their obligation to the state while (FIDF), in collaboration with the Associa- knowing they are fulfi lling their obligation for the Wellbeing of Israel’s Soldiers tion to their families as well. Now they (AWIS), provided “Fellowship Gift Cards” can serve with peace of mind while car- as Chanukah gifts to over 8,000 soldiers ing for their personal needs and the in-need and Lone Soldiers serving in the needs of their families.” Israel Defense Forces (IDF) so that the “FIDF sees in the holiday of Chanukah soldiers could celebrate Chanukah with- another opportunity to support thou- out the burden of fi nancial stress. sands of brave IDF soldiers, who serve as The gift cards can be used in major re- the Maccabees of the 21st Century,” stat- tail chain stores across Israel to purchase ed FIDF National Director and CEO, Maj. food, clothing, shoes, sports and leisure Gen. (Res.) Yitzhak (Jerry) Gershon. “It is a products. Among the soldiers who will great privilege, stemming from our mis- receive this fi nancial support will also Fellowship have provided almost $16 mil- Chanukah and Passover. This campaign sion and the vision of strengthening be 2,500 Lone Soldiers, young men and lion of fi nancial support to soldiers from is administered in collaboration with the those who protect Israel, while further women who choose to leave their coun- low-income families. As part of this sup- IDF Personnel Directorate and reaches reinforcing the important bond between tries of origin to immigrate to Israel and port, FIDF and The Fellowship will dis- every eligible IDF soldier. the community in America, the State of serve in the IDF. tribute the “Fellowship Gift Cards” during Rabbi Yechiel Eckstein, founder and Israel, and its soldiers.” Over the past six years, FIDF and The the Jewish holidays of Rosh Hashanah, president of The Fellowship, said: “The Photo credit: Friends of the IDF

Maadan Annual Latka Eating Contest J-ADD Celebrates Chanukah

Latke Eating Contest Winners and Sponsors J-ADD Chanukah Party in Fair Lawn

Jewish Association for Developmental Disabilities had its annual Chanukah party on December 4th. Pictured are residents and staff from the Fair Lawn group home enjoying latkes, music and the company of all J-ADD residents.

Top: Stuart Kahan of Maadan on Cedar Lane with Latke eating contest winners Penina Krischer (children ages 12 and under), Ari Krischer (ages 13-17) and Josh Deutsch (ages 18 and older). Bottom: Referees: Davi Haberman, Erez Kahan, Stuart Kahan

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Giving Thanks to Teaneck’s Bravest eaneck, NJ—A new Thanksgiving fi ghters, who protected their community TDay initiative has been inaugurated by standing up to the large, well-armed by Congregation Beth Aaron to express Syrian-Greek. The rabbi wished the fi re- thanks to the town’s brave fi refi ghters. A fi ghters success and safety in their diffi - Thanksgiving dinner “with all the trim- cult and potentially dangerous work. mings” was provided to all fi remen on Battalion Chief Joseph Berchtold re- duty Thanksgiving Day. sponded by expressing thanks and appre- A short presentation was made to the ciation on behalf of all the fi remen for men on duty at the main fi re station. Al- this beautiful expression of recognition, den Leifer, chairman of the effort, opened the likes of which the Teaneck Fire De- with some short words of thanks and partment has never experienced before. then introduced Rabbi Larry Rothwachs, Many of the member families of the the spiritual leader of the congregation. congregation donated to this endeavor Rabbi Rothwachs commented on to convey their appreciation to the fi re- the extreme bravery of this relatively men for their bravery, courage and valor small group of special individuals who in serving the community. The meal, pre- work tirelessly to protect the commu- pared by Ma’adan of Teaneck, included a nity. With the coinciding of Thanksgiv- classic Thanksgiving dinner menu with ing and Chanukah, the rabbi compared a few extras that included potato latkes the efforts of the fi refi ghters to those of and applesauce, a traditional dish served the Maccabees, a small number of brave on Chanukah.

Men, women and children celebrated Chanukah by attending the Meno- rah Lighting Ceremonies in Demarest, Tenaﬂ y, Closter and Cresskill hosted by l. to r. : Fireman Robins, 4th Battalion Chief Berchtold, Rabbi Larry Rothwachs and Alden Leifer Lubavitch on the Palisades of Tenaﬂ y. Chanukah at the Jewish Home

By Melanie S. Cohen Marina Umansky, Assistant Director of Recreation, introduced the father and ockleigh—Chanukah is a busy time son duo and noted many of the special Rat the Jewish Home at Rockleigh, events that took place during the hol- and this year was no different. One of iday, including a visit from the Shirat the highlights of the season was a Cha- Chesed choir, an Annual Chanukah par- nukah celebration held at the facility by ty and elegant dining for residents, and the Women’s Division of the Jewish Fed- visits from various school choirs among eration of Northern New Jersey (JFN- others. NJ). It was kicked off by a concert with The Chanukah program consisted

Members of the Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey hosted a Chanukah party at Jewish Home at Rockleigh on Dec. 4th, 2013. There was music, food, and presents for all the residents who had a great time! At left in back row is Sunni Herman, JHR’s Executive Vice President.

the 20th year that JFNNJ had hosted a non-proﬁ t, state-of-the-facility that pro- party for the residents at Jewish Home. vides long-term care, outreach programs In addition to the concert, the volun- and outpatient services for the elderly Jewish Home at Rockleigh resident Helen Krisner receives a present from co-presidents of teers brought presents for the resi- and their families in Bergen, North Hud- Women’s Philanthropy at Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey Jodi Epstein (center) and dents--lovely picture frames for their son, and Rockland counties. JHR and its Lauri Bader at a Chanukah party at JHR on December 4th, 2013. rooms. Cake and coffee was passed sister facility, Jewish Home Assisted Liv- out to the audience and the event was ing in River Vale, N.J., Jewish Home Foun- Alan Sweifach on the piano accompany- of traditional holiday favorites, such as closed by Charlene Vannucci, Jewish dation, and Jewish Home At Home are ing his son Raphael, who had a full rep- “Chanukah, Oh Chanukah,” “Dreidel, Home Family’s Director of Volunteer members of the Jewish Home Family, ertoire of holiday songs prepared. Rapha- Dreidel, Dreidel,” two versions of “Hal- Services, who noted the importance of Inc. whose mission it is to develop and el started coming to the Home as his bar lelujah,” as well as Yiddish and Hebrew volunteers to the facility and her hope oversee the very best of care, services, mitzvah project and, now that the com- songs, including “Maoz Tzur” and “Siviv- that many in the audience will consid- and advice for the elderly and their fam- ing of age ritual is behind him, he contin- on.” The audience joined in the singing er helping with various projects over ilies at home and in their facilities, now ues to visit the Home with his father for as the concert went on. the year ahead. and in the future, consistent with Jewish various events. The party on December 4 marked The Jewish Home at Rockleigh is a tradition and values.

50 December 12, 2013 • 9 Tevet 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM SCHOOLS World Memory Project: Frisch Students Make History Live

By Elizabeth Kratz As the work moves forward, Stein said interested students will have the opportu- ED. NOTE: More than a decade ago, nity to look for other data about the peo- when historian Paul Shapiro of the Unit- ple they identify. ed States Holocaust Memorial Museum “We want to give names and human- (USHMM) convinced the powers of the ity to those who were victimized,” Jon- world to release the Holocaust fi les stored athan said. “As a result of our work, fu- at Bad Arolsen, Germany, historians faced ture generations are going to know the a Herculean task. They needed to scan all stories of those who came before them, the documents and make them searchable. and that information will be available to As advanced as the systems they looked at everyone.” were, none of them was capable of read- The names that are recorded through ing microfi che facsimiles and original doc- the World Memory Project archives are uments of handwritten names that were currently on documents which are visi- over-stamped, watermarked, faded and ble on non-searchable microfi lm and/or almost impossible to decipher. Machines are stored as rapidly disintegrating hard couldn’t do it. Only people could, and now copies in European archive facilities. the USHMM and its partner, Ancestry.com, More than 20 projects of varying size have found a way to bring students into have so far been completed, but there is the process and make the records availa- more to do. ble to survivors and their families, as well Guthrie added that information as scholars and researchers. It’s called The pulled from a wide variety of disparate World Memory Project. sources, such as ghetto worker identifi - Paramus—The Frisch School is the Dr. Kalman Stein (right), Frisch’s principal, with (from left) Caroline, Allan and Jonathan Brauner. cation cards, internment camp informa- second Jewish high school in the country tion and transport lists, seek to provide to be invited to participate in the World ry documents.” we are responsible for passing on their a more complete picture of each person’s Memory Project, a joint effort between The initiative of World Memory Pro- stories to future generations,” said Jona- journey and will help families to under- the United States Holocaust Memorial ject involvement for Jewish schools was than Brauner. stand better who their ancestor was and Museum and Ancestry.com. The project started at Charles E. Smith Day School In the course of Allan Brauner’s re- what happened to them. “We’re restor- was created to mine data from micro- in Rockville, MD, by a child of survivors search on behalf of his mother at the Hol- ing these individuals, unfortunately not fi lmed Holocaust era records previous- named Jennifer Mendelsohn, whose chil- ocaust Museum, he was told about the to life, but to humanity, to history, and to ly stored in Bad Arolsen, Germany. The dren attended the school. She recognized World Memory Project, and began work- their families. No one will ever be able to data, which includes the names and in- that the World Memory Project could be ing on it with his children. “It enables an- challenge this information, because we formation of thousands of victims of the meaningful to high school students, and yone to download a computer program will have it all on record,” said Stein. that they are tech-savvy enough to help record information from doc- All information placed on Ancestry. to work with computer pro- uments and place it into the database. com from the World Memory Project will grams that help them make That data is then transferred to Ances- be available to the public free of charge. sense of the information. try.com, where anybody in the world can Allan Brauner, who recently retired The project came to Frisch see it. This project is in the process of be- from MetLife after 28 years, has a back- similarly, via Fair Lawn resident coming the largest online resource of in- ground in managing large, stove-piped da- Allan Brauner, the father of twin dividual victims of the Holocaust,” said tabases, and hopes to work on a more en- Frisch seniors Caroline and Jon- Jonathan Brauner. compassing project with the USHMM to athan, 17. Brauner, like Men- The work that Frisch students will un- help bring together many of the unstruc- delsohn, is a child of survivors, dertake for the World Memory Project is tured data sources that make so many who, through his own research, to key in information on Lodz Ghetto Shoah records diffi cult to use. Guthrie found an obscure document worker identifi cation cards covering the said the museum hopes to make use of in the U.S. Holocaust Memori- years of 1939 to 1944. The students will Brauner’s perspective, and they will con- al Museum archives with his learn several German keywords to under- tinue to brainstorm together on how to mother’s signature on it. stand how to transcribe the documents. make Holocaust data more searchable. Shoah whose whereabouts have previ- “It was a list of names of 200 girls The project will begin in the coming Individuals are invited to volunteer ously been unrecorded or unknown, will who were working in the Auschwitz con- weeks with each senior keying in the in- to help out, and are invited to learn more then be placed online. centration camp making German army formation on 20 worker identifi cation and participate in the World Memory Pro- “Two of the six million Jews who uniforms,” said Caroline Brauner in a cards. All 600 students at Frisch will be- ject at http://www.worldmemoryproject. died in the Holocaust are not identifi ed presentation to her fellow students. The gin participating in the project by Yom org/. Those interested in more informa- by name,” said Dr. Kalman Stein, princi- document was a paysheet which had in- HaShoah, which will mean that Frisch tion about school involvement or how to pal of the Frisch School. “Our goal is to formation on the wages each girl was students will be responsible for assign- search for a relative may contact Allan give a name to these people.” supposedly being paid. Through that ing names to 12,000 people whose iden- Brauner at [email protected]. “These students are helping to build paysheet, Allan was able to identify and tities were lost as part of the Holocaust. the world’s largest resource for victims of search for his mother’s friend, another the Shoah and their families,” said Neal survivor, who, as it turned out, had been Guthrie, Director of Holocaust Survivors looking for his mother for more than 50 and Victims Resources at the U.S. Holo- years. Allan’s mother, now 89, was then caust Memorial Museum, based in Wash- able to meet and reconnect with her fel- ington, D.C. “This project has great poten- low survivor in Israel. tial for schools. It’s a great way to add to “We’re the last generation to live a Holocaust education program, not only among Holocaust survivors, so we know to learn about it but to work with prima- the impact it had on those people, and MTA “Miracles” Shabbaton n the weekend of November 21- Shabbos, featured many learning, en- O23, over 300 MTA students, reb- tertainment, ruach and recreation op- beim, faculty members and mentors portunities, with special shiurim , skits from the YU Semichah program head- and presentations, passionate singing ed to the Raleigh Hotel in South Falls- and dancing, and exciting sports com- burg for the annual yeshiva-wide Shab- petitions and hikes. The theme of the baton. The program, which was held weekend was “Miracles” in preparation from Thursday night through Motzaei for Chanukah.

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By Linda Stock, Assistant basically in that way. students. Achieve is a web-based pro- Principal Yeshivat Noam Lexia is a web-based program that gram that uses non-fi ction text differen- Elementary School all our fi rst graders are using to enhance tiated by students’ reading levels to build their reading instruction. Lexia provides comprehension of informational text. ach one of us has ar- explicit, systematic, personalized learn- Mathletics is web-based and an iPad Eeas that we excel at ing in the following fi ve core basic areas app. Students can access it from home and areas that we fi nd of reading: Phonemic Awareness, Struc- and school. We use it in grades three challenging. Meeting tural Analysis, Fluency, Vocabulary and through fi ve, as well as in Middle School, the needs of a classroom fi lled with over Comprehension. Teachers get immediate to support and enrich the math curric- 20 diverse learners is a daunting task for data from the program and direct specif- ulum for all students. Students log on a teacher. Yeshivat Noam teachers have ic lessons to specifi c students to build several times a week at school as well as ing through the program. As a bonus, stu- been differentiating instruction since their skills. This program is also used from home. dents love going on Mathletics Live, a the inception of the school. We use small throughout the grades to assist students Mathletics covers all content areas; worldwide math competition. Last year, group instruction, two classroom teach- whose reading skills need to be strength- however, the teacher directs specifi c les- our fourth grade girls placed fi rst in the ers, support teachers and the curriculum ened. This program was made available sons she wants covered to the students. U.S.A. and 11th in the world! to meet the needs of a variety of levels of to us through a generous donation by an Mathletics responds to the child’s indi- As we continue into the 21st centu- learning within one classroom. anonymous donor. vidual strengths and weaknesses and stu- ry and already enjoy the benefi ts of how With the advances in technology over Achieve 3000 is a reading comprehen- dents fi nd out instantly if they are cor- technology helps teachers reach each the last several years, the ability to meet sion program that is used in the upper el- rect. With step-by-step animated support, student, we look forward to new devel- the needs of more students has soared. ementary grades to enrich and support students feel confi dent and enjoy work- opments. Through iPads, computers, online programs and apps, students are able to do course work that enriches and supports curriculum. We have fi fth grade students who have been invited by Johns Hopkins Uni- versity Center for Talented Youth and take Independent Math course instead of Everyday Math class. Students log in, both in school and from home, and work with an instructor from Hopkins. Much of the time students are working inde- pendently and are expected to put in several hours a week before completing a weekly exam. Several Middle School students are participating in Math, Science and Language Arts programs that work Ma’ayanot Teacher Wins Grinspoon- Steinhardt Award very year, since its inception in E2000, Jewish Federation of North- ern New Jersey has nominated an excellent Jewish educator from one of our schools for the Grinspoon-Stein- hardt Award for Excellence in Jewish

Left to right, CEO of Federation, Jason Shames, Sarah Gordon, and Federation President, Dr. Zvi Marans.

Education. This year, the winner is Sa- rah Gordon, a teacher and Director of Student Affairs at Ma’ayanot High School for Girls in Teaneck. Rivka Ka- han, Ma’ayanot’s principal, described Sarah as a teacher who “embodies creativity and innovation, is outstandingly thoughtful and intellectually honest, and is dedicated to fostering student leadership and initiative.” Sarah stated that she believes that it is “a privilege to work in a ﬁ eld where you can have an inﬂ uence and effect on the future leaders of the Jewish People.” She received her award at Federation’s De- cember Board of Trustees meeting.

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By Ariela Rivkin, Frisch ’14 ing the rule requiring Haredim to serve in the army before working. To promote aramus—On Tuesday morning, No- these pursuits, the government plans to Pvember 19, Hannah Swieca and I made subsidize the education to teach Hare- our way to Manhattan to hear Mr. Nafta- dim professions and skills with the long- li Bennett, Israel’s Minister of the Econ- term goal of integrating them into mil- omy, Religious Services and Jerusalem itary service. Mr. Bennett believes that and Diaspora Affairs, speak about his economic sanctions are the solution for hopes for Israel’s future at a meeting of those who refuse military service. In ad- the Council of Presidents of Major Jew- dition, he hopes to integrate Arab wom- ish American Organizations. Hannah en into the work force by providing in- and I are in our senior year at The Frisch centives to companies to hire them. School, in Paramus, New Jersey. We live Israel works toward progress. And yet, in Manhattan and Teaneck respectively. threats of nuclear attacks from Iran hin- Last week, our school was allotted two der its development. For the last two dec- slots to attend the 8:30 a.m. conference ades, Iran has been enriching uranium. and we were very fortunate to be chosen At this very moment, they have the po- for this opportunity. tential to produce a bomb every 6 weeks. At the meeting, Mr. Bennett revealed Yet, they are smart not to cross the red his dream for Israel. It was simple, it was line. Crippling economic sanctions have clear. He said: “The Arab spring morphed been imposed...the whole world is look- into a Muslim winter, and the only thing ing at them right now. “That’s why they that is clear is that nothing is clear. I see don’t make their move now. They don’t This is Israel’s future: A nation, full Conference with Jerusalem Online Uni- Israel as a lighthouse in a storm.” Mr. want break out today, they want to break of bright minds, living in a homeland of versity and Stand With Us. Bennett’s work on behalf of Israel is fo- out tomorrow.” They are waiting for their 3,800 years, productively contributing to Mindy Stein, past President of Emu- cused on this main idea. opportune moment when the world is society in an otherwise volatile region. It nah of America and founder of Be As leader of the Habayit Hayehudi busy with a crisis. Only a deal that forces is our job to ensure that Israel has that Counted4Israel, saw the need for the party in the Knesset, as well as holding Iran to dismantle the entire uranium-en- opportunity. leadership to fi nd more opportunities to the aforementioned roles in the govern- riching machine is a good deal. One that Hannah and I were invited to attend actively involve the next generation. She ment, Mr. Bennett spoke of Israel’s united merely makes them shut off the faucet the meeting of the Council of Presidents asked Malcolm Hoenlein about inviting effort to defi ne a productive Israeli soci- or even drain their pool of uranium does of Major Jewish American Organizations schools to send representatives to meet- ety outside the confi nes of the Middle- not ensure Israel’s safety. This is why Mr. as part of an expanded “Israel Education ings at the Conference. Hannah Swieca East confl ict. Specifi cally, he discussed Bennett believes that we cannot ease in the 21st Century” Program for which noted that “This is a great way to expose opening the economy and integrating sanctions now. “There is no inalienable Frisch is a pilot school. Yeshiva Univer- the next generation of potential leaders Haredim into the workforce by repeal- right to enrich uranium,” he joked. sity will be sponsoring a module on Is- to the importance of continuing Israel rael Education in the 21st Century by us- advocacy.” ing some of the most current materials It is vital that the future Jewish com- and resources available in the fi eld. At munity is educated on Israeli affairs. Frisch, we have an expanded unit on the Hannah and I were very inspired by this history of Modern Israel that is taught to event to initiate unity between students all of the seniors, weekly speakers from from all different schools to coordinate the community that address the entire efforts to act on behalf of the State of Is- school on a wide range of topics includ- rael. This demonstrates the signifi cance ing Israel, and our entire senior grade of maintaining a strong connection be- travels to Capitol Hill each spring to meet tween America and Israel. It reinforces with members of the House and Senate. the importance of Americans to be active We will be planning an Israel Advocacy supporter s of Israel. Yeshivat Noam Dreidelpalooza! By Rabbi Uzi Beer, Assistant Principal of approximately 500 Yeshivat Noam stu- Judaic Studies , Elementary School dents and teachers gathered together on the gym fl oor, each armed with a dreidel. ith aspirations to set our own new As the countdown began from fi ve to WChanukah record, Yeshivat Noam one, anticipation and excitement grew Elementary School students gathered as approximately 500 dreidels swirled together for Dreidelpalooza. Inspired throughout the room, eyes cheerfully by Yeshiva University’s Guinness record watched as an unoffi cial record had been Yeshivat Noam Goes to War setting dreidel spinning event in 2010, accomplished. eshivat Noam’s Middle School was everyone. Yfull of inspiration and ruach this On Day 2, students returned week as Chanukah was celebrated dur- dressed in color including crazy ac- ing a Surprise Color War! Color War cessories and face paint. The day be- broke out on Wednesday, erev Chanu- gan with tefi llah and then went right kah, as the students returned on Mon- into the Apache relay. Students then day dressed in yellow for or/light, red participated in zimriya, art presen- for aish/fi re, blue for mayim/ water, and tations, stomp presentations, chu- green for aitz/ trees. Students compet- lent tasting, digital divrei Torah , shiur, ed in events such as a hockey shootout, girls vs. staff basketball game, boys vs. musical chairs, Taboo, dodgeball, Jenga, staff basketball game, and lastly, the gaga, a dreidel spinoff, Knowledge mas- Annual Chanukah chagiga. The day ters, team cheering, a 3x3 basketball, ended with a special performance European handball, Solomon says, Pic- by the girls’ exploratory choir group tionary, team fl ashmobs, domino me- led by Morah Shira Greenspan and norah and most importantly, tefi llah the announcement of the winning and shiur. There was something for team...Aish!!!

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Olive Oil Press

Yavneh Academy Junior Chorus and Concert Choir performed at the Bergen Town Center on Wednesday night Dec 4th. They are led by the Ms. Marsha Motzen, Director.

Chanukah Maccabiah

Rabbi Grossman, of Chabad, teaches the Ben Porat Yosef Early Childhood students all about how olive oil is produced for the mitzvah of lighting on Chanukah.

RYNJ Fourth Grade Girls Entertain the Residents of Care One ollowing their highly acclaimed Chanukah, the young ladies made the FChanukah performances on school proud as they entertained the res- Wednesday morning for the students, idents of Care One with their beautiful and in the evening for parents, relatives music. The girls were joined by their Mo- and friends, the very talented fourth rot, and were accompanied on the key- grade girls of RYNJ once again took their board by their music teacher, Mrs. Zit- act on the road. Their success was due ter. The students sang and danced and Ben Porat Yosef had a lively Maccabiah during Chanukah. Students compet- to the amazing teamwork of the Morot brought smiles to all the people who ed in sports, art, songs, skits, preparing divrei Torah, and other activities. Pictured Packer, Schuh, Stechler, Herz, and Katz were privileged to attend. After their per- here, orange team students and teachers compete in a tug of war with their oppo- together with their music teacher, Mrs. formance the girls met with the residents nents of another color. Zitter. and spoke with them. Care One eagerly On Thursday morning, last day of awaits RYNJ’s future performances. Send us your school news, events, and photos! Send to [email protected]

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parents, was taking computer courses 30 families. cover. They reported that Lev Tahor wom- Lev Tahor. Pure and was an observant Jew who no longer In 2011, two Lev Tahor girls, 13 and 15, en and other “frumka” women won’t let dressed like a hasid. Haaretz, in a recent were sent from the Bayer family—new- their husbands into their homes until of Heart. two-part series about Lev Tahor, reported ly religious members in Beit Shemesh— their daughters are safely asleep; that the that he lives abroad and is no longer ob- to Helbrans in Canada for the Yomim women don’t mind their husbands hav-  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 servant. Noraim. Their great-uncle, who knew ing other wives; that they impose chum- Now Shlomo Helbrans is back in the Helbrans married off minors, called the rot denounced by poskim around the and drug use by Shai’s stepfather, a situa- news along with Lev Tahor—his cult Israeli authorities. Yeshiva World report- world, and scorn even the most ultra-Or- tion that made Shai run away from home with members in Beit Shemesh, Jeru- ed that the Canadians, working with thodox Haredi, Hasidic, Sephardic and more than once and caused his mother salem, Canada and the U.S.—and he is the foreign ministry and Interpol, met Ashkenazic rabbis. to seek help from Shelter Our Sisters. again being investigated for child abuse. the girls in Montreal, and then escorted They wrote that the burqa women Media reports said that as the boy ap- Where did Helbrans come from? them back to Israel in compliance with a “…discount the well-publicized procla- proached his bar mitzvah in 1992, his ma- According to Haaretz, Shlomo Hel- court order right after Rosh Hashana and mation of the Eidah HaChareidis, which ternal uncle brought him to a local Ber- brans (also known as Rabbi Erez Shlo- Shabbos. condemns ‘a group of women who have gen County synagogue to hear Helbrans mo Elbarnes, Erez Albaranes, Shlomo Members of the extended Bayer fam- uprooted daas Torah … who don’t send speak. According to the New York Times, Helbran, and Rabbi Shlomo Halbernetz) ily maintained that children in the Lev their children to proper schools, who who quoted his mother, “‘The rabbi said, was the only child born to a secular Zi- Tahor cult are stripped of all basic rights don’t give them medical treatment even “I see light on your face; I want to know onist family in Kiryat Yoel in Jerusalem and asked that Lev Tahor be “outlawed, if their lives are in danger, and who have what big things you are going to do,”’ … in 1961. He started his religious life as a because it is a serious threat to the well- instituted unmentionable practices re- The next day she said she received the teenage baal teshuva against his parents’ being of children.” Before the Israeli gov- garding marriages, etc.…’ fi rst of dozens of calls from the rabbi and wishes and attended, among other ye- ernment handed the girls back to their “The Badatz convened and issued this his associates, who pressed her to leave shivas, Mercaz Harav, which he decided parents, the Bayers were forced to sign public condemnation because of accu- Shai at the yeshiva and move to Brook- was full of phoneys. He joined with Bres- a document that said they would not at- mulated reports involving cases of per- lyn from New Milford, N.J.” verted behavior among adherents of the Because Helbrans said he would pro- ‘cult.’ Yet a closer reading of the text does vide bar mitzvah lessons, she brought her ...as the boy approached his bar mitzvah in 1992, not refer to their controversial mode of son to Williamsburg in February 1992. At dress per se, although privately these rab- that time, Helbrans told them that he his maternal uncle brought him to a local Bergen banim have had to mediate situations was “loosely affi liated with Satmar.” (The County synagogue to hear Helbrans speak. According where wives have insisted on taking on Satmar spokesman, Rabbi David Nieder- extreme modesty stringencies against man, in that same article, said that Hel- to the New York Times, who quoted his mother, “‘The the wishes, and to the embarrassment, of brans “…has his own movement. He has rabbi said, “I see light on your face; I want to know what their husbands.” his own constituency. But we don’t know Now Helbrans and his followers are too much about it.” He described Hel- big things you are going to do,”’ …The next day she said in the news because of their defi ance of brans and his yeshiva as “a small, obscure she received the first of dozens of calls from the rabbi child protection authorities in Quebec, group that arrived just before the Persian who want to place 14 children, including Gulf War, in part for fear of another Holo- and his associates, who pressed her to leave Shai at the a 16-year-old and her infant, in foster care caust, in part because of continued pres- yeshiva and move to Brooklyn from New Milford, N.J. for 30 days. They say these children need sure by the Israeli Government over its to be medically and psychologically eval- extreme anti-Zionist views.”) uated. After a tendentious “shuttle” period lov and Satmar hasdim for a while, mar- tempt to send them to Canada again. But The investigation began in 2013, be- during the weeks before Shai’s bar mitz- ried at 17 and moved to Tsfat. After living in May of this year, the Bayers and their cause there were “concerns about the vah, when Helbrans pressured the Fhi- there for six years, and without being giv- six children attempted to leave Israel, children’s education and welfare, match- mas to sign their son over to him, Shai en smicha, he began calling himself rab- via Jordan, to join Lev Tahor in Canada. making efforts and young ages of girls disappeared for two years. His mother bi, founded Braslav Yeshivat Hametivta They were caught and sent back to Israel, given in marriage, as well as allegations and the authorities, including the FBI, and moved to Jerusalem, where he began where the parents were detained. of abuse and mind control.” The Wind- searched for him. At one point, both her to attract followers. The Lev Tahor cases are now being ad- sor Star reported last week that there husband and her ex-husband were look- Around 1990 he and his followers dressed in the Knesset, where, last week, were also indications of neglect, garbage- ing for Shai in Borough Park when a Lev left for the United States after claiming The Child Rights Committee, headed by strewn homes and physical and mental Tahor hasid assaulted them with a knife they were targeted by the Israeli govern- MK Orly Levy-Abecassis of the Likud-Be- abuse of the children and some of their and severed one of Fhima’s fi ngers. ment for their anti-Zionism, and settled iteinu Party, convened a meeting attend- parents. Lev Tahor children were only be- The New York City Police Depart- in Brooklyn. There are reports that Hel- ed by representatives of the Ministry of ing taught Hebrew and Yiddish and un- ment and the FBI believed that Shai had brans hooked up with radical Islamists Public Security, the Foreign Ministry, able to communicate with authorities been brainwashed and kidnapped and in Israel, which brought him to security the Justice and Welfare Ministry, the Lev in case of emergency. The girls’ educa- pushed for full prosecution of Helbrans. forces’ attention. When the American au- L’Achim organization, Interpol, the Na- tion was inferior to what the boys were But Charles Hynes, who was running thorities deported him to Israel in 2000, tional Council for the Welfare of Chil- getting and basic math was not being for State Attorney General at the time, Helbrans claimed his anti-Zionist views dren, and Helbrans’ victims. taught. Among the “rules” reported by tried to get Helbrans a plea bargain and endangered his life in Israel. The committee is investigating charg- former members was one that permitted community service. The appellate judge The Forward described Helbrans as es that Helbrans hit children with tire babies to be diapered only twice a day. overruled him. Helbrans was sentenced “the founder of an aggressively anti-Zi- irons, forced people to take psychiatric Violence is also used to control peo- to 6-12 years for kidnapping, but in 1996, onist movement called Hisachdus Hay- pills; forced loving couples to divorce, ple. Helbrans’ wife, Malka, fl ed to Israel was released after serving just two years. ereim, or “Union of the God-Fearing.” forced little girls to marry old men (Hel- last June after being beaten by her hus- He moved to Monsey and opened anoth- They reported that he burned the Israe- brans believes that 13 is the ideal age for band’s Hasidim for objecting to the cult’s er yeshiva until he was deported to Isra- li fl ag in public on Israeli Independence marriage); forced children to wear shoes rampant child abuse—she said that even el in 2000. Day, and that when Palestinians met in that were too small as punishment; children as young as six months old are Where was Shai during those two Lausanne, Helbrans wrote to them say- placed people in solitary confi nement; not spared. years? He was fi rst hidden in Monsey, NY ing that Israelis “empower themselves denied them food and kept to a strange When Canadian authorities moved, and was eventually found in 1994 in a ye- by controlling who is allowed to vote, diet; issued monetary fi nes; placed in- so did Helbrans. Last month, Helbrans shiva in Paris. He came home, but soon restricting most Palestinians and Anti- fants with other families against the and approximately 40 families—with 137 after that, the Fhimas agreed to place Zionists from voting, and by importing wishes of their parents for as long as two children between them—fl ed Sainte-Ag- him with Rabbi Aryeh Zaks in Rockland over two million gentiles from Russia years. athe-des-Monts in three buses. They said County, NY so that he could lead a more and other countries to appear as the ma- Lev Tahor members do not believe they were headed to Iran or south of the observant life. From the time around his jority to the world. These racist actions in vaccinations; they believe sparing the Mason-Dixon Line in the U.S. But a few bar mitzvah to the resolution of the trial, have infl amed antisemitism in the en- rod spoils the child, and they do not seek weeks later they settled in Windsor, On- Hana Fhima left New Milford, lived for tire world, causing great damage to Au- medical help, even when their children tario, where the rules concerning home a time with Shelter Our Sisters, divorced thentic Jews.” He also told Haaretz that are dying or while they are giving birth. schooling are a bit more lenient than Jacky and moved with her three other he would not go as far as waving a Pales- Ma’ariv reported that a year-old “burqa” Quebec’s, and they will start their com- children to Ramsey. Today, according to tinian fl ag. baby died in February 2013 in Meah Shea- munity from scratch. And no one will newspaper accounts, she lives in Israel. He applied for and was granted asy- rim because the mother refused to seek stop him, despite the evidence reported In a follow up in the New York Times lum in Canada, where, in the early treatment for her child. in court documents and by eyewitnesses in 2001, Shai, who reports say was born oughts, he reestablished Lev Tahor in Last fall, Mishpocha magazine put the in 1979, said he had reconciled with his Sainte-Agathe-des-Monts, Quebec with Lev Tahor women in their burqas on the  CONTINUED ON P. 59

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Bruriah Lightning Report Frisch Basketball Sweep Hillel By Ilana Markowitz led the team in fast break points, steal- in a Varsity/JV Double Header ing the ball numerous times and going in hen the Bruriah Lightning hosted for the layup. The game also gave Bruriah By JLBC Sports Staff The varsity night- Wthe Shalhevet Sabres, both teams the chance to debut their full court press, cap saw the Cougars play tough man- entered the game tied with an identical which they have been perfecting in prac- n November 26, the Hillel Heat to-man defense throughout. Frisch record of 2-2. The Lightning then contin- tice for many weeks. They were able Obrought their hustle and athleticism took a lead and held off a number of ued the solid playing that they exhibited to stop the ball many times and Coach north to take on the Frisch Cougars in a rallies from the Heat, who at one point in their win over Sha’are Torah. Rifkin was very pleased with the success battle of Jersey rivals. in the fourth quarter sliced the lead to They started the game strong, put- of the press. In the opening game, the Frisch JV 4 points. When the fi nal buzzer sound- ting pressure on defense and lighting Bruriah held its ground, winning the Cougars took on the tough and talented ed, the home team had earned their up the court on offense. Avigayil Wiener game 36-16. Hillel JV Heat. After an initial back and fourth victory. Jr. F Benni Tuchman led forth resulting in an 8-7 Frisch lead mid- Frisch with 13 points on 6-7 shooting. way through the fi rst quarter, the JV Cou- Sr. Justin Hod added 9, Sr. Abba Szydlo RYNJ 7th G rade Jaguars gars slowly pulled away. So. F Andrew tallied 7, Seniors Evan Cohen and Eli Langer led the Cougars with 24 points (20 Scharlat each scored 6 points, and Sen- By Eitan Warburg The next game was Wednesday (12/11) in the fi rst half) and So. G Noah Schechter iors Rami Laifer and Jacob Furer netted at RYNJ against SAR at 6:15 p.m. This added 15. Fr. G Josh Dukas added 5 and Fr. 5 each. Junior Michael Finkel hit two he RYNJ Jaguars 7th Grade Basketball was a grudge match since, after defeat- C Eli Kern chipped in with 4 points and free throws and Sr. Andrew Lauer add- Tteam is off to a fantastic start. After win- ing SAR last year in an overtime thriller 4 blocks, including a mammoth rejection ed one and a number of key rebounds ning their season opener on a buzzer beat- during the regular season, the Jags lost a off the backboard on a fast break. The JV to close out the scoring. The Varsity er against Moriah, the Jags coasted to vic- tight game to the eventual champs in last squad extended their perfect record to 4-0, Cougars, now 4-3, next travel to Brook- tory in their following game against SSBC. year’s semi-fi nals. and travels to Livingston, NJ on December lyn to take on the Magen David War- 16, 2013 to take on the Kushner Cobras. riors. SAR Wrestling vs. Kushner Mitch Gross Girls Basketball By Sting Sports Update shoulder, giving themselves a little moti- vation to come back stronger in their next Regular Season Recap n December 4th, 2013, SAR lost their match against DRS. Jonathan Weiner, Ben Osecond match of the season to Kush- Listman and Zack Smart all showed bright ecember 1 marked the end of anoth- for cheering the girls on; the referees ner—their fi rst loss in Yeshiva League spots in a lackluster performance by the Der wonderful season of Mitch Gross for the great (and diffi cult) job they do; play—64-48. It was a tough loss for an team, each pinning their opponents. Girls Basketball. The Mitch Gross Basket- the SPONSORS—we couldn’t do it with- SAR team that had higher expectations The Sting Wrestlers are looking to ball League (MGBL) is a rec league that out you (THANKS!!!!!) and, for themselves. move forward and perform to their ex- was set up some six years ago to com- LAST BUT NOT LEAST—the amazing The wrestlers now have a chip on their pectations in the coming matches. memorate a beloved member of our VOLUNTEER COACHES who give of their community that was taken from us at a time each weekend to teach the girls and young age. MGBL is a high caliber rec- have helped each of them improve their Teaneck Native Yisrael Feld Named reational league that teaches basketball skills, understanding of the game, sports- skills along with teamwork and interper- manship, teamwork and, of course, how Skyline Conference Rookie of the Week sonal skills. to have a good time, win or lose. The success of the league is a result of One of the MGBL commissioners told ew York—The Skyline Conference much hard work by many people, each the JLBC, “It is truly a pleasure to see how Nhas announced that among its week- and every one a vital component. MGBL far these girls have progressed over the ly winners Yeshiva University men’s bas- would like to thank: the girls for coming course of the season, Mitch Gross, a’’h, ketball player Yisrael Feld was named the and working hard every week; the par- would be very proud of this league that conference’s Rookie of the Week for the ents, grandparents, siblings and friends is carrying on his name and legacy.” week ending Dec. 1. Feld had a solid game in the Macca- bees’ lone game last week, an overtime YU Men’s Basketball Earns Big thriller against St. Joseph’s-Long Island in the 2013-14 Skyline Conference open- Skyline Win over NYU Polytech ing game on Nov. 26. In that game, the Yeshiva High School for Boys graduate By YUMacs.com knocked in 17 points, had four rebounds the future. He is averaging 13.5 points and and fi ve assists. He also added a block 4.5 assists per contest. He has led the team rooklyn, N.Y.—The Yeshiva men’s bas- and an assist in the contest. in scoring once this season, and Feld has Bketball team shot 50% from the fi eld Through four games this season, Feld been the top assist getter in three of the and limited its opponent to under 29% has proven himself an impact player for four contests this season. en route to a dominating Skyline Con- ference win as the Maccabees beat NYU Poly 71-45 on December 4th. The win ups Yeshiva’s record to 2-4 (1-2 the Maccabees took a 20-7 lead with 6:36 Skyline), while NYU Poly is now 1-4 (0-1 to go before halftime, the Blue Jays raced Skyline). off 11 in a row to pull to within two. The The Maccabees were led by Ben- score was 20-18 with two and-a-half min- jy Ritholtz with 20 points and seven re- utes to play. bounds. He connected on 7-of-11 shoot- But the Maccabees closed out the half ing, including 4-for-6 from behind the arc. on a 9-0 run to go back up by double fi g- Yisrael Feld added 15 points in the win. ures and Yeshiva was up 29-18 at halftime. Shlomo Weissberg and Yosef Rosenthal In the second half NYU Poly pulled each added eight points. to within fi ve points early, but never got NYU Poly was led by Brendan Gallagh- closer. With the score 31-26 Yeshiva, the er with 16 points and nine rebounds. Maccabees raced away with a 21-4 run to The host Blue Jays scored the fi rst take a 52-30 lead with 11:58 to play. Yeshi- point of the game, but that was the ex- va coasted the rest of the way en route to tent of their lead the entire game. The winning by 26. Maccabees responded with a 14-0 run to The Maccabees outscored the Blue go up 14-1 midway through the fi rst half. Jays 20-10 on points off turnovers and 16- Yeshiva’s runaway win though did not 15 on second chance points. Yeshiva held come without a fi ght by NYU Poly. After a 44-32 edge on rebounding.

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By Bracha Schwartz of freshly made soups. Custom- can get there, he’ll deliver. ers can choose from a menu, Meir Best delivers advice as eaneck—Ten years ago, Anat but make special requests like well. “Customers call for reci- Tand Meir Best walked down low sodium, low carb or glu- pes or ask how long to cook our Teaneck’s Cedar Lane and saw ten free—with no difference roasts, or whether they should more than stores, people and in price. The sandwiches were be covered or uncovered,” Anat traffi c: they saw an opportuni- originally prepared by request said. “They even call just before ty. “It was 2004, and Meir was for The Gym in Englewood so Shabbos to ask how to warm between jobs,” Anat told JLBC. clients could buy a nutritious something up. And Meir always “I realized there was a need for meal after their workouts. Anat calls customers later to ask how a place that would specialize in decided to introduce the items they liked what they purchased; high quality fresh meat and give in the store. we want the feedback.” customers personal service. And Busy homemakers and em- The Bests live in Englewood I thought we were the ones who ployees on lunch break are grate- with their four children. The could do it.” ful for the grab-and-go meals two oldest, Daniel, 17, and Ellie, Meir trained with Anat’s un- that taste homemade. So am 15, help out in the store during cle, a real old-fashioned butcher, I. After the interview I bought school breaks. “We’re part of the who taught him all about han- a grilled chicken wrap dling and cutting meat. Within and vegetable soup to a few months, the Bests found a Anat and Meir Best share with a friend for location on Cedar Lane and be- lunch. Delicious. The gan building a team of employ- difference in taste.” proach to food,” she said. She vegetable soup was so ees trained to be helpful and As a convenience for cus- also brings a keen interest in nu- perfectly fl avored, we friendly to customers. Best Glatt tomers, Best Glatt started carry- trition and healthy eating. “Our couldn’t identify indi- quickly became the go-to desti- ing a few more items, like dairy prepared foods are all natural, vidual spices. nation for top quality meat, cut products. But room was lim- with no preservatives. We pre- Listening to custom- and prepared to customer spec- ited. When the Bests learned pare for customers like we pre- ers, and keeping them ifi cations. that the nearby J&J Pharmacy pare for our family.” Meir added happy, is how Best Glatt The quality of beef is a re- was going out of business and that all cooked food is donated has grown the business. sult of both the grade and the building would be availa- to charity every Friday before “If they tell us a prod- Best Glatt’s ready-to-go grilled chicken platter the cutting process, Meir ex- ble, they took the space and closing. uct they want, Meir gets plained. Best Glatt tries to buy expanded their product lines. Best Glatt recently added a it,” said Anat. “We started get- community and our custom- only prime beef. Then it is cut “It was like learning a whole selection of ready-made lunch ting a lot of requests for gluten ers feel like we are family,” Anat by their skilled butcher so that new business,” Meir recalled. and dinner meals, prepared free, so now we offer plenty of said. “We go to our customers’ each portion will have the best “We had to learn about grocery with guidance from a nutri- gluten free products as well as simchas and shiva houses.” taste and texture. “Meat must items, point of sale, amounts tionist. “Our high fi ber wraps prepared food. If customers call Best Glatt inspires tremen- be cut the right way; you can’t and quantities.” are made with grilled chicken, or text Meir and ask him if they dous loyalty from its customers. cut corners,” Meir said. “You The new location gave Best turkey or salmon and vegeta- can pick up something even af- Talk to a few Englewood and can save money by cutting it to Glatt the ability to add cooked bles. The meals are composed ter we close, we’ll wait—or de- Teaneck balabustas and you’re squeeze out another portion, food and salads, prepared by so you have balanced protein, liver to their homes.” Best Glatt likely to hear them say, ‘I shop but the quality will suffer. We their very capable chef and over- carbs and fats,” Anat said. She delivers beyond the immediate here and there, but I always go also get our poultry 24 hours af- seen by Anat. “I love to cook and showed me a few examples area. Customers come from all to Meir for meat.’ Anat knows ter shechita,” Anat said. “It is hor- with my Moroccan and Vene- placed conveniently with the over including Passaic, Living- why. “We support our custom- mone free, antibiotic free and zuelan background, I bring a produce section in the front of ston, Riverdale, Manhattan and ers and they support us,” she cage free. Freshness makes a big Sephardic, Mediterranean ap- the store, along with containers White Plains. Meir says if he said.

Tahor cult. Even the most haredi poskim Israel. They do not send their children Judaism, but they also do not respect Lev Tahor. Pure agree on that. to Talmud Torah or other schools, and women.” In 2011, Israel’s Edah HaChareidis is- withhold medical care from them even Many of the men and women who fol- of Heart. sued a “sacred call to Jewish homes,” when their lives are at risk. They also do low Helbrans have secular backgrounds. about the “frumka” women of Lev Tahor things that are unfi t to be heard, violat- In Israel, he was also accused of kidnap-  CONTINUED FROM P. 57 and other cults, saying: “With great grief, ing the strictest prohibitions regarding ping his followers, and parents, siblings we have heard testimony about the ac- married life and the marriage ceremony and extended family of Lev Tahor mem- in scores of newspaper articles and muti- tions of a group of women who have ... We therefore warn Jewish women and bers have complained to the Israeli gov- and social media in the last decade. uprooted the rule of Torah from Israel girls not to be drawn after them or fol- ernment. These baalei teshuva are Hel- Most of it shows little that is pure of and, of their own volition, act in ways low their customs. One must avoid their brans’ most vulnerable victims. heart inside Shlomo Helbrans or the Lev that uproot education and Torah from leaders and teachers because they are “As newcomers to the intricacies of destined for disaster, God forbid.” “Frum- Orthodoxy, they lack the kind of ground- ka” is what these burqa-style dresses are ing and feeling for tradition enjoyed by called in Israel. most religious people who grew up in re- When the current Sephardi chief ligious families,” said a spokesman for rabbi, Avraham Yosef, was the chief rab- Edah HaChareidis. “Even the strictest bi of Holon, he said on the Kol Beramah rabbis who require women to wear black radio station: “I asked my father about head coverings and black stockings un- the shawl that women are wearing derstand that a woman must allow her- and in which they look so strange on self to be a woman.” the street, so that everyone who pass- Yet there are people who fi nd it diffi - es near them turns his head, because cult to refute Lev Tahor, especially from it is a bizarre thing. I am not even talk- the women’s point of view, and believe ing about the ones who cover their fac- that Helbrans and his “frumka” women es with veils or those who dress little are setting a future trend for observant girls in a similar manner [the Lev Tahor Jewish women. Haaretz reported that women dress that way]. I was with my hundreds of women are beginning to go wife at an event and suddenly, like a “frumka.” group of penguins, a mother appeared That leaves one with two questions: with her four daughters, one of them “Where does Helbrans get his money?” maybe 10 years old, all of them covered and “How does Helbrans get away with up. These things are not only far from it?” In the meantime, Caveat Emptor.

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Any decision to enter into a life settle- Value of Life Insurance as Property ment must be carefully evaluated, but in- tegrated with other facets of one’s fi nan- By Elozor M. Preil Grigsby was vindicated, but Russell chal- occurs, and in some instances, the cash cial program, the settlement option may lenged the decision in Appeals Court and value accumulations), they may not be offer signifi cant benefi ts in some circum- true story, which occurred more than the ruling was reversed. This led to Grigs- aware of the “property” advantages to stances. Aa century ago: by appealing to the U.S. Supreme Court. owning life insurance. Some variations of the life settlement John C. Burchard was the owner of On November 10 and 13, 1911, the Su- concept push the legality of the Grigsby a life insurance policy on himself. Bur- preme Court heard the case, and on De- Life Settlements ruling and may have harmful fi nancial re- chard had made two premium payments cember 4, 1911, returned a decision—in fa- Through most of the 20th century, the percussions. Stranger-owned Life Insur- on the policy, but was under fi nancial du- vor of Dr. Grigsby. Justice Oliver Wendell ability of the policy owner to assign ben- ance, known as STOLI, is life insurance ress and currently late on the third pay- Holmes Jr. delivered the majority of the efi ts was rarely considered outside its purchased with the intent of transferring ment. Burchard also needed a surgical court. The essential issue at the heart of use in lending agreements. But the AIDS ownership shortly thereafter to a third par- operation, but had no money for the pro- his opinion is contained in this brief ex- crisis during the 1980s uncovered a new ty, usually investors. In recent years, sev- cedure. cerpt: application for policy owners to assign eral STOLI transactions have resulted in In an effort to solve both his fi nancial “…(L)ife insurance has become in our their policies. legal cases, and while the courts have con- and health issues, Mr. Burchard made days one of the best recognized forms of At that time, individuals diagnosed tinued to uphold the right of the owner to the following proposal to Dr. A.H. Grigs- investment and self-compelled saving. with AIDS faced an extremely short life assign the policy to a third party, there is by: Burchard would sell his life insur- So far as reasonable safety permits, it is expectancy. If the AIDS-infected individ- concern that the concept of insurable in- ance policy to Dr. Grigsby in exchange desirable to give to life policies the ordi- ual owned a life insurance policy, there terest is being violated. Even Justice Holm- for $100 and the operation. Dr. Grigsby nary characteristics of property…To deny was the opportunity to make an absolute es addressed this issue in his 1911 opinion, also would assume the responsibility for the right to sell except to persons having assignment of the policy in exchange for saying, “A contract of insurance upon a life paying future premiums. In doing so, Dr. such an interest is to diminish apprecia- a lump sum cash payment representing in which the insured has no interest is a Grigsby, as the new owner, could deter- bly the value of the contract in the own- a percentage of the death benefi t. Under pure wager that gives the insured a sinister mine the benefi ciary and take control of er’s hands.” this arrangement, called a viatical settle- counter-interest in having the life come to any other policy benefi ts, including the ment, a third party became the new own- an end.” Further, obtaining life insurance cash values. The two parties agreed to the The Impact of Grigsby vs. Russell er of the policy, paid the premiums, and for the purpose of selling it may impede arrangement, completed paperwork to Justice Holmes’ decision formally es- received the full benefi t when the indi- one’s ability to obtain additional life insur- defi ne the terms, and executed the agree- tablished an important characteristic of vidual passed away. ance intended to benefi t heirs. ment. life insurance: even though a relation- Advances in medical treatments mean About a year later, Burchard died. ship of insurable interest must exist be- improved health prospects for AIDS pa- Elozor Preil is Managing D irector at Wealth Advi- Dr. Grigsby, as owner of the policy, at- tween the insured and the owner of the tients, but the absolute settlement of life sory Group and Regist ered Representative and F i- tempted to fi le a claim and receive the policy at the time it is issued, ownership insurance has expanded to other groups nancial Advisor of Park Avenue Securities LLC (PAS). death benefi ts. The insurance compa- privileges can be transferred or assigned of policy owners, particularly those over He can be r eached at [email protected] S ee ny initially declined the claim, saying at a later date to parties who do not have age 65. Now known as life settlements, www.wagroupllc.com/epreil for full disclosures and Dr. Grigsby did not have an insurable in- a relationship of insurable interest. older policy owners may consider re- disclaimers. Guardian, its subsidiaries, agents or em- terest. R.L. Russell, the executor of Bur- While most consumers have some ceiving a lump sum payment today in ployees do not giv e tax or legal advic e. You should chard’s estate, then fi led suit to have the awareness of the primary benefi ts of life exchange for assigning the future bene- consult your tax or legal advisor r egarding your in- proceeds be paid to the estate. At fi rst, insurance (the amount paid if a death fi t to an investor or fi nancial institution. dividual situation. Student Loans – Reduce Monthly payments and Discharge Debts By David Siegel to your credit score. reduced payments under the two programs. as the 10-year term and you may decide this It sounds too good to be true. Here’s a Obviously, if the monthly payments are less, is not for you since the total payment will n a recent JLBC arti- quick review: IBR and PAYE programs reduce the amount paid over 10 years will be less. The increase as you are forced to make up these Icle we discussed the your monthly payments based on your in- excitement of this program is that, if you are payments for 25 years. However, for the fi rst benefi ts of the Income come and household size, without considera- eligible for the Public Service Loan Forgive- three years of payments of subsidized loans, Based Repayment(IBR) tion for the loan balance. Here are four exam- ness program, once you have made the 120 re- any payments not made under the program, and Pay as you Earn ples: We are comparing the 10-year standard quired payments, you can request and receive are paid by the government and will not be (PAYE) programs, which payment (after 10 years of this payment the a discharge of any amounts still owed. There added back to the principal. Even if you are help you reduce monthly student loan pay- entire balance is paid) versus the calculat- is no negative mark on your credit report not PSLF eligible and don’t plan to benefi t ments to as little as zero per month. We ed payment under IBR. If you qualify under and you do not have to report the discharged from discharge, the fi rst three years can pro- hope you are now enjoying the hundreds PAYE your payment would be even less. amount as income. (Normally any forgiv- vide an immediate benefi t. of dollars per month that you were able to • A teacher earning $50,000 with a en debt is reportable as income in the year Pay as you Earn (PAYE) reduces the dis- save through the program. However, as we household size of 4, debt of $50,000. $183 is it is forgiven and taxes will be due on these charge period to 20 years for students who did note previously, these payments are de- the new payment versus the 10-year stand- amounts. That is not the case in this program) have recently graduated. This is also not as ferred, rather than abolished, and as such ard payment of $575. What are qualifi ed payments? Essential- appealing as the 10-year Public Service Pro- you are potentially adding to your principal • A nurse earning $65,000 with a house- ly there are three requirements to be quali- gram, but it does provide fl exibility in mak- which you will eventually have to pay back. hold of 6, debt of $100,000. $220 is the new fi ed payments. ing current payments and relief if your earn- However, there is a solution and that is payment versus the 10-year standard pay- • You must be eligible under the program ings don’t match up with what you had the focus of this article. To combat the grow- ment of $1150. guidelines; expected. If you are PSLF eligible, you can ing debt, there are various programs avail- • Charity worker earning $70,000 with a • You must be enrolled in the program still discharge your debt after 120 payments able to help wipe out the leftover loan. Al- household of 4, debt of $75,000. $433 is the and, and because the monthly payment is less, though this might sound radical, under new payment versus the 10-year standard • You must make payments each month you will actually end up paying less than these programs, if you make a certain num- payment of $863 they are due. under IBR. ber of payments, whatever debt remains is • Recent graduate earning $40,000 with They do not have to be 120 consecutive So before you write next month’s check, discharged. More specifi cally, there is some- a household of one, debt of $80,000. $285 is months, in case you take time off or try a dif- do a little homework and see if the program thing called the Public Service Loan Forgive- the new payment versus the 10-year stand- ferent profession for some time. As long as can benefi t you. ness (PSLF) program which lets you wipe ard payment of $920. you have a TOTAL of 120 payments, you will If you would like to get more informa- out remaining debt after just 10 years or Assuming these payments are made eligible. There are forms you will need to fi le tion regarding these programs, call your 120 ”qualifying payments.” (We will discuss for 10 years, total payments for each of the to verify your employment during the pro- loan servicer, or contact me at djs.siegel@ what that is a little later.) above is as follows: cess. Don’t wait until the 10 years is fi nished. gmail.com and I will forward a booklet de- This will not work for everyone—but if Teacher—$69.000 for 10-year standard You will need to verify employment and you tailing these programs along with a list of you are a teacher, nurse, policeman, fi reman versus $21,960 under IBR don’t want to have to fi nd an employer who links to various Dept of Education sites. or are employed in a fi eld that meets the def- Nurse—$138,000 for 10-year standard closed years ago. Make the payments, fi le inition of Public Service, including the non- versus $26,400 under IBR the forms and after 120 payments, you will David Siegel is a Home Lending Specialist with Cit- profi t sector, take a look at what this has Charity Worker—$103,560 for 10-year be able to wipe out all of the remaining debt ibank in its Englewood offi ce. 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Review By Estelle Glass elor, has come to Israel to fi nd a new life pha later decides to present him with a for himself after the death of his mother. gift, not realizing that the pottery shard isitors to Israel usually see a sanitized After seeking advice from the kabbalist, he uncovers while cleaning at a construc- Vimage of Jerusalem fi lled with beau- Rebbe Yehuda, he becomes the Rebbe’s tion site is a valued artifact. Mustapha tiful hotels, tempting restaurants and tenant as well as his personal assistant. never dreams of what consequences his colorful shops, enhanced by the holiness In the Rebbe’s courtyard, Isaac also meets discovery and gift will engender. Soon, of the Old City and its Wall. In her nov- Tamar, a young woman seeking spiritu- Isaac, Mustapha and even Tamar are el, In the Courtyard of the Kabbalist, Ru- al and marital fulfi llment, but Issac’s ba- drawn into a political intrigue, and it is chama King Feuerman introduces us to a sic insecurities thwart their budding rela- only at the novel’s conclusion that each more complicated city. tionship. Despite his lack of confi dence, of them comes close to discovering what As we enter Ms. Feuerman’s Jerusa- Isaac demonstrates a growing empathy is truly important in life. lem, we meet many characters: a not- to all the seekers and lost souls in need With her eye for detail and local ed kabbalist and his wife, an introverted who gather to seek the kabbalist’s advice. color, Ms. Feuerman uses her 10-year ex- bachelor, a Vespa riding baalat teshuva, a The only person he can’t help is himself. perience of living in Israel to the reader’s lonely Arab janitor working at the Tem- It is a chance meeting of Isaac with advantage. Especially powerful are the Ms. Feuerman had spent more time on ple Mount and various beggars, mystics, Mustapha, a deformed Arab janitor at scenes that take place in the prison at the developing the character of Shaindel Bra- addicts and criminals—along with jaded the Temple Mount that propels the sto- Russian Compound. There, and in the cha, the Rebbe’s fabulous balabusta wife, policemen and security offi cers. Ms. Feu- ry. Mustapha is overwhelmed when Isaac courtyard, as well as in the description and his very clever muse. Perhaps a se- erman deftly weaves the lives of these kindly comments that the janitor’s daily of Mustapha’s living and work condi- quel is in order. dissimilar characters into her story of cleaning jobs resemble some of the ser- tions, the author makes the many clash- Ms. Feuerman, a respected writing intrigue and romance as she alternates vices of the Kohein in the Holy Temple. es of Middle Eastern culture come alive: coach and essayist, is also the author of chapters between two main characters, For the fi rst time in Mustapha’s life, his the confl icts between Orthodox and sec- Seven Blessings. In the Courtyard of the Isaac and Mustapha. menial tasks seem valued. In apprecia- ular, Ashkenazi and Sefard, Arab and Jew, Kabbalist is available as an e-book and in Isaac, the unfulfi lled 40-year-old bach- tion of Isaac’s encouraging words, Musta- man and woman. One only wishes that paperback. ARTS AND FASHION

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The Times of Israel. “What’s uniting them AndreyAndShay, textile designers Tesler Beirut—or vice versa—is trendy,” said Artsett ers, is this love of art and design and, you + Mendelovitch, and graffi ti artist Rotenberg. “Black and white is a trend know, cool content.” Pilpeled, among others. across all cities. There’s also a big trend Sett ing Global Artsetters, says Rotenberg, is the op- The prices range from $10 to $5,000. in the direction of handmade items. It’s posite of Etsy, where solo designers can “People are defi nitely buying,” said hard to fi nd handmade at affordable Style Trends sell jewelry and crafts. Artsetters uses its Rotenberg. “You can get handmade sun- prices.” ambassadors to “pinpoint what’s real- glasses from Moscow for $190, which For more information, see artsetters.  CONTINUED FROM P. 60 ly cool” for shoppers. Whereas on Etsy is an incredible price, or great air roller com. anyone can put up their wares for sale, cabin bags from Geneva for $40, which clothing from Israel to its American of- on Artsetters you have to be chosen by have been huge.” Viva Sarah Press is an associa te editor and writ er fi ce, cuts off all incriminating labels, and someone in the know. “We’re an ecom- They have received no funding (but at ISRAEL21c. She has e xtensive experience in r e- sends the orders to Beirut. “The T-shirts merce site, but we’re very selective and are looking for some). They did get work- porting/editing in the prin t, online and br oadcast are incredibly popular in Beirut,” said highly curated. We’re also on a city-spe- space in Tel Aviv’s startup incubator. The fi elds. She has jumped out of a plane, ducked rock- Rotenberg. cifi c platform,” she said. site is listed as an American company ets and been attacked by a baboon all in the name “Usually it’s two very distinct com- The Tel Aviv page, for example, fea- with an Israeli incubator. of a good story. Her work has been published by in- munities, Lebanon and Israel, but under tures photographer Fima Shlick, jew- So, what’s the next trend? ternational media outlets including Isr ael Televi- the umbrella of Artsetters it becomes elry designer Shlomit Ofi r, textile de- “Each city has its own trend. To be sion, CNN, Reut ers, The Jerusalem P ost and Time this unifi ed community,” Schinasi told signer Mika Barr, industrial designers in Tel Aviv wearing something from Out.

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Yehoshua Zirman winning the jump ball for TABC credit Jacob Rosenfeld Kids Therapy Gym sets up the defense in MGBL playoff s

Debra Paul fi res it for Frisch Racheli Weiss ready to serve Varsity Volleyball for JV Frisch volleyball photo by Lisa Appelbaum photo by Lisa Appelbaum

Ava Katz and Lily Kudowitz AYSO Region 1600 U8 division Aliza Poloner at the line for her game winning shot

Abigail Rochlin sends it back for Frisch JV volleyball photo by Lisa Appelbaum

Ally Schlisser ready to serve for frisch varsity volleyball photo by Lisa Appelbaum Ayelet Eizkovitz & Sara Mirwis after the Kids Therapy Win Bergen Broncos, 3rd grade team

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Abby Rubin, Ayala Mandelbaum, Natalie Wisotsky, Tali Berman and number one fan Meirav Mandelbaum after a hard 3/4 grade Champs Cowboys about to The Running Rebs Frisch Flag Football credit fought victory snap against the Giants Ari Kazt & Dani Heideman Spring the trap For RYNJ Lisa Appelbaum

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Bergen County Flag Football League JLBC Yasher Koach of the Finishes Outstanding Inaugural Season Week: Hayley Solomon By Ken Goffstein By JLBC Sports Staff

his past September saw the start of ne can hardly walk by a basketball Tthe new –NFL sponsored Bergen Ocourt without seeing a kid working County Flag Football League for all kids on his latest moves. Countless hours are in Bergen County grades K-8. This incred- devoted to perfecting fancy dribbling ible, exciting new league got off to a fan- and misdirection, all to fake out your tastic start. opponent. These techniques have be- As a co-sponsor of the league, the Par- come so commonplace that terms like isi Speed School of Bergen County pro- taking your opponent to school or break- vided two weeks of combines and solid ing ankles have become part of accepta- football fundamentals, helping prepare teer coaches, helping enrich the experi- ble basketball terminology. the boys for the upcoming season. The ence for the kids. Something remarkable happened facilities at Overpeck County Park, where The league enjoyed beautiful weath- on Sunday December 1st in the fi nal all of the games took place every Sun- er for almost the entire season. Play- game of the Mitch Gross Basketball day, were state-of-the-art and among the offs began in late November and cham- girl’s regular season. It was about half- trying to bring her team within a basket. fi nest anywhere. Each grade had sever- pions were crowned this past Sunday. way through the third quarter, with the Solomon stopped, extended her hand al teams, each named after an NFL team For more information about this league, Berkshire Bank team holding a four- and asked the downed defender if she with the kids wearing distinct NFL jer- go to www.aifl ag.com (click the “Bergen point lead over the Build Within Reach was okay. seys replicating the NFL team they were County” link) or call Ken Goffstein at 201- team. Build Within Reach’s Hayley Sol- Winning is important to some de- named after. Parents made up the volun- 314-8931. omon had the ball on the left wing and gree, that’s why we keep score. Al- with a jab step, faked her defender out though Build Within Reach did not win of her sneakers. The defender was so that game, if we are producing children Yeshiva University Girls Basketball badly fooled that she literally fell down. with Middot like Hayley Solomon, we Instead of blowing by her defender and are all winners. Yasher Koach. yumacs.com/news

iverdale, NY—The Yeshiva wom- Ren’s basketball team was defeated Frisch Hockey Report by the College of Mount Saint Vincent (CMSV) 99-66 on Sunday afternoon. The By Jonny Newman ber, Max Srulowitz, Sammy Weitschner Maccabees got a game-high 31 points and backup Goaltenders Max Muss and from Frisch alumni Haley David, who his year’s JV Frisch Hockey team is off Benny Soclof all look to provide help for connected on 9-of-22 shots and went 10- Tto a great start, and has high expecta- the team. for-11 from the free-throw line. Rebecca tions for the season ahead. Sophomores The chemistry throughout the team Yoshor added a double-double with 10 Isaac Aronoff, David Kirsch, Matt Rosen- has been great, as coaches Yossi Sasson points and a game-high 22 rebounds. Ju- Yeshiva into 36 turnovers, while com- blatt, Assistant Captain Jake Millstein, and Yaakov Kolb are succeeding in their lia Owen chipped in with 12 points and mitting 14 of its own, with the Dolphins Captain Stevie Brinn, Jordan Socolof and quest to make a championship caliber nine rebounds in the contest. holding a 41-15 edge on points off turn- Goaltender Matty Reinhart look to lead team. CMSV had six players score in dou- overs. the way for the Cougars this season. The season has started off well. Go- ble fi gures. The Dolphins were led The Maccabees outrebounded In addition, the incoming freshmen ing 3-0, Frisch has defeated its fi rst three by Tanisha Montague with 22 points. CMSV 62-45, including 24-14 on the of- group looks to be of high quality . Fresh- opponents 5-0, 8-3 and 6-1, with its fi rst Brooke West added 16 points. fensive end. man Aaron Abecassis, Bryan Alter, Yehuda tough challenge this season coming up The Dolphins held an overwhelming Yeshiva is now 3-5 on the season, Brinn, Ryan Eisner, Yehuda Hammerman, this week as it faces off at SAR. edge on points in the paint, outscoring while CMSV remains undefeated at 5-0 Jordan Kleinhouse, Avery Penn, Jacob Sil- Let’s go Cougars! the Maccabees 62-24. CMSV also forced this season. TABC Hockey Storms past MTA Ma’ayanot Rapids Win Again  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 here was yet another win for the great shots from Adina Rosenberg, and that they needed to have the same last providing the Storm with their TMa’ayanot JV basketball team on Amanda Solomon, as well as others, intensity throughout the remainder of fourth win and their fi rst shutout of the Monday night, when the Rapids trav- the Rapids were able to reclaim their the game. With stellar defense and solid season. The fi nal score was 3-0. Up next elled to play at Kushner. lead and come back with a fi nal score goal tending from Craig Klein, the lead for the Storm, a trip to the “shoebox” The game got off to a rocky start, of 41-36. the Storm built in the fi rst period would home of the highly rated HAFTR Hawks. with Kushner up by 4 points, but The Ma’ayanot Rapids now have fi ve by the end of the fi rst half, the Rap- wins and only one loss under their belt. ids had made a fantastic comeback, As always, the girls continue to work to lead by 9 points. Coming into the hard under the amazing guidance of second half, the Kushner team came their coaches, Atara Polinsky and Keni out strong, and was able to tie up Ashby, and hope to continue their win- the game. But after tight defense and ning streak in games to come.

MTA Varsity Basketball Cruise Past JEC By Ezra Teichman lead. Led by Yoni Samet’s 16 points, the Lions continued their strong play n Motzei Shabbos, the Lions and took a 15 point lead into the lock- Ofaced the JEC Thunder out in er room. The second half was much Elizabeth. The Lions started off the like the ﬁ rst. JEC had trouble break- game with an aggressive press and ing MTA’s press and the Lions cruised started the game with a quick 8-2 to a 55-28 win. Yosef Naor (94, TABC), Ami Rosenfeld (24, MTA) fi ght for the puck Credit jacob rosenfeld

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By Abigail Klein Leichman, Israel21c and is building a lab to advance his struc- was exposed to the fi eld of structural bi- tural research on microbes including HIV ology. I stayed in his lab to do my mason Diskin, 37, is a world expert on and the tropical Arena viruses that cause ter’s and Ph.D.” Rthe structural biology of deadly virus- fatal diseases, such as Lassa fever in Afri- At the Caltech lab of Pamela Bjork- es. His critical contribution to the fi eld ca and South America. man, Diskin began by using X-ray crystal- points the way to unprecedented treat- Accepting a position as senior scien- lography to look at the structure of the ment approaches. He is also living proof tist at Weizmann brought to an end his binding protein on the surface of the HIV that the supposed “brain drain” from Is- stint at Caltech, often cited as the No. 1 virus that enables it to infect host cells. rael is perhaps better described as a back- place for research on the planet. “In sci- Then, he was asked to join a bicoastal and-forth fl ow of the best and brightest ence, you can’t keep doing the same collaborative research team led by Bjork- minds. thing forever, especially as a postdoc,” man at Caltech and Dr. Michel Nussen- Born, bred and educated in Jerusa- Diskin said. “I was working with top sci- zweig at New York’s Rockefeller Univer- lem, Diskin spent 2008 to 2012 as a post- entists in top institutes, pursuing won- sity. This team not only identifi ed the Ron Diskin doctoral fellow at the California Insti- derful things. But I had to move on in my antibodies some HIV patients develop tute of Technology (Caltech). His Hebrew career, and Weizmann is one of the bet- after a few years of infection, but also and future forms of therapy. “Once you University training in X-ray crystallogra- ter places for me in Israel. In structural bi- succeeded in synthesizing these unusu- have that structural information, it gives phy—a 3D imaging method to see the ology research, it has by far the best infra- ally strong antibodies in an even more you a big advantage over shooting in the structure of proteins—dramatically en- structure and people involved in it.” potent formulation. In lab mice, these dark,” he acknowledged. “It could facil- hanced the joint Caltech-Rockefeller Uni- Growing up in northern Jerusalem, synthesized substances proved effective itate novel therapeutics. But we do not versity team’s understanding of human Diskin was constantly exploring the out- against the more virulent strains of HIV defi ne our goals as applicative.” immunodefi ciency virus (HIV) and its doors, satisfying his innate sense of curi- that often strike victims in Africa and Diskin and his wife, Adi, who is stud- natural antibodies. osity. His biology teacher at ORT Ramot Asia. ying toward her teaching certifi cation, In 2010, Diskin was singled out as a high school, Yehudit Shilo, encouraged Diskin’s new lab at Weizmann allows have two children: a 4-year-old daughter, promising young investigator by the Col- and inspired him further. him to pursue several related projects. Abigail, and an 18-month-old son, Itamar. laboration for AIDS Vaccine Discovery. “Today I do curiosity-driven research, At the core level, all his work focuses He jokes that he “used to have hobbies” But even before the team’s newest pa- looking into things I fi nd to be interest- on showing exactly how proteins inter- before fatherhood—one of these pas- per on the topic was published last De- ing,” he said. “I try to build models to de- act and form complexes. “There are oth- times was building wood furniture—but cember, Diskin had moved back to Isra- scribe protein structures because I want er viruses that cause illness, not as well- he still indulges his affi nities for cooking, el—specifi cally to Rehovot, home of the to see them.” known as HIV, and not much is known photography, nature and physics when- world-renowned Weizmann Institute Following military service in the com- about them structurally. I am trying to ever he can. of Science. [ed. note: this is where Dr. bat engineering corps, Diskin went on to fi ll that gap, asking basic questions about Mathilde Krim, who discovered the HIV earn bachelor’s, master’s and doctoral de- how those viruses recognize host cells Abigail Klein Leichman is a writ er and associ- epidemic in New York City was trained. grees at the Hebrew University of Jerusa- and infect them,” he explained. Few oth- ate editor at ISR AEL21c. Prior to moving to Israel She was also the fi rst person to see DNA lem, where he won several scholarships er researchers in the world are involved in 2007, she w as a specialty writer and copy editor under a microscope.) He occupies the and awards for excellence. in this area of study. at a daily newspaper in New Jersey and has fr ee- post-grad institute’s Tauro Career Devel- “After my fi rst year, I joined the lab of However, Diskin is hesitant to make lanced for a v ariety of newspapers and periodicals opment Chair in Biomedical Research Oded Livneh, a crystallographer, and so I a direct connection between his research since 1984. TECHNOLOGY Shine Keeps Mobile Devices Happy and Virus-Free

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things in the secular world. It enables us The Thanksgivukkah Red Carpet Event to present an accurate, attractive image of Orthodox Judaism.” By Rebecca Modell Jew in the City, founded and directed by Allison Josephs, harnesses the ew York—”Jew in the City” host- power of social media to break down Ned its second annual “Top 10 Ortho- stereotypes about religious Jews and dox Jewish All Stars” Awards and Red offer a humorous, meaningful look Carpet event on November 24 at the into Orthodox Judaism. Through a web- newly renovated Lincoln Square Syna- site (JewintheCity.com), YouTube chan- gogue in New York. U.S. Treasury Secre- nel (where its videos have been viewed tary Jack Lew and Nobel Laureate Rob- over a million times), and via Facebook ert Aumann were among ten individuals and Twitter, Jew in the City explains im- named 2013 Orthodox Jewish All Stars by portant Jewish concepts like Shabbat, Jew in the City, the organization dedicat- keeping kosher and mikvah, and tack- ed to re-branding Orthodox Jews and Ju- les difﬁ cult topics like the Orthodox Jew- daism to the world through digital me- ish approach to homosexuality, feminism dia. and conversion. With a mix of light hu- This year’s All Stars are an extreme- mor and rich content, Jew in the City ex- ly accomplished and diverse group and, plores these topics in a pleasant and easy in addition to Secretary Lew and Dr. Au- to understand fashion, appealing to an- mann, include: Sarah Hofstetter, who yone who is curious to learn more about was promoted last month to CEO of 360i Orthodox Jews and observant Judaism, in the U.S. (the No. 2 advertising ﬁ rm on whether Jewish or not. Ad Age’s Agency A-List); Ari Pinchot, co-ex- Davina and Immanuel Shalev (of The Maccabeats) Ethan Zohn and Lisa Heywood Photo credit to vinnews.com ecutive producer of the star-studded and

Celebrity chef Jamie Geller Dahlia Schuster and Perl Wolfe (Bullet Proof Stockings) critically acclaimed new fi lm, Lee Dan- Among the many exciting participants iels’ The Butler, featuring Forest Whitak- at the event were reality star and pro- er and Oprah Winfrey; Naama Shafi r, the fessional American soccer player Ethan fi rst Orthodox female professional bas- Zohn, celebrity chef Jamie Geller, hasid- ketball player; Joseph Shenker, chair- ic alternative rock girl band Bullet Proof man of Sullivan and Cromwell (the No. Stockings, Jewish a capella phenomenon 3 law fi rm in the country according to The Maccabeats, and The Brooklyn Jazz Vault Rankings); Rama Burshtein, writ- Warriors. er, director and producer of the award- “Our event was a mash-up in all sorts ing-winning fi lm, Fill the Void (and the of ways; of Chanukah and Thanksgiving, first Hasidic woman to make a film for red carpet fashion being written up by general audiences); Anne Neuberger, di- fashion bloggers alongside ancient Torah rector of the National Security Agen- wisdom from some of New York’s great cy’s Commercial Solutions Center; Is- rabbis,” said Allison Josephs, founder of samar Ginzberg, a marketing guru who Jew in the City. “It’s so important for us was named one of Inc. Magazine’s Top to have these great participants and hon- 10 Entrepreneurs (and is the grandson of orees lend their names and accomplish- prominent Hasidic rebbes); and Dr. Lau- ments to our program. Seeing Orthodox rel Steinherz, director of pediatric cardi- people achieving greatness in fabulous ology at Memorial Sloan Kettering and ways in America helps show others it’s co-founder of Camp Simcha, a renowned really possible to live an observant live camp for Jewish children with cancer. while still accomplishing wonderful Allison Josephs (founder and director, Jew in the City) List your events in our Community Calendar. Advertise your services in our growing Classifi eds section! Call (201) 371-3212 or [email protected]

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TA students from all grades gathered then threw themselves into spirited danc- Joel came by to share in the simcha, and thoughtful quiet left after his d’var Torah Min Yeshiva University’s Belfer Com- ing, with Eitan Katz providing incredible joined the boys in dancing, as well. was then ﬁ lled by MTA’s Student Choir, mons to celebrate Chanukah and Rosh musical accompaniment, and YU Rosh Afterward, Rav Weinberger deliv- which provided a soulful rendition of Lo Chodesh Teves. For breakfast, there was Yeshiva Rav Moshe Weinberger joining ered a powerful and personal d’var To- Yehi. In all, it was an incredible morning, a delicious Chanukah-style brunch of suf- the boys as they sang and danced around rah on the importance of Teﬁ llin, and and all the students greatly enjoyed the ganiot, ice cream and bagels. They boys the room. University President Richard the unique nature of Chanukah. The donuts, dancing, and divrei Torah.

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By Chaim Gold av Chaim Kanievsky, shlita; the fi nal chelek of its trailblazing HaGaon HaRav Gershon Edel- Mishna Berurah that has been s Dirshu’s popular Daf HaYo- stein, shlita and HaGaon HaR- extremely well received. The day Ami B’Halakha program is set av Nissim Karelitz, shlita. In that is not far away when Klal Yisrael to embark on Chelek Vav, the historic Kol Korei addressed to will be enriched with thousands last volume of Mishna Berurah, “Acheinu Bnei Yisrael wherever of new bekiim in all six volumes Gedolei Yisrael encompassing they may be,” they wrote: It is of Mishna Berurah! the entire cross-section of Torah therefore proper that every sin- HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaak- Jewry have issued an unprece- gle person set aside time every ov Borenstein, shlita, at the dented call to Jews the world day to learn halakha, and espe- Dirshu Shabbos stressed the im- over to bring daily halakha cially halakhos that are of practi- perative to learn halakha and learning into their lives. cal relevance, every day and eve- the amazing contribution to this At the recent Dirshu Shabbos ry Shabbos. This daily learning goal achieved by Dirshu: “In pre- Kinnus Olam HaTorah, HaGaon of practical halakha should not vious generations, we merited HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Boren- be less than a half hour….” the clear Mishna Berurah of Ma- with clarity, to know how one glossy bulletin with all kinds of stein, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of Ye- Several years ago, the Posek ran the Chofetz Chaim, zt”l, who should live in every detail. Thou- interesting shailos and insights shiva Kiryas Melech of Bnei Hador, HaGaon HaRav Yosef gathered in one place the rul- sands of yungeleit in Eretz Yis- to enrich one’s learning and Brak, issued a passionate call Shalom Elyashiv, zt”l, encour- ings and decisions of the Gedolei rael and America participate in knowledge. In this way, Dirshu to join Daf HaYomi B’Halakha, aged the hanhala of Dirshu to HaPoskim in Orach Chaim, and this sacred avodas hakodesh.” has empowered Jews, who are emphasizing that it is an ideal create halakha programs where- with his great strength issued fi - Aside from the numerous interested in learning Daf HaY- way to invoke Divine Mercy at by lomdei Torah would be en- nal rulings of halakha lema’aseh. live Daf HaYomi B’Halakha shi- omi B’Halakha to participate a time when Klal Yisrael fi nds it- couraged to learn, understand Additionally, we merited the ad- urim the world over, Dirshu has wherever they may be! self in a diffi cult situation. In ad- and know halakha l’maaseh, dendum to clear halakha from made available numerous op- If you have not done so yet, dition, numerous Gedolei Yisrael practical halakha. The Gerer the beis medrash of the Chazon portunities to hear shiurim for now is the time to join and im- wrote letters of chizuk stress- Rebbe, shlita, too, has been one Ish and all the great poskim of those unable to attend a shi- plement this into your daily ing the importance of the wid- of the most enthusiastic sup- our times which Dirshu’s mon- ur along with many other aids schedule. The bracha of such er community participating in a porters of Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi umental undertaking compiled to learning: Tens of live, ar- a kabala and heeding the call daily halakha learning seder. B’Halakha program. in its magnifi cent edition of the chived shiurim can be heard on of our gedolim implement- The latest call is a contin- Daf HaYomi B’Halakha learn- Mishna Berurah. This was done Kol Halashon; a daily radio seg- ing this limud, can only bring uation of a historic proclama- ers will soon embark on learning together with the undertak- ment of Daf HaYomi B’Halakha about yeshuos for ourselves tion made before last Shavu- Chelek Vav, the fi nal chelek in the ing and organizing of Daf HaY- is broadcast thrice daily in the and Klal Yisrael. To join Daf os by the senior Gedolei Hador, Mishna Berurah that covers the omi B’Halakha and study of the New York Metro area; a daily HaYomi B’Halakha, please call HaGaon HaRav Aharon Leib halakhos of the Yomim Tovim. A Mishna Berurah to encourage newsletter is available via e-mail 1-888-5-Dirshu or e-mail info@ Shteinman, shlita; HaGaon HaR- few months ago, Dirshu released the study of halakha lema’aseh as well as a monthly Daf HaYomi kolleldirshu.org.

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Care One – desperately needs Bnai Yeshurun program reaching need of volunteers who can deliver need of volunteers to maintain Manhattan and other medical leftover from local caterers and help in forming a minyan. out to volunteers to commit at kosher meals to homebound continuity of its Shabbos and canters as necessary. For more restaurants, and then repackages A kosher rehabilitation and least once a month (or more if and disabled people living in Fair weekday minyanim, which its information or to volunteer and distributes it to those that nursing center located at 544 preferred) to visit people staying Lawn. Meal deliveries are made residents look forward to each contact the Bikkur Cholim at 973- can benefi t in a respectful way Teaneck Road, 4 blocks south in Care One. Contact Arianne Mondays thru Fridays, between week. This is a wonderful chesed 249-8811. that helps ensure the recipient’s of Holy Name Hospital, is in Weinberger at ariannew@verizon. 11:30 am and 12:00 noon. opportunity that can be combined privacy and self-esteem. need of volunteers to maintain net, Ari Wartelsky at ariwart@ Substitute drivers for any weekday with the mitzva of Bikur Cholim. Bikur Cholim of Teaneck is continuity of its Shabbos and gmail.com or Alana Green at are needed, as well as volunteers Questions, or to volunteer to looking for volunteers to visit the To Become a Recipient: If you weekday minyanim, which its [email protected] for who can commit to driving once a daven, lain, give a d’var Torah, Jewish patients at Holy Name or someone you know would residents look forward to each further information. week on a regular basis. etc., call Rabbi Siev at (201) 287- Hospital on a daily basis and like to be notifi ed when food week. This is a wonderful chesed Please call Francine Cuff @201- 8519 or email to jsiev@care-one. Shabbosim. Volunteers must be 16 is available, please respond to opportunity that can be combined Tomchei Shabbos of Bergen 796-5151 if you are interested in com years or older to visit the hospital this email. The information will with the mitzva of Bikur Cholim. County volunteering. on their own. For more information be kept confi dential within the Questions, or to volunteer to In need of volunteers to pack Bikkur Cholim of Passaic- or to volunteer please call the Bikur organization, and no qualifying daven, lain, give a d’var Torah, etc., and deliver. Please contact Care One – desperately needs Clifton helps provide rides for Cholim at 201-836-4950. questions call Rabbi Siev at (201) 287-8519 [email protected] for help in forming a minyan. Cholim and frail residents to are asked. or email to [email protected] further information.the following: A kosher rehabilitation and medical appointments. Rides Shearit HaPlate of Bergen PLEASE LET US HELP-EMAIL US nursing center located at 544 are available to local Passaic County, Inc. is our area’s only TODAY! Sharona Nagler Care One Jewish Family Service of North Teaneck Road, 4 blocks south and Clifton destinations as well kosher food rescue organization [email protected] visitation program is a Jersey, located in Fair Lawn, is in of Holy Name Hospital, is in as to Hackensack, Englewood, that collects prepared food mailto:[email protected] GEMACHS AND CHESED OPPORTUNITIES

BABIES AND CHILDREN: Yissachar ben Yechiel Zeidel Dov Z’l. for new Kallahs in need. For more information or older. For more information or to volunteer please Teaneck Bris Gemach Specialty cloths in all colors and sizes for every to donate contact Sara Beth Fein at mrsfein@aol. call Zeesy Grossbaum, Director of Bergen County Bris outfits, pillows, pillow cases, tefilos for type of simcha. Donations will go to Project Yi’che com. Friendship Circle [email protected] or mothers to say. Open to the Jewish community. and are tax deductible. Please contact chayemf@ via phone at 201-262-7172. Feel free to check out There is no solicitation of funds. For information or aol.com for an appointment The Jewish Book Gemach collects Jewish books their website: www.BCFriendship.com. to reserve Email either [email protected] or for 4th- 8th graders. If you have books for donate [email protected] or call Zissi at 718 704 6225. GOWNS or would like to receive books please contact Sinai Schools Fairlawn Gown Gemach Moshe and Shifra Schapiro at jbookgemach@ Sinai Schools services children and adults with Teaneck Baby Gemach Gowns (wedding gowns, mother of the bride, gmail.com. learning and developmental disabilities. There Collects baby equipment, clothing to size 5T, toys, bridesmaids and flower girls) are loaned free of are various volunteer opportunities available, diapers, formula, and baby food for Jewish families charge. Please call for appointments. The number Congregation Ahavath Torah 240 Broad such as driving young adults to their job sites in Bergen County. For more information contact is 201 797-1770. The gemach has relocated and Avenue, Englewood) collects flower centerpieces and shadowing some of the students at various Avi and Ginnine Fried at 718-753-6275, or by new address will be given at time of confirmation than can be brought to the homebound or those in community activities. For more information or to email of appointment. For donations or any other the hospital. For more information call the Shul at volunteer contact Aggie Siletski at 201-833-1134 at [email protected]. Tax donation inquiries please contact Fairlawngemach@aol. 201-568-1315. x105 or via email at [email protected] or letters are available for any financial and/or item com. Appts are not made by email. The Fair Lawn visit their website at www.sinaischools.org. donations. Gemach is under the auspices of Anshei Lubavitch Yad Leah collects modest and contemporary of Fair Lawn. clothing, infant through adult, to be sent to Israel. Yachad- National Jewish Council for Bicycle Gemach Donated clothes must be in either excellent or like- Disabilities Rivky Klar at [email protected] Adult Clothing new condition. For more information regarding YACHAD, The National Jewish Council for Chabad of Maplewood NJ. Contact: Lenny Levy, drop off locations contact Jessica Katz at 973-594- Disabilities, is dedicated to enhancing the life PREEMIE CLOTHING 201-836-7376 or email [email protected] 9118 or via email [email protected] opportunities of individuals with disabilities, Yad Yocheved – 201 836 2071 ensuring their participation in the full spectrum Furniture Donations The Kallah Gemach collects donations for of Jewish life. New Jersey Yachad touches our Passaic Baby G’mach Email [email protected] of a picture of what Kallahs in need. They collect any unopened new community on a daily basis, providing inclusive Collects baby clothing in excellent condition up to you›d like to donate and a recipient can be items in their original boxes from people who programs for individuals with special needs and size 2T as well as other baby gear including high matched. have received gifts that they do not want and emotional support for all members of the family. chairs, cribs, strollers, carriages, changing tables, Email [email protected] for information offer them to those less fortunate. All the items Services include parent support groups, sibling diapers and formula. They pick up in NJ/NY area. go to Passaic where the girls can come and see support, information and referral, socialization For more information contact Siggy Berger at 201- RINAT CHAIM GEMACH what they may be able to use. We collect things programs, weekend respite through monthly 486-1492 or via email [email protected]. NEWLY FORMED IN MEMORY OF RENEE CHAYA LEVY. like Judaica, household items, small appliances, shabbatonim, over a dozen summer camp Donations of medical supplies are welcomed giftware, etc. For more information contact programs, vocational training, sensitivity training SIMCHAS (wheel chairs, portable commodes, walkers, canes, Carrie Cooper at 201-801-9028 or via email at workshops, advocacy, family retreats and so much Centerpiece Gemach – Cong Beth Aaron crutches, etc.) Please only equipment in good [email protected]. more. For more information please contact Chani Contact Ellen Chazin at [email protected] or condition will be accepted. For more information Herrmann at [email protected] or call 201-833- 201 357 8426 or Michele Cooper at benandmi@ or to donate to equipment to the gemach call Bikur Cholim Wheelchair Gemach - 201 836 1349. yahoo.com Yehiel Levy at 201 357 5495. 2907.

Chatan and Kallah Gemach The Bikkur Cholim of Passaic- Clifton’s CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS Donate new, unopened gifts to needy couples. Medical Equipment Gemach The Friendship Circle is a social organization Accepted in original boxes household, Judaica, Wheelchairs, walkers, crutches, canes, scooters for children with special needs that involves them engagement or wedding gifts that are not and other medical equipment to lend them out at in a full range of recreational activities. Teenage your taste or cannot be used. Drop off at Carrie no charge. For more information or to schedule a volunteers are the key to keeping our programs Cooper, 1060 Windsor Road or email Carrie at pick up contact Yael Gotteib at 973-778-9320. running! Volunteers can visit a child at home [email protected]. weekly for a play date, join a monthly program Housewares G’mach in Teaneck collects brand on Sundays with sports, music, art, and baking, Tablecloth Gemach new, still in their boxes, serving china platters, join us for holiday programs, camps or cooking Recently established in memory of Chaim mixing bowls and many other house ware items programs. Volunteers must be in 7th grade or CLASSIFIED ADS

PART TIME MANAGER/MASHGIACH Competitive salary. Call 201- 836-7427. SALES LADY WANTED Smokey Joe’s is looking for a candidate to work 2-3 Showroom 25 min from Monsey. Must have evenings and 2-3 Sundays per month. Schedule is TEANECK OFFICES FOR RENT interior design experience. Full or part time, fl exible. 195 West Englewood, diff erent size offi ce rooms, Sunday and own transportation must. Great pay Ideal candidate must have excellent hospitality, includes all utilities, internet and parking, $550-$650 and opportunity for the right individual. Leave a organizational and listening skills. monthly depending upon size. Call 201 715 5179 message at 845 402 8416.

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“It allows them to fully use their cognitive skills while Asperger’s Won’t Stop Israeli Students taking into account their social challenges and giving the opportunity to be part of a regular college campus,” she By Avigayil Kadesh tifi ed teachers. Extra training is provided by Beit Ekstein, says. which also provides a staff member in the classes full time Some of the Kfi r students work in jobs that do not take oav Friedman, a recent immigrant to Israel, is 31-years-old to assist when communication problems arise. full advantage of their intellectual skills, or don’t work at Yand has Asperger syndrome. A unique college program in “If we say something that could be understood two dif- all. The Ono program strives to get them onto a real career Israel is giving him and eight others with Asperger, the op- ferent ways, she steps in to clarify. It’s a process. The instruc- path. portunity to earn a bachelor’s degree in business adminis- tors try to encourage the students to communicate more, Two of the students have started working in Ono’s IT de- tration. and building those skills is emphasized on a daily basis.” partment, says Rahimi. “The chairman of the department The autistic-spectrum disorder does not affect intellect, As far as Rahimi knows, there is nothing like Kfi r any- spoke with key people in other colleges about accepting but people with Asperger often cannot fi nd meaningful em- where in the world more of our students to work there as trainees or employ- ployment because they have diffi culty interpreting verbal “We tried to fi nd a similar program outside of Israel, ees.” nuances, subtleties and humor as well as body language and and we couldn’t. In Israel there are some college programs He is hopeful that some of these students can do mil- facial expressions. that enable a few Asperger students to [be mainstreamed], itary service, a critical piece of the Israeli social fabric not The special track at Ono Academic College in Kiryat Ono, but we understood from the students that it is very hard usually available to those with special needs. He believes a Tel Aviv suburb, began in 2012 and currently includes stu- for them. 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