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Marriage Is a Private Affair Texts Short Story by Chinua Achebe Adam and Rosie Transcript Festival of World Cultures Poster Comparing Marriage Is a Private Affair Texts Short Story by Chinua Achebe Adam and Rosie Transcript Festival of World Cultures Poster Whose LIFE is it, anyway? Virginia Standards of Learning Growing up means learning to make your own decisions. But parents 10.3a Use structural analysis are often reluctant to let go of their authority. In the traditional culture of roots, affixes, synonyms, that Chinua Achebe portrays in the following selection, even adults are antonyms, and cognates to understand complex words. expected to get parental approval for some big decisions. 10.4b Make predictions, draw inferences, and connect prior knowledge to support reading What’s the Connection? comprehension. 10.4d Analyze the cultural or social function of All cultures have expectations about parents’ involvement in their literature. children’s lives. But when cultures come together, expectations may change—and even clash. You’ll read about a moral dilemma arising from the clash of cultures in “Marriage Is a Private Affair.” Then you’ll read a transcript that explores the same topics and finally view a poster that provides another perspective. 984 VA_L10PE-u09s4-brMar.indd 984 4/15/11 9:43:35 AM Meet the Author text analysis: moral dilemma A moral dilemma is a difficult decision in which either option Chinua Achebe results in violating one’s moral principles. Moral dilemmas born 1930 sometimes arise through cultural conflicts—a clash between Reclaiming Africa’s Stories - the values and cultures of characters. Chinua Achebe (chCPnu-ä ä-chAPbA) is one of Africa’s most famous contemporary In “Marriage Is a Private Affair,” a father and son face moral authors. A member of the Ibo (CPbI) dilemmas as to how they should behave when the father’s people of eastern Nigeria, Achebe was traditional values clash with his son’s decisions. Achebe born in the village of Ogidi (ô-gC-dCP), reveals this tension through a character’s thoughts: where his father taught at a Christian mission school. As a child, Achebe learned In the cosmopolitan atmosphere of the city it had always both Ibo and English, the language in seemed to her something of a joke that a person’s tribe could which he usually writes. In addition to determine whom he married. novels and short stories, Achebe has written children’s books, essays, and As you read, examine the forces that create the characters’ moral poetry. Commenting on what made dilemmas and how the characters respond to these dilemmas. him consider becoming a writer, Achebe stated, “I read some appalling European reading strategy: predict novels about Africa . and realized that You can use text clues in a story to make predictions, reasonable our story could not be told for us by guesses about what will happen next. When making predictions, anyone else.” • analyze characters’ words, thoughts, and actions to gain a background to the story sense of how the characters might react in a situation Nigerian Crossroads This story takes place in the West African • tap into your own experiences and knowledge of human country of Nigeria. It focuses on a behavior conflict between a father and son who belong to the Ibo, one of Nigeria’s largest As you read, use a chart like this one to record your predictions ethnic groups. The father lives in an Ibo and to see how they compare with actual outcomes. village where people follow traditional Prediction Reason for Prediction Actual Outcome practices, such as choosing spouses for their children. The son has moved to Nnaemeka’s father Nnaemeka says Lagos (lAPgJsQ), a large will be upset about villagers are unhappy the engagement. when they do not and ethnically diverse get to arrange an city. In Lagos and other engagement. urban areas, modern practices have displaced many of the village traditions. The tension vocabulary in context between old and new Achebe uses the following boldfaced words to portray family ways of life sometimes conflict. Determine the meaning of each word from the context. creates conflict within Record your answers in your Reader/Writer Notebook. families, especially between generations. 1. Her travels had given her a cosmopolitan attitude. 2. He vehemently denied any wrongdoing on his part. 3. She would not accept attempts at dissuasion; her mind was set. 4. It is important to show deference to your elders. 5. We can still persevere, despite all the obstacles ahead. Author Online Go to thinkcentral.com. KEYWORD: HML10-985 Complete the activities in your Reader/Writer Notebook. 985 VA_L10PE-u09s4-brMar.indd 985 3/29/11 5:53:58 PM Literary SeLection Marriage Is a private Affair Chinua Achebe “Have you written to your dad yet?” asked Nene1 one afternoon as she sat with Nnaemeka2 in her room at 16 Kasanga Street, Lagos. “No. I’ve been thinking about it. I think it’s better to tell him when I get What does the painting home on leave!” suggest about the story’s characters and setting? “But why? Your leave is such a long way off yet—six whole weeks. He should be let into our happiness now.” Nnaemeka was silent for a while and then began very slowly as if he groped for his words: “I wish I were sure it would be happiness to him.” “Of course it must,” replied Nene, a little surprised. “Why shouldn’t it?” 10 “You have lived in Lagos all your life, and you know very little about people in remote parts of the country.” “That’s what you always say. But I don’t believe anybody will be so unlike other people that they will be unhappy when their sons are engaged to marry.” “Yes. They are most unhappy if the engagement is not arranged by them. In our case it’s worse—you are not even an Ibo.” This was said so seriously and so bluntly that Nene could not find speech immediately. In the cosmopolitan atmosphere of the city it had always seemed to cosmopolitan (kJzQmE-pJlPG-tn) her something of a joke that a person’s tribe could determine whom he married. adj. containing elements At last she said, “You don’t really mean that he will object to your marrying from all over the world; 20 me simply on that account? I had always thought you Ibos were kindly sophisticated disposed to other people.” a MORAL DiLeMMa “So we are. But when it comes to marriage, well, it’s not quite so simple. And Reread lines 1–24. What this,” he added, “is not peculiar to the Ibos. If your father were alive and lived do you learn about the in the heart of Ibibio-land, he would be exactly like my father.” a cultural backgrounds of “I don’t know. But anyway, as your father is so fond of you, I’m sure he will Nene and Nnaemeka? How does Nnaemeka’s forgive you soon enough. Come on then, be a good boy and send him a nice background contribute to lovely letter . .” his moral dilemma? 1. Nene (nDP-nD). 2. Nnaemeka (Dn-näQD-mDPkä). Woman and Husband in Floating Agbada 1 (1997), D. Gbenga Orimoloye. Gouache, 25 cm × 20 cm. 986 unit 9: history, culture, and the author © www.Orimoloye.com. VA_L10PE-u09s4-marri.indd 986 3/29/11 7:07:44 PM Comparing Texts VA_L10PE-u09s4-marri.indd 987 3/29/11 7:07:30 PM “It would not be wise to break the news to him by writing. A letter will b b GRAMMAR AND STYLE bring it upon him with a shock. I’m quite sure about that.” Reread line 28. Rather 30 “All right, honey, suit yourself. You know your father.” than writing, “It would As Nnaemeka walked home that evening, he turned over in his mind different not be wise to write to him to break the news ways of overcoming his father’s opposition, especially now that he had gone and to him,” Achebe uses the found a girl for him. He had thought of showing his letter to Nene but decided gerund writing, a verb on second thoughts not to, at least for the moment. He read it again when he form that functions as a got home and couldn’t help smiling to himself. He remembered Ugoye3 quite noun. well, an Amazon4 of a girl who used to beat up all the boys, himself included, on the way to the stream, a complete dunce at school. I have found a girl who will suit you admirably—Ugoye Nweke, the eldest daughter of our neighbor, Jacob Nweke. She has a proper Christian 40 upbringing. When she stopped schooling some years ago, her father (a man of sound judgment) sent her to live in the house of a pastor where she has received all the training a wife could need. Her Sunday school teacher has told me that she reads her Bible very fluently. I hope we shall begin negotiations when you come home in December. On the second evening of his return from Lagos Nnaemeka sat with his father under a cassia tree. This was the old man’s retreat where he went to read his Bible when the parching December sun had set and a fresh, reviving wind blew on the leaves. 10.3a “Father,” began Nnaemeka suddenly, “I have come to ask for forgiveness.” Language Coach 50 “Forgiveness? For what, my son?” he asked in amazement. Etymology The Latin “It’s about this marriage question.” word vivus, “alive,” is a root for many English “Which marriage question?” words. Reread lines “I can’t—we must—I mean it is impossible for me to marry Nweke’s 46–48.
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