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Sexual Fluidity The Gender Revolution i Other Titles by Ms Deakins Back to Basics Management, Lost Craft of Leadership 2nd Edition The Excellent Manager (Blair TV) American Grammar A-Z ( American Express) Get Them Out Selling Intentional Success Radical Forgiveness Authentic forgiveness Sacred Intimacy Out of The Fire Intentional Consciousness Intentional Success Double Chocolate, a Book of Exotic Love When God Whispers A Parents Guide To Holistic Education with George Hage, Ph.,D. Consciousness, Culture, and Healing with George Hage, Ph.,D. ii Sexual Fluidity The Gender Revolution by Suzanne Deakins, Ph.,D. 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ISBN: Q Press Portland, Oregon www.onespiritpress.com iv Table of Contents Dedication...ix Introduction...xii Erotic Intelligence...9 Welcome To The Hungry Feast...11 Flying Your Erotic Banner ...13 Erotic Mind is Not Political Correct..15 Desire...15 Living Our Erotica...18 Love on The Brain...19 First Visions of Love...20 How Do I love You?...21 Who Is Your Daddy?...23 Your Parents Gave You What?...24 Queer Aunties and Uncles...25 Stepping Out of The Mud...27 Prejudice On The Brain, 29 Homophobia - Xenophobia 29 A Shift in Our Bodies and Minds 30 Naughty Little Monkeys...33 What Mama Never Taught Me...35 Come Swim With Me...35 On A Clear Day I will Understand...36 Flying My Freak Flag...39 Queer Love...43 Love Knows No Gender...44 Love is a Gift You Give Yourself...46 You Cannot Fall Out of Love...48 v Queer Orgasms...48 Dare to Live...50 Rape 53 Being Naked Without Shame...57 Shame...58 Most gay people are born to straight parents...63 Queer Wisdom of Families...66 Heather Has Two Moms...67 Surrogates and Sperm Donor Families...68 Post-traumatic Syndrome Disorder ...69 Suicides...70 Suicide Risk Factors...71 The Emergence of a New World...77 New Languages of the Gender Revolution...79 Let the Revolution begin...82 Words Can Hurt...89 Asking About Preferred Pronouns...92 A River of Diversity...97 Let The River Flow...97 Swimming in the River of Diversity...99 Cultural Gender Diversity...109 A Bit of History...113 Biology of Gender The Biology of Transgender Self...122 Birthing ...124 Gender On The Brain...125 Hormone Replacement Therapies...128 Long Term Health of Transgender...128 Dealing with Duality...130 Our Personal Stories...131 And Then There Was Adam...132 Body The First Dimension ...135 vi Identity The Second Dimension...135 Social The Third Dimension...137 Children and Gender...138 Congruence ...139 Seeking Harmony/Congruence ...141 Methods Used To Achieve Congruence...141 Personal Gender...142 More Than Gender and Sexual Preferences. ...143 One Final Distinction ...143 The Path To Personal Evolution...144 What’s Next? ...145 Sacredness and Gender...147 Early Meme...149 Gender and Religion...150 Transgenders in Islamic Teaching...152 Christian/Hebrew...153 The Torah and Kabbalah ...155 Hebrew terms about sexuality and gender...159 Hinduism...159 Buddhism...161 Asian Cultures...167 Lifting the Veil of Ignorance...171 India...172 Thailand ...172 SRS...173 Western World...173 Indigenous cultures of North America...175 Terms for Third Gender throughout the world...176 Middle East, Oman: Xanith or khanith...176 Over view of Third gender in history ...177 Mesopotamia...177 Egypt...178 Indic culture...179 Mediterranean culture...179 The Americas ...180 vii The Future ...183 AIDS/HIV...186 NO More...187 Short History...192 Pit Falls...193 Creation Myths...194 The War Within...195 Index...200 Bibliography...229 Third Sex In Art And Literature...236 A Time line of Gay World History...248 Compassion...274 viii Acknowledgments and Thank You To all those who supported and helped get this book into life. Nadine Zimmer for her tireless editing. Joseph Cruz, Joe Mahoney, Linda McDowell, Lynne Chase, Larry Margolis, Mary Ann Shay, Darell Du’Bois, Laird Young, Heather Williams, Pam Rodolph, Patti May, members of GLAPN, Jax Wheatly, Geeta Lewis, Emily New Berry, Simone Neal, Robbie, McEwen, for input and conversations. To Sue Beck PhD, HWM, Fo- rensic Clinical Psychologist-retired on her help with rape and sexual abuse. Ethan Firpo for his graphic wisdom, Billye Talmadge for her love and encouragement. ix “Hope is not blind optimism. It’s not ignoring the enormity of the task ahead or the roadblocks that stand in our path. It’s not sitting on the sidelines or shirking from a fight. Hope is that thing inside us that insists, despite all evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us if we have the courage to reach for it, and to work for it, and to fight for it. Hope is the be- lief that destiny will not be written for us, but by us, by the men and women who are not content to settle for the world as it is, who have the courage to remake the world as it should be.” Barack Obama x Dedication This book is for many, but especially for Alice Emilia and Stephen Mark. May this bring you a sense of peace and acceptance. I have conceived a love for you. xi Introduction “In each of us two powers preside, one male, one fe- male,” Virginia Woolf wrote in her sublime meditation on gender, asserting that “the androgynous mind is resonant and porous… naturally creative, incandescent and undivided.” But although the line between where the mind ends and the body begins is ever-shifting, we often draw an artificial demarcation and end up divided within and among ourselves.” Nowhere more so than in the plight of transgender people. Brain Pickings I make no excuses for what is written. I am a philoso- pher, teacher, and writer by education, an intuitive and healer by nature. I have chosen not to go the Newton route seeing humanity as a mechanism, but rather as a consciousness system with biological and mathemati- cal implications, I have tried to eliminate as many tech- nical and scientific terms as possible. Some of what I have written is simply the result of what I have learned in my life, the rest is what has been gathered from research, reading, and conversations. I have tried to be as global as possible in the informa- tion presented. I feel it is important to show the univer- sality and history of the concept of non-binary gender and homosexuality. The Kinsey Reports probably opened up our look on sexuality or a least awareness of ideas generally kept xii hidden from the general public. Unfortunately his in- vestigations included pedophilia, obligating staff to have sexual experiences, and drawing conclusions without any real investigations. In reading some of the history of his work it occurred to me that perhaps some of the conservative push against homosexuality might be the pendulum swinging back. His ideas on rape, pedophilia, and relationships are abhorrent to me. The fact that anyone would use a child to study sexuality is criminal and not far off from the reasoning used by Mengel in his experiments on children during the holocaust. Why he, Kinsey, was not arrested is beyond me. Pedophilia and rape are not consensual and are about power and control. Psychology has shown that these neither has anything to do with sexual desire as consenting adults expe- rience. Yes, a child or any person who is raped may be aroused physically. The arousal is a natural reaction to having gentiles being rubbed. Arousal can occur in many ways in adults. Unfortunately women and men who are raped feel guilt and shame because of the arousal. The ideas I have expressed on sexuality, or- gasm, and love are based on consenting adults. With the advent of the Internet we are exposed to a lot of hype and false causer claims. Research done without the proper scientific guidelines and controls produces 1 results are not always the true or legitimate causer/ outcomes. Without knowing how conclusions are gath- ered, by true syllogistic methods, we have no way of knowing the truth. Research must be done according to true scientific principle. This includes a demographic of control and none control groups, size of group, dura- tion, and the list can go on-and-on. An example of this is a recent report that drinking a diet drink increases death by 17% over the regular soda drinkers. Nothing was stated as to why those in the control groups choose diet soda. Were they diabetic, have heart disease, or tying to over come morbid obesity? Any which could have contributed to an early demise. Did they all drink the same brand of soda? A list of unanswered questions that could have drawn us to a different conclusion. Unfortunately many times information is based on incomplete or false premises. This system of false rea- soning has been used on the Western World since the end of the 19th Century. Newspapers, media reporters, and politicians all use it to convince us they are right. The system draws you to the conclusion they want you to have. Unfortunately this becomes your working par- adigm. An example I use with students is All lawyers are crooks, Jim is a Lawyer.