A Parent's Experience of the Couple Relationship After Bereavement
1 1 1\1 (C.1 MARI
A PARENT'S EXPERIENCE OF THE COUPLE RELATIONSHIP
AFTER CHILD BEREAVEMENT
JEANETTE ELIZABETH MARITZ
MINI-DISSERTATION
Submitted in partial fulfilment of the requirements for the degree
MAGISTER CURATIONIS
in
PSYCHIATRIC NURSING SCIENCE
in the
FACULTY OF EDUCATION AND NURSING
at the
RAND AFRIKAANS UNIVERSITY
Supervisor: Prof. M. Poggenpoel
Co-supervisor: Prof. C.P.H Myburgh
Co-supervisor: Dr. M. Oberholster
2003 This research is dedicated with love to the memory of our children. (The following names are printed with the permission from the parents)
Life matters, no matter how long or how short. K Katafiasz 2000
Roy Ryall Erbstoesser 18/04/1962 27/12/1989
Sean Peter Greaves 01/03/1987 01/03/1987
Robert Sean Greaves 05/05/1988 16/06/1992
Jacobus Marthinus Maritz 02/10/1985 04/10/1985
Petrus Johannes Maritz 26/03/1983 21/01/1988
Tshepo Sithole 15/07/1988 15/7/1988
Itumeleng Gregory Sithole 01/03/1990 08/08/1991
Desiree Smit 12/12/1989 13/04/2001
Zayn Clifford Chan Ton 08/11/1978 16/04/1995
Marcus Julius Van Platen 18/11/1982 25/11/1996 My daughters
Lindi and Anne - marie
A light in your own right SUMMARY
The death of a child is like none other. The impact shakes the world of parents in its entire being. This research tells the story of parents' experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement. The objectives of the research are to:
> explore and describe a parent's experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement; and
> describe guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse practitioner to provide support to parents who have experienced child bereavement in order to promote their mental health through the mobilisation of resources.
The paradigmatic perspective of this study is guided by the Theory for Health Promotion in Nursing (Rand Afrikaans University, Department of Nursing Science, 2002:2-8). The focus is on the whole person.
A functional approach was followed based on Botes's model (Botes in Rand Afrikaans University: Department of Nursing, 2002:9-15) for nursing research. The researcher utilised a qualitative, descriptive, exploratory and contextual design (Mouton, 1996: 102). An authoethnographic strategy was implemented, & Bochner in Denzin & Lincoln, 2001:739, 747). In-depth, semi-structured, phenomenological interviews were held with parents meeting the sampling criteria. Consent for the research was obtained from the Rand Afrikaans University and informed consent was obtained from the parents volunteering to participate in the research.
Trustworthiness was maintained by using strategies of credibility, applicability, dependability and confirmability, as described by Lincoln and Guba (1985: 289- 331). Recorded interviews were transcribed and analysed using the descriptive analysis technique by Tesch (in Creswell, 1994:155 -156). The services of an independent coder were utilised and a consensus discussion held between the independent coder and the researcher highlighted the themes.
A literature control was undertaken to highlight similarities and differences between this research and other research.
The results were described in a narrative format that included the content as well as the processes of a parent's experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement. These included their stories of life before child bereavement, the extremity of the experience as they struggled for control, the confusion that it brought and the role conflict that ensued. Although individuals and relationships are unique, most of these parents experienced emotional responses of grief, anger, loneliness, guilt and blame. Parents attempted to alleviate their anxiety through the use of defensive coping mechanisms and responses such as repression, suppression and avoidance. Attempts were made to fill the vacuum that the loss created through substitution and replacement. The couple's communication is severely tested during the process. The permanence of the loss is acknowledged along with new meanings and values. The aftermath sees parents' relationships either strengthened, weakened or remaining in nominal relationships. No parent and relationship were untouched by the death of their child.
Conclusions were drawn and recommendations made concerning nursing practice, nursing education and nursing research. Guidelines were described for the advanced psychiatric nurse practitioner to provide support to parents who have experienced child bereavement, to assist them in mobilising their resources to facilitate the promotion of their mental health.
ii OPSOMMING
Die dood van 'n kind is soos geen ander dood nie. Die impak daarvan skud die wereld van hierdie ouers in die diepste wese daarvan. Hierdie studie vertel die verhaal van ouers se ervaring van die egpaar se verhouding na 'n kindersterfgeval. Die doelwitte van hierdie studie is om:
➢ 'n ouer se ondervinding van die egpaar se verhouding na 'n kindersterfgeval te verken en te beskryf; en
➢ riglyne te beskryf vir die gevorderde psigiatriese verpleegkundige praktisyn om ondersteuning te verskaf aan ouers wat 'n kindersterfgeval ondervind het ten einde hulle geestesgesondheid te bevorder deur die mobilisering van hulpbronne.
Die paradigmatiese perspektief van hierdie studie is gerig deur die Teorie vir Gesondheidsbevordering in Verpleegkunde (Randse Afrikaanse Universiteit, Departement van Verpleegkunde, 2002: 2-8). Die fokus is op die persoon as geheel.
'n Funksionele benadering is gevolg, gebaseer op Botes se model (Botes in Randse Afrikaanse Universiteit: Departement van Verpleegkunde, 2002: 9-15) vir verpleegkundige navorsing. Die navorser het 'n kwalitatiewe, beskrywende, verkennende en kontekstuele ontwerp gebruik (Mouton, 1996: 102). 'n Outo- etnografiese strategie is geImplementeer (Ellis & Bochner in Denzin & Lincoln, 2001: 739, 747). Indiepte, semi-gestruktureerde, fenomenologiese onderhoude is gevoer met ouers wat aan die steekproefkriteria beantwoord het. Toestemming vir die studie is van die Randse Afrikaanse Universiteit verkry en ingeligte toestemming is verkry van die ouers wat onderneem het om aan die studie deel te neem,
iii Vertrouenswaardigheid is gehandhaaf deur die strategiee van geloofwaardigheid, toepaslikheid, vertroubaarheid en bevestigbaarheid, soos beskryf deur Lincoln en Guba (1985: 289 — 331), te gebruik.
Onderhoude wat opgeneem is deur middel van Tesch in Creswell, 1994: 155 — 156) se tegniek van beskrywende analise getranskribeer en geanaliseer. Die dienste van 'n onafhanklike kodeerder is gebruik en in 'n konsensusbespreking wat tussen die onafhanklike kodeerder en die navorser plaasgevind het is die temas uitgelig.
'n Literatuurkontrole is onderneem om die ooreenkomste en verskille tussen hierdie studie en ander studies te belig.
Die resultate is in 'n verhalende formaat beskryf wat die inhoud asook die prosesse van 'n ouer se ervaring van die egpaar se verhouding na 'n kindersterfgeval ingesluit het. Dit het hulle lewensverhale voor die kindersterfgeval, die uiterste nood van die ondervinding terwyl hulle geworstel het om beheer te verkry, die verwarring wat dit meegebring het en die rollekonflik wat daaruit voortgevloei het, ingesluit. Alhoewel individue en verhoudings uniek is, ondervind die meeste van hierdie ouers emosionele reaksies van verdriet, woede, eensaamheid, skuld en blaam. Ouers poog om hulle angs te verlig deur die gebruik van verdedigende hanteringsmeganismes en reaksies soos verdringing, onderdrukking en vermyding. Daar word gepoog om die Ieemte wat die verlies gelaat het deur middel van substitusie en vervanging te vul. Die egpaar se kommunikasie tydens die proses word ernstig getoets. Die permanensie van die verlies word saam met nuwe betekenisse en waardes erken. Na so 'n ingrypende verlies word ouers se verhoudings versterk, verswak of dit bly slegs 'n verhouding in naam. Geen ouer of verhouding word onaangeraak deur die dood van hulle kind nie.
iv Daar is tot gevolgtrekkings geraak en aanbevelings gemaak in verband met die verpleegkundige praktyk, verpleegkundige opvoeding en verpleegkundige navorsing. Riglyne vir die gevorderde psigiatriese verpleegkundige navorser is daargestel om ouers wat 'n kindersterfgeval ervaar het te ondersteun, om hulle te help om hulle hulpbronne te mobiliseer ten einde die bevordering van hulle geestesgesondheid te fasiliteer.
v LIST OF CONTENTS
PAGE
CHAPTER 1
RATIONALE AND OVERVIEW OF THE STUDY
1.1 INTRODUCTION 1
1.2 RATIONALE 2
1.3 PROBLEM STATEMENT 4
1.4 OBJECTIVES OF RESEARCH 7
1.5 PARADIGMATIC PERSPECTIVE 7
1.5.1 Metatheoretical assumptions 7
1.5.2 Theoretical assumptions 8
1.5.2.1 Central Theoretical statement 10
1.5.2.2 Definitions 10
1.5.3 Methodological assumptions 11
1.6 RESEARCH DESIGN 12
1.7 RESEARCH STRATEGY 12
1.8 RESEARCH METHOD 12
1.8.1 Ethical measures 13
1.8.2 Measures to ensure trustworthiness 14
1.8.3 Data collection . 15
1.8.3.1 Population and sample 15
1.8.3.2 Data Collection 15
1.8.3.3 Data Analysis 15
vi 1.8.3.4 Literature control 16
1.9 DIVISION OF CHAPTERS 16
CHAPTER 1 Rationale and overview
CHAPTER 2 Research design and method
CHAPTER 3 Results of Phase 1
CHAPTER 4 Phase 2: Guidelines and literature control, conclusion,
limitations and recommendations
1.10 CONCLUSION 17
CHAPTER 2
RESEARCH DESIGN, STRATEGY AND METHOD
2.1 INTRODUCTION 18
2.2 OBJECTIVES OF THE RESEARCH 18
2.3 RESEARCH DESIGN, STRATEGY AND METHOD 19
2.3.1 Research design 19
2.3.1.1 Qualitative 19
2.3.1.2 Exploratory 20
2.3.1.3 Descriptive 20
2.3.1.4 Contextual 20
2.3.2 Autoethnographic strategy 21
2.3.3 Research method 21
2.3.3.1 Phase 1: Exploration and description of a parent's 21
experience of the couple relationship after
vii child bereavement
2.3.3.2 Phase 2: Description of guidelines for the advanced 30
psychiatric nurse practitioner to provide support
to parents who have experienced child
bereavement on order to promote their mental
health through the mobilisation of resources. 2.4 TRUSTWORTHINESS 30 2.5 ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS 34
2.6 CONCLUSIONS, LIMITATIONS AND
RECOMMENDATIONS
2.7 CONCLUSION 34
CHAPTER 3
DISCUSSION OF RESULTS AND LITERATURE CONTROL
3.1 INTRODUCTION 35
3.2 DESCRIPTION OF SAMPLE 35
3.3 DESCRIPTION OF RESULTS AND LITERATURE CONTROL 37
3.4 CONCLUSION 55
CHAPTER 4
DESCRIPTION OF GUIDELINES, LITERATURE CONTROL,
LIMITATIONS, CONCLUSIONS AND RECOMMENDATIONS 4.1 INTRODUCTION 57
viii 4.2 GUIDELINES 57
4.3 CONCLUSIONS OF THE STUDY 66
4.4 LIMITATIONS 67
4.5 RECOMMENDATIONS 68
4.5.1 Nursing practice 68
4.5.2 Nursing education 68
4.5.3 Nursing research 69
4.6 CONCLUSION 69
BIBLIOGRAPHY 71
ANNEXURE A: Request for consent to conduct research 80
ANNEXURE B: Request for consent to participate in the 82
research
ANNEXURE C: Transcript of an audiotaped interview 85
ANNEXURE D: Certificate of acknowledgement of parent's 98
contribution
ANNEXURE E: Coming Home: Reflections on an 100
Autoeth nog raphic strategy
LIST OF TABLES:
Table 2.1 Strategies to ensure trustworthiness 31
LIST OF FIGURES:
Figure 3.1 A parent's experience of the couple relationship 56
after child bereavement
ix QUITE1.1 RATIONALE AND OVERVIEW
1.1 INTRODUCTION
The Order of Things
A nobleman once asked a Chinese philosopher to grant his family a blessing. The philosopher thought for a moment, then said,' Grandfather dies, father dies, son dies.' The nobleman was horrified, but the philosopher shrugged his shoulders.' What other way would you have it?'
McCracken d Semel (2001)
It is said that some write about bereavement in order to release their own grief, some see it as a valid object of scientific enquiry and for others it is a polemic (Worden, 1991:ix). After the death of two of my own children I felt compelled to know more about parents' experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement and felt a passion to support and guide parents during this process. This study therefore is not only a personal catharsis but also a scientific enquiry and a polemic for bereaved parents.
Due to changes in the disease spectrum, especially HIV/AIDS and the large number of children dying due to unnatural causes in South Africa, the number of bereaved parents are bound to increase rapidly.
Bereaved parents are faced with difficult and often-devastating physical and psychological trauma (Schultz, 1978:18,136). Sadly, however, they often face this journey alone and in isolation. This could have a significant impact on the parents and the couple relationship.
1 1.1 RATIONALE
As recently as three centuries ago families were large and the chances of a child dying due to rampant disease, was part of their everyday reality. Although tragic, it was expected, as children were vulnerable. Some reason that parents and families could therefore not allow themselves to become too attached to children whose hold on life was this delicate (Wilcox & Sutton, 1981:225; Arnold & Gemma, 1994:18).
During the twentieth century the infant and child mortality rates decreased globally as health conditions improved, immunisation and contraceptives became available and socio-economic progress was made. The rate of fertility also decreased, from 6-8 children in the pre-phase of demographic transition in the modern world, to less than two children in the post-phase of transition (Mostert, Hofmeyer, Oosthuizen & Van Zyl, 1998:14,64). South Africa's fertility rate has dropped to fewer than three births per woman (Mostert, et al. 1998:129). The loss of a child is like none other, whether born into a large or smaller family.
A child is deemed the centre of the family unit, the natural receiver of care and a significant symbol of the hopes and the dreams of those around him (Wilcox & Sutton, 1981:225). Life often does not meet our expectations. Nowhere else is it seen as strongly as in the case of the death of a child. It reverses the sequence of life events for the parents.
The death of a child has multiple effects on parents and couples. Research has shown that even after years, parents still experience significant loss and pain. Efforts are continuously made to fill the emptiness and to integrate the pain and loss into their lives (Lemming & Dickson, 1996:491).
Parents are at risk for serious physical and mental health problems. Risks include the development of complicated mourning (co-occurrence of unresolved grief and clinical complications), avoided grief, high levels of anxiety, depression, substance abuse, suicide, social, occupational and family
2 dysfunction (Davis, Wortman, Lehman & Cohen, 2000:19 & William, John, Hassan & Rene, 2001:1069).
The causes of death in children are numerous. The Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)/Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) has in less than two decades become a global pandemic (Mostert, et al. 1998:97). An estimated 95 000 children are said to be infected with HIV in 1999 in South Africa (iafrica: 2001). The latest findings of the Human Science Research Council published in December 2002 found that the prevalence among children aged 2 — 14 years is unexpectedly high at 5,6% (GOVZA, 2002). As the HIV pandemic has progressed and moved into different populations, the risk of paediatric AIDS associated cancers have begun to emerge with increased frequency (Blakeslee, 2000; Biggar, Frisch & Goedert, 2000:205- 209). According to Masiphile (1997:4) the tuberculosis epidemic is also fuelled by HIV.
Children do not always die of natural causes. The incidence of violence in South Africa is extremely high. As many as 719 children under the age of 18 years were killed by guns alone in 1998 (Chetty: 2000). Almost 6 500 children from birth to age 14 die yearly due to unintentional injury (motor vehicle crashes, fires, drowning, poisoning and falls) (Kidsafe, 2003).
Parents facing child bereavement will increase as HIV/AIDS takes its toll, the disease spectrum continues to change and violence is not curbed.
Knowing the stages of grief will no longer be sufficient! "What use is theory unless related to, and is built on, the experience of mourners?" (Footman, 1998:4). Although a fairly substantial amount of literature deals with death, dying, mourning and grief, comparatively little is found on the parents' experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement.
3 1.3 PROBLEM STATEMENT
The problem statement is described in the following poem by Robert Frost (1916): He saw her from the bottom of the stairs Before she saw him. She was starting down, Looking back over her shoulder at some fear. She took a doubtful step and then undid it To raise herself and look again. He spoke Advancing toward her: 'What is it you see From up there always--for I want to know.' She turned and sank upon her skirts at that, And her face changed from terrified to dull. He said to gain time: 'What is it you see,' Mounting until she cowered under him. 'I will find out now--you must tell me, dear.' She, in her place, refused him any help With the least stiffening of her neck and silence. She let him look, sure that he wouldn't see, Blind creature; and awhile he didn't see. But at last he murmured, 'Oh,' and again, 'Oh.'
'What is it--what?' she said. 'Just that I see.'
'You don't,' she challenged. 'Tell me what it is.'
'The wonder is I didn't see at once. I never noticed it from here before. I must be wonted to it--that's the reason. The little graveyard where my people are! So small the window frames the whole of it. Not so much larger than a bedroom, is it? There are three stones of slate and one of marble, Broad-shouldered little slabs there in the sunlight On the sidehill. We haven't to mind those. But I understand: it is not the stones, But the child's mound--'
'Don't, don't, don't, don't,' she cried.
She withdrew shrinking from beneath his arm That rested on the banister, and slid downstairs; And turned on him with such a daunting look, He said twice over before he knew himself: 'Can't a man speak of his own child he's lost?'
'Not you! Oh, where's my hat? Oh, I don't need it! I must get out of here. I must get air. I don't know rightly whether any man can.'
'Amy! Don't go to someone else this time. Listen to me. I won't come down the stairs.' He sat and fixed his chin between his fists.
4 'There's something I should like to ask you, dear.'
'You don't know how to ask it.'
'Help me, then.'
Her fingers moved the latch for all reply.
'My words are nearly always an offence. I don't know how to speak of anything So as to please you. But I might be taught I should suppose. I can't say I see how. A man must partly give up being a man With women-folk. We could have some arrangement By which I'd bind myself to keep hands off Anything special you're a-mind to name. Though I don't like such things 'twixt those that love. Two that don't love can't live together without them. But two that do can't live together with them.' She moved the latch a little. 'Don't—don't go. Don't carry it to someone else this time. Tell me about it if it's something human. Let me into your grief. I'm not so much Unlike other folks as your standing there Apart would make me out. Give me my chance. I do think, though, you overdo it a little. What was it brought you up to think it the thing To take your mother—loss of a first child So inconsolably--in the face of love. You'd think his memory might be satisfied--'
'There you go sneering now!'
'I'm not, I'm not! You make me angry. I'll come down to you. God, what a woman! And it's come to this, A man can't speak of his own child that's dead.'
'You can't because you don't know how to speak. If you had any feelings, you that dug With your own hand--how could you?--his little grave; I saw you from that very window there, Making the gravel leap and leap in air, Leap up, like that, like that, and land so lightly And roll back down the mound beside the hole. I thought, Who is that man? I didn't know you. And I crept down the stairs and up the stairs To look again, and still your spade kept lifting. Then you came in. I heard your rumbling voice Out in the kitchen, and I don't know why, But I went near to see with my own eyes. You could sit there with the stains on your shoes Of the fresh earth from your own baby's grave And talk about your everyday concerns. You had stood the spade up against the wall
5 Outside there in the entry, for I saw it.'
'I shall laugh the worst laugh I ever laughed. I'm cursed. God, if I don't believe I'm cursed.'
'I can repeat the very words you were saying. 'Three foggy mornings and one rainy day Will rot the best birch fence a man can build." Think of it, talk like that at such a time! What had how long it takes a birch to rot To do with what was in the darkened parlor. You couldn't care! The nearest friends can go With anyone to death, comes so far short They might as well not try to go at all. No, from the time when one is sick to death, One is alone, and he dies more alone. Friends make pretence of following to the grave, But before one is in it, their minds are turned And making the best of their way back to life And living people, and things they understand. But the world's evil. I won't have grief so If I can change it. Oh, I won't, I won't!'
'There, you have said it all and you feel better. You won't go now. You're crying. Close the door. The heart's gone out of it: why keep it up. Amy! There's someone coming down the road!'
'You--oh, you think the talk is all. I must go-- Somewhere out of this house. How can I make you--'
'If—you--do!' She was opening the door wider. 'Where do you mean to go? First tell me that. I'll follow and bring you back by force. I will!--'
The literature indicates that a common grief is not the best possible adhesive to cement a marriage or relationship (Schiff, 1977: 58). Culture and society have conditioned us to believe that when a couple marry, two people are joined and become one. Although true in many aspects, this belief shatters with the death of a child. Instead of becoming a grieving couple, they become two bereaved parents.
The inability or even an unwillingness to communicate feelings, differences in the experience and adaptation to grief and subsequent isolation is quoted as the reason why 70 - 90% of all bereaved parents/couples are in serious marital and or relational difficulty within months after the death of a child (Walsh & McGoldrick, 1995:36; Martin & Doka, 2000:103; Lemming &
6 Dickson, 1996:80). The research questions that arise from this problem statement are:
➢ " How do parents experience the couple relationship after child bereavement" and
➢ 'What can be done to facilitate the mental health of bereaved parents?"
1.4 OBJECTIVES OF THE RESEARCH
The objectives of the study are two-fold:
➢ to explore and describe a parent's experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement; and
➢ to describe guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse to provide support to parents who have experienced child bereavement in order to promote their mental health through the mobilisation of resources.
1.5 PARADIGMATIC PERSPECTIVE
The paradigmatic perspective of the Department of Nursing of the Rand Afrikaans University will be applied in this study (Rand Afrikaans University, Department of Nursing Science, 2002:4-16).
1.5.1 Meta-theoretical assumptions
In this research I accept the Theory for Health Promotion in Nursing of the Rand Afrikaans University. This theory is based on a Christian approach and aims to promote the health of the individual, family, group and community.
The bereaved parent is a whole person and functions in an integrated and interactive manner with his/her internal and external environment.
7 The bereaved parent's internal environment consists of three dimensions, namely body, mind and spirit. Body includes all physical structures and biological processes. Mind/psyche refers to all intellectual, emotional and volition processes of the bereaved parent. The intellect includes the competence and quality of psychological processes of thinking, association, analysis and understanding. The emotions of the bereaved parent are a complex state and include affection, desires and feelings. Volition refers to the process of decision-making in the carrying out of choices.
Spirit is the aspect of the bereaved parents that reflect his/her relationship with God and consists of two interrelated and integrated components namely relationships and conscience.
The external environment consists of physical, social and spiritual dimensions.
The physical environment of the bereaved parent includes physical and chemical structures. The social dimension refers to the human resources in the external environment of the bereaved parents. The spiritual dimension refers to the religious aspects of the environment. Religion is drawn into the lives of the bereaved parents through death rituals.
Bereaved parents are in constant interaction both with their internal and external environments. The different patterns of interaction between these environments determine the mental health of these parents.
1.5.2 Theoretical assumptions
The theoretical assumption of this study is firstly guided by the Theory for Health Promotion in. Nursing (Rand Afrikaans University, 2002:4).
Bereaved parents are a whole persons and function in an integrated, interactive manner with their internal and external environment.
8 The advanced psychiatric nurse is a sensitive therapeutic professional who demonstrates knowledge, skills and values to facilitate the promotion of health.
Health is an interactive dynamic process in the bereaved parent's environment. The relative status of health is reflected by the interaction in the parent's environment. This research focuses on mental health. Promotion of health implies the mobilisation of resources.
Secondly, the basic premise and practical application of Narrative Therapy (White & Denborough, 1998:1) is accepted.
Harvey in Rosenblatt, 2000:1) states that grieving involves the construction and voicing of narratives. Narratives serve as vehicles to carry intricacies and diversities of experiences, possibilities, dilemmas and choices. The more narratives we have, the richer the possibilities that could guide us (Kotze, Myburg & Roux, 2002: 20).
The word "narrative" refers to the emphasis that is placed upon the stories of people's lives and the differences that can be made through particular telling and retellings of these stories. People often offer dominant, problem-saturated stories, reflecting their sense of frustration, despair and powerlessness (White & Denborough, 1998:3).
The parents interviewed are experts on their own experiences and realities and there is value in taking what they have to say seriously.
Narrative therapy involves ways of understanding the stories of people's lives, and ways of re-authoring these stories in collaboration between the therapist and the people whose lives are being discussed.
Narrative therapy engages in externalising conversations. Externalisations are designed to help establish a context where the parents experience
9 themselves separate from the problem; it escapes blaming discourses, which tend to confuse the parent's identity with their experience and action (White, 1991:25).
1.5.2.1 Central theoretical statement
Exploring and describing a parents experience of the couples relationship after child bereavement forms the basis for describing guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse to provide support to parents who have experienced child bereavement in order to promote their mental health through the mobilisation of resources.
1.5.2.2 Definitions
PARENT
"Parent" refers to a biological mother and/or father who has borne a human child (SA Concise Oxford Dictionary, 2002).
COUPLE
A "couple" is two people who are married or otherwise closely associated romantically or sexually (SA Concise Oxford Dictionary, 2002) For the purpose of this research parents can be, married, unmarried or divorced at the time of this study.
RELATIONSHIP
This refers to the connection between two or more people and their involvement with each other, especially with regard to how they behave and feel towards each other and communicate or co-operate (Encarta World English Dictionary, 1999: CD-ROM).
10 EXPERIENCE
"Experience" refers to the sum total of an individual's thoughts and feelings and the things that have happened to an individual. It includes the internal environment (body, mind and spirit) as well as the external environment (physical, social and spiritual dimensions).
CHILD
A child refers to a biological son or daughter of human parents (Encarta World English Dictionary, 1999: CD-ROM). For the purpose of this research the age of the child is of minor importance as it makes little difference with regard to the responses, emotions and grief (Schiff, 1977:4;Bowlby, 1980:122; Leick & Davidsen-Nielsen, 1991:77).
BEREAVEMENT
"Bereavement" is a constantly changing process after a beloved person has been taken away through death, the period in which mourning takes place. (Martin& Doka, 2000:14; Cochrane & Carroll, 1991:64; Fawcett, 1993:164 & Encarta World English Dictionary, 1999: CD-ROM).
1.5.3 Methodological assumptions
Botes's model (in Rand Afrikaans University: Department of Nursing, 2002: 9) for research in nursing will be utilised as methodological point of departure. The model presents the activities of nursing on three levels.
The first level is nursing practice, which includes all disciplines of nursing as well as nursing education and management. Nursing practice serves as the primary source of research themes.
The second level represents the theory of nursing and research methodology. The purpose of nursing and research can be stated as functional by nature in that knowledge, which is generated by research, is applied in nursing practice.
11 Therefore the knowledge generated by this study will be utilised in describing guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse in practice to provide support to bereaved parents through the mobilisation of resources in order to promote mental health.
The third level represents the paradigmatic perspective of nursing. The Department of Nursing of the Rand Afrikaans University accepts the Theory for Health Promotion in nursing as paradigmatic perspective.
1.6 RESEARCH DESIGN
A qualitative, descriptive, exploratory and contextual design will be utilized (Mouton, 1996:102). This research design will be discussed in greater depth in Chapter Two.
1.7 RESEARCH STRATEGY
An autoethnographic strategy is followed (Ellis & Bochner, in Denzin & Lincoln, 2001:739, 747). See Chapter Two for discussion.
1.8 RESEARCH METHOD
This research will be conducted in two phases. Phase 1: The exploration and description of a parent's experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement.
This phase involves the identification of bereaved parents meeting the sampling criteria and in-depth, semi-structured, phenomenological interviews, with these parents. Field notes and observations will be noted and data analysed. A literature control will be conducted in order to verify findings.
Phase 2: Description of guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse practitioner to provide support to parents who have experienced
12 child bereavement in order to promote their mental health through the mobilisation of resources.
Data generated in phase one will serve as the basis for describing guidelines for the advanced psychiatric nurse to provide support to parents who have experienced child bereavement in order to promote their mental health through the mobilisation of resources.
1.8.1 Ethical measures
This research is guided by the ethical aspects according to Rand Afrikaans University Standards (2001:1-4). The following aspects will be adhered to:
The right to privacy, confidentiality and anonymity will be ensured through the following: The research will be communicated in such a way that data cannot be linked to a specific parent/s. All data and information obtained will be treated as confidential and parents will remain anonymous.
The right to equality, justice, human dignity/life and protection against harm. The research will be planned and executed in a way, which will as far as possible foster beneficience and exclude harm/exploitation of parents.
Debriefing sessions will be held after the research, during which the parents have the opportunity to work through their experience and its aftermath. It will also have the purpose of rectifying any misinterpretations, which may have arisen in the minds of the parents after the completion of the research. As this research involves a very sensitive and possibly painful experience, psychic discomfort may be created. Muller (1993:29) cautions that this could have repercussions for researchers in that they may feel morally obliged to make some form of intervention more suited to their clinical role than that of researchers. The guiding principle is the ethic of respect for personal autonomy of the individual. Should this be the case in this research, I will
13 account for the intervention in the course of data analysis. I will provide follow- up supportive referral source for each respondent who may wish to make use thereof. Termination and withdrawal will be handled with sensitivity (Strydom, 1998:34).
The right to freedom of choice, expression and access to information. Parents' involvement is voluntary; they may withdraw or terminate participation in the research at any stage without fear of prejudice. Parents will be informed of the purpose of the research, methods and procedures, recording of data, duration, nature of participation and the possible advantages and benefits.
The identity, affiliation and qualifications of the researcher will be made known. Parents will be informed of how confidentiality and privacy will be safeguarded.
The right of the community and the science community. Quality of research will be ensured through the following: adhering to the highest standards of research planning, implementation and reporting. Every effort will be made to remain neutral and unbiased through the 'bracketing' of my own views and experiences. The research will be done honestly; no evidence will be manipulated. Conclusions will be justified and findings will be reported fully. The input of parents will be acknowledged. Acceptable procedures and methods of science will be used.
1.8.2 Measures to ensure trustworthiness
Trustworthiness will be maintained by using strategies of credibility, applicability, dependability and confirmability as described by Lincoln and Guba (1985: 289-331). Strategies to ensure trustworthiness are fully discussed in Chapter Two.
14 1.8.3 Data collection
Phase 1: The exploration and description of a parent's experience of the couple relationship after child bereavement.
This phase involves the identification of bereaved parents meeting the sampling criteria and in-depth, semi-structured, phenomenological interviews, with these parents. Field notes and observations will be noted and data analysed. A literature control will be conducted in order to verify findings.
1.8.3.1 Population and sample
The target population is identified as parents who have experienced child bereavement, resident in the Greater Johannesburg Metropolitan region. Purposive sampling (Strydom & de Vos, 1998:198) will be used in order to ensure that specific elements are included in the sample. The approach employs a high degree of selectivity. Sampling criteria: These criteria will be discussed fully in Chapter Two.
1.8.3.2 Data Collection
Request for participants will be through a mediator, who is a specialist paediatric oncology nurse.
Data will be collected by means of in-depth, semi-structured, phenomenological interviews.
1.8.3.3 Data Analysis
Recorded interviews will be transcribed and analysed using the descriptive analysis technique by Tesch On Creswell, 1994:155 - 156).
15 1.&3.4 Literature control
Findings of this research will be verified through a literature control in order to highlight similarities and differences from other similar research.