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Calendar . '*-r*+***^"« 98 Number 352 November 2002 Cartoons-,»...... ,»... .23 A Publicadon of the Gay Alliance of the Gen«$«e Valley Ferrarese co-heads NewsFronts Board of Elections SI LOCAL AND STATE Democratic Commissioner urges gays to vote Nov, J GAGV. Gill to offer workshops on capital By Susan Jordan will have a proposition we'll help campaigns and planned Tom Ferarrese was elected Demo- with. In many cases we set up the giving, for non-profits cratic Commisioj^er of EiecCtons voting machines and have tKchni- The Gill Foundation/GAGVw^orlf- or, Sept. 25 by a Democratic Part> cians who provide supporc, and we shops for not-for-profit organiza­ committee, after having served as find election inspectors. tions will be held on Nov. ! 3 and interim Commissioner since Au­ Running through what we do in i 4 at the Red Cross headquar­ gust, when Betsy Relin retired. general: voter registration (we pro­ ters, 50 Prince St. The Monroe County Board of Elec­ vide forms and do speaking engage­ The topic for Nov. 13 will be tions has a Democratic and a Re­ ments at schools and groups); spe­ "Conquer a Capital Campaign," publican Commissioner (Peter cial projects Hke the 200! project and on Nov, ! 4, "Breathe Life Into Quinn). Their responsibility is to where we spent a weekend at three Planned Giving". provide an election system which malls with machines and forms; se­ Tom Ferrarese was elected Democratic Commissioner of Elections on Tbe workshops begin at 2 p.m., wili give all citizens a ^r and equal nior citizen and high school pro­ Sept. 25. He serves with Kepubikan Commissioner Peter Quinn. with registration, refreshments chance to have their voices heard grams here at the office (in the and networki!>g. The wor-kshops in the selection of their represen­ County Office Building) where wc themselves run from 2:45 to 6: i 5, tatives, and to promote and in­ give tours and show them how the and each workshop cosu $ 10. crease voter participation. voting machines work For more information, call the Tom Ferarrese, who is openly Along those lines we aiso do a lot GAGV at 244^640. gay, has been active in Democratic of publications out of the Board of party politics since the 1960s. Elections — on how to be a candi­ Nov* i Luncheon honors Empty Closet: Could you date, how to do petitions, informa­ leadership; VicEei-Vinnie describe a Comnniissioner*s tion on financial disclosures^ candi­ awards are Dec. 3 duties^ and what you feel you dates* lists, a guide to elected offi­ The Gay Alliance will host its sec­ bring to the post? cials in the form of a handbook. We ond annual Commur^ky Awards Tom Ferrairese: One reason I also make lists of voters available Lur^cheon on Nov. I at the Hyatt was elected is that I really work electronically or on paper, and give Regency. hard to talk to all the people in the infonmation on how to do absentee The awards are as follows: Youth Democratic Party and make sure ballots, and our website is growing Leadership. Michael Donnelly; that all their ideas are looked aL every day. You can go to the website Smalt Business Leadership. Dialogue is so important in finding to see if youVe registered to vote Muthers; Corporate Leadership, new ways to solve old problems. I and where your polling place is. For Bausch & Lomb; Community Lead­ build bridges, and that's one thing the Monroe County Board of Elec­ ership, Frank Crego and Rkihard j. I'm known for. tions, go to www.co.monroe.ny.u3/ Leo of the Otetiana Council, Boy Most people think we only work elections/. For the State Board of Scouts of America. one day a year — Election Day — Elections^ it's The featured speaker at the Lun­ but the Board of Elections Is In­ www.e{ectk>ns.state.ny.us. We put cheon will be Bob Witeck. CEO of volved in about 290 ejections per out lots of inforT7iatk>n. Witeck-Combs Communications, year. In addition to the general Over the last two years, we've Washington D„C. etectk»ns in Novcm^ber. there are been very Involved in redistrkrting. Sponsors of the Nov. I Lun­ pHmaHes, union elections, school We have to Implement the plans the cheon are Eastman Kodak (Plati­ board etecckms, fSre district and legislature puts into effect, but we num), Bausch & Lomh (Gold), water district elections. There are provide in^rmacion to them. ^TA Thomson West and RIT Execu­ abio special elections, for example there's some feedback on that. We tive MBA Program (Silver), Xerox in Brighton, which in December Ferrarese continiied on p. 3 (Bronze). The Litde Theatre, AIDS Rochester Inc... and Ace Mailing Services (PHde). WUchins and Ireland talk at RIT Womens Center The Alliance's volunteer appre> ciation evant/Vickl-Vinnle a^vvds Byldc and in a iig^t contralto vo{ce,be^un you, wc are like you«" g&r*d^r b presentatkMi wffl take plaoeDec. 3 The Women's Center atthe Roch­ speaking to the audience, accompa­ d^fj%tefit at Jonathan's Choice In East Roch­ ester Instituve of Technology was nied by two interpreters fbr the Wlkhlns discussed how the **vis- ester, starting at 600 with open host to recent talks given by gen­ deaf. Ibte** pert of the Queer movement bar. A buffet wiU be served at 7 der actMsts Riki Anne WUchins Wilchins,who is also a columnist invoivm fender transgression. And, pjn. (GenderPAQ and Purkl* Irebnd fior The Advocate, started wkh some she aM the Issues of gender got a The awards are: the Vinnie (Ibcmer NOW president)* emided humor, and said she wanted to talk kkkfrom DeconsmictMtnik the '60s Award Tom Cartock; the Vtekl *%tdl^ Gender Stereotypes: A about where the issue of fander phikMophyassoclatad with Jaques Award* Ann Youi^ and the Kevin N««y ftetft ta FuN Equality.'' rights comes from and M^ was al- DerrWa. (S-leaqpuedthatby analjndnf CampheR AMwd. Bruee WHbur. Witcbtes (« Traf»iie«dered facted. She mentioned thee#ieortil^ lUklWIIchins or **decofftstructfti>|^ the log^ of See the 0«e««iib«r^aiiuary vMfnan) VMM the Drst speaker of nal "Hghcs movements" sorted in Western metaphysics, tts undeHy" £mpfy Qmat for eover^pa of the the evenJi^. A taM wiMowy, dell- the'60t and 70s. She said; **Scret»;:h She sakt the IsMM of f«fid«r it ing biases could be uncovered. Nov. I hflKheon and for more cetttly boned and rather palely fays, and fsmln^ issues, and youH mostly "anUMwAafr and Deconstructfcm >tftM also used to In^Hination on the Dec 3 Vkrki- beeudlul ¥¥oman* with short dark find fitndei. The people who are ontos^«hat,thoij^mo8tr^|ft«s demonstrate theC because a cre- Vlmiie awerdi, or call the Alliance i brown hair, and no trace of outskte of 'rogubr* gander, get no­ mo¥ementstendibeinphasixeihe attve woric ITsubJect to different ac244»«M0. ticed.** ffukeup^WHchlns took die stag^ Wea-'WekxikHkeyou.weactiice WitcMmceiitliiuMJoffi p. 13 ^'•^•'•Wwfc c

-A. A2 "|^%?ai'^cfr'i^:?t'' t nor wWiwe hm^% LETTERS TO THE ECMTOIIs puce» b«ew«M|| IneivieiHW. we Fttrrttr«s4» continued from p. I Th* opintowt of colMWiiit*, adltortal wrtt- ItM H(ht to edftjtor «jpac;« and darity. W« page — the TV news shows are plugged Into •rs ind ottMr coetHhtftilnf wHt*rs an moved over 300.000 voters within the last wsl print anepyinoM lettaii If the n>nM that. After the election is over, the niachlnes thttir own tnd 3 ^^' take the talty sheets and a print out of the and once they are filed, we view them and any election night results, and the commissioners challenges to them. That's how candidates get and their deputies — at least one of the four on the ballot- We then help them with finan­ of us — read the back of every single machine. cial disclosure, etc. Here at the office we start research on the • LOCAL AND STATE NEVVS A letter from the We've seen a lot of technological advances affidavit ballots and decide if they can be cast or Women's health in the past year, too. We were able to publish not. If they can, we process them. It's usually New York City news Executive Director electronic versions of publications that were from two to four weeks before we're able to care: who cares? only available on paper, but now can be certify the election. opened direcdy from die website, or CD. We EC: No hanging chads in Monroe can also use Imaging technology to capture County. % An Empty Chset Editorial by Susan Jordan By Pam Bartes, Interini Executive Director historical records, which were manually re­ TF: No. I can't understand how that recount corded In a large paper ledger dating from the happened In Florida, since we always do a 1920s. This ledger was fragile and vulnerable am still here. Last month I wrote that I we will continue to do so. Wliiie the staff is at recount — we call it canvassing the machines. itting in the waiting room at the Elizabeth Wende breast clinic recently, I looked around to fire. Now it has been preserved for future felt that the Board of Directors would the present dme all wometi, the President and EC: There were allegations that some at dozens of women wrapped in white robes, waiting for their mammograms or for the research, with an index and table of contents. soon hir.^ someone to be the perma­ the Vice President ofthe Board, as well as the 40,000 Democratic African American results. You couldn't tell who was lesbian, who was bi, who was straight, or what socio- I Then there are the voting machines. We do S voters were disqualified in the Miami nent Executive Director. XX'ell, one month Treasurer, are men. Tlie Board itself is a good cnr n'mjc class the\ came from. We were all just women — women in fear fr>r c-ur lives, maintenance al! year. We are one of three later, ! siiU think so, but I atn tiot quite sure mix of men and women, Sv>me of whom iden­ area in the Bush/Gore ejection, and re­ f A-shians and iii.c.cxual women face serious problems otbias 3,x\'J\. incquirv in the :irea ofheaith counties that own our voting machines. Most when. Last month the Btjatd decided to hold tify as bi, as well as a couple of trans people. moved from the roils as felons, which care. That was the message from the Washing- Insurance companies discriminate against are owned by municipalities^ and those ma­ off maldng a dectsion, one reason for the delay Why am I telling you this? Our financial they weren't. How could that be pos­ totT, D.C. Mautner Project's "Healing Works: women too. A letter in the Democrat (f the rc;;sons ! ;i:ri p.T-oiid i'' rliat, rvcti pf •ri. just like we {>ro\.Hde programs for all pjirts Republican commissioners. T'i-c .rithcring was a rainbiiw coalition, as u'oulti have to pay tor !t hcrsv-jf. She f!ci;i''i voting rights are so important !n a lot of ways in the West Village. "Reciaim Our- Space: a Festival of Resistance" was 3 mu>ti-layered rh'-'Mjeh f nm ()\A\ .ntcrur-i, ! :iv\ the e>n!v rA f.'ne comnninity, we need i'in.).nrial help froni EC: So Republican Katherine Harris •\'ri;.iifi American, Latina. .'\sian .A.merican, th-it v'iaj^ra for male vjnl.lt^ !s C'vcrcd bv this is al! about maintaining the integrity of the evert beginning with a rally in Sheridan Square and ending with a festival at the Pier. transsexual I know of heading up a GLBT all p^ris ofthe community. Pkase act now. was the only commissioner. To change N'tfixe .\merican women and women with heakh plans, unlike birth control devices and voting process. We must ensure the process ce)mmuniry center. If there arc any others they As wc draw nearer to the end of the year, the subject, what would you say to Igbt disabilities hugged, shared meals and chanted preventive tests that might save women's jjvcs. is fair and equitable. are few in number. I think it is a sign of the chose of you who itemize your taxes may wish people who may not be planning to vote while telling horror stories and swapping strat- At the Mautner Project conference. Donna Then there are the elections themselves. maturity of the GAGV and the gay cfsmmu- to consider making a gift to the G AC» V. We are on Nov. 5? ct>^ics ab(^ut health care stnaggles." Red Wing, who is rhe Gill Foundatictn's direc­ We send out welcome voter letters when niry at large in the Rochester area that my ;i 501 (C)(3) non-profit organization and all TF: My biggest concern is they can't allow ^(•niuk like an inclusive gathering. But the tor of policy and initiatives, said that when she they register, and we have address correction transgender status has not been an issue. donations arc tax deductible to the full extent someone else to make the decision for them Ri;sh :idm.inistration withdrew $750,000 origi- was diagnosed 'Anth a brain tumor seven years on those letters, through the Postal Service, VXliether the new executive director is lesbian, of tfie law. T'ot those who have already made a about who will represent them. They may not n.ill\ promised for the conference on the ago, she had a "terrible time" getting her so we can be sure that the registrations are a gay man, bisexual or trans, it should in no contribution, thank you. Ifyou can do more be 100 percent pleased with any candidate, but groufids that it was "not inclusive". health care insurance to pay for the operation valid; we de-activate people who have moved. way, nor will it, take away from the GAGV" please do it now. For those of you who have they need to choose the one that best meets Old they require the lesbian cc»nference to needed to remove the tumor. Not only did We also ruD reports against our files, checking sending the rwo largest constituency groups in not yet joined the Ci AC^V or made a donation, their interests. If they let someone else do it include straight women in order to )>c valid? she have to struggle to get coverage, she for the same names and birthdays. We also our communiry, that being gays and lesbians. now is the time to act- for them. It's guaranteed that they won't be .Appiirentlv. In the conservati\ e male learned that her primary physician was "un­ check obituaries to note deceased voters and Aiso serving the bi and trans communities just Finally, if you are reading this before elec­ pleased with the results. uorldview, lesbians )ust don't count as pjj|:)ple. comfortable with lesbians. She wouldn't let remove them from our files, so only active adds to the- mix and takes awav nothing. tion day, remember to vote! It is the most Your vote makes a difference. The best k"^ unlikely that any member <>t the Bush my partner into the room with me." voters are 011 tlie lists we pass out- ! find it interesting that some may fhink wc itr.ponant tight wc ha\'e in a dcn:ic.^ctacy. Be­ example is Tim Mains' first election, which he .1 :•;" •ii^ti.'tjon u'ould take an interest in the AJso in the Oct. 11 Dc?'C\ a front page There are 4 I 5,000 voters in Monroe County are about serving women and dt) not think wc fore you vote, consider which candidates will won by I I votes.,.. Ifyou don't vote you're not I lilies discussed, such as that lesbians m.ay be article by Diana Louise Carter and a column as of August. We verify the list every August care about men. Some lesbians feel we only he. most likely to support equal rights for all a player, and that's a fisct. It ;ncreused risk for breast cancer, heart dis- by Denise Mane Santiago focused on the and we check that with rhe state Board of serve the needs of grty men. Of course they arc people — most iinportantly GLBT people. EC: How long have you been active in e.i- e. line and colon cancer; that lesbians have recent repon from the Susan B. xXnthony Elections. I don't think a lot of people under­ Thaxy vote for those candidates. Democratic Party politics? Ivet. r kept out of hospital rooms where their Center for Women's leadership, which said both wrong! \X'e do our best to serve the needs ESPA DINNER: N.Y.C. Mayor Michael Bloomberg (left) with former Vt. Gov. stand how much goes on. We train 3.000 TF: I've been active in the Democratic Party i:te p.irTr^ers were dying; that many caregivers th •• very few women hold local pcjjitical of- of both groups separateiy and together, and Howard Dean at the Empire State Pride Agenda dinner onOcL 3(See article, page !.) inspectors in the summer, and we spend a lot since i 968. Ironically. Roger Robach (father of are "h ^niophobic; that fear of homophoi^-a t;c(- in Ncvv ^"ork. The article quoted Nc-fii of time then trying to find good polling places, Joseph Robach) is the one who got me active I-.', ep - many les'bians from, seeking medical care Brcdcs, director oi the Center and a t^'orrner I with good lighting and parking, so people will on the committee in the old 23rd ward in .innl It's too late. Suffolk Co. lcg!slat<*r. as sayiiig that when feel safe going to the polls, and places that are Charlotte, where i lived at the time. I worked i.y^\ men and transgendered people aiso women are r-'prescnted in such small nutTi- within Lhe election district they're serving. for a number of years as the youth chairman of t tee severe difficulties in getting healthcare bcr.^, they are "un.ibk- to attain the cnticai Corrections We identify bilingual districts and retain inter­ the 23rd ward. :\n-.i insurance. (See pages A6 and B6.) mass necessary to move women's issues onto preters. For the genera! election, v/e have to Then in the early '70s I moved to Colorado, .And it's not only lesbians,gay men, bisexuals the table". Tnvial issues jike wom.en's health. modify files and update our website, and use where I was somewhat less active locally, but ind transgendered individuals who need to Denise Marie Santiago asks what life would The ad for Hai*ry Brornson's campaign in the October Empty Closet our new scanning system at our warehouse to was involved in Jimmy Carter's first race. I iV:ir hia.s from their doctors. Several months be like ;f wt^men ran the world, and suggests check the voting machines. should have included the statement. "Paid for by the Friends of Harry moved back here in the late 70s and became .iif ^ this repf)rfer got a call fro>m a m.an in the that we might not t>e going to war with Iraq, Bron$on." In terms of die general election, it's a big day involved again sn the local committee process. ^'ithern tier who said that his elderly mother's failing our children in the urban school sys­ (d^is year it's Nov. 5). There are up to 800 I also ran for county legislature in 1982 and iocror told him when she died, "It's no big tem, or slashing social services that help meet In the same issue, the women pictured in "Team USA" uniforms voting locations that we have to maintain. We City Council in '83, but didn't get designated. BEING OUT ROCKS: The Human ital, c.if course. She was just an old woman." the needs of poor women and children in \ were not part of a NWFL team; they were **a last minute group of have our own sets of phones here. It's like IVe been a State Committeeman (there is a Rights Campaign Foundation and Centaur It's known that medical research on women Monroe County. And maybe,'if women ran people/' including some Rochester Raptors, who had gotten to­ running 800 stores that are open only one day Committeeman and Committeewoman in each Entertainment released "Being Out Rocks" • far less extensive than on men's health issues, the world, all people — regardless of their Rochester's Duffy Palmer and Mark Siwiec I gether ior a fSag football tournament* a year, wjth 3,000 employees at those stores. Assembty District). Throughout those years I last month to mark Coming Out Day. v en when data taken from the male-centered gender, sexual orientation, race or financial at the ESPA dinner at the N.Y. Sheraton. I It's pretty tough, but they do a pretty good had a very close association with the Board of Above, Betty Degeneres (Ellen's mother) : t adics doesn't apply to women. To some men, situation — wouid have access to good health Palmer is Upstate Co-Chair of the Pride job- Elections. For example, when Bob Stephenson and Harvey Fierstein at the release party at straight women aren't people either. care and equitable scientific research. Agenda board. Results are instantly available on our web Ferrarese continued on p. 10 the Times Square Virgin Megastore.

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"In so doing, abstinence-only grams funded by the (ovemment mention grams deny access to relevant and condom use, such as current profnuns bind­ tialiy life-«avirv heakh Information to n come gays. White saki he had not had any ing AIDS service or^ganizatkMis. and lesbian youtl% and impede their right 1 Radics suffered multiple fractures to his skull atric exam on Oct. 9; he had voluntarily ened a rope around Araujo's neck until she j an education free from discrimination.** hostile calls, and had receh^ed support Rebecca Schltefer, luthor of the report, and was knocked dov«m, causing his head to hit submitted himself for psychiatric treatment appeared dead. ^ -Lou Chibbaro jr.. 77ie Washington from ajewish coupie who brought him and said that teenagers at risk woukl profaabty not the floor. He want into convubioni, whiki d^ last April. He reportedly told police he consid­ Although Lida Araujo would*ve been a Nbcon a lemon cake, and an African Ameri­ have access to the prognms to whkh Pierce atCKker stood ov«r him and then calmly left ers homosexuality as "against nature**. He senk»r this year, she did not return to can woman who had called from her car. referred. "The Bush administration wants to New^ neighbors for the restaurant. apparendy has no connections with radical Newark's Crossroads High School. Pastor "You go boys' God loves you.'** spend mitilons more dollars on abstinence Radks was released from the hospital on groups, and authorities are treating the case as Ed Moore, who knows Araujo's ^mily. said Jerry Falweli... "Jerry paints us as a threat to the worW,** only programs that put teenagers at hi^er Oct 4, having been told that he nearly hst his a comnrton crime. she had been ostracized. Newsfronts risk for HIV," she said. Citing Texas programs Reverend Mel White leader of the gay White said. **Sure, I'm putting myself in -The Washington Blade • NATIONAL AND INTERNATtONAL NEWS life. He has no recollection of the incident. "People did not really want to accept rel^ous activist group SouHbrce, and his harm's way with my fiace in the paper. Gays which were used as a case study in her report, Eariier this year* he had taken a leave of him, he didn't get a job because of who he law was adopted by Congress and signed by partner Gary Nixon* have moved into a will think I'm cnay. Straights will think I'm Schliefer said thiat the federally funded Texas absence from h{»job to take up a career as a Trans youth killed in was,** Moore said, "And so not only were then-President Clinton in 1996. The rules for home across the street from Reverend sinful. But it's worth It. People will see us Report says U.S. programs "don't just censor information, they writer and gay rf^its activist. His autobtogra- there personal struggles, but also struggles such programs mandate that educators must Jerry Falwelt's house In Lynchburg. Va., in as a loving couple. We put our flag up Calif.; three charged actively promote misinformation about phy was pubfished last year by one of Hun|pry*s with how she was viewed by society." abstinence programs teach youth that sexuai abstinence is "the condoms. And they deprive adolescents of hopes that their presence will offer a daily every day. They'll see we*re Americans largest publishing companies. IVfgotofy Now: The body of a transgendered Newark. Calif. Meanwhile, the nation's Transgender only certain way" to avoid sexually transmit­ challenge to hifweil*s virulent anti-gay views too.** one of the most important tools they need to One Man*s Qmtnkk! and a Cbn/es^on was his Community has been rocked by the brxital put youth at risk ted diseases and pregnancy. Educators must and ministry. youth wfto failed to return home after an Oct protect themselves from HIV." Falweli said, "I wonder if they honestly coming out statement to the Hungarian publk. murder. Absdnence-only programs funded by the refuse to respond when students ask about Rev. White believes dwit Falwelfs church 3 party was discovered nearly two weeks She said that the programs teach that believe that TRBC (Thomas Road Baptist which had come to know him as a TV broad­ later, buried in a shallow grave 150 miles away. "Yet again, hatred rears its ugly head,** U.S. government are putting American condom use, or else must tell students only will ultimately accept gays as human beings Church) will suddenly reject unambiguous caster. condoms don't adequately protect against Uda (born Eddie) Araujo, i 7. was found on said an irate Vanessa Edwards Foster, the youth at risk by denying them Information that condoms have a potentially high failure with fvii) hunnan rij^ns. Fahveil calb the Biblical teachings i^imply because they see sexually transmitted diseases and therefore Police have classified the crime as a felony Oct. 15, after her mother reported her miss­ chair of NT AC. "It's the byproduct of igno­ that may save their lives, according to a rate through breakage. move "a publicity stunt**. Mel and his boyfnend out walking their there is no such thing as "safer sex"'. The assault and possible hate crime. There are ing. Araujo was severely bludgeoned about rance, personal phobias, and total lack of report released Sept. 18 by Human Rights Policies established by the U.S. Depart­ "!s this a publicity stuntr White asked. dog." report notes that three federal agencies — currently no suspects. the head, then strangled. Police are currently value for the lives of transgenders, and in Watch, an international human rights ment of Health & Human Services under the "Yes! It's getting publicity for the fact that the National Institute of Science's Institute of —Kathy Wolfe. 77ie Washington Bhde -Lou Chibt»aro jr., 77»c Washmgton Blade investigating the murder as a possible hate fact, anyone who's 'different' in society. group, viHhich Is calling on the government Bush administration call for Increasing the Jerry FaKvell has made gays and lesbians Medicine, the National Institutes of Health. crime. "What makes it worse," Foster added, to repeal abstinence-only-until-marriage scope of and adding funding for abstinence- suffer by saying that gays are sinners." Hungarian activist and the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Honrftophobic attacker Prosecutors have charged Michaei William "is the utter lack of attention by many of legislation and to enact comprehensive only programs. Soulforce, founded by White and Nixon Prevention — have e-ach issued statements Magidson, 27, Jaron Chase Nabors, 19. and this country's leaders towards addressing sex education programs. The report, "Ignorance Only; AIDS, Hu­ in [ 999, combats "spiritual violence'* against hurt in bias attack stabs gay Paris nnayor advising that youth "should be given informa­ Jose Antonio Merel, 24. all from Newark, in the issues of hatred and prejudice — spe­ The U.S. abstinence programs violate man Rights and Federally Funded Abstinence- gays through direct action, such as picket A Hungarian gay activist was seriously tion about the proper use of condoms to the murder. A fourth suspect arrested cifically against the transgendered." human rights principles established under Only Programs m the United States," says, lines and other non-violent means of pro­ injured on Sept. 28 when he was attacked The openly gay mayor of Paris was stabbed in reduce the risk of Infection by HIV and other Wednesday, Jose's brother. Paul Richard "It's horrible," said Gwen Smith, founder international law by preventing youth from "Federally funded abstinence only programs test. White and Nixon were inspired by in a gay-bashing incident In Washington, a suspected bias attack on Oct. 6, and nearly sexually transmitted diseases," Merel, Jr, 25, was not arraigned. ofthe Day of Remembrance, an observance having access to potentially life-saving in­ Interfere with fundamental rights guaranteed the non-violent philosophy of Mahatma D.C. He is now recuperating after brain lost his life. The report also states that failure of Police reports state Lida Araujo, who also by the nation's Transgender Community fonnation, the 47-page report said. It claims by international law. including the right to Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King jr.. and surgery. Mayor Bertrand Delanoe, 52, was attacked condoms is the only information hcialth edu­ used the name Gwen, was assaulted and killed that uikes place November 20. "Again we :hat such programs may pur gay male 'seek, receive and impart' information of al! focus their protests on Christian denomi­ Peter Radics, former Washington Bu­ during what he termed a "Sleepless Night," a cators are allowed to impart, and that this is at th« Oct, 3 party. "We're dealing with a see a young transgendered person killed youth especially at risk, since the pro­ kinds, and the right to the highest attainable nations which deny inclusion to gays. reau Chief for the Huf^.garian National fete he had inaugurated as a cultural and misleading and contradicts research findings artistic celebration that took place all over the number of people (at the party) who could before their prime, simply because some­ grams forbid health educators in public standard of health, and, indeed, may have dire Before coming out in 1993, White Television Network, vvas punched by an on condom use. It says that abstinence-only city. Around 2:30 a.m. he was stabbed in a have helped, stepped in, prevented or re­ one was uncomfortable with their gender schools from telling youth that condom consequences on the right to life. The failure worked for Falweli as a ghostwriter. After unidentified assailant inside a McDonalds programs also teach that the only acceptable salon at the City Hall, during a performance. ported this," said Nev/ark Police Lt. Lance identity." use is as effective as abstinence in protect­ to provide accurate information about pre­ coming out, he wrote Strangetr ct the GatQ: restaurant. The attacker was described as form of sexuality is between married part­ He underwent an oper-ation and is expected Morrison. "None of them did." "If it's not a hate crime, I don't know what ing against HIV infection. vention of HIV transmission needlessly puts To Be Cay and Christian in America, and was an African American male in his early to ners, and since gays are not allowed to marry, to recover. Police speculate Araujo was killed in New- other crime it could be. Why would you do A federal law says that state and local children at risk of contracting this devastating dean of the Dallas Cathedral of Hope, mld-40s, who called Radics, who is gay, a such programs reinforce the hostile environ­ ark and then transported to a remote part of thatto ayoung person?" said Rachaeljanelle agencies receiving federal abstinence-only and fatal disciase." affiliated with the Universai Fellowship of "feggot" while they were standing in line to The alleged attacker, Azedine Berkane, 39, ment experienced by Igbt youth in schools, the Silver Fork campground east of Placerville, Light, president of Transgender San Fran­ funds must promote abstinence from sexual The HHS defends its policy and claims that Metropolitan Community Churches. place orders. confessed to the crime, and told police he and teach that there is no safe or acceptable does not iike politicians or gays. He is a Calif., where the body was buried. Morrison cisco (TGSF). "Wc all lose a piece of our­ activity until marriage as "the expected the report has not "looked at the full range of VVhite said that Lynchburg has not been Words were exchanged, and the uni­ way for gay youth to have sexua! relation­ computer technician and has a police record described it as a "haunting and gruesome selves when this happens." standard of human sexual activity." The the programs we fund," according to spokes­ hostile, although few local churches wel- dentified man hit Radics in the face with his situation." imeida Guerrero, the victim's aunt, cried, fist, just as Radics approached the counter. including violent crime. A devout Moslem, The defendants allegedly beat Araujo, gash­ "They're going to pay for what they did!" One witness said. 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: ^i^^i nothing mote than opportunities in work BC^ What are yout futute plans? with a problem with my car, and explained it to^ some respects, if Fd known how to address clothes — to be worked through**. In my KF: I see a need for temporary crisis housing the petson working there, and he treated me this issue in my teens, I would have had a transition I had to apply that to my own life. As for folks who suddenly find themselves be­ like I knew nothing. I think if Fd gone in as a totally dififerent life. I don't believe you can go a result, Tm eatdted about what's happening in tween a rock and a hard place-»-financially, or male Fd have been treated totally differendy. back, axxl I don't regret my life at alL But I think my life. I've lost finends, bat IVe gained ftiends, through violence between two individuals, that Our society treats people differendy based on it's better for young people to grow up whole terview: and Fve gotten to know who my fnends teally kind of thing. I also feel there's a great need in what they seem to be. and without guilt are. Unfortunately, Fve lost my career and our community for good medical care for the Each trans person has the unique esiperience The reality of Ixax^ out was much less fic^t- Kaye Fox, former head of Open Door Mission, comes family through cotning out. But I wouldn't do gjbt community, especially in the transgender of living on both sides. Ifyou look at it from a ening than I had expected. All those things I was out as transgendered and loses job, family it any differenUy — though Pd probably do it community. The reason I say that is, a Jot of male point of view, who in their right mind afraid of didn't happen. I know people who sooner. Since I was outed so publicly in the physicians don't want transgender people sit­ would want to lose aU the benefits of being have had bad experiences — losing jobs, fam­ community, Fve gotten lots of e-maii and By Susan Jordan business trips I'd pack ra-o suitcases, one for ting in their waiting rooms because they're male? For mc, 1 transidoned because I knew ily, children — but I don't know anyone who letters, aU of them positive. Kaye Fox unintentionally started a media fuss Ken and one for Kaye, and as much as I could Fd afiraid theyll lose padents. And for transgender who I was, had discovered who ! was, and says "I wish i hadn't transitioned". Instead BC: Mow do you define your sexuality, folks, a k>t of things aren't covered by healdi last month when, after she came out as a female- live as Kaye. wanted to be me; I was willing to pay the price. they say, "I feel so much better about myself. as opposed to your gender -^ or do you not insurance. to-male (FTM) transgendered person, the Rev. Thete was turmoil going on inside me — I believe God has a plan for me, a plan of •••Mil. II IM ,, I. I. ,.,MM \miw^m^mtt\i i» <• •!•••• ».-—•• Qxkd. labels uselul? "Ken" Fox had to leave "his" position as head shame, fear, doubt, questioning, and feeling I BC: What would you say to someone blessing, and now that people know who I Unfortunately, IVe lost my career and KF: Since Pm attracted to women Fd con­ of the Open Door Mission, after keeping the was the only one in the world going through this. who is going thtougfa the same kind of fear really am, I can condnue to reach out and share family through coming out. But I sider myself to be a lesbian. Sex and gender are shelter for the homeles.'s open and growing for I plunged myself into my work, first as a photog­ and shame and turmoil that you did? and help. I think Rochester is a very caring wouldn't do it any differently — though over 25 years. rapher for tht Worctster Telegram and Evening Ga- two different aspects of my personality. KF: There are some good books out there, Fd probably do it sooner. Kaye Fox community, and once they understand a need After she had started to wear women's cloth- i(€tte. When I found I couldn't make money on EC: How have your colleagues and oth­ such as True Setms and Gender Loving Can — they'll respond in a very generous way. ers reacted? ing about two years ago, the board of the that I went into engineering and ended up in In '97 I came back from a business trip to Rev, Ken Fox who evciyone knew and they're excellent. It's very important that they GAGV Interim Executive Director Pam I think the coming out process and the KF: My former employees who have con­ Mission asked her to go on sabbatical, and a few aerospace. I became a design engineer and Dallas, and when 1 came into the house the respected". Is that statement true? seek out a counselor who is experienced in Barres} also an MTF transgendered per­ lifting of tlie burden is very similar to coming tacted me have all been very supportive. The months later. Fox was asked — or told — to worked on spacesuits for the second half of adult children were sitting there with their KF: I don't believe so. I'm stiU the same gender issues. In addition, they need to believe son, added some comments: out as gay or lesbian. I have no doubt that board of directors obviously isn't. resign. She has now been out as transgendered Gemini and the first half of Apollo. Meanwhile mother. I asked what was up, and their mother person I've always been. People just know a in themselves and Ieam who they are, and I'm not a public figure, and it was not news homophobia and transphobia are verv much I've gotten a lot of posirive letters from tor 18 months. The Mission's director, Kaye's I was raising a famiiy and we were having kids, said she'd gone to put somet.hing in my suit­ iittle more about me, that's ail. proceed to live accordingly . A group like the that I was transitioning. "Film it 11"— it isn't linked. There's absolutely no doubr of that. people in all walks of life. 1 got a beautiful letter 5on Ron, said in a letter to potential donors that but I stiil had this turmoil going on inside me, case and found a whole slew of women's EC: Why in your opinion arc society's Rochester Trinsgetider Group is a great place going to happen, and Bob Lonsberry won't Sometimes men who are transgendered and from Chief DuffV, and letters from donors to transgender identity defies the teachings of and didn't Itnow who to talk to. clothes, and wanted to know what they were ideas about gender so limited and rigid? to explore the dynamics of tran.sgender. want me on his show. Kaye is a public figure - gay men are each other's worst public relations the Mission who applaud me, and say they still Christ. \)Clien aerospace slowed down, I was offered doing there. So I told them. I told them, about KF: The feelings I was having of fear and For a lot of people there are different as- -she was on T\'^ every year at Thanksgiving nightmare, because the majority of trans men support it. My reiatictns in Canada and En­ Fox, a member of the Roches ter Transgender a post at Kodak working on a laser beam project. the struggle I'd been going through and about shame are what society puts upon the indi­ jx;cts — they're not sure what's going on. (asking for donation.*: for the Mission) — and happen to be heterosexual; they know they're gland have said they are excited for me. Col­ C.iroup, talked to the Umpty Ot?/*?/about her life, I came to Rochester supposedly for three gender dysphona. By this time I had sought vidual, and the mold they try to push everv'one Maybe it's a cross-dressing issue rather than a she holds up a light as a positive role model of not gay and they're always a.ssumed to be, leagues from groups i formerly belonged to the controversy, and soc5et\''s confusion about months, And it turned out to be three weeks — out a counselor expenenced in that, and also into. Fear and shame are very' powerful feel­ gender issue. They need ^o take ir sUyw -^nd how il transf^ndered p>erson is, sn coarrast x<^ The^! r.hor.:- sre :.} Ifv,- '.if gav men 'Mich as rlrHj^' have wriuen or fmailed iTie with support scxualirv' and gender. they canceled th^^ ccntrac*;. So I was out of work gone to a piiysiciai^ outside Syracuse, and had ings. \X'ith help, wc can have \'ictorv o\er c;ii;y, ^nd exarnine every is^uc until they decyile what many people mav thuik, b^sed on what: qucc r'l.-; wh<,.? fvcrA-'.j'le assumei; vvan* tn be Another so-r.alled friend outcd me on a Ennpty Closet: Could you talk about when in Rochester and my family was in Massachu­ taken numerous psychological tests. The re­ them, and realJy discover who we are, and how to proceed, they see on jerry Springer and in supermarket women, but they dvm't. and howyou realized your transgender iden­ setts. I worked for Deico Products, a division of sult was that it was confirmed — I was a realize we're just fellow travelers along the webiste for an intrcrnational organi^iation I There's something we call a Real Life Test tabloids, If trans men Liked v/omicn before transition, belonged to, and was fomnerly an officer in. tity, and how you were able to come to General Motors, and 1 was plant engineer and woman in a man's body. road, as anyone else with the .«>ame hopes and ™, RLT — or as a Jot of people call ii, "Real Tlie thing that's sad about Kaye and myself they'll still like women, and vice versa. What I terms with it? What was that process like OSHA compliance. During all of that time I had I thought it would work out with the family, wanting to be loved and accepted. For that to I believe that we need to stand up and be Long Time". There is a very good reason for is tJiat we waited so very long to come to grips think is that orientation and behavior are t\*'o fot you? gone back to school and added some credits, but it didn't, so i moved cut and have since happen, we need to come out of the ckj^ct and counted and affinn who we are. VC'eVe no that. Tl-ie RJ^Tis that you live for a year or more with it. ITiat's one ofthe things that's so en­ separate things, and son^etimes when people Kave Fox: I was eight years old when I and gotten involved in a local church, hi 19'6 1 divorced. I've been out in public for 18 months. bloom where we're planted, in the commu­ different than arjyone else — wc have die in your chosen gender, seven/24, because that couraging about rhe GAGV Youth Group: (who have been closeted to themselves) change realized that I was different. I didn't really was ordained in the Independent Assembly of I wresded with the idea of going someplace nity where we live. It's hard, but not as hard as same feelings, dreams, needs. We often treat v/ill help show the person the direction to go there arc youth today dealing with their issues gender, they've given themselves permission know what was going on, but I knew I was God. where I wasn't known, and starting a new life. we think — at least for me it wasn't. When I p>eopple based on our limited knowledge of with their lives—whether they're transgender, of sexuality and gender, so they can live their to act out their true sexual orientations — "It's different. The first defining part of coming out At that time I was visiting a parishioner who But having been an advocate for the under­ came out a huge weight was lifted off mv who and what they are, and that's wrong. We transsexual, cross dresser or whatever they lives as respectable, productive members of CJK". wa? when I was 11 or 12. I'd been taking was in jail. Later on, there was a need for teach­ dog all my life, I decided to do it here — I shoulders because I didn't have tc pretend often choose our fnends on the ba.sis of what might be. It's a rjme to learn more about the human race, rather than being burdened I've met some wonderful people in the les­ dancing lessons, and there was a Halloween ing Bible study in the wotnen's section o^ the looked at it as a challenge to educate. I've been anymore, and I could be the person God we can get from them, rather than what we can yourself And experience to a degree living in with what I, and 1 suspect Kaye, were bur bian, bi and gay community and the trans paru'. Everybody was coming in costume, and prison, and they asked me to take it on, so ever\' able to do teaching about transgenderism to wanted me to be. give to them. If I weren't well known in the that gender. dened with. In a sense 1 picked up a whole lot community' that I wouldn't have met any other community, I wouldn't have had all the media 1 went as a girl. There was a neighbor giri who night after work, I'd "go to jail". I'd pass a place medical students and doctors, and open a We're surface- oriented people; we confuse EC: Being female does have certain dis­ of baggage along the way — really nice baggage way. I'm happy being me and being pan of this attention. 1 think it would be an awfully boring advantages, 'jv ed next door and I told her what I was going called the Open Door Mission, and one day I door for their further education in how to gciidcr and sex. The first question ^\'e ask 1 wouldn't trade for any money - I've got two commumt).'. I relish it and revel in it. This is world if we were ali the same. KF: The other day i went into a gas station to do, and we put our head.s together. I had a stopped ir] and asked if I could help, and I treat glbt people. when a baby is born is, is it a boy or girl. TViar kids, I've been married for 38 years. But in part of who I am, but not a//that I am. pinafore and rwo strawberry-blonde pigtaiJs, starred washing dishes there. Before vou know I'm a member of Open Arms Metropolitan determines how they'll be treated and how .liiu uhjte socks with brown shoes. it, the executive director had left, and I filled in Communit\' Church and i*m also in leadership they'll be brought up, and that can be gros;>ly I lived in Holden, Mass., just outside Worces- because I had the time, and they were onlv open (jf that church, and teach a weekly Bible clas.s unfair. Because of fear, parents often don't rc^r. So I had to get on the bus and nde into thie one hour a night. Tnen my engineering contract ("VC'edncsdays at 7 p.m.), and I also faciiirate w'^nt to deal with either sex or gender issues. m c.wx. 1 c%in^ to the chuich hall where rhe party ended, and it happened on :i day when we were the Transgender Group meeting there on the When a child starts to quesuon their sexualiu pfeces was being heid, and the boys sat on one side o{ meeting as a board at rhe Mission to vote whether second Mondays. At present I'm retired, but or gendtr, they're put down because of fear tne room and the giris on the other. The dance to keep it open or close it, as wi couldn't find an 1 am looking to gc^i someplace where I can and shame. The parents think, "WhatA*-!.!! ih«^ back together: starred and I danced with the boys. The dance executive director. So 1 volunteered and took on share my knowledge and talents and help neighbors say?" It's about their fears, not NEW YORK i c!^ rructor tapped me on the shoulder and asked the position. people. One of my goals is to establish crisis about the child's needs. I see transgender as a V. ho I was. She almost fell over when I told her In one fell swvoop I went from $50,000 to housing and a clinic for gibt people. modern-day leprosy (like being gay or having — she had thought I was a neighborhood girl $5,200. I had planned to be there only a month EC: Paul Gtaham-Raad, board chair of AIDS). Fear ofthe unknown. who had crashed the part\'. Then they had a or two, until another engineenng job came along, the Open Door Mission, told the J>emocmt I have a saying I used when working with costume contest, and I won, and all the boys but God had other plans. I ended up being there & Chronicle that you are **fio longer the folks from the street "Problems of life are were mad at me! It felt perfecdy natural, and for 26 years. We went from being open one hour gave me some food for thought. a day to being open 24 hours a day, with all kinds 1 didn't understand what was happening, and of programs, three buildings, 40 employees, and I didn't understand my feeUngs. Coming from a three and a quarter million budget, all raised by conservative New England, they frowned on private donation. By that time I had six children, MYKONOS that sort of thing. So I buried it for 3 good many ranging in age from 40 to 13. During all of this fordripor i^cOMi years — ali through college — and I got mar- time ! had been struggling with my gender, and ned. But every once in a while I'd have this exploring what was going on inside roe, and the C^REEKCUISINE desire to come out — it felt like a battie inside struggle I was going through. I was too well .. ?.• me. known in the community and pretty much had •••••, %':;iT •''*^ -T.'M. \. I started to experiment. When I went on to do it on my own. 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Hasan Y^i >1! tan Community Churches to oppose any and understand, and remember, and call upon Permanent Mission of Iraq to the United new,hrm,l> AD 130 " CHRiSTIINiE SALTZBERG (D) {Monroe/Ontano/LivJngston; i.-rthcr acts of aggression against Iraq. We all nations to avoid the dangerous pR-cedent Nations AO 101 - ICE¥SM CAKILL (D) (Ulster County; Incumbent) Religion Newy Writers Symposium: irstq '". -• -t.ind together unequivocally for peace. ofthe use of preenipuve mslitarv' force, an*' to 14 JFiasi ~Orh Street AD 104 " PAUL TOIfiKO (D) (Montgomery County; fnoumbent) CbaSienger) and fust War Concepts.-^ Ti^is 1$ neither an issue of political affiliation seek peaceful resolution in collaboration with New York, N\" 10021 AO 106 - ROMALD CANESTRARi (D) (ASbany; ificumbent) AD 131 -SUSAW JOHN (D) (Rochester; incumbent) Interfaith Network of Concern for the fv-r tiationalistic loyalty. It is rather a deeply the United Nations. Unitarian Universalist Response AD 135 * DAVID KOON (D) (Monroe/Ontario; Incumbent) People of Iraq: Sanctions AD 108 -- M- TRACEY BROOKS (D) (BensseJaer/Saratoga; Challenger) spiritual issue with potentially devastating con­ In the aftermath ofthe events of September UU (ScNews UUA President Issues Pas­ 10 Frequentiy Asked Questions about A0113 -TERESA SAYWARD (R) (ainton/Essex/Franklin; Open Seat) AD 141 ~ CRYSTAL PEOPLES (D) (Buffelo; Open Seat) sequences to God's world. It is a deeply spiri- n, 2001 as many people around the globe toral letter on Threat of War with Iraq Iraq AD 116 - ROAMIi DESmrO (0) (Oneida County; incumbent) AD 144 - SAM HOYT (D) (Buffalo; Incumbent) •. :,i! ;ssue in which we are called to enter into acknowledge taking their spiritual and reli­ < h rtp- //'W'"ww. uua.org/ncws /2002 / < h t r p : / / w w w . s c n - o r g / c c p i,/ AD 150 - WILLIAM PARMEMT (D) (Jamestown; Incumbent) the TTiind and heart and will of God for all gious lives more serious.'y, we call tot the 020920. }Mml> AD 119 - JOAII CHRSSTEIiSEie (0) (Syracuse; Incumbent) lNOC_FAQs.html> creauon. demonstration ofthe courage and conviction HJLCA Response AD 120 » WfiLUAM MA&DIAREUJ (D) (Onondaga County; incumbent) World Council of Churches Statement For $me Senate .•\ U.S. and British-led war againsr Iraq car- those spiritual paths inspire. Stand firm against ELCA Presiding Bish«>p Mark S. AD 121 - SUFREfl OELANEY (D) (Onondaga County; Open Seat) on Iraq Situadon SO 46 - NEIL BRESUN (D) (Albany; incumbent) nes significant aiid potentially catastrophic risks aggression of any kind. Pray for Gtxi's will to Hanson's Statement on Iraq Situation WCC calls on Iraq to respect UN, ex­ AD 123 - CHRISTINA ROSETH (Green) (Broome/CortJand/Cayuga/ SD 49 - NANCY UU^RAINE HOFFMAN (R) (Syracuse; Incumbent t(^ our world including the potential to further prevail and bloodshed to cease. Pray for rec­ < h 11 p: /'/www .elca.org/bishop/ presses alarm Tioga/Cbenango; CttaSlenger) SD 56 - HARRY BRONSON (D) (Rochester. Open Seat) infiame and destabilize the already difficult onciliation with the people of Iraq and for ir3q.html> AO 124 - E. CLYDE OHt (0) (Onondaga County; Open Seat) situation in the Middle East, the danger of peace among the nations. Contact political World Council of Churches Response - among Mus­ leaders and encourage support and resourcing American, Canadian, British Church msg00029.htrnl> lim -M-'A area peoples., and military costs of S60 for the nonviolent movements already under­ IjCMtg l»l€m€l 1 :;:ui' n (L'S) or more — funds which could be way in Iraq and around the world. for ^JBte Assembly AD 9 - MARK CUTHBERTSON (D) (Suffolk County; Open Seat) .; -i li to aJj'eviate suffering in the world. Together, the friends and members of the \X ( m;j.st seriously ask ourselves, what ac- Metropolitan Communiry Churches, as gay, AD 2 - FRED TKIELE (B) (Suffolk County; Incumbent} AD 11 -ROBERT SWEENEY (D) (Suffolk County; Incumbent) u; ,ns will best .assure thar United Natitjns reso- iesbian, bisexual, and transgender people of AD 3 " PATRICiA EDOINGTON (0) (Suffolk County; Incumbent) AD 13 -DAVID SIDIKMAN (D) (Nassau County: incumbent) iijjions which have been agreed upon bv vhe iaith who have far too often known the pain of :PlcV^c:l^:Sl<>re^:fiii#^ AD 4 - STEVEN ENOLEBRIGHT (D) (Suffolk County; Incumbent) AO 16 -THOMAS DINAPOU (D) (Nassau County; Incumbent) h^IriJ!v of nations are honored and fulfilled; violence and hate, we proclaim that war is not AD 6 - PHIUP RAMOS (D) (Suffolk County; Open Seat) AD 19 -MICHAEL MOORE (D) Nassau County; Open Seat) u iiat actions best promote just and nght rela- the way. AD 21 -THOMAS ALFANO (R) (Nassau County; incumbent) i:i jnships between nations and among peoples; Just IS the path that will lead to peace on comfort bikes AD d - UUREN VAN KIRK (D) (Suffolk County: Challenger) what actions best preserve the eanh and pro­ earth and to goodwill among the nations. Neinf VorSc City mote the equitable distribution or resources; The Board of Elders of Metropolitan Community road what actions — both individually andgovem- Churches, a predominantly gay, lesbian, bisexual and mountain AD 69 - DANIEL O'DONNELL (D) (Manhattan; Open Seat) mentally — promote hope-filled change and transgender Christian denomination, has issued this HOURS AD 22-BARRY GROi»ICIflK(0) (Queens; Open Seat) set people free to pursue change, and what declaration of conscience and this caU to peace. Today weekdays 10-6 hybrid AD 23 - JUmUEY PHEFFBI (D) (Queens; Incumbent AD 71 - HERMAN FAEtREIX, JR. (D) (Manhattan; incumbent) actions pursue the noble ideals of reverence n>e call for all governments, faith commitnities, and Saturday 11-4 AD 73 - JOANTHAN BINS (D) (Manhattan; Open Seat) AD 24-MARK W0WN p{Queens; ^icumbent) and sustenance of life? international justice organiv^ions — edong with ali *Sunday 12-4 AD 74 - SIEVE SANDERS (0) (Manhattan; IncumbenI) War wiil only increase unrest and suffering AD 25 - BRIAN MIXAUGHUN (0) (Queens; bicumbent) people of goodwill— to wortz for peace and to coil for closed Wed. AO 75 *- RICHARD SOTTFRIED (0) (Manhattan; Incumbent) ui our worid, deepen the hatreds that already restraint in the conJJict a4th Iraq. ...and the new recumbents •call for winter hours AD 28 - iHOIAa. COHEN (D) (Queens; Incumbent) AD 81 - JEFFREY DINOWITZ (D) (Bronx; Incumbent) AD 34 - nrAN iAFAYETTE (D) (Queens; incumbent) Life is hard: cycling should be easy! AD 36 - MiCHAEL filAMARIS(D ) (Queens; Incumbent) For State Senate T7|7 Mt iHope Ay€stt^ AD 39 - JOSE PBtALTA (D) (Queens; Open Seat) SD 10 - ADA SMrrH (0) (Queens; Incumbent) AD 43 » CLARBICE NORMAN (D) (Brooklyn; tnoimbent) SD 13 - JOHN SARINS (0) (Queens; Open Seat) Rochesteiv NY i4^i&20 585-fe AD 44 - JAMES BRBINAN (D) (Brooklyn; IncimibenQ SD 16 - TOBY STAVISKY (0) Queens; Incumbent) AD 46 - AOELE OOMBN (D) (Brooklyn; mcumbenO SD 13 - VELMANETTE MONTGOMERY (D) (Bklyn; Incumbent) AD 52 - JOAN MHIMAN (D)(Brooktyn; Incumbent SD 20 - CARL ANDREWS (D) (Brooklyn; Incumbent) AD 55 - WILLIAM BQYIANO (D) (Brooklyn; inom^sent) SO 25 - MARTIN CONNOR (D) (Manhattan; Incumbent) AD 57 - ROOER €fl£Bi (D) (Brooidyn; Incumbent) SO 26 - U2 KRUEGER (0) (Manhattan; Incumbent) AD 61 - JOHN UVELLE (D) (Staten Island; IncumbenI} SD 27 - TOM DUANE (0) (Manhattan; Incumbent) AD 65 - ALEJtAmatimumS (D) (Manhatto; kiGunr^yenQ SD 30 - DAVID PATERSON (D) (Manhattan; Incumbent) _ t'n BREAKfAST - LUNCH • DINN€« »A«l • USTMMMT AD 66 - DEBORAH BLHa( (D) (Manhattan; IncumbenI} SO 31 - ERIC SCHNEIDERMAN (D) (Manhattan; Incumbent) DINE IN " TAKE OUT AD 07 - SCOTT STIWKR (D) (Manhattan; incun'rt>efi9 SO 32 - PEDRO ESPADA (R) (Bronx; Incumbent) Now OPEN SUNDAYS \ 4-9* UHMIK MHHU W9«ftclM»ster & Mutimon Valley PH, 171.4910 I 704 UHiTiiu^nr Avi. J FQr$(^Amt!Mt AD 94 - ALEXANDER 6R0MACK (D) (Rockland; Incumt^enl) 'il AD 88-AMY PAUUN (D) (Westchester; IncumbenQ ^^^^^r. SAPTISTS CONCEKnmB AD 95 - RYAN KARBEN (0) (Rockland County; Open Seat) 1891 Ridge Road. Wtebster, NY OF THE ROCHESTER AREA AD 89 - AOAM BRADLEY (D) Westchester; Open Seal) AD 101 - KEVIN CAHIU (0) (Ulster County; ktcumbenQ (Next to the Union Hill fire flouse) AO 90 - SANORA RMJEF (p) OMMcliestsr, Incumbent) PHONE: (585) 265-A443 AD 91» NOAM BRAMSON (D) (Westehester; Chaltengei) For State Senate FAX: (585) 265-4270 AD 92 - RKaiARD BflUKKY (D) OfVestchesten Incumbent) SD 35 - NICHOLAS SPANO (R) (Westchester. IncumbenQ AD 93 - MICHAEL SPANO (R) (Westchester IncumbenQ SD 37 - sua OPPENHEIMER (D) (Westchester, IncumbenQ VH^mmm 0O to wiMVMr.prictocifHMKitt.org for our on-Hwo Votor Quldle. FOR DETAILS CAU 271-4475 3 1 Ferrarese continued from p. 3 bill be allowed to the Senate floor for a vote, BOTH houses ofthe State L«^sktutc. Come Medical tnanjuana: "IdUer weed'* or Hfesaver? California lawsuit first ran for City Council in the '80s we took which woukt almost certainly result in its From Our Readers on, Joe — you aie what you are, don't lie By Susan Jordan particular, Mary Lucey of Los Angdes, who vidth AIDS at risk of jail. ^mfAy for trying to Four pbindffii in Califomia filed suit in a voter file and I had a carrier route put on passage. Pataid also mentfoned SONDA as a about it in the middle of an election cam­ Bruca Mirken of the Marijuana PoHcy Project, has bean literaHy saved from daath by medical save their lives," Mirken said. "No matter federal court in October, requesting an the envelopes — not just the zip codes plus le^sbtlve priority in his State of the State paign! based in Washington. D.C, believes strongly marijuana. ^'She is a woman with AIDS who Is, how he dances around the issue, that's pre­ injunction to stop the federal government four, but also the carrier route. address. However, no action was taken by Robach is not a Once again, if Robach has his way, the that medical use of marijuana has saved lives like so many people, alive today because of cisely v^at he's done. from arresting people for medkrally using I must confess that I told a friend of mine the Senate. GLBT commumty will be kft out in the cold friend to Igbt people —because several of those lives are those of antj-retroviral combinations. The drugs she "Which leads me to his response at NLGJA. marijuana, as permitted under state law. who worked at the Board of Elections at the On Oct. 4, John McArdie, spokesman for with no protectioa from job discrimination, hb friends. He k>bbies for the right of sick has to take make her so nauseated that she He gave the sort of bullshit non*answer he's Two ofthe plaintiffs. Angel McClary Raich time that Td love to someday be Commis­ Senate Majority Leader Joe Bruno (R- To ilae Editor; housing discrimination, etc. people to use medteal marijuana, which helps can't keep the pilb down, and n^arijuana con­ been giving for months. The FDA is com­ and Diane Monson, are patients with seri­ sioner ofthe Board of Elections! WeVe been Brunswick), told the media, 'There's no In the October issue of the Empfjf Ck^^ Fortunately, the votets of Brighton, Roch­ prevent wastage:, and enables those with trols nausea where other drugs don't. She pletely irrelevant to this discussion. The ous medical conditions who have obtained fortunate in having very good commissioners plans at this point. I think he'd like to see thete was an interview with joe Robach, the ester, Greece and Panna have a choice in the AIDS, cancer and other diseases to keep would absolutely not be alive today without FDA doesn't put people in jail for using recommendations from their doctors to here with a lot of integrity. About four years something by the end ofthe year, but there's Republican/Conservative candidate for the 56th District State Senate tace. The Demo­ their medications down. In the course of his medical marijuana. She has had state l«^l unapproved drugs, and these state laws have use marijuana to relieve some of their symp­ ago. when Betsy Relin and I talked about me no guarantees, no agreements, no deais.*' State Senate in the 56th District, In that cratic candidate is Hany Bronson. Harty is research as reporter and then lobbyist, he protection. Mary. peH^aps to her misfortune, nothing to do with FDA approval. Just say toms. The two unnamed co-plaintiffc are being her deputy. I thought, this gives me a The bill, v/hteh woukl add "sexuai orienta­ interview, he apparendy engaged in clever ptx>udly running as an openly gay man. His has learned how scientific fact can be twisted is also a longtime activist, and in order to help that under state law we aren't going to arrest marijuana growers who supply McClary iittle advantage here. So then I got really tion" to the existing human rights law ban« subterfuge, and, in one important instance, service to the GLBT is well known. He was and ignored by those with poiiticai agendas. fellow people with AIDS, joined the board and jail you for using marijuana If you're Raich with the two ounces of pot she says involved, and learned how much i didn't know ning discrimination, has been blocked by he outright lied. on the Board of the Gay Alliance from 1994 K Mirken told the Ert^i^ Ooset. "I came to ofthe LA. Cannabis Resource Center, which seriously ill and your doctor has recom­ she needs each week to alleviate her suffer­ about the Board of Elections! I got the chance Republicans from coming to a vote in the Your reporter asked him why he opposes to 2000 and served as Treasurer, Vice-Presi­ this by way of 15 or so years as an AIDS was raided by the feds last year, and she has mended it. ing. Named as defendants in the lawsuit are to do technology, and a lot more public Senate for over 30 years, although it has the passage of SONDA, the Sexual Orienta­ dent and as President from Oct. 1996 to May activist and journalist who never imagined I'd some fear of her legal situation i>ecause of "I should point out also that I asked him to the U.S, Attorney General John Ashcroft presentations. Betsy gave me the opportu­ been passed by the Assembly for a decade. tion Non-Discrimination Act. He replied, "I 1999. Harry is not only one of us, but has been be working In drug reform. But I ended up that. join us in a publk: forum sponsored by three and Asa Hutchinson, administrator of the nity to^do just about everything I wanted to Matt Foreman»interim executive director don't think anyone should be discriminated an effective leader ofthe GLBT community. do. Then she announced she was retiring, knowing friends, mosdy people with AIDS. "What have we come to In this country Philadelphia AIDS organizations. He blew Drug Enforcement Administration. of ESPA., told the Empty Ooset, "It's abun­ against. That historically has been added to Harry BronsoDi has assiste*:^gay and lesbian and I ran for Commissioner. who have experienced enormous benefits when it's a crime for a skk person to help that off with an answer about his schedule. I The lawsuit is the second time attorney dantly clear, even according to Mayor the language of measures to extend protec­ couples in developing contractual relation­ from medical marijuana, and thc^. from spend­ other skk people? What in God's name have went up to him after he'd done speaking and Robert Rak:h has tried to bring the issue to EC: How does the Comnnissioner Bloomberg's spokesperson, that the Mayor tions. It will add sexuai orientation to the law. ships that give them the same rights as straight ing time writing about this for publications we done?" gave him my business card, and told him I was the U.S. Supreme Court. A year ago, the election process work? did r»ot correctly deliver the message he was I have always voted for those measures." couples. He helped draft the historic Human like M\>% Treatment News, and spending time ^rious. He took the card and smiled and Supreme Court ruled against his client, the TF: There are 612 Committee members supposed to deliver. According to die Gov­ Tlie first three of dio:;e sentences are con­ Rights Law that was adopted by our City doing actual research, and comparing that to hasn't said a word since.'* Oakland Cannabis Buyers Ciub, in Its claim who voted, and they had a weighted vote. It's ernor and tlie mayor's spokesperson, he had fusing (probably intenUynaliy so), but THE Council last year. In 1994, he was active in what government officials were saying. I re­ What have we come to in this Mirken feels that polrdcai attitudes toward that medical necessity overrides federal based on a formula usually tied to the last received a statement to the effect that FOURTH AND MOST IMPORTANT getting the Domestic Registry Law adopted alized how blatantly we're being lied to. And marijuana, which is connected with the so­ law. gubernatorial race. Their votes can have SONDA would come to the Senate floor SENTENCE IS ABSOLUTELY UNTRUE! by the City CouncU — one ofthe first in the country when It's a crime for a as a result. I've been getting more and more cial change movements of the '60s, may be The lawsuit contends the four ptaintiffis different weights depending on the number 'next time they are in session, before the end Joe Robach has voted against SONDA state! He has lectured extensively state-wide sick person to help other sick pissed off. So vidien an opportunity to get influencing the refusal to look objectively at grow their own marijuana soleiy for their of people in their districts who voted, divided of the year.' Mayor Bloomberg said that he ever\' single year when it has come up for a on the lack of legal pr<5t£cdons for the GLBT involved came along, I jumped at it, people? What in Ood*$ nanree the drug's medical benefits, own medical use within the borders of by four.... It's basically to give the members had spoken to Majority Leader Bruno on the vote in the State Assembly- "^rhe Democratic- community. He did the background legal "Sort of the defining moment came to me have we done? "I think there's some cultural association California, thus removing any federal au­ who brought in the most voters in the day of the ESPA dinner, and tiiat Bruno had controiJed State Assembly passes SONDA research that led to forrnct Gov, Marifj Cuomo after Proposition 215 passed In California with the '60s, and probably some genuine thority under interstate commerce laws. gubernatorial race a reward for that. said that SONDA would pass in 'the next every vear. Robach vfjtes against it evsry? extending domestic partner benefits to State (permitting medical use ofthe drug)," Merkin fear and concern on the part of some parents The suit also claims constitutional protec­ On Sept. 25 we did very well. A lot of session,' which we assumed meant in 2003." year. Tlic Republican leader of the State employees by Executive Order. said, "and then-Health and Humart Services Mirken has been try?ng to engage former and others. But the other side of the coin, tion under clauses guaranteeing state sov­ people came out for us, I was really amazed Foreman said that ESPA met with Gov. Senate never lets the Senate vote on SONDA, », Yes, the choice is clear. We can all vote on Department Secretary Donna Shalala toid a Vermont Governor Howard Dean In a pubiic that cries out for discussion, is the massive and honored by how well the Igbt commu­ Pataki about the issue after Oct. 3, and so it never becomes law. (It is widely believed ereignty and due process. Election Day to elect Harry Bronson, a proven V/hite House press conference that 'all avail­ debate for many months. When governor. industry that has grown up around marijuana nity turned out for us. My opponent Bob added. "What's kind of remarkable about iXvAl if the Senate was ever alU)wecl tc> vote on If granted rhe injunction would prevent leader on issues that are important to the abie medical research tells us marijuana is Dean prevented a medical marijuana biil from prohibirion. In 2000, the last year for which Cook saw we had a lot of people and decided what's happened over the past two weeks is SONDA, it would pass!) the arrest and seizure of property' — in­ GLBT community, or a right-wing conserva­ dangerous to our health.* In fact, as I discov­ coming to the state Senate floor for a vote. He data is available, neariy three quarters of a to concede. that joe Tarver (Pride Agenda director of No>y Robach wants to join that State Sen­ cluding marijuana — of only the four defen­ tive Republican who wants to lie to us about ered researching for AIDS Treatment News, did support civil unions, and is currendy mak­ million Americans were arrested on mari­ EC: Can you comment on the in- communications) and others here have, ate Republican/Conservative majority and dants, but Raich predicts it will serve as a his record. Never has an election choice been the year before, one ofthe most prestigious ing many appearances before gay audiences juana charges, 88 percent of them for simple voSvennent of the local Igbt community through the dinner and the endorsement (if elected), his very first vote in tlie .Senate precedent for the entire country. so clear. Please join me in achieving the !iis- medical journals in the world. The Lancet said nationwide in his attempt to get the Demo­ po.ssession. According to government sur­ within the Democratic Party^ and process, put SONDA back on the front will be ro reelect Sen. Bruno — tbe man who "This case obviously involves only the toric election of Harry Bronson to the State in an editorial. The smoking of cannabis, cratic presidential nomination. veys, 56 percent of Americans who use within the Republican Party? Are there burner. Virtually every paper that mentions never lets SONDA come up for a vote — as four plaintiffs who brought the case. How­ Senate! even longterm, is not harmful to health.' That Atthe National Lesbian and Gayjournaiists illegal drugs use only marijuana — nothing any differences? the Governor's unfinished business includes Senate majority leader. Thus, Robach will ever, it would then lay a template for any Paul E. Haney took me ali of five minutes to find; i presume Association convention In Philadelphia in Sep­ else. If marijuana prohibition were ended, or other similarly situated seriously ill patient, TF: There is the Log Cabin Republican the Rockefeller drug laws and SONDA. This have perfected his opposition to SONDA •4} 424 Broadway Shalaia's staff was capable of the same re­ tember, Mirken again publicly confronted rethought, an av/fui lot of people wouid have group, headed by Tom Wahl. Our activity in underscores the recognition that the gay :ind ^3,'ill be '.>ne ofthe very fcvc people able to in Califomia or any other state with a Rochester, New York 14607 search." Deun, who finally conceded that If he becomes to get real jobs, and a lot of budgets would go Che Democratic Party is a little more main­ vote is important. The Governor didn't have claim that they have opposed SONDA in medical cannabis law," he said. stream. We're involved by the fact that we're to meet with us to salvage our relationship. Mirken also cites objective reviews ofthe president, he will order tJ-je FDA to do tests south. California's Proposition 215, approved politicai, and often Igbt people hold positions This is conclusive demonstration that politi­ Agenda Four openly lesbian or gay candidates, and available data by DEA administrative law they are now refusing to do. However, he "There's also a bit of America's old Puritan by voters in 1996, exempts patients who within the Democratic Party. It s not a mat­ cians want the gay vote, that we are an one transgender candidate were among tlte judge Francis Young (i988~'89) and by the refuses to see medical marijuana as a drug for heritage resurfacing in this." Mirken said, possess or cultivate marijuana for medical ter of acceptance, it's a matter of clout—and imponant bloc." endorses candidates endorsed group. Incumbent Assembly mem­ Institute of Medicine (a branch of the Na­ any but the "terminally ill". "among old line drug warriors, the William treatment from criminal laws against mari­ we as a community have earned that clout by -Some information from Erika Rosenberg, ber Deborah Glick (D-Manhattan) and Sena­ tional Academy of Sciences), at the request Mirken comments, "We certainly will be Bennetts of the world, carried on now by juana use when the drug Is recommended proving that we can turn out the vote, and Gannett Albany Bureau including Bronson tor Tom Duane (D-Manhattan) were en­ of then-drug czar General McCaffery. The monitoring aii rite presidential candidates and Asa Hutchinson (head ofthe DEA) and John by a doctor. The physicians who pr€»scribe that we have have gotten out and voted for The Empire State Pride Agenda has announced dorsed for re-election. ESPA endorsed two Institute published a report In 1999 which trying to engage all of them. Dean came up Walters (White House drug czar, and former marijuana are aLso exempt from prosecu­ found marijuana to have clear medical ben­ first because he is the only potential presiden­ aide to Bennett), There Is a moralistic streak, tion. the candidates. We've proved we're a real its endorsements for Senate and Assembly openly gay candidates, Daniel O'Donnell J power in the Democratic Party. Nobody Conservatives admit races for the upcoming Nov. 5 election. (Democrat, running for Manhattan's 69th efits for certain patients, and a remarkable tial candidate who has actually killed a medical a feeling tl)at one gets from some of these Raich was married this summer to handed it to us. SONDA won't be Rochester candidate Harry Bronson is among Assembly District), and Harry Bronson level of safety. The report, "Marijuana and marijuana bill, Vermont Bill H64S, which woejid folks, that drug use is 'bad'. Moral issues are McClary Raich, who was a member of the EC; Any comments on Harry the candidates receiving endorsement by the (Democrat, running for Rochester's 56th Medicine: Assessing the Science Base." said have been very similar to existing medical an area where people can legitimately dis­ now-dormant Oakland Cannabis Buyers Bronson's campaign (openly gay Demo­ "end of the worSd*' state's Igbt advocacy group. Dcistrict). Transgender activist and Green "Nausea, appetite loss, pain and anxiety are marijuana laws in eight states. The Vermont agree, and they have a right to their views. Club. cratic candidate for the State Senate)? Party candidate Christina Rossetti was also ail afflictions of wasting, and all can be miti­ bill passed the Republican-controlled House But the law should be about preventing In a nev/s conference following the court Michael Long, chairman ofthe Conservative On the statewide level, the Pride Agenda TF: One of die things that gives a really endorsed in her race against an incumbent gated by marijuana.'* of Representatives, and had enough votes to harm, filing, McClary Raich said she suffers from an Party, and a longtime foe of Igbt rights, has endorsed incumbent Attorney General good feeling about the campaign is that any­ Republican for the 123rd Asembly District in Mirken said that the report explains in pass the Democratic-controlled Senate. But "By any measure, marijuana is less toxic inoperable brain tumor and needs mari­ conceded to NY I news reporter Andrew Eliot Spitzer for re-election, and former N.Y C. one who's had a chance to hear Harry speak Broome County. some detail that there are approved drugs the Senate ieadership, closely identified with and addictive titan alcohol, but a few days ago juana to stimulate her appetite and prevent Kurtzman in mtd-October that if SONDA, Comptroller Alan Hevesi for State Comp­ knows what a good Senator he'd make. He troller. Also in upstate New York, ESPA has en­ that can relieve the same symptoms, but they Dean, and acting on his behalf, kept the bill in Los Angeles, Brian Epys was sentenced to the continual weight loss that could eventu­ the state gay rights bill, passes, 'Mt will not be botded up so it never got to the floor. 10 yenrs in prison for the 'crime* of providing articulates issues clearly to the voters. Who­ "We are proud to support Democrats and dorsed Crystal Peoples (Democrat) Hi the don't work for all people, and there are ally prove fatal. the end of the world". medical marijuana to other sick people. That ever has heard him will vote for him. He's Republicans who stand up for equal rights for 141st Assembly District in Buffalo; Teresa individuais for whom there Is no viable alter­ "My personal take is, I'm offended and "Medical cannabis is not about cannabis. However. Long stated that he intends to is simply beyond belief in a civilized society." aiso dedk:ated, with a high ethical standard. lesbian and gay New Yorkers," said Matt Sayward (Republican) in the upstate \ I Bth native. angered that someone actively seeking my It's not about pot — it's about real lives," keep fighting against the biil, which would Change will come slowly, Mirken feels. He's clear about what he believes is the right Foreman, ESPA Executive Director "Our Assembly District). He mentioned the example of one friend in community's support has chosen to put people she said. "It's about ending suffering, it's give equal civil rights to Igbt New Yorkers. "This is an issue, unfortunately, in which thing to do in every situation. I just wish we goal is for both major parties to fully support Endorsement decisk>ns were based on about sick, disabled, and dying Callfomians This first-time-ever concession from the both major parties are almost equally cul- had half the money the Republicans do.... an equal rights agenda.** responses to a candidate questionnaire, an that suffer greatly like myself." small but influential party came after the pal>le. Some Democrats have expressed We'll be able to do some radio ads. but not Endorsements were made in 61 Assembly examinatkxi of candklates* voting records McClary Raich said she feeb angry and Republkzan Party denial ofthe claim by Mayor enlightened views, but not a lot. There needs TV. races and 17 Senate races. Seven Republican (where relevant), and/or by reviewing pubiic will fight with "every single ounce of energy Michael Bloomberg of N.Y.C. (at the Empire to be more public awareness and pressure. candklates and one Green Party candidate acts and statements. that I have left" to make sure the govern­ SONDA continued from p. I State Pride Agenda dinner on Oct. 3) that a People need to make sure candidates and received endorsments. -Empire State PHde Agenda ment does not take the drug away from her. deal had been worked out with Gov. Pataki elected officials know this matters. The gay McCall told the Times that this is a cynical "When I was partially paralyzed and in to put SONDA on the Senate fioor for a vote community has a unique ability to affect election-year ploy, and that the Republicans that wheelchair, that was heU,*" she said, j after the election. Dean because of civil unions; we are his have no principles. Sheldon Silver, Assembly "And there is no way that I'm going to aHow Matt Foreman of ESPA saki. "Michaei Long natural base of support. Politicians icnow Majority Leader, said. **lt is outrageous that this federal government to send n^e back to has never gone on the record with such a uick miKitcal marijuana polls show public support, hell There's no way." after ail its years of neglect, the Senate now fr'ank admission about SONDA For those of R O C H E $ Q but they don't believe it's an issue people Monson, v^o suffers from chronk back promises to act in order to deliver an elec­ us that follow this issue cfosety. Chairman /;/(:•( 4 YKtkammn vote on. When they do, we'll win," pain and muscle spasms, had been gnowlitf tion year gift to the Governor." Long's words indicate that a fundamental f't:i •;/< A ROCHESTER RRST: Mirken said that people are gradually be- her ovm marijuana at her hon«e in rural Republican officials had announced on Oct. shift b occurring within the ranks of the comif^ more aware. '*Some of the recent northern Callfbmia. She described a recant 4 that no deal had been made to pass the party that for so many years lias been a major GayAfsbian Speed Dtttinji Em outrages in Califomia, as highlighted In visit by sheriffs deputies and DEA 9^gumx measure. In spite of what New York's mayor force in prevendr>g lesbians and gay men December 2.2002 6;30 - SaDO fuiu Doone^ty^ tiava gotten people's attention during whkh the deputies tried unsuoaiia> said at the Empire State Pride Agenda dinner from (having) the same chril rights protec- SPbT Coffee. 200 Eirt Ave* llBdiMin; nr to a dfigree, but there's much more work to fully to convince the federal afantt not:«0 on Oct. 3. tfons in cmploymantartd housing that every­ be done. I'd urge people to look at our cut down har sbc plants. New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg, one else takas for granted. Given Chairman website, www.mpp.org» and they will see, "1 am not a criminal.'* Monson said.H|io urging ESPA's endorsement for Governor Long's concession, we urge Governor Puaki for instanca, that a lawsuit has been filed not deserve to have my home raJdMt §^ Pataki in the Nov. 5 election, told the ESPA and Senata Majority l-eader Bruno to put against Attorney General John Ashcroft by have my peace of mind taken awa^lnOMg^ dinner guests that SONDA would be passed, SONDA before the Sanate for a vote this medicat marijuana patients.** my privacy taken from ma/* Pataki himself had earlier promised the igbt year." Marijuana contkiued on nmxt p«ta advocacy group that he wouM urge that the -Empire State Pride Agmda

V n ^ 7 Wilchins continuad from |>. I no terms such as sexual horossmenc or em­ /nte/prel»«*wi«» Its contant Is uldmataty anv ployment dbcriminatioa biguous, whteh In turn undermines Its \a^ Ireland spoka about the lagcndary Anita Bryant hate campaipi in Fk>rida, irontcally ing silence and reporting the crime was that Participants nnust RSVP by Nov. 1. For Youth RUsk Behavior By deconstrucdnf thalomial language ofthe Marijuana continued from previous Modem Hovemantt Iti muidplicicy of mean­ called "Save die Chiklren". She talked about the perpetrator of his abuse was assigned to more information contact John Horgan, Have you ever had sexual intercourse? page ings and biases wara revaaled. whkh re­ issues that GenderfAC and Riki Wikhlns another parish. (716)852-1142 or Don Bniner. (585)325. How old were you when you had sexual Attorney David Michael said he believes sulted in the questfoninf of Its phikMophkal had brought fbrv^ard, which resonated with Since that time I have acquired 17 years of 5100 exL 3520. A similar event will be hekl intercourse for the first time? the government does not have the right to foundatkKis. (From De^pt ofthe 20di Cen&jiy her, causing bar to want to become kivolved. make laws about health decisions made by experience working with survivors of chlW in Buffalo on Nov. 6. Durit^ your Ufe. widi how many people have And she talked about these two coalltkms you had sexual intercourse? by ChaHotte and V^Btar Ftel}). patients and their doctors, especially if, in and adolescent sexual abuse. My memories Wiichlns quoted from writer Judith coming togather, feminism and gender advo­ of that young man's pain inspire me to begin State refuses to ask During the past three months, vrtdi how cacy. She saki they were trying to use unity regards to marijuana, the drug is used within Buder and discussed'her book GsnderTnMfbfe a group fbr survivors like him within our many people dki you hanra semial imarcourse? to gain power. the boundaries of their ov/n state v/ith no students about bias She said that Butler wrote about community. This group would meet on The last time you had sexual intercourse, *The Master's tools will neyer dismande "commerce activity." deconstructing gander. She saki that "main­ Wednesday evenings from 7:15 p.m. to 8:45 what method dkj you or your partner use to the Master's House," she saki quodng Audre 'The federal government does not have it is OK for the state to ask students about stream people are missing die poinf. and p.m. An initial interview at no cost and a 12- prevent pre^^iancy? Lorde. She added, "By taking on 'klentity the right to interfere," Michael said. "That's every detail of their sexua! behavior, but diat the conversation has targaly been an week commitment are required. Fees arc on politics.' we reinfbrce the master's house." what's important about this case." asking if they have been harassed In school abstract one, ao she (Wiichlns) wants to find Call 2 Action marches to honor the fallen a sliding scale firom $25 to $50 per session. Questions rajacted by tha State Edu­ And, she added, "Resist die urge for society -CNN.com Is "too personal." according to the State a San^MSt and uanafann the issue into pnic- By NIaty Walling ) My inspiration for beginning a group for cation Department to be a«icadl on the to stereotype you." the fallen who were remembered. Education Department. tjca/ po«tJts, so everybody can "get it". On Oct. 11, National Coming Out Day, the people with bipolar disorder who are leading Youth Risk Behavior Survey: Ireland also reminded us of Rosa Parks, Other people handed out flyers bokJly Adoption Resource On Oct I, after over three years of She continued, "For instance, there are no grassroots group Call 2 Action Task Force well-functioning lives is far more personal. During the past 30 days, on how many days and how four African-Americans were told displaying pride colors, along with remind­ dialogue with elected offklaSs, educational positive dictkwary words fbr gender transit organized and carried out its first annual Network to meet It's a painful story. In summary, the long were you called names, teased, harassed or to move to the back of the bus - tiiree ers that hate is a crime and that everyone experts, parents, students, and community tion: 'effeminate*. *btttch*, have been essen­ visibility walk dovyntown. This year's theme hours and adrenaline of responding to the attacked at schools, or on the way to or from moved. One sat still in her seat Ireland deserves equal rights and protection, as On Saturday, Nov. 9, the Adoption Resource leaders, and despite assurances to the 156- tially negative words." was "Honoring our Fallen Brothers and terrorist attacks of last September 11 as an schools, because of your race or skki cok>r? finished by saying. "You can make a diffier- wel! as reminders to vote for ftiir-minded Network is holding its 11 th annual Adoption member organizations of the statewide Also, she added, "Chances are, almost Sisters". American Red Cross Disaster Mental Health cnce. Stand together, we can make a differ­ leaders on Nov. 5. and Foster Care Conference. A key focus In Dignity for All Students Coalition, the State everyone has experienced some type of nega­ Many of the participants walked with Volunteer were enough to trigger a genetic — because someone thought you were gay. ence." Call 2 Action decided on Oct. II, Na­ many sessions will be options and opportu­ Education Department (SED) announced tivity or harrassment because they did not fit signs painted with the names, ages and predisposition to bipolar disorder I had con­ lesbian, bisexual or transgender? GenderPACs new website is: www,gpacorgl; tional Coming Out Day. because It is desig­ nities for gay and lesbian parents to build in a letter to Assembly Education Commit­ into the \deQ\ concept of what it is to be male descriptions ofthe victims of hate crimes in sidered myself blessed to have been spared. — because you have a disability (including NOWr^rww.now.org/ nated by the National Gay and Lesbian Task their families through adoption and foster tee Chair Steven Sanders that it wil! not or ^-:r(\a\^. These issues are not only GLBT Often, coming out as a lesbian or a survi­ physical, learning, emotion or mental)? our country. Matthew Shepard. Brandon Force of Washington, D.C. as a day when care. seek data on bias harassment in schools i? iue.^. They are not only Transgender issues. vor of chiid sexuai abuse has been helpful to — on how many days were you subjected to Crime Victims Board Teena and Stephanie Thomas were among GLBT citizens can come out in safety. This year's conference is sponsored In part based on race, disability, gender and sexuai it is a universal Issue." my clients. I am hoping that, in offering a unwanted sexual attention or cornments...? by Cay Parent Magazine orientation in its annual Youth Risk Behav­ Wiichlns told the story of a woman who to extend benefits to that recognizes all families—gay and straight Bob Parsons and Dennis Foley will again (vsrww.gayparentmag.com). Over 400 people group for people who are trying to function ior Survey (YRBS) administered to stu­ serve as Co-Chairpersons. R. Bruce Colbum In his letter explaining SED's justification for said to her, "1 bought a bicycle lock for my — deserve equal support after a loved one is each year participate in conference activities well in their relationships and careers while dents across New York State. partners of gays will be the Treasurer and Ann Tippett wil! be not gathering data on bullying and harassment son.and he toW me he could not use it - it murdered," said Matt Foreman, interim Ex­ that will feature national and local experts in living with their illness, my personal Insight The YRBS, a federally funded, state ad­ The New York State Crime Victims Board Secretary. They join Marcus Newman, Don in schools on the basis of race, disability, was the v/rong colors for a bof. She talked ecutive Director of the Empire State Pride ail areas of adoption: including pre-adoption will enhance wb.zi I can offer, in addition to ministered survey, contains core questions (CVB) has extended Gov, Patakl^s 9/11 Ex­ Woodruff and Kirn 'KimbaSI to complete the gender and sexual orientation. Deputy Educa­ about how kids are often hai-assed (gay or Agenda. '*We thank Gov. Pataki for pressing planning, post-adoptive counseling, legal ser­ what I have learned from education and the created by the federal government de­ ecutive Order granting surviving partners of seven-person Board. tion Commissioner James A Kadamus wrote. non-gay) for what is seen as ^nder transgres CVB to take this action: his leadership made vices, adoption agency exhibitors and over experiences of my clients. signed to gather data about the safety and gay victims of any crime to equal benefits to Ann Tippett joins Marcus Newman, Don "The information requested in the questions sion. (The wrong sports^clothcs, personality, this possible." 40 workshops on various topics. Work­ This group will meet on Saturdays from health environment for high school aged those received by married, heterosexual Woodruff and Kim Kimball as new members *. designed for LGBT students is primarily of a interests, etc. This is sodety's Issue. Her final "Empire State Pride Agenda shops will include wide ranging options: from i 2:1S p.m. to 1:45 p.m. An initial interview at youth. States are free to add questions of spouses. on the RGMC Board. Tippett is on the personal nature With participation In the point to the small, mosdy college-age audi­ international and domestic adoptions, Infant no cost and an eight-week commitment are their own to gather data on related sub­ Domestic partners of ail homicide victims, English/Philosophy faculty at Monroe Com­ survey voluntary, the inclusion of LGBT-fo- ence v» for in­ Department will not even ask the question 120 E. Main St that 43 percent of students report having been formation on annual conference registration whether students are safe in schools fr om The forum, for men aged 21 and up. alms the target of offensive racial comments or GIFTS, and woricshops. and for contacts on how you bias-based bullying and harassment" said to begin dialogue on how to prevent the attacks at school. The Muslim Public Affairs can make a difference in the lives of children Ross Levi, Legislative Counsel for the Em­ continued spread of HIV in the community; Council reports that most of the incidents of and families in our area. pire State Pride Agenda and Co-Faci!itator enable men to network with other men of anti-Arab and anti-Muslim harassment and i\ of the Dignity for All Students Coalition. FILMS color, provide the latest statistics on HIV/ threats across the nation are occurring in •To SED, it is not too personal to ask a Sex abuse, bi-polar AIDS, and include participants in addressing junior high or high school. And data collected student's sexuai habits, but it is too per­ this problem. Dinner wil! be provided for by the Massachusetts Governor's Commis* ^ groups are fornning sonal to ask if he or she has been beaten up &More www.prideconnection.net free. sion on Gay and Lesbian Youth reveals that 97 because of their race, teased because they By Barbara Debes, M.S. MOCHA says, "The time has come for percent of high school students report regu­ were believed to have a disability, harassed !t was more than 20 years ago, when I was heterosexual men of color and men of color larly hearing homophobic remarks. As of now. because someone thought they were les­ working as a school psychologist, that I tried who have sex with men to come together New York State collects no comparable date bian, gay, bisexual or transgender, or been to help a young man who was tortured by the and dialogue about an issue that Is much on the prevalence and types of bias harassment HOUDAV iMOPPING AT the victim of unwanted sexual advances." betrayal of his trust, his terror that he might greater than sexual identity. That issue is HIV occurring in schools. Questions already asked by the be homosexual and his crushing bewilder­ and how it is destroying our lives and our -Empire State Pride Agenda ment that the only consequence of his break­ community." 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.omaiilzation w hix;1i raiscs and cjisseiw \ ival^^r^ "Spoken ^wotd aiti«t'* Aiix Olson wiil per- fonn here on Nov. 2 at the Visual Studies . riitrfh-tdiJl • -ii high v:q;iiiai}i^',;^o;rv^ f;i'l>:;:'J^>-r.^.:p«C*p Workshop, 3t Ptince St. She will shane the • J iyi n^g";;W>xh'^^'.1^.1 ^ stage with Toronto-based Ember Swift. Alix Olson was a member of the \ 998 Nuyori<::an National Championship Slam Team, as well as winner of the 1999 OutWrite Na­ tional Slam. Since then, she has been a touring folk poet and spoken word artist, performing nationally and intetiiationally at hundreds of colleges, clubs and festivals, including the FalaDuxa Festival in Porto, Portugal, the Inter­ national Poetry Festival in Rotterdam, Nether­ lands, Amsterdam's Gay Ganfies, and the LGBT Cultural Arts Festival in London, England. Alix has been featured in publications such 100% pi t^ as Ctirlfnends Miiga^^ttK, Curve Maga^ne, the^Adifo- case, Lesbian Rjemw n^BookSt and most recendy provi^ dbe^ point. Thete «re donallOAg^ on the covers of both Lambda Bmk Rtport and Ms. Maga^ne. She has appeared on Oxygen ^f^mxttSA Uke R^ithle and Tclcvisk>n,/«/fcri:^,CNN,aoawPXN'» World Ct^ A«£fr Damd L>ye, as weJl as local radio sta­ tions around the country. Alix has shared the stage with such artists/ On this month's /#^Z^. ABCTV»s NYPD \lso making history, the Washington State activists as Michael Moote» Pete Se^er, Chns- Elm star BiU Bxochtnap hosts a look at Igbt 3ourt of Appeak rules disctimination based FuncI. I. I'le "Wis!V I isi'\,gi:\ t^^S; )^rt t> ii petvi'vlc rine Lavin, Catie Curtis, Howard Zinn, Nt2oke people's activism in politics and personal lives. >n sexuai orientation violates the U.S. Consti­ Shange, Leslie Feinberg, Alix Etobkin and many \vith Alps tV>F / U^ 3 The show airs here on Nov. 17 on WXXI at 11 tution. In New York, groups embrace gay others, and has headlined events such as The p.in. zulture during events celebrating Black Ptide, C National Oxganization for Women's national tclcy isuMTs. u> nanik: iii>t: a <>hort )c\\ IMost This edition includes a stoiy on the long and in experimental theater, dance, and music by CO conference. National LesbiSA Sutnmit, National recent 1\; lhe 'v^A^ isii i;rst'' j Lj^^ controversial career of La«y Knuner, the man gay and lesbian performers at Dixon Place, Gay and Lesbian Task Force*s Creating Change, Xi once dubbed '^ Americ^a's angtiest AIDS aat tc>r a >ouiig elvrlcl :iiul biis tieke and GcnderPAC. ist." Other stories focus on legalized ctvil unions production of Harkm Som^ directed by ac­ tor a laini ly \;>si\l v 1 he 'Wish 1 !st" I lin*^! claimed gay wntcr/dircctor/producer George H and the 6fst same-sex coupk to register under Rob Byrnes allo\\> t]u>'>e AV nil f iiX VVll )S tc.) i i \ e ^a heuer o In the Life for Nov^ the new law in Quebec, as wdl as filmmaker C. Wolfe. In San Francisco, playwright Mart Johnny Symons' Sundance hit documentary Crawley premieres Tbe Men pom tbe Beys, his 3 < •Daddy «yP^, which looks at the challenges sequel to Tbe Bqys m tbt^ Band. Boole party to nnark of fatherhood axid what happens when gay And in a new Out Take, Tony Award- men becottie patents. Also, /7Z, spotl^hts winiting actor Harvey Fierstein <]uestions why Byrnes' first novel * siflger/songwntet Albita, the Latin music sen­ he has spent the last 20 years of his life fighting Rob Byrnes, a Rochester native now Itvii^ in -k for AIDS awareness. New York City, will return to Rochcatot on sation who onetged from MtamTs South Beach gay and leshtart community. .^ipeani^ in spedal 777.. public service Thursday, Nov. 14 to celebxate the pidifiarlion In Out e^* AkeMtr dance music diva Joi announcements are actor/activist Judith L^ht of his first novel, 72rA%(^ lir#A6A CatdweH tepotts on gay and lesbian Atkansans {Jbeltymm WtittSi^vyA Wbo'sA*Bossf)\ax A book party is scheduled that evefung&bm who axe chaBei^tng their state's somy law Larry SuUivan {Jhe Trip and Fmrbidden O^); 6 p»m. to 8 p.m. at RJ*s Pub, 140 Alexaader St. I and on AIDS activist Wan Yan-Hai*s release Beth Anthony, die first openly lesbian cast Publishers Weekly calls Bymes's novel after alleging the govetiunent*s responsibility member on Tbe RetU WMd; and Katherine "clever, (and) compulsively teftdable." whtk for the growth of the AIDS epklemic in China. Linton. Booklist adds that it*s *'(a) ctowd-pleaatng de* light." From the documentary Oaddf & f'Qpo- j;<. T « r\ » m r-T Y c^.f ^ r^ x j B3

Ruthi« & Connie continued from p. I MWMMMMMMMIHaita Family Affair, which showcases a nice Jewish girl tmSJSmrmtmum i ^ ^mi Book reviews: Padilla's father's comments echo the simi­ fixed up by her matchmaking PFLAG mom. stories they told, made mc laugh, made me cry Connie receive. '"We need to challenge the larities between the two minority communi­ Found Tribe looks at Some great Jewish guilt and a few matzah balls and made me think. The essays from two system if we are going to live in the U.S.," said ties. The gay Jewish community had been later, there's a lesbian marriage Under the Chuppah. Orthodox rabbis, one closeted and one who Connie. silent until now, while the Jewish Lesbian Discover the Exlraor gay Jewish men Then there's the advertisement about Sara recendy came out; the Jewish SM lesbian who Ruthie and Connie have a postcard cam­ community has written quite a few books. By Deborah Davis Felder's one woman show at JCC, ShtikI, por­ struggled to find a Jewish meaning in her sex paign that they have gladly given their names Schimel wili co-edit Burning Bush next year, a life; the Jewish dykes who struggled with the Can a man be a member of both the gay and traying a vaudeville comedian cross-dresser. to. The postcard asks Governor Pataki to pass collection of essays on sexuality and Judaism, conflicting desire to be circumcised and to Jewish communities? The answer lies in Found Add to that the fabulous opf>ortuttity to re- a law making marriage legal for same sex part­ by lesbians, bisexuals, and straight women, hold to their lesbian politics, raised issues, Tribe, a new collection of essays where gay viewQueerjews by David Shneer and Caryn Aviv, ners. For postcards to support the movement, the first time that Jewish women of all sexual provoked challenges and created unique reso­ i Jewish men share their experiences and their and October 2002 should be known as the queer go to w ww.ru thieandconnie.com or email them orientations have written together, breaking lutions during their journeys of integrating ^ identity. Identity often starts with the labels or Jewish month! Queer Jews is a fun book which =§ at [email protected] and request a card. another boundary. their queer and Jewish identities. Ruthie and Connie are not stopping at New names that we choose for ourselves, and we are delicately balances politics and humor, GBLT not always the ones who choose these labels. and Jewish identity and humanity with spiritual­ Best of all, several of the authors spoke to York State either; they intend to take their fight the issues faced by transgender Jews. A haunt- "Who controls what the names are?" asks ity. to the federal government as well. ingly poignant essay about two transgender Lawrence Schimcl, editor of Found Tribe. "Do Queerjewsis decidedly different than some of In 1994 Ruth, a high school guidance coun­ Jews at the Western Wall in J erusalem and their you decide? Or does the Jewish or homosexual the earlier books like Nice Jewish Girls (Evelyn selor, dong with. Connie and another couple, decisions to pray with either the men or the community say 'are you one of us?"' Beck 1982,1989), Twice Blessed On Being Usbian, sued the New York City school board for women, as weU as the slightiy inore light- Schimel, who has published over 50 books, Gay and Jewish (Avi Rose and Christie Balka, medical and dental benefits for same sex hearted genderbending-trans-boydyke's expe­ say he wants his writing to "always fight for 1989) and Like Bread on the Seder Plate: Jewish couples. They won their suit, but the victory is rience as a Hebrew teacher, were two of the watercohr Sfy 0n Ouisty broader levels" and to "create bridges between Lesbian and the Transformation of Tradition (Re'oecca a rather hollow one, because only in New York ani di franco most thought provoking contributions. Cit^' are Ruthie and Connie recognized as a cultures and communities." Alpert 1997). As the Queer fews editors state in Secluded into the Victor hills is this dramatic contemporary Each of the essays made me proud to be a couple. When they go to Florida or travel, the Letterman*', but when officials w^anted to dic­ In Found Tribe, he hopes to build a bridge their introduction, these books were "written in queer Jew. Each author had chutzpah. With­ legal wotid views thetn as strangers. tate what song ani should sing, she refused. Ani featuring 3100 square feet of imaginative living space. The great between the Jewish and gay community, and an era when Jewish identity and sexual identity out making apologies, each author claimed the In the movie Ruthie and Connie are reliving dots not do a song on demand for anyone, and room offers a two-story brick fireplace, beamed ceiling and is reach out to Jewish gays who feei like they are were still seen as opposing one another... and right to have both ajewish and a queer identity. past memories — good and bad, Ruthie recalls decided to cancel her TV appearance instead of alone. In many of the essays in the book the identity politics did not necessarily include bi­ highlighted by a private loft A first floor master suite adjoins the Each author demanded, in some way, that being so distraught that she considered sui­ compromising her principles. writers think that they are the only gay Jews. sexuals, transgendered people, and queer youth." spa room. The beautifully designed kitchen adjoins a three- Judaism recognize the queer identity and that cide. Today, Ruthie believes that we are ail Ani is and alw^ays has l>een steadfasdy inde­ Andrew Ramer writes on his discovery that he The editors strive to "introduce the voices of Lawrence Schimel the queer community needed to make room responsible and should never let anodier per­ pendent. She began singing and playing guitar season California room. Extensive glass throughout the house is gay in his essay, "I knew that (gayness) the "post-Stonewallgeneration," who."... docu­ for the Jewish identity. son hurt themselves because they feel that they in local bars at age nine At age 15 she moved allows complete access to nature. A private guest wing provides applied to me... and diat I was the only Jew in ment the internal debates over the price of Not just an editor, Schimel also published No author sugar-coated the homophobic are different. out on her own and began writing het own the world to have it." inclusion and asks difficult questions about two well-proportioned bedrooms with adjoining bath. A very his own stories, including His Tongue, short attitudes or the halachic (theological) beliefs of ir 2000 Ruthie and Connie celebrated 25 material. By the age of 18 ani had pbyed every Ramer is not the only one to feel this way. sameness and difference — tensions that spark large multipurpose room with a wood burning stove and full stories of gay erotica, which is nominated for Judaism in general, and Orthodox and Chasidic vears of being together with a special blessing bar in Buffalo many times over. It was time to After Found Tribe's predecessor, Kosher Meat, a the creative vitality queer Jews bring to Jewish the Lambda Award. Like Found Tribe, His Jews, in partictilar. Yet, each found a way to in front of 275 friends at Congregation Beth move on to bigger things. Ani moved to New bath occupy the walkout lower level. A unique and private collection of erotic essays by gay Jews, a man families, institutions and politics". David Shneer I Tongue forces readers to look differendy at love God and live a spiritually satisfyingjewish Simchat Torah, a gay/lesbian s3magogue in York City, but she was not prepared for the setting with a house designed for those seeking a creative contacted Schimel and told ham that for 40 and Caryn Aviv's anthology reminds us that "as the world. Published by Frog Ltd., His Tongue life. All of the authors described the joy of ^: New York City culture shock she received upon moving there. years he had not practiced Judaism, and that Jews and queers" we have a duty to advocate for but comfortable lifestyle. changes the rviles of pornography by writing integrating their Jewish and queer identities "Guilt is not my color, " say Ruthie and By 19 ani was ready to make and release her Kosher Meat gave him peace with himself and change rather than accept the status quo. stimulating stories about safe sex, open rela­ without compromising either. Connie. "Should n^ come out is not acceptable. first CX>. She received offeni from both indie made him feel that he was not alone. It is this The individual stories are loosely organized 8062 Dryer Road, Victor • $274,444 tionships, and monogamy. Schimel is not The bisexual rabbi said it best in her essay. Wifft wt come out is acceptable," adds Connie. and major record labels; but she refused the response that Schimel, and publisher Sherman into four parts. The first section, "Mixed Bless­ against tricks, and includes them in the book Her identity crisis was fueled by a request to offers. Instead she scraped together every penny by Nancy Sprenkle, Broker .586,6622 x120 Asher, hope for with Found Tribe. ings," addresses the history, politics and future Coming up continued from p. I too, but he wants to reveal a different view. perform a lesbian wedding, and she best she could and started her own label, Rtgbteous www.nancysprenkle.com Schimel feels that Jew^s and gays have a lot in of queer Jews. The Identity section contains He says, "All sex cultures prioritize tricks as summed up the heart oi Queer Jews, when she Babe Records, because, she said, "I don't think common. They are both minorities and have essays regarding the joys and struggles of inte­ The bJigbt We Met, which is published by excitement, we need more roles of happy expressed her gratitude to the couple for pro­ the music industry is conducive to artistic and faced physical and verbal abuse as well as grating Jewish and queer identities. Individual Kensington Books, tells the story of Andrew monogamy. Many have a question of how to viding "the precious opportunity to choose social change and growth." Ani believes that mitctieii discrimination. In the introduction to Found authors recount creating liturgies and families Wesdake, a down-on-his luck w^ritet who falls tnix love with sexual desire. They think, 'I creative adaptation over alientation, Jewish politics and art are inseparable. Tribe, he writes, "While many people consider with a decidedly queer Jeunsh flavor in the Insti­ in love w^ith the wrong man: Frank pierscm jfJnc. 4 South Mam Street • Pittsford NY 14534 can't make the bed dirty if I share it with the faith over nihilism." CH^er the years ani's efforts have proved to the act of 'coming out' to be restricted to the tutions section. Lasdy, meldingjewish and queer DiBenedetto, the closeted son of a mob boss. www.pler5onrealtors.com person I'm in love with.' But monogamy can Unlike the earlier books, w^hich defended be successftil, she is constandy on tour arid realtors dcMng rrKwe. provenance of sexuality, in the ultra-secular cultures was the topic ofthe final portion ofthe C^ompiicadng matters is the fact that Frank is be just as hot or just as exciting. Many men our right to be queer Jews, this book celebrates setting on sire CD sales records at her perfor­ worldview that predominates gay subculture book. engaged to marry Anna Franco, the daughter are desperate for a moment of tenderness the integration of both identities. It reminds us mances. Ani writes her own material which is today, coming out as 'religious' is often met Some ofthe authors are familiar to the reader. oi a rival gangster — and a Tv'oman who does mixed with sex." that we can have our matzah balls, and eat an unflinching observations about the state of with the same prejudice, hostility, and misin- Joan Nesde (Oy, another recent appearance at not take kindly to catching her fiance in the act Schimel uill keep breaking boundaries. In them too {on rainbow plates, of course). It her worid. She has never run from controversy. formanon and misunderstanding as declaring ImageOut!), the authors of Twice Blessed, and (}{ becoming "a made man". Soon, Andrew addition to essays and short stories, he also reminds us that being queer and being Jewish, Although ani is invoK'ed in every aspect of one's homosexuality can provoke in the het­ Sandi Simcha Dubowski (creator and director of and F rank are on the run from, the Mafia, the writes science fiction, cookbooks, children's we help achieve tikkun olam, making the world tlic making of her CDs, she is most at home on erosexual mainstream culture." Trembling before C-d, one of last year's ImageOut NYPD, the FBI, and even a writer described books, and poetf)', including the first gay a better place. the stage. This artist supports numerous causes Many gays have rejected religious Jews. presentations) contribute perspectives on their by People magazine as "The grande dame ofthe love poetry book ever published in Spanish. With Chanukah just around the comer (it through her Foundation, including the promo­ Gabriel Biau writes in his essay, "Gay friends earlier works. Dubowski's recounting of the Amencan mystery," as they struggle to stay Besides BumingBusb^ other upcoming projects starts at sundown Nov. 29), Queer Jews is a one step ahead — and alive. tion of queer vi.sibility. She also supports the were often more upset with my being religious include a book of essaj^ on Judaism, and a experiences he has had at various showings of his movie is both humorous and touching. thoughtful, uplifting and fun book to read Byrnes is a graduate of Charlotte liigh School local businesses of Buffalo when she is making than my straight religious friends were -with my new children's picture book in Spanish, Yet, most of the authors are new voices — while frying our latkes and getting ready for a and Union CoDege in Schenectady. He was a CD. being gay." Schimel also shares that Jewish Misterio en eljardin (Mystery in the Garden), His voices that perhaps would not be heard, or dyke dreydl tournament. Don't forget to buy a active in state and local politics and govern­ Since her first release, ani has released 14 fuU men have been left out of pornography, and work has been translated into Basque, Catalan, perhaps woidd be overlooked, in both Jewish few copies for your parents, rabbis, friends and ment before tnoving to Manhattan six years length albums, 12 of which have made it into that gay Jews often feel self-conscious when Czech, Dutch, Esperanto, Finnish, French, and queer communities. These voices, and the lovers. ago, where he currendy runs a not-for-prout the Billboard charts. The four rime grammy they see gay pornography titles such as Foreskin Galician, German, Hungarian, Italian, Japa­ organization dedicated to improving the quaJ- nominee has recently added a documentary/ Q_tiarterly, which they are left out of because nese, Polish, Portuguese, Romanian, Rus­ \xy of life in the East Midtown area. concert DVD tided Renderi.o her list of accom- their religion reqtures circumcision. sian, Slovak, Spanish, and Swedish. A.n occasional freelance writer and editor, plishinents. The film made its debut on Oct. 31 On the other hand, Jews do not have a Found Tribe, Kosher Meat znd His Tongue are in New York City at the CM) film festival. history of welcoming the gay community, and 77JI* Night We Met is Byrnes' first novel. His currendy available in stores. 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Ani was scheduled until we all have the same civil rights as other greater human understanding. activist and I think he hoped I would be spared Hours: Monday-Wednesday 9 anrv-9 pm / Thursday-Saturday 8:30 am-9 pm to appear on "Late Night with David Americans. from so much discrimination." Three ni^ts later, ImageOut shows A V: THfc BJWPT.V Cl, O-^-m.T ^^,;.'e /1;2^^;M4/^'% ;^ T 14 Jfe ^ B. irf;:f^'ir?y ^C-^I^'O.^^lB^J^ B4 ^^t^S^^^^^^^ 'S-.;/ m'i,"^.'^'. •z^'' B5 Growing Up colored sheets for a couple of weeks, the only action 1 got was when I yanked my own yang. by Eric Bellmann And I don't need pink sheets to do that. Feng Shui also teaches that there should be #jt no mirrors opposite or at the sides of your bed. •r Circus (I guess trurrors above the bed are just fine and dandy since they were never mentioned.) Mir­ For a long time not so long ago one wouldn't rors that are opposite of the bed can attract a dare be seen on 42nd Street, particularly that third party to the relationship. Right now I'd stretch between Broadway and 8th Avenue. be happy with attracting a second party to my Once it was the epicenter of show business but non-existent relationslup. for years it had been in decline. Gtiide to Columns 1 also read in a Feng Shui guide that you No longer was there any residue of glamour. shouldn't have a television or any other "elec- The stretch east towards Sixth Avenue wasn't •: Hfes*dyi»«ur«s ^ Beyfend ...... 5 tr.cal devices" in the bedroom. I absolutely much better. Crumbling elegant architecture Ask Gay Questions..^ .„ 5 refuse to kick my TV out ofthe bedroom. It's i3t£icig wrfiess are their owa and do might be glimpsed above discount signs if one Conundrums^.. „,„...„ 6 been die most faithful lover I've had in years. not fieoessarUy tefiect the collective stopped and looked around. But stopping to H^ealth^ and Gay 6 And if 1 don't find a boyfriend soon, I may atfitiide ofthe Gay ABi^ince of the stare would only embolden panhandlers or have to resort to "electrical devices" to get me Ociiiesee Valky or the Empty bustiers. The enterprises that remained were through cold, lonely nights. fifty cent movie houses showing round the According to several Feng Shui masters, you clock porn; game arcades; empty storefronts or should never place an empty vase next to the stores that sold cheesy luggage and trashy sou­ entrance to a room. The empty vase sucks the venirs. If one arrived by bus or flew into New­ Chashama and 42nd Street. I regularly check chi out ofthe room. But what about cute boys ark and took the airport shutde ro rhe Port the what's-happening-this-week listings. This near the entrance of the bar? Certainly thev Audiority on 8th at 42nd, it was wisest to take past visit the circus was in town. in Boyland should be allowed to suck my chi. Especially if a deep breath and scurry away. NXOien I stroUed past 125 W. 42nd Street I I buy them a drink. heard a barker yowling, "Fiea Circus in 10 The seediness wore itself out. Towards the By Troy Robinson Supposedly, opening the bedroom window tninutes, oniy four dollars." How absurd. I end, the r*-o-bIock length that once was home at least 20 minutes a day allows fresh chi to didn't w^ant to see a tlea circus. I wanted to see base Ibr hookers, pimps and junkies was flat come in, bnnging with it good fortune and Scotrv'. But Scotrv was gone. Another circus lined, boring-Then Disney took over and within Yanking my yang hopefully a good man. 1 tried this Little trick all a few short vears the strip lost ai! resemblance was perforr-ning at four. Brindlestiff, a bill­ "IreaUy Feng Shui (pronounced FUNG schwav), the summer, and all 1 got was a case of the NXcst to its former state. It's an urban area reborn, board proclaimed, is a "familv circus intent on ancient Chinese art of placement, is all about Nile Virus from a mosquito bite. I also tried a commercially perky. Now tourists flock to IJon returning variet\' acts to the Broadway area." enioyed tWs. increasing your chi (pronounced chee), or en­ more proactive approach by opening my bed­ King or B.B. King's House of Blues. 'Worth taking a chance. ergy, and making sure it flows in the right room window and then shouting out to hand­ For me the magnetic force of 42nd Street I should have known. At four the audience direction. some men as thev walked near my house. I got k A Wlorious was specific; 1 liked it because \fwsks seedy. It was was mainly tots and their parents. But 1 was Being a gay man with a healthy sexual appe­ a few strange looks and the occasional middle New York decadence. Dangerous, exciting, too tired to reconsider. 1 paid my money. tite, I'm also all about making sure "it" flows in finger flashed my way, but no luck attracting romp, charming, sexy. When 1 was 17 I came to New York, the Twelve kids, seven or eight adults, and me. the right direction, so I've adopted some ofthe any new chi into my bedroom. magic city, to apply to art school. After 1 The audience space is about the size of a principles of this 4,000 year old practice of And although Feng Shui hasn't worked for wandered one night into Central Park, onlv to suburban li"ving room. With the lights on the satirical and arrangements and "positions," in the hope of me (yet), 1 hope now. Grasshopper (or should be shooed off, a goofy kid, by a kindly cop as 1 performers could see everyone in the audi­ bringing prosperity and happiness into my bed­ 1 say " Asshopper"), you will find a way to make was walked back to the \'MCA, 1 lingered ence. The coolest act has to be the lasso man. room. (Heck, I'm wiUing to try sacnficing chick­ Feng Shui work for you. And ifyou do, please sexy." briefly on a street corner and from a dark He does all kinds of rope tricks. He is aiso — ens if I thought it would increase my chances of let me know immediately. FU even take you out doorway a drunk man in a business suit grabbed show biz requires versatility — a sword swal- —Diana Gabaldon, getting some action under the covers!) for Chow Mein and plum wine if vou share me and kissed me, then staggered away. That iowcr. Did 1 menuon that he lisps? He an According to Feng Shui teachings, love reigns with mc vour ancient Chinese secrets. T>,e New York Times doorvv-ay was on 42nd Street. nf my dreams will find m.e and movies. involve the audience in their acts. metal or leather? Which metal is better to whisk me aw ay for a night of hot monkey "Clever, compul­ 1 like the park, it's a good place to regr(jup. .•\fter Phiiomena, a heavily tattooed babe in use? loving (an ancient Tibetan monk phtase mean­ There are hundreds of green foldingchairs, like a leather dress, did her bull whip act with a A: Quoting Jack Hart in the gay reference ing "'^'ou go girl!"). the ones in the Luxembourg Gardens in Paris, tremulous dad, Torkova took the stage. book Guy Sex: A Manual For Men W7)o I^ie Men: sively readable- Strangely enough, I've discovered thar mc.'-st and the kiosks serve stylish food. The men's Torkova is a mute magician. He worked with The best cock nngs are made of leather cloth, bars have built their bathrooms in the south­ John at the northeast corner ofthe park v/here, large rneta! hoops. He scanned the audience or other flexible material. Snaps allow you to Byrnes adroitly west corner of their establishrr t . And al­ one reads, servicemen returning stateside pa- for an assistant. There is a pnce to be paid for adiust the size as vou secure them. though I'm desperate, I refuse to hang around tiendy waited for blow jobs, is open again now, laughing too much at the circus. A solid ring of metal, plasnc, or rubber can a urinal while searching for love, (It makes me combines a twist- >vell lit and supervised. 42nd Street has been Wham! I'm on stage. For a spHt second I also serve as a cock ring. You'll sb.p your look like a creepy drug dealer.) Plus I'm looking "sanitized for our protection". thought of pulling back as he tugged my sleeve. testicles through first, one at a time, then your for m.y knight to be sitting on a great white But the real news is that something tjuirky I am a fraidy cat. I am ungainly. 1 am... hell, 1 penis, which has to be soft. Solid rings must be fUled plot, solid steed and not on the John. However, 1 admit has sprung up on 42nd Street. The Durst fam­ am going to be in the circus! I stood up, carefully tltted and should avoided by novices. that I have seen some love connections made ily has offered up unused real estate for vanous stepped onto the stage and obeyed Torkova. A metal ring that's too small, set in place while cbaracteriiation, in bathrooms. But 1 think the flow of alcohol events — pupf>et shows, window art, sidewalk I thought, all I really have to do is suck in my you're soft, may prove impossible to remove had more to do with the matchmaking results performances. Many events are offered under gut and stand up tall. I was handed the metal after vou're hard. Trv a cold ice compress if than the flow of chi. iiumor and steamy the auspices of Chashama, a not-for-profit hoops and through mime instructed to bang you're really stuck. But since a tight ring tends Another lesson 1 learned from, studying Feng organization founded by a group of theater them, clang them, prove to the audience they to keep you hard indefirtitely, your only choices Shui is that pink bed sheets can raise subtie sex to create a artists in 1995, which converts store frotits and were solid-1 obeyed. I was glared at, ptiked at, at that point are a trip to the emergency room yang energy that can increase romantic activity transforms non-theatrical spaces. teased. Torkova made faces at me. I was hjs or trying to cut the thing off yourself. Neither stooge, I beamed. This kid, after all these in the bedroom. Everything in the universe is one will be fun. nicely crafted, It's startling browsing Time Out New York or composed of two opposite but complemen­ years, got to join the circus, be part ofthe fun. As long as you avoid one that's too tight and New York magai(ine to learn that for $ 10 you can tary energies: yin and yang. Yin symbolizes the And on 42nd Street! always remove it if you feel tingling, burning, see "Scotty the Blue Bunny," a personage nor­ passive side of nature (or as I like to think of it, defigbrful debut. The point, of course, is to be pan ofthe fun, or numbness, a cock ring should present no mally ensconced in hard to reach late-night "bottoms"), and yang represents the active keep one's wits alert. I left the building, pleased safety or heath problems. You may enjoy wear­ venues, performing at 10 p.m. weekends in a side (that's right — "tops"). -Publishers Weekly store front tiieater. Scotty is six foot six in with myself, and thought, it's only 5 p.m., the ing one all day under your street clothes. That's night hasn't even begun. So, after leartung that pink bed sheets would fine, but remove it at night, in case your circu­ heels, chubby and, yes, dressed in sleek irides­ help me get my groove on, I went to K-mart to cent blue spandex. He sings, quite grandly, emait [email protected] lation was slightiy cut off. And if you*re wear­ pick up a set. (Ever since the news of Martha ing a metal cock ring, take it off before you go tributes to Sammy Davis Jr., that is when he is Stewart's troubles with Wall Street hit the press, not recounting his coming out story or telling through an airport metal detector (unless you're her linens have been a steal.) But even for a gay looking for special attention). dirty jokes. He's fabulous. man, pink bed sheets are a littie too girly. And Q: Why do I feel like I need a guy in my I'm atmned to what's happening now vith after sleeping under the horrid Pepto-Bismol life to be happy? In the past, IVe let ga of

* I ..O' W, ^^5lf <:? B.E\.E';'-a'M>. *«:^ti u % %^^y \3< 3 2 *i '''1 < 'i" ' "• B6 f^^Ct,:: ..V* "-X.-SS.-****. • . . _j attic, or shoving the dirty dishes under the rviral areas, percentages may be even highei Discrimination Act, that has been pending in gtiys in my life. Now there is someone I sofa. Sooner or later, you have to deal with it. There are a number of reasons, of coui would realty like to be in a relationship Albany for 31 years, and botded up by the It is important that Gov. Pataki be held why an LGBTI person might not feel comfoj with» but I am receiving mixed signals Republican-controlled State Senate for the past accountable for his promises as he seeks his able sharing this information. Many people ha-! from him. This is the first time I have felt decade. This statement was made on Oct. 4, third consecutive term in office. As cliched as had very negative experiences with providej this strong towards a man^ and I am afraid 2001 at the Empire State Pride Agenda's fall who know their sexual orientation. (A I99I dinner in New York City in front of 1,100 it sounds, the power for change is in how you to tell him how I really feel. Part of me just study conducted by the Gay and Lesbian Medil attentive lesbians, gay men, their friends and vote. As my mother used to say, "The squeaky wants to take it easy and let my ''chamni'* cal Association showed that 67 percent of phyj families. Pataki then repeated his call to pass wheel gets the grease". hook him and draw him in, but I am so sicians and medical students repotted knowlJ lonely right now. this bill in an even more high profile fashion Howe & Bassett Co edge of "substandard care or denial of care" to! during his State-of-the-State address this past A: I can understand your feelings of loneli­ LGBT individuals.) In addition, for matiy, the • January. Unfortunately, by the end of die leg­ ness. I have a strong belief that it is best to find Healthy and medical setting is already one in which they feel 'HHta islative session this summer, Pataki has not happiness on your own rather than relying on insecure and vulnerable, and so cotning out to followed through on this promise. I guess he Gay someone else to make you happy. If you are a doctor or nurse increases their anxiety level. feels he doesn't need the gay-friendly voting Tired of Your Old Ties? able to look within yourself and love yourself Still others choose not to share their sexual block to win this year's election. By Erik Libey tor who vou are, and appreciate the people and orientation with a doctor because they feel it Plumbing Professionals r Today, even though Pataki has been unwill­ tilings that surround you in your life, then in isn't important or that topics so personal aren't ing to fulfill the pledge he has made (and his Bring Them to Us. niv opinion you are experiencing happiness. If any of the doctors business. vtni can bring this attitude and love into a party has taken few real steps in the direction The doctor's patient is OUT Since 1885 Unfortunately, the exact opposite is the case. tel.iuonship, then your level of happiness has of gay issues), he somehow thinks he is ben­ In ANY doctor-patient relanonsbJp, a certain the potential to jump to a new level. I would efiting from this by just proclaiming so. Ironi­ The doctor enters the exam room to find a level of trust, honesty, and openness is impor­ cr.cf -ura^e vou to explore this with a counselor cally, he probably is. His well publicized words man with a severely swollen, bruised, and torn tant to getting good qualiry healthcare. In the For Each Old Tie, •' 'h'.rap!>-r. of support for a gay civil rights bill continue to hamstnng. "How did this happen," he asks. case of LGBTI patients, however, this becomes ' - •c;L:ivcis to this guy that you like, it sounds earn liim a reputation among some ofthe press The patient responds, "I'ln a drag performer even more kcv. Nuf.ncroi;s studies have shown •,. 'r,a\ ncn be sure what he wants in terms corps as "moderate". The general pubUc in New- at a local gay bar. 1 v.'as in the iniddle of doing Well Give You $2J that there are a number ot" health conditions, r .1 rcl.iuonship with you. 1 would ask him York State (polls indicate anywhere from two- a number dressed as Wonder Woman and The good guys your some of rhem very serious, for which LGBTI I intentions are and listen to what he thirds to three-quarters ofthe population sup­ while 1 was dancing 1 stepped into a wet spot individuais are at higher/increased risk. If doc­ Toward the Purchase it" c savs lie would rather be just friends, port b-isic civil rights protections for lesbian on the stage, mv foot slipped out from under tors arc unaware that they are seeing a patient friends toldyou about k!T)\v that letting go of your romantic and gay men) continues to view Gov. Pataki me, 1 fell, and 1 immediately felt the back '^f who i!= gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered, ',• >r him would be best. If he is unsure, favorablv. He talks a great game. He walks tall. my right leg tear." of One New Tie if is possible that the doctor rnav overlook .'^ "fic tnight be interested in a relation- Again, he does nothing brilliantlv. The realic)' While this mav sound Like the set-up lor xv. neecied tests or \:icc!fi;.uu>ns in that patient's v >u, take it easy and work on loving though, does not agree with these perceptions. amusing joke, actually it's a chapter out ot my life. — and like you said, that charm may ^X^^en will public law ever reflect the way New own personal Life recendy, when 1 did exactly It is i"or this reason that we encourage all e him in. Yorkers are truly living their daily lives? what is described there. LGBTI individuals to seek healthcare in a set­ From Nov, 10 th To be honest, it should be acknowledged In the weeks during my recuperation. 1 ting where thev can feel comfortable bein^ that part ofthe problem with state politics is can't tell you the number of people whf) k open and h'Miest about their sexualirv\ This mav To Nov. 16th Conundrums that only three people have any real input expressed amusement, shock, or disbeliet that be as easy as talking to vour current provider, making real decisions: Gov. Pataki, Demo­ 1 would not or\ly share with my medical pro­ but if that is not possible, it mav require trans­ Excludes Ties rm Sale and Pretnous Sales cratic Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver, and viders that 1 was gay, but that 1 was a drag ferring to a new provider where LGBTI pa­ By Ove Overmyer Republican Senate L.^aderJoseph Bruno. More queen, as well. At that 1 stopped and won­ tients are welcomed. than 200 other elected legislators hover around dered, how many people would hav^e been To tliat end, AIDS R.ochcster and the Roch­ 1496-1JOO Monroe Avenue 442~9JJ3 Doing nothing brilliantly Albany going through predictable motions. that open with their doctor(s)? And is it really ester Gay Health Coalition are working to­ Mon., Tues., Weds., Fri., 10-6, Thuts. 10-8, Sat. 10-5 Tlie secret of New York State politics is Pataki has put out the word to do nothing until that important to be out to your doctor in the gether to provide trainings on gay sensitivity krif )wing how to do nothing brilliandy. Doing after he's been re-elected. Meanwhile, he keeps first place? 271 -4040 and gsy health issues to providers in our com­ • I'tiing is a great wav not to make enemies. raising more money. He amassed a record $32 There have actually been a number of stud­ munitv. Our t'Oal in the cominu months is to (t.>v Creorge Pataki has done nothing bril- milhon for a race most pollsters said he was ies done nationwide on this issue. The data in publisVi an up-to-date Listing of providers in the i!.intj\ for rwo terms as governor. He has certain to win an}'way (Source: Newsday.com, each varies siighdy depending on the number Rochester area who are welcoming and compe­ ; a icjljy done nothing controversial, has not Jack Newfield, August 1, 2002). of people surveyed, location, etc., but across tent in seeing LGBTI panents. So keep an eye (ii'-rurbed the status quo, challenged no ma- He has been postponing all days of reckon­ the board the results show a common theme: out for more information to be published in : r;tiLS, and tested no original ideas. As a ing, including the SONDA biU. Whatever hap­ a sigrtificant number of LGBTl people have coming months here in rhe Empty Closet, so you •( uit. he IS seen as likable, temperate and pened to increasing minimum wage to $6.75 physicians and other medical providers with take the steps necessau' to - Be Gay. Be Proud. .r~' ifiensive. an hour? What happened to extending unem.- whom they have not shared their sexual on- Now Open Friday Nights ployment insurance for 13 weeks? WTiat hap­ Be Healthy. Visit i think not. entation. In fact, a study conducted this past Erik Libey is Gay Health Coordinator for .\s the November election nears, maybe it's pened to raising workers' compensation ben­ summer in rwo metropolitan areas, New York AIDS Rochester, Inc. and can be reached at v>rth noting an unfulfilled pledge made by efits for the first time in ten years? What City and San Francisco, each indicated that Complimentary Wine Served with Dinner 442-2220, or by e-mail at incumbent Gov. George Pataki to New York happened to reforming the Rockefeller drug roughly one third of gay men indicated that [email protected]. An archive of bis www.thecreatorshands.com .Suite's lesbian and gay community. Specifi- laws? I'll tell you what, nothing. There is no they had never been asked and/or never dis­ previous articles, as weji as other gay health c.ili), Gov. Pataki pledged to "do everything majority rule in Albany — just dead bills with closed their sexual orientation to their information, can be found at http:// in my power" to pass a statew^ide gay civil no fingerprints. The state budget fiasco is the doctor(s). These findings lead researchers to www.aidsrochester.org/gayhealth- rights bill (SONDA, Sexual Orientaaon Non- equivalent of hiding your oddball uncle in the believe that in smaller cities and/oi more ThciA, SB^ tf yout oav<. 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i BI2 ^.•»-*»Mi%%^^ in a men's knining gioup, or would comer Eitcm/AdMitic, Please bnng celebrate liturgies in the Episcopal Tuesday of September, when wc do available online at http:// lot next Co the Round House Shelter. have dfinner, or plan social events like to Ieam, pleaM e-mail me at c a snack/oon-akdholic bcvetage to and Rotnan Catholic ttaditions, and not meet), from 6*30 to 8:30 p^n. at www.focfae9terrams.com. We will walk, run and/or waddle for $udi aa a movie or even have pot puriygay<^y3hoo.com. All teplies will pass. Due to the Thaaksgiving holi> welcome aU to come—n^ardlessof die GAGV, 179 Adantic Ave. Please an hour and return to gobble turkey- difuieff at some ofthe father's homes. be confidential; in fact. Rainbow day our Social event w^ be one week your religioua af&liation ipt lack of can the GAGV at 244-8640 if you RGMC shaped cookies and hot cider. (Cof­ We had pot luck dinnets in the past Seniors respects every person's right eariier — Wednesday, Nov. 20 will one). Worship with us on Sundays at are interested in fitiding out more fee and cold drinks available also). aiottfMi t^ holidbys, but decided to Season tickets for the 20th anniver­ to be as out or as closeted as they be a Dinner Night Out (show up 5 p.m, in St. Luke and St. Simon information. We have brochures sary season of the Rochester Gay rochfifw@hotmaiLcom. take it even further this year by hav­ choose. oMtsitk the GAGV between 7> 7:15 Cytene Church, 17 South Fitzhugh about our gtoup also available at Men's Chorus are now on sale ing a aodal night out each tnonth. We will also be having speakers at p jn. and well head out to a restau­ St. — yes, the church with the pink The social night will be discussed and GAGV. For $40 you will receive one ticket Rainbow Seniors our dinners &om time to time, dis­ rant of the group*s choosing fbr steeple! After services each week we plaaned at the two meetings each to *^eaven and Nature Sing", "Yes­ By Saundra Ehman cussing life issues such as DNR, sodaUze at a coffee hour where you month. We encours^ aU fad^ts to terday, Today and Tomorrow**, and wholesome nosh and good conver­ Rochester Rams So much going on in the GLBT com­ health care proxies, itvie^ wills, per­ are welcome to )oin us. offer tbeir ideas and axe kx>kuig for­ "20 Years of Pride". Season tickets munity is directed toward youth — sation!). The Rochester Rams (oe, officially, sonal wills and other topics of inter­ For more information about Dig- ward to having a k>t of fun. are a $5 savings over advance pur­ and that's exdtingf However, it poses for a dooiprize. Well sec you at the For further info, on the group, •TThe Battedf^ Ram, M.C-") is the est Women''s Fotum, scscood Saturdays, Nov. 9 contact Kerry at (585)865-4619, get flity-Integiity, please call the D-I We co-sponsored a film titled chase ftom a Chorine and a $16 the question, where docs that leave mi tide of Rochester's fbtemost gay Other addresses fbr infonoarion and Dec. 14, Info^Line at (585) 234-5092 for re- DadJy tmd PaPa during die Image saving over purchasing at the door. those of us who are over .50? Alone... on our online meeting n<»tifitat]on motorcycle dub. It is a snuiU band of or to check oar web page: Fishing Oo second Saturdays, lhe BEARS cotdedinfbfxnatioaortokaveavoice Out Film Festival. It was a documen­ With all three concerts in the Lonely? Left out? list at men of similar inteiests: moeotcydes, rsflny@m$n.com . or also host a potiuck at the GAGV at inessage, see our Web page at http:/ tary oti gay HMin having families of Hochstein Music School Audito­ At the time of this writing, I know Now that the 2()02 fishing season has B£)chBFO]nnedLt5i(^y9hcx)g^£x^3&a3iii, leather, ftatetmry, and good times. legal666<@gO-co«i. come to a close (no thanks to Mother 6:30 p.m. Wc supply paper goods e-mail Kerry at /www.ggw.org/DI-Rochester/ or their own, by having a surtpgate The Rams provide community rium, you are guaranteed both ex­ of at least three people who could use cellent acoustics and superb sight Naturen.wc'repknmngaDecember and beverage. You supply * smile, an DressyFemme@aol,com, or write: send us E-mail at mother and/or adoption. It was service both to di« gay community some rype of community support, as [email protected]. tines. Call today to reserve your tick­ simple as a card, phone call, visit, etc. A^ne Society Holiday FishingGtoup get-together/ appetite, and a BEAR-sized dish to P.O. Box 18734, Rochester, NY shown at The Litde Theatre on Oct. — through our series of bar nights ets at (585)423-0650. Who reading this column is prepared The GX.B.T. Wine Society is agroup dinner and fishing tackle Xjmas gift share. November's theme is 14618. Hope to sec you all soon and 10. Some of us wc able to sec the — and to the community-at-large to Gay Fathers RGMC was please to be able to to step up, jiiunp in, to visit GLBT fbr those who en)oy socializing and exchange! **UNThanksgiving", and December have a great month! movie and were pleased with the through charity work, dcnaations and co-sponsor the showing of Olmr people who arc unable to be involved enjoy wine. All levds of experience If you'd like to auend or would is "Saota's 6»vorite foods''. After having a summer break, l>,e showing. Wc would like to say *Thank our aimual toy drive at Christmas. BmtSm is a .Gar with Image Out Les­ socially due to physical/mental handi­ with wine, novice to professional are like to help plan this event, or wouid The Bears also t»cet every Mon­ Dignity Integrity Gay Fathers of Rochester support You" to cveyone that went to see the Once a year, wc hold the celebrated bian and Gay Him and Video Festi­ caps? If interested, contact me at welcome. iMioi^moi^Sii like ynore information on the group day night fbr supper at Mel's Diner, As the Church Year comes to a close group started meeting again for the movie, and to Image Out for having Rams Run in a seduded campground val. Co-chairperson Bob Parsons putlygay(^ya*l loo .com. If interested in being added to our FtsHng in the Fingerlakes, contact followed by a movie, W« meet at 6, this month, we give thanks fbr all 2002 - 2003 year, on Oct. 1 at the us as sponsor. in Upstate New York, whete over a made introductory comments, in­ e-mail list, contact Paul at Chess/Science Kerry or Cindy at (585)654-8776 or and Becky, the fastiest waitress with God has giveo us, and itivite every­ GAGV Commumty Center. Group informadon: hundred Leathermen converge an­ Rainbow Seniors have begun to cluding reading from the book on address these issues, but it is not only frederich59@hom:^ail.com, or phone e-mail [email protected]. the cutest appendix scars, gives ad­ one to our traditional Thanksgiving We had a productive meeting and The group consists of men and in nually for a weekend-long getaway. which the film is based ro an eariy wrconcern. Everyone needs to look 254-4422 to be added to the phone Fiction Ciub Hope to see you again soon! vice on movies and iove. We also potiuck feast on Nov. 24, the Sunday it was nice to see everyone again. We some cases, their same sex parmers. It^s that time of the year again! Join Siuiday morning audience. at where they are on the life con­ list. The Chess Club is expanding to en­ have brunches, holiday parties, and before the Thanksgiving holiday. encourage aU fathers, past and new, We arc all at different points in out the Rams and the folks at the Bach­ Empire Bears The Chorus is looking for volun* tinuum and do some soul searclung. As the group cannot Sanction with­ compass the topic of science fiction. game nights on our schedule. Call us (Note this is the fourtli Sunday ofthe to come to our meetings at any time. lives: some are married; some are elor Forum for the Rains' Annual Octobcar has been a fiill month, with leers to help usher at "Heaven and out a place to meet, we are always It stiil meets on the second Thurs- at 234 3381 or email month rather than the third, as is Just because we recendy started back going through the separation/divorce Toy Drive, Bring in a new, un- On the Lighter side, our potiucks many of our membears attending the Nature Sing" at the Hochstein interested in someone volunteering viavs. at theGAGV, 179 Atiantic Ave., info@empirebe'its.org for informa­ usual for out poducks ) All are wel­ up. d'>e3 not mean you csn't attend process, and are in various sta^-^es of VvTappeci <.oy and recelx'e a drink, have been quite successful — they film festival and visiting Orlando for School Aoditoriurn on l->iday and ate hekl on thr third Sunday ot each to host an event, o» suggesting ^ t*-( >m 6:50 to 9 p.m. tion. We're on the web at come. any future meetings- You'tt wel­ cotning out. This is a supp-r^rt group ct^urtesy of the Rains and the Bach­ Bear Bust. Saturday, Dec. 13 and 14. Ifyou are month at 4 p.m. For information, or suitable location. Contact Paul if able In the meedngs, chess games will empirebears.otg. Gt:t to know u?. We then begin a new Church Year comed at any time! (not therapy) intended to discuss the elor Forum. The Toy Drive last year WeVe started our teddy bear col­ interested, please contact Jim to be put on the mailing list, call to provide a site. bo played, and grandmaster games We're the family of friends you're with the First Sunday of Advent on As we continue to meet on the challeoges facing gay fathensi. Son\e was a great success. Over .^00 toys lection in a big way already, with Janssen at the Chorusline, (585)423- CharUe at 585-442-2.220 x3063, or e- w^ll be shown by Paul Forcella, presi­ looking for. WOOF! Dec. 1. We hope more people will first and third Tuesday of each topics for discussion include deabng were collected, and $275 in cash do­ donations from members and ftiends 0650. mail [email protected]. We are de! It of the club. Also, science fic- take the opportunity to begin a oerw month, for our regular supptjrt meet­ with wives, ex-wives, or childten; nations — all donated to the GAGV from Buffalo and Toronto. We aim expanding the games nighty lunch and tmn will be discussed, if all agree, Butcli Fenrsme year with us at D-I, especially those ings, we will be addmg a third nijjhT cotning out to children, parents, Roosevelt Children's Centenn Ne^*- Youth Group from topics such as "Dr. V^lio" and to have over 100 teddy bears lo do­ wh

/> Spiritus Christi Church A Cbri9t-<:eiiterrd C&tholic Chiirch reaching beyond the imtitiitional Open Arms Elaine Elkins M.S. ciiuFcli to be inclusive €4 idl Liturgies: Thursday: 7:00 p.m. at Spiritus Chnsti Church Mctrox^ht^n Psychotherapist (_^ounselor>^Lesoian Saturday: 5:00 p m at Spiritus Christi Church Sunday; 7:30 a. m. at Spiritus Christi Church Con%fnun%t%i Church Individual and relationship counseling: 9 30 am- at Hochsteia 50N Plymouth Ave, Rainbow Bridge Meetings: 3"* Monday 7 00^:30 pm. anxiety & depression rLncouragcmcnt 60 BSttncr St Roclicsier NY 14^0 « 325-1180 You're always welcome at God's table! loneliness & separation Caring resolving conflicts .Sunday worship at 11 AM (juiciancc communication skills Dignity-IntsgrHy Rociiester ^'Glve thanks with a grateful heart!** sexual abuse recovery (Roman Catholtc-EpiscopaO drug & alcoholism j^cspcct Join us on Noveinber 16 at 6 PM We welcome aH c^ifdless of worship tradition "My Favorite Things* Potiuck, Gaines, and Video Night grief & loss or sexual ooentatioii. 175 Norris Drive (near C^bbs Hill Park) 244-4837 Lttuigy cvety Sandfly at 5HI0 {Mn. Phone: 585.271.8478 E-maii: OAMCC NY@aoLcom i7\6)Z7\'^6\0 SodaX Hottf asotuid 6:00 {um. Potlock Dimier evcfy diitii Sondflf of die mositli. Third Presbyterian Church G e r i S t a n t o n Church of St. Luke and St. Simon Cyrene a More Ught Church (thf dmtb writh tbe pink sUepk) 17 South Fit2hug^ Stteet (Comer of Broad and S. Fitzhi;^) where glbt persons are wetcomed as hgether we will create an partners in ministry 0-1 Ittfi^-Iine: 234-5092 T environment that promotes (Recorded infogtcoatioo and voAce vaaS^ Sunday Worship 10:30 a.rT?. EXPERIENCE YOU CAN TRUST E-mftil: [email protected] (Child care availabie. wheelcltair acoesstste, healing, prozndes support Jbr exphrin Web Site: http://www.ggw.org/DI-RDchestcr/ looped fc}rhearin g impaired) Individual, Couple and MS.Ed., MS.Ed. Naticmal Certified Xkyunsel^r your personal journey and empowers This EMcbaristif mmmmuty tsdsts Monday (tst and 3rd) Group Therapy GLBT Support Group 7:30 pjtn. Certified Clinical Mental you to make self-resvectin^ choices. ^ mw»nb^G^ Specializing in Conoems of: Health Couiwelor Isolation and Loneliness, "f t9 prodamt the ffod mafs ^J$sm Cbria Relationships, Separation, ADDRESS. •'••••• •—-. Suitf- 31S ^ t» mitmss4» tbi rtaStjt rfCbristiMgajt, ksbitm, at East Ave and Me^ SI Ho

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Rcxrh- ance since August. Hers is the ::iiliB 'Wyi} person — I like to read a lot and ester had been one ofthe fitst school Bowers, a School Board member, has fnendly face you see wh^n you •;,: .;• discuss intellectual topics. Also, Cotninuiiity Center tl^iniijiil :•••••:•••••••:• Gravitz districts in the nation to ban military put forth the idea of domestic part­ walk into the reception area on. m I dj at Muthers. Iplay a mixture, recruiters due to discrimination nership benefits, but it was not well the second floor ofthe Cotnmu­ • •.:« : but I reaUy like a sort of Euro­ received.) against LGBT citizens. Previous nity Center, and she is often the v';--:^~'' pean high energy house—somc- 1 Community Center the kindness, support and confidence School Boards fought challenges A month after the famous United person who answers when you llB 1 thiog ^ong the lines of Jennifer Gravitz says, "I'm an speakers bureau and have had the opportunity to develop allies in a others provided to me during my firom constituents and in the Courts States Supreme Court action (fumes call. These are just the most vis­ Sunscream and Chicane, and I Information attorney and college professor and Date versus ihe BS^'T) the Rochester City have been an out lesbian for nearly variety of business and academic coming out process. I strongly be­ in order to keep the ban in place. ible of the many tasks that Cindi ^Ht: :gender identity'? groups at RIT and NTID. giving! gay people and our allies. The rights handle the finances and billing traffic. If there's a way 1 can be of that we can be a larger voice in of the Empty Closet for articles and are some of the activities which are Apparendy, neither the Rochester lomnnon What has been particularly re­ We want to thank you for all )t LGBT students and families will responsibliiue.^. as wfjl as main­ scp-Tce to the per'Hjn who\s inquir­ rhe greater Rochester corrima- pictures! first to be placed in my calendar! City Schools nor the Teacher's Union warding and enjoyable about vol­ that you do for the commumty ^>c forfeit when convenient to the taining the donor database, ex­ ing, I help tb.em along. Even if I can't nity. ' reads camp Ifyou have thoughts, questions, or In what capacities have you have time for those issues. unteering with the GAGV? through your volunteer w^ork with 1 (Naders hip. ecuting and coordinating meet- be the solution I car; set them in rhe just need to talk, give me a call (244- volunteered with the GAGV? *atty Hayes, Youth Program I have enjoyed "paying forward" the GAGV. 8640) or drop me an e-mail mail I am a member of the GAGV linator Alliance of Gays and Lesbians Vice- to:pattyh(ggayalliance.org. And if Groups continued from )ber was a great month for the have fairly positive attitudes towards Project can contact Tanya Smolinsky President of New Yrtrk State, "In the you're surfing the net and looking for previous page th Group! Many of us attended Education gay people. So we look to break at 244-8640, or history of rhe gay and lesbian com­ something new, check out the Youth lage Out Youth Project Films. down the barners that keep people [email protected]. muniry, there has not been an organi­ Group w^ebsite. Go to Project gets the Women's Hilcing sciaj thanks to everyone at Im- from acting on the positive attitudes "1 think that being a trainer with zation to take action on pro-life con­ www.gayailiance.org and click on Ladies, come pin us each month for )ut who has made this possible word out they already have." our Community Education Project victions until the Pro-Life Alliance of "Youth Pages." our fun hikes at local parks. le last five years! One of the most successful pro­ The training model that the Gay is one of the most rewarding volun­ Cays and Lesbians. In 1990 PLAGAL The Young Adult Group for people ^^^iHic last weekend in October, 10 grams of the Gay ..Alliance is its Alliance designed and utilizes has teer experiences we offer," says All different ages and hiking abili­ came into being out of the rock- 18-23 meets ever}^ Sunday from 12- : !^ji^^ group members and two adult Community Educadcn Project. This recently gotten national exposure. Smolinsky. "It is extremely satisfy­ ties are fme. bottom belief that when anything 1:30 p.m at the GAGV building. The ;g||Sl!ipors w^ent to the Common program provides glbt sensitivity An article describing the training ing to w^alk out of a sensitivity train­ 522 S. MAIM ST. This is a great way to met fun and threatens human life, rights, or dig Youth Group for people 13-18 meets .*2pft?eads Camp for gay and straight training sessions and educational model was featured in a professional ing session knovinng that you had a inrerestingwomen, ^nd morns, hring nity, rhiit threat must go. every Sunday from 2-4 p.m., also at |ith During the course of the week- materials to professional, religious journai entitled Tne Report on Sodal meaningful dialogue about your kids! The: m;ikc; it even l:.>citer. Iksmophobia's one sucli threiir. GAGV. The Youth of Color Group 1, youth from the GAGV got to and educational organizations iVC 20033. (202) 223-6697, Franklin St., Suite 1060. First Steps WSD. 7P.M.-CLOSE ; such as honmphobia, transgender sions each year. Some of the orga­ cators across the countr\- thJs falL Since 1995, the Communitv' Edu­ Emiiii: [email protected]. VCcbsite; A.A. meeting happens every Tuesday PLAGAL lues, HIV/AIDS and building a nizations that the Gay Alliance has Approximately tu'O dozen people cation Project has received tens of www.plagaJ.org from 7:30-8:.30 p.m. at the Downtown jtter Gay-Straight Alliance. They presented to in 2002 include the are active volunteers with the Com­ tiiousands of dollars in grant sup­ Says Donna Marie Kearney, Prfjljfe United Presbyterian Church, 121 N. SAT. 9P.M.'Close Bo participated in creative arts work­ Rochester City Recreation Depan- muniry Education Project. Volun­ port. Funders over the past seven Fitzhugh St. [ tops, an outdoor ropes course and ment, Otetiana Council of the Boy teer trainers come from all walks of vears have included the Rochester Scouts, St. Joseph's Villa, East life and include gay men, lesbians, Area Communitv Foundation, the RTG Outreach House, Center for Youth Services, bisexuals, transgender individuals Wilson Foundation, the Daisy Mar­ Spiritus Christi, Rochester Police and straight aUies All volunteers quis Jones Foundation, and the New Department, and the entire staff in attend a six-hour traimng and ob­ York State Department of Health. 9MG SHOW nU. 11'22-02 A Transgender openhouse Wonnen's Activities at the Brockport School District. serve a training session before they "It is great that so many main­ "The goal of our sensitivity train­ actually begin co-presenting with an stream funding organizations recog­ tinth snacks the GAGV! ing sessions IS to reduce homopho­ experienced volunteer trainer. nize the value of this particular pro­ WHERE'S MARY bia and increase ally behavior. And Tlte next training for new volun­ gram," states Smolinsky. "At the Sat. Nov. 16th our training approach to achieving teers is scheduled for early January GAGV, we know it is not enough to 6-9 pm this goal is ver^^ innovative," ex­ 2003. The Gay Alliance also wants simply provide programs that ad­ WIM90W Of HOPE Trivia Night is bacic! plains Tanya Smolinsky, Program to have a gtcup of trained volun­ dress individual needs, we recognize that we must change the larger soci­ GAGV Commumty Center, Friday, November 8th Director. "Where most training teers available to staff tables at vari­ models focus on changing people's ous events in the Greater Rochester ety and that is what our Conamunity 179 Atlantic Ave. Doors open at 7 pm attitudes, we focus on changing area. People interested in learning Education Project docs," • SPECIAL MOH'FHI people's behavior. Research in- more about volunteer opportuni­ creasingiy shows that most people ties with the Community Education 3 FOR 2 HOOH- 8 P.M. (Ail gender questioners and odier community members welcome!) USE roup TICKETS TO 10 PM. Dating Yaur Way Movie Night is going to a Full i 11 Ing Relat ionsh Ip

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