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because I insisted that we were ft cuhuraf minority and not indh^kkals, they couMn*t transgendered (LGBT) people In Quito and Guayaquil, Bcuador. believe that. By the time of Stonewall, they his accusatkxi. Ordonez moved to an­ Servicemembers Legal Defense Network Abuse survivors^ blame the sex abuse scandal on the admb- 1 thought we had ahvays been a cultural minor­ The assuranctts came fottowing the pub- other location within Ecuador because he (SLOfs^ Whkh advocacBs for Igbt people in the sk>n to the priesthood of gay men. The ity." lication of Annnesty International's report fears for his safety. mllltafy. The n«C¥vork sakj that another two church reform groups statement read in part. "We are the church. In i 979. Hay co-founded the Radkai Faeries, "Ecuador PHde and Pr«judk:«'' in March In July an unknown man attacked and were dlidwfad aAmt olVkiab conducted a We... WIN not stand idl^ by as our church a pagtfi-inspired group that mixes political 2002; however, the words of Ecuadorian threatened Adriana Chavez Chavez, the routine, unahnounced Inspection of their bar­ respond to Vatican suffers through Its current scandal. We con­ activism and spirituality, celebra^g gay cul­ authorities sdH do not consistently match lesbian partner of Narda Torres, throw­ racks and found the ^wo men In bed togather. Leaders of 20 Roman Catholic Church reform tinue to be disturbed by bishops who deflect ture and the differences between gay and their deeds. ing a stone at her head. On Sept. 5.2002. They adcnowtodjg*^ that they were ^y and groups and sex abuse survhfor groups have responsibility *nd lay blame for their o¥vn heterosexual consciousness. He moved to San Police officers frequently detain LGBT two unknown men beat and verbally declined to concave the discharfas. pledged to oppose any effort by the Vatican to actions on other groups, including gay • NATtONAL AND rNTERNATlONAL NEWS Francisco in 1999 v«dth his partner of 39 years, people under the guise of "^outragas against abused Torres. The Ministry of Interior's The AKniy*a rdbnl to a^apt openly gay scapegoat gay priests or ban them as a result priests." decency"* (atentado contra la moral pub- John Bumskie. He Is survhred by Bumside and Hunmn Rights National Director claims personoet is harming this countr/s military of the controversy over sexual abuse by priests. Patrick McArron of Dignity USA said, his two adopted daughters. Ika), an infinaction that should only carry a that no discriminatory acts took place. The organizations met for the first time on 1938, Active In many progressive petition and the war on terrorism, saki Steve Ralls. 'We've heard that the Vatican msiy come Harry Hay, early gay fine, according to the Ecuadorian Penal Nov. 11 In Washington, D.C. In a first -Bryan Anderton, The WasNngton Bhde; The organi2atk>n applauds those gov­ Network spokesman. He saJd that initially, the out officially with the document (banning batdes in the *40s« Hay and Flacky were di> Code. However, after invesdgatk>ns into National Action Coalition ernment authorities who have expressed Army had tokl two of the soWiers. PFC Patricia attempt to respond together to the church's the future ordination of gay priests) in Janu­ rights movement vorced In 1951, soon after Hay and four other the circumstances of such detentions. interest in preventing hunnan rights viola­ Ramirez and PFC Julie Evans, that they would stand on the sex abuse scandal. The ^therlng ary. But this Isn't confimoed.** McArron said gay men founded the Mattachine Society. Amnesty Intematkmal has concluded that, leader, dies at 90 tions against LGBT people, but pressed be retained after their disdosures. Then Col. Included two representatives from Dignity, he hopes that U.S. bishops will take a stand Mattachine's name came from n^ie dancers too often, LGBT people are locked up Belgium may approve far measurable improvements in the con­ Kevin Rice, commander of the OU, ordered the gay Catholic group, and was timed to against banning gay priests. Bishops in Swit­ Harry Hay, one of the founders of the of Renaissance France who performed wear­ based soleiy on their or duct of public officials. invest^tions into their sexual orientations, coincide with the annual meeting of the U.S. zerland have said that they will alk>w gay modem gay rights movement, died on Oct. ing masks to hide their true identities. Hay is . same sex marriage "Now is the time for the Ecuadorian which induded Interviews; wfth felk>w service Conference of Catholic Bishops at the Hyatt 24 from inoperable lung cancer at age 90. at said to have been the first to apply the term men to be ordained, regardless of any new "We are outraged by the indecency of authorities to make good on promises to members who allegedly were threatened with Regency on Capitol Hill. his home in San Francisco. "minority** to gays, and to fonnuiate the Belgium Is moving closer to becoming the policy by the Vatican, these contemptible crimes against LGBT root out police misconduct directed at courts martial and imprisonment if they did Three members of Soulforce, die gay reli­ Hay co-founded the Mattachine Society, concepts of gay identity and of gay men and second country to permit same sex marriager The coalition plans to meet again to de­ people in Ecuador," said Amnesty Interna­ LGBT people/' urged Heflin. "If not, the not disclose everything they knew about gious activist group which follov*rs the anti- one of the first U.S. gay rights advocacy lesbians as an oppressed culture, rather than after The Netherlands. The Belgian Senate velop specific strategies for responding to tional USA's OUTfront Program Director government is handing police officers per­ Ramirez and Evans. violence teachings of Mahatma Gandhi, were organizatk>ns. In 1950, and later co-founded as isolated, "sick" individuals unable to sup­ voted 11 -4 in Sate October in favor of a bill the scapegoating of gay priests. Dignity is Michael Heflin. "They are nothing more mission to abuse people for no other arrested at the Hyatt during a non-violent the Radical Faeries spiritual group. His port each other. Hay's activism was in a major that would effectively give same sex couples SIX>N Executive Director C. Dixon Osburne I reaching out to both gay and straight survi­ than thinly veiled attempts to humiliate, reason than their sexual orientation or protest on Nov. 12. They had been denied progressh'e political views enabled gays to way responsible for the climate in which the the same legal status as heterosexual couples. said, "The command... should have dosed this vors of ciergy sexual abuse. "I was abused by subjugate and disempower Ecuador's LGBT gender identity." case when It told PFC Ramirez to continue communion the night before because they see themseK«es for the first time as an of 1969, considered the birth *This proposal wouid put right what many a deacon when I v^as 15." McArron said. "! populatton." Amnesty International USA encour­ with her career." were wea,ring crosses with rainbow flags. The oppressed minority with the capacity to of the modern gay rights movement, could homosexuals view as discrimination — the know what it's like to be abused by someone Amnesty Interr^ationai has learned that ages the public to take part in letter three were held overnight for 30 hours with organize and stand together for equal civil take place. ban on marriage until now," said Green Party -SLDN; Washmgton Blade; Knight Ridder who you trust in the church." as recently as April 2002, Nadonai Police writing to the appropriate Ecuadorian no water, mattresses or pillows, and no food rights. Without that consciousness, the As the Mattachine Society spread across Senator Josy Dubie. -Kathi Wolf, the Washington Blade officers arrested three transgendered per­ authorities. except a baloney sandwich. Kara Speltz of subsequent gains in gay rights over the past the country during the McCarthy witch-hunt The proposal must still be passed by the sons and two minors and took them to the -Amnesty Internaclonai So'jiforce, who calles hej-self "a faithful dis- 52 years would not have happened. years, many middleclass member-s felt they upper and Sower chambers of the parliament Britain to lift ban on Boy Scouts win Provisional Detention Center in Guayaquil, sender," said, "This was the worst time I've Born in England in 1912, Hay grew up in needed to appear extremely conservative, before becoming law. Three political parties where they were detained iliegaily. Guards Army discharges gay couple adoption had in jail.' She has been arrested more than appeal on D.C. Los Angeles, and worked as a Hollywood "straight-acting" and unthreatening in order oppose passage. at the center then offered one of the a dozen times for civil disobedience, but said ghostwriter and actor. He recognized his to gain public tolerance. Hay, as an ex-Com- 'The Washington Bhde gay Arabic students human rights ruling minors to another detainee In exchange The upper chamber of the British Parliament she had never been denied communion before gay identity early in life and began having munist, was considered a liability and expelled On Nov 7, die D.C. Court of Appeals Ecuador authorities for money. The perpetrators have not The Army ignored its "don't ask, don't voted on Nov. 5 to lift a ban on adoption by the bishops* mass. same sex relationships in his teens- In In the mid-'50s from the Society he had helped overturned a 200! ruling by the District been charged. tell" policy, as well as the pressing need for unmarried and .same sex couples. Hollywood he became romantically in­ to found. Ironically, he had earlier been ex­ Cathy Renna, news media director of the Commission on Human Rights that ordered still oppress gays Other current cases include: more Arabic linguists, when it honorably T^ie House of Lords vote came after the volved with actor Will Geer (best known pelled from the Communist Party for being Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, the Boy Scouts of America to reinstate two Despite government assurances to put an A police officer charged with physically discharged nine gay soldiers (six of them House of Commons had approved the mea­ said that the manner in which the bishops' as "Grandpa Walton"), who introduced gay- adult leaders. end to homophobic police action. Amnesty and sexually abusing Patricio Ordonez, a Arabic language students) from the De­ sure, which means that it will almost certainly conference handled the media was disturbing. Hay to the Communist Party. After living as Hay recendy told the Associated Press, The unanimous decision said that the International continues to document cases gay man, threatened to harm Ordonez if he fense Language Institute at th© Presidio of become law. Britain will become the fifth *They told CNN to turn their cameras off," an openly gay man for a decade. Hay mar­ "When I told them at Stonewall that I had Commission's ruling had violated the U.S. of harassment, torture and ill-treatment did not withdraw his comolaint and retract Monterey. European country to allow couples to adopt, ried Anita Platky, a fellow Communist, in been thrown out of the Mattachine Society she said, "k shov*^ how they're trying to Supreme Court decision giving the BSA the against lesbian, gay, bisexual and Seven of the students voluntarily dis­ following Sweden, Denmark, Iceland and the control the issue." right to discriminate against gays. Discharged closed their sexuai orientation to their Netheriands. The reform and survivors groups issued a leaders Michael Gelierand Roland Pool will commanding officers, according to the -Associated Press joint statement that challenged any attempt to not receive $50,000 in damages.

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pnscedent in saying that youi3g people who come to wotitJ&MTthc School Distnctshouldn^t also serve on City CouodL** Mains pointed out that Btiah Ctutan is a tervf'ew: lobbyist for the Public Bn^loyee Federation, a union based in Albany. *'Does that mean he Tim Mains on why he disagrees with the Board of would be influenced in his "rotes? Wade Norwood -works for David Gantt, the dean of The Rochcsler Gay Mens Chorus Ethics ruling on conflict of interest the State Assembly DeU^tiOn, chair of the Transportation Department, who has con­ cerns about the fiist ferry (and many other Holiday Concert: f riday December 13th By Suaan Jordan trol over District opetations and finance. issues) that come before CoundL Do we 1« Qty Councilmember Tini Mains, who is opcniy "When (City Councilmember) Brian Curran worry about conflicts between City Council gay, has been on Council for 16 years, and won said there was such a gteat conflict that I shouldn't and his employer? No, we rely on their Albany or Soturdoy December 14th, 2002 re-election last year to a four-j^ar term. Mains, continue to serve on Council, the City's Corpo­ contacts to inform us about what's going on. who has worked as an educator for 33 years, rate Counsel Linda Kingsley said she could no Their Albany connectioos are seen as assets, Concerts start f^ 8 PM and will be working outside the Rochester City School Dis­ longer advise me. So then I needed to get my not liabilities. Why my service to the City trict, was hired last summer as principal of own attorney, llie next closest thing to Linda School District is seen as a liability and not an School 50, in the City School District. On Nov, Kingsley was Pat Malgieri, who was County J asset is what I don't understand. My knowl­ performed ot the Hochstein Music School 12, the Board of Ethics rvded that his dual Attorney under the Fry administradon. He told edge of city schools should be a plus. positions pose a conflict of interest me the same thing that Kingsley had. I said, am Tim Mains The Board's ruling was that no untenured I missing something? Linda said there was no (The Board ruling) mpf»«ar«olicy recom­ Brian right? He said no, IJnda was right, and it make the comparison valid. But I'm not. From started down a slippery slop«. mendations, should serve on City Council. The would only be a coniTlJct in cases where, for the Council side, wc don't have iine-item ruling is not binding, and the Council does not example, the city was buying land next to my control over the budget, so I couldn't send '*When I asked for the opinion of the Ethics have to act on it. However, City Council Presi­ school, or if we were taking any acrion that money to my school and not another, for Board, I thought I'd be getting advice on what dent Lois Geiss told the Democrat cS^ Chronicle would be directly in conflict with my poisirion." example," votes I should abstain from. Fd already stepped on Nov. 13, "I do believe there is a conflict." Mains said that in such cases, several options Mains said that he objected to the Board of down from chairing the Finance Committee. Tim Mains told the Empty Closet^^.t he feels would be open to him. "If there is a conflict you Ethics* definition of conflicts connected witti 1 made an effort to step away from beiiig that there is no conflict, and that the Board of can say publicly, 'I'm f-mployed here.' The sec­ untenured employees. "TTiat war; too broad/ connected with the budget and finance. But in Hthics decision was "a pretty extreme posi­ ond level would be to abstain from a vote and he said. "Lois Geiss needed to focus on policy, the end. City Council approves the budget, tion". He said that he had asked for the Board's recuse yourself from the actual vote The third so the definition was re-crafted to 'no and doesn't move money iiround,'' ruling on the matter, but that he is disturbed by level w^ould be recusing yourself from pre -vote untenured School Board employee who makes Mains concluded, "I feel the Board didn't the procedure they followed. deliberation. So Idon'tgetit.Thef>ositionBrian recommendations on budget or policy' should give this deep consideration. It was an ex­ "They made it clear that this was not a prob­ has taken, which is the most extreme pjosition, is serve on Covtncil. My argument back to them treme reaction. I asked for the opinion and am lem with me," Mains said, "but they said, 'You're that my work as schcx^l principaL and as City was, my union will make sure my due process not ignoring it or dismissing it — but I don't setting a precedent and it's not a good prece­ Councilmember, collide in a wav that makes rights are respected, whether I'm tenured or agree. I need to make my decision based on dent. This isn't about you, it's about the nature tiiern incompatible. He presents only one case untenured. They can't let mc go without 'due die best interest of my constituents. So I want of the position.' They made two points; at the ' as evidence — the case of a county legislator cause*. The fear seems to be that somehow I to sec what I can hear and ^^hat feedback I get heanng the Board said they needed first to who happened to abo be a chief of p>olice, and as wouldn't be free to vote my mind because I'd from people. (The Board ruling!) appeared to determine if there a conflict existed, and sec­ legislator he appropriated money from the be so worried about the School Board giving be a rush to judgetnent, and followed Brian's ond, if so, what should be done about it.... The DARE program. So in titat particular niling they me tenure. argument; the Board tried to fashion it (their thing that disturbs me is that then they came said he can't just recuse himself from voting on definition) around my position. They've back after the hearing and it seemed that people a budget, because that's the main thing they do. **The other possibility I suggested to the scarred down a slipper/ slope* If I'm in coi\- Viad their minds made up already. K\ the delib- "As my attorney ind I looked at it, that's not Board was that I didn't understand why they flict It may be that some of my colleagues arc erarions they didn't go into it. I made an open­ a comparison. A cliief of police is at the highest took such an extreme position. I did say to as well." ing statement, and then instead oi a two-step level of management. He can make policy and them I felt they were setting a dangerous process, they immediately jumped to defining he creates his budget. That's not comparable to what is appropriate for Council service.'* being a school principal I'm a mid-level man­ "TTie legal opinions I have received were that ager, and I make recommendations and have a contTict doesn't exist, but that there are cir­ littie say over what my budget will be. Two or cumstances under which it would exist, for three levels alxjve me is where the final deci­ instance, if... City Council had governing con- sions are made. If I were a supervisor or finance

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Succeed any«pay. 5 Int«rv4«wer's Maine: . support for same sex partner rights, such as Rosemary Cahiil % traditions of the United States and the Boy I hospital visitation (72 percent), health care Scouts. They demonstrate courage and vaJue To the EdhiQt: The good you do today will be fofgotten benefits (66 percent), joint property rights S iPerson Interviewed: - diversity, and haye created a working model I don't kflow who temembers Rosematy tomorrow. I>o good anyway. (60 percent) and estate inheritance (59 per­ for diversity in Otetians.,..Frank Crego re> C^aitt, but she esed to be editor of the Empty I cent). sponded to initiatives and dialogue and has ObwRTbeck ill die 1980s. ...(S)he was ootspo- Honesty and frankness make you vulaet- m I. An» ycHi ftuTtiliar with tlwi OAGV7 fern No Witeck gave American Airlines as an ex­ been tireless in his efforts to educate the ken, compa^fonatc and fieiy... and fomiy.... abk. Be honest and firank anyway. ample of a company that bsts transformed • gagv board of Otetiana, and has hekj to his con< She was an author, i ctitic and a good woman their policies toward the gay community, and • • victions that and discrimina­ with unrealized passion. Please pzint this What you spend years bmlding may be —reaped the benefits of those changed atti­ I • tion are bad for the Boy Scouts and bad for holiday greeting wiittexi by Rosemary CahiU. tudes and policies. In the early •90s. Witeck destroyed ovemi^t Build anyway. n 2« What is your innate or perception of the GAGV? ^^^at words wouid you use to describe the organization? I the community." ! kept it — tt ifi a patt of who she was, my g«y said. American blundered by equating "gay" I Frank Crego responded that he had been sister friend. God btess you, R.C. • with "HIV positive". "They were hammered People teaUy need help but may attack • completely surprised by the news that he With love, you if you help them. Help people anyway. I in the gay press," he sakJ, "and boycotted. I • was getting tl-ie awards and had also felt a MexySyBii Marina They called (^^teck-Combs) and we helped m 3* What mrm the 1*3 thins* ^^^t the GAGV does really well? Or, what are the GAGVs key strengths? • mbcture of terror ("Please God don't let me Give the world the best you have and repair the damage by implementing sensitiv­ I do something politically incorrect now") ity training for the company." you'll get kicked in the teeth. and humility. "So many of you have suffered ANYWAY I • American reached out to the gay commu­ oppression I can't begin to understand," he By Rosemsiry Cahiil • nity as sponsors, and now is the official Give the world the best you've got... said. He thanked the Igbt community for • 4. How might the GAGV improve? carrier to national and bcal gay groups. They "wfiat you have taught me about courage Peoplortunlties the GAGV *houid consider as it pians for the future? the Otetiana Council, which has now imple­ \% there sor»^« kind ol secret agree* port. As President Kennedy said, sincerity is measures of Igbt customer loyalty. mented a polity of teaching area scouts to rrterst? always subject to proof. "Putting a human face on gays in the mar­ treat everyone with respect, Leo said, "I JM: I don't think so. There's not much the The SONDA vote (set for Dec. 17) for ketplace," Witeck said, "translates into bet­ learned a lot In the process of working on Assembly could or can do to get Senate somebody like Joe Robach is agood develop­ I tering our lives." g 6. 'Wtimt sre the current or future challenges the GAGV wiil need to address to t>e successful in the future? the project. Most Important Is the ability to Democrats to be more successful. I think ment, because he has always opposed the bill, I ,. - The awards presentations followed. Bausch work together.... Civility is not theoretical (recent election results) are a question of and this gives him a bye. He always opposed • & Lomb received the Corporate Leadership but a practical and meaningful concepL" He incumbency, arxl the inherent strength of SONDA «n the Assembly, which passed it, Award, presented by Tom Carlock, who referred to the common slur heard among incumbents when they run for office.... (In the and now he won't be there for the Senate praised the corporation for encouraging the B • youth, "That's so gay", and commented. Nov. islection) 99.5 percent of incumbents vote (he wilt not take up his seat until Janu­ B 7. What do you believe are the unique needs of tite GUBT community in greater Rochester (upstate N.Y.)T diversity of employees. He said that Bausch • "Imagine kids around the campfire and some won re-election. Susan John was the only one ary). Unfortunately this didn't get discussed & Lomb has implemented an international I • kid says that. What should a scout leader who came close to losing. during the recent campaign. policy of equal opportunity and prohibits I • say? We're training them to know what to EC: Any commeinits on Harry In my opinion, Rick Doiiinger (as an incum­ discrimination based on sexual orientation I • say. Bronson's Senate campaign ag^nst Joe bent) would have beaten Joe Robach. specifically, in addition to creating a safe I 8. What could the GAGV provide that nnight be a benefit to you? • GAGV Interim Executive Director Pam Robach? EC: And as it worked out, he didn't space for employees to discuss diversity • Barres presented die Small Business Award jM: Harry Bronson had a lot o* disadvan­ win his rsMce for the bench (for which he • "-i^ues-. has created a broad-based benefits 1 to Muthers. Shc^ said thiat when she was tages going In. He started vRry iate in the gave up his Senate seat). program for all employees including same coming out, "Muthers was a place where I process, and didn t get his campaign in gear JM: The Democratic base in the city per­ sex couples; provides financial support to gay I 9. Do you or would you refer others to the GAGV? ^^hy or why not? could hang out and feei my true self. Carlos until August, so he effectively had oniy tliree formed woefully, compared to other areas. organizations; recruits gay employees, and Cruz and Brian Lipscomb have shown their months to run against someone who was well The ability to bring out the minority vote was I supports gay rights legislation like ENDA commitment to the GAGV time and again." known, who had lots of money, and is effec­ severely diminished. People need to look at 1 (nattonal employment anti-discrimination bill) She cited the Mutiiers after-party in con­ tively incumbent. Robach has always been wHhat we're doing. Things have been done thie fl nnmy Kane) replied, "My switch., Local Democrats arc facing how the sary to alt. people rfsgardless of differences are wel­ job is to provide safe and fun places to go for Party car? be relevant moving Into the future. comed and appreciated and accepted." SONDA continued from p. 3 Infornnation people." He accepted the av/ard on behalf of Last year (2001) was good for the Demo­ Patty Hayes, GAGV Youth Program Co­ the governor, I raised that specific concern all the Muthers staff, and added. "Nobody crats, but this year was bad. Robach left both requested ordinator, presented the Youth Leadership with him, that if there's a fi^eeze on state Executive Director loves you like your mother." the Democratic Party and his Assembty seat, The G.AGV needs your opinion. The Board Av/ard to Michael Donnelly, a senior at spending after the election, v^at wouki hap­ Susan John almost fost in a distnct where we of Directors is undertaking a Strat^c Plan­ Penfield High School. Hayes noted that Igbt pen to that funding. The governor said we Moreile continued from p, 3 should have won by many points. But Harry ning process and is seeking information from Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley "* youth and their straight allies are leaders, not shouldn't be concemed," Foreman said. "But is a bright light on the horizon and acquitted stakeholders. The Alliance is in an unprec­ of tomorrow, but of today, in their schools Unk>ns with benefits for partners is some­ even with that assurance, we should be himself well on the campai^ trail. edented grov^ phase and we want your and church<» and at the Gay Alliance. She thing I suppoHL Same sex marriage is un­ extremely vigilant that not only this grant A not-for-profit corpo«mtion serving the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Community in the The agenda for gays and lesbians will ad­ input. mentioned a few of Michael's rriany accom­ likely, and transgender discrimination issues cycle goes through, but that this n^oney Greater Rochester. New York, area Is seeidng an Executive Director. Five employees and $300K-»- budget. vance this year, but i woukJn't want people to We are poised to celebrate our 3ok Hke In 2033? Bill KeKy, Presklent of d^ organizing of the Day of Silence for two Big issues typically do get done incremen­ get cut." GAGV Board saW. "We are eliciting the puB>iic relations experience, fiscal management, resource devefopment, and staff supervisory skills au^ years, goirigfrom SO students participating to tally. My advice is, work ifKrementally be­ input of many stakehokiers «o wtt can chart requlredU SuccessAil experience with people from dh^erse cultures, ethnicities, sexual orientations, and 250 in one year. This year he also organized cause the legislature works that way. unless the best possible course for ih« AUiance, gafwSer Identities Is a must. the first gibt history celebration at the school, a measure is mandated by the courts. Other Everyone has valuable Inpuciao this process. and submitted a proposal to create the first questions will be a combination of wtiat The Board is completdy coiiMiUteed to this Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) at Penfiekl — politics are and what le^slators see as the A hechek^r's is^ntqulred. A master's degree or equhfakMnt experience is desired. Salary up to process and we am tnvidng you to d«mon- which was accepted. On Oct. 28, the first public's perception. The Republican legisla­ $50,000 plus Forward res«ime and a writing sample to: sersM your conwOtmant by oflMifig your meeting wsu held, with 30 students attend­ ture feels comfortable that most voters lnpMtandimgastioitt.Wawiltgyv»comfckfv ing. support anti-discrimination measures. adon t» yoiir commants as part o^ o«r Pamela ftatrvs Michaei Donnelly said. *This coukln'tconne The fiinny thing is, the national (and local) flepublican Party, as well as the Democrats, at a better time for myself and Penfield High MsMWlM outand raoim dwquastSonnaIr* The Osy AJMuMe of Hie VaNey have some decisk>ns to make, because It School. There are still quite a lot of ntbgaxhft mdrstHmictDllieGAOVbyDeit. IS. You I7T AfliBlloc Aifeittie seems clear that the public seems to want to reactions and attitudes. In the past week my mtpomA sbni^nilCBiy ty vliWn< thi be in the center poftticaUy. The ChHstltn there have been nc^tive reactions to sup­ QNOS^ wrtstfti St 0ifMigimjm%-lif tMi JT'" port of pcy and lesbian history — nefitive rfght has to figure out how to sufvhre in an HIMC era when the pubUc rmcoffttamt m dilfarwwc jvnMry, dis GAGV Board w« ^Mdi a Cempl|da|iipllca4»pn thinigi written on posters and n«f»dve ac- fceteMT'ft«m dM Oir FouniMlim «b de- delbitiofi of femHtat — aloe of duels food the<8eyAiMB«ceofthe VMair, go to wwWegiqfaiHance.orge For Iniormatloii CMI RcM:heftor» Hmrn tiofts directed a^^nst me and our group vwtap our new SlrM«#c FIM, nsas* lolfk us fci ECs ^^nvf dofts IIM Swistit conofiiMi YCSMTIL flD te wwwuPodiesCiamv* acMicM-^ t stiil encoura^ you to stay en> »M%4r« tih^M ths «icura of dis GAGV. m to IM run by SUpubKcaiM and «IM A*- fUfd. Itfs important for parents and ocher ouftsiliiMtlefifMiPtwidrettimleby 12/15, imeewnK tt-**^ •nfcwtuiwjM* •**m. trmtut

by Mr. EHstoffs attempts to vihfy Ms. Krueger Sayward (R) in the I IM Assembly District over her opposltkxi to an HIV tafdngtilll that in die Captool a^kxi, B^rhaii IJton (D) In was opposed by all ma|or crime vfcdm assis- the 125th Assembly Distria ki Ithaca. Oys- N.Y.C. News Youth Group members attend tanc* OfgMiizadons in the stasa. tal fVoplas (p) kt the I4ltt Afsambty Dis- Anothar dose friend and supportar of th* trictlnBtilMc and PhlNip Ramos (D) in the Common Threads Camp gaycommunity,Ass«mblymembarSu«an|ohn 6di Aasatnbly District in SulVotk. (D), was narrowly re-elected In the raca for *^Ye now will have at least 10 new lagis- btors who have indicatad strong support By Patty Hayes, Youth Program Coor- shelter before you are locked out. What do the 131st Aesombly District In Rochastar. on our ifsuas," Foraman %9kd. "At the same dinator you do?" These provocative questions Winnh^ by 750 votes, she was attidcad for dma^ tbara wiM be two n«w Senators » one On Friday morning, Oct. 25, nine nrtembers brought up many troubling questions and her oppoiMon to M«^MI*S Law and Gover* of the GAGV Youth Group and two adult Issues and gave many of us food for thought. nor PMaki's proposad anti'tarroHsm MIL RapubUcaB and one Democrat - with poor 1 records on our bauas* We*H reach out to facilitators boarded a van and headed to the To close out our second day of camp, (John, an attomay, beHevas that Ihlagui't Law them and aceampc to move them, as we Common Threads Youth Leadership Camp there was a huge Halloween party. The main is uncensdtuttonal bac»jse it informs pM*- in Fishkilt, N.Y. cabin/dining hall was transformed with lights ents about sex offenders convicud prior to hava so many others In the past." Now in its fifth year. Common Threads is and decorations. While the dj played tunes all COMMON THREADS: Above: Rebecca the data tha law want into c#act) John sits One of thoce who lost was openly-gay a weekend-long camp for lesbian, gay, bi­ night, dancers in a whole range of costumes on the low ropes course. Right: Phil. Below: on committees in the Assembly that have Harry Bronson (D). who r«n for the re­ sexual, transgender, questioning and straight partied and celebrated. the group, including adult facilitators jack jurisdiction Ky*%r the Df^ity for All Students drawn State Senate seat in Rochester being ally youth to come together to work on The final nwrning of die camp was perhaps Ellis and Patty Hayes (kneeling in front), Act and many of the relationship recognition vacated by Senator Richard Doiiinger (D), a issues of homophobia, heterosexism and the most emotional. Having been moved in poses in front of the **Pattyvyagon," which issues that are important to lesbians and gay strong supporter of lesbian and gay issues. . This year there were about 160 an HIV workshop the day before, one youth transported tfiem to the camp and back to men. Bronson finish

need to get to a job interview, an appoint­ The best \ can do is to say it was amazing — ^ r" 1^ V ** . • ,:* ii surprises as Incumbents prevail , " ^ -^^^ -• ment with your case worker and back to the simply amazing. r 3 V /^ ; ^1^ ft In an election that held few surprises for on the Upper West Side of Manhattan left ^^-.^ >-*<=«^^^!S=^ o . M New Yorkers. Incumbents running for re­ vacant by the retirement of Edward Sullivan. A bumper sticker by Dyke Action Machine. election to statewide office and the Legis­ O'Donnell will become the third openly gay/ lature won overwhelmingly. Of the 59 lesbian person to serve in the Legislature, incumbents endorsfessk)&al mainteiiauce crew. of accompltshrr>ent on key issues. This victory In the Assembly — he Is anodier includes the use of his ofAce to introduce example of the lesbian and gay community Upscale llvlBg wttti a!) the amenities you're loolEing for. Mon-Thurs 11 am- 9 pm and pass hate crimes legislation, to repeal providing the political system with a progres­ the I SO-year old consensual sodomy statr sive and articuiate voice on isxuos important co f Ottft Bedraoe Apanmeati siariiie ot $565 Fri-Sat 11 am-10 pm ute. and nK>re recantiy to convince Senate all New YorkanL" • Tm Sadfoee ApnmeatB ctariing a& 1645 Majority Leader Joseph Bruno to announce Mot All Fride Aganda gecfced Incuwy. Sunday Brunch 8 am -3 pm • HeataDst^WliBr.hiclQdMl V on Oct. 22 that the State Senate win come bents Had en EMy Time Wlrnibv *WWHo-lMCfirpetifif •NoglStdWNS • Ol^Streek Paiklac back into session in December and vote on Even tho^^ incumlMnts had dia uppar hand the Sexual Orientation Non-Dbcrlmirai^ on ElactkNi Day, not aH of those esidorsad by • tiaaadiy nbcftlttet • mifCfiiii AcoasSntiy • 34 Hbur Maiaienaiice Hew Loeatk^n O New Menu O New Restaueant Experience tion Act (SONDA). which has been pend­ tha PHde Aganda had an easy dma winning. • Unnt liKftikM OoK IB IfillirM. Sattv wi Psrk Ateaae ing in Albany for 31 yews. AisamMymambar Ptt BMInguan P) won 777 CUI-VER ROAD Looking iiheed. Matt Foramsn. the PHde •"oalecdon ki tha Rapublkan leaning 3rd As* Agands's Exscutive Dirsctor says. *V^« sambfy District In SuMk GEHinly «*!> |Mst Home of the $S Martini havtt tall«i»d to Gqvamor f^^ aii4 SMW- S lparcantoCra

OUT & ABOUT IN ROCHESTER

Dakota West, Mr. Muthers 2003 \l

Iwo queens and a king are cro^rned I By ShetriU Fu]g;hum Pandora fittingly performed "Queen of Miss Gey Rochester Hearts" for her talent portion of the competi­ The five contestants who parddpated in the tion. Ambrosia Salad and the new Mr. Muthers, Chris Anders hosted a Halloween Party attended by lots of glbt folks. He came as the 2003 Miss Gay Rochester pageant showed Dakota West, also performed in the show. MYSTERIOUS HALLOWEEN: Prom left to right: &rian Ung as a erased preacher. mystedous Batman (or possibly Robin). dieir talent and other things at Club Universe Mr. Muthers Evan Gelder as an akar boy and Gerry Syzmanskl as a Starfleet ofBcer from ^rJreK at the on Nov, 10. Thanks to Naiomy Kainc (Carlos) Halloween party hosted by Chris Anders. Lauren Fox, ceJebradng her 10th anniver­ Rochester's Kings have a home, and now they sary as Miss Gay Rochester 1992, emceed the have a new ruler as well. Dakota West has the event. Tiffany Ixjve celebrated the 20th anni­ honor of being crowned the very first Mr. versary of being Miss Gay Rochester by per­ Muthers. forming in the show. But by far the most The inaiigural Mr. Muthers pageant was popular performer of the evening was none held on Oct. 24, Miss Gay Pride Pandora Boxx other than Lis;a, 1987's Miss Gay Rochester. was the emcee for the evening. Seven guys After an evening of 3>s,4mstii5:s, beautiful competed for the title: Skittles, Clint Tauru;?, gowns, and ralent competition. Miss Gay Windz, Dr. Feelgood, Ram Boneher, Sid Rochester 2002, Aurora Borealis, surrendered Deuce, and Dakota West. The bcyz competed her crown to the 2003 Miss Gay Rochester, in beach wear, formal wear and talent^ and Miss Understood. answered a question, Mias Muthers Wlicn asked, "What would you put into a Nov. 3 brought a new member to the ranks dn^e capsule?", Muthers'own cowboy I^akota of local pageant "winners — Pandora Boxx. West replied, *'A dildo, facial hair, and duct The Miss Muthers pageant was held at tape." After an answer iike that, and an Oleg Muthers bar. Aggie Dune performed and Cassini MX complete with walking stick, a etnceed the evening's events. Five queens beach outfit that included swim fins and a vied for the title of Miss Muthers 2003. The Hawaiian shirt, and "Country Roads" for tal-

U. reigning Miss Muthers, Aurora Borealis, ent, the cowboy was crow^ncd King. 1 crowned the new queen, Pandora Boxx. PENGUINS UNITED: Ted. Jim and Shelley of die Penguin restaurant, which welcomes the Igbt community for regijlar Friday night dinners. Pandora Boxx. Miss Mutfiers 2003-

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OUTSIDE THE SOX: Dave Lindahi as a jack-in-the-Box at the COAP Community Halloween Party, held at Camp Eastman on REACHING OUT: Over 250 people attended the Gay Alliance's second Reaching Out.. Oct. 25. Above righc Costumed guests chat I at the party. Cindi Eveieigh of the GAGV Community Connectk>ns Luncheon on Nov. I at the Hyatt Regency. A mysterious entity haunted tha GAGV v^as d.j. Community Center on Halloween.

HA$KS» MUtiC iM4D MEICLOT: llalyfangPao^ widi AIDS hoecad a wina-tasdng^ ^.l HaNovvaafvp^r^. "ItoMywoodaiid Wfciar><(itOitt.^Mtha<>oia^ frtmt dw paHy at r^M. IlkNt^ lUkhman. M>^ Wll^^ of AIDS Hochasftar M>d Father |lm CaMan of Splriiitt GNrlMl ware honored at tha mmuL Patty Hayes. GAGV Youth Program Coordinator, prasant* tha Youth Laadanhip Award to Michael Donnelly. Right: Bob WItwck of Witack-Combs Communleadons was the featured speaker, on the topic "Why Market to tha Gay Communltyr.

MMBn^3.»~'- --' I^HUtt'lH tfB^MHfil ^-.'^tip**^**'*'*^*"'*''™****^*''* Al«l \ :|.,4 •;^/« «;i;«.'i«:-r. *,* /%X »#^J THE GAY ALLIANCE OF THE GENESEE VALLEY PRESENTS ITS FIFTH ANNUAL aW. Holiday Traditions V

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Left: Duffy Palmer's edible tree. Above: Luca the kiuen inspects fruit slices left by the fireplace to dry.

Thomas Warfield, dancer, choreographer, By S^isan Jordan Duff\' and Mark like to use natural decora­ RIT professor and founder of Peace Art Inter­ 'Twas the night before Christmas... or tions, and as much as possible employ plants national, says, "We usually have a large family Chanukah, Kwanzaa, winter solstice, Las and flowers from their own yard and garden. dinner gathenng for Christmas, in tny car, Posadas etai And all through the house, queer Usually their Christmas decorations include from Thanksgiving to Christmas, Barbra folks were scurrying around, cooking holiday garlands and wreaths of evergreens, hydrangea Streisand's Christmas albums are playing ev­ goodies, planning parries, shopping for pre­ blossoms, baby's breath, ted crab-apple bcr er^' day. In my hovtse, the fireplace is alwavs sents, decking the halls, playing seasonal mu­ ries, and poinsettias. Large candles and the going throughout the holidays. sic, going to special religious services, and fireplace provide flickering light. "1 send about 600 Christmas cards. Thar s a doing whatever it is that makes the holiday Also, every ycat the two travel to a different big thing: I've been doing that for almost 20 scar-on mt-aningful to them. city. Duffy's summer vacation as a teacher years, i save the ones I get. I'm veiy sentimen­ iAlAVH/V./S )Cl41yCy<^ y & oyLte^nA KAiXAitUALAAAJAXi / Tliis year, some of them have shared their coincides with Mark's busiest work time as a tal about this and sometimes go back and read holiday traditions — and in one case, lack of realtor, so they save the winter holiday for their them, holiday traditions — with the community. time together. In the past they've been to Your event co-chairs arQ Aurora Borealis, Miss Gay Rochester 2002, and Chris tiana Carol "On Christmas Hve I'm usually sitting in a Dufty Palmer and Mark Siwiec invite Toronto and Savannah, CJeorgsa, and this yeat, church somewhere — usually at mv own Unity around 250 friends over for a party every their destination is one of the most beautiful Church, occasionally somewhere else. The best other year, and also prov^ide a parr,' for the places on earth — Tuscany, Italy —• ending up in Rome for New Year's. music is at St. Marv's and Christ Church, both local birds after the holidays are over. Duffy Thomas Warfield. (See recipes section for Mark's Roasted But­ downtown — they have beautiful music at creates an edible Christmas tree cver\' year, ternut Squash Soup -'jvith Chestnut Puree and Christ Chuich evtry Sunday. And also there's mother's death 10 years ago. "She was the with popcorn/cranberr)' strings, candy canes, A V A .. i, A N C E OF JH^. G c N t S E F. V A _ . E Y Grand Marnier Apricot Stuffing.) gX'ord Lutheran) for the midnight candle­ This year's Sweetheart Bali is part of our year-long Duffy adds inedible decorations, such as parents gave us one present a night out of a big countries, and Canada. Just standing there for light service on Christmas Eve. And I go to white lights, baby's breath and hydrangea blos­ box filled with eight presents." She notes that five hours, you start sort of connecting to all The Messiah at Asbury First Methodist Church celebration of the GAGVs 30th Anniversary! soms. He said, "At the end of the season we Chanukah is not a major holiday in J udaism, but these people, and it's kind of fun. People have on East Ave. I h'Ke it better than at Eastman remove the lights and place the tiee in the that it has become more popular due to the hot chocolate and they share. It's such fun, because it's smaller and less cavernous and snow for birds to enjoy. We've even found .!" influence of Christianity on Jewish people liv­ although it can be very cold!" feels more like Christmas." dried baby's breath in spring nests! ing in countries outside Israel. Aimee Wiles, a staff photojournalist for the Leslie and her sisters make German Christ­ The two light one txiore candle in their Democrat ^ Chronicle., founder/chair of the mas cut-out cookies, following a recipe handed menorah on each of the nights, using the cen­ ImageArt program for ImageOut, and drag down in her family for 100 years. In addition to fJ^^lJ^ cJe.0^ tral Shamos candle, and singing a Chanukah king "Sid Deuce" at Muthers, says, "Each rime spent with her biological family, Leslie song as they do so. "'If we can get kids over we winter I try to reflect on what really matters to says, "My girlfriend and I do our Chnstmas play dteydl/' Ellen said. Tlte little tops bear four me, how 1 can make a difference in the world, thing together after we've had our time with Hebrew letters that spell out a reference tc the and ideas to spread kindness. Christmas to me our separate families. I really like the fact that 6:30 Cash Bar Reception, 7:30pm Dinner and 9:30pm Dancing miracle of the oil which kept burning at the is about anything other than the mall. I prefer our togetherness isn't shoved between her second Temple in Jerusalem after it had been to make my gifts and wrap them in pretty or* family and my family. We can spend the whole destroyed by Syrians during the Maccabee war. creative ways. For many years I held a pet food day together." NEW LOCATION! Crowne Plaza, 70 State Street, Downtown Rochester The Maccabees recaptured the Temple and drive at my workplace, and delivered a truck- The Rochester Rams motorcycle club needed oU for the eternal Ught which bums in load of food and blankets to a local animal tnakes a group contribution to charity. Every Ticket Information all temples and synagogues, representing the shelter in time for Chnstmas. This is a tradition year they sponsor a toy drive. The current Burning Bush. They had only enough oU for I would like to continue. recipients are the children aided by the Dinner/Dance Tickets one day, but it lasted eight days and eight "December is one ofthe hardest months for Roosevelt Children's Center in Newark, N.Y. $50 per person for non-GAGV members • $40 per person for GAGV members months. The oil is remembered in the making non-profits because potential donors are con­ Members, friends and the community in of latkcs (potato pancakes) and in Israel, of centrating on the holidays. The most impor­ general are asked to bring new, unwrapped Dance Only Tickets: jelly dou^nuts (potatoes wete introduced in tant thing 1 do for Christmas is try to tell the toys to the Rams' November bar night. Group Europe). The dreydl winners receive "Chanukah people closest to me how much they mean and members then wrap the presents (see photo), $10 per person geld," gold-foil-wrapped chocolate coins. how appreciated they are." and, on a precipitation-free day. Rams Presi­ Tickets go on sale at sotected locations the week off January 13th. "During Chanukah, we often gather at a Lealie Apctx, a divinity student and co- dent Rich toads them in the back of his pickup friend*s house for one night — probably the founder of Team Rochester, collects creches truck for the trip to Newark (no reindeer For more information, call the GAGV at 244*8640. eighth night," Ellen said. **We all bring our from different cultures. She also shared with required). Rich says, "The community is vety us her recipe for Christmas jeUo (see recipe MaHc Slwiec and Duffy Palmer at home menoralis and light them and it*s a fire hazard, generous." Black Tie attire not required. All proceeds benefit the Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley. with hundreds of candles! Some of the song section). Ivcslie says that her family's holiday the Park Avenue area- parodies we sing ate ver^ fiinny; 'Chanukah traditions helped keep them together after her Traditions continu«d on neict pago Schmatiukah' is a big hit. »• rk''''::;c^i^:-H^--^'mm4s^ V ^^m^$^ ^?^>^'>::''.^'^\ t;!.?^^

V 1A" j-sV Vv' '- ,y ^i^r: ^.v^' ~V5v *^.j -i#;B", js'i«;'# t'V 'e t' o ^'B t- T H.S S M J* V Y . e?li^ O^i «• ' ^ Holiday recipes from Mark Siwiec and Leslie Apetz Winter hoUdays worldwide Mark's Roasted Butternut Squash Soup Place the apricots and 1 cup of the Grand with Chestnut Puree Marnier in a small saucepan. Heat to boiling. Nov. 30- Dec. 7: Chanukah Qudaism). (African American). Cultural festival ere- 2 large butternut squash Remove from the heat and set aside. Simmer Dec. 6: St. Nicholas Day (international). ated by Dr. Maul-ana Ron Karenga. Each 6 tbs. butter the turkey liver in water to cover in a small Dec. 12: Virgin of Guadalupe (Mexico). day marks a different principle, based on 2 yeUow onions, chopped saucepan for 5 minutes — set aside to cool. Dec. 16; Eid-Al-Fitr — the breaking of African traditions. UmoJa= Unity; nutmeg Melt 1 /2 cup ofthe butter in a large skillet over the fast. (Islam). KuchijaffiUa- Sclf-Detetmination; Ujima- 6 cups of chicken broth medium heat. Add the celery and onion and Dec. 16-24: Las Posadas (Mexico). Collcctive Work and Responsibility; Right: Ellen and Cathy light 1/2 cup chestnut puree sautee for 10 minutes. Transfer to a large Dec. 19: Full Moon. Midwinter obser­ Ujamaa— Cooperative Economics; Nia=^ the menorah. Below right: 8 fresh sage leaves mixing bowl. Cook the pork sausage in the vance for Kaudenosaunee people (Six Na­ Vntpose; KMnmha~ Cte^nvity;Imam= Faith. Every night another candle salt and pepper same skillet, crumbling with a fork, until it is no tions) and other Native American nations. A candle is lit on each day and participants is lit. until by the eighth night Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Prick each longer pink. Remove from the heat and add to Dec. 22: Winter solstice. (International; discuss what that day's principle means to ail are burning. squash with the tip of a knife, place on baking the celery mixture. Add the stuffing mix. apri­ Wicca; pagan). Festival of the birth of the them. Gifts are also exchanged, and a sheets and roast until a knife penetrates squash cots with liquid, and almonds. Fine dice tlie Stmchild to the Maiden Goddess in the Un­ KatmiM (feast) with traditional food, a cer­ easily (about one hour). Let squash cool and turkey livers and heat, and add to the s^tuffing derworld. The silver fir is the solstice birth emony honoring ancestors, music and danc­ Right: Leslie Apetz cut in half lengtliwise. Remove and discard mixture. Stir to combine. Heat the remaining tree, and later became tlie "Christmas" tree. ing is held on Dec. 31. (Celebrated here at creates some Christmas seeds and fibers and scoop out pulp into a 1 /2 cup butter and stock in a small saucepan Museum and Science Center.) jello. Below: One of Dec. 25: Christmas Day (Christian). bowl. In a saucepan, over low heat, melt but­ just until the butter melts. Pour over the stuff­ Dec. 31: New Year's Eve (Interna­ Leslie's Christmas Dec. 26: Boxing Day (Canada, United ter. Add onions and half of the sage, cf>ok, ing mixture and add the remaining 1/2 cup of tional), artefacts; she collects Kingdom). stirring occasionally, until onions are tender - CTtand Marnier. Stir well to moisten the stuff­ L>ec. 26-Jan. 1: Kwanzaaj "First fruits". Jan. 6: Three Kings Day (Mexico). creches from many - about 8 to 10 minutes. Add broth and squash ing. Season with the thyme, salt and pepper. different cultures. The pulp, raise to high heat, and bring to a boil. Use to stuff your turkey or heat at 350 degrees one shov/n below is on a Reduce heat to low and simmer, stirring occa­ in a deep casserole dish for 35 minutes to serve candelabra from Mexico. sionally " 5 to 4 minutes. Using a hand Vjlender, as a dressing. puree soup directly in the pan (or puree in a Leslie's Christmas Jello food processor or a blender) and return soup One b<,?x each ot'green antl red jello to pan. Reheat gently over medium heat and Three oz. cream cheese (Leshe uses Phila­ stir in 1/2 cup of chestnut puree. Season with delphia Original) salt, pepper, and nutmeg. Ladle into soup C>ne cup of pineapple chunks bowls and garnish with sage and about 1 tsp. of One pmt whipping cream chestnut puree. Put the green jelJo in a bowi and add 2 cups Mark's Grand Marnier Apricot Stuffing hot water. Stir until dissolved. Add cream 1 cup diced dried apricots cheese and "whip it hard" with a hand mixer. turkey liver Let it cool but not set, for about five rrunutes. 2 cups coarsely chopped celery Add pineapple and let mixture set SLIGHTLY Left: The Rochester Rams get 1 pound pork sausage (maybe one half hour). Then fold in whipped together to wrap presents for 1 cup slivered almonds cream (with hand mixerorwhisk). Putmisture children. 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme in 13"x 9" pan that's siighdy oiled (Leslie uses 1 and 1/2 cups Grand Marnier a dab of Crisco). I^t it set for two hours. Then 1 cup butter dissolve red jello and pour it on lOp, and let it \ large yellov/ onion, chopped set. Leslie uses this as part of a relish tray, 1 p>ound herb stuffing mix alongside pickles, olives, carrots, etc. — not as 2 cups chicken stock a dessert. salt and pepp>er Traditions continued from p, I Visit Debbie Kxusemark, a leader in the Lambda Kodak gay employees group, offers this obser­ vation: "As long as I can remember, I have found myself in a place of worship on Chnst­ www • th ecrcatorshands. com mas Eve. I remember sitting in my Mom's lap at a very young age, watching the candles sprinkle throughout the Christinas trimmings, and giggling in pure delight. Waving to my ThCiA. S>BB l{ ijou cai^ RLB^ISTa visit t^ sister in the choir loft, as all my favorite carols were sung, and I sang along in that childhood voice. I would become sleepy, feeling love's warmth all around, as my Grandfather told the C story of a child's birth and Christmas Eve The Creator'^ HaiA.ds became Christmas morn. PHOTO "Over the years the churches have changed, but not my need to worship on Christmas Eve. KEEPSAKE TINS My partner and 1 will join my sister and her AND ORNAMENTS family in Florida this year. Come Christmas slm^pLtj the "&g3T Eve we will find a place of worship. I'm sure there will be some of my favorite carols and Hore's how if vvorks; c One stop holiday shopping for all your for gtfts liA. "RM&hesttr • Bring in your phclo, negative, that candles will sprinkle in the reflection of or afcgttal file VDurce' V .. -^ Christmas tnmmings. Evening will become c specialty wines and wine accessory needs. • Ofdefyoor Keepsote PKoto Tin or early morning as the story of a child's birth is 2002 Photo Ornament - or both! told again. And for a moment in time I will Pottery • Choose from three festive Photo Tin desigruu J • Fil wifh delcious Photo Cooki« or once again find that childhood warmth of love jewftLrjj yoLtt own goodiei. and sleepiness. Perhaps this year that message ( c c » Delight fom^ and frienck of 'peace on earth, goodwill to all* will be Free wine tastings Friday 4-7 and all day Saturday. O^ 4i «xv '•Of a. jii"* CD Oi a^n am heard. Happy holidays!" -feflby c^if^ Peter House and his partner Tom Krueger &firiJtual (^tflis relish keeping their traditions identical year PHOTO after year. i-tr>Ud«y orwiiwiewfcs 1755 East Avenue, Rochester, NY ">X'e do everything the same every year, and 20% off all cases and 10% off 6 bottles. this is our 13th Christmas together," Peter c ^rifli^- A¥Uirta&' Sta>rypeo«plC 585-442-3140 said. **We get the tree at the same place — ^t-fls about T£i>clicstcr Wabert's oti Salt Rd. in Webster. We have spe­ cial decorations that we've collected or inher­ ited from our families. Whenever we go on a we Men, Sense, a wine and soirlts shop a trip we get an ornament to remind us of where we've been. We put out a pumpkin on the 585-235^550 porch each fall, and after Thanksgiving, if it's still useable, we make pie or soup from it. 749 Park Avenue, Rockster, NY 71,0590 Traditions continued on last page

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Start your own holiday traditions: Gay Holiday Concerts: Rochester Gay Men's Chorus annual concert; this vcar,*"Heaven and Nature Sing" on Dec. 13 and 14, 8 p.m.., at Hochstein Music School on S. Plymouth St. Chestnuts roasting? Tanya Smolinsky, GAGV Program Director, Rochester Women's Comtnunity Cho­ Try ihe two-plv rnesri ^ leads a Trfen^* Talk discussion. rds 2002 holiday concert is "Through of the breatheable /bask/t/pouch The lives of a Child," featuring the Snow- I Trianj^e Talk, the oirjgoiog Igbt bookdiscussion •Y.xW^ children's chorus. It's at 7 pm at event co-sponsoted by the G»y Alliance and i if)rhstein on Dec. 7. BonJers Books 6c Music, wiJil celebrate its eighth Crafts Fairs: Native American NX'in- anntvcrsarjr on Jan. 27 \trith s reception at 6 p,m. tcr Festival. Crafts, storyteihng, music The discussion that, evening wiil start at 7 I'jnd dance performances. This year it's p.m. and will feature the book DangmoHs Urn- VJ(.^C. 7 at the Harley School, 1981 Ciover sons: Blacks, Cays and the Stm^k for BqauUty, St., from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Sponsored by Urban Underweafi edited by Eric BiamdL The disciassion will be vhe Friends of Ganondagan (Seneca his- lead by Thomas Warfield^ founder of Peace Art lonc site in Victor). Get your hands on a toaskit/ featuring the \ International, and an RTF professor. .'Vlternative Craft Fair. Dec. 6, 5 to 9 "condom pocket" at Dece*nber's Triangle Talk will focus on p.m, and Dec. 7 from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., at Ljsmbda Gr^^, edited by Lorena Fletcher Panel, iirst Unitarian Church, 220 Winton Rd. .MENTION" with discussion kadc; Saundra Hhinao ofRain- South. Appearances by the Weavers' THIS bow Seniors. Sec the Gotniuunity Center News Guild and Storytellers Guild. Featuring m FOB «l ADWIIQKA* pagie (pt^ge BIS) for fiiU infottnadon on both "art for the kitchen," cooperative (not event*. competitive) games, Guatemalan tex- FT^ ules, big fuzzy sweaters, jewelry, food, Rochester Wonnen's folksinging and more. 1498 Monroe Avenue •442-9553 Trees/wreaths/hoUy, etc.: Public Connmunity Chorus Market, 280 N. Union St., offers inex­ gives winter concert pensive trees and much more; many items from local farms. Open Saturday, RWCOs winter ccncett, titkd T^m>ugh $he Satntday, Dec. 7, at the Rochester Museum become a Kodak Lambda member, please Sini is the chief curator 'iod the oo-artistic Tuesday and Thursday mornings. Also Eyes of a ChSd,'' will take fOace on Dec- 7 «t 7 and Sctence Cotner^ ftom 7 pjn. to midnight. leave a message on Lambda's voice mail at director for the National Queer Arts Festivai, open every Sunday in December for p.m. «t the HcKhstdn SchcM^ of Music. 50 N^ Tblac other spoiMOts of this holiday event are (585)234-4388. or e-mail and a producer of Nectar, the women's stage at holiday items only. Ftymouth Ave. 'iSSiSKkA* ae Bausch & Lomb, GALAXe at [email protected]. San Francisco's Pride. She is the co-. Advance board of directors for the Harvey Milk Insti­ childfen's choit. A silent attctkwi will begin at * 4i^;iDiiMai!e|2Sa0dcanbeputdtaiedMPatkl^^ Buffoio's HAG tute, and is on the board of directors for the p.m. '.m^^lidti CoAttection. (^ at ti^ door.) This Theatre presents Queer Cultural Center in San Francisco. Admission is $12 geneial, $10 for students/ ev«is|ia ojpcgi «o the public Her work appears in the award-winning an­ seiMocs, and $7 for childseti 12 «iid und«& a Lambda **N%ht OatT at the THhei SpH on Dec. 7 thology, Tb* Omdtav Bibk itf Amtmtm Pttpy, G«y Men's Chorus Holiday Oavk- lliundermouth Press 1999, and on any ofthe Advance tilckets aie on sile for |2 kas lit HAG Theatre of BttAak> presents TribtSpithj cait>dii Sitoev^r, Dec 14, at 8 p.m., at the four Sister Sptt CDs; she is releasif^ her sec­ Fifchouse 15, 715 Montoe Ave.; Ondaiadisli Sini Anderson (Sister Spit) and Lynne Hoeiis«etii$Ghtiinl ofMualc Lambda membeis ond solo CD in the fall of 2002. Her new work (274 N. Goodman St.). and Pnde Connectiatt Bxeedkyve (Tribe ^, at Soundlab, 505 Pead St, and their j|pl)|9is^i«3l be able to purchase dis­ is all based in multi>media form, bftngji^ to­ (728 Soiztb Ave.)< on Dec 7 at 9 pjn. Tickets are $9. count tkHl%03M^^ vokcmail gether pmjected still slides, (by Point Blank & For more information, visit Sim Andetson is a performance poet, pro- at585~234#iBr';: Rebecca McBride) and live sound scores (by www.therwccocg, email [email protected], or duoer* and director living in San Francisco. Tha aecottd «l«iual Winter "BveakOlTn Eltse Baklwin) with Anderson and her spoken caS (585)234'4441. Co-founder and Artistic Director of Sbter Ci|JikiPi«tiy^iailicbQkloaSat»xday»Feb. l.at word performance. Spit and Sistrr Spits Ramblin Road Show, she the White House Io<^ in Webster Park. This Gayla party on Dec. 7 has pctformed naiionaily and tntemadonaily Lynn BreecKove, chief singer and songwriter mim iwitM^^MNaw^-by tibe Xjohda Net- foe the last decadr, in such venues as New for tn^mous dyke-punk band Tr^e &» has is open to pui>iic wo4^atl6>dhik,^!bBadU«tBansch«cLomb, Yocfcfis PS. 122» Santle's Bumbershoot Art been performing througjhout the \}S.^ Cwwda^ lltt I^obda Hei9»«ntk at Kodak i* a Gay* Lea-- GAiAXe at K«M«iir Mid OuiWest at West Festival, Loilapolba*s Music Festtval, The and Europe for over a decade* She cunotuly Christina Smith biMV Bisexual and Ttansgendet empkiyee net- Group and wiM iMN^ilNMi t«k employees and their teaches at the Harvey Milk IcHttitiiie in %ma Licerised AAassase Therapist Michig^ Women's Music Festival, Vancouver wcick at Eastman Kodak Con^KUiy. BCs Rock for Choice, and on San Francisco ^JpoomifK events for Lambda membets and For inote infomkatioA about dtscoatkt tick­ Ptkle'ii Main Sta^e. HAG comfaw#4 ^m wmt THE GAY ALLIANCE WISHES YOU Aeir guests inchide the 2002 Holiday Gayia on ets for Kod^ em|ik>yees, or to sign up to 716»464»8957 A JOLLY HOLIDAY! Chorus continiNKl from p. I perrnit,it'«rillsog|>s2S3'^*^^ dents and seniors $12 and children 12 and initiatives,~^£f^ti£uly as they may benefit the Here'a One Show under, $6. Purchase price at the door is $18, gay and lesbian community. What's queer on One potential show for the new channel If you know a group of 10 or more people A self-tat^t photographer with iiteratute could be a lesbian drama set in Los Ange­ who want to attend the concert, RGMC offers d^rees ficom Boston University and Yale, Giard the tube? les, tentatively tided **Earthlings."Jennifer a $2 discount per ticket. For groups of 20 or also worked in two other major photographic By Brad Smith Bcals (•'FLishdance*'). Pam Grier ("Jackie more there is a $3 discount. CaU the Chorusline genres, die landscape and the nude. In 1983 he Gay Dating Channel is On the Air Brown*'), and Mia Kitshncr ("24**) are al­ at (585)423-0650 for details. produced a portft^o, •*Robcrt Glard*s South Imagine that it*s time to plan your weekend, ready cast. Showtime plans to launch the "Heaven and Nature Sing" is fiiUy acces­ Fork," which was published with an introduc­ so you flip on TDC2 and see if there's show next summer and it could join "Queer sible, and Artistic Ini^rpreter Cat Hardesty wiU tion by then Ne» York Tiiwwjrphotography critic, anything "good" on TV. TDC2 is the gay As Folk" in reruns on the new gay themed arovide ASL interpretation. Gene Thornton. His nudes situated his sub­ cousin to The Dating Channel ftom a com­ channel. jects, men or women, within the context of sntmmsT. pany called Euro Digital Corporation. It's PrideViaion Likes What it Sees Nick Williams interior or landscape surroundings, so diat each not available here, but it is on the air in PrideVisiot\, the world's first TV net­ image was less a classical figure study than a England. A presenter introduces the video work specifically serving the GLBT com­ portrait of a particular individual, naked, in a CAUMMV KSmOKS profiles of gay singles and diose watching munity, has hired a well-connected Emmy particular place and time. In the past several can contact their favorites by phone or text award-winning producer to help it load up years, Giard began to photograph sites of sig­ messaging. You can give out your phone on programming and acting talent. nificance to gay and lesbian social and cultural wm>. 7P.M.'Close number when you feel comfortable, PridcVision is a year old, and finding it tough to make a lot of money just serving history, such as the gravesite of Oscar Wilde or Where's Ellen When You Need Her? Canada and sees opportunity in the U.S. Black Eyed Kosey. Alls© is second from left the interior ofthe Lesbian Herstory Atchives. Question: Where did all of the characters The company hope* to launch its service Robert Giard exhibited widely with many SAT. 9P.M. "CLOSE go? The new fall television season brought here before Viacom can get it together. Alise of Black-Eyed Rosey can go toe to toe one-person and group shows around tlie coun­ a sudden drop in the number of shows with Mark Lieber might help. He operated his try. He was the recipient of a New York State GLBT characters. There are no bisexual or own media production company and his with Sammy Hagar, other rock bands Council on the Arts grant in 1998, His images SUM. 8P.M.'Close transgender characters on network televi­ connections could speed up Pride Vision's are in several prominent coCecdons, including sion this season. According to the Gay and By SherriU Fulghun^ ">X'riting IS a very personal thJng," said U.S. launch. Che library of Congress, the New York Public Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation "I can go toe to toe with you," Black Eyed Rosey Aiise. Her music, like her voice, is very strong Music Director Nick WiUiams is a found­ Library, the San Frandsco Public Library, the (GLAAD) there arc now just six white gay PrildcVision is fit for the Military lead singer Alise told Sammy Hagar one night and powerful. Black Eyed Rosey currendy has ing member of the Rochester Gay Men's wesMYMiem The military up north thinks a gay fimess backstage. a CD available through the Record Archive Brooklyn Museum of Art, and the Ellis Island and lesbian characters on six shows: "Buffy Chorus. He has served as Music Director Museum. the Vatnpire Slayer/' "Dawson's Creek," show can help it better train the troops. Alise got to meet the rocker after being one of on East Ave., the House of Guitars, and for 17 years. In addition to his conducGng Given its mandate, the Robert J. Giard, jr. "E.R.;' "NYPD Blue." and '*Wm& Grace.'* The Canadian Depar<:ment of National the winners in a sing-like-Sammy contest. After CDBaby.com. Alise hopes to have a new responsibilities "with RGMC, he is a found­ PM&SMOW 12-31-02 Memonal Fund wili solicit donations from the If it's any solace, you can pay <=:xtra to Defense has purchased 26 episodes of a the winners sang onstage with Sammy, each release out around the first ofthe year, as well ing niernber of the Chorus dance troupe. winner received a high five from the rocker. Alise gay and iesbian cc>rr.munm\ bur also from ff.n'n- check out cable's "Queer As Folk," '"Six show called "Urban Fitness," It runs on as a new website for the band. The Rochettes. was t^ie last tx? go, and the rocker pulled her to the dadons, photography collectors and aficiona­ PMMPLOOS^ Feet Under" and "Sex and the City." Per­ PrideVision with the motto "Feeling fit. AUse has been rocking since she was a WilUams holds music degrees from the microphone with the words, "Sing whatever you dos, and odiers interested in the breadth of haps the traditional networks sec us as just And doing it in style." No doubt an inspi­ teenager. Each day as the bus passed by the Crane School of Music at SUC Potsdam want." Giard's contribution to the medium. Contribu- another part of our society and no longer a ration to the GLBTs serving their country, home of Ron Rocco, ..\lise would proclaim, and the Eastman School of Music. He has dons may be made payable to the Robert J. sensational and attention-getting casting which doesn't exclude them from the Ca­ Tiie rwo rocked the house. Alise doesn't know "That's where the rocker lives." That rocker - studied at Westminster Choir College and Giard, Jr. Memorial Fund and sent to Robert J. - SPeCML MGM ' FSU stunt. As TV Guide put it, '^'ili someone nadian military. if the rocker ever listened to the tape she gave - a drummer — is now a men^ber of Black currendy spends summers attending choral Giard,Jr. Memorial Fund c/o Barry Klingman, please out Struthers already!" Next ques­ Cher! Hagar of her band, but she dreams of having Eyed Rosey, along with Spike (Mike) on ba.ss, workshops sponsored by Rodney Warshaw Burstein Cohen Schlesigner & Kuh, tion: Why do the few characters have to be NBC has her for a two hour midseason Black Eyed Rosey open for bands like Sammy and Pat Pctrcne on gviitar. Eichenburger, retired faculty member from U.P, 555 Fifth Ave., New York, NY 10017- SfOn2 NOON' 8 PM such extreme examples? concert special. The network taped her Hagar's- Ahse, with the rest of Black Eyed Rosey, Florida State Universit3/. 2456. For further information, please contact Will Wait for Male shows early last month in Miami as part of Aiise is the only surviving member of the can go toe to toe vt^th Sammy Hagar or any VX'Llliams is employed as a secondary Allen EUenzweig at AEllenzu'[email protected] Speaking of "WnG", the producers say her Living Proof; Farewell Tour. original Black Eyed Rosey. Backed by neu' band other rock band, because Alise has the drive, school vocal director in a Rochester subur­ use yon ncKers TO IO PM. or (212)924-3752. by the end of this season, Will will "have Gay Style in Print members, jMise is ready to tackle the rock and rt^U passion, and the voice to make the music ban high school. He is also bass soloist and male". Thcy^re just trying to find the right The National Lesbian and Gay Jo<.imal- world head on. Black Eyed Rosey performances rock. section leader at Lake Avenue Baptist HAG continued from p. 1 partner. Now diere's a plot we can identify ists Association (NLGJA) recendy pub­ are a mix of original tunes and covers; but the BiackEyedRosey can be seen at Milestones Church in Rochester. Francisco, whete she lives. Breedlove is releas­ with. lished its 2002 Stylebook Supplement. The band's CD is all original materi{*l. For Alise. each as a part of the second annual GoGiris W^illiams's hobbies include practicing ing her first novel, Ci>dspeed, on St. Martin's Hart to Hare Take Two publication is designed to complement song she writes is like giving birth to a new baby, MusicFest, a fundraising event. throwing pots and caring for his two cats. Press in April 2002, available in stores and ABC, through a Steve Martin production newsroom style guides and The Associ­ a child to be nurtured. through Insight/Out book club. company, is preparing to bring back the ated Press Stylebook \^'ith suggestions on Giard's gay photos detective comedy "Hart to Hart."This time terms relating to sexuai orientation and gender identity. New entries include civii the show will have two gay men — interior union, commitment ceremony, ex -gay, and will be preserved decorators -- solve a crime each week. Alan Girr CElKT/riCATL5 special rights. The Robert J. Giard, Jr. Memorial Fund has Cummings from "Cabaret" is already cast recendy been formed to preserve Robert Giard's for the pilot, and a search is underway for Ratings "Experiment" AVAlLAbLCL three-decade legacy as a photographer. The his partner, too. A Chicago TV station last month locked Giard (1939-2002) was most widely known Viacom "Outlet** up five gay persons a.nd five homophobes for a unique and extensive selection of por­ A memo surfacing on line reveals the in a house fc>r a week and taped it. It was a traits of gay and lesbian writers who came to purported name ofthe new gay content pay ratings stunt entided "Experiment in Gay prominence in the wake of the Stonewall Re­ Milestones channel from Viacom. According to http:/ and Straight." XSCFl^D says the idea was "to bellion of 1969 and the later AIDS decade of /^jTvw.internalmemos.com, "Oudet" will confront some of the tnisunderstandings, the 1980s. In addidon, Giard photographed place to be go on tlie air in the spring as an effort of fears and concerns diat straight and gay prominent founders of the eariy homopliile 170 turn AYtR4Mll^ErBn^JL4^JWM25^9^ WmL 5«S^2S^H«3 E.Mrfir M.STn|ilF,^H^mp,y|nff both MTV and Showtime, although Viacom people have." Sure. In the station's de­ movement- is keeping details in tlie closet. No one will fense, it won an Emmy for a similar stunt Among the renowned figures in Giard's be able to see the channel unless they want focusing on black/white race relations. series, encompassing some 600 images, are to. historians Martin Duberman and Blanche Dec 7 Rochester's 2 Annual GoGlrlsMusicFest 2002 Wiesen Cook; poets Adrienne Rich, Audre to benefit the American Liver Foundation Lorde, and Rafael Campo; novelists James Purdy, Michael Cunningham, and Sarah "Get Hip to Hep C" r i Schulman; cultural autobiographer Gloria •Doors open at 5pm« •6pm showtime* •$& cover* www.yourbodymas8age.com Anzaldua; publisher, activist and editor Bar­ layout, petiect ior uiiMxi bara Smith; pla5rwrights Edward Albee, Tony 60 and 90 minuto massagos Kushncr, and Maria Irene Fomes, and activist- 'vriters Del Martin, Phyllis Lyon, and Harry availattle by appointment Hay. pat^mleffilMiiJian setting A selection of nearly 200 of these pwrtraits 60SoatkStMet-$l8ei<900 .ormed the basis of Giard's book Partiatlar Jenn London Leah Zicari Joann Vaocaro K JAMES YOST L.M.T Voicesi Portraits qfCqy andLeshian Writers^ pub- 80 LANEY ROAD ROCHESTER ished by MIT Press in 1997. 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By 'M^'ii^y,'.%.r r«l-. Growing Up and give him all my love and affection. by Eric Bellmann In return, I would be willing to clean the reindeers' stables for the next 20 years. I'm MaitEns offering to lake the elves off your hands on i)istnuu'.:c ^u;M;'.[:t^r.: . ' Limerence those evenings that you and Mrs. Claus want a littie private time together. Heck, Fm even It's not in the dictionary, although I admit willing to take your sleigh dirough Delta Sonic aiine*s kind of old. The word processor's speU with the top down. Remember Santa, I'm not looking for per­ ',; .-:\^;:T;rfxi^^ LINE.'. :••;-•/ check doesn't recognize it, but then it doesn't know what to make of "fuck." *'dick" with a MIND fection, rU take someone from the Island of lower case «d/' or "thrall," a word I rather Hke. _ rg- Misfit Toys. I'm not fussy. I just want to be My therapist used the word. What does he held. know? Right, more than me, so yoo-hoo Ya­ Love, ADD A: SAIART^^N^^^^ HC>\IF t)R A;)FFICE hoo and whaddya know, there it is, "limerance". Troy WITH 0lStlNCTI:VE^:SO^ Let me tell you. P.S. rii put out the good cookies this year! First off, it*s spelled two ways. Some lack of AND CARPETS FROM DEI I AR-OBB|A;' certainty about "a" and "e," but with an "e" Ask Gay seems more common. Anyway, Limerence is Questions Mmtlim-r-foT disti7U:ti^^^^ arui. 0:cessd towards me). sucked by a guy does not necessarily mean that a word for that? Rejection, abandonmenr? Hell fill in the gaps, a guy who, through his accep- I know you're probably rolling vour eves as you are gay. The more important question to otiearthr And that happy guy over tl-.ere,vv'hai's VArtcc ot rne, would ricgiirc, c-«nce.! out those y:.'L: rcid this, ':}r perha->s vou and th^' elvfes ;u-e .T^k yourself is: are you physically and sexually with him? And if 1 hang on for a couple of aspects of myself that i wasn't ennrcly com­ having a good Jaugh ("Look at what the sittracted to and aroused by men? Or is receiv­ years, wDJ he hit the skids too? WVioops, none fortable with. Tliis is called internalized ho­ Robinson kid is asking for this year. This is ing a blowiob a physical thnU for vou in itself? of my business. mophobia. So dispiriting to realize one has better than when he was eight years old and Do you fantasize about women, men, or both? Research is a comforting pastime, on all diat dreaded condition, especially after all those asked for his own personal Wookie. That Idd If your sexual dioughts are primarily or exclu­ counts preferable to stalking. Limerence is that years of therapy and consciousness raising, was such a Star W'arj freak."), but Tm truly sively about men, that would seem to suggest intoxicating thrill deep within your body v/hen you had achieved self acceptance. Ain't life a asking for a man. Nothing would make me that you are gay or bisexual. Pay attention to you come upon the "other," the one who bummer? happier than to run down the stairs on Christ­ how your body and mind react to men and makes whole again what feels separate. It's the The tabloids and everyone else made fun of mas morning and find a man sitting under the women. sam.e feeling you get from a speed ball, that Elizabeth Taylor when she was in her prime, tree with his arms open ready to embrace me. For example, you are sitting in a shopping MputstWedt^$da^ Saski^: lodm^ -^^p.m. combmarion of coke and heroin, especially when she blazed across our collective con­ Please don't confuse this request for a "boy­ area and many people are walking by. Who since it makes you hungry for anorher nde. sciousness. How many mamages? Seven, nine? friend." I hate that term. '^Boyfnend" sounds catches your eye and why? Do vou find your­ Aha, it's chemical. Not real. IJltimateiy sa«l. If Pathetic Liz. Unable to setde down and grow r>o temporary. Like Justin Timbcrlake was self admiring men or women? Do you find you think about this awhile, you'll have a richer up. \X^en she was a widow, after the "love of Britney Spears' boyfriend. TemfK^rary! Fleet­ yourself turned on by men or wonien or both? appreciation '>f all those ladies in 19th cenuiry her life:' Mike Todd, had oeen kiJk-d in a pbnc ing,! Past Tense! Vve had pinnples that have Our bodies and mmds are "hardw^ited" for ^^m^: r romantic novels, standing on a bleak brealcwall, crash and she busted up Eddie Fisher and stuck around longer.than some boyfriends. certain sexual preferences. Listen to your intu­ gazing at the horizon, waiting for him to re­ Debbie Reynolds' marriage and ran off v/ith I'm aJso not looking for a "partner." Having ition to help you discover your true sexuality. .RADlA turn. Very "French iJeutenant's Woman''. P^ychoriicrapy ^it Thcrapeiidc Eddie, she sna.-ied to a reporter, ".Mike's dead. a "'partner" sounds like iVe iust made a bu.sj- It may reveal more to you than if you try to Spirit-Miiid-Bj>ciy Woik Limerence is characterized by obsessive, in­ Vm alive." And J thought, gr>od attitude, go ness deal or signed a contract, "f^artner" is »oo derennine your sexualm- soJeiy based on the for the gold, LJz. trusive tliinking about your love object. \'ou cold and sterile. sexuai acts you participate \n. I encourage you feel acute longing for reciprocation. You arrive The deal is Liz kfto^'s how to do rwo vears. I'm looking for a foundation on which ro to speak with a gay-fnendly counselor as well. m m ^ Individual, Couple and ratnlly mnseling & at a state of dependency \XTiat is he thinking, And does it over and over and over. You want build a future, llie man I'm asking for thmks Q: I'm still in High School, and J have • I* • Sexual -Abust:: Keco\^L-.ry Sc" Hcaiirig Retreat Center what will he do? More precisely, it's in tenns of to tell her she's got it wrong? Maybe slie's commitment is natural and sexy. He doesn't been after diis kid for four years now. When­ V • Depression how he treats you. And alwaji^ in the wings really smart (thmk about the jewels); she doesn't need to be the perfect, hard body, but he ever I see him in the hall, he always makes 4f Chronic physical or emotional pain there is the fear cf tejection and a near-inca- have to do anything beyond that whjch thrills should possess a soft heart, I want to be able to eye contact with me, and it feels like a Our healthy delicious pan-asian menu encompasses • Exploration ftf Development of pacitanng shyness in his presence. her. She's into limerence. lean on him in times of pain and struggle, and frozen moment. Fm not out, and I don*t spiritual gifts know if he is gay. How do I find out if he is, the cuisine of China, japan, Thailand and Vietnam. Elation. Devastation. You know an aching Ecstasy, bliss, and ail the stuff romantic ! want him to be able to turn to me when he ofthe heart, how it feels to walk on air. You will songs, novels and folklore enthuse over. The needs additional strength and com.passion. or how do I let him know I'm interested Learn to Fromote your own Health ignore your fncnds. You will only think about state that, while it implies terrible depths of without letting everyone know Prn gay? With ample portions and affordable prices set in a V He needs to have a great sense of hutnor. t Leigh Woodley Ehresman, I^S.Ed, his admirable qualities, avoid considering his unhappincss, notquitjf hopeless-enough blues, A: Try to befrieml him -- regardless if he is feng-shui inspired dining room and bar, TlKre are umes when laughter is the only thing £ 515-524-7588 negatives or respond to them with compas­ also implies heights of joy unknown by the that gets me through the day. He should never gay or straight. Are there things or acuvities sion, and turn his litde nasty habits into some­ boring masses who just slog along. And there be afraid to laugh. He should be witt)% not that you have in common? Keep in mind that you're sure to enjoy your experience thing lovable. You're hooked. Does any of dvis t is always hope for the gold at the end of the condescending; self-deprecating, not obnox­ he may not know whether or not he :s gay or with aja. V noodle CO. sound familiar? rainbow, when limerence ends in ionged-for ious. I want a life filled with the sounds of straight or not. Once you get to know him a We're heanng that the thing we wai*twd, mutuality. Love is, after all, the greatest joy of laughter. better as a friend, you will learn more about him and he "AOU get the opportunity to learn falling in love with its irresistible high, r -fly in Ufe. A dream come tme. I want a man who asks me how my day was t more about you. In business since fact have a ctaziness quotient. Limctcnce is a emait BLMCAB@ritvaxJscntedM when I come home from work. I want a man 7i6,244.i052 January, 1995 stage that will render us foggy-headed and may who wants to share his day with me. I want to Q: Hi, Pm in a bind. I'm a married ntian lead not to bliss but to despair. But this is what Nisa/dventures hold conversations with someone who is inter­ that craves ni2m sex. I absolutely love suck­ wc crave! It*s why we are alive, the pot of gold ested in what 1 have to say and has something ing and being fucked. To tell the truth, I at the end of the rainbow, the reward for this love cock. What do I do? I really care about 'Leave us home...but noi alone.'' in Boyland interesting to say in return. He needs to be wretched life. The milk of life. Drama. How to someone who wants to talk about our future my wife. I think I could talk to her about aja nodcitoio. :' l7V^;:V6nc] •Ave being with a bi-couple. know if we are on the dght track? By Troy Robinson together and is not afraid to discuss our distinct Infatuation can be dc6ned as "to be made pases. A: You arc in a very sensitive situation. You Lu(:-^^eoi/aV fniyi:^ •(:UirM:M-3'i:v:^ t • . ••t: t •••/• Creature Comfort fooli»h,-.to be deptived of sound judgment." But what I long for most is to be held. have acknowledged to yourself that you have All infatuation is ltmefence» If we bnng to a WrappMl with a beau It's been too long since I've felt the strength sexual needs that cannot be satisfied by your Pet Sitters new lomantic evpcncnoe a realistic aotion of of love in the form of an embrace. I ache for wife. However, you have also made a commit­ what the petson is like, and have a realistic idea Dear Santa, this. ment to your wife, h is important that the •CMyVitis ./AAMs •HouaftSMwg(ouwnicMatospa Buy one, of what a relationship is Hke, then we are not How have you been, you joUy old elf? needs of both pannei? arc comnnunicated and Oh sure, I've had some one-night stands (I /P«Tianaporta«k>n(toDrtaBfwiQa) «^*SttMteDQ9r How*s the not so litde lady doing? I hear met for a relationship to be successful and infatuated and limerence will evolve into a hope this doesn't g^ mc back onto your Na^bfy riTi weHKaa taWnm healthy reUitiomhtp. It will be but a phase. So jou^fit 00 the Slim-F»t diet fslan. Chimneys fulfilling. get one half price. 8PCt% a tid t^ wen tbey^Joat kidding. List) where I have faikn asleep in the arms of a FuNylnsi the answer is, you won't know if you ant on the trick, but it always fieeb false. It's a polite but When you talk to your wife, you will be tight track. You just have to foige ahead, bai^ I faiCPlPil ^ iwefi a wNfe since t kst wfoi» to hollow substitute for the real thing. entering a sensitive conversation. Not only Discount dinner entree yooi and I lio|»e w« am |Mat bthmd us that MenOMr: Niiioiial Ajtocuiioa of Pkoft«i^|tat plm in there. I can't think of anything more comforting, will you be disck>5ing your past m2m sexual For love to work, to ripen and mature, it fli«Qr%H of bttsiom ii*ck k 1987-i^ien I g^ experiences, but you will also be retjuesting •••• J- ''^^ sensual, and personal than to be held by some­ * plic«d««Mbyo«irA^|fi^iiiA (I swear dt«M- must be a two-way street. Uxgiency, devotioo, one who loves you. And I can*t remember that you and she engage in seat with other ing up liie «clioel matc»ot» liak 1^ goat, li^ (7U) 872-^190 detetmination axe in vain if they are held by when I last felt thaL couples. This may be far too much for her at my fourth pcdbd Bqg^ wmhm aotinded I only one. Waituog it out, biding one's time sre So Santa, if you can pull such a man out of one time to digest I wouM encourage you to but temporary strategies. Vermont wedding* Uke a good idea at tli« tine.) Vdf. rSre woriM your bag of toys, I promise I would take him speak with a relarionship counsdor if possible notwithstandif^ what happens next is what really ha«d in the past aeveMijwait «>get back before you talk to your wife. into your good gnces, and I would WkA to out for walks (and show him off to the whole counts. Pethaps we are wise to emulate the iwotld). feed him well, dean up after his messes. iMRAIUIk. 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B6 v*<(*S' they were also positive, then the encounters back to S^em, Massachusetti, to tbe witch- presented a possible risk to both parmers of burning days. (EapeciaUy as Mr. Ashi^otit ad­ transmitting new strains of the virus (which mits he iMiiMwrin black magitc ^acA the drviL) His ShlpptDg i>oefc fh«*tr« twrots Healthy and was the subject of this column in October). ancestors (the Chig^ial Chrbriau Cok>nists, no The second interesting piece raised was Gay doubt) seem, if genetiai bnsed tme, to h«ve knowledge of HIV-status. When asked if they Join lots of wonderfui women for probably been the ones pifing lo^ on the pyres By Erik libey were positive, negative, or unknown, 22 per­ of unformnate women given the title **Witch". song, friendship and food — sing cent indicated they did not know their current TransGeiwderView History teUs us that that title, g^ven in the HIV status. This cleariy means that these indi­ with the Rochester Women's By past, had not a lot to do with herhs, spells, or ft viduals had either never been tested or that ILIMii^ Community Chorus. No audition 'Survey says.. Paganism. Simply, it meant you didn't toe the they didn't feel their most tcccnt test was Fear prescribed "line." needed. No experience necessary. AIDS Rochester has recendy completed its reliable enough to report (perhaps because it This is the last TransGenderVlew of the **Minorities" and the GLBT community, we irst in an ongoing series of online surveys had been so long ago, or they had engaged in a 3^ear. I wanted to finish by writing something are the modem witches. Help us celebrate our S^/^i^e^ Sp44H^\ ibout gay health issues. (Note: A new survey hig^-risk encounter since their last test). about a lot of the issues that interest us in the Too alarmist, you say? s up as of Dec. 1, so stop by our website and Rehearsals begin January 8,2003. The third interesting trend noticed was with TG commiimity; passing, insurance, politics, The present political climate is pretty telling. ake a look: www.aidsrochester.oig/gayhealth) regard to how men compare their own risks/ identity, etc. The party of George Bush declared a *'historical More information: www.therwcc.org, A total of 62 men responded to the survey attitudes to those of their peers. In our results, But instead, as this is the evening of Nov. victory". They have the political clout and con­ !on- A mandate for war.'' It's black and white, it's nJie '40s (or even 'SOs). another on this roller coaster ride through the day of an cm about becoming infected with HIV. The dents generally felt that most gav/bi men bare­ A mandate for "^.rfd/conservatisni"? Prob­ A group of young and older people stand, amnesiac trying to decipher her fractured life, while BirM6Qf ;urv.'ey also asked participants to rate how they back more (87 percent barebacking more than ably. drinking soda and smiling, raising a toast with :hought other gay men would respond to the sunounded by a curio cabinet of alarmingiy bizarre characters. 1/4 of the time) and cared less about getting But, since the fiscal conservatives rode tlie their soda botties to the camera. same questions. HFV (only 4 percent being "very concemed"). shoulders of the social conservatives to victory, If you look up behind them in the trees, you vX'ith such a small sample of survey respon- |m-viii>j»j^iiiiiirn»iii»ii , .mil This demonstrated that more people are hav­ (or the other way round, but it doesn't mattti)^ see three black men, hanged. Their faces are dlents, certairdy we can't use the results ofthe j And Don^t Mis» r^d op^f:;!!?^* ing safe sex than we might assume, and that this column deals with fear. hOoded, ^t\d their hands are tied behind their ur\-ey to make any sweeping judgments about even though wc may think nobodv really cares Fear of the A^ttorney General ofthe United backs. he beha\^ors or attitudes of ail gay, bisexual about HlV anymore, many/most ?n:I do. States- Best to vou in 20ponses or as trends noticed from all the re- dom use continues to be important. Getting ;pondents. Ff>r the purposes of this article, I'd tested for HIV regulatly is critical for ANY­ Performs* 0««s: jke to highlight three of these issues. ONE who IS scxuiilly active (and not monoga­ &««ciiil»er 10, II* 12,17.18, 119 The first interesting outcome from the sur­ mous with the same long-term parmer). 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We tlrst went to of the Seven Wonders of the W(irld, it ap­ PLACE tt>ok place in an open vehicle. Eariy morning Boulder Beach to see an amazing colony of peared a bit dried up and just made me wonde- Rcb\alion and evening drives, with the use of halogen African penguins. Onto Huat Bay for a cruise wha* it would have looked like. Also goi a tour Strci^s Roi"!iict!on tlood light, but NOT tlashed directly into the ro Sc'\] }si,i-"id, (.)n the uay HCV^VT! U.-> the Cape o( ;i Zambian village ccjmplcrc with -A animals' eyes. Yes, this was the naked jungles of Good Hope, •wc. came acioss some "rami- v/itchdoctor. M&iseimi QM SciesK^ Carrier - 657 East A ot South Africa — hons and tigers are bare, oh iies" of baboons sitting along the road — Last leg of the tour brought us to Prcgn.incy a!id inlani Dec 7,2002 • 7pm to umifiight mv! This first one took us through the sandy looked as if they were "homeless and hungry*' {j.^hannesburg at the Gtace Hotel in the Ronald G. BottcnK LMT ff^ads, but as the drives progressed, the Game — practically begging, Rosebank area. Another niall and an At^rican Advance Tfckeb $25 - AT the door - $30 Rangers drove on just about any terrain in A break in the Village action had us staving craft market. Gay area was calU^d IIcartJAnd, Ma8$age Therapht search ofthe w^ild. one night: at the Table Bay Morel, neat Table made up of connecting bars. And so it's back to Hor & a>ld hers d'oeuvres, wirte/l>eer/soda from 7 PM to 11 PM No fear. Never. These animals are not fed by Mountain, wluch we tocjk a trarr? to. What a the jungles of New York w^here the world's Uixi'ii Hii!. N> t 4-ri Doncing wiHi music by DJ Gndy humans, they go after prey and there are no \iew! The hotel, located on the waterfront, is human species runs loose. OY, where's tny i ^ i!i(i: jfi^in 4li.>i''.ni(>i».n k'lH U"; !i.r.. Tt»is «MsnM» open to #ie pubk • T*cisBl» Cft^Asbl© at I^ fences. 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Tune in and catch ROMANS, PO Box 92293, Roches­ aging issues pertainif^ to the GLBT and the looti^MSte flavor you don't oaSatittday,Feb. 1 atthe White House ImageOut has an excellent volun­ your favorite Chorine writii^ up the ter, NY 1469Z Community. Thanks, Borders and like. Bting your goodies to the Fo^ Lm%e ill Webster PaxL teer group, which makes our events GAGV! turn on die 14th. and well deliver Our Eksc 6 Diacas^on N^t wiU This event wiil be sponsored by posttbje* and we can always use mote Voice placements for "RGMO Rainbow Seniors So now, the Rainbow Seniors wish them ftjryou . focus OO '^tieas Management dur­ the Lambda Network at Kodak* people for jobs small to latge. We ace Yestetday. Today and Totnorrow" each aixl everyone a warm and happy By Saundra BhoEMtn The holiday seikson is hete. The ing thr Hdfidigrs**. GLOBdcL at Bausch & Lomb and k>oking fbr vohinteecs to help with will be Thursday, Jan. 2 at 6:30 p.m. holiday s<;ason! Infotmation inquir­ Lots of fun stuff goii^ on forou r BEARS are prqwmng to feast. WcSe GALAXe at Xerox and will be <^>en development, outxeach to all a^>ects at Downtown United Presbyterian ies are being taken at 473-4765 Come shace your tried-and true group over the next few months. We got a holiday party planned in to enqtloyees and iheir guests. of the local community, special Church, 121 N^ Plymouth Ave. in (Saundra). Our e-mail address ist Once a year, we hold the celcbnued techniques focdealif^ividt the hustle started our winter fesdvides with a I>ansviUe on the 7th, Food, faends, ItwSibeag;ceatteasi*igp office aaaistanoe, Rochester. Music Director Nick [email protected] or Charlie Gay Fathers Rams Run in a secluded caropgEound and bustle of the holiday season] 7-9 kick--offtraditionalturiceydiruierNov. a hot mb, and BEARS. It's soup! our houses and see people, as weU at the ImageAit show, and many other Williams will Hseen to anyone inter­ @442-2220, The Gay Fathers gn>^> contiaues to in Upstate New Yotk, whete over a p4aci. at the GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave. 17, There was gttat fun, food and The next week, our poduck is Dec bdnggteatfon! Details will be forth- areas. acted in joi'iuig RGMC and then meet on the first and thttd Toesday bundled Leatfaennen convoy an­ coffoec Hhon and Atlantic Ave. fellowshipl 14 at die GAGV. ItH be eatiy this comii^ but please put the date on Hie next ImageOut Volunteer assign them to a particular section. Frontrunners/ of the month and ^1^ h«ve started to nually for a wieekeod-}oi^ getaway. plane hd^g a coack or non-alco­ Our December Poduck is. as usual month, stacting at 6 p^n. so that your calendar. Fbr more infonna­ Interest meeting will be held in Janu­ For more information call the get together fbr a social ntg^t on the Bondj^ic, psin, discipline and sa> holic beverage to pass. On Dec. 18, membets can get to the RGMC con~ tion. please call (585)234-4388. ary, date IB A, but you don't need to Chorusline At (585)423-0650. on the third Sunday — in this oue, Frontwalkers fourth or fifth Tuesday as wdl dism — for some, a way of fife, for we will have out annual Butch- cert that evening. Our monthly wait until dien. Cal! the office at 271- I>ec. 15 at 4 pjcn. This feast wili be an Frontrunners/Frontwalkers tncet We will be planning a pothickdifi' odiers, cmly fo>rpby . join the Rams Femtne Xmas Qift Swap and Coffee brunch is at every BEAR's £r7orite, 2640 or drop us an e-mail at "all hots d*ocuvres" buffet, so cotne, three times each week to run or walk ner during the holid:^ season at one and the guests at the Bachelor Fo­ Nig^ Bmcfaes,' bong a $5 or less ROMANS Mario's at 1 pJn. on die 29th. Last, Women's [email protected] and eat, and be merry with us. on Monday and Wednesday at 6 pjn.^ ofthe dads* homes on Tuesday, I>ec. rum in criebration of bSack hankies value gifit £cMr a fomme; £emmes, a $5 Rochester Male Naturists (RO­ but fiur6o m the least, well party out leave a message for J. OTJeill, our We also have a few door prizes and Saturday at 9 a.m. at the Geoijf^ 17, at 6 pjoi. If anyone would IHDC to everywhere with "S&M Night", or less value g^ for a butch. Hease Fishing Group MANS) is a social oiganization of 2002 and welcome 2003 at a bash in Volunteer Coottlinator. Hell beglad every month—maybe you'll get lucky! Eastman House parking lot. attend the dinner or any meettf^;;*, That^Dcc21i^theBs*iMfoeBofum , noeet outssde the GAGV from 7. Ccmie jom us for our first ever Annual gay namnsts who ei^y camaraderie There are also programs on lifestyle Scottsvilie. More food, more fiiends, 7:15 pjcn. ai»d we wOl head out to an to talk to you about matching your On Saturday mornings we social­ f^ease contact Rob at 458-6831 for 670 University Ave, As ahvays, de­ Tackle Xmas Gift Swap and potiuck! in the nude. Our affiliatioos indude isstscs fiom droe to time. another hot mb. I'm hot just think­ area coffee house to chat and swan specific interests witfi our specific ize over coffee following our walk,/ morr; informadon. tails on the Rajms, kathcr events, and The event will be held on Sunday, Gay Naturists international (GNI) For the Deceml>er n^cetijig, we are ing about it. gifbl needs. You can also browse our run, and have other social events Our next rcgubidy scheduled meet­ more are always available online Dec. 15 at Cmdy/Kctry's residence and Intemadonal Men Enjoying aJIso asking everyone to bting a small Chess/Science Ekm't fotgct, you can always catch website, wwwimageout.org, for throujg^out the 3^ear. Yes, wc do nsn ings will be Tuesdayjan. 7 and 21 at http://wwwjxx:hestemms.com. In January, our EHscussion Night in downtown Rochester} beginning Naturism (IMEN). item such as a pen, one size fits all die BEARS every Monday night at more infonnation about our pro­ or walk 52 weeks per year, in ahnost Fiction Club 6:30 - 8l30 pjn. at the GAGV Com­ on Jan. 3 will focus on "What Wouid at 5 pjn, — brixig a lure, fishing Our dinner pardes/mseetings are socks, personal hygiene products, Mel's, having su{^3er at 6, growling grams. Tl»e Chess Club is expanding to cn- munity Center, 179 Adantic Ave. You I>o If?" Come chat about your ^joon, or fishing accessory for a fish~ held at members' homes during the noo-pcrishabic food etc., to fill bas­ Groups continued on next Muiticoni«*4 with friends, then heading out for a conaf>ass the topic of science fiction. We wish everyone a Merry Chtjist- dreams and aspirations with us (also ing gift exchange and a dish, snack, or year. Our naked swim and gym kets for shut-ins. movie if you have time. If you're RGMC It still meets on the second Thurs­ mas, and the very best for the New Former Mullticom-4 BBS members at the GAGV, same tinse as Dec 6y non-alcoholic beverage to pass! events through next April are now A higkJight of the jajiuarv {x>duck, looking for friends, hoping tc meet The Rochester G^y Mttn^r Chorus is days^ at the GAGV, 179 Adandc Ave., Year 2CX)3I meet rvcry fourth Wednesday of the Jan. 22 will be our annual Wsnte- Httase RS\^ your attendance to scheduled. Some of our activities lieid on Jan. 19, will be the "Oh, new pcc^le, come visit 'with us. We busy preparing for "Heaven and Na­ frocn 6:50 to 9 p.m. mcirtth at Spin Cafe, 739 Park Ave., Dinner Night Out — meet at ihc Kaay/Ondy. (58^65445776 ot«m«l j are clothed events, especially at res­ good, I can pass on that present that Rochester Rarns don't bitCj, unless encouraged. Many ture Sing*', Dec 13 and 14, (See ar­ GAGV for a n>onthly oi>ffee sodal. Other GAGV between 7 and 7:15 p.m. and us at Fi»bingFolk*NY(j^aol.coin. taurants and concerts, etc, lio^v- doesn't fit or match the decor" op­ la the meedngs, chess games wili of our tnembers feel that this club ticle on page BL) The Rochester R^ms (or, officially, gjbt cyber-gecbi are also welcome! well head out for an evening of din Have a great holiday seasonl ever, now that winter is gettitig firmly portunity, by wrapping it in a plain be pktyed, and grandmaster games has become a surrogate family. We The Chorus and the Board of Di- "The Battering Ram, M.C.") is die The online group can be found at fter and conversation! cstabUsbed, our outdoor events are brown bag for our auction. With Youth Group wifi be shown by Paul Forcella, ptvsi- have many events av^y from the recrors invites each person attend­ • dde of Rochester's foretKost gay http://groups-yahoo.com/group/ For group information, contact Imageout severfJy curtailed. Martin as our friendly auctioneer, it dcct of the club. Also, science fic- bars, but some members enjoy visit­ ing the concert to being a food item motorcycle club. It is a small band of muIticom4. Kerry at (558) 865-4619, e mAi! Membership is open to n^n over oug^it to be a lot of fun. don will be discussed, if all agree, ing with friends at the bars, too. ImageOut just celebrated our 10th for contnbution to the Food Cup­ The Youth Group men of similar interests: motorcycles, DressyFemme<^aoLcocn, view our 21 years of age who have an interest frt^tn topics such as "Dr. Who" and year of presenting lc:$bian, gay, bi­ board at AIDS Rochester- As the By February, we should have the leather, fraternity, and good times. You can find us at the Forum meeting calendar online at http.// in social nudism. Most members update for the month •'Star Trek" to the U.S. Space Pro­ Empire Bears sexual, and tnm.sgender films to audi­ winter season sets in for real, it is Explorers Lunch Bunch up and run­ The Rams provide community every second Saturday, and most groups, yahoo ..com/group' come from the greater Rochester ning ~ a monthly get-together to visit can be found on page gram, and Carl Sagan, as well as oth­ Thanks to everyone who has brought ences ftom Rochester and surround­ more important than ever to provide service both to the gay community Thursdays there is agroup ofBEARS RochBFConnccilist/caicndar or area, though Buffalo, Syracuse., ethnic restaurants, try the food and ers. Refreshments will be provided. teddy bears txy the Forum for us ro ing areas >a?idi our largest Film Festi­ food items to those living with HIV BIS (Community — throu^ our scries of bar nights too. If you like board games and write: P.O. Box 18734, Rochester, Utica, and die southern tier are ako learn about the country of origin. .Mi are welcotnc, and wc meet in the donate to Idds at Strong. We've gath­ val ever. Our 47 screenings show­ and AIDS. Bringing such hems to Center News) — and to the community-at-large cards, we play all kinds. We eat out, NY 14618. Have a joyous holiday represented. first Cloor small conference rooni. ered a load of furry fdends, and hope cased films and videos frotn all over the concert will be one more way to On Dec, 1,1 will be discussing the throu^ charity w^ork, donations and go tc the movies, attend concerts, For more informadon, call our For more information, call Paul season! the wodd in documentary, feature. help those in need. VKX>k l.jwihda Gray at Triangle Talk, to gn more at our December hockey, and lacrosse. Wc g^i camp­ Forcella at 266-7356. See you there! our annual toy drive at Christnias. information line a,nd leave your name held at Borders book store on Hyian

~-\' Spiritus Christi Church Christmas In the Air A Christ-centered CAtholk Chyrch reaching heyond the isistitittionjil Elaine Elkins M.S. clsarch to be indusrve of ail AT OPEN ARMS Psychotherapist (_^oun5e!or/^Lest?ian Liturgies Thursday: 70 0 p.m. at Spiiitws Chrisii Church Saturday; 5 00 pm, al Spiritus Christi Church METROPOLITAN COIMMUNITY CHURCH Ifidividual and relationship counseling: Sundbiy: 7 30 a.m. at Spiritus Chiisti Church 9 30 am. at Hochstein, 50 N Plymouth Ave. December 1 - Memorial/AIDS Sunday anxiety &c depression L-Hcouragcmcnt Rainbow Bridge Meetings 3"'Monday 7:00-8:30 p.m Please join us at 11 PM on loneliness & separation Glaring 60B«ttiicrSt RocbeiMer NY 14450 •325-1180 resolving conflicts December 24 - Christmas Eve communication skills Cjuidancc A Celebration of Lessons and Carols I tl • ••, foiiowed by a refreshing fellowship time sexual abuse recovery Respect • ire nity-Integrity Rochester drug & alcoholism (Roman Cathofic-Episcopai) grief & loss We welcome aH tegardless of wonhip tiaditio]! or sexual otietitfttion. 244^837 3^^ J SJ"I<^ Avenue 175NormOnvie(i CQM» Nil Parti) Ragutar Stjnday ^A^waNp: (7l^)271-f-^10 UxxMtgy evety Sunday at 5:00 p-as. Phon»: 271-847a £-< CMMCC NYDaoacom 11AM

SGCM Ham mmmd MO pjn. Geri Stanton Pg^liK-^ neJWMJf gyeiy dritd Snaday of due tmm^ Ckmck oC St Lafce «nd St. Simon Cyxcaic a Third Presbyterian Church (tbtdmrcbm^AifmiAiit^) a More Light Church ogether we mil create an 17 Soutii Fitzhn^^ Sti»ct (Comer of Btoad and S. I^^d&Uj^) where gibt persons are welcomad as T environment that pronwtes 0-1 Infi>"Iiiic: 234-5092 partners in ministry healing, provides support jbr exploring gReootded ittfocmatKio aod voic« inail) EXPERIENCE YOU CAN TRUST B-flftail: [email protected] Sunday Worship 10:30 a.m. your personal joumet/ and empowers W€*> Site http://www,ggw.oi:gA>l-R«>ciictteir/ (Child care avaiiabie, wheetohair aoocnwfelB. Individual, Couple and MS.Ed., MS.Ed looped for rtearing impaired) Group therapy National CertifiedOxinsdjr you to make self-respecting choices. Specializing in Conoems of: Certified Clinicai Mental Monday (1st and 3fTi) Health Counselor t mprnkmAtptdmrntifJumCkria GLST Support Group 7:30 p.m. Isolation and Loneliness, tkaw Relationships, Separation, ,'f'*..v;N^, i /S K>! ^^ nM- rc Self-Esteem, Abuse, and imivaitrpmpk at East Ava and MilBa Sl Sexual Orientation TOD (716) 533-2041 Join us in cdebwring ovtt 25 ycats NY 14007 Voice (716) 325-7180 ^,^ „,fl«^^ in our commiinityl ininqpraaoyaiiliiuiiii

c^sr^^i. .-^-luum Groups continued from If you need further info, call Lynn make it even better. Gays and Lesbians. In 1990 PLAGAL previous page Single Lesbians at 585^392-8988 or e-mail Interested? Call Donna Marie came into being out of the tock- any weather! We invite you to try us Attention Single Lesbians. If you are [email protected]. Kearney at (585)442-€399. bottom belief that when atiythixig out to help keep off those holiday interested in getting out and meeting Women's threatens human life, tights, or d%- pounds and keep in shape while you new people as well as enjoying some Pi^GAL nity, that threat must go. Homophobia*s one such thrept. await the arrival of spring! good food and fun, please join us. Hilcing Says Donna Marie Kearney, PtoLifc Abortion's another. Interested? Have Visit us on the web at http:// We will be meeting on the 15th of Ladies, come join us each month Alliance of Gays and Lesbians Vice- GAGV questions? Join us." www.frontrunners.otg. We can be every month at 6:30 p.m. for dinner at for our fun hikes at local parks. President of New York State, "in the PLAGAL»P.O.Box33292, Wash­ Volunteer of reached at tochfrf«^@hotmail.com the Old Country Buffet, 1512 W. Ridge AU different ages and hiking abili­ history of the gay and lesbian coixi- ington, DC 20033. (202) 223-6697. or leave a message at 442-7412. Rd. at Stoneridgc Plaza, Cost is $9.39. ties are fine. This is a great way to munity, there has not been an otgani- Email: plaga]@plagaLotg. Website: ConunujoityCeiiter the Month: meet fun and interesting women. £ation to take acdon on pro-life con­ www.plagal.org And moms, bring your kids! They victions until the Pro-life Alliance of Tom Krolak ^br» Conrinriunity Center Information IT DOES IVlAl^tiR GAGV Community Center, 179 At- Board Prtt«Ed«nt: Bit! Keily Tom Krolak, who lives in Greece, the Alliance office. It was then up­ What has been rewarding ai^d bntic Ave.. Rochester NY. 14607-12SS. Acting Executive Director: Pam has been volunteering for the stairs in a small rented space. The enjoyable about volunteering for Community Center phone: Barres GAGV and writing for the Bmpty next May I began attending the Sun­ the GAGV? (716)244-8640 Program Director: Tanya SmoJinsky Closet ^ince the 1980s. He has day night meetings ofthe Gay Broth­ The accomplishment about which Empty Closet phone: (585)244-9030 ^^^tf C(o.et Editor. Susan worked as a mailing and distribu­ erhood. Contact ^^yr Matter Howe & Bassett Go GAGV/EC fax: (585)244-8246 Jordan I am proudest is the column I wrote tion volunteer for the £'Csince the GAGV E-maii; [email protected] Youth Program Coordinator: In what capacities have you vol­ for the Empty C/osetin 1986-91 about Empty Cioset E-mail: Patty Hayes late '80s. unteered with the GAGV? famous gays, lesbians and bisexuals. For Real Estate Matters emptycloset@gaya!!iance.org Administrative Ass't: Cindi Eveieigh Tom's main interests include his­ The start of my kmgcst associa­ Now 1 help with the distribution of GAGV \A^eb site: Aleeting space is whtekhtur acctssibU. tory, tilrns and plays. He works witf; tion with the Alliance was on June 5, the paper but am always wanting to www.gayall(ance.org Board meetings are schednUdfor ihe second props for Pittsford Musicals. His 1985. The new editor of the Empty return to wnting the column because Center hours: Mon,/Thur5.. 10 am-9 Wednesday ofthe month- education includes a Liberal Arts Closet^ Howard Pollack, called me of my love for historv and biogra­ Relocation Assistance Plumbing Professionals pm; Fri. 10 anv6 pm. degree from MCC and a B.A. from after he saw a picture I took of Tim phy. Maybe someday. SUNY Brockport- His major was Mains, who was in his first cam­ What w^ouid you say to encour­ Sincel885 Youth holiday iMiisons: Blackj, Gd in rhe paper and asked mc if! would Nojunieering can gu'c vou noi. tjn!\ party is Dec. 22 Brandt- Tliis anthology provides a wide fncnds but no partner m my hfc, do adra-wnng that wcmid show aiJ the a feeling of fulhiim.ent for helping but I'd like to have one- Another groups beloii)r;mg to the G AG\' for • By Patty Hayes, Youth Program variety of voices discussing the inter­ our communuv, but also let vou dis­ rN interest is amateur wrestling, and the July issue. A week later, I came ICoordmator section between race and sexuality'. cover skills you may never have Mortgage Pre-approvals rd like to start a club in this area to the Empty Closet office for the ;t it snoisr, let it snow, let it snow! The 16 essays address such compel­ thought vou had. that could be sent to the Gav first nmc and showed him mv illus­ Joking for a place to warm up and ling issues as the growth of gav and Tcni, we'd like to thank you for Games." tration. He assigned mc to do rc- ung out? Tlien check out the differ- lesbian rights and homophobia in the over 17 years of volunteering. We Concierge Services The good guys your pn-vrtingand I also did a small amount ;nt Igbtq youth groups! black church, artiaides towards inter­ When did you first become greatly appreciate your help cur­ racial marriage as compared to same- acquainted with the GAGV? of photography. In 1987-92, I was rently vrith mailings, and the long The Young Adult Group meets the Gay Alliance Librarian. friends toldyou about Sundays, 12-1:30 p.m. at the GAGV. sex marriage, and the shift in highest My first knowledge of the GAGV distribution route you do. You're \e Youth Group also meets Sun- rate-of-infecoon of HIV from the gay was,I think, in 1973. It was perhaps What other community groups probably the Gay Alliance's long­ Matter bys, 2-4 p.m. The Youth of Color community to the black c<>mmunit}\ that fall that I saw something about have you been involved with? est-lasting volunteer! rfoup meets Tuesdays from 3-5 p.m. 'Hiomas Warfield is the discussion it on the local news, a group of gav I'm in my ninth year as a member We hope you*ll start doing your Broker Associate leader for the Anniversar\' Triangle men distributing literature. In De- ofthe Image Out Film Festival, and biographical/historical column Notary jit the MOOIA Project Offices, 25 "rankUn St., Suite i()6(). TriJk. He IS founder ind arustic dircc- cetribc-r l')""'*-, the vcar <.>f mv C'.mi ;nst •.iV><.)ut t- finisVi n\\ 13th vcar in again soon. This month we wtU have Erik libey rot f>f Peace Art Internationa! and di­ ingoutar 26,1 made my Mrst visit to the Cray Men's (Rooking C^lub. Coldwell Banker Prime Properties Iffrom AIDS Rochester coming to rector of dance and assistant profes­ mionthly basis for the past eight speak to us on Dec. 8. C3n Eiec. 22 we sor at the National Institute of the coming Triangle Talk discussions, and insight that will enable them to 3750 Monroe Avenue years has consistendy given visibil­ u-ill have our annual Youth Group Deaf at RlT. He is also a professional please contact Tanya at 244-8640, achieve theirpcrsonai t^r^ais, whether ity to gay, lesbian, bisexual and Pittsford, NY 14534 Holiday Parry l-or mote details on dancer, singer, piaiiist, actor, com- or check our ueb site at It be feeling m.orc c>.jmfortahle with transgender issues in a mainstream rhe psrry, check the youth group prg. theif x'xuil oncntarion <'r gender Office: 419-9500x5521 website •*"4/TA-.gayalliancc.org and director, teacher and poet and has environment. Next Step for ,'dcr.tirv, corning out at uoik or ui click on *'\'outh Pages.'' performed nationally and in'.ern;Uj!,»n- '•'The success of Triangle Tilk is {jmilv members, or feeling niore in­ largely due to the extremely tal­ Cell: 729-2259 AlsOj check the website for all the ally. fall was success; tegrated into rhe gibt communitv. ented and diverse group of people Email: [email protected] great things that wiil be going on in Triangle Talk began m 1975 and }--ver\-one in the group indicated whti voitinteer their time to lead back in spring that thev haci a '\crv positive" expe­ 271 -4040 Janiiarv^! focuses on books of particular inter- each month's discussion," contin­ rience and that the group w as '"verv e-it to gay, lesbian, bisexual and Six individuals completed this ues Smolinsky. "People such as Mary successful" in helping them in taking transgender community. It is held at fall's six-week session of the Next BtnG^re ' EntJiusiastiG- E^ Lynne Vickers, member of PFLAG; their next step in corning out. One Triangle Talk Borders across from Marketplace Mail Step Group, which is part of the trans-activ^ist Pamela Banes; bi- person wrote on the evaluation that on the last Monday of every month. G.AGV's Strengthening Ourselves seiiual activist and professor Fileen the group "was the best thing I have celebrates The first book discussion drew 139 Program.. O'Brien and lesbian parent Pam done in vears." And another person Triangle Talk, jointly co-sponsored f>eoplc. More than 2,000 people have The gfoup is open to gay m.en, Barrale make Triangle Talk what it wrote, "1 hope anvone who is think­ by Borders and the Gay AJliance, will attended a Triangle Talk discussion in lesbians, bisexual and transgender is." ing of coming out takes (the) class," be celebrating its eighth anniversary the past eight years, averaging 25 individuals who want to take the December's Triangle Talk fea­ Participants in this fall's group 1 on Monday, Jan. 27 at 6 p.m., with a people at each event. next step in their coming out pro­ tures the bcK:)k l.^mhda Cray, which ranged in age from their mid-rwen- dessert and coffee reception in Bor­ "Triangle Talk is one ofthe GAGVs cess, whether they are newly com­ 0{ht B.ociies(tertotlle is edited by I^>rcna Fletcher Farrell, ties to their late forties. St)me indi­ CAR STARTER ders Espresso Bar, followed by the most successful collaborations and ing out or have been out for years, and will be lead by Saundra Ehman, viduals had been married and had Restored Ninetccntli Century Bvfidiiig* book discussion at 7 p.m. The event most successful pfograms," says Tanya but still have more steps to take. vice-chair of the Rainbow Seniors children, others were in a same-sex Dovmtovni On Tbe Genesee River is free and open to the public. Smolinsky, GAGV Program Direc­ Through facibtated discussions and of the Finger Lakes. relationship, and others had never The featured book is Dangerous tor. "Our presence at Borders on a interactive exercises, group partici­ To receive infonnation on up­ been in any t\-pe of >crious relation­ 185 K Water St Rochester, NY 14604 pants gain the support, confidence Office 585-546-5047 Fax 585-232^^565 ship. Reotal Ofillcc HoofS "Basically, everyone who partici­ Wedolays 9am - 4:30pfii pates in the Next Step Group ^vants to feel more comfortable with their One & Two Bttdroom Apts. Women's Trivia Night sexual orientation, but isn*t sure ex- Women's acdy how to achieve this," explains Spacknit RoaeoBii with Loft CriHngi Tanya Smolinsky, GAGV Program Wall to WaU Catpednjt 475-lMO Every Second Friday of the Mondi Mpy Ie Night Director and group facilitator. "The iB-Unit Stack Laoodiy Bookit|)S Marlfiet|^M»Mali group not only gives people specific Os-Site Laundry FadUtto strategies on how to do this, but we Womc^n's Movie night will hot take all encourage and celebrate one an­ WeMoUGyiCert&leae^g GAGV Community Center |?fnce in Oecember. other in our efforts. It is a really • The event will resunie in J.^nuary. powerful and empowenngexpeiience 179 Atlantic Ave, to be a part of the Next Step Group. • OHWiK Afr CwMJihwiiB^ I am always ins|Mxed by the people See you theni who participate in the group.*' • Doors open at 7pm! The next six-week session is sched­ • uled to begin in March. To get more • 244-8640 infonnation, contact Smolinsky at 244-8640 or at [email protected].

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