AN INDEPENDENT VOICE FOR THE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES OUT September 5, 2014 | Volume XII, Issue 9 Part of the LGBT Orioles’ LGBT Fans Come contingent at the game credit: Steve Charing outings being held April, Out to the Ballgame May, and June. Each of those sold 25 to 30 tickets BY S TEVE CHARIN G according to GLCCB Director of Commu- It may have been a disappointing crowd on nications Dan McEvily. Last year, a similar August 26 to witness our first-place home- outing was held in conjunction with Pride town Baltimore Orioles take on a division and sold just under 80 tickets. As a result rival – the opening of Horseshoe Casino of this event, the GLCCB raised $700. drew almost as many people – but the For 2015, interim Executive Director LGBT contingent among the fans was well Kelly Neel plans to continue the schedule represented. The entire total of 100 tickets as they did this year (smaller monthly out- allotted to the GLCCB was sold out. ings for April, May, July, August), as well as This outing against the Tampa Bay a larger, marquee outing timed with Pride. Rays, whom the Orioles defeated 4-to-2, The exact dates will be firmed up after the was organized by the GLCCB as a social 2015 schedule is released in January. event but it also served as a fundraiser for Since 2001, Major League Baseball the organization. It was the fourth and fi- teams have held Nights/Days Out at the nal such game of the season with the other —continued on p. 3 BALTIMORE, BASEBALL, AND GAY LOVE Queen Henry Touches all the Bases BY S TEVE CHARIN G who has a thing for Peach Schnapps, is That is why Henry hides the use of an in- Begin with a straight, homophobic, narcis- a rather fun-loving outfielder who is im- haler to deal with his asthma and instead sistic womanizer who happens to play for mensely popular with the fans mainly decides to participate in a clinical drug trial the Baltimore Orioles. Add to that his out- because, as a self-described “attention at Johns Hopkins Hospital. After taking the of-the-blue discovery that he is gay, which whore,” he leads them in the seventh in- drug, administered by a medical technician is followed by his falling head-over-spikes ning sing-along to Y-M-C-A while stand- named Sam, a gay man, Henry finds out for a man. Toss in the swirling rumors of a ing atop the dugout. After a game, Henry shockingly while jogging the next morning gay player on the Orioles and the inherent carouses with his teammates, and since he is attracted to men and lost his desires clubhouse homophobia from his manager, he is attractive, famous, and single, he ef- for women. Just like that. some of his teammates, and his father, fortlessly finds a different woman to take Panicky and confused, Henry tries to and you have the recipe for a glorious, home each night. explain the situation to Sam who vehe- deliciously written work of fiction, Queen Despite his macho image, Henry se- mently denies the drug had anything to Henry , by local author Linda Fausnet, a cretly longs to be a Broadway performer. do with this condition and that Henry must lifetime Orioles fan. His homophobic father, manager and have been suppressing his true sexuality A successful screenwriter and a pro- teammates instill the anti-gay dogma in all along. They don’t hit it off well as Hen- fessed ally for LGBT rights, Fausnet an- him, and he frequently uses the f-word pri- ry’s homophobia comes through loud and Since heʼs attractive, famous, and single, nounced that all proceeds from the sale of marily because this is the environment in clear; the tension between the two remains Henry nds a different woman to take this book will go to the Harvey Milk Foun- which it is expected and accepted. throughout a good portion of the book. home each night – until everything dation. Weakness or the perception of same is Nonetheless, Sam introduces Henry to changes. Set in Baltimore, Henry Vaughn, Jr., one of the greatest fears of a male athlete. —continued on page 21 LOC AL HI STO RY

The Battle of Baltimore About 50 years ago I An went to a dinner party, where the host’s elderly BY GARY S UGG AR S into submission. All know bachelor uncle recalled We are soon approaching the conclusion about the failure to get past Alternative View that as a young teen of the bicentenary War of 1812. This sec- the guns of Fort McHenry. (maybe 60 years prior – ond war of independence started with a But, again, what happened at North Point? we’re going back over 100 years, but long whimper: the seizure of American ships, Close to 200 years later, the question after the Battle of North Point) he had heard cargo and sailors that wanted to profit (pri- remains “What happened at North Point?” how Wells and McComas entered enemy vateer) from the British blockage of Napo- Major General Robert Ross, R.A. died. territory offering themselves as camp fol- leon’s France. It ended with a bang: the Combined with the failure to pass Fort lowers. These were people (usually wom- bombardment of Fort McHenry by dawn’s McHenry, the “will to win” was broken. The an) who for a token enumeration would early light, and the almost forgotten but royal fleet returned to British ports. Did the cook, do laundry, and if so requested spend equally important Battle of North Point. struggling United States defeat, again, the the night. Our young heroes spent the night All Baltimoreans know of Fort McHenry’s world’s mightiest navy? The facts suggest with Ross, killed him, and successfully dis- survival, which inspired Francis Scott Key a draw not a victory. England’s objective appeared into the dark. A rie shot would to pen what would become our National was to quash any Canadian thoughts of in- attract attention, so they knifed the general. Anthem. But, what hap- dependence, and to deter Ameri- The only proof of this version would pened at North Point? Did Baltimore can ambitions to annex be to examine General Britain’s battle plan all or part of Canada. Ross’s corpse. Different was to capture nascent teen hustlers save With these goals met, entry wounds would be Americans ports, de- America’s freedom? and still recovering from made by shot or a blade. stroying our reliance the Napoleonic wars, Ross was preserved in a on foreign commerce and with rumblings of 129 gallon barrel of rum. and so to be dependent on British duty and future conflict with the Dutch or He was to be shipped goods. Britain’s navy was the world’s best a regrouped France, the Royal home aboard the HMS and their knife at our economic throat. First Admiralty called its fleet closer Tonnant. As the Tonnant they took Boston, and, via Long Island, to home. With ports burned and was ordered to New New York City. The checkmate would be boats sunk, the United States Orleans, the barrel and Philadelphia, the States’ major port and, could not justly claim victory. But body were transferred many believed, the world’s second larg- we did, imitating the nautical psy- to the HMS Royal Oak, est English speaking city. Royal forces chic that the U.S. could not be to burial in Halifax, Nova marched north. Washington, D.C., the capi- defeated on a global stage. This Scotia. General Ross tal but a minor hamlet was seized, sacked belief survived the War of 1812, was honored for his vic- and burnt. Next the British’s aim was Bal- an undeclared war with France through Ko- tories against Napoleon with a large memo- timore. Baltimore was not incorporated rea and Vietnam. rial in Westminster Abby. Why is his body in until after the War for Independence, but Again, what happened at North Point? I Canada? Did the crew of HMS Royal Oak it quickly grew to be our country’s second fear the answer, with apologies to Sir Win- want to hide that they drank most of the fla- largest port and city. By attacking Baltimore ston, is “a riddle wrapped in a mystery in- vored rum? Was the crew told not to take by water (Fort McHenry) and by land (North side an enigma.” The surviving, eyewitness, Ross’s remains to London where the true Point), a vise could strangle “our fair city” written account is by Dr. James Haines Mc- nature of his demise could be disclosed? Culloth, Jr., but he In our post- “Don’t ask, don’t tell” times, cites the wrong it is possible that our nation was saved by date for the battle. two teenaged hustlers? Anyone who has Ross died, but been with East Baltimore lads would not there are conflict- doubt anything. t ing descriptions. Did he fall from or died under the Ross Tree, cut Like Us On down in March of 1844, with its F acebook! splinters venerat- ed as relics. Often General Ross’s death is attributed to two Baltimore lads, Daniel Wells and Harry McCo- mas with given ages of some- where from 14 to Our story ends happily in just the opposite manner 16 and 19 to 21. 2 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM NEW S // LOCAL

ORI OL ESʼ LGBT FAN S C OM E OUT TO THE BA LLG AME – continued from page 1

Ballpark to recognize the LGBT communi- other teams taking part in this endeavor, ty. Depending on the number of fans buy- such as the Philadelphia Phillies, Chicago ing tickets, the ceremonies, if any, vary. White Sox, Washington Nationals, San For example, in Washington Francisco Giants, Atlanta Braves, Boston D.C., because 4,000 tick- Red Sox, Tampa ets are sold, a member Bay Rays, New of the LGBT commu- York Mets, St. nity typically throws Louis Cardinals, out the first pitch and Houston Astros, the National Anthem Colorado Rockies, is sung by perform- Minnesota Twins, ers, such as the D.C. and Seattle Mari- Men’s Chorus, and ners. there’s a mention It will take a on the message lot more tickets sold board. in Baltimore than 100 to The Chicago gain that level of recogni- Cubs began the tra- tion. It’s an ambitious un- dition, perhaps since dertaking in our community, Wrigley Field is close to but it is certainly do-able and Boystown, a long-time gay would be a great way to join the enclave on the city’s north party, especially if the O’s remain side. Since then there have been contenders for years to come. t

Lights, Camera, Action! The Club in Martinsburg, West Virginia, rolled out the red car- pet on Friday, August 29 to crown the next Miss Gay West Virginia America. Congratu- lations to Ashley Bannks, our new Miss Gay West Virginia America, Jada Bee the first alternate and promoter Coby Myers on a job well done. credit: Bjkj Illusions BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 3 NEW S // LOCAL

Hudson Taylor Headlines MCC Business Breakfast and learn about allied athletes, coaches, teams, athletic clubs, and sports-based advocacy projects around the country. BY S TEVE CHARIN G for LGBT athletes will be discussed. from parents and closeted athletes, ex- For more information, browse to Athle- Hudson Taylor, founder and executive di- The cost is $75 for members and $90 pressing thanks and sharing their own ex- teally.org. t rector of Athlete Ally and former wrestler at for non-members. To register, visit their periences of homopho- University of Maryland-College Park, will website – Marylandcorporate.org. bia and transphobia in be the main speaker at the Maryland Cor- Hudson Taylor often observed the use sports. porate Council’s business over breakfast of homophobic language and demeaning This experience in- meeting on September 18. The event will humor as an athlete in high school and spired Taylor to launch take place from 8 to 10 a.m. at the Lord college especially in sports. Soon after Athlete Ally, which Baltimore Hotel, 20 West Baltimore Street, enrolling at the University of Maryland, he is a non-profit orga- Baltimore. befriended LGBT students in his theatre nization and sports The Maryland Corporate Council classes and became increasingly aware resource. The organi- “strengthens and unites the LGBT commu- of the pain caused by homophobic behav- zation encourages all nity by connecting professionals, promot- ior. individuals involved in ing the business interests of our members, Taylor, who is not gay, felt it was im- sports to respect ev- and serving as a primary voice for our perative he confront the reality that sports ery member of their community across all Maryland industries.” often marginalize LGBT athletes, coaches communities, regard- The organization says it is “dedicated to and others through systemic homophobia less of perceived or bringing together LGBT professionals and and transphobia. He decided to take action actual sexual orienta- thought leaders for networking, business as a straight ally to change athletic culture tion or gender identity advancement, and educational and chari- for the better. or expression, and to table events.” To stand in solidarity with the LGBT lead others in doing The theme for the meeting is “Leaving community, Hudson wore an LGBT equal- the same. Athlete Ally it all out on the field.” There will be an op- ity sticker from the Human Rights Cam- provides social advo- portunity to network with Maryland’s busi- paign on his wrestling headgear. Though cacy campaigns, on- ness and political leaders and learn about he encountered criticism from his peers, campus trainings, and Hudson the impact of inclusiveness on professional but received positive attention from the practical tools, includ- Taylor sports. The issue of what the future holds media, and received thousands of emails ing resources to locate

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Ripped Genes 2015 Calendar Release Party compiled by Jim Becker public transport.” David Jason tweeted, BY S TEVE CHARIN G the lookout for a look and/or presence in “Wow. Group of gay games athletes just On September 26 fashion photographer someone that seems sincere and progres- got on city bus wearing their medals and Robert W. Mercer, Jr. will launch his 2015 sive and real.” got applause from everyone on the bus. Ripped Genes and Ripped Janes calen- He notes, “There is tremendous buzz That is Cleveland.” Even the Terminal dars (Rippedgenes.net), the eighth edi- surrounding this calendar already. Ripped Tower at Tower City said hello, seeing its tion of the very popular male series and Genes is an 18-month calendar that fea- sides lit up in the rainbow for the event. the second edition of the female version, tures 12 new models and 6 returning mod- (Gay P eo Ple ’s C hroni Cle – Anthony Glass- Ripped Janes. It will take place at The En- els. Their personal stories touched many man at Gaypeopleschronicle.com) gineer’s Club at the hearts and were a Garrett-Jacobs Man- “The 2015 edition source of inspiration sion, 11 West Mount for the project.” Vernon Place, Balti- includes enough sexy The 2015 edition Activist pastor more. and smart men to last includes enough The Baltimore sexy and smart Opening ceremonies who presided native is well known well into 2016.” men to last well into in the area for pro- 2016, according to over gay ducing fashion events, training models, Mercer. Adding to the excitement this year, Gay Games IX and having his hand in almost anything Mercer’s 2015 body of work includes the weddings has that is good fashion. “I am especially proud stylish female version, 2015 Ripped Janes a huge success of the maturation of my calendars, with this Calendar. died next set presenting equally interesting, The event features the fashion show, Cleveland, Ohio – The ninth quadren- photogenic, and diverse men and women,” calendar signing, industry professionals, nial Gay Games wrapped up on August 16, Dallas, Texas – Methodist minister and Mercer told Baltimore OUT loud . open bar, music and dancing, and a “meet after bringing 8,000 people to northeast tireless lifelong social justice activist, Rev. Robert Mercer and his calendar mod- and greet” with the models. Ohio for a week of sports, cultural events Bill McElvaney, died on August 24 at the els have been featured on local television The doors open at 8 p.m. and the Fash- and parties across the Cleveland-Akron age of 86. Earlier this year he garnered na- stations as well as in regional publications. ion Show starts at 9 p.m. A calendar sign- area. tional attention by performing a gay wed- They have made personal appearances ing takes place at 9:30 p.m. An After Party Representing 48 states and over 50 ding. Several weeks ago, he announced in New York City, Philadelphia, Atlanta, will last until closing. countries, athletes participated in 35 his cancer had spread and he would forego Miami, Charlotte, Baltimore, Rehoboth Tickets are $45 for general admission sports, along with an associated rodeo. any additional treatment. Beach, and Washington, D.C. and $50 for VIP and can be purchased During the games, Ida Keeling, a 99-year- Despite his long history of activism, it Mercer continues to hone his skills online at Rppedgenes.net/Calendar_Re- old great-great-grandmother made history was McElvaney’s last stance against ho- when searching various modeling agen- lease_Party.html. Attire is fashionable / by becoming the first person in the 95-99 mophobia in the Methodist church that cies and online model sites. “I’m always on business-casual only. t year old category to run the 100-meter garnered him national attention and wide dash in an internationally certified race. adoration from the LGBT community. In President Barack Obama prepared a January, McElvaney announced that he video statement welcoming people to the would perform a same-sex wedding, not games, played during the opening ceremo- long after the Rev. Frank Schaefer was nies on August 9, which featured Olympic defrocked for performing a wedding for his diver Greg Louganis, the Pointer Sisters, son and son-in-law. The morning McEl- Lance Bass, Alex Newell, and Broadway vaney made his announcement on the pul- actress Andrea McArdle. There were also pit and received a standing ovation from choral and band festival performances, the congregation, Jack Evans and George along with two health conferences, one Harris were celebrating their 53rd anni- focusing on treating LGBT athletes and versary. They were also invited onto the patients and the other on LGBT health re- search, along with a conference on spiritu- ality for people of color. People were overall astounded at the friendliness and openness of the resi- dents; one person complained that a police lieutenant had kept her out of the Quicken Loans Arena, but everyone else, from Twit- ter to Facebook to the Washington Blade , crowed about the welcome the LGBT athletes and spectators received. Kevin Majoros wrote, “While the Gay Games in Chicago and Cologne were incredible ex- periences, the residents of those cities really didn’t give us a second glance. In Cleveland, we were cheered as we walked down the street, approached by locals on street corners and chatted up on every With these models, the calendar is a real page-turner! Rev. Bill Mc Elvaney 10 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM BEY OND THE BELT WAY

scene of the accident and that an intoxi- pulpit and received a standing ovation. cation manslaughter charge is pending NIH finds McElvaney asked the couple if they would against him as investigators await the re- let him perform their marriage ceremony. sults of toxicology tests. Hurst Police Sgt. possible At the wedding on March 1, he said, “Why Craig Teague said Cain was riding his mo- didn’t I do this sooner?” A week later, the torcycle when Reaves, driving a GMC Yu- substitute for Rev. Camille Gaston of Richardson filed kon, turned north into the path of Cain’s a complaint with Bishop Michael McKee motorcycle. Cain hit the right front side of antiretroviral against McElvaney. He met with the bishop Reaves’ SUV. He was taken to an area and they came to a “just resolution.” Upon hospital where he died. HIV meds learning of McElvaney’s death, McKee said Cain was a member of the North Amer- in a statement, “Bill was loved by many in ican Gay Volleyball Association and the Bethesda, Maryland – A new NIH the North Texas Conference who knew him Dallas Independent Volleyball Association (National Institutes of Health) study sug- as pastor, mentor, and friend. During his Mounting the bully pulpit for three years. His fellow players remem- gests that HIV-specific antibodies can be courageous battle with cancer that would bered him with a moment of silence be- effective at blocking HIV from entering hu- end his life, Bill and I had achieved a just bullying and help spread the message of fore the first game in the league’s new fall man T cells, including HIV derived from resolution in the matter of a complaint respect to empower change within our season. Daniel Dupree, league treasurer, so-called “reservoirs” in HIV-undetectable against him.” No other action was taken. community.” According to Free2Luv offi- remembered his friend as “a gifted athlete patients. Other forays into social justice included cials, billboards will be displayed featuring and an amazing friend to anyone who met The technique, called “passive immu- protesting the eventually successful plans Seahawks images along with the campaign notherapy,” may prove to be an effective to locate the George W. Bush library on slogan “Friends don’t let friends bully.” substitute for the antiretroviral medications the SMU campus. McElvaney’s opposition “With the rise in teen suicides and one now used to control HIV, lead researcher to the library got so much attention, Ste- out of every three children experiencing Dr. Tae-Wook Chun said. phen Colbert mentioned him on the Colbert some form of bullying, it is Free2Luv’s mis- Chun is a scientist at the National In- Report, where he was jokingly referred sion to reach as many communities and stitute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, to (along with another protesting profes- children as possible to spread the word under the umbrella of the NIH. sor) as “professors Marx and Lenin” and ‘Friends don’t let friends bully.’ We are Finding a way to control HIV without “Cheech and Chong.” Years earlier, he was thrilled to work with the Seahawks for our antiretroviral medications would be an ad- the first minister in Dallas to denounce the campaign that encourages youth to stand vantage because of their cost, the poten- Vietnam War from the pulpit. When Martin up and make a difference together, using tial for cumulative toxicities from lifelong Luther King marched in Dallas, McElvaney their voices for good,” says Free2Luv pres- antiretroviral therapy, and the difficulties marched with him. He was believed to be ident Tonya Sandis. some patients have adhering to drug regi- the only white minister to march with King “We are passionate about creating a mens and tolerating certain drugs. in this city. He is survived by his wife Fran, safer and kinder place for our youth, rais- In the study, NIH researchers ob- son John, daughter Shannon, two grand- ing self-esteem and re-instilling hope. We Joshua tained HIV from the latent reservoirs of children, and two great-grandchildren. are excited to hold hands with Clear Chan- Glenn Cain 29 HIV-positive patients whose antiret- (Dallas Voice – David Taffet at Dallasvoice. nel to spread this important message and roviral therapy completely inhibited viral com) take one more step towards ending the replication. bullying epidemic.” him.” “His love knew no boundaries [and] One of the ongoing challenges in find- Free2Luv is an anti-bullying nonprofit he treated everyone exactly the same, re- ing a cure for HIV is dealing with these dedicated to celebrating individuality, gardless of their nationality race, gender, latent reservoirs of the virus in otherwise NFL Seattle spreading kindness and standing up to sexual orientation or any other character- healthy HIV-undetectable people. bullying through arts and entertainment. istic,” Dupree continued. “He had a huge, Absent life-long antiretroviral therapy, Seahawks Visit Free2Luv.org to #TakeThePledge and comforting hug for all and a big warm smile the latent HIV may begin to replicate itself learn how to be an agent for change. (se- that would light up the world. Most of all, again, launching a new HIV infection. team joins attle G ay news – Shaun Knittel at Sgn.org) his heart contained pure goodness, and he In the laboratory, researchers found is most certainly one of God’s most pre- that several types of “neutralizing HIV- anti-bullying cious angels. He is missed, and we look specific antibodies,” also called “bNAbs,” forward to playing volleyball with him again effectively blocked HIV from entering T campaign Dallas gay in heaven,” Dupree said. cells obtained from HIV-negative donors. Cain’s family, in an obituary published In addition, the study demonstrated in Seattle, Washington – The National volleyball online, said he was “a natural athlete who the laboratory that these antibodies could Football League Seattle Seahawks has made everything look easy,” and that while completely block HIV replication in T cells announced its support of the Free2Luv player killed in he was fiercely competitive, he was “al- obtained from HIV-positive individuals re- Friends Don’t Let Friends Bully campaign ways sensitive to the underdog.” They said ceiving antiretroviral therapy. that empowers fans and especially youth motorcycle crash he also loved baseball, football and sand Researchers concluded that passive to celebrate individuality and stand-up volleyball. The family requests that me- immunotherapy involving bNAbs individu- to bullying. Fans are encouraged to visit Hurst, Texas – Joshua Glenn Cain, 21, morial donations in his name be made to ally or in combination with other techniques Free2Luv.org to learn more about the of Bedford was killed the night of August Mothers Against Drunk Driving. may control HIV even without antiretroviral campaign and #TakeThePledge. “The Se- 21, when his motorcycle collided with an A fundraising page has been estab- therapy. ahawks family is inclusive and compas- SUV driven by a suspected drunk driver. lished at YouCaring.com / Josh-Cain-Me- Clinical trials are already underway, sionate,” said Seahawks VP of Community The accident happened about 10:05 p.m. morial to help his family pay for the funeral and more are planned to test the hypoth- Outreach Mike Flood. “We are proud to Hurst police said this week that Rory and other expenses. (Dallas Voice – Tam- esis, NIH said in a statement. t (seattle support Free2Luv in their mission to stop Reaves, 35, of Hurst was arrested at the mye Nash at Dallasvoice.com) Gay news – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org) BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 11 THINKIN G OUT LOUD

As such, Sam became the rst openly was deep in the lineman gay player to be drafted by an NFL team, not position. Jeff Fisher, head the rst to play in the NFL regular season. Michael Sam The fact that Sam was drafted at all was coach of the Rams, gave credit: MTV.com OUT surprising to most football experts. Although Sam every opportunity. Spoken a standout performer during his collegiate In fact, it was Fisher who Steve Charing career – he was the Southeastern Confer- called Sam to give him ence Co-Defensive Player of the Year for the the good news about the University of Missouri in 2013 – he did not selection, leading to the History Will fare well at NFL’s combine. The combine is tearful celebration with an auditioning process that takes place for a his boyfriend. Who among week in front of coaches, general managers, us did not shed a tear or Have to Wait and scouts. two along with him? His Sam was picked 249th out of 256, and number 96 Rams’ jersey It was the day the entire sports world was the news of his being drafted by the Rams became the sixth biggest watching. Would Michael Sam, an openly reverberated around the world. So did his seller among NFL players’ jerseys through released a shameful, ill-advised report of gay man, survive yet another round of cuts by passionate kiss on the mouth of his boyfriend July 17. Sam’s showering habits and how that related the St. Louis Rams and in the process make carried live by ESPN. But Michael Sam lost out in a numbers to his teammates on the Rams. Following the history? No other player on the “bubble” re- The selection by St. Louis lifted the spir- game. The Rams, who kept nine defensive expected restorm from a multitude of LGBT ceived such national scrutiny. As NFL teams its of LGBT America. At the time, President linemen, chose to retain undrafted rookie rights organization to comedian Jon Stewart, were mandated to trim their nal rosters to 53 Obama said he “congratulates Michael Sam, Ethan Westbrooks over Sam. While their sta- ESPN made a public apology. by 4 p.m. EDT on August 30, all eyes were on the Rams, and the NFL for taking an impor- tistics were similar, Westbrooks provided the While the Rams are deep in defensive the St. Louis Rams, who drafted Sam in the tant step forward today in our nation’s jour- versatility to play all four defensive line po- linemen, that could not be said for all of the seventh and nal round this past May. ney.” sitions, while Sam had been playing virtually remaining 31 teams who passed Michael Instead of sacking quarterbacks Sam However, analysts and those in the foot- exclusively as a left defensive end. Sam up. Could it be that Sam would provide was sacked; he did not survive the nal cut. ball industry said Sam was too small for a Those who blog about homophobia in an unwelcome distraction just as the 2014 According to NFL rules, Sam and all those cut defensive lineman position while he was too sports believed that Sam’s release from the season was poised to kick off? became available to the other 31 teams, any slow to be a linebacker. It would be an uphill team was a merely a football decision. That’s the million-dollar question – one one of which could claim him. None did. climb for Sam to make a team that already “We believe Sam was cut for purely foot- that is unlikely to be answered by NFL of - ball reasons and there is zero evidence that cials. Clearly, the distraction factor from the it had anything to do with him being gay,” media had to have been considered as teams wrote Cyd Zeigler, co-founder of Outsports. evaluated the possibility of claiming Sam. com. “The Rams organization, from General The Rams insisted the locker room culture Manager Les Snead to Fisher to the play- was not negatively impacted by Sam’s pres- ers, treated Sam as just another player, even ence. The players acted professionally and though they were aware of his historic nature. did their jobs. So did Michael Sam. But ap- Snead and Fisher even attended the ES- parently other teams are not yet ready. PYs in Los Angeles Some believe that in July, where Sam “Some believe that Michael Sam by de- received the Arthur claring publicly that he Ashe Award for cour- Michael Sam by is gay rolled the dice age.” declaring publicly that and put his chances Coach Fisher for an NFL career at made a point at his he is gay rolled the dice risk, though the rumors news conference about his sexual orien- announcing the cuts and put his chances for tation had already sur- that Sam was not a an NFL career at risk.” faced. distraction. He ex- After the deadline plained he was in to claim Sam passed, Michael Sam’s corner from the start and that Hudson Taylor, executive director of Athlete having the rst openly gay player drafted by Ally, a nonprot organization focused on end - an NFL team was no distraction at all in train- ing homophobia and transphobia in sports, ing camp. tweeted, “Beginning to think that if Michael “Mike’s got the ability to play someplace. Sam stayed silent about his sexual orienta- It’s got to be the right place, it’s got to be a t,” tion he would currently be signed to an NFL Fisher explained. “He’s a much better player roster or psquad.” now than he was when he got here.” However, Michael Sam has been picked He added, “We’re proud to be a part of up by the Dallas Cowboys to play on their [history], it was a great experience, but there practice squad. This could lead to a chance were no issues. I just think there was a lot to be on the roster and play with the team but more made of it that there should have been.” it’s no certainty. In the meantime, and until he Oh, that distraction thing! Just prior to the does play on the 53-man roster, history will August 30 deadline, an ESPN correspondent have to wait. t

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gus that cause infections, like yeast and BV (bacterial vaginosis.) There are other moist areas, such as the bladder and the surface of the eye, which do not normally Open Wide carry bacteria. If you are getting yeast and ask Dr Eva BV infections so frequently that you cannot Dr Eva Hersh take the time to go to the doctor to get the diagnosis confirmed, your natural bacterial protection has been seriously damaged. Is it Possible to The good news is that the bacterial popu- lation will return to normal if you allow it be Too Clean ? to grow back. To do this you will have to make big changes, which you may not be Dear Dr. Eva, able to do all at once, so take it in steps. I would like your advice about what’s First, stop using antibacterial soap in the appropriate or necessary to keep the fe- genital area. Switch to Neutrogena or an- male genital area clean. My partner and I other mild unscented glycerin soap. When disagree. She feels that just a water rinse bathing, apply only a small amount of soap in the shower is sufficient. I was brought to a washcloth, not directly to your skin. up that a thorough scrub with antibacterial Wash with cool to warm water, not hot wa- soap is necessary to get the area really ter. Get a shower spray and use the spray clean. My partner says I’m putting myself to rinse the genital area rather than scrub- at risk for infections by washing so much, bing. This will prevent the micro-tears in but except for occasional yeast and BV the skin that can be caused by scrubbing. (bacterial vaginosis) I haven’t really had Over time, completely stop using soap on any infections. I’ve learned to recognize the inner (moist) parts of the genital area. yeast and BV symptoms and I can treat It is all right to use a small amount of soap them without going to the doctor, so it’s not on the outer (hairy) areas. a problem for me. I also notice a bad odor Any odor problems should resolve over if I don’t wash frequently, though I must ad- a few weeks to months as your normal bac- mit that my partner, who washes with water terial mix returns. It will also help to wear only, has no odor. What do you think? cotton rather than synthetic underwear Well Washed for better airflow and ventilation. Keeping the genital area dry helps prevent fungal Dear W, (yeast) infections. The “facts” our mothers taught us can If someone told you to wash your be hard to shake off, but some of them, like mouth out with soap twice a day to get this one, are wrong. rid of your normal mouth bacteria, would Many of the mucous membranes you do it? I bet you wouldn’t, even if you (moist surfaces) of our bodies are nor- had bad breath or lots of cavities. Scrub- mally populated with multiple species of bing your genitalia makes no sense either. bacteria. The mouth, vagina, anus, and in- These mistaken ideas are left over from testines all have mixed, balanced popula- times when many people believed that tions of bacteria which help to keep these sex, and genitals, were intrinsically “dirty.” areas healthy by maintaining the correct That kind of “dirtiness” can only be cleaned pH (acid/base ratio) and preventing the by a change of attitudes, and not by any growth of other types of bacteria and fun- amount of washing. t

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beatitudes; they focus on the social justice and nipulation only later to discover they may have learning how to be alone. Herein lies the is- action for self and others. blown everything out of proportion – exagger- sue with many of us, we do not know how Happy are the merciful, honorable, peace- ating truth. We must change our expectations to be alone. “Being alone is not the absence makers, and the persecuted. In essence, ex- and set some boundaries for ourselves. Stop of people, it is the absence of purpose,” said A pect life to happen for you, not to you. Expect to expecting your pastor, spouse, church, or Iyanla Vanzant. Some people call it quiet time, Spiritual feel low, expect people to talk about you, offend even the community to make you happy – ex- prayer, or meditation. Whatever your title for View you, criticize you, not accept you, marginalize pectations destroy your inner being and kill our it – do it. To be alone means a-lone-ness time, Rev. Victoria Burson you, expect to cry, feel sad, and hurt. It will hap- trust in God, self, and others. not loneliness. pen, it is inevitable. Life will at times makes us Our happiness is dependent upon hav- I guess you gured it out by now who is feel trapped. If this is so, why is it that we look ing the ability to go within ourselves, tapping responsible for your happiness – you are! t to the world for our greater self or for our true into our inner selves. To go within means to The author is senior pastor of Metropolitan Who is happiness? I would like to ask you a question get somewhere and simply be quiet and still, Community Church, Baltimore. – Who is responsible for your happiness? Responsible Happiness comes from within. It is a choice. If we nd ourselves in a miserable for Your place in life, then we should be honest with ourselves and admit it. Once you put it out into the atmosphere, the enemy can no lon- Happiness ? ger dangle it over your head. Recognize that you got to this place based on decisions and Grammy-award winning Pharrell Williams – choices you made. We are responsible for our pop artist, songwriter, and musician – struck destiny, believe it or not. God granted us free a chord with the world with his iconic hit song will and God will not impose God’s self on any- “Happy.” Believe it or not, people’s lives were one who does not welcome God. Again, our transformed at the beat of that song. No matter journey is led by our choices. I love the Max- ones culture, beliefs, sex, gender, orientation, well Rule – “The wrong decision at the wrong mood, or status – the song ruminated in folks’ time is a disaster. The wrong decision at the minds, bodies, and spirits. Some churches right time is a mistake. The right decision at worldwide incorporated the wrong time is unaccept- this song into their worship able. The right decision at services. the right time is success!” To be happy means to Some of us are where be cheerful and excited. we are because we believe There is an existential ex- there is no other way out change taking place within. from our dead situations Happiness plays a major and circumstances. The role in one’s chosen mode old church adage says, of moral awareness. Vine’s “Anything dead ought to Complete Expository Dic- be buried.” Okay, so you tionary states that happy means to be blissful made some bad decisions – who hasn’t? I or “blessed.” I am reminded of the beginning have learned in life those dead relationships, of Jesus’s Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:1- people who add no value to me, or any failures 12). Jesus gives his “inaugural address.” He in which I was directly responsible for – bury begins by addressing the masses – “Blessed them and start again. Sometimes, making no are…” Jesus begins with sequence of bless- decision is still a decision. ings commonly referred to as the “beatitudes.” Have you made a decision to simply In laymen’s term - be the attitude. Blessed is change? Change the way you think? Change happiness as a state of being. In the Word of all of that stinking thinking that keeps you in God, when Jesus called someone blessed, it bondage? Our thoughts play a major role in was the same essence as “honorable you are.” our happiness. Sometimes we buy into all the The Beatitudes go something like this in a negativity told to ourselves or that we have al- nutshell: Happy are the poor in spirit. “Poor in lowed others to speak into us. We put so much spirit” is a direct correlation to those who stand stock into who people say we are rather than in total dependence on God. Happy are the who God says we are “fearfully and wonder- meek for they shall be comforted. That is, to be fully made.” God does not make junk nor were meek doesn’t suggest weakness; it means to there any accidents. You are here for a reason! bind up the broken-hearted in God’s strength We have to manage our thoughts, for our as they lament the present conditions of the mind is the seat of our soul. Our mind plays an people of God in gentleness – having power intricate role in forward mobility. We have to under control. Happy are those who hunger change the way we respond to life. We need after righteousness. Blessed are those who to nds ways to embrace the storms of life not hunger and thirst for personal holiness, ach- avoid it. We need to stop playing the victim. ing for people of God to be in right relationship I nd that some folks are good with at - with God and each other. I like the next set of tention-seeking behaviors to the point of ma-

14 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 15 What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. What should I tell my healthcare If you also have HBV and stop taking provider before taking STRIBILD? STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used STRIBILD, your hepatitis may suddenly get to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never worse. Do not stop taking STRIBILD without • All your health problems. Be sure to tell taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they your healthcare provider if you have or had 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a day will need to monitor your health. STRIBILD is any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including with food. 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18 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM The most common side effects of STRIBILD include: - estazolam • Nausea - ethosuximide (Zarontin ®) • Diarrhea -  ecainide (Tambocor ®) Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers -  urazepam you or that does not go away. -  uticasone (Flovent ®, Flonase ®, Flovent ® Diskus ®, • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more Flovent ® HFA, Veramyst ®) information, ask your healthcare provider. - itraconazole (Sporanox ®) • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. You - ketoconazole (Nizoral ®) may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. - lidocaine (Xylocaine ®) What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - mexiletine - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal ®) Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including: - perphenazine • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis B - phenobarbital (Luminal ®) infection - phenytoin (Dilantin ®, Phenytek ®) • If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become - propafenone (Rythmol ®) pregnant while taking STRIBILD. - quinidine (Neudexta ®) - There is a pregnancy registry for women who take antiviral medicines - rifabutin (Mycobutin ®) during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect information ® about the health of you and your baby. Talk with your healthcare provider - rifapentine (Priftin ) about how you can take part in this registry. - risperidone (Risperdal ®, Risperdal Consta ®) • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed - salmeterol (Serevent ®) or salmeterol when taken in combination with if you take STRIBILD.  uticasone (Advair Diskus ®, Advair HFA ®) - You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of - sildena
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AN INTERVIEW WITH WRITER GAVIN ATLAS GA: I don’t know. My understanding is ing room? Didn’t your house burn down in that they need to find the right models for the last chapter?”) A friend in England told inclusion of photos in the the next titles. I’m also told, the “casting me they have a similar genre there called book. How did the concept couch is exhausting” [laughs]. “pantomime,” so perhaps I’m not inventing for the book come about? GS: When did you begin writing gay anything [laughs]. Gavin Atlas : I’ve seen erotic fiction? GS: Writers should also be good photo fiction before, but now GA: Around age 18, but I moved away readers – do you read genre ction, too? Hot Shot that I think about it, you have from it for years and tried literary fiction. GA: The short answer is yes, but I have a point. It’s been a small part Even then, most of the conflict centered ADHD, so I’m a terrible reader. I read short BY GRE GG SHA PIR O of pictorial magazines such as Playgirl . on sexuality, but those characters weren’t story collections and anthologies, partly be- Snapshots of Seduction: Cody (Lethe Oh, look what I just admitted I used to read happy. The characters in my erotica stories cause I love them and partly because they Press, 2014), with text by Gavin Atlas and [laughs]. I think by making photo fiction the are almost always content, at least by the help with my own writing. photos by Garrett Matthew, is not your typ- entire focus, Lethe has taken it to a new end of the story [laughs]. GS: Who are some of your favorite ical book of gay erotica. For one thing, it’s level where the quality of the narrative is GS: Do you write exclusively gay genre ction authors? an unusual size, more akin to the shape more important as is the artistic quality of erotic fiction or do you also dabble in GA: For mystery, I would say Josh Lan- and length of a kid’s book – so be sure to the photography. bisexual or mainstream erotica? yon. Erotic ction – the awesome C.B. Potts put it away when the nieces and nephews GS: Which came first with Snap- GA: Nope, no dabbling [laughs]; strictly and the also awesome Vincent Diamond. come to visit! The (short) story of Joseph, shots of Seduction: Cody , the text or gay when it comes to erotica. Besides Snap- For urban fantasy, I’d say Kimberly Frost a professor and photographer, whose Las the images? shots of Seduction , you’ll nd most of my and Jim Butcher. Space Opera would have Vegas rendezvous with stripper Cody GA: The images. I studied the photos to be Aaron Allston takes an unexpectedly, well, erotic turn. at length to create something that captured (would you believe Atlas, who lives in Houston with his boy- what I thought was going through the mod- he made me cry?) friend John, is also the author of The Boy el’s mind. Maybe the images should always and Timothy Zahn. Canʼt Help It and The Full Ride , and a come rst? For example, if it was central to Humor writers I like contributor to some erotica anthologies. the plot that the story was set at night, and are Joe Keenan and I spoke with Atlas about his work in June then the photographer and the model were Rob Byrnes, while 2014. only available during the day, etc. for romance I look to Gregg Shapiro: Your new book Snap- GS: How did you connect with Gar - Timothy James Beck shots of Seduction: Cody takes a dif - rett Matthew, the photographer who and Suzanne Brock- ferent approach to gay erotica with the took the pictures in the book? mann. GA: Aren’t his photos awesome? GS: Who are GS: Yes, they are. some of your other GA: My publisher Steve Berman knows favorite authors? Garrett Matthew since he’s local to Philly GA: I’ve loved and has done some other photo shoots for short ction collec - Lethe. Garrett’s work is featured in L.A. tions from Lorrie Field’s collection, Countrycide (the cover Moore, Erika Krouse, model is porn performer Doug Acre) , and Melissa Bank, and some forthcoming books, including a new Miranda July. Humor erotic collection by Jeff Mann. from David Sedaris. GS: How did model Cody Allen get Memoir from Felice involved? Picano. Novels from GA: I’m going to guess because he’s David McConnell and friggin’ adorable. Also, Cody is a good Robert James Baker. friend of another Lethe model, Nick, who My friend Nathan posed for the deluxe edition of Scruffians! Burgoine has a novel, and for the cover of The Full Ride. Cody Light , which I read in has worked as a go-go boy in the past. work in two collections, The Boy Canʼt Help three days. Because I struggle with reading, GS: How much of Gavin is in the nar - It and The Full Ride , which is brand new. the fact I raced through it was a serious big rator Joseph? GS: Do you also write in other prose deal to me. I can also think of more insane- GA: Very little. I identify more with genres, and if so, which ones? ly amazing short stories by Stacey Richter, the Cody character although in my origi- GA: I wrote one story under the name David Yu, and Ann Harleman, and a story I nal draft, I think the reader would want to Taylor McGrath which is sweet (gay) ro- just read this year by Paul Brownsey. cuddle Cody. In the finished version, I think mance. You’ll nd it in in the awesome an - GS: For a book with pictures, there the reader would more likely want to spank thology Foolish Hearts . I’m attempting to are no photos of the author or photogra- him, and, uh, that’s not me. I do like Jo- invent a genre called “ridicu-lit,” which is pher in Snapshots of Seduction: Cody . seph, and when I picture him I can see why not erotic, but like much genre ction has Are you both camera-shy? Cody would want him. In my head, he’s a two goals. In erotica, the author wants to GA: Have you seen the picture of Gar- hot daddy but he also has a quick wit and tell a story as well as arouse the reader. In rett on Facebook? He’s cute, isn’t he? I’m a lot of lust which he has trouble suppress- “ridicu-lit,” the author wants to tell a story not sure why he’s not in the book but I’ll ing, at least around Cody. and make the reader laugh. It sometimes guess because it helps the reader imagine GS: Is Snapshots of Seduction: has “meta-ction” traits where the charac - himself as Joseph, the photographer, in- Cody the first in a series? If so, have ters break the fourth wall or mention conti- stead of having a xed image. As for me, you started working on the next one? nuity errors. (“Wait, how are we in your liv- yes. I’m camera-shy [laughs]. t

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BALT IMO RE , B ASEBALL New Baltimore Theatre Company AN D G AY LO VE the pages. – continued from page 1 Fausnet’s references to Baltimore pro- Announces Launch Party vided additional enjoyment to the storyline a close friend and colleague at Hopkins, especially for us locals. Besides Hopkins The Cohesion Theatre Company (Co- peake Shakespeare Company and starring Thomas, who has helped people come to and Camden Yards, the Hippo is frequently hesiontheatre.org), a new collaboration- as Richard II this season, has decades of grips with their sexuality. They experience mentioned throughout. The Pride parade is a based Baltimore theatre group, will host national and regional acting and directing a deep attraction to one another and ulti- turning point scene. The Baltimore Sun plays a launch party and fundraiser to introduce experience. mately fall in love. a vital role, and even Baltimore OUT loud is its inaugural season line-up at Gallery 788 “Earlier this summer, I had the privilege Like any good author, Fausnet seduc- mentioned albeit as a support group march- in Hampden at 8 p.m. of bringing together tively draws the reader into the romance ing in the Pride parade, not the wildly popular on Friday, September Brad and Alicia to direct and sexual steaminess with great skill, LGBT newspaper that it is! 26. Edward II . The show describing the relationship between Hen- Though there are many cleverly written Cohesion The- was a personal dream ry and Thomas with sensitivity and emo- light moments throughout Queen Henry – atre Company is the for me and one of the tion. To her credit, the passionate sexual one that is particularly hilarious is when the creation of the artis- best theater experienc- scenes are tastefully conveyed – full of af- Orioles players were speculating as to whom tic team behind this es I’ve ever had,” Grey fection and heat without seeming tawdry. the gay player may be – Fausnet touches spring’s critically ac- said. “That little show The underlying question is: was Henry upon key social messages that are in play claimed production of sparked something be- gay all along and the career and family today. Christopher Marlowe’s tween Brad and Alicia choices he will be confronted with – or will Despite the revelations by Jason Collins, Edward II at Spotlight- that has rapidly grown the drug wear off and he returns to being Michael Sam, and other athletes that they are er’s Theatre in Mt. Ver- into this exciting en- straight? gay, there is still great concern by gay male non. Brad Norris and Alicia Stanley, who deavor. They have a very clear vision to Without proceeding further to reveal athletes to come out and face the potential respectively directed and assistant direct- develop engaging theater experiences and the outcome, I can say that some readers hostilities. Fausnet effectively describes the ed Edward II , have been involved for sev- bring together members of the artistic com- may be disappointed with the ending (as I homophobia that exists in the locker room eral years in the Baltimore region theater munity in Baltimore as part of the process. was initially) but others may like the ending and the pressures that result. community as directors, actors, lighting I believe very strongly in Cohesion’s vision (as I did eventually). She began writ- designers, and stage managers for com- and purpose to accommodate ‘cohesion’ Fausnet’s writing ing the novel a few panies such as the Chesapeake Shake- within the Baltimore artistic community.” is extraordinary in “Queen Henry is a truly years back when speare Company and the Jewish Theatre Tickets to Cohesion’s launch party may this fluid, fast-paced well-written novel with the environment for Workshop, among others. be purchased by making a donation of tale. Narrated in the gays and lesbians Norris is the events manager of Center $20 or more to the company’s Indiegogo first person by Henry, potent drama with was not as favorable Stage, and has worked in the non-profits campaign page (Indiegogo.com/projects/ the story reads like as today. Therefore, arts world in Chicago and Baltimore for cohesion-theatre-company-s-inaugural- his own journal as he campy humor laced I don’t think the cur- more than 15 years. season-launch) . Donors at various levels reflects upon each throughout.” rent local media “The goal of Cohesion is to be a cata- will receive gift certificates to area restau- conversation he has would be in the “got- lyst for growing theater and the arts in Bal- rants and tickets to Cohesion shows, in ad- and reveals his in- cha mode” as por- timore,” Norris said. “We want to create a dition to tickets to the launch party. Cohe- ner thoughts. We get to delve into Henry’s trayed in Queen Henry . The same is true strong sense of community in this wonder- sion’s Indiegogo campaign donations are psyche enabling us to not only understand for the teammates who now would be wise ful and artistically thriving city by partner- the initial fundraising efforts for Cohesion’s the challenges and quandaries he faces, not to publicly utter the f-word in dealing with ing with other theater groups and local art- inaugural season budget. but also to enthusiastically root for him. He the subject. Moreover, the real Orioles today ists of every discipline.” The launch party will include food, wins us over. would not be inclined to openly express any Norris and Stanley will direct two of drinks, raffle prizes, dancing, live music by Fausnet demonstrates an uncanny anti-gay epithets as owner Peter Angelos, the three shows planned for Cohesion’s the Black and White Milk Bar singers, and understanding of gay male emotions and who was a substantial contributor in the ght inaugural season, with Edward II lead ac- music by DJ Aurturo Ozaeta. Gallery 788 sexual desires (she is a happily married het- for marriage equality in Maryland, would put tor Jonas David Grey directing the third. is at 3602 Hickory Avenue in the Hampden erosexual mother of two) and will keep you the kibosh on that. Grey, a resident member of the Chesa- neighborhood of Baltimore. t absorbed as Henry and the other characters The other main theme is how Henry rec- in the novel navigate through the events ognized his own homophobia, and once he shaping their lives. learned he was gay understood how other Her character development is splendid. gays and lesbians can be easily hurt and You feel that you know each one intimately, their lives wrecked by this bigotry and hatred. TYRE’S REPAIR and most of the characters are endearing and He transformed his attitude once he saw sweet. This is especially true of Alice, an at- himself as a victim. It is a powerful message. AUTO Quality Workmanship tractive bartender at a bar Henry frequented Queen Henry is a truly well-written novel to pick up women, sidestepping Alice by not with potent drama with campy humor laced recognizing her myriad appealing qualities. throughout. 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experimental road of any of the artists mentioned here. Not quite Sprockets with your host Dieter, at least not until you get to “Feel the It Takes a Village Disco Freedom” featuring Kyoka, BY GRE GG SHA PIR O In 2014, gay dance acts such as Ssion Swedish diva Robyn (remember “The Girl these ten songs mainly combine a bit of the Someone really ought to tell our straight allies and Men are a common occurrence. But none and the Robot”?) and have denitely done so old industrial (“Science for a Better Life”) with (or foes, depending on the day) dancing the can compare to Hercules and Love Affair. Fea- again on the ve-song EP Do It Again (Dog a plugged-in playfulness (“Access to Excel- night away to thumping electronic beats that turing yet another stellar array of guest vocal- Triumph / Cherrytree / Interscope). Monumen- lence”). The disc’s centerpiece, “Were You dance music is still gay. Gay, gay, gay. Re- ists (past guest artists have included Antony tal opening track “Monument” is an expansive There” – a reimaging of an old spiritual, fea- member that the next time you’re at a mixed- Hegarty and Kele Okereke), such as brilliant warm up (as opposed to chill out) track that tures Pet Shop Boy Neil Tennant on vocals – gender wedding and everyone has crowded gay singer/songwriter John Grant and Krystle sets the listener swaying in preparation for displays yet another facet of the pair. onto the dance oor to spell out YMCA with Warren, as well as Rouge Mary and Gustaph, what’s to follow. “Say It” casts a spell with its Effectively working an 80s vibe on When their bodies. While we’re on the subject, The Feast of the Broken Heart (Big Beat / Speak & Spell call and response and an irre- the Night (Neon Gold / Columbia), St. Lucia please express your gratitude to groundbreak- Atlantic) deserves to be Hercules & Love Af- sistible beat and “Do it Again” is sure to have elevates dance level via tracks such as “El- ing gay disco act, the Village People. Not only fair’s mainstream breakout disc. Sure, there you dancing again and again. evate,” the glittery “Wait For Love,” “Call Me did they provide the world with a perennial are blush-worthy moments (the NSFW but Just a few years shy of the 20th anniver- Up,” “September,” and the a-ha moment of the party favorite, they were also brazenly queer dazzling “My Offence”) and proof that dance sary of their debut disc Vegas (containing the title cut. Offensive on multiple levels, Dcon- (hello, leather-man and construction worker!) music also has a serious side (“I Try to Talk to huge hit single “Busy Child”), American elec- structed (Walt Disney Records) takes Disney at a time when such images were not all that You”). However, on the whole, if you aren’t on tronica the Crystal Method is still at it. “Emula- desperation and dysfunction to new depths by common in mainstream America. The 11-song your feet and dancing from start to nish, to tor” opens the duo’s new self-titled Tiny E disc unnecessarily remixing movie tunes includ- Icon (Mercury / UMe) compilation falls short house-inuenced cuts such as “Liberty,” “Do (its rst in ve years) with promise before tak - ing “Let It Go,” “Circle of Life,” “You’ve Got a of the superior 1994 The Best of Village Peo- You Feel The Same?” and “5:43 to Freedom,” ing a Skrillex/music for strip clubs detour on Friend in Me” and “Baby Mine,” by the likes of ple collection (if you can nd it, snap it up!), then you might consider taking to your bed – the grindy “Over It.” There’s some redemption Armin Van Buuren, Mat Zo, Alfred Montejano, but it does contain essential VP tracks such for the rest of your life. on “Grace” and “110 to the 101,” but for the and Kaskade, respectively. Pacic Northwest as “Y.M.C.A.,” “Macho Man,” “Go West,” and Hercules and Love Affair aren’t the only most part the Crystal Method sounds like it band Jupe Jupe updates the 80s dance-pop important early hits including “San Francisco ones having good luck when combining their needs a x. sound on Crooked Kisses (Jupejupemusic. (You’ve Got Me)” and “Hollywood (Everybody repower with other artists. Norwegian duo On its debut album CI (Mute), German com). Dutch trio Kraak & Smaak does disco Is A Star).” Röyksopp hit the jackpot when teaming with electro duo Diamond Version takes the most proud on Chrome Waves (Jalapeno). t

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22 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM I love to smile. If you look at the wrinkles around my eyes and mouth you would see this is true. I smile at people in the grocery store and while walking down the halls. I smile and say hello to people I don’t know and make jokes at situations I think are amusing. I’m not a big fan of sarcasm or making fun of other people.

thing from a chuckle to tears rolling down my cheeks. At the same time, I both hate and adore when I laugh so hard. Often I’m doubled over in pain and can’t breathe. I usu- ally ask the person I’m with to please stop talking so I can catch my breath but my attempts are futile. They keep going and I keep laughing. It is a cleans- ing of the soul that feels glori- ous. After fits of hysterical laughter I feel like my brain has been rebooted and all is right with the world.

but I also laugh alone. Once I was trying to make “instant chocolate mousse” and I poured the milk and powder into the blend- er. I then plugged the blender in and all hell broke lose and mousse went flying every- where! I laughed so hard I couldn’t stand up and slid down the wall to the floor. That memory still brings a smile to my face and BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 23 as I’m sitting here typing I’m laughing out QUALITY OF LI FE

plied a rule that all food manufacturers must So what is this work to be done? disclose trans-fats in their products under a Let’s rst start with common ways of newly devised category on the nutrition la- dealing with disappointing behaviors of The bel. Under Federal labeling guidelines, food Ask your partner. Perhaps the most common re- manufacturers can claim a product contains sponse is putting up with or tolerating what Essentials zero grams of trans-fat per serving as long Dr. J bothers you. Those wet towels girlfriend of Living Naturally as the amount of that fat per serving is one- throws on the oor? You asked her 47 times Michael Lausterer half gram (.5) or less. If the amount of trans- Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. to put them in the hamper. She doesn’t. fat in one serving goes above .5 gram per So you do it and feel resentment burning serving, then the number of trans-fatty acids your ears. Her sloppy ways run counter to Good Fat per serving in the product must be rounded Change or your need for order so you end up being the to the nearest whole number. Even though caretaker. the consumer may be eating a product that Compromise Then you do the next thing: passive- Gone Bad contains trans-fatty acids, the manufactur- aggressive behavior – you retaliate! You ers can state on the package “0 grams of are always late to pick her up from work! Walk down any food aisle and pick up a trans-fat” or “not a signicant source.” Do you accept your partner, with all of his/ Let her wait and stew! Or you conveniently package of product and read the nutrition The history of trans-fatty acids dates her strengths, good sides, and character – forget to pick up the dry-cleaning which she label. For the most part, the labeling system back to the 1890s, when it was discovered but also with the weaknesses and warts? needed for her job interview the next morn- is rather easy to read and understand. But that liquid fats could be turned into solids us- Or do you keep hoping he/she will change, ing, oh too bad. Let me add that this kind confusion sometimes comes in the area of ing a specic process called hydrogenation. if only they listened to you? of retaliation is not always deliberate, but fats and carbohydrates. Consumers expect German chemist Wilhelm Normann perfect- I often hear couples say that it was won- the mind is a wondrous thing. It can forget that the information pre- ed the work of his predeces- derful when they met, sparks ying, loving unintentionally. sented on the labels by food The skinny on sor Paul Sabatier in success- glances and strokes, although yes, they did Then there is manipulation. The old guilt manufacturers is accurate fully producing a hardened fat notice a few red ags but overlooked them, trip – the classic example being that if she and concise. trans-fatty acids from liquid oils that could be or thought over time, or when they moved loved you, she would know you wanted this The Food and Drug Ad- hydrogenated. The process in together, or when some other milestone or that. If only he cared enough, he would ministration (FDA) is the governing body was patented in 1902 and Wilhelm went on was reached, they would work things out. read your mind and spare you the agony of that regulates the food labeling system in to build a manufacturing facility that could Wrong! When romance is hot and hor- telling her. Or, if lover boy doesn’t change the U.S. There are standards and guide- produce the hydrogenated fats on a larger mones are owing, nature gets in the way of his behavior, you will leave. lines that food manufacturers must follow scale. Around 1909, the U.S. rm Proctor & our rational mind, but then, those qualities I can assure you that none of these when it comes to nutrition and ingredient Gamble acquired the patent rights of Nor- you adored, that cute gesture of nuzzling ways of dealing with what you don’t like in disclosure on all food packaging. Without a mann and began producing and marketing you, or pinching your cheeks, come to be your partner will make for a good and happy doubt, these structures help the consumer the world’s rst hydrogenated shortening – annoyances at best, deal breakers at worst. relationship. That is because what is lack- to see what is in a product prior to making Crisco. The product was very affordable, had There is no relationship that is satisfy- ing is the key to the heart and the mind: an informed purchase. The food labeling re- a long shelf life, and was comprised mainly ing and happy, unless you do the work of Listening skills. Human beings need to feel quirements do have some loopholes which of partially hydrogenated oil. tending to it. That potted plant in my ofce and know that they are being heard. There consumers may or may not be aware. Trans-fats are added to food products looked great when I brought it in, but if I is something inherently satisfying in know- One thing to keep in mind that numbers because they are cheaper to produce, don’t water it, rst it starts to droop, telling ing that your words and actions are being listed on a nutrition facts label are not set provide satiety, and act as a preservative me, “I need attention! Look at me!” If I con- received as you intend them. Directly, hon- in stone. Even though products are tested because they extend product shelf-life. It tinue to ignore it, it will die. So it is with any estly, and with authenticity, meaning your for their complete nutrition pro- was discovered around relationship, be it between lovers, parents words match your actions. It is confusing le, the government does allow 1988 that trans-fats were and children, friends or coworkers. and creates dissonance when you say you some lenience in regards to responsible for coronary are not angry while you pound the table or those numbers. As long as food disease, including plaque you are giving dirty looks. Human nature manufacturers keep their reci- build-up within arteries seeks consistency and words matching pes consistent, there is room that could lead to heart behavior. It is equally important to express for a slight plus or minus uc - attacks. It was discovered yourself clearly, without name-calling, or tuation in the numbers. Even that trans-fats increased criticism, as it is to listen. If while you think though your frozen dinner may the amount of low-density ing more trans-fat than they are aware. you are listening, you are thinking of what state a total of 300 calories for lipoproteins (LDL) – bad Luckily, the consumer can find trans- you want to say back, you are not listen- the product at the time of test- cholesterol – while low- fats hidden in a product even though its ing, because you are more into yourself ing, there may be a decrease or ering high density lipo- presence is listed as zero grams per serv- than to the other’s need. One of the easiest increase in the number of those proteins (HDL) – good ing. These fats can be found by skimming techniques to make sure you heard what calories due to the manufac- cholesterol. HDL is re- the ingredient section of the food product. was said, is to repeat what you heard. This turing process. Those nutrition sponsible for removing If the ingredient is an oil that is partially hy- slows the communication but makes it less numbers might not seem to be excess amounts of LDL in drogenated or hydrogenated, the product likely to lead to a misunderstanding and a as accurate as one would expect, but the the bloodstream by taking them back to the contains trans-fatty acids. These oils are ght. overall numerical variations are minute and liver to be processed out of the body. If LDL prevalent in processed foods, some mar- In the next issue, I will get into healthy will most likely not affect an individual’s diet cholesterol levels become too high, they be- garine, breakfast cereals, snacks, choco- and more productive ways of dealing with concerns at an extreme level. gin forming plaque in the artery walls, which late, candy, and baking mixes. t one another, with a special emphasis on When it comes to the disclosure of can lead to coronary issues. Because of the Michael Lausterer is a master essen- what complicates LGBT couples’ relation- trans-fats in any product, the line is not zero gram discrepancy on nutrition labeling, tial oil therapist and is co-owner of Basic ships. clear and is clouded by the regulations that an individual who consumes more than the Earth Essentials with his husband Ste- I welcome your comments and ques- dictate those numbers. In 2006, the FDA ap- suggested serving amount may be consum- phen Jarvis. tions. t

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have a positive effect on our blood glucose levels. I would rather set time aside every- day for laughter than go to a doctor’s ap- Moving pointment or take some medication. Forward The problem is laughing can’t be planned. It’s somewhat spontaneous. So Ava Barron-Shasho the question is what makes you laugh? Of course it’s different for everyone. My sister and mother have the same sense Laughter... of humor. Those two can be doubled over laughing so hard they can’t open their eyes The Best or lift their head up and I have the “What’s so funny?” expression on my face. I even- Medicine tually give in to the hysteria not because of what they originally thought was funny but I love to smile. If you look at the wrinkles because of how silly they look. around my eyes and mouth you would see If you are in the need of a good laugh this is true. I smile at people in the grocery head over to Youtube and watch what ever store and while walking down the halls. I makes you giggle. Maybe it’s I Love Lucy smile and say hello to people I don’t know stomping on grapes or eating chocolate. and make jokes at situations I think are Perhaps you can call your friends and amusing. I’m not a big fan of sarcasm or reminisce over a “Do you remember that making fun of other people. time?” Most of all, I also love to Do you have a simple pleasure laugh. Everything from that makes you chuckle? I love a chuckle to tears roll- when dogs hang their heads ing down my cheeks. out of car windows. This At the same time, is pure joy for me. I often I both hate and snap their picture and file adore when I laugh it away in my photo album so hard. Often I’m titled “Dogs in Cars.” Yes- doubled over in pain terday I saw a dog hang- and can’t breathe. I ing his head out of a car usually ask the per- so far he/she looked like a son I’m with to please lama. stop talking so I can So here is my last “funny” catch my breath but my if you will. I often wonder what it attempts are futile. They would be like to try this just once. keep going and I keep laughing. It Not to embarrass anyone but just to is a cleansing of the soul that feels glori- see what would happen. So here’s how it ous. After fits of hysterical laughter I feel goes… Go to the grocery store and buy a like my brain has been rebooted and all is “Congratulations on your new job, we will right with the world. miss you” card. Take it to work and write Mostly I laugh when I’m with others the name of some fictitious person on the but I also laugh alone. Once I was try- card. Place a sticky on it asking everyone ing to make “instant chocolate mousse” to write a note to “Jim” wishing him well and I poured the milk and powder into the and to pass it through the office. You can blender. I then plugged the blender in and tell everyone he works in another depart- all hell broke lose and mousse went flying ment if they ask. I have to admit this is part everywhere! I laughed so hard I couldn’t joke, part psychological experiment, and stand up and slid down the wall to the part human-behavior study. I would love to floor. That memory still brings a smile to see how it goes but I don’t work in a tra- my face and as I’m sitting here typing I’m ditional office so please take note of who laughing out loud. figures it out and who doesn’t. What do Laughing is great for the soul, body people write? and mood. Articles specify that laughing If you give this a try please let me know stretches our facial muscles and increases what happens. If this sounds absurd or sil- our breathing, which helps send oxygen ly to you, that’s fine by me... I hope at the throughout our bodies. It also increases very least you had a good laugh! t our heart rate, which is like going for a run Ava Barron-Shasho, MSW, is a life and without having to… well go for a run. There relationship coach, certifed by the Inter- is also evidence that laughter can help our national Coach Federation, and welcomes immune system, improve our sleep and feedback at [email protected] BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 25 YOU R MO NEY

ences can commence. Another proven way to understand The More you workplace conflict is to understand natural Know About tendencies. Years ago, I was assessed us- ing a methodology to determine my natural Business tendency as it relates to four work styles: Richard Finger Driver, Analytical, Amiable, and Expres- sive . Underlying these factors is an as- sessment of flexibility ; how flexible are Workplace you to work with other work styles. (I have three times been assessed as an Amiable, with the highest Flexibility.) Let’s under- Conflicts ... stand the general characteristics of each work style. It needs to be said that none of these work styles are any better or worse Over many years an HR practitioner I’ve than each other, they are just a way to un- been asked to step into many workplace derstand workplace tendencies. A “Driver” conflicts. These conflicts can be between is usually the Alpha personality, wanting to coworkers, between a manager and a sub- get things done at any cost. This can be ordinate, between managers… the work- good when the organization needs to de- place is full of conflict scenarios. There a liver on a project; but can be problematic if few approaches I have used to find the root the Driver does not consider variables that cause of these conflicts. At the very core, might get in the way of delivering. The “An- there is always an element of mistrust be- alytic” is sometimes described as “analysis tween parties that will result in clashes if paralysis.” This is a cautious person that left unresolved. To help diag- needs plenty of data before tak- nose the source of this mistrust ...& How to ing a decision. This is a plus if there are two models that I’ll a calculated decision is appro- share. Fix Them priate, but could be frustrating if The first I became familiar the organization is pressed with with over ten years ago while a tight timeline. The “Amiable” training to deliver a customer service pro- is someone that does not like conflict, and gram to account representatives at a large is easy to get along with. Amiables make payroll company. It is quite simple, and is great team players, but can be maddening called “The Way It Is” model. Imagine if to work with because they also do not like you will, two coworkers sitting in the same to make tough decisions. Lastly, the “Ex- meeting, listening to “ It. ” They are hearing pressive.” This is someone who wears ex- the same words spoken. After the meeting, pressions on their sleeves, and you always the coworkers discuss “ it, ” and have inter- know what they are thinking because they preted the words very differently. They are cannot hide it, verbally or non-verbally. not aligned about “it.” This is one way “it” This can be good when things are going can cause conflict. In this case, it is the well, and there is excitement to express. different interpretation between individu- This can be very discouraging when the als. I have seen mistrust grow so intense opposite is true. between coworkers that if one were to ask So why are these work styles important the other “How was your day?” the one as they relate to workplace conict? Some - asked is hesitant to respond for fear that times these dynamics play a large role in the one asking is digging for information differences in coworkers and workplace to use against him or her. In this case, “it” teams, especially when there is low Flex- was the intent of the question, was it con- ibility in play. For example, the Driver may cern or was it meddling? become very upset with the Analytical for The questions I pose to those with the taking too long to make a decision, and vice conflict is, “How do we begin to align “it”? versa. The key is for employees to become What has happened in the past to get to self- aware of their own natural tendency, this point, and how do we fix it?” This can and to understand that coworkers are ex- only work if both parties want to work on hibiting differing tendencies. Each work rebuilding the working relationship. HR style needs a different approach to bring out professionals do not have a magic pill to the optimal performance in others. make the conflict go away, but we can help My challenge to the readers with this diagnose, ask good questions, and assist article is to think of someone you’d like to with rebuilding the relationship. Once the have a better working relationship with, conflicting parties look at their conflict this and leverage the tools outlined above to way, it usually does result in self-reflection, help you. I’d be very interested to learn and a healthy discussion to sort out differ- how things go! t 26 t BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5,, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM BALT IMO RE OUTLOUD S EPTEMBER 5, 2014 • BALTI MOREOUTLOUD. COM t 27 2015 Contest will be held on Saturday at 8 fun continues at the New York Eagle on Sun- to visit. It is a wonderful venue and you will p.m. Those attending the contest should be day, Oct 5 at the victory party. have a great time with the New Jersey leather aware that a leather / rubber / fetish-wear It will be a party all weekend on October family. dress code will be strictly enforced. Leather 17 – 19 at the Empress Hotel in Asbury Park, The Wyndham Peabody Court Hotel in Leather Weekend III concludes on Sunday, Septem- New Jersey for the Mr. and Ms. New Jersey Baltimore will be the host hotel for the COM- Line ber 14 with a brunch. Make your reservations Leather 2015 Contest. The fun begins on Fri- MAND, MC. / Mr. Maryland Leather 2015 Rodney Burger at Thewoodscampground.com. day, October 17 as the Jersey Amazons host Weekend which kicks off on Friday, Oct 31. If you like your leather sex in the city, the the opening reception at 7 p.m. followed by You read that correctly! The opening cocktail city of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, is ready to the meet and greet uniform party at Club Par- parties and the meet and greet reception be- 2014 is Already welcome you over the weekend of September adise located right in the hotel. Friday night’s ing held at The Loft at 10 p.m. will be held on 19 to 21 as Mr. and Ms. Pittsburgh Leather reception is sponsored by Le Chateau Exo- Halloween night. On Saturday, November 1 So Last Year ! Fetish 2015 will be sashed during Pittsburgh tique who will also be vending until 11:30. On Mr. Maryland Leather 2015 will be selected Leather Weekend held at Leather Central lo- Saturday afternoon at the hotel you can pick during a contest held at the Club Hippo at 2 cated at 1226 Herron Avenue. Although the up a little knowledge from The Jersey Kollege p.m. (Doors open at noon and the silent auc- Although it is only September 2014 I have al- Three Rivers Leather Club only started this of Kink. There will be a panel discussion at 11 tion begins at 1 p.m.) The weekend also in- ready been seeing lots of advertisements for contest in 2011, those selected for these a.m. featuring prior Ms. New Jersey Leather cludes a formal leather dinner, victory party, the 2015 models. Time goes so quickly. The titles have gone on to be very successful in winners moderated by Mr. New Jersey Leath- Sunday brunch and more. Go to command- 2015s are already being promoted. They’re larger contests. Ms. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish er 2012 Danny Tamez. At noon Mid-Atlantic mc.org for tickets and all the details. bright, shiny, and new with low mileage and 2012 Doc went on to be selected American Leather Woman 2013 Nina Love will speak on I cannot believe we are sashing the 2015 that fresh leather smell. Yes, 2014 is already Leather Woman 2012 and for four years in a The Adversarial Dynamic followed by Interna- leather titleholders. It seems like only yes- so over. It is time to select the 2015 leather row Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish went on to tional Mr. Leather 1994 Jeff Tucker who will terday when I was being selected as a 2001 titleholders. be sashed Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather! In fact, lecture on The Kinky Junk Drawer. Starting at titleholder. You will have a great weekend Mr. Connecticut Leather 2015 will be se- Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish 2011 / Mr. Mid- 2 p.m. a group of bootblacks will offer some attending any of the above contest, but how lected over the weekend of September 5 to Atlantic Leather 2011 Doug “D” Pamplin was bootblacking tips and from 3 to 4:30 p.m. the would you like to have a great year? I will 7 at the 168 York Street Café in New Haven, also selected rst runner-up at International Jersey boys of Leather will host a cigar party. never forget my year. It changed my life. Why Connecticut. The weekend kicks off on Friday, Mr. Leather 2011. All this notoriety has quickly The Mr. and Ms. New Jersey Leather 2015 not make 2015 your year. The leather com- September 5 at 9 p.m. with the meet & greet made this an important contest. The weekend contest starts at 6:30 p.m. and will be emceed munity is not just looking for an audience, we party hosted by the CT Cruisers and The includes the meet & greet party on Friday by Ms. New Jersey Leather 2010 Morgaine are also looking for new leather titleholders. It Leather boys of New England. On Saturday, evening, demo classes on Saturday after- and Mr. New Jersey Leather 2012 Danny Ta- is only 2014 but you could be on your way to September 6 there will be BDSM seminars noon from 1 to 3 p.m., the contest at 10:30 mez. The weekend concludes with a brunch making 2015 your best year ever! Don’t just in the afternoon and the contest will start at p.m. Saturday night, and a victory brunch on Sunday. If you have never been to the Em- watch a contest. Make this the year that you 10 p.m. The weekend concludes on Sunday on Sunday. All events take place at Leather press Hotel in Asbury Park, you really need step up. You could be 2015! t with a brunch. Mr. Connecticut Leather 2015 Central. For more information and a list of will represent his local leather community at recommended hotels visit Pittsburghleather- the Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather 2015 Contest in weekend.com Washington, D.C., in January. For details go Pittsburgh is a really fun city (and yes, to Mrctleather.org I’m still a Raven’s fan), but if you are ready Mr. and Miss Woods Leather 2015 will to pack your leather for the big city there is be selected on September 13 during Leather no place like New York City. The Mr. Eagle Weekend III at The Woods Campground in NYC 2015 Contest is scheduled for Saturday, Lehighton, Pennsylvania. A full weekend of October 4 as part of the 44th anniversary of events is planned including a party hosted by the New York Eagle (554 West 28 Street, be- Mid-Atlantic Leather Women United, a mo- tween 10th and 11th). Meet the judges and torcycle run, a poolside dance party, a cigar/ contestants for the Mr. Eagle NYC 2015 Con- leather social complete with cigars for sale, a test on Friday, Oct 3 starting at 10 p.m. at the silent auction, bootblacking, and rafes ben - bar and you will be ready to return to the New etting the HRC and the Pavilion dungeon York Eagle and cheer on your favorite at the improvements. The Mr. and Miss Woods contest on Saturday, October 4 at 9 p.m. The

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