What Makes Community?
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What makes community? In many ways the word community is overused today and as a result the word has gotten a bad rap. With this in mind it is important that any discussions about community starts with defining what we mean when we use the word. Some refer to community as any group of people in close physical proximity. However, just because people live in the same apartment building it does not necessarily mean that a sense of community exists. A place where people live or go to school can be a community, but it does not necessarily have to one. So what makes a group a true community? Defining community is something like defining friendship; it is easy to experience and feel yet difficult to truly capture the concept. You’d think—or at least, I did—that the root meaning of the word “community” is “coming together as one.” But it’s not. The old Latin word communitatus comes from two even older words that mean “the changes or exchanges that connect people” and “small, intimate, or local.” Given this background, Sheldon Berman (1990) offers the following definition: A community is a group of people who acknowledge their common purpose, respect their differences, share in group decision making as well as in responsibility for the actions of the group, and support each other’s growth. In tying this definition of community to what we are trying to do this summer, I want to encourage each individual to focus on how your summer experience will impact your life in the following three areas: (1) your relationship to God; (2) your relationship to others; (3) your relationship to the larger world (including the place and people you will be interacting with this summer). I hope these three foci are related to some of your own personal goals for this summer as well. In addition, I want each group of students to focus on (1) how collectively we can help each other deepen our relationships to God; (2) how we want to live together in community; and (3) how we collectively as a group want to interact with those that we will meet from our host cultures. Each of these three foci grow out of Henry Nouwen’s three disciplines of the contemplative life: 1. The first discipline is the discipline of solitude. It’s only in solitude that we can get in touch with the Spirit of God in us. Solitude is an important discipline in a busy world. Solitude involves prayer, spiritual reading, and being alone with God. 2. The second discipline is the discipline of community. Out of solitude we go into community. Community is not just a place where we do things together, but a place where together we recognize the presence of God…Community, whether a parish, a family, or an intentional community, is where people live together and want to discover in each other the presence of God. 3. The third discipline is ministry, reaching out to others. Its important to reach out to others because we want to share from the abundance of our life, not because we have a need to be good helpers or because we have something to prove. In fact what we want to strive to do here is to strive to have a ministry of presence, to develop a presence in being with others from a different culture. Taylor (1963) described what is meant by having a presence in Africa when he writes “Africans believe that presence is the debt they owe one another…The Christian, whoever he may be, who stands in that world is the name of Christ, has nothing to offer unless he offers to present, really and totally present, really and totally in the present” (p. 135). If we are to create community, real community, the kind of community that incorporates Nouwen’s disciplines of the contemplative life and embodies Berman’s definition, we need to covenant with one another. We need agreements about how we will treat one another. We need to weigh our words carefully, and follow through on our commitments. We need to work together, really work. We need a return to honorable reciprocity, never taking from one another without giving something of substance in return. We need to think about how to build consensus and be truly democratic in our decision-making. This purpose of this worksheet is to help students identify and develop a set of communal goals. This worksheet is designed in two parts and includes several tasks. The first task is to help you share some of your own goals and expectations for your experience this summer. The second task is designed to help you begin to develop a covenant for your life together, answering the question: How are we going to live together this summer? How are we going to support and encourage each other to fully experience your life together this summer? The third task is designed to help you think about how to make your covenant a living document that is relevant and can guide the group throughout the summer. Creating a Group Covenant Communities are held together by the willingness of community members to co-create for themselves what they see as important Background Information (FAQ) What is a covenant? The Hebrew term for covenant is berit , meaning “to bond or fetter.” It is translated into the Greek as syntheke , “binding together” or diatheke , “will, testament.” In the Bible, then a covenant is a relationship based upon mutual commitments. It typically involves promises, obligations, and rituals. Covenants are contracts between individuals given to define a relationship. Types of covenants include those between individuals as well as those between humans and God. The covenants of the Bible between humans and God are completely unique to Christianity. Why create a covenant? A covenant encourages us to be intentional . “Building community is an integral component of Calvin’s educational mission. Perhaps this vision is best characterized by an image of students, faculty, and staff helping one another day to day to cultivate aspirations, nurture commitments, and practice what we profess (Expanded Statement of Mission, Calvin College). Moreover, building community suggests intentionally striving to enact self-control, integrity, and justice as appropriate expressions of Christian belief…Building community doesn’t occur automatically; it requires commitment and perseverance. Moreover, building community suggests intentionally striving to enact self-control, integrity, and justice as appropriate expressions of Christian belief. Taken together, these three characteristics of the Christian life are important building blocks of the kind and quality of community that Calvin envisions” (Student Handbook, Calvin College). What are some basic tenants we should keep in mind as we create our covenant? Drawing from Berman’s definition of community and Nouwen’s three disciplines of the contemplative life, a number of basic elements of effective communities emerge which you need to address in creating a covenant which should give you a basis to conduct all future activities this summer. Several important components in the process of covenant making and living out your covenant in community include: ♦ Acknowledge their connection and commonalities . In a community there is recognition of individual’s relatedness and interdependence with one another. A sense of community includes a sense of we and a feeling of cooperation. ♦ Experiences belonging . Belonging is not earned but rather unconditionally given to anyone who wants to commit to being a part of community. A sense of belonging is just as important as the tasks the community accomplishes. Love is neither sentimental nor a passing emotion. It is the recognition of a covenant of a mutual belonging. It is listening to others, being concerned for them and felling empathy with them. It is to see their beauty and to reveal in it. ♦ Respects differences . Differences are valued and viewed as strengthening the community. Healthy communities strive to build upon people’s differences instead of hiding or downplaying them. Community is the safe place where all of us feel free to be ourselves and have the confidence to say everything we live and think. Not all communities will get to this point, its true. But this is the direction in which they should be going. ♦ Develop relationships . Members have personal connections and get to know one another as people. The heart of community is relationships! A sense of community cannot exist without people interacting and experiencing each other on a personal level. Take away the personal contact and you do not have a community but rather a group of people swimming laps together in a pool – physically close, but not connecting any more deeply. Human life is, after all, living in relationship. We are human in and through our relationship to the world around us, to our fellow human beings, our job, societal structures, culture, science, nature. Hendrickus Berkhof ♦ Share responsibility for decision-making . Communities have norms and procedures for making decisions, handling conflicts, etc., whether implicitly or explicitly stated. There are shared responsibilities helping children and adults grow in a community, for decision making, for taking action, and for living with the process and outcomes of decisions. It is not simply a question of becoming responsible for others and being committed to them; it is also allowing them to carry and love us, and entering into a relationship of interdependence and into a covenant. ♦ Have a common purpose or shared vision . All these elements are necessary, but not sufficient, if the goal is to have a healthy community that sustains and stays alive over time. With a shared vision, members perceive a common reason for being together, which strengthens the sense we and commitment to the relationships and decisions within a community.