What's Your Relationship Model?

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What’s Your Relationship Model?

Consider your relationship history as you answer the questions below.

What is your current relationship model? ______What motivated you to engage in the relationship models that you practiced? ______What has worked in the past? ______What has not worked in the past? ______How have your previous experiences impacted your current relationships? ______

Figure this out for yourself and then talk to your partner(s).

1. What does a closed relationship look like to you? ______2. What does cheating look/feel like to you? ______3. How do you deal with jealousy? ______4. Do you want your needs to be met by one person? a. Emotional b. Spiritual c. Intellectual d. Sexual e. Financial f. ______5. What does an open relationship look like to you? ______

What’s Your Relationship Model?

The “Is It Okay?” Checklist Relationship Goals When in a committed relationship, it is Consider the previous sections. What OK for the following activities to occur does your ideal relationship model look with someone else: like? ______For my partner For me ______Notes______

ALTERNATIVE RELATIONSHIP MODELS

• ABSTINENCE: restraining yourself from engaging in "sex"- definitions vary on if this includes forms of sex outside of vaginal penetration • AROMANTIC: experiencing little or no romantic attraction to others • ASEXUAL: experiencing little or no sexual feelings or desires • CELIBACY: not participating in sexual and/or romantic relationships • CHASTITY: no sex until marriage • CHEATING: non-ethical non-monogamy • CLERICAL CELIBACY: a vow of celibacy for service in a religious capacity • CO-PARENTING: a couple no longer in a sexual and/or romantic relationship that work together to raise their child(ren) • EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP: consensual monogamy • FETISHSHIP: relationship for the purpose of exploring/ experiencing a fetish • FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS: friends who have occasional sex • FUCK BUDDY/ BOOTY CALL: sexual relationship with little to no intention of romance or friendship • INVOLUNTARY CELIBACY: no good baes out there! • LIVING APART TOGETHER (LAT): long-term relationship where people live in separate homes • LONG DISTANCE: live far apart & can't meet on a regular basis • MARRIAGE: legal or formally recognized union • MONOGAMY: the practice of being in a sexual and/ or romantic relationship with one person at a time • NON-MONOGAMY: the practice of being in a sexual and/ or romantic relationship with more than one person at a time • ONE NIGHT STANDS: a sexual encounter with no intentions of seeing one another again • ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS: majority of your relationship exists online • OPEN RELATIONSHIP: partners agree to having sex with other people • POLYANDRY: marriage to more than one man • POLYGYNY: marriage to more than one woman • POLYAMOROUS: partners agree to having sexual and/or romantic committed relationships with other people o hierarchal: there is a primary relationship which all other relationships are secondary to o non-hierarchal: no relationship is privileged over the other • RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY (RA): sexual and/or romantic relationships are not given a higher level of importance than non- sexual/romantic relationships • SERIAL MONOGAMY: moving from one monogamous relationship to the next • SEX WORK: a sexual relationship in exchange for money • SIDECHICK/SIDEDUDE: in a relationship with someone who is committed to someone else, who does not know about you • SINGLE: personal reasons for choosing to be single • SITUATIONSHIP: "it's complicated", lots of unknowns • SUBLIMATION: practice of redirecting sexual energy into life activities • SUGARRING: sugar daddy/ mama & sugar baby relationship • SWINGING: casual sex with other couples • TALKING: unofficially together, but lots of unknowns • THREESOMES: couples who occasionally bring other people into their relationship for sexual experiences • TRAVELSHIP: sexual and/or relationships that center around vacations • UNICORN: a person who joins a couple to have a sexual and/or romantic relationship with both people • UNREQUITED LOVE: deeply in love with someone who does not feel the same way about you • VOLUNTARY CELIBACY: no sex or relationships for personal reasons- desire to grow, heal, take a break, not ready • WORK HUSBAND/WIFE: intimate relationship with a co-worker