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Infidelity Resource Guide
Infdelity Resource Guide Tools to help you on the path of recovery from infidelity. by Esther Perel Infdelity Resource Guide - Table of Contents Table of Contents Part 1: Overview - Who is this for, and how can I use it? Part 2: Phases of Recovery Part 3: The Need to Know and to Understand: Detective vs. Investigative Questions Part 4: "After the Storm" - An Article I wrote for the Psychotherapy Networker Infdelity Resource Guide - Overview Who is this Guide For? This guide is for anyone seeking understanding, stability, and hope in the aftermath of an infidelity. You may be the person who had an affair(s), the hurt partner, the lover, the adult children of a couple in the midst of an infidelity, or a close friend or family member of a person in the throes of the crisis. I hope this offers you a preliminary framework for understanding and contextualizing. Of course, if you are in the throes of a post-affair revelation, or further down that road, there is no substitute for speaking with a trained psychotherapist. Isuggestseekingthehelpofaprofessionalforthoseofyoucurrentlydealing with infidelity. How Can I Use this Guide? These resources are meant to be a conversation starter. In the midst of a crisis, there is so much to say, and we often struggle to put our thoughts and feelings into words. We need structure, calm, and reassurance to figure out what happened and what to do about it. This booklet is to here to accompany you, but is not a substitute for speaking with a trained psychotherapist. If you are in a couple, you can read it alone, or together. -
Examining the Associations Between Pornography Use and Relationship Outcomes
View metadata, citation and similar papers at core.ac.uk brought to you by CORE provided by University of Waterloo's Institutional Repository Examining the Associations Between Pornography Use and Relationship Outcomes by Chantal Gautreau A thesis presented to the University of Waterloo in fulfilment of the thesis requirement for the degree of Master of Arts in Psychology Waterloo, Ontario, Canada, 2016 © Chantal Gautreau 2016 Author’s Declaration I hereby declare that I am the sole author of this thesis. This is a true copy of the thesis, including any required final revisions, as accepted by my examiners. I understand that my thesis may be made electronically available to the public. ii Abstract There has been a growing interest in understanding whether and how pornography use is associated with relationship quality and sexual satisfaction for individuals in long-tem, committed relationships. Past research examining this question has produced inconsistent findings. Moreover, the methodological limitations of past work make it difficult to draw any definitive conclusions. The current thesis consists of three key studies that focus on the relationship between pornography use and relationship outcomes (i.e., relationship quality and sexual satisfaction). In Study 1, I examined the associations between pornography use (an individual’s own use and estimates of partner’s use) and relationship outcomes for 780 adults in long-term committed relationships, while improving upon three significant methodological flaws that have been present in past research: underpowered studies, recruitment of biased samples, and use of unreliable measures. For women, only one significant association emerged: women who estimated that their partners used pornography more frequently reported lower quality in their relationship. -
The Relationship Between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity
Athens Journal of Social Sciences- Volume 4, Issue 4 – Pages 385-398 The Relationship between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity By Ricardo Pinto † Joana Arantes The main aim of the present study is to relate, for the first time, the sexual and emotional sides of infidelity, that is characterized by any form of close physical or emotional involvement with another person while in a committed relationship with promiscuity, which is typically defined by the search for the maximum sexual pleasure or how easily and often someone falls in love. Another aim was to investigate potential sex differences within both domains. For that, 369 participants (92 males and 277 females) answered to an online questionnaire that collected information about infidelity and promiscuity. More specifically, participants were asked to complete the revised Sociosexual Orientation Inventory (SOI-R), the Emotional Promiscuity (EP) Scale, and the Sexual and Emotional Infidelity (SEI) scale. In addition, some sociodemographic questions, as well as history of infidelity questions, were also asked. The analyses included Pearson correlations, ANOVA and t-tests. Results show that all domains are related, specifically sexual and emotional infidelity with sexual and emotional promiscuity. Keywords: Emotional promiscuity, Emotional infidelity, Sex differences, Sexual infidelity, Sexual promiscuity. Introduction In a world where infidelity and promiscuity are increasingly experienced (Brand et al. 2007, Jones and Paulhus 2012), few studies have focused on their emotional and sexual domains. The infidelity and the promiscuity can have an important impact on individuals and on intimate relationships (Silva et al. n.d., Vangelisti and Gerstenberger 2004). For example, the infidelity is one of the most common reasons for divorce and couple therapy (Glass and Wright 1992). -
Incestuous Abuse: Its Long-Term Effects
DOCUMENT RESUME ED 390 010 CG 026 765 AUTHOR Russell, Diana E. H. TITLE Incestuous Abuse: Its Long-Term Effects. SPONS AGENCY Human Sciences Research Council, Pretoria (South Africa). REPORT NO ISBN-0-7969-1651-9 PUB DATE 95 NOTE 111p. PUB TYPE Books (010) Reports Research/Technical (143) EDRS PRICE MF01/PC05 Plus Postage. DESCRIPTORS Adult Children; *Child Abuse; *Family Violence; Females; Foreign Countries; *Incidence; Interviews; Parent Child Relationship; Qualitative Research; *Sexual Abuse; *Victims of Crime; Violence IDENTIFIERS South Africa ABSTRACT Despite the growing recognition of the prevalence of incest which is challenging-traditional views about the family as a safe haven for children, there is a serious paucity of scientific research on incest in South Africa in the new field of family violence. Almost a century after Sigmund Freud dismissed most women's reports of incest victimization as wishful fantasy, the extent of the damage done by this form of abuse remains controversial in South Africa, with some researchers maintaining that incest victims often suffer no severe effects. This report presents the findings of a qualitative study designed to explore the short- and long-term effects of incestuous abuse experienced by 20 adult women ince:-.t survivors. Although all but one of the in-depth interviews were conducted with women who at the time were residing in Cape Town, the places in which the incestuous abuse had occurred are dispersed throughout South Africa. The purpose of this study is to inform policy discussions on incestuous abuse, violence in South Africa, and violence against women in general. Includes information on prevalence of incestuous abuse, study methodology, characteristics of incestuous abuse, initial effects abuse; and long-terms effects. -
Topics in Human Sexuality: Sexuality Across the Lifespan Adulthood/Male and Female Sexuality
Most people print off a copy of the post test and circle the answers as they read through the materials. Then, you can log in, go to "My Account" and under "Courses I Need to Take" click on the blue "Enter Answers" button. After completing the post test, you can print your certificate. Topics in Human Sexuality: Sexuality Across the Lifespan Adulthood/Male and Female Sexuality Introduction The development of sexuality is a lifelong process that begins in infancy. As we move from infancy to adolescence and adolescence to adulthood, there are many sexual milestones. While adolescent sexuality is a time in which sexual maturation, interest and experience surge, adult sexuality continues to be a time of sexual unfolding. It is during this time that people consolidate their sexual orientation and enter into their first mature, and often long term, sexual relationships. This movement towards mature sexuality also has a number of gender-specific issues as males and females often experience sexuality differently. As people age, these differences are often marked. In addition to young and middle age adults, the elderly are often an overlooked group when it comes to discussion of sexuality. Sexuality, however, continues well into what are often considered the golden years. This course will review the development of sexuality using a lifespan perspective. It will focus on sexuality in adulthood and in the elderly. It will discuss physical and psychological milestones connected with adult sexuality. Educational Objectives 1. Discuss the process of attaining sexual maturity, including milestones 2. Compare and contrast remaining singles, getting married and cohabitating 3. -
Cohabitation Part 1 of 2 American College of Pediatricians – March 2015
Cohabitation Part 1 of 2 American College of Pediatricians – March 2015 ABSTRACT: Contrary to the current perception of many adolescents and young adults who view cohabitation as a substitute for marriage or as a stepping stone to a more secure marriage, studies show that cohabiting unions are more likely to dissolve than marriages and that marriages preceded by cohabitation are more likely to dissolve than marriages that were not preceded by cohabitation. Cohabiting unions are more likely to involve infidelity and also more likely to involve violence. Furthermore, children, whether born prior to, during, or after parental cohabitation, are at increased risk for negative sequelae including premature birth, school failure, lower education, more poverty during childhood and lower incomes as adults, more incarceration and behavior problems, single parenthood, medical neglect and chronic health problems both medical and psychiatric, more substance, alcohol and tobacco abuse, and child abuse. Cohabiting women are also more likely to choose to end their child’s life prior to birth. Part I. Effects of cohabitation on the men and women involved. Incidence and attitudes Cohabitation has increased exponentially in the US over the last few decades. From 1987 to 2002, the number of women aged 35-39 who had ever cohabitated increased from 30% to 61%. More young people are first cohabitating than first marrying.1 Incidence Cohabitation only Cohabitation then Marriage without marriage prior cohabitation Men 15% 28% 18% Women 15% 28% 23% In addition, the percent of cohabitating couples who married in the subsequent 3 years decreased from 60% in the 1970’s to about 33% in the 1990’s. -
Understanding Attraction, Behavior, and Identity in the Asexual Community
Rowan University Rowan Digital Works Theses and Dissertations 6-2-2020 Understanding attraction, behavior, and identity in the asexual community Corey Doremus Rowan University Follow this and additional works at: https://rdw.rowan.edu/etd Part of the Clinical Psychology Commons Recommended Citation Doremus, Corey, "Understanding attraction, behavior, and identity in the asexual community" (2020). Theses and Dissertations. 2801. https://rdw.rowan.edu/etd/2801 This Thesis is brought to you for free and open access by Rowan Digital Works. It has been accepted for inclusion in Theses and Dissertations by an authorized administrator of Rowan Digital Works. For more information, please contact [email protected]. UNDERSTANDING ATTRACTION, BEHAVIOR, AND IDENTITY IN THE ASEXUAL COMMUNITY by Corey Doremus A Thesis Submitted to the Department of Psychology College of Science and Mathematics In partial fulfillment of the requirement For the degree of Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology at Rowan University May 13, 2020 Thesis Chair: Meredith Joppa, Ph.D. and DJ Angelone, Ph.D. © 2020 Corey Doremus Dedication This thesis is dedicated to my wife, whose tireless support and love can not adequately be put into words. Thank you for never doubting my ability, even when I did. Acknowledgments I’m unable to quantify my thanks for my incredible mentors Dr. Meredith Joppa and Dr. DJ Angelone. Without their guidance and patience there’s simply no way this thesis would exist. I am incredibly honored to have the opportunity to benefit from their continued support of my personal and professional growth. iv Abstract Corey Doremus UNDERSTANDING ATTRACTION, BEHAVIOR, AND IDENTITY IN THE ASEXUAL COMMUNITY 2019-2020 Meredith Joppa Ph.D. -
The Relation of Unwanted Consensual Sex to Mental Health and Relationship Variables: the Role of Motivations
THE RELATION OF UNWANTED CONSENSUAL SEX TO MENTAL HEALTH AND RELATIONSHIP VARIABLES: THE ROLE OF MOTIVATIONS Maren Froemming A Dissertation Submitted to the Graduate College of Bowling Green State University in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPHY August 2020 Committee: Eric Dubow, Advisor Jeanne Novak Graduate Faculty Representative Anne Gordon Joshua Grubbs © 2020 Maren Froemming All Rights Reserved iii ABSTRACT Eric Dubow, Advisor Unwanted consensual sex, when a person willingly consents to sexual activity that is unwanted in some way, is a largely understudied sexual behavior despite its relatively common prevalence. Many researchers have conceptualized unwanted consensual sex to be a negative sexual experience and even to lie on the spectrum of sexual coercion and violence. Previous research has demonstrated associations between unwanted consensual sex and poorer relationship quality and sexual satisfaction, but no research has investigated its potential association with psychological functioning. Additionally, there has been a lack of research on the role of motivations for unwanted consensual sex, though initial evidence suggests that reasons for having unwanted consensual sex may be differentially related to certain outcomes. Using an approach-avoidance motivational framework, I tested moderation models exploring how frequency of unwanted consensual sex relates to mental health and relationship variables, with either approach or avoidance motivations as moderators. A sample of 704 sexually active adults of varied age, gender, sexual orientation, and relationship status were surveyed using Amazon Mechanical Turk. Forty-four percent of the total sample endorsed engaging in unwanted consensual sex in the past year. Frequency of unwanted consensual sex was positively associated with mental health symptoms and negatively associated with well-being (marginally significant) and relationship quality. -
Attractiveness and Spousal Infidelity As Predictors Of
Human Ethology Bulletin 29 (2014)1: 18-38 Research Articles ATRCTIVENESS AND SPOUSAL INFIDELITY AS PREDICTORS OF SEXUAL FULFILLMENT WITHOUT THE MARRIAGE PARTNER IN COUPLES FROM FIVE CULTURES Nicole T Nowak1, Glenn E Weisfeld2, Olcay Imamoğlu3, Carol C Weisfeld4, Marina Butovskaya5, Jiliang Shen6 1University of Wisconsin, Department of Psychology, Milwaukee, US [email protected] 2Wayne State University, US 3Middle East Technical University, TR 4University of Detroit Mercy, US 5Russian Academy of Sciences, Cross-Cultural Psychology & Human Ethology, RU 6Beijing Normal University, CN ABSTRCT Tis paper explores the cross-cultural prevalence and predictors of extramarital sexual fulfllment and in doing so tests some predictions derived fom evolutionary considerations. Although most adults, across cultures, believe that infdelity, particularly by the female, is ‘wrong’ and infdelity is ofen the cause of divorce and violence, the behavior is widespread. Evolutionists have noted various ftness advantages to be gained fom sexual infdelity. With such a strong theoretical base for specifc predictions about infdelity, it is surprising that few conclusions can be drawn about the predictors of the behavior in married couples. Our study of married couples fom China, Russia, Turkey, the United Kingdom (UK), and the United States (US) revealed that love of the spouse, fequency of fnding non-partners atractive, and self- reported extramarital sexual fulfllment of the spouse predicted fequency of sexual fulfllment outside of marriage. Cultural similarities and diferences are discussed. Key words: sex diferences, cross-cultural, infdelity, atractiveness, marriage _________________________________________________________ INTRODUCTION Litle cross-cultural research has been conducted on predictors of sexual infdelity in married couples, although the universal existence of the behavior has been documented (reviewed in Baker & Bellis, 1995; Huber, Linhartova, & Cope, 2004). -
ROUSE-DISSERTATION-2020.Pdf (646.5Kb)
REUNITED AND IT FEELS SO GOOD? THE LIVED EXPERIENCE OF USING TECHNOLOGY TO RECONNECT WITH OLD FLAMES/LOST LOVES: A QUALITATIVE STUDY A DISSERTATION SUBMITTED IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF THE REQUIREMENTS FOR THE DEGREE OF DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPHY IN THE GRADUATE SCHOOL OF THE TEXAS WOMAN’S UNIVERSITY DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN DEVELOPMENT, FAMILY STUDIES, & COUNSELING COLLEGE OF PROFESSIONAL EDUCATION BY THELMA L. ROUSE, M.B.A., M.A. DENTON, TEXAS AUGUST 2020 Copyright ©Thelma L. Rouse, 2020 all rights reserved. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS With God all things are possible and through Christ I can do all things. I would like to thank God Almighty for surrounding me with such a wonderful support system to finish this portion of my journey. He placed a lot of awesome people and great opportunities in my life along this journey. As I continue to run this race. I look forward to so much more. To my husband Herman and my daughters, Imani and Iyana, I love you all very much and I thank you for the many times you have provided a listening ear, as I pondered various ideas over the course of my study at Texas Woman’s University or when you volunteered to be my “road dawgs” as I commuted to campus for various reasons. I like to thank my fur babies Coco and Ditto for remaining dutifully by my side to offer a belly to rub, a wet nose kiss, or a snuggle at my feet while I studied. To my dissertation committee, Dr. Brock, Dr. Hwang, and Dr. Ladd, I am grateful for your guidance and reassurance throughout this portion of my academic career. -
Therapy with a Consensually Nonmonogamous Couple
Therapy With a Consensually Nonmonogamous Couple Keely Kolmes1 and Ryan G. Witherspoon2 1Private Practice, Oakland, CA 2Alliant International University While a significant minority of people practice some form of consensual nonmonogamy (CNM) in their relationships, there is very little published research on how to work competently and effectively with those who identify as polyamorous or who have open relationships. It is easy to let one’s cultural assumptions override one’s work in practice. However, cultural competence is an ethical cornerstone of psychotherapeutic work, as is using evidence-based treatment in the services we provide to our clients. This case presents the work of a clinician using both evidence-based practice and practice- based evidence in helping a nonmonogamous couple repair a breach in their relationship. We present a composite case representing a common presenting issue in the first author’s psychotherapy practice, which is oriented toward those engaging in or identifying with alternative sexual practices. Resources for learning more about working with poly, open, and other consensually nonmonogamous relationship partners are provided. C 2017 Wiley Periodicals, Inc. J. Clin. Psychol. 00:1–11, 2017. Keywords: nonmonogamy; open relationships; polyamory; relationships; relationship counseling Introduction This case makes use of two evidence-based approaches to working with couples: the work of John Gottman, and emotionally focused therapy (EFT) as taught by Sue Johnson. Other practitioners may use different models for working with couples, but the integration of Gottman’s work and Sue Johnson’s EFT have had great value in the practice of the senior author of this article. Gottman’s research focused on patterns of behavior and sequences of interaction that predict marital satisfaction in newlywed couples (see https://www.gottman.com/). -
Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy
UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones 12-1-2012 Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy Jordan Mark Staples University of Nevada, Las Vegas Follow this and additional works at: https://digitalscholarship.unlv.edu/thesesdissertations Part of the Counseling Psychology Commons, and the Marriage and Family Therapy and Counseling Commons Repository Citation Staples, Jordan Mark, "Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy" (2012). UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones. 1779. http://dx.doi.org/10.34917/4332760 This Thesis is protected by copyright and/or related rights. It has been brought to you by Digital Scholarship@UNLV with permission from the rights-holder(s). You are free to use this Thesis in any way that is permitted by the copyright and related rights legislation that applies to your use. For other uses you need to obtain permission from the rights-holder(s) directly, unless additional rights are indicated by a Creative Commons license in the record and/ or on the work itself. This Thesis has been accepted for inclusion in UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones by an authorized administrator of Digital Scholarship@UNLV. For more information, please contact [email protected]. COUPLES’ PROCESS OF HEALING FROM INFIDELITY WHILE IN THERAPY By Jordan M. Staples Bachelor of Science, Psychology Brigham Young University 2010 A thesis submitted in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the Master of Science Degree in