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Infidelity Resource Guide
Infdelity Resource Guide Tools to help you on the path of recovery from infidelity. by Esther Perel Infdelity Resource Guide - Table of Contents Table of Contents Part 1: Overview - Who is this for, and how can I use it? Part 2: Phases of Recovery Part 3: The Need to Know and to Understand: Detective vs. Investigative Questions Part 4: "After the Storm" - An Article I wrote for the Psychotherapy Networker Infdelity Resource Guide - Overview Who is this Guide For? This guide is for anyone seeking understanding, stability, and hope in the aftermath of an infidelity. You may be the person who had an affair(s), the hurt partner, the lover, the adult children of a couple in the midst of an infidelity, or a close friend or family member of a person in the throes of the crisis. I hope this offers you a preliminary framework for understanding and contextualizing. Of course, if you are in the throes of a post-affair revelation, or further down that road, there is no substitute for speaking with a trained psychotherapist. Isuggestseekingthehelpofaprofessionalforthoseofyoucurrentlydealing with infidelity. How Can I Use this Guide? These resources are meant to be a conversation starter. In the midst of a crisis, there is so much to say, and we often struggle to put our thoughts and feelings into words. We need structure, calm, and reassurance to figure out what happened and what to do about it. This booklet is to here to accompany you, but is not a substitute for speaking with a trained psychotherapist. If you are in a couple, you can read it alone, or together. -
Emotional Intimacy Passion
STRENGTHENING OUR MARRIAGES A FOCUS ON: COMMUNICATION COMMITMENT INTIMACY COMMUNICATION THE BLESSINGS OF EDIFYING COMMUNICATION IN OUR MARRIAGES Communication IF OUR WORDS WERE A GARDEN, WHAT WOULD BE GROWING? OR Communication WE ARE NATURALLY SELFISH AND SINFUL, BUT RASH WORDS CAN HURT! Communication OUR WORDS SHOULD STRENGTHEN A MARRIAGE: • THANKS FOR DINNER, THAT WAS REALLY GOOD! • I LOVE YOU!! • THAT NEW DRESS LOOKS VERY NICE ON YOU! Communication OUR WORDS SHOULD STRENGTHEN A MARRIAGE: • THANKS FOR DINNER, THAT WAS REALLY GOOD! • I LOVE YOU!! • THAT NEW DRESS LOOKS VERY NICE ON YOU! LET YOUR SPEECH BE ALWAYS WITH GRACE, SEASONED WITH SALT, THAT YE MAY KNOW HOW YE OUGHT TO ANSWER EVERY MAN – COLOSSIANS 4:6 Communication ACTIVELY PROMOTE OUR SPOUSE – EVEN WHEN THEY ARE NOT PRESENT BE A PEACEMAKER LET US THEREFORE FOLLOW AFTER THE THINGS THAT MAKE FOR PEACE, AND THINGS WHEREWITH ONE MAY EDIFY ANOTHER – ROMANS 14:19 Verbal Communication • ASK WHEN WOULD BE A GOOD TIME (TO BRING UP A CONCERN) • SAY WHAT YOU MEAN • AVOID AN ACCUSATORY TONE OF VOICE Non-Verbal Communication • TONE OF VOICE • BODY LANGUAGE • FACIAL EXPRESSIONS Listening • ARE YOU REALLY LISTENING, OR ARE YOU THINKING OF WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO REPLY? HE THAT ANSWERETH A MATTER BEFORE HE HEARETH IT, IT IS FOLLY AND SHAME UNTO HIM – PROVERBS 18:13 • BE AWARE OF NON-VERBALS AND VIBES • ARE YOU FOCUSING? • REPEAT BACK WHAT YOU HEARD • YOU DON’T HAVE TO ALWAYS AGREE • GIVE TIME FOR A RESPONSE Communication • PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES – ARE YOU A CONDENSER OR AN EXPANDER? • CHOOSE -
The Relationship Between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity
Athens Journal of Social Sciences- Volume 4, Issue 4 – Pages 385-398 The Relationship between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity By Ricardo Pinto † Joana Arantes The main aim of the present study is to relate, for the first time, the sexual and emotional sides of infidelity, that is characterized by any form of close physical or emotional involvement with another person while in a committed relationship with promiscuity, which is typically defined by the search for the maximum sexual pleasure or how easily and often someone falls in love. Another aim was to investigate potential sex differences within both domains. For that, 369 participants (92 males and 277 females) answered to an online questionnaire that collected information about infidelity and promiscuity. More specifically, participants were asked to complete the revised Sociosexual Orientation Inventory (SOI-R), the Emotional Promiscuity (EP) Scale, and the Sexual and Emotional Infidelity (SEI) scale. In addition, some sociodemographic questions, as well as history of infidelity questions, were also asked. The analyses included Pearson correlations, ANOVA and t-tests. Results show that all domains are related, specifically sexual and emotional infidelity with sexual and emotional promiscuity. Keywords: Emotional promiscuity, Emotional infidelity, Sex differences, Sexual infidelity, Sexual promiscuity. Introduction In a world where infidelity and promiscuity are increasingly experienced (Brand et al. 2007, Jones and Paulhus 2012), few studies have focused on their emotional and sexual domains. The infidelity and the promiscuity can have an important impact on individuals and on intimate relationships (Silva et al. n.d., Vangelisti and Gerstenberger 2004). For example, the infidelity is one of the most common reasons for divorce and couple therapy (Glass and Wright 1992). -
Topics in Human Sexuality: Sexuality Across the Lifespan Adulthood/Male and Female Sexuality
Most people print off a copy of the post test and circle the answers as they read through the materials. Then, you can log in, go to "My Account" and under "Courses I Need to Take" click on the blue "Enter Answers" button. After completing the post test, you can print your certificate. Topics in Human Sexuality: Sexuality Across the Lifespan Adulthood/Male and Female Sexuality Introduction The development of sexuality is a lifelong process that begins in infancy. As we move from infancy to adolescence and adolescence to adulthood, there are many sexual milestones. While adolescent sexuality is a time in which sexual maturation, interest and experience surge, adult sexuality continues to be a time of sexual unfolding. It is during this time that people consolidate their sexual orientation and enter into their first mature, and often long term, sexual relationships. This movement towards mature sexuality also has a number of gender-specific issues as males and females often experience sexuality differently. As people age, these differences are often marked. In addition to young and middle age adults, the elderly are often an overlooked group when it comes to discussion of sexuality. Sexuality, however, continues well into what are often considered the golden years. This course will review the development of sexuality using a lifespan perspective. It will focus on sexuality in adulthood and in the elderly. It will discuss physical and psychological milestones connected with adult sexuality. Educational Objectives 1. Discuss the process of attaining sexual maturity, including milestones 2. Compare and contrast remaining singles, getting married and cohabitating 3. -
Guilt, Shame, and Grief: an Empirical Study of Perinatal Bereavement
Guilt, Shame, and Grief: An Empirical Study of Perinatal Bereavement by Peter Barr 'Death in the sickroom', Edvard Munch 1893 A thesis submitted in fulfilment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy Centre for Behavioural Sciences Faculty of Medicine University of Sydney November, 2003 Preface All of the work described in this thesis was carried out personally by the author under the auspices of the Centre for Behavioural Sciences, Department of Medicine, Faculty of Medicine, University of Sydney. None of the work has been submitted previously for the purpose of obtaining any other degree. Peter Barr OAM, MB BS, FRACP ii The investigator cannot truthfully maintain his relationship with reality—a relationship without which all his work becomes a well-regulated game—if he does not again and again, whenever it is necessary, gaze beyond the limits into a sphere which is not his sphere of work, yet which he must contemplate with all his power of research in order to do justice to his own task. Buber, M. (1957). Guilt and guilt feelings. Psychiatry, 20, p. 114. iii Acknowledgements I am thankful to the Department of Obstetrics and Department of Neonatology of the following hospitals for giving me permission to approach parents bereaved by stillbirth or neonatal death: Royal Prince Alfred Hospital, Royal Hospital for Women, Royal North Shore Hospital and Westmead Hospital. I am most grateful to Associate Professor Susan Hayes and Dr Douglas Farnill for their insightful supervision and unstinting encouragement and support. Dr Andrew Martin and Dr Julie Pallant gave me sensible statistical advice. -
Cohabitation Part 1 of 2 American College of Pediatricians – March 2015
Cohabitation Part 1 of 2 American College of Pediatricians – March 2015 ABSTRACT: Contrary to the current perception of many adolescents and young adults who view cohabitation as a substitute for marriage or as a stepping stone to a more secure marriage, studies show that cohabiting unions are more likely to dissolve than marriages and that marriages preceded by cohabitation are more likely to dissolve than marriages that were not preceded by cohabitation. Cohabiting unions are more likely to involve infidelity and also more likely to involve violence. Furthermore, children, whether born prior to, during, or after parental cohabitation, are at increased risk for negative sequelae including premature birth, school failure, lower education, more poverty during childhood and lower incomes as adults, more incarceration and behavior problems, single parenthood, medical neglect and chronic health problems both medical and psychiatric, more substance, alcohol and tobacco abuse, and child abuse. Cohabiting women are also more likely to choose to end their child’s life prior to birth. Part I. Effects of cohabitation on the men and women involved. Incidence and attitudes Cohabitation has increased exponentially in the US over the last few decades. From 1987 to 2002, the number of women aged 35-39 who had ever cohabitated increased from 30% to 61%. More young people are first cohabitating than first marrying.1 Incidence Cohabitation only Cohabitation then Marriage without marriage prior cohabitation Men 15% 28% 18% Women 15% 28% 23% In addition, the percent of cohabitating couples who married in the subsequent 3 years decreased from 60% in the 1970’s to about 33% in the 1990’s. -
Attractiveness and Spousal Infidelity As Predictors Of
Human Ethology Bulletin 29 (2014)1: 18-38 Research Articles ATRCTIVENESS AND SPOUSAL INFIDELITY AS PREDICTORS OF SEXUAL FULFILLMENT WITHOUT THE MARRIAGE PARTNER IN COUPLES FROM FIVE CULTURES Nicole T Nowak1, Glenn E Weisfeld2, Olcay Imamoğlu3, Carol C Weisfeld4, Marina Butovskaya5, Jiliang Shen6 1University of Wisconsin, Department of Psychology, Milwaukee, US [email protected] 2Wayne State University, US 3Middle East Technical University, TR 4University of Detroit Mercy, US 5Russian Academy of Sciences, Cross-Cultural Psychology & Human Ethology, RU 6Beijing Normal University, CN ABSTRCT Tis paper explores the cross-cultural prevalence and predictors of extramarital sexual fulfllment and in doing so tests some predictions derived fom evolutionary considerations. Although most adults, across cultures, believe that infdelity, particularly by the female, is ‘wrong’ and infdelity is ofen the cause of divorce and violence, the behavior is widespread. Evolutionists have noted various ftness advantages to be gained fom sexual infdelity. With such a strong theoretical base for specifc predictions about infdelity, it is surprising that few conclusions can be drawn about the predictors of the behavior in married couples. Our study of married couples fom China, Russia, Turkey, the United Kingdom (UK), and the United States (US) revealed that love of the spouse, fequency of fnding non-partners atractive, and self- reported extramarital sexual fulfllment of the spouse predicted fequency of sexual fulfllment outside of marriage. Cultural similarities and diferences are discussed. Key words: sex diferences, cross-cultural, infdelity, atractiveness, marriage _________________________________________________________ INTRODUCTION Litle cross-cultural research has been conducted on predictors of sexual infdelity in married couples, although the universal existence of the behavior has been documented (reviewed in Baker & Bellis, 1995; Huber, Linhartova, & Cope, 2004). -
ROUSE-DISSERTATION-2020.Pdf (646.5Kb)
REUNITED AND IT FEELS SO GOOD? THE LIVED EXPERIENCE OF USING TECHNOLOGY TO RECONNECT WITH OLD FLAMES/LOST LOVES: A QUALITATIVE STUDY A DISSERTATION SUBMITTED IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF THE REQUIREMENTS FOR THE DEGREE OF DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPHY IN THE GRADUATE SCHOOL OF THE TEXAS WOMAN’S UNIVERSITY DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN DEVELOPMENT, FAMILY STUDIES, & COUNSELING COLLEGE OF PROFESSIONAL EDUCATION BY THELMA L. ROUSE, M.B.A., M.A. DENTON, TEXAS AUGUST 2020 Copyright ©Thelma L. Rouse, 2020 all rights reserved. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS With God all things are possible and through Christ I can do all things. I would like to thank God Almighty for surrounding me with such a wonderful support system to finish this portion of my journey. He placed a lot of awesome people and great opportunities in my life along this journey. As I continue to run this race. I look forward to so much more. To my husband Herman and my daughters, Imani and Iyana, I love you all very much and I thank you for the many times you have provided a listening ear, as I pondered various ideas over the course of my study at Texas Woman’s University or when you volunteered to be my “road dawgs” as I commuted to campus for various reasons. I like to thank my fur babies Coco and Ditto for remaining dutifully by my side to offer a belly to rub, a wet nose kiss, or a snuggle at my feet while I studied. To my dissertation committee, Dr. Brock, Dr. Hwang, and Dr. Ladd, I am grateful for your guidance and reassurance throughout this portion of my academic career. -
Links of Spiritual Intimacy with Observed Emotional Intimacy and Perceived Marital Quality Among Couples During Their First Pregnancy
LINKS OF SPIRITUAL INTIMACY WITH OBSERVED EMOTIONAL INTIMACY AND PERCEIVED MARITAL QUALITY AMONG COUPLES DURING THEIR FIRST PREGNANCY Emily A. Padgett A Thesis Submitted to the Graduate College of Bowling Green State University in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of MASTER OF ARTS December 2010 Committee: Annette Mahoney, Advisor Kenneth Pargament Alfred DeMaris ii ABSTRACT Annette Mahoney, Advisor This study explores the role that spiritual intimacy plays in marital relationships of couples who are expecting their first child. Spiritual intimacy is defined as spouses disclosing their beliefs and feelings regarding spirituality to each other and providing empathetic support about such disclosures. One hundred seventy eight married couples reported on spiritual intimacy and four areas of marital quality (i.e., use of collaboration to discuss conflict, general marital satisfaction, marital love, and spiritual satisfaction with the marriage). Each couple was also video-recorded having a ten minute conversation about their vulnerabilities related to becoming a parent to obtain a direct assessment of the degree of emotional intimacy and warmth shared by the couple. Specifically, the observed interactions were coded for each partner’s use of positive self disclosure, and positive support given to partner. In addition, couples were coded on the degree of general negativity and general affection and warmth the spouses exhibited toward each other. Wife and husband self-reports of spiritual intimacy correlated with observations of greater positive support, warmth/affection and less negativity during emotionally intimate interactions, and with both spouses’ self-reports of marital love and spiritual satisfaction, and wives’ marital satisfaction. Spiritual intimacy also predicted unique variance for these variables after controlling for demographic variables and general religiousness. -
Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy
UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones 12-1-2012 Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy Jordan Mark Staples University of Nevada, Las Vegas Follow this and additional works at: https://digitalscholarship.unlv.edu/thesesdissertations Part of the Counseling Psychology Commons, and the Marriage and Family Therapy and Counseling Commons Repository Citation Staples, Jordan Mark, "Couples' Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy" (2012). UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones. 1779. http://dx.doi.org/10.34917/4332760 This Thesis is protected by copyright and/or related rights. It has been brought to you by Digital Scholarship@UNLV with permission from the rights-holder(s). You are free to use this Thesis in any way that is permitted by the copyright and related rights legislation that applies to your use. For other uses you need to obtain permission from the rights-holder(s) directly, unless additional rights are indicated by a Creative Commons license in the record and/ or on the work itself. This Thesis has been accepted for inclusion in UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones by an authorized administrator of Digital Scholarship@UNLV. For more information, please contact [email protected]. COUPLES’ PROCESS OF HEALING FROM INFIDELITY WHILE IN THERAPY By Jordan M. Staples Bachelor of Science, Psychology Brigham Young University 2010 A thesis submitted in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the Master of Science Degree in -
Intimacy, Sexuality, and Early-Stage Dementia the Changing Marital Relationship
ACT_10_2_63-77 10/4/09 06:25 PM Page 63 RESEARCH Intimacy, Sexuality, and Early-Stage Dementia The Changing Marital Relationship BY PHYLLIS BRAUDY HARRIS, PHD, LISW, ACSW When one’s marital partner receives a diagnosis of dementia, it has major ramifications for a couple. Such a diagnosis affects every aspect of marital life, including the most intimate areas. This qualitative study (1) focuses on the perspectives of married couples, caregivers, and their spouses in the early-stage dementia as they discuss their intimate relationships, both positive and negative aspects, (2) identifies how they cope with these changes to their marital relationship, and (3) develops evidenced-based recommendations for other couples in the early stages of dementia and for their healthcare providers. Key words: Alzheimer’s disease, intimacy, marital relationships, sexuality We grow up with an understanding that your job and turn 60 at a rate of 330 persons every hour.In addition,the what you do is who you are. And if you can’t do Alzheimer’s Association estimates that there are 500 000 that.… And I think sexuality is the same thing.What people in the United States younger than 65 years do we hear on television? All kinds of stuff, a good life, a good relationship, is two people sitting in matching (younger onset) who also have AD or other types of 1–3 bath tubs looking at the sun go down and being ex- dementia. Thus, AD is a significant and mounting con- cited because their Viagra is kicking in.But that is not cern for older adults, their families, and the community. -
Swinging High Or Low? Measuring Self-Esteem in Swingers
G Model SOCSCI-1537; No. of Pages 8 ARTICLE IN PRESS The Social Science Journal xxx (2018) xxx–xxx Contents lists available at ScienceDirect The Social Science Journal journal homepage: www.elsevier.com/locate/soscij Swinging high or low? Measuring self-esteem in swingers ∗ Amanda S. Ruzansky, Marissa A. Harrison Psychology Program, Penn State Harrisburg, PA, USA a r t i c l e i n f o a b s t r a c t Article history: This study sought to examine the self-esteem of individuals involved in a consensually Received 30 May 2017 non-monogamous relationship, the swinging lifestyle. Utilizing the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Received in revised form 17 October 2018 Scale, the self-esteem of swingers was quantified and compared to a general sample. The Accepted 19 October 2018 results reveal that swingers have higher self-esteem. However, gender differences emerged Available online xxx in post hoc analyses whereby men who engage in swinging have higher self-esteem, but women who engage in swinging have self-esteem comparable to others. Results are dis- Keywords: cussed in terms of evolutionary and clinical importance. Limitations and future directions Swinging are also discussed. The lifestyle Self-esteem © 2018 Published by Elsevier Inc. on behalf of Western Social Science Association. Sex differences CNM Evolutionary 1. Introduction In fact, there is evidence to suggest that those in CNMs may have increased positive traits. Kimberly and Hans Frequently in our social world when people hear of (2017) interviewed 16 married heterosexual couples who individuals or couples who engage in consensual non- engaged in swinging.