igniting your shabbat services

Chukat HOW TO USE THIS GUIDE

Hello and welcome to Spark! Spark is aimed at facilitating the smooth running of Toddlers’ Services, Children’s Services and Youth Services across United Synagogue communities. Firstly, thank you for offering to run a Children’s Service in your local shul. The US is very proud of the numerous Children’s services that are run every week across the UK. We would not be able to do this without you! Spark has been designed in order to help you run your Children’s Services. Obviously, every Children’s Service is different, in terms of how many children there are; what their age range is; its length; and how knowledgeable the children are likely to be of this week’s parasha. Ideally, where possible, a Children’s Service should consist of some time used to discuss the weekly parasha and some time devoted to davening. Spark gives you an overview of the weekly parasha, a song, activity, discussion or Dvar linked to the parasha or any important event that week. It is separated into sections for different age groups but often you will find that an activity in one section will be suitable for children in another section. So, please take the time to read through it all – I know you are busy people but it will help you and ultimately the children. Please also try to read Spark during the week as sometimes some props will be needed. It will give you a chance to find them. It is important to note that Spark should help you to run Children’s Services, but it does not completely run it for you. It is not designed to give to one of the children to read out to the group for them to run themselves. You are running the Children’s Service, and Spark is here to help you do it.

I hope that you and the children in your service will benefit from Spark2. As always your feedback would be welcomed. Shabbat Shalom, Sharon Radley [email protected]

2 PARASHA SUMMARY Chukat

Parasha Summary…

nn The parasha begins with a discussion regarding the of the Adumah- the . nn and die. nn The Jewish people protest about the lack of . This is because the well of water in the desert was a gift from God in Honour of Miriam. It dried up when she died. nn God commands Moshe to bring water by speaking to the rock, but instead Moshe hits the rock. Water streams out of the rock but Moshe is banned by God from entering Eretz Yisrael. nn attacks and is defeated. nn and Moav refuse to allow the Jewish people to pass through their land to enter Eretz Yisrael. nn Israel goes to battle with the people of and and are victorious.

3 PRE-NURSERY TO RECEPTION Tots Chukat

Toddler’s Service The parasha this week tells us about the death of Moshe’s brother, Aaron. We are told how sad the Jewish people were when he passed away and how much they loved him and missed him. The reason for this great affection was that Aaron always tried to make peace between people. He would go out of his way to build peaceful relationships. We can learn from Aaron to be kind and friendly to people and to always try to make peace. Activity One: Friendship Ask the children to sit in a circle. One child should sit in the centre of the circle and have a blindfold. Anther child should be chosen and stand behind the child in the centre. They should disguise their voice and say three facts about themselves in the disguised voice. The child in the centre must guess who it is. Activity Two: Friendship The children should sit in a circle. One child goes out of the room and another is chosen to hide. Remove the chair that the hidden child was sitting on and close up the circle. When the child is hidden ask the child outside to enter the room and work out who is missing. The children will think about who is in the group and learn facts about each other thus promoting friendship and strengthening bonds. Link it back to Aaron.

Song nn ‘Ve’Ahavta Leraiacha Kamocha’ ‘ Love your neighbor as yourself’ – for the words and tune go to YouTube . nn ‘Please don’t fight!’ to the tune of: ‘Twinkle Twinkle Little Star’ Please don't fight, ‘cause it's not right, Take my hands and hold on tight. Best of friends we now will be Wont you'll come and play with me. Please don't fight, ‘cause it's not right, Take my hands and hold on tight. Children’s Service

4 CHILDREN’S SERVICE Years 3-6 Chukat

The parasha this week tells us about the death of Moshe’s brother, Aaron. We are told how sad the Jewish people were when he passed away and how much they loved him and missed him.

The reason for this great affection was that Aaron always tried to make peace between people. He would go out of his way to build peaceful relationships.

We can learn from Aaron to be kind and friendly to people and to always try to make peace.

Activity: Friendship

Take a bag of coloured sweets and ask each child to take a few. Try not to specify how many they should take unless children are grabbing handfuls. You are aiming at about two to five per child. Give a different category to each colour. For example blue may be family, green may be school, red could be hobbies. You may want to prepare a poster before Shabbat with all the colours and their categories. Now explain to the children for each colour they have in their hand they need to say something from that category about themselves. If they are holding a blue they should explain anything they like about their family, green would be what school they attend.

After they have said their facts they can eat the sweet! Go around the circle.

Remember to check allergy guidelines.

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Discussion on the activity:

nn In our game we learned more about each other. Getting to know each other will strengthen our friendships. In the parasha this week we are told about the death of Aaron. nn We are told in Pirkei Avot that Aaron, (who died in the parasha this week – see above) ‘loved peace and persued peace.’ Our tell us that if Aaron knew that a person was doing wrong he wouldn’t go over to them and rebuke them and criticize them but he would befriend them pretending he thought they were a good person. Eventually the sinner would think to himself, “What would my friend Aaron think if he knew I was a sinner behind his back. I had better repent and stop my evil ways.” We are further told that if Aaron knew that two people were in an argument he would go up to one of them and say that he just saw their friend weeping away that they miss their friend and that they are so sad that they have upset them. Aaron would then go to the other party in the argument and say the exact same story. That way when the two people in the dispute next met each other they would hug, kiss and resolve their problems. That is why in the Torah when Aaron dies it says, ‘All of Israel cried for him’ whereas when Moshe died is says ‘Israel cried for him.’ Aaron was loved by all and every person personally felt his loss. nn Did you ever get into a fight that you didn’t want to get into? How did you resolve it? nn What skills do you think you need in order to make peace? nn Do you think you should try to be like Aaron and get involved the disputes of other people in order to make peace ?

6 YOUTH SERVICE Ages - 12-18 Chukat

Please see the activities and discussion points for year 6 above. They may be appropriate for your group. The discussion below is of a higher level and only suitable for a more mature group. Choose the one that is the best fit!

Dvar Torah

This week's parasha begins with the of the’ Red Cow ‘– the Parah Adumah. T he tells a fascinating story…..

The breastplate worn by the Gadol (High Priest) held twelve precious stones, one for each of the tribes of Israel. Once, the stone for fell out and was lost. The sages immediately tried to find a replacement, and were told to go to a non-Jew, Damah ben Nesinah. They approached Damah and asked if he would sell them the jewel. ‘Yes’, he replied, and they settled on a price of 100 dinars (quite a bit of money in those days).

When he went to get the stone however, Damah found that the key to the chest containing the stone was in the hands of his father, who was fast asleep.

Damah returned to the sages, and told them that although he had the jewel, he could not give it to them.

They thought he had changed his mind about the price, so offered him more money, with their bid escalating to 1,000 dinars.

Just then, Damah heard his father awake, so he went and brought them the stone. The sages, elated that their mission was accomplished, began to count the 1,000 dinars that had been their final offer.

Damah refused. He told them. "I refuse to take more than the original 100 dinars!"

How did God repay him?

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That night a Parah Adumah was born to him. The came and paid him for it the cow's weight in . Nothing happens by chance!

Discuss: nn Why was this non-Jew, who was so meticulous in honoring his parents rewarded by being given a Parah Adumah?

The mitzvot of the Torah can be divided into two main categories; ‘Chukim and ’. Mishpatim are the mitzvot which appeal to our sense of logic and morality. For example, don't kill, don't steal, honor your father and mother. Chukim are mitzvot that have no direct connection with human character and morality - they are simply laws which God commands us to obey. For example, Kashrut; tzitzit, tefilin. The Parah Adumah is the ultimate chuk. Its laws defy all logic! The ashes of the Parah Adumah are used to purify one who has become ritually impure, yet a person who is ritually pure who comes in contact with its ashes is rendered impure!

Sometimes the lines of division between chukim and mishpatim are not always clear. Sometimes a mishpat can become a chuk. E.g. it is forbidden to kill someone even to release him from excruciating pain of a terminal illness. Although this may not appeal to our sense of logic, the does not change. We must accept this out of faith, even if we do not understand it. We accept that Gods wisdom is beyond our own and that there are reasons behind His commandments.

Damah did not stop honouring his parents just because it had ceased to be logical. He elevated the mitzvah to a higher level, to that of chok. Even when it made no sense, he still honored his father. That night a Parah Adumah was born to him. Damah had defied logic and reason, and received his reward from a mitzvah whose very existence defies logic and reason.

The mitzvah of the Parah Adumah teaches us that we are commanded to fulfill mitzvot without questioning their logic. However at the same time we are also obligated to try to understand the reasons behind the mitzvot so that we can grow from them. nn How do we do this? (There are many sources that analyze the reasons behind the mitzvot. Sources such as the Sefer Hachinuch or commentaries by Hirsch are good places to start. nn What do you find more difficult to keep,chukim or mishpatim? Why?

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I hope you find our guide to this week’s Parsha useful. I would be grateful for any feedback.

Please remind the children of the exciting Tribe programmes in your shul and also to look on the US website for current Tribe central events.

Shabbat Shalom

Sharon Radley

[email protected]

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