Vol. LVII, No. 14 April 17, 2015 28 Nisan 5775 Rabbi Waxman’s Memory Is Being Honored At Special Program On Weekend of May 8-9 AJC’s Rabbi Noam Marans To Address Congregation In memory of Rabbi Mordecai Wax- man, who served as the spiritual leader of Temple Israel for 55 years, a weekend of dis- cussions will feature a topic of great impor- tance to him: improved dialogue between world Jewry and the Catholic church. Rabbi Noam E. Marans, who over- sees national interfaith outreach, dialogue and advocacy for the American Jewish Committee, will be the Waxman Memorial Program speaker at a Friday evening din- ner as well as a Shabbat Talk following ser- vices on May 8 and 9. Eight previous Waxman Memorial Programs hosted dignitaries including His Eminence William Cardinal Keeler, Rabbi Harold Kushner, Jewish Theological Seminary Chancellor Arnold Eisen, National Council of Synagogues Director Rabbi Gilbert Rosenthal, and Rabbi David Ackerman, among others. Rabbi Waxman was instrumental in improving relations with Catholics, meeting on a number of oc- casions with Pope John Paul II. Following a meeting with the Pope in Representing American Jewry, Temple Israel’s Rabbi Mordecai Waxman met with Pope John 1987 at Castel Gondolfo, the Pope’s summer Paul II in 1997. Their meeting led to better relations between the Catholic Church and Jews. residence, Rabbi Waxman delivered an ad- Religions of the Second Vatican Council.” Waxman’s memory in this historic year dress to the Pope on behalf of the American The declaration gave a new protocol for how between Catholics and Jews by having Jewish community at an historic meeting Catholics should view Jews, and by extension Rabbi Marans speak at Temple Israel,” said in Miami. In 1998, he was given the highest changed the nature of the relationship be- Marc Katz, chair of the Waxman Memorial honor presented by the Catholic Church to tween members of the two religious commu- Committee. He urged the congregation to non-Church clergy, naming him a Knight nities. The core of the Nostra Aetate was a con- attend this important program. Commander of Saint George the Great. demnation of anti-Semitism and a rejection of In his multifaith work, Rabbi Marans Rabbi Waxman was the fourth Jew and the the charge of deicide—that Jews were forever develops and strengthens relationships ÀUVWUDEELWREHKRQRUHGE\WKH&KXUFK responsible for the death of Jesus Christ. It with a wide variety of religious groups to Rabbi Waxman played an impor- ZDVDUHYLVLRQRIWKHWZRPLOOHQQLXPRIÀFLDO enhance mutual understanding, freedom of tant role in the Catholic Church issuing a Christian teaching on Jews. The church for- religious expression and support for Israel. Nostra Aetate (Latin for “In Our Time”) dur- mally condemned “hatred, persecutions, and He is the husband of Temple Israel Director ing a Vatican Council held 50 years ago. displays of anti-Semitism directed against of Congregational Schools Rabbi Amy Roth. The Council issued a “Declaration on the Jews at any time and by anyone.” Rabbi Marans will speak following a Relation of the Church With Non-Christian ´,WLVPRVWÀWWLQJWKDWZHKRQRU5DEEL ——Continued on page 7 A VOICE GUEST COLUMN A VOICE GUEST COLUMN

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EDITOR’S NOTE: Scores of Temple Israel members are preparing for Shabbat Koleinu— EDITOR’S NOTE: TI Bonds, one of Temple the all congregant led weekend of services—and more parts are still available. And, if you ,VUDHO·V QHZ DIÀQLW\ JURXSV LV GHVLJQHG don’t take on a role, you are invited to attend services and support the participants in this just for parents of school-aged children. Guest Column by some of the members of the group’s Steering Committee. Veronica Lurvey, a member of the group’s Steering Committee, invites you to join Shabbat Koleinu, Shabbat of Our Voices, Shabbat Kol Ishah, of Women’s Voices, fol- them. will take place on Friday evening, May 1 lowed by Shabbat Hagever, Shabbat of Men’s through Saturday, May 2. Taught by Cantor Voices, and concludes with Shabbat Koleinu Are you a Temple Israel parent with Raphael Frieder over a period of months, close in the third year. Each of these Shabbatot rep- children in nursery school through high to 50 congregants are preparing to lead all of resented a wonderful learning opportunity school? If so, then you are already a mem- and community-building experience for the ber of TI Bonds, whether you realized it …close to participants, and met with great acclaim by RUQRW7,%RQGVLVD7HPSOH,VUDHODIÀQLW\ the entire congregation. This year’s Shabbat group that was formed just for you. 50 congregants are Koleinu promises to be no exception. TI Bonds organizes social and educa- Congregants of multiple generations tional events for parents with children in preparing to lead all will lead all 6KDEEDWW·ÀORW, as well as Torah nursery school through high school. These and Haftarah readings. The congregation RIWKH6KDEEDW6HUYLFHV will also be treated to D’vrei Torah, given by Koleinu participants. The celebration TI Bonds is a the Shabbat Services. They are hopeful that of Shabbat Koleinu will include a commu- hundreds more from the congregation will at- nity Shabbat dinner in the Grand Ballroom 7HPSOH,VUDHODIÀQLW\ tend Services in support of the endeavor. following the services on Friday night. This will be the second Shabbat Koleinu Catered by Lederman Caterers, the dinner group that was formed and the sixth laity-led Shabbat at Temple will also feature our own Rabbi Seth Adel-

Israel. The alternating cycle began with ——Continued on page 4 MXVWIRU\RX events, which are typically free, deliver a FROM THE RABBI combination of fun, quality time with other Temple Israel parents, as well as education- al experiences. We welcome you to join us! As parents ourselves, the TI Bonds Steering 0DNLQJ)DPLO\+LVWRU\ Committee knows that the school years are very busy times. This is why we schedule quality By Rabbi Howard Stecker events several times a year at various times of the week, to make it easier for parents to attend. Watching one of her granddaughters ourselves leading a seder even though, for TI Bonds social events are wonder- display a lack of sensitivity toward another years, we were accustomed to having it led ful, casual opportunities to meet and have granddaughter, the so-called “Dowager by someone else. We may discover that we fun with other Temple Israel parents. Countess” chose not to keep quiet. “A lack are watching others introduce a boyfriend Attendees, both fathers and mothers, have of compassion can be as vulgar as an excess or girlfriend to the family and we may re- remarked how nice it is to have time set of tears,” she told the empathy-challenged aside to spend with other Temple Israel young woman. What is the parents. Often, we see friends or acquain- Downton Abbey, the British series tances around the synagogue, whether dur- about an aristocratic family and the men intergenerational ing drop-off or pick-up, or on Shabbat, but and women who serve them, features many do not get the opportunity to say more than memorable characters but none, to my elevator speech a few words. Yet, there is so much to share! mind, more compelling than the venerable TI Bonds social events may be hosted at matriarch of the family, played by Dame that expresses our Temple Israel, which is super convenient, or Maggie Smith. at the homes of congregants, which adds to On the last day of Passover, I invoked IDPLO\·VFRUHYDOXHV" the fun. Our most recent social events have the Dowager Countess as a character who included a wonderful musical evening called keeps the history and legacy of her family call when we were the ones bringing some- the “TI Bonds Beit Café,” which was held last alive. Through her words and actions, she one new to the table. December at the beautiful home of a Temple FODULÀHVWKHHVVHQWLDOYDOXHVRIWKHIDPLO\ Against the backdrop of life’s inevi- Israel family. New and old friends mingled over For Jews, Passover provides an annual table changes, showcased on Passover but delicious desserts (some homemade), wine and lens through which we note the passage of present all year long, we are likely to sense coffee. Guests were treated to informal musi- time and the unfolding of the generations. our own role in conveying our family his- cal entertainment by our clergy as well as oth- From one year to the next, we note who tory and articulating our family’s legacy. er parents. There was also a rousing and fun is gone and who is newly arrived as roles We may not be as pithy as the Dowager sing-along. From “Piano Man” to “Jerusalem VKLIW JUDGXDOO\ RU VXGGHQO\:H PD\ ÀQG ——Continued on page 5 ——Continued on page 7 ——2—— IN MEMORIAM UPCOMING EVENTS AT TEMPLE ISRAEL Temple Israel extends condolences April 18 “Niggun Circle” led by Cantor Frieder following Kiddush to the family of: 19 Singles Connection 11:00 A.M. Planning Breakfast Meeting DORA LEAR 19 Annual Journal Dinner Dance 5:00 P.M. esteemed member of Temple Israel Honoring Susan Wagner and Alan Klinger 20 Sisterhood Board Meeting 10:00 A.M. May her memory be for a blessing. 21 Sisterhood Lunch and Read Club Noon 21 Waxman Youth House Yom HaShoah Ceremony 6:00 P.M. 22 Yom Hazikaron MAZAL TOV TO . . . 23 Yom Ha’Atzmaut ‡ 6WHSKDQLH DQG 5XVVHOO %DLO\Q on the 23 Men’s Club Meeting 7:00 P.M. birth of their son, Oliver Scott Bailyn. 24 Beth HaGan Tot Shabbat Experience 5:00 P.M. ‡)UDQDQG0DUF/DQJVQHUon the birth of 26 TI Bonds Parenting Workshop 9:30 A.M. their grandson, Oliver Scott Bailyn. 26 Family B’nai Mitzvah Workshop 10:30 A.M. Led by Rabbi Adelson CANDLE LIGHTING TIMES 26 Shalom Club Dinner Meeting 6:30 P.M. Kindle the Sabbath Lights May 1 Shabbat Koleinu Evening Service followed by Dinner 6:30 P.M. Friday, April 17.....….....……...... 7:18 P.M. 2 Shabbat Koleinu Morning Service 7:30 P.M. Friday, April 24.....….....…...…...... 7:25 P.M. 3 Family B’nai Mitzvah Workshop 10:30 A.M. Led by Rabbi Adelson AILY INYAN IMES 3 EmpTI Nesters Book Talk 6:30 P.M. D M T 4 “The 9 Lives of Theodore Roosevelt” Noon 7KH'DLO\0LQ\DQQHHGV\RX Sponsored by Sisterhood Mon. & Thur. 6:45 A.M. 8:00 P.M. 5 Sisterhood Lunch and Read Club Noon Tues. & Wed. 7:00 A.M. 8:00 P.M. 7 Lag Ba’Omer Friday 7:00 A.M. 6:30 P.M. 8-9 Annual Rabbi Mordecai Waxman Memorial Weekend Sat., Apr. 18 9:00 A.M. 7:00 P.M. With Guest Speaker Rabbi Noam E. Marans Sat., Apr. 25 9:00 A.M. 7:05 P.M. 9 Congregational Shabbat Dinner 7:30 P.M. Sunday 8:15 A.M. 8:00 P.M. 9 Shabbat Talk with Rabbi Noam E. Marans 12:30 P.M. 10 Family B’nai Mitzvah Workshop 9:30 A.M. Congregation Thanks Led by Cantor Frieder Its Kiddush Sponsors 11 Sisterhood Board Meeting 10:00 A.M. Appreciation is expressed by the Tem- 11-14 Beth HaGan Nursery School Art Fair SOH,VUDHORIÀFHUVDQG%RDUGRI7UXVWHHVWR 15 Shalom Club Shabbat Dinner 7:30 P.M. members who have generously sponsored 15-16 Vav Family Retreat Weekend and enhanced the Sabbath kiddush. 16 Niggun Circle led by Cantor Frieder following Kiddush Contributions toward the kiddush on 17 Film Presentation: “A Voice Among the Silent” 7:00 P.M. March 14 were made by Angéle and Rouben Followed by a panel discussion Mahfar in honor of the Bat Mitzvah of their 18 Sisterhood Board Meeting 10:00 A.M. daughter, Natasha, and Daniella Lavian and Jeffrey Khadavi in honor of their Auf Ruf. A contribution toward the kiddush Coming Up With Sisterhood on March 21 was made by Lana Audrey Kalickstein and Steven Richard Friedman in honor of their Auf Ruf. A contribution toward the kiddush on “Lunch and Read Club” March 28 was made by Sheila and Frank Tuesday, April 21 at Noon in the Blue Room Shahery in honor of the Bar Mitzvah of their son, Daniel. Sybil Bank will share her poetry and the process of creating it. Bring a favorite poem, if you’d like, and we will explore reading A ‘Voice’ Reminder poetry aloud as well. You may bring a dairy bag lunch, drinks By Leon Silverberg, Executive Director and dessert will be provided. As reported in the previous edition, we have decided to send The Voice only to those who request a hard copy. All Film: “The 9 Lives of Theodore Roosevelt” others on our mailing list will receive the electronic version only. We thank all Monday, May 4 at Noon in the Blue Room ZKRKDYHUHVSRQGHGDQGQRWLÀHGXVRI Guest speaker: Milton Elis, editor of “The Rough Writer,” the their interests. newsletter for Sagamore Hill, the Roosevelt Home. Lunch is Please note that this change will be free for paid-up Sisterhood members and $15 for their guests. effective May 14, 2015. We thank you again for your RSVP to Karen at 487-3048 or Laura at understanding and cooperation. by Wednesday, April 29.

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Talia Katz Talia Katz will be called to the Torah as a Bat Mitzvah on April 25. She is the daughter of Esther and Lawrence Katz and has a sister, Eden, 11. Talia is a seventh grade student at Great Neck South Middle School, where she is on the honor roll and math team. She also plays in her school orchestra. Talia is a :D[PDQ or 7-8 P.M. To join the class, call cates our teens about the importance of tik- 482-7800. Dinner is $35 per adult and $20 Brent Greenspan at 456-9865. kun olam,” Mr. Mishkin said. “This trip is a per child 12 and under. great legacy to Ben’s life.” ——4—— New Film About Saving Jews from Holocaust Will Be Screened At Temple Israel May 17th Untold efforts by an American diplo- mat who learned about Hitler’s plan for the Jews—directly from the German leader— and then did everything he could to warn the world about the Nazis, is told in a new GRFXPHQWDU\ÀOPWREHVKRZQWRWKHFRQ- gregation on Sunday, May 17. The little known story of Ambassador James G. McDonald is told in the new movie “A Voice Among the Silent,” produced by Is- UDHOLERUQÀOPPDNHU6KXOL(VKHO7KHVFUHHQ- ing will be followed by a panel discussion featuring Ms. Eshel, as well as Holocaust his- torian Laurel Leff, author of “Buried by the Times: The Holocaust And America’s Most Important Newspaper.” The movie, which begins at 7 P.M. in Temple Israel’s Crystal Ballroom, tells the VWRU\RI0U0F'RQDOGDQXQOLNHO\ÀJXUH to play such a central role in Jewish affairs. A Catholic from the Midwest with no spe- cial interest in Jewish matters, he served as the chairman of the Foreign Policy As- sociation in New York. But, during a visit to Germany in 1933, he unexpectedly found himself in a private conversation with the new chancellor of Germany, Adolph Hit- OHUDQGEHFDPHWKHÀUVW$PHULFDQWRKHDU the Fuhrer explicitly vow to “get rid of the Jews.” That shocking experience changed Ambassador McDonald’s life. As the League of Nations High Commissioner for Refugees from Germany, he warned world leaders, including President Frank- lin D. Roosevelt and the future Pope, Pius XII, of the impending doom he foresaw. $PEDVVDGRU-DPHV*0F'RQDOGULJKWLVWKHVXEMHFWRIDQHZÀOPDERXWWKH+RORFDXVW +H ZRUNHG WLUHOHVVO\ WR ÀQG VDIH KDYHQV to be shown at Temple Israel on May 17. He is shown with President Franklin Roosevelt, for Jewish refugees, but the problem was seated. 3KRWRFRXUWHV\RI7KH8QLWHG6WDWHV+RORFDXVW0HPRULDO0XVHXP that no other country was willing to receive them. Mr. McDonald resigned as commis- sioner in 1935 as a protest against the fail- )URPWKH5DEEL0DNLQJ)DPLO\+LVWRU\ ure of the international community to open ——&RQWLQXHGIURPSDJH its doors. &RXQWHVVEXWVXUHO\ZHFDQÀQGZD\VWRVKDUHSDUWLFXODUO\ZLWKWKHQH[WJHQHUDWLRQRXU He became chairman of the President’s sense of our family’s essential values and qualities. Advisory Committee on Political Refugees With Passover behind us, I’d like us to challenge ourselves to consider two things. in 1938. Through his efforts, more than First, how might we distill our family’s essence into a few sentences? What is the 2,000 Jewish refugees came to the United intergenerational elevator speech that expresses our family’s core values? What stories States on the eve of the Holocaust. In 1948 from members of our family, past and present, help to express those values? he was appointed by President Harry Tru- Second, how might we go about sharing this legacy? Holiday times often bring us PDQWRVHUYHDV$PHULFD·VÀUVWDPEDVVDGRU together, though they tend to be noisy and frenetic. Can we steal some moments, possibly to Israel. while preparing for meals or cleaning up afterward, to share stories about ancestors that Mr. McDonald’s work was known to we knew personally to a new generation? Perhaps we can keep a journal with stories, only a handful of scholars until his missing SRHPVRUUHÁHFWLRQVWKDWUHSUHVHQWRXUIDPLO\LQRQHZD\RUDQRWKHU" diaries were discovered in 2003. The diaries Naturally, it isn’t always possible to condense a family’s complex history and identity were recently published in association with into a concise set of principles. I don’t think that’s necessary. After all, the founding family the United States Holocaust Memorial Mu- of the ancient Israelites, our common ancestors, was diverse in personality and character. seum.  %XWVXUHO\LQDGGLWLRQWRRXUSURDFWLYHHIIRUWVZHZLOOÀQGRXUVHOYHVOLNHWKHDQFLHQW For further information about the pre- Biblical patriarch or the wise grandmother in Edwardian England, confronting situations VHQWDWLRQ FDOO WKH 7HPSOH ,VUDHO RIÀFH DW ZKHUHZHVLPSO\QHHGWRVD\VRPHWKLQJ:KHQZHÀQGWKHZRUGVWRVD\LQHIIHFW´WKLVLV 482-7800 or visit www.tign.org. who we are,” then we too will be making history. ——5—— YAD B’YAD FUND Lee Haspel ,QPHPRU\RI Ahron Haspel Helen Miller From Generation Benjamin Smith Gilda Hecht Sandra Levine Harold Fink Mae Anderman Elihu Nemiroff to Generation Arthur Anderman Iris and Charles Adler Sylvia Rotkowitz Sy Rotkowitz PRAYER BOOK FUND Ataollah (Ed) Kalimian ,QPHPRU\RI Hana Sarraf Bronia Rothbaum Lili Kalimian Paul Rothbaum Jacqueline Nesenoff Eileen Zarin Temple Israel Gratefully Acknowledges Florence Gerber Jill and Mitchell Bari Fagin Friedman and family The Following Contributions Maxine Davis Sol Gingold Francine Pickard Laurie Frankel HARRIET SCHIFF EXECUTIVE Blanche Dubofsky Berman Janet Pickard DIRECTOR’S FUND Simmy-Lou Atkins Kremenitzer LIBRARY FUND ,QPHPRU\RI Martin Glasner Sigmund Iscowitz In honor of: Sali Rothschild Warren Glasner Linda Stark Nathaniel Hyman, son of Leopold Schiff Rae W. Miller Nachama Benjamin Sheila and Douglas Hyman, Jacob Schiff Muriel Hyman Sarah Rothstein becoming a Bar Mitzvah Charles Frank Eliyahou John Gabayzadeh Jill and Mitchell RITUAL KIDDUSH FUND Eric Frank Yahya Gabayzadeh Friedman and family ,QPHPRU\RI Caroline Gorelick Emma Scheiner Fred Brash Michael Gorelick Joyce Weston ,QPHPRU\RI Yuval and Vivian Brash Rose Paley Harry Eisenstein Ida Stein Laster Sandra Paley Melvin Eisenstein Rose Rudich ANNE AND MILTON Alex Cramer Hadassah Lifshitz Morris Schapiro SNITKOFF FUND Deborah Welner Ruth Zielenziger Marcia Shapiro ,QPHPRU\RI Caroline Katz Harry Jacob Fanny Berman Jacob Schlosberg Brenda and Lance Greiff Florence Davis Hannah Berman Elaine V. Wolfe Lottie and Bill Blye Beila Gentin Varda and Alan Solomon Benjamin Gentin SAMUEL BARON MUSIC FUND TEMPLE ISRAEL FUND Glenda Kaufman and Jane Heft ,QPHPRU\RI In honor of: family Bobette Bergstein Goldie Levenson Sherry Husney for helping to Carolyn and Larry Frank W. White Gilda Hecht prepare their daughter, Emily, Leibling Nanci Roth for her Bat Mitzvah Vivian and Yuval Brash Saleh Mouallem SHOAH REMEMBRANCE FUND Brenda and Lance Greiff Robert Fainblatt Vicky Mouallem ,QPHPRU\RI Karaoke Night Event Martin Fainblatt Miriam Gemorah Fabian Ferber Committee Charlotte Fainblatt Marsha Levin Renee Hoffman Annie and Jerry Hirsh Mitchell Benjamin Morris Rochman The birth of Harry Simon Thelma Benjamin Toby Gorelick CANTOR FRIEDER’S Rosen, grandson of Sherry Jacqueline Adler Murray Silverstein DISCRETIONARY FUND and Samuel Husney Stacee Bernstein Stanley Silverstein In appreciation of: Ken Kobliner receiving the Hyman Bloom Jeffrey M. Weston Cantor Frieder’s assistance in Federation of Jewish Men’s Leonard Bloom Burton Weston helping their son, Spencer, Clubs’ “Man of the Year” Charles Citron Rachel Pois become a Bar Mitzvah award Harold Citron Yvette Seskin Helene and Ken 6LPRQ.DVKÀUHFHLYLQJWKH Leon Guberman Babette G. Kaye Horowitz Federation of Jewish Men’s Jack Guberman Laurie Damast Clubs’ “Youth of the Year” Soleiman Elias Gabbay Samuel Fried ,QPHPRU\RI award Amir Gabbay Allan Fried Louis Emanuel Rebecca and Sassan Samuel Silberberg Morris H. Rubinstein Trudy Emanuel Sassouni Sally Cohen Barbara Green Floyd Warner Rabbi Stanley Greenstein RABBI ADELSON’S On the occasion of: Freddi and Harvey Kadden Judith Greenstein DISCRETIONARY FUND Completion of the 11 months Eileen Zarin Bruce Levine In honor of: mourning period Ronni Birnbaum and Sandra Levine Their son, Spencer, become a Beverly Horowitz Wally Kopelowitz and Isidore Cohen Bar Mitzvah family Sadie Ruth Cohen Helene and Ken ,QPHPRU\RI Aryeh Lev Pollack Ruth Adise Horowitz Nourollah Fouladian Eli Pollack William Dorman Sima Taeid Leo Fleischman Howard Dorman Contribution: Irving Estrin Frances Finkelstein Sonja Spiel Charles Dimston Renee Kimelman Metric Michael Spiel Ganya B. Spinrad Anna Rapp Pearl (Billie) Charney LIBRARY FUND Elizabeth Ebert Shirley Perlman Amy David ,QPHPRU\RI Joshua S. Charry Hoori Shavolian Anna Katz Caroline Katz Stanley Wallens Shohreh Naim Toby Katz Pearl Glowatz Fannie Fischer Pearl Leah Cohen Arthur Ashkenase Turan Misaghian Elsie Wallens Ira Cohen Donald Ashkenase Manijeh and Jack Jonas Dymond William Kasenetz Rae Cohen Moallem Nancy Frank Jerrold Kasenetz Pauline Cohen ——6—— Guest Column: Giving Your Children What You Had ——Continued from page 2 Was it punishment when you misbe- who is blind in a certain way, not necessar- A congregant of mine at my last posi- haved? Was it shame? ily one who cannot physically see). tion, before I came to Great Neck, told me Was it Judaism? Did they bring you But Dr. Mogel uses this passage to refer the following: “Parenting is about learning to the synagogue, on the High Holidays? to our children, and in doing so I think that to let go. We cannot always be there for our On Shabbat? Was it a love of the Divine, of she sums up all of this quite nicely: FKLOGUHQ:HWHDFKWKHPRXUYDOXHVZHÀOO things unseen? “Keeping too close an eye on our chil- them with useful information, and then Was it a sense of purpose, of belong- dren is a stumbling block. If they don’t have we leave them alone. We cannot always be ing? Was it the drive to succeed? the chance to be bad, they can’t choose to be there to hover over them in case they fall or Dr. Wendy Mogel is an author who good. If they don’t have the chance to fail, make a mistake.” does marvelously what each of us should they can’t learn. And if they aren’t allowed We have to be careful, ladies and gen- do: she uses the texts of Jewish tradition to to face scary situations, they’ll grow up to WOHPHQ QRW WR OHW RXU ORYH VWLÁH RXU FKLO- teach us about our lives today. In particular, be frightened of life’s simplest challenges.” dren. Teach them to swim; don’t be there Waxmanshe has written books Memorialon parenting that see ProgramOur next generation May is indeed 8-9 pre- TI Bond-ing with the life jacket, the noodle, the pole and children and their behavior through the lens ——Continued from front page quiredcious; they and will advance carry our payment body of is learning, neces- the canoe. We have to give them indepen- of ancient Jewish texts. In her book, “The ——&RQWLQXHGIURPSDJH congregational Shabbat dinner on Friday sary.practice They and can values be made into theby future.calling ButSusan we dence. That is what raising the next genera- Blessing of a Skinned Knee,” she points to a Shel Zahav,” from a lovely Havdalah ser- evening beginning at 7:30 P.M. Services atcannot 482-7800. treat them like they are precious. tion is all about. classic statement of Jewish law, from the so- vice to a little opera and Les Miserables, it begin at 6:30 P.M. The cost of the dinner We haveOn Saturday to teach themafternoon to swim. Rabbi We Marans have to I was chatting over this sermon idea called “Holiness Code” of Leviticus (19:14): was an evening to remember! for members of Temple Israel is $18 for willgive speakthem the at independence 12:30 P.M., following that they need ser- with Rabbi Eckstein a few weeks ago, and Do not put a stumbling block in front of the TI Bonds also plans educational adults and $12 for children. For non-mem- vices,WRÁRXULVK on dramatic shifts in American reli- he said something to me which I never blind. (This is one of those classic passag- events. Last year, we focused on health and bers the cost of the dinner is $25 for adults gionsThe and greatest the implications mitzvah of for parenthood support of is would have come up with myself, but I es that simply cries out for interpretation. ÀWQHVV7KLV\HDULQUHVSRQVHWRDQLQWHUHVW and $15 for children. There is no charge to Israel.to let go. Don’t give your children what you think works so well here. He pointed out Rashi tells us that this can refer to anybody expressed by parents for a forum within hear Rabbi Marans’ address following the didn’tFor have; further give them information what you about did have. the to me that parents will often say that they which to discuss parenting issues through dinner. Waxman weekend of events, call the want to give their children what they didn’t the Jewish lens, the next TI Bonds parenting BetweenReservations for thethe dinner Dance are re- 7HPSOH,VUDHORIÀFHDWFloor and Balcony have growing up. But what we should say ——Continued from page 2 event (co-sponsored with TILL) will take place on Sunday, April 26. 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D’VAR TORAH SABBATH SERVICES By Rabbi Marim D. Charry Friday, April 17 N’ranenah/Evening Service 6:30 P.M. Shemini Saturday, April 18 Adult Bat/Bar Mitzvah Class Shabbat Dinner 7:30 P.M. We conclude the laws of the sanctuary in this portion. The reading ‡ opens with a description of proceedings through which the priests Saturday, April 18 EHJLQWKHLUGXWLHV,QWKHPLGVWRIWKLVZHÀQGDQDFFRXQWRIWZRVRQV Morning Service/Shabbat Morning Group $OL\DK 9:00 A.M. of Aaron, Hadab and Abihu, who take it upon themselves to bring Weekly Portion: Shemini; Leviticus 9:1 - 11:47 some kind of unprescribed offering to the altar and are summarily Haftarah: I Samuel 20:18 – 42 struck down. Their death becomes the occasion for God to issue 6DEEDWK6HUYLFH2IÀFHUVDQG*UHHWHUV VSHFLÀFZDUQLQJVWR$DURQDQGDOOWKHSULHVWVWRWDNHVSHFLDOFDUHLQ Miriam Kobliner, Michael Ziegelbaum, carrying out their duties. The remainder of the Book of Leviticus deals Brent Greenspan and Robert Lopatkin with the laws of daily life and provides rules and regulations whose Bat Mitzvah purpose is to raise every aspect of human life to the level of kedusha AUDREY YEGANEH KROLQHVV  7KH ÀUVW PDWWHU WR EH GHDOW ZLWK LV kashrut (the dietary daughter of Shiva and Moiez Yeganeh laws). Details are provided of permitted and forbidden quadrupeds, Junior Congregation 10:30 A.M. ÀVKELUGVDQGLQVHFWV7KHUHDVRQJLYHQIRUWKHVHSUHVFULSWLRQVLVWKDW Toddler Service 11:00 A.M. since God is kadosh (holy) and Israelites are His people, they also must Niggun Circle 1:00 P.M. be kadosh. However this is understood, kashrut serves to help make the Minhah 7:00 P.M. basically animal function of eating something uniquely human. Se’udah Shelishit 7:30 P.M. Tazria-Metzora Saturday, April 25 Ma’ariv 8:04 P.M. This double portion deals with laws of ritual purity. Such purity Havdalah 8:19 P.M. is conceived as a prerequisite for the pursuit ofNHGXVKD Furthermore, ‡ because the Mishkan (sanctuary) was located within the camp of Friday, April 24 ,VUDHOLWHVJUHDWFDUHKDGWREHWDNHQWRHQVXUHLWVSXULW\7KHVSHFLÀF Beth HaGan Tot Shabbat Experience 5:00 P.M. physical conditions dealt with in these portions which gave rise to Shabbat HaMishpachah 6:00 P.M. impurity are childbirth, skin diseases (called leprosy), fungus or some Evening Service 6:30 P.M. other growth on garments and walls (also called leprosy) and bodily ‡ secretions. The priests are charged with the task of determining the Saturday, April 25 QDWXUHRIWKHFRQGLWLRQDQGWKHPHWKRGRISXULÀFDWLRQ6LQFHDOO,VUDHOLWHV Morning Service 9:00 A.M. were obligated to strive to be kadosh in accordance with God’s demand, Weekly Portion: Tazria-Metzora; Leviticus 12:1 - 15:33 WKHPDWWHURIPDLQWDLQLQJDVWDWHRISXULW\ZDVRIJUHDWVLJQLÀFDQFH Haftarah: II Kings 7:3 - 20 6DEEDWK6HUYLFH2IÀFHUVDQG*UHHWHUV Ronald Klempner, Laura Gal, Bring a Friend With You To Seth Horowitz and Joyce Weston

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