Crowne Plaza ~ Warwick, RI The Flea at 50 February 16-18, 2018 Throwback Panel Fri 9:00 PM—Rotunda 50 Prospective Board ® Member Q&A Sun 8:45 AM—Wickford Future of NELA and the FFF Sun 2:00 PM—Tiverton Fetish Fair Fleamarket The Fetish Fair Fleamarket® 50 February, 2018 Hello Beloved Flea-goers!! It’s been 6 years exactly since I wrote a welcome letter for the Fetish Fair Fleamarket™ - and while the circumstance surrounding my writing this letter are not ideal, I am truly honored to be given the assignment. I write it on behalf of the Transition Team - Cecilia, Scott and myself; the three of us have almost half a century of combined experience with every facet of NELA. The only thing the three of us want to do is see that this most historic event – the 50th FFF – comes off without a hitch and that as usual, we provide a safe space for people to explore their interests with no shame or apology. We NEED you to have a fun-filled, SAFE weekend. Please respect the hotel as your home and play responsibly. Our event has never allowed nudity and we ask that in public areas, especially the lobby, you exercise good taste. Please be mindful of accessibility and aware that not everyone has the same abilities. Respect the rules of consensuality. If at any time you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, please seek out a NELA officer or member of our Incident Response Team (IRT). Visit Vendor’s Row as many are open on Friday night at the vendors discretion. Remember! All vendors are not open Friday night. There could be a few last minute programming changes so review the class list and signage on each floor for the most up-to-date information. Hotel guests may purchase admission wristbands Friday between 5pm and 9pm in the lobby. Card- carrying NELA Associates can start shopping at 10:30am Saturday and Sunday, a half hour before the general public. Not a NELA Associate yet? On Saturday you will be able to sign up for a NELA Associate Benefits Card (ABC) which entitles you to free or reduced-price admission to NELA events throughout New England and at events of NELA’s reciprocal groups which stretch from Portland, Maine to Portland, Oregon. NELA is the leading organization in New England for BDSM education, community advocacy and charitable giving. We need YOU to be a part of it all. NELA is looking for new board members and non-board lead officers to make NELA and the FFF better than ever. We’re looking for a diverse group of people with the time, energy, and dedication to serve the many segments of our regional kink/BDSM/leather/fetish communities. Anyone interested is invited to attend and talk to the current board about what it takes to turn passion into action. Join us for coffee, tea, and danishes Sunday morning at 8:45 in Wickford to talk about officer positions, or Sunday 2pm in Tiverton to get involved in running next year’s FFF! Thank you for being a part of history - the longest running, largest, most affordable BDSM event in New England! Cheers, Vivienne Kramer Scott Erickson Cecilia Tan Treasurer Director of Operations FFF Director Contents Cover Credits Welcome 2 Track List 20 IRT 3 Schedule Grid 26 Photographer: Consent 4 Map 29 Photos by the Gent Rules 6 Presenters 32 Model: Community Tables 10 Programming 41 Mackenzie Ryane Vendors 12 — 2 — Welcome CODE OF CONDUCT AND INCIDENT RESPONSE TEAM (IRT) NELA reserves the right to revoke, without refund, the admission tickets or wristbands of anyone for just cause. This may also lead to being banned from future NELA events. We will refund the admission fee of anyone who fnds the policies contained herein unacceptable prior to accepting their wristband. NELA expects attendees, including vendors, volunteers, and staff, to adhere to the Rules detailed here in the program book and to the additional rules that may be posted for the Taster, play party, and other individual events, as well as our general code of conduct regarding consent, consensual behavior, and harassment. Harassment of any kind is not permitted, including but not limited to racial, verbal, physical, and online harassment. Stalking, intimidation, coercion, disregard of safe words or negative signals, and touching without permission are all considered nonconsensual behavior and are in violation of the code of conduct. In the case of an incident where the code of conduct is breached, attendees have the option of reporting to our Incident Response Team (IRT). The IRT may be contacted by (401) 384-0392 Or by email to [email protected] And an IRT member is stationed in the Newport Room during Volunteer Lounge hours. The Incident Response Team follows these principles: • We take all complaints and reports into consideration. • We may initiate signifcant action in response to a single complaint. • We are careful to correctly identify persons in the complaint. • We treat the people making complaints with respect, listen to them, and take the complaints seriously. • When appropriate, we work to bring about a resolution, which mitigates future harm (so far as is possible). At the discretion of the person reporting an incident, the other party and others who were present may be told there is a complaint, but the source of the complaint will not be identifed without their permission. Reporters’ confdentiality will be respected. Incident Response Team (IRT) members are available 24 hours per day throughout the event to assist you. The IRT members are volunteers and are not members of the NELA Board. Any staff member, Dungeon Monitor (DM), Safety Team, or NELA board member can also put you in touch with the IRT. The IRT Process: The IRT person you approach to report an incident may take the report personally or they may help you fnd another member of the IRT to respond or to the take the report. A member of the IRT will make a written report and ask you for the details as needed to understand and attempt to resolve the issue and mitigate further harm. If you give us a name and contact information, we will follow up with you as needed, but we also will accept anonymous reports. We will inform you what our next steps will be and any further action(s) to be taken. If you request a follow up, we will follow up with you and let you know the outcome of the IRT’s actions. If your report requires post-event follow-up, you will hear from the Board or NELA staff by March 15 at the latest, if you gave us your contact info. — 3 — Fetish Fair Fleamarket® 50 Some very important words about consent from NELA: Recently, consent violations have been the subject of both national news and local incidents, which is why we are bringing you these words and tips about what consent is, how it works, and how it can go wrong. Consent is the lifeblood of the kink community. Consent is defined as “permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.” In kink, it means someone gives their permission for certain acts or types of relationships. Having consent in place during a scene or relationship is what makes that scene or relationship ethical and what differentiates a BDSM or kink relationship from an abusive one. So, how do we establish consent? By negotiating. Negotiation is a “discussion aimed at reaching an agreement,” and in the kink/BDSM world, that discussion is about what things are okay and not okay to occur during the scene or relationship. The exact de- tails of the discussion will differ each time you negotiate, but it is important to negotiate every time you engage in a kinky or sexual interaction with someone. Remember, just because someone has given you the okay once does not mean that they have given you the okay indefinitely! The exception to this is if you have made a long-term agree- ment with a person that states otherwise (generally via a long-term M/s or D/s agree- ment). But even in relationships where this ‘blanket consent’ is in place, it is important to update each other periodically on things that might have changed, such as limits, medical issues, mental health status, etc. Make sure each person has a chance to ex- press any concerns regarding the activities being discussed, and to respect the other person if they set a limit or express that they do not feel comfortable doing something. Here are some other helpful things to remember about consent: -Consent can be withdrawn at any time, either via the use of safe words or via discom- fort being voiced. -Just because you are in a certain dynamic (such as D/s) with someone does not au- tomatically give them ‘blanket consent.’ This must be negotiated. -”Yes” means “yes,” and consider anything else (“maybe,” “I don’t know,” “I’m not sure”) a “no.” Consent should be given enthusiastically, not uncertainly, as this is safest! If we do not negotiate well or if we let communication lapse, we risk violating consent. A consent violation often happens when someone chooses to ignore or crosses some- one’s boundaries .Not every consent violation is a sexual assault (touching someone sexually or performing a sexual act on someone without their permission). Many other things that may not seem “as severe” can also make people feel as if their consent has been violated and need to be taken just as seriously. Consent can be violated accidentally; these mistakes are sometimes called “consent accidents,” because they happen due to miscalculation, miscommunication, or misinterpretation of information.