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VICE PRESIDENT 2 Office: A TIME, 1310 48th Street, Suite 406, Brooklyn, NY 11219. 525 Route 70, Suite A5 / Lakewood, NJ 08701 P: 732.994.5552 / F: 732.994.5553 E: [email protected] Table of 58 Contents Editorial Letter from the Editor 4 Mailbox 6 Timeline 8 Chizuk Leaf of Belief 10 In a Blink of an Eye 15 The Four Sons 16 Medical Living with Purpose 18 Hormonal Imbalance 54 Visionary Soul 20 You Deserve a Break 58 The Lesson of a Tree 24 Beta Levels 59 The Missing Keys 25 The Causes of Recurrent Unsung Heroes 26 Pregnancy Loss 60 Chizuk from Vitamin D and Fertility 62 Within Off the Beaten Track 28 Humor Tax Return 63 The Hole 31 Voicemail 64 Children of Eternity 32 Oops! I'm Sorry 66 Making the Grade 34 Wishlist 36 Bris Musings 37 Playlist Mistaken Identity 38 40 Pesach Blues 68 Regular People Vs. Special People 40 In a Song 69 Dear DH 42 A TIME SHABBATON 2016 70 Support Shasathon 5777 73 What Can I Give? 44 What I Wish I Would Have Known 46 The IF Wait and How to cope 48 Yiddish Waze 50 I Believe 52 Section Not More Than Five 53 44 82-108 A TIME was founded in memory of: PESACH TIKVAH/ SHAAREI 5777 ר׳ ירמי׳ ב״ר אהרן ע״ה • ר׳ מרדכי ע״ה ב״ר אפרים רוזן נ״י 3 Letter from the Editor ,לתפף is תפיםIt was the ultimate moment of Hashem’s salvation that they took The root of the word gilu’i Shechina. Deardrums along Readers,with them. They to strike or knock, and the root of infirmity or ,מחל is מחלת prepared to sing, dance and thank the word Krias Yam Suf, a splendid and Hashem for the redemption they illness. miraculous display of Hashem’s were sure He would send. awesome power. Throughout all the knocks, blows Where did Miriam develop this and strikes, throughout all the Moshe sang with the men, their positive outlook? It was not inherent difficult nisyonos, these righteous accolades and praise rising in her life situation; the sorrowful women recognized that Hashem was heavenward.... “Az yashir Moshe…” setting she was born into was quite there with them in their sorrow. And where were the women? They the opposite. In fact, Miriam’s very They understood that through their were with Miriam, singing their own name alludes to the misery of challenges, through the pain and joyous songs. Mitzrayim. She was named Miriam tears, they can find Hashem. That “al shem hamirur,” for the bitterness knowledge is what kept them going of the exile, for the tears, the pain in their darkest moments as they ותקח מרים הנביא את התוף בידה .and the cruelty the Yidden were anticipated a better future ותצאן כל הנשים אחריה בתפים .dealt with at the time of her birth ובמחלות The mechanism of a drum also And Miriam took a tambourine in And yet, the redemption came proves this concept. A drum that is her hand, and all of the women went from her and women like her: B’zchus sagging and relaxed will not produce forth with tambourines and dances. nashim tzidkaniyos, nigalu Yisrael music. The drum must be taut; the m’Mitzrayim; it is in their merit that tighter it is stretched, the clearer the From where, we can ask, did they we were redeemed. notes are heard.