Week of July 15 – July 22, 2016 • 9 – 16 Tammuz, 5776

Vol. 9 • Issue 21

Canadian Prime Minister 38 Justin Trudeau visited PAGE 3 & 19 Auschwitz with former prisoner Nate Leipciger who emigrated to BACK COVER Canada from his native Poland in 37 1948

HATZOLAH NYPD BASEBALL Will Theresa May, The UK’s New Prime Minister 38 Be Good For Israel? In an increasingly anti-Semitic Beyond the notion that “good for around the world. Indeed, Theresa has Europe, having a British PM who is Israel” implicitly means “supportive been a firm and consistent friend of supportive of Israel is very important. of, or at least not in opposition to, the the Jewish community and Israel, and Many in the press have called Theresa increasingly right-wing government I believe she will continue to stand up May as “probably the most Jew-friend- and the occupation” — a problematic for Jews and the Jewish state as Prime Rabbi Yaakov Klass & Rabbi Mendy ly prime minister in British history.” assumption in and of itself — it’s cu- Minister. Mirocznik at Rabbinical Aliance of America When she visited Israel two years ago, rious and, frankly, frustrating that the Theresa May already has a strong she felt very “enthusiastic” about her Jewish response to any political ap- relationship with the UK’s Jewish IN THIS WEEK’S trip. Also, the fact that Israeli Prime pointment is to ask how the politician community, having addressed a num- Minister Benjamin Netanyahu is will relate to Israel. ber of major communal events. She ISSUE heartily supportive of her appointment The new Prime Minister is certain- played a prominent role in reassuring Trying to Understand gives us an impression that Ms. May ly well versed on the threats facing the the UK’s Jewish community in the im- the Para Adumah would be pro-Israel. Roy Neuberger...... 8 Jewish community in both the UK and CONT. ON P39 See The Whole Person Alan Magill...... 10 What’s Going On? After Christian Zionist lobby’s call, GOP A Lesson From Dallas Breaking Our News Addiction Al Borenstein...... 13 reinstates ‘undivided’ Jerusalem into platform EMUNA BRAVERMAN Beauty and the Beach SEAN SAVAGE Can you go two weeks without following the news? Racheli Fried...... 22 “The news is so bad,” a friend said to me the other day. “I’m The Republican Party has reportedly reinstated language JNS NEWS...... 30 really frightened and worried – but I need to know what’s going endorsing an “undivided” Jerusalem into the party’s plat- on.” Coming Soon: form ahead of its national convention in Cleveland later this Meatless Meat & Chicken “Why do you need to know?” I asked. “Are you campaigning ...... 32 month. to be the next Prime Minister of Britain or President of the US According to CNN, which cited a first draft of the party (both jobs seemingly up in the air and available to just about platform that it obtained, the Republicans would reinstate a anyone!)? Are you sitting on some important intelligence com- CONT. ON P2 CONT. ON P10

,urb ,eksv Dating with Dignity Why Alternative Health Is Booming DR. JOSEPH MERCOLA 9 Tamuz zun, "y 5 ways to infuse your dates with the respect you both deserve. Parashat Chukat People in the U.S. spend around $30 billion every SHIRA TEICHMAN year on alternative medicine, according to a newly pub- lished federal report from the 8:06 P.M. FIVE TOWNS Sadly, too many singles have expressed to me how years 2012 National Health Inter- 8:08 P.M. STATEN ISLAND of enduring undignified dating experiences has taken a toll view Survey (NHIS), in which 8:07 P.M. BROOKLYN on their self-image, happiness, and overall ability to continue 8:08 P.M. TEANECK, NJ 44,743 individuals in the U.S putting their “best foot forward” in dating. 7:56 P.M. MIAMI BEACH, FLA. aged 4 and above participat- 7:06 P.M. JERUSALEM As I listen to their stories, I can’t help but empathize CONT. ON P6 CONT. ON P4 7/15/16

people to do it either.” As such, Bauer said the CUFI Action Fund considers it import- ant that at least one of the major American political parties “make it clear that no part of Jerusalem is a settlement.” “It is a city with roots in Juda- ism that goes back well before any current competitor could lay claim on it,” Bauer said, referring to the Palestinians’ demands to divide Jerusalem and establish their own capital in the eastern half of the city. While the CUFI Action Fund pushed for changes on the Repub- lican side, the Democratic Party is facing its own questions over its platform’s support for Israel. The Democrats are also holding their convention later this month. There is growing concern over the Democratic Platform Drafting Committee members who have been appointed by presidential contender Sen. Bernie Sanders (D-Vt.). The committee members include pro-Palestinian activist James Zogby, who is pushing to insert language that is critical of Israel in the platform, such as “oc- cupation.” Such language would break from the party’s longstand- ing pro-Israel stance. Another committee member appointed by Sanders is Cornel West, an activist in the anti-Israel Boycott, Divest- ment and Sanctions movement. The Action Fund’s Bauer told JNS.org that while the Democratic Party is a “tougher nut to crack for us” as a lobby, there are “many members of the Democratic Party who are very pro-Israel and we SAVAGE The CUFI Action Fund is a East saw this as a signal that even CONT. FROM P1 may try to work through them to 501(c)(4) organization, meaning the pro-Israel Republican Party make sure that their platform is reference to an “undivided” Jeru- that it has more leeway on political was in favor of the division of Je- pro-Israel, too.” salem while removing a reference activities than the 501(c)(3)-sta- rusalem and supported awarding to “Palestine” in support for a two- tus CUFI. The Action Fund’s call half of the city as a capital to a new While there is a growing divide state solution. stems from a small, yet significant Palestinian state,” stated the letter among more moderate and liberal change in the Republican Party’s from the CUFI Action Fund. The Republicans’ move comes leaders on the Democratic side, platform language on Jerusalem in the aftermath of advocacy on Before the Republicans rein- presumptive Republican presi- from 2008 to 2012. the issue by the lobbying affiliate stated the language invoking an dential nominee Donald Trump is also facing the challenge of uniting of Pastor John Hagee’s influen- In 2008, the GOP platform “undivided” Jerusalem, Bauer told his own deeply divided party at its tial Christians United for Israel included the sentence, “We sup- JNS.org that he did not under- convention. (CUFI) non-profit. In a letter ob- port Jerusalem as the undivided stand the GOP’s decision in 2012 tained by JNS.org that was sent to capital of Israel and moving the to alter the language on the Israeli Bauer said he understood that Republican convention delegates American embassy to that undi- capital. this year’s Republican convention on July 6, former Ronald Reagan vided capital of Israel.” But in the “It didn’t make any sense to has its own “worries and chal- administration official Gary Bauer, 2012 platform, that sentence was do it,” said Bauer. “Certainly the lenges,” but that he felt there was director of the CUFI Action Fund missing, and the platform instead current government in Israel has a “solid majority in favor of this lobby, called for the Republican mentioned “Israel with Jerusalem no intention of dividing Jerusa- change” on the Jerusalem lan- Party platform to “strengthen its as its capital”—without the word lem, and from what I have seen guage. language in support for Israel with “undivided.” Jerusalem as Israel’s ‘undivided, in public opinion polls, there’s no JNS.org enteral’ capital.” “Many analysts in the Middle real sentiment among the Israeli 2 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7/15/16

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prise tickets to a late-night show, TEICHMAN someone’s comment often makes 1. Be curious: To build a real assuming s/he wants to stay out til CONT. FROM P1 all the difference in how you feel relationship, it isn’t good enough 2am. Being attuned to your date’s about what they’ve said. Making with their pain, and understand just to hear the words your date needs indicates that you are paying assumptions about their intentions, why they would not want to invest is saying. Take genuine interest close attention to what matters to on the other hand, could easily themselves emotionally in yet an- in who they are and respond with them, which is an important aspect lead to a hasty negative reaction other relationship that leaves them a sense of curiosity. This person of dating with dignity. and/or premature dissolution of feeling so low. is an entire world, with a unique 5. Play it Safe – Literally: the relationship. So don’t wonder Judaism teaches us that that history and set of life experiences. Too many women have told me what they meant – just ask! the relationship of spouses to Ask yourself: What is their world disturbing stories about being left 3. Stay present: By being in each other should be “to love her about? What are their goals? What alone late at night at the end of a the moment, you are giving your as much as he loves himself, and values do they stand for? What date. Gentlemen, even if you’ve date the gift of having your full to respect her even more than he might they be trying to communi- already decided that the woman attention. So go ahead and silence respects himself” (Yevamos 62b). cate to you? The answer to these you’re out with isn’t for you, be your cell phone for a couple of As esteemed psychiatrist Rabbi questions aren’t always apparent a mensch! Escort her home at hours. Not every text needs to be Dr. Avraham Twerski noted in his in the words that are spoken, but the end of the evening, even if it responded to immediately. Your article, Marriage That Endures: rather in the “subtext” of their means you’ll get home an hour sister got a splinter or your best “It is of interest that Rambam, in words, their body language, and or two later than you wanted to. friend passed her final exam? Get citing the Talmud, reverses the tone of voice. Don’t just hear the Order a double espresso the next back to them a bit later. (If neces- order and places respect before words – try to experience the en- morning if you need it to get sary, you may want to notify a few love. Why? Because it is unreal- tire person in their essence. through the day. However tired key people that you will be on a istic to expect that one can have 2. Ask for clarification: Learn you may be, her safety must take date and your phone will be off.) so intense a love from day one. It how to withhold judgment un- precedence. Unless it’s a truly urgent matter takes time for true love to develop. til you know the whole story. And now, a word of caution: or you’re an ER doctor on call...it However, respect is something People often forget that they are If these tips sound foreign or un- can wait! that can begin on day one.” entitled to ask questions rather important to you, or simply do not 4. Acknowledge your date’s Reversing habits that are dis- than assume the worst. We tend resonate, please use this article as needs and preferences: If you are respectful to your date is key to to imagine that someone meant a springboard for introspection planning a dinner date and you both unlocking the real potential something far worse than they did, about your own readiness to be in know s/he is a vegetarian, don’t that exists between the two of you, and our off-base assumption might a long-term, committed relation- make reservations at a steakhouse and getting your relationship off lead to the demise of the relation- ship. These 5 tips are not meant to hoping s/he will be fine with or- to a healthy start. Here are 5 ways ship. Asking, “I’m curious. What be used as superficial or temporary dering a salad. If you know s/he is you can start off on the right track did you mean by that?” can be a “strategies” for winning someone giving a big presentation at work toward dating – and relating – in a life-saver, simply because getting over (that’s called manipulation). clarity on the intention behind the next morning, don’t buy sur- dignified way: CONT.ON P5 4 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7/15/16

Modern Orthodox day school. the issue. Ultimately Chief Rabbi The Scandal-Ridden He has also played a major David Lau approved Lookstein’s Jewish leadership role on com- conversions, despite the fact that Chief Rabbinate Must munal issues such as Israel advo- they were rejected by the Petach Be Restructured cacy and the struggle for Soviet Tikva rabbinical court - which is Jewry, and symbolizes the best accountable to the Chief Rabbin- ISI LEIBLER attributes of Modern Orthodoxy, ate. influencing many thousands. Former Chief Rabbis Isaac Last month I was privileged to be Herzog, Yitzhak Nissim, Shlomo The scandalous depths to an institution where corruption is present when this modest man Goren, and Benzion Uziel were which the haredi extremists who rampant and jobs are provided as was awarded a well-deserved deeply learned but also worldly have abused their rabbinical au- rewards for leading followers. honorary doctorate from Bar-Ilan and sought to reconcile Jewish thority are sinking seem limitless. The power of the extremists University. law with the needs of a modern It is high time for Jews in Israel derives from Israel’s dysfunction- Thus, it can only be described state. The stark contrast between al political sys- as an abomination when a formal them and their successors, many tem where the Orthodox conversion conducted of whom are ignorant of the ultra-Ortho- by such a respected rabbi is con- world in which they live, lack dox political sidered ineligible in Israel on the compassion and compete with factions hold grounds that the Chief Rabbin- one another to display greater the balance of ate decided to exclude him from stringency in interpreting Jewish power and are their “list” of acceptable marriage law, conveys a totally distorted in a position to celebrants. image of Judaism. extort. This is completely unprec- They have sought to impose The straw edented. The Chief Rabbinate their standards on all Israelis in that may break was never intended to globally relation to issues of conversion, the camel’s endorse the credentials of Or- marriage, divorce, and kashrut, back was the thodox rabbis on a Vatican-style bitterly opposing efforts to enroll recent public register – especially not those in their students to share the bur- disclosure that Rabbi HAskel Lookstein the Diaspora. In this case, the den of defense, and in some cases conversions absence of transparency created denying them the opportunity of conducted in further chaos with a spokesman receiving an education, thus turn- and the Diaspora to publicly vent New York by Rabbi Haskel Look- from the Chief Rabbinate and the ing many of their graduates into their rage and insist that their stein, the revered patriarch of the Petach Tikva Rabbinate making permanent social welfare cases. shenanigans must cease. mainstream Modern Orthodox contradictory statements about CONT.ON P15 The Jewish people can no community, were not recognized longer remain hostage to a small by the Petach Tikva Rabbinate group of unworldly ultra-Or- which is under the jurisdiction of thodox radicals who, with a total the Israeli Chief Rabbinate. lack of compassion, monopolize Lookstein’s father, Rabbi Jo- control of Jewish life and seek to seph Lookstein, was one of the impose on the entire community early trailblazers of Orthodoxy THE stringent interpretations of Jew- in the U.S. and a stalwart in pro- JEWISH SERVING THE ENTIRE JEWISH COMMUNITY ish law that even most observant moting the growth of Yeshiva Jews would consider excessive. University. A passionate religious What makes this even more Zionist, he was also one of the grotesque is that the ultra-Or- founders of Bar-Ilan University thodox community has profound in Israel, over which he presid- Get your FREE contempt for the institution of ed as president from 1957 to the Chief Rabbinate, which was 1967. He founded the Ramaz day copy of initially harnessed to promote school in 1937 and on his demise religious Zionism. It neither feels in 1979, his son Haskel assumed bound nor accepts the reliability his father’s role and presided over of its supervision and merely ex- the community, the synagogue The Jewish ploits the institution to impose its and the school, which has now stringent interpretations. It is also become a global model for the Connection TEICHMAN CONT. FROM P4 are meant to help you achieve a delivered to you real, lasting relationship built on When they are exercised in a the foundation of respect, which vacuum and do not reflect one’s can only happen if you are a sin- by Email. overall character, most of these cerely respectful person! There- practices are somewhat inconse- fore, internalizing the value of re- quential at best – or at worst, they spect is an absolute prerequisite to are downright deceiving. (Playing using these tips effectively, both in “the nice guy” (or girl) on dates #1 your search for your soul mate and Send your request to and #2 isn’t going to cut it if “the to keep things going strong long real you” who isn’t so nice, comes after the chuppah for many years [email protected] out on date #3!) to come. The pointers I’ve listed above Aish.com

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tive health care practitioners such dalities shows they have a greater Dr. Joseph Mercola as yoga instructors and chiroprac- amount of trust in them than con- tors ventional medicine. Why Alternative $12.8 billion on natural sup- Part of the reason alternative plements such as ginkgo biloba, health care is expanding is because Health Is Booming glucosamine and vitamin D (about of the soaring costs associated with CONT. FROM P1 30 percent of what was spent on conventional medicine, but chronic prescription drugs) pain is often a motivation. ed. The figure is astonishing, but medicine, the report reveals. In all, $2.7 billion for CDs, books and You could say the money spent one has to wonder why people in the out-of-pocket costs for these self-help materials on the topic indicates in the most dramatic way America would spend that much types of therapies total $30.2 bil- possible that people either trust money on what one prominent lion.” It’s very telling that households alternative health care options drug company referred to as making less than $25,000 per year The study encompassed a wide implicitly because it’s worked for “eclectic” and “unconventional” paid an average of $435 for alter- range of alternative health care ex- them, or they’ve developed grave health approaches instead of main- native health care including what pressions: mistrust for the conventional med- stream (read: power broker) med- they spend for natural supplements. icine they’ve either seen practiced icine. The interesting thing is, the or experienced themselves. According to a Time article The staggering thing is, $30 money being laid out even by indi- In 2000, the Journal of the covering the National Health Sta- billion is only around 1 percent, viduals on low incomes is not cov- American Medical Association tistics Report (NHSR), which liber- just the merest fraction, of what ered by insurance. They’re paying (JAMA) published an enlightening ally used the term “complementa- Americans spend every year on for it out of their pockets. Do they article revealing that, following ry” as a nod to the quickly growing conventional health care! know something you don’t? heart disease and cancer, the Amer- trend toward complementary and Breaking Down the Dollars Why Americans Pay Out-of- ican health care system is the third alternative medicine (CAM): Spent on Health Care Pocket for Alternative Health Care: highest cause of preventable death ‘They Believe in It’ “Complementary medical ap- Averaging the dollars spent in the U.S. According to The Com- proaches are alternative types of on “complementary” health care Study co-author Richard Na- monwealth Fund: healing outside the realm of West- in 2012, households with less hin, Ph.D., from the U.S. National “Despite having the most ex- ern medicine, and they’re fairly than $25,000 annual income spent Center for Complementary and In- pensive health care system, the popular in the U.S. $435 a year, while families with tegrative Health (NCCIH) said the United States ranks last overall an income of at least $100,000 amount of money spent in the U.S. An estimated 60 million Amer- among 11 industrialized countries spent around $590. Categorization by people who disregard their lack icans spend money on them each on measures of health system qual- included: of health care insurance coverage year, and 4.1 million children have ity, efficiency, access to care, equi- used some type of complementary $14.7 billion spent on alterna- in pursuit of alternative health mo- CONT.ON P7

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MERCOLA Prescription painkillers such CONT. FROM P6 as oxycodone and morphine are ty and healthy lives, according to a derived from the same poppy new Commonwealth Fund report. plants as heroin. Most heroin users While there is room for im- initially start by using prescription provement in every country, the painkillers.” U.S. stands out for having the Another Shot of Cynicism Re- highest costs and lowest perfor- garding Conventional Health: They mance — the U.S. spent $8,508 Hide Death Data per person on health care in 2011, As often happens in govern- compared with $3,406 in the Unit- ment-sanctioned entities, when the ed Kingdom, which ranked first data becomes too bogged down overall.” with uncomfortable or potentially Iatrogenic Causes of Death: In damaging information, the easiest a Hospital, the Worst Kind thing to do is hide the statistics. The 2000 JAMA article, au- Supporting that premise, USA TO- thored by the late Dr. Barbara DAY reported in 2014: Starfield, who was a co-founder of “The federal government this a scientific organization devoted to month quietly stopped publicly addressing inequity in health care, reporting when hospitals leave for- indicated that “fatal events” from eign objects in patients’ bodies or iatrogenic causes — i.e., due to a make a host of other life-threaten- physician’s or hospital’s activity, ing mistakes. manner or therapy — are respon- The change, which the Centers sible for the deaths of 210,000 for Medicare and Medicaid Ser- Americans annually. vices (CMS) denied last year that Including deaths related to di- it was making, means people are agnostic errors, errors of omission out of luck if they want to search and failure to follow guidelines, which hospitals cause high rates the number skyrocketed to 440,000 of problems such as air embolisms preventable hospital deaths each — air bubbles that can kill patients year. Starfield’s article asserted: when they enter veins and hearts “The medical system has — or giving people the wrong played a large role in undermining blood type. the health of Americans. Accord- … Foreign objects may be re- ing to several research studies in tained after surgery twice as often the last decade, a total of 225,000 as the government estimates, or Americans per year have died as a up to 6,000 times a year. Sponges, result of their medical treatments: which can embed in intestines, ac- 12,000 deaths per year due to count for more than two-thirds of unnecessary surgery all incidents. 7,000 deaths per year due to For patients who survive, the medication errors in hospitals complications can last a lifetime, leading some to lose parts of their 20,000 deaths per year due to intestines.” other errors in hospitals Whereas thousands of hospitals 80,000 deaths per year due to once made the number of “hospi- infections in hospitals tal-acquired conditions,” or HACs 106,000 deaths per year due to (such as MRSA or foreign objects negative effects of drugs” left behind after surgery), available These numbers at that time to the (savvy) public on the Hospi- made iatrogenic deaths third in line tal Compare website, that changed behind heart disease and cancer. with the new government direc- However in 2015, CNN reported tives. Eight HACs were removed the leading cause of (unintentional) from the list completely. death the previous year was from What You Don’t Know Might drug overdoses, a 14 percent in- Kill You or Somebody Else crease since 2013. Overall, since The Centers for Disease Con- 2000, opioid drug overdoses have trol and Prevention (CDC) doesn’t doubled — twice. CNN reported: hamper itself by publishing med- “The biggest increase in deaths ical error information or making was from synthetic opioids, which any provision for reporting iat- went up 80 percent. According to rogenic causes for its mortality the CDC, the increase in synthetic statistics. Those are circumvented opioid deaths coincided with in- completely, so it lists “respiratory creased reports by law enforcement disease” as the third most prevalent of illicitly manufactured fentanyl. CONT.ON P21 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7 7/15/16 Roy Neuberger TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE PARA ADUMAH

This week we are presented with impure thought when he is in the classic “chok,” a law which is the Kodshai Kodoshim! To be in seemingly incomprehensible. As Hashem’s Presence one must be the Artscroll commentary puts it, completely free of rebellion or “The Midrash focuses primarily on impurity; otherwise one would be one paradox in the laws of the para burned to a state of nonexistence, adumah: its ashes purify people as were Nadav and Avihu. Imagine who had become contaminated, what was on the Kohain Gadol’s yet those who engage in its head on Yom Kippur! preparation become contaminated.” How is this possible? Not one (Introduction to Parashas Chukas, stray thought! Utter purity! How? It Stone Chumash) Shlomo Hamelech is beyond human capacity! And yet exclaimed concerning this mitzvah, it was done. How? “it is far from me.” (Koheles 7:23) Like every korban, the para Yet we desire to understand! No adumah was you! What happened matter how difficult, why should we to the korban was a reflection of not explore this mystery? what was happening to me. When This is not an abstract issue. the para adumah was shechted and It happens that this mitzvah is burned, then death itself was being vital precisely at this moment in shechted and burned. Death was history. Right now, we need the killed! As we say on Pesach, “Then para adumah! We live in an era came Hakadosh Baruch Hu and so complex that a way out seems slew the angel of death …. Chad impossible. The only yeshua involves Gadya, Chad Gadya!” the para adumah. We need that red cow to reach the Geula Shelema. When Am Yisroel made the For all these reasons, it seems vital eigel hazahav, Moshe Rabbeinu to understand the process through ground it into dust, and he made which Redemption will come. Am Yisroel drink the water destroy ourselves, but we destroy Presence of the Shechina. Let’s say that the para adumah containing the dust. When you the tumah itself, which is outside us, I don’t claim to understand is the essence of gashmius. She destroy that which represents not inside us. We kill the red cow; what I just wrote, but it does is completely red, the color of death, then you are overcoming in other words we kill gashmius seem to make some sense. In the blood, fire, heat, violence … the death itself and elevating yourself to itself, just as Hashem shechts the days ahead, Hashem will reveal color of Esav! She has never had a level of ruchnius. Malach Hamauves in Chad Gadya. to us how this will work, because an “ol” upon her, meaning she has Idolaters try literally to kill How does it help to sprinkle the it seems clear that the chaotic never been subject to discipline or the tumah within themselves, ashes of the dead symbol of death world in which we live is going restriction. No attempt has been and they cannot succeed. They on ourselves? to have to be saved by a solution made to channel the gashmius into flagellate themselves. They become Water is life. You cannot live which is completely beyond our ruchnius or ameliorate her animal celibate and live as if they were without water. But water is physical. understanding …. until it happens! nature. dead, with the result that they How does physical water become Until then, let us hang on very Is it then so surprising that the become completely immersed in spiritual life as well as physical life? tightly to Hashem and His Torah one who shechts, burns, mixes the the very tumah they are trying to By adding to water the ashes of and soon we will see for ourselves ashes with water becomes tamei? eradicate. Instead of shechting the para adumah. When you “kill how this Geula Shelemah will Why is that surprising? He is dealing cows, they worship cows and death” and you mix the ashes with unfold before our eyes! with unadulterated gashmius, flagellate themselves! Idolaters blow water, then the physical application untouched by ruchnius! Gashmius themselves up or throw themselves of water and the ashes of what was is death. Its end is always dust and and their children into fires! They once tumah become a source of Roy Neuberger’s latest book is decay. Is this not the essence of become depraved in their hopeless spiritual life, because by definition WORKING TOWARD MOSHIACH. tumah? attempts to make themselves “holy” the death of death means eternal His book 2020 VISION is available in But how do the ashes of the by eliminating what they feel is life. ENGLISH, HEBREW, SPANISH, FRENCH, para adumah bring purification impurity within themselves. Since There was no death in Gan RUSSIAN & GEORGIAN. Roy is also the from the very tumah which the they believe that they themselves Eden. 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would go to save his nephew. The The employer doesn’t want “THE SHMUZ” four kings, the most powerful to know the minutiae. He’s just force on earth, would never allow a looking for an overview. He wants Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier captive to go free. Avraham would to know in general terms whether enter into battle with them and or not this fellow is intelligent and THE EXTENT OF REWARD be killed. And along would come hard-working. To find out, he asks the gallant Og to save Sarah from for the cumulative average. PARSHAS CHUKAS her widowhood. With this plan in One of the reasons we don’t mind, Og arrived to tell Avraham fear being judged at the end of our the news. HASHEM said to Moshe, “Do kings joined forces and waged lives is that we assume that the Og wasn’t engaged in not fear him, for into your hands war against these five kings and judgment will be like a GPA, an redeeming a captive; he was have I given him, his entire people, were victorious. During one of average of everything that we’ve manipulating events to cause the and his land; you shall do to him as the battles, they captured Sedom, done. “I’m not afraid because, on death of an innocent man in hopes you did to Sichon, king of Amori, where Avraham’s nephew Lot had balance, I was a good guy. I’m not of taking his wife. Why would who dwells in Cheshbon.” been living. Og survived that battle saying I was a tzaddik. I’m not Moshe be afraid of the merit of — Bemidbar 21:34 and ran to Avraham to tell him saying I was perfect. But I did a such an act? That act wasn’t a that Lot was being held captive. lot of good things, accomplished mitzvah. If anything, it was a sin. The Jewish nation had just Because Og did this favor for plenty. Granted, I could have done The answer to this can best be defeated the Emorim and were Avraham, Moshe was afraid that more. Certainly there were some understood with a mashal. preparing to conquer Bashan. Og, the merit of that act would allow things I should not have done. But What’s your GPA? the king of Bashan, led his army Og to beat the Jews in battle. overall, I’m okay.” Imagine that a recent college out to meet the Jews in battle. This Rashi is very difficult to CONT.ON P11 graduate applies for a job, and Og was a giant of a man and was understand, as the Midrash also the interviewer asks him about feared amongst the nations and explains Og’s motivation. Sarah his academic record. “So tell me, Moshe Rabbeinu was reluctant to Imeinu was one of the four most how did you do in school?” “Well, attack. HASHEM reassured him, beautiful women who ever lived. my first semester, I got an A in saying, “Do not fear him.” For many years, Og had his eye Chemistry, a B in Accounting, Rashi explains that Moshe on Sarah. The problem was that and a B+ in Economics. The next was not afraid of Og because of she was a married woman. With semester, I got…” “Okay, okay,” his physical stature, but because the capture of Lot, Og saw his the interviewer says. “You don’t of his personal merit. Many years moment. His plan was simple. need to give me every detail. Just earlier, in the time of Avraham He would tell Avraham that tell me your overall grade point Avinu, a coalition of five kings his nephew had been captured. average” ruled the world. Four competing Avraham, the altruistic tzaddik,

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We were brought up with Sara lived on the fifth floor the adage, “Don’t judge a book and very few residents left their by its cover,” but sometimes it’s floor unless they were escorted difficult to put that into practice. by staff. But each floor was a We often make snap judgments world unto itself with a myriad of based on what a person looks like, recreation programs and breakfast, or how they dress, or how they lunch and dinner served in the speak, or where they work. When day room. One day, the elevator we do this, we cut ourselves off stopped on the third floor and from getting to know the essence Sara, with great effort and with of so many around us. This can what looked like great difficulty be particularly true when a person slowly wheeled herself off the appears “different.” They may elevator. She was treated by a be in a wheelchair or have some chorus of staff members calling other physical limitation, or they out loudly, “You’re on the wrong may have a mental issue that is floor! You’re on the wrong floor!” dominant in first meeting them. This agitated Sara to the extreme. To be sure, often it’s not a looking She cried out, “I’m not on the down at people with issues, but wrong floor! I’m coming here rather a lack of confidence or for Alan’s current events group.” knowledge of how to relate. And Whatever pain she had in wheeling those other people may so very her chair down that hallway was much be in need of human contact. magnified greatly by her perception that people were underestimating I remember the extreme her, for not giving her credit for frustration of a woman, who I’ll call knowing what she was doing. Sara. Who lived in a nursing home where I worked in recreation. Sara Contrasted with Sara was was in a wheelchair which she another woman I once provided moved ever, ever, ever so slowly recreation programs to at that with her one good hand. Sara’s nursing home who had both TEICHMAN from more spiritually-oriented en- mind was sharp and clear. There physical and mental limitations. CONT. FROM P1 deavors) by telling ourselves that were a number of residents at the I’ll call her Lena. She sat in her mittee or involved with strategic we would hear the siren through Home who exhibited various levels wheelchair all day and did not planning?” our radios and of course we needed of confusion on up to advanced attempt to move it. In the months Yes, we all believe that we need to hear the siren. Someone came up Alzheimer’s Disease. It was easy prior to an incident I am about to know what’s going on in the with a brilliant solution – a solution (and unfortunate) for the staff to to describe, I never heard her say world. So we immerse ourselves in that allowed us to both hear the lump almost everyone together in a word. She just stared straight a constant barrage of information sirens on Shabbos and engage in the category of not knowing what into space. It would have been so that damages our peace of mind, our regular daily activities without they’re doing. But if people would easy to write her off as an extreme our ability to function and ulti- fear of missing it: they created a ra- have taken the time to get to know unfortunate who was no longer mately our trust in the Almighty. dio station that was silent – unless Sara they would have seen how connected to the world. But my With the information overload and there was a siren! No more wasted bright and motivated she was to supervisor did not countenance our relative inability to influence time listening to the 24-hour news pursue her varied interests. writing ANYONE off. events, it’s all too easy to give in to cycle. CONT.ON P11 despair. If you can’t quite bring yourself Here’s a radical solution: Turn to turn it off, then drastically limit it and tune in once a day. Don’t the world leaders are controlling ahead (when have there not been?) off the radio or television or com- the world but it is only an illusion. but ultimately it will be good. I be- puter – whatever is the source of make the news, especially the bad news, the background noise to your Nothing happens without the Al- lieve that most of us recognize this your news. Yes, just turn it off. If mighty’s acquiescence. He is pulling reality. It is what gives us the hope you turn it on a week or two weeks life. Even without this particular negative effect, there are so many the strings. This is a comfort despite and energy to get out of bed every later, you may have missed some how dire events may look on the day and put one foot in front the specific events that someone will tell reasons not to have the television or radio constantly playing. Get the surface. He is running the world. It next and keep moving. you about anyway, it’s unlikely any- is all according to His master plan. I It takes self-discipline not to thing significant will have changed. information you (think you) need and then turn it off. And avoid talk tell myself these ideas over and over watch the news. It can be an addic- And if anything significant changes, and over all day, every day. They tion, a bad habit like any other – but it’s unlikely it will affect you. And if radio at all costs! This is a practical approach with help me out when I get into a funk if there’s anything that we really affects you, it’s unlikely you can do about challenges in my personal life “need to know”, it’s not what An- anything about it! spiritual benefits. Now that we have weaned ourselves from activities and they enable me to move for- derson Cooper or Chris Matthews When we were living in Israel ward after I’ve broken my own rule have to report; it’s that this world is during the Gulf War, we were all that take us down a dark path, we need to look for a positive response. and snuck a peak at the news! run by the Almighty who is a loving glued to our radios. We were news Without this knowledge, I would Father who only wants our good junkies, awaiting minute by minute In this I remind myself of the verse in Proverbs (21:1) that teaches us be paralyzed, I would despair. With and that ultimately everything will updates. We could rationalize our this knowledge, I have only hope. work out behavior (and thus our distraction that the “heart of the king is in the hand of the Almighty”. It seems like There may be challenging times Aish.com 10 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7/15/16 was afraid because the Jewish SHMUZ that, I will be rewarded. But what many dimensions to each act, and CONT. FROM P9 nation was entering into war, and if while driving, I couldn’t help but many factors to be considered. war is a time of danger. In a time feel a twinge of arrogance thinking, What were your motives? How The Mesillas Yesharim of danger, the sins of the people “Look at me. How many people pure were they? Where were you (Chapter 4) explains that in the might be revisited, and the fate of are as good as I am? Come on, how coming from? Was this easy for World to Come, the judgment isn’t the nation might be re-examined many people selflessly, without any you or difficult? Each act is judged “on balance.” Every act is judged to determine whether they drive for honor, help an old man? separately, and each part of the act separately. For every act that was deserved a miraculous victory. Not many…” is broken down as well. meritorious, I will be rewarded. In such a calculation, Og’s merit So is this a mitzvah or an Was the act a mitzvah or a sin? For every act that I should might tip the scale. aveirah? The answer is both. The This seems to be the answer not have committed, I will be This concept is very outer act was great. But the inner to Og. Og was plotting an act of punished. But one doesn’t cancel illustrating. By seeing the condition was flawed. For the act, I murder. But he was instrumental out the other. My mitzvos don’t extent of judgment, we come to will be rewarded. The self-inflation, in saving Avraham’s nephew. wipe away my aveiros, and my sins understand the greatness of man. however, damaged me, and for While his intention was evil, the don’t eliminate my mitzvos. Each We recognize how significant that I need atonement. Each part act had merit; it helped a tzaddik. one is weighed and measured, our actions are and how great an weighs into the verdict. The precision of judgment is so and rewarded or punished impact they have on us and on the This judgment is very different great that nothing is overlooked. independently. Furthermore, world. than the way we assess things In most situations, an act like this, just as each action is weighed This is an excerpt from the Shmuz separately, so to is each part of in this world. When we judge which was so devoid of purity, on the Parsha book. All three volumes others, we focus on their intention. are available at your local sefarim store, the action. If I volunteered to would have little weight. But this or at www.theShmuz.com. All of the drive an elderly man to a doctor’s Was he trying to help me or to was the great Avraham that he had Shmuzin are available FREE of charge, at the theShmuz.com or on the Shmuz app, appointment, on one hand it is harm me? 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LIEBERMAN (an egocentric mentality) and the world metaphor, all objects are not trust himself is unknowingly CONT. FROM P12 yetzer hara is shorter—because attracted to each other by the guided by the world—to tell him fulfill our personal prophecy, it’s more similar—than between force of gravity. The strength of truth from falsehood. We must which gives us a contrived sense someone with higher self-esteem the attraction depends on the all, however, be vigilant. Because of security. The world is as we (elevated presence of the soul) and size of the objects (mass) and we are a mélange of body, ego, predicted. Our beliefs—no matter the essence of the yetzer hara. the distance between them. The and soul, no one is impervious how damaging and distorted— more we identify with the yetzer to the hidden force of social have been reaffirmed. We will be For what really is the hara, the greater our attraction influence that imperceptibly right, even if it kills us. difference between a self-centered or susceptibility to unhealthy recalibrates one’s moral compass person and his yetzer hara? This influences, because it is “heavier” to accommodate the need for Chapter 4 is why such a person can abruptly and closer in proximity to the acceptance and recognition (and The Lure of Conformity shift from being reasonable world of falsehood. to sanction self-indulgence). In In nonphysical space, one moment to grossly reckless next week’s column we’ll take a closeness is measured in terms behavior in the next. He lives on Simply, the less control we look at some fascinating, though of similarities. Conceptually, the the cusp of these intermingled exert over ourselves, the more highly disturbing, studies on the space between low self-esteem forces. sway our surroundings hold over sheer power of social influence. To illustrate with a real- us. Simply, a person who does You don’t want to miss this!

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DR. P LEIBLER bayit Hayehudi – our National CONT. FROM P14 Anyone who has flown on a CONT. FROM P5 Religious party? Such issues rep- commercial airline knows the air This has exacerbated social and resent the very core and the rai- subject to the same 3.4 ounce liquid quality in the cabin can do terrible religious tensions at all levels. son d’etre of religious Zionism. It restrictions, nor are you required to things to one’s skin. Because there Efforts by the previous gov- is not enough for them to mum- keep said product in the quart bag. are no restrictions on solid lotion ernment to enable more moder- ble protests or for Naftali Bennett Your Hamsa Hand Solid Lotion Bar bars, I have one client who carries ate rabbis to service the needs of to say that the court’s decision can stay in your handbag! In fact, three Hope Solid Lotion bars in her the nation have been foiled. was “arbitrary and odd” and many of my clients are frequent carry-on bag: Face + Below, should be reversed. He and his flyers who specifically order solid In recent months, feeling po- party have a historic obligation lotion for the plane. CONT.ON P32 litically empowered, haredi politi- in this issue and should be lead- cal spokesmen have descended to ing the charge for reforming or the gutter in their vile and defam- dismantling the system – which FAMILY MATTERS | Dr. Ari Korenblit atory outbursts against Reform, would receive the endorsement Conservative and even Modern of the vast majority of Israelis. If MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS: Orthodox and religious Zionist religious Zionists do not stand up Jews. They have created needless against such abominations, one COPING WITH STRESS tensions with Diaspora – espe- cannot expect others to act. cially American – Jews, and every All through our lives stressful situations are unfortunately effort to reach accommodation This Chief Rabbinate and ex- unavoidable. There are many things that cause stress but the primary has been treated with contempt. tremist haredi politicians alienate causes of stress tend to be financial, health and relationship. The Israelis from Judaism. Howev- precarious state of our economy has thrown many people out of jobs They have also sought to er, the majority of haredim do they have held for a long time, caused many to be underemployed, purge esteemed Orthodox rabbis not seek to coerce the nation to and many more to see their investments and/or retirement accounts like Rabbi Shlomo Riskin and uphold their standards of ob- diminish. The awesome burden felt by someone suffering financially the chief rabbi of the Ethiopian servance. Indeed, many today causes sleep deprivation and compounded health related issues. community, Rabbi Yosef Hadane, recognize the folly of the radical Mortgage payments, utility bills, yeshiva tuition, etc. are fodder for who were critical of the Chief elements and are quietly encour- nightmares. The burden becomes so awesome and heavy that it literally Rabbinate’s attitude toward con- aging reforms within their circles. shuts down the thinking process, further depriving the victim of an versions. The time has come for all opportunity to explore reasonable options. The rage at being laid off, the The disclosure that Rabbi Jewish political parties to declare rage at having to appear at the dog-and-pony act that is a job fair, the Haskel Lookstein’s converts, in- a moratorium and force the gov- rage at sending out resumes that garner no response or a standard form cluding Ivanka Trump, whom he ernment to take action to bring letter, and the rage at finally getting an interview only to be rejected is converted and who is now reli- an end to this scandalous state of unending. giously observant, were initially affairs by breaking the monopoly Health problems also afflict the thinking process, and exacerbate not recognized in Israel, received of the Chief Rabbinate and re- ones physical well-being. The helplessness one feels when diagnosed major coverage in The New York sisting the extortion of the haredi the stress from an undiagnosed illness, the sheer loss of control during a Times. Such embarrassing expo- politicians. The government must procedure and the mind boggling rage at being sentenced to rehab and sure may bring matters to a head. be pressured into either reform- the resultant degrading dependency issues aroused yields untold pain. ing or dissolving or it and creat- The fright and daily angst experienced by one in physical pain is not It is a time for all Jews and in ing a new system that will provide describable. Neither well meaning doctors and health practitioners, nor particular moderate Orthodox appropriate religious facilities to the often attentive family members serve little to mitigate the mountains Jews to speak out. Where is the serve the Jewish nation. of stress. voice of the Rabbinical Council Relationship matters literally tear at ones body and soul. A single man of America that was once head- Failure by Orthodox leaders or woman who is unable to find a mate suffers deeply in immeasurable ed by Rabbi Emanuel Rackman, and organizations to stand up ways. The shame, self-doubt, having to face family-centered gatherings who represented the antithesis of and be counted on this will have for Yom Tov, and the inner introspection at this time of the year causes everything the Chief Rabbinate catastrophic repercussions on the unbelievable pain and stress. A broken relationship or engagement promotes? He would not have Jewish values that should repre- invariably causes deep grief and tension, no matter how it is tendered. remained silent. Where are the sent the foundation of the nation. A divorce causes stress to the adults and the effected children. The age outcries from other Orthodox of the children is inconsequential, in the ultimate equation of the pain Isi Leibler may be contacted at ile- rabbis? [email protected] experienced. Adult married children still reel from the news of their And where is the voice of Ha- parents impending split. Younger children feel vulnerable, because if adults can sever ties with each other, they can be the next victims. The husband or wife forced out or rejected has to cope with new living arrangements, parenting procedures, legal proceedings, and the stress, pain and rage surfacing at every turn. The Challah It all stressful situations one encounters – and sadly life has countless variations that test us – the first and cardinal rule is to focus on by Devorah Rosenberg maintaining mental sanity and physical health. An exercise regiment Learn the art of baking and braiding. is imperative. Even one physically encumbered can nevertheless find physical release. Going for a brisk walk three times a week at minimum Discover the mitzvah and meaning is ideal. Having a verbal outlet to express all the pent up feelings and Women & Girls behind Challah making. seeking help from a compassionate and skilled psychotherapist is Schools, Camps, extremely critical. 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tolerance is also the outgrowth of pesukim is the ironic association Rabbi Naphtali Hoff the selfless, big picture thinking that between the observance of chukim we are all capable of. We collectively in particular and the idea that such AN AIR OF SELFLESS appreciate the importance of airline observance will bring other peoples security, even if it comes at the to appreciate “your wisdom and TRANSCENDENCE price of personal convenience. your understanding”. We recognize the various factors As we mentioned above, I am often struck during airline travelers are often forced to endure which impact the timeliness and chukim are identified as those trips by the degree of patience significant delays, if not outright reliability of air travel, such as mitzvos for which no satisfactory and tolerance that is displayed by cancellations. These delays occur weather, equipment functionality, reason or rationale is known. Yet air travelers. In contrast to road with such frequency, whether in congestion and the like. And somehow these same chukim, the travel, which is often highlighted terminals, on the tarmac, before while airlines should certainly be mitzvos for which the nations will by edginess and road rage, air takeoff and/or upon arrival, that anxious to improve their approval mock us, will somehow lead the travelers endure some of the most we have come to expect them. ratings, I imagine that travelers will nations to proclaim that we are a invasive and maddening procedures Yet, when the captain or gate continue to employ a “grin and bear ‘wise and understanding people’! imaginable, and largely do so with crew announces such delays, the it” attitude as they fly the (semi) Judaism is more than a series patience, courtesy and grace. response is typically muted, with friendly skies. of laws and values established It is no secret that the TSA is none of the surliness that one may This concept of selflessness to regulate human conduct. It is having a harder time than ever otherwise expect. resonates at the beginning of this an experience, a way of life, an managing security flow and pace. week’s parasha, which highlights expression of Hashem’s essence. In most busy airports it is quite What is it that promotes so the concept of chukim. We know By fulfilling its dictates in their common to see hundreds of much patience and understanding that chukim are those mitzvos for totality, we do much more than passengers snaking through the amongst airline travelers? which no comprehensible rationale simply adhere to Hashem’s will. terminal in quiet cohesion, knowing One factor is surely the is known. We are instructed to We connect directly to Him. What full well that the line would end aforementioned expectation level. fulfill them despite the absence of greater sense of satisfaction could with the scrutinizing process of ID We purchase our tickets knowing such knowledge and the potential there be? verification. And then, of course, full well that these inconveniences mockery that we will be subjected Nothing underscores this idea are the invasive security screenings, are part of the process. We factor to at the hands of the gentile more than chukim. When we fulfill which demand the removal of belts, them in ahead of time into our nations, simply because Hashem has every aspect of the Torah, regardless shoes, electronics and toiletries, not mental approach to air travel instructed us to do so. (See Rashi to of our ability to fully understand to mention our sanity. Passengers and do not think much of them Bamidbar 19:2, quoting Yoma 67b) their rationale and motive, then the must then pass through full body as we are forced to endure their Of course, such selflessness is as chukim become the quintessential scanners, which elevate the sense of unpleasantness. old as klal Yisrael itself. Shortly after indicators that we are motivated invasiveness to entirely new levels. However, I suspect that such initiating his advocacy on behalf of simply out of a true desire to fulfill As if that isn’t enough, airline the people of S’dom (who had been Hashem’s will. When the nations earmarked for annihilation – see see our complete devotion, they Bereishis 18), our great patriarch come to esteem us, despite their Avraham humbly inserted that he inability to state what it is about us was but “dust and ashes” (Ibid, v. that is truly deserving of respect. 27), and thereby not truly deserving However, when we are selective of any favorable response. The in our adherence to Hashem’s Midrash (Bamidbar Rabbah 9:15) will, based on our own ability to tells us that as a reward for his comprehend, then we are isolating having expressed himself so humbly, the actions from their divine source. Avraham was rewarded that his No longer are we deserving of children would be able to achieve that special respect given to His purity through the mitzvah of para emissaries; instead we are subject adumah, a chok that is based on the to external mockery, as individuals concept of selfless acceptance. who choose to behave irrationally What was it about Avraham’s and mindlessly. reaction that justified such a reward? The answer, I believe, can be found By describing himself as “dust the following apparently paradoxical and ashes”, Avraham was expressing passage pertaining to chukim. a deep sense of selflessness. His And now, O Israel, hearken motivation was not reward, nor to the statutes (chukim) and was it recognition. Rather, he was to the ordinances (mishpatim) motivated by a compelling sense which I teach you, to do them... of correctness that directed him to You shall not add to the word advocate on behalf of the people which I command you, neither of S’dom, despite their sinful ways. please visit our website shall you diminish from it… It was for this reason that he was Observe therefore and do them; rewarded by having his children for this is your wisdom and your fulfill the quintessential chok, so understanding in the eyes of the that they too could demonstrate peoples, that when they hear all a sense of selfless commitment to these statutes, shall say, ‘Surely Hashem and His Torah. this great nation is a wise and Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive understanding people.’ Devarim coach and consultant and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting (www. 4:1–2, 6) ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be What is fascinating about these reached at [email protected].

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To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 17 7/15/16 be given over to individuals, or at least, were publicly burned in Paris, by the Rabbi Aharon Ziegler to small groups. order of Pope Gregory 1X from Rome Throughout the Bayit Rishon and the French King Louis 1X. (This PARASHAT CHUKAT and Bayit Sheni period, that was event is recorded in our Kinot of Tisha the prevailing method. Shimon B’Av- “Sha’ali Serufah Ba’eish”) Our 2016, 5776 HaTzaddik, the last of the Anshei Mesorah of the Oral Torah was in Knesset HaGedolah, personally gave grave danger of being forgotten. “VE’HIZA HA’TAHOR AL bar Kablah learned from Yavneh? over the Oral Torah to Antignos Ish After the destruction of European HA’TOMEI”- (The pure person shall R’Yehoshua was under the impression Socho. Antignos gave it over to two Jewry in the Holocaust, including sprinkle upon the contaminated that the Mesorah of Torah must be individuals; Yosi ben Yo’ezer and Yossi most of our Talmidei Chachamim, our person) [19:19]. transmitted on a one-to-one basis, as ben Yochanan. They, in turn gave it Mesorah was again threatened, but R’ Yehoshua bar Kablah states, was done by Moshe Rabbeinu. “Moshe over to Yehoshua ben Perach’ya and the Ribbono Shel Olam showed His [Yerushalmi Gemara Demai], “All Keebeil Torah MiSinai U’mesarah Nitai HaArbeli. And so forth as is Chesed towards us. my life I interpreted that pasuk to Li’Yehoshua” [Avot 1:1]. Moshe outlined in Pirkei Avot, until Hillel and In the United States, Rav Yosef mean that the pure person can only alone received the Oral Torah and Shamai. Dov Soloveitchik taught the Mesorah sprinkle the purifying ashes of the he transmitted it to one person- The responsibility of carrying of Torah Sheh’b’alpeh to thousands Parah Adumah onto one person at a Yehoshua. the burden of the Oral Torah rested of students in Yeshivat Rabbeinu time, until I learned in the Yeshiva of Gemara Eiruvin [54b] relates: upon individuals; at times one and Yitzchak Elchanan, aka Yeshiva Yavneh that in fact one person can “What procedure was followed in sometimes two. University. Rabbi Aharon Kutler purify many impure people.” What the teaching of the Oral Law? Moshe All this changed with the started a Yeshiva in Lakewood with message is he teaching? learned [a lesson of Torah] from Churban HaBayit. With No Beit 25 students and now has a student What happened in Yavneh?. the Mouth of the Almighty. Aharon HaMikdash and only Chachmei body of 6,000. The Mir Yeshiva R’ Yochanan ben Zakai was granted then entered the tent of Moshe and Yavneh remaining with the in Yerushalayim has grown to a a certain number of wishes by the Moshe taught him this lesson. Aharon responsibility of keeping alive the population of 7,000 students. Romans. He requested- among then moved and sat at the left side of Oral Torah, a change had to me made. other things- “TEIN LI YAVNEH Moshe. The sons of Aharon entered R’ Yehoshua bar Kablah realized All of these are continuing the VE’CHACHAMEH’HA”[Gittin 56b] and again, Moshe taught them this that Mesorah cannot continue with Mesorah of Torah Sheh’b’alpeh. Not that Yavneh and its scholars be spared. same lesson. The Elders then entered individuals but must be conveyed to individuals, but to the masses as Although Yerushalayim and the Beit and again, Moshe taught them the by the masses. One Rebbe is capable R’ Yehoshua bar Kablah learned HaMikdash were ultimately destroyed, same lesson. The Elders then moved to giving over Torah Sheh’b’alpeh from Yavneh, based on this week’s the remnant that was preserved in the aside and all the people entered. Again, to hundreds, and even thousands of parasha- VE’HIZAH HA’TAHOR AL Yeshiva of Yavneh allowed Judaism for the fourth time, Moshe taught this students. HA’TOMEI.. and Torah to survive and even flourish same lesson.” Why couldn’t Moshe In 1242, On Friday, Erev Shabbat Shabbat Shalom from during the long years of exile. have taught everyone together at once? of Parashat Chukat, 24 wagonloads of Kings County,NY What was it that R’ Yehoshua Apparently we see, that Mesorah must hand written sefarim, mainly Gemarot, Rabbi Aharon Ziegler

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published by a Duke University Change in Habits STRATEGIES | Rifka Schonfeld researcher in 2006 found that The more we understand more than 40 percent of the about habits, the easier they are to Director of S.O.S. (Strategies For Optimum Success) actions people performed each break down into their individual CHANGE YOUR HABITS, day weren’t actual decisions, but parts and change in order to lead habits. happier, more fulfilled lives. The CHANGE YOUR LIFE trick is not to get rid of habits, Duhigg’s research not only but to create ones that are more Nechama always walks to the to do with hunger. Rather, it all explains why habits work, but in line with our needs and values. vending machine in her office at comes down to a simple, yet very also how habits change. With an After all, without habits such as 3pm. Even if she brings some food powerful concept: habits. understanding of what habits are many of our morning routines from home, when 2:45 shows up and then how you can change and nightly rituals, we would be on the clock, she starts thinking The Power of Habit them, you can truly improve your consumed by the minutiae of about the vending machine. In his best selling book, The life one baby step at a time. our everyday lives. Even basic Over the years, Nechama Power of Habit: Why We Do activities would seem daunting has put on a few pounds. Okay, What We Do In Life and Business, The Habit Loop if we did not have an automatic maybe more than a few pounds. Charles Duhigg argues that most The process of forming a routine to fall back on. Therefore, And, her 3pm visits to the vending of the choices we make each day habit is a three-step circular the goal is to change existing machine are not helping her lose may feel like products of well- system within our brains. Habits negative habits into ones that the weight. But, like clockwork, considered decision making. In begins with a cue, or a trigger that work within our desired lifestyles. anticipation starts to build and reality, they are not. He explains: signals to your brain to go into Nechama feels the need to head “automatic.” A cue can be a time Duhigg argues that you cannot to the elevator and down to the They are habits. And though of day (such as Nechama’s 3pm get rid of habits. Rather, you must vending machine. A couple of each habit means relatively snack break), sound, smell, or work to replace them. The way to minutes later, she gets back into little on its own, over time, the feeling. Once the cue is triggered, learn how to do this is to figure the elevator, holding onto her meals we order, what we say to there is the routine, or the out what the reward is for each chocolate bar or bag of chips. our kids each night, whether response, whether it is physical, cue that triggers a routine. For What Nechama does not we save or spend, how often mental, or emotional. Nechama’s instance, is Nechama’s reward the realize is that her anticipation, we exercise, and the way we routine is the walk to the elevator snack or is it a needed break from walk to the elevator, and purchase organize our thoughts and and the purchasing of the snack. boredom at a lull in the day? If of the food have become part work routines have enormous Lastly, there is the reward, which Nechama truly is hungry, then the of her daily routine. In fact, impacts on our heath, 3pm cue to go her need to go to the vending productivity, financial security, to the vending machine might not have anything and happiness. One paper machine can be followed by the routine of going to the office refrigerator and taking out a prepared snack such as a cup of fruit or some chummus helps your mind figure out if this and vegetables. However, if the loop is worth recalling for the reward is a break from boredom, future. The following is a diagram Nechama need not eat at all at of the habit loop: 3pm. Rather, getting up and With time, this loop becomes taking a 5-minute walk around more and more automatic. The the block or the building would cue and the reward become provide the same reward. interconnected until your brain anticipates the reward as soon as In this way, habits are it hears, sees, or touches the cue. changed. By replacing the routine In this way, the routine action with another that yields the same becomes a habit – a powerful reward, you can incorporate craving for a reward whenever the habits that positively affect your trigger is activated. life. Now, of course, habits are not fixed in stone. Duhigg writes, Duhigg explains the timeliness “Habits can be ignored, changed, of habit changing today, or replaced.” However, habits providing hope and words of are so powerful because unless encouragement: you actively work on fighting that habit, your brain stops In the past decade, our fully participating in decision- understanding of the neurology making and focuses on other and psychology of habits tasks. Therefore, unless you and the way patterns work create new routines, the original within our lives, societies, and habit (or routine) will progress organizations has expanded in

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mixture. Add egg/oil mixture to dry heat up with the oven. Gluten Free Quick Challah mixture. Using a fork work the flour 5. Beat remaining egg and brush LISA HOREL mixture into the wet until it is just it gently over the top of the bread. combined. Place on stand and using Repeat. Sprinkle top with poppy or This dairy-free gluten free Quick • 2 teaspoons xanthan gum dough hook, mix on speed 2 or 3 for sesame seeds. Right before putting Challah can be made in just a few • 1/4 teaspoon pectin about 5-7 minutes or until dough the bread in the oven, place a large hours from start to finish. The • 1/4 teaspoon guar gum looks shiny and stretchy. If the handful of ice cubes in the hot cast dough is more like a thick batter, • 240 grams egg (4 whole extra-large dough looks very sticky and tough, iron skillet or heatproof (not glass) but the baked bread has a great eggs) add up to 30 grams Pellegrino. pan in the oven to create steam. Be crumb. It also makes great sandwich • 60 grams egg yolks (3 extra-large 3. Grease a tube pan or a 9x5 loaf careful to not burn yourself. bread. egg yolks) pan with nonstick spray. Wipe out 6. Place bread in the oven and time • 2 tablespoons Lyle’s Golden Syrup excess. Place dough all around the for 12 minutes. Remove cast iron Ingredients or honey bottom of the tube or loaf pan using or heat proof pan carefully. Time • 300 grams GF AP • 75 grams canola oil a silicone spatula. Wet the spatula the bread for another 20 minutes flour (150 superfine (heaping 1/3 cup) with water and smooth the dough. and remove when the internal brown rice flour, • 100-130 grams Cover loosely with plastic wrap and temperature is 185 to 190 degrees 75 grams each Pellegrino Mineral let the dough rise in a draft free and the top is pale golden brown. superfine white rice Water (1/2 cup plus place until double or nearly to the Don’t over bake the bread or it flour and tapioca 3 tablespoons) top, about 1.5 to 2 hours. will be a little tough. Let cool for a starch/flour) (about • 1 extra-large egg, 4. Preheat oven to 350. Place a cast couple of minutes in the pan and 2 1/3 cups) beaten - for brushing iron skillet or other heatproof pan then remove bread from pan and • 50 grams tapioca top of dough (not glass) on the bottom rack to cool completely on a rack. starch/flour (5 tablespoons) • 1-2 tablespoons white sesame or • 60 grams superfine sweet white poppy seeds rice flour (5 tablespoons) Preparation • 50 grams Expandex Modified 1. Place flours, starches, sugar, yeast, Almond Bars or Truffles Tapioca Starch/Flour (5 salt, xanthan gum, pectin and guar SHIFRA KLEIN tablespoons) or tapioca starch/flour gum in a stand mixer bowl and • 4 heaping tablespoons granulated whisk. In another small container With only 5 ingredients you can Ingredients sugar whisk 4 whole extra-large eggs, make these yummy Almond Bars • 1/2 cup almond butter • 2 heaping tablespoons instant or 3 extra-large egg yolks, honey or or Truffles: Choose your preference • 1 cup kosher for Passover bread machine Red Star Yeast Lyle’s syrup and canola oil. based on how you want to serve confectioner’s sugar • 2 1/2 teaspoons kosher salt 2. Add 100 grams Pellegrino to dry them. • 2 tablespoons oil CONT.ON P23

and sunspots. Not a good look. hair, don’t care? That Kermit the Beauty and the Beach One of my favorite ways to frog tinge that comes from Chlo- RACHELI FRIED apply sunscreen is with an SPF that rine and other mineral deposits comes in powder form. They even in pool water is not flattering make tinted ones that work like a so the key is to give your hair a Ah the Summer. Need I say time at the beach this summer and bronzer! Don’t forget your lips, protective coating. Saturate your more? These endless days filled still look cute, here are my top tips. taking care of your skin extends to hair prepool or sun exposure with sunshine, warm breezes and Of course my number one tip is your mouth and your lips are the with a protective beach spray or BBQs make me so happy. Fire- sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen. thinnest skin on your face making plain old baby oil and tuck it into works, long walks on the board- Just because it’s a cloudy day or them more susceptible to burning. a swim cap or a scarf. If you’re walk and ice cold lemonade...I’m because there is a breeze and you Many lip balms come with a built already seeing green, try a cleans- downright giddy. Let’s not forget in SPF so not only do they protect, ing rinse like Kiehl’s All Sport the extra hour I have to myself but they also moisturize and keep Swimmer’s Cleansing Rinse to with not having to make school your lips from drying out and flak- restore it to its natural shade. lunches and helping with home- ing. My final tips involve makeup- work. It’s all just too good to be My second and third tips are shocking, I know. I definitely true and I’m soaking it ALL in beauty hacks. Sand is a natural way keep it simple in the summer, es- while I can. to smooth your skin. Just rub it pecially at the beach, but I’m not onto your feet and any rough areas trying to scare children-so while I’m lucky enough to live right on your body and then rinse, like less is more, less still involves near the beach so we get to have you would with any other exfoliate. some. :) My basic routine in- a mini vacation once a week with If you walk around with sandals volves applying concealer where the little ones in tow. There is all Summer, the air tends to dry I need it most like under the eyes nothing like spending the day don’t FEEL your skin burning, it out the skin making for cracked and on any spots that need to be doing nothing but staring at the is. Those sun rays come through heals and toes, so I love the ef- covered up. I keep my eye make- waves and digging your toes in those clouds and make their way to fect the sand has on my feet and up super simple so we are talking the sand. I almost don’t mind the you-even if you are hiding under they feel baby smooth without a water-proof mascara and some sand that trails into my car and an umbrella. Do yourself a favor- professional pedicure. Did you big sunglasses. :) Pop on some lip house-because no matter what, apply it and you’ll thank me later. know that sprinkling on some baby and cheek tint and you are good as hard as your try to shake it I have many friends that looked powder and rubbing it in gets all to go! Happy and healthy Sum- all off...some always manages to great when they were younger be- the sand off in a jiffy? This is one mer everyone-enjoy every minute make its way back home with cause they were always bronzy and of my favorite hacks and I always because before you know it, we you. tan in the summer, but now...you make sure to toss in a small bottle will have to pull those boots out To make the most of your don’t wanna know. Hello wrinkles of powder in my beach bag. Green from storage. xoxo

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Maca powder is an incredible Optional topping: hormone balancer, research-proven • 1 tablespoon cacao nibs to aid men and women to improve their hormone function. Click here Preparation to read about Maca and some more 1. Blend first 5 ingredients in a recipes to help you incorporate it food processor. Mix in cacao nibs into your diet. if desired.a food processor. Mix in cacao nibs if desired. Ingredients athletes who exercise casually, as responsible for signaling your • 5 frozen bananas this type of regimen could lead cells to store fat. So now here you • ¼ cup coconut water to weight gain, digestive issues, are putting on fat and sleeping • 10 Barhi dates, or 4 Medjoul dates and even chronic disease.”(2) He in the middle of the day and not • 1 tablespoon maca powder even states that more and more running any marathon! • 1 small handful chocolate mint endurance athletes are actually Don’t get me wrong, I don’t leaves (or replace with 1 drop pure reconsidering this as a strategy as disagree that it may be a mitzva peppermint extract and 1 tablespoon well. (2) to take a Shabbos nap, as it is a raw cacao or carob powder) What occurs when someone mitzva to wash and bensh for consumes a disproportionate and eat a meal with Challah, and number of carbohydrates in one to make kiddish and consume Tips for a Healthy Shabbos sitting is a biological reaction in grape juice (which also converts CHAYA YEHUDIT BATTINO the body that goes something like to simple sugar in the body). All this: of these things are required by Have you ever wondered that a person will gain their first 1. As high-glycemic the religion and are good things! why you fall asleep Shabbos year of being Orthodox. Because I starchy carbohydrate foods such However, the religion does not afternoon? Do you think it’s just never made that connection! as Challah and potatoes get require us to overindulge and because of the extra Shabbos Once I did, I stopped gaining converted into simple sugar by carb load. In fact, I would argue soul that you get and goes away and eventually started to lose the the process of digestion, it causes that the Jewish religion requires every Shabbos? Is he or she a weight back. the sugar level in the blood to just the opposite! According to tired soul, or maybe a “tired old Why does it happen? The rise. Rebbe Nachman of Bretslov, soul”? Why would he or she answer is “carb loading”. The 2. This, in turn, triggers one is supposed to resist the make you so sleepy? The answer Wikipedia definition of carb the release of insulin. Insulin is a temptation to overindulge in food is that it’s not exactly the Shabbos loading is “a strategy used by hormone designed to bring down in order to subdue the Yetser soul that’s making you sleepy. So endurance athletes, such as the blood sugar. Hara. what is it then? It’s something marathon runners, to maximize So you have a rapid rise So how can you avoid that’s going on in your body as the storage of glycogen (or in blood sugar followed by an overindulging in high-glycemic a result of consuming too many energy) in the muscles and liver. equally rapid rise in insulin. carbs this Shabbos? The way to do carbohydrates at one sitting. (1)” However, if you are not in The problem is that when your it is to only have the minimum Carbohydrates!? Yes! Bet you the category of an endurance blood sugar crashes, then you amount of kiddish and Challah never made that connection, did athlete, then you probably essentially crash along with it. that’s required for the mitzva, you? I was the same way my first shouldn’t ever carb load! Dr. This is why you feel like having and to load up your plate with year becoming frum. I put on my Mercola strongly warns that “carb a nap. ‘What’s the big deal about salad. Just be sure there is no “Frum Freshman 15”. That’s my loading is totally inappropriate that?’ you may ask. Nothing sugar in your salad dressing! term for the 15 pounds average for the vast majority of non- except that insulin is also Finally, to eat enough protein to CONT.ON P24 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 23 7/15/16

well accompanying Mr. Giuliani up for the Police like never before President Obama meet to Crown Heights one Sunday after Dallas. He has failed to do so. It afternoon to criticize Mayor Dinkins sends the wrong messages. Mayor David Dinkins for his inaction. It was most likely David Dinkins made the same Joseph Frager,MD that the Crown Heights Riots fired mistake in 1991 even if the situations up New Yorkers to elect Rudy are different. His inaction and lack The events unfolding across a microcosm of America at that Giuliani as the Mayor in 1993. of condemnation of the Yankel America are reminiscent of New time was in financial distress and Rosenbaum murder changed the York in 1991 when David Dinkins moral decay. The Crown Heights The cold blooded murders mindset of the electorate. Hilary was Mayor of New York. Chaos Riots occurred between August of five Dallas Policemen and the Clinton by virtue of her connections seemed back then to reign supreme. 19th-21st 1991. Yankel Rosenbaum, wounding of 9 others(7 Policemen) to the Obama machine will not stop Murders in New York in 1990 were a Religious Jew and a Doctoral is a very dangerous escalation of the chaos either. She may well make at an all-time high (up 17.8% from Student from Australia was brutally an out of control situation. The it worse. Rudy Giuliani was able to the year before totaling 2245 killed murdered by a mob of 20. Lemrick President has not at all controlled turn things around. He has endorsed compared to only 324 murdered in Nelson was the one who Yankel or contained this eruption and Donald Trump for President. There New York in 2014). Truth is it would Rosenbaum pointed out as the one unrest. If anything he has fanned is talk he will be appointed the be great to get this number to zero. who stabbed him. the flames even more so. He has not head of Homeland Security if Mr. In 1991 Lee Brown was condemned the onslaught against Trump wins. Mr. Trump will stop the Police Commissioner. Times The Mayor of New York was the Police nearly enough. The Police the murder of Policemen. He will Square was a squalid festering nowhere to be found. He essentially are not perfect. They are human also reduce the number of murders red-light district and people were allowed the rioters to wreak havoc beings and they make mistakes but across America. He will stand up for afraid to walk out of their homes. for 3 days. It was Rudy Giuliani who they bring law and order to society. Law Enforcement. America will not Squeegee Men harassed motorists rose to the occasion. I remember The President should be standing only be Great Again but Safe Again. at every intersection. New York as

BATTINO CONT. FROM P23 1. Wikipedia article: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/ balance equally or as close to equally as possible to the amount of carbs Carbohydrate_loading and fats on your plate. 2. Dr. Mercola’s website: http://fitness.mercola.com/sites/fitness/ For dessert, I always have just fruit and a cup of herbal tea with a archive/2014/11/14/carb-loading.aspx little honey. There is no need for cakes on Shabbos. There is no mitzva Chaya Yehudit Battino (also known as Carolyn Bachino, MPH, CIC, INHC) is to consume cakes! The mitzva is to enjoy yourself, not to overindulge, an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and Shadchan who runs Shabbos wellness retreats, group coaching classes, public speaking workshops and coaches clients since overindulgence on food is actually an avera. individually in the Brooklyn, New York Orthodox Jewish community, as well as remotely. To get a free initial consultation and to learn about her upcoming Shabbat Shalom! Chaya events, visit www.healthcoachlink.com.

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24 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7/15/16 RABBINICAL ALLIANCE OF AMERICA/IGUD HORABBONIM, order to be successful, he must also have a support organization IN CONJUNCTION WITH KOLLEL AYSHEL AVRAHAM to whom to turn to in time of RABBINICAL SEMINARY AND THE ORTHODOX DIVISION OF need or crises. The Rabbinical Alliance of America, in its near THE NEW YORK STATE CHAPLAINS TASK FORCE PARTNER 75 years of existence, has been TOGETHER IN TRAINING AND ORDAINING ORTHODOX in the forefront of promoting activism in the American RABBIS TO SERVE KLAL YISROEL. Orthodox Rabbinate. The Rabbinical Alliance of a Presidium Member of the frum chaplain who understands Among its illustrious America/Igud Horabbonim, a Rabbinical Alliance, explains the needs of our community. founders and leaders were national Orthodox Rabbinical that his Kollel Ayshel Avraham This stark reality is becoming a great Rabbinic luminaries and organization founded in 1942, was established with the more serious issue as the baby personalities such as Rabbi consisting of well over 850 purpose of training Rabbis to boomers begin to age. Abraham Hecht, ZT’L our leading American Rabbis, has fill leadership positions in the longstanding President, Rabbi partnered this past year with Jewish community. The Skver This vital mission is Yitzchok Isaac Liebes, ZT’L, the Kollel Ayshel Avraham Rebbe also gave his blessing to consistent with the goals of Av Beis Din of Greindig and Rabbinical Seminary headed by Rabbi Spivak to be Matzliach Rabbi Malik who heads the Igud Beis Din and author of Rabbi Yaakov Spivak its Rosh with the Talmidei Hakollel. New York State Chaplains Shailos and Tshuvos Beis Avi, Kollel, and with the New York This is extremely important Task Force - Orthodox Jewish The Keismark Rov - Rabbi State Chaplains Task Force considering the 2013 Pew Division. Rabbi Malik is a Meyer Greenberg, ZT’L, Rabbi - Orthodox Jewish Division Report that indicates a near 80% pioneer, whose mission is to Boruch Leizerowski, ZT’L, Av headed by Rabbi Yeichel Malik, assimilation rate consuming train chaplains to meet the needs Beis Din Igud Beis Din, The Av Beis Din of Kahal Ahavas the broader American Jewish of the Orthodox community Ungvar Rov - Rabbi Menashe Achim Lvov, in putting together community. The other reality wherever they are found. From Klien, ZT’L, author of Mishna a Smicha class that is training is the need to have a Chaplain the cradle to the elderly, Rabbi Halochos and Chair of the Igud Orthodox Chaplains. In this present in a hospital and a Malik and his frum team of Vad Halocho and Horav Yosef inaugural class, 30 rabbinical nursing home setting. All too chaplains are there to help. Tosig, ZT’L, Av Beis Din of candidates are participating in a often we hear horror stories of Behled. These Rabbonim were program that will train Rabbis how people have experienced However, being a chaplain is no strangers when it came to who will be leaders for Klal certain traumatic issues in a not enough. The Chaplain must advocating for Klal Yisroel. Yisroel. hospital or a nursing facility. be an Ordained Rabbi, and a Ben These situations could have Torah with Yeras Shomayim Years ago, these Gedolay

Rabbi Spivak, who is also been avoided had there been a who is steeped in Halacha. In CONT.ON P28

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Naively, the following sentiment blinded the eyes of our so called Rabbi Dr. Bernhard Rosenberg was expressed in the April third leadership. edition of the London Times: Various please remained “There is no spontaneous hostility unheard and unanswered. A cable THE PARASITES to the hard-working small Jewish sent to Breckinridge Long, on AMONG US shopkeeper or trader.” The New March 26, 1943, stated: “Gravest York Times reported, “There is possible news reaching London any active anti-Semitism in the past week shows massacres German masses if they are left now reaching catastrophic If someone murdered a public denunciations and alone.” climax, particularly Poland, also loved one of yours would you continued documentaries will Eventually the press awakened deportations Bulgarian, Rumanian benevolently erase the atrocity awaken latent Nazi tendencies. to the reality of an appending Jews already begun. European from your mind? If the murderer Allow me to suggest the opposite. nightmare. In response to Jewry disappearing while no single still lived, would you seek to Those who truly wish to destroy kristallnacht, the New York Times organization rescue measure yet convict him or merely discover the Jewish nation certainly do not observed: “It is assumed that the takes…extermination reaching other avenues of interest to need additional incentives. Jews, who have now lost most of peak. Urge allied relief” preoccupy your time? Like parasites, they survive their possessions and livelihood Ironically between 1933 and Six million Jews were brutally at the expense of others. These will either be thrown into the 1943 there existed more than murdered, yet some wish to cannibals of society eagerly await streets or put into ghettos and four hundred thousand vacant conveniently forget. Why live to devour their prey; they feed concentration camps or impressed positions in the United States in the past? The dead cannot upon fear ad desperately search into labor brigades and put to immigration quotas of countries be revived! Let us speak for the for defenseless scapegoats. An work for the Third Reich. As under Nazi domination. Yet, living; let us turn towards other apathetic approach combined the children of Israel were once Cordell Hull insisted, “I cannot outlets of concern. with the fear of retaliation merely before the Pharaohs.” Following recommend that we open The Nazi mentally still exists; furnishes fuel for those seeking the atrocities of kristallnacht, the question of relaxation the we dare not naively believe that scapegoats. Too often we dismiss the London Times exclaimed, provision of our immigration anti-Semitism has vanished. the obvious in order to achieve “It is not to be believed that laws run the risk of a prolonged Hatred and bigotry is a cancer peace of mind. the nations cannot find the and bitter controversy in congress which eventually returns to haunt As we travel backward into means of assisting unwarranted on the immigration question- its innocent victims. Unless the time machine of history, this citizens to leave Germany and of considering the generous quantity intense treatment and annual truism becomes evident. The providing the territory in which of refuges we have already diagnostic tests occur, tragedy is socialist party declared a boycott those Jews can find a liberated received.” inevitable. to begin on April 1, 1933 of all community ad recover the right Perhaps if we as a nation Some naively believe that Jewish businesses in Germany. to live and prosper. There is no would have spoken as one unit, difficulty which a common will our leaders would have not and common action cannot turned a deaf ear. The Holocaust overcome.” can happen again. Ruthlessness Now we can openly admit, and hatred still permeate the too little too late! Fear and atmosphere. Awareness and action appeasement provided the Nazi is our most potent ad valued party with the subterfuge they weapon. Silence and inaction is a eagerly sought. Isolationism way of life we dare not accept.

RAA new initiative and encourage CONT. FROM P25 Rabbi Spivak and Rabbi Malik Yisroel encouraged and gave a to continue to build on this holy special Brocho to Rabbi Spivak endeavor. to found the Kollel Ayshel The classes took place at Avraham Rabbinical Seminary Kahal Ahavas Achim Lvov in with a Smicha program specially Boro Park where Rabbi Malik geared to training a Rov in how service as the Rov. to be a Rov and an advocate for Seasoned Rabbis such as Klal Yisrael. Since then, the Rabbi Yaakov Spivak, Rabbi Kollel has granted Smicha to Yaakov Klass, Rabbi Shmaryahu many Rabbonim who serve Klal Shulman, Rabbi Chaim Yehuda Yisroel worldwide. w Pollack, Rabbi Leib Landesman, The current Presidium of the Rabbi Yechiel Malik and Rabbi Rabbinical Alliance of America Yisocher Gelbman are among consists of Rabbi Hanania the distinguished faculty for this Elbaz, Rabbi Yehoshua Hecht, program. These Rabbonim were Rabbi Yaakov Klass and Rabbi asked to train this inaugural Yaakov Spivak. Its Honorary chaplain class because of their President is Rabbi Shmaryahu scholarship and recognition as Shulman, its Av Beis Din is Poskim in Halacha. We wish Rabbi Herschel Kurzrock, and these new Rabbis Hatzlacha the Rosh Beis Din is Rabbi Dov in their mission to serve our Aaron Brisman. They and the community. RAA Director, Rabbi Mendy PHOTOS ON PAGE 38 Mirocznik, are excited over this 28 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 7/15/16

Tefillen bag was embroidered with tery of time and space. It showed the same three initials: my grand- me His perfect tapestry coming Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz father, R’ Abba Zalka Gewirtz z”l, together line by line with all the “The Observant Jew in whose home I was reading the artistry of a master craftsman. story! With everything coalescing, I felt Get Found in the Minutiae It was more than a coinci- at peace, knowing that HaShem is dence. I began to think of all the in control and He loves me. Don’t sweat the small stuff, (no word on which one she likes factors that had to fall into place When 13-year old Hallel Ariel they say. It’s as axiomatic as not more) so I try to make sure we for this to happen. First of all, I HY”D of Kiryat Arba was mur- being able to see the forest for the have it in the house before Shab- had brought the magazine with dered by an Arab terrorist, it was trees. What both of these say- bos. In fact, I make an effort to us on this trip. Second, the story the 24th day of Sivan. As someone ings have in common is that they pick it up before we travel so we that was printed “just happened” pointed out to me (thanks Yitzie!), encourage people to overlook the have it with us. to be the one it was. They prepare those who follow the schedule little things in life and focus on stories months in advance and of Tehillim over a 30-day cycle the big picture. One such week, we took a rare this one actually should have been would note that the psalms read Just as a person looking at a trip to my sister’s home for Shab- published earlier if not for some on the 24th day of the month are digital photo won’t understand bos. We slept in what used to be mix-up the publisher told me hap- those which make up the Hallel the image if he’s staring at the tiny my grandparents’ apartment, at pened which delayed it. we say on holidays. pixelated dots, when we focus on least it was when they were alive On top of that, R’ Paysach This small detail is not a coin- all the tiny details of life it’s easy and lived with her. It was there Krohn, in choosing a fictitious cidence, but an interaction with to miss how those details come to- that I read a story R’ Paysach had name for his protagonist per- HaShem, reminding us that He is gether to form a greater situation. penned about “Avraham Zev haps decades ago, chose one that in control. When you reflect upon In the grand scheme of things, Ganberg,” the fictional name of matched my grandfather’s initials, the divine involvement in even small difficulties seem to make a real young man whose Tefillen and the bag which had been em- the most seemingly mundane or sense as integral parts of the larger had been stolen. broidered with my Zaidy’s initials meaningless aspects of life, you development which they won’t if In the story, they were found was probably done years before will be able to see HaShem more viewed on their own. by someone who wondered how that! clearly than ever, and perhaps find However, this time I’d like to he could track down the owner When I took the time to think yourself more connected than ever suggest focusing on the details. of the Tefillen based only on the of all the things that had to come before. It can be very important in some Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspira- initials embroidered on the bag: together for me to get that little tional writer and speaker whose work ways, so let’s get started. Alef Zayin Gimel. nod from HaShem that He’s run- has appeared in publications around As many of you know, my col- the world. You can find him at www. When I read that, I got a chill. ning the world and everything in facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz, and follow umns appear in various magazines Not because I was nervous the my life down to where I was and him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or across North America. My local Twitter @RabbiJGewirtz. He also oper- Tefillen would not be returned. what I was reading, I was hum- ates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where magazine also usually includes an Come on, this is a Jewish story - of bled, inspired, and felt very, very you can order a custom-made speech excerpt from one of R’ Paysach for your next special occasion. Sign course it will have a happy ending! loved. up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Krohn’s fantastic Maggid series. The reason I got a chill was I recognized that in these Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@Jew- My wife likes both of these items ishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe because I knew someone whose details HaShem showed His mas- in the subject.

measure. We do not have to keep We can learn this verse over The more specific you are, the Rabbi Moshe score, Hashem does it for us. and over again to internalize that easier it becomes to develop a strat- ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Hashem created everything for our egy, with Hashem’s help. Goldberger “Closeness to Hashem is good- benefit. There is a survey that claims a ness,” Tehilim 73:28. person who writes down his goals Loving Your ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Another Level can end up earning 10 times more Greatest Gift: “In the beginning, G-d created The Targum Yerushalmi trans- than those who don’t write them Torah! the Heavens and the earth,” Bre- lates ‘Breishis’ as ‘with wisdom;’ down. This may work based on the ishis 1:1. nothing starts without wisdom and Torah principle – ‘On the path one every step of continuation is with is determined to go, Hashem will “How Can I Help You?” This basic, fundamental verse more wisdom. lead him,’ Makos 10b. This question is the most useful is so amazing and astounding… There is a great lesson here. This explains why Hashem has for growing in Torah and Mitzvos. Hashem created all the trees, air, There is a smart way for us to ac- every Jew put our goals in written It’s better to give before you light, etc. for you and me! Hash- complish great goals. We need to form and post in on every one of need to receive. Giving is a merit em’s generosity is unlimited, and learn how to do things with wis- our doorposts in the form of a that helps you gain, measure for we have to learn to also yearn to be a ‘Giver,’ like Hashem. dom, as Hashem does, always. Mezuza! T • A • N • I Good When you I caught job! Now you can go said fish for breakfast Supermarkets! a fish! I can’t back to the camp and gut I thought canned fish! believe it! And it. where do you City kids! suppose canned fish WHAT!?! comes from? By: Yeshaya Suval Under the direction Yeshaya By: of Emunah Publishing

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Israeli official urges It is believed that eBay agreed Israeli forces find weapons Theresa May, U.K.’s next UNESCO to reject ‘effort to pay between $30 million and cache near Nablus, arrest prime minister, seen as to distort’ Jerusalem’s $40 million for SalesPredict, suspects: strong supporter of Israel history: although neither company and Jews: released financial information Israeli forces have arrested four Israeli Foreign Ministry Director- British Home Secretary Theresa on the transaction. SalesPredict, Palestinians who were allegedly General Dore Gold sent a scathing May, who is slated to become the which is based in Netanya, was involved in illicit arms dealing and letter to the head of the United country’s next prime minister, founded in 2012. Its technology manufacturing. The arrest raid, in Nations Educational, Scientific is seen as a strong supporter of is a form of artificial intelligence the town of Urif near Nablus, took and Cultural Organization on Israel and the Jewish community. that uses various techniques to place overnight Sunday and was Monday (UNESCO), criticizing May emerged as the likely study consumers’ buying habits carried out by the Israel Defense a draft UNESCO resolution that candidate to succeed Prime through database analysis. Forces’s elite Duvdevan unit and Gold said ignores the historical Minister David Cameron, who eBay, which is a popular online Nahal Brigade, with the help of bond between the Jewish people announced his resignation marketplace that allows users to the Israel Police and the Shin and the city of Jerusalem. following the U.K.’s decision to sell the products to each other Bet security agency. The forces UNESCO’s 21-member World leave the European Union (EU) in and bid on them, has increased confiscated a cache of improvised Heritage Committee is set to a referendum last month. She will its presence in the Israeli high- firearms, ammunition, and four vote on the resolution, a joint become the U.K.’s second female tech sector over the years, and weapon-manufacturing devices. Palestinian-Jordanian initiative, prime minister after Margaret eBay Israel, which is also based The makeshift guns were based during its annual meeting in Thatcher and will be responsible in Netanya, employs hundreds on the Carl Gustav, M16, and Uzi Istanbul, which began next for guiding the country through of people. Part of the reason for models. Israeli officials believe Sunday and runs through that a potentially chaotic exit from buying SalesPredict was its ability that the four suspects used their week. The resolution calls for the EU. In her capacity as home to leverage “advanced analytics to connections within Judea and a return to the “historic status secretary, a position responsible predict customer buying behavior Samaria to expand their business quo” on the Temple Mount. In for the internal affairs of England and sales conversion,” eBay said ties to Israel. Two of the suspects his letter, Gold wrote, “UNESCO and Wales, May has promised in a statement. “For our buyers, are members of the Palestinian is considering the adoption of to defend the country’s Jewish it will help us better understand Authority’s security forces. “The a completely one-sided draft community and wipe out anti- the price differentiating attributes raid was part of the ongoing effort resolution on the Old City of Semitism. “I never thought I of our products, and, for our to counter the manufacturing and Jerusalem that deliberately ignores would see the day when members sellers, it will help us build out the the trade of arms in Judea and the historical connection between of the Jewish community in the predictive models that can define Samaria,” the Shin Bet said in a the Jewish people and their CONT.ON P31 the probability of selling a given statement. ancient capital. The resolution also product, at a given price over fails to acknowledge Christianity’s time,” the statement added. DOVIE’S ties to Jerusalem. It refers to the area of the Temple Mount only as Netanyahu reportedly OR a ‘Muslim holy site of worship.’” open to Cairo summit with Gold added, “Today, it is Israel Palestinian leader Abbas: EARC that defends religious freedom for softHow to solve a search drin and Find Puzzle k The words can be located in the diagram by reading forward, backward, up , all of the great faiths—Judaism, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin down and diagonally. All words will be found in a straight line with no letters Netanyahu is reportedly open being skipped. As you find each word, circle it in the diagram and cross it o Christianity, and Islam—against the word list. Letters may be used more than once and words will often overlap. the tide of intolerance sweeping to meeting with Palestinian All the letters in the diagram may not be used. the Middle East region….We Authority President Mahmoud urge you to oppose this effort to Abbas as part of a Egyptian-led distort history, which will offend summit in Cairo. According to the members of the Jewish and a report in the Saudi-owned Al Christian faiths, and undermine Arabiya news network, Netanyahu the credibility of UNESCO in the expressed a willingness to meet future.” Abbas in Cairo during a meeting with Egyptian Foreign Minister eBay buys Israeli start-up Sameh Shoukry on Sunday. The to better understand its Prime Minister’s Office responded users: to the report by saying, “Whether this is being discussed or not, Israel always says it is ready to directly negotiate, bilaterally, and without preconditions.” Sunday’s visit by Shoukry was the first official trip by an Egyptian foreign minister to Israel since 2007. “I welcome President [Abdel Fattah] El-Sisi’s recent offer of Egyptian The online retail giant eBay leadership in efforts to advance on Monday announced the peace with the Palestinians and acquisition of SalesPredict, an a broader peace in our region,”

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JNS secure the Leviathan Natural CONT. FROM P30 Gas Field,” the letter said. “The Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier of the United Kingdom would say they SH-60F helicopters will be used Shmuz Joins Frum Divorce for were fearful of remaining here in onboard these new frigates to the United Kingdom,” May said patrol and protect these gas fields a Shabbos of Chizuk in a speech to Jewish leaders in as well as other areas under threat. January 2015 in the aftermath On Friday, July 1st through gained from Rabbi Shafier’s clear of the Paris terror attacks on the Two Israelis killed in car Sunday, July 3rd, Rabbi Ben Tzion style and down to earth approach. crash in California: satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo Shafier of the Shmuz joined Frum On Shabbos day, his address titled Divorce in the Renaissance Hotel “What to Look for in a Soul- and the Hyper Cacher kosher Two Israelis in Westechester, NY for their 6th Mate, The First or Second Time supermarket. “And that means were killed Bi-Annual Shabbos of inspiration Around” was profound, practical we must all redouble our efforts and another and chizuk. Frum Divorce is and fabulously attended. The to wipe out anti-Semitism here was injured in an organization focus of the lecture was in the United Kingdom.” May a car accident that was created to on critical errors being has also spoken of her strong in northern heal the pain felt by made during the dating support for Israel, saying that California on parents and children process. Rabbi Shafier “the modern state of Israel is the Saturday. The accident, involving of divorce in a stayed on Sunday to fulfillment of many generations a head-on collision, took place strong community speak once again. It of struggle” during a speech for on Route 70 near the city of environment. was an enjoyable Israeli Independence Day in Chico. The dead Israelis were a Through support Shabbos for a very April 2015. In 2014, May visited man and a woman. The injured groups, community important cause. Israel, where she met with experts Israeli, a woman, was taken to a lectures and popular The Shmuz is a on cyber-security and modern hospital in Chico in moderate- events, they try to Torah lecture that slavery, saying those are “two to-serious condition. The families ensure no Jewish offers a worldview challenges which both Israel and of the accident victims have been parent or child is on major life issues the U.K. are confronting with notified and are being assisted alone at this most difficult time. ranging from working on our great determination.” by the Israeli Foreign Ministry. Rabbi Shafier’s Friday night middos to learning to be a better Meanwhile, an Israeli man Israel to get 8 Seahawk keynote presentation, “Learning spouse, from understanding the drowned in Vinales, Cuba, on helicopters, related From the Past and Moving meaning of our davening to what defense equipment Thursday. His body was found by Forward--- What’s My Plan is our purpose is in this world. from U.S: a diver on Friday. and What’s G-d’s Plan?” was a Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier has been The United States has approved IDF is Israeli public’s most meaningful and inspirational shiur delivering these lectures across the sale of eight SH-60F Seahawk trusted institution, study that moved his listeners. They America and beyond for a decade. helicopters and related defense finds: equipment to Israel. The A sweeping 82 percent of the Pentagon’s Defense Security Israeli public has confidence Cooperation Agency announced in the Israel Defense Forces last week that after approving the (IDF), making it the country’s sale of eight helicopter airframes, most trusted institution, “the State Department has made according to findings published a determination approving a on Sunday by Israel’s Central possible foreign military sale Bureau of Statistics. According to Israel for excess SH-60F to the “Public Confidence in Seahawk helicopter equipment Various Institutions, Bodies and and support.” In a letter to the Organizations” study, 93 percent U.S. Senate dated July 6, the of Israeli Jews trust the IDF. agency said the estimated cost Only 32 percent of the Israeli- for the related equipment was Arab public, however, expressed $300 million. “This proposed confidence in the military. Local sale will contribute to the foreign municipalities are the second- policy and national security of most trusted public institution in the United States by helping to Israel, earning the confidence of improve the security of a strategic 61 percent of respondents, while regional partner, which has been, the State Comptroller placed and continues to be, an important third, with 60 percent. The legal force for political stability and system was fourth at 58 percent. economic progress in the Middle Ironically, the institution behind East,” the letter said. The SH- the survey—the Central Bureau 60F Seahawk—manufactured of Statistics—came in fifth, with by Sikorsky Aircraft—is used 54 percent of Israelis saying they for anti-submarine warfare, trust the data it publishes. The search-and-rescue missions, Israel Police placed sixth at 53 and other functions. In its percent, while only 40 percent of letter to the Senate, the Defense respondents expressed confidence Security Cooperation Agency in the government and 38 percent said the new helicopters would said they trust the Knesset be used to defend Israel’s natural legislature. Israel’s political parties gas infrastructure. “Israel has earned an even lower level of purchased four new frigates to trust—22 percent.

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DR. P nice to those in service positions, LETTER TO THE EDITOR CONT. FROM P15 especially those who bring us food to keep her facial skin well hy- and drink. Last time I flew with my little boy, I gave a grouchy flight at- Minister Netanyahu to declare drated, Healing Jennie for post-va- Dear editor: tendant a sample of Toby’s Varietal that Obama deserved a “badge of cation-sun ‘owwies’, and Groovy In his June 3, 2016 article, Solid Lotion at the beginning of the honor;” Israeli strategic experts Grass, as an all over moisturizer. “The Lame-Stream Media,” Saul flight. She looked like she had had agree that strategic cooperation She is used to taking long haul M. Berger asserts that President a hard day. I don’t know if there is between the US and Israel has flights, so she uses Face + Below on Obama is anti-Semitic. This seems a definite connection, but when the never been better; the US has her face and neck as soon as she is inconsistent with the following drink and snack cart came around, supplied funding for the “Iron safely buckled in her seat. She then facts: my little guy was loaded up on (ko- Dome” missile defense system uses Groovy Grass on her hands. As Obama has been very friendly sher, of course!) with bags of blue that has saved many Israeli lives; lemongrass is her favorite essential to Jews in the US. His former Chief chips, cookies, and two types of Obama has supported Israel with oil, the natural fragrance also serves of Staff Jack Lew is an Orthodox drink. Our flight attendants frown regard to the Goldstone report and to sooth her pre-flight jitters. If she Jew who is now Treasury Secretary was turned upside down! On the the Gaza flotilla events; Obama has spent too much time in the sun and his first Chief of Staff Rahm way off the plane she thanked me helped save six Israelis who were on her trip, she uses a little Healing Emanuel is a Jew; he appointed a and told me none of her passengers trapped in the Israeli embassy in Jennie. She called me after her last Jew, Elana Kagan, to the Supreme had ever given her a gift before. All Cairo, in response to a frantic, trip to tell me the Hope Solid Lo- Court and a Jew, Janet Yellen, to because I was not limited by the 3.4 middle-of-the night call from tion made her arduous journey feel head the Federal Reserve; many of ounce TSA restriction by carrying Netanyahu. And, as Netanyahu almost like a day at the spa! his key advisors are Jewish; and on Hope Solid Lotion now he has nominated another mentioned in his talk to Congress, I’ve been known to stash a So, Louie of Flatbush, you can Jew, Merrick Garland, to the Obama has done many other couple extra bars in my bag as happily take your all-natural, or- Supreme Court, which could result things for Israel that the public sweet-smelling gifts for my hosts, ganic ingredient Hope Solid Lotion in four of the nine justices being is not aware of. In his meeting as well as a little something for on your travels. You can find Hope Jewish; he is the first president to with Obama December 10, 2015, the plane’s flight attendants. Af- Solid Lotion at Organic Circle in have Passover Seders in the White Israeli president Rivlin thanked ter spending hours upon hours, Brooklyn, at hopesolidlotion.com, House, and he has had them for all Obama for the “extensive and day after day in such a confining and at Facebook.com/hopesolidlo- eight years while in office. unprecedented security assistance atmosphere, solid lotion bars can tion. I wish you good health, a safe Also, the Obama the United States has given Israel bring a smile to an otherwise weary summer, and smooth skin. administration has consistently over the past seven years.” professional traveller. And besides, backed Israel at the UN and Very truly yours, Questions? Email Hadassah Chaya I’ve learned it is imperative to be helped prevent a declaration of Richard H. Schwartz, Ph.D. Pardo at [email protected]. a Palestinian State by the UN, Professor Emeritus, College an effort that led Israeli Prime of Staten Island Coming Soon: Meatless Meat and Chicken The founders of an Israeli food tech Hebron and Kiryat Arba in the West startup want you to enjoy your meat Bank, and Yuval Cherlow, a Ranaana without the guilt — in fact, without the rabbi who helped found the religious animal. Zionist rabbinical group Tzohar, argue SuperMeat, which launched on video that SuperMeat will be parve. in December and began an online They say animal cells don’t count as crowdfunding campaign Monday, is meat and that SuperMeat’s process developing a method anyway transforms the for bioengineering cells into an entirely “cultured meat” new substance. Based from animal cells. Its on similar logic, they tagline: “Real meat, say, gelatin derived without harming from pigs is kosher – a animals.” Imagine position with which a chicken breast many other Orthodox without the chicken, rabbis disagree. developed in a machine from cells The New York-based Orthodox taken from a living bird and cultured in Union has yet to take a position on a nutrient-rich stock. cultured meat. But Rabbi Moshe Ele- Production is to work like this: fant, the chief operating officer of the Cells will be harmlessly taken from a OU’s kashrut department, suggested chicken and put into a special ma- the product sounded a lot like meat. He chine that simulates the bird’s biology, also confirmed that the OU’s position allowing them to self-assemble into would be based solely on Jewish law. meat. The process could revolutionize An Israeli activist group, says: “We how the world eats, striking a major wish SuperMeat best of luck with the blow against environmental degrada- research, we welcome any initiative tion, animal suffering and global health that can help animals. However, we pandemics. Other meats could be made must remember that as consumers, we using more or less the same process, he don’t need to wait for a scientific break- said. through in order to save animals. … Dov Lior, the chief rabbi of There is no nutritional need for meat.”

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at Halliburton in 2005. As part of do so. Saul M. Berger CFE, CPA, CFF his responsibilities he was charged Menendez filed a confidential with tracking millions of dollars’ complaint with the SEC in PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM FRAUD worth of huge machinery for the November 2005 because he believed oil and gas exploration industry. that a company commits fraud when GLOBAL FRAUD CONFERENCE According to him, the company it knowingly violates accounting and TAKEAWAYS- PART 2 asked him to approve a bill-and- SEC rules and misleads the investing hold sale; which he explained as public. And then in February 2006, From June 12th through the which any positive outcome. He was “a contract to allow and recognize he alerted the audit committee of 17th, the Association of Certified told that China wasn’t in the habit revenue on equipment that they Halliburton’s board of directors Fraud Examiners (ACFE) held their of keeping records. As he stated, “if weren’t actually selling but were about the accounting problem. He annual global fraud conference there were records you wouldn’t be ultimately going to use months left Halliburton in 2006 and brought in hot, steamy Las Vegas. At least able to get them or read them. And later”. Menendez smelled a rat. a whistleblower claim under the the attendees were indoors, at the if you got the records and read them He said that after researching and anti-retaliation provisions of the amazing Aria! and published them you would be investigating this issue for many Sarbanes-Oxley Act. It took almost Every day, there were live in big trouble. Your life would be in hours, he able to find any support nine years, but Menendez finally sessions on many different areas danger.” for the company’s position to record prevailed against Halliburton in of fraud fighting that attendees as sales, equipment sitting was court. could select. In addition, there were So he began to concentrate sitting at the company. The point at The main takeaway from keynote speakers that were simply on the family of the Prime Minister which he knew that there was fraud this story is that at times, you have riveting. As a result, I wanted (remember “tone at the top”?) He being perpetrated at the highest to just go with your gut. If you to share with you some of the learned that the PM’s family had echelons of the company was when have a feeling that something is topics that I believe you will find their hands in numerous businesses he was told that his predecessor wrong, pursue the issue until you interesting. Keep in mind; these are in industries as diverse as diamonds, routinely approved these bill-and- either realize that it’s not what you only summaries of those sessions, insurance, banking and finance. hold sales (again, tone at the top). thought it was, or you become more presented to make you aware of In researching the companies He said his boss told him, convinced that something is not some of what was said to the world’s where the PM’s family was involved “We agree your conclusions are kosher, at which point, follow the largest gathering of fraud fighters. (i.e. controlled) he found a number appropriate. We need to get this trail! thing fixed posthaste and get back Last issue, we examined some of Chinese companies he’d never Saul M. 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For under a Franklin, he hit, Barbara Ann! was able to have boxes of records Nothing like getting you into shipped to him! That was the break the summer spirit! that he needed, as from thereon, On Tuesday, June 16th, David one thing led to another, and he Barboza presented the keynote was able to report that the records speech at the Working Lunch revealed that the PM’s wife, son, session. He is a winner of the 2013 daughter, brother and brother-in- Pulitzer Prize for International law have controlled assets worth at Reporting for his reporting on his least $2.7 billion. Barboza explained findings associated with Fraud in that the names of the relatives the Chinese Government. Barboza in many cases were concealed is an investigative reporter for the behind layers of partnerships and New York Times. investment vehicles involving The ACFE presented Barboza friends, work colleagues and with its Guardian Award — business partners. presented annually to a journalist “whose determination, perseverance 2016 Cliff Robertson Sentinel and commitment to the truth have Award contributed significantly to the fight Anthony Menendez, CFE, against fraud.” received the Cliff Robertson In 2012, Barboza was Sentinel Award during Wednesday’s Shanghai bureau chief for Closing General Session. First The New York Times. He had awarded to Oscar-Winning actor learned through the rumor Cliff Robertson in 2003, the mill that high-ranking Chinese ACFE’s Sentinel Award carries the government officials and their inscription “For Choosing Truth offspring — the “princelings” Over Self.” This award is given — had benefited financially each year to a person who, without from the country’s economic regard to personal or professional transformation, by receiving billions consequences, has publicly of dollars of “secret shares” in blown the whistle in business or corporations. Barboza thought that government. it wouldn’t be possible to delve into Menendez was the director top government families in China, of technical accounting research To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 33 7/15/16

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Torah and Gemilas Chesed. Phyllis father in his work for the Klal. A FRESH PERSPECTIVE | Breindy Reiss spends every Erev Shabbos doing beautiful tribute written in rhyme was Bikur Cholim and readying Shabbos recited by Phyllis’s many grandchil- meals for anyone who needs to stay at dren who attended. YESHIVAH OF STATEN ISLAND/ the Staten Island Hospital. But that is Phyllis spoke briefly about her WOMEN’S LUNCHEON not all she does for them. Each and inability to refuse Rebbitzen Sheila every Erev Shabbos she about accepting the personally visits every award. It was a way On Sunday, May 15th close at the end term recital. However, choleh bringing a to help the Yeshiva of to one hundred fifty women and Michael called her the night before, sense of happiness and Staten Island so she well-wishers gathered for the an- begging for a chance “to play at the hope to patients and could not refuse. At nual women’s luncheon on behalf recital for Mom”. Mrs. Rogers was in their families. Some- this point, Pinni Feuer of Yeshiva of Staten Island and to a quandary as what to do. In a leap how she also finds presented Mrs. Zachter present Phyllis Zachter with the Reb- of faith permitted it. Michael came time to be assistant with the prestigious bitzen Shima Feinstein Eyshes Chayil to the recital with two men that were director of the UPK Rebbitzen Shima Award. The program began with seated in the audience. Mrs. Roger’s program at RJJ. Of Feinstein Eyshes Chayil Rebbitzen Sheila Feinstein welcoming was astounded as to how well Michael course she always award. The beautiful everyone who had gathered from the played. She found out that Mrs. Rog- there for her family inscription was read for lower East Side, Staten Island and ers had died and that her determined and eniklach. all to hear. The audi- beyond, to help support this worthy son lovingly practiced in a short time Phyllis’ daughter Cindy spoke ence demonstrated their approval. makom of Torah and hadracha. The “to make Mom Proud”. The two about her mother. She described The sumptuous meal came to a Rebbitzen’s remarks were based men were in from the orphanage and her constant heartfelt tefilos for close. The winners of the raffles were each choleh she hears about. Cindy announced. Everyone left happier explained: “Anyone who enters my knowing that they gave honor to mother’s orbit, is there for life!” The pillars of the community as well as proud daughter described that her having helped support they important mother constantly encourages her mossad; the Yeshiva of Staten Island.

on teachings from Pirkei Avos and it was their task to place Michael in additional sources. She subsequently foster care. Mrs. Rogers approached introduced the Guest Speaker, Rabbi them and offered to tutor Michael free Lehrfeld, Rav of Young Israel in Stat- of any charge. en Island. Rabbi Lehrfeld used this poignant Rabbi Lehrfeld stressed the im- story as a back drop to express his portance of how the Yeshiva of Staten hakoras hatov to Rabbi and Reb. Reu- Island gives every talmid the opportu- vain Feinstein Shlita, for always being nity to learn and grow. He concluded a source of inspiration to; himself, by stating how Rabbi Reuvain Fein- the Yeshiva, the entire community of stein Shlita and the Rebbitzen tichye, Staten Island and beyond He cited bring out the best in everyone with a documented source about a talent- much patience and love. The audience ed music teacher, Mrs. Rogers who expressed their agreement as well with had a potentially gifted student that a mighty applause. she tutored. Although Michael was At this point of the program the diligent in practicing the music home- presentation of the Eyshes work assigned, he eventually began Chayil award began. The honoree to slacken off. The youngster would chosen as recipient this year was Phyl- appear disheveled and it was obvious lis Zachter, a pillar of chesed in Staten that he was not the type of student Island. Together with her husband one would wish to call upon to play Mel, they are incredible Tomchei

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Canada’s Prime Minister, Rabbinical Alliance Trudeau Visits Auschwitz of America

Rabbi Yaakov Klass, Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, Rabbi Yeichel Malik, Rabbi Yaakov Spivak, Rabbi Chaim Yehuda Pollack

Rabbi Chaim Yehuda Pollack giving a Shiur

Canadian Prime Minister Rabbi Yaakov Spivak, Justin Trudeau toured together with Rabbi the Auschwitz memo- Yoel Roth and Rabbi rial on Sunday with Yomtov Malik Nate Leipciger, a for- mer prisoner there who immigrated to Canada from his native Poland in 1948 at the age of 18, as well as the Cana- dian minister of foreign Rabbi Yaakov Spivak, affairs, Stéphane Dion, Rabbi Yisocher Gelbman, and Rabbi Adam Scheier Rabbi Yeichel Malik, Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik of Montreal, vice presi- dent of the Council of Rabbis of Canada.

S.I. COJO 49th Annual Celebration

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Rabbi Robert Kaplan JCRC-NY, Rabbi Michael Miller JCRC-NY, Scott Maurer CEO COJO-SI, Mendy Mirocznik President COJO-SI

Former Staten Island Borough President Ralph Lamberti, Scott Maurer CEO COJO-SI

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UK PRIME MINISTER then she will follow a long line CONT. FROM P1 of British prime ministers, go- ing back to Margaret Thatcher mediate aftermath of the horrific and including John Major, Tony Charlie Hebdo and HyperCacher Blair, Gordon Brown and Cam- attacks of January 2015. eron, who were considered good May, according to former friends in Jerusalem. ambassador to London Daniel Taub, “has been a long-standing In our own personal first im- friend of Israel and the Jewish pression, we see a lot of similarity community. Another official said to The “Iron Lady”, Margaret that when it comes to Israel, May Thatcher and we have no doubt “comes with her heart in the right that Theresa will prove a formi- place.” dable Prime Minister and a true If, indeed, that is the case, friend of Israel.

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