A Paralympian"S Oral History: Lex Gillette
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A Paralympian’s Oral History LEX GILLETTE 2004 Paralympic Games – Athens 2008 Paralympic Games – Beijing 2012 Paralympic Games – London 2016 Paralympic Games – Rio – Track and Field – Interviewed by: Alan Abrahamson February 20, 2019 Los Angeles, California ©2019 LA84 Foundation All rights reserved This oral history may not, in whole or in part, be copied, photocopied, reproduced, translated, or converted to any electronic or machine-readable form without prior written consent of the LA84 Foundation www.LA84.org LA84 Foundation 2141 W. Adams Blvd. Los Angeles, CA 90018 LEX GILLETTE Alan Abrahamson Interviewer: It is Wednesday, February 20, 2019. I'm Alan Abrahamson. We are here with Lex Gillette and we are continuing our series on Paralympic Champions. We are here in Los Angeles, California, at the LA84 Foundation. Good Morning. How are you Lex? Lex Gillette: I'm good. Good morning. How are you? Abrahamson: I'm OK, thank you. It is a pleasure to have you with us. Gillette: You as well. Abrahamson: So let me ask you, big picture question that I'm going to come back to at the end of our two hours together – the Paralympics. You are a Paralympic champion. You are the 2017 world championships gold medalist, world record holder in the long jump, silver medalist multiple times over, most recently at the Rio Paralympics. Paralympics have had an incredible meaning in your life. What do you want for the Paralympics for the United States of America, and the world from now to and through the 2028 Paralympic Games here in Los Angeles? Gillette: For the Paralympics, I believe, in the United States I want the awareness to increase. I want people to know about it. I want the general public to recognize athletes, to know what sports they compete in. I want to change their perception on how they view Paralympians. I know a lot of times we get confused with the Special Olympics, which the Special Olympics is a great organization and they've been doing great things for years upon years upon years, but there is a difference between the Paralympics and Special Olympics. I want the general public – I want everyone to be able to know that difference. I think from a global standpoint I want the world to have the same sentiments. I want them to see the athletes and see how incredible, how hardworking, how resilient, how phenomenal Paralympic athletes are. Also, I want them to know that a Paralympic athlete is just like the next person. Although they are out here doing amazing things in sports, they're living normal lives and they have families. They have jobs. They have obligations and they are just living life just like the next person. It's really about changing the perception and shedding more light on the athlete, but them as a human being, as a person as a whole. Abrahamson: So this has been a recurring theme throughout this series of interviews, Lex, is the – and you'll correct me if I'm using the wrong word – the normalizing of the Paralympic experience, the normalizing of the experience for people with – again help me with my word choice – people with disabilities. How do we go there and get there together? 1 Gillette: A lot of it is education. I think a lot of it is actually taking the time to jump into a situation and learn and really find out more about the athlete, ask questions. Ask them about their life, about their disability, what they do on the field of play, what they do off the field of play. Just really dive deeper and get down to the core of that particular person. I know that from the outside looking in, what I've gathered is that a lot of people feel uncomfortable with asking certain questions, but I think that if they are genuine and you're literally wanting to learn to better yourself, then I think the athletes will be more receptive and will totally understand that it's a matter of this person trying to learn. I've been talking recently in a lot in my speeches on emotional intelligence and really trying to understand people. Understand their emotions, their attitude, their personalities. I think that's a lot of what it is, is really trying to figure out people at the core. Learning how to be empathetic, putting yourself as much as you can possibly imagine, putting yourself in their situation and trying to look at life through their lens. Abrahamson: If I was a better interviewer, I would probably wait until we were an hour and forty- five minutes into this talk to ask you this question, but I'm going to do this right now anyway on the chance that your thoughtful eloquence has given us the entry point into this. I'm a big Bruce Springsteen fan, for better or for worse. Here's one of my favorite songs. It's a song that he wrote on an album called "Tunnel of Love." I don't know if you like Bruce or not. Gillette: I know Bruce, but not [unintelligible]. Abrahamson: It's OK, you know, I've seen him play live 39 times and I often say that my wife, our kids, that if I just dropped out of life and followed Bruce around, would anybody notice? So, here's a song called "Cautious Man," and the first line of the third verse goes like this: "On his right hand Billy tattooed the word love, and on his right hand was the word fear. In which hand he held his fate," Lex, "was never clear." And I often think that those two lines sum up a lot of what we are talking about right here and right now together. For me, this series of interviews has amplified and brought into stark and vivid relief a lot of the fear that people in mainstream society have in confronting people with disabilities. Especially in talking with Shirley just a few moments ago, the issue of love and how it has the amazing capacity to change everything and everyone around us and when people can, like you just said so beautifully a second ago, learn to talk to someone who has a disability. Oh wait, that person is just like me! And we can love each other just like anybody else. It changes everything. Gillette: Right. Abrahamson: Right? Gillette: Yeah. Abrahamson: And that's, I think, the journey between here and Los Angeles in 2028. 2 Gillette: Absolutely. Abrahamson: Right? Gillette: Absolutely. Abrahamson:: OK, now I'm going to go back to your deep dive because that's what we are going to do together for the next hour and a half. Gillette: OK. Abrahamson: OK? Where, my friend, were you born please? Gillette: I was born in Kinston, North Carolina. Abrahamson: Where?! Gillette: Kinston, North Carolina. Abrahamson: And where is that please? Gillette: You probably have never heard – Abrahamson: I have never. Gillette: Very small town, Jerry Stackhouse is from Kinston, North Carolina. Abrahamson: Jerry Stackhouse? So, who's more famous? Gillette: I am. Yeah. I am. Abrahamson: Who can shoot a better three? Gillette: It depends on if we're both blindfolded. Yeah, I was born in Kinston, North Carolina, and it's in the Eastern part of North Carolina. Most of my family is from the small town called La Grange. So, I was there for the first year of my life. And then my mom, her and I moved to Raleigh, North Carolina, when I was one year old. So, Raleigh is basically the city that I know, although I was born in Kinston. Abrahamson: And how did you get a name like Elexis? Gillette: You know what, I think my mom liked the name Alexis, and she switched the A to an E. Over the years I have been searching online to kind of see what sort of meaning there may be behind that. And, I need to do some more research. But yeah, Elexis Lavelle Gillette. That's the name that she liked and that's what we 3 went with. That's what she went with. That's what I have no choice but to go with. But I like my name! Abrahamson: It's a cool name. Gillette: I appreciate it. Abrahamson: Do you have brothers and sisters? Gillette: I have a younger sister. She's six years younger. We are totally different. I'm more of the cool, calm type guy. She's more like the fiery person. And we have the same father so I guess you can say half-sister. But she's my sister. Abrahamson: Are you close? Gillette: We are close now. We're way closer than what we were growing up because we didn't grow up in the same home. But, always, for the most part, we would see each other during the summer times and I would say within the past, you know once I was a teenager, or a little older, we got closer. And my dad was killed in a car accident in 2010 and since that time we have definitely gotten a lot closer. Abrahamson: So, I'm so sorry about your dad. My dad died in a plane crash in 1984 so I totally empathize with you. So, just so I can understand in my own head. Same father correct? Gillette: Yeah, same father. Abrahamson: And you grew up with your mom? Gillette: Yup. Abrahamson: So it was you and your mom against the world? Gillette: Basically yes.