Rope Bondage the Smart Way: a Step by Step Guide to Using Rope Bondage in BDSM
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Rope Bondage The Smart Way: A Step By Step Guide To Using Rope Bondage In BDSM Pete Riggs Copyright Notice ©2017 by Pete Riggs. All rights reserved. This book or parts thereof may not be reproduced in any form, stored in any retrieval system, or transmitted in any form by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise—without prior written permission of the publisher, except as provided by copyright law. Dedication This book is dedicated to all those who have helped me along my journey; which is a lot of people! I wouldn’t have come nearly so far without all of you guys. I’m especially grateful to all those who agreed to be models for the pictures in this book, including StarFighter, TieMeDownKitty, Blue, Lunar, Glyphix, arcticfox333, Davion and 32Bit – Davion’s awesome manliness may not be in picture form, but he definitely helped out a lot. To my friend Ella, who has been there for me for years and years; now you’re finally going to know what you do with them when you have them tied up. To Red_Owl, who helped me with the Ultimate Guide To Your First Rope Bondage Scene: you gave fantastic feedback and had a super cute smile. And last but most definitely not least, this book is very much dedicated to the Tuesday Tea Team; you guys have been incredibly supportive, and you’ve made my year. Thank you, all of you. Table of Contents Copyright Notice Dedication Table of Contents Disclaimer Introduction The Glossary Case Study: Sensual Rope Bondage Why Would You Want To Tie Someone Up? Why Do People Like Being Tied Up? Keeping Yourself and Your Partner Safe What Kind Of Rope Is Best For Bondage? Where to Get Rope How to Store Your Rope What Should You Have In Your Rope Kit? How To Customize The Feel Of Your Natural Fiber Rope Finishing Your Rope Ends How I Dyed My Rope Case Study: Watching And Learning From Others (Rope and Wax Play) Pete’s Notes On Cleaning Rope The Building Blocks of Rope Bondage Lesson: The Tips That Make Everything Else Easier Lesson: The First Tie You Should Learn, And Safety Tying Principles Lesson: The Two Column Tie – And Creating Additional Advantages Through Positioning Lesson: Joining Your Rope Together Lesson: How To Tie Off To Other Objects Lesson: The Crab Tie (Reverse Tension Column Tie) Lesson: Leg Tie, Munter Hitches and Cow Hitches Lesson: The Secondary Column Tie, And The Magic of Half Hitches Lesson: Chest Harness, Frictions, and More Cinches Lesson: The Rope Armbinder and Laddering or Lacing Columns Together Lesson: The Basic Principles of Breast Bondage Lesson: How To Create A Safety Line Lesson: How To Tie A Crotch Rope, and How To Use It For Fun And Games Lesson: How To Create New Ties Other Ties Worth Looking Up A Case Study: A Simple Two Column Tie How To Find Partners And Teachers Tricks And Tips For Rope Bottoms Creating Realistic Expectations For Rope Bondage Practice Makes Perfect Case Study: Bondage Sex: Bound and Helpless Smart People Plan Ahead Negotiation, Consent, And Collecting Very Useful Information Different Rope Bondage Games That Can Be Played With Your Partner Notes On Positions And Ties Planning The Scene Making It Sexy Inescapability: Tricks And Tips To Make Escape More Difficult Coping With Mishaps Drop How To Get Reasonable Photos Without Lots Of Expensive Equipment Where To From Here Thank You Extras 6 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make With Rope Bondage An Addition To The Rope Kit; A Silk or Satin Robe The Ultimate Guide To Your First Rope Bondage Scene Disclaimer Firstly, the information contained in this book relates to an activity which has a high level of risk. While the information is presented in such a way as to minimize said risk, the author assumes no liability for any accidents or harm which may occur from the reader or anyone else attempting the activities described within. Basically, this stuff, used improperly or without due regard for the risks and safety considerations described within, can hurt people. Be careful. Secondly, the information contained within this book is the culmination of approximately six years of off and on learning, but is not the sum total of knowledge on the subject. Moreover, there are a bunch of different names for ties, different means of accomplishing the same ties, and different names for knots etc. It is absolutely inevitable that someone is going to come along and say “that’s not how you do such and such” or “that’s not the correct name for that knot” or something along those lines. This book is written with the mindset that “there is no one true way”. That means that I acknowledge that people will have different ways of accomplishing a particular tie, and will have different names for knots and ties, and frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn. As long as this book is useful for the reader in learning how to have a good time with rope and other people, fantastic. That’s all I want for you. It’s up to other people to get their knickers in a twist about the “true names” or their “true way” of doing something. As for other learning; I encourage you to embrace additional sources of learning! It’s very helpful. I’m even going to point you in the direction of some useful sources later on, to help you learn more beyond the scope of this book. Both the information contained here and the information and knowledge you’ll pick up from other sources tend to be our opinions, based upon our own experiences; it’s not guaranteed to be 100% accurate, as we’re all continuing to learn too, and it’s probable that rope science is going to develop further and we’re going to learn new ways to do things as well. Have a good time, and don’t hesitate to find ways to improve upon what you learn. Maybe I’ll even end up learning from you some day. Introduction In 2011, I met a woman who was pretty much everything I wanted, at the time. She was smart, funny, practical, beautiful, and oh so much fun. However, she was also into being tied up, and had been introduced to bondage by a previous lover. Now, I had had my share of lovers. A lot of them had been kinky, in various ways, but while they’d occasionally expressed a fantasy about being tied up, they hadn’t pushed it, and that was great - because I hadn’t a clue how to do that. This time though, I wanted to do it. I wanted to be just as good as her previous lover. So I made an effort. I gave it a shot. I fumbled the rope around her wrists, trying to knot it without it being too tight, and then tried to find something to tie the ends to. I figured I’d tie her spread eagled; that’s what they did in movies, right? In movies, the lead male character is super suave and dominant and alpha and does everything perfectly. That was not me. I fumbled. I sweated. I messed around trying to get it done, and the erotic mood was completely lost. In retrospect, her expectations had been a little unrealistic. You don’t hand a rope to a person who’s never used one before, say “tie me up” and expect him to miraculously know exactly what to do and how to do it and be a super sexy accomplished rope top. But at the time, I was left feeling like a failure. Sure, I was good at the regular foreplay – but not at this thing that she was clearly very into and excited about. I knew she was probably comparing this experience to her times with her ex; and I was coming up short. We gave up on the rope that day, and had more normal sex; but with all the frustration and tension, it wasn’t particularly good. I could tell she was disappointed, and I was insecure in a way I’d never been before. So I did what I usually do when I find myself feeling insecure or lacking a skill that I want. I resolved to get good at it. Starting right then. I practiced, I studied, and I learned. I did that for years. I read books, I studied everything I could find on the internet, I went to workshops, and I practiced my ass off. I started to have some very, very good times, and so did my partners. Suddenly, I was that guy who actually knew what to do with rope; in fact, I was the guy that started showing other people how to do what I could do. I wanted to keep learning, and I wanted to share what I learned. So, I created a blog, Rope Connections, so I could share and discuss what I had been learning online. As the blog grew, so did my readership… and I began to receive a lot of “Thank you” messages and emails. People all over the world were finding what I posted helpful. I received emails with photos of spectacular first times, with the authors of those emails thanking me for the knowledge that had helped them have that first time. I had people linking to my blog from Reddit, other blogs, all kinds of places. Basically, I got the impression that the blog was helping a lot of people out.