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NOVEMBER 2005 2005 CONFERENCE PLATINUM SPONSORS www.tloma.com November 2005 PRESIDENT’S MESSAGE November 2005 Inside this Issue hey say as you get older, time goes by more quickly. I can’t think of a year where this was Tmore true. It’s astounding that in a few weeks ❖ Mars and Venus in the we will all be gathering for the TLOMA December Workplace Social and heading into the Holiday season. I look forward to seeing you ❖ Personalities at Work there and toasting to a warm and festive Holiday season and a happy and healthy new year. ❖ The Right to Infect? ❖ Voice Over Internet Fall is budget season for lots of us (the “most wonderful time of the year” for Protocol accountants, I guess!) and TLOMA is no exception. We have recently decided to increase our various fees a nominal amount to reflect the increasing costs ❖ Finance SIG – of all of our expenses (meeting speakers, rooms for meetings, supplies ... you Round Table know the list). Discussion Summary Our membership and Meeting fees will increase as follows: Membership: $250 to $275 plus GST Schedule of Events General Meeting (member) $45 to $47.50 plus GST General Meeting (non-member) $60 to $65 plus GST SIG (non-member/member cancellation charge) $25 to $30 (GST included). HR SIG Thursday, December 1, 2005 We are confident that TLOMA continues to provide huge value for these fees, and we hope you agree. We are looking forward to a new year of very high quality speakers and informative sessions at SIG meetings, as well as the 2006 TLOMA HOLIDAY SOCIAL Friday, December 9, 2005 Conference. If 2006 speeds by as quickly as 2005 did, the Conference will be here before we know it! Speaking of Conference .... once again, it was a tremendous few days, with BOARD OF DIRECTORS MEETING speakers that were enlightening as well as educational, great networking Tuesday, December 13, 2005 opportunities in the context of the sessions as well as at the social events, and a very successful Trade Show. We recently had a TLOMA new members’ breakfast, and some of the attendees who had experienced the Conference for “Happy Holidays” the first time remarked at how impressive it was. I have lost count of how many conferences I have attended but despite this, I am impressed year after year at what a dedicated group of volunteers, the Conference Committee, can pull off. It’s truly remarkable! We all owe a huge debt of gratitude to the Committee, under the leadership of Christl Mittendorfer, for the great experience we had at White Oaks. Christl lead a great team — Barbara Russell, Thom Oakes, John Arcella, Theresa de Ocampo and Angela Duldhart each of whom took time from otherwise full time jobs to pull the event together. We are of course incredibly fortunate to have Liz Barrington as our Director of Administration; the Conference (well, actually, TLOMA as a whole) could not go on without her. My next message will be my last one as President — again, how the year has flown - and I will be looking forward to passing the torch to Georgia Rennick and working with a revised Board for 2006 as Past President. I will certainly be recapping the year in this space next month, but in the meantime will look forward to toasting the successful year gone by and the new year to come, full of exciting possibilities, at our Social on December 9th at the Courthouse Market Grille. See you there! Susan Hodkinson Chief Administrative Officer Single issue: $8.00 Goodman and Carr LLP Yearly Subscription: $50.00 www.tloma.com 1 November 2005 LEGAL Find hundreds of opportunities @ zsa.ca Fax: 416.628.7435 Carolyn Berger [email protected] Kelly Smith [email protected] Lana Sim [email protected] Marsha Forde [email protected] WHAT’S PLAY GOT TO DO WITH IT? my notes and from excerpts MARS AND VENUS IN THE from John Gray’s book: WORKPLACE “How to Get What You Want at Work – A Practical John Gray, Ph.D. Guide for Improving Communication and Getting Submitted by Louise McNeely Results” Where do I begin? Listening to Dr. John Gray speak, was Martian and Venusian languages use enlightening as well as very entertaining. Dr. Gray does not the same words but the meanings are work from a script; there are no power point slides; there different. are no handouts. It was Dr. Gray applying his expertise in the field of communication to help the audience Nowhere in the workplace do our differences show up more understand, respect and appreciate the differences between dramatically than in the area of communication. Not only men and women in both personal and professional are men and women from different planets, speaking relationships. different languages, but we don’t realize it; we think we are speaking the same language. Although the words are the Dr. Gray spoke to the audience by recounting stories of same, the meaning can be completely different. The same situations that most of us have experienced in such a way expression can easily have a different connotation or that made us laugh, but that also made simple emotional emphasis. Misinterpretation is so common and communication misunderstandings seem so easy to consistent that eventually we develop limiting perspectives understand. If I were to take away one resounding message, of each other. it is: “The more respect there is in the workplace, the more trust will exist”. He repeated this many times while Both men and women form all kinds of incorrect addressing the delegates. I am preparing this article from assumptions, judgments and conclusions about the opposite Continued on page 3 www.tloma.com 2 November 2005 • Often on Mars, anger and frustration are reactions to intimidate and threaten others. • On Mars, if there is nothing you can do to solve a problem, then there is no reason to be upset about it or talk about it. • Most men cannot discern the difference between Informed complaining and sharing, because on Mars they simply legal don’t share feelings. hiring decisions • Grumbling on Mars sounds like resentment on Venus. start here. • When men grumble it is not a sign that they don’t care or that they are unwilling to respond to a request. • On Mars while considering a request, a man may moan, groan, scowl, or mumble. This is temporary. • On Venus, when women grumble, it is a sign that they are Look to the 416.365.3153 overworked and need help. 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What is different today is that men and women are working together. While this is a great step of progress, it has also • Specialists in structured placed a new burden on both men and women. Unless we begin to correctly translate our messages and bridge this finance for a wide range of assets planetary communication gap, job dissatisfaction will • technology increase and productivity will decrease. • Asset management • telecommunications solutions If a woman tries to correct a man, it will be taken by the • office furniture man as criticism. When a woman is discussing a problem, • Full Disclosure • leasehold improvements and the man says: “Don’t worry about it”, she will become For more information please call extremely irritated and think he is not listening to her. Men Wendy Scott at 905-780-6150 ext. 211 communicate in a manner that allows them to save face – or by email at [email protected] women need to learn to do this better. • “Sharing” on Venus sounds like complaining on Mars. Maxium Financial Services Inc. When women share negative feelings, a man hears www.maxium.net “complaining”. www.tloma.com 3 November 2005 Support for North America and for TLOMA Chris Stoate, President, LaserNetworks & Proud Supporter of TLOMA LaserNetworks 2823 Bristol Circle, Unit 1, Oakville, ON L6H 6X5 Tel 905-847-5990 1-800-461-4879 Fax 905-847-5991 www.lasernetworks.com Now you’re working!™ www.tloma.com 4 November 2005 • Don’t take it personally. Women don’t need to play by male rules, but they need to • Until a man sees that something doesn’t work he doesn’t take them into consideration. Women tend to communicate want to change it. in a manner that will be heard by the recipient. Women who communicate like men to get ahead, alienate themselves Venusian Gene: from other women. Further, if women don’t honour their femininity, they also risk alienating other women. • To improve, make things better. There are many challenges for women today. There was a By offering quick solutions, a man mistakenly thinks that time when men did men’s stuff and women did women’s he is making a good impression.