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Dear Toronto Family, Dear TFM, It has been quite a while since we last went to print and I want to thank you all for your patience in waiting for our My family and I just moved to Toronto from another community. The amount of warmth next issue to come out. During that time, I have received so many calls and emails asking when the next issue will be that we received from our new neighbours, shul members etc. has completely overwhelmed coming out. Actually, all of us here at TFM were overwhelmed with your concern and truly appreciate your patience. us. People that we never met, offered to show us the ins and outs. I was telling someone what my family and I have experienced and he suggested that I write to the TFM to let people know I want to begin by apologizing to you, our loyal readers for not putting out a Shavous/Summer issue. Baruch Hashem what type of community we have and how lucky we are to have chosen it and now be part as many of you know, I, along with a couple of other people opened up the new amazing Bubby’s Bagels. Baruch of. Thank you Toronto for making this scary and daunting transition so much easier. Thanks Hashem things are progressing nicely and we plan on re-opening very soon. As I am writing this article, I don’t you for being so welcoming to us, so much so that my kids feel that they already have life-long have a definite date for when we will re-open, but I can tell you it will be very soon. I would also like to thank our friends. wonderful Jewish community for being so supportive of our new business venture. Feedback has been incredible! Wishing everyone a k’siva v’chasima tova. There was hardly a time that I couldn’t walk outside without people coming up to me asking when we will be The New Family In Town re-opening or just thanking me for opening up a “real” bagel store in Toronto. Mi Kiamcha Yisroel! Thank you everyone from the bottom of my heart! I would also like to let you know that TFM is looking to hire a COO. All interested candidates should send their resume to [email protected]. Dear TFM, I heard a beautiful story that I would like to share with you. There was an incredible doctor who was world renowned Even as fall is in the air and the park season will be coming to an end, I feel that I must address and had an unbelievable track record of never losing a single patient, before, during or after any of his surgeries. He had the following issue. While you, the parents, take your kids to the park, feel free to sit and an entire state-of-the-art wing of a hospital named after him. One day a very sick child with a terrible illness was brought schmooze with other parents, but never ever take your eyes off of your children. Besides the to him by the distraught parents in search of the miracle worker who would heal their child. After much thought, the obvious safety issues, always remember that others are watching us. Clean up your mess and doctor told the parents that he has decided to do the surgery and that one day their child will be running marathons. The make sure that you and your kids speak and treat others respectfully. successful surgery was completed and the doctor went home. S.B. In middle of the night, the nurses frantically called the doctor telling him that the child had developed a fever. He reassured the nurses that there was nothing to worry about even though his temperature continued to rise. A few hours later the child was nifter. After hearing this, the doctor was devastated. He went to the hospital to collect all of his belongings and resign. No matter how his colleagues tried to convince him to stay, his mind was made up. He was Dear TFM, adamant that he had to resign. During medical school, he made a promise to himself that if he ever lost a patient…he The yomim tovim are around the corner. Please remember to shop at our local stores that are would leave medicine. owned by frum people. Whether it is for food, clothing, jewellery etc. It is such a big mitzvah As he was packing his things, there was a soft knock on his office door. Without opening the door, the doctor told to give parnasa to those who are part of our frum community before shopping at the bigger the person who was knocking that there was nothing anyone can do or say. His mind was made up. The person chain stores. Yes, it might cost a few dollars more, but in the long run you will know that you continued to knock louder and with it a young woman’s soft voice said, "Doctor, it’s not your fault the child died. have done the right thing. It’s not your fault, its mine." The doctor, who is now in total shock, asked her how it was her fault. The woman A LOCAL SHOPPER responded, “You don't know me, but I am in charge of cleaning and sterilizing all the equipment needed for your surgeries. While preparing for your surgery, I received a very disturbing phone call and forgot to finish sterilizing everything. Once you entered the OR I just sent them to you as is. This is why the child died…it was because the equipment was not sterilized.” Dear TFM, This story left a real impression on me and that is why I chose to include it here in my letter to you. It is now time Remember the good old days where no matter what, people always wished one another a for all of us to sterilize our equipment as we get ready to stand before the Ribono Shel Olam. May we all be zoche “Good Shabbos” while walking to and from shul. Today, that is not the case. Even if I say to be able to properly sterilize ourselves as we approach the yomim noraim. Wishing you all a k’siva v’chasima tova “Good Shabbos” first, as I walk by adults or kids, the majority of times I get no response. I and a gut gebentched yar. May the upcoming year be filled with good health and bracha and may all our tefillos be just don’t get it. No, I am not referring to boys and girls. I was once walking with an elderly answered. gentleman who was obviously used to saying “Good Shabbos”. He couldn’t believe it when those much younger than him did not respond. If anyone can explain this “phenomenon” please feel free to write to the TFM. I would love to know. Wishing everyone a shana tova. 647.773.3000 Publisher,Sruli Toronto Portowicz Family Magazine A.L.

From the editor's desk

“Honey, please pass the apple.” Is this what Adam said to Eve on the very first Rosh Hashana of the world? Is that why Jews have been dipping apples into honey on the first night of Rosh Hashana for so many years? I don’t think so. In fact, the apple has gotten a “bad rap”. The Gemara, when discussing which fruit was actually growing on the Eitz HaDaas (Tree of Knowledge), suggests three possibilities: wheat, figs or grapes. There is NO Talmudic opinion that even mentions an apple as the fruit that Adam and Eve ate. The Zohar suggests that the fruit of the Eitz HaDaas was an esrog. An esrog was sometimes referred to as a “golden apple” (just like potatoes which are referred to as fruit of the ground). Could that be why people think Adam and Eve sinned with an apple? More likely is the Medrash which suggests that the fruit on the Tree of Knowledge was in fact an apple. For some inexplicable reason, Christian Bible Scholars decided to take that opinion (over any of the more authoritative Talmudic opinions) and run with it. Hence the Adam & Eve Apple Sin. But, anyway, why would we use something associated with a sin, as a symbol for a sweet new year? Simple people may suggest that an apple was used on Rosh Hashana because that was a sweet fruit and it was easily accessible. So for purely “practical” reasons, the apple became the centre of this beautiful minhag (custom) of representing our wish, on the very first evening of the New Year, that we be blessed with all good and “sweet” things. Ok, that works, but it is so…simple. Actually, the apple has some very deep and traditional significances. In Bereishis, when Yaakov comes to Yitzchack for a bracha, Yitzchock says that he smells like “the fragrance of a field, which G-d has blessed!” The meforshim interpret this as an apple orchard, as that is the scent of Gan Eden! In fact, in Kabbalah, Gan Eden is referred to as “Chakal Tapuchin Kadishin” – the Holy Apple Orchard. Shlomo HaMelech, the wisest man of all, uses the apple, not once, but twice, in Shir HaShirim to express the closeness of the bond that the nation of Israel has with Hashem. In Chapter 2 he writes “As the apple is rare and unique among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved (Israel) amongst the maidens (nations) of the world.” Later, in Chapter 8, he writes, “Beneath the apple tree I aroused You[r love]”. In gematria (numerology of Hebrew words), the Hebrew word for apple (tapuach) has the same numerological value as the word akeida (“bindng” of Yitzchack), which we also read about in the Torah on the second day of Rosh Hashana. Finally, the Medrash tells us that unlike other fruit bearing trees, the apple tree brings out its fruit even before the leaves that will eventually protect it. This compares to the nation of Israel, who accepted the Torah of Hashem by saying “We will do and we will hear”, even before they knew what the Torah would require them to do. Now, THOSE are reasons for dipping an apple, aren’t they? Perhaps this year you will have a bit more to think about as you savour the sweet taste of the apple and the honey! But, why honey? Let’s save that discussion for next year! Best wishes for a k’siva v’chasima tova!

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Sunday - Tuesday 10-6 • Wednesday & Thursday 10-6:30 • Friday 10-3 [email protected] 647-773-3000 8 9 647-773-3000 [email protected] On one hand you might say that it teaches us self-sacrifice; a regular day a latecomer could expect his seat to be gone, how far we must be willing to go for Hashem. But I don’t but on Rosh Hashana, when the shul is packed and seats are think that’s the whole picture. Let me explain why by way of usually assigned, the man should have realized he couldn’t observant jew a story or two. take someone else’s place. A woman was very excited that her daughter was old enough The common theme here is that people chose to commune The Call of the Wild to go to shul and daven for the High Holidays. She made with G-d as a priority over their fellow man. They believed Rabbi Jonathan Gerwitz sure to buy her a seat so she could daven properly instead their spiritual experience could be complete at other people’s of standing in an aisle or perhaps having to keep moving to expense. They missed the call of the shofar! wherever she found an empty spot. You see, when Avraham was stopped from slaughtering Finally, Rosh Hashana arrived and they dressed in their finest. Yitzchak, he looked around and saw a ram which he KNEW t is said that Shlomo Hamelech, King Solomon, The girl tightly clasped her machzor and together with her had not been there before. He realized it was put there understood the language of the birds. What to us sounds mother, walked proudly to shul. Knowing the girl couldn’t miraculously by Hashem and that there was no possibility of Ilike incomprehensible tones, is actually a complex language sit through the entire prayer, her mother timed their arrival it being stolen property. (See Sforno there.) that can relay information to those who understand it. for tekias shofar, and they would then remain throughout However, had the ram belonged to someone else, even From Perek Shira, an ancient text some attribute to King mussaf and hear the shofar blown the requisite 100 times. though this was his one opportunity to offer a sacrifice at David, we learn that so many sounds, from the roar of the As they approached their seats, something unusual took the sublime moment of having been ready to sacrifice his lion to the rumble of thunder to the crash of waves, are songs place. There was a woman sitting there. She had her toddler son, he would not have taken it. He was on a spiritual high praising Hashem and messages for mankind. on the seat next to her. The shul was full and the woman but - wait! If it’s not mine, I can’t take it, even if that means I Beginning with the first day of Elul, and coming into asked if she could please have her seats as she wanted to be don’t get to capitalize on the self-sacrifice I had for Hashem. prominent focus on Rosh Hashana, we have another sound – ready when they began. This, I believe, is the message of the shofar. During these the sound of the shofar. This horn, usually made from a ram’s The young mother replied, “No problem. I’m only here for days, when we find G-d in closer proximity to us; when He horn, is blown numerous times and commemorates the ram shofar-blowing and then you can have the seat.” Huh? You is more approachable and waiting to hear from us, we must that Avraham Aveinu sacrificed in place of his son Yitzchak. think it’s OK to take my seat “just for shofar” and that you’re not get carried away. So what does this sound mean? What is the message for us? doing a mitzvah? 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Once Again, A Final Goodbye Chemed and LCSC host an awareness event in Lakewood, presented by Amudim How To Protect Our Children In A Challenging World Zvi Gluck er name was Faygee. She was 20 years old and she had a I get many phone calls from people who tell me that they want child or your parent and do whatever it takes to get them the experience things before we're developmentally ready - when forced to do so, it develops a deep smile that could light up a room. Faygee was one of my to open up treatment centres or sober houses after hearing about help they need. We need to band together as a group to fight sense of shame in a person”. Hwife Aviva’s students and she was full of life, full of love and these terrible losses. I always ask if their intention is to do this this epidemic with every ounce of strength, so that no more full of hope. She always knew what to say to make everyone as a chessed or as a business and the response is always the latter. parents have to plan funerals for their daughters, like Faygee’s The next speaker was Rabbi Zev Brown, Ph.D. Rabbi Brown emphasized that while the night’s around her feel good, how to give them chizuk so that they Have we lost our minds that we are looking to turn a profit parents are today. May our renewed efforts to help those in topic was one of delicacy and tznius, it was also one of incredible importance. “The goal of could carry on even when they faced trials and tribulations. from this horrific trend? Have we no compassion? Why are we need be a zchus for Faygee’s neshama and for the neshamos of tonight”, he said, “is that the more we understand the problem, the more comprehensive a strategy willing to do everything in our power for those with cancer and the other 59 we have lost this year and may they be a source of we can formulate”. We must ward off the issue before it becomes an even bigger problem, he said. We lost Faygee Monday night to an accidental heroin overdose. couples who struggle with infertility, but when it comes to those strength for those who are still struggling. My wife, my children and I are all mourning the loss of this who suffer from a drug addiction we see it as a good business “The catastrophic damage that it leaves in its wake affects the guf, affects the neshama. It's beautiful neshama. Unlike so many other cases you hear about, opportunity? We are rachmanim b’nei rachmanim - so why is it Faygee, I beg you to penetrate the heavens on behalf of those extremely difficult for a victim of sexual abuse to lead a normal life." Another strong point both Faygee had the full support of her family who did all they could that when it comes to kids on the street or those with addictions, who are suffering. Seek out the others and go together with speakers articulated was that the abuser is more often than not somebody close to the victim. to help her through the difficulties she faced. And yet, we still we aren’t opening our hearts and our wallets to help those who them to storm the Kisei Hakavod with tears and with heartfelt Images of shadowy men in black, or the catchy “stranger danger” slogan are not exactly on target. lost her and we find ourselves in shock, grieving the loss of this are struggling? tefillos so that we can, once and for all, bring an end to these Over ninety percent of abuse was perpetrated by someone the victim knew and trusted, in many promising young woman. senseless tragedies. cases, a family member. I write this as Faygee’s family is preparing for her funeral and I For those of you who are counting, Faygee is the 60th person in can’t stop thinking how it wasn’t that long ago that I attended Zvi Gluck is the director of Amudim Community Resources, Participants left the event grateful to Amudim for the wealth of information they had just our Jewish community to die of a drug overdose since this past Faygee’s high school graduation. She spoke so sweetly and with an organization dedicated to helping abuse victims and those heard. Hundreds of the participants had the opportunity to discuss their own concerns with the Rosh Hashana. I have gotten yelled at many a time for counting such sincerity. The message she delivered was a powerful one suffering with addiction within the Jewish community and has presenters and since the event, the phones in Amudim’s headquarters have been ringing non-stop. these deaths and have been told I am sensationalizing these tragic and today, I hope to be able to share one more powerful message been heavily involved in crisis intervention and management for “While we cannot say this is good in the full sense of the word, said Zvi Gluck, “it is good that events, but nothing could be farther from the truth. Keeping on behalf of an amazing young woman who left us all too soon. the past 15 years. For more information go to www.amudim.org. those who are suffering will finally get the help they need.” track of this terrible, heartbreaking statistic makes it real, forces us to face facts. We are not immune. Every single one of those Let each and every one of us reach out to those who are The awareness this event has generated is sure to go a long way in providing the necessary deaths have happened on our watch and WE are responsible. struggling. Pretend that they are your brother, your sister, your information and resources to prevent these problems form occurring, and if chas veshalom they do, how to properly deal with it al pi daas Torah. We are confident that when Am Yisrael joins together to protect their children, then Hakadosh Baruch Hu will surely protect His as well. Some Sobering Facts About Addiction Amudim expresses special thanks to Rabbi Moshe Gleiberman, Vice President of Beth Medrash By: Zvi Gluck together with Menachem Poznanski LCSW Govoha for his leadership in organizing the event and to Rabbi Aaron Kotler, the CEO of Beth Medresh Govoha for all of his assistance. n September 11, 2016, over 1,000 people gathered in the Lake Terrace Hall, including We lost another promising young life this week. higher dose. Their brains do not process or realize that their and amounts, that their life literally depends on it. noted askanim, roshei kehillah, the poskim of Beth Medrash Govoha and with A gut, safe yahr to all. To be honest, I am at a loss for words. I have been shouting bodies are physically incapable of handling that dosage. Othe hishtatfus and bracha of the roshei yeshiva and roshei mosdos, attended a groundbreaking from the rooftops for months that we need to find a way to • Addicts must understand that the first 48 hours after a event focusing on how to protect our children. The topic, while delicate, is vital material for every stop this plague and while we have seen some improvements, Another significant factor is distress and hopelessness. When relapse is the most dangerous time in the life of an addict. member of the tzibbur. we buried a beautiful 22 year old this week. Clearly whatever an addict invests in a process of recovery, they have to put their Phone (Daniyel Pister): we are doing, just isn’t enough. Because 22 year olds aren’t whole heart into it. Their life and their hopes ride on staying • We need to encourage recovering addicts to attend Chemed and LCSC, Lakewood's lead mental health agencies which were both founded by Beth (647)-469-2627 supposed to die. Their parents are supposed to be thinking clean and getting better. They build friendships with other support meetings on a regular basis and to maintain close Medrash Govoha, invited Amudim to Lakewood to discuss how to give our children the skills THE ESROG GARAGE Email: about escorting them to the chupah, not accompanying them sober and clean friends and everyone around them is proud and relationships with healthy supports. To reach out if they set to avoid danger and abuse and instructions on preventing them from becoming victims of [email protected] to their graves. grateful that they made it. Then when a relapse occurs, it can are feeling urges and especially to reach out if a relapse has predators. Est. 2011 feel like their whole life has fallen apart. They have disappointed happened. Address: But here we are again. everyone who loves them and they can’t imagine facing their Amudim presented a rich and informative collection of advice, guidance and warnings. 120 Arnold Ave loved ones and friends. This despondency, mixed with a natural • We need to be there for those who suffer from addiction Sets starting from $45! Thornhill, Ontario This week, I want to try something different. I want to shine impulse for more, creates a dangerous situation. When an when they falter and avoid putting temptation in their Every participant felt they gained tremendously. The gedolei harabbanim in attendance, Rav the spotlight on the similarities between the more than 55 addict, or anyone for that matter, loses hope in life, they will path. No one should ever offer a recovering alcoholic a shot Elya Brudny, Rav Shmuel Meir Katz, Rav Yaakov Forscheimer, Rav Shmuel Blech, Rav Yaakov deaths from drug overdoses that we have seen this year in the take risks, especially if it means a few moments of peace. In of alcohol at a kiddush so that they can make a l’chaim. Gissinger, Rav Yosef Zimbal, Rav Menachem Mintz, Rav Gabriel Finkel, shlit”a, and many more, hopes that maybe, just maybe, we can save a life. these situations, the addict doesn't realize they are putting their That l’chaim can take them all the way back to square one. all felt that the sheer necessity for such an evening was long overdue. Their presence alone made a @EsrogGarageThornhill life in danger. They simply don't care. very strong impact on the entire kehilla demonstrating the importance of this event. There is a lot of emphasis on getting people who abuse drugs As a community we need to be honest with ourselves and into rehab, but after that the positive momentum just fizzles It is critical for all to understand that these people didn't choose realize that this problem is in our midst. We have to give up the Zvi Gluck, founder of Amudim started off the evening stressing that while today’s education out. People who have cancer undergo extensive treatment to die, or even intentionally choose to put their lives in danger, ridiculous notion that we shouldn’t send those with addictions systems are wonderfully complex and detailed, it’s not enough. We need to ensure the safety of Schedule: and go into remission, but the story doesn’t end there. Their or even become addicts in the first place. They are suffering and to rehab because “someone might find out.” I promise you, our children. The issues of abuse and molestation can continue no longer. Zvi then thanked the physicians monitor them regularly to make sure that they don’t they need our help and our continuous support. Addiction is when someone dies because they didn’t get the help they needed, evenings sponsors, Gourmet Glatt, Eastern Union and the Lightstone Group for their generosity relapse. a sickness. In some cases, people become addicted as they try everyone finds out. on behalf of the community. He was followed by HaRav Elya Brudny who delivered words Pre ­ order yours to cope with a history of abuse or trauma. In other instances, of chizuk and divrei Torah. Rav Brudny stressed that the evening wasn’t about “enlightening” If only we had the same kind of stick-to-itiveness for those who a person who started taking painkillers after an accident finds It’s not just enough to get people sober - we need to keep them the tzibbur of Lakewood. Lakewood, R’ Brudny said, is the most enlightened city in all of now! suffer from addiction. We send them to rehab and pronounce themselves unable to live without them. Most times, there are sober. America. Nothing new will be said, he added. them cured, not realizing that addiction is a lifelong battle. many factors that lead a person to addiction. Getting an addict sober is just one step in a very long journey It’s not just enough to keep people sober - we need to give them “Everything, everything has a mekor in the Torah. Why did Chazal choose the parsha of Arayos and it takes the concerted efforts of family and friends to make What can be done to prevent these tragic deaths? a reason to live. as the laining right before Neilah on Yom Kippur? To show us that such nisyonos exist in all sure they stay sober, even when life throws them curveballs. segments of Klal Yisrael. It's not a mashal, it's a reality". The topic must be addressed, he said. • We need to make sure addicts and their families realize that It’s not just enough to give people a reason to live - we need to "There are no words to describe the price of ignoring what shouldn't be ignored". In the case of the 55+ deaths we have seen this year, they have relapse is an unfortunate reality. Long term sustainable give their lives meaning. occurred in people who have been through rehab and gotten recovery is possible, but sometimes relapse happens before The next speaker was clinician Dr. Akiva Perlman. Dr. Perlman made it clear that while the sober. So what happened? What leads to relapse and why is you get there. And maybe, just maybe, if we can do that, this epidemic will night’s topic was not an easy one to speak about in public, there is a balance to be found while relapse so dangerous? finally stop. discussing our beautiful values and the dangers of predators. When we don't talk about the topic, • Addicts need to know it’s not okay to relapse, but they will then we don’t hear the voices around us saying “Please help us...” There are many factors that contribute to why a relapse is never be judged shamed or shunned for having a relapse. Zvi Gluck is the founder and director of Amudim Community Resources, an especially dangerous for an addict. One thing to understand, They need to be welcomed back with love and acceptance, organization dedicated to helping abuse victims and those suffering with addiction The issue is unfortunately quite common but there are no clear cut numbers, because the people is that when someone develops a dependency on drugs, their as long as they are serious about getting back up. And if within the Jewish community and has been heavily involved in crisis intervention and who are broken and hurting rarely talk about it, as it’s too painful. Dr. Perlman also said that as a body builds up a tolerance. As a result, they need to up their not, they still need to be loved and accepted, only perhaps management for the past 15 years. For more information go to www.amudim.org. therapist, he’s never met another therapist who’s been working more than three years and hasn’t Receive a $20 gift card to dosage to get the same high. After treatment like rehab and through distance or boundaries. Menachem Poznanski, LCSW is the Clinical Director of The Living Room, had a client with this issue. “The amount of the victim’s suffering”, he said gravely, “is based on Tiesbydaniel.com with any purchase a period of abstinence, their body reverts to a healthier state, a recovery clubhouse and community center for Jewish young adult addicts. the reaction of the first person they tell”. Why is it, he added, that victims of abuse find it so over $100! which amounts to a reduction in tolerance. 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How to Make the Most out of a Business Event

Part 1 Rabbi Issamar Ginzberg

know firsthand from hundreds of conferences and speaking events that people miss tremendous opportunities simply because they are unaware of the way to best use their I time while they are there. While some of the tips I’m going to share with you may be obvious (and other tips almost heretical), I strongly encourage you to read this from beginning to end. I don’t expect you to follow all of my suggestions, but I do suggest you use whatever nuggets resonate with you. • Don’t attend all of the sessions if you don’t need what is being discussed. Use that time to meet new people, or review your notes from another session in case you get to meet the presenters and ask them questions. • Ignore your friends and ignore people in your industry. Say hello. Don’t be rude, but don’t spend all your free time with them. Why? They won’t give you any business and they aren’t new. The point is to meet new SAVE A LIFE. SAVE A WORLD. people and create new opportunities. Meet your friends NEXT week if you want to talk to them. • Don’t collect stationary, oops I mean business cards, unless you plan to do something besides filling your trash can with them. Take cards that are offered, but keep the cards that are most likely to result in a contact or exchange after the event. Write a short note on the back to remind you who a person was, the nature of your conversation with them, or what you promised to send them, etc. Your goal is not to go home with the most cards. Your goal is to meet new people, and get to know them HATZOLOH TORONTO well enough so that when you do get home and look at their business MEDICAL DIRECTORS card, you don’t need to wonder: Who was that lady again? DR. DEBRA KIEZ • Bring your own business cards. Self-explanatory. And don’t get them printed the morning of the seminar and realize the phone number or DR. JOSEPH MINKOWITZ Dovid Ifrah Special Guest Singer from New York! Chayim Rubin email is wrong. (Been there, done that.) Spend a little more money on DR. MICHAEL OSTRO the cards so they look good…not cheap. They represent you and your company and should look like you care about your business as much as DR. PAUL PERLON your card. Shimmy Engel • Make yourself memorable. Take a genuine interest in other people’s lives and business. Think about how you can help them. TORONTO • Bring a pen (duh ...) As a matter of fact, bring several pens in case one EMS CHIEF fails. CHIEF PAUL RAFTIS Zemer Orchestra • Don’t sound desperate. Borrow $1,000 if you have to and keep it in your wallet so you look rich. You’ll feel more confident and less nervous. Special Youth Soloists Throughout The Night! • Contrary to popular belief, networking (for most people, myself HATZOLOH TORONTO included) when you’re not a real extrovert is not fun. It’s like flying coach class; sometimes it’s decently pleasant, sometimes it’s horrible RESPONDERS WITH and other times, like one in a thousand, it’s actually enjoyable. But you 18 YEARS OF SERVICE need to plow through. Remember, each person you meet represents an entire world of people, contacts and relationships that can help you JOSHUA KUHL, HESHI KUHNREICH, move forward. SHUIE SKAIST, CHAIM WEINMAN, v • The value of a conference is all in the follow-up. Don’t try to meet MOSHE ZIPPIN people and become their best friend at the conference. It won’t happen. BAIS YAAKOV ELEMENTARY SCHOOL Introduce yourself to as many new people as you can, and get to know

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NOT ON THE MLS Not intended to solicit listed properties The bus was late that day. At around 8p.m. it arrived and The Identification of Eichmann stepped off the bus, unaware of what was to follow and that his long period as a fugitive from justice was about to end. Adolf Eichmann Keren simulated a car break down and raised the hood of the Adolf Eichmann car. As Eichmann approached, Malkin pounced on him and Zvi Aharoni flew to Buenos Aires arriving on March 1, 1960, in the struggle that followed, the pair fell over and toppled with false papers and made contact with some workmen at into a ditch by the side of the road. Eichmann screamed like a Eichmann’s old address on Chacabuco Street, but drew a wounded animal, struggling violently, but he was overpowered His Escape and Capture in Argentina blank. Aharoni’s next steps were to deliver a present via a “local as the snatch team re-grouped to put him into the car. messenger” to Nikolas Klement at the Chacabuco address. The Eichmann was pushed onto the floor at the rear of the car, and Operation Eichmann workmen suggested that the person should contact Tito who bound. Motorcycle goggles covered with tape were placed over had once lived at the address and was working locally. his eyes. The car drove off very quickly. Eichmann was covered //////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// Contact was made with Tito who confirmed the present could with a blanket, and was warned not to resist further. He replied, have been for his father or his brother and had given the lighter “I have already accepted my fate”. to his brother. At the same time he provided precise directions Eichmann was driven to a safe house and examined by a for where Eichmann lived. doctor, just in case he had poison. The initial interrogations Otto Skorzeny In Hiding in Italy Aharoni drove along Route 202 and found the one storey, flat- commenced. After some hesitation and lies, Eichmann roofed house. On March 16, he tried to photograph the house confirmed his true identity and after a few days he agreed to stand trial in Israel, after first stating he would only stand trial in At the beginning of 1950, Eichmann made contacts with and its occupants, posing as American property developers, but Argentina or Germany. ODESSA, the organization of former SS men, who enabled this risky venture failed. him to flee to Italy via monasteries. On April 3, 1960, Aharoni instructed two of his local volunteers On May 20, 1960 Eichmann was drugged by the doctor and driven to the Ezeiza Airport supported by two Mossad Eichmann had been issued an ID Certificate in the northern to try and engage Eichmann in conversation while he worked in the garden. Aharoni had the precious pictures in his possession agents. The plan was to switch Eichmann with a steward Adolf Eichmann SS official in charge of Italian town of Termemo in 1948 The ID was numbered Simon Wiesenthal deporting European Jewry. Germany, 1940 on the El-Al flight that had arrived the day before bringing 131 and bore the name Ricardo Klement. It was valid for when he flew back to Israel via Europe. the Israeli representatives to the Argentinean independence ///////////////////////////// two years and this was probably the reason he fled in 1950. Lothar Hermann wrote to the judicial authorities in celebrations. Frankfurt. It was then passed on to Fritz Bauer, the Attorney The Capture The car was waived through security; the Mossad agents General of Hesse, a former concentration camp prisoner, wearing flight crew uniforms aroused no suspicions. End of the Third Reich who had fled first to Denmark, and then Sweden, after the Eichmann was half-carried onto the aircraft and strapped Germans invaded in 1940. into a seat. After the defeat of the Third Reich in May 1945, Adolf Eichmann, the RSHA specialist on Jewish matters, was Bauer sent all the information he had to the Israeli Foreign The aircraft, a four-engineered Bristol Britannia, took off arrested by the American forces near Ulm, along with Ministry. Walter Eytan, the Director General of the Foreign just before midnight on May 20, 1960. Following a stop at his long-standing adjutant SS- Obersturmfuhrer Rudolf Ministry, arranged a meeting with Isser Harel, the Director Dakar for re-fuelling, on May 22, 1960 at 7:35 am, Adolph Janisch. The two men were taken to the prisoner of war of the Israeli Secret Service. Eichmann set foot on Israeli soil to stand trial and face justice. camp at Weiden in the Upper Palinate. Though Israel was a new nation, it had already developed a Mercedes Benz plant at Gonzalez Catan. The plant was located skilled intelligence service. A special unit of that service was At Weiden, Eichmann changed his identity with ease. in a northern industrial suburb of Buenos Aires. He was arrested as a Luftwaffe Corporal Bart or Barth. called Mossad. The unit was formed to track down and kill Realising that officers were exempt from compulsory labour, In 1953, Vera gave birth to a fourth son, who was named Ricardo enemies of the state, but dedicated its first few decades to the he became SS –Untersturmfuhrer Otto Eckmann. Francisco Eichmann, whom Eichmann doted on. His three capture of terrorists and war criminals. The head of Mossad, other sons regarded Eichmann as a strict father, but they admired Isser Harel, immediately took charge of the hunt for Eichmann Eichmann and Janisch were moved to separate camps at his ability for dealing with practical issues. Eichmann's He chose a special team of 30 agents, several of them survivors of Ober-Dachstetten in Franconia. Eichmann maintained various friendships with former SS the Holocaust, to assist in the operation. The Israeli government The evidence provided by many former associates within comrades who had also escaped to Argentina. One of them Otto decided that Eichmann should not be assassinated, but brought the SS at the International Military Tribunal held in Red Cross Passport Skorzeny, introduced Eichmann back to Israel to stand trial. To further complicate the matter, Nuremburg, meant that it was only a matter time before he to Wilhelm Sassen, half-Dutch, once Eichmann was found, he would have to be kidnapped and was apprehended and brought to justice, for his part in the half-German, who had served in smuggled to Israel, a violation of Argentinean legal sovereignty. destruction of European Jewry. Armed with the forged ID and a Red Cross passport numbered the Waffen-SS during the war. Because many Nazi sympathizers found refuge in South America 100940, which was issued in the Italian port of Genoa on June Sassen, a journalist, met with during the war, the Israelis knew that a diplomatic extradition 1, 1950 with the help of a Franciscan priest Father Eduardo Eichmann over a five month would be difficult, if not impossible, to obtain. Harel overcame Domoter, period during 1956 and recorded his initial scepticism to send a Secret Service agent to see Bauer Eichmann and two other former SS men boarded the SS sixty-seven tape reels, which personally in West Germany. This was achieved on November 6, Harel was now setting the wheels in motion to capture Giovanni C which left Genoa for Buenos Aires, Argentina on produced a script of 695 pages, 1957. Bauer gave this representative Eichmann’s address. Eichmann. He had appointed senior intelligence officer Rafi June 17, 1950. The ship docked in Buenos Aires on July 14, covering the Final Solution and In April 1959, Simon Wiesenthal noticed an obituary notice Eitan to lead the task force. At the end of April, Aharoni and 1950. Eichmann’s role in it. The project for Frau Maria Eichmann in a Linz newspaper and amongst four other Mossad agents arrived in Argentina. During the next ended with Eichmann dissatisfied Eichmann secured employment with a construction company the mourners was listed Vera Eichmann. In addition to this, in night more Mossad agents arrived, including a doctor, a forger over Sassen’s less than faithful transcriptions, so he started to make called CAPRI that specialised in hydro-electric power plants, in February 1960, a newspaper carried the death notice of Eichmann’s and a technician who was an expert in safe houses, constructing a handwritten version. Parts of the Sassen version were published the remote province of Tucuman, from August 1950 to April father Adolf Karl, and Vera Eichmann and the boys were listed cells etc. 1953. in Life Magazine. amongst the mourners. Harel flew to Argentina at the beginning of May 1960, after In 1958, Eichmann bought a plot of waterlogged land in the In December 1950, Adolf Eichmann wrote a coded message to Wiesenthal also passed this latest information onto the Israelis who seeing David Ben Gurion, for a final briefing, to head this Bancalari district of Buenos Aires. With the help of his sons, they With the help of Senior SS officers in the camp, he was his wife Vera, advising her that he was alive and well and that she were now pursuing Eichmann with a lot more vigour. Zvi Aharoni, historic mission, which was fraught with danger. provided with false documents which identified him as should make arrangements to join him in Argentina. built a house, which bore the address 14 Garibaldi Street. a Mossad agent went to West Germany to look at Eichmann’s file, Initially the task force maintained surveillance of Eichmann’s Otto Henninger from Breslau. He travelled to Prien, where Just as Eichmann thought he would be more secure in his new Vera,and the three Eichmann children Klaus, Horst and Dieter and Harel consulted with David Ben Gurion about the news that family home and established the daily pattern of Eichmann’s he was sheltered by a widow Nelly Krawietz, the sister of a remote dwelling, the net was beginning to close in on him. slipped away to Italy and like the head of the family, boarded a Eichmann was alive and living in Argentina. Ben Gurion agreed movements. They were able to establish that the bus dropped him former SS man in the Ober-Dachstettien camp. boat in Genoa, the SS Salto, for Argentina. They disembarked During 1956, Klaus Eichmann met Sylvia Hermann, whose that it would probably be provident to achieve this covertly, kidnap off at 7.40p.m. every workday evening. Eichmann left the bus Eichmann and Nelly Krawietz travelled to Hamburg, where in Buenos Aires in early July 1952, where they were met by father Lothar, had also settled in Argentina. But his path had Eichmann and bring him to Israel to stand trial. every day in the dark and made his way to his house on Garibaldi they parted. He continued to the small town of Eversen, Eichmann posing as their uncle Ricardo. been very different from Eichmann’s, as he was half-Jewish Street, along a deserted street. Peter Malkin which stands on the great Luneberg Heath, where he lived and had fled Germany in 1938 after being incarcerated in a In the spring of 1953, CAPRI’s hydro-electric project in Tucuman (left) On Wednesday May 11, 1960 the task force took up their and worked as a woodsman for the next two years, before collapsed and he moved himself and his family to a small house Nazi concentration camp. & Rafi Eitan positions around Eichmann’s house; two cars were waiting, Eichmann stands alone in the looking after chickens near Altensalzkoth. at 4261 Chacabuco Street in the Olivos district in Buenos Aires, Lothar Hermann conversed with Klaus Eichmann but then the (right) one in Garibaldi Street itself, whilst another was parked nearby, Prison yard during his trial Fearing the net was closing in on him, Eichmann, left the where they lived for over six years. family moved away. Lothar spotted a newspaper article about the members of the partly concealed by a railway bridge. The car in Garibaldi Street chicken farm and like numerous Nazi fugitives followed the Eichmann tried his hand at various jobs, a transport manager, impending war crimes trial in Frankfurt and Eichmann’s name "snatch squad" contained the members of the “snatch squad”. Ahahoni was at the //////////////////////////////// well-established “rat line” that led from Germany, through a manger of an agora rabbit farm, a warehouseman and in appeared in the article. Surmising that Klaus Eichmann was the wheel. With him were Rafi Eitan, Zeev Keren and Peter Malkin. Italy to Argentina. March 1959 he obtained a job as a welder and mechanic at the son of Nazi war criminal Adolf Eichmann, he took decisive action. [email protected] 647-773-3000 18 19 647-773-3000 [email protected]

playing solely with other frum children. I have seen children who were I believe that we as parents have the biggest effect on our children - from how TFM safeguarded from outside negative influences during the entire year, only we act and react in unpleasant situations, including having a bad day, a spouse to witness a downturn in their refinement, because of children that they being upset that the other spouse overspent, or getting a parking ticket. If we attended day camp with or played with outside. At the same time, if a act and react in a modest, Torah manner, our children will see it as the right ROUND round robin of (frum) parental supervision could be established, and the way. TABLE not-yet frum children could sometimes be included, it would give the They will see what the outside world does, how they act and react. As long as .could be we are sincere in our lives, they will reject the way of the outside world 'קידוש ה and a potentially great אחדות neighbourhood a sense of made. Who knows? Perhaps this would morph into extending invitations for Shabbos seudos to these wayward children and their families. Bottom In my opinion, we must provide the best environment for our children. We line: Frum children shouldn’t be allowed to interact with not-yet frum need to be careful with their friends, what they see, what they read and so on. Most parents, I would think, are thinking about how their children will be spending their time. As we all know, free time has children unless they are being supervised under the watchful eye of a But most of all, we have to be sure that our children see us as role models of its pluses and minuses. I have kids in elementary school. My concern is how to fill the hours once they come home. We live on a trustworthy adult. authentic Torah living. If we do it and we do it correctly, they will see it and Qstreet that has both orthodox and non-orthodox families, with a lot of kids who play outside. In an age where we try to protect our reject the alternative. kids from negative influences, I would like my kids to spend their free time wisely. I am thrilled when they are outside playing sports or So, be vigilant! Watch his or her surroundings. But ultimately, we need riding their bikes. My concern is that some of the kids on the street, from both frum and non-frum homes, don't always behave or speak to make sure that we are the correct role models for our children. They properly. Rabbi Avram Rothman will see how you act with your spouse and your parents. They will see the I don't know what to say to my kids to try to teach them that it is so important to have the right friends without my neighbours importance we place on Torah and chessed. They will see how you smile thinking that we are a bunch of snobs who don't let our kids hang out with their kids. I know that our priority must be to protect our Rav of The Thornhill Community Shul when giving tzedaka. That will go a long way in keeping them on the path kids, but that is quite often easier said than done. and understanding that the way others are showing them is inferior. If so, we can have reason to see that they will follow the correct path, the path THANK YOU we follow - the life of Torah. Your question is certainly one that we all have faced. It is one that any Torah observant parent is haunted by. While we live in a pluralistic society, we, as This can be another way of explaining the magic words of 'al pi darko', in his adults, have a greater ability to discriminate between what is appropriate and Rav Shloima Yitzchok Bixenspanner way of practical living and not just in theory. The lessons taught in a practical what is not. The problem lies with our children, who do not have the same way go the furthest in a person's life. ability and will often emulate expressions and behaviours which contradict Rav of Kahal Yereim Having said that, we might have an answer to your question. One should the life that we so desperately strive for them to have. definitely allow their kids to play outdoors in a happy and healthy way. We live in a world filled with negative influences for our children and to Your concern is not a new one at all. It dates back all the way to Sarah However, parents should always be mindful of who they play with and compound it, much of those negative influences come from well-meaning Imeinu who was concerned that her son Yitzchok should not be negatively where exactly they do the playing, allowing parents to teach their children people who live among us. influenced by Yishmoel, as we learn in Parshas Vayeira. The Torah there tells invaluable life lessons, which will always accompany them in their journey In my opinion, there is no “magic bullet” we can use to protect our children us that HKB''H concurred with her concerns and told Avraham Aveinu to through life. from outside influences. We are clearly surrounded by these objects and send Yishmoel away from his home. Another good idea is to sometimes invite the friends into your house. This people who present challenges to our children. However, things are not always as black and white as they were in that way, you can observe for yourself and hopefully catch the subtle issues before While we cannot keep our children totally secluded from the outside, there is particular situation. The million dollar question that we constantly face they can get out of hand. quite a bit we might be able to do. My experience has shown me that if we is - Where do we draw the line? In addition, we also have a challenge of May HKB"H help us that we should be able to educate our children in the ensure that our homes be filled with the spirit of Torah, then as the eye of the knowing when to stop being nice to everyone and start saying “No!” best way possible and may we see only Yiddishe nachas from them. In that hurricane, we have a better chance to have our children influenced positively. Let us try to turn to the wisdom of Shlomo Hamelech, who I believe z’chus, may HKB"H see nachas from us. We should be zoiche to the coming What I mean, is that even with sheltering our children, keeping them away addresses this issue with his words in [Mishlei 22-6], “Chanoch L'naar 'AL of Moshiach speedily in our days. from the ugliness that society is selling to us, we cannot be totally successful. PI DARKO' gam ki yazkin lo yossur mimeno”. Nevertheless, if our children see the warmth of Yiddishkeit, the importance Shloime Hamelech, in his ultimate wisdom, is hereby delivering an eternal we place on Torah study, the positive way we do chessed and the kind way we message to all generations on how to be mechanech our children, with the speak to each other as consistent within our home, they will come to see that magic words being 'al pi darko'. Now it is up to us to delve into the exact Rabbi Dovid Engel, as the norm. meaning of 'al pi darko', in order to be able to benefit from this infinite If the outside world has a lack of tznius, placing glamour as a goal rather than piece of advice. Menahel of The Toronto Cheder tzedek and has the pursuit of pleasure and money as its target, then we have There are many ways to explain the meaning of 'al pi darko’ and they all to create a safe haven within our homes that are consistent with our values. Dear Toronto Family, have important ramifications as far as chinuch is concerned. However right Our children do as they see us do, they do not do as we tell them to do. If we We would like to take this opportunity to thank now, they are beyond the scope of this article. Children crave structure; they thrive on structure and thus need to be smile when we give a tzedaka to a man at the door, if we greet our spouse and Rabbi Shloima Bixenspanner, Rav of Kahal Yereim, There is one explanation to the magic words of 'al pi darko' which might stimulated. Parents should not just send their children out to ride their children with a warm good morning, if we speak positively about others - our for his invaluable input to the magazine. When we address your question and concern. bikes or on the block to play and “hope for the best”. They really need to children will see that and learn from it. approached Rabbi Bixenspanner and asked him if he While everyone agrees that parents have to be very careful and vigilant know where their children are at all times, not just because of physical and Alternatively, if we speak badly or ridicule others, if we snarl on our way to would be interested in being part of our Round Table .answer the door for someone in need, or if we are disdainful of our rabbinic articles, he immediately agreed . רוחניות about who their children befriend, we also have to agree that it is impossible emotional safety, but also because of their to shelter our kids 100% from improper friends. For example, often people will question the necessity of sending their son community leaders, then regardless of what we say, our children will see that We greatly appreciate all that he has contributed. as the norm. We wish both Rabbi and Rebbitzen Bixenspanner There are 2 ways how we can impart this important and fundamental issue to a Torahdike day camp, preferring to send to a local day camp that’s not to our children. 1) By preaching to our kids about the importance of having congruent with a Torah education “He’s so young anyway, what difference A house filled with warmth, chessed and Torah is the greatest safe haven for and family much hatzlacha as they begin the next good friends etc. and 2) By letting them mingle amongst their neighbours will it make?” These same people will allow their children to play with the child who is confronted with others who do not hold our beliefs. The chapter in their lives in England. with supervision, teaching them at the same time how to identify an non-yet frum children, ignoring the inherent risks that this poses, as you so truth is, our children will use inappropriate words much quicker if they hear With the greatest of thanks and hakaros hatov, married wives who served them in our home, than if they hear them on the street. Sruli and Shalomעשו unhealthy relationship and how to recognize a situation in which they eloquently stated in your query. When tells us that Yitzchok was I am in no way saying we should give them an open road to be with anyone Co-Publishers TFM מדרש and burned incense to them, the עבודה זרה .should turn to an adult for intervention .בתואל who had grown up in the house of ,רבקה more affected by this than By giving them the tools to be able to navigate the ups and downs of social they want. We have to be careful with the environment, with their friends had left her father’s house and רבקה More than sixty years had passed since life, we are giving them a tremendous gift. There is nothing comparable and with their activities. Yet, we all know, even with that, our children are she was only three when she left; what had made an impression on her as a to practical life. Even the smartest person will not be able to live real-life exposed to things we really prefer they not be. small child indelibly remained. without real-life experiences and when someone is given a “heads up” on a Our children are intelligent. They know if we are “real” in our Torah life, if it practical level, he is definitely ahead of the game. To answer your question, when your children ride their bikes or play is evident in our home, in our relationships and in our hanhagas, then they outside, (i.e. they are not really being closely supervised), they should be will see the way to be, act and live. 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Yehudis Shick an we survive the ¨Perfect Parent” myth? Essentially, this myth creates fear on the part of the parents, that if we are not perfect, we will mess up our children's lives. The perfection myth Ccauses parents to become anxious, wanting to be the very best, but not knowing ith the new school year upon us, we focus on formally educating our children. However, the how. Perfect parenting is, in fact, a myth; an impossibility in a family where each child is unique informal education they get at home has a much more far-reaching effect. In my last article, and where every family faces its distinct challenges. Dreams of perfection become a parental WI wrote about my life in early adulthood as I tried to solve my problems that kept cropping nightmare. up, through reading books and taking classes. But it would never solve the root of the problem. Of course there is one exception; when a gadol hador talks about a subject in a sefer, the problem seems Being part of a family includes dealing with conflict. Parenting means having to deal with an to get solved. Why? We shall soon see. enormous range of emotional issues. Often, a parent is a referee sorting out issues of sibling rivalry. Family conflicts are numerous, involving simple everyday activities such as not complying Rav Matisyahu Salomon shlita, one of the Gedolai Yisroel, talks about how to raise good Jewish with simple requests, avoiding chores or having difficulty completing homework. Issues can arise children to become upright Jewish adults, in his book "With Hearts Full of Love". One of the main with a child who prefers friends or activities not approved of by the mother or father. points he makes in his book is that he doesn't believe in books (excuse the pun) on child education. He actually forewarns his readers that his book serves as a general guideline. He advises everyone The good news is that being imperfect is okay. A natural part of learning is eliminating to consult with their own rav or mentor for their specific chinuch questions. He goes on to write errors; without slip-ups, we never learn. Too often we focus on the outcome rather than the that chinuch books today are detrimental for a few reasons. Firstly, it makes the parent feel like process. During our lives, we make many missteps and errors. Parents need to teach their children they can't parent without learning complicated theories and secondly it goes against the words of how to deal with this inevitability. Shlomo Hamelech "educate the child according to his way" The person giving advice doesn't know It is okay to feel overwhelmed and inadequate because of your child's behaviour. Mindful parenting your child or your specific situation, so how can their advice be on target? He does go on to say involves knowing and accepting what is truly important. We need to pick our battles carefully. The that "some books may have good suggestions, but you can’t put your faith in books that generalize". perfectly good parent remembers to be open while bringing wisdom to each situation, providing Basically believing in yourself is a good starting point. their child with security and encouragement. Bear in mind, your role as an adult is to be the Rav Shalom Arush says "You have to believe in Hashem and you have to believe in yourself." adult. Problems begin when we try to overcompensate. With this idea, an incident comes to mind. Two women took a parenting course - we'll call them While one cannot be a perfect parent, one can be a perfectly good one. Perfectly good parenting 'Chavie' and 'Bracha'. Chavie studiously memorized everything and tried to apply what she learned means trusting your instincts. We tend to have good intuitive knowledge of our children and their in every situation. Bracha was also serious about the material learned and she tried to apply it to needs. We need to keep in mind what is important, accepting that often we have no ideal solution real life, but she felt it was too rigid, so she began parenting in her own style. Seeing Bracha's to the many problems we face. Being uncertain, even in our most trying sometimes terrible attitude, Chavie tried to impress upon her that in order to be a good parent, you have to follow moments, does not make us poor parents. If we are not afraid of making and admitting mistakes, the instructions from the course. Bracha's confidence was swayed and she began to doubt her our children will not be afraid to take risks and make mistakes. Honesty carries profound benefits competence as a parent. How sad. But here's a line that would have reassured Bracha. "It appears to for both children and parents, me, that every well-meaning father and mother who want to build a good Jewish home, will find If you want to be a perfect parent there is good news; you are going to fail; so enjoy being a within themselves the knowledge and skills to be mechanech their own children properly” (With perfectly good one! Hearts Full of Love). Based on this, Bracha is doing a great job. A gadol is actually telling us that we Dr. Lester Krames is a clinical psychologist, whose work has been influenced by his exploration into have it within ourselves to raise our children properly, if we are well-meaning. mindfulness and self-compassion. His Shalom Bayis column will be a regular feature in upcoming issues. Rav Salomon delves into the topic of what is considered “well-meaning” parents. There are certain qualifications. They have to have strong Torah values and constantly be in the process of being mechanech themselves. They must work on improving their own negative qualities while further developing their positive ones. They are people who are focused on their own growth. These are the types of people who Hashem gives the wisdom and skills needed to parent. So for those of you looking for a formula, there it is. Almost. There is still one more point. Sometimes children can get into problems despite a parent's best efforts to evade them. There are many factors that affect a child's state of mind. It’s usually a good idea to consult with an expert or utilize the guidance of a rav or rosh yeshiva. CREACANVTE AN AMAZING CANVAS PRINT FROMAS YOUR PHOTOS AN IDEAL GIFT FOR FRIENDS & FAMILY, FOR YOUR HOME OR WORKPLACE I came across another book on chinuch entitled “The Garden of Education" by Rabbi Shalom Arush. "Successfully educating children certainly doesn't depend on...graduate degrees. But the first and most important element of child education is self-education." There's a common ground between these two representatives from different sects of the Jewish people. You might have a child that misbehaves. Rav Arush advises the parent to look at themselves and see if they need improvement in this area. "All the books and courses won't help, if a person doesn't work on himself while trying to apply chinuch methods to his child." (With Hearts Full of Love) Any and all problem should come as a wake-up call to do teshuva. If you try to solve it in a typical way, the outward manifestation of the problem might disappear but it will show up again in a different way. When it comes to education, you have to improve yourself first. This has two benefits. Firstly, it allows you to solve your own problems and secondly, your child will improve. He also says that if you want to give someone $100 and you only have $10, no matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to give $100. 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The Orange Square gathered In the 1940’s, he moved to Chattanooga, Tennessee and eventually settled in Detroit, where he was niftar in 1959. the inscribed words are , פ on to your On the matzevah for the letter Toronto Kosher people The fruits of his labour he merited, in his sons-in-law Indeed, his tefillos and pursuit of shalom were rewarded handsomely.

Reb Yechiel was blessed with chassanim who dedicated their life to chinuch and to the spreading of Torah here in Toronto. The educational landscape from 1960 was shaped by his sons-in-law, rebbeim synonymous with Yeshivas Eitz Chaim. Moreover, all the daughters took an active role in contributing as well to authentic Jewish life. One can easily conclude that the Erster family is Toronto’s “First Family of Chinuch.”

former principal of Eitz Chaim, Edith was married to Rabbi Shlomo Hochler היחיש Phyllis married Rabbi Shnayer Weinberg married Rabbi Moshe Bobrowsky a”h, the founder of Bais היחתש a”h, who taught in Eitz Chaim for over 50 years and Lilly Yaakov High School. Frances a”h, who taught in Eitz Chaim for over sixty years and who was nifteres a few months ago, was married to Rabbi Yankel Gluckowsky a”h, who also taught in Eitz Chaim for over forty years. The fifth daughter Rose married Rabbi Chaim Feifer and lived in New York.

Many of Reb Yechiel’s descendants are mechanchim and Chabad shluchim all over the world, continuing his legacy through Darchei Noam; remaining courteous, friendly and proudly Jewish, pursuing shalom in a pleasant and distinguished demeanor. TNTBH Liluy Nishmas Mrs. Frances Gluckwosky (Freida Rotza a”h) a stalwart for over 60 years in Yeshivas Eitz Chaim, who was nifteres this year. TNTBH

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or so many, the words “back to school” and “back on a schedule” Beautiful mean “back on a diet”. Does the thought of the upcoming holiday Fseason strike fear in you and make you doubt your willpower to withstand the myriad of gastronomic temptations? Well, I’m here to tell Yom Tov you to ditch the diet! No one wants to be around someone perpetually hangry (that’s angry from lack of food) or jealously eying that succulent JUST ADD FOOD AND FAMILY steak while poking despondently at a salad with dressing on the side. You know how long each diet attempt usually lasts, or how long it takes to start one (“next Monday” or “after the yomim tovim”). Being thin is not the same as being healthy, so stop counting calories and weighing yourself obsessively. Instead, listen to your body. We’ve trained ourselves over many years to obey outside cues to regulate our hunger and fullness; time of day, a licked-clean plate, advertisements and other people. But we are born with natural hunger and fullness signals and now it’s time to re-learn to listen to our body’s signals.

Picture the last time you ate. Can you remember eating? Can you recall how it felt on your tongue or how it made you feel after swallowing? What was the environment and why did you eat? Through eating mindfully, you can be aware of these cues, while also noting when you’re full, or if you’re eating for reasons other than hunger. (Does snacking FREE DELIVERY FREE IN-HOME ESTIMATIONS when you’re bored, angry, lonely, sad etc. sound familiar?) UNBEATABLE PRICES

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lients often come to Baked Apple Ice Cream Recipe me with the desire to Probate Tax Apples: Canadian tax basics Creduce the amount of This recipe is gluten-free, dairy-free and has the option of being nut-free. It makes for tax they pay. I am happy Probate tax is a provincial tax that is officially called “Estate Administration” Nutritious, Delicious & Easy an elegant, delicious and nutritious Rosh Hashanah dessert. Jason Berger to help them with that – I tax. The tax is about $15,000 on the first $1 million of assets. Technically, Ingredients: particularly enjoy helping not all assets of the deceased have to be probated and be subjected to the Carolyn Rostenne 2 frozen bananas, cut into 1” chunks families keep their wealth, tax. A common strategy to reduce probate tax involves setting up multiple 2 Basic Baked Apples with skin and bottom removed (see below for Basic Baked Apples rather than giving it to the government unnecessarily. Just as often though, wills - one will to govern the assets that are required to be probated and one recipe) I realize that I am not only preserving their wealth; very often I am also will to govern the assets that are not required to be probated (such as shares ¼ teaspoon cinnamon preserving their family relationships. Unfortunately, big estates often come of a private company). 1 tablespoon maple syrup with a big potential for fights. With proper planning during their lifetime, Pinch of sea salt families can preserve their wealth and their relationships. Having said that, Tax on a Corporation’s Income I have noticed that, although many of my clients come to me with a good Place ingredients in the bowl of your food processor and process until completely general understanding of how their businesses, companies and estates are This is a large topic, but some basics are as follows: blended. The texture should be smooth, resembling soft serve ice cream. Store it in taxed, there are a number of misconceptions and unknowns as well. For the freezer in an airtight container. Serve it plain or top with finely chopped apples, example: A Canadian corporation (that is controlled by one or more Canadian walnuts, a sprinkle of cinnamon or a drizzle of honey. taxpayer) that earns active business income, is taxed (in respect of Inheritance Tax that income) at one of the lowest corporate tax rates in the world – Basic Baked Apples Recipe approximately 15.5% in Ontario on the first $500,000 of income. This Ingredients: Contrary to what many people think, there is no such thing as an applies (generally speaking) to income earned by an operating company. 2 medium-sized baking apples, like Cortland or Empire “Inheritance” tax in Canada. So what tax does apply upon death? However, for a shareholder to use the money personally, he would need Maple syrup to withdraw the money from the company (either as a dividend, salary or Cinnamon Canadian tax law provides for what is called a deemed disposition on fee of some sort), and pay another level of tax thereon (at the individual Water death. This means that the law “pretends” that the deceased sold all of his shareholder level). Although there are, therefore, two levels of tax in this Carefully cut out stem and core of apple, removing the seeds and leaving the bottom or her assets immediately prior to death. This would give rise to tax where context, there is generally no double taxation in the sense that the same intact. Fill the empty cavity with maple syrup. Sprinkle cinnamon on top. Pierce the the deceased owned capital assets consisting of an inherent (not yet taxed) money is being taxed twice. The corporate tax system is designed to achieve capital gain. (RRIFs and RRSPs would also be brought into income in the (ideally) integration, so that the end tax result after withdrawing the money skin of the apple in several places. Cover the bottom of a small glass baking dish with year of death and would be taxed as income.) In other words, cash in the from the company is the same as it would have been if the shareholder had water and place the apples inside. Bake at 350 degrees for one hour or until flesh of bank (other than in RRIFs, etc.) would not be subject to any tax on the earned the money directly (i.e., not through a corporation) and paid tax apple is tender. deceased’s death. Interestingly then, imagine the following two scenarios: thereon. his is one of my favourite times of year – the leaves are changing colour, there is still that Carolyn is a former advertising executive, mother of 5 children, and a health and wellness enthusiast. 1. The deceased had no capital assets, but had $100 million of cash sitting last feeling of summer in the air and it’s Elul, the time we prepare ourselves for the Yomim She recently completed her studies at the Canadian School of Natural Nutrition. S in a bank account. Jason Berger is a tax/estate planning, and corporate/business lawyer. Jason can TNoraim. As someone who loves preparing healthy dishes for my family and friends, this is a tay tuned for more information about the launch of Freedom Wellness & Nutrition. Carolyn can be reached at [email protected]. 2. The deceased had no cash in the bank at all, but had a building that had be reached by email at [email protected] and by phone at 647-292- time when I get to go crazy with one of my favourite fruits – crunchy, delicious apples! I love apples because: Sources: Prescription for Dietary Wellness, Phyllis A. Balch, 2003 appreciated in value by $1 million since the time it was purchased. 5400. His office is located in the Promenade Mall, mercola.com - http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2013/10/28/apple-health-benefits.aspx Who pays more tax - the person with $100 million of assets, or the person 1 Promenade Circle, Suite 310 in Thornhill. • Apples are one of the most convenient snack foods Hashem ever created. No light with $2 million of assets? You guessed it – the person with $2 million of box, no soaking, no packages and no hard inedible peel. Just give them a good assets will pay about a quarter of a million dollars of tax on death (he will wash and they are ready to eat. You can throw an apple in your purse, lunch box have realized a $1 million capital gain), while the $100 millionaire won’t pay or gym bag. It doesn’t get easier than that! If you happen to be cutting your apples a dollar of income tax! before you grab and go, toss them with a small amount of lemon juice. This will prevent them from browning too quickly. Seems unintuitive, but it makes sense conceptually (at least in my mind). • There are over 100 commercially grown varieties in North America. Try Granny The $100 million of cash in the bank is after tax money (presumably and Smith or Braeburn apples if you like a tart taste and Royal Gala or Fuji if you like hopefully). The building has appreciated in value by $1 million, but no one sweet, or the pricier Honeycrisp with its explosive crispness, distinct juiciness and has paid any tax on that increase in value. If not for the deemed disposition, sweet taste. that $1 million of accrued gain (and future growth) could remain untaxed • Apples have an amazing versatility. They can be used in soups, salads, cakes, fruit crumbles, side indefinitely for generations. dishes and even ice cream! (Check out the baked apple ice cream recipe below.) • Apple juice can also be fermented (like beer) and turned into apple cider vinegar. Fermented So, bottom line – the biggest potential tax consequence on death is often as foods contain probiotics which are essential to the health of our large intestine. a result of accrued and untaxed capital gains owned by the deceased upon his or her death. Many strategies exist to minimize this tax. My goal is • Have you ever stopped to think about the amazing variety of colours that Hashem always to do whatever I can to preserve the hard-earned wealth of my clients used in His fruit-painting palette? Apples are no exception – they come in a rainbow of colours, including red, pink, green, yellow and even brown. Rich and their families and even more importantly (at least according to some), colours in fruit and vegetables are a sign of rich nutrients and help ensure that we preserve family relationships that could be affected by improper (or lack of) get a balanced diet. estate/tax planning. • Apple skins are a great source of antioxidants. Antioxidants neutralize free radicals that can damage the cells and cell tissue in our bodies. The apple’s high antioxidant concentration, helps decrease the risk of chronic diseases such as heart disease, cancer, diabetes and asthma. • When eaten with the skin, a whole apple has about 3.6 grams of fibre, nearly 17 percent of the daily dietary fibre intake. This is enough to contribute substantially This ad could be to colon health if eaten on a regular basis. • Apples are a satisfying, low calorie sweet treat. For those trying to shed some weight, reach for an apple when you feel the hankering for something sweet instead of that cookie or bowl of ice cream. • Last but not least, we get to dip them in honey on Rosh Hashanah – perhaps one of the biggest treats of the year! It is important to note that conventionally grown apples have one of the highest amounts of pesticides residue of any fruit or vegetable, so if possible, buy organic apples which are now available in most supermarkets. I recently took my kids recently to a lovely little orchard in Markham called Organics Family Farm. We picked two varieties of organic apples – Vista yours! Bella, and Sunrise – at half the cost of organic apples found in the supermarket. When you bite into an apple this Rosh Hashanah, think for a moment about the amazing [email protected] qualities of this beautiful fruit. Wishing you a sweet and healthy year! [email protected] 647-773-3000 30 31 647-773-3000 [email protected]

9 Steps from Seed to Cup 5. Milling the Beans Before being exported, parchment coffee is processed in the following manner: Hulling machinery Redirection in Life The coffee you enjoy each day has taken a long journey to arrive in your cup. Between the time removes the parchment layer (endocarp) from wet they’re planted, picked and purchased, coffee beans go through a typical series of steps to processed coffee. Hulling dry processed coffee refers bring out their best: to removing the entire dried husk - the exocarp, Julie Starr mesocarp andendocarp - of the dried cherries. 1. Planting Polishing is an optional process where any silver skin A coffee bean is actually a seed. When dried, roasted and that remains on the beans after hulling is removed lul is here! It’s the time to reconstruct and redesign our lives. It’s the time when we pull ourselves together and seriously contemplate questions we’ve been too ground, it’s used to brew coffee. If the seed isn’t processed, by machine. While polished beans are considered busy to ask ourselves during the year. We look within and ask: it can be planted and grow into a coffee tree. superior to unpolished ones, in reality, there is little difference between the two. E Coffee seeds are generally planted in large beds in Grading and Sorting is done by size and weight, and beans are also reviewed for color flaws 1. Where am I? shaded nurseries. After sprouting, the seedlings or other imperfections. are removed from the seed bed to be planted in Beans are sized by being passed through a series of screens. They are also sorted 2. What am I doing? individual pots in carefully formulated soils. pneumatically by using an air jet to separate heavy from light beans. Typically, the bean size is represented on a scale of 10 to 20. The number represents the The seedlings will be watered frequently and shaded 3. What do I want? size of a round hole’s diameter in terms of 1/64’s of an inch. A number 10 bean would be the from bright sunlight until they are hearty enough to be permanently planted. Planting approximate size of a hole in a diameter of 10/64 of an inch, and a number 15 bean, 15/64 of often takes place during the wet season so that the soil remains moist while the roots 4. Where am I going? an inch. become firmly established. Finally, defective beans are removed either by hand or by machinery. Beans that are unsatisfactory due to deficiencies (unacceptable size or colour, over-fermented beans, Direction is a funny thing. One minute we know our way. We have a clear-cut idea of where we’re heading. We feel focused, grounded and calm. Then 2. Harvesting the Cherries insect-damaged, unhulled) are removed. In many countries, this process is done both by suddenly we lose that direction and are lost at sea. What happened? How did we lose our grounding? Depending on the variety, it will take approximately machine and by hand, ensuring that only the finest quality coffee beans are exported. 3 to 4 years for the newly planted coffee trees to bear Generally, some life event or circumstance pulls us away from our goal. At times, the situation can even lead us to forget our focus. We’re lost in the abyss fruit. The fruit, called the coffee cherry, turns a bright, 6. Exporting the Beans and feel that there’s no way out. deep red when it is ripe and ready to be harvested. The milled beans, now referred to as green coffee, are loaded onto There is typically one major harvest a year. In ships in either jute or sisal bags loaded in shipping containers, No worries. Don’t fret. countries like Colombia, where there are two or bulk-shipped inside plastic-lined containers. World coffee flowerings annually, there is a main and secondary production for 2015/16 is forecast to be 152.7 million 60-kg bags, per The beauty of being human, is that we have free will. We have the power to search and redirect ourselves back to joy and back to the path that we wish to crop. data from the USDA Foreign Agriculture Service. take. This is what life coaching is all about: refocusing, redirecting and refreshing. In most countries, the crop is picked by hand in a labor-intensive and difficult process, though in places like Brazil where the landscape is relatively flat and the coffee fields 7. Tasting the Coffee My wonderful rabbi, Rabbi Aryeh Nivin from Ashdod, says that Elul is “the international deep thinking month.” In Elul, we are given the opportunity to immense, the process has been mechanized. Whether by hand or by machine, all coffee is Coffee is repeatedly tested for quality and taste. This process sit by ourselves to reevaluate our purpose in life, including how we are living. Every year we continue to search and revisit our life direction. harvested in one of two ways: is referred to as cupping and usually takes place in a room Strip Picked: All of the cherries are stripped off of the branch at one time, either by machine specifically designed to facilitate the process. ▪ This yearly visit makes it possible for us to stay on track. Life can be challenging and often we lose our way. I’ve had clients come to me zapped of all energy or by hand. First, the taster - usually called the cupper - evaluates the and passion. I’ve been asked, “What’s the point of living?” When I’m asked that question, I realize it’s a clear-cut case of loss of direction. We all have Selectively Picked: Only the ripe cherries are harvested and they are picked individually by beans for their overall visual quality. The beans are then purpose, each and every one of us. We have the purposes of connecting, being and doing. No one is on this planet without a purpose. hand. Pickers rotate among the trees every 8 to 10 days, choosing only the cherries which roasted in a small laboratory roaster, immediately ground and are at the peak of ripeness. Because this kind of harvest is labour intensive and more costly, infused in boiling water with carefully controlled temperature. The cupper noses the brew It’s time to ask powerful questions and get some support in finding your specific purpose and recommitting to it. Elul is the perfect time for this deep it is used primarily to harvest the finer Arabica beans. to experience its aroma, an essential step in judging the coffee's quality. thinking. A good picker averages approximately 100 to 200 pounds of coffee cherries a day, which After letting the coffee rest for several minutes, the cupper breaks the crust by pushing will produce 20 to 40 pounds of coffee beans. Each worker’s daily haul is carefully weighed aside the grounds at the top of the cup. Again, the coffee is nosed before the tasting begins. Life Coaching Homework: and each picker is paid on the merit of his or her work. The day’s harvest is then transported ▪To taste the coffee, the cupper slurps a spoonful with a quick inhalation. The objective is to to the processing plant. spray the coffee evenly over the cupper's taste buds, and then weigh it on the tongue before Find a good half hour or more. Sit in a quiet safe place and ask yourself: spitting it out. Samples from a variety of batches and different beans are tasted daily. Coffees are not only 1. Where am I now in my life? 3. Processing the Cherries Once the coffee has been picked, processing must analyzed to determine their characteristics and flaws, but also for the purpose of blending different beans or creating the proper roast. An expert cupper can taste hundreds of 2. What do I want in all areas of my life? begin as quickly as possible to prevent fruit spoilage. Depending on location and local resources, coffee is samples of coffee a day and still taste the subtle differences between them. 3. What would be the best for me? processed in one of two ways: The Dry Method is the age-old method of processing 8. Roasting the Coffee 4. What would be the best for the loving family around me? coffee, and still used in many countries where water Roasting transforms green coffee into the aromatic resources are limited. The freshly picked cherries are simply spread out on huge surfaces brown beans that we purchase in our favorite 5. What do I want for this coming year? to dry in the sun. In order to prevent the cherries from spoiling, they are raked and turned stores or cafés. Most roasting machines maintain a throughout the day, then covered at night or during rain to prevent them from getting wet. temperature of about 550 degrees Fahrenheit. The 6. How can I get this? Depending on the weather, this process might continue for several weeks for each batch of beans are kept moving throughout the entire process coffee until the moisture content of the cherries drops to 11%. to keep them from burning. 7. How can I get there? The Wet Method removes the pulp from the coffee cherry after harvesting, so the bean is When they reach an internal temperature of about dried with only the parchment skin left on. First, the freshly harvested cherries are passed 400 degrees Fahrenheit, they begin to turn brown 8. Who can lovingly support me in my new direction? through a pulping machine to separate the skin and pulp from the bean. Then the beans and the caffeol, a fragrant oil locked inside the beans are separated by weight as they pass through water channels. The lighter beans float to the begins to emerge. This process called pyrolysis is at the heart of roasting — it produces the Now, make a plan. Break down the goals into baby steps. Set up one task for day one, two tasks for day two etc. Celebrating your small successes will lead top, while the heavier ripe beans sink to the bottom. They are passed through a series of flavour and aroma of the coffee we drink. you to more and more celebrations. Redirection to great success can only happen with small steps. Write it all out. (Use colourful markers! Yes, be childlike rotating drums which separate them by size. After roasting, the beans are immediately cooled either by air or water. Roasting is generally in this very important exercise! Make it fun!) After separation, the beans are transported to large, water-filled fermentation tanks. performed in the importing countries because freshly roasted beans must reach the Depending on a combination of factors - such as the condition of the beans, the climate and consumer as quickly as possible. the altitude - they will remain in these tanks for anywhere from 12 to 48 hours to remove NEXT… Make copies of the plan and hang them in several places where you’re likely to see them and constantly be reminded of your redirection. the slick layer of mucilage (called the parenchyma) that is still attached to the parchment. While resting in the tanks, naturally occurring enzymes will cause this layer to dissolve. 9. Grinding Coffee Life is a gift filled with great potential for joy. Yes, we are tested with adversity, but simcha is the energy that allows life to open up. Simcha is all about The objective of a proper grind is to get the most flavour enjoyment, singing, dancing and being you. It’s always there. Embracing you and your gifts (talents, strengths, direction), will allow the flow of simcha to When fermentation is complete, the beans feel rough to the touch. The beans are rinsed by in a cup of coffee. How coarse or fine the coffee is ground going through additional water channels and are ready for drying. rush in and stop the sadness and confusion you’re living with. depends on the brewing method. The length of time the grounds will be in contact with Another point of wisdom from Rabbi Nivin is: “ In times of transition it is normal to under perform.” 4. Drying the Beans water determines the ideal grade of grind Generally, If the beans have been processed by the wet method, the finer the grind, the more quickly the coffee should In other words, don’t be hard on yourself if you lose direction in your redirection process. That’s normal. If we fall off the horse, just get back on. In a short the pulped and fermented beans must now be dried to be prepared. That’s why coffee ground for an espresso while, you’ll be back where you want to be. approximately 11% moisture to properly prepare them machine is much finer than coffee brewed in a drip system. for storage. Life is a process. We all need tools to help us hold on to our power in order to create better lives. Adversity will hit us and take us off course, but the tools These beans, still inside the parchment envelope Take a moment to examine the beans and smell their aroma. we acquire will help us redirect and motivate us to do better. (the endocarp), can be sun-dried by spreading them on drying tables or floors, where they are turned regularly, The scent of coffee alone has been shown to have energizing effects on the brain. Stay in touch and Happy Elul searching / planning to all! or they can be machine-dried in large tumblers. The dried beans are known asparchment coffee, and are warehoused in jute or sisal bags until they [email protected] are readied for export. 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Engagements California Grizzly extinct on mainland Australia over a thousand years phin - doomed to extinction. The leopard was native Uri Weinberger & Tali Schondorf Bear, 1924 ago, but survived until more modern times on the Cuban Ivory-Billed to Unguja Island, and is believed to have evolved in Ahron Herskovits & Rachel Oliver The state symbol island of Tasmania. It had a pouch to carry its young, Woodpecker, 1990 isolation from its mainland counterparts. The Zanzibar Adina Shahin & Netanel Mahalli of California, the and was, according to accounts, a nocturnal hunter The Cuban Ivo- Leopard was seen as a predator dangerous to livestock, mazel Yehuda Neger & Leah Baker California Grizzly who fed mainly on birds and small animals, like pos- ry-Billed Woodpeck- as well as being linked in superstition to witches and Tzvi Reichmann & Malia Weiss Bear, differentiated sums, though it started to eat sheep and poultry after er’s population was witchcraft, which lead to it being hunted down, with Rivky Phillip & Ari Herzog itself from other the European colonization of Tasmania. In Australia, already in decline kills being reported yearly on the National Hunters’ David Silver & Jennifer Pick Grizzlies in size, it is believed that the competition with the Dingo is by the 1940s, when records from 1985 to 1995. The 1990s saw an interest Yonati Wagner & Jared Sues reaching standing partly responsible for its extinction. In Tasmania, the ornithologists began to fear the animals were doomed in conservation for the population and a program was heights of eight feet and weighing up to two thousand introduction of dogs is felt to have been a factor in to extinction. In the forties, the largest group of the developed by the Jozani-Chwaka Bay Conservation Adina Minkowitz & Ricky Silberman pounds. When European immigrants started settling their ultimate extinction, though their persecution as birds known of was a group of six and it was thought Project, but it was abandoned in 1997, when researches tov! Ori Goldstein & Rebecca Shapira in California, it was believed that there were around nuisance animals by humans is felt to have played a that the growth of the forestry industry had greatly were unable to find any evidence of surviving Zanzibar Zev Skaist & Faygie Heinemann 10,000 California Grizzly Bears in the state. With the larger role. The last confirmed sighting of a Tasmanian reduced the species’ numbers, driving the survivors to Leopards. The leopard is possibly extinct or at the very discovery of gold in California and the ensuing popu- Tiger was in 1933, where it was captured and kept at more remote regions. In the fifties, there was an effort least, critically endangered. lation boom, the Grizzly did not fare well, as the late the Hobart Zoo until its death in 1936. There have to get a conservation plan underway, but political 1800s saw settlers shooting and poisoning the bears to been sightings since then, but numerous organized turmoil (namely 1959’s Cuban Revolution) pushed Baiji, 2006 Weddings Birth of a Son protect their livestock. The last confirmed California searches have such plans to the back burner. While there have been The Baiji is a river Grizzly Bear was shot in August, 1922. Two years later not provided any reports of hearing bird calls as late as 1998 in the Sierra dolphin found in Jacob & Jillian (Taras) Batist Rabbi Shmuli & Elana Soroka Naftoli & Leora Klein a grizzly bear believed to be a California Grizzly was evidence to overturn Maestra, the ensuing search turned up neither proof of China’s river systems, Avi & Aliza (Donath) Weinryb Josh & Chana Bernstein seen by several people in Sequoia National Park, but the ‘extinct’ verdict. the bird’s survival nor a potential habitat for them. The mainly that of the Shay & Gittel (Wosnick) Hazanov was not seen since, leading to it being declared extinct. last sighting of the Cuban Ivory-Billed Woodpecker Yangtze River. It Amiel & Ahuva Diamond Aaron & Miri (Morris) Stoner Bali Tiger, 1940s was in 1987 and it is assumed to have died out around grew up to eight feet Ascher & Rochi (Jakobowitz) Wagschal Michael & Riki Stopnicki Newfoundland There isn’t a defini- 1990. The Cuban Ivory-Billed Woodpecker’s American in length and 510 Moshe & Devorah (Tenenbaum) Neger Dovid & Shiffy Ochs Wolf, 1930 tive extinction date cousin, the Ivory-Billed Woodpecker is on the cusp of pounds in weight. It had better eyesight than many Michoel & Ayala (Buxbaum) Shimanowitz Shmuel & Ronit Gelkopf Wolves are believed for the Bali Tiger. extinction as well, since there are very few forests that other species of freshwater dolphins. They tended to Hillel Shalom & Yehudis (Bleeman) Miller Eli & Gitty Stern to have made it to The last time one was definitively seen was in 1937, match its habitat. live in small groups that occasionally came together to Michael & Alison (Szilagyi) Siegman Rory & Jacqueline Gozlan Newfoundland, at Sumbar Kima in west Bali, where it had been shot. make larger groups of up to sixteen dolphins. The Bai- Daniel & Alison (Bernholtz) Shanker Netanel & Aliza Tessler where they traveled These tigers were related to the Javanese Tiger (also ex- Jamaican Giant ji’s population was decimated for a number of reasons it’s a boy! over the ice from tinct), but were smaller (closer to a cougar in size than Galliwasp, 1996 including: overfishing of the Baiji’s traditional food Michael & Neema (Fischman) Adler Amir & Ella Rosenthal Labrador. The wolf to other tigers) and a darker orange. The Bali Barat The Jamaican Giant sources, interaction with the fishing industry (from Elie & Cara (Seltzer) Wolynetz Isaac & Ronitte Anidjar Eli & Bracha Zohar population caused a problem for the people moving National Park established a tiger habitat in1941, but Galliwasp’s Genus, becoming tangled in equipment to colliding with fish- Mordechai & Ronit (Kutnowski) Rosen to Newfoundland in the eighteenth and nineteenth this had no visible effect on the population (which was the Celestus Lizards, ing boats), and the destruction of their natural habitat, Moshe Hillel & Yael Lipson Yitzi & Sara (Kerzner) Friedman century, since wolves were seen as dangerous animals unknown and possibly extinct already by that time). are common in the as tributaries were dammed and others drained for Dovid & Miriam (Schlam) Ventura Jonny & Aimee Hass that would kill settlers’ livestock and thus their live- Conservationists believe that the Bali Tiger became ex- Caribbean, with land reclamation, leaving less room for the Baiji. The Moishe & Devora (Tenenbaum) Neger Dubie & Meira Meisels lihood. A prevalent theory is that the Newfoundland tinct between 1937 and 1950, and that a combination cousins and second Baiji’s was considered ‘functionally extinct’ by the Baiji Marshall & Laura (Agensky) Loomer Jamie & Jodie Davis Wolf was hunted to extinction, since farmers killed of hunting and loss cousins being found throughout the area. But the Foundation in December 2006, after an expedition Yisroel & Amaris (Balitsky) Adler Rick & Marcey Silber wolves as there was a bounty issued on wolves as late of habitat caused the Jamaican Giant Galliwasp or Sinking Galliwasp is attempting to find one of the dolphins turned up with Michael & Alana (Peretz) Oziel Eli & Aura Woznica as 1916 (though the last time it had been paid was in tigers’ extinction. no longer among them. Native only to the island of nothing. Functionally extinct means that while there Gedalya & Devorah (Sternbuch) Portowicz Steve & Sarah Mostyn 1896). However, new studies suggest that the main Jamaica, it was first entered into the scientific family in may still be a handful of surviving Baiji Dolphins, there factor in the Newfoundland Wolf’s demise was the Guam Flying Fox, the early 1800s. The last record of their population was is no chance for their re-population. Yoshi & Rivka (Sivak) Green Jordan & Stacey Druxerman Ephraim & Orly Stulberg declining Newfoundland caribou population which 1968 in 1840; the World Conservation Monitoring Center Tzvi & Dahlia (Balaban) Fried was the wolves’ main food source. This combination The Guam Flying classified them as extinct in 1996 after a search in 1994 Pyrenean Ibex, 2000 Ilan & Margalit (Bernstein) Katz of stressors would have made it difficult for the wolves Fox was a large bat found nothing. Little is known about the animals, so & 2009 Dovid & Tziporah (Perl) Friedman to reproduce and by the 1920s, it is believed that with a wingspan of it’s difficult to say what exactly caused their extinction, Most species don’t Yehuda Moshe & Ariella (Baum) Vale there were less than fifty Newfoundland Wolves in the about seventy centimeters. It was vegetarian, eating but a prevalent belief is that the introduction of a get the chance to David & Ashley (Ansel) Finson Birth of Twins province. The species the fruit, flowers and foliage of the forests of northern predatory species - the Mongoose - in Jamaica, played a go extinct twice. Baruch & Adira (Muller) Singer Stephen & D'vorah Green was declared extinct Guam. Little is known about its behaviour or repro- major factor in their The Pyrenean Shane & Shelby (Spigelman) Altbaum in 1930. ductive habits, since it died out before much study into extinction. Ibex’s extinction is Yakir & Nava (Rosen) Razon it could be done. The bat was used locally as a food something of a mystery, with possible causes ranging Steve Aaron & Tiffany Talia (Tirrado) Martinek Tasmanian Tiger, source, and this, combined with the introduction of Zanzibar Leopard, from an inability to compete with other species for 1936 the predatory Brown Tree Snake to the environment 1996 food to climactic conditions. Whatever the cause, the Azi & Abby (Morris) Kochman The Tasmanian Tiger is believed to have contributed to its extinction. Only The exact state of extinction of the Ibex caused great ire amongst Spanish Michael & Miriam Rochel (Silverberg) Giardina Birth of a Daughter had more in common three specimens of this animal were collected, with the the Zanzibar Leopard conservationists, who felt that the government had not Aaron & Ariella (Flatt) Woodrow Rabbi Pinny & Esther Malka Stern with the kangaroo last being shot by hunters in 1968. Despite extensive is unknown. There acted fast enough to save it, citing that a conservation Ari & Naomi (Friedman) Friedman Sholom & Teela Gutman than the tiger, but it also had stripes, so people went studies into the fruit bats of Guam since the 1960s, no hasn’t been a live one plan was not put into place until 1993, when there Joel & Rebecca (Dreezer) Friedman Rabbi & Mrs. Yehuda Gestetner with the visual cues when it came to naming it. The other Guam Flying Foxes were discovered, leading to it seen since 1996 and environmentalists feel that if it were only an estimated ten surviving Pyrenean Ibexes. Daniyel & Nechama (Perl) Pister Rabbi & Mrs. Naftali Cohen Tasmanian Tiger was a marsupial animal that became being declared extinct. does still survive, it’s in a similar state to the Baiji Dol- It was declared extinct in 2000, Daniel & Deena (Rubinstein) Kachani Avi & Hadassah Bernstein Josh & Rikki (Berk) Karon Eric & Sabrina Bernofsky Elan & Batya (Berman) Hahn Chaim & Chaya Leah Rivlin Mitchell & Sara Abigail (Braverman) Gakman Ephraim & Malka Luss Natan & Shayna (Cohen) Breslow Akiva & Chaya Sherman IT’S THAT TIME Yakov & ELiana (Goldberg) Schindel Gershon & Tamara Miskin Asher & Tanya (Zbili) Katz Yoni & Hana Rutman it’s a girl! OF YEAR AGAIN... 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Once we understand the child’s brain development, 14 Toronto 11 Elul 5776 // September 14, 2016 COMMUNITY we can go back to understanding the “filing system” You Are Who You’ve Been I discussed above. The child’s brain continues to function the way it developed. Now we have to Thornhill Torah Education Centre: Creating Bnei Torah in Toronto EDWIN SCHILD, B.A., M.Sc., realize something my readers have heard from me NAMA Anger Management Specialist, Diplomate before. That is, the way we think becomes the DEVORAH KLEIN way we feel which, in turn, becomes the way we act. If our life experiences are understood to be “After coming back from am is sixteen years old and his mother just Let’s start with the simplest understanding by (thinking) negative, our feelings about the related yeshivah in Eretz Yisrael, I called this morning. She sounded like she was using an analogy. All of our life experiences are experiences become negative. In fact, think of thought there would be no Shurting and unable to cope. Just last night, stored in our brain. Like the most powerful our automatic understanding as a default button. way to keep up my learning. To my surprise, this program she had to call the police once again on her son computer invented, those experiences are stored That is, whether you are 15 years old, 30 years old, has not only helped me with who has been extremely verbally abusive to her, in “files” in the brain and in the best of times, we 60 years old or whatever, your automatic default keeping up my skills, but it barricading her for long periods of time in her can retrieve those experiences in order to learn thought process sets the tone for your sequence has also helped me grow as a room. He also vandalizes the home and hasn’t from them and use the experiences for our current of thinking, feeling, doing. As we understand ben Torah. The Gemara shiur been to school in two years. She told me that Sam’s situations. However, this is when we can “retrieve” this sequence and the effect it has on our feelings in the morning can compare the memories on a cognizant, or awareness, level. (moods), we must gain the personal control to to any high-level shiur in father, who had also been verbally abusive to her, other yeshivos around the Rabbi Zoberman (third from left) together with his father-in-law, no longer lives in the home and shows no interest However, if the “file” can’t be found or it is found put that default thinking into a manual mode and world. What I have accom- Rabbi Mayer Zoberman (R), director of the Thornhill Torah Education Rabbi Simcha Shafran, (third from right), and talmidim during a trip to in Sam. Furthermore, Sam was violently attacked but can’t be deciphered, how can we use the become more responsive with new thinking rather plished here is something Centre, with Harav Shmuel Kamenetsky. Baltimore. by a gang of teens a few years ago. information? Even more so, how is the filed away than reactive to our default mode. that I will hold on to for a life- information making its way into our daily lives time.” These are the words of Sheryl is twenty-three years old. Her father left and how is it affecting us, especially if we don’t Therefore, the reason we are who we have been is Daniel Green, a former talmid because we tend to react to our past experiences the in Thornhill Torah Educa- home about six or seven years ago and her mother know it’s there? tion Centre, a Toronto beis left to go back to her native country four years same way we have done so throughout our lives. medrash program for college ago, leaving Sheryl, at the age of nineteen, to look Before going any further, I have asked my daughter, Only when we can become more self-reflective and and university students. after her two brothers and sister. Sheryl has not Aliza Terris, who works part-time at Regesh as a understanding, can we take control of our thought Now beginning its ninth coped very well with her very troubling brothers psychotherapist and has a specialty, among other (patterns of understanding) to change the default year, The Thornhill Torah and sister. Nevertheless, this young caregiver things, in brain development as it relates to mental reaction to a purposeful, self-planned way of Education Centre opened dealing with situations. This truly becomes what its doors in the summer of feels very responsible for her siblings and worries health and development, to comment on the 2008 with five students and about the trouble they get into and their lack of role of the brain in this phenomenon. Let’s start we all strive for now, as self-control of our feelings a vision. The brainchild of education. Both brothers are currently in trouble with the child and the role of the child’s brain and thus, actions. As Aliza describes it, “this is the Rabbi Mayer Zoberman, the with the law and her sister is a teen mother. Sheryl in this. She notes that the research on the brain Divine quality of a human being, when we cease to concept behind TTEC was is overwhelmed with anxiety and depression. confirms that our brains are in fact the last organ live blindly and 'instinctively' and instead choose to Rabbi Mayer Zoberman giving a shiur at the Thornhill Torah Education simple: to create a dynamic to develop in a human being. This design invites create each moment anew, based on an assessment and welcoming learning envi- Centre. Rabbi Mayer Zoberman enjoying a breakfast with his talmidim. ronment where full-time or Courtney, sixteen years old, has lived with her the developing child's environment to contribute not made on past unconscious choices, but based part-time university students strong friendships formed Yisrael all wrapped up in one. him from a typical high school is comprised of Harav Yaakov father since the age of three. At that time, her to the shaping of the brain. The brain works in rather on a higher, intellectual and perhaps even can spend their mornings during these crucial years of There is nothing he won’t student to a young man with Bender, Rosh Hayeshivah of mother disappeared and is no longer involved in such a way that different brain cells (neurons) will spiritual informed place within us.” and evenings immersed in young adulthood.” do for a talmid whether it is focus, and whom we see on Darchei Torah in Far Rocka- their lives. Courtney suffers from serious anxiety wire together based on firing together. Practically, high-level Torah study. The program includes raise money for his physical a daily basis becoming a way; Harav Tzvi Berkowitz, and has not been to school in five years. Her father, that means that the environment of a young child The examples at the beginning of the article of Maggid Shiur at Yeshivas “There was no option in Gemara learning from or spiritual needs, introduce true ben Torah. This change caring very much for his daughter, feels unable to Sam, Sheryl and Courtney are all examples of how Toronto for bachurim who 9:30–11:00 each morning, him to Gedolim or host him occurred within six months.” Ner Yisroel and Harav Avro- will actually shape the circuitry of the brain. Most wanted to learn while going with a shiur given by Rabbi for Shabbos.” One of the highlights of hom Reisman, Rosh Kollel, cope with her mental health problems. important for future implications, the brain learns these clients have been negatively influenced by to college,” explains Rabbi Zoberman, followed by Rabbi Zoberman tells of a year in TTEC is the trips Ohr Somayach, Yerushalay- what to expect, based on its assessment of the life experiences that were never understood in a Zoberman. “We created a chavrusa learning. After the one talmid who joined the that are taken to major Torah im, and Toronto Rabbanim: What do these three clients have in common? I small components of the environment. When the way to take personal control over them. Let us all place for boys who are serious Gemara learning, there is a program after completing his centers, such as Ner Yisroel Rabbi Avrohom Assayag, believe the most obvious commonalities include child’s developing brain, which needs acceptance work on controlling our own feelings and actions. about learning, but also want seder in Mishnah Berurah and engineering degree. He was in Baltimore, Bais Medrash Harav Moshe Mordechai loss and personal struggles resulting in pain and and unconditional love and value from his or As the saying goes, “knowledge is power” and the unable to find a job, and was Govoha in Lakewood, and Ohr Lowy and Rabbi Mordechai to earn a college degree.” in the Chazon Ish’s approach behavioural difficulties. However, on a deeper more we understand ourselves, the more power we Since its inception, the to emunah and bitachon. unemployed for eight months, Somayach in Monsey. These Ochs. her caregivers receives that, the child is at ease program has met with great The evening program during which time he learned trips expose the bachurim In a recent letter signed level, there’s so much more involved. Struggling and free to develop his or her natural skills and have over our thoughts, feelings and actions. In success. TTEC has drawn a offers classes inMishnah Ber- in TTEC. He finally found a to a world of Torah that they by Rabbanim from across the youth means struggling families. No one lives in talents, with energy available to play, grow and so doing, we can become proud of the way we are diverse group of talmidim, urah and Minchas Chinuch, job and worked for four years may not have known existed. Thornhill community, it was total isolation and those around us, those who love mature according to potential. If, on the other today because we understand our past experiences. from yeshivah graduates to and a shiur in Gemara Bekius. to attain his formal certifica- They see yeshivos in action, written, “TTEC fills a very us, those who are connected in any way, struggle hand the environment the child is developing in We can use them to make us better and not a those not yet shomer Shabbos, Rabbi Zoberman is assisted tion. The next day, he told his and thousands who devote important void in our com- when we struggle. Professionally we are quite is considered by the unconscious assessment of puppet of our past negative experiences. or have very limited yeshivah by Rabbi Mayer Rothenburg, boss that he was going to Isra- their lives to limud haTorah. munity. Rabbi Zoberman’s background. It is beautiful Rabbi Dovid Bennett and el, and he never came back. Furthermore, the warmth warmth and caring for the aware that our history affects the present and the brain to be dangerous and not meeting his or to see how all the talmidim previously, by Rabbi Moshe He is now learning in a kollel and acceptance with which young men is immediately unless dealt with in therapy, will affect our futures. her emotional needs, the human psyche is wired Ed Schild is the Executive Director of Regesh Family mingle together through their Hochman. in Ramat Beit Shemesh. they are greeted during these apparent, and is undoubted- I would like to suggest that this is over- simplifying to seek approval and learn to adapt to survive the and Child Services in Toronto, Ontario Canada. limud haTorah, and create a Through their years at Rabbi Zoberman has a trips help them feel a part of ly the key to his success. The the obvious. Emotional pain comes from so many environment when it is less than ideal. We are He is also a family therapist and certified close-knit social group. TTEC, the students discover unique ability to reach every the Torah world. students react wonderfully different directions. who we have been because without self-reflection specialist in Anger Management and conducts As Jordan Glowinsky the primacy and centrality talmid on his level, and many After one such trip to Ner to his fatherly concern for many therapeutic workshops in various topics. commented, “On my first day of Torah in Jewish life, and students who did not pre- Yisroel in Baltimore, Harav their welfare, and as a result, and self-awareness as we become capable of it, of university I stepped into develop an appreciation for viously succeed in Gemara Yissocher Frand commented, he has developed a very dedi- Depression and anxiety are two emotional situations then naturally the defensive adaptations we made Regesh runs many programs helping Rabbi Zoberman’s program the Torah’s relevance to mod- learning, finally taste success “I was extremely impressed cated following of young men that I am seeing more and more over the past year to survive in our youth 'stick' with us and become children, teens and families dealing with with the lofty goal of keep- ern-day life. Many learn in in TTEC. with the group that you who love their Yiddishkeit or two. I have discussed this with colleagues who, character traits which feel like they are us. At personal and family issues in their lives. ing my Torah learning strong kollel after completing their As one parent attested, brought down. Their passion and take their Torah study likewise, have experienced this phenomenon. that point, on a subconscious level we continue To arrange a speaking engagement or consultation, throughout my university college degrees, due to the “Our son entered your pro- and enthusiasm for learning seriously. We wholehearted- What’s going on in our lives and communities that to assess and perceive (the brain is an assessment contact Mr. Schild at Regesh Family and Child Services. career. ahavas haTorah instilled in gram as a good, intelligent, was infectious.” ly recommend TTEC for the can account for this? I would like to suggest that He can be reached at 416-495-8832 extension 222 “However, what I got out them by Rabbi Zoberman. capable young man with a TTEC is under the close young men of our community and anticipation machine) through our old, often of the program was not lim- As Rabbi Dan Rand, good day school education guidance of Harav Shmuel and fully support all of Rabbi perhaps we are either seeing more depression and warped 'lenses'. The good news is that we have or [email protected]. Visit www.regesh.com. ited to Torah learning; there executive director, Temmy but, due to various circum- Kamenetsky, shlita, Rosh Zoberman’s educational anxiety or perhaps, the depression and anxiety we been given a mind which can, often with help, were memorable moments on Latner Forest Hill Jewish stances, wasn’t meeting his Yeshivah, Yeshiva of Phil- endeavors.” are seeing is more intense. Maybe, it is as I have get us out of the subconscious and back into our trips, Shabbatons, a connec- Centre, asserted, “Rabbi potential and lacked direc- adelphia, and Harav Tzvi For more information on noted in the title, “you are who you’ve been”. We highest human ability of consciousness, making a tion with a rebbi who cares Zoberman exemplifies the tion. Your personal attention Kushelefsky, Rosh Yeshivah of TTEC, please contact Rabbi can try to better understand what’s going on in our choice of who to be moment to moment. tremendously for his talmi- values of mesirus nefesh, and the dedication of Rabbi Heichal HaTorah in Har Nof. Zoberman at 647-833-5001 dim and most importantly, ahavas haTorah, and ahavas Rothenberg is transforming The advisory committee or [email protected]. communities by understanding what is meant by “You Are Who You’ve Been”? kid's centre [email protected] 647-773-3000 36 37 647-773-3000 [email protected] kid's centre Jokes Vintage Toronto Did you know? 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By: Rabbi Moshe Weinberg July 15, 1492 Chapter 7 Part B

By: Sarah Biren Lethal Shores Chapter 25 Essau Part 3 The Runaway’s Journey Essua rescues Gabriella and promises to take care of her. Gabriella He fxates on the ground again. “The priest, I think. people trying to hurt me, so I kept it. I’m sorry I lied to you, denies her parents’ death and stows away in the Windspeed, which The one with the cane. And Father Carlos and Father Daniel.” Summary: After realizing what this “club” was really all about, Eli decided to tell the other members that he wants to leave. That was easier said than done. is returning to Spain. Daniel rescues Thomas from the monastery Diego. They said it a lot. Especially when I wanted to do “That’s alright.” and they walk to the port to find a passage to freedom. Jewish things. Then they’d beat me. They also said G-d There is silence. Daniel appears astounded by the story, so I assume this is abandoned me, but then they would make me go to mass, the frst he has heard of it. so I knew they were lying. But they weren’t lying when Finally I speak. “So your name is really Daniel? Do you The Dilemma they said you did.” know that there is a cleric and a pair of guards hunting you “I did not know the people were coming,” I say, trying to down right by this very port?” Eli was completely puzzled. Was he dreaming or was Daniel? None of this made sense. remain calm. “I went to the port like I always do. When I “Yes, they were,” I say frmly. “Isaac, listen. They weren’t came back, I found Mother and I buried her. You, Mica, and there. They didn’t see what happened. I didn’t know what He looked around wildly. “There is?! Wow, Father really Daniel continued, “My uncle is a well-known insurance agent. Insurance works like this: People pay a certain amount of money every year to an insurance Levi were gone. I searched for you for so long. Finally, the was going to happen. I was eating those cherries you gave kept his word.” He turns to me. “Listen, I was wondering if company, and because they pay that money, if anything happens to their car or their house, the insurance company takes care of it. It’s worth it for people me; I ate them slowly like you said I should. I went to the priest who led the people told me that you were dead. He you would know of a ship that could give us passage out to pay my uncle because they only have to pay him a little money every year. Most likely, nothing will happen to their property, but if something does, they was going to kill me; then I… escaped.” port. I even planned to buy a horse statue for you. When I of Spain. See, I’m a wanted Marrano, and I promised, uh, came home, you were gone. And I searched for you.” Isaac that I would take him with me.” get a lot of money, up to the full value of their car or house. A cruel voice came to mind: “As for your brothers, we had our own mini auto-de-fe and burnt them. It was quite His eyes widen. “You did?” The pain roots inside me even more deeply. The faith and “My uncle has a lot of friends on the block we were on. Many of them don’t have insurance on their houses, and even those who do, won’t listen to my entertaining.” They only killed Mica and Levi. Isaac was “Yes.” affection between the two is apparent, the way it used uncle’s advice that they should install an alarm system. When you install an alarm system, you cut down on robberies. We’re teaching these people that to be for us, while now my little brother is flled with destined to be conformed, and in the meantime… “Isaac. He stares back to the ground. they are wrong; they should put in an alarm system and they should be buying insurance from my uncle. My uncle has offered to show them how easy it Tell me, who said I abandoned you?” hostility. would be to break into their houses. They have agreed that he could try to arrange a fake break-in, in order to see how easy it would be for real thieves to Daniel says, “You are calling him Isaac. Is that your real “Then wherever you go, I go,” I respond. “Happens to be, I His forehead crinkled and he shifted his feet. “I don’t name?” break-in. We try to break-in and see how well the house is protected. We even take valuable items to show what would happen if a real robbery would know… But you did do it.” know a ship that’s disembarking to Turkey tomorrow, and occur. Of course, everything we take is then returned.” “Yes,” he replies without glancing up. “The priest with the cane they could defnitely use an extra crewman.” I recall Omar “Try to remember! Please. Who was it?” called me Thomas. He said it would protect me from other asking about sending any friends his way to work on the The explanation sounded outlandish to Eli, but he wanted desperately to believe it. If Daniel was telling the truth, then he could stay in the club. The Windspeed. I fnally am able to do so. “As for you, Isaac, story sounds weird, he thought, but I hope it’s true, because if it isn’t, I’m in trouble. I really want to stay in the club. These guys are my friends, the best you are too young to be a sailor, but you’d make a great friends I’ve ever had! stowaway.” “Are you sure?” Daniel seems dubious. “We can’t buy him a After mulling it over for a few minutes, Eli said to Daniel, “I’m really sorry. I didn’t realize what was happening. I really thought for a moment that you passenger’s seat?” were a thief.” “It’s not that kind of ship,” I explain. “Luckily, he won’t be Daniel laughed again. “What a joke. I had no idea what was bothering you so much. As I said before, I blame it on Michael. It was his job to tell you how alone with the cargo. Come on. First, Daniel, I’ll show you we operate. Of course we’re not robbers. That’s the farthest thing from the truth.” Daniel slapped Eli on the back, and the other boys got up and went on to the frst mate, Omar. Then there’s someone I want you their own way. Eli quickly walked home; he wanted to be by himself. both to meet.” To be continued… The next day, Michael came over and said, “We’re meeting again tonight. Seven o’clock sharp.” Sarah is 18 years old. She enjoys almost all kinds of writing, including novels, “Should I wear dark clothes or can I wear my regular ones?” Eli asked. poetry, novellas, essays, and a bit of play writing. She plans to go into the writing field professionally. Michael gave him a huge smile. “Wear anything you want. We’re going to have a grand old time.” When Eli got to the clubhouse, everything seemed great. Some of the guys were playing Monopoly. A few others were munching popcorn and watching. “Hi, Brian, Rick, Bob, Zack,” said Eli. The boys shook hands and slapped him on the back. He sat down and made himself comfortable. That night, Daniel ordered pizza—two slices for each boy! He paid for the whole thing from the club’s cash fund. Eli wondered again why he hadn’t been asked to contribute to the fund, but he pushed the thought aside. He wanted to enjoy himself, not spend time worrying. At nine o’clock Eli left for home. Tonight was the greatest, he thought. He wished the club could meet every night. Having a great time with your friends, going to school and feeling important, having pizza—this was really living! Eli couldn’t think of anything better in the whole world. funny The weekend went by quickly. Eli was looking forward to going back to school. When he sat down to eat breakfast on Monday morning, though, a small article in the newspaper caught his eye. Suddenly he choked on his cereal. The article was a report on some unsolved robberies that were being pics: investigated by the police. The addresses of the houses where the robberies took place were the same as the addresses of the houses they had been to just a few weeks ago. Eli walked to school in a daze. By now it was clear that his friends were thieves. And if they were, so was he. Daniel had handed him a bag to carry back to the clubhouse. Eli had actually helped steal other people’s possessions. Eli had a heavy heart and a pretty bad stomach ache, but he cheered up a bit when he got to school and everyone there was nice to him. He felt very important. Maybe the rest of it didn’t matter after all. But, as the day wore on, he knew he couldn’t continue this way. He was beginning to hate himself. He didn’t go directly to Daniel himself to ask for a meeting, but asked Michael to ask for him. After class it was Rick who came to tell Eli to meet Daniel behind the school. Again Eli was scared. He knew Daniel would threaten him again, even more than he had before, but he didn’t care. He didn’t think Daniel would have the nerve to hit him, even if he wanted to and he had decided, at long last, that he wasn’t going to be staying in this gang.

To be continued… Rabbi Weinberg is a Rebbe in Yeshivas Eitz Chaim and the Director of Camp Eitan Breakaway.

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