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Summer 2018 3 0 Ye a r s Accredited by the of Service Joint 1988-2018 Commission Moments of Life made possible by Hospice and a little dog… By Janice Valentino as told by Marilyn Serino It had been about six weeks that my brother Michael had been living at the Kaplan Family Hospice Residence, where I too had been staying for about three weeks. It was mid-February when Mike began talk to me about a dog. I asked if he was talking about his daughter’s dog, Delilah. He replied No. I asked if he was referring to my own dog, Piper. Again, Mike told me No. Mike mentioned the dog a few more times until he finally feel asleep that afternoon. I had no idea what dog he was talking about and soon forgot about it. Later that day, I overheard staff members talking about a little dog that was sleeping under the bushes on the grounds of the residence. Apparently, this little dog was either lost or abandoned and had been seeking refuge from the cold on the property. Being the dog lover that I am, I rescued the little visitor who was badly in need of some TLC, brought her home to be bathed, fed and took her to our vet to be checked out. I was thrilled when she received a clean bill of health. When I returned to Kaplan to be with my brother Mike, I was grateful to be able to bring along my new little friend. When I walked into Mike’s room, his first response was “Oh wow, Crash is here”. Crash had been our brother Gary’s little dog. Three years before, Gary had also been at Kaplan. Shortly after Gary passed away, so did Crash. Mike was right, this little dog did resemble Crash. I took this as a sign that Mike and I were not alone and our brother Gary, and Crash were watching out for us. This little dog, who we named “Mikey” soon found her way on Mike’s bed and nestled up to him as if she knew it was where she always belonged. I believe this little dog was meant to become a part of our family. I am grateful for her and the joy she brought my brother Mike at the end of his life. The memories of the wonderful moments that were shared at the Kaplan Family Hospice Residence with my brother Mike and “Mikey” will always be treasured. Kaplan Family Hospice Residence 800 Stony Brook Court, Newburgh, NY 12550 | 845-561-6111 | Fax 845-561-2179 | www.hospiceoforange.com | [email protected] MISSION STATEMENT: To be the leading community resource for providing patients and families with compassionate physical, emotional and spiritual end of life care with comfort, dignity and respect. BOARD OF DIRECTORS Chairman Hon. Francis D. Phillips Message from the President Vice Chairman Joseph V. Smith Daniel M. Grady, President and CEO Treasurer Glen L. Heller, Esq. This year we mark the 30th anniversary of Hospice Secretary of Orange and Sullivan Counties, Inc. as the leading John F. Rath III community resource for providing patients and Immediate Past Chairman families with compassionate physical, emotional Hon. Jeffrey G. Berry and spiritual end of life care with comfort, dignity Directors and respect. Although we have been providing this Ronald K. Barton exceptional care for over three decades, it can still Daniel Berkowicz, LMSW, ACSW be a challenge to educate our communities about Faith Ferguson Paul Hoffner our services. Hon. Anthony T. Kane As the years have gone by, opportunities to market Joan P. Kaplan, LCSW Hospice have certainly changed. From print ads, to radio, billboards to Dr. Joseph Lauterstein Barry Lewis websites, internet and social media, books and testimonies from those who Eric L. Maldonado have experienced this unique care, one thing remains the same and that A.Vincent Mazzie is the willingness of people to accept hospice services sooner rather than Charles Milich later. Susan Najork Barbara Naru, DNP, RN As part of our commitment to community, we will continue to educate Ian Rieger the philosophy of Hospice care and our bereavement services in all ways Lauren Rowley possible. Those ways include right here in our FOCUS Newsletter, on our Sr. Ann Sakac Derrick Saunders website, www.hospiceoforange.com, our Facebook page, and through Thomas P. Sullivan our educational forums we host to encourage having these important conversations. Here is where you can help, please LIKE our Facebook page, EMERITUS Board Members www.facebook.com/Hospiceoforange and SHARE our messages. If you John A. D’Ambrosio, Ed.D. James E. Fogarty, Jr. belong to a service club or are part of a community group looking for guest George Handler speakers, please consider contacting us. Susan Jensen, MD We thank those families who have reached out to us for help and placed William Kaplan Marc Mendelsohn their trust and faith in our Hospice team. We are grateful you allowed us David Mendelson, MD into your homes and lives and appreciate your testimonies and stories you *Edna Polin Deceased allow us to share, giving others the confidence to call upon us as well. ADMINISTRATION To our staff, volunteers, Board and Friends of Hospice, we thank you for Daniel Grady, MS, President/CEO your continued support in doing the amazing works you do each day to Sandra Cassese, RN, MSN, CNS, Vice President/COO allow Hospice of Orange and Sullivan Counties to continue to care for more Jeanne Maltes, Vice President and more patients and families each and every day. of Finance Rosemary Kristiansen, RN, Vice President If you have a hospice story you would like to share or need guest speakers of PI/Palliative Care for your club or group, please contact Janice Valentino at 561-6143 x 324 Dr. Robert Dinsmore, Medical Director or [email protected] Dr. Danielle Belser, Associate Medical Director Deirdre Elliott, Director of Human Resources/Corp. Compliance Hospice of Orange and Sullivan Counties FOCUS STAFF is the leading source of information relating to Janice Valentino, Director of Marketing and Development end-of-life care and bereavement support in the community. 2 Finally Home… This lovely matriarch depicted in this beautiful portrait by Artist Valerie Scott-Van Inwegan has finally found its home thanks to Mr. Joseph Kenny of Van Inwegan-Kenny Funeral Home in Monticello. Artists Signature by Janice Valentino subject. Only that the woman reminded Valerie of her own In the summer of 2016, I received a visit from a lovely woman grandmother and asked if she could paint her portrait. named Jeannette Earl who lived in Lancaster PA. She had Jeannette, being touched by the image itself and the story with her a portrait and copies of email correspondences behind it, told Ben that she could not auction it to someone between herself and the artist’s family. Little did I expect who had no connection to this beautiful matriarch or the when I met Jeannette, that she would tell a tale of how she artist. Ben told her that Valerie would be pleased to know came to have the painting and its connection to Hospice of that her work brought such strong emotion. Orange and Sullivan Counties. Fast forward to Jeannette’s visit to my office; when I saw Jeannette, a volunteer for a hospice where she resides, the portrait, I too had a similar reaction. The woman dressed assists in an Annual Labor Day Auction with her role being so lovely, gazing out a window as if she was looking back to solicit artists for a donation of their work for this highly in time, took my breath away. I also wanted to know who anticipated fundraiser. A dear friend of hers, who resides in she might be. Goshen, NY, decided to donate the portrait for the then 2015 Press releases went out to local newspapers and on event. Jeanette made the trip to pick up the donation and social media, asking if anyone recognized this woman and when she looked at the piece she had what she explained possibly knew who her family was. Since Valerie once lived to me as an “OMG moment.” in Goshen for some time, and gifted the painting to her friend Jeanette’s friend, who gifted the portrait to her, did not from Goshen, I hoped that the subject may have once lived know anything about the subject, only that the artist was there in the 1980’s when the portrait was painted. For two a dear friend of hers who gifted the painting to her many years I tried with no avail to find out if anyone recognized years ago. All the way on her trip back home she could her and possibly knew of a family member. The portrait not get the image of this lovely woman out of her mind. stayed in my office for a long time and I would often look at She kept asking herself, WHO IS THIS WOMAN? Is she the her and ask, “Who are you lovely lady?” artist’s grandmother, aunt, neighbor? She must be someone One day a few months ago, I was again looking at the to somebody? portrait and realized the Van Inwegan name seemed Jeanette began researching the artist, Valerie Scott-Van familiar to me. After some searching I saw that there was Inwegan, and came upon her obituary. Valerie had passed a funeral home in Sullivan County with that name, Van away in May 2004 and it stated she had been in our care Inwegan-Kenny Funeral Home. I called, spoke to Joe Kenny while residing in Sullivan County.