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The author, Kelly Tallaksen, is clearly a highly qualified hypnotist who has skillfully written about the unhealthy soul mind.

It is presented in a way that makes it easy to understand how our fragmented mind holds onto unhealed parts that affect our every day lives. Kelly explains in plain language how parts of the soul mind (or the subconscious mind - which records in complete detail all of life's experiences) retains unpleasant emotional memories from the past, and that by a similar current situation, can trigger another negative response similar to the first manifestation.

She explains how these unresolved hurtful experiences that occurred early in life, which were never resolved, can be prompted to initiate change through the skillful use of indirect suggestion. The author also explains how important it is in having awareness of these unhealed parts that are the stepping-stone to recovery.

In addition, she also makes clear how the mechanics of our emotional or sub conscious minds influence the conscious or logical mind.

This is a well-written, intelligent work that flows easily and provides excellent practical suggestions that will definitely improve your understanding of our unhealed parts as well as improving our own quality of life.

It's fascinating reading, one of the very few books that a novice would need to understand the true nature of hypnosis therapy. This work is amazing!

By David Price Long Island, NY

"Healing Our Unhealed Parts - Helping The Fragmented Soul Become Whole Again" by Kelly Tallaksen is an instrumental tool when you are ready to go beyond the conventional everyday way of rehabilitating oneself.

Kelly explains in detail how painful traumas from past experiences get blocked in our subconscious mind. These fragmented parts are buried away in an effort to protect us; however, once a negative response is triggered, it reignites the emotion. She further explains how these parts of us need to be acknowledged & healed in order for us to be able to move past them & release the pain associated with the trauma.

If you are looking to understand how the subconscious works & how it may be affecting your everyday life then this is a must read.

By Veronica Matulj Certified Hypnotist - Soul Sessions Hypnosis Long Island, NY

An in depth look at the process of healing our inner child(ren) in order to stop repeating patterns of self-destructive behavior. Tallaksen takes healing to a whole new level by offering a pathway to heal in a timely manner.

By Michael S. NYC When I read Healing Our Unhealed Parts, it truly spoke to me. It made me take a look at myself and I recognized that I have my own unhealed parts.

Reading this book makes me want to heal those parts of me that need healing so I can live my best healthy life!! Kelly has written a wonderful book that will benefit many people.

I highly recommend this book. I look forward to feeling whole again. This book gave me the hope and inspiration I needed.

By Leigh Wyatt Dedication

This book is dedicated to my clients who have allowed me to share their personal journey with them. What you have validated about unresolved emotional trauma and how it dictates our lives is contributive and invaluable to my work. Your unbounded courage and brave spirit in entering this vast and unfamiliar territory has allowed me to discover what we all seek in the healing of our burdened souls. You are my teachers. Gratitude

A special thank you to my husband who has supported my decision to leave the corporate world and follow my dreams. I knew in my heart that I had a higher purpose and I am thankful that you have given me the opportunity to explore it. Your generous financial support and solid and sustained emotional support during my quest to find my true passion has provided me with the comfort, confidence and courage I needed to stay on my path. You are my inspiration and hero.

To all my friends and family who have supported my journey, thank you for your unwavering belief in me. Your words of comfort and encouragement throughout my spiritual quest have given me the additional support and determination I needed to embark on what felt like a true calling. Your words of kindness and wisdom gave me the strength I needed to never give up. You are my soul family.

A well deserved mention of deep gratitude to my sister Kolleen for her continued professional opinions and support on the content and illustrations contained in this book. Your knowledge and professionalism in the field was not only beyond helpful, but inspirational. You are my rock. Healing Our Unhealed Parts

Helping the Fragmented Soul Become Whole Again

By Kelly Tallaksen

www.HeartsinHarmonyHypnosis.com Preface

It is in the heart that we seek our passions and desires. It is also in the heart where we can feel the resourcefulness and creativity of our spirit. It is with an open heart that all is possible if we listen with pure intention and gratitude. It is our spirit energy within the heart consciousness that allows us to live life with passion, creativity, compassion, love, acceptance and freedom. A closed heart causes the spirit to suffocate. It is with a closed heart that we close off our most precious gifts. We close off our ability to love without condition and our ability to receive love without fear. When the heart is closed, we close off our spirit. Our spirit is the light and love that leads our soul to live its soul purpose. It is the spirit that drives the soul to experience all of life's wonders and treasures.

This book is a reminder of the strength and courage we all had growing up. The strength to endure the painful parts of our past and survive the best way we knew how. Many times that meant rejecting the parts of us that made us feel bad about who we are. This was the only way we knew how to feel safe. It is these rejected parts that are keeping our hearts closed. We close ourselves off from any possible harm that could further damage our soul. It is time to be brave and strong again. It is time to enter the soul mind and heal those parts we rejected a long time ago. It is time to open our hearts and let our spirits be free. With a free spirit, we allow the soul the support it needs to further its growth and development on this physical journey. With a free spirit, we are guided to live a life of purpose and meaning. With a free spirit, we are true to ourselves and others.

It is with an open heart that all is possible. What Makes Healing Ourselves Difﬁcult?

Hello and thank you for downloading my book. I wrote it because I wanted others to know that there is nothing inherently wrong with them, they are not flawed and they can heal. However, when the pain is deep, the healing must go deep.

I know the frustration of feeling like you can't reach that deeper level of peace or greater feelings of happiness. I understand you have tried everything possible and nothing seems to relieve you of those feelings of emptiness, sadness, uneasiness, loneliness or disconnection. I know what it feels like to just feel stuck.

I also know that many of those promising healing modalities that you have tried are short lived or a complete waste of time and money. I know because I have been there too. I also felt that there was something wrong with me. I, too, felt hopeless.

What if I told you that you could feel whole again? What if I told you that you could feel alive again? What if I told you that not only do you have a right to feel happy and at peace within yourself, but you have an obligation to honor your heart's desires and soul purpose?

Now, what if I told you that it is not all of you having these unpleasant emotional experiences, but only parts of you having these experiences? Yes, it's true. Parts of you feel emotionally wounded and unsafe and these wounded parts are affecting all of you. However, you do not have access to these parts of you. These parts of you are unhealed parts that you rejected so you didn't have to feel their pain. This rejection was actually a clever strategy used by your ego mind to ensure your acceptance by the world. What causes us to feel accepted in the world is getting our primary emotional needs met. Not getting our emotional needs met as infants or young children causes us to feel unworthy of them.

If we feel unworthy of getting our needs met, then we feel insecure and unsafe. Whenever we feel we can't live up to the expectations of others, we feel inadequate and unworthy and, therefore, unsafe. Feeling unworthy, inadequate, inferior or deficient in any way can cause an emotional crisis that leads to deep feelings of insecurity. In order for us to feel safe in the world, it became necessary to reject the parts of us that make us feel insecure about who we are. Once these parts are rejected, our primary (survival) brain sets up protector parts to keep these wounded parts out of our conscious awareness so we can continue to function in the world. Our protector parts also ensure that no further harm can come to our wounded parts by preventing access to them.

Although you want to heal yourself, these unhealed parts of you are out of your conscious awareness. This is the reason you are unable to heal fully. You cannot heal parts of you that are not available to you for healing. It is not the whole of you that is in need of healing. It is parts of you that have become separated from your whole self causing you to feel less than whole. All those healing methods that promise to return you to wholeness are not reaching the depths of your soul consciousness where the healing needs to happen. To complicate matters even more, your protector parts can be very strong and stubborn.

If you experienced an emotional trauma by not having your needs met as an infant or child and you were not able to process the pain of that trauma, then chances are you buried that trauma deep in your unconscious mind. These unhealed traumas became burdens of your soul and will affect you on all levels of consciousness until they are fully healed.

It is the soul mind (deep unconscious mind) that is holding all of your emotional burdens. After many years of frustration and struggling with numerous unsuccessful methods, if attempting to bring around unhealthy emotions becomes an arduous task, then chances are, the healing methods are not getting to the core (soul mind) of where these emotional troubles live.

After using soul level healing techniques with myself and my clients and witnessing profound healing transformation, I finally understood the reason so many healing methods have failed us. Many of us have unhealed parts that affect our whole being. There are very few healing methods that can access these unhealed parts because they are not only out of conscious awareness, they are also guarded by strong protector parts that block access by us and anyone else.

So, can you heal your unhealed parts? Yes, you can fully heal. You can heal all of your unhealed parts. You can feel whole and alive again. You can be the human spirit you came here to be; and yes, you can honor and experience all of your heart's desires! I don't want this to sound like an empty promise. The truth is the healing can only happen when your unhealed parts feel comfortable and safe enough to give you access to them and your protector parts trust that you are sincere in your healing intentions. As you read through this book, you will understand how the mind protects us during an emotional crisis and how parts of us that have not fully healed during such a crisis are still very much alive within us. You will learn the ways in which these wounded parts can be healed.

Let me tell you briefly how my soul level healing method evolved. My soul level healing work is a combination of my extensive training in hypnosis and spirituality. I learned, through my clients, that deep healing takes place when you are working with the deeper part of the mind. In the unconscious mind, there are memories that we are unable to easily access which are causing conflict and confusion in our lives. Most of my clients come to me as their last resort, their last chance at finding inner peace. Because of the myths surrounding hypnosis, most people avoid it. The fear that someone else is taking control of your mind is the biggest and scariest myth of all. However, this is truly a myth because no one can take control over your mind. You are always in control even during hypnosis and you are the only one that can allow change to take place. No one can force you to change. Only you can accept the suggestions for change, even during a trance state. Hypnosis simply allows you to accept the change, should you want to, without the interference of your conscious critical thinking mind.

When I started combining my hypnosis training with my training in spirituality and higher mind healing, I noticed my clients were more at ease with the process of change. They felt completely in control of their feelings because they were able to observe their feelings and their thoughts about their feelings from a higher more loving perspective.

The message I want to send out through this writing is that struggling in the mind is a real thing and there is a real reason for it. However, the reasons for it are beyond conscious awareness. When you are able to guide your mind into higher levels of consciousness, then you can observe your life from a place of higher intelligence. When we observe our lives from the wisdom of heart (spirit) consciousness, we can see, sense or somehow know that we are more intelligent than we thought. We can overcome many of life's difficulties if we can observe our struggles from a place of higher knowing.

This book is going to take you through the reasons we tend to struggle and why we find it difficult to change our circumstances. You will also learn how you can rise above your struggles and challenges. There is a higher more intelligent you that you are not aware of. There is also an unconscious soul mind that is carrying all your burdens from the time you were conceived, and maybe before, that you have not been able to access. These soul mind burdens are the cause of your inability to change your thoughts and feelings.

This book is about letting go of the emotional burdens you have collected over time that are causing conflicts and confusion in your soul mind. In this book, I hope to take you inside that amazing you and remind you of the innocence of who you are and the wise and intelligent being you have always been. But first, I will explain why you find it difficult to reach the level of happiness you seek and how you came to believe that you need to prove yourself worthy and acceptable to the world. I will also explain how we all innocently create conflicts within us because of our innate fear of rejection.

Throughout this book is a story of all of us. The very reason we became burdened in the soul mind with thoughts, emotions and memories that caused us to reject innocent, creative, loving and lovable parts of who we are. There is something mystical and magical inside all of us. It's our spirit energy that lives within our heart and we owe it to our soul to love and honor this great boundless energy of wisdom and guidance.

First, before you delve into this valuable information, let me introduce myself to you.

I am a Board-Certified Hypnotist with a healing practice on Long Island, New York. I am a long time member in good standing with the National Guild of Hypnotists and also one of their hypnosis instructors.

My advanced training in working with altered states of consciousness (hypnosis) include:

• Age Regression - Working with Deep Memories for Healing

• Parts Therapy - Working with Our Different Parts (Subpersonalities) that Affect the Whole Self

• 5-PATH® Hypnosis (Acronym for 5 Phased Advanced Transformational Hypnosis)

• The Simpson Protocol (Working with the Higher Mind)

• Past Life Regression (Working with Past Lifetimes that Affect the Current Lifetime)

• Lives Between Lives Soul Exploration (Working with the Spirit Body as it Journeys in between Lifetimes)

I also hold a Certificate in Holistic Psychology which is a study on the Whole Self including Mind (Soul), Body (Vessel) and Spirit (Higher Self).

My specialty is in Transpersonal Hypnosis. I help my clients find the connection between their current life challenges and the unhealed emotions and associated fears buried within the soul mind. I provide the guidance and support needed for deep inner healing to take place through a technique called "Soul Level Healing". Not only does the soul mind (unconscious) heal, but the client experiences a spiritual awakening as they experience the magical amazing healing power of their loving compassionate spirit body and true essential self.

As you read through this book, please keep your mind clear and your heart open. The main purpose of this book is to help you realize that you are not stuck where you are, but there is a reason it feels that way. We have deep inner wisdom and if we don't use that inner intelligence to guide us through life challenges, then we become victims of our experiences instead of wiser from what they have taught us.

Many people feel a deep sense of hope and healing just by reading this book. This book offers information that comes from the wisdom of scholars and philosophers of early history. Ancient wisdom and knowledge lends more to deeper inner healing than most modern healing methods.

It is my hope that this book brings you the answers you are seeking. Please feel free to contact me on my Hearts in Harmony Hypnosis website with any comments or questions you may have.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. The Soul Mind and Your Unhealed Parts

In this book, I will talk about the soul mind (also referred to as the "unconscious mind"). The soul mind records all of your life experiences, the way they were experienced by you. Also recorded in the soul mind are the thoughts and emotions you attached to each experience. If an experience was hurtful and never fully resolved by your soul mind (resolved to your satisfaction), then your soul mind contains active emotions which are negatively impacting your life. These active emotions easily become triggered by any subsequent similar experience. A trigger is a subsequent experience that somehow associates itself with the original experience. All of the emotions and bodily sensations experienced in the original experience become activated again. However, since the original experience is held in the soul mind, you are not aware of the connection. This causes confusion in the conscious mind. The confusion is due to the current experience becoming emotionally overwhelming without justification for it. This book will help you gain a better understanding of why it seems difficult to heal or de-activate those emotions that are easily triggered even though you have tried everything.

As you read through this book, you will not only understand what is preventing you from healing, but you will also learn what steps you can take to heal those deep inner wounds that are the cause of your emotional triggers. Emotional triggers cause reactive behavior that seems out of our control. Many times, we seek out some form of therapy to help us understand these experiences. As you read through this book, you will understand why many of these therapies have failed you. Eventually, we become frustrated because we can't seem to release these irrational thoughts and the behaviors that follow them. This causes us to look for ways to avoid them, numb them or distract from them. That is how we create unhealthy behavioral patterns.

The most important thing to know about the healing process is that you are worth the time and effort it takes to heal what needs to be healed. Your unhealthy behavioral patterns are not an indication of who you are, but are parts of you having unhealthy experiences inside of you. In this book, you will learn that we all have parts that make up the whole self. Some of our parts are still experiencing, in the soul mind, unpleasant memories from the past. Many of these memories caused us to feel bad about who we are. On an unconscious level, we reject these parts of us because we believe they are unacceptable to the world.

If parts of us feel unworthy, then these parts of us will affect the whole self. What we haven't understood about these parts is that each and every part of who we are is worthy of love, compassion, understanding and acceptance. These unhealed parts of you need you to validate them as parts of you worth saving.

Our different parts are created by us based on our life experiences, both good and not so good. Although some of these parts are continuously feeding your soul mind with fearful thoughts, each and every one of your parts has good intentions for you. The unhealed parts that limit you, cause fear and create emotional distress and anxiety are trying to protect you from what they believe to be a threatening and unsafe world. Other parts of you want these unhealed parts to go away because they are ashamed of them. This causes your unhealed parts to feel unworthy of being a part of you and, therefore, should be annihilated. Yet, these unhealed parts cannot be annihilated because they are a part of you.

All our parts make up our whole being, but you do not have access to some of these parts, specifically the parts of you that are being protected by other parts of you. The parts of you that protect other parts of you are called "protector parts". These protector parts keep the parts that you deem unacceptable out of your conscious awareness and also serve to protect these unhealed parts of you from further trauma. Their main objective is to keep you free from the emotional pain of your unhealed parts and protect your unhealed parts from their perceived unsafe environment.

These parts of you that were deemed unacceptable parts of you remain as unhealed parts within you. These parts have been rejected by you when they experienced an emotional trauma and did not receive adequate emotional support and guidance to help them through their emotional crisis. Then you set up a protector part to keep the rejected part away from the rest of you so you can function without the burden of it's unhealed pain.

These unhealed parts become fragments of the soul and are emotional burdens that live within the soul mind. These fragmented parts take on a life and personality of their own. These unhealed parts maintain the same level of consciousness they had when they became fragmented (separated from the whole self due to rejection). Since these unhealed parts became fragmented during a crisis, these parts of you became stuck in survival consciousness. This causes these fragmented parts to lack the ability to evolve emotionally, mentally or spiritually. Although you may feel most of the time that you are growing and developing on all levels, you may have unhealed parts of you that are not and, therefore, you are limited in your human and spiritual potential.

Since you have these unhealed parts of you that make the whole self feel bad, your clever mind, even as a small child, was able to set up protector parts around them. Even though the awareness of these unhealed parts are protected from the whole self, the emotions of these protected unhealed parts can be triggered by any similar experience. You will not know what causes the triggered emotions because you do not have access to the original experience. It is kept out of your conscious awareness. As you continue to read through this book, you will learn about the importance of accessing and healing these unhealed parts of you and why it is important to access and heal them from a higher awareness (higher self).

Your unhealed parts are parts of you that felt some form of rejection of who they are. Your protector parts keep these rejected parts away from the parts that you find acceptable. This allows you to be in acceptance of who you are on a conscious level. On an unconscious soul level you have rejected parts of you that feel unworthy, alone and afraid. This is where you become conflicted. You have parts that accept you and parts that reject you. Your whole being is in conflict. When parts of you have unresolved emotional pain, you can feel as if your whole self has become fragmented. Healing your unhealed parts allows integration of these parts back into your whole self. This healing and integration of all your parts creates that peaceful feeling of wholeness, harmony and balance you deserve.

When you heal your unhealed parts, you no longer have to find ways to avoid, numb or distract from your unhealed pain. You will find it easier to handle the daily stresses of life because you won't be over reacting from memories of your past. You won't have emotional triggers that cause irrational and unhealthy behaviors. You will have more control over your experiences because your soul mind will be at peace. Conflicts will be resolved and the inner commotion will cease.

You do not have to live with conflict and confusion. There are answers inside this book that will lead you to the answers within yourself. Your unhealed parts can be healed and you will no longer experience conflict within your whole self. Inner conflicts cause emotional stress, which then causes physical stress. We all deserve feelings of inner peace. This can only be achieved when all of our parts are working in harmony with each other.

When you learn how to compassionately work with wounded parts of you instead of rejecting them and you learn how to delicately work with the protector parts that are blocking your access to these wounded parts, you will be able to begin a powerful healing process. You are the only one capable of healing these unhealed parts of you because you are the one that created these parts. Even though many people in our lives caused us to feel bad about who we are, especially the people that were influential during our childhood years, it was us who created these different parts of us so that we can feel safe in the world. We had to find a way to separate our unwanted inferior parts from the rest of who we are. This was a protection strategy created by us and it's all we knew how to do at the time.

You must know one very important thing about the different parts you created. Each and every one of your parts is deserving of love, attention, compassion, understanding and safety. These unhealed parts are waiting for you to give them what they need so they can heal. These unhealed parts of you did not receive what they needed at the time they became a fragment (part) of your whole self. As much as you try to avoid the feelings of these parts of you, these unhealed parts of you find ways to get your attention. They want to be acknowledged, understood, cared for and healed. For you to fully heal, you will need to give these unhealed parts of you the emotional support they need so they can feel loved, accepted and most importantly, safe.

It is the awareness of your unhealed parts that is your first and foremost step to the process of healing your unhealed parts. You have the capacity to reach your higher intelligent self by being fully in your heart. By being fully in your heart, you have entered the space of higher awareness and deeper truth. By entering deep within the heart center, you connect with the spirit within. The spirit within is your higher intelligence, your inner guidance and the compassionate loving support your soul mind needs. The exercises at the end of this book will help you reach that place and space within you.

An open heart is a heart that is ready to experience life from the center of your being. The heart is where your spirit lives and thrives. A closed heart suffocates the spirit within. When the spirit suffocates, the burdened soul cannot heal. It is the spirit that leads you to the inner resources that will heal your soul mind and bring peace to your soul consciousness. I can't emphasize enough that all parts of you deserve to feel loved and safe. Until you give these unhealed parts what they need and deserve, these unhealed rejected parts of you will continue to disrupt the harmony and balance you've been seeking.

Unpleasant experiences cause unpleasant feelings. When these feelings are not processed, they become emotions. These emotions are too painful to cope with so we reject them. Although we would rather forget all those experiences that caused us to feel bad about who we are, we can't. Our unconscious mind doesn't want us to leave anything unfinished. If these experiences caused uneasy feelings, then we have a part of us that wants to resolve these feelings. However, we also have a part of us that wants us to neglect, ignore and hide these feelings. With all these conflicting parts within us, we are a whole self that feels fragmented. This causes confusion in the soul mind and makes the healing process challenging.

As you can now tell, we have many parts to our whole being. These parts of us all want to feel loved, accepted, valuable, significant, needed, appreciated and safe. These parts of us were created by us as we learned how to adapt to our world. Harmony and balance is possible with all our parts. However, we are not being educated enough about hidden parts of us that are blocked from access. This is what needs to be clearly known. We do not have to be forever victims. We just need to learn about the whole self and know that our unhealed parts are very important parts of who we are and they need our help.

When you work with the soul mind using soul level healing techniques, you are able to meet these parts of you that are out of your conscious awareness. When you meet these parts of you, you will get to know what these parts of you need for healing to take place. As you acknowledge, accept and help these parts heal, these parts of you are no longer in conflict with your other parts. This means the inner war is over and peace and harmony can be experienced. This is the true gift of the internal wisdom and intelligence that comes from our spirit energy (higher self). However, to reach this higher level of consciousness that we all have within us, it takes having the courage to go deep inside the heart center which is the pathway that leads to the soul mind.

Your mind rejected these parts of you when you did not have the cognitive ability to use your inner resources to heal your emotional crisis. As an intelligent adult, you have that ability now. You can access these rejected parts of you in the soul mind and give them the support they needed when they first experienced an emotional crisis.

Not getting our primary emotional needs met while growing up is one of the main reasons we go into an emotional crisis. This causes us to go into survival mode because we didn't know how to survive the crisis without support. The parts of us that experience a survival crisis fragment off of main consciousness so the other parts of us can survive and continue to function in the world. When these unhealed parts fragment off during survival mode, they stay in the soul mind in survival mode. This is why we keep strong protector parts around them. These unhealed parts always feel a pending threat. Our strong protector parts block all access to these unhealed parts so they can stay safe from the world. No matter how hard we try to feel good about ourselves, we always feel like something is inherently wrong with us because our unhealed parts are affecting how we feel about ourselves.

There are parts of you stuck in time and still experiencing an emotional crisis. These parts of you need the emotional support they never received. Emotional support comes from getting our emotional needs met. In this book, I will discuss what our most basic emotional needs are and what happens inside of us when we don't have those needs satisfied. Getting to Know Ourselves Why is it so hard to go deep inside ourselves and meet with our wounded parts? I believe it's because we find it difficult to acknowledge them. We are afraid that the feelings we created about these parts of us are true and, therefore, we cannot accept them as a part of who we are. We work very hard to hide the parts of us that we feel are inferior, unacceptable, shameful, unlovable, unwanted, insignificant and not valued. These are the parts of us that keep us limited in life. Although we have rejected these parts, they are still a part of the whole of us.

I believe many of us are unconsciously looking for a way to save our souls. That is because our soul mind is in a constant state of confusion and emotional pain. Since we are not aware of the unhealed parts of us that are having these experiences in the soul mind, we look for healing outside of the soul mind. We look for healing through the ego mind. When we feed our ego, we receive temporary satisfaction of our emotional needs. We are not aware that we are seeking to get our primary emotional needs met outside of ourselves. It is the primary brain, which is our survival brain, that is seeking satisfaction of these primary emotional needs. If these needs aren't met, our primary brain believes we are in danger.

Therefore, a part of us is always seeking safety through getting our emotional needs met. The only way we know how to get our emotional needs met is through approval from others. Approval from others gives us the feeling of acceptance. The only way we know how to gain approval is to present ourselves as worthy to others and the world. We all have our own ways of making ourselves feel worthy. It could be through appearance, intelligence, possessions, financial value or a particular skill or talent we possess. We all look to prove our value on some level in order to feel significant in the world. If we look within us for our value, we may find parts of us that we feel are not valuable. We do not want to chance the possibility that within us are flaws. This could make us feel unacceptable as a whole.

The way we look to satisfy our unmet needs is temporary. This feeling of satisfaction only lasts until our emotional needs are not being met again by something or someone outside of us. When that happens, we trigger the unhealed part of us that did not get that need met a long time ago. Whatever emotions flooded the body the first time an emotional need was not satisfied will flood the body again, except you won't know why. You may feel a sudden urge to fight or flee a situation. You may feel disempowered in the moment. You may feel lost, confused, alone and afraid. You may seek out an immediate way to numb your feelings or distract from them.

The biggest problem is you don't know what emotional need is not being satisfied. You only know that you feel something is missing in your life when you feel yourself going into an emotional crisis. We tend to believe that we can heal the emotional crisis through our relationships or material things. Neither of these things will heal your unhealed parts. These are parts of you that have primary emotional needs that went unmet. The only way to help these parts of you heal is to find out what those unmet needs are and for you to provide them now. Only you can provide what these unhealed parts need. Not another person and not another material object, just you. Only you can heal the distorted memories in the soul mind that led to these deep and painful feelings of rejection. Only you can give yourself what others were not able to give you during your childhood years. You were brave and smart enough as a child to reject those parts of you so you can feel safe in your environment. Now, as an adult, it's time to help these parts heal and call them back to the whole of who you are.

As human beings who have come into this world dependent upon others to keep us safe, we have learned to keep looking outside of ourselves for feelings of security. As we grow up into adults, we expect others to provide feelings of security for us. If they do not, we start to feel our very safety being threatened. This is because the mind will automatically default to an earlier experience when our safety felt threatened because our emotional needs were not met. You are your own caregiver now. You are capable of using your inner resources. As a child you did not have the cognitive ability to understand your own inner power. You are the only one now that can heal your soul.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Getting Our Primary Childhood Needs Met

To get our primary needs met, we need to know we deserve to get those needs met. At a time when we needed emotional support, it was not provided to us. When we were infants and small children, our main concern was survival. Since we are unable to take care of ourselves, we rely on others to provide what we need. Although food, shelter and water are very important survival needs, our emotional brain also has survival needs. When emotional needs are not met, the emotional brain alerts the primary (survival) brain that we are going into survival crisis. When we can't get our emotional needs met and we do not have emotional support by others, our body goes into survival response.

When we do not get our emotional needs met, we believe we are not worthy of having those needs met. When we feel unworthy of having our needs met, we feel a deep sense of rejection of who we are. When we experience rejection of who we are, we believe that we will not be supported by the people who are taking care of us. On a tribal consciousness level (primary brain), we believe we will be ousted by the tribe for being inferior. If we are ousted by the tribe, we would not be able to survive. The thought of being in danger prevents you from being functional in the world. This is what causes you to reject that part of you. And then your clever mind places that part of you into protection mode. This keeps others away from that part of you.

If people knew you had a part of you that was inferior, your whole self might get rejected. This unhealed part of you is your rejected part and this unhealed part of you is in survival crisis. It is the part of you that keeps you limited in life. It is the part of you that you can't accept so it feels unsupported and, therefore, feels unsafe. Although these unhealed parts are out of your awareness, your whole self is seeking healing of these parts because you feel fragmented (not whole). You do not know what is causing these feelings, but you do know you feel incomplete and less than whole. Before you read on, take a deep breath and know that you are not incomplete and you are not less than whole, you only feel that way.

You are a perfect human being. You have unhealed parts that need healing and they are perfect too. They just didn't get their emotional needs met because the people they relied upon could not meet their needs. These parts of you are still looking to get those needs met. These parts of you will cause you to find ways to meet these needs because they want to survive. What these parts of you do not realize is that it is not their fault that these needs went unmet. They are not inferior and they are worthy of getting all of their emotional needs met.

As infants and young children, we are mostly concerned with survival. Survival means getting all of our needs fulfilled, including our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs. If any of our primary childhood needs are not fulfilled by our caregivers, then we will unconsciously seek fulfillment of those needs through our adult relationships. Our caregivers are also, for the most part, living in survival mode. Therefore, their childhood unmet needs are still seeking fulfillment. If they did not find fulfillment of their needs, then they are not capable of helping us fulfill ours. Our primary caregivers also looked outside of themselves to get their emotional needs met. This is why their needs remained unmet while they were caring for us. They did not know that they had inner resources to help them process their emotional pain. They were only able to seek and receive "temporary" satisfaction outside of themselves.

Some of the most basic emotional needs of human beings are that they feel:

•Loved and Cared For

• Wanted and Appreciated • Significant and Valued

• Belonging (to family/tribe/community)

• Safe and Secure

We get these emotional needs met through:

• Affection

• Attention

• Praise

• Being heard, seen and valued (visible and acknowledged)

• Being included in the Family (Tribe) and Community

• Emotional Connection

• Emotional Support During an Emotional Crisis

• Strong Sense of Security

• A Sense of Control (Autonomy/Sense of Self)

• Having Purpose in the World

When we don't get our emotional needs met, we feel unworthy of them. This causes us to feel rejected by the people we need to take care of us. If they reject us and don't take care of us, we cannot survive in the world. This causes us to reject ourselves. In order to survive, we reject only that part of us that feels unworthy. This rejected part is now in survival mode. It feels alone, unworthy, unloved and unsafe. This part of you is in conflict with the parts of you that want to thrive in this world.

The people we needed to satisfy our emotional needs also have unhealed parts in them. They also have parts of themselves that they rejected when their needs went unmet. These unhealed parts of them are controlling the way they think, act and behave around others; the same way your unhealed parts are the driving force behind your habits, behaviors, thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Our primary caregivers can only give us what they have been given either by their caregivers or given to themselves by themselves. When we heal our unhealed parts, we are putting unobstructed loving energy into sharing our lives with our loved ones. If we don't heal our unhealed parts, much of our energy is focused on survival (unconsciously). Unhealed parts cause the heart to stay partially closed for protection. If the heart is not fully open, then the love we are capable of cannot be fully expressed.

What is important to realize now is that no matter what you did not receive growing up, you are alive now. You are alive now because you knew how to survive even though you did not get your primary emotional needs met. Your clever strategic mind was able to reject what you couldn't cope with, keep those rejected parts out of conscious awareness and allow you to continue to function in life. This means you were a very brave and courageous child. You used all your survival skills and you made it. However, you still feel like something is missing. What's missing are your unhealed parts that want to come home (back to the self). You rejected these parts because you had to. You did a very smart thing. But now you feel like a fragmented adult. You do not feel whole. When you believed these hurt parts of you were unacceptable, you invited your protector parts to keep them from showing up so you can feel safe. As an adult, you know the past is over and you are alive and safe. You don't need these protector parts to protect your child parts now. You want to heal the past, but your protector parts do not know you are safe and the past is over. Your protector parts are still protecting a hurt child.

Your unhealed parts and protector parts are parts of the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind does not operate in linear time. According to the unconscious soul mind, everything is still happening exactly the way it was happening during the emotional crisis. These unhealed parts have the same level of awareness they had when they fragmented from the whole self. Remember, these fragmented parts go into survival mode. When we go into survival mode, we do not develop emotionally. We become frozen in time. Therefore, if a part of you fragmented off when you were five years old, then that part of you has the cognitive function of a five year old child. This part is still yearning to get its emotional needs met so it can feel worthy and, therefore, safe. To understand this better, it's good to understand how the different parts of our minds work. The Conscious, Subconscious and Unconscious (Soul) Mind

We have one mind, yet there are ways in which information is processed and becomes stored within the mind.

Short term memories get stored in the conscious mind and are easily remembered. The conscious part of the mind is the part of the mind that has critical and analytical thinking skills, willpower and makes judgments and decisions.

Long term memories get stored in your subconscious mind and are not always easy to access. The subconscious mind only stores information. It does not analyze the information, nor does it judge it. The subconscious mind stores information the way you interpreted the information based on your experiences. It does not know if the information is fact or fiction or if it happened yesterday or many years ago. The subconscious mind does not register time. According to the subconscious mind, everything is happening now.

If the memories were traumatizing for you and you did not receive the support you needed to process your pain and any fears around these memories, they could be buried very deep in the soul mind where they would be very difficult to access. Memories buried in the soul mind are considered to have fragmented off from main consciousness (conscious and subconscious mind) in order to keep them completely out of your awareness. This part of the mind serves as a protective shield to keep you from the fear and pain of the memory.

All unresolved memories need to be fully resolved in the soul mind. If they are not resolved at the time of the experience, the part of you that felt threatened fragments off of main consciousness and becomes frozen in time. Although the memory is now out of conscious awareness, your emotional brain and physical body register the trauma as active. When the same emotions arise due to a similar situation, that frozen memory becomes triggered and the emotional brain and physical body respond as if it was the original experience happening all over again. This is because it has never been fully resolved. The experience has not been taken to completion (fully processed). Until the experience is taken to completion, any subsequent events that trigger it will cause the same reactive behavior.

During inner child work with my clients, I have learned that even the smallest trauma (according to the adult mind) can be devastating to a child. Being verbally bullied at school just one time can cause long term fear unless the fear and attached emotions get fully processed. Fully processed means taking the experience to completion which is coming back to feelings of safety once the threat is over. If there is no emotional support following the experience, then the child learns to reject the feelings of that experience, causing that part of consciousness (that has these emotional feelings and fear) to fragment off and become frozen in time.

Although a trauma may be held deep in the soul mind, the adult who had the experience as a child may find themselves acting childish or become irrationally fearful when a fragmented part is triggered. This triggered emotion could actually cause the adult to experience feelings of extreme stress. The adult will not know what is causing those feelings. The source of the stress is deeply hidden in the soul mind and is protected from being accessed.

This is why certain types of therapy are short lived. The source of the problem is never addressed because it is out of the person's awareness. If the therapy includes guiding the client into the subconscious mind, the original trauma may be blocked by a protective part. If it is protected, then it is deep in the unconscious protective mind (soul mind). This is when deep inner soul healing becomes necessary for the trauma to be fully resolved in the mind.

It is said that about 90% of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors come from the subconscious mind (including the more difficult to access unconscious mind) and only 10% from our critical thinking conscious mind. The subconscious mind stores the memories and plays them back to us the way we experienced them. This means that the memories in our subconscious mind are not always the way things happened, but the way we interpreted them. We interpret our experiences based on our level of awareness at the time of the experience. The unconscious soul mind also holds our memories, together with the emotions and fears we attached to them. This is where we can find the source of our challenges (caused by trauma). The source of the trauma means where the trauma originated and became a source of our behavioral patterns.

When painful and fearful memories recorded in the soul mind get triggered, we exhibit automatic reactive behavior based on the level of fear we experienced the first time. The reactive behavior is an automatic knee- jerk reaction which stems from the thoughts, beliefs, emotions and fears that are deep within us. Knee-jerk reactions then become the patterns in our lives that we want to change. However, the memories that are causing the reactive behavior are not easily accessible. Reaching the source of your challenges means entering that deep space within you. This is a very personal and enlightening journey into soul consciousness.

The unconscious soul mind holds memories that are in need of healing. These memories can go back to childhood, birth, the womb and maybe before. Many times the wounds of these traumas are trying to get our attention because they want to be brought to completion. The parts of us that are feeling the pain of a past traumatic experience need closure. These parts of us need to feel safe again. The beliefs about ourselves and the world we live in come from the way our experiences made us feel. Feelings of unworthiness, shame, guilt, distrust, loneliness, emptiness, sadness, fears of abandonment, rejection, judgment and not being loved or wanted originated somewhere in the unconscious mind and can cause survival-based fears that trigger a fight, flight or freeze response until the experience is taken to completion and the wound is healed.

Whatever the bodily response was at the time of trauma will be the same bodily response when the old wound is triggered. If you ran away when your parents were fighting (ran into your room or hid under a table), then you may run away from arguments as an adult. As an adult, you wouldn't run under a table because your adult critical thinking mind is at play. However, you will feel the need to run away so you may walk out of the home or retreat to your bedroom for safety. You will find an adult way to get away from the argument because of the unconscious childhood fear you are experiencing at the moment.

As human beings our mind likes to finish its unfinished business and, until it does, there will be unconscious internal drives that will cause us to create or be part of situations that are similar to our initial traumas. We may find ourselves drawn to certain people and situations that bring out the unhealed parts of us. This is an attempt to heal ourselves through our relationships with others. However, the attempt to heal is out of our awareness and, therefore, we are baffled as to why we are drawn to people and situations that make us feel uneasy.

The subconscious mind likes to keep us in alignment with our beliefs. This is how the subconscious mind keeps us in a familiar place where it believes we are safe. If you hold the belief that you are unlovable because you felt that way as a child, you may be drawn to people and situations where you feel unlovable. If you feel incompetent, you will limit yourself in order to ensure you don't go beyond what you feel capable of. If you feel unworthy of financial success, you may unknowingly sabotage your possibilities for a successful life. This is why it is so difficult to step outside your comfort zone. Your protective parts won't let you. They want to keep you safe from rejection and failure.

When you learn more about your protector parts, you will realize that they are very valuable parts of who you are. They were set up by you at a time you needed that protection. When you learn how to work with these protector parts, you will be able to gain their trust so you can heal those wounds hiding behind those protector parts and learn how to eliminate the safety boundaries you set up a long time ago.

We set up boundaries so we don't go beyond what we believe we are capable of based on how we and others defined us. Setting up boundaries is a safety mechanism that is set up by you to ensure that you don't place yourself in a position for failure. Your protector parts make sure you stay within the boundaries you created. These created boundaries were necessary for you in the past because you didn't know what your capabilities were and you let others decide that for you.

As an adult, you learned more, you experienced more and there is a part of you that is ready to reach for success. However, the part of you that set up safety boundaries when you needed them is holding you back. This is the part of you that is expecting you to fail based on the belief system you created when you were young and unsure of yourself. The conflict between these parts of you is what keeps you limited. This is why it's important to resolve inner conflicts. Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. The Lost and Confused Mind Although our minds make us feel as if we are working against ourselves, our minds are actually trying to protect us. The subconscious mind works very hard at keeping us safe. The subconscious mind is not aware that the incident that caused you to feel unsafe at an earlier time is now over and you survived the experience. This causes conflict and confusion in the mind. We know on a conscious level that we are safe; however, our subconscious mind keeps sending us signals that we are not safe. The mind is trying to protect us from a trauma that, although over, is still active in the subconscious mind.

When there is conflict and confusion in the mind, we tend to feel lost, fragmented and disempowered. We can't seem to change our negative thoughts and feelings no matter what we have tried. We seem to automatically default back to our negative thinking whenever things aren't going right for us. This happens because we have an underlying expectation of failure and rejection.

It is said that we have about 50-70 thousand thoughts a day coming from the subconscious mind. These are not 50-70 thousand different thoughts. They are the same thoughts being repeated over and over again. These are active thoughts that were recorded in the subconscious mind during your formative years. The subconscious mind is simply a storage house for your memories. It does not know what thoughts are real or imagined. It just stores the memories and your thoughts and feelings about these memories. As mentioned before, the subconscious mind also doesn't register time. So these thoughts are active within you around the clock.

As these thoughts keep repeating within you, you are reacting to them. To understand what thoughts are controlling you and your life, you will need to reach into the deeper part of the mind where the thoughts originated (the unconscious soul mind). These thoughts need to be recognized so you can clear up the confusion that these thoughts are causing. As you bring clarity to these distorted thoughts, the truth begins to unfold. You begin to see the bigger picture because you can observe the experiences that are the cause of your negative thoughts, instead of being stuck in the experiences that are confusing. When we are stuck in the confused mind, we cannot see all sides of it. During an emotional crisis, we become focused on the pain of rejection which causes the primary brain to sense danger. This causes a continuous flow of fearful thoughts and trapped emotions.

The parts of us that are unsettled inside our soul mind are looking for resolution. The survival brain caused the memory to be buried and then created a protective part to keep it out of conscious awareness. This is a very strategic move on the part of the mind. However, although the trauma is over, the survival brain is still receiving messages from the soul mind that the experience is active and, therefore, danger is pending. This is a false assumption by the survival brain. However, the survival brain does not analyze what is happening. Its job is to keep the body in safety mode when the soul mind is in crisis. The soul mind remains in crisis until the trauma is fully processed (resolved and brought to completion).

Our conscious mind holds our willpower. However, not even a strong willpower can overcome the fearful thoughts that are running inside the subconscious mind and soul mind. You can will yourself to feel better, to let things go, to move on for a short time but, eventually, the experiences recorded in the subconscious mind will get triggered and you will react with automatic knee jerk reactions as you seek safety. This is the mind protecting you from what it believes is happening at the moment. A small trigger can ignite the most threatening fears within us. The painful emotions that you attached to each experience are locked inside the soul mind and waiting for you to heal the pain of the trauma. When you heal the soul mind, the subconscious mind no longer has those knee-jerk reactions. It is in the soul (unconscious) mind that the emotional trauma must be healed.

The conscious critical thinking mind knows how to best get you to a place of safety in a real life-threatening situation that is currently happening. However, the subconscious mind does not have critical thinking skills. It has survival mentality based on the survival needs of a child. When a fearful emotion is triggered (fear of abandonment, rejection, being alone, not being accepted, wanted or loved), the emotional brain sends a signal to the primary brain (survival brain) alerting it of pending danger. The danger perceived is based on the emotions and fears of the soul mind. When a current event is similar to a past traumatic event (which is still active in the soul mind), it causes the past event to reactivate, including a re-experience of all the fears and bodily sensations that were experienced during the initial trauma. Therefore, although your conscious critical thinking mind knows you are not in danger, your subconscious mind and soul mind do not. The subconscious mind is reacting on the original threat (emotional crisis based on childhood perception) and not the current threat. Many times your reactions are automatic and out of your control. The emotional brain (directed by the soul mind) alerts the survival brain immediately upon a trigger. This sets off a chemical reaction in the body as the body prepares for safety.

If you want to get yourself out of automatic survival mode, you will need to resolve the unresolved emotional crisis in the soul mind. You will need to heal your unhealed parts. If you feel lost and confused, then it's most likely your unhealed parts sending you messages that you are not able to understand. These are distorted messages that come from memories recorded a long time ago. These are fragmented parts of your soul that are living in your soul mind.

You, as an adult, are capable of helping your fragmented parts understand that they are lovable, wanted, valuable, significant, brave, courageous, innocent, safe and they belong in this world. If you continue to keep them fragmented, then they continue to feel alone and unsupported, the same way they felt at the initial trauma. You, with your wise adult mind and higher self, can bring these unhealed parts what they need. It is you, and only you, that can heal your soul mind. You need to allow these parts of you to express their emotional needs. Using the exercises at the end of this book can be helpful in connecting you with your unhealed parts so you can bring these unhealed parts of you through the healing process. The Fragmented Soul Mind Fragmented Parts are the parts of us that split off from main consciousness when a trauma was first experienced. These parts are considered parts of the soul that experienced an emotional crisis. Our fragmented parts are part of the unconscious soul mind and, therefore, out of our conscious awareness.

When a traumatized part splits off from main consciousness, that part of us remains at the same level of consciousness it had when the fragment occurred. If you suffered an emotional trauma at the age of 5 and you were never able to fully resolve your feelings about it, then that part of your consciousness could be frozen in time in the soul mind at the level of consciousness of a five year old child. These parts cannot emotionally mature because they do not have the support to heal, grow and develop. They are stuck in the emotional crisis.

Since these parts are out of conscious awareness, you do not feel the pain of these fragmented parts until these parts get triggered. When they are triggered and uneasy feelings surface, you have no understanding of these feelings or what caused them. The emotions are in the soul mind and your protector parts are keeping them out of your awareness.

For the mind to be free of confusion and for all parts that are split off (fragmented) to come back to the soul for wholeness, harmony and balance, it's necessary to help these fragmented parts heal the pain that remains unhealed. It is necessary for those parts of you that feel their safety is being threatened to come into the present moment and meet with your adult self. Your adult self can help you take the trauma to completion (back to safety) and hold you in the present moment so you are no longer living in the past.

As an adult, that is not influenced by the past, you will experience life more from the conscious critical thinking part of the brain instead of the reactive survival brain. The conscious logical mind knows that a traumatic experience does not mean you will not survive. This will help you stay out of crisis mode and hold you in a space where you can take control of the situation using critical thinking skills. When you operate more from the conscious mind, you will have the skills needed to carefully assess each new situation without the influence of the past. The only way to live more consciously is to heal what remains unhealed in the unconscious mind.

Once you become aware of your fragmented soul parts, you will be able to help them through the healing process. However, since your mind is always protecting you, it's important to also get to know your protector parts and their ability to block access to your unhealed parts. Once you are able to access those protected parts of the soul mind using the steps in the Soul Level Healing technique provided below, you will then be able to expand your awareness so you can be a witness or observer of the activity going on in the soul mind.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Protector Parts The mind is strategic and protective. When you experience a trauma and your mind decides to reject it because you can't process it, your mind will create a protective part. It's like having your own built-in security system that works to protect your safety.

This protective part takes on the job of keeping the pain of that trauma out of your conscious awareness. This allows you to continue to function in life without the burden of fear. It's amazing that our minds can do this for us. It's amazing that we can function in life despite some very deep pain that we once experienced.

However, we are not functioning to our highest potential because we are burdened by fears. These fears are coming from parts of you that feel rejected. Even though these parts of you are out of conscious awareness, they are still a part of you. These fears, once rejected as too painful or frightening for you, became protected by your protector parts. If any of these fears get triggered, your protective parts will jump into action and do the job they are meant to do. They will protect you. They will direct you to fight the fear, flee from the fear or shut down and go numb.

Whatever strategy you put into place during the original trauma will be the strategy for each subsequent reminder of that trauma because the mind will automatically revert to a similar strategy to ensure safety.

The protector parts keep the memories out of conscious awareness so you don't have to feel the pain and fear of the trauma. The protector parts also keep you from getting into situations that may cause you to get into the same threatening situation. Your protective parts are so clever at their jobs that when feelings of fear from past traumas begin to resurface, your protective parts will help you either: • numb them with drugs, alcohol or other mind altering substances

• distract from them by keeping the mind focused on something else like social media, shopping or television

• direct you to run from or avoid a situation that may trigger your fears like serious relationships, higher education, having children, requesting a raise or following your passions

Although your protector parts want to keep you safe from harm, many times they are the cause of unhealthy behavioral patterns that seem very difficult to change.

As mentioned prior, about 90% of our daily behavior is influenced by what we are experiencing in the subconscious mind; therefore, when old fears resurface, we do not have much willpower over them. Willpower comes from your conscious mind. You try hard to will yourself out of negative behavioral patterns, but these patterns don't seem to change. Healing your unhealed parts will help you heal those wounds that are the cause of your unhealthy patterns. Negative Response Triggers We sometimes have positive response triggers like smelling apple pie and suddenly recall a time when mom would bake during the holidays and suddenly find ourselves smiling. Although we may not easily recall this memory with the conscious mind, our subconscious mind will recall it when something triggers the memory.

The same thing happens when our subconscious mind or unconscious mind recalls a memory that wasn't pleasant for us. A negative response trigger is when something happens in the current moment that arouses a similar negative experience from the past which has not been resolved.

Most of the traumas from the past are out of our conscious awareness. At the time of the experience, they either seemed insignificant so we ignored them or they were too painful to deal with so we rejected them. Either way, they do not go away. The emotions behind the experiences remain deep within us and can be easily triggered by any similar thought or event.

Negative response triggers can cause one to feel uneasy in the mind and the body. These feelings could be very mild or could come as a full-blown panic attack. These feelings, which may seem irrational to others, are very real feelings of the mind going into a survival crisis. The body responds with a fight, flight or freeze response. The sympathetic nervous system is activated, causing physiological changes in the body, preparing the body to fight or flee. When the body cannot fight or flee, it goes into freeze response (shuts down). These reactions are based on our need to survive.

When an animal in the wild is preyed upon by another animal, it can either fight back or run like hell for survival. If it is trapped and feels overpowered, it will shut down (give up). The difference with an animal going into survival response is, once the threat is over, they are either dead if they were defeated, or they found a safe place after being able to outrun the predator. If the animal is lucky enough to outrun its predator and get to a place of safety, the animal's nervous system begins to calm down and the animal returns to its natural state of being. The trauma is complete because the animal feels safe again. The threat is over.

However, the human brain is much more complicated than that of the animal species. The human brain keeps the fear alive inside its subconscious mind even though the threat is over. This is because the emotions attached to the trauma have not been healed. The support needed during the trauma was not available causing the emotional pain and fear of the trauma to be rejected, repressed and then protected by protector parts.

Negative response triggers not only cause severe stress, anxiety and panic attacks, but the body's constant fight or flight responses cause undue stress on the physical body. This causes the body to place more energy on survival than living life in its natural state. This can be very debilitating and, over time, could be very detrimental to one's physical health.

These survival sensations in the body can begin to release when the part that is traumatized realizes it is safe. You can bring feelings of safety back to your unhealed parts by letting them know that they are alive, the crisis is now over and they are now safe. Since these parts of you are frozen in time, these parts believe a threat is still happening. You can heal these unhealed parts by reaching out and showing them that you are still here and since they are a part of you, they are still here. These parts of you that went into survival mode are brave and courageous survivors. They kept you safe and they are valuable parts of who you are. Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. How Our Fears Control Us We believe that if we give in to our fears, we will be held back. What we do not realize is that if we are not living the life we consciously choose to live, then we have already given in to our fears. Our biggest fear is a threat to our survival.

The moment our primary needs were not met is the moment we felt that need to protect ourselves. The parts of us that are living with fear are now protected from the outside world and also kept out of conscious awareness.

Our protector parts will keep us from situations that will cause us to feel the fear again. Our protector parts will keep these parts of ourselves well- hidden and will make sure that we have our survival responses ready when anyone or anything triggers these parts.

Unfortunately, it's our fears that keep us limited. Unconscious fears of not being able to survive without feeling loved, wanted, valuable, significant and useful in this world are keeping us from getting out into the world and bringing our best selves forward. We believe we are flawed and fear others will see our flaws. This causes us to limit ourselves.

We stay in the comfort zone where we won't have to jump into survival mode. The moment we step out of that comfort zone is the moment our body responds with a survival strategy. To keep us from feeling those fears, our protective parts will make sure we stay in the boundaries of our comfort zone.

You may have heard that it's best to step into your fears. This can be helpful, but it's more important that you find the source of your fears and heal them at the source. When we step into our fears, we may still be limiting our potential. When you know the source of your fears, you are better able to move beyond them because you will realize that the fears were created from something that no longer exists. If you simply just step into your fears, a part of you is still waiting for something to go wrong. By learning what is causing the fears, we are allowing ourselves the opportunity to reexamine the trauma from our wiser and more intelligent self. The Limitations of Talk Therapy Talk therapy has been the mind healing therapy for many years. The formal beginning of the study of human emotions and behaviors was established in 1879 when Wilhelm Wundt founded the first formal laboratory of psychology at the University of Leipzig in Germany. The study of the mind has evolved since then and more and more techniques are being created and utilized by therapists to help their clients with their endless emotional challenges. Hats off to those well-studied and caring therapists who spent countless hours learning about the mind, human behavior and cognition so they can be well-equipped to help others learn how to manage their feelings.

However, the key word here is "manage". As long as we can manage what we feel, then everything should be OK and we can go on living life the way we were meant to.

We are not only managing our feelings through talk therapy, we are managing our responses to our feelings. We are learning not only how to adapt to what we feel, but how to deal with our unconscious negative responses to them. This is why we do not fully heal from talk therapy alone.

Talk therapy is a great way for us to express what we feel. However, if we don't feel what we feel then we are avoiding the feelings of our unhealed parts. If we are not aware of our unhealed parts, we cannot express the true feelings of these wounded parts within us. It's important to know that if we are not healing on a conscious level, then something in the subconscious or soul mind is in need of our attention.

During an emotional crisis, you automatically become focused on yourself and your survival. When you go into that focused state, you enter an altered state of consciousness. You are no longer in full waking state because you are not fully aware of what is happening around you. You are deeply focused on surviving the crisis. Whenever we become deeply focused on something, we go from full waking state called the beta state into a deeper level of consciousness called the alpha state.

When you are in an alpha state of consciousness, you are in hypnosis. During this hypnotic state, the subconscious mind is recording all your feelings, together with the thoughts and emotions generated by these feelings. The thoughts and emotions were recorded during a confused state of mind. When you discuss your feelings with others, you are expressing what you feel based on distorted thoughts coming from the subconscious mind. You are not expressing your feelings with clarity. You are expressing what you feel without any understanding as to why you feel that way.

You can access the distorted thoughts in the subconscious mind when you go back into a focused state with the intention to access these distorted memories. This can be done through techniques like meditation and hypnosis. When you relax the conscious mind, you allow access to the subconscious mind. With guidance, you can access parts of you that are confused and still living through the emotional crisis (frozen in time). As you allow all the distorted memories to surface, you can observe what was happening around you during the crisis that caused these distorted thoughts and painful emotions. By observing the entire scene, as it was perceived by you, instead of being focused only on survival, you are giving yourself the opportunity to understand the reason you feel the way you feel. This is a very important step in healing your unhealed parts.

If there is resistance to accessing the deeper part of the mind, then you may have to address the needs of your protector parts. This is not a difficult process when you realize that your protector parts were set up by you, that they are only doing what you needed them to do at the time and they are very important parts of you. You can address these protector parts with appreciation, understanding and care. Learning to work with your protector parts will help you in the healing process. The initial rejection of these unhealed parts are the reason you suffer in the soul mind. You were born to love and be loved through your spiritual divine self. Let those beautiful qualities be your guide in the healing process as you begin to work with your unhealed parts and their protectors.

If you have been unsuccessful in healing fully through talk therapy, there may be some deeply hidden emotions that you are not aware of. Talking about feelings that you have no understanding of their origin is only causing more confusion for you. Knowing the reason you feel the way you feel is an important step in your healing process. Give yourself the chance to go deeper than talk therapy. Give yourself the opportunity to feel your soul.

There are many ways to work with behaviors, habits, patterns and emotional stress. Many of the alternative healing methods offered today are based on energy. Some of the energy healing methods include Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Massage Therapy and Acupuncture.

When you suffer an emotional trauma, whether that trauma seems big or small to you, the experience of the trauma can cause your energy body to contract (automatic protection mode), causing stagnation in the flow of your energy. Energy healing helps to release the stagnation so the energy can flow freely. When the energy flows freely, you release the need to protect yourself from the world and, therefore, you feel more at peace, more relaxed. The ancient practice of energy work is profoundly healing. Everything is energy, including our thoughts, feelings and emotions. Just as the contracted energy opens up and releases during energy work, it also returns when thoughts are provoked and emotions are triggered.

Many energy healers believe that illness begins with a breakdown of the energy body. If you do not heal your unhealed parts and the energy body keeps contracting with every trigger, you may be causing a debilitation of your physical body due to the constant stress of contraction.

The problem with working with the energy trapped in the physical body and not the energy trapped in the soul mind is that eventually the thoughts and beliefs that caused the body to contract in the first place will resurface whenever a similar situation triggers them. Once the original cause of the emotional trauma becomes triggered, the body responds as if the trauma is happening all over again, causing the body to go into protection mode again (contract).

You can bring all your traumas to completion simply by accepting these parts of you as valid, lovable and innocent parts of your soul that just need to feel loved and safe. These unhealed parts need the emotional support they did not receive at the time they split off from main consciousness. It is never too late to work with these unhealed parts of you. However, you must be aware of them and willing to give them the attention they need. It's important to be aware that healing must include healing the soul mind. Mindfulness Tools Mindfulness is another great tool for helping us manage our emotions. By always bringing our mind to the present moment, we step out of past experiences and release any worry of future unknowns. Instead of feeling anxious about what might happen in a present moment based on past experiences or a worried future, we hold the space of now and use our critical thinking brain and the ability to be logical, analytical and resourceful to resolve our current issues.

I strongly believe that mindfulness practices are one of the best ways to manage our emotions, keep us in the present moment and allow for the opportunity to use our critical thinking skills to guide us through the hard times.

However, when you have fears and negative emotions that are deep in your unconscious mind, then you may not be able to stay in the present moment with mindfulness practices. When an emotion that you are not aware of gets triggered, your mind will automatically default to the past. Mindfulness is a great technique for staying present, only if you have already healed the unhealed parts of you.

By healing your unhealed parts, you will not become easily triggered and, therefore, you will be able to hold yourself in the present moment when experiencing difficulties. Once you have healed your unhealed parts, it would be beneficial to master the art of mindfulness. Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. The Conﬂicts Between Our Parts We all have parts of us that make up the whole. We are not missing any parts. We have conscious parts that want that better job, higher education, a loving relationship, a healthier body, a trusting friend, a closer family, but we also have parts of us that don't feel deserving of these things.

To obtain the things we consciously desire means we must step out of our comfort zone and reach for something higher than what we believe we are worthy of. We feel a survival threat whenever we step out of our comfort zone.

Our comfort zones are set up during our formative years when our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us are created. Our protective parts are working hard to keep us out of harm's way by protecting our beliefs. If you created a belief that you are unworthy of love, then you will have a difficult time finding love. If you believe you are unworthy of having a healthy body due, then you may not make healthy food choices. If you believe that you are undeserving of a good relationship, you may find yourself with a toxic partner.

Your conscious mind wants to create a better life for you. Your unconscious mind wants to keep you in alignment with what you believe on an unconscious level. These conflicting parts of you are causing distortion and confusion in the soul mind.

Although all our parts have the best of intentions for us, conflicts between our parts are what's causing disturbances in the soul mind and setting boundaries in our lives. Therefore, instead of "managing" these parts, we must bring them together for resolution of conflict. First and foremost, we must be aware of all of our unhealed parts and what their needs are, and then we need to meet those needs for them now. Once you heal your unhealed parts, then your conscious mind and unconscious mind can come into alignment, thereby no longer causing internal conflicts. Taking Our Traumas to Completion The mind likes to take any unresolved trauma to full resolution. What is left open and incomplete needs to feel complete. If we felt unsafe, we need to come back to the feelings of safety. If we felt unloved, we need to know we are loved. If we felt unwanted, we need to know we are wanted. If we felt insignificant, we need to know we are here for a purpose. The people we held responsible to meet our physical and emotional needs may not have been capable of it. It is now up to ourselves to find a way to complete what remains unresolved within us.

On an unconscious level, we are continuously seeking completion through our relationships with others. The drive to heal our unhealed parts usually causes more suffering than healing. We are always questioning our ability to receive what we need. These are the parts of us that have not been able to find that completion when the trauma occurred. We hold a belief that we did not receive what we needed because we were flawed in some way and, therefore, unworthy of our needs. As we seek to find what we need through our relationships, we actually unconsciously reject the very thing we need when it's offered to us. This is because we are in constant conflict with our parts. A part of us wants what we were not able to receive from our caregivers, usually a parent or other influential person, and another part of us won't let us have our needs met because we created a belief that we are unworthy.

No matter how hard we try, we cannot get our basic emotional needs met through others. If we depend on others to validate us as valuable and significant, then we will live our lives in constant fear of rejection. We believe we cannot love ourselves unless we feel loved by others. This is because as infants and young children, we did depend on others to validate us. We did not know how to validate ourselves as perfect human beings having many different experiences. We did not have the cognitive ability to realize that we are perfect and lovable little people that only want to be loved by others and feel safe in the world. The moment we felt unloved was the moment we questioned our ability to be loved and, therefore, safe. Growing up with unmet emotional needs causes a hole in the heart for which we continuously seek fulfillment through others.

We cannot expect someone else to mend the pain in our hearts left by the people we trusted to love us and keep us safe. We must bring our unhealed parts through a process of completion by knowing we are worthy of getting our needs met even though we did not. We need to know that we are capable of being loved and accepted even though we didn't feel that way growing up. We must know that there was never anything wrong with us. We only had experiences that made us feel bad about ourselves. We cannot give ourselves what we need while we are in conflict with ourselves. We must resolve the conflicts so we stop rejecting love. Every part of your being is deserving of love. There is no part of you that is unworthy of getting its needs met.

When you lose touch with your unhealed parts, you lose touch with important parts of your inner being. These are parts of you that deserve to be seen, heard and validated. These parts of you do deserve love! However, you cannot heal these parts by seeking love from others. You need to feel love for these parts of you. It is only when you love these parts that you will realize how lovable you are. If you keep rejecting these parts, then parts of you will keep feeling unworthy of love.

Once you heal your unhealed parts, you no longer feel a threat to your safety. When you no longer feel a threat to your safety, you release your self-imposed limitations and remove the obstacles to living a happy fulfilled life. When you heal your unhealed parts, you open your heart to endless possibilities of love, career, family and socialization. Love is the most important part of the human existence because knowing we are capable and worthy of love makes us feel safe in the world. It all starts with acceptance of those parts of you that were rejected during an unsupported emotional crisis. If you are having a difficult time feeling the emotions that you have cut off from main consciousness, it's because your protective mind wants to keep you safe. If you do not feel safe, then you will shut down and hide. For you to be able to function in the world, your subconscious mind will keep those deep painful traumas (soul fragments) in the unconscious part of the mind, where they originated, and will protect you from the harm of reliving them. When these hidden memories are triggered, the same emotions will arise, but you will not know where they came from.

Although our protector parts are doing what they are supposed to do, the problem is that the subconscious doesn't realize that the memory is a past memory. The subconscious mind believes the experience is still happening. This is because it wasn't taken to completion. If it wasn't taken to completion then, according to the subconscious mind, the trauma is still happening. The way to bring unhealed memories to completion, so your unhealed parts can be healed, is to be aware of these memories. You can become aware of these memories as soon as you are ready to accept that there are parts of you that deserve your attention, even the parts of you that make you feel bad about yourself.

Bringing your awareness to a higher level of consciousness is the best way to become aware of these parts. These parts of you are fragments of your soul and are in need of validation, love, compassion and understanding. You are your own healer. No one can do that for you. The parts of you that need healing are waiting for your validation and acceptance. It was you that rejected these parts and it is you that can accept them back into soul consciousness. It is only your ego mind that believes you must receive the validation and acceptance outside of you.

Your higher mind is your spirit essence, your intuition, your loving compassionate side that knows you are a perfect, innocent, lovable human being who had challenging emotional experiences. You soul is holding these experiences in the soul mind. These experiences become burdens to the soul. These burdens cause heaviness in the soul body causing the physical body which houses the soul to contract (close in for safety). When the physical body contracts, the spirit body becomes stagnant. When the spirit becomes stagnant, life become stagnant.

Your spirit is your desire to live life with fullness and adventure. When you are in spirit, you feel inspired. When you break down the word inspire, the meaning comes from two words, in and spirit. Being "in spirit" is being "inspired" to live purposefully. Being in spirit (inspired) leads to desire, motivation and accomplishments in all areas of life.

It is believed by many psychologists that we have inherited, through our DNA, the tribal consciousness of our ancestors. If you were rejected by your tribe, you were left to fend for yourself in the wild. You have very little chance of survival. These survival fears get passed down through our DNA causing us to believe, on an unconscious primitive level, that if we are unworthy of love and acceptance, then we will be rejected by our tribe (family/community) and perish in the wild. If these tribal fears are part of our deep unconscious mind, together with feelings of unworthiness, then we could be living our lives in survival mode and don't even know it.

When you are living in survival mode, y0u cannot thrive in this world. Possibly we are all living, on some level, with a tribal consciousness because we are always seeking acceptance from the world. We know, on a subconscious survival level, that if we are not accepted we would be alone in the world. If we are alone in the world, we would not have tribal/ community support and no one to protect us from outside predators. These unconscious tribal fears cause us to hide those parts of us that we feel are inferior and, therefore, unacceptable by the tribe (our community). Although this may sound quite exaggerated to the conscious mind, protection is the primary function of the subconscious mind. Unﬁnished Business with Others As part of taking our traumas to completion, we need to complete what needs to be complete with others. Many times, we are seeking to resolve a conflict with someone who is important to us or someone we are influenced by. This is very common with child and parent.

When a parent's words or actions cause, whether intentional or unintentional, a child to feel like they are not enough, it will cause the child to spend the rest of their lives proving to others that they are worthy. This is an unconscious attempt to feel safe in the world. The child mind fears being ousted from the tribe and left to fend for itself. The child develops into an adult with unmet emotional needs and must find someone to meet those needs.

The child consciousness that is affected by the unmet primary emotional need becomes part of the unconscious soul mind (becomes fragmented). The child fragment (which is not in adult's awareness) directs the actions of the adult self. The adult self works diligently to create a facade of worthiness, even though deep inside the adult self is a child consciousness (fragment) that feels unworthy. The emotional stress involved in keeping up with hiding imagined flaws draws a lot of spiritual energy and keeps the body in constant protection mode (contraction).

Our minds want to resolve all our unfinished business with others in order to complete and heal the emotional trauma. This doesn't mean confronting someone about the past. It means resolving in your own mind that the unfinished business is due to not getting your needs met. It starts with the understanding that if someone did not meet your primary needs, it is because they couldn't. Either they didn't know how or they were not capable because of their own inner conflicts and unconscious fears. People are, for the most part, caring and compassionate. However, if someone's heart is closed because of their unresolved past, they are most likely unaware that they are causing a projection of their unhealed pain onto others. Projection is a defense mechanism people subconsciously employ in order to cope with difficult feelings or emotions. Projection involves projecting undesirable feelings or emotions onto someone else, rather than admitting to or dealing with the unwanted feelings.

What is necessary to understand is that there is nothing inherently wrong with you or the people that hurt you. We are all reacting to life based on our own life experiences. These experiences help to create our beliefs. If we believe we are unworthy of love, then there are parts of us that fear rejection by others. When we carry these fears in our unconscious mind, we easily become triggered. Since we are expecting rejection based on our feelings of unworthiness, we are always trying our best to be perfect. Striving for perfection causes internal stress. This internal stress is like a ticking bomb. We feel scared and anxious, which then causes us to get angry at anything or anyone that may reveal our imperfections.

When we feel rejected, we fear our ability to be loved. When we go into fear response, our body experiences automatic knee-jerk reactions like anger and frustration. If you are a small child on the receiving end of these knee- jerk reactions, then you will tend to believe that you are the cause of those reactions. As you grow into adulthood, you hold a core belief that something must be wrong with you. This unhealthy belief can then cause you to feel rejected and unlovable. When these feelings get triggered, you may also have knee-jerk responses that unknowingly cause feelings of unworthiness in others. This is how we pass down our internal fears.

The ways to complete your unfinished business with others is to:

• Know that you are worthy of having your needs met • Forgive those that couldn't give you what you needed due to their own perceived deficiencies and inner fears

• Show compassion and understanding instead of resentment and anger towards those that couldn't meet your needs

• Provide the unmet emotional need to your inner child. Find those unhealed parts within you and give them what they need to feel loved and safe

Once you stop blaming others for your pain and you take back the responsibility of meeting your own needs, then you also take back control of your feelings and emotions. If the people you depended on to satisfy your primary childhood needs failed to do so, it's because they didn't know how to meet their own primary needs and, therefore, made mistakes in trying to meet yours. If you continue to blame others for what you are feeling now, then you continue to give them control over your life.

When you can imagine your caregivers as young children trying to get their needs met and then imagine the emotional pain they endured in not feeling loved and accepted, then maybe you can open your heart and forgive them for not being able to give you what you needed. It's not that they didn't want to, it's just that they couldn't. Many times we are all just victims of victims. This does not in any way justify physical or emotional abuse by anyone. No one has a right to hurt you or anyone else. Many times the hurt we feel from others is due to their inability to know what love is. This is just to remind you that if you didn't receive what you needed, it's not because you didn't deserve it. It's because the people that you needed to meet those needs were not capable of it. Feeling victimized causes us to feel disempowered. To regain our strength and release victim mentality, we need to complete our unfinished business with others. From a place of higher consciousness (your higher self/spirit energy), we need to feel into the consciousness of the people who hurt us. We need to know that they are not perfect, they are not flawless, they make mistakes and they have knee-jerk reactions from unhealed parts inside of them, just like we do. The caregivers that short-changed you have been short-changed by their caregivers. If we could go back hundreds of years and many ancestors, we will find an ancestral pattern of unworthiness.

Many people are living life with their hearts closed while under the control of many deep hidden fears. If our daily actions stem from the thoughts in our subconscious mind 90% of the day, then whatever pain is not healed inside of us is going to come out somehow. Many times it comes out hurting others although not intended to.

You are a loving and compassionate being. If your heart is closed to protect yourself from pain, then you are not able to feel compassion towards the people that you feel caused that pain. This is only causing you more pain. It is in your highest good to learn how to accept that they are not perfect and they made mistakes which caused you pain and suffering. Unfortunately, you were too young to know that you were witnessing their inability to love themselves which caused you to believe you are unlovable.

When you open your heart and enter the realm of your higher consciousness, you will be able to feel that deep love and compassion you didn't feel before. It is there. It is a part of you. Bringing to completion all of your incomplete experiences with others is part of the healing process. Bringing love and compassion into the healing process is how you will be able to release the negative bond you have with those that hurt you. It is that negative bond that keeps you stuck in the past because the mind needs closure to move on from the past. For you to complete what needs to be completed with others, you will need to separate from their pain. The way to separate from their pain is to fully understand that they are burdened souls in a human body; They are fragmented and lost; They are craving perfection so they can feel worthy. When things in life become too demanding or overwhelming for them, they fear that their flaws will be revealed and others will see them as unworthy. This causes them to over-react, shut down or run away from situations in their life. Every pain they caused you was about their inability to accept and love who they are. If they could accept and love themselves, they would have been more attuned to your needs.

When you heal those wounds that were caused by others in the past, you will have finished the unfinished business that your mind keeps trying to complete through current relationships. If someone from the past made you feel deficient in any way, you unconsciously seek out someone to fill that deficiency. This is your unconscious mind trying to heal a past experience with someone else. This is the unfinished business that the mind must complete. You can, through your heart and higher self, allow healing with others to take place so you no longer feel deficient and, therefore, no longer seek fulfillment through others in your life now.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Awareness of Our Parts How can we heal the parts of us that need healing if these parts are out of our conscious awareness? The real and unwanted truth is that we need to bring these parts of us into our awareness. We need to get up close and personal with the pain we rejected a long time ago. If we won't allow the awareness of the pain, then we are not allowing the healing of the pain. Avoiding our inner conflicts serves only one purpose. It serves to keep us from the very pain that is controlling our lives.

If we want to change the way we feel, we must start with the emotions we are neglecting. It is difficult to acknowledge that a part of us believes we are unlovable, unwanted, insignificant, unworthy, not valuable and don't belong in this world. We are afraid that these parts are flawed aspects of ourselves. We would rather stay fragmented and unhinged than acknowledge parts of ourselves that we believe to be unworthy and inferior parts. This can only make us feel less than whole. Feeling less than whole is one of the main reasons we feel limited in our lives.

I believe we fear that our inferior feelings about ourselves are true about ourselves. We want to present only our best selves to the world so we don't have to experience rejection of who we are. That is why we have protector parts. These protector parts keep the unhealed parts out of our awareness and, therefore, away from the world that we seek acceptance from.

The truth is all of your parts are worthy of love, even the ones you want to avoid. Your parts are not who you are as a whole being, but are parts of you having experiences that affect your whole being. When you allow yourself to become aware of the parts that have been fragmented off, you will then have an opportunity to heal the pain of their experiences. These parts are a part of your soul consciousness. Healing at the soul level is not only deep and profound healing, it is permanent healing. Soul Level Healing allows the soul mind to become aware of the full truth of what feels like a bad experience, not just the way the experience made you feel. It is important to become aware of the whole experience, including:

• Becoming aware of the unhealed parts of others that have contributed to your bad feelings about yourself

• Becoming aware of how the fears of others became your fears because they were unconsciously projected onto you

• Becoming aware that each and every one of us is fighting our own inner fears of rejection and unworthiness

• Becoming aware that forgiveness doesn't mean you didn't deserve better

• Becoming aware that your needs could not be met by people that didn't get their needs met

• Becoming aware that every part of you is innocent, lovable, worthy, significant, valuable and makes up the beautiful soul being that you are Getting Past Protector Parts to Meet Your Fragmented Parts

It is soul consciousness that carries the burdens of pain. Your soul is the driver of your physical life on Earth. Your spirit is the spark of light that lives within your heart center and permeates your soul body. The spirit, the part of you that is playful, creative, spontaneous and ready to thrive, becomes constricted and clouded over when the soul is burdened with pain.

For you to heal your unhealed parts, you will need to step into the consciousness of these unhealed parts so you can know what these parts of you are experiencing. However, first you may need to convince your protector parts to let you near your fragmented parts. Your protector parts need to trust that you bring no harm to these wounded parts of you and that you can face their pain and fears with validation, love and compassion.

Protector parts are only doing the job that you created them to do, which is to keep those painful emotions out of your conscious awareness and keep these wounded parts safe from others. You have to work with protective parts in a delicate and appreciative manner.

As a child, it was necessary for you to set up the protector parts. This is how you were able to feel safe as a child and function in life. This means you were a very wise, creative and courageous child. You knew just what to do to make yourself feel safe in the world. As an adult, you now understand, on a conscious level, that the trauma is over and you are safe. The child part that has been split off (became a soul fragment) at the time of trauma still feels unsafe because it is frozen in time. This is the part of you that felt unsafe and could not function. This is the part of you that felt an emotional crisis and began to feel that you are unacceptable as you are. This part of you was rejected by you as a bad part of you. When you rejected this part of you, you also created a protector part to keep this part of you out of the awareness of yourself and others.

You can help your unhealed parts heal by bringing the love and compassion of your higher self to these parts. By allowing your higher consciousness to connect with the consciousness of these parts of you, you can learn what these unhealed parts need so they can feel loved and safe again. You can learn what primary needs were not met. The healing can only happen when the fragmented parts can get their needs met and then brought to feelings of safety (completion of the experience).

A fragmented part cannot feel safe unless it knows its worthy of getting its primary emotional needs met. It is the adult self, through the wisdom of the spirit body (higher self), that can help the fragmented part get its needs met. We have wise intelligent higher minds that are aware of our innate inner resources. Your higher mind (higher self) is a loving and compassionate energy that holds the space for healing.

Getting past protector parts to meet your fragmented parts is the second step to the process of healing your unhealed parts.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Feeling the Feelings of Our Fragmented Parts

Feeling your feelings is the only way to heal what needs to be healed. Avoidance of your feelings causes you to set up limitations for yourself. You are always in a place of avoidance. You have to avoid every situation that could trigger these feelings. You can learn how to manage them, but unfortunately, your protective parts are so quick to jump into action, that you don't have time to manage them. Your mind and body are on automatic survival response. Your cognitive critical thinking mind needs time to come up with a creative and more logical response. Your protective parts do not stop to think. They send you into protective mode immediately because their only function is to keep you safe. This is why we find ourselves in reactive behavior. Tense feelings begin to run through the body and we defend ourselves by running away (fleeing from a situation), fighting back (acting out) or shutting down (going into a withdrawn or depressive state). Managing our emotions can only work for a short time. Eventually, the feelings that you have been avoiding are going to get strong enough to push through your emotional management skills and take you through the whirl- wind of emotional chaos.

Avoidance of feelings allows you to continue to function in life without re- experiencing the fears attached to your bottled-up emotions. The fears, however, are still dictating your life. The fears are what caused you to set boundaries in every aspect of your life to avoid the possibility of experiencing these feelings again. As a wiser and more intelligent adult, you are better equipped to face your feelings than you were as a small child. Emotional traumas for children are confusing and frightening. As a child, you didn't have the cognitive resources needed to sort it out; however, you do now. Strong reactive behavior is driven by the emotions and fears that you are not consciously aware of. The fear of feeling these feelings so they can be healed is not as distressing as the ongoing avoidance of your feelings. Avoiding your feelings causes your body to contract (stay in survival mode) and creates a continuance flow of stress hormones throughout the body.

Remember, as a small child, you did not have the cognitive resources nor the understanding of your spiritual intelligence (higher self) to handle painful experiences. As a young child you are deeply concerned with your survival. As an adult with higher means of communication, understanding, compassion and focus, you are able to be the healer for your own inner child/fragmented parts. As a wise and loving adult, you are able to give these fragmented parts the healing space they need so their feelings can be expressed in a loving and caring environment. It is you and only you that has the inner knowledge and power to heal these fragmented parts of you.

Expression of feelings is an essential step towards releasing painful emotions and the fears attached to them. If you are not willing to go inside those feelings where your higher resources are needed, then these parts of you will remain alone, separated and unhealed. Feeling the feelings of our fragmented parts is the third step in the process of healing your unhealed parts. What Do Your Fragmented Parts Need?

Those parts of you that have fragmented off from main consciousness are in need of your attention. These parts of you need what they did not receive when the trauma was first experienced; therefore, the trauma could not be taken to completion. Every part of you is worthy of love, understanding, compassion, feelings of safety, as well as validation of your feelings. At the time a part of you split off and became a fragment of your soul, something you needed on an emotional level was not provided to you. This caused a threat to your security and safety. Whenever we feel our security or safety is being threatened, we immediately go into survival mode. The part of us that goes into survival mode becomes split off from main consciousness, allowing us to feel safe again, and gives us the ability to continue functioning in life without the fear of rejection. However, the fear of rejection is always playing in our unconscious mind.

At the time you experienced a trauma, you needed a source of comfort. You needed to know that you are safe and loved. The people you were seeking comfort from did not know that you were in an emotional crisis where you were seeking security in the physical world. As a small child, you were unable to express your needs and, therefore, you felt alone in your time of crisis. Maybe you acted out by crying or maybe you just shut down (closing off your emotions). By allowing your wiser, more intelligent mind to bring the love, understanding, compassion, trust and validation to the fragmented parts of the soul, emotions and fears can be comfortably expressed.

As you bring your inner healing resources to your fragmented parts, you begin to release the burdens of the soul. As your fragmented parts express what they needed at the time of crisis in order to feel safe and loved, it is your opportunity to bring feelings of love and safety from your higher intelligent heart center to these unhealed parts of you. Meeting the needs of your fragmented parts is the fourth step in healing your unhealed parts.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Understanding the People Who Hurt Us

Whenever someone hurts us, the hurt makes us feel bad about who we are. One of the most important things to our emotional well-being is feeling accepted and loved. If we are made to feel that we don't live up to the expectations of others, then we tend to believe there is something deficient within us, causing us to believe that we are unworthy of the love and acceptance we crave. Many times, our emotional needs are not met when we are very young. This causes us to create a belief inside our subconscious mind that we are not worthy of having our needs met.

When we become adults, we unconsciously look to get those needs met at the same time feeling as if we don't deserve to. This causes inner conflicts. What is important to know is that if your primary caregivers didn't give you what you needed to be emotionally fulfilled, then the very fulfillment you were seeking was absent in their lives. If your primary caregivers were not affectionate adults, then chances are they did not receive affection as children. If your primary caregivers yelled at you often or didn't support your desires, then chances are they did not have adult figures in their life that were kind and supportive. Our primary caregivers are not only trying to take care of our needs as children, they are also fighting their own internal battles from unresolved pain and trauma from their childhood. The wounded parent many times creates the wounded child without knowing it.

As a part of your healing process, it's important to understand the people that hurt you. It's for your benefit to understand how their inner pain and their unhealed parts affected their behavior as an adult. Many times caregivers, on an unconscious level, are afraid of doing things wrong including how they care for children. Most parents and primary caregivers want to do a good job at being a caregiver. A part of them is trying to create perfection so they are not harshly judged and, therefore, possibly rejected. These are adults that felt harshly judged as children. Adults trying to be perfect due to fear of not being good enough experience inner disturbances that cause outer reactive behavior. All their childhood fears of not being capable or good enough start to resurface whenever things are not going well. These automatic knee-jerk reactions can cause fear in small children although it wasn't intended to by the adult.

Our parents and primary caregivers did not have the resources they needed to heal the pain of their past. They had to suppress their pain or they were considered weak and unstable. It was believed that if they could not manage their emotions then they are irrational human beings and should be medicated. The real truth is they were experiencing feelings that caused them to feel insignificant, unworthy, unlovable, not belonging, not good enough, angry, resentful, shameful or guilty. They were feeling deep pain but didn't know any cause for it. Life growing up was normal only because it was normal for them. It's all they knew and, therefore, it must be a "normal" life for which one should feel "normal" about. They believed that something must be inherently wrong with them because they were experiencing bad feelings about themselves and couldn't find any other reason for their feelings of unworthiness. The very cause of their pain is so deeply hidden or split off from main consciousness that there is no access to it and, therefore, no understanding of its source. This causes the adult to believe the problem must have originated inside of them. Fighting these feeling of unworthiness causes stress and anxiety inside the body that many times gets projected out onto innocent others. Stress and anxiety come from our conflicting parts fighting against each other.

If we don't find it in our hearts to understand that we are victims of victims and that we have been short changed because our caregivers have been short changed, then we will always hold our caregivers responsible for making us feel whole. Feelings of wholeness must come from within ourselves. By knowing that our caregivers were not capable of meeting our needs because they have not been able to get their own needs met, we can now take responsibility and use our higher resources to help us get our needs met. Caregivers that could not meet your needs are deficient in those same needs. This does not mean you didn't deserve to have those needs met. Every part of you is deserving of feeling loved, accepted, validated, significant, wanted and safe. If you want to heal your unhealed parts, you need to become the responsible caregiver to your fragmented parts.

If you could see your caregivers as souls carrying heavy burdens inside human bodies with blocked hearts, then maybe you can find a place in your heart, as it opens and expresses all that it feels inside, to hold some healing space for the people that just didn't know how to love you the way you needed them to. By sending some energy of compassion into the fragmented souls of those that hurt you, you will make it easier to separate yourself from their pain. This unselfish act will help you release the anger and resentment that accompany your fears of unworthiness. Your caregivers are worthy of getting their needs met just as you are. Your caregivers did not know how to go within themselves and provide healing to their unhealed parts. They did not have the knowledge or the resources we have today to heal our unhealed wounds. They were only offered a way to mask their feelings and go on with life. If we are not taught how to bring love and compassion to ourselves, but only urged to cover up our feelings, then we will lack the ability to fully nurture our relationships with others. Forgiveness Helps to Heal the Soul Mind

One of the hardest things to do is forgive the ones that hurt us or forgive ourselves for our own perceived deficiencies. During the process of healing soul fragments, it is important to understand what caused your pain. You may already know on a conscious logical level that forgiving the people that hurt you is a way to release the pain; however, the fragmented part of you that is feeling deeply hurt may find it very difficult to forgive the cause of its suffering. Sometimes our protector parts stop us from forgiving those that hurt us because these protector parts fear we might let ourselves get hurt again.

We believe we fully forgave the people who hurt us when we do our forgiveness work in a logical intellectual way, but what we do not realize is that the part of us that is split off from main consciousness did not forgive, nor forget, the pain they are feeling. When you work deeply with soul consciousness through the spiritual energies of the heart, you will find the wisdom and understanding you need in order to allow true forgiveness to take place; the deep forgiveness that comes with feeling compassion and understanding for those incapable of love.

Forgiving ourselves is more difficult than forgiving others. When we feel that there is something inherently wrong with us or that we should be punished for bad behavior or for being inadequate, our subconscious mind will direct us to cause sabotage to ourselves as a way to stay in alignment with our thoughts. This self-sabotaging behavior is usually out of conscious awareness and could affect us on every level of our being. You will need to meet these self-sabotaging parts of you with love and compassion. These parts of you need to know that they deserve to be loved even though they don't feel loved. Understanding yourself and others on a soul level is the best way to heal your deepest wounds. When we try to heal ourselves on a conscious level or without the presence and guidance of our highest self, we may, without realizing it, allow the ego mind to hamper the healing process. The ego is the part of you that fights for validation and acceptance in the world. The ego also protects you from getting hurt or showing any part of you that could get hurt. If the ego believes you are letting your guard down, the ego may block the completion process and you may feel as if healing is complete. Unfortunately, it is not complete until you acknowledge and heal those parts of you that have fragmented from your main soul consciousness. Eventually, the soul mind wound will get triggered again, and you will awaken the memory that is still in need of complete healing. If you do not go deep enough into your soul mind for the information and understanding you need for true forgiveness of yourself and others, you may continue to feel all the effects of your unconscious pain.

Real forgiveness must be felt from the heart, not the head, in order for the healing of the trauma to feel complete. Forgiveness is the fifth step in healing your unhealed parts.

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We are all capable of being compassionate human beings. People that lack compassion for others are the people that lack compassion for themselves. Anger and resentment deplete our ability to find compassion for others and ourselves. Holding onto anger and resentment is the same as saying "I am deeply hurt and scared". We don't see that part of the person; that is a fragmented part. What we do see is the person's unconscious reaction to those emotions and their defense mechanisms. What we see and experience, as the person on the receiving end of those fears, is a person that is not capable of being kind and loving. This causes us to believe they are bad people.

If these so called "bad people" do not find a way to heal their unhealed parts, they will remain incapable of being kind and loving. They are protecting themselves from what they perceive as a cruel and punishing world that has not accepted them, and, therefore, their very existence is in jeopardy. They are always fighting a horrendous battle within themselves, which causes them to fight against the world outside of them. They become confused about reality. These are people with the deepest fears of being annihilated. Unfortunately, what they need is help and that help is hard for them to find. They must first know that the world is not against them. This can only happen when they are able to find the healing they need.

Remember, people that are unkind and unloving came into this world the same way you did. They came into this world seeking love and safety. If they did not receive it, then they did not experience it. People that are protecting themselves from the world outside are in constant survival mode. They are always making sure they can stay safe. The only way they know how to do that is to not let anyone get close to them. This keeps their loving and compassionate part of who they are distant and almost non- existent. People who feel extreme fear of being unwanted in this world can be very cruel to others. Their anger about being deficient and insignificant is projected onto others as hatred and a need to cause pain and suffering.

Being compassionate doesn't mean being their best friend. Being compassionate means tapping into your heart center and finding the higher intelligence inside of you that already knows that this is all this burdened soul is capable of at this time. This is easier said than done. We can learn how to be more compassionate by practicing compassion and understanding. It is not easy to feel compassion for people that appear to be heartless and intentionally destructive human beings. Just by reminding yourself that this is all they are capable of will help you keep their energy out of your space. They need help. Only they can seek that help. For your own sanity and self-protection, it is best to be compassionate and understanding and know that this is their challenge and not yours. These are the burdens of their souls being expressed outwardly. They are not capable of doing better without healing themselves first. What they do is not a reflection upon you or the world as a whole; however, the way you respond or react to their behaviors is a reflection upon you.

In the world of physics, it is said that holding the energy of love and compassion for these lost souls is the best way to help them heal themselves and the planet. Holding anger and resentment towards them increases their unhealthy energy. Sending them light (compassion and understanding) maybe the best and only resource you have to help them open their hearts so they can begin their healing process. If we cannot find any part in us that can feel compassionate for these lost souls, then we may need to open our hearts a little more. It serves us well to be loving and compassionate to all souls, even the ones that are filled with hate and disgust for the world. It benefits us because we can let go of our resentments towards them which lightens our soul burdens. Compassion is part of the forgiveness process and an important element to the fifth step in healing your unhealed parts. Our Relationships The most important part of our lives is our relationships. How we relate to others and ourselves is the soul of humanity. Repressed anger, fears and feelings of unworthiness cause us to keep our guards up and our hearts closed. This stops us from expressing how deeply we love and care for each other. It seems that only an extreme crisis can push us to realize how valuable we are to each other. In order for us to feel compassion and love in our relationships with others, we must open our hearts to ourselves and accept that we are not perfect human beings. Perfection is obtained when you are accepting of yourself and others during the course of your soul's journey.

Everyone wants to be feel loved, secure, valuable and significant in the world. However, many of us cannot reach that level of perfection when we are so focused on the wrong idea of perfection. Perfection means accepting our imperfect selves and the imperfections of others as we navigate through the trials and tribulations of life. If we can't accept ourselves with all our imperfections, then we don't trust our ability to be loved by others. This causes us to stay in a guarded place where we contract our energy bodies and suffocate our spirit. This causes us to reject the most valuable capabilities of the human species, love and compassion. We must learn to trust that we are all doing the best we can with what we have learned through our experiences. We must also accept that there are parts of us that need healing so we don't keep repeating experiences that cause unhealthy relationships.

To completely accept who we are, so we can accept others for who they are, we first need to accept that there are parts within us that we do not like. Healing your unhealed parts, instead of continuing to disown them, will create a deeper connection with your soul. Without this deeper connection, you will remain guarded in your relationships with others. If you continue to stay guarded and self-protected, you will not experience authentic love with the most important people in your life.

Creating a better relationship with others starts with creating a solid, compassionate, loving relationship with yourself. Start by understanding that you are innocent, lovable, worthy and valuable to this world. The only reason you don't feel that way is because your experiences caused you to create feelings of unworthiness in your soul mind. Your reliance upon others to validate you as worthy causes instability and uncertainty in your relationships. We are all lovable, innocent, worthy and valuable human beings. If others are treating us unkindly, then they have unhealed parts. If we allow it, then we have unhealed parts. Healing your unhealed parts is the only way to have a healthy relationship with yourself and others.

The world is in a state of self-destruction because we are relating to each other from a place of fear instead of love and compassion. The majority of our lives are spent guarding and protecting ourselves instead of opening our hearts and embracing love. We cannot get out of our negative patterns with ourselves or others until we can learn how to bring healing to our wounded parts. When you heal and integrate all your fragmented parts, you feel whole, balanced and complete in who you are, allowing you to stop seeking completion of yourself through others.

If we keep trying to complete ourselves through our relationships, we will always seek validation outside of ourselves. We will unconsciously seek out people that we believe can heal our wounded parts. This means laying the responsibility on another to help you love who you are. This also means you give your power over to them, which gives them control over you. You will never be able to be who you are if you can't be responsible for your life. You lose yourself in the process of seeking acceptance through another. When you lose your sense of self, you also give up the belief that your needs are important. You then become so entrenched in meeting someone else's needs in order to get your own needs met. This scenario will cause a power struggle with the very person you want to feel deeply connected with. If you are in an unhealthy relationship, then you and your partner are both in need of healing your unhealed parts.

If we heal our unhealed parts, we can live life from our true essence and expand our soul connection with others. The ride is much more pleasant when you are not always dependent on others for acceptance. It all starts with healing and loving all parts of you.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Your Soul's Essence When we carry heavy soul burdens, it makes it difficult for us to connect with our soul's essence. As long as we stay disconnected from who we truly are, we will remain as puppets to society in a continuous fear of rejection. Not only does the soul carry the burdens, it also carries our desire and devotion to live a full life filled with meaning and purpose. The heart of the soul is your spirit, a burdened soul causes you to close the heart and suffocate the spirit. A trapped spirit is prevented from bringing out the best of your soul's essence. Know that within your heart there is a beautiful energy of love and compassion that already knows you are perfect, that you are a living soul with spirit and that you are here in this lifetime to create a higher vibrational energy for this planet and all its inhabitants. When you don't connect with your soul's essence and your inner truth, you are participating in the collective energy that is keeping the world in a state of fear and ultimate destruction.

It is your responsibility to honor your spirit's desires and your soul's essence. It is your responsibility to the world to bring forth your gifts of love and compassion that will help humanity heal. Always remember that you are important in this world no matter what you experienced in your life. You are a part of a loving creation. You are not what you have experienced. You are a participant in your experiences as a soul learning how to liberate itself through each emotional crisis. You are here as a soul to grow, develop and evolve through each painful memory. Healing your unhealed parts will help you be the human spirit you came here to be. Spiritual Bypass Spiritual bypass is a term coined by psychologist and Buddhist teacher, John Welwood, in the early 1980s. Spiritual bypass is "a tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". Spirituality has become so trendy that we forgot what spirituality really is. The practice of bringing light and love into the fragmented soul while neglecting the cause of suffering only perpetuates the denial of one's emotional needs. Spiritual bypass is the practice of using spirituality as a way to fill the void in our lives. The void in our lives is the emptiness we feel from not getting our emotional needs met.

Practicing spirituality includes healing the soul's burdens and meeting your emotional needs in a healthy, loving and compassionate manner. This deep healing is what will enable you to live from a full expanded heart, allowing the energy of your divine creative spirit to be expressed. Ignoring the struggling parts of the soul is not conducive to spiritual evolution. If we continue to bypass what is most important in our spiritual development, then we are simply looking for another way to numb or distract from our feelings.

A spiritual path that does not allow for the acknowledgement of soul suffering is a superficial path that temporarily satisfies our need for self- fulfillment and further satisfies our need to ignore our feelings of helplessness in a world filled with continual hardship and unrelenting depression. Our first step in healing the planet and humanity as a whole is healing our unhealed parts. Healing our unhealed parts allows us to be more conscious and aware of the world's challenges and how we can effectively contribute to making the world a better place.

You cannot feel fulfilled in the heart if you have unhealed wounds. Expecting a vision of light to wipe out all darkness within the soul is an unconscious distraction strategy and only leads to further neglect of your unhealed parts. If you want to free your spirit, you must be willing to step into the depths of your soul mind and bring healing to those lonely and scared rejected parts of you. You cannot claim to be a spiritual leader to the world while disowning parts of your soul. Chanting spiritual phrases while neglecting your emotional needs is not the way to raise your consciousness or the consciousness of humanity. Spiritually is the practice of being in spirit. The spirit of who you are is not in its full creative state if it is closed off due to soul fragmentation. If we continue to pacify ourselves with sentiments of love, light and inner peace while ignoring the rumbling of pain within us, we will not only deny love to our own fragmented souls, but will continue to stagnate the soul of humanity. Continually shutting out the cries of your unhealed parts while delving into trendy spiritual practices is like covering up a deep wound with a bandage. Eventually the wound will bleed through and you will be forced to heal it on a deeper level if you don't want it to get infected.

Practicing spirituality on a superficial level will not heal the soul's burdens. Practicing spirituality is a recognition of your soul's essence, your desires, your passions, your spiritual gifts and your desire to live a meaningful and purposeful life. It is also a recognition and healing of the wounds that stagnate your spiritual growth. Practicing spirituality is about accepting the soul's journey, becoming intimate with your pain, loving the parts of you that feel unlovable and becoming more conscious of your true self through the healing process.

Spirituality is about evolving as a soul as you become more aware of your emotional needs and the emotional needs of others. It is not about hiding parts of you. You cannot evolve if you cannot accept that there are parts of you in need of healing. The longer we continue to ignore our unhealed parts, the more we contribute to the dark (unhealed) side of humanity. If you want to help raise the vibration of the planet, then you have to start with being conscious of your own unhealed parts. Continuously focusing on the light will not heal your unhealed parts. You must become conscious of what you made unconscious so you can become aware of what your needs are.

Spiritual practices should not be used as escapism, but rather as a way to expand your heart so you can feel deeper inside your soul. Spirituality is an acceptance of the place we find ourselves at this moment and bringing attention to those parts of us we've ignored. Spirituality is about honoring the spirit and understanding that we are all evolving at our own pace. We all have our challenges, some more than others. If we can't accept our own unhealed parts, then we can't help humanity heal as a whole.

The practice of spirituality exploded with the theory that the universe provides all that you need. The universe cannot heal your unhealed parts. The universe cannot meet your emotional needs. For all those law of attraction seekers, you cannot attract abundance if your subconscious mind believes you don't deserve abundance. If you don't heal the parts of you that are causing limitations in your life, then you will remain limited no matter what you are asking of the universe. Universal energy responds to the vibrational energy that comes from the soul mind. If your soul mind is burdened with feelings of unworthiness, then you are sending negative signals to the universe. We attract only what we believe we deserve.

You are deserving of all the goodness the world can offer. However, you will not believe that you are worthy of abundance in your life if parts of you feel unworthy. Your conscious mind and unconscious soul mind must be in alignment for the law of attraction to work for you. Otherwise you are in conflict with yourself and, therefore, sending conflicting messages out to the universe. Healing your unhealed parts is the most important step in creating the life you desire and deserve. Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. How Do We Feel Whole Again When all the parts of you that are in need of healing receive the attention they need and deserve, and when your wiser self (your higher mind) brings them the love, understanding, compassion and validation they need to feel accepted, wanted, valuable, significant and safe in the world, it is time to bring these parts back home, back to main soul consciousness, where they belong. As these lost parts become healed and integrated back into main soul consciousness, the self no longer feels lost, fragmented and confused. The self feels whole again. We are a sum of all our parts. All our parts are worthy of love and compassion and they should all be called back home where they belong.

The parts of us that have fragmented off are parts of us we don't want to acknowledge. We are ashamed of these parts and don't want them to exist within us. And yet, the thought of getting rid of a part of ourselves is very troubling to the whole self.

It's important to know that when you go through the healing process, you are not getting rid of any part of you. You are simply healing the parts of you that need to be healed. These unhealed parts will continue to feel hurt until their emotional needs are met. When emotional needs are not met, these unhealed parts believe their survival is in jeopardy. These parts of you fear that you want to get rid of them. You cannot disown any part of you. You can only find a way to heal, love and accept these rejected parts of you. This is how these parts of you will feel safe.

As you work with your different parts through the healing process, you will be able to feel the innocence within the wounded parts. You will realize that they are beautiful, worthy, lovable parts that just need some attention, comfort and feelings of safety. Once the traumas are brought to resolution (completion) and these frightened parts feel safe again, it is time to bring them home. It's time to integrate them into the heart consciousness where they will feel the energy of love and compassion that comes from the spirit within you. When these parts are integrated back into the self, the self feels whole again. Bringing all parts back to main soul consciousness where these parts can feel the energy of your spirit that breathes life into your soul, then you will feel whole and alive again. Once all parts are healed, and your protector parts are now holding a space of love around them, it is necessary to integrate your parts back into main soul consciousness by placing these parts into your heart energy field. Integrating your parts and returning the soul to wholeness is the sixth and final step in healing your unhealed parts. What is Soul Level Healing We pay a high price when we ignore our emotional needs. Soul Level Healing is a healing technique created by me after many years of working with clients who have suffered the pain of not knowing how to heal. Soul Level Healing is a deep interpersonal and transpersonal journey into soul consciousness through the energy of the heart. The spirit self (your higher intelligent self) leads the way through the healing process.

During the Soul Level Healing process, you are guided through the heart energy field to connect with your spirit body. The heart energy (your spirit) is the heart of your soul. The spirit body will take you on a journey into your soul consciousness where you can connect with those parts of you that have fragmented off and became lost, confused and afraid. The spirit energy is gentle, kind, loving and compassionate. The spirit energy is your higher self that wants you to live your best life in this physical world. It is your spirit energy that drives the soul to live its soul's purpose. If the soul is burdened by trapped emotions and fear, then the heart closes up to protect the soul. This causes the spirit body to lose its ability to move freely, allowing you to live the best and highest version of yourself.

When the heart is closed for protection, the body stays in survival mode, causing a contracted energy body. When the heart opens and the spirit releases, the spirit can open into its full energetic form and guide the soul through a spiritual awakening. During the journey, the spirit body helps the soul consciousness locate its lost parts. As lost parts are acknowledged, the process of healing takes places.

The Soul Level Healing process takes you gently and compassionately through the six steps of healing your unhealed parts. Each step builds upon the prior step until all parts that have become lost are now re-joined with the soul. Emotions and feelings are the most powerful forces we feel inside of us. It is important that we enter this inner terrain with love, kindness, understanding and compassion. The spirit body (your higher self) is your guide. No one understands your soul better than your spirit body. The spirit body is not your ego consciousness. Your ego consciousness is what's keeping you guarded and protected, causing many limitations in your life. Your spirit body is love, light and compassion. Your spirit body is a higher level of consciousness that helps to expand your awareness. Your spirit body is the wisdom that lives within the heart consciousness and is your direct access to the energy and love of your creator. Your spirit body will help you not only understand your burdened soul, but the burdened souls of others. Having this higher awareness available to you during your healing process is what opens the door to deep and permanent healing.

Many of our negative thoughts and associated emotions arise when we don't allow our feelings to be expressed. During the Soul Level Healing process, the spirit body holds the space for each soul fragment to express what was not expressed during a traumatic experience. When these fragmented parts are given the opportunity to express the burdens they are holding, your wise spiritual self brings compassion and love to these parts. Your higher self is able to give these lost fragmented parts what they needed but did not receive when the initial trauma occurred. At this time, you are meeting your unmet emotional needs. You are giving yourself what others were not capable of giving you when you needed it. The only way to get out of the contracted state of fear is to feel safe again. The only way to feel safe again is by getting your unmet needs satisfied.

Healing will not happen if you are looking outside of yourself for completion. The material world cannot fulfill your unmet emotional needs. Another soul can only temporarily provide you with a feeling of safety. In order to release the energy you hold in a contracted energy body and fully open your heart so you can experience life through your wise and loving spirit, then it is necessary to enter the heart center and start the process of healing your unhealed parts. With the spirit energy, you will see things you could not see before because you will step outside of survival mode. You will experience the intelligent loving kindness that can help you heal your fearful thoughts and the painful emotions that drive them. You will be in your true energetic self. The energy of the heart will hold the space needed for your wiser higher self to do the healing work.

We, as human beings, are fearful of feeling our feelings and we pay a high price because of it. What we have a hard time understanding is that the time involved in healing the soul is a lot shorter than a lifetime of feeling contracted, stuck, limited and unhappy.

The Soul Level Healing process is not a painful process. It is an awakening process that brings you back to where you already know how valuable you are. It brings you back to that place where you realize you are more than just a physical body. You will experience powerful spiritual awareness as you journey into the consciousness of your soul. You will connect with those parts of you that you once rejected because you thought they were unacceptable parts of you. There are no unacceptable parts of you. There are no bad parts of you. There are only hurt parts of you that need your love, acceptance and guidance. You will help those parts heal their burdens by:

• Raising your awareness

• Bringing truth to the situation that caused the trauma

• Helping these parts understand the soul consciousness of others that have caused them pain • Allowing love and compassion from your higher self to heal the wounds of rejection, abandonment, distrust, unworthiness, loneliness, shame or guilt

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We all end up being victims of victims because we do not know how to get deep into soul consciousness and heal our unhealed parts.

During the Soul Level Healing process, all traumas are brought to completion through this step by step technique of deep soul healing. Each time a soul fragment is acknowledged and healing work is complete, the soul feels lighter. It is no longer carrying the heavy burdens of pain and fear.

As you start to unload the burdens of pain and fear from soul consciousness, your physical body starts to release its need for protection. The energy body stops contracting. When the energy body stops contracting, the physical body becomes more relaxed. You feel more peaceful. Stress is one of the biggest causes of physical illness. Unhealed emotions cause stress. When we heal our unhealed parts, we are healing on all levels of our being; however, we must start from the core of our being, our soul consciousness.

If you have unmet emotional needs, it is now up to you to find the healing resources within you. Your younger parts (fragments) are still looking for the outside world to validate them because that is what we did as children. We don't have any other way to feel safe in the world except by feeling loved and wanted by others. You can no longer keep looking outside of yourself. If your caregivers did not provide what you needed, then they were not capable of it; however, you are capable of providing what you need to yourself now. You have more knowledge about the mind's inner resources than your caregivers did. You are fortunate to be living in a time of great spiritual awakening. Your caregivers and other influential people in your life did the best they could with the resources they had at the time.

When you move through the healing process and your unhealed parts begin to heal, the truth of who you are will start to unfold and your awakening process begins. You will live your life in a higher level of consciousness. You will be a spiritual guide for yourself and a healing influence for others. This is how we help heal the collective soul consciousness.

Whatever burdens your soul is holding onto, they are affecting the way you think, feel and behave in this world. If you are struggling with stress, weight, unhealthy habits, emotional upsets, feelings of sadness, destructive behaviors, overindulgence, lack of motivation, low self-esteem, loneliness, feelings of unworthiness, inadequacy or irrational fears, you have unhealed parts that need your attention. To release these burdens that are disrupting your life, you will need to believe that you are worth the time and effort it takes to complete what the soul needs to complete.

You are not just a physical body; you are consciousness. Healing your unhealed parts raises your consciousness so you can live through the highest version of yourself.

Also, for a limited time only, you can purchase the "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" three part meditation series at a 50% discount. Just use promotion code "SoulMind" at checkout. Steps to Healing Your Unhealed Parts DISCLAIMER: Please note that this ebook provides information only based on my experiences with clients and my professional training. The healing that is discussed in this book and the exercises provided below are considered complementary healing and should only be considered in addition to and not in place of any mental healthcare or medical healthcare provided by a licensed mental or medical healthcare practitioner. If you are in need of mental or physical healthcare, you are hereby advised to immediately seek that care from a licensed professional.

No part of this eBook is meant to diagnose or treat any mental or emotional illness. This ebook is for informational purposes only and may not be used for any physical, mental or emotional healing work that requires the attention of a professional healing practitioner. This ebook provides information on healing the soul which should only be used in conjunction with proper mental and medical treatment.

This ebook may not be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, without written permission from the author. Steps to Healing Your Unhealed Parts Please read through the exercises below before starting the healing process. By first becoming familiar with each step, you will be able to experience a smoother journey.

Sometimes it is easier to heal your unhealed parts with the guidance of another. If you find these exercises are not helping you access and heal those unhealed parts, for further assistance, you can purchase the guided meditation titled "Healing Your Unhealed Parts" on my website www.HeartsinHarmonyHypnosis.com.

The first step to healing your unhealed parts is awareness of them. Awareness starts with connecting to the heart energy.

Find a comfortable space where you can sit or lie down and where you will not be disturbed for at approximately 30-45 minutes. If you feel guided, you can play comforting healing music while you journey into the heart.

Taking the Journey within:

Begin with a long deep cleansing breath in and upon the exhale allow y0ur eyes to close softly.

Take some comfortable long deep breaths in and direct the slow and gentle exhale of your breath into your heart center. Do this several times until you feel yourself connecting with the heart area. Stay focused only on the inhale of the breath and the exhale into the heart area. As you breathe into the heart area, imagine the heart center opening up and your breath going deep inside. As the breath goes deep within the heart center, imagine the energy of your heart expanding out. Continue to stay focused on the breath and the heart area. The connection of the breath into the heart energy is the connection to spirit energy.

As the energy of the heart expands out you become more and more connected to the wisdom and intelligence of your heart consciousness where your spirit energy lives.

Focusing on the wisdom and intelligence of the heart energy and spirit within, ask your heart to reveal to you a part of you that you have neglected; a part of you that needs your attention. Your spirit energy is connected to the soul consciousness where your unhealed parts became locked into the soul mind.

Ask that unhealed part to come to you now. Imagine your adult self standing with open arms and welcoming this part of you.

If after a while you feel that there may be a protector part blocking access to an unhealed part of you, you can move to step two of the healing process.

If you do not encounter a protector part and you can feel the lost part of you surfacing, then go to step three. Getting Past Protector Parts

If you feel that nothing is surfacing or you see or sense only black or nothingness, you may have a protector part that doesn't want you to enter that territory. When this happens, you can state clearly in your mind or out loud that you are ready for the healing process to begin as follows:

Thank you for protecting me. I am ready to heal this part of me. I ask that you allow me to bring love and compassion to this hurt part. I appreciate you doing your job and you are doing it well; however, I have grown wiser and have more resources for healing. I am here now to heal this part of me with all the love and compassion it needs. Once the healing is complete, your new job is to surround these healed parts with love. You are always needed.

Give the protector part time to let go. You may need to periodically remind the protector part that you are there with the best of intentions and that no harm will be brought to any part of you. Also, your protector part doesn't want to be extinguished. It's important to let it know that it is always needed. You can say:

Please allow me to acknowledge the part of me you are protecting. I am bringing love and compassion from my heart center. I only want to help this part of me heal. Please trust my intentions. I am speaking from my heart.

I understand the protection and I am grateful for it; however, the situation can be resolved and this part of me can heal. Please allow me to help this part heal its wounds. This hurt part of me needs to know it is not going to be alone anymore. I am here to bring it back home where this part of me can feel loved, accepted, cared for and safe.

If you are still blocked from access, you may need to try this again another day. Give your protector part time to trust you. The more you show a loving, compassionate heart, the more your protector part will trust that you are sincere in helping your fragmented parts get healed.

If you are successful in getting past the protector, then proceed to step three.

Always thank your parts for the healing work that has been done so far. Feelings the Feelings of Your Unhealed Parts

At step three to Healing Your Unhealed Parts, you now have access to a fragmented part of you. At this time, continue to breathe into your heart center and feel yourself blending with the energy (consciousness) of this fragment. As you feel yourself blending with the energy of the fragment, feel into its feelings.

When you can feel what this part of you is feeling (example: unloved, unworthy, lonely), thank this part of you for being brave and courageous for showing up today and for trusting you. You can say:

Thank you for showing yourself to me. You are brave and courageous. Thank you for trusting me. I am here to give you what you need to feel safe and loved. You are a very important part of me. I am sorry I was not aware of your needs before. Please let me provide those needs to you now. Once this part of you expresses what it feels, you can go to step four in the healing process. If your fragmented part is having a difficult time expressing what it feels, keep letting it know that:

I am here to hold a space of love and compassion for you. I am here to help you heal what needs to be healed. Please tell me what you are feeling. What is it that you need so you can feel safe and loved? I want to provide to you what you need. Your needs are important and you deserve to have all your needs met.

If after a while, you are unable to feel the feelings of your unhealed parts, then you may need to come back to this part another time. You can say the following:

Thank you for being here. I understand you are not ready and that is OK. I understand that you need more time and I honor that. Thank you for the work we did today. I will be back again because I will never give up on you. I respect that you need more time. I love you and I am here for you when you feel ready to start the healing process.

If you are successful in connecting with the feelings of this unhealed part, you can go to step four of the healing process. Meeting the Needs of Your Fragmented Parts

At this point you are connected deeply with the feelings of an unhealed part of you. Your unhealed part may say it feels unworthy, alone, unloved, not pretty enough, not tall enough and so on. It's important to just listen to your inner guidance as these parts begin to reveal themselves to you.

You can proceed as follows:

What is it that you did not receive that you needed at the time you separated from me? What do you need so you no longer feel ______(fill in the feeling revealed by your unhealed part).

Wait for the answer.

When you hear the answer, ask this part of you: Would it be ok if I give you what you need? I am sorry I did not give you what you needed when you needed it. I am sorry I did not support you when you needed me to. I was lost and confused myself. I am here for you now and I love you. You deserve to be happy. I am sorry I didn't know how valuable, lovable and significant you are. I know that now. Please forgive me for not knowing how to cope with your feelings. Is it OK if I love you the way you deserved to be loved? Is it OK if I provide the feeling of ______(fill in the blank with what your unhealed part needs) to you now?

Note: Sometimes your unhealed part will say it needs a hug. If you hear or somehow sense that your unhealed part needs a hug, rephrase the section above to providing that hug with all the love you have within you.

When you can sense that your unhealed part is allowing you to meet that unmet need, imagine yourself holding this part of you with your spirit body and transferring to this fragmented part (from your heart energy all around you) what this part needs to feel loved and safe. Keep transferring the loving heart energy and keep reminding this part that they are loved, safe and receiving healing from your spiritual essence. Then tell this part of you that it is now receiving an abundance of ______(fill in blank with what is needed). Keep holding that fragmented part until you can feel a release of the emotional wound and your soul feels lighter.

If the fragmented part does not allow you to provide what it needs, or if this part of you is not yet ready to release the emotional wound even after it lets you provide what it needs, then let it know that:

It's OK. I understand that you need more time to trust the process. I respect your need to trust me. I will not forget about you. I will come back another time and I will keep working on the healing process with you. You are never alone. I am always here loving you. You are safe. At this point, you will need to come back and work through this part of the process again, always being kind, patient, gentle and understanding with each fragmented part that you are working with. It may be necessary to go through the healing process several times. Always thank your parts for the healing work that has been done so far.

If you are successful in helping your fragmented part receive the healing and you feel lightness in your soul consciousness, you can now say:

How do you feel now? Do you feel me loving you? Can you feel that abundance of ______I am sending into your soul consciousness?

You want to hear that this part feels lighter, better, happier; anything that indicates healing of the emotional wound. Sometimes you need to go through this process for the wound to feel completely healed. Even if this part of you feels lighter, there may be some residual energy that needs to be released.

It is now time to move to step five in the healing process. Forgiveness and Compassion

If you made it this far, you are doing great. If you are having challenges, it means your fragmented parts need more time to trust the process. Remember, these are parts of you that you once rejected. They need time to trust that you love these parts of you, that you want to help them heal and you want them to come back home where they belong.

Keep breathing deep into the heart energy and stay deeply connected to the feelings of your unhealed part. As you provide to your unhealed part what it needs, and you feel lightness in your soul energy, then it is time to say to this part:

I am sorry for neglecting you for so long. I did not realize how hurt you were. Please forgive me for not knowing what you needed. Please know I am here for you now. I want you to know that you are loved, wanted, significant and very valuable to me. I will always love you and keep you safe here with me. Can you forgive me?

If you hear or sense "no" or there is no response to your request for forgiveness, then this part needs more time to forgive you. This part of you may be angry or just deeply hurt. You may need to come back and work with this part again.

Stay focused on your breath and continue to stay connected to your heart center.

You also need to find out if this hurt part of you is blaming anyone else for its suffering. It is important that all people that this part holds responsible for what it feels to be forgiven. Forgiveness is necessary for the wounded part of you to let go of the anger, resentment, fear and feelings of unworthiness. It is important to remind this part that it doesn't need to rely on others to get its needs met; you are here to provide all that this part needs to feel safe and loved. Many people are just not capable of fulfilling the needs of others because of their own emotional deficiencies. You can say:

I know it has not been easy for you. You did not receive what you needed to feel whole and complete. It's not that you didn't deserve to have all your needs met; it's just that the people you depended on to provide those needs to you were just not capable. What you needed from them, they did not receive themselves. Can you find it in your heart to forgive those that were unable to give you what you needed? Can you pray for them to heal themselves so that can feel whole again? Can you release them from the responsibility of providing to you what they could not provide to themselves?

Would it be Ok to forgive those that didn't give you what you needed?

Wait to hear this part of you respond. If you hear or sense "yes", then notice how it feels in your heart center when forgiveness has taken place. You should feel light in the heart. If your heart feels uneasy or heavy, the forgiveness was superficial and not complete. You may need to come back and repeat this part of the process. Always check with how you heart feels after you hear or sense "yes" to forgiveness of others. After hearing or sensing "yes" to forgiveness, ask this part if you can send compassion from your heart consciousness into the hearts of all involved so they can feel, on a soul level, that your wounded part wants them to heal their unhealed parts.

At this point, you need to hear or sense permission to send compassion. If you don't get permission to send compassion, then come back to this part of the process and work with it again. When a part is truly ready to forgive, the hurt part should also be able to feel compassion for those that have unhealed parts that caused them to hurt others. Compassion is an important part of the forgiveness process.

If you hear or sense "no" to the forgiveness request or if there is no response, say "I understand you are not ready and that is OK". You can also remind your wounded part that the person or people that this part is holding responsible for their wounded self were also once small children who did not get their emotional needs met by their caregivers. This reminds your unhealed part that they are hurt people also and they felt undeserving of getting their needs met. This helps your fragmented part feel compassion for them. When we feel compassion for ourselves and others, we find it easier to forgive. Always thank your parts for the healing work that has been done so far.

If you are successful in forgiveness and compassion for self and others involved, then it is time to go to the final step in the healing process. Integrating Your Healed Parts

Congratulations if you made it to the final step. This can be a smooth process for some and a very challenging process for others. Some of us have very strong protector parts and may need outside assistance in Soul Level Healing work. That is perfectly OK. We are here to heal, not compete with each other.

It is now time to invite your healed part(s) back into the whole of your being so you can begin to return the soul to wholeness. Always thank your parts for the healing work that has been done so far, including your protector parts. Now that this part of you feels that the situation has been taken to completion (fully resolved in the soul mind) you can let it know that it's time to come home.

At this point, reach out to this healed part of you by imagining your arms stretching out and bringing this part of you into your heart center. As you place this part of you into your heart center, you can say: Thank you for being so brave and courageous. It is time for you to come home to the present time with me. The past is over and you are here with me now. You are here in my heart where you can feel safe and loved always. I will forever hold you in my heart and remind you how amazing, brave, courageous, special and loved you are. You are a part of me and I will love you always.

I also invite my protector part to join us in the heart center where it can do its job as protector at a higher level of awareness and in the present moment here with my adult self. I am asking my protector part to hold a space of love around this healed part. Please serve this part of me in every way you can for its highest good. Your new job is to use your protector skills to protect me only when there is a true and current threat to my safety. Thank you for your continued service.

Please use the above wording or use you own words, as you feel so guided, so that your healed parts know that they are no longer in the past and they are here with you now and that your protector parts have a new job. It's important that you don't make any part of you obsolete, including your protector parts. For you to feel whole, you must integrate all healed parts into your heart consciousness, including all protector parts.

This process can be used for each of your fragmented parts. Some may be more stubborn or blocked than others. Always be patient, loving, kind and compassionate with all parts of you, including your protector parts.

Remember to always go back to any part of the process that is not complete. Do not go to the next step in the healing process until each prior one is complete. Steps to Healing Your Unhealed Parts: Conclusion

As discussed, if your needs went unmet, then chances are your parents or primary caregivers didn't get those needs met either. You can be the one that stops the flow of tribal fears that are running down the ancestral line and bring deep healing to the soul mind of yourself and those that follow you in ancestry.

Let your wise heart intelligence that is the essence of your spirit do the work that needs to be done. Let your higher intelligence be your guide to deep inner healing. You have all that you need within you to heal those unhealed parts. It takes a deeper connection to your soul consciousness. Open your heart, open your mind, step into your spirit consciousness and locate those lost parts so they can be healed.

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