James Rhodes Classical Pianist and Mental-Health Campaigner
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FITNESS ISSUE 2018 “ I hope people will think, ‘Maybe I can have a messy life too and it’s OK’ ” James Rhodes Classical pianist and mental-health campaigner f you have read James Rhodes’s memoir ricocheting between optimism and crippling self- THE Instrumental, you will not have forgotten it. If doubt. At times, Fire can feel self-indulgent — not to MAGAZINE you have not, do so now. I cannot write anything mention foul-mouthed. (It opens with Rhodes saying if INTERVIEW about Rhodes more affecting than he has written he met Bach, “I don’t know if I’d punch him or blow KATIE himself. Instrumental is his harrowing account of him”.) Yet it’s also a brilliant, jangling opus to Rhodes’s Ithe horrendous sexual abuse he suffered for years as a frantic mind, his writing more powerful because men GLASS child, at the hands of a PE teacher at his north London are rarely so emotionally candid. prep school. The book never shies away from discussing Given the turmoil of Rhodes’s internal life, he seems the graphic physical and mental fallout: the serious surprisingly chipper in the flesh, springing along the spinal injury it left Rhodes with, requiring three bouts street to the Ivy Cafe, ordering a hearty shepherd’s pie. of surgery; his depression, OCD, self-harm, alcoholism, His hair is wiry and wild, as if he’s been electrocuted, breakdown, drug addiction and suicide attempt in a which suits his frenetic personality. He’s fun company: psychiatric hospital. It is a book filled with anger, in scruffy jeans, a grey hoodie and a coat, when the sadness and torment, yet also, wonderfully, it is the photographer asks him to unbutton it, he quips: “Aren’t story of how Rhodes transcended trauma through a you at least going to buy me a drink?” But as we eat, I profound love of classical music. realise he’s checking himself out in a mirror over my Shortly after Rhodes’s ordeal began, aged six, he shoulder — he is a self-confessed narcissist. heard Bach’s Chaconne for solo violin in D minor and He appears to have a wonderful life — shuttling was transported: “It was like magic. It suddenly made between London’s Maida Vale and Madrid: “f****** sense of things.” Later, this passion led him to carve out paradise”. He’s dating a beautiful Argentinian actress, a career as a concert pianist, despite having no formal Micaela Breque, who is “gentle, calm, kind” and, at 28, academic musical education. The first classical pianist 14 years younger than him. (Like all complicated men, to be signed by Warner, his unpretentious style has women throw themselves at him. He gets through two seen him called the “Jamie Oliver of the grand piano”. wives and two girlfriends over the course of the books.) Alongside six albums, he also produced a campaigning She’s a fan he met via Instagram a few months ago. Channel 4 series, Don’t Stop the Music, addressing the He’s shortly off to Argentina to meet her parents. importance of music education in schools. Rhodes spends his time writing, recording, Instrumental sold more than 75,000 copies and performing and, now, putting together a film of found Rhodes legions of fans (75,100 on Twitter). After Instrumental that might star his friend Benedict his first wife tried to get the book banned, it also landed Cumberbatch or Ben Whishaw, Andrew Garfield, him a £2m court case that cost him his second Eddie Redmayne or — he grins wryly — Kathy Bates. marriage and almost his sanity. His new book, Fire on He has quit cigarettes, which seems miraculous All Sides, chronicles his mental state since. The title, given that in Fire he’s an insomniac chain-smoker. Still, a stage direction from Don Giovanni, describes when I ask if he’s happy, he’s noncommittal: “No, not Rhodes’s feelings about life most of the time. That it is really. Is anyone happy?” he shrugs. “If I’m just alone in CLYMONT FOR THE SUNDAY TIMES MAGAZINE. SPECIAL THANKS TO STEINWAY HALL, MARYLEBONE STEINWAY TO THANKS SPECIAL MAGAZINE. TIMES THE SUNDAY FOR CLYMONT PHOTOGRAPH “hot and dangerous and my world is either about to a hotel room and I’m jet-lagged, I’m ready to blow my c STUART melt or collapse”. Yet rather than let those thoughts brains out in three minutes.” McCLYMONT consume him, the book explores his struggle to change, The day before we meet, he tweets that he’s having M STUART 6 • The Sunday Times Magazine The Sunday Times Magazine • 7 FITNESS ISSUE2018 your ex jeopardising your entire fi nancial future and “ The one thing any kind of abuse, your livelihood, saying unspeakable things about you.” Most terribly, it threatened to reinforce Rhodes’s especially sexual abuse, has in shame about his horrifi c abuse. “When you’ve been raped and you don’t talk about it for years, I’m not common is the perpetrators always having someone I had a child with say, ‘You can’t talk about this.’ ” Their relationship remains so bitter that say: ‘You have to keep quiet’ ” she won’t talk to him, even though they have a son. “I have to beg the stepfather to update me. There’s no “one of those days where everything feels wrong and communication unless I go through a lawyer.” you want to destroy yourself”. It gets 1,637 likes, which At the time of the trial, Rhodes pointed out that his says something about how much people admire his son wouldn’t read Instrumental because it “ is not a openness. He believes it’s “important to be transparent children’s book”. He sees him as often as he can. and honest. If something is shit, say it is shit.” Now he is older, they have discussed it “in an age- Having hidden his truth for 30 years, which led him appropriate way”. “That to me is much, much, much to a breakdown, now he has to be honest: “It’s talk or more valuable than saying, ‘We’re not going to talk die ,” he says, scanning the room of west Londoners about it, we’ll pretend it never happened.’ ” ya kking cheerily over lunch. “Most people in here will His own family, he says, remain in denial. Most of have something. We all have some experience of them have barely spoken to him since Instrumental’s trauma or a mental-health issue.” He believes there is release and almost none ha s read or will mention it. teenagers.” Stopping was “the hardest thing I’ve ever When I suggest he believes genius is bo rn of PLAYING TO WIN an “epidemic” of self-loathing, partly fuelled by the “I fi nd it really disturbing that somebody can write had to do”. He describes the act as being like “when a madness, he denies it. For a start, he thinks that “we’re Rhodes with his unrealistic images we are presented with. a book and their closest family members won’t even kettle’s boiling and it won’t stop. And then you turn it all quite mad” but, for some, creativity provides “a friend Benedict He’s scornful of social media: “ That whole millennial acknowledge it, like it didn’t happen.” He says that is off and it just goes psshh … People think it’s an indicator distraction. Instead of wanting to throw yourself out of Cumberbatch at the Instagram life, where people are happy all the time, is the type of attitude that allows abuse to thrive. Is he of suicidal ideation. It’s the opposite. It’s a coping the window at four in the morning, you have a piano.” Supreme Court after insane . Everything is perfectly curated and angry with his parents? He replies, diplomat ically : strategy .” He quickly adds, “That’s not to endorse He believes in the healing power of art. Although he winning the right to Photoshopped and fi ltered to give the impression that “I’m angry most of the time.” He speaks warmly of his [self-harming],” but there is an uncomfortable admits in the book that he’s crippled by nerves when he publish his book, in everyone else’s [lives are rubbish]. So of course we hate mother — “Of course, if she’d known, things would romanticism about the way he speaks about it. performs, he endures it “because the love outweighs the 2015. Left: on stage ourselves. I hope that if people read the book they’ll have been diff erent” — and says conspicuously little Reading Rhodes’s books, at times I feel equally fear. Because it’s music ... I’d die without it.” at the Classic Brit just think, f****** hell, maybe I can have a messy life about his father. Given his openness, details about his uncomfortable with his attraction to madness and the Given his passion, I’m amazed Rhodes never Awards in 2009 too and it’s OK.” early life, their marriage or even whether he has siblings suggestion that perhaps genius depends on it. He talks composes . “If I felt I could compose four bars in the Rhodes aspires to honesty about everything. He’s are oddly missing from his memoir. When I tr y to ask, about musicians he loves through the prism of their same universe as Bach, Beethoven, Prokofi ev, Chopin, honest about his loathing for Classic FM: “I would he shrugs: “The book was about me, not my family.” pain. Schubert: “constantly broke, relying on friends for Liszt, Brahms, Rachmaninov, Schubert, Schumann, rather rim a tramp than listen to Classic FM.” About He says he wrote Instrumental as “an SOS”, hoping food”.