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WINTER 2021 TEVET-SHEVAT-ADAR-NISAN 5781 Image credit: Hananel Segal WHAT’S INSIDE RABBI CHAIM STRAUCHLER .......................................3 YOUTH MATTERS ........................................................15 ROBIN GOFINE, PRESIDENT .......................................5 PRE-YOM KIPPUR HAVDALLAH, COVID CAMPAIGN RABBI ELLIOTT DIAMOND .......................................... 7 LAUNCH AND FAREWELL TO THE SHORE FAMILY ... 16 NICOLE TOLEDANO, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR ..............8 CALENDARS ..............................................................27 RABBI SAMMY BERGMAN ...........................................9 PHOTO GALLERY ........................................................31 NETIVOT HATORAH DAY SCHOOL .............................13 MEMBER NEWS ..........................................................50 2 WINTER 2021 TEVET-SHEVAT-ADAR-NISAN 5781 3 RABBI CHAIM From the Rabbi’s Desk STRAUCHLER COVID-19: A Success Story n his book, The Home We Build Together, Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sackszt”l describes three parables for society and identity: the country house, the hotel and the home. The country house divides us into hosts and guests. There are insiders and outsiders, the majority and minorities. In the hotel, everyone is a guest. You pay the price; you get a room; and you are free to do what you like so long as you do not interfere with the other guests. In the Ihome, we care about belonging – it is not just where we are but who we are. We have responsibilities to our home – not just rights within it. Rabbi Sacks applies these parables to English society. attendance at virtual services, without the annual cash The country house is the assimilationist model – infusion that in-person High Holiday services bring, and with “the melting pot.” The hotel is the procedural state community members under financial pressure, congregations with its embrace of multi-culturalism. The home is across the denominational spectrum aren’t sure how they’ll Rabbi Sacks’ vision of a future society committed to a make ends meet this year. common project. At Shaarei Shomayim, these dire predictions did not come Rabbi Sacks’ three parables apply not just to political life true. As a synagogue community, we are not a country house but also to synagogue life. We have witnessed these three or a hotel. We have been, are and will be a home. In the midst of parables during the COVID Crisis. Every experience in life the crisis, new members joined us in support of our response teaches us something. This is especially true of crises. In these and the values that our response reflects. Throughout the moments, we can learn the most about others and ourselves. crisis, we come together. Throughout the crisis, we take the A synagogue might be seen as a country house in that there health (physical, social, spiritual and mental) of our people are insiders and outsiders with varying levels of commitment. seriously. In the early stages of the pandemic, we reached out Before Rosh Hashana this year, suspicions were raised, online to one another - seeking out those who were alone. For the and within many communities, about whether members High Holidays, I turned to a great group of volunteers who would rejoin their synagogues. In the midst of a pandemic, stepped up in leading services. Many more reached out for would people contribute to an institution, if they were not guidance during this time for themselves, their families and able to attend regular High Holiday services? The question their friends. At Kol Nidrei, we launched the Community presumes an insider and outsider perspective. The insiders COVID Crisis Campaign, which I initiated and led with the judge the outsiders’ commitment. help of dedicated community volunteers. We have already A synagogue might be seen like a hotel in that a synagogue raised over half a million dollars from over 165 families. Yet, is a business that serves consumers. When a product is success is not in dollars. Success is in the commitment and delivered, the customer pays; when the synagogue is closed connection that those dollars reflect. – due to a pandemic or otherwise – he or she does not. What happened? Why did we succeed in the face of this Both these parables find echoes in the following quote terrible crisis? The answer is, “A shul is a home.” Our Judaism from a July 2020 JTA article: isn’t a consumer product or experience. Our Judaism is our Across the country, synagogues are bracing for a significant reduction in revenues. Though many are seeing increased cont. on page 4 2 WINTER 2021 TEVET-SHEVAT-ADAR-NISAN 5781 3 cont. from page 3 COVID-19: A Success Story identity. Whether our health allows us “For four decades, since my time lot of bad predictions, predictions that to come to shul or not, our Judaism as a graduate student, I have been can have… serious consequences….” is a part of who we are. That identity preoccupied by… the myriad ways in – Richard H. Thaler, Misbehaving: The involves coming together (sometimes which people depart from the fictional Making of Behavioural Economics. in person – always in spirit) during creatures that populate economic Translating the Econ paradigm into difficult times. That identity means models. It has never been my point a Jewish context, we might describe living for more than our self-interest. to say that there is something wrong Jewcons as people who are always We take responsibility for the destiny rational, always selfish, and unchanging of our people. We take responsibility in their tastes. They live in Rabbi Sacks’ for that destiny as embodied by We understand that hotel parable with very little interest our synagogue. It is here, with our in their part of the Jewish story or in community, that we do together the our greatest asset is their responsibility to one another. things that we cannot do alone. However, COVID-19 has proven this One of the challenges that Rabbi not in the bank – understanding of Jews wrong. We are Sacks faced in applying the parable of but in the relationships not Jewcons. We are enriched with home to general society is that many neshamot that respond well to the call had forgotten what a home is. In our that give our lives of the Torah. We understand that our preoccupation with the language of greatest asset is not in the bank – but rights, we have forgotten the idea meaning, especially in the relationships that give our lives of responsibilities. We have become our relationship meaning, especially our relationship an I-generation: iPod, iPhone, I to Hashem. When under pressure, everything. We see everything in terms with Hashem. we will not mortgage our part in the of the individual, and this causes an story of our people – our home – for error in our thinking. consumables of any sort. We have So why did the prognosticators with people; we are all just human demonstrated who we are. We are not quoted by the JTA get this wrong beings – homo sapiens. Rather, the Jewcons – we are Jewman beings. This (almost as bad as US pollsters, l’havdil.) problem is with the model being used is the story of our success this time – In some respects they are like classical by economists, a model that replaces and through time. economists who have created a fictional homo sapiens with a fictional creature Yashar kochachem. Let us take creature to populate their model of the called homo economicus, which I like pride in our commitments. May we Jewish people – this creature is very to call an Econ for short. Compared to merit to celebrate this success in much like what Richard Thaler calls this fictional world of Econs, Humans health and happiness – TOGETHER – “Econs” in contrast to humans. What’s do a lot of misbehaving, and that sometime soon. an Econ? Thaler explains: means that economic models make a DO YOU RECEIVE RABBI STRAUCHLER’S DAILY UPDATES AND WEEKLY TORAH FOR YOUR LIFE EMAILS? If not, please contact the shul office to be included in the email list. Please visit his regularly updated blog: shomayim.org/rabbi-strauchlers-blog 4 WINTER 2021 TEVET-SHEVAT-ADAR-NISAN 5781 5 President’s Message ROBIN GOFINE Hope and Inspiration s I write this article, Shaarei Shomayim has just so capably oversees our minyanim and ensures that they run locked down for the second time in eight months. smoothly. In addition, our Medical Committee Chair Gili We are now legally permitted to have no more Rosen, and Security Committee Co- Chairs Marc Koplowitz than ten people in the building for davening at and Eric Ohayon, have advised and guided us and kept us Aany one time. The surge of COVID-19 is strong, and the healthy and safe, enabling all of us to attend shul with peace cold of winter is approaching. There is, however, reason to of mind in the past months. be hopeful. 4. The wonderful programs being initiated by our Youth Rabbi Jonathan Sackszt”l notes that even though the Second Committee Chairs Rachel Shour and Dalia Yunger, under Temple was destroyed, Jewish hope was not. We remain a the capable leadership of Avital Strauchler and our Youth hopeful people – “Od lo avdah tikvatenu”– “we have not yet Director Ari Karon. lost our hope,” teaches Hatikvah, and articulates our 2,000 5. The kindness of shul members and our Chessed year-old hope of returning to the Land of Israel, restoring it, Committee, who reach out to others and give encouraging and claiming it as a free and sovereign nation. words and provide support. In honour of the eight days of Chanukah, I want to share 6. The spirituality of the men and women who attend the eight things that bring light and make me feel hopeful minyan twice daily in person and on Zoom, and dedication about the future: and resilience of our teens who have maintained their 1. The unwavering and unending pastoral care, concern commitment to davening by organizing their own minyanim and compassion toward the ill, vulnerable and bereaved in backyards in the neighbourhood.