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the Volume 31, Number 7 March 2012 TEMPLE BETH ABRAHAM Adar / Nisan 5772 Volume 37, Number 4 • December 2017 • Kislev/Tevet 5778 Acts of Resilience... Like the MacCabees R i Pu M DIRECTORY GENERAL INFORMATION: All phone numbers use (510) prefix unless otherwise noted. SERVICES SCHEDULE Mailing Address 336 Euclid Ave. Oakland, CA 94610 Monday & Thursday Morning Minyan Hours M-Th: 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Fr: 9 a.m.-3 p.m. In the Chapel, 8:00 a.m. Office Phone 832-0936 On Holidays, start time is 9:00 a.m. Office Fax 832-4930 E-Mail [email protected] Friday Evening (Kabbalat Shabbat) STAFF In the Chapel, 6:15 p.m. Rabbi (x 213) Mark Bloom Richard Kaplan, Candle Lighting (Friday) Cantor [email protected] December 1 4:32 p.m. Gabbai Marshall Langfeld December 8 4:32 p.m. Executive Director (x 214) Rayna Arnold Office Manager (x 210) Virginia Tiger December 15 4:34 p.m. Bet Sefer Director Susan Simon 663-1683 December 22 4:37 p.m. Jill Rosenthal & Marta Molina Gan Avraham Director December 29 4:41 p.m. 763-7528 Bookkeeper (x 215) Suzie Sherman Shabbat Morning Facilities Manager (x 211) Joe Lewis In the Sanctuary, 9:30 a.m. Kindergym/ Dawn Margolin 547-7726 Toddler Program Torah Portions (Saturday) OFFICERS OF THE BOARD December 2 Vayishlach President Laura Wildmann 601-9571 December 9 Vayeshev Vice President Alice Hale 336-3044 December 16 Miketz Vice President JB Leibovitch 653-7133 December 23 Vayigash Vice President Etta Heber 530-8320 Vice President Ulli Rotzscher 559-0632 December 30 Vayetzei Secretary David Goodwin 655-0529 Treasurer Daniel Jaffe 479-7441 TEMPLE BETH ABRAHAM COMMITTEES & ORGANIZATIONS: If you would like to is proud to support the Conservative contact the committee chairs, please contact the synagogue Movement by affiliating with The United office for phone numbers and email addresses. 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Omer Lisa Fernandez & Rachel Dornhelm Personnel Laura Wildmann The Omer (USPS 020299) is published by Public Relations Lisa Fernandez Temple Beth Abraham, a non-profit, located at Ritual Marshall Langfeld 336 Euclid Avenue, Oakland, CA 94610; telephone Schools Etta Heber (510) 832-0936. It is published monthly except Social Action Alice Hale for the months of July and August for a total of 10 WLCJ Torah Fund Anne Levine issues per annum. It is sent as a requester publica- Women of TBA Jessica Sterling & Kathy Saunders tion and there is no paid distribution. Youth Amanda Cohen 2 i WHAT’S HAPPENING Please Join Us for Two Community Wide Events in December! GAN SHABBAT Saturday, December 9th, 9:30 a.m. Gan Avraham will sponsor the Kiddush luncheon but in addition, Gan staff, parents, and alumni staff will participate in the entire Shabbat service. The best part??? The Gan children will do a “sermon in song” for the congregation! We did this last year for the first time and it was such a beautiful event and a lovely opportunity for the greater TBA community to mingle with and get a glimpse of our Gan community. GAN AND BET SEFER HANUKKAH CELEBRATION Sunday, December 17th from 3-5 p.m. For a fun-filled holiday program. Shadow puppeteer, Daniel Barash will do a show and afterwards, we will have some fund activities (think “Pin the Flame on the Hanukkiah”!) and yummy treats! This is another opportunity for our education programs to join together and build community. We hope to see many of you at these wonderful events!! TBA BOOK GROUP Tuesday, January 23 at 7 p.m. The Weight of Ink by Rachel Kadish RSVP: Judy at [email protected] for the location. MAH JONGG Upcoming La’atid Program Join us on the 2nd Shabbat of the month as we Sunday 12/10/17: Hanukkah Party at TBA: gather in the Chapel after Kiddush. Make delicious Hanukkah foods like latkes and December 9, 2017 sufganiyot, and wrap gifts for a local nonprofit organization. See PAGE 6 for MORE events More Information or RSVP: [email protected] with Women of TBA 1 FROM THE RABBI The Resilient Rabbi My first job as a rabbi was miserable, and I was completely unprepared. In rabbinical school, I had student congregations, one in Great Falls, Montana, and one in South Atlanta, Georgia, and my experiences there were smashing successes. I worked with children and adults at key points in their lives, enjoyed giving sermons, taught all kinds of classes, added innovative programs, and made many great friends. I felt like I was ready to be a “real rabbi” the moment I was ordained. Plus, I had already worked in business for a cou- ple of years, so I was anticipating a great connection at my first full time pulpit, a young and exciting congregation in Westchester County, New York. And then I started the actual job. It was a disaster from the beginning, mostly because it was a mismatch. I would venture to say that about 90-95% of the congregation loved what I was doing—religiously, educationally, during life cycle events, and especially with their children. But the 5-10% who didn’t were among the leaders of the congregation. They did things that made it seem more like a church than a synagogue to me, and I had trouble stomaching them. Many in synagogue leadership were unsupportive and even downright mean. One member even called me a Nazi. Here is what one member of the board of directors wrote to the president of the congregation. We look to a rabbi for “wisdom, fairness, and a vision.” Unfortunately, I have not found that spiritual depth in Rabbi Bloom. There is no question that he has firm ideas as to worship and traditions, but, in my opinion, he is woefully lacking in compassion, understanding, and generosity of spirit. They brought in a special commission to figure out what went wrong and how to “fix” both the situation and me. They concluded that I should probably leave. I had asked to do that very thing, but they wouldn’t let me resign. They felt they would lose too many members, and they had already driven out the last rabbi under similar circumstances. How could I have been so successful in my student pulpits and such a failure in my first “real job?” Was the man being described in that letter really me? What was wrong with this congregation? Well, for one thing, me. I was what was wrong, or at least part of what was wrong. Essentially, I was young and stupid. I made the rookie mistake of making too many changes too quickly. I didn’t value the many unique customs this community had created. I was not “Reform” enough for this Reform congregation. Though I didn’t say it out loud, it was clear that this California boy didn’t want to be in New York, and particularly there, and people picked up on that. I cried myself to sleep nearly every night for about 6 months. That was 20 years ago. I have been at Temple Beth Abraham for the last 16 ½ years and loved nearly every moment of it. It’s a shidduch (Hebrew word for match). I am fulfilled in my career. But those first two years were terribly painful. That pain certainly doesn’t compare with a serious illness or abuse or addiction or tragic death, but they were very dark days for me. I nearly quit and went back to the business world. But, deep down, I knew I had to be resilient. I knew I had to learn from my mistakes. That I could find a better match and do better. I took my primary inspiration from Moses in the Torah. If he could get through the wilderness for 40 years with his “congregation” complain- cont on page 19 Rabbi Bloom invites you to join him and a TBA Delegation at the AIPAC Conference in Washington DC March 4-6. Help lobby for U.S.-Israel relations directly with Congress and hear from fascinating speak- ers, including the Majority and Minority Leaders from both Houses of Government, as well as all kinds of experts on the Middle East. Please contact Rabbi Bloom directly via e-mail for a special discount code. Scholarships are also available by contacting the rabbi. 2 FROM THE PRESIDENT Building our Resilience Muscle By Laura Wildman December seems like the perfect time of year to write about resilience. Right around now, we read the story of Joseph. While the Torah contains many stories teaching us about resilience, the story of Joseph seems a particularly powerful story of resilience – from being sold into slavery by his brothers to becoming the right-hand man to the Pharaoh to finally reuniting with his family and saving them from famine. We’ve all marveled at the Holocaust survivors in our TBA community, our families, and the greater Jewish community who survived unbelievably traumatizing experiences and still went on to live happy and productive lives.