Power and Control Wheel
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Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans Power and Control Wheel TEROSEXIS HE M IOLENCE L V CA SEX SI U HY USING AL P p g COERCION & USING u in sh IA p THREATS INTIMIDATION in p g H B la making and/or carrying out threats making you afraid by s O O to do something to harm you ● using looks, gestures, actions ● s r h M i threatening to leave or commit ● ● o H a smashing things abusing pets v i O P h suicide ● driving recklessly displaying weapons ● using n USING g USING ● g P to frighten you threaten- looks, actions, gestures S in l l ● EMOTIONAL H ECONOMIC ing to "out" you threat- to reinforce homophobic, h N u i O p ening others who are ABUSE t A ABUSE biphobic or transphobic t ● ● i preventing you from getting important to you putting you down making n B R control g ● g or keeping a job ● making you stalking you feel bad about yourself call- I T n i A ● ing you names ● playing mind games ● k ask for money interfering with o work or education ● using your credit making you feel guilty ● humiliating you A h B I c cards without permission ● not working ● questioning if you are a "real" lesbian, "real" I B and requiring you to provide support man, "real" woman, "real"femme,"real" butch, P ● keeping your name off joint assets etc.● reinforcing internalized homophobia, O POWER biphobia or transphobia H H AND O P USING PRIVILEGE B I USING ISOLATION treating you like a servant ● making CONTROL controlling what you do, who you see or talk I B A all the big decisions ● being the one to ● ! to limiting your outside activities using define each partner's roles or duties g ● jealousy to control you making you A g r ● T I in the relationship using privilege a account for your whereabouts ● saying n i b or ability to "pass" to discredit DENYING, R B p b no one will believe you, especially p A i you, put you in danger, i O n USING MINIMIZING, not if you are lesbian, gay, r g cut off your access to t N H CHILDREN & BLAMING bisexual, or trans S resources, or use the ● ● s P p making you feel guilty making light of the abuse not letting you go u system against ● m P O n about the children saying it didn't happen anywhere alone r e c you a H h ● using children to relay shifting responsibility for abusive g M i n O n messages ● threatening to take behavior ● saying it is your fault, you i O t g s B ● deserved it ! accusing you of "mutual i H the children threatening to tell w I k t A ic your ex-spouse or authorities abuse" ● saying women can't k i abuse women/ men can't abuse g ng that you are lesbian, gay, in men ● saying it's just it P bisexual or trans so b H they will take the "fighting," not Y S A L ICA children abuse XU L SE V IOLE N CE HETEROSEXISM Developed by Roe & Jagodinsky Adapted from the Power & Control and Equity Wheels developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project ● 206 West Fourth Street ● Duluth, Minnesota 55806 ● 218/722-4134 TEXAS COUNCIL ON FAMILY VIOLENCE P.O. Box 161810 ● Austin, Texas 78716 Phone: 512/794-1133 ● Fax: 512/784-1199 www.tcfv.org .