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Elul 5773 - Tishri 5774 Vol. 19 Issue 8 Page 18: Dear Yamim Noraim: Days of Awe

Online Holy Day Info Selihot at Temple Beth Sholom A complete schedule of High Holy Days services, along Our affiliated Temple Beth Sholom in Hamden will host with additional information and forms, is available at www. the Conservative-Masorti Community First Selihot Service beki.org/yamimnoraim.html. A schedule of Sukkot and Sh- on Saturday night Aug. 31. Maariv and Havdala will be emini Atseret services is available at www.beki.org/sukkot. held at 8:30 p.m.; at 8:45 p.m., the film “The Flat” will be html. screened; 10:15 to 11 p.m., discussion and refreshments; Volunteers Needed 11 p.m. Selihot service (ending at midnight). The selihot (penitential) prayers are said during the mid- To volunteer either to help with planning or to partici- dle of the night during the period immediately before Rosh pate in our High Holy Day worship services, please contact HaShana and Yom Kippur. It is believed that a heightened Darryl Kuperstock at [email protected]. Help is needed for sense of spiritual awareness can be achieved during those mailings, Break Fast shopping and planning, greeters and hours. The Conservative Communal service is sponsored by ushers, minyan makers (early attendees), English readings, Congregations B’nai Jacob, Beth Sholom, Or Shalom and printing Yizkor Memorial Book, and more. If you have any BEKI. questions, please speak with Darryl. High Holy Days Participation Need a Letter for Employer or School? Please be sure to return your High Holy Days volunteer Shul members occasionally need letters to employers and participation forms. We will definitely need help with or principals explaining the nature of the every aspect of our holiday celebrations. The form is also Jewish holiday observance. Despite the available on the BEKI website at www.beki.org/ high level of understanding in our com- forms.html. Members who have received munity, there is still a need for education invitations for honors must and information. It is important that our respond and confirm their ac- children be in shul for all of Yontif. ceptance. If you would like such a letter for Rosh HaShana, Yom Kippur or Days of Awe Sukkot, contact Rabbi Tilsen at Michael Stern will serve as our [email protected] or 203.389-2108 Rishon (lead cantor) for x10. Continued on Page 3 BEKI Bulletin September 2013

Benefit Congregation BEKI Bulletin Beth El-Keser Israel The newsletter is published monthly by Congregation Beth El-Keser Israel for the benefit of its members. Ask us about Congregation Beth El-Keser Israel is affiliated with the United establishing a fund, trust or annuity of Conservative . to ensure BEKI’s future. To contribute articles or for inquiries regarding membership:

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Days of Awe personnel on active duty may enter upon presentation of Continued from Page 1 proper identification. Every person in the building must be identified before entry and is subject to search. the High Holy Days, as he did in 5773. Michael is a BEKI Some of the ushers serving during the Holy Days may alumnus and a student of Rabbi Alan be new members. Veteran members who do not recognize Lovins, who served as Hazzan Ris- the ushers are urged to introduce themselves, as our ushers hon for seventeen years. In addition wish to meet as many members and visitors as they can. If to Michael, the services will again you forget your tickets, our ushers will be able to find your be led by BEKI members serving as name on the members or guests list. volunteer hazzanim. Rabbi Tilsen For safety and planning reasons, children must be pre- will conduct the services, as he has registered to participate in children’s services. For registra- each year since 1993. tion information, contact [email protected] or (203) 389- Services are organized and led 2108 x14. Michael Stern entirely by our members. Generally, If you are interested in babysitting service, please Michael will lead the morning service and musaf on contact [email protected] or (203) 389-2108 x14. Walk-in all three days, as well as Kol Nidre, Maariv and Neila on babysitting is not available and will not be available at all Yom Kippur. Birkhot ha-Shahar (morning blessings) and services unless a prior arrangement is made. Children and Pesuqei de-Zimra (Verses of Song) represent a poetry read- infants are welcome in the sanctuary; quiet non-electric ing that creates or reinforces a spiritually sensitive atmo- toys are permitted. sphere, which is an experience unto itself as well as prelude Rosh HaShana to the recitation of Shema and Amida. Shaharit morning The date of Rosh HaShana with respect to the civil services, essentially the recitation of Shema and Amida, calendar is the earliest (night of Sept. 4) this year that it has include popular “sing along” Hebrew piyyutim (poems). been in the lifetime of our members; the next time the holi- Musaf services, the particular additional Amida for the holy day occurs on day, include Sept. 5 will be several inter- the year 2089 pretative or (may we merit contemporary good and long English read- life). ings as well as Rosh cantorial (and HaShana sometimes services begin choral) elabo- Wednesday rations. The night Sept. 4 at shofar is 7 p.m. with the sounded after Minha service, the haftara followed by reading and Maariv at 7:15. again during Candle Light- musaf on both days of Rosh HaShana. The recitation of ing is at 7:03. The service concludes by 7:50 p.m. Morning Shema and hearing the shofar are both considered Biblical services begin at 8:30 on Thursday Sept. 5; several services precepts not to be missed. for children and youth, and a learners’ service, are held as Tickets are required for adult entrance to most services. well. Shofar is sounded at about 10:30 a.m. in the sanctu- Among other reasons, this is to ensure the safety and se- curity of the Congregation. Full-time students and military Continued on Page 3

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Days of Awe Qever Avot Cemetery Memorial Services Continued from Page 3 The annual Qever Avot Cemetery Memorial Services will be held at 10:30 a.m. at the Hamden Cemetery, and at ary; please come to the sanctuary at that hour, or as directed 11:30 a.m. at the West Haven Cemetery on Sunday Sept. 8, by the ushers, if you are elsewhere in the building. which is the Sunday between Rosh HaShana and Yom Kip- Tashlikh (“casting”) services will be held on the first pur. The hour is 30 minutes later than most years because day of Rosh HaShana, Thursday Sept. 5, at 6 p.m., at the of the longer Edgewood morning ser- Bridge and vice marking at the Whit- ney Museum Tsom Gedalia Covered that coincides Bridge. For this year with tashlikh at the Sunday of Beaver Pond Qever Avot. Park, contact Rabbi Tilsen office@beki. will lead a org 389- brief commu- 2108 x14. nal memo- The Tashlikh rial service service is and will be a popular available outdoor event for individ- for people of ual prayers. all ages, and includes a brief prayer, poetry and singing. It Those who wish to visit the graves of their ancestors or is held beside a body of natural water. loved ones but are unable to do so because of distance are On Thursday afternoon of Rosh HaShana, minha service invited to attend along with those whose loved ones are begins at 7 p.m., followed by the evening service at 7:20. buried in the BEKI cemeteries. If you would like a ride to Candle lighting is after 8:03. the service, please contact the office a few days in advance. On Friday Sept. 6, morning services are also at 8:30 a.m. In addition, a representative of the Cemetery Association Youth services are held as well. Shofar is sounded on will be present to answer questions and concerns of those Tuesday morning as well. Afternoon service (minha) begins owning or considering the purchase of plots at the BEKI at 6 o’clock on Friday, and is followed immediately by the cemeteries. Now is a good time to purchase your choice evening service, ending at 6:45 (ending time incor- rectly printed on earlier publications). Candle lighting is 7 of prime locations for traditional Jewish burial in these p.m. Because Shabbat immediately follows the Holy Day, historic cemeteries. Members enjoy a substantial discount; the weekly Qabbalat Shabbat service is abbreviated and only traditionally honored remains of legally Jewish per- comprises only the Psalm for Shabbat, according to com- sons may be interred in these cemeteries. mon practice. Directions to the cemeteries and more information can For instructions on preparing meals for Shabbat in com- be found at www.beki.org/cemetery.html . For information pliance with halakhic considerations in light of the three- on cemetery purchases or upkeep, please contact the BEKI day sequence, please see Sim Shalom for Shabbat Cemetery Association at [email protected] or (203) 389- and Festivals p. 306 s.v. Tavshilin. 2108 x57.

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Yom Kippur On the afternoon before Yom Kippur, Friday Sept. 13, the Minha service begins at 6:45 p.m. Candle Lighting is 6:48 p.m. (or earlier). The Kol Nidre and Maariv Evening services begin promptly at 7:05 and end by 9. Shaharit services begin at 9 a.m.; the Yizkor Memorial service begins after 11 a.m. The Minha Afternoon service begins at 5, and is followed immediately by the Neila and Maariv services. The services end with Havdala and the sounding of the Shofar at 7:45 p.m. George G. Posener Break Fast Following the concluding Yom Kippur services on Motse’ei Shabbat (Saturday night) Sept. 14, please join us as we gather for our amazing community Break Fast. For many years, George G. Posener sponsored the break fast in memory of his family. In preparation for the full-day fast of Yom George G. Posener died on Kippur, it is suggested that caffeine users Yom Kippur 5772 (2011), so reduce their intake to reduce withdrawal this year the break fast honors symptoms on the Holy Day. Some people his memory as well. avoid wearing leather shoes on Yom Kippur, The George G. Posener so do not be surprised to see canvas sneakers Family Memorial Break Fast or other non-leather shoes in use. Some also is prepared entirely by mem- follow the custom of wearing a kittel (white bers of the BEKI community. robe) or other white garments on Yom Kip- Overseen by Darryl Kuper- pur. People who need to eat or drink or take stock and Linden Grazier, most medication on Yom Kippur may speak with of the preparation and all of the an usher, or contact the office in advance, cooking is done in advance, but for assistance if needed. Rabbi Tilsen notes George G. Posener the assembly and plating (and that “People for whom fasting represents clean-up) of this banquet is a significant medical threat are prohibited done by the fantastic volunteers who join us in the kitchen during from fasting. Water, milk or a simple meal the afternoon break on Yom Kippur. It’s fun, intense, and extreme- should be consumed as needed.” ly satisfying – so come help us out this year. Taking a Stand The George G. Posener Family Memorial Yom Kippur While it is customary to stand for some Break Fast Fund at Congregation Beth El-Keser Israel in parts of the service, those for whom stand- blessed memory of his wife, parents, sisters, brother and two ing is difficult, impossible or dangerous precious sons was established by George G. Posener in 2001 to should feel comfortable sitting. Rabbi Tilsen create a lasting memorial at the time of the yahrzeits of his family comments that “You get five points for members. Proceeds from this endowment provide for a special and answering ‘Amen!’ but only one point for meaningful community gathering at the end of Yom Kippur. The standing, so keep it in perspective. This ap- Posener Fund is held and managed by the Jewish Foundation of plies to people of all ages.” Greater New Haven.

Visit us at www.beki.org BEKI Bulletin September 2013 5 News Sukkot, Shemini Atseret and Simhat Torah Sukkot is Coming (“Ecclesiastes”). Qohelet, attributed by tradition to King If you feel a sense of loss at the end of the High Holy Solomon in his old age, is a “wisdom” book that many Days, do not despair: it is time for Sukkot, called the Fes- see as being out of step with the rest of the Torah. While it tival by our ancestors. Lulav & Etrog are used each day of includes such well-known passages as “To everything there Sukkot except Shabbat, until and including Hoshana Rabba. is a season” and “There is nothing new under the sun,” it Information on the festival observances and schedules are also contains statements that seem cynical or nihilistic. The published at www.beki.org/sukkot.html . Book will be chanted according to its beautiful and ancient Set up of the Morris “Moishe” Schnitman Memorial melody. Sukka is planned for Sunday Sept. 15 from 9:30 to 11:30 Shabbat (Saturday) afternoon service begins at 5:45 and a.m. Come when you can. Add a personal touch by bring- ends about 6:20. ing some of your own sekhakh (evergreen branches are Hol HaMoed Sukkot preferred) for the roof to enhance the beauty and aroma “Hol HaMoed,” also known as the “intermediate” days of our congregational sukka. Breakdown and storage are of the festival, are those days between the first two and last planned for Sunday Sept. 29, following Shaharit. Bring two days of Sukkot (and of Pesah). They have a “semi- gloves; portable power drivers and ladders are welcome. holiday” status. The rules against melakha (“work”) that Please come and help. For information and to let us know if apply on Shabbat and Festivals are not fully in force during you can help, contact David Kuperstock (203) 415-4026 or this period, although we are encouraged to take this time [email protected]. as a holiday and to avoid work as much as possible. Our Lulav & Etrog Orders weekday morning services are enhanced with a brief Torah BEKI Religious School will offer lulav and etrog sets. reading, the recitation of the musical “Hallel” section of To order, please contact Ina at [email protected] (203) Psalms, and a brief Musaf (additional) service. Weekday 389-2108 x13. morning services thus take 60 minutes, instead of our usual 30 to 45 minutes. Afternoon and evening services are Sukkot & Shabbat Hol HaMoed the usual length. The lulav (branches) and etrog (citron) Sukkot begins on Wednesday evening Sept. 18. Minha are waved each morning of Hol HaMoed Sukkot (except afternoon service begins at 5:45 p.m., followed immediate- Shabbat), and one is obliged to dwell (to eat is to live) in a ly by the evening service, ending at 6:20. The services will sukka. Some morning and evening services will be held in be held in the Sukka, weather permitting. Candle lighting the BEKI sukka. Some people do not wear tefillin during on Wednesday night is at 6:39. Hol HaMoed; others (common Ashkenazic practice outside The morning service on Thursday Sept. 19 begins at 9:15 of Israel) wear them for shaharit but remove them before and includes the recitation of Hallel, waving of Lulav and Hallel. Etrog, and the recitation of a Hoshana for that day. Services on Thursday night also begin at 5:45, but candle lighting on Hosanna! Hosanna! Thursday is after 7:39. Services on Friday morning Sept. The Hoshana Rabba (“Great Hosanna”) morning service 20 are from 9:15 to 11:36 and again include the taking of on Wednesday Sept. 25 begins at 7 and ends by 8:50. This Lulav and Etrog. is one of the most colorful, fun and tactile services of the Candle lighting on Friday night Sept. 20 is at 6:36. year, featuring seven circuits around the sukka or shul with Services begin at 6 p.m. on Friday, and at 9:15 on Shabbat lulav and etrog (palm and citron) and the hoshana service morning. We do not use Lulav and Etrog on Shabbat. in which willow twigs are beaten on the chairs. Special holiday melodies make this an unforgettable spiritual expe- Shabbat Hol HaMoed rience. Be sure to come to this “service for all ages.” Shabbat Hol HaMoed, Saturday Sept. 21, is marked by reading selections from the Biblical Book of Qohelet Continued on Page 7

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Festival The Yizkor Memorial Service is also incorporated into Continued from Page 6 the Shemini Atseret liturgy. In the Yizkor service we call upon the memories of our ancestors and loved ones who, Hoshana Rabba is a semi-festival on which work is not while not physically present, are part of our “Assembly.” strictly prohibited as it is on the major festivals. It serves as During that memorial service, individual and communal a “closing ceremony” for the weeklong Sukkot observance prayers and remembrances will be offered for all of our in preparation for the concluding festival of Shemini At- departed loved ones. seret. Weather permitting, the Hoshana Rabba service will Simhat Torah Celebration be in the sukka. Congregation Beth El-Keser Israel is the place to be for Must be at work or school before service ends? Come the evening and morning of Simhat Torah. Minha services for shaharit, Hallel and Torah service, or as much as you begin at 5:45 p.m. and evening services begin at 6 on can. Dropping off kids at Ezra Academy or another destina- Thursday Sept. 26. Evening services include seven haqafot tion? Come for the later part of the service, and wave lulav (circumambulatory dances) with Torah scrolls and a brief and etrog following the directions in the red Siddur on page Torah reading, the only time that we read Torah in public at 49 or ask for assistance from another member. night. Candle lighting on Thursday night is after 7:27. This year, Shabbat immediately follows the festivals. As Festival Morning services begin at 9:15 on Friday Sept. cooking on the festivals is permitted only for enjoyment on 27. Three Torah scrolls are removed from the ark (around the festivals, and cooking for Shabbat must be completed 10 a.m.) and seven brief haqafot are conducted. The final before the onset of Shabbat, special measures may be taken. chapters of the Book of Deuteronomy, parashat Ve-Zot For instructions on preparing meals for Shabbat in compli- Ha-Berakha, are read, followed by the opening passages of ance with halakhic considerations in light of the three-day the Book of Genesis, part of parasha Bereishit. This con- sequence, please see Siddur Sim Shalom for Shabbat and cludes the annual Torah reading cycle, and begins the new Festivals p. 306 s.v. Eruv Tavshilin. cycle. This is particularly joyful at BEKI because so many Shemini Atseret & members are involved in Torah reading throughout the year, Yizkor Memorial and these readers dedicate considerable effort to preparing Service accurate and melodious chantings. A maftir portion is read The Festival of Shemini from Numbers, which describes the observance of Shemini Atseret (“Eighth Day of As- Atseret in the ancient Temple. The haftara is recited from sembly”) serves as a conclu- the opening passages of Joshua, which is the sequel to Deu- sion to the autumn Festival teronomy, sometimes called the “sixth book” of the Five of Sukkot (“Booths”). The Books of Moses. Goodie Bags will be presented by the festival begins Wednesday Sisterhood to all the deserving children at services evening night Sept. 25. The minha and morning. Afternoon minha service begins at 6 o’clock service begins at 5:45 p.m.; as is usual for Friday nights at BEKI, and is followed by the festival maariv service the Maariv service, ending about 6:40 (earlier than usual). begins immediately after, Shabbat candle lighting is 6:24. about 5:55 p.m. It is cus- Annual BEKI Family Sukka Hop tomary to light a memorial Date: Thursday Sept. 19 candle on that night immediately before lighting the Festi- Time: Departs 12:45 p.m. val candles. Candle lighting is 6:27 (or earlier). A light progressive meal and Sukkot activity will take During the morning service, which begins at 9:15 on place at each sukka; please RSVP to Miriam, (203) 389- Thursday Sept. 26, Hallel is chanted. The unique festival 6137, by Sept. 14 so hosts can plan. Each minor child must nusah (musical mode) is used for this service. For Carole be with a parent; please wear good walking shoes for the Bass’s comment on Hallel, go to http://www.youtube.com/ trek; bring your favorite songs to sing for the walks; and watch?v=ak2Wqg2Xyks (youtube cv “Carole Bass Hal- running strollers for your little ones. lel”).

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Leisawitz and Viale family with six-week old brings meal to Oppenheimer family with newborn.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T and brain to work. When a person appears before the Throne of Judgment, I asked for courage, and God gave me troubled the first question asked isnot , ‘Have you believed in God?’ people to help. or ‘Have you prayed or performed ritual acts?’ But, ‘Have I asked for favors, and God gave me opportunities. you dealt honorably, faithfully in all your dealings with I received nothing I wanted. your fellow human beings?’ I received everything I needed. How we deal with one another, whether through action My prayers were answered. or language, is a reflection of our commitment toderekh Thank you for joining Sisterhood last year. We are look- eretz – respect. ing to achieve 100 percent membership participation this The Yom Kippur liturgy enjoins us to reflect on personal year. Dues are still only $25 for the year. An invitation to behavior and focuses principally on sins of speech and join will follow in October with more details. impaired interpersonal relations. Before you know it Hanuka will be here (early this The asked: What is the most important day of the year). The first candle is the night of Nov. 27; the second is year? The answer: the day after Yom Kippur. That is when Nov. 28, Thanksgiving Day. we determine if our prayers were sincere. Our BEKI Gift Shop will have many new gifts for pur- This year we hope that our focus on respect (derekh chase for children, friends, relatives and your home. eretz) will heighten sensitivity within our sisterhood and in BEKI Sisterhood wishes all our member congregants a the lives of our members. Happy and Healthy New Year bright with hope and filled I asked for strength, and God gave me difficulties with peace and happiness. to make me strong. I asked for wisdom, and God gave me problems to Torah Fund solve. As we enter a new year I want to thank everyone who I asked for prosperity, and God gave me brawn Continued on Page 9

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Sisterhood Continued from Page 8 made a commitment to the Torah Fund Campaign last year. You can continue to do so just by purchasing cards for all occasions or by becoming a Benefactor. Join hundreds of other Jewish women across the U.S. in supporting The Jewish Theological Seminary (JTS) as a Benefactor at $180.: Mishpaha: Family Not for nothing does the Torah begin with stories about families. The family in Judaism holds a central place, from the first family beginning with Adam and Eve through our own. Indeed the Amida prayer invokes our relationship to those first Jewish families, praising the God of Abraham, 5774 Torah Fund pin Isaac, and Jacob, Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah, as a reminder that our connection as a community roots back to You can also support the JTS just by sending cards for the fact that we are all – the entire Jewish people – one big any occasion. They are only $4 and include the stamp. family. Thanking all who supported Women’s League Torah In choosing Mishpaha as the theme for the 5774 Torah Fund: Benefactors and those who purchase cards not only Fund pin, as well as for the Women’s League focus for receive the 5774 pin but have the honor of supporting - 5774, we are acknowledging both the sanctity that comes ish men and women at the Seminary who will become our with being one big family and the complexity of our fami- rabbis, cantors, teachers and lay leaders. lies and relationships. Today, there is no one kind of Jewish Women’s League for through family. Our families are diverse and this pin, reflecting that Torah Fund is insuring our legacy to future generations of diversity, is something to be worn proudly by women in all Conservative . stages and kinds of family life: married, single, divorced, Call Barbara Cushen to become a Benefactor (also widowed, gay, straight, mothers, aunts, sisters, daughters. would make a lovely gift to your wife, daughter or mother) And as we support the programs of the Jewish Theological or to send cards – (203) 407-0314. Seminary, Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies, and Schech- Barbara Cushen ter Institute of , we proclaim that we as Torah Fund Chair for BEKI Sisterhood women in all walks of life are proudly shaping the future of the big, three-thousand-year-old Jewish family.

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Anna Ruth Oppenheimer

Madeline Arielle Gersch and Sarah Levine

HaNoledet BeMazal Tov Benei Mitzva Mazal tov to Cyd & Mark Oppenheimer, and their chil- Noah Sobel-Lewin, son of Suzanne Sobel & David dren Rebekah, Elisabeth, and Klara, on the birth of their Lewin, Oct. 4-5, parashat Noah, Rosh Hodesh Heshvan daughter and sister Anna Ruth in July. Hana Feldman, daughter of Martin Feldman and of the Mazal tov to parents Sarah Levine & Timothy Gersch, late Cathy Schwartz, Jan. 10-11, 2014, parashat BeShalah and grandparents Sid & Donna Levine, on the birth of For a complete list of scheduled benei mitzva observanc- Madeline Arielle Gersch in August. es, and for info on the Benei Mitzva Preparation Program, Mazal tov to see http://www.beki.org/beneim.html . For date reservation, contact [email protected] . Jonathan Freiman and Rachel Light on their engagement The first meeting of the Benei Mitzva Preparation class for qiddushin (marriage under a huppa) in September this term is Wednesday Oct. 2 from 5 to 6:20 p.m. Registra- Judy Hoberman on receiving the Honorable Anthony V. tion at www.beki.org/forms/bmp.pdf . DeMayo Pro Bono Award from the Connecticut Bar As- sociation Welcome New Members and their Families Yonatan Yussman, Head of School, Jewish High School Nancy Levene and Kinneret of Connecticut on the School’s receiving full accreditation Mark & Linda Malkin from the New England Association of Schools and Colleges Richard & Leatrice Brodner

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Kadima News Seeking Youth Coordinator for Grades 4-12 Dear Parents, The Joint BEKI-BJ Youth Commission is seeking a As many of you already know, I won’t be returning next Youth Coordinator. This is a new 20-hour/week position, year as the BEKI-BJ Kadima Advisor. I’ve very much en- reporting to the Youth Commission. If you are interested, joyed leading the group this past year. Organizing and host- please apply (see below). If you know an appropriate candi- ing the events has been a lot of fun, particularly because date, please forward this announcement: all of the Kadimaniks have been so amazing. Over the past We are seeking a dynamic Youth Coordinator to run the year, I’ve been continually impressed by the openness, Kadima/USY programs sponsored jointly by Congregations comradery, and enthusiasm of our group. BEKI-BJ Kadima Beth-El Keser Israel (BEKI) and B’nai Jacob. This is a 20- truly is an exceptional organization! And this, of course, hour/week position, providing top pay. Our ideal candidate is due in no small part to the parents whose participation must have a background working with youth, and, prefer- and support have made our activities possible. (Thank you ably, prior personal or professional involvement with the again.) of Conservative Judaism (USCJ) (e.g., USY, Nativ, Ramah, Day School, Religious School). Our Youth Coordinator must be self-motivated, organized, computer savvy, able to work independently, and must have strong verbal and written communication skills appropri- ate for middle-schoolers, teens, and adults. Car ownership is required. If interested, please email letter of interest and resume to: [email protected]. Full job description is available at http://bekibjkadima.blogspot. com/p/jobs.html. Best, Steve Werlin

Kadimaniks, USYers, Parents & Advisor Steve at An Introduction to Kadima and USY Lighthouse Point Welcome to Kadima and USY! Our United Synagogue Although I’ll be exploring new opportunities in New youth groups are sponsored jointly by both Congregations Haven, I’ve been asked to stay involved through the BEKI- BEKI and BJ, and are overseen by our volunteer Joint BJ Youth Commission. So, I’ll still be around next year! Youth Commission and our professional Youth Coordinator. th th And as always, please don’t hesitate to contact me with any Kadima is for 5 through 8 graders. USY (United Syna- th th th Kadima issues. (My personal email address is shwerlin@ gogue Youth) is for 9 through 12 graders, and 8 graders gmail.com.) beginning in January. As we look ahead to the coming year, the Youth Com- We offer many chapter and regional activities through- mission has decided to combine the responsibilities of the out the school year, and, in the summer, there are U.S. and Kadima Advisor and USY (high school students) Advisor Israel trips and a weeklong tri-regional summer camp at the into a single position: Youth Coordinator. I have pasted the end of August. Local activities include hikes, games, ice official job announcement below. In addition, I’d like to skating, sleepovers, Shabbat dinners, and tiqun olam activi- point out that, in the past, our youth advisors have come ties to help others. You can find our activities listed at both from a variety of backgrounds, from college students ’ websites and weekly e-newsletters, and our to established adults. Many congregations have found teen leadership and Youth Coordinator will make contact that parents often make the best youth advisors, in part with parents and teens throughout the year. because they are more personally invested and experienced. We hope your pre-teen and teen will join the fun! Have I encourage any parents interested in the position to contact them bring a Jewish friend - we have had youth group me or another member of the Youth Commission for more members from Danbury to Essex, and from many different information. It’s a wonderful way to actively be part of the schools in the Greater New Haven region. “village” that raises our children. Rena Cheskis-Gold and Susan Dardik – Steve Werlin Representatives, Joint BEKI-BJ Youth Commission

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USY Update us together to celebrate our Jewish identity, learn and laugh As we say goodbye to days at the beach and the sticky, more, and make the school year special. You’ll be hear- sugary bliss that is a hot popsicle in the sweltering New ing from us a lot over the year—we have already begun to Haven heat, BEKI-BJ USYers are gearing up for another plan our events, meetings, and SA/TO initiatives, and we action-packed year. Our new board can’t wait to share some can’t wait to share it all with you. Please feel free to talk to of their goals with you. us anytime, including after services or during our weekly Batsheva Labowe-Stoll (a junior at the Jewish High meetings. Though the summer may be over, the opening School of CT), our Religious Education VP, plans to hold of a fresh new year of USY means we’re delighted that the holiday-specific USY meetings to help members get into school year’s begun. the spirit with fun facts, activities, and an overview of the B’Shalom, Natalie May, 2013-14 BEKI-BJ USY Presi- meaning and practice behind the observance. dent, Senior at the Jewish High School of Connecticut Eva Gerber (a junior at the Jewish High School of CT), our Social Action/Tikkun Olam VP, promises not only to survey members in order to discover what causes are most meaningful to them, but also offer a wide variety of com- munity service activities, ranging from fundraisers (such as auctions and our pie-bake) to field trips (visits to soup kitchens and senior homes) as well as much more. Elie Azoff-Slifstein (a sophomore at Hamden Hall Coun- try Day School), our Membership/Kadima VP, would like to reach out more to the B’nai Jacob community, encourag- ing BEKI USYers to attend services there more frequently, and is planning overnights at current USYers homes to help incoming members and transitioning Kadimaniks feel welcomed into their new USY family. Noa Shapiro-Franklin (a junior at Amity Regional High Free Israel Trips this Winter for College School), our Communications VP, sums it all up by saying, Students and Young Professionals “I want to show how amazing our chapter is by increasing Are you looking for an unforgettable trip to Israel this membership, doubling event attendance, and ultimately winter? On Taglit-Birthright Israel with Israel Experience, doing the best that we can to win chapter of the year!” After you’ll spend 10 days witnessing Israel’s natural beauty, their move from Ohio, we are so excited to welcome Noa networking with its innovators, examining its history, and her family (David Franklin, Rona Shapiro--the new debating its politics, living it up in Tel Aviv, and participat- rabbi at B’nai Jacob – and Noa’s sister Hallel) into our lives ing in social action projects to leave your positive mark on and our community. Israel. We have trips for college students and young profes- As for me, I am thrilled by the excitement and com- sionals. Registration opens on Sept.10 and lasts for only a mitment of our board. I think that all of our officers and few days. Sign up here for important trip updates: http:// members share a passion for USY and the way that it brings www.freejourneytoisrael.org/getmore

12 BEKI Bulletin September 2013 Visit us at www.beki.org Torah for the Hungry Mind – Adult Studies

Shabbatot (Saturdays) members who include the Prophet Samuel, King Saul ,take advantage of and King David, Mikhal, Batsheva דַּ רְ שָׁ ִ נ י ם Darshanim this unique offer- and more. It is possible to join the Darshan – noun, plural dar·sha·nim. ing feel a deeper study group for a Judaism. a preacher or teacher of Ag- sense of awe single meeting or gada or in a synagogue. born of increased to begin at any Rabbi Tilsen has invited the follow- understanding and time. Knowledge ing speakers to serve as guest Dar- appreciation of of Hebrew is not shanim in the coming weeks. the Torah reading, necessary. Rashi Steven Fraade Noah Sobel- Haftara (Prophetic purported to ex- Lewin, bar mitz- reading) and plain the peshat va, will serve liturgy. of the text, i.e., Jon-Jay Tilsen as darshan on The program the meaning in Shabbat morning often focuses its historical, literary and linguistic Oct. 5, parashat on the scriptural context. Visitors and new participants Noah. readings, but also are welcome. Hebrew and English Nadav Sela, addresses the texts are available. The RSG meets marking the prayer liturgy immediately following the 7 a.m. sha- th Nadav Sela 60 anniversary and other top- Alan Lovins harit service. With Jon-Jay Tilsen. of becoming a ics related to On Monday Sept. 2, Labor Day, and bar mitzva, will the liturgical on Monday Oct. 14, Columbus Day, serve as dar- calendar, scrip- the morning service begins at 9, and shan on Shabbat tural readings or the RSG meets from 9:45 to 10:30. morning Nov. 2, current issues of Tuesdays concern. parashat Toldot. Hebrew ( ) עברית Nanette Stahl Everyone New sections may open this season. will serve as dar- is welcome To register for the next session, con- shanit on Shab- to participate Nanette Stahl tact Peggy at [email protected]. bat morning Nov. regardless of re- David Kuperstock 16, parashat VaYishlah. ligious status or Wednesdays Shabbat Shalom background. It is Hebrew Word of the Week suitable for ma- The Wednesday morning service The Shabbat Shalom Torah Study ture, or at least (shaharit) features a 180-second “He- meets every other Saturday morning at well-behaved, brew word of the Week” to promote 10:45 in the office and is an ideal set- youth along with the learning of Hebrew. The Hebrew ting for veteran and novice shul-goers adults. alike to explore the scriptural readings language is highly structured. Most words are based on three-letter roots, and liturgy of the day in a supportive Mondays setting. Expertly led by Steven Fraade, Rashi Study Eric Silver and are made with a limited set of with Rabbi Alan Lovins, Rabbi Mur- Group: Shemuel verb or noun forms. By learning a few ray Levine, Nadav Sela, David Ku- New Book: Each Monday morn- dozen roots and a small set of word- perstock, Isaiah Cooper, Rabbi Eric ing from 7:45 to 8:30 adults meet in forms, it is possible to roughly trans- Silver and others, the Shabbat Shalom the Library Chapel to read Rashi’s late Hebrew words isolated from any Torah Study is a nurturing explora- commentary on the Tanakh (Hebrew context, something less often possible tion of practice and theory presented Bible). The Rashi Study Group (RSG) in English. The Word of the Week in a participatory, non-threatening is now beginning the Book of Shemuel often relates to the weekly scriptural and multi-generational setting. Many (Samuel). Characters in the narrative Continued on Page 14

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Adult Studies days; on other weekdays, the service Prayerbook Hebrew Continued from Page 13 begins at 7 a.m. See description, above, under “Tuesdays” readings, enhancing personal study Sanhedrin and public Torah discussion. Study Group New: Principles of Judaism: New Time: The Sanhedrin Talmud Torah on One Foot Rabbis’ Study Group Study Group meets on Thursdays Six Thursday Nights in October & Wednesdays with Murray is a during the lunch hour (noon to 1). November 2013. Each Thursday Night weekly study group exclusively for The Group has met weekly since beginning Oct. 10 from 6:15to 7:20 rabbis, facilitated by Rabbi Murray 1999. For some p.m. in BEKI’s Rosenkrantz Library, Levine. The Wednesday study group participants, Immediately following 5:45 afternoon affords local rabbis an opportunity to this is their first & evening service. pursue their own direct experience A survey for adults wishing an talmud torah with Talmud overview of the Principles of Jew- (Torah study) in a text; for others, ish thought and life. Ideal for people “safe” setting and it is a continu- new to Judaism, considering conver- with opportunities ation of a long sion, or wishing to begin a systematic to learn from each journey. The Isaiah Cooper other’s experience study and practice of Judaism. Areas Group focuses on the issues raised in and insight. The of investigation include The Torah • the Talmud, with less attention to the Halakha (Jewish Law) • The Mitzva study group meets Murray Levine Wednesday morn- technical aspects of the text. Knowl- System • 3,600 Years of Jewish His- ings in the Rosenkrantz Family Li- edge of Hebrew or Aramaic is helpful tory • God of Israel • Fundamental brary. The group is on summer recess but not required. Observances • Conservative & Other and resumes on Wednesday 9 October. The Talmud, based on an oral text, • Messiah • Eternal Life • For more information, call Rabbi Mur- has no beginning or end. One can be- Talmud Torah • The Sabbath • Home- ray Levine at (203) 397-2513. gin study at any point; now is the best land. To register, call (203) 389-2108 time. The Sanhedrin Talmud Study x14 or email at [email protected]. Free. Thursdays Group meets in BEKI’s Rosenkrantz With Jon-Jay Tilsen Mini Morning Family Library. For information, Every Day Learning Service contact Isaiah Cooper at his law office The Thursday morning services Divrei Torah on the Web [email protected] . are supplemented with commentary A collection of Divrei Torah (Torah The Sanhedrin Study Group is in and teaching relating to the history, commentaries) and essays by members summer recess and will resume on themes, choreography and language and Rabbi Tilsen is posted on BEKI’s Thursday Oct. 3 (after the festivals). of the daily morning service. Shaharit website under “Adult Studies” and service is from 8:15 to 9:15 on Thurs- Hebrew: Modern and “Meet Rabbi Tilsen.”

Daily Services Benei Mitzva Preperation Additional participants are needed for the morning ser- First class for BEKI Benei Mitzva Preparation Program vice in September and October. Can you come one morning is Wednesday Oct. 2 at 5 p.m.; register at www.beki.org/ a week? Sunday, 9 to 9:36; Monday 7 to 7:47; Tuesday 7 to forms/bmp.pdf ; info [email protected] . 7:32; Wednesday 7 to 7:33; Thursday 8:15 to 9:11; Friday 7 to 7:32. Let us know at [email protected] or just come. 20s-30s Havura Shabbat Dinner BEKI Religious School Classes Begin The 20s-30s Havura will hold a cooperative Shabbat Opening Day for BEKI Religious School is Sunday (Friday Night) dinner on Friday Oct. 4 following the 6 p.m. Sept. 8 at 9 a.m.; register www.beki.org/forms/brs.pdf ; info services at BEKI, to be held at Will and Mike’s residence. [email protected] . RSVP: Will at [email protected], by Sept. 30.

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Rabbi’s Tzedaqa Fund • To Angela Oren in memory of her • To Ina Silverman & Jay Sokolow Endowment (minimum $25) sister Janet Demara Williams by in honor of the wedding of Shai & Ruth Silver Robyn by Steve & Joanne Rudof • To Marnie & Jerry Ruskin in honor • Lou & Lisa Petrillo marking the of their 50th wedding anniversary • To Daniela Viale & Daniel • To the Silverman & Sokolow by Janet & Murray Horwitz yahrzeit of Peter Meyers Leisawitz in honor of the birth of families in honor of Shai & • Stewart Frankel & Joy Kaufman Hannah Gioia by Joanne Foodim Robyn’s wedding by the Light marking the yahrzeit of Jack & Rob Forbes family Ari Nathan Levine Children’s Frankel • To Daniela Viale & Daniel • To the Silverman & Sokolow Library Fund • Stewart Frankel & Joy Kaufman for Leisawitz in honor of the birth families in honor of Shai & mekhirat hamets at Pesah • To the Viale & Leisawitz family in of Hannah Gioia by Jonathan Robyn’s wedding by Ruth Silver honor of the birth of Hannah Gioia • Alan Lovins & Trish Loving Freiman • To Jay Sokolow & Ina Silverman in by Sid & Donna Levine wishing mazal tov on the birth of • To the Abraham family in honor of honor of Shai & Robyn’s wedding Anna Ruth Oppenheimer • To the Abraham family in honor of the birth of Mordechai Halton by by Bobbie & Harold Miller the birth of Mordechai Halton by Jonathan Freiman • To Ina Silverman & Jay Sokolow Sid & Donna Levine Qiddush Sponsors (Minimum • To Rachel & Steve Wizner in honor in honor of the marriage of Shai & th • To Lesley Frame & Steve Werlin in $280) of their 50 wedding anniversary Robyn by Rabbi Murray Levine & honor of the birth of Jacob August by David & Darryl Kuperstock Goldie Taub • The families of Shai Sokolow by Donna & Sid Levine • To BEKI with thanks for the • To the Silverman & Sokolow • To Noam Benson-Tilsen in honor Silverman & Robyn Drabman use of the parking lot by Youth families in honor of the wedding • Linda & Ken Buckman of his birthday by the Yussman Continuum of Shai & 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honor of the wedding of Shai & • Steve & Joanne Rudof • To the BEKI community with • To the Silverman & Sokolow Robyn by Rena Cheskis-Gold & • Carole & Paul Bass gratitude for being so welcoming families in honor of the wedding of Marty Gold • Joe & Ravit Avni-Singer by Mark Malkin Shai & Robyn by Helen Rosenberg • To Libby & Mark Abraham in & Keith Richter • Roya Hakakian & Ramin Ahmadi • To Steven & Deb DelVecchio with honor of the birth of Mordechai sympathy on the passing of Jessica • To Ina Silverman & Jay Sokolow Halton by Rena Cheskis-Gold & DelVecchio by David & Rayna in honor of the wedding of Shai & Marty Gold Chai Fund (minimum $18) to Belowsky Robyn by the Friedman & Bruce support synagogue operations • To Lesley Frame & Steve Werlin in family The Harold & Arthur Ratner • In honor of Rabbi Jon-Jay Tilsen by honor of the birth of Jacob August • To Ina Silverman & Jay Sokolow Memorial Fund the Colodner & Stanger family by Jonathan Freiman in honor of the wedding of Shai & • To BEKI in honor of the late Ida Robyn by Al & Marge Barnett • To Mikki Ratner in honor of her • In honor of Rabbi Joel Levenson by th the Colodner & Stanger family Goldstein’s birthday by Richard & • To the Silverman & Sokolow 90 birthday by the BEKI Board • In honor of Rabbi Eric Silver by the Susan Jameson families in honor of the wedding of • In memory of her mother Marilyn Colodner & Stanger family • To Ivan Sachs in honor of his Shai & Robyn by Marilyn Katz Gimbel by Betsy Ratner • In honor of Dr. Bob Oakes by the birthday by Ginger Benowitz • To Lesley Frame & Steve Werlin in • In loving memory of Arthur Ratner Colodner & Stanger family • To the Youth Commission in honor honor of the birth of Jacob August by Betsy, Howie & Shilo Ratner by Ina Silverman & Jay Sokolow • In honor of Willa Needler by of Darryl Kuperstock by David Sophia Colodner Margolis • To the Abraham family in honor of Hesed Committee • To Jon-Jay Tilsen & Miriam the birth of Mordechai Halton by • To Gloria 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Visit us at www.beki.org BEKI Bulletin September 2013 17 Dear Rabbi An occasional feature of answers, advice and helpful household hints

Dear Rabbi, Dear Snow Cone, I read that there is a water shortage. In some cities and To make it worse, some people drive on the parkway states, lawns have been outlawed. BEKI should be a leader and then park in the driveway; others come “on foot,” and remove the lawn. although it is much easier to come on feet. I suggest you Signed, Water Watcher take up another language, such as Klingon, that does not have such odd expressions. Dear Mayim Mavin, At BEKI, we don’t water the lawn. Ever. However, if an Dear Rabbi, interested crew wanted to consider alternative landscaping The Torah is clear that we are not supposed to make to conserve resources, reduce maintenance cost (lawn ser- others work on Shabbat, including non-Jews and [even] vice) or effort (volunteers trimming hedges, clearing roof beasts of burden. If you mail a letter and it gets delivered on Shabbat, isn’t that a violation of the rules? drains), promote biodiversity, cast favorable shade in the Signed, Going Postal summer (without disturbing sidewalks or clogging the roof drains), or enhance beauty, I am sure the Directors would Dear Mr. ZIP, welcome a proposal. Connecticut is blessed with a lot of In general, if you ask a non-Jew to perform a service rainfall, so we probably don’t need a cactus garden, but for you but do so in a way that does not require him or her there is a lot that could be done if you (personally) want to to perform it on Shabbat, there is no violation of the rules. do it. The traditional “lawn” is not a matter of binding tra- For example, if you drop off your dry cleaning on Friday dition of our forebears; it seems to be a European tradition and they promise a Tuesday pickup, it is really up to the that does not necessarily express our values or esthetics, business owner whether they work on Shabbat or not. but is better than a bare lot. They are permitted to work on Shabbat, but you are not permitted to make them do so. However, if you want to be Dear Rabbi, pious about it, bring your laundry in on Monday, or mail A day without eating is called a “fast” even though it your letter on Monday and hope it arrives by Friday (good is the slowest of days, and the meal at the end is called a luck with that). But in the name of piety, I have decided to “breakfast” even though it is at night. Using alcohol or stop the Postal Service from delivering letters on Shabbat, marijuana is prohibited on Yom Kippur even though it is although it might take me a few months to get it imple- one of the “High” Holy Days. What gives? mented nationally. Anything else you want me to do? Signed, Good Humor Guy Signed, Dear Rabbi

by Suzanne Weinstein • In memory of Morton Benson by Resnick by Sherry Kent Contributions • In memory of Benjamin Braginsky Evelyn Benson • In memory of Gertrude Cheifetz by Continued from Page 17 by Sidney Braginsky • In memory of Louis Blatt by Robert Shaye • In memory of his father Ezra Marilyn Margolis • In memory of Bessie Kaltman by Sagerman by David & Doris • In memory of Ruth Rosner by Muriel Kaltman • In memory of her mother Hannah Sagerman Sara-Ann & Hillel Auerbach Stahl by Nanette Stahl & William • In memory of his father Henry Hallo • In memory of Dov-Bear Naiman • In memory of Everett Rader by Ashton Crosby by Rob Forbes & by Polina Naiman Dennis & Barbara Rader Joanne Foodim • In memory of Louis Rogoff by Ann Rogoff • In memory of her sister Francis G. • In memory of Raymond Snyder by • In memory of Dave Berger by Saul Smith by Shirley Chain Zelda & Irwin Snyder Berger • In memory of Bessie Katz by Hy & Karol Katz • In memory of her sister Eva G. • In memory of Sondra Herschderfer • In memory of Rose Kresel by Rozycki by Shirley Chain by Sherman & David Herschderfer Audrey & Bernard Levine • In memory of Rose Appell by Karol & Hy Katz • In memory of her sister Kate G. • In memory of Debra Steinberg by • In memory of Norman Rosenberg Margolis by Shirley Chain Anita Henowitz by Lillian Rosenberg • In memory of Raye Leavitt by Ann Rogoff • In memory of her husband Harold • In memory of Louis Hoffman by • In memory of Hannah Zarnes by Chain by Shirley Chain Bea Sherman Doris & David Sagerman • In memory of Alan Jay Hodes by Joyce & David Popowski • In memory of Grace Goldberg • In memory of Frank Goldberg by • In memory of Renee Abend by Cohen Geisinger by Carol Cohen Anna Goldberg Doris & David Sagerman • In memory of Louis Hodes by & Sandra Blair Joyce & David Popowski • In memory of Joseph Swinkin by • In memory of Louis Henken by • In memory of Geraldine Hershman Betty Swinkin Gladys Lipkin • In memory of Isadore Miller by Lappie by Violet & Charlie Bobbie & Harold Miller • In memory of Jacob Cohen by • In memory of Irv Zerwitz by Ludwig Betty Swinkin Ronald Zlotoff • In memory of Miriam Zerwitz by • In memory of Grace Geisinger by Ronald Zlotoff • In memory of George Ralph • In memory of Harry S. Fleischner Violet & Charlie Ludwig Schnitman by Helene & Ed by Robert Fleischner • In memory of Maurice Henowitz • In memory of Samuel Garfinkel by Vanderhoef by Anita Henowitz • In memory of Joyce Tapper by Vi Lawrence & Doralee Garfinkel • In memory of her aunt Lillian & Charlie Ludwig • In memory of Richard Weinstein

18 BEKI Bulletin September 2013 Visit us at www.beki.org September 2013 26 Elul 5773 - 26 Tishri 5774 Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Office Closed/Labor Day Erev Rosh Hashanah Rosh Hashanah I Rosh Hashanah II Haazinu 9:00am Shaharit 7:00pm Minha Genesis, Numbers Genesis, Numbers Shabbat Shuvah I Samuel Jeremiah Hosea, Micah or Hosea, Joel. 9:45am Rashi Study Group 7:03pm Candle Lighting 7:15pm Festival Service Office Closed Office Closed 10:45am Children's 8:30am Festival Service 8:30am Festival Service Programs 6:00pm Tashlikh 6:00pm Minha 10:45am Shabbat Shalom 7:00pm Minha 6:58pm Candle Lighting Torah Study Candle Lighting after Qiddush: Stern (Robert & 8:03pm Jane) 1:00pm Israeli Dance Workshop 5:45pm Minha

26 Elul 27 Elul 28 Elul 29 Elul 1 Tishri 2 Tishri 3 Tishri 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 Fast of Gedaliah 7:45am Rashi Study Group 4:00pm Religious School Erev Yom Kippur Yom Kippur (Yizkor) Exodus 10:00am Yoga Hour 6:45pm Minha Morning: Leviticus, Isaiah Numbers; Afternoon: 7:30pm Executive Board 6:46pm Candle Lighting 9:00am First Day of Meeting (off-site) Leviticus 7:05pm Kol Nidre & Maariv Morning: Isaiah; Afternoon: Religious School Jonah, Micah 10:30am Qever Avot Cemetery Memorial Service 9:00am Shaharit & Musaf in Hamden 5:00pm Minha 11:30am Qever Avot 7:25pm Maariv Cemetery Memorial Service 7:40pm Havdala & Shofar in West Haven 7:46pm Posener Break- Fast

4 Tishri 5 Tishri 6 Tishri 7 Tishri 8 Tishri 9 Tishri 10 Tishri 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 9:00am Religious 7:45am Rashi Study Group Erev Sukkot Sukkot I Sukkot II Hol Hamoed Sukkot I School/Parents Breakfast 10:00am Yoga Hour 5:45pm Minha Leviticus, Numbers Leviticus, Numbers Exodus, Numbers Zechariah I Kings Ezekiel Meeting 5:55pm Festival Maariv 9:30am Sukka Construction 6:30pm BRS Sukka Dinner Office Closed Office Closed 10:45am Children's (reservations required) 9:15am Festival Service 9:15pm Festival Service Programs 6:38pm Candle Lighting 6:00pm Festival Minha & 6:00pm Festival Minha & 10:45am Shabbat Shalom Maariv Marriv Torah Study Candle Lighting after 6:34pm Candle Lighting Qiddush: TBA 7:39pm 5:45pm Minha

11 Tishri 12 Tishri 13 Tishri 14 Tishri 15 Tishri 16 Tishri 17 Tishri 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 Hol Hamoed Sukkot II Hol Hamoed Sukkot III Hol Hamoed Sukkot IV Hoshanah Rabbah Shemini Atzeret (Yizkor) Simchat Torah Bereshit Numbers Numbers Numbers Numbers Deuteronomy, Numbers Deuteronomy, Genesis, 10:45am Children's 9:00am Religious School 7:45am Rashi Study Group 5:45pm Minha I Kings Numbers Joshua Programs 10:00am Yoga Hour 5:55pm Festival Maariv Office Closed Qiddush: TBA 7:30pm General Board 6:26pm Candle Lighting 9:15am Festival Service Office Closed 5:45pm Minha Meeting Yizkor Memorial Service 9:15am Festival Service after 10:30am 10:00am Haqafot (dancing) 12:00pm Israeli Dance 6:00pm Minha Workshop 6:22pm Candle Lighting 5:45pm Festival Minha & Maariv & Haqafot (dancing) Candle Lighting after 7:27pm

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BEKI Bulletin September 2013 Visit us at www.beki.org