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GREEK AMERICAN WeSATdURDAY - SUdNDAY MARiCH 1-2,n2014 gs The National Herald T H D E L N A AT ER IONAL H www.thenationalherald.com 2 Greek American Weddings THE NATIONAL HERALD, MARCH 1, 2014 The National Herald A weekly publication of the NATIONAL HERALD, INC. (ΕΘΝΙΚΟΣ ΚΗΡΥΞ), reporting the news and addressing the issues of paramount interest to the Greek American community of the United States of America. Publisher-Editor Antonis H. Diamataris Assistant to Publisher, Advertising Veta H. Diamataris Papadopoulos Special Section Editor Sophia Stratakis Huling Production Manager Chrysoula Karametros Marketing & Design Director Anna Angelidakis 37-10 30th Street, LIC, NY 11101-2614 • Tel: (718)784-5255 • Fax: (718)472-0510, e-mail: [email protected] Democritou 1 and Academias Sts, Athens, 10671, Greece • Tel: 011.30.210.3614.598 • Fax: 011.30.210.3643.776 Designer Angelo Lambrou e-mail: [email protected] A Conversation with East-Village-Chic Romancing the Islands Bridal Designer Angelo Lambrou Romance Relaxation Leisure Excitement By Sophia S. Huling TNH Staff Writer rides looking for the Greek goddess vibe, a particular ethnic fla - vor, or even a black gown on their wedding day will Bfind it in independent fashion designer Angelo Lambrou. A South African native of Greek- Cypriot parents, Lambrou has Customized Romantic Packages created tailor-made gowns, for Memories to Last a Lifetime! veils, and headpieces to his cus - tomers’ specifications in his New Book one of our popular York City atelier since 2000. Deluxe Honeymoon Packages by April 15 Lambrou designed costumes ANDÀRECEIVEÀÀO˯ÀPERÀCOUPLEÀ for Miss Botswana, Mpule Kwe - plus additional bonuses. lagobe, when she became the first black African and the third black woman in the world to win Miss Universe in 1999. The following year, he designed the feather-light, clean-lined gown all the Miss Universe contestants wore in the pageant’s opening number. He moved to the U.S. in 2000 and opened his shop in the East Village, a chic New York neighborhood. A peek at his frocks reveals soft draping, bias cuts, and wrap details. Brides seem to float in his dresses; they are fitted to the body while still complimenting it. TNH: How did you get Honeymoon Specialists started designing wedding gowns? 55 East 59th Street, NY, NY 10022 Lambrou: In between my Toll-Free: 800-223-5570 ready-to-wear collections, my 5FMt'BY A bride at her wedding, wearing her couture gown made by XXX)PNFSJD5PVSTDPNtJOGP!IPNFSJDUPVSTDPN Continued on page 4 Angelo. THE NATIONAL HERALD, MARCH 1, 2014 Greek American Weddings 3 Tying A Mixed Knot: Interfaith Marriages Challenge the Church and Her Members By Sophia S. Huling Vasiliki (not her real name), guidelines, maybe being a little a Greek native who has lived in more flexible,” said Joanides. “To wo-thirds of the wed - the U.S. since age 14, said her the extent that we do that, then dings celebrated in the American-born son knew he it’s also possible that the non-Or - Greek Orthodox could not marry his Jewish fi - thodox partner may be somehow church in the U.S. to - ancée in the church, but he was impacted in a positive way, and day are between Orthodox and not prepared for the way his may even over time consider Tnon-Orthodox Christians, accord - priest responded to his an - what Orthodoxy has to offer. It’s ing to the Greek Orthodox Arch - nouncement. more probable that someone diocese’s Department of Marriage “You thought the ceiling fell would be influenced by the and Family. That does not ac - on him,” she said. “He said to my church’s kindness and sympathy count for Greek Orthodox mar - son, ‘You cannot do this, you will and goodness than if the church rying outside the Archdiocese, not be able to receive, you will is talking in legalistic, black-and- who are believed to be tying the not be able to be a koumbaro at white terms.” knot with non-Christians. a wedding, you will be an outcast Very Rev. Fr. Michael Ellias, A bride and groom wed in the Greek Orthodox church. “If you factor in those couples from the church!’ And my son pastor of St. Mary Antiochian Or - The connected crowns symbolize the two becoming one. into that statistic, you’re probably came home a wreck. He said, thodox Church in Brooklyn, N.Y., talking about 80 to 90 percent of ‘Mom, why can I not receive? I’m has also seen interfaith marriages “There probably needs to be what’s already happened,” Wood - a much more hostile environment Greek-Americans who are inter - not converting; I’m marrying increase in his 27 years as a a period of penance, but it is pos - ill said. “People come to me and than it was 25 years ago,” he said. marrying at some level,” said Rev. someone of a different faith.’” priest. He frequently has had to sible,” he said. “It usually involves say ‘Father, I haven’t been here “We’re going to need to ad - Fr. Charles Joanides, Ph.D., The couple was married in a break the news to a bride- or maintaining faithful membership, for a while, but I was married dress the culture in more accessi - LMFT, the Archdiocese’s Inter - civil ceremony. They have two groom-to-be that marrying their continuing your stewardship re - two years ago in such-and-such ble terms. Our vocabulary’s just faith Marriage researcher. “Our sons, both of whom have been non-Christian partner would sep - sponsibilities, if there are chil - place.’ It’s easy to see how a not helpful. When you’re talking congregations are no longer ho - baptized Orthodox, and their fa - arate them from the church. dren, making sure they’re raised young couple is swept up into with Muslims, for example, the mogeneous. The lion’s share of ther takes them to church on hol - “It’s a very difficult time to ex - in the faith, and usually after a that, because often one of the idea of expressing Three Persons people have been intermarrying idays to receive communion. plain that kind of thing. It’s sup - number of years it’s possible to parents is going to pay for the in one God is just incomprehen - now for several generations – the Vasiliki said her son receives com - posed to be one of the happiest bring someone back into full wedding and they’re going to do sible. When you’re dealing with last 30 years in high numbers.” munion there, without telling times in their lives, and people communion.” it this way. And it’s a shame be - real secularists, the church can’t Joanides, who was ordained that priest about his situation. really don’t understand the na - Rev. Fr. Joseph Woodhill, rec - cause in the past, they might appear to be hostile to science or a priest 35 years ago, has been Joanides believes that al - ture of the sacrament and the po - tor of St. Nicholas Orthodox have been swept up in the church to rationality. And sometimes directing the Archdiocese’s work though the church cannot give a sition of the church,” he said. Church (Orthodox Church in in that way, but no longer.” that’s a perception that we leave with intermarried couples and Christian sacrament to a non- He differentiated between America) in Whitestone, N.Y., has With regard to ministering to behind.” their families for almost 15 years. Christian, the guidelines by marrying outside the church served as a priest for 35 years, interfaith couples, Ellias noted Joanides emphasized that to In addition to his research, (fi - which the church ministers to in - (such as another Christian con - primarily on the east coast. Quite “the agnostic flavor of our cul - the extent the non-Orthodox nanced by Leadership 100, the termarried couples are sorely in gregation or a civil ceremony) often, he gets a visit from some - ture” is one of the greatest chal - partner of an inter-Christian cou - Archdiocese endowment fund), need of review to account for and marrying in another religious one seeking a reconnection to the lenges facing the church. ple is welcomed and doesn’t feel lectures, and workshops, he reg - some of the changes that are tak - tradition. The Antiochian Arch - church after having been married “It has become a militant anti- like a second-class citizen, the Or - ularly updates the information ing place in society. diocese maintains that as long as elsewhere. religious flavor. People want to thodox partner’s participation on the Office of Interfaith Mar - “There should be a greater a member does not marry in a “I wish I had a chance to consider themselves open and and support of the church will riage website emphasis on helping the Greek non-Christian faith, he or she can spend time with the couple be - open-minded, and I think that’s grow. The church’s ministries can (http://www.goarch.org/arch - Orthodox partner retain connec - reinstate their sacramental privi - fore the marriage is all over with as big a threat to our church as diocese/departments/marriage/i tion by looking at our pastoral leges. and then I’m asked to help with the question of marriage itself. It’s Continued on page 10 nterfaith), has written numerous essays and books, including “When You Intermarry: A Re - Intermarriage has steadily climbed among Greek-Americans for several generations, but recent source for Inter-Christian, Inter - cultural Couples, Parents & Fam - research has uncovered a shocking statistic: over the last 15 years, the number of marriages that ilies,” and has a small practice as a licensed marital and family are taking place in the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese have decreased by one-third.